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Escalation & CalibrationTherocksays2020/r/seduction09/08/20 09:48 PM
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Escalation & CalibrationTherocksays2020/r/seduction03/07/20 08:28 PM
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Resting bitch face
/r/seduction02/06/25 04:05 AM
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Can you get a decent car? I would say not living in the city AND not having a car can be difficult I live 40 minutes from downtown but I have a decent ride and always make the car ride fun for the girls. Good conversation. They compliment my music choices.
/r/seduction02/06/25 02:28 AM
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Say that man. I went to a ladies house last night and she said I am not your first date today and I was like “how TF she know?”
/r/seduction01/06/25 03:07 PM
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Like anything there are dry spells. Anyone who says they just pound every single night is probably lying. The key is to keep your method/approach consistent. Sometimes overreacting to a dry spell can put your further in a funk. As long as your process is good the results will come. Sometimes you’ll have more attention from women than you can handle When you focus on the process and not the results. I think the results come easier.
/r/seduction01/06/25 03:04 PM
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Maybe not for you. Some people are judgmental about it
/r/seduction01/06/25 03:01 PM
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The OP explained it they don’t want to quick cum
/r/seduction01/06/25 02:47 PM
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It’s the opposite. Because he can’t cum twice relatively soon he will probably pop one maybe 1 or 2 hours before meeting so he can pop again with him. It all depends on his refraction time. Some people can get up again in minutes. Others may need over an hour.
/r/seduction01/06/25 07:15 AM
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Women appreciate a man of mystery and love trying to solve them. Have lots of unemployed friends with hot girlfriends
/r/seduction01/06/25 07:11 AM
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It’s the opposite. Some people cum before meeting an escort so that they last longer the second time. I assume he’s worried about a quick cum and being embarrassed
/r/seduction01/06/25 07:10 AM
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It takes hours of swiping and chatting to get a women to meet you in person. So much easier to skip to the “in person” part
/r/seduction01/06/25 07:02 AM
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Don’t even need to follow up my guy. When you make an impression they usually reach out to you. Women love it when I make them laugh
/r/seduction01/06/25 07:01 AM
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Damn is that all you get bro? Ouch My city has dating events and it’s a great way to meet women. And there’s no need to see if I will like their voice or mannerisms and vice versa like on a dating app where you go in blind. I already met them face to face and was able to leave an impression
/r/seduction01/06/25 06:31 AM
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You can do both and have way more options
/r/seduction01/06/25 01:55 AM
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You get much further faster
/r/seduction01/06/25 01:53 AM
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Not as hard as the millions of guys swiping endlessly on dating apps on women who don’t give them the time of day
/r/seduction01/06/25 01:52 AM
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You’re respectfully doing it wrong. You aren’t seeking permission TO approach you’re seeking cues as to HOW to approach. Someone who is cold to you may just have a RBF. I am so glad I haven’t avoided the women who don’t smile at me. The ones who smile often reject
/r/seduction01/06/25 01:51 AM
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Incorporate photos into your texting. No not dick picks. One of my go tos when they’re asking me what I’m doing. I send a photo of my king bed that I just made They remark how big it is and how they want to be in it. My successful text game is making them wish they were with me immediately.
/r/seduction21/12/24 11:27 PM
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Have you considered dessert? Dessert dates are very easy to flirt. Oh you got ice cream on your chin. And the sweets can get a woman in a playful mood Not saying coffee can’t work but for some people it comes off too formal and not fun
/r/seduction21/12/24 11:24 PM
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Just wanted to affirm you drinks is usually a better first date. However not every woman drinks so my second go to is dessert.
/r/seduction21/12/24 11:23 PM
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3 is great. I love when a woman lets me know she wants me. Sets up some tease
/r/seduction21/12/24 11:21 PM
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There’s nothing to stop an initial sexual vibe from turning into a long term relationship. My last partner we slept together the first night but all that did was set the vibe where she couldn’t keep her hands off me. You can always pull in the reigns. But there’s no reason you shouldn’t be sexual. Women eat that up. Successful dudes know how to turn that up and down as needed.
/r/seduction21/12/24 11:20 PM
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A specific day and time gives a worker an easy out.
/r/seduction14/07/24 01:40 AM
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Every job has a stigma. Even for a doctor or lawyer there will be assumptions you work too much. Law enforcement likely to cheat or be violent and the high divorce rate. The tech stigma isn’t that bad
/r/seduction08/07/24 04:25 AM
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I’m in Seattle a huge tech hub and most men are in tech. There are a few women who don’t want to date tech workers but they’re far and between
/r/seduction08/07/24 04:22 AM
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100% most of my female clients say they assume a guy with no job listed is unemployed.
/r/seduction08/07/24 04:21 AM
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That delicious as you look would get an instant unmatch it’s crazy the clowns who try to come off as insightful lately
/r/seduction13/06/24 05:16 PM
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Not even their post history suggest this is bullshit
/r/seduction09/06/24 04:22 PM
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Physical escalation and building tension is more valuable than the kiss imo. Some people kiss on the first date just for the fuck of it.
/r/seduction03/06/24 02:27 PM
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Oof you should know most tinder matches don’t go anywhere. There’s a good chance it’s dead A) next time don’t ask when she’s free suggest a time and place. Women love a man who they can just say yes or no too. Worst case scenario she will offer an alternative time. B) when you double text you can’t come off desperate. Give it 24 hours then be like. Then I would joke how the drinks were delicious and playfully suggest she missed out
/r/seduction03/06/24 02:24 PM
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Treat a woman like celebrity and she will treat you like a fan
/r/seduction02/06/24 05:01 AM
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Making women feel comfortable goes so far. Being attractive helps but you can also build attraction with mannerisms and confidence. I took a girl home from a bar last night. I escalated and she admitted she wanted to see me naked. It’s rarely that easy but it’s not rocket science
/r/seduction02/06/24 12:36 AM
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Women usually give advice of how they “want to be decided” not how they do. Women like to tell you they want constant attention but they usually chase men who are strong in game
/r/seduction23/02/24 03:14 AM
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Clearly lol
/r/seduction18/02/24 12:21 AM
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It’s the opposite. In my 30s I had way more options as women in their mid 20s. Love a man in their 30s
/r/seduction15/11/23 04:57 PM
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It’s a stupid question anyways. Let’s say you have 1000 women in your area. You match with 50 and 200 swipe left on you. Now there are only 750 who haven’t seen your profile yet. Maybe 800 because new people join the app
/r/seduction15/11/23 04:56 PM
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100% - in small towns you also have the issue of people knowing everyone. Knowing some people don’t date friends
/r/seduction25/10/23 09:26 PM
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Say that!!!
/r/seduction01/09/23 03:45 AM
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Nah some women prefer shorter men.
/r/seduction17/07/23 04:54 AM
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My break thru came when I realized they have to entertain me? Like I used to always be thankful for any women who gave me the time of day but as I started ignoring women who I found boring or not putting in effort it was cool to see that dynamic change. The abundance mindset really helped me to realize that any specific woman isn’t that special. If the conversation is a dud I will chat with someone new 5 minutes later was a big step forward.
/r/seduction24/04/23 07:50 PM
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She’s not interested in you most likely. She’s being friendly and you seem to be reading too much into it.
/r/seduction22/04/23 10:19 PM
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Any woman can take photos doesn’t have to be a girlfriend
/r/seduction29/10/22 06:58 PM
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Gotcha. I usually ask for the number in a direct way but without expectations that they have to see me. Some people will chat with you then decline to give their number out. That’s okay!
/r/seduction25/10/22 07:19 PM
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You said you already exchanged contact info in your post. You don’t need a justification asking for a number you’re free to just ask for the number
/r/seduction25/10/22 06:59 PM
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Had to check if this was a troll post Wrong place r/sex or r/blowjobs Good luck
/r/seduction25/10/22 07:21 AM
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Anytime between 2 and 12 hours. I like to strike while I am still fresh on their mind
/r/seduction25/10/22 05:28 AM
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The “do you want to connect is unusual” and likely not doing you any favors. Don’t be afraid to end the conversation without asking them out and do it later. That puts you firmly in control
/r/seduction25/10/22 05:27 AM
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More context is needed. Random approach? Friend?
/r/seduction25/10/22 05:02 AM
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This usually won’t click. Many women don’t like when a guy searches for the third because they assume the woman doesn’t want it. Your best bet is for your girlfriend to make a profile (you can run it) and go from there
/r/seduction24/10/22 10:14 PM
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Have you considered she thinks you’re a cool guy and just wants to be friends?
/r/seduction24/10/22 07:30 PM
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Sounds like you need a long break. I won’t pretend dating isn’t complicated or difficult but it should not be transactional. You don’t better yourself as a person for other people. You do it to be the best version of you. Stop thinking if you do “this.” You will find love. Toe knows it doesn’t work that way
/r/seduction23/10/22 07:25 PM
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Slow game. First week is introduction. Second week how was your weekend. Third week you start making plans.
/r/seduction23/10/22 06:27 PM
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Fitness class. Meetup app. I met my current fwb at a board game group
/r/seduction22/10/22 09:42 AM
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Stop analyzing and ask her out champ
/r/seduction20/10/22 10:21 PM
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Regular bars. A hotel bar is tricky because transitioning back to your place isn’t as easy. 5-8 is pretty early. It’s easiest to catch them at the end of the night and bring them home
/r/seduction20/10/22 08:17 PM
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An invite with a specific place and time. A) she leaves you on read which means move on B) she says yes C) she says no but offers an alternative date
/r/seduction20/10/22 08:17 PM
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Women love to keep men in orbit. They don’t outright blow you off but contact you just enough My go to in that situation is one final text then I move on. Sometimes they realize there isn’t anything better out there and they come back to you
/r/seduction20/10/22 08:09 PM
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She’s probably not that interested. Give her some space and send one last text next week asking her to hang out. Some women disconnect after sex. You have to be prepared it may just be a one night stand and that’s it
/r/seduction20/10/22 08:02 PM
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Wrong sub. Get lost
/r/seduction20/10/22 07:30 PM
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Join a fitness class
/r/seduction20/10/22 05:18 PM
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It’s definitely annoying. Aside from the common advice here to just ditch online dating altogether. I usually just banter with my matches in a way that is fun for me. If she doesn’t make an effort or is lazy I just move on. I am not a jester the “make me laugh” profiles are cringe. One liberating thing I do is if a girl gives a lazy answer I don’t respond. Usually the conversation does but every few weeks a woman will double text and be like “want to get drinks” or “come over” Remember they want…
/r/seduction20/10/22 05:09 PM
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Easy. Stop using online dating and connect with women in the real world. They likely have less options
/r/seduction20/10/22 04:56 PM
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Yup if over time your place is too forward. Drinks would work Unless you have upped your sex appeal or approach though the result is unlikely to change.
/r/seduction18/10/22 09:40 PM
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You can’t get your hopes up here. There is an extremely high chance you’re still in the friend zone. You have to be direct what you want. Ask her on a date and go from there. My current fwb initially friend zoned me but I invited her over and she knew what was going to happen between us. If you do the lame “let’s hang out as friends” that’s exactly where you’ll stay
/r/seduction18/10/22 09:37 PM
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Everyone has hope of getting a girlfriend. Sounds like you need to start with your mindset
/r/seduction15/10/22 11:35 PM
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Next time you’re out in your area. Look for places you can park that aren’t too secluded (where she thinks you’re a serial killer) but far away enough you have some privacy. I’ve had sex in park parking lots, industrial parking lots, big box store parking lots, etc. It’s that simple. You simply start making out in the car and offer to go to the back seat. If you want to be a little classier. Get a motel.
/r/seduction14/10/22 03:00 PM
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That is definitely a thing on Reddit. Cheers dude
/r/seduction14/10/22 02:27 AM
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It absolutely does. Reading comprehension I said it’s a potential fwb. We haven’t met yet and I was seeing if she wanted to go out before our first encounter.
/r/seduction14/10/22 02:03 AM
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You have conversations. That’s how you find what people are looking for. A lot of women don’t want a serious relationship
/r/seduction14/10/22 12:49 AM
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Anywhere. Pickup, dating apps, social circle, speed dating
/r/seduction13/10/22 10:07 PM
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No, I literally just messaged a potential fwb and asked if she wanted to get a drink. And she said no just come over. The answer will depend on the woman but generally speaking if a woman wants to sleep with you. She will do it anyways. They don’t need a free meal
/r/seduction13/10/22 09:48 PM
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You don’t invite them over for sex. You invite them over and then escalate
/r/seduction13/10/22 09:15 PM
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Could be a new man in the picture. I would just give her space and work on your other women. You were always the other guy in this scenario and unfortunately that seems to come with a specific level of disrespect
/r/seduction13/10/22 08:00 PM
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There’s no point of asking her to the gym. She’s either feeling you or not. Ask her for a 1 on 1 date and see if she turns it down a second time.
/r/seduction12/10/22 03:29 PM
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Cringe. Compliments on physical appearance give them the validation and then they don’t have a need for you anymore
/r/seduction12/10/22 02:24 AM
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An escort could fix sexlesnrss but that isn’t your problem. You’re lonely Are you a virgin?
/r/seduction12/10/22 12:38 AM
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Download the meetup app for group activities. Kickball, softball or board games. Join a gym then attend a fitness class. These are usually dominated by women and they’re guard is usually down since they outnumber men
/r/seduction09/10/22 09:53 PM
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Someone bothered by you being close to them likely isn’t interested.
/r/seduction09/10/22 06:25 AM
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Non verbal cues. A good smile. Motioning. Taking their hand. Eventually moving away from the music source. The great thing about loud music is it gives you an excuse to invade their bubble, get close, whisper in their ear in a way that’s intimate
/r/seduction09/10/22 06:21 AM
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You got to fix that mindset. Touch a woman and let her respond to you. Does she move closer or move away? It’s good that you don’t just go in all gung ho but get the fuck out of your head. Most women can speak up for themselves if they don’t like something
/r/seduction09/10/22 05:44 AM
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Make eye contact with people and remember to smile. A warm vibe will endear people to you
/r/seduction01/10/22 06:03 PM
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You are probably a good conversationalist who makes these girls feel validated via text. Not a bad skill to have but you can’t let them get what they want without giving you yours. I usually tell them I’m busy when they seek attention from me. Drives them crazy. Or send a photo of me doing something fun.
/r/seduction01/10/22 02:39 AM
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Hear hear
/r/seduction28/09/22 10:53 PM
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Completely false.you forget that many women find online dating exhausting. They have too many options and they can’t get a feel for a guy without meeting them This is why pickup is so great. Women can get a vibe right away for you and if you make a positive impression you’re ten miles ahead of that guy asking her what her favorite color is on bumble lol
/r/seduction28/09/22 10:52 PM
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Super unhealthy if you’re naturally needy. I know I am someone who needs good conversation so I have my text buddies so that I never annoy the women I’m crushing on
/r/seduction28/09/22 07:10 PM
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If she’s texting you everyday then just focus on your next hangout that’s what matters the most. And for the love of God interact with other women.
/r/seduction28/09/22 06:50 PM
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She’s pulling away and you’re exhibiting needy behavior. I hope you realize how bad of a combo this is. Maybe she didn’t enjoy the sex. Maybe she’s moved on. Pro tip. Never ask a woman if she’s into you. Even if the answer is yes. It gives off that you’re going to be needy and require a lot of assurance in the future
/r/seduction28/09/22 06:32 PM
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You need to start small. Gym approach requires a level of confidence and you have none. You need to make eye contact with this girl and maybe say hello. If you’re really afraid start with a head nod. You need to have small interactions that build to the ask out. I am seeing someone from my gym right now but it took several weeks of building rapport. You have to overcome this fear of her though. Women don’t date men who are afraid of them.
/r/seduction28/09/22 09:05 AM
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Source or did you just make it up?
/r/seduction25/09/22 08:18 AM
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Nah the average male in the us is 5 9
/r/seduction24/09/22 04:01 PM
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I wouldn’t approach her if she never made eye contact unless I had an out like The one I suggester
/r/seduction23/09/22 11:18 PM
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It doesn’t always work but 100% of the time it gets a warm response. Concern for others is usually disarming. At worst I get a “not mine but thank you though”
/r/seduction23/09/22 10:49 PM
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I always keep one of those key ring gym cards in my pocket. My go to is “did you drop this” and then I go into my approach
/r/seduction23/09/22 09:46 PM
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Women seeking a shoulder to cry on will still fuck you. You just have to establish that you’re not going to focus on their issues with them. You’re going to make them laugh take their mind off things and sexually please them. Relationships have to be mutually beneficial. If you’re fitting some emotional need but not getting what you want. What are we doing here?
/r/seduction23/09/22 07:19 PM
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The majority of first dates don’t become a second. Have to really train yourself not to get attached so soon. Period I’ve had good first dates who never text me again. And horrible first dates who ask me to come over. You have to have an abundance mentality that you’re going to be you and go enjoy yourself and if this one isn’t feeling it. You’ll show the next one a great time.
/r/seduction21/09/22 05:39 PM
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Yeah I think respectfully it is different for men. We rarely get compliments and so it can be flattering. As a male if you treat a woman like a celebrity. She will treat you like a fan
/r/seduction20/09/22 10:51 PM
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I try not to judge but this is really poor advice. Leading with a compliment on appearance is like peak cringe The point is to build attraction, not come off as an admirer.
/r/seduction20/09/22 10:46 PM
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“You’ve helped me on some files before” - makes you come off as a fan rather than an equal
/r/seduction20/09/22 10:45 PM
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Don’t small talk. Be direct.
/r/seduction20/09/22 10:19 PM
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The key will be breaking the touch barrier early on. Standing close to her. Being hands on as you demonstrate Women love affirmation when she does something right or well. Give light praise and then escalate
/r/seduction20/09/22 04:05 PM
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Waiting one day to text is not too long. Don’t come off as needy She may just not want to see you again. You’ll live.
/r/seduction19/09/22 08:56 PM
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He admitted he doesn’t just want sex. Did you even read the comments? Nah of course not LOL
/r/seduction19/09/22 09:28 AM
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I encouraged him to expand his social circle and address his underlying issue of loneliness. But apparently you can’t read lmao
/r/seduction19/09/22 09:20 AM
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I didn’t lose my virginity until 27 I know what it’s like to not have sex but unlike you I know how to change it. Please don’t feed him your incel energy bro
/r/seduction19/09/22 08:46 AM
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Because that isn’t helpful for guys who are new to game.
/r/seduction19/09/22 08:44 AM
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Have you gone out in public? There are plenty of ugly dudes with companions
/r/seduction19/09/22 08:42 AM
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Definitely smart to leave that group. Highly recommend you find some new ones.
/r/seduction19/09/22 05:27 AM
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Aside from hobbies. Having some male friends would go a long way.
/r/seduction19/09/22 04:19 AM
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Then use Facebook to find other groups. You have a real problem (loneliness) that will only be solved by connecting with others. You need to build a bit of a social circle OR meet women via your hobbies. Or learn new hobbies. Cooking classes are great as well
/r/seduction19/09/22 02:03 AM
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What you described is that you want an intimacy and not sex. But you titled the post specifically as sex
/r/seduction19/09/22 02:01 AM
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You should try to develop hobbies that can be shared. Download the meetup area in your app. I met a really cool girl going to a board game night
/r/seduction19/09/22 12:39 AM
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Going to the gym is good but it’s as basic as a hobby as a person can have. I’m guessing you don’t have a workout partner either so it’s not a social activity for you is it?
/r/seduction19/09/22 12:13 AM
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Oh boy… You’re not depressed because of a lack of sex. It’s more likely a lack of self worth or feeling unwanted. You’ve admitted you have used prostitutes before and it didn’t help you. You probably need to develop hobbies and relationships. That’s a better place to start then thinking sex will fix everything because it doesn’t
/r/seduction19/09/22 12:04 AM
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Depends on your goals. Many Christian women are abstinent so if you’re just trying to get laid there’s a good chance you’ll waste your time. That said if you are trying to get experience and open your social circle it can go well. Beware the women in those groups are often drawn to strong Christian men. Not saying you can’t do well as an outsider but your lack of knowledge of the values and beliefs could come back to bite you Tldr/ do it if you’re willing to learn about the faith and open up
/r/seduction18/09/22 07:51 PM
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Well a lot of people deal with anxiety talking to women. It’s finding a way to push thru that and channel that energy into game.
/r/seduction18/09/22 07:45 PM
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Cool thing reading this is you are extremely self aware. I think you have to work thru your fear of rejection because that comes with the territory. Even the most successful chads get rejected a lot. The key is separating rejection from yourself. Whether that’s a “it’s her loss” or just recognizing you and that person aren’t a good fit. I think supplementing your work with therapy will help having a healthy outlet will be key for you on this journey
/r/seduction18/09/22 07:30 PM
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Yeah I laughed and quickly disregarded that
/r/seduction18/09/22 04:02 PM
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It’s about the average height though. Plenty of 5 9 guys do well
/r/seduction18/09/22 04:00 PM
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He clearly isn’t if he messages them for 3 fucking months
/r/seduction18/09/22 07:53 AM
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It you’re not into her don’t waste your time. As a man your attraction probably won’t grow
/r/seduction17/09/22 06:16 PM
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Those are soft rejections. Move on! Like I said it’s low percentage game so you will need to shoot your shot a lot to get anywhere.
/r/seduction17/09/22 06:15 PM
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Do you even hear yourself? We have convos for 3 months to a year. Wtf are you doing bro of course they lose interest. you ar establishing yourself as a pin pal. You need to ask women out. Establish some rapport and then make plans. Period What you’re doing was destined to fail Sliding into dms is the lowest percentage game. Worse than dating apps. Do you realize how many dms women get a day?
/r/seduction17/09/22 05:54 PM
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When they see you take your shoes off they’re going to laugh at you
/r/seduction16/09/22 06:38 PM
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Nah go to your place. You have control of the situation and it shows assertiveness. You’ll also be more comfortable to make a move. After you get drinks just invite her over for a movie. Simple man
/r/seduction16/09/22 06:36 PM
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Meet her for drinks in public. Bring her home if the vibe is ready. You should always have condoms ready wtf lmao Don’t overthink escalating. You should be touching her often and playfully. Let her grab you if scared. Make eye contact and kiss her
/r/seduction16/09/22 06:32 PM
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I would move on total disrespect of your time and only mild remorse. See if she reaches out. If she does cool. But if she doesn’t don’t waste your time. This forum is full of guys chasing women who aren’t interested in them
/r/seduction12/09/22 11:05 PM
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Correct in the sense that the initial attractive may not be HUGE but can grow. If it’s a strong no at the start Little will change that
/r/seduction12/09/22 06:06 PM
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Distance is your friend here. How can I miss you unless you go away. Usually giving them a heads up about a month before you come back is good. Then make plans leading up to your return If you’re going to be overly chatty with them while you’re miles away it’s going to not go anywhere
/r/seduction12/09/22 03:16 AM
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You’re being downvoted for your weird ass stray dog comment. Paying for women doesn’t make you a king Chad. It makes you a simp if you let them use you lol
/r/seduction11/09/22 09:22 PM
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Why have you been on a date with a woman four times and not tried to kiss her? Wtf Why are you waiting for some perfect moment? Come on man
/r/seduction11/09/22 05:55 PM
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Damn dude. Yes there are some women who expect the guy to pay everytime. Now you have two choices A) decide you don’t want to date that kind of woman and move on B) bring it up but possibly make things awkward between you
/r/seduction11/09/22 05:55 PM
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You’re missing the whole point. You’re making them about them and not you. You’re going to fail miserably that way. Start small. Start talking to them. Get some experience then come back here for more advice
/r/seduction29/08/22 04:58 PM
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DO NOT show up without a response
/r/seduction29/08/22 04:56 PM
10

