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| 1 | Would the world be a better place if Men were more like Women?If they talked about you behind your back, and decided to make fun of your mental health, they were never friends. One of the hardest things to learn about friends! When someone confessed something to me and I didn't know what to do with it or needed to learn how to support them better, I would tell another friend, but I would make sure to never say who it was or give any identifying info to try and protect their privacy as much as possible. | /r/ExRedPill | 19/08/22 02:20 PM |
| 1 | One of my hardest experiences with the Red Pill men in my life was...Real life example: My Red Pill (now ex) "friends" took it upon themselves to contact my clients, other friends, and family, and tell them I was cheating on my Husband (and other personal things they gathered from our friendship). Keep in mind, none of them ever went to my Husband, only others. But I was not cheating, they just did not understand what polyamory meant, that it's none of their business, and that it's a real thing that's been around since forever and most importantly, was consentual… | /r/ExRedPill | 19/08/22 12:06 PM |
| 1 | One of my hardest experiences with the Red Pill men in my life was...Yes, they did and I was in the women's version. In our circle it was talked about openly, but that was an older 'Fight Club' version where men and women were segregated, but still openly discussed things (there wasn't any hate). | /r/ExRedPill | 19/08/22 12:38 AM |
| 1 | I'd like to share this.LOL okay: https://allthingscomedy.com/podcasts/the-cult-of-elon-musk | /r/ExRedPill | 18/08/22 10:31 PM |
| 1 | can someone explain me who is Andrew Tate and why is he so popular lately ?Here's a video on the strategies he uses. | /r/ExRedPill | 18/08/22 09:08 PM |
| 1 | I'd like to share this.I'm glad they talk about the dissonance-creating contradictory talk! It's used very strategically in cult creation too. | /r/ExRedPill | 18/08/22 05:24 PM |
| 1 | The online popularity of redpill is just weird and kinda creepyMen watch content like that after getting frustrated trying to date women who show zero interest in children, who post explicit photos on Instagram for other men to gawk at, or expect men to submit to every progressive social trend she learned through an Instagram slide show. This is oddly familiar, but from the men's side as well. | /r/ExRedPill | 17/08/22 08:41 PM |
| 1 | “The Rise of Single, Lonely Men”- thoughts on this?Why not just admit (this is directed at the author, not at you) that women aren't that much into men. Isn't this what you mean? You not being desired? What's your 'into' word meaning? | /r/ExRedPill | 17/08/22 08:36 PM |
| 1 | “The Rise of Single, Lonely Men”- thoughts on this?The study is here: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0191886920302555 | /r/ExRedPill | 17/08/22 07:05 PM |
| 1 | “The Rise of Single, Lonely Men”- thoughts on this?I'm not totally sure we're reading the same stuff, or at least focusing on the same parts. When I read "Men have a key role in this transformation but only if they go all-in. It’s going to take that kind of commitment to themselves, to their own mental health, to the kind of love they want to generate in this world", this means to me that they are being called to lead the bunch by putting your money where your mouth is basically. I don't see anything about men still not being desired even if the… | /r/ExRedPill | 17/08/22 06:18 PM |
| 1 | “The Rise of Single, Lonely Men”- thoughts on this?Why not just admit (this is directed at the author, not at you) that women aren't that much into men. Because then you box in the women that are into men incorrectly. Again, people aren't the same. Each person has their own level of desire, their own level of libido, their own ways of handling that, their own preferences for relationship structure, etc. When you say "women", that's too broad of a label. But I can tell you that after having 4 potential partners try to secretly install spyware on … | /r/ExRedPill | 17/08/22 05:22 PM |
| 1 | “The Rise of Single, Lonely Men”- thoughts on this?As a woman, this stuck out to me, "How can men reap the benefit of the algorithms? Level up your mental health game. That means getting into some individual therapy to address your skills gap. It means valuing your own internal world and respecting your ideas enough to communicate them effectively. It means seeing intimacy, romance, and emotional connection as worthy of your time and effort. Open communication is so fucking sexy. It helps me not to work so hard to get shit outta you when we know… | /r/ExRedPill | 17/08/22 02:02 PM |
