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| 1 | How would you feel if your ex/baby daddy sent bigger Mothers’ Day flowers to your mom than to you?I’d say that if kids weren’t involved. (I don’t have kids so I don’t know what the inner perspective is on that). Only as the outsider lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/20 01:05 AM |
| 1 | How would you feel if your ex/baby daddy sent bigger Mothers’ Day flowers to your mom than to you?For this case ex is also babymomma so he sees either her or the babymommas mom everyday to see the kids or pick them up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/20 01:02 AM |
| 1 | How would you feel if your ex/baby daddy sent bigger Mothers’ Day flowers to your mom than to you?Updated the post with the full picture! Now asking for point of views with the new info lol Yeah I feel like I get swayed one way or another whenever I read responses first lol. And I wanted to post with generic info bc I also feel like I try to get people to side one way or another when I explain things and don’t catch it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/20 01:01 AM |
| 1 | How would you feel if your ex/baby daddy sent bigger Mothers’ Day flowers to your mom than to you?I updated the most with more info. In this part, kids are definitely in the picture. She actually doesn’t get along particularly well with her own mom, but it’s mom so they live together. But she would get upset when he would give her things and not do nice things for her mom so that’s the reason for them both getting flowers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/20 01:00 AM |
| 1 | How would you feel if your ex/baby daddy sent bigger Mothers’ Day flowers to your mom than to you?Updated the post with the full picture! Now asking for point of views with the new info lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/20 12:58 AM |
| 1 | How would you feel if your ex/baby daddy sent bigger Mothers’ Day flowers to your mom than to you?Updated the post with the full picture! Now asking for point of views with the new info lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/20 12:58 AM |
| 1 | How would you feel if your ex/baby daddy sent bigger Mothers’ Day flowers to your mom than to you?Updated the post with the full picture! Now asking for point of views with the new info lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/20 12:58 AM |
| 1 | How would you feel if your ex/baby daddy sent bigger Mothers’ Day flowers to your mom than to you?Updated the post with the full picture! Now asking for point of views with the new info lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/20 12:58 AM |
| 31 | Michelle Pfeiffer at 61. Where's that supposed Wall again?Can we get a thread on successful women or “pretty women” who have NOT been cheated on? Geebies. (Never knew that and she is one of my favvvesss). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/20 08:40 PM |
| 16 | Unless he’s wearing diapers, you can’t change him.I wish things like this came with the 4,000 page thesis on what exactly the process of “fixing” or “changing” him entails. So that way if they understand that unless you want to suffer, cry, maybe be cheated on, disrespected, left feeling alone, feel like you’re nothing to someone who claims to love, and hurt continuously in 50 other ways you didn’t know existed or were even possible and more? Then at least you know what you were going to get into. “Fixing” people as phrases like this go is (are… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/20 08:38 PM |
| 5 | Ladies have you ever tried a blind dating program like this?I think there could be that rare guy who’s sister set it up for him, or who’s mom said, “Try this!” or who’s male friends thought it would help. I could mayyybe think some men keep running into their versions of gold diggers and users and don’t know what to do as well regardless of how well they present themselves. I have the weirdest life stories but I met a guy at a strip club before. His aunt was one of the strippers. Yes I thought it was strange too and I didn’t understand. Turns out his mom… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/20 08:33 PM |
| 12 | And there are women who would reply “oh hahaha good one” and continue to talk to this person. I hate OLD culture. Tasteless. (Taken from r/tinder)I’ve had a boyfriend and a dating phase only- should have married a HVM. Both were people I would have spoken highly of here if I was with them still. Others in between became friends/acquaintances with no sexual interest with either of them. And a few other stories in between. Only one one night stand in retrospect I think like 6 years ago bc he was a pilot and I managed to lose his contact info by accident. I think I lost my phone that time to lol. But my experience, you really have to draw li… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/20 08:25 PM |
| 1 | Trash talkingI would like to complain about why my white shirts are magically pink, or be “yelled” at that I tossed favorite underwear... and not argue on who has been working more or less and who is supposed to do laundry and dishes etc etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/20 03:16 PM |
| 2 | Pickmeishas brag about fucking their married “work husbands”.I concur. I would totally have one in 2 of the guys at work because one is an incredible respectful friend and helpful coworker (he’s single) to everyone. And the other is married but he’s also so helpful and kind at work. If work husband meant different. Neither of which I would ever dawn the work husband term on bc of what it really is nowadays. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/20 03:12 PM |
| 2 | I’ve never felt protected by a man before in my entire life. I would like that feeling of being provided for and protected. Anyone else feeling the same?I downloaded it to read before my flight. I hope it isn’t an airline related article lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/20 03:09 PM |
