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Nothing better than psychological warfare and manipulation to win them over, eh?
/r/seduction09/06/15 04:46 AM
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This! Much of Stoicism philosophy comes from what's within your control and what's simply not. Choosing to accept her and her actions is necessary in the relationship, attempting to control her or predict her actions will only drive her away. Whatever she chooses to do, be centered in your own confidence and poise, and if you don't have that - learn to develop it through practice.
/r/seduction21/05/15 06:48 PM
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You're insecure is all. Acknowledge this first, and that will be your starting point towards solving your issue. Jealousy comes from the feeling that you're not enough or that someone else has something you don't - hence the feeling of violation. So my suggestion, is find out what that is, it won't be obvious or self evident in the beginning, so process it and learn from it. It's very important that you realize what actions cause this jealousy to happen, as it's directly related to your uncovere…
/r/seduction21/05/15 06:40 PM
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A good conversationist can talk about himself, but a great conversationist has the other person talking about them. Learn how to listen. Talking is easy, everyone does it but few know how to make others feel like they matter - and that only happens when a person feels listened to. Learn to be sincerely curious about people, what makes them do what they do? How do they see the world? Then the pressure gets lifted off of you (from having to think of interesting things to say) to having the person …
/r/seduction03/05/15 08:59 PM
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Definitely recommend the The Alabaster Girl by Zan Perrion! These are all great reads yet I feel I would've benefited most by reading Zan's book first - it sets the stage on how you should be thinking, then the what can come after.
/r/seduction06/02/15 07:23 AM
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The short answer? Work on yourself, be the best you can be. Whatever you perceive about yourself, everyone else will see, there are no cheap parlor tricks or strategies that will help you in the long term. So invest in the person most worthy of your time, care, love and energy - that's you old chap. Also. Read. Read. and Read some more. EVERYONE has started where you have, it may not feel like it, and you may not believe me, but it is the truth. I saw myself very similar to you not too long ago,…
/r/seduction06/02/15 07:16 AM
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Seems legit
/r/seduction01/02/15 06:57 PM
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There's plenty of wise comments posted here, I would suggest you consider all these options. I once too struggled like you did, the stench of unworthiness followed me from interaction to interaction, date to date and relationship to relationship. My advice is to stop dating for a bit, and ground yourself in something you love. Something that can take you away from your own thoughts, whether that be meditation or art or a sport. What's important is to engage yourself in this activity for the purp…
/r/seduction01/02/15 06:44 PM
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It depends on how you defined the relationship, if it was framed around just a fling/hookup then there's no reason for them to want to stick around. If you're interested in spending time with them outside of just sex and frame it around the beginning of the next interaction and see how they respond. Understand that you'll be establishing a very different type of relationship and they may not be looking for that.
/r/seduction18/01/15 04:08 AM
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The sub needs more of this, the true purpose of seduction is more about finding out what and why we attract. You placed character and integrity higher than sex and because of it, you've not only grown as a human being - you've simultaneously enhanced the community of people you surround yourself with through leadership. Although we haven't met personally, know that you've made many of us proud through your actions, I hope this impression creates enough ripples for others to understand - it's jus…
/r/seduction28/12/14 08:41 PM
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Yes. Listening is key.
/r/seduction17/09/14 10:29 PM
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If your goal is to build Rapport - questions are one, but not the most effective approaches to do so. Learn body language, mirror/match, copy their blinking patterns, same with their breathing - remember most of communication takes place non-verbally. As far as the questions themselves? I wouldn't suggest you talk about anything revolving you in the beginning, learn as much as you can about the other person - you'll need to be sincerely curious and interested in them. Generally, if you ask them …
/r/seduction17/09/14 10:20 PM
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Find out what turns women on. You were overly concerned with your needs and arousal that you didn't take into consideration what was holding her back.
/r/seduction28/08/14 04:57 AM
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Solid frame. If you were to focus on F-close, you'd actually dwindle your chances. Focus on having a good time and everything else falls into place.