Don’t sext someone who doesn’t want to actually follow thru. They are wasting your time and it gives off that they are in control of your dynamic. When it comes to your attention it must be earned
/r/seduction29/08/22 05:54 AM
3

Only ask out the ones who reciprirocate interest in you. Being flirty in itself won’t necessarily give you a playboy reputation
/r/seduction26/08/22 07:53 PM
1

What are your hobbies? You should do things that make you happy also having male friends can provide a center of balance when you are dating.
/r/seduction21/08/22 05:43 PM
2

Only one way to find out. Make a move. You have nothing to lose. Ask her to hang out
/r/seduction21/08/22 03:46 AM
2

I was married to a lawyer back when I was working in retail so it’s definitely possible to date up for a man. The key is to not be intimidated by a woman who makes more than you or treat them like they’re some big deal. The old saying is if you treat a woman like a celebrity she will treat you like a fan. If you go on dating subs. Women who are doctors lawyers and professionals say they have the hardest time. A lot of men shy away from them
/r/seduction19/08/22 03:00 AM
2

Just ask then. I think two weeks is too quick personally but you shouldn’t over think things.
/r/seduction18/08/22 07:23 PM
2

Set a second date if you want to see her again. She’s probably initiating so she can see you again
/r/seduction18/08/22 07:21 PM
1

Being involved in social groups and activities. Especially in college all you have to do is join groups
/r/seduction18/08/22 04:59 AM
1

Reading the post he’s not even getting a first orgasm
/r/seduction17/08/22 10:56 PM
3

There are plenty of virgins at 25. Lost mine at 27 and slept with double digit women last year. It’s never too late. You have to get your mental right though. Can’t put the cart before the horse
/r/seduction17/08/22 10:42 PM
2

You were harsh but you were right on. With confidence that low there’s no chance. He needs to start believing in himself first
/r/seduction17/08/22 10:38 PM
2

OP we need more context. Who is this person? Is it a co worker? Friend? Online date? How did you go about asking them to lunch?
/r/seduction17/08/22 10:36 PM
1

Yikes really bad take. It would be one thing if she told him ahead of time she wanted to bring a friend. Just bringing one without saying anything is a version of friend zoning. And it’s 2022. Meeting during the day in a public place is a horrible example of “needing to bring a friend for safety”
/r/seduction17/08/22 10:36 PM
10

I don’t smoke but when I drink it affects my ability to stay hard (whisky dick) Try having sex completely sober and see if that helps. In the event it doesn’t you can escalate to medical Forhims.com has a 💊
/r/seduction17/08/22 10:33 PM
12

If you have zero social skills as you’re implying you’re not going to get sex or a relationship. You need to build social skills. Build your self confidence. Meet people first Don’t get ahead of yourself yet.
/r/seduction17/08/22 07:45 AM
18

Perfect. Get involved. Go to social events. Join a club. You have a fresh start. Meet new people you’ll feel better
/r/seduction17/08/22 07:27 AM
15

You need to meet women again. Are you in school
/r/seduction17/08/22 07:06 AM
2

Avoid the small talk. Invite her over for a day in the future. Give at least 48 hours notice and go from there. The key to fwb is healthy boundaries. People always say “one person will develop feelings” but if you keep it casual and fun that’s not an issue
/r/seduction15/08/22 10:29 AM
1

What a fucking horrible take. No there’s nothing wrong with a consensual friends with benefits relationship - you are both getting some “Two people using each other” any relationship has give and take
/r/seduction15/08/22 10:27 AM
19

This is kind of pathetic. Why would she pleasure you back when you don’t do anything about her one sided behavior You come across as weak and simple. Stop fingering her, tease her with some kisses then stop. She has to learn that in order for things to escalate she has to participate too Have some self respect my friend
/r/seduction15/08/22 02:11 AM
1

Scottsdale is really expensive. I don’t know your financial situation. It also has a median age of 47 compared to Miami which is 40. It has the retirement community reputation
/r/seduction14/08/22 09:44 PM
1

Austin is getting a lot younger due to becoming a tech hub. I tend to think with any big city there is enough volume to find success. Miami would probably serve you well
/r/seduction14/08/22 09:26 PM
4

You’re right women can smell desperation. You have to remind yourself that you’re the catch and your are room needs to be earned
/r/seduction14/08/22 08:03 PM
1

Yeah it’s just lazy. I think people like attention especially when it’s tailored to them.
/r/seduction14/08/22 07:43 PM
11

