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DebateThe_FatGuy_Strangler/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/23 06:23 PM
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DiscussionThe_FatGuy_Strangler/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 06:07 PM
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DiscussionThe_FatGuy_Strangler/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 06:21 PM
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CMVThe_FatGuy_Strangler/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 08:03 PM
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Blackpill DiscussionThe_FatGuy_Strangler/r/AllPillDebate10/04/23 12:30 AM
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The_FatGuy_Strangler/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 08:07 PM
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Question For MenThe_FatGuy_Strangler/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 03:36 AM
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DebateThe_FatGuy_Strangler/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 11:13 PM
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CMVThe_FatGuy_Strangler/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 05:32 PM
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As 5’5-5’6 bald guy you’re spot on
/r/seduction05/03/24 01:06 AM
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We really don’t know if he was being sincere, but he was likely letting her down easy, and her not drinking was an easy out.
/r/AllPillDebate18/09/23 03:36 PM
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I probably fall in this… I’m short (5’6”) and bald, but physically fit and good looking (at least that’s what I’ve been told throughout my life). I’ve had several serious relationships and have slept with around 30 women. I’ve had dry spells and other times I would be talking to a few women at once
/r/AllPillDebate17/09/23 08:26 PM
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Those 18-29 yr old women are dating older men, who aren’t in the 18-29 yr old range that are in the study.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 03:31 PM
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If height is a genetic failure - thus being acceptable to laugh at, why is it socially unacceptable (normally) to laugh at someone with a physical disability?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 03:03 PM
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It’s a fair comparison in a social context, because men are traditionally judged harshly for their height in the same way women have traditionally been judged for their weight.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 02:48 PM
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On the other hand, you can laugh at short people, PRECISELY because they can't control it, and it's not their choice. You can’t control skin color or ethnicity, yet it’s (normally) socially unacceptable to laugh at someone’s skin color or ethnicity. The same thing with a physical disability. But why is height an exception?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 02:44 PM
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It’s your reality. Not everyone’s
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 03:17 PM
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The flaw in your thinking is believing a rich man that can provide = being a good partner. Look at Donald Trump and his past wives and current one, you think they are happy? A lot (not all) of rich men are also garbage human beings.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 03:15 PM
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Sure and boys could have eaten their broccoli to reach their full height. This is not at all accurate. Unless a boy is raised in a 3rd world country where he is literally missing several meals a day, a boy’s height is almost 99% entirely genetic - and even still the difference is extremely negligible.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 02:29 PM
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I guess there would be some kind of economy that requires a minimum of braincells to maintain, but if everybody is equally dumb no one really cares. So we’d be sacrificing intelligence for physical prowess… what could possibly go wrong? /s
/r/AllPillDebate02/08/23 08:15 PM
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That could easily lead to our own extinction. Classic evolutionary example is the Irish Elk - females would select for males with the largest antlers (a sign of beauty/strength/fertility?), except the male antlers eventually became so large it became a detriment to their survival.
/r/AllPillDebate02/08/23 07:59 PM
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What makes you think these strong (or beautiful) people will value intelligence or education when they’ll likely only rely on their physical abilities to get by socially? We see this all the time now in the real world.
/r/AllPillDebate02/08/23 07:36 PM
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The only issue is, that OP’s proposal (only allowing the physically desirable to reproduce) would create a scenario similar to the movie Idiocracy - where intelligence was not valued, but physical prowess was. If OP’s idea came to fruition, it would not advance the human race in a positive direction, since most of the innovators, inventors, and geniuses in human history were not strong brutish “tough guys”. We would actually regress back intellectually, culturally and socially .
/r/AllPillDebate02/08/23 06:59 PM
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Your point is equally valid in the reverse direction as well… if only the top 10% of women could procreate, but with any man, their offspring would have 50% of the genes from these mothers… so the offspring from average men and superior females would have the same result as the scenario you gave.
/r/AllPillDebate02/08/23 06:33 PM
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Even if only the top 10% of men were reproducing, they’re still procreating with the genetically unfit women (the counterpart to the undesirable men you talk about), so should we stop any woman with an ugly face, small boobs, flat ass, and no curves from reproducing? And what about intellectual geniuses that contributed to the advancement of the human race that were not physically gifted? (Einstein, Newton, DaVinci, etc.). Should they not have been born or allowed to reproduce? Allowing only tal…
/r/AllPillDebate02/08/23 06:09 PM
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An average body build with a medically healthy weight. Maybe a somewhat athletic body
/r/AllPillDebate24/06/23 12:44 PM
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When I say average - mean average body build or facially average (not ugly but not very pretty either)
/r/AllPillDebate23/06/23 10:05 PM
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Average - meaning average body build or facially average (not ugly at all, but not particularly pretty either)
/r/AllPillDebate23/06/23 10:04 PM
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Average doesn’t mean fat… plus “fat” can mean a lot of things… thick in all the right places (ass/tits) with curves, or a huge gut
/r/AllPillDebate23/06/23 09:09 PM
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I’m not really into skinny white women though. I like the features of darker/brown women… fuller lips, actual curves (hour glass body), nice booty - something most white women lack
/r/AllPillDebate23/06/23 09:07 PM
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I live in Houston, TX… so a large metro area. I’ve dated and have had sex with almost entirely Latina or black women (some Indian as well) despite me being white, but there’s been a few white women too. I’ve had PIV sex with about 30 women in my life (even more if you include fooling around and oral), despite being in 3-4 relationships (9.5 years, 10 months, 2 years, and 4 months - if that counts). I’m physically fit and have been told I’m handsome/good looking most of my life, which im sure hel…
/r/AllPillDebate23/06/23 08:08 PM
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None were ugly, most were either average or cute. Some were definitely hot
/r/AllPillDebate23/06/23 07:53 PM
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Nope, they’ve all been average, cute, to downright sexy AF
/r/AllPillDebate23/06/23 07:52 PM
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Even the last couple years, they’ve ranged from 23 to 50
/r/AllPillDebate23/06/23 07:51 PM
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I’m around 5’5-5’6 and bald, I’m 38, plus I don’t have a career worth bragging about (work in a warehouse doing shipping/receiving). I don’t have a difficult time getting dates or sex… sure, I’ll have dry spells or be rejected sometimes, but my height and socioeconomic status have not been crippling me. And the women I’m pulling are generally decent or cute.