| 2 | I’ve never felt protected by a man before in my entire life. I would like that feeling of being provided for and protected. Anyone else feeling the same?I honestly would have never thought to feel anything toward him without his friend. My girl-friend didn’t even feel what was happening so she was laughing through it, I was at first too, until she realized what was happening that made it so funny (going from touching to floor to not at all). But man when I finally realized WHY the other friend was pep talking me before I myself even knew what was happening? It was like being told, “Hey don’t panic... but you’re about to die.” That realization wa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/20 03:09 PM |
| 1 | Do you guys force yourself to date?I honestly have. Bc at the time I was not comfortable being alone and just with myself. I didn’t know how to be single and enjoy my time with me. Of course none of those dates during that time period ended in any relationship. I actually “ghosted” the one guy that I should have been with and I was lucky at the time that he was patient with me when I thought I was ready to date. We tried, and in retrospect he was HVM and the only 1 of 2 that I’ve met in my life. I was the one being super duper LV… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/20 03:56 AM |
| 19 | I’ve never felt protected by a man before in my entire life. I would like that feeling of being provided for and protected. Anyone else feeling the same?In high school, I got caught in a rip tide in the ocean during a school camping trip and was all of a sudden further out than planned. I was with my then bf, his best friend and my friend who was shorter than me. She was a better swimmer than me and I was further out than she was so she didn’t exactly realize what was happening to me. I mentally started panicking and my bf’s friend managed to tell me what was happening. Don’t fight and calmly try to swim toward him. Well, that was impossible bc … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/20 03:46 AM |
| 1 | I’ve never felt protected by a man before in my entire life. I would like that feeling of being provided for and protected. Anyone else feeling the same?I did! One time and it was not long enough. And as I’ve said in many comments.... short lived Bc I apparently was stuck on my ex at the time. I hadn’t discovered FDS til after. Otherwise I’d be married already. There’s a bit of difference when you’re drunk and a guy is defending you for doing something as innocent as picking up a traffic cone (don’t ask lol) only to have a different drunk guy yell at you. And you happily walk away with said cone bc then his friends protected my person at the tim… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/20 03:38 AM |
| 3 | Jackets with the FDS logo, anyone?UM HELLO YES. tank tops, sweatpants. Underwear. I would wear it all year round. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/20 03:32 AM |
| 15 | "I ignored everything I read in the FDS handbook, is this relationship still salvageable???"It’s going to work this time! He promised. We’ve been through soooooooooo much. Love is enough! I can tell he’s trying THIS time. Never mind the talking to exes, flirting with coworkers, talking shit about his mom, being a a part time dad. Okay no really. It will be different THIS time. He cooks for me now. AND texts me back. wink face My tag thing should come with, “If I sound mean it’s only bc I’ve been through the same thing. Just a penis with a different name.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/20 03:30 AM |
| 6 | Trash talkingMy version is... if I feel like talking about situations with his friends or my friends (his friends as in ones that became mutual)... and I know they would have nothing to support his situation other than to support him as a friend, bc he’s their friend.. then that says enough too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/20 03:26 AM |
| 6 | Self Control ; How do you stop yourself from forming a crush on people you find attractive ?Or being cold as a result ?By realizing crushes are typically purely physical. He could have a small dick, he could treat his mom horribly, he could be terrible at discussions, he could be a flirtatious womanizer, he could simply just be good looking. If you’re not wanting to date yet then consider this: do you want to grow through the process of figuring HIM out and understanding HIM and making time for HIM and being there for HIM right now? Or do you want to do all that for yourself FIRST. Because if you give into your … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/20 03:22 AM |
| 2 | Lazy communication from OLD. Left on read.I’ve had success with OLD. HVM hands down x2. I “approve” thousands knowing that MAYBE at least 1 will come through who is genuine. I used to have days where I’d swipe right without looking at the photo. I wanted to judge ppl based on their interactions and not looks. Why did I stay on OLD? Bc my ass is on there too and I’m NOT looking for a one night stand or looking for a unicorn for my husband. So I held firm in my belief that if there’s a me, there’s gotta be a male version within the 1000s.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/20 03:15 AM |
| 5 | Lazy communication from OLD. Left on read.Is it bad that I had a Craigslist ad (looking for rooms/housing etc)... and I said enough in the ad. But when people responded, “Are you male or female?” I responded with, “Do I sound like a guy to you??” Or I get pissy when they said “need more info,” as if I was on a dating app when they ask the same thing although I babbled my head off in the description. Lol. I’m probably being too much but I’ve always had the same reaction in dating apps too. Just didn’t realize I brought it over to housing… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/20 03:03 AM |
| 9 | Pickmeishas brag about fucking their married “work husbands”.My profession couldn’t survive with someone not helping you and vice versa. I can only understand the term if those people were genuinely always helping you so that you could get out on time or not drown during your shift. But unfortunately the words are NEVER used that way at my work place. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/20 03:00 AM |
