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| 7 | My attempt at some self-respect | The_1337 | /r/seduction | 29/03/16 11:47 PM |
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| 3 | What about learning 'game' takes the most time?The most important thing, I've found, is authenticity. You really can't fake this shit if you want to do it right. I'm only speaking from personal experience, so take this as the anecdotal evidence that it is. But picking up women became incredibly easy for me once I started caring about shit other than women. Here's an example. Imagine a woman with large, perfectly shaped tits. She's used to getting attention for them. Now, you tell me what's more attractive. A dude who she KNOWS is thinking, a… | /r/seduction | 02/12/16 11:35 PM |
| 1 | Overthinking: It's What's Holding You Back.Thing is, you know what your intentions were. You weren't trying to be a dick. But it's possible you came off that way to your friends. & that's okay. Just explain your perspective to your friends. Explain that you didn't mean to come off a certain way. You could even explain that this is something you've been specifically working on. The answer, again, is simply to be authentic. | /r/seduction | 09/08/16 09:18 AM |
| 1 | Attracting girls, but not the girls I want. Is the whole "there are no leagues" thing bull shit?In other words: Your perspective is like a fingerprint. And just like the unique flaws of a diamond are what make it valuable, so too the "you-ness" of your personality are what make you special and attractive to people that you would connect with. Strive to be the best version of yourself. Then, simply be aware of that person and his unique traits. You don't have to be perfect; you never will be. Just keep this mindset as you strive. Take comfort in knowing that no matter what, you are going to… | /r/seduction | 29/05/16 08:52 PM |
| 1 | Tinder. Coming on too strong?Lmao I agree with your overall sentiment but when I read the vegan bit it threw me off because I actually met my current girlfriend on Tinder. She's lovely, and happens to be vegan. But yeah I'd like to second what this guy said. You message first because that's just the way it goes, but realize that you BOTH swiped right. It's a much more level playing field than usual because she's admitted (via right-swipe) that there is potential for something there. All you have to do is prove her right. So… | /r/seduction | 29/05/16 08:33 PM |
| 1 | What Men fail to understand, Men solve, Women affirmHonestly dude, I don't subscribe to those stereotypes. Just date women that are capable of handling their problems. They're out there, I promise. | /r/seduction | 06/05/16 08:07 PM |
| 1 | Do you think any woman is replaceable?Every woman is a unique individual. So it would follow that if you lose one special someone, you could replace them with someone who's just as special in a different way. | /r/seduction | 05/05/16 06:51 PM |
| 2 | You'll be happier if you accept the harsh truths about womenYou should read a bit closer because that's not what he said. | /r/seduction | 05/05/16 06:47 PM |
| 2 | So its finally happening to me. I started talking to the girl I like, but I dont know how to take it do a date or whateverStop overthinking. There's no plan. Interact with her like a person. Listen to what she says and respond. | /r/seduction | 04/05/16 11:47 PM |
| 1 | I finally had the eureka moment I've needed for a long time. I know what I need to do, I just don't know where to start. Someone point me in the right direction? (inner game)I think that we fall into a trap of wanting to go all in, one way or another, when stuff doesn't work out. Either she was the love of my life or she's a stupid bitch who wasted my time. But the truth is always somewhere in the middle. I read somewhere on one of the top posts of this subreddit a while back to ask yourself one question. What if it was a gift? The experiences we have are just that. Experiences. We don't need to mourn the loss of it or be bitter because an experience is inherently t… | /r/seduction | 04/05/16 08:42 PM |
| 1 | How to get over a break-upThanks so much for the quality post. I'd like to encourage you to make more. Not necessarily the same topic. The subreddit would benefit from it. | /r/seduction | 04/05/16 05:11 PM |
| 2 | Disagreeing with womanThe situation is fine. Go ahead and share your opinion. Don't turn it into an argument. If she turns it into an argument, date better people. You're there to have a good time and see if you click with her. Not to put on some mating display to try to impress her. | /r/seduction | 04/05/16 05:03 PM |