/r/AllPillDebate23/06/23 06:25 PM
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Thin lips - I need something to kiss. I don’t care that much about weight as long as she isn’t anorexic or obese, but she needs to have an hourglass shaped body, even if it’s a little extra weight in “all the right places - so curvy. A big fupa is another deal breaker
/r/AllPillDebate20/06/23 06:22 PM
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If you have to overthink these things that much, she isn’t worth it. Why date someone you have to walk on eggshells with and constantly have to worry about how you word every sentence?
/r/seduction20/06/23 10:03 AM
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Husbands legacy? The child has half it’s dna from the mother
/r/AllPillDebate15/06/23 10:09 PM
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So basically, dating is boiled down to men ultimately paying for sex, but with more steps
/r/AllPillDebate15/06/23 08:22 PM
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But most women expect a man to pay for them on a first date, otherwise a guy is most likely not getting a second date.
/r/AllPillDebate15/06/23 08:19 PM
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Just like how men don’t owe women a free meal for a first date.
/r/AllPillDebate15/06/23 06:31 PM
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Men have a wide range of preferences Men can marry a CEO woman or a McDonald worker, as long as she is attractive enough for him Conclusion: Men have a variety of preferences as long as she’s attractive. It’s like when some people say freedom of religion means you’re free to be any variation of Christianity you want
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 06:18 PM
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To play devils advocate, if men and women are equally lazy (hypothetically), and your workplace is 60% women as you claim, then just by sheer numbers there will be a higher number of lazy women simply because they outnumber men as a whole.
/r/AllPillDebate03/06/23 06:43 PM
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So why would she settle, and why would she settle for a long period of that time when the fort is being assaulted from all sides by other options? Because, and hear me out… she might actually CARE about you? That’s the whole reason for even engaging in a romantic relationship - to have someone who loves and cares about you intimately. Human relationships are not the same as the relationship you have with an inanimate object that you replace. People form emotional bonds.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 06:26 PM
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My comment didn’t say all of them do it.
/r/AllPillDebate29/05/23 10:20 PM
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I could be wrong, but don’t lesbians have the highest rate of domestic violence?
/r/AllPillDebate29/05/23 08:38 PM
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So why do you prefer shorter men? As a shorter/smaller guy myself (5’6” / 167-168 cm, and 145 lbs), I always question a woman’s motive if she says she prefers short guys. Is it that they’re perceived as less threatening? (thus easier to manipulate or control). I don’t picture any woman preferring to have sex with a man who’s the size of her 14 year old son.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 02:09 PM
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most women have zero desire to compete or box above their weight class. Men are already prone to roaming eyes, so an ordinary woman isn't going for a conventionally attractive Chad who she worries will lose interest or continually attempt to upgrade. This is spot on. But I would argue ordinary men aren’t going for models either because they’ll just assume they’ll be rejected or she’ll just upgrade given the opportunity. I don’t know why these discussions always revolve around the top 1% of socie…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 01:43 PM
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Idk, I’ve seen cute/average looking women with guys that didn’t look masculine at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 01:32 PM
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Even if the father doesn’t have full custody, unless he’s a deadbeat dad he’ll still have kids to make time for and provide for. So his time/freedom will still be limited to an extent - although not nearly as bad as a woman with primary custody. But mathematically speaking, there would have to be as many fathers as there are mothers out there since it takes 2 to create a child (obviously).
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 05:23 PM
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For your 2nd point and not wanting to be a step dad… this equally applies to single women not wanting to be a step mom. All the single women in their 30s with kids had these kids with a man, so there’s just as many single men with kids as there are single women with kids - it’s a 2 way street. It’s an issue for BOTH sexes in their 30s who are childless - you have fewer options if you want a partner with no kids
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 05:01 PM
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The average guy doesn’t even wash his hands after using the bathroom half the time. You’d be surprised how often I see this.
/r/AllPillDebate21/05/23 03:49 PM
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Not sure why you were downvoted, from my experience this is very true. Unattractive women don’t have men throwing themselves at them.
/r/AllPillDebate21/05/23 02:43 PM
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Above average women pick men for sure. Average and below? It’s largely a case by case basis.
/r/AllPillDebate21/05/23 02:40 PM
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But this post is about black or ethnic women complaining about how nobody wants them… so how can they have an inflated ego while complaining nobody wants them?
/r/AllPillDebate14/05/23 04:01 PM
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I’m an American white guy who prefers non-white women, in fact I have never been in a serious relationship with a white woman. I’ve dated mainly Latina and black, I’m physically attracted to their features more… fuller lips, eye shape is prettier, better figures (although there’s many exceptions, white women tend to have flatter butts and less curves from what I’ve noticed, and tend to have more angular/chiseled faces making them look more masculine than other races/ethnicities of women)
/r/AllPillDebate14/05/23 02:57 PM
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Because your average person is not very intelligent and doesn’t think critically
/r/AllPillDebate10/05/23 08:06 PM
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If you have to entertain someone, they aren’t that into you. Go into a date with the expectation to have fun and get to know someone, not to entertain them. This takes the pressure off, and if you don’t get a second date that means they weren’t into you. On top of that, never do dinner dates for a first time meet up, there should be equal investment from both parties and a first date is meant to be a meet and greet to determine compatibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/23 05:29 PM
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Why pay taxes and contribute to a society that does not include you? I mean, regardless of what you look like, you still have use roads, police/fire protection, schools, parks and every other service paid for by our tax dollars.