/r/seduction14/03/14 05:45 PM
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Get this man an upvote, STAT!
/r/seduction02/02/14 05:28 PM
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This. Read this book.
/r/seduction25/11/13 09:37 PM
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This. Learn the look and then reinforce it into an anchor.
/r/seduction18/11/13 05:58 AM
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Circle-jerking never gets old
/r/seduction16/11/13 06:37 AM
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I get the impression you have yet to meditate correctly.
/r/seduction16/11/13 02:23 AM
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You missed the point, his internal frame is solid, which is the whole reason on why he'll have long-term success instead just short term wins through "game".
/r/seduction16/11/13 02:13 AM
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Palms are great, but I intitiate touch long before that, touch wherever as much as you can, I get very positive responses when I give gentle arm squeezes, which lets them recipricate later. Just allow them to feel in comfortable by letting them know touching is safe and normal.
/r/seduction14/11/13 10:37 PM
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You're failing because your perspective is outcome-dependent, a relationship takes two to make happen. Even my most "beta" friends (or just guys that dont take initiative) happen to fall into relationships. Focus less on what you may/may not be doing and realize there are variable unseen, out of your control. Mantain a solid frame, know what you want and be damn certain you'll get it, the girl will find her way to you, but thats only if you know it. By becoming apathetic, you're only harming you…
/r/seduction14/11/13 10:17 PM
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This. I've dealt with flaky women in the past, the best way to deal with them is to cut them lose. Think about it this way, if it's in her personality - you'll see it happen eventually, its best that you find out soon before you get any more invested.
/r/seduction14/11/13 10:08 PM
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Naturals had to learn at some point as well, they just learned quicker because they did the right things first.
/r/seduction14/11/13 09:59 PM
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I'm honored to hear that, I'll be sure to post more often!
/r/seduction13/11/13 07:56 PM
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Day game is my thing. Coffee shops are fun too.
/r/seduction13/11/13 07:55 PM
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When it comes to dating women, it doesn't really matter what you think about their beliefs mate, what matters is that you accept them unconditionally. Remember what you're here for, are you here to get the girl or to be right?
/r/seduction13/11/13 07:53 PM
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Really doesn't matter what the subject is, so long as you see something to which you find genuinely interested in; she'll generally respond well.
/r/seduction13/11/13 07:50 PM
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Oh yeah! I just posted it.
/r/seduction13/11/13 07:41 PM
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Completely agree with the PUA rollercoaster, if you read my previous post - you'll see how everything is not rainbows and sunshine. I don't quite understand where you read that only said approaches work, I verified what worked for me and wrote a field report on just that. Nothing between the lines there. If you have something written or composed to aid guys in trouble, I'd love to read it myself as well - I'm no expert and I'm always happy to learn from others more experienced then me,
/r/seduction13/11/13 07:39 PM
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This brightens my day, anytime,.
/r/seduction13/11/13 07:33 PM
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It's the hardest thing in the world, but once you start being honest with yourself, it's INDEFINATELY easier to do that with others.
/r/seduction13/11/13 07:32 PM
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This is gold. I will re-read this several times as my bedtime story.
/r/seduction13/11/13 06:40 AM
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Start meditating, get massages, anything that will help you quell your anxiety. BREATH CORRECTLY, learn how to breath from your stomach to center yourself and make it your new habit.
/r/seduction13/11/13 06:36 AM
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Same thing happened to me just last week, here's what helped: Move on, act as if you never met her, It may be difficult in the beginning but just takes practice. Start opening, the worse you feel the more important that you do this - after just 1 open, you'll see that you're in the middle of the deep blue sea and fishes are all around. Lastly, its okay to feel down, but realize that the simple explaination of why the you two aren't compatible is: You are not together If you were compatible aand …
/r/seduction13/11/13 06:34 AM
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Good on you mate, you've earned it.
/r/seduction13/11/13 06:29 AM
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Thanks for the feedback, coincidently we had a good first date but for whatever reason she panicked and I don't think I had anything to do with it. After some thinking I just concluded that perhaps the world doesnt revolve around me and something else may be a factor here. Needless to say, it was good synchronicity to see this message yet again.