| 1 | Advice from someone who has been married for almost 20 years...Are you kidding me? So a few points to make here. The vast majority of younger women are on birth control/artificial oral contraceptives. The impact those have on your sexuality is immense. Women on the pill are disproportionately attracted to feminine, more meek and submissive men. There's multiple studies on this. I'm soooo glad you're talking about this! Even I found out the hard way the substantial impacts of birth control. Shit literally drove me crazy and did all kinds of weird shit to my … | /r/ExRedPill | 16/08/22 10:47 PM |
| 1 | Advice from someone who has been married for almost 20 years...What the redpill gets wrong, is that women are mainly attracted to AUTHENTIC masculinity. Not men pretending to be this big, strong, dominant, leading, charismatic, "alpha". Spot on! But let's be honest here, as much as this may bother myself and others to admit, a man who's authentically all of those things is significantly more attractive to women. Yes, but it does not mean you're not attractive and that's what many forget. Like one of my exes uses to cry around me occasionally and even talked… | /r/ExRedPill | 16/08/22 10:43 PM |
| 1 | I know a lot of you guys left red pill, but is there anything good that you have gotten out of that red pill phase?I was in a much older version that didn't turn sour until 2014 and then it went to Hell fast (~2010-2014). The men turned on the women, the women turned on the men, the women turned on each other, and it seems the men turned on each other too and it was like it imploded as I started to question the 'new' status quo. The one I was in, before it went berserk, I learned a lot about personality disorders/predatory behaviours which pushed me into going into to trauma recovery because then I had facts… | /r/ExRedPill | 16/08/22 09:10 PM |
| 1 | Advice from someone who has been married for almost 20 years...Yeah, I'm Demi. I get you. I had several friends that went MGTOW. I even promoted the theory to many of my guy friends after they expressed their frustration with dating. I wasn't originally a bunch of sadistic hate. I never cared much until they turned on me for other women's crimes (or intentions). Then I got super snippy and pushed them out of my life (which then earned me some pretty fucked up retaliation). I was so tired of the low blow comments like "yeah you haven't done that yet, but pro… | /r/ExRedPill | 16/08/22 02:48 PM |
| 1 | Advice from someone who has been married for almost 20 years...That I definitely am. This bridge is well overdue. I love men and I'm tired of this war. Time to start dishing out apologies and get back to love makin'. :) lol | /r/ExRedPill | 16/08/22 02:22 PM |
| 1 | Advice from someone who has been married for almost 20 years...I'm a woman. lol Thanks though. :) | /r/ExRedPill | 16/08/22 01:59 PM |
| 1 | Advice from someone who has been married for almost 20 years...Both partners and most of my male friendships. They got really hostile for many years and took a lot of things down around me because of the rage. My career included. Suddenly relationship dynamics were changing practically overnight, I was to 'accept' all these new changes or be left in the dirt, etc. I went along with it because I didn't want to be homeless after having my career ripped from me. It was all very ugly. | /r/ExRedPill | 16/08/22 07:48 AM |
| 1 | How is this subreddit going to have any success at all with saving men from the Redpill with all the misandry that's going on here?Because I'm a victim of many and I get to share my experiences every once in a while. People can be here without trying to save people. Now I just stay here to give healthy resources for the abuse victims that are here, included Red Pillers. Which is what I've been doing for years. I can be effective without trying to "save" people. I prefer to help people help themselves. Horse to water and all that. They have to save themselves. | /r/ExRedPill | 15/08/22 11:32 PM |
| 1 | Not redpilled but I find myself doubting sometimesWalk away before you get brainwashed or don't. Up to you. You act like you could care less either way? It's couldn't care less. Whether some adult makes the choice to go in anyways despite a sub loaded with stories, experiences, etc. it's truly no worry of mine. I've learned better ways from my specialists and professionals. I've learned it's bullshit. I've turned my life around after being forced and extorted into this cult. We've all talked and make posts ad nauseam. This is me saying that cur… | /r/ExRedPill | 15/08/22 11:27 PM |