/r/AllPillDebate05/05/23 10:02 AM
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That’s really as simple as it is… but a lot of people are deflecting
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/23 09:31 PM
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So what is your explanation for why men put up with it?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/23 08:54 PM
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Basic manners should be expected from both sexes. But the fact that someone is expected to do something because they’re a certain gender (whether it’s clean, cook, pay for something, etc.) is sexist. Most people (including myself) accept that assigning a woman to cooking/cleaning because she’s a woman is sexist. But when men are expected to do anything because he’s a man (pay for everything, initiate everything, etc.) society overlooks it. Women are now free from the burdens of traditional gende…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/23 08:51 PM
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That’s the real answer
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/23 06:59 PM
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That’s not my experience. I know there’s definitely some women who are fine with that, but the majority of women I’ve come across want their own job/career/independence because it’s too risky to be financially dependent on a man (due to the possibility of cheating, abuse, etc.)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/23 06:27 PM
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cleaning and childcare is women’s work is misogynistic If someone thinking that a certain task belongs to one gender is misandry/misogyny, then is it misandry to believe all men should pay for a first date? Should open doors for women? That all men should do XYZ for women? Is expecting chivalry sexist? If expecting a woman to cook/clean because she’s a woman is misogyny, then wouldn’t expecting chivalry from a man “because he’s the man” be misandry?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/23 06:12 PM
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Poor analogy
/r/AllPillDebate21/04/23 09:30 AM
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There wouldn’t be “world peace” and rainbows everywhere. I would be willing to bet the world would be pretty similar to how it is now, except there would be role reversals in all the statistics. If women were in power, there would likely be more men’s shelters and society would be more sympathetic to men’s problems.
/r/AllPillDebate14/04/23 05:38 PM
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There would be both pros and cons for women… The cons? Women would lose their sexual leverage over men - They would have to pay for first dates or split the bill more often, they’d be held accountable for poor behavior since they couldn’t get a pass because of their sex appeal. The pros? Less (or no) sexual harassment and cat calling, they wouldn’t fear telling a strange man no.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 12:54 AM
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What is roping?
/r/AllPillDebate11/04/23 11:27 PM
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I’m between 5’5 and 5’6, but I’m 7”. How do you explain that?
/r/BlackPillScience10/04/23 01:28 AM
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This woman is hilarious
/r/AllPillDebate08/04/23 12:41 AM
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Nothing is ever guaranteed, plus there’s so many other factors that can play into your success (or lack of success)…. The vibe you give off to people, social awareness, sense of humor, intelligence, charm, morality, etc, etc… there’s not enough information provided to determine anything
/r/AllPillDebate07/04/23 11:55 PM
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You can avoid the issue of who pays on a first date by simply doing an activity that is free (or very inexpensive - like coffee). If there’s no chemistry, then it wasn’t a financial loss for anyone.
/r/AllPillDebate07/04/23 02:36 PM
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The likely answers… they are less physically intimidated by them. Plus short men are the bottom of the social hierarchy among males. So if a short guy thinks he has a chance with someone and has the audacity to approach a woman, it reinforces the idea that she’s mediocre.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 10:05 AM
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And there is rampant misandry everywhere in the media and pop culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 01:13 AM
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Who usually does more physical blue collar labor? Men. I don’t see women doing the heavy lifting
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 01:05 AM
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That was not my experience when I visited LA, it was the opposite.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 02:56 PM
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Are you kidding me? Ugly women (ugly people in general) are everywhere. Where do you live that all the women are average or above?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 09:58 AM
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Just don’t become emotionally attached to women. A woman can dump a man, and 10 minutes later go to the nearest bar and find a guy to hook up with if she really wanted to - so men are easily replaceable. As the Beyoncé song goes: 🎵”I can have another you in a minute” 🎶.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 08:16 PM
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If I’m being rejected by everyone for petty reasons, I’d rather just stay single than deal with those people
/r/AllPillDebate23/03/23 05:24 PM
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I never said they weren’t ridiculous requirements (because they are), only that they’re all different. If I was rejected for one of these reasons I would consider myself blessed.
/r/AllPillDebate22/03/23 03:05 PM
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Wouldn’t this amount of variety just mean that every woman’s standard is different, so you can’t generalize women too much?
/r/AllPillDebate22/03/23 02:25 PM
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I live in a large metro area (Houston), and I’ve gone on dates (and dated) a variety of women - some were pretty (my current girlfriend is), some were cute, some were more average. All of them had a variety of jobs and careers
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 05:22 PM
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They’ve ranged from pretty, to cute, to average… none of them were ugly. I’m 38 years old and have had 3 long term relationships (9.5 years, 10 months, and 2 years). I’ve lost track of the amount of women I have slept with (actual penetrative sex), but it’s probably between 25 and 30. If you include “fooling around” (oral , etc.) that number is higher.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 04:21 PM
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I work in a warehouse in shipping/receiving… not a prestigious job people brag about. But I’m decent looking and physically fit. I’m not “flooded” with pussy… I have my struggles and dry spells too. But I don’t have overwhelming problems getting dates and meeting women.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 02:16 PM
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Yes that’s me. The picture is one of those animated versions of me from a photo editing app, but everyone tells me it looks just like me anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 02:15 PM
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I’m short (5’5 - 5’6) and bald and I don’t have a prestigious career worth bragging about. Although I’m sure I’ve been rejected for my height, I’ve never had overwhelming problems getting dates or sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 10:03 AM
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With a wife, you’re building a family together. With a girlfriend, you have to do stuff you don’t care to do. You waste time when there may not be a future together. You lose your competitive drive to achieve. You get fat and content. You have to deal with her drama which is more than your own. You have to be very careful not to set off one of her insecurities. Oh, and you can’t date hotter girls if they make themselves available to you. Even if your girlfriend is getting boring or annoying. Wha…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 05:27 PM
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In nursing homes, you’re still in a temperature controlled environment and it isn’t repetitive back breaking labor in the heat or freezing rain outside, where there’s a high risk for injury
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 02:59 PM
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I agree with your point about careers and jobs… society is trying to encourage female participation in prestigious careers dominated by men, but not the dirty jobs men also dominate. How many women are encouraged to be welders, steel workers, coal miners, roofers, warehouse workers, heavy machine operators, diesel mechanics, assemblymen, etc. almost none. Women in most companies mostly occupy the cushy jobs (like office assistant, receptionist, project management, purchaser, accounting, HR, etc)…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 01:26 AM
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I’m sure you’re aware that Christians don’t always follow every exact teaching in Bible. Yes, there are extreme examples, but as for my upbringing - we were conservative but not the extreme type.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 04:38 PM
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I don’t want to make it sound like it was 100% equal, because it probably wasn’t. But it was not an oppressive environment from what I recall. Like women going to college and becoming a doctor wouldn’t be a second thought or turn heads
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 05:11 AM
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I’m no longer religious, or conservative. But growing up with that we never had that weird shit
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 04:28 AM
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I’m not a conservative, but I grew up in a conservative family and went to a church where most were conservatives. Nobody demanded women stay at home. Sure, some women were stay at home mothers by choice (like one of my sisters), but nobody demanded they stay at home.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 04:04 AM