| 9 | My outer game is steadily improving, but my inner game is tanking. What's going on?What if she's a huge racist who does coke in the morning and heroin in the afternoon? My point is, she hasn't proven much value to you yet. You know who you are; you know what you like about yourself and what you have to offer. You don't know jack shit about her. Approaching isn't saying "I like you". It's saying "I feel like I could like you and I thought it was worth a shot to find out." I don't give a fuck how shapely that ass is, if she can't hold a conversation I've got better things to do. | /r/seduction | 04/05/16 04:56 PM |
| 1 | 1+ of this sub, helped me alot but still got some issues, maybe you guys can relate help?I used to have terrible jealousy issues. Until one day, after I'd gone through a pretty rough breakup, my recent ex told me about how she got bent over and fucked while the dude choked her and how she just loved it. Kind of forced me to evolve my way of thinking. So what if a dude is hot. There's someone hotter than her, too. Focus upon what you have to offer and take pride in it. Realize she'll always have flaws, just like you do, and just like dudes both more and less attractive than you do. J… | /r/seduction | 04/05/16 04:47 PM |
| 1 | I finally had the eureka moment I've needed for a long time. I know what I need to do, I just don't know where to start. Someone point me in the right direction? (inner game)Just wanted to add on that I agree with this guy. Just chill. One girl has no influence on how the countless others on the planet could feel about you. You can have the most incredible, meaningful, and unique connection with one girl, and that will always have existed. Our memories and experiences will always be precious. But you could have something just as incredible, meaningful, and unique with someone else. And someone else. And someone else. When you think about it, it's actually heartbreak… | /r/seduction | 04/05/16 04:36 PM |
| 2 | Blindly encouraging othersYou could've gone even further with your complaints/advice and I wouldn't have been mad at it. Seduction is empathy tempered with social awareness. Nothing more, nothing less. Thanks for making an effort to clean the community up. | /r/seduction | 04/05/16 04:23 PM |
| 3 | Will women ever care how men think?Men and women aren't that different. The way I see it, it all comes down to listening to someone with some empathy. You wouldn't like it if you were trying to get something off your chest and your girlfriend kept interrupting you. Women tend to be more open about how they feel. And sometimes, talking about how you feel can make you feel better. Their feelings get entangled with their problems, just like ours do sometimes, and so they talk to you about their problems in hopes that they'll feel be… | /r/seduction | 04/05/16 04:14 PM |
| 3 | What Men fail to understand, Men solve, Women affirmIt's a good sentiment that's worded a bit awkwardly to sound like something it's not. I think. The way I see it, it all comes down to listening to someone with some empathy. You wouldn't like it if you were trying to get something off your chest and your girlfriend kept interrupting you. Women tend to be more open about how they feel. And sometimes, talking about how you feel can make you feel better. Their feelings get entangled with their problems, just like ours do sometimes, and so they talk… | /r/seduction | 04/05/16 03:58 PM |
| 1 | From hopeless to happy: my journey of 6 years (long)Thanks for sharing that. Being a man content with himself is so helpful. | /r/seduction | 22/04/16 04:58 PM |
| 1 | Is there an subreddit that talks about actual seduction?Good luck finding what you're looking for. | /r/seduction | 21/04/16 07:38 PM |
| 1 | Is there an subreddit that talks about actual seduction?The focus of this subreddit has not shifted. It has evolved. | /r/seduction | 21/04/16 06:26 PM |
| 1 | Why are you into seduction?I elaborated in my reply to u/CrushHazard if that explains my perspective a bit more clearly! | /r/seduction | 17/04/16 01:51 PM |