“I thought I was decent looking and chill” Being played doesn’t mean you aren’t these things. Some people just like getting what they can for free. Doesn’t mean you did anything wrong or anything is wrong with you. What you need to reevaluate is your process. Do you come off as a simp willing to be taken advantage of or can you “be the catch” With women at a club I like to see genuinely interesting from them before I buy them a drink. Are they touching me. Strong eye e contact. Genuinely trying …
/r/seduction14/08/22 07:12 PM
2

I’m 6 3 and didn’t have sex until I’m 27 What changed? I got confident and started going for it.
/r/seduction14/08/22 01:34 AM
2

I swear they come out like roaches
/r/seduction14/08/22 01:34 AM
1

I genuinely don’t expect what kind of advice you expect for us to give you “put stilts on?”
/r/seduction13/08/22 11:35 PM
-1

Yes because they told you that 😂
/r/seduction13/08/22 11:34 PM
-2

Lol yes they specifically start considering guys at 5 11. You’re single because you’re a guy who makes excuses then going out and getting what he wants. This probably the wrong sub for you
/r/seduction13/08/22 11:30 PM
4

He has no confidence. So it doesn’t matter if he was 6 3 women wouldn’t like him.
/r/seduction13/08/22 11:29 PM
2

“Even shorter girls don’t want a short partner” You’re not even that short. 5 9 is the average height for a male in the US They don’t not want you because you’re short it’s probably the woe is me attitude why they don’t want you
/r/seduction13/08/22 11:28 PM
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There’s literally nothing you can change about your height. You can fix the thinking that it’s your height stopping you from getting women Yes being short can stop you from getting some women but a lot of women do not fucking care. If you are handsome, interesting and fun they will fuck you. It helps as a short guy to get in great physical shape. What kind of physique do you have? “The majority of girls at my school or 5 7 or higher.” Bullshit. The average woman is 5 4 there are plenty of short …
/r/seduction13/08/22 11:25 PM
1

There’s no sure fire way. If you want to play it safe. Look for repeat customers and build a relationship with them. That’s how I got dates as a server
/r/seduction13/08/22 10:05 PM
2

Calling you by your first name.
/r/seduction13/08/22 09:40 PM
6

What’s the question? He likes ass, there’s no rocket science to it
/r/seduction13/08/22 09:08 PM
3

Do your research on the library and shot so it’s easy to come up with an alibi for being there. I wouldn’t lie about being a student when you’re not.
/r/seduction13/08/22 05:23 PM
11

Easy work around. Do they have a public library? You can say you’re waiting on a friend as well. If you were in your mid 30s I would shit on it but you’re probably fine
/r/seduction13/08/22 05:18 PM
2

How old are you?
/r/seduction13/08/22 05:14 PM
16

For starters you can’t do anything about the past. You gotta let the missed opportunity go. What you can fix is what you do from here. It’s a festival huh? So you can go tomorrow? Get back in the game
/r/seduction13/08/22 04:29 AM
2

Some women don’t like to initiate kissing. There is a probability she will never kiss you the way you want to be kissed. What you can do is praise her when she kisses you on the cheek and play along. Moan or say how it feels good. I dated someone who didn’t like giving blow mind but my over the top praise of her doing it got it to grow on her.
/r/seduction13/08/22 02:51 AM
2

I’m not spending 100-150 bucks for a hotel to get laid.
/r/seduction12/08/22 03:16 AM
6

You physically escalate during the date which leads to ending the night at someone’s house. Meeting halfway would be an issue because then you are relegated to hooking up in the car. Get drinks close to her place, makeout and ask if she wants to get out of the bar and go from there
/r/seduction11/08/22 09:48 PM
1

You’re too far in your own head. You don’t need to define it anytime soon. You don’t ask someone to be your fwb off the bat. You hook up a few times then define your relationship soon after As for experience. Women generally like a fwb who they feel connected too. Being good at sex is a part of that but some women will tell you they like sleeping with you simply because they’re comfortable around you. You don’t need to qualify yourself. Just enjoy yourself
/r/seduction11/08/22 03:28 AM
1

Karoake would be perfect. Not physically strenuous. Get a private room so you can get lots of eye contact and close to one another
/r/seduction10/08/22 10:30 PM
1

You went out with a girl for a drink it went well. What the fuck is wrong with you? Ask her out again and physically escalate. If it goes well invite her to your place
/r/seduction10/08/22 10:06 PM
2

It never got sexual? Online dating is an uphill battle but that seems like you a problem
/r/seduction10/08/22 10:04 PM
3

Being direct is how you get laid. This is seduction after all. With physical activity I’ve already broken the touch barrier. There’s nothing needy with showing a preference for good hygiene. It’s worked pretty well for me, allows me to take control rather than hoping by luck they invite me inside their apartment
/r/seduction10/08/22 05:36 PM
3

Physical activities. I mention needing a shower. Offering them they can shower at my place. Usually ends in us showering together.
/r/seduction10/08/22 04:37 PM
1

I don’t even remember what you said
/r/seduction10/08/22 06:17 AM
1

Just introduce yourself. You should never just ask out a girl at the gym. You will get comfortable around her with time.
/r/seduction09/08/22 04:10 PM
3

All you can do is post your profile or conversations to get feed back. Most matches go nowhere. I was getting around 3 a day when I did online dating and still went on only 1 or 2 a week.
/r/seduction09/08/22 04:09 PM
4

Your post is going to be deleted for breaking the sub rules. But introduce yourself. Smile and flirt
/r/seduction09/08/22 04:07 PM
1

Where are you approaching and how?
/r/seduction08/08/22 11:43 PM
3

It’s a little hard for us to say with so little information about you. Something that has opened up in my area and works pretty well is speed dating. It’s usually a nominal fee but you get a lot of women face to face to work with.
/r/seduction08/08/22 11:35 PM
1

You have a date Saturday. Text her the day before to confirm then go on your date
/r/seduction04/08/22 06:52 PM
5

When she wants attention you give it to her. That’s the point
/r/seduction04/08/22 06:50 PM
1

I read as much as I could. Stop chasing. You’ll see her around. Look good smell good. Be chill. She might like you again but if you chase her you’re going to run her off. Go meet and see other women in the main time. Oneitis doesnt fucking work.
/r/seduction04/08/22 03:32 AM
7

The long game works a lot better with retail workers than pickup. I have a Walmart online pickup girl coming over Thursday night and it started with us getting on a first name basis. Now she’s always happy to see me and she eventually gave me her IG. A lot of people don’t like to be bothered at work. And there’s also an obligation to be kind to customers. Play the long game for sure
/r/seduction01/08/22 10:55 PM
2

I would do the selfie because it’s a preview of what she’s going to see on the date
/r/seduction01/08/22 04:40 PM
1

Tell her you want to see her again and name a venue to pre funk before you guys go clubbing again
/r/seduction01/08/22 04:34 PM
1

To just ask her out. The more you chat without getting to the point the more likely she is to leave you on read because a woman like her gets a lot of snaps
/r/seduction01/08/22 04:26 PM
21

Not everyone is going to fuck you the first date. But some are open to it. I usually pitch going to my place. If they put up light resistance or agree we will likely have sex. If you never offer it gives off a sign you’re disinterested or passive
/r/seduction01/08/22 08:28 AM
7

I usually guess. It’s a playful way to flirt.
/r/seduction31/07/22 04:03 AM
5

If they don’t follow thru they were never that interested. I always set a date (be aggressive) offer a specific date and place, shows you are a person of intention. If they can’t do that date see if they offer another date (good sign) if they don’t, you offer a similar day. Getting someone to agree to go out with you doesn’t mean much. Making concrete plans and actually getting out does
/r/seduction29/07/22 09:24 PM
1

It’s stressful but it also allows you to waste a lot less time. Something that has helped me is focusing on figuring “when” to pull the trigger. When to make a move. Some women it’s the first date. Some it’s the third. That’s why all advice has to be taken in stride. What works with one is not the answer for all
/r/seduction28/07/22 07:34 PM
1

You have to get used to do that. People in general are flaky. As a man you learn not to count your chickens before they hatch
/r/seduction28/07/22 04:29 PM
1

It really comes down to emotional intelligence. You should get a decent feel for whether someone won’t mind your teasing or not. What you said wasn’t inherently mean and a lot of women would laugh it off. You’re probably using it on women who find you offensive
/r/seduction27/07/22 05:14 PM
5

Your question is super vague What are you struggling with? Like what part of it?
/r/seduction27/07/22 07:03 AM
2

That’s your choice Uce.
/r/seduction22/07/22 07:33 PM
0

Lol why do you do any of that shit? I don’t chase women. I show them I’m fun and if we vibe we vibe.
/r/seduction22/07/22 07:32 PM
2

Lol I don’t care what her boyfriend thinks. She’s fucking me 😂 🤡
/r/seduction22/07/22 07:32 PM
2

You’re not trying to sleep with dudes so who cares?
/r/seduction22/07/22 07:31 PM
2

Why does it matter about the other guy unless you’re insecure that you won’t be able to satisfy and stimulate her interest? If someone has a boyfriend it will come up eventually. Generally via social media. I just don’t need to lead with it. That’s the whole point.
/r/seduction22/07/22 07:16 PM
8

Who said anything about simping your insecurity is showing. Women mention a boyfriend to create distance between you and them. If they don’t mention a boyfriend they want my attention and from there I can decide if I want to give it or not. You’ll learn rookie
/r/seduction22/07/22 07:11 PM
4

Or I show that I don’t care. I’m in control. Women appreciate a man who doesn’t need their approval to pursue them 🤷‍♂️
/r/seduction22/07/22 06:58 PM
34

And what’s to stop a woman like that from LYING to you? If a woman is a narcissist like that. She’s going to lie her ass off.
/r/seduction22/07/22 06:46 PM
243

It’s a dumb question. Just flirt and if she has a boyfriend she will mention it.
/r/seduction22/07/22 03:48 PM
2

Unblock her kid. Running away from her is hurting her twice. Also I don’t buy your storybaabiut the sex worker lol
/r/seduction22/07/22 05:28 AM
3

When they want to kiss they will hold eye contact.
/r/seduction17/07/22 04:32 PM
2

Use the home theatre to play music. I setup karoake. That’s always a hit
/r/seduction16/07/22 09:31 PM
3

Excellent
/r/seduction14/07/22 06:40 PM
1

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Be the best looking version of you. Well dressed. Smell good. Etc.
/r/seduction14/07/22 04:15 AM
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You’re assuming a mile won’t be turned off by your lack of experience. Sex workers take lots of virginities and are more likely to be happy to guide you
/r/seduction14/07/22 04:09 AM
1

Q nightclub in Capitol Hill. Dress well
/r/seduction13/07/22 07:47 PM
3

If you know she’s going to cheat anyways does it matter who it’s with? If you know the guy it’s not cool. But you don’t do 🤷‍♂️
/r/seduction10/07/22 08:36 PM
0

Be direct. That’s a long way to drive. Maybe I could spend the night with you Otherwise it’s a complete waste of time. I would never drive 3 hours unless I knew I was getting laid
/r/seduction10/07/22 04:16 PM
22

I love going out alone. I can follow my hunches more and really “go for it” instead of having to explain to a wing or have them think or follow what I’m doing. It also creates an element of mystery around you. The key is to make sure it’s not a mystery of you being creepy
/r/seduction09/07/22 09:33 PM
16

I doubt you’re the first person to fall for this man, doctors do extremely well in the dating department. Anyways there is still a lot of stigma that come from dating patients. You can try to shoot your shot but I can almost assure you not to get your hopes up
/r/seduction07/07/22 10:23 PM
1

You don’t even have to talk a lot or smile but you should come off as fun and inviting. There are so many miserable people out there a lot of women don’t want to be around someone they perceive is going to drag them down. While it’s fine you stay you need to get comfortable to show that side of you. There are a lot of ladies who aren’t going to “wait”
/r/seduction07/07/22 09:24 PM
1

Right on young man
/r/seduction07/07/22 05:03 PM
1

A harasser bothers a person who doesn’t want them. If you can read body language at all you’ll be able to tell when someone is bothered with you and immediately abort the conversation
/r/seduction07/07/22 05:02 PM
3

Wrong mindset. If you look on Reddit there are plenty of women who appreciate being approached or hit on. It makes them feel good about the themselves as long as you aren’t creepy about it. You have to believe you are an interesting guy with something to offer. Otherwise yes don’t waste your time and leave it to the rest of us
/r/seduction07/07/22 04:57 PM
16

You are teasing them about things they won’t be insecure about. Fat shaming. Body issues are best to avoid. Race as well. Things like forgetfulness and quirks are usually fine
/r/seduction06/07/22 07:45 PM
3

The sub wiki has these
/r/seduction06/07/22 06:36 PM
1

Plenty of single women
/r/seduction06/07/22 05:35 PM
23

I slept with someone for the first time and her comment was “I was dying to see you with your shirt off”. I think it greatly increases your sex appeal
/r/seduction05/07/22 11:31 PM
1

The sub rules ban this. Plus it’s just tacky. Too many guys focus on texting when you can’t get laid over the phone. Texting is to setup dates not have long conversations.
/r/seduction05/07/22 10:22 PM
3

Don’t contact them only respond if they reach out
/r/seduction05/07/22 09:25 AM
28

The miss you like hurt but it doesn’t help you didn’t fuck when the opportunity was there. A friend can’t wing you when she’s not into you, next one
/r/seduction05/07/22 07:34 AM
3

I was in a six year relationship with a former co worker. Instead of putting pressure on yourselves just ask them to hang out outside of work. You can get a better vibe from their interest from there and you don’t have the awkward position of talking another your feelings towards the other person at work.
/r/seduction05/07/22 07:27 AM
1

Your feeling is very real I lost my virginity at 27. And didn’t really hit my stride until 30. I’ve been fortunate to be with lots of beautiful since then. What are you typically doing on first dates? Many dates don’t go to a second but the fact you’re never getting a second sounds like a problem
/r/seduction05/07/22 07:26 AM
1

Very few people are going to feel like they can talk to a stranger about anything. That comes with time
/r/seduction05/07/22 07:17 AM
9

If the distance is a big factor they weren’t that into you. Think about the times you were really into someone. You went through any length to see them. 45 minutes is nothing. In LA you can live 3 miles away and it takes a 30 minute drive to see you
/r/seduction05/07/22 06:05 AM
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If the distance is a big factor they weren’t that into you. Think about the times you were really into someone. The distance wasn’t a big factor. You made that sacrifice because you really wanted to see them.
/r/seduction05/07/22 05:33 AM
1