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I have never met a man that makes a big deal of it, who are pissed that women can earn their own money. The overwhelming majority of men in the west (or the U.S.) do not demand a woman be dependent on their man.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 03:43 AM
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A lot of women aren’t held accountable for bad social behaviors because guys are trying to have sex with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 11:01 AM
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Wouldn’t that show that average men don’t have problems procreating with average women?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 05:23 PM
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On the bright side, the overpopulation problem will solve itself and we won’t be destroying this planet by reproducing.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 11:57 AM
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Honestly, because most men are not fit, and are overweight. I’m short and bald, but have a handsome face and I’m physically fit. Sure, I’ve gotten rejected and have had my share of dating headaches, but overall I never struggled much with getting dates when I was single. Most guys would do better if they were physically fit, wore clothes that flattered them, and had a decent haircut. If you’re on dating apps, get some decent pictures of yourself too. A lot of guys just don’t give a shit about th…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 01:28 AM
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Even if you have a son, there’s no guarantee he’ll turn out to be like a “chad”. And if he doesn’t, will you love him less? You shouldn’t be having kids with this mentality.
/r/AllPillDebate01/02/23 07:04 PM
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Being confident as a man is not a patriarchal gender role, it's an essential trait of attractiveness for women. Confidence in a woman is NOT an essential trait of attractiveness for men. This is all it boils down to. Men and women are attracted to different traits. Women are almost universally attracted to confidence (not arrogance). To men, a confident woman might be a plus, but for most it’s not an absolute necessity.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 11:13 AM
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Keep in mind that women in those groups don’t represent the majority of women. Most women are just normal people who don’t have extreme opinions. Imagine if someone decided to hate all white people because of white supremacist groups (I am sure some do, but they aren’t rational either), you are doing the equivalent of that. Don’t write off half the population because a small fringe group of people have opinions you don’t agree with.
/r/AllPillDebate24/01/23 12:54 AM
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So many people here seem to obsess, bitch, and whine about the top percentage of attractive people having options… it’s like no shit of course they do, life isn’t fair, but make the best with what you have and stop wasting time focusing on things out of your control.
/r/AllPillDebate23/01/23 12:00 AM
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So your post is basically pointing out something very obvious to everyone, that good looking people have more options
/r/AllPillDebate22/01/23 11:56 PM
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Just go out in public to your local grocery store or retailer, the VAST majority of couples you will see are just plain average people in most ways. They are nowhere near being Jason Momoa’s or swimsuit/IG models. People need to get off social media and quit focusing on the tiny percentage of highly attractive people, and live in the real world. If you’re an average looking person (and most people are), as long as you aren’t socially inept, rude, arrogant, or creepy, and are a nice decent person…
/r/AllPillDebate22/01/23 11:42 PM
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Now you’re putting words in my mouth. I never said women can’t be shallow, I simply said there’s not enough context in this specific case to determine anything.
/r/AllPillDebate22/01/23 09:22 PM
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But how do you know the first guy didn’t cheat on her or did something to make her reconsider the relationship? For all we know, the first guy could’ve dumped her. There’s simply no context to make any assumptions
/r/AllPillDebate22/01/23 03:16 AM
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That’s a very bold assumption of you to make, you’re projecting
/r/AllPillDebate22/01/23 03:13 AM
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I don’t get the point of this post since a lot of additional context is missing - like maybe the firefighter was a jackass? We don’t know any details beyond the pictures. And to be fair, even if you take height out of the equation, the second guy is better looking anyway.
/r/AllPillDebate21/01/23 05:07 PM
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What bugs me are all the absolute claims mentioned on here… “women do this” or “men do that”. There’s some truth to all the pills IMHO. Are looks important? To some yes, it’s very important, to others it’s mildly important, and to others still - barely or not at all. Personality matters to everyone too, to varying degrees and depending how much you’re willing to tolerate differences or undesirable personality flaws in that person (from your POV). There are also certain common trends that can app…
/r/AllPillDebate08/01/23 09:27 PM
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Maybe you’re bad at holding doors open
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 09:14 PM
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Agreed, I’m dating a Cuban 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 06:09 PM
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True, but from I’ve seen “brown” Latinas are just as desired too
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 04:37 PM
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Maybe it depends where you live. I live in Houston, TX - a very diverse city. The cheer leaders would be latinas, you see a ton of white guys dating and lusting after latinas
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 03:36 PM
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Wouldn’t this mean men should raise their standards and reject more women?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 03:32 PM
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I 100% agree with you, and most people will never admit this is true because it’s a harsh reality. But the truth is, nobody will stay in a relationship of any kind (romantic, friendship, professional, etc.) if they are not receiving anything beneficial from it - whether it be emotional benefits, sexual, financial, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 06:06 PM
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LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 02:16 AM
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Men want women more than women want men. Men want attractive women more than attractive women want men. FTFY. I’m in a large facebook singles group in a large metro area. It’s amazing how many lonely desperate women there are who simply want love and affection. OP’s theory is only applicable to attractive women, most women are average or not all that attractive at all. Just go out in public, most women are okay looking, but a lot are just not at all attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 11:12 AM
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I would say there’s truth to both sides (red and blue bill). There’s good men and shitty men, there’s good women and shitty women. It’s human nature to exploit whatever social/sexual advantages you may have in a random given social context… theres’s men that manipulate women by pretending to care about them to get sex, and women use their sexual leverage to get provisions from men. Do all men/women do these things? Of course not. This is why everyone’s lived experiences can be so radically diffe…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 04:06 PM
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Not sure why OP seems to think they’re mutually exclusive. All you’d have to say is something like, “I think you’re attractive and I’m interested in getting to know you to see if there’s chemistry/compatibility”. Like, it’s not that difficult lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 03:37 PM
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This is one of those “goes both ways” scenarios. Both men and woman get lumped in with the bad individuals of both sides. You see it in almost every post
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 02:25 PM
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I’m aware of the declining birth rate in Japan, but how do you know it’s because the men stopped pursuing?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 11:10 AM
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Im a 5’6” guy who’s had no problem attracting women, and don’t care about a woman’s past as long as she has no STD’s or history of cheating.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 11:08 AM
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As a guy this rings 100% true in my experience. Just as an example I was talking to someone I met online. She was telling me all her insecurities, but the minute I mention mine, I get ghosted. Guys are not allowed to have insecurities
/r/AllPillDebate11/11/22 11:13 AM
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Men who are 7s and 8s like myself, will end up with the women who are 6s or less. So what you’re saying is your actual wife is a 6 or less? I wonder if she read your post lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 06:24 PM
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I’ve also experienced the complete lack of effort from women that you have. 90% of them are pretty much how you described when you first match them, in fact they never even ASK me anything about myself to get to know me, which makes me wonder why they swiped right on me in the first place. Not to mention virtually none of them ever say anything clever, witty, or funny yet it’s up to me to be their entertainer like a dancing monkey.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 12:09 AM
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Facial attractiveness, being in shape, height.