| 1 | How is this subreddit going to have any success at all with saving men from the Redpill with all the misandry that's going on here?Nah man, I'm done trying to save them. If you knew me, you'd know I've been doing it for years. People are well aware of the work I've done and it's already falling apart because of the work myself and many others, like the mods here who deal with this shit every day of their lives, for years, have done. My time here is fading. But I promise you're not going to do it with gotcha mind fuckery, shaming, and some post-abuse holier than thou stuff. The claims you're making are few and far between af… | /r/ExRedPill | 15/08/22 11:21 PM |
| 1 | Not redpilled but I find myself doubting sometimesThere are thousands of other channels that give you correct information based on real, duplicatable, and peer-reviewed stuff. Walk away before you get brainwashed or don't. Up to you. But at the very least, question why these "coaches" don't have much formal training, degrees, certifications, or anything that would tell you that what they say has value. Question why many of them have fake names. Question why their pubic records don't match their acted persona online. Due your dye diligence man. … | /r/ExRedPill | 15/08/22 11:11 PM |
| 1 | How is this subreddit going to have any success at all with saving men from the Redpill with all the misandry that's going on here?Homie you say "you" in a general sense just like they do. You're doing the very thing you're complaining about. You're putting a narrative on me when you don't know me. You say I don't understand when I absolutely do. My partners and friends got caught up in this bullshit. I lost my career from this shit. I've been eyeball deep in Red Pill for over a decade now. I've been working 5 years of my life, exhausting myself until couldn't do anything but numb myself and cry watching all my good men tur… | /r/ExRedPill | 15/08/22 11:00 PM |
| 1 | How is this subreddit going to have any success at all with saving men from the Redpill with all the misandry that's going on here?With all due respect, I think you're completely grazing over the extremely hurtful shit that was said by Red Pillers. They love bombed and left women on purpose, as a game, to see how many notches they could get. How much hurt they could cause WAS THE GOAL. There was literal sadistic shit going on and that didn't just stay online. This carried out on the real world where these men then disrespected and abused the women in their lives. Truth be told, a lot of men don't wash their asses properly, … | /r/ExRedPill | 15/08/22 10:43 PM |
| 1 | How is this subreddit going to have any success at all with saving men from the Redpill with all the misandry that's going on here?The hard part is there A LOT of Red Pill victims here too, myself included. I still try my hardest to look beyond the extreme pain I was put through by a group of them for years of my life, but sometimes I can't. Sometimes I don't want to, nor does anyone have to. If anything, hearing that raw pain that was caused can be good for you if you read it properly. These men who hurt people need to say "I hurt someone substantially and I owe it to not only them, but to myself, to also recover, just lik… | /r/ExRedPill | 15/08/22 10:36 PM |
| 1 | Rollo MyAssy doesn't read what he postHe gives me the biggest lady boner. 🍿🍿🍿 | /r/ExRedPill | 14/08/22 12:28 AM |
| 1 | Ex RP men, Are you into femdom?This would explain so much. I was raised in primarily women-dominated homes, except one. I'm a very strong woman and men's attraction to that is extremely overwhelming because I only am like that because I had to be like that, otherwise I prefer men-led relationships. Damn, thanks for giving me another introspection point. :) | /r/ExRedPill | 13/08/22 07:17 PM |
| 1 | Please help me.988 is the new hotline. Hey, great info, but keep in mind this is for the US only and there are A LOT of international people here. Here's a link that has international numbers: https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlines/ | /r/ExRedPill | 12/08/22 06:15 PM |
| 1 | I figure out why I hate the red pill philosophy so much and it's not what you think.Brother, your English is great. Like you don't even need that disclaimer. Be proud in that if it's not your first language. Truly it's excellent! :) Secondly, yes, Red Pill teaches you about the bad women, BUT then gives you confirmation bias to a perspective of the 'why' behind other behaviours (like occasional, not habitual lying or omission of info) which is a bad mix for those that think in black and white. Then it's hard to envision good reasons behind some behaviours thus only confirming t… | /r/ExRedPill | 12/08/22 03:00 PM |