Keep your incel energy to yourself 😂 Self confidence is the key to anything. When you doubt yourself you’re hesitant and don’t act on opportunities.
/r/seduction04/07/22 11:18 PM
9

It’s always best to approach in a way that is non threatening but gets them to stop. The only times I’ve walked with someone is with a good sell “I’m also going in this direction, may I walk with you?” Just doing it without any assurance could cause someone to feel trapped
/r/seduction04/07/22 06:09 PM
1

This is all correct. I don’t know why people think there is some magic word or pickup line. It’s about giving off an approachable vibe, connecting and closing
/r/seduction04/07/22 04:13 PM
11

At the gym I have a three step process. First encounter I make eye contact and smile. Second encounter I say hello And third encounter I ask them what they’re working on that day The gym is easy because most women go on a consistent schedule
/r/seduction04/07/22 05:51 AM
3

You must be a rookie. You can’t run before you can walk. He needs to build his confidence and these are some simple ways. He doesn’t want to just give up like you have
/r/seduction04/07/22 05:14 AM
1

You’re a mess. I think what you’re doing is shitty but if you’re going to cheer. How hard is it to say you’re doing something for 2 hours while you arrange this all and do what you’re going to dozv
/r/seduction04/07/22 01:48 AM
39

It’s the same concept, your end goal isn’t asking them on a date. It’s to connect even if it’s a how are you. The dates will come with time.
/r/seduction03/07/22 08:34 PM
140

You start by having conversations with women on a daily basis. The cute cashier, the librarian, the girl at the gym. Comfort with women comes with exposure. Once interacting with women doesn’t feel out of the ordinary you will become better at it. Does that make sense?
/r/seduction03/07/22 07:56 PM
6

You have control over the quality
/r/seduction02/07/22 05:26 PM
6

Yeah small talk is a waste of time. Setup that date and take it from there. If you’re having trouble approaching. Liquid courage usually does the trick.
/r/seduction02/07/22 04:49 PM
5

Lol at the post history. Nice try troll
/r/seduction02/07/22 03:54 PM
1

You’re not going to last long without medicine your first time those are just the facts. Buy the condoms that “last long” they have a little bit of stuff to dull the sensation.
/r/seduction02/07/22 03:53 PM
1

Statistically they get more matches. Women are more likely to filter out other races then white men
/r/seduction01/07/22 01:03 AM
28

Black male. Dating apps favor white men statistically but there are women who prefer black men. You just gotta put yourself out there a bunch and expect a lot of rejection.
/r/seduction30/06/22 08:33 PM
2

Only time will tell if it’s worth it. It’s nice to take matters into your own hands though
/r/seduction30/06/22 08:31 PM
4

More important then what you take is what you have at home. I keep a new toothbrush in a box, womens toiletries, a fresh pair of sheets to throw on the bed (this always impresses them)
/r/seduction30/06/22 08:09 PM
1

Definitely do it face to face. You don’t want her to show up on the defensive or feeling weird about the signals given.
/r/seduction30/06/22 05:38 PM
1

No you don’t look like a sucker think how many other thirsty guys are in her dms. Move on. You got the next one
/r/seduction30/06/22 05:36 PM
2

You have a tendency to over generalize. You don’t know what these guys look like. I do. They are average or not so great looking dudes who are likeable and charismatic and do well with women. Simple as that 🤷‍♂️
/r/seduction30/06/22 07:44 AM
6

Defeatist and desperate aren’t mutually exclusive. He thinks has nothing to offer and he’s desperate to get money because he thinks that will help him close Being able to control your income doesn’t mean you will be rich. Some people have the means to get rich others don’t depending on their education level Mindset isn’t an afterthought. It takes a mindset to develop a nice physique. It takes a mindset to be confident. It takes a mindset to develop game.
/r/seduction30/06/22 07:41 AM
9

There are other boxes too like physique, asthestic and style and likeability/charisma I definitely know average looking dudes with no money who are able to get women because they are good with game, workout and believe they can close
/r/seduction30/06/22 07:34 AM
6

Usually guys with the defeated mindset the OP has stay single. Women can smell the desperation on them for a mile away With better self esteem he’ll stop worrying about what he can’t control (being rich) and maybe focus on what he can control (mindset, look, physique)
/r/seduction30/06/22 07:33 AM
15

It’s not misleading the Op thinks if they have money they will suddenly just get women. I live in a big tech city with plenty of lonely tech nerds.
/r/seduction30/06/22 07:28 AM
3

See if she’s willing to meet in a public place in person
/r/seduction30/06/22 06:34 AM
2

Don’t bring up her being single. Flirt with her.
/r/seduction30/06/22 12:35 AM
2

Counseling and therapy. It’s a great way to rebuild your lost confidence. Even if you aren’t interesting on your own you can become good at flirting and asking questions with practice.
/r/seduction30/06/22 12:00 AM
3

Just talk to her. Showing you’re not bothered by her having a boyfriend is a show of strength
/r/seduction29/06/22 11:59 PM
10

Sure bud 😂
/r/seduction29/06/22 11:42 PM
13

Find me one handsome guy who has not been rejected?
/r/seduction29/06/22 11:31 PM
2

It doesn’t mean anything. My mom sends those. You’re going to have to dig deep to figure it all out
/r/seduction29/06/22 11:06 PM
0

I wonder if they are actually in relationships. If a woman has a bf that’s something you should figure out quickly.
/r/seduction29/06/22 11:05 PM
1

In my experience I do arcades occasionally as a first date. Allows for movement. Touch and flirting
/r/seduction29/06/22 11:02 PM
1

If you want to close. A bar
/r/seduction29/06/22 11:02 PM
2

Why aren’t you saying something to them?
/r/seduction29/06/22 11:01 PM
7

We all do. You can somewhat mitigate it by talking to multiple women at once
/r/seduction29/06/22 10:59 PM
20

People have differently views of success. Every guy has to deal with rejection, flaked and dry spells if they say they don’t. They are a liar. However for some people the dry spell goes so long it gets to their head and they have one of those “dry spells” in which they begin to question themselves.
/r/seduction29/06/22 10:55 PM
1

It’s not your nose. There are plenty of people with funny looking noses in a relationship. Like the other poster said it’s more likely your nose is hurting your confidence and that’s bringing you down as a whole. Remember people have different preferences. I have a slight gap between my teeth and my current partner told me it’s one of her favorite things about me
/r/seduction29/06/22 10:50 PM
2

He should consider counseling or therapy. Those are proven ways to work on body image and self confidence short of changing your body
/r/seduction29/06/22 09:07 PM
1

Get the app stitch fix. They have virtual advisors who will help you find clothes that suit your look. I can’t tell without seeing you Even better they will send you clothes to try on
/r/seduction29/06/22 08:49 PM
3

How you look in clothes matters most. Once a woman is seeing you naked you’re already in
/r/seduction29/06/22 08:30 PM
1

Cheers
/r/seduction29/06/22 08:20 PM
5

This is where you can set a value for yourself. If I message a woman on an app and she gives a lazy answer in the first 2-3 messages I leave them on read. Sometimes I get a double text. Some have an expectation that you will “entertain them”
/r/seduction29/06/22 03:46 PM
1

Depending on the hobby some groups see all women. The guest list is helpful in that way
/r/seduction29/06/22 03:28 PM
0

You should see how it is in your area
/r/seduction29/06/22 05:34 AM
0

I said “the meetup app”
/r/seduction29/06/22 05:33 AM
3

Meetup app. Hiking groups to meet women who like the out doors Board game groups to meet women into that DnD and Magic Whatever you’re into
/r/seduction29/06/22 05:23 AM
2

Eh you’re having fear over a woman who still may now not want you. Ask her out. Make the most of her being single
/r/seduction29/06/22 04:48 AM
1

Again some nervousness is normal. You’re not trying to dull yourself completely. Just get to a good place
/r/seduction29/06/22 04:44 AM
3

When you don’t have your own place you need to play the long game. Most women aren’t going to a motel with a guy they just met. Make friends. Connection. Build trust. Then they will invite you over
/r/seduction29/06/22 04:41 AM
1

Exactly
/r/seduction29/06/22 04:34 AM
3

I think you’re overthinking it. If you approach a woman and you actually have a place to be. You can use that to close faster. I genuinely have to catch this subway but I would love to continue this convo with you. The “logistics of show you my remote” is silly. I literally just invite women over if they like you they don’t need a bs reason to visit you If you’re very young I assume you’re in school?
/r/seduction29/06/22 04:25 AM
6

It’s definitely normal. The key is to find a form of self care that helps you get thru it. Some people take a shot before dates. Listen to a favorite playlist. Etc.
/r/seduction29/06/22 04:21 AM
10

No. Liking stories gives off a “fan” vibe so I’ve always felt that’s s bad approach. I instead engage with women who read my stories.
/r/seduction29/06/22 03:54 AM
6

Asking her flat out is creepy AF. Especially if you’re wrong Why not ask her to hang out. You will find out if she has a boyfriend quickly from there
/r/seduction29/06/22 03:45 AM
22

That’s fine you have to start somewhere. The benefit of language exchange is even if it doesn’t work out you get some benefit from it.
/r/seduction29/06/22 03:15 AM
86

Language exchange is a great way to meet women. A lot of libraries and colleges have programs. Music as well. I met a girl I dated last year on the meetup app which had like a board game group. Simple stuff when we think outside of the box
/r/seduction29/06/22 03:08 AM
131

If approach isn’t your style and apps haven’t turned out for you. Your only other option is via hobbies. What are yours?
/r/seduction29/06/22 03:00 AM
4

You may not be able to salvage this one. The thing is even if she wanted to fwb you ducked it up by being clingy and possessive which shows her you wouldn’t make a good fwb You can try to reset. Keep sleeping together but don’t touch her. Show interest in other women. Don’t be all in her business. Who she’s seeing none of your business. You’ve probably lost her interest but if she starts hanging out again. Maybe on a drunken night she’ll consider spending time with you
/r/seduction28/06/22 07:55 PM
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If you are talking to enough women they won’t all leave you on read. Guarantee it 😉
/r/seduction28/06/22 07:27 PM
36

Call her on it. Could be a shit test The “you would be more attractive if you were tan like him” is what would cross the line for me. The woman I’m seeing acknowledges when guys are good looking and I do the same with women and we are cool but comparing one another to them is where she and I would draw the line
/r/seduction28/06/22 07:20 PM
1

Completely false. Now I own a house and can have women over and actually entertain them
/r/seduction27/06/22 06:06 AM
4

This guys just a clown. Take it with a grain of salt
/r/seduction23/06/22 09:39 PM
1

You need to have respect for yourself and break away. There is no sure way to make a person who doesn’t see you romantically see you romantically. Anyone who says so is a liar. What you can do is withdraw your friendship and maybe reconnect down the road. I dated one woman this way. I won’t lie to you Many others and I did and we just never talked again. That’s the decision you have to make
/r/seduction20/06/22 09:40 PM
17

Got to start somewhere. A hello. A smile at someone. Ask a question.
/r/seduction18/06/22 04:50 PM
2

You’re way too invested. This has no chance of going anywhere. Leave her alone and focus on you
/r/seduction17/06/22 08:16 PM
4

There are a lot of people who see dates as a freee meal or drink. You have to figure out if they are actually engaging you and then show you value your time. Ending a date early also often causes the lady to become introspective “was it me” and they will often hit you up. Remember you are always in control. Don’t let that dynamic change for any reason
/r/seduction17/06/22 04:14 AM
6

99% of the time they never fall for you. I’ve had more luck moving on when someone rejects me then them seeing me later and dating then. I had a glow up so that helped.
/r/seduction17/06/22 04:12 AM
6

Exactly this. If you aren’t a good texter forcing it usually doesn’t go well.
/r/seduction16/06/22 10:23 AM
2

He said he’s not serious about her so explain why it’s a big deal
/r/seduction15/06/22 09:10 PM
2

Not a big deal
/r/seduction15/06/22 07:45 PM
2

6-8 days is definitely too long. Even if she was interested she will figure you have moved on
/r/seduction14/06/22 10:34 PM
2

You ask her out and she says yes or no. Nothing you say is going to change her mind so be direct and see where her head is at.
/r/seduction14/06/22 09:36 PM
6

Not everyone likes their toes sucked. The rest of your post was spot on tho
/r/seduction13/06/22 07:18 AM
5

Wanting to take things slow when you haven’t been physical is another word for not that interested. She sees you as a close friend not a romantic interest fwiw
/r/seduction12/06/22 10:23 PM
11

It gives you tools. Some people will use them bette than others. Confidence grooming and game have made a lot of difference for me personally
/r/seduction11/06/22 10:35 PM
3

I wait at least 24 hours personally
/r/seduction11/06/22 08:00 PM
13

Invite her out. Don’t bring up the sec but if she ask own it and play it off. Some women get jealous and that can work in your favor. Don’t talk to them both at the same time. You don’t want the one you slept with to get jealous or develop feelings.
/r/seduction11/06/22 07:53 PM
3

Most first dates don’t go anywhere. That’s just the norm. Did you meet in person or via old. Calibration can work well if you met in person. For online dates. It’s common for people to make up their mind within 10 minutes whether they will or want to see you again.
/r/seduction11/06/22 05:13 PM
1

None of us could know. He could like you. He could have anxiety or be shy. You need more signs then “he looks away”
/r/seduction11/06/22 05:10 PM
3

Maybe you have shit breathe
/r/seduction06/06/22 08:40 AM
21

Use your common sense If someone is a shitty texter. Meet them in person dude
/r/seduction05/06/22 11:35 PM
12

A learning experience. Or we were incompatible
/r/seduction05/06/22 07:35 PM
10

There is none. If she doesn’t like you there’s no magic word. You are on this sub. You should know better. Abundance mentality. Go meet some other women get your ass out there
/r/seduction04/06/22 11:08 PM
4

Expand your interest. Pop culture knowledge can carry a conversation. Get good at asking questions. Asking questions without sounding like an interviewer helps
/r/seduction04/06/22 03:58 AM
2

Next time is fine. You missed an opportunity but if they liked the conversation they will remember yoh
/r/seduction04/06/22 03:50 AM
1