| 6 | Pickmeishas brag about fucking their married “work husbands”.I don’t outwardly or purposefully look for revenge in my life. If I don’t like what you’re doing to me, I don’t fight you, but I don’t help you like I do others. I wait and (okay maybe hope) that God, the universe (whoever you particularly believe in) will handle it. Well, only one person at work has set such a negative tone with me personally, that I’ve had to talk to managers and try extremely hard not to go to HR about her. She doesn’t with work with me often so I haven’t figured out if it’s … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/20 02:55 AM |
| 10 | Pickmeishas brag about fucking their married “work husbands”.For some when it’s “actually” innocent, it’s a person of the opposite sex that you can depend on or maybe talk to about life issues. Ideally you’re helping each other in positive ways. In reality people have used it as the replacement term for, “Person I actually want to f*ck but can’t bc I’m married but bc they’re my work spouse it’s okay anyway.” It’s only thing when you’re 16 and using the term. But freaking 40 and 50 year olds... holy balls and sacks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/20 02:44 AM |
| 11 | Pickmeishas brag about fucking their married “work husbands”.The words always pissed me off way before I ever understood what they meant. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/20 02:41 AM |
| 3 | Pickmeishas brag about fucking their married “work husbands”.Holy hell. One nurse was dating a RT who was already damn married with 3 kids. Somehow she never learned bc apparently a few years back a traveler nurse she was dating ended up screwing around on her. She found out bc innocent nurse was excited about who she was going to hang out with and mentioned it to the “girlfriend” without knowing. Her words directly to me. There are only TWO relationships I respect, who whenever I see I hope I have those kind of husbands mine, If I marry, will emulate. Ot… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/20 02:36 AM |
| 2 | Not sure if I’m a pickmeisha... but pretty sure I need therapy.Update me if you fall back or want to fall back on him. Though I will yell at you bc your post is pretty much exactly one of my previous relationships lol. But it will be because I/we only want to elevate you past looking at him for approval. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/20 01:45 AM |
| 4 | Not sure if I’m a pickmeisha... but pretty sure I need therapy.Things we need to hear but don’t want to. Also a good reminder for me as well. In this sub, all tough love is appreciated bc if anyone is like me, any girl friends I could see face to face wouldn’t even come close to being this real/supportive in supporting ourselves rather than entertain another boy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/20 01:43 AM |
| 4 | Another profile outing a LVM on Tinder. Sisters warning sisters 👯♀️First off, don’t worry, I get downvoted all the time lol. I am 80% FDS and 20% recovering pickmeisha and it shows. Downvotes simply means people don’t agree and/or what you’re saying is not the FDS mentality. The ones who understand FDS fully are more likely to say UH NO EXCUSES when we try to excuse a LVM. I think of it as friends telling me what I don’t want to hear but need to hear... although I don’t know anyone in person. If I let downvoted and disagreements stop me from voicing anything he… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/20 01:36 AM |
| 1 | What’s Your Instant Red Flag/Trigger Word In OLD or Texting?WYA | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/20 01:27 AM |
| 3 | Not sure if I’m a pickmeisha... but pretty sure I need therapy.His standards are low anyway if he needs to give attention to random girls online AND within his life. You were probably the only one who never belonged, which is a grand thing. You don’t want to “measure up” to someone like that. Now reverse that thinking and reserve it only for you. More importantly and the only thought from now on? Who’s going to measure up to you and your standards? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 09:02 PM |
| 4 | Not sure if I’m a pickmeisha... but pretty sure I need therapy.Ah. I know the feeling. You escaped. I had one years ago that hooked up with his best friend after our break up. Before that I had forced myself to trust them tho I knew better. None of these people were ones you should measure up to. Is your end goal or daily goal going to be to end up as another girl in a bikini with ass out everyday with thousands of random guys liking your picture for your body? Or how makeup is done, whichever. Is your goal to be number 101 of the girls in his phone? You do… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 08:40 PM |
| 6 | Was this negging?I used to get hurt over things my ex said. Eventually I got to the why the hail am I listening to you over 20 other ppl who say the opposite or have never said that. Anytime you can single out a piece of the sentence and see that you may feel crappy being told it on its own? Negging. If both or all parts of the statement on its own will lift you up and make you feel good? Not negging. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 08:35 PM |
| 11 | Not sure if I’m a pickmeisha... but pretty sure I need therapy.Did you keep trying to get him to pick you instead of them? Sounds like you concluded that some had better or worse qualities, some equal or whichever. Anytime you’re WANTING and trying to get a guy to pick you... that’s the pickmeisha mentality. Knowing that you’re different is one thing but knowing you’re different and trying to get him back bc you know that? It’s another thing. If you went back to him bc you truly cared of him and thought things could work in the past... that’s one thing. If … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 08:30 PM |
| 0 | Wtf. Why can’t they even attempt to have a conversation? How would you respond, ladies?Some ppl do for entertainment. Like the person above who said something about getting the guy to continually send some dick pic and pretending not to receive it, with the hashtag wastehistime2020. The goal isn’t to start a relationship with ppl like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 08:21 PM |
| 1 | Wtf. Why can’t they even attempt to have a conversation? How would you respond, ladies?You just have to be picky, and a few other things. I met 2 of my best aka respectful, pretty if that’s important to people, hardworking, loyal etc boyfriends through there. Well, I lie, one was a bf and one I dated and should have married but I was dumb at the time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 08:19 PM |