/r/seduction09/10/22 03:53 PM
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But wouldn’t they just make male robots for women then? Why would a robot manufacturer make robots for only half the population?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 11:30 PM
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Chivalry would not only be dead, it wouldn’t even exist as a concept. Under no other social contract would one person be opening car doors, pulling out chairs, paying for all the dinners, do all the driving, and plan all the outings. Would you be friends with a person where it was completely lopsided like that? Hell no. Why did guys accept that dynamic from a woman they’re romantically interested in? Easy… sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 07:46 PM
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Why not just ignore the post and keep scrolling instead of whining?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 07:09 PM
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If you level up the libido, men wouldn’t approach women. You mean level down? Higher libido means a higher sex drive
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 07:07 PM
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So revise the rules?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 08:43 PM
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They don’t require a text to explain them, it’s self explanatory. Your recommendation would accomplish the exact same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 08:39 PM
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I had text originally, but when I tried posting it then it said part of post wouldn’t show up. How is this low effort? It’s a screen shot of texts
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 06:48 PM
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I agree with everything you said, except the first part. If you look at my 3rd screenshot, it’s the equivalent of a man asking a heavy woman how much she weighs and saying “sorry I only date slim women”, and how society would view that, versus how society views a woman doing the equivalent to a shorter guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 06:39 PM
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This could be r/redditwritesseinfeld
/r/seduction05/09/22 03:46 AM
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That makes sense in terms of evolutionary psychology
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 01:10 AM
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True. Guys make it obvious what they like and don’t gaslight the opposite sex about their preferences. Never listen to what they say, always watch their actions
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 12:30 AM
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Even if you have kids with a tall man, it doesn’t necessarily mean your kids will be in the middle/average height range. There’s still a good possibility you could have short sons simply because you’re short, and you carry those genes. I would know, because my mom is 5’2, my dad is about 6’, and I’m a 5’6 male. If you’re that concerned about having a child who falls out of the ideal height range, you probably shouldn’t have kids, period.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 12:17 AM
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To be fair, most guys also prefer a girl that looks like a swimsuit/Instagram model (hourglass body, booty, nice boobs, pretty face, etc.), but the vast majority of women obviously don’t meet that standard. Truth is almost all of us make some type of compromises on our physical ideal, but we fall in love with a whole person, not just one physical attribute.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 12:11 AM
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I’m a 5’6” 150 lb guy, AND bald, but I’ve never had major problems matching with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 08:20 PM
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From what I’ve noticed throughout my life though, is that women aren’t as scrutinized over their insecurities, and people tend to be more sympathetic to women’s insecurities. But if you’re a man who’s insecure about his physical size, you’re pretty much told to get over it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 04:04 PM
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I think a woman being self conscious of being heavier/taller than her man is her problem, perhaps she’s insecure with her femininity and should do some self reflection? If the genders were reversed, and a man was insecure about being smaller than his woman, he’d be scrutinized for his insecurity.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 03:42 PM
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I’m 5’6” (with shoes on 😏) AND bald, so you’d assume I’d be doomed. But I’ve never had enormous problems attracting women, as I get matches in online dating quite regularly, even with my height mentioned. Although I have been rejected for my height, a lot of women will overlook height if you’re decent looking and fit. I guess my point is that looks will often supersede height in the physical traits a woman prioritizes. So yes, height is important to most women to varying degrees, but they often …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 12:36 PM
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I’m 37, and no we don’t lol. By that time we all have baggage so we’re more picky and know what to look out for.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 11:19 AM
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I’m bald, and look better without hair. I’m also short (5’5”-5’6”). I’ve never had problems getting dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 10:36 PM
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The majority of posts in this sub are rants
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 08:22 PM
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You’re definition of little man syndrome is correct, but I’ve seen/heard people misuse the phrase all the time, to the point it loses all meaning besides describing any and all short guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 08:20 PM
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Out in the real world, and online.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 08:15 PM
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Where did I say dudes specifically were mocking dudes? I’ve heard both men and women say this
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 08:10 PM
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Because most people have a need for intimacy and pair bonding. Maslow’s hierarchy of needs.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 02:38 PM
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If I were him I’d look for women around his height. There’s women out there who are 5’ and shorter.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 02:35 PM
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Except the pipes were made of lead
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/22 01:44 PM
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In a lot of cases it depends on so many other factors and variables. What is the height of the woman he’s after? How important is height to her? What type of self esteem/confidence does she have? What other traits does he have that she may values? (His sense of humor? Easy to talk to? Does she value his type of intelligence? Kindness? Income/career? Educational level? Is he handsome? Physically fit? Skillful/talented? Do they share similar values?). Even those factors can be further broken down …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 02:10 PM
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Except older, more established men marrying young women was the norm throughout most of human history. We might view a 35 year old marrying an 18 year old as predatory by today’s standards, but it was common place or expected throughout history in a lot of cultures.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 01:55 PM
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Go out in public… to Walmart, to the grocery store, the mall, a sporting event, the movies, or a park… TONS of average and below-average looking men are with a woman who is roughly their looks-equivalent. This means women do date, have sex with, and end up with normal average guys because, well, they’re average looking too! In fact this IS the norm, it’s literally everywhere. The men who complain are probably below average looking who are aiming way out of their league, or they’re socially retar…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 06:02 PM
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Accountability is difficult for them
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 03:23 AM
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Cuckoldry is a little more than just watching a random guy bang a random girl you find attractive. Cuckoldry is getting off to the act of watching (what you believe to be) a physically superior man plowing your woman and pleasing her in ways you can’t. What you’re describing is more vague, which is voyeurism.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/22 11:26 AM