While your life situation is not ideal.I don’t see why any of these things would kill your sex life. I have had women host me. How is your physical shape? How is your hygiene? And how well do you dress? Where are you meeting women?
/r/seduction02/06/22 03:05 PM
5

Grindr. Everything else is majority men and you’re going to have an uphill battle.much easier to meet woman in real life
/r/seduction01/06/22 07:53 PM
2

This is such a vague description
/r/seduction28/05/22 03:30 AM
2

Don’t unmatch people. Hope people match back with you. That’s all you can do
/r/seduction27/05/22 08:31 PM
6

If you’ve approached only three women in 10 months you’re going to be single for a lot more. You have to put in work to attract the opposite sex
/r/seduction25/05/22 08:14 PM
1

I think she will be open to see what the vibe is. If you can be fun and flirty she may sleep with you. She may actually see you as just a friend. The ball is in your court
/r/seduction25/05/22 07:51 PM
1

If you aren’t into bars or clubs. You will have to cold approach. The way you describe yourself women aren’t going to just chase you
/r/seduction24/05/22 04:27 PM
5

Answer completely depends on her attraction level
/r/seduction24/05/22 06:15 AM
2

Yeah ice cream and chill where it is. Give her a location and go for it
/r/seduction20/05/22 10:56 PM
2

You are giving off that you’re a nice guy at heart. Don’t be an asshole and talk about other girls if that bothers you. Attracting women if they aren’t the ones you genuinely want to be with defeats the whole purpose right?
/r/seduction20/05/22 05:35 PM
7

You don’t know who women are attracted to. all you can do is be yourself from the get go and see if that attracts them
/r/seduction20/05/22 05:28 PM
2

They don’t chat over text. They flirt. Establish rapport and bring the girl home
/r/seduction20/05/22 06:54 AM
0

Eh that’s a silly statement to make in 2022. Lots of people are polyamorous so being in a relationship doesn’t mean they aren’t off the market.
/r/seduction20/05/22 03:54 AM
2

Think about how much of an uphill battle chasing single women is. Chasing women in a relationship is even more work tbh
/r/seduction20/05/22 03:23 AM
14

Stop being a pussy and Kiss her. What the fuck
/r/seduction19/05/22 11:47 AM
9

Tell her that it’s important to you that you make her cum and you want her to make sure you get there too It’s fucking simple
/r/seduction19/05/22 08:46 AM
3

She asked you if it’s because she didn’t make you cum and you said it’s not a problem. But obviously it bothers you bc you posted here
/r/seduction19/05/22 08:44 AM
14

If you have a problem with her not making you cum you need to be a man and own it
/r/seduction19/05/22 08:41 AM
1

Anything. Comment on the weather. Ask directions. Compliment them (even better if it isn’t a physical feature)
/r/seduction18/05/22 09:49 AM
1

If someone makes eye contact with you. You greet them
/r/seduction18/05/22 09:43 AM
3

Absolutely. In my experience putting the ball in their court is great because you can forget about them and focus on new connections. Many never reach out but the ones that do are usually doing so because they want something 😈
/r/seduction17/05/22 09:45 PM
3

I don’t know how you expect a bunch of strangers to tell you her intentions. You should assume she is flirting with you instead of missing a potential opportunity
/r/seduction17/05/22 05:07 AM
36

As opposed to just going in for a big kiss?
/r/seduction17/05/22 03:45 AM
37

I usually touch their arm in a playful way or touch their hand when sharing something insightful From there you can escalate your touch based on the reception
/r/seduction17/05/22 03:37 AM
3

Username checks out 😂
/r/seduction16/05/22 06:02 AM
1

Colleges are full of clubs. Join one and it will expand your social circle
/r/seduction16/05/22 03:48 AM
1

Divorce is a long complicated process and depending on where you live it can take months to a full year. It’s fine. Make sure they aren’t living together. That’s where things can get dicey
/r/seduction16/05/22 03:47 AM
1

You can’t know ahead of time. There are women who I assumed my approach would be a waste of time and others who ate it up. The more bites at the Apple. The better
/r/seduction16/05/22 03:41 AM
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Oof I’m dating a woman I met at the club. A woman will take a guy she meets at the club seriously if you’re worth taking seriously
/r/seduction16/05/22 03:40 AM
4

I’ll put it like this. They usually believe they are good looking and that’s just as valuable.
/r/seduction16/05/22 03:18 AM
6

Haha nah I am in my 30s and plenty of women still love and chase “bad guys”
/r/seduction16/05/22 02:00 AM
7

If you’re just going to hit on her on social media using the former is lame. Do it yourself. If you want to hang out with both them at the same time then just let the friend know
/r/seduction15/05/22 02:12 AM
1

I’m sorry but this is reddit. If you have thin skin it isn’t the place for you. Whenever I ask a question I like to show I’ve put forth some effort to ask a question that isn’t answered every 4 hours. That’s just me 🤷‍♂️
/r/seduction13/05/22 01:36 AM
3

It goes both ways. I would argue the reason this sub isn’t as good as it was is new people who don’t read the faq and ask basic questions that are already addressed. I agree we shouldn’t bring people down who are beginners with game but people would ask better questions and get more serious advice if they read thru the resources already here.
/r/seduction13/05/22 01:24 AM
3

Yeah I definitely don’t advocate the “you seem stressed” If someone is stressed the better thing to do is to be a good distraction. Be funny and flirty so they can forget their problems
/r/seduction12/05/22 12:34 AM
2

There’s always a risk of it backfiring. Mirroring is safe because you’re just returning the energy she gives you. Otherwise you’re going to have to deal with being the one who does all the work
/r/seduction11/05/22 04:01 AM
9

That’s their problem. Ignoring women isn’t difficult
/r/seduction11/05/22 03:23 AM
22

Don’t lower your standard. Don’t chase women you don’t find attractive. Treat them all the same. I talk to every woman I encounter
/r/seduction11/05/22 03:21 AM
5

You have to back away and let her chase you. When you are always initiating she has no reason to chase
/r/seduction11/05/22 03:20 AM
32

You treat women the same. I have a set of rules I follow for all women. No one is on a pedastool
/r/seduction11/05/22 03:03 AM
66

For fuck sake. Read the sub faq and wiki. No one’s just going to have a magic 3 words to get you laid
/r/seduction10/05/22 09:02 AM
4

Lmao yeah dude has no idea what he’s talking about.
/r/seduction10/05/22 06:07 AM
2

It’s not your muscles. Women don’t fear muscles. It’s more likely your rbf. I can’t tell what your beard looks like. Being approachable is super helpful
/r/seduction08/05/22 10:40 PM
1

Women have a lot of options. They have a tendency to compare their experience to you with other men they are seeing.
/r/seduction08/05/22 08:04 PM
1

“Just kind of fizzled out” explain what that means.
/r/seduction08/05/22 07:55 PM
2

Did you meet online? If so it’s super common with online dating. When you think about it you are talking with someone while you have no idea of their mannerisms, voice, hell even what they actually look like since pictures can be misleading.
/r/seduction08/05/22 07:51 PM
1

Try out some new hobbies. I used the meetup app to connect with people with similar interest. My board game night has been fun and a cool way to meet women
/r/seduction06/05/22 11:14 PM
1

Reddit search
/r/seduction05/05/22 03:26 PM
4

This might be deleted for breaking sub rules (basic questions) but build sexual tension. Lots of eye contact. Light touching. Teasing
/r/seduction05/05/22 02:33 PM
3

I wouldn’t read too much into their comments. Sometimes women say what they want to think of themselves “I love nice guys” Those comments are often code for “not that interested” If you’re waiting until the third date they didn’t want sex.
/r/seduction04/05/22 08:58 PM
2

You probably friend zoned yourself. When a woman isn’t interested in you it’s best to move on
/r/seduction03/05/22 04:20 PM
3

It gets you in the door for sure. You get more looks/draw attention with a better physique and better dress. From there you still need inner game
/r/seduction02/05/22 01:33 PM
5

He was extremely charming despite being eccentric. Are you a virgin because you’re boring and not very engaging?
/r/seduction29/04/22 09:56 AM
0

Touching (a shoulder or hand) is a great way to spark romantic interest. Sexual joking without being trashy (fine lines as well) One of my more recent first dates when we later connected told me she became genuinely curious to see what my penis looked like.
/r/seduction28/04/22 07:34 PM
4

I wait about 24 hours. Make an invitation for drinks. Good luck champ
/r/seduction23/04/22 04:57 PM
22

The fuck are you asking. Be a man and let her know you aren’t interested or are seeing someone else
/r/seduction23/04/22 04:56 PM
1

You have to get them invested in you first. This works best when you have an amazing time with them then give them radio silence. Their mind plays the same tricks it does on us. “Did he have a good time too? Is he interested? Did I blow it?”
/r/seduction23/04/22 02:24 AM
1

All depends on the vibe man. If a girl wants to make out with you she doesn’t need you to pretend you want to drive around women are highly sexual beings too.
/r/seduction22/04/22 04:31 PM
76

You don’t need to break their heart but you need to project that you don’t need them and have other options.
/r/seduction22/04/22 03:40 PM
1

I usually offer to play some music. Works really well
/r/seduction22/04/22 03:32 PM
128

I would assume he is not a chaser/keeps his distance. Women like what they perceive they can’t have. It’s human nature honestly. It’s why guys who show disinterest draw and guys who chase too hard repel. Obviously you have to put in some effort when you aren’t a Chad 10/10 like this guy.
/r/seduction22/04/22 03:29 PM
1

Usually if I get to the point we are making out in the car. I initiate an invitation to carry on at a hotel
/r/seduction22/04/22 07:49 AM
1

I’ve been honest and finished dates at a hotel. Even better if you finish the night well she will come over next time
/r/seduction22/04/22 06:57 AM
2

There is definitely hope. It starts small. Saying hello to people in public. Not having expectations of long conversations. There will be starts and stops along the way. But it starts with a greeting
/r/seduction19/04/22 06:51 PM
4

Teasing and challenging someone is always a good go to. It can build sexual tension.
/r/seduction19/04/22 04:07 PM
5

Lmao if you want. It’s not a big deal dude
/r/seduction18/04/22 10:31 PM
1

That’s usually a problem on apps. When you approach face to face you have already set a sexual vibe by being forward. On an app they don’t know your vibe yet. Usually on apps we avoid being sexual because it’s so easy for a woman to block or unmatch quickly. On a date you get a lot more leeway because the womens thinking is more along the lines of “I’m out with this guy I ought to try to make it work”
/r/seduction18/04/22 05:44 PM
3

Only one? No you’re absolutely right. I have a ridiculous record of getting a platonic I didn’t feel it text when we don’t go there.
/r/seduction18/04/22 05:32 PM
1

Jesus mate you said it yourself. “It’s my fault for not asking her out already” Well then ask her out before you get ghosted
/r/seduction17/04/22 10:56 PM
5

It’s a coincidence. People make up and break up all the time. Since you’re in college you’re making connections. I got a lot of “get over him” sex in college by leaving my imprint on women with boyfriends.
/r/seduction16/04/22 11:58 PM
15

Like the other poster said being nice isn’t your issue. It’s not coming off as a masculine man. Do you ever ask women to do things for you? Women love to please. I will sometimes ask my dates to pick me up on a second or third date. Ask to borrow an item. Things of that nature. Do we do things for people because we like them or do we like people we do things for? There’s some interesting psychology there. But it can allow you to still be a nice guy but not be such an amenable kiss ass 😂
/r/seduction16/04/22 09:47 PM
1

😬
/r/seduction16/04/22 02:54 PM
1

The don’t kiss them is bad advice but the hand between the leg is creepy and will turn off a good portion of women.
/r/seduction16/04/22 02:53 PM
9

Talk about it in bed. “Is this okay” , “do you like” Some conversations are best had after you have had sex once.
/r/seduction16/04/22 03:56 AM
2

That’s the beauty of game. There are so many women out there all you need is one.
/r/seduction15/04/22 03:51 AM
1

Women just want to be hooked with something that attracts them.
/r/seduction15/04/22 03:48 AM
2

Do you not drink?. Because meeting women for drinks is a much easier way to get lucky
/r/seduction15/04/22 03:18 AM
2

🤦‍♂️
/r/seduction15/04/22 03:17 AM
6

All in your head bud
/r/seduction15/04/22 01:45 AM
17

So would you rather have a babyface and look like a geek? Lol. You make the most of what you have
/r/seduction15/04/22 01:45 AM
1

Should have met her near a hotel or something. Idk why you would invite her to your barracks if you can’t fuck there. Rookie mistake
/r/seduction15/04/22 01:17 AM
3

If you’re just doing coffee you should transition to something active. Walking etc. I hate coffee dates personally because they’re very platonic. Women get coffee with their girlfriends.
/r/seduction15/04/22 01:16 AM
12

If your game is shit you will be awful everywhere you go but you could probably have some success in a country where they think you can get them a green card
/r/seduction14/04/22 10:01 PM
7

Strong eye contact. Usually grab a hand. Lean in.
/r/seduction12/04/22 08:10 PM
1

Lol okay bud you slide in her dms, when she stops responding I’ll try to come up with a fix
/r/seduction11/04/22 08:10 AM
1

Why the fuck did you lie in your original post “I talked to her a bit at school”
/r/seduction11/04/22 08:03 AM
1

Don’t do small talk and get ghosted. Be direct
/r/seduction11/04/22 07:58 AM
1

Invite her to the library. You need to get her face to face to do anything
/r/seduction11/04/22 07:50 AM
2

Sliding in the dms of someone who doesn’t really use insta is usually going to be a waste of time. Why not make your move in person. You say you don’t see her often. That’s different than not seeing her at all
/r/seduction11/04/22 07:48 AM
128

When you’re rich it’s easy to keep a big social circle
/r/seduction11/04/22 03:34 AM
7

Give the iMessage thumbs up and don’t respond. She knew she had plans with you and scheduled an event with friends. Not cool.
/r/seduction10/04/22 11:43 PM
6

She wouldn’t keep going out with you if she didn’t want to kiss you but be careful you’re risking the “I didn’t feel a spark” with this lack of physical touch
/r/seduction08/04/22 10:33 PM
15