| 5 | Another profile outing a LVM on Tinder. Sisters warning sisters 👯♀️Yeah I dated someone that I thought was perfection and then he brought up that he never met an Asian girl before. From then on I wasn’t sure if he thought I was pretty bc I was girl pretty or bc asian pretty fascination. I didn’t know if he was talking to me bc I was a prize since his friends didn’t know Asian ppl or bc he thought I was a decent person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 08:16 PM |
| 3 | Another profile outing a LVM on Tinder. Sisters warning sisters 👯♀️Have you ever been told, “Wow! I’ve never dated an Asian before!” (Or whichever makes you exotic to people). Or been told something that is clearly related to your nationality drawing them in rather than brains or just how you play soccer? I’ve dated different nationalities as well. The difference between you and me versus the guy that’s in the photo is that we don’t base our fascination with the “Asian” bc they’re Asian. There are no normal checks with guy in photo if one of their first and ONL… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 08:12 PM |
| 0 | Wtf. Why can’t they even attempt to have a conversation? How would you respond, ladies?Depends what you Snapchat about. I don’t post my face or body and what not on there so it doesn’t bother me who’s on it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 08:08 PM |
| 2 | Posted this in another sub- the ones who had actual answers truly were supportive of what this (FDS) sub speaks of without anyone realizing it. For whatever reason the comments were split up so I took a 2nd video with the other comments in it. More thoughts in comments bc I have 20 characters left.Then I retract my statement in saying people were supporting FDS without knowing lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 12:22 PM |
| -1 | Wtf. Why can’t they even attempt to have a conversation? How would you respond, ladies?I wouldn’t be looking for value in someone that I wasn’t looking for a relationship in. I just meant add as in if the person posting was just looking for fun rather than a romantic/serious relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 12:21 PM |
| 4 | Sis if you had sex with him and he paid for dinner, you didn’t get a free dinnerGogo dancers get paid, strippers don’t. Strippers get neked, gogo dancers don’t. EDIT: But in re-reading I think I read wrong in what you were saying- nightclub girls I meant patron, anyone paying to get in etc lol not the ones who work there. That was my bad in the reading wrong. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 12:18 PM |
| 5 | How to stay focused on myself if I have to live with my deadweight partner?Hey I’m in the same place as you. I’m trying to make moving out a this month, last month 2 months ago but financially it’s not happening. Last year the struggle was sex too lmfao. Not gonna lie, it was fire with him and the best I’ve had in my life. But then you get to the point where you realize MMMMkkkk so that’s the only thing he’s got going for him? And you don’t care for it, can go months without it etc etc. I thought the same as you, it’s better when him than Tinder. NO IT IS NOT. You’re g… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 02:50 AM |
| 3 | Red Flag vs Green Flag when telling a man he has upset youSame with “you’re being crazy.” There’s that and there’s there’s a guy at most THINKING it but instead will be apologizing or fixing things instead of making you feel like sh*t for reacting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 02:24 AM |
| 7 | In one sentence, comment your best dating advice...GO!Long paragraphing... if you’re doing it and your man uses it as a way to understand you, fix things, etc.. cool. Otherwise, don’t do it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 02:14 AM |
| 3 | Sexism im sub reddits - stay away from r sex and r datingoverthirtyMy posts and comments get removed in other subs whenever they are aligning with FDS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 02:11 AM |
| 4 | Blocked!!Yup, me too lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 01:59 AM |
| 108 | Another profile outing a LVM on Tinder. Sisters warning sisters 👯♀️As soon as you tell me you’re fascinated I’m Asian or any of the sort. I’m out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 01:54 AM |
| -6 | Wtf. Why can’t they even attempt to have a conversation? How would you respond, ladies?If I just wanted fun and he was cute, add. If I was aiming for something serious, #bye. Or keep messaging to give the rest of us something to read lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 01:53 AM |
| 115 | What’s Your Instant Red Flag/Trigger Word In OLD or Texting?WYD | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 01:51 AM |
| 50 | Sis if you had sex with him and he paid for dinner, you didn’t get a free dinnerI hate these kind of things. I used to work at a strip club but I also loved going to nightclubs. Everyone hates on strippers but I always thought at least they charge people to look at their ass or have sex and the nightclub girls give it out for free. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 01:21 AM |
| 9 | For whatever reason, FWR wants FDS banned despite the plethora of WOC we have in this sub. I find the diversity of races, religions, and cultures here (all supporting each other) to be one of our main strengths. Why can’t women ever have a space for themselves on Reddit?The issue with ANYONE who doesn’t see the positive in this group is bc they don’t take the time to look or understand it past one post. One guy one there even clearly says he didn’t really like FDS but then when he looked more into the posts he realized it was actually a good place to be at. I mean I chose better wording lol but simply put, they just don’t understand. 1 guy will close doors on a feminist and 1 guy will ask what made her become one. 1 man might say did something happen to make yo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 01:17 AM |