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Shouldn’t that be more of an incentive for her to be funny, witty, and interesting if she’s being paid for?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 05:56 PM
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Women love it when men impress them. No shit Sherlock lol
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 11:27 AM
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Even if a couple is similarly accomplished in terms of career/education, it says nothing about what kind of dynamic they’ll have on a day-to-day basis. It says nothing about how one person will treat the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 05:16 PM
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It could imply some things, but overall it won’t tell you a whole lot. They could be the nicest most generous person, or a selfish insufferable asshole. They could be exciting and hilarious, or duller than a door knob. Their accomplishments will tell you nothing about what kind of day-to-day dynamic you’ll have with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 05:08 PM
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Do you think one’s ability to generate monetary income is a good way to measure their overall worth as a person or a romantic partner?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 04:43 PM
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Women spend a lot more on upkeep and getting ready than men, so it makes sense that men fork up for a fucking date lol Funny thing is, I always hear women say “I don’t dress up for a man, I do it for myself!” So which is it? Is all that for men or for yourself?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 11:52 AM
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I had a woman who wants to be a brain surgeon (and will probably get there) come out of my shower complaining that the drain was clogged. Tell her to figure it out, it’s not brain surgery /s
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 05:18 PM
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I agree with what you’re saying, but I haven’t seen what you’re describing all that much, although I'm sure it happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 06:43 PM
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You have way more disposable income without children - which enables you to travel, engage in spontaneous activities, more time to pursue passions, being able to move at a moment’s notice without having to consider upending your children’s lives. Having children creates logistical road blocks that people often don’t think about until it happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 03:07 PM
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Because on average women tend to have a better emotional support system around them through hard times. Isolation always makes things worse. Plus being able to have sex whenever you want provides validation and an ego boost (even if it’s temporary or misguided). An average woman will never be alone in the same sense an average guy will be. Most attractive women will base a large portion of their self-worth on how sexually attractive they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 12:26 PM
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So based on your original point, the fact you can get pregnant means you have less incentive to prove anything and not put in as much effort during the dating process? How are those 2 tied together?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 12:26 AM
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Women can get an abortion and end the pregnancy if they choose. Men need to raise their standards and not hold such a low threshold of expectations for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 09:42 PM
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But wouldn’t the guy also have to look a certain way if she’s even giving him a chance in the first place? They both met a minimum threshold for looks for there to be a date. So if the guy has to prove himself socially, what other things does the woman have to prove?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 07:01 PM
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The whole drawn out, indirect mating dance is the process of the man demonstrating his social abilities to the woman’s liking. So if the man has to prove himself socially, is there anything the woman has to prove?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 06:49 PM
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You really think women will give an honest answer here? Social desirability bias will be strong here. Ask a bouncer how often women dump a guy for losing a fight in a bar.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 01:37 AM
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These women that don’t react well to their man taking a beating… did these guys instigate the fight? And that’s why the women dumped them? Or is it because they lost the fight they lost their “man card” so-to-speak, so the women left them?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 01:29 AM
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But every woman I’ve seen polled/asked about this topic say they at least prefer a man taller than them at the very least (maybe not necessarily tall, but taller than them at minimum). I’ve never once heard a woman having a preference for men shorter/smaller than themselves… although I’m sure there’s some out there somewhere, but they’re an extreme minority.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 07:46 PM
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From my own personal experience, OP is generally correct, although there’s always exceptions.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 06:37 PM
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I think what OP means by obvious hypergamy (guy being taller) is that women are attracted to a guy who is their perceived superior - whether it’s financially or physically
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 06:30 PM
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You could also look at it as a young woman likely using an older man for his money.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 04:01 AM
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Your “not for me“ guy looks like he stepped in dog shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 03:55 AM
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Sounds like a good idea in theory, but do you really want the government managing your DNA sample? If a man has doubts about the paternity, he can secretly get a DNA test.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 05:11 PM
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He doesn’t have to tell the wife
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 05:10 PM
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The father doesn’t have to tell the mother he’s getting a DNA test, or get her permission.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 05:09 PM
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Hell, remember the Boston Bomber? Many girls were defending him because they thought he was attractive. https://amp.usatoday.com/amp/2164605
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 12:21 AM
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There is no male equivalent to make up If a man is bald (or balding), he can wear a hat or toupee. If he’s short, he can wear certain shoes to make himself a few inches taller. If he has a weak chin/jaw, he can grow a beard. There’s things guys do that can disguise their true appearance, they just don’t get as much scrutiny as women’s makeup.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 05:13 PM
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or less strong men as feminine and weak? You’d be surprised how many men and women think this on a primal subconscious level - probably the majority. Biologically speaking, evolution has programmed women to generally prefer fit, physically dominant men that can protect them and their offspring from predators and rival males. Of course there’s outliers and exceptions, but they aren’t the mainstream.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 02:46 PM
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Except how do you explain female rulers throughout history starting wars? Granted, most of history’s rulers were men, but let’s pretend that it was mostly women rulers throughout history… there would still be no difference. Women are just as prone to conflict as men (look at how catty a lot of women are with each other, and starting drama). So stop pretending women are naturally pacifists.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 07:01 PM
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Risking your life to bring another human being into the world will never be equal to a man needing to have status, game etc. Except men are expected to die in war and give up their lives for women and children. Ever heard of “women and children first”? Not to mention the vast majority of work place fatalities are men. Men’s lives are considered disposable by society.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 04:27 AM