/r/seduction13/11/13 06:28 AM
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Just like you did with your body, you conditioned it to lift more, last longer, thus making it capable of doing sets that were originally impossible, You must do the same with your mind, the only way to get rid of that voice is to stay in that place, and continue. Eventually the voice will get drowned out by your sucess,
/r/seduction13/11/13 03:04 AM
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Good to hear!
/r/seduction13/11/13 02:54 AM
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I can comfirm to this. being clever alone has not gotten me laid. It's like a spice, it enhances the flavor, but you can't expect to get full from eating salt.
/r/seduction12/11/13 10:05 PM
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Accept what happened. Instead of calling yourself a pussy, understand WHY you did what you did. Think. Is it rejection you're afraid of? What would've happend if you DID kiss her? (whatever you answer here is a clue to what's driving your behavior) You're unconsciously protecting yourself from something, find out what that is and then tackle it.
/r/seduction12/11/13 10:00 PM
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You can work backwards, create connection before attraction and foster more towards prioritizing trust between the two of you. Of course, still maintaining kino and physical escalation but on a slower pace. But always forward ALLOW them to become extroverted. how you ask? Have them talking about their interests or anything that makes them passionate, then reinforce that behavior so they warm up to you.
/r/seduction12/11/13 09:55 PM
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You don't have to exagerate to seem interesting, just be vague with certain stories/qualities. Leave them wondering and curious.
/r/seduction12/11/13 03:56 AM
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"We theorize that high-status individuals can more easily afford to make fun of themselves. Self-deprecating humor for them may be a form of self-handicapping,following the logic of costly signaling theory... All else being equal, use of self-deprecating humor is associated with lower conscientiousness, extraversion, agreeableness, and emotional stability (the opposite of neuroticism).. Self- and other-deprecating humor lower levels of these traits are normally considered unattractive. Thus, the…
/r/seduction11/11/13 07:56 AM
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Are you adding value to the relationship? How have you improved the lives of those around you by existing? Neediness is a lack of purpose and a crutch that will impair your further transformation. Find a hobby, a project, a career - whatever it takes to make you realize that YOU are the prize, she would be stupid to lose YOU. So start acting like it, because once you're in a long term relationship with her, that insecurity won't magically disappear.
/r/seduction11/11/13 07:48 AM
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You cannot "make" anybody do anything. This is a mindset that will get you in trouble and sabotage your efforts. As awesome as the chemistry is, you can stay friends with her so long as you maintain attraction - letting her see you with other women, making it clear that you're attracted to her, but carry a busy life and she's no longer a priority. What you're really doing is just playing with the odds, learn to accept there's only so much you can do, you can increase those odds by allowing her t…
/r/seduction11/11/13 06:16 AM
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This.
/r/seduction11/11/13 06:08 AM
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Establish physical contact. Doesn't matter where, so long as you can touch her - coffee dates are great because you have access to their hands, shoulders, legs etc. A sense of adventure will be good once she's established trust with you, much of her personality plays a role into this.
/r/seduction11/11/13 06:07 AM
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Then you wouldn't be able to appreciate its value until now.
/r/seduction11/11/13 05:53 AM
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Loved it. Learned a new way to close physical gaps just by directing attention to something else.
/r/seduction08/11/13 10:52 PM
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Build your confidence in doing what you enjoy/love. If building a relationship with someone because you're trying to get ANYTHING (approval, respect, etc) you've already failed. People will pick up on what you project, so before ANYONE can respect you, you have to begin respecting yourself first.
/r/seduction08/11/13 09:15 PM
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I agree with this, the whole "don't ask, don't tell" rule applies here, if a woman wants to get with you, no need to cockblock her. If she mentions that she has a significant other, great, and proceed. She may tell you this as obligation instead as an excuse why not to. There's no black and white, only grey, each depending on the situation.