| 6 | Promise ringsMy sister has one and I understand his choice on it. He wants to be married now lol. But she is focusing on school first- finishing up her last degree so getting married “now,” is not the right choice for her. His promise ring is to let her know he will wait until she’s ready. He is signifying that he will be patient no matter how her life goes, for this time it’s school. So she is mentally “ready” in regards to how she feels about him, just not in the other ways. While he is ready 1000%. The id… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 12:55 AM |
| 10 | How have you guys gotten over a LVM ex?Opening up this sub every time instead of giving into something that requires giving them the time of day. I also focused on my crafting stuff too which takes up hoards if time between work lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 12:51 AM |
| 13 | Don’t send long paragraphs explaining how you feel to men who don’t careMy first bf (junior high still lol) was the one who wrote me letters. I’m still pissed that I tossed them when I was mad one day haha. He grew up with 2 sisters, an auntie that would take half the school out to the movies (tiny school) and as far as I know he married and have heard he’s always been HVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 12:44 AM |
| 19 | Don’t send long paragraphs explaining how you feel to men who don’t careIf there were 10 commandments, this the first, last, and most that I struggle with. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 12:43 AM |
| 1 | Posted this in another sub- the ones who had actual answers truly were supportive of what this (FDS) sub speaks of without anyone realizing it. For whatever reason the comments were split up so I took a 2nd video with the other comments in it. More thoughts in comments bc I have 20 characters left.You just have to tap your screen | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 12:39 AM |
| 1 | Posted this in another sub- the ones who had actual answers truly were supportive of what this (FDS) sub speaks of without anyone realizing it. For whatever reason the comments were split up so I took a 2nd video with the other comments in it. More thoughts in comments bc I have 20 characters left.Can’t, they removed it lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 12:38 AM |
| 41 | QUEEN SHITI actually had someone block me in the middle of an argument. On text. And then I got a “I’m bored at so and so,” oh and also said hello before that. A few days later I get a can we talk text. I wanted to respond with full attitude, shut him down with my words. But nahhhh, I didn’t say anything. The heart is different when understanding FDS comes around. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 02:42 AM |
| 4 | “I thought he was HVM!”Yep! At the end of the day... do I want a relationship where I’m splitting EVERYTHING down the middle? I thought I used to honestly. But now, nope. You were made a man, I was made a woman. I’m happily reverting to the thinking they had long ago and I wish was still easily enforced now- I want to feel safe as the man providing, mostly in physical security and a future family, and in that a sense that’s hard to explain bc I work too and usually made more than my person... financially. Although I w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 02:39 AM |
| 39 | “I thought he was HVM!”I posted in another group attempting to explain the correlation between guys paying and treatment versus the guys who don’t pay. It took me a bit to understand it myself to begin with. Eventually people (new to here) will understand that it’s not THE act of paying or not paying, it’s what it stands for, just like majority of what you have spoken of. Also, I get onto here when I feel like I’m gonna fall back on a LVM when he messages. It’s my support system and your post helped me win one more da… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 02:35 AM |
| 7 | Abuse and respect are opposites.I’m ready for this read. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 02:32 AM |
| 4 | 2nd video of post (pause to read) that went w/ the last. My favorite is the human who assumed I associate w/ sexist people and mentioned his wife was not a small child and could make her own decisions. (Never did I mention children and never did I mention anyone not being able to make choices).(This explanation also posted under the first video). I posted that because I was curious if anyone would be able to refute what FDS stands behind (the post got removed but before that, no one could lol). PS The post was removed bc it supposedly belongs in dating advice although I was seeking experiences from people in relationships or left successful or unsuccessful ones. Go figure. It’s a video bc you can pause it to read it. Unless it’s completely blurry then let me know haha. Other than the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 02:30 AM |
| 4 | Posted this in another sub- the ones who had actual answers truly were supportive of what this (FDS) sub speaks of without anyone realizing it. For whatever reason the comments were split up so I took a 2nd video with the other comments in it. More thoughts in comments bc I have 20 characters left.Actually, no characters left by the time I put that last period in! I posted that because I was curious if anyone would be able to refute what FDS stands behind (the post got removed but before that, no one could lol). PS The post was removed bc it supposedly belongs in dating advice although I was seeking experiences from people in relationships or left successful or unsuccessful ones. Go figure. It’s a video bc you can pause it to read it. Unless it’s completely blurry then let me know haha. O… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 02:14 AM |
| 22 | It’s quite disrespectful in my opinionThat is beautiful. Never heard it worded that way before. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 02:09 AM |
| 11 | How to forgive yourself?I would say time.. but that’s a given. I think doing better for yourself in the future is the ultimate. You don’t necessarily have to forgive yourself as you didn’t do anything “wrong.” There were just better options and decisions that you didn’t know you could make. I’m 32 (maybe 33 or 34 I lost track lol). And only recently discovered all this last year. Girl if I knew what I know now, I wouldn’t be in the mess I’m in. But you can only grow. My heart feels different, my mindset is different. A… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/20 02:27 PM |