| 1 | Please help me.Okay, add this to your list. These are prompts that can help with getting started in journaling and starting on your shadow work. With you being former religious, take this VERY slowly. Like two weeks or more in-between prompts. Give yourself a chance to really internalize what the prompt is helping you work through, give yourself a chance to feel the emotions that come with it, listen to the voice but do not obey or allow it to convince you to hurt others, write down what it tells you, write ev… | /r/ExRedPill | 12/08/22 02:42 PM |
| 1 | Please help me.Is it literally a voice you're hearing audibly or like another inner dialogue talking to your main dialogue (just word thoughts with no audio)? | /r/ExRedPill | 12/08/22 02:19 PM |
| 1 | Please help me.I went through the same. I get it. No need to say more. Here's another book for you. This PDF is free and on a reputable site: https://archive.org/details/LundyWhyDoesHeDoThat | /r/ExRedPill | 12/08/22 02:15 PM |
| 1 | Please help me.Does he hit you or just yell and fling insults? r/CPTSD and r/AdultSurvivors can help too. Do they use substances like drugs, alcohol, or other addictions? I have more resources, but I want to only provide the ones that will benefit you. | /r/ExRedPill | 12/08/22 01:57 PM |
| 1 | Please help me.You don't have to tell me if you don't want, but do they abuse you? | /r/ExRedPill | 12/08/22 01:46 PM |
| 1 | Please help me.Was 2019 like now? Was something big going on that may have led to a thought-based depression? Breakup? Lose a job? Stuff like that can have huge impacts on us that were taught to trust God with everything and then watch as he fails us when we need Him the most. But He's guiding you to be more independent. Try reading this and see if this resonates: https://www.ryanhart.org/footprints-in-the-sand/ | /r/ExRedPill | 12/08/22 12:46 PM |
| 1 | Please help me.For the first time I see a world that is grey. Not black and white and I'm so scared. You'll get to a place where you'll see how beautiful this can be. Just give yourself time. Deprogramming doesn't happen overnight. It takes years. Just breathe, give yourself space and time, write down everything you're thinking and feeding to give yourself a break, listen to your favorite music and maybe find new stuff, look within and mould yourself to be who you want to be now. What did you envision for your… | /r/ExRedPill | 12/08/22 12:42 PM |
| 1 | Please help me.I personally was not able to switch to nothing right out of the gates. It left me too empty and neurotic. I will always be a woman of faith, I think. Some things are deeply imbedded into me, but I've worked through them to make them more beneficial than harmful. I don't know if it'll help you the same, but r/Stoicism helped me a lot with that transition and I've been practicing it for 8 years now. It's very morally and ethically good but without the dogma and fantasy stories. Maybe you just need… | /r/ExRedPill | 12/08/22 12:38 PM |
| 1 | Please help me.I keep imagining myself harming people. If you're thinking like this but know you're not that type inside, then it may be what's called an intrusive thoughts. Here's more info: https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/intrusive-thoughts | /r/ExRedPill | 12/08/22 12:33 PM |
| 1 | Please help me.May I ask what religion so I can find you resources? I remember those times well. Just remember this is a known thing after you leave some religions. You may even get headaches/migraines in the front of your head for a bit and waves of depression and anger/rage then feelings of nothing/empty. Lots of things are going to happen, but they're almost all temporary and known side effects. Just give yourself time to sort through it. Journaling will be one of your best things to keep you grounded as lo… | /r/ExRedPill | 12/08/22 12:22 PM |
| 1 | Please help me.It's no inconvenience. I wish I could help more, but I'm very drained from helping others currently. Please stay here and work through it. Most of these things are temporary and nearly impossible to see when you're in the thick of it (I personally became suicidal after disconnecting from my lifelong religion, so I get it). Look for things going on in life that may be causing this, go get evaluated for depression, read some recovery books, start journaling to empty those thoughts on paper, etc. T… | /r/ExRedPill | 12/08/22 12:10 PM |