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Using someone for sex is sexual abuse. That is not sexual abuse. Sexual abuse occurs when consent is not given, or a minor is involved. With your logic, a woman who uses a man for his money or for free meals is stealing from him.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 03:04 PM
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The choice is up to him if he wants to get one or not. I will say, it probably isn’t a bad idea to get one just to be absolutely sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 11:44 PM
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This is one of those issues that doesn’t require government intervention. All a guy has to do is just run to the drug store and buy a paternity test to verify himself. I wouldn’t want my tax dollars wasted on things that can be easily solved on the individual level.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 11:03 PM
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Tell that to Glenn Seaborg, Arthur Wahl, Joseph Kennedy, and Edwin McMillan.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 10:03 PM
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I mean, if the rules benefit you, why would you want them changed?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 10:02 PM
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That’s most women
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 09:16 PM
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Would you ever be willing to be a stay at home wife and not work?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 08:59 PM
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Protected from what? What kind of life are you living where you’re in constant danger?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 08:47 PM
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Trad men can vet for all those qualities in a woman and still go Dutch.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 08:23 PM
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The average person is invisible, period. It’s a bell curve, with the majority of average people being in the middle.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 09:17 PM
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Exactly. If women aren’t attracted to them, and they want a woman, then work on yourself as much as possible to increase the odds of finding someone. They refuse to take responsibility for their lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 04:04 AM
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When did I ever say bend over backwards for them? We’re not talking about chivalry or doing special favors for women, or simping. We’re talking about men complaining how women aren’t physically attracted to the average man. Most women are not physically attracted to an average man, and I don’t blame them. If you go to your local Walmart and see what the average man looks like, they’re nasty. If these average men are complaining that they aren’t attracting women, they need to stop being a whiny l…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 04:02 AM
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So what’s the alternative? Doing nothing and complaining the rest of your life? If a man isn’t attracting women (for whatever reason) and he wants a woman, what should he do to improve his situation? Being bitter never solves anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/21 07:42 PM
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Just go out in public and observe every man who’s with his woman. Most of them probably won’t have a chiseled jawline.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/21 02:56 PM
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I should probably clarify that when I say behaviors that ‘Chads’ can get away with, I’m not talking about acting like an ass, cheating, or abusive behavior. I’m talking more about gender role expectations and traditions that typically benefit women (old fashioned chivalry). A ‘Chad’ is more likely to get away with not meeting all those behavioral expectations.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 11:45 PM
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If that’s sarcasm you forgot the /s. If you’re serious, that’s basically a woman’s reality throughout all of history.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 10:45 PM
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Telling people to self improve is helping them. The prize a man gets may not be his ideal, but let’s be real, we all have to make compromises. I don’t expect to land a Columbian swimsuit model from the Spanish channel. I have to keep my expectations realistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 10:04 PM
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Self improvement won’t guarantee success of course. But a guy who’s short/ugly but muscular will have better odds than a guy who’s short, ugly, and is a blob physically. That’s the point I’m making, self improvement in any area will increase your odds, but never guarantee success. Even for guys that are tall, fit, and good looking, success isn’t always guaranteed.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 08:24 PM
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I would disagree. To a lot of women, lack of height is an automatic deal breaker, and these shorter men are filtered out on dating apps regardless of their other qualities. I’ve seen plenty of facially average guys who are average height but in good physical shape and well dressed with good looking women.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 08:01 PM
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The point of my title is that the “average man” (who’s generally overweight, isn’t well groomed or doesn’t wear clothes flattering to him) who complains about the 80/20 rule needs to put in more effort to expand his potential dating pool (whether it’s getting fit, practicing better grooming/fashion, etc.). My face compensates for my lack of height, which most average guys are of normal height or more, and women generally desire that. If I wasn’t physically fit and didn’t practice good grooming o…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 07:41 PM
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Look at it this way, if you’re able to increase your physical attractiveness (through exercise, better grooming/fashion, etc.), then you won’t have to put in the extra effort in those other areas you described. If you’re a modest looking guy, of course women will subconsciously expect you to compensate for it in other areas (whether it’s financially or practicing certain traditional behaviors). This is why the ‘Chads’ of the world are able to get away with behaviors an average guy usually couldn…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 07:03 PM
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Yea but most average men (facially) are also average height or taller. So if they don’t have a handsome face, their normal/tall height compensates for this. Just like my face could/might compensate for my height.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 06:58 PM
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I would actually argue the opposite from my experience. I’ve gotten matches online and when I’d tell them my height they unmatched me, or I get filtered out from the beginning so I won’t even match with them in the first place. Once we meet in real life they’re already aware of my height, yet still willing to meet up, so obviously my height wasn’t a dealbreaker.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 06:51 PM
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Yup, makes me wonder how all the ugly guys haven’t been weeded out genetically through natural/sexual selection lol /s
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 06:44 PM
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I wouldn’t say Karens are ‘losers’, but more like women with a toxic level of entitlement and/or victim mentality who complain excessively when things don’t go exactly their way.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 06:43 PM
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Well that’s your fault for choosing an activity that wasn’t right for you to achieve the fitness required to attract more women.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 06:39 PM
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What about women? This post is about average men complaining about women being attracted to the top 10-20% of men, yet not doing anything to make themselves more appealing (like getting physically fit, or improving their clothes/grooming)
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 06:38 PM
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You’re generalizing too much, I’ve met plenty of women with high sex drives who are ready and willing at a moment’s notice a good portion of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 06:32 PM
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Obviously it’s a plus to any woman if a guy makes 6 figures. Just like a woman making 6 figures is a huge plus to any man dating her. However it’s definitely not a ‘must’ for most women. The majority of men don’t make 6 figures, and the majority of men are either married or have had relationships with women. So the incomes of most men were clearly not a deal breaker from the start.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 06:30 PM