You’re asking us the wrong question. Why are you not initiating a kiss?
/r/seduction08/04/22 10:31 PM
2

You’re best off leading with it. I hate to say it but women have no issues getting laid and there are plenty of able bodied men for them to choose from. Because they’re finding out later. I imagine they are using it as an out
/r/seduction08/04/22 08:01 PM
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Not ideal to go out with her and her friend. Sets you in a platonic light. Increase your value by telling her you have plans already
/r/seduction07/04/22 06:10 PM
1

Well let’s be honest if your that offended by what she did and it’s valid (I’m also African American) you aren’t going to be able to salvage this because you’ve already made her feel like shit (even if she deserved it) so you can play it off or show forgiveness or continue to hold a grudge
/r/seduction07/04/22 05:44 PM
1

Why not joke about it. Even though your playlist name was terrible , the songs were great
/r/seduction07/04/22 05:36 PM
1

Imagine trying to use a one paint fits all approach to looking at women
/r/seduction07/04/22 05:35 PM
35

It shows you don’t understand boundaries. No I do not
/r/seduction05/04/22 03:48 PM
3

Yup
/r/seduction04/04/22 10:46 PM
4

You have to have hobbies and interest besides going to the gym.
/r/seduction04/04/22 09:02 PM
11

Slow down. If you go every week why not introduce yourself first and get to the point she recognizes you and speaks to you. If you just ask her out cold your chances are significantly less. I did date a waitress once but we talked over several weeks and she just gave me her number randomly
/r/seduction04/04/22 06:15 PM
14

Then you’re probably not sexually compatible. You want someone more dominant and he’s not it.
/r/seduction04/04/22 05:35 AM
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You’re an adult use your words and tell him. Hey I appreciate you wanting my consent but I don’t need you to ask. Just go for it
/r/seduction04/04/22 05:33 AM
1

It doesn’t matter what you say. Text again if you want to you’re an adult. But just know if she isn’t that interested i doubt anything you say will change that
/r/seduction02/04/22 06:12 AM
1

You have so many resources on this site brother. Use them. No one can give you the magic words to close. Get the basics down like the other poster said then strike when the opportunity presents itself so you can get what you want
/r/seduction01/04/22 07:09 AM
2

You ask her out. Texting her won’t get you anywhere. You have the benefit of her wondering if you asking her out actually means something more. Intrigue is such a nice thing to have in your back pocket
/r/seduction01/04/22 07:07 AM
1

She isn’t interested it’s clear. Move on and it she reaches out then you have a decision to make. Don’t Chase women who put in low effort
/r/seduction30/03/22 02:16 AM
1

Fear based approach. She’s not the only woman in the world and it’s minimal investment to play the long game. I would rather increase my chances to 50% of acceptance then just rush for no reason. That’s the difference between guys who get laid and those who strike out a bunch
/r/seduction29/03/22 04:22 PM
2

The creepy part was him just seeing her and staring but never saying anything
/r/seduction29/03/22 04:16 PM
5

This works great with a stranger in public. At a gym where you go constantly it can backfire. One guy on this sub said he was approaching a woman at the gym and saw another woman he approached before talking to that woman he approached the second time. She cancelled their date
/r/seduction29/03/22 02:28 AM
4

When I make eye contact or someone smiles I do exactly that. Then a nice to meet you, I’ll see you around. The next time I see them they’re almost always happy to see me
/r/seduction28/03/22 09:03 PM
13

Every gym has the guy who seemingly gets along with everyone and knows everyone so I wanted to be that person. I started observing the guy at my gym (an African immigrant) who does this. He’s always making people feel good. “You look amazing, I see your progress” it’s pretty cool to see. Being friendly and introducing yourself doesn’t require much investment. Once you get past the initial. You’re good to go!
/r/seduction28/03/22 08:56 PM
6

Actually if you are comfortable with game you can setup a 1 on 1 hangout where the woman is comfortable. That’s all apart of the vetting process. Most women prefer to hang out 1 on 1 in a public place on a first date. A group setting for many people puts additional pressure on them especially if they feel they need to impress more then one person I’m surprised you weren’t aware of that.
/r/seduction28/03/22 08:54 PM
5

Agree with your first point disagree with meeting 1 on 1. It’s a great way to be intentional and if it’s bonding over a common interest. Even better
/r/seduction28/03/22 08:43 PM
20

Thank you brother. I was pretty bad at this but like any skill. Practice makes better.
/r/seduction28/03/22 08:10 PM
19

You could just go for it but she’s likely to say no and then you’re going to feel awkward seeing her at the gym. Your post is super common here. Read my post. I said introduce yourself and say hello Next time. What are you working on today? Next time how was your weekend Don’t get ahead of yourself though. Go make step one and it will become easy to talk to her.
/r/seduction28/03/22 08:10 PM
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Slow down buddy. Before you jump to asking her out. Start small. All you’ve done is creepily share looks with her. Get out of your head and introduce yourself. Don’t worry about her number. Don’t worry about drinks. Once you’ve approached her 3-4 times and she seems genuinely into it then ask her out. I’m currently seeing someone I met at the gym so it can work. But just rushing to ask them out will make you seem like a creep
/r/seduction28/03/22 07:53 PM
1

I’ll suck them. I have to see them first” Pretty much saying stuff you can play off as a joke if you need to reign it back.
/r/seduction28/03/22 02:22 AM
2

You will never know unless you play along
/r/seduction28/03/22 02:17 AM
4

Don’t over chase the ones you’re interested in. Play it cool.
/r/seduction27/03/22 09:38 PM
3

Most people would prefer to be asked out over text. Allows them to coordinate their schedule and not be put on the spot
/r/seduction27/03/22 09:37 PM
2

Yeah probably a friendly chasing vibe. I try to portray a larger than life character online. And in person give off the vibe I March to the best of my own drum
/r/seduction27/03/22 09:36 PM
3

This is excellent advice
/r/seduction27/03/22 12:55 AM
1

It’s definitely difficult. Do you have any hobbies? I met some people thru a flag football, board game and hiking groups on the meetup app. You’re much more likely to make stronger connections when it is based around a common interest.
/r/seduction26/03/22 11:07 PM
1

If you need that kind of assurance there is a high chance you aren’t compatible due to different communication styles.
/r/seduction26/03/22 10:46 PM
1

Yes, you’re doing too much. While I disagree with advice about not talking at all before a date. You should always pull back a tad, it sounds like you may have talked yourself out of a date. You have already double texted her. The writing is on the wall
/r/seduction26/03/22 10:15 PM
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Some people aren’t good texters. Not always a sign of disinterest. Going on a 1 on 1 trip together is a good hint. Make sure you’re actually flirting with her. You will friend zone yourself if you don’t
/r/seduction26/03/22 09:59 PM
1

Oh you’re asking to see her today? Your post wasn’t clear. Definitely wait until tomorrow. Seems needy
/r/seduction25/03/22 06:25 PM
2

I would choose a more public place
/r/seduction25/03/22 06:16 PM
3

It really depends on who I’m talking to but I usually tell a funny story from my day I usually begin those text after seeing one another twice. By then we have established we don’t mind seeing one another again
/r/seduction25/03/22 04:40 AM
1

I usually send one long text per day. I specifically invite them to respond then usually respond to them the next day.
/r/seduction25/03/22 04:13 AM
2

I observe something about what they are wearing or the vibe of the place
/r/seduction25/03/22 02:06 AM
2

Vehicle.
/r/seduction25/03/22 12:48 AM
3

Step into the real world. Meet some women it’s fantastic friend. You might even find one of high value 😉
/r/seduction24/03/22 06:50 AM
2

Some women prefer stoic more measured men. Doesn’t have to prevent you from being a compelling character
/r/seduction24/03/22 06:42 AM
11

Yes the guy whose game comes from tinder is going to expose me. That’s hilarious. Keep giving them 40 dollars a month 😉
/r/seduction24/03/22 06:39 AM
2

I know them when I see them
/r/seduction24/03/22 06:35 AM
17

Sounds like you got it all figured out 😏
/r/seduction24/03/22 06:33 AM
11

Successful, attractive, worth pursuing
/r/seduction24/03/22 06:28 AM
9

Malls, Yoga, Hiking Clubs, cooking classes
/r/seduction24/03/22 06:21 AM
31

Game is still game. I see plenty of handsome dudes post profile reviews on dating app subs who struggle. Good looks enhance game. They are not a replacement. Handsome dudes are a dime a dozen for high quality women
/r/seduction24/03/22 06:20 AM
2

Silence is a powerful tool against wishy washy people
/r/seduction23/03/22 10:22 PM
2

Try to avoid the message me if you change your mind It’s very passive and not helpful to your cause
/r/seduction23/03/22 10:16 PM
1

are you trying to get back with her or do you just want to be fwb?
/r/seduction23/03/22 10:14 PM
2

Yeah gotta meet in person
/r/seduction23/03/22 06:43 PM
5

Play the long game. A hello everytime you see. Start asking about her weekend. The gym is one of those places it’s safe to become friends before you ask someone out. It’s not like normal pickup.
/r/seduction23/03/22 04:55 PM
17

A lot of women on this sub give shit advice. “Just be yourself!” “I don’t mind a clingy Man” but you hit the nail on the head. Too available is definitely a problem
/r/seduction22/03/22 05:53 PM
2

What are your hobbies?
/r/seduction21/03/22 05:02 AM
3

Yup I lied about my age once. Got drinks casually with a girl and she saw my ID. It’s a harder lie to keep up then it seems
/r/seduction21/03/22 12:21 AM
7

Canned likes are nothing if you don’t have a natural and inviting delivery.
/r/seduction20/03/22 02:48 AM
21

Online dating works it just is very low percentage game. That’s why I don’t bother using it for relationships it requires too much to go right. The key with online dating is to come off high value and have intention. Match. Few messages. Then setup a date. Momentum and striking while the iron is hot are everything
/r/seduction19/03/22 09:49 PM
3

Exactly. Clubs, activities and social circles are how introverts can find romantic connection.
/r/seduction19/03/22 07:51 PM
1

Yeah I’m asking what this dude says to them though
/r/seduction19/03/22 03:53 AM
1

How do you answer
/r/seduction19/03/22 03:46 AM
1

Yup start with hello and gauge their traction whether to engage further
/r/seduction19/03/22 12:14 AM
1

Depends on the woman. Like I said I would still introduce yourself and play it by how they respond to you
/r/seduction19/03/22 12:09 AM
2

Since you work there I would be worried about losing your job. Instead be very friendly. Say hello. I used to work at a 21 and over theatre and occasionally women would leave their number for me.
/r/seduction18/03/22 11:24 PM
3

Yeah ignore her dude. When a woman cancels plans on you. You ignore them until they reschedule. There’s no reason to do otherwise.
/r/seduction18/03/22 10:25 PM
3

She isn’t interested. Don’t even stress about it friend. On to the next
/r/seduction18/03/22 05:50 PM
19

You’re better than this. Move on friend.
/r/seduction18/03/22 09:36 AM
2

It’s over. Break away from the group it’s the only way you will get over her. Pro tip don’t talk to someone online too long. They get comfortable and lose their desire to meet you. Happens every item
/r/seduction18/03/22 09:35 AM
1

It’s important to focus on the process instead of just results. What activities are you doing?
/r/seduction18/03/22 07:16 AM
2

They aren’t mutually exclusive. You can focus on yourself and still meet women and there is no easier place to meet women through a college campus. Yes make make friends. Join clubs and social groups. Get exposure. Unfortunately there are a bunch of wealthy guys on this sub who are not having success with women. Their attitude of “I’ll figure it out later” just delayed the inevitable Work on your confidence now and expose yourself to great women
/r/seduction18/03/22 03:03 AM
2

Don’t focus on messing it up. Focus on saying hello. That’s the first barrier
/r/seduction17/03/22 09:40 PM
1

An invitation for sure whether it’s to see an attraction at the home or simply to get to know one another better. I always give my address ahead of time which works in making them feel safe.
/r/seduction17/03/22 09:34 PM
2

Out of curiosity where are you meeting women from?
/r/seduction17/03/22 06:33 PM
2

There are techniques to work on a mother hen. Are you new to game?
/r/seduction17/03/22 12:10 AM
13

Banter with the whole group. Women are usually more engaging and flirty with their friends then they are alone and often have their defenses up. Occasionally there is a bitch mother hen who can ruin things but you should be fine.
/r/seduction16/03/22 10:23 PM
2

Give yourself some space to find other romantic interest
/r/seduction16/03/22 09:03 PM
13

You’re doing good. Instagram is low percentage game. You have to throw out a lot of feelers and hopefully some bite
/r/seduction15/03/22 06:11 AM
4

You’re overthinking things. The chance your last date goes back to the same place at the same time as you is minuscule. Are you still seeing the last date? If she did see you she wouldn’t interrupt your date. She would want to avoid you too As far as the employees. They don’t give a shit. I used to work at a bar and one guy had a new girl every week. I’m not an idiot, I didn’t bring up past dates when I saw him with a new woman. Why would I ruin his chances on his dates so he stops coming to our…
/r/seduction14/03/22 07:22 PM
6

Your post is common and it’s silly what’s she’s saying. When you have romantic feelings for someone you get over the friendship risk. More likely she loves you as a person but doesn’t want to date you. Have you ever kissed or done anything sexually?
/r/seduction14/03/22 07:16 PM
1

She could but she also probably wants to avoid the tough conversation. I would just assume she wants to be friends until she tells you otherwise. Rejecting someone in person at work seems particularly awkward.
/r/seduction14/03/22 07:12 PM
2

And she still hasn’t. So what does that say to you?
/r/seduction14/03/22 07:09 PM
3

She intentionally didn’t answer your original question. What is confusing here?
/r/seduction14/03/22 07:02 PM
2

She’s not interested. If her answer is whoa and she took the out you gave her you have your answer. She wants to be friends. In the future don’t give a woman an out. Ask them out confidently and make them answer it.
/r/seduction14/03/22 06:57 PM
1

Aside from the fact some women won’t be bothered by your size you have control here. You can’t control your height but you don’t have to be thin. It’s not hard for short thin guys to get physically jacked and become a “thirst trap” especially at your age. Some woman may just thirst over you. It’s a possibility. But it will increase your chances if you give them something to thirst over
/r/seduction14/03/22 06:09 PM
2