| 1 | Please help me.OP is suicidal. There are better resources for them than people who will tell them they're undatable on a desperate post. Please be kinder. Most of these guys have mental health issues. | /r/ExRedPill | 12/08/22 11:11 AM |
| 1 | Please help me.If you're seriously suicidal then you need to call a hotline and speak with people who are trained in dealing with helping you through those moments where our brains can lie to us about things before we get back to a better place. There are hotlines in many locations, please look it up. You have have depression or some other mental health issue that may be temporary and doing that would be a permanent. You're very young and things are really hard at that time because you're dealing with a brain … | /r/ExRedPill | 12/08/22 10:56 AM |
| 1 | The Pill Pipeline is great at highlighting red flags, but what are some green flags that show us that a person is still good and worthy outside our correspondence bias?I feel like specifically setting up tests is a bad approach and going to backfire, but when stuff naturally comes up in life that requires a real partner and not just someone there for the fun or whatever... that's when you really start to learn about your partner. Truth! The sheer amount of men that were putting me through the 'tests' when I had so much other shit going on angered me. And then I got no grace even when they learned the long list of bullshit I was going though (multiple deaths, m… | /r/ExRedPill | 10/08/22 06:30 PM |
| 1 | The underdog has managed to turn things around but needs adviceEveryone has some red flags until we really work on ourselves, but even then, being red flag-free is a rare unicorn, even for dudes. If the silent treatment is her go to then she's not as powerful she's playing off. She's basically waiting for you to give up. That's a weak power move. I usually just defend my boundaries and then walk out/away if they insist. Lastly, don't let anyone power move you just because you're lonely. That's a terrible reason. BUT, just know what you're getting yourself i… | /r/ExRedPill | 10/08/22 06:05 PM |
| 1 | The underdog has managed to turn things around but needs adviceIm wondering if she has any red flags? She asked me what I have imagined my future children to look like which was a weird question for a first date but I replied “blonde hair blue eyes” and she wasn’t happy with my answer and turned her back to me and didn’t talk for 15 minutes until I apologised. She said she wanted mixed race kids. I understand I kind of messed up saying this but I wanted to say the truth. Also I had never even thought about children or marriage with this woman because it was… | /r/ExRedPill | 10/08/22 05:42 PM |
| 1 | what do you think of willing cuckolds?Can I get in trouble for bullying the mods? I would like to. 😇 | /r/ExRedPill | 09/08/22 04:56 PM |
| 1 | what do you think of willing cuckolds?Some do it to make themselves stronger. Similar to how Stoics intentionally put themselves in uncomfortable positions to get experience and learn temperance. It's not always what we perceive from the outside. | /r/ExRedPill | 09/08/22 04:29 PM |
| 1 | what do you think of willing cuckolds?That's not what I meant. 😑 | /r/ExRedPill | 09/08/22 01:59 PM |
| 1 | what do you think of willing cuckolds?Fun fact: cucking porn is one of the most popular choices on PornHub. Juuust sayin'. | /r/ExRedPill | 09/08/22 01:10 PM |
| 1 | what do you think of willing cuckolds?My main partner is like you and we share the same views to a T about this, so I get it. Many were raised, like myself, to believe that anything beyond normal sex is some kind of sick dysfunctional sex. I remember one guy thinking I was a sadistic person because I was Poly. I shit you not. It's definitely strange, but I get it coming from a Trad house myself. They just need more sex-positivity and proper education on it. | /r/ExRedPill | 09/08/22 12:55 PM |
| 1 | what do you think of willing cuckolds?Thhiiiissssss!!!! 👆🏼🙌🏼👏🏼 | /r/ExRedPill | 09/08/22 12:32 PM |
| 1 | what do you think of willing cuckolds?What the fuck? Dude, no. Have you actually met some of these people? They're way more normal than you'd think. | /r/ExRedPill | 09/08/22 12:28 PM |