| 1 | Why are you into seduction?I agree with your overall sentiment. I think having multiple girls in your life is actually a way to minimize emotional investment. Along with doing things that make me happy, keeping a few girls in my life helps me stay in the right mindset and keep any single woman's importance at a reasonable level. Even if emotional INVESTMENT is lower on my part, I can still provide a hell of a date because I'm emotionally tuned in and receptive. The only differences are that I have an easier time keeping m… | /r/seduction | 17/04/16 01:30 PM |
| 2 | Why are you into seduction?I'm like you in that regard. I take things personally, and invest too much too quickly. I just see a ton of potential off the bat, and it's difficult to temper that. Doing the right thing by not spilling my emotions at the drop of a hat is a tiring practice. I live with the fear of regret that possible inaction on my part could have prevented a relationship where the possibilities were endless. We all have our things to overcome! | /r/seduction | 17/04/16 04:11 AM |
| 2 | What happened to PUA scene and this sub-reddit?Expand upon some of the things you previously learned and maybe people will pick up the torch. Jesus had disciples for a reason. | /r/seduction | 16/04/16 09:59 PM |
| 2 | Why are you into seduction?I'm more empathetic than most of my peers and I feel it's definitely got its benefits and downsides. I'm still trying to get out of my own way. Thanks for sharing. It's nice to know someone successfully worked through a similar struggle. | /r/seduction | 16/04/16 08:43 PM |
| 3 | How does one actually enjoy the process of picking up a girl?He's right. Any woman worth your time will see through bullshit. There needs to be authenticity. If all you want is a slam piece, find a woman who wants the same thing. It's r/seduction, not r/TrickBitchesGetAss. | /r/seduction | 13/04/16 06:52 PM |
| 3 | Tell me your experience wooing a straight guy as a gay manLmao. C'mon man. If it's not their thing, it's not their thing. | /r/seduction | 13/04/16 03:41 PM |
| 1 | Hey Seddit, True or false - Your parents influence a lot of your success with womenNah dude I was thinking the same thing: I totally benefitted from seeing an excellent example of what I would be like if I didn't make efforts in the opposite direction. And yeah, it's quite possible that that's something he didn't have. Still, my empathy remains devoid of sympathy. He's done it long enough to learn from his own mistakes and he never has. I've learned to control what I can control, and leave the rest to the birds. There's nothing I can do about it anyway. Life is happier that wa… | /r/seduction | 08/04/16 07:16 PM |
| 1 | Hey Seddit, True or false - Your parents influence a lot of your success with womenThe things he's been known to do repulse me. However, in the course of living life, I've been tempted to do those exact same things. I know what it's like to have a girlfriend that just won't stop talking about the same pointless shit. How that irritation just boils over after some time and I just want to scream at her to shut the fuck up. Unlike him, I man up. I breathe. I remind myself that it's just a difference of perspective. And I talk to her about it like a person. There have been countle… | /r/seduction | 08/04/16 06:16 PM |
| 1 | Hey Seddit, True or false - Your parents influence a lot of your success with womenThanks for the response. When I'm around him, I understand where he's coming from. I recognize his thought patterns and emotions because I experience them myself when in similar situations. The difference is how we choose to respond. I inherited his rage. I know what it feels like to be consumed by the emotion. I don't hate my father because he's some unfathomable evil. I hate him because I empathize with him. While I hate my father, I don't expend energy on it. It's simply a fact rather than so… | /r/seduction | 08/04/16 05:16 PM |
| 1 | Hey Seddit, True or false - Your parents influence a lot of your success with womenMy "father" is an alcoholic and back when I was a kid, he'd physically harm my mother in a variety of ways. He would often put my mother down verbally, as well; "bitch" was what he would call her most of the time. Even when everything was chill and no one was fighting. He's a monetarily successful man, unlike your father. He makes upwards of $200,000 a year. I know that I'm biased, but I truly believe that this is his only good quality. He's a shit-stain of a person. He has no social skills, is … | /r/seduction | 08/04/16 02:38 PM |