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I’m not sure what point you’re trying to make. That Steve Jobs had difficulty getting women? That he dressed plainly?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 06:26 PM
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Exactly. I definitely have my physical flaws: I’m short/bald, but I put in effort and exploit what I do have, and I don’t have major issues attracting women.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 06:23 PM
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Well try reading the full text next time so you don’t bring up an issue I already addressed.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 06:20 PM
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Apparently they are (lazy fitness-wise) if the majority are overweight.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 06:18 PM
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Yea but a guy who’s normal/tall in height but with an average face can do just as well as a shorter guy with an attractive face. I view that as evening out, assuming everything else is equal.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 06:16 PM
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You didn’t read the last paragraph of my post did you.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 06:07 PM
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No it wouldn’t, women’s new expectations would likely resemble that of what men’s are currently with women, which is finding half the female population at least good enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 06:06 PM
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One was 9.5 years, one was about 9-10 months (maybe that doesn’t count?), the most recent was 2 years, which ended last October. In between all those I’ve dated around quite extensively and had occasional flings. It was rare when I wasn’t at least talking to someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 06:01 PM
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I think most men are aware that women prefer a guy who takes care of himself and his appearance. Should be self-evident.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 05:58 PM
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That’s why I have a TLDR at the very beginning.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 05:53 PM
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You have a point, but to a degree. Instead of 10-20%, it extends to maybe 30-40%. If more men put in better effort (getting physically fit, dressing well, better grooming), a lot of men would be able to increase their dating pool and success rate.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 05:52 PM
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This why men screen women for these traits. Women attempt to screen men who are only there for a pump and dump, men should (and obviously do) screen for gold diggers. Shitty people exist on both sides, but most women want a man that’s at least financially stable/independent. He doesn’t have to have a rockstar career. I don’t make great money and I’ve have several LTR’s.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 05:42 PM
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This post (along with this subreddit) makes way too many generalizations about both sexes. Is there some degree of truth to these stereotypes? Probably. But it’s irresponsible to make broad blanket statements about either sex because in real life there’s so many exceptions, everyone is different.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/20 04:52 PM
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Literally everything besides the child birthing process. A relationship/marriage is supposed to be a partnership. And each couple decides how they divide the responsibilities.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/20 05:14 PM
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Every couple is different, and unless you actually talk to the short girl, you can’t automatically assume she picked the tall guy for his height specifically. Maybe the short girl actually likes his personality, and he just happens to be tall? As far as some short women demanding a tall guy, just move on, who cares? Some guys have very specific standards that a lot of women won’t ever meet.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/20 11:42 AM
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The reason my girlfriend is a little bothered by the weight disparity between us is because it makes her feel self conscious about her weight. At the moment she’s not at her ideal weight.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/20 04:47 PM
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I didn’t say I was fat for my height lol
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/20 04:05 PM
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Pretty much only the weight part. She’s dated short guys in the past besides me.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/20 04:58 AM
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I’m between 5’5”-5’6” and about 130 lbs, but I’m pretty muscular/athletic for my size (I used to wrestle as a kid). My girlfriend is about an inch taller but is a good deal heavier than I am (she used to play softball and is thicker). With that being said I easily overpower her without a lot of trouble, but I would think she should be stronger considering the weight disparity. But to answer the question, no it doesn’t bother me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/20 11:37 PM
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Going against your deep rooted biology by sleeping around and what evolution has instilled in you as a woman will make you uncomfortable and wont sit right with you. I would argue that what evolution/biology instills in women is the desire to procreate with a dominant male who can provide protection for her and her offspring... that’s literally every other primate (including humans, like it or not we’re no different and have the same basic instincts). Sometimes this will involve sleeping with ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 11:27 AM
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It’s almost like every person (man or woman) is a unique individual and shouldn’t be over-generalized with a broad brush stroke, especially when you don’t personally know them well. This subreddit does the exact opposite... puts both men and women in rigid categories based on what they see in social media and dating sites. This site also treats people as commodities - categorizing people as “high value” or “low value.” They seem to lack social exposure to real people.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/20 05:22 PM
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There should be no “life script” for anyone. Live your life how you see fit (as long as you’re not harming others) and you’ll be much happier. Trying to fit your life into a predetermined mold will make you miserable in the long run, unless that mold is what you really truly want in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/20 05:22 PM
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Yea, I agree. I don’t know what world OP is living in. I’ve seen a lot of average looking guys with attractive women. I almost NEVER see it the other way around.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/20 11:42 PM
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And not everyone’s social behavior patterns leads to fulfillment and happiness. Cheating on your partner is a common social behavior, and obviously that’s wrong. Prioritizing good character traits in a potential partner is more likely to get you better results, instead of lumping people in artificial categories before you even know them. Grow the fuck up.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/20 12:43 AM
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Prioritizing the right traits to look for in a person isn’t “pointless nuance.”
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/20 12:14 AM
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The problem is that you’re categorizing people you don’t even know based on superficial rules that you created in your head. You’re basically living in a fantasy land. This sub is over-generalizing people you don’t even know based on qualities that shouldn’t be prioritized (looks/money), and wonder why you can’t seem to maintain a healthy long term relationship. Of course, looks and money will generally attract more people in the beginning, but that says nothing of the type of person you are or …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/20 10:00 PM
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Why are we categorizing people into artificial hierarchies based on who you feel is worthy/unworthy of a relationship? It’s a very toxic way that resentful people view the world and others in general. It’s like a self created caste system
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/20 09:09 PM
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I would consider an “Alpha” someone with a type “A” personality, someone who takes charge and desires to be a leader. This person thinks for themselves and isn’t easily manipulated.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/20 01:33 PM
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