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FundamentalsTheSphincterSphinx/r/seduction14/04/21 11:51 AM
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FundamentalsTheSphincterSphinx/r/seduction15/04/21 01:23 PM
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LifestyleTheSphincterSphinx/r/seduction27/03/21 01:13 PM
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Removed: Specific Situation / post on r/asksedditTheSphincterSphinx/r/seduction28/04/21 11:12 AM
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Field ReportTheSphincterSphinx/r/seduction26/04/21 07:08 PM
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I agree with you. I’m not advocating for exclusively trying to pick up girls online. I always say that meeting women in person is the best approach. My philosophy on online dating is that it’s a genuine reflection of you as a person. That may not be a great thing to hear. But it’s a reality. If you’ve got to be fake and not yourself online, clearly there’s something lacking in your life that you’re not happy with, or want to conceal. However to cut off an Avenue of potential simply because a few…
/r/seduction28/04/21 11:23 AM
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r/tinder still does weekly profile reviews so I'd cross post this in there if you haven't already. As far as the photos I think your photos need to match your bio. I actually really like the simplicity and joking approach, it's what works well for me. However if you're going to have that casual of a bio, your photos need to reflex that. It should be photos of you doing fun shit with other people. Your first picture makes you look like the door guy at a hooka bar. The stick picture is just weird.…
/r/seduction28/04/21 09:46 AM
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Is this the same girl from your post 190 days ago? Have you spoken to her yet? Its been 6 months...
/r/seduction27/04/21 10:35 PM
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Dating apps do work. Especially if you’re attractive. Don’t listen to men who get no where with them. Scroll through any female friends tinder and all you’ll see is pictures of dudes holding fish, and the same dudes drinking a beer. They don’t get anywhere because they are a dime a dozen. Yes you can meet women in real life. Literally everywhere. Wherever people go, you can meet women. Not just for flings but you’ll probably meet better women if you do it in person as they don’t have a chance to…
/r/seduction27/04/21 10:32 PM
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Yeah, it was a field report of my evening. I wasn’t asking for advice. I guess I was sharing a learning experience that even though a woman can produce pornographic material and be hot, doesn’t mean the sex is going to be good.
/r/seduction26/04/21 07:33 PM
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For sure, that's how I learned as well, but unfortunately men don't seem to work like that anymore, there's too much ego now, too much comparison to what they see online. I respect the way you did it.
/r/seduction16/04/21 11:36 AM
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That’s exactly the problem, I wrote this specifically for people not comfortable talking to women. Yeah they’ve got a problem in that they need to become comfortable in those situations. I was attempting to give them a technique in which they can start to become comfortable. It’s easy to look back on your experiences and say “oh you just need to be more comfortable, it gets easier”. But without direct basic advice, some people won’t ever get that, and that’s who I wrote it for.
/r/seduction16/04/21 09:35 AM
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It’s all good, I don’t think I specified that this works best while already on a date and getting to know eachother, not trying to pick up a girl at a bar/club etc, which a lot of people here forget is also part of the seduction process, not just cold approaching for phone numbers.
/r/seduction16/04/21 09:32 AM
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This was written with the perspective that you’re already out on a date with her, not trying to pick her up from cold. I agree that this doesn’t work as well with approaching and you should respect her if she’s not interested. I was thinking more in terms of her not opening up because she’s reserved/nervous as opposed to uninterested. I should have clarified that! My bad.
/r/seduction16/04/21 09:30 AM
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This was written with the thought of actually being on a date with a woman in person. Sorry I should have specified that.
/r/seduction16/04/21 12:17 AM
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That’s a really well written and thoughtful answer. You definitely have a more advanced outlook when it comes to seduction as you understand the intricacies of it as well as conversation. I think I was trying to breakdown into the simplest terms possible, a way to have effective conversations. What you said is correct and useful for someone who is comfortable in their dating life and looking to take that next step of improvement. Your approach of “connect while emotionally exploring the origins …
/r/seduction15/04/21 08:22 PM
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Hopefully it helps you a bit!
/r/seduction15/04/21 06:57 PM
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I’m interested to see how you’d better phrase those questions? “People on what industries do you interact with” as you wrote, isn’t great phrasing either. While I agree this isn’t the only way to approach conversations, I think it’s important for people to continually expand their repertoire and try new techniques to see if it helps improve their ability to confidently converse with women.
/r/seduction15/04/21 06:55 PM
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Thanks! Glad I could give you even a small amount of insight.