/r/seduction08/11/13 08:56 PM
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I have recently experienced personal success in this and want to share some tips that have helped me: Consider an Improv class, something that requires you to adopt a personality or situation you're normally not used to. The more you excercise this frame, the more successful you are at improv. That is the best metaphor I can give you for strong frame control and exercising it, the only difference in the real world is that you play within your own set of rules and boundaries. Get used to saying "…
/r/seduction08/11/13 08:47 PM
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Good on you! Better small action than no action. The gym, coffee shops, the mall, etc - are all GREAT ways to meet women, I prefer them better to a bar, really. It's called "day game", there's several forums and books on it that will make it easier for you to meet women.
/r/seduction08/11/13 07:56 PM
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The Mystery method is good, yet it's designed for the club scene and harder to implement in environments outside of that. I suggest RSD or anything inner game - these help you develop the internal strength to even play the day game. EDIT: By no means does that mean you should skip Mystery Method, there's great material in there; I just recommend starting out elsewhere first.
/r/seduction08/11/13 07:53 PM
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Do it for the act of being a man, but not in order to appease someone. This is all mental, whatever you believe in will seep out into your actions, and women can see it from a mile away.
/r/seduction08/11/13 07:50 PM
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Is this a fear of rejection? Because a "what?' can be interpreted as "this girl is deaf, and I need to speak louder". There's really no way of "handling" this situation externally, just move on and carry a solid frame INTERNALLY on what happened instead of conceiving that as rejection.
/r/seduction08/11/13 07:48 PM
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I was pretty shocked to see this quote, I'm a HUGE Alan Watts fan, I took much of my learned experience to develop wisdom from his lectures.
/r/seduction08/11/13 07:39 PM
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That's a tough road, and I admire you for being able to do that. It's easier for me to cut it off by the head before feelings get involved.
/r/seduction08/11/13 07:36 PM
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Thanks, I'm happy you could take something back from it.
/r/seduction08/11/13 07:35 PM
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Bittersweet, really. That was one of the reasons why I made that decision.
/r/seduction08/11/13 07:34 PM
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I mentioned it previously in someone else's response, she just ended a relationship with a guy less than a month ago. (They'd dated +2 years and it was clear they were not even close to finishing their interaction) She was moving out of the country within the next couple weeks and I aimed to establish a FWB situation out of it. Good point on the pre-selection prop though, I'll keep that in mind.
/r/seduction08/11/13 07:33 PM
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I firmly believe this is one of the most encouraging things I've had myself say. There's no shame in admitting it didn't work out, but it takes courage to step up and try again elsewhere.
/r/seduction08/11/13 07:30 PM
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She chose to approach the situation via text, my frame was that if she really wanted to establish a "friendship" then I expect our levels of trust to be open and authentic in a way that we can talk about anything without any fears. She gave me a half-assed answer to which I responded: "I think it best that we stop seeing each other" Then I briefly repeated some of the words she said last night about what she was looking for, and how I'm not looking for anything as such.
/r/seduction08/11/13 07:29 PM
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Find your identity, find out what you're here to do, who you are and what you want. Then just continue building. It may sound simple but it took me a variety of different vehicles to get me there, from meditating for several weeks while fasting in isolation to just complimenting myself in the mirror. You have something no one else in this world can EVER even come CLOSE to replicating. Find it. Own it. The world deserves to see it.
/r/seduction08/11/13 07:24 PM
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Agreed, it's the equivalent of a "pity-pat". Because A majority of my friends are girls, they've all expressed to me the variety of different ways they've shut other guys down. This is part of said list.
/r/seduction08/11/13 07:21 PM
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You know, that's something to think about - I'll try that out next time instead and see what kind of results I get. Coincidentally, I got the impression the she wasn't at that place in her life (recent breakup), so in this case I felt there wasn't much that could've gone differently.
/r/seduction08/11/13 07:18 PM
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Well done. I am on the other side looking at that mighty green grass. I shall see you soon my friend.
/r/seduction26/10/13 09:27 AM
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Good job on getting out. Now go do it again.
/r/seduction25/10/13 06:57 PM
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