| 4 | I’m someone who dislikes the whole meme era, but I do find some that I giggle at. Also, #guilty.Sigh, and I realize that ppl repost so that they have “something” to post. Then everyone thinks they’re hilarious or so intelligent. I just want to say, “You didn’t even think of that.” But generally that’s why I like the ones I do lol. When it makes me mad that I didn’t think of such clever wording first. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 03:50 PM |
| 1 | I’m someone who dislikes the whole meme era, but I do find some that I giggle at. Also, #guilty.I love them when it makes me think, “WHY DID I NOT THINK OF THAT FIRST!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 03:49 PM |
| 10 | I’m someone who dislikes the whole meme era, but I do find some that I giggle at. Also, #guilty.Instead of people telling their own personal opinions or in their own words, it’s just an influx of “this is so me” “this is so you.” Every once in awhile I think haha I didn’t think of that or yes I have thought like that, it’s fun (for me) but not when sharing it is all someone does and they’re funny because of it. When it wasn’t even their own thought process. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 11:12 AM |
| 22 | I went on my first date in months.Gah, I have such a big issue with being the long paragraph sender. My desire to explain myself “whether he listens or not, but I hope he gets something from it” is just so ugly and I haven’t been able to escape it except for maybe ONCE in my novella writing life. If the person responds the same way, as in if it’s obvious they do read what I have to say.. and it shows in their responses, whether it’s just as long or it specifically responds to different things in my message— Is that when our long… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 07:28 AM |
| 12 | (F36) (M36) My ex-fiancé (8yrs) is on a Valentine’s Day overnight date and used my Hotels.com account to book it. We’ve been broken up for 9 months.You should have changed the reservation to a low budget not so greatly reviewed motel for multiple nights. Keep points, they both get a winning stay. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/20 12:48 PM |
| 2 | This was shared by a coworker.. she has gotten divorced 3 times.I choked on my cheetos when I came across this response lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/20 06:24 AM |
| 9 | Prove yourself for the King, peasant!These are so annoying and my favorite answers are along the lines of “that I’m the only one who won’t give you an answer you’ll like.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/20 07:48 AM |
| 5 | Curious on how you would have done it?I hope your initial response is in those main posts somewhere. It’s hard to keep tabs on which ones I’ve already read through my phone and I just keep clicking the same links lol. But the idea behind the paying stuff makes more sense after your response and a few others. Definitely one of the harder concepts for me to accept and give into! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/19 08:02 AM |
| 2 | Curious on how you would have done it?I think I didn’t fully understand the men paying part/reasons for it until this post and the comments. Yours in particular. That’s my struggle concept out of everything more so bc I’m just used to being on my own/independent more than have to rely on anyone. Also felt that paying for my stuff myself was proving something. But when I was explaining to a friend the reasoning behind the paying aka why is it not golddigging then? Between these comments and that convo I think I’m getting it better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/19 07:59 AM |
| 1 | Curious on how you would have done it?That last sentence kills me, but I’m so tired I can’t laugh out loud haha. I barely even had time to fit in hanging out with him, I wish I had the time to test methods! I had asked the type of girl question in relation to something minuscule. I can’t remember what it was but in one comment I said it was in relation to getting the bartender’s attention. But now I’m semi starting to remember i said it because he THOUGHT I said something along the lines of ending the date, or I said something that … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/19 07:51 AM |
| 7 | Curious on how you would have done it?He only asked once, and it was 1 in the morning by this time after the last 5 games we tried to play wasn’t working. I had already made it clear before that that I wouldn’t be going to anyone’s place to sleep or hook up with, and he had already acknowledged that. So it felt hard to judge whether he was trying to get at sooommmething or if he was really just tired of dealing with the public’s entertainment rather than his in home. I was mentioning in another response that I don’t even know if I k… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/19 07:46 AM |
| 1 | Curious on how you would have done it?My dates usually consist of the hour before I have to go to work so that I have a way out in case it’s terrible. Also, that would end up being the only time I had. Luckily tho they ended up being repeat dates into longer time periods or actual relationships or almost relationships. One guy just met up with me whenever I was able to- and he turned into an almost relationship. I was the one who had stopped “us” from going further... regrettably so at this point hardy har har. This is probably the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/19 07:39 AM |
| 2 | Curious on how you would have done it?“Girl who” respond was in relationship to nothing about going to his house. I can’t remember what it was related to, but it was toward something light hearted like waving down a bartender or something. I wasn’t actually stressed or not-enjoying the time. I would have continued the night except I was already sleepy by 9 (joys of switching back and forth from night shift). I was surprised I was even still up by 12 but was falling asleep in the movie. I only have the thoughts in this post BECAUSE o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/19 07:34 AM |