| 1 | Spaces outside of RP that actually talk about what a man should look for, or avoid, in a woman partner.Jumping on my soap box. The Red Pill that we got into over a decade ago did teach that stuff (mine didn't segregate the sexes except for some workshops). They wanted men and women to learn from love how to get along better with each other by knowing more about each other, even if those truths were painful. They're where I originally learned about this link where they teach all that VERY well and more medically correct than TRP: https://outofthefog.website/ This website literally saved my life be… | /r/ExRedPill | 09/08/22 01:07 AM |
| 1 | my ex boyfriend redpillHaving been severely abused by many, the last thing I want to do is defend them, but the 'they cannot be changed' thing isn't true and is a counterintuitive stigma. Not all want to, but many are motivated to change, they just don't know how because they have a lot of baggage to tackle and it can be daunting and painful. https://www.healthline.com/health/can-a-narcissist-change My current partner was VERY high in narcissism (likely NPD, and BPD). It was a nightmare to deal with him, but I was tau… | /r/ExRedPill | 08/08/22 10:05 PM |
| 1 | Is it really over for women over 25?Haha, good moisturizer is a must have item for everyone. lol | /r/ExRedPill | 08/08/22 09:43 PM |
| 1 | Is it really over for women over 25?Do you use moisturizer? | /r/ExRedPill | 08/08/22 09:37 PM |
| 1 | Is it really over for women over 25?Hell no!!! I'm in my upper 30's and honestly it's only getting better. Socialization improved, I got better social circles, I get way more good attention and offers than I did before, most people actually respect what you say, I feel more comfortable in my skin, I don't get super butt hurt about as much anymore, etc. I don't have many wrinkles and still look about 10 years younger. Nobody believes me when I tell them my age because I still have a "cute" or "adorable" baby face. lol But as I got … | /r/ExRedPill | 08/08/22 08:16 PM |
| 1 | I hate the worldYou start by genuinely wanting to recover. If you actually want it, go to your local library (free books galore!) and start looking through the recovery section for the specific hurts you need to focus on healing. Stick with people that are MD's or PhD's and they'll give you wwaayy better advice than any normie on the Black Pill servers. You change your mind and life one book at a time. | /r/ExRedPill | 06/08/22 03:27 PM |
| 1 | Autism, and MI is ruining my lifeHave you considered ACT? I think that might be a better starting point. You seem, rightfully so, really cynical. The problem is that starts to affect other areas of our lives until we can't really see the world clearly anymore. ACT can help you with that and I bet you'll feel better faster. | /r/ExRedPill | 06/08/22 12:43 AM |
| 1 | if people were open and understanding in a lot of these young guys would not go to these communitiesWhat does that look like to you? | /r/ExRedPill | 05/08/22 11:38 PM |
| 1 | Deconstructing Red Pill PhilosophyWomen and men no longer need each other in order to survive, like we did in the past. We need each other more than we admit. We're just stubborn motherfucks and can't admit that a lot of the time. If we didn't need each other, we wouldn't be spending hours looking at a screen to get our fix. Just sayin'. I fucking love men. 🤤 | /r/ExRedPill | 05/08/22 08:05 PM |
| 1 | an ignominious era of the red pillReciprocation of what? Love? Affection? Intimacy? | /r/ExRedPill | 05/08/22 07:15 PM |
| 1 | How to deal with other guys trying to embarrass you/make you feel smaller in front of a woman?Rise up, learn to greyrock dummies like that, and go get your girl. People like that aren't even worth the calories it takes to react. Go get her first, tiger. | /r/ExRedPill | 05/08/22 07:08 PM |
| 2 | Found the source of my insecurities, but how do I resolve it?I guess thats why I enjoy spending time alone because then my needs are met. Are you introverted too? Im always afraid of coming off selfish or creepy to people. My friends always say that I'm attractive, confident and charismatic but I feel like me accepting those compliments would make me look selfish "Thank you, I appreciate that." is a perfectly acceptable answer for this. You're overly concerned with how people perceive you. I used to be like that too until you meet people that hate everyon… | /r/ExRedPill | 05/08/22 04:05 PM |
| 5 | Found the source of my insecurities, but how do I resolve it?From the sound of all this as a 3rd party, it sounds like you might possibly be codependent. Does this sound like you? https://psychcentral.com/lib/symptoms-signs-of-codependency | /r/ExRedPill | 05/08/22 03:07 PM |
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