/r/seduction15/04/21 03:55 PM
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I think it gets a lot of shout outs simply because it’s got a lot of good advice. I guess that and the combination of it being readily available makes it an easy one to point people to. It covers a wide range of topics and is easy to read.
/r/seduction15/04/21 08:09 AM
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Yes! Except it doesnt challenge just any person, it challenges specifically YOUR decision making. Remember it’s about you and why you like it!
/r/seduction15/04/21 08:07 AM
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Do you find yourself browsing specific subreddits? If you do than sure that’s a hobby. But focus on the content of the subreddit not the browsing if you’re looking for ways to talk about it. Instead of saying “I browse Reddit” say “I like reading forums on space exploration”. Just replace space exploration with any topic you like on Reddit, and relate it to why you like the specific topic. The point is, it’s more important to talk about why you like the topic, than the topic itself
/r/seduction14/04/21 04:44 PM
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"Don't miss the forest for the trees" is essentially my entire post condensed into one phrase! Thanks for that, I'm keeping that one for the future.
/r/seduction14/04/21 02:21 PM
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There's definitely the case to be made that you can start a hobby to get girls and end up falling in love with it! I think its important to try lots of hobbies at least a few times. It's just that I don't think its good to Stay doing a hobby you don't enjoy simply because its a hobby that women enjoy. I love that you found photography and found that not only it helps you with women but you genuinely enjoy it. I did that with cooking. I started to do it to pick up girls, saying I could cook, and …
/r/seduction14/04/21 02:20 PM
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Yeah it can be difficult to break the mold of validation seeking, especially if it's with something important to you or something you've spent a lot of time/effort on. But just the fact that you're aware of how you acted, is a massive step in the right direction. Self-awareness on the topic will allow you going forward to not make the same mistake again. So you're clearly on the right track.
/r/seduction14/04/21 02:11 PM
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For sure. I think it's a good point to make that you're allowed to have multiple hobbies and you shouldn't pigeon hole yourself into one thing specifically.
/r/seduction14/04/21 02:05 PM
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If Tinder is working, stick with it. But there's nothing wrong with having more than one dating app.
/r/seduction14/04/21 02:04 PM
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Exactly! Nothing is worse than trying to do something you genuinely don't enjoy. People see through it and it's contradictory to what he says about being honest with yourself. You're going again your own enjoyments simply to be around women, which is contradictory to living a life of honesty and enjoyment.
/r/seduction14/04/21 02:03 PM
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Absolutely you're right about that. However I'm not advocating for getting hobbies that women do. I'm advocating for getting hobbies you enjoy and talking about them effectively. If you start doing yoga to pick up chicks, not only are you probably going to hate it, women will see you're not really enjoying it and yoga girls still wont be attracted to you. Same goes for a running group, if bending to tie your shoes winds you, a running group still isn't going to help you pick up women. The advice…
/r/seduction14/04/21 01:10 PM
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Yeah, obviously with a pandemic, it's not the best time to cold approach strangers. I think apps like bumble, hinge, and feeld have a slightly better user base than tinder. I still use tinder but its really mostly full of people promoting their instagrams or just looking for validation. The others seem to have more genuine people on them and there's less soul crushing vanity. It takes time to develop good profiles as well. R/tinder still does a profile review where men give eachother tips on imp…
/r/seduction14/04/21 12:56 PM
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Unless you literally stare at a wall in your free time, which technically could be a hobby, I’m sure you’ve got a hobby.
/r/seduction14/04/21 12:35 PM
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I think you’re completely right about that! Having hobbies that balance you’re life is not a point I specifically thought of but it’s a great addition.