| 1 | Can someone clarify what "love yourself" means to me?I think this means different things to different people because there are a variety of symptoms that may come up when you aren't happy with who you are as a person. My symptom was need. "I need to text her all the time because I'm smart and funny and caring and I need to show her that. Why hasn't she replied? It was going so well. Why does she always do this? Whatever. Attention whore. Go back to fucking someone else then." And she would, I'm sure. Thing is, I didn't have much invested into my o… | /r/seduction | 07/04/16 08:20 PM |
| 7 | To anyone who messed things up with a girl they're interested in - take charge of your lifeWhenever you feel like you look good enough, you look good enough. Generally speaking. | /r/seduction | 07/04/16 04:17 AM |
| 189 | To anyone who messed things up with a girl they're interested in - take charge of your lifeIt sounds incredibly trite to say. But you really do need to value and love yourself before anything else. Can't build a house without a foundation. Quotes for days in this one. Quality post, my dude. | /r/seduction | 06/04/16 03:41 PM |
| 2 | My attempt at some self-respectSame to you, homie. | /r/seduction | 03/04/16 05:19 PM |
| 3 | My attempt at some self-respectYes! So it's been one week today, actually, since I'd sent her the last text. Four days had gone by without communicating. It gave me time to think about the whole situation. And I just felt embarrassed. I'm so much more than this one girl. It's pathetic that the love has been so one-sided. I still love her to death, but somehow her lack of response coupled with memories of all the shit that we've been through was just a huge turn-off. And there are so many other people out there who would treat… | /r/seduction | 03/04/16 02:19 PM |
| 1 | My attempt at some self-respectI appreciate your kind words. It's really just an outlook. No matter how much I love her, I can't let someone else dictate my happiness. Life can be lovely, and I'm not missing out on it for her. | /r/seduction | 30/03/16 07:13 PM |
| 1 | My attempt at some self-respectI think it's very important to make a habit of setting and following your own course. Your frame is your frame; it doesn't matter what she knows or thinks. The number one priority must be your own happiness. It doesn't matter if she knows you're happy because she no longer validates you. | /r/seduction | 30/03/16 07:07 PM |
| 1 | My attempt at some self-respectNah man, I welcome the criticism. I agree. I need to work on being more concise. | /r/seduction | 30/03/16 03:21 PM |
| 1 | My attempt at some self-respectI wasn't trying to follow any specific rules, other than simply being honest and not dragging the whole ordeal out. What could I have done better? | /r/seduction | 30/03/16 02:21 PM |
| 1 | My attempt at some self-respectYeah, I was honest with her when I said that I'm working toward happiness. I paraphrased my post. But it was made obvious that happiness is what I'm after, preferably with but very possibly without her. All that's left is for her to step up to the plate or back off and go back to living her own life. From her lack of response, looking like it'll be the latter! | /r/seduction | 30/03/16 01:59 PM |
| 2 | My attempt at some self-respectAgreed! I've been trying. I've kept busy with school, I've started exercising, and I've gotten really into basketball. I've been with some quality women and I have a great small core of friends for support. Despite this, for some reason, I can't stop loving her. As stupid as it sounds. I've accepted for the time being that that's just how it is. I don't look at her social media, I delete our texts so I can't reread them, etc. And as demonstrated in this post, I've tried to stop giving her the ti… | /r/seduction | 30/03/16 01:52 PM |
| 1 | My attempt at some self-respectIn the interest of not making this post more of a novel than it already is, I paraphrased quite a bit. I deleted the texts so I can't exactly quote the last one I sent. But it went something like: "You don't have me in the first place. Take a chance with me, or I'll be strong enough to do what's best for both of us and let this whole thing go. Let's do this the right way. One way or another. No more unhappiness." I think that I said the same thing you did. Probably should have been more to the p… | /r/seduction | 30/03/16 01:39 PM |
| 3 | My attempt at some self-respectThat's the one thing I remind myself of: That I MUST be able to hit that nuclear "walk away" button when appropriate. And to mean it wholeheartedly when I do. | /r/seduction | 30/03/16 12:00 AM |
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