“The I hope you and your bf are doing great” is a bit of an odd comment from a stranger. After rejection, I usually just smile and then keep it moving
/r/seduction14/03/22 06:07 PM
1

If you’re not willing to approach or go to bars and clubs. Your only option is online. What else did you expect us to say?
/r/seduction13/03/22 07:01 AM
1

Smile and Google inviting body language
/r/seduction13/03/22 02:56 AM
0

You may have found a wingman. Send a follow up text in two days with a plan to hang out again. Maybe have her over.
/r/seduction11/03/22 07:03 AM
5

Well then it sounds like you answered your own question. You gotta ask her to hang out. Perhaps to a local show or improv night
/r/seduction10/03/22 09:03 PM
2

Play the long game start talking every day. Once she gets comfortable with you ask her to hang out. Simple
/r/seduction10/03/22 08:58 PM
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It probably gives off a vibe you’re trustworthy and good with women
/r/seduction10/03/22 04:25 AM
3

It’s nothing to worry about as long as you keep shit separate. Don’t post dumb shit on social media. I had a co worker I slept with who everyone thought was a nerdy librarian. We went out drinking one night and she was wild and did some wild things 👅 💩 Keep each thing in its own lane
/r/seduction10/03/22 04:23 AM
35

Some people prefer sleeping in their own bed. Or want to avoid the awkwardness of morning breath, no makeup etc. Nothing wrong with it.
/r/seduction10/03/22 03:56 AM
1

Do not pay her ahead of time. Wait until she gets thrrr
/r/seduction09/03/22 09:55 AM
3

I wouldn’t say she’s for sure not interested in you but she clearly isn’t feeling snapping you. Get off snap and initiate a face to face hangout
/r/seduction09/03/22 02:58 AM
5

Simple women have a lot more options
/r/seduction09/03/22 12:15 AM
1

Counseling and therapy. Invest in yourself
/r/seduction08/03/22 11:13 PM
2

The only way to get experience is to put yourself out there
/r/seduction08/03/22 11:12 PM
4

Get really good at telling stories. That’s a great way to get people invested in you.
/r/seduction08/03/22 10:08 PM
1

Start a normal conversation do not bring up her living status. It will raise flags for her
/r/seduction08/03/22 06:32 AM
5

I hear ya I just think of a woman at a club. She gets your number throws it in her purse and never looks at it again until she throws shit out
/r/seduction08/03/22 12:52 AM
10

Seems tacky
/r/seduction08/03/22 12:26 AM
3

If I have to double text 90% of the time it’s a sign of low interest. I’ve never had to double text someone who wanted to see me. It doesn’t hurt anything but one’s pride and some people are happy to do it. I see no issue with it.
/r/seduction07/03/22 10:11 PM
1

You are still in class together right. Ask her to lunch later in the week
/r/seduction07/03/22 02:40 AM
2

I mean you ask her out unless you want to be her platonic friend who she studies with. Go for it You just waiting on her to text you isn’t working
/r/seduction07/03/22 01:51 AM
2

A simple “Let me know when things settle and you’re able to meet” does wonders. You don’t have to walk on egg shells figuring out if she’s actually ready to meet and you can pursue other options in the mean time. Like I said earlier everyone who really was sorry about cancelling on me showed remorse offered an alternative say to meet.
/r/seduction07/03/22 12:46 AM
1

What was her reason for cancelling?
/r/seduction07/03/22 12:31 AM
1

If they offer an alternative day it’s a good sign they want to see you again. If they just flake and don’t say anything. I don’t text them. If they want to This works pretty perfectly for me. The ones who cancel and I try to reschedule they either cancel again or remain super flaky. If they happen to be sick I am a little more lenient but when they say they’re busy or something came up it’s completely on them at that point
/r/seduction07/03/22 12:25 AM
1

No way of knowing ahead of time. What I do is find out 100% of the time. If they aren’t interested they go back to texting and I go on about my day.
/r/seduction06/03/22 11:48 PM
2

None of us can tell if you give off a masculine vibe or not. What I would focus on is you not flirting with women you find attractive. That’s the more problematic thing
/r/seduction06/03/22 06:58 PM
2

Yup this is a good point. Even people who don’t like talking about themselves are usually happy to talk about people special to them. If you can turn that into a connection between you and that person instead of making them just reminisce about someone they would want to see. Even better
/r/seduction06/03/22 05:05 AM
6

It’s going to be a usual part of flirting/dating learn not to think anything of it.
/r/seduction05/03/22 03:02 PM
2

On the hinge sub there’s a photo guide on the sub wiki with ideas of good settings and poses for dating app photos.
/r/seduction04/03/22 11:28 PM
3

The tripod photos don’t look like selfies. It will look like someone took it
/r/seduction04/03/22 11:24 PM
1

Use the sub wiki and search there are comprehensive breakdowns of it
/r/seduction04/03/22 10:56 PM
1

What do you have to lose? I never give women my number. I like to be in control. They have so many options if you put the ball in their court. You get nothing
/r/seduction04/03/22 06:30 AM
1

There is that old saying of out of sight out of mind. He gave her his number at a time she wasnt interested
/r/seduction04/03/22 06:29 AM
1

Doesn’t hurt but be a little more specific. Instead of the vague “you can text me” ask for her number and say you want to plan something
/r/seduction04/03/22 05:32 AM
1

Exactly, until he ignored her completely and shows interest in other women it’s going to be like this
/r/seduction04/03/22 02:15 AM
1

r/ropeplay
/r/seduction03/03/22 02:48 AM
1

Okay so they are possibly interested. What are you going to do?
/r/seduction02/03/22 06:07 PM
5

You don’t. That’s giving her the power. You simply ignore her. Don’t follow up and asking “how she’s feeling” By ignoring her you create a sense of value for yourself. Often they reach out back to you. But if she does not. It’s no skin off your back right?
/r/seduction02/03/22 06:01 PM
3

Too vague It could be romantic interest but who knows sometimes I have been caught in a daze looking at people I don’t find attractive. Mouth hello or give a nod. If the guys have any confidence they are likely to try and approach you
/r/seduction02/03/22 06:00 PM
0

Just make the connection first. That’s step one so she recognizes you. Then you simply shoot your shot once you see her a second or third time. There is no easy way to hit on someone while they’re working. Thats why many people don’t bother. I usually introduce myself and call them by their name the first interaction then the second one ask “do you ever take a day off” then go for a number close
/r/seduction01/03/22 11:08 PM
3

Wait 4-6 hours then change the subject. If she doesn’t respond. Move on
/r/seduction01/03/22 10:39 PM
2

Your job is to tease that out. Strong eye contact and physical touch are good signs she may want to go home with you.
/r/seduction01/03/22 10:28 PM
7

Ghosting is inevitable with communication. People will end conversations for whatever reason. I agree with the other person it’s a little curious you made the Italian joke. Teasing CAN work but it can also backfire with stereotypes
/r/seduction01/03/22 10:15 PM
1

Your fear isn’t completely unfounded but you can get stds from your regular partner. The chances of contracting genital herpes with a condom is less than a 1% risk, still a risk but fairly low. As for the sore on your lip, 67% of people will get hsv1 (herpes of the lips) by age 49. It’s nowhere as bad or serious as hsv2 There is nothing wrong with asking for an std test will it turn some people off or cause them to decline to hook up with you. That’s possible but you should ask yourself if that’…
/r/seduction01/03/22 06:34 PM
1

Hang in there my friend. It’s not easy to get a girl when you’re not in a good mental place. Start there. Invest in your mental health. Go to therapy. Workout out is just not to look good but it should make you feel good too
/r/seduction28/02/22 10:04 PM
1

It was harsh but you probably don’t have value to her at this point. She’s looking for sex and can get it elsewhere
/r/seduction28/02/22 06:35 PM
8

I think you have a small sample size. I don’t think anyone said you have to touch them on the first date but it’s usually helpful. On first dates where I didn’t touch them I am significantly more likely to get the “didn’t feel a spark” text. So no you shouldn’t just grab your date just because but if things are going well it generally won’t hurt and will also improve your outlook.
/r/seduction28/02/22 04:14 PM
11

Because she isn’t interested
/r/seduction27/02/22 05:02 PM
3

You have to no sell it. Ignore her. If she really feels bad about it. She will approach you
/r/seduction26/02/22 06:24 AM
8

You’re assuming they’re not having great dates with others. When I multi date I will have a great date and not want to see that girl again because I’m focusing elsewhere
/r/seduction26/02/22 05:36 AM
2

Instead of fearing rejection. Learn to accept and embrace it. You miss 100 percent of the shots you don’t take. This isn’t a results based business. It’s about the process and that is what leads to results. Get comfortable putting yourself out there
/r/seduction26/02/22 04:45 AM
1

You have nothing to lose
/r/seduction25/02/22 10:06 PM
1

Assuming you’re not a bad kisser. Could be thru are seeing other guys and focusing on those connections.
/r/seduction23/02/22 11:55 PM
4

Exactly. You’ve already made out. Stop being a text buddy and setup a date.
/r/seduction21/02/22 07:06 AM
4

Read models. Check the subs wiki for guides on flirting
/r/seduction20/02/22 05:57 PM
1

It’s always going to depend on the woman but most don’t care. Especially if you’re of an average height as you are
/r/seduction20/02/22 03:25 AM
1

Work out so you can feel good about your appearance. If your height is in your head specifically pursue women who are shorter then you do it doesn’t bother you as often
/r/seduction20/02/22 03:21 AM
1

You can’t change your height so what good does it do you to bitch about it? You’re more likely at a disadvantage because you lack confidence. There are plenty of guys 5 9 who get plenty of women
/r/seduction20/02/22 03:14 AM
1

Yeah I mean if you just want to give up I don’t know why you even posted? Like sure there may be some tall women at your school but the majority of women are around 5 4.
/r/seduction20/02/22 03:11 AM
11

Yup or just kiss them. Don’t complicate shit. As long as you’re assertive you’ll be fine.
/r/seduction20/02/22 03:07 AM
1

Women go for attractive dudes. Height can be a factor but there are plenty of tall dudes who don’t get women. 5 9 isn’t horribly short. Most women 5 to 5 5 would have no issue dating a 5 9 guy
/r/seduction20/02/22 03:03 AM
1

Practice. Go introduce yourself
/r/seduction20/02/22 02:53 AM
1

If you’re waiting for them to chase you I bet you’re giving off friend vibes. Be flirty. Confident and sexual.
/r/seduction20/02/22 02:50 AM
1

Good once you get the look down. Join a club and start meeting women
/r/seduction20/02/22 02:47 AM
3

Work out and get a better physique than the athletes
/r/seduction20/02/22 02:45 AM
2

Nah it can definitely enhance your game. I went from 6 2 165 to 6 2 190 and definitely noticed women staring more. Yes going to the gym isn’t enough but it’s a cheat code that can get you in the door. Especially for women seeking something casual
/r/seduction20/02/22 02:18 AM
1

You learn not to focus on results but your process. If you have the right approach and the person says no. Then you have nothing to worry about or regret
/r/seduction18/02/22 07:30 AM
4

6 1 155 is pretty damn skinny. If you’re that tall you should be able to muscle up What are you saying when you approach women or you message them?
/r/seduction18/02/22 01:32 AM
2

It’s implied it’s sex unless you say otherwise
/r/seduction17/02/22 10:01 PM
1

😬
/r/seduction17/02/22 10:01 PM
1

There are an infinite number of women out there
/r/seduction17/02/22 07:48 PM
3

Don’t ask if they are single. Even if they say yes you have to ask for a number. Just ask for the number
/r/seduction17/02/22 09:43 AM
5

Get a phone number. Start small
/r/seduction17/02/22 09:42 AM
6

Of course the more bites at the apple the more likely you’re going to hit a sweet spot
/r/seduction17/02/22 09:13 AM
17

Only four women? Yeah that’s not how cold approach works friend. Talk to me when you approach 50 women
/r/seduction17/02/22 09:05 AM
4

Women have more options generally especially in online dating where they greatly outnumber men.
/r/seduction17/02/22 08:54 AM
1

I sometimes go passive on the apps. Don’t send out likes but keep talking to other women. The benefit of an abundance of women is you don’t have to put in any effort at some point they just chase you
/r/seduction17/02/22 02:28 AM
3

Things constantly start and end. So I think 2-3 is a perfect number. You shouldn’t get one Otis until she is ready to discuss exclusivity. How many women each guy can handle is up to them but you hate seeing post of guys saying “she ghosted me and I have no one else to talk to”
/r/seduction17/02/22 01:54 AM
2

That’s solid
/r/seduction16/02/22 08:48 PM
0

Show low interest until she agrees to meet.
/r/seduction16/02/22 06:04 PM
1

“No worries, let me know when you’re free” Then forget about her. Rescheduling without another date is often a sign of disinterest. You could also ignore it like the other poster said but the worst thing you can do is try to pitch another day. Comes off like you “need this”
/r/seduction16/02/22 06:41 AM
2

Exaclty
/r/seduction15/02/22 11:48 PM
4

Lol no. Most people who want fwb try to avoid clingy people. Move on friend
/r/seduction15/02/22 10:26 PM
1

Practice and experience
/r/seduction14/02/22 07:06 PM
1

For the love of God no. You apologized. Now you need to give her space. If you reach out to her she won’t see you and it’s going to bother you even more. You already apologized. The ball is in her court. You should be pursuing other women.
/r/seduction14/02/22 07:03 PM
16

Yeah you need to just leave it. Next time a woman does that to you. Don’t show frustration. Play it off then ignore them. They usually crave your attention and reach out
/r/seduction13/02/22 11:37 PM
1

Don’t worry about a conversation. Worry about saying hello.
/r/seduction13/02/22 10:25 AM
1

You shouldn’t focus on the result. Focus on the process. It sounds like your online efforts aren’t going much bette. You tried to say hello and it didn’t go well. That’s step one. You never tried again?
/r/seduction13/02/22 09:02 AM
1

Can you start with just saying hello?
/r/seduction13/02/22 03:32 AM
1

Blunt honest truth? You lack basic social skills and the ability to connect with others. Do you have any male friends?
/r/seduction13/02/22 03:26 AM
1