| 5 | What are some fun things to do alone?I’ll be in Houston this week :) If you want to go to any clubs/bars, I’ll be happy to go! I used to do that by myself all the time when I first moved there. Just say your friends are in the restroom, or can’t find them, etc. All the same excuses I use when they’re ACTUALLY there haha. Other than that, Houston has sooooooo many things to offer. With or without people. Not sure if miller outdoor is still doing their thing now but lots of free shows. All the Christmas events around the city, walkin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/19 06:55 AM |
| 6 | Meeting with an ExThe worst parts will be trying not to argue or defend yourself if he gives you a statement that you normally would argue or defend yourself on. Also my temptation is to jump on any sentence that shuts him down with the mentality you have now lol. Also, unless you want to be friends with him or get back with him in the future... having someone else do the exchange or letting him keep the stuff is probably the better option. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/19 06:47 AM |
| -1 | Curious on how you would have done it?Yeah there’s definitely a difference with the expectation from guys. I actually was surprised he continued to pay for things bc after the dinner I did bring up how I used to be “girls pay for it or split it” and now (I even mentioned by name this sub), so I actually explained I now think the way I do... I vaguely recall him saying that he somewhat expected it to take turns in terms of payment, but I’m not completely sure anymore. Lol I just remember thinking. Well that’s fine if we just take tur… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/19 06:42 AM |
| 9 | Twitter Pickmeisha's and LVMI’m so annoyed because 2 months ago I would have been content with going to someone’s house and just chilling in front of the tv. ON THE FIRST DATE. Now because of this sub I not only turned that down (okay okay, it was after dinner, bar, movie, games), and I did make it quite clear I’m not here for sex.... but now I find it difficult to choose another date with him over being surrounded with my hobby and potentially sleep tonight! Curse you all. With love though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/19 06:19 AM |
| 5 | A nice Latina fetish 🤮Same goes for height, or being “feisty” or sassy. Oky but it still won’t stop me from punching you lol. It’s different if you know everything else about me and you think me being short is “cute.” But cmon... “I like short girls” as the pick up line gets met with, “I like smart guy,” or something ultimately more clever that I probably won’t think of on the spot haha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/19 06:16 AM |
| 2 | When you choose to have standards and walk, why does it feel like you got dumped instead?Then I’d say you get to the “just dumped” feeling because him still choosing someone else will make you question why you weren’t enough for him to drop everyone and just be with you. The ideal situation is that you became the girl that changed him, or at the very least him not being/having anyone else except you. But since that wasn’t the case, it’s a weird way of it leading you to not feel like you were enough in the time aka the dumped feeling. Even if you know you’re everything worth 3 times … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/19 01:17 AM |
| 3 | ‘Tis the season“This is freaking annoying.” Lol happens every couple of months | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/19 02:23 AM |
| 5 | When you choose to have standards and walk, why does it feel like you got dumped instead?Simply because you haven’t gotten to the level of admiration for yourself. I know my worth, I know my value, I know this and that.. but there was a point in my life not too long ago where I knew all the buttons was wondering why I wasn’t enough for so and so. Well, once you get past looking at men’s view of you and not valuing their thoughts of you over your own thoughts of you.... you will quit feeling like you got dumped. It took me 2 weeks of reading the ideas/thoughts on this sub and how muc… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/19 02:12 AM |
| 15 | Had a weird third date..If the guy wanted you to come over and just pizza and tv for your third date, would you be impressed? For me I’d think, “Oh okayyyyyyy.....” either I’m friend level now or I’m a hook up in their eyes. It’s not even a “date” that I would want to go on. Who cares if it’s raining? Reschedule it for when you can go out. I consider home dates reserved for when you already know that’s the person you want to see all the time, not when you’re trying to get to know each other. If you like him, ask him ho… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/19 02:01 AM |
| 14 | Been seeing a man who I’m still feeling out if he lives up to being a HVM. Tonight will be our third date and he wants to stop by his parents house for a party! I’m so nervous!You already know you’re worthy. It’s not you that needs to prove anything. It’s him that needs to prove he is worthy of having his family meet YOU. Don’t forget that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/19 01:41 AM |
| 7 | Been seeing a man who I’m still feeling out if he lives up to being a HVM. Tonight will be our third date and he wants to stop by his parents house for a party! I’m so nervous!If you don’t feel ready to go, don’t go. You said it’s your third date so why is a “stop by” on a family party a part of it? You’re still getting to know HIM. The time set aside was meant for you and him to spend together not you and his family. You don’t need to go meet his family when you’re not even sure he’s the one you want to commit to. Wait for the time where you’re excited to meet them. Nervous, but happy/excited for it. Wait for when you are sure about him. No reason to be pressured int… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/19 01:39 AM |