/r/seduction14/04/21 12:34 PM
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While I have had dating experience before the age of 24, it was a long term relationship from 20-24. After we split it was the first time I was on the dating market as an actual adult. I didn’t date in my teens due to social anxiety and general “nice guy”ness. So I was in a similar place to you. It’s easy to start a regular dating life but the truth is you need to just start. Start by signing up to tinder/bumble/hinge whatever website you like using and try to get some matches. While that’s cook…
/r/seduction14/04/21 11:23 AM
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I’ve found that to be successful you’ve got to be clear with what you want/picky in your choices and filter out a lot of people no matter if you think they’re attractive. My general rules are: Swipe left on everyone who doesn’t have a bio. Left on anyone who only puts their Instagram handle and nothing else Left one single photos. Left of heavily edited photos. Other than that I only really swipe right on girls who are within 5km. You’ll end up swiping left of a lot of attractive girls but it al…
/r/seduction08/04/21 10:05 PM
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I guess what I mean is you’re not giving yourself credit for going out and trying to pick up girls. You focus so much on the negative stuff in your field reports, which I get, but you need to give yourself some credit for doing more than 90% of men out there. You will see success, you need to continue what you’re doing, accept the fact that some women will flake and not be interested or lead you on and accept that it’s part of the game. You need to not let that get to you and effect your emotion…
/r/seduction05/04/21 05:23 PM
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I’ll be honest man, I’ve read this and your post history and I genuinely think you’re focusing too much on trying to find bad things that happen so you can tell yourself “that girl doesn’t immediately want to fuck me, next!” Besides that, why are you offering to pick these women up in your car and also driving them home? That doesn’t sound like you’re valuing your time, which is one of your written rules, it sounds like you’re throwing out all the stops to get laid. That can come off as being a …
/r/seduction05/04/21 04:14 PM
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No worries, I’d hate to see a young man get bogged down by chasing women. It gets easier as you get older. So don’t stress too much.
/r/seduction04/04/21 06:21 PM
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As someone who graduated high school a decade ago my advice is take a deep breath and chill. You’re 17-18 if you’re a senior. Maybe in your head you feel old. Maybe you see your class mates getting with girls and are jealous. I can guarantee you’ll look back in 5 years and laugh that you asked this question. You’ve got a long long time to pick up girls and work on your seduction. I’m 10 years older than you and still don’t feel in my prime, still on the upswing. Having relationships with girls i…
/r/seduction04/04/21 05:37 PM
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There’s nothing wrong at all not going to clubs. However yes you won’t be successful at clubs or anywhere you don’t enjoy being. Because people will pick up on your subconscious expression of discomfort. My advice is find something you enjoy doing and get into a group that does it. Being in places you enjoy puts you at ease and allows you to focus on enjoying yourself as opposed to focusing on trying to pick up girls. Seduction of women in my opinion should be a by-product of an enjoyable life, …
/r/seduction04/04/21 05:23 PM
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Yeah give it a go, if people see you letting loose and not caring there’s a good chance they’ll feel more open to do the same.
/r/seduction04/04/21 05:19 PM
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Genuine question, do you enjoy yourself at club? Are you going not only to pick up girls but also to dance and have a good time? A favorite thing of mine is going out to clubs and just dancing by myself, leaving my friends to do what they please. I’ve generally had women approach me because I’m having a good time and they want to join in. If you’re going because you feel like you’re meant to or because you know there’s girls there looking to have a good time, you’re going for the wrong reason. Y…
/r/seduction04/04/21 09:33 AM
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Try focusing of having fun with Your friend. You don’t need to only approach groups like some people have said. If you’re walking and you pass a smokeshow, dare your friend to go talk to her. Egging eachother on is the whole fun of having a wing with go out with. That gives a conversation starter as well. Something like, “excuse me, I was just going to xzy with my friend but passed you and had to stop you because you caught my eye” or whatever your lines may be. It makes it seem more natural and…
/r/seduction04/04/21 09:25 AM
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I’m going to give you the opposite advice of most people probably and this is only personal experience so take what you will from it. Personally I’d try and invite her out with another few coworkers. I know you said it’s corporate, but any restaurant I’ve worked in there’s always some comradery. If you frame it as a few of you going out for a beer after your shift it’s much less obviously of what you’re trying to do. If she’s even remotely interested In you she’ll say yes. And then you can take …
/r/seduction04/04/21 09:15 AM
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I think a good start is find what kind of foods you like that you’ve only had in a restaurant or seen somewhere and cook them. There’s nothing wrong with copying the recipes of restaurants you like and it’ll teach you good technique and understanding of how dishes are built. You don’t need to ask them for the recipe but learn what components are in them and learn to cook each one. A good example is a Big Mac. Instead of trying to copy it exactly, find a good recipe online for special sauce and t…
/r/seduction03/04/21 08:37 PM
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For me it came when I realized I was good at cooking. I was 20 and had pretty low self esteem/self-view. I started throwing myself into work at a restaurant and found I loved it, the people around me supported me in my growth. As I progressed I noticed it had a knock-on effect in the rest of my life. I developed a true passion for food and cooking, when I would talk about it, people would comment about the way I spoke of it. This in-turn made me more confident in speaking in general and gave me …
/r/seduction03/04/21 10:44 AM
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