| 3 | PSA: If you don’t like what we have to say...I'm all for the harshness in the responses. I spent a long time doing things my way, with minimal helpful suggestions from friends. They were kind suggestions, helping me try to understand how to work it out, lovely, zippy, nice, etc. However, when I look back, a lot of my advice TO friends in their relationships were very FDS. A lot of you're too good for hims and why are you wasting your time... But what I look to see where I applied it in my own life, I knew better but hardly ever did better … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/19 09:52 AM |
| 9 | I feel personally attacked by this. Found on r/tinder, 1k upvotesI disagree. I had a boyfriend that I met from Tinder. He never initiated sex (I had talked about how un-focused I was on it, not a priority etc). And I actually really liked the relationship because we talked more than focused on physical things. We ended because of some things I couldn't handle, his anxiety got the best of him and at the time I was so b*tchy to guys to the point of I would never like a woman to treat my brother that way... and in retrospect he was definitely HVM. I did not appr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/19 07:52 AM |
| 8 | Eartha Kitt “Compromise For What??”I broke up with mine for the 200th time. This is one of the probably only times (maybe one other one) where I thought, Yeah no.. not going back. Typically, I still want to be with him. I think I love him, sex is great (haha). That's how I always felt. But a lot of other qualities in him I wouldn't necessarily pick for a husband or my son to have if I could choose. I have never thought of trying to change him, but with this sub I realize that IF we ever got back together, which I know deep down I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/19 07:31 AM |
| 10 | It's About More Than Paying For Dates - Some ExamplesTry living in the house that you pushed him to buy. He was initially renting a house that was equal in rent to what he'd pay with a mortgage. I suggested he buy a house.. he did. I lived with him because I didn't know if I was going to stay in the state forever, or where I/we wanted to permanently live, but his family was in that state. So it made sense for him to purchase the house and eventually give to his family, etc. Tell me why it's HIS house, but there's clothes everywhere as if there's n… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/19 09:12 AM |
| 5 | It's About More Than Paying For Dates - Some ExamplesMy ex "screwed up" by drunkenly (attempting?) to sleep with his ex coworker that he convinced me to be nice to and accept beforehand because they were just friends. He only "tried" to put it in but got a blowjob out of it. He even bought her a plan B the next day JUST IN CASE. Oh, and also went back the next night and stayed over til 2 am to study for school because she was in the profession he was studying for. Well, so am I. The only defense? We were broken up at the time... I guess. lol. I ha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/19 09:03 AM |
| 21 | DON'T SPLIT THE BILL: Millennial men creeping in the 'spoilllll meeee' bsI like this. This "don't split the bill" concept is one of the harder ones for me to accept. I come from the "I can hold my own doors" mentality, although not feminist enough to refrain from holding the door open for anyone else. I come from the concept of paying for my own stuff is independence, and paying for theirs shows I can handle you if I want to, and I can. Thoughts behind it was thinking that it shows I don't need them, that I can provide for myself and them (not that I want to, but I c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/19 08:00 AM |
| 19 | Of course you aren’t stable. Wtf?! I’m not your dear when you have messages with me for 5 minutes.I've never been able to get behind "hun" "sweetie" "babe." I have a hard time saying it, and I'm more on the cringey side when someone says it to me whether I know them or not. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/19 05:57 AM |
| 17 | Women according to LVMIn high school I used to think it was dumb for girls to call each other bitches. Nowadays the word around me means more of, “Independent, take no shit and will call you out when necessary.” Now I don’t mind the word at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/19 05:50 AM |
| 2 | SURPRISE! Not every woman is pining after you, and no, we do not need you to survive or be happy 🙄 wow it’s almost like you stress us out and cause drama to see if we “really care about you”. This is the most insane thing I’ve read this week.Holy. I could have written all of this exactly. I have felt the same down to the very last sentence. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/19 01:02 PM |
| 4 | Had this conversation on tinder this morning. I truly can’t believe some men are like this about self confidence.These messages annoy me. My responses go, “Well yeah, lighting and filters go a long way,” if they actually seem like they’ll carry a convo. Mostly to see how they’ll respond. Ones who can’t respond past WYD and SUP, they get the, “Well you ARE supposed to put your best pictures on here... are you not?” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/19 12:48 PM |
| 8 | How PickMeishas Look to Most Men 🤡Exactly what I’m doing with my journals that I never keep up eithblol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/19 03:18 AM |
| 8 | How PickMeishas Look to Most Men 🤡Bahahahaha why is the one this applies to in my life... the username they used. Oh gosh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/19 03:14 AM |
| -14 | Eww... Dude wtf.Well... sex is like that for some guys. Some girls too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/19 02:55 AM |
| 2 | Men with sisters are more likely to be high value?My brother is the youngest after 3 girls. He is epic in relationships and if he dated any of my friends, I would be happy bc I know how he would treat them. Of course they’d had to treat him well too. But he’s a point for the high value argument. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/19 02:53 AM |
| 14 | Leveling upEverytime there was a breakup message involved, “you’ll find someone who treats you better” “treats you how you deserve.” Okay fucktard then what were you good for the entire time? And no, breakup means I realized the time I wasted with you lol. Yes, power to your comment! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/19 01:41 AM |
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