I bet you could be in New York City and you would have the same issues. When you struggle to connect with people and wallow in self doubt you’re always going to fail
/r/seduction13/02/22 03:23 AM
1

Just setup the date. You don’t need a number to plan a date
/r/seduction13/02/22 02:21 AM
2

No. Moving to fix your dating is unlikely to make you happy. Because if your dating doesnt improve you will feel like shit for moving. Reading your post history your biggest issue is your mental state. You feel defeated and lost. Your mental game is in the gutter right now. What are you doing to work on that
/r/seduction13/02/22 02:18 AM
2

Too generic. I would make a comment on something on their profile or hit them with “would you prefer a compliment or a roast”
/r/seduction12/02/22 09:36 PM
5

There is no not being awkward. It’s a cold open. you shoot your shot and if she’s not feeling it you move on.
/r/seduction12/02/22 09:14 PM
6

Tinder rarely leads to relationships. Most dating apps go nowhere because most women are dating multiple men
/r/seduction12/02/22 06:49 PM
3

No. Asking her out on a date like dinner or some shit would be relationship. You can take a woman out for drinks and that lead to something sexual
/r/seduction11/02/22 08:27 PM
10

Most matches go absolutely nowhere. Abundance mentality. Move on to the next
/r/seduction08/02/22 06:39 PM
1

Third date is a good time to do it. After some heavy making out you can ask what do you think about getting a hotel
/r/seduction07/02/22 10:25 PM
1

Asking her to get a drink after one of your sessions. Simple and effective
/r/seduction07/02/22 09:16 PM
1

There are times it’s appropriate. If you think she’s going to respond to your silence sure.
/r/seduction07/02/22 06:36 AM
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Yes by showing that I don’t care. Most likely they will move on but I had someone last week ask to come over when I never followed up after a shitty date. Your post concerns me because it’s asking ways to chase someone who isn’t interested in you. Never ends well
/r/seduction06/02/22 09:28 AM
1

Just ask her out
/r/seduction03/02/22 09:59 PM
1

Some decent advice. It’s depending who you’re engaging with. Sometimes short and direct gets you further. Not everyone likes the interview questions.
/r/seduction31/01/22 02:40 AM
2

Definitely ask. That’s what this whole thing is about
/r/seduction29/01/22 03:43 AM
5

It says a lot that she tried to hook you up with her friend rather than rejecting you outright
/r/seduction28/01/22 10:59 PM
19

You seem to have dodged a bullet my friend. Happy for you
/r/seduction28/01/22 07:14 PM
1

Get a date so you guys can finally get a Valentine’s Day thing going
/r/seduction27/01/22 05:49 AM
3

Churches are a great place to meet people. I would be mindful of making sure it’s a church you fit in at. Some churches frown on drinking for example. Many churches do events for young singles because they want christians to date other chrisriajs
/r/seduction27/01/22 04:25 AM
3

Have you gone on a single date yet? For the record Valentine’s Day is a couples day. Your first date with this person should come before that. No it’s not creepy to ask them out. It is creepy to try to randomly ask them out for Valentine’s Day though without spending some time together
/r/seduction27/01/22 04:11 AM
3

If she matched with you she probably found you attractive but if she’s beautiful she might get a lot of attention. Approach in person. Be direct and ask her out
/r/seduction26/01/22 09:43 PM
20

🤡
/r/seduction26/01/22 06:50 PM
10

Some women like a blue collar man. People have different preferences. Also depends where you are. Afancy cocktail bar wearing dirty clothes won’t land like at say a dive bar.
/r/seduction26/01/22 09:18 AM
7

The only way to get over it is to DO IT. I wish there was a magic tip but it works
/r/seduction26/01/22 03:55 AM
1

It’s risky. She could laugh it off… or she could take offense you have to gauge her personality and humor
/r/seduction25/01/22 09:26 PM
1

Lol yup yup
/r/seduction23/01/22 09:27 AM
1

How old are you brother?
/r/seduction23/01/22 06:08 AM
2

What is your goal for liking someone else’s picture if you’re in a relationship? Or did a girl in a relationship like one of your photos?
/r/seduction23/01/22 04:00 AM
1

I don’t because it’s not a direct way to show interest. I’m more likely to make a direct comment to them if I see something I like and have something meaningful to say
/r/seduction23/01/22 03:41 AM
6

Your post is common you should read the guides in the sub wiki. The key to getting over it is practice practice practice. Don’t worry about pickup. Just get comfortable talking to attractive women. Start with hello. Work your way up from there.
/r/seduction23/01/22 03:40 AM
2

Stuff low in alcohol like Mike hards lemonade. Dark wines usually go over well for hosting.
/r/seduction22/01/22 06:32 AM
6

If you don’t drink alcohol having alcohol will make you seem like a rapist. Sparkly stuff is the second best. Sparkling Cider. sparkling water. Regular water
/r/seduction22/01/22 06:02 AM
5

It’s cringe. Women with those bios get all kinds of weak one liners. The key is to flirt but pull back that you’re not a simp dick loser. Something like we can get mimosas and I’ll touch your butt but I don’t know if I’ll call you pretty.
/r/seduction22/01/22 12:41 AM
4

You should invest in counseling/therapy. It sounds like you’re not just paralyzed in dating but life in general. This will help to give you some perspective as you pursue healthy relationships
/r/seduction21/01/22 10:14 PM
4

Ignore her and see if she messages you. Maybe is usually code for “if I don’t have better options” or “keep giving me attention”
/r/seduction21/01/22 06:59 AM
1

Good God mate. Give her some space. Text tomorrow and say you had a good time. Not everyone wants to go to your house on the first date.
/r/seduction21/01/22 05:37 AM
2

Wrong sub r/teens
/r/seduction21/01/22 05:25 AM
1

I think it matters what his long term goal is. Does he want to get laid? Set up a date. Ignore her until the date comes. Just ignoring her completely has some risk.
/r/seduction21/01/22 12:50 AM
1

Usually something out of the shower
/r/seduction21/01/22 12:43 AM
1

That’s a fair take but he can set up the date and go cold so she chases him.
/r/seduction20/01/22 10:35 PM
1

You don’t need her to sit close to you to touch her. Move closer to her. See if she reciprocates
/r/seduction20/01/22 09:59 PM
1

Nice rebuttal. Momentum is valuable in dating. If a woman is super into you there is nothing wrong with seeing her often. It’s a great way to escalate
/r/seduction20/01/22 09:15 PM
7

It’s more about “not chasing” so initially you will make the effort or show interest and then women will like you and reach out to you because they want more of you or to see you more. But no unless you’re extremely attractive just sitting in a bar or coffee shop isn’t going to get you laid.
/r/seduction20/01/22 08:11 PM
2

You must have won her over. Good job
/r/seduction20/01/22 06:49 PM
5

There is no magic advice. Therapy and practice. If you struggle with confidence and anxiety you can see a counselor for that. If you struggle with flirting you need to practice. Approach and expose yourself to women until it becomes normal. expect to fail a lot. It worked for me
/r/seduction20/01/22 06:34 PM
3

There’s no reason to wait if they clearly want to see you again
/r/seduction20/01/22 06:33 PM
7

I can’t say how many times I asked for a picture. Got a normal photo 25% of the time but the other 75% people it’s nudes or lingerie.
/r/seduction20/01/22 10:02 AM
3

Yup it’s a myth to think every women will end up or want to be with you. Some are just a waste of time and it’s best to move forward
/r/seduction20/01/22 09:56 AM
1

When I get flaked on. I tell them to let me know when they can reschedule and then I go ghost.
/r/seduction18/01/22 10:33 PM
2

You’re not my type. I avoid incels
/r/seduction18/01/22 07:54 PM
3

Yes, continue to brag about being alone. Clearly you’re in a good place 😂 I must be living rent free in your head if you need to dive into my post history 😂
/r/seduction18/01/22 07:44 PM
5

Enjoy another night alone buddy
/r/seduction18/01/22 07:34 PM
3

Who said the drink has to be alcoholic? 🤡 And grabbing a beer with a co worker doesn’t make you an alcoholic. Damn when did incels try to take over this sub?
/r/seduction18/01/22 07:29 PM
1

You’ve never gone out for a drink with a co worker before after a long day? Damn 😂
/r/seduction18/01/22 07:18 PM
3

You’re over thinking it mate. If they want to date you when you ask doesn’t matter. End of shift is best because it doesn’t leave an awkward end if they decline or are busy. You don’t need some build up to it. It’s drinks. Not some big ass dinner date
/r/seduction18/01/22 05:55 PM
3

What’s did your therapist say about your fear
/r/seduction18/01/22 05:47 PM
6

Go get a drink with them. Drinking can lead to more but it’s also an innocent thing to do with colleagues
/r/seduction18/01/22 05:46 PM
4

Are you in therapy? Male or female ?
/r/seduction18/01/22 05:46 PM
5

She’s probably either not interested or not into small talk. You should have asked her out like the other poster said. The texting buddies usually doesn’t benefit you or her
/r/seduction18/01/22 04:51 PM
2

You’re way too passive. Passive men struggle to get laid. Simple as that
/r/seduction17/01/22 07:06 PM
2

Comment on something in their profile? Ask a question or tell a funny story.
/r/seduction16/01/22 06:03 AM
2

Why that happened is hard to say. Maybe she got cold feet. It’s possible she’s seeing someone else. I wouldn’t stress about it. It’s unlikely anything that YOU did wrong.
/r/seduction15/01/22 11:03 PM
2

Flirting is a skill which means it’s best learned thru Trial and error Every guy is different. learn to flirt with different people and styles.
/r/seduction14/01/22 07:35 PM
1

Take public transportation or Uber/Lyft assuming you’re in the US or UK. Just meet her somewhere if you’re embarrassed that you don’t drive just get there super early If public transportation isn’t early m: Why do you have to tell your parents you’re meeting a girl? Just say you’re meeting a friend.
/r/seduction14/01/22 06:26 PM
16

Yeah well there’s your answer. You have to put yourself out there to escalate. You don’t need to grope them. Start simple. Grabbing their hand. Patting their arm. If they’re into it they will reciprocate and you go from there. Sounds like you’ve been firmly friend zoning your damn self
/r/seduction14/01/22 12:37 PM
1

Texting is pointless. Not everyone likes small talk over text. Setup a time to hang out
/r/seduction13/01/22 11:43 PM
2

Get lost troll
/r/seduction13/01/22 10:08 PM
1

Someone who tries to prevent you from hanging out with other women
/r/seduction12/01/22 10:53 PM
1

Bad communication Rush to exclusivity On the phone when we are together
/r/seduction12/01/22 10:25 PM
2

Society is moving sex positive. You will only be seen as a creep if you do creepy things. I am pretty forward about what I want and most women find it refreshing compared to men who pretend they want a relationship but don’t
/r/seduction12/01/22 10:19 PM
5

If she liked you she would give off more nervous energy the dismissive. You may just have something about you that turns her off. I wouldn’t obsess about it. I would either ignore her too introduce yourself.
/r/seduction12/01/22 09:26 PM
3

You’re putting the cart before the horse. Your focus should be on building attraction. You don’t need to tell a woman you’re a virgin or never kissed someone until you actually. You don’t need to tell them you don’t have friends. These are things you should talk to a counselor about. A woman doesn’t need to be your therapist. Especially before you’re even fucking dating
/r/seduction12/01/22 09:09 PM
1

Well then stop over texting her before you talk yourself out of a date
/r/seduction12/01/22 07:24 PM
1

Then why did you ask? It’s not needy to ask a “am I seeing you or not text”
/r/seduction12/01/22 07:21 PM
8

I would say “if we are still on, let me know.” Then ignore her for good until She gets back to you
/r/seduction12/01/22 12:51 PM
3

The best way to not overthink is to avoid ambiguous language. Be direct. “Let’s grab a drink on Thursday.” Doesn’t leave soon much hanging in the air. And her answer will make it clear what she thinks of you
/r/seduction12/01/22 07:05 AM
3

Absolutely not. Some women are actually attracted to acts of service. It’s a known love language. go for it!
/r/seduction11/01/22 11:27 PM
4

You said it best you need to be yourself if a woman wants a hip hop dude and you’re not it then you’re not compatible end of story. There are plenty of black women who like brown guys. My sister is married to one and he’s a comic book nerd. But you just need to find one who likes you. Dressing well and having a good physique will help
/r/seduction11/01/22 08:47 PM
2

Stop texting her at this point. She will let you know if she’s serious about you (or not)
/r/seduction11/01/22 08:42 PM
5

It’s legitimate in some cases. Not everyone is on their phone every time. My ex was like that she would always leave it in another room. But it’s 90% of the time disinterest yes
/r/seduction11/01/22 08:41 PM
3

She may be a bad texter or she’s not interested. The real question is why have you not asked her out yet
/r/seduction11/01/22 08:25 PM
2

Be creative.
/r/seduction11/01/22 06:47 PM
6

Yeah drop the hi how are you doing. It’s boring. And on tinder some women get 50-100 matches a day. They aren’t responding to hi how are you unless you’re really good looking
/r/seduction11/01/22 10:54 AM
3

Go meet women in the real world. Tinder is low percentage game. What are you saying to people after you match?
/r/seduction11/01/22 10:50 AM
3

When you practice approaching it becomes less of a “I’m going to try and win this person over” and you start just seeing how people react to you I don’t get too high when people react positively to me and I don’t get too low when they react negatively to me
/r/seduction10/01/22 11:17 PM
1

I only drink socially and specifically not parties. I added it to my dating life and it’s helped. If you have a serious fear or issue with drinking don’t change! But the way I see it I can have one drink a week and still maintain my physique. I also avoid heavy calorie stuff like beer and usually just get a cocktail
/r/seduction10/01/22 10:06 PM
1

Then own it as your anxiety. You’re thinking “what if she interested” or “what if I’m imposing” these are your fears projected on them. Most people don’t mind being approached if they aren’t interested they will soon let you know
/r/seduction10/01/22 09:43 PM
1

I used to not drink at all and it was a lot harder to get hookups. Do you have a particular reason you don’t drink? Drinks in a public place is a great way to build attraction, break the touch barrier etc.
/r/seduction10/01/22 09:13 PM
1

Go for drinks but order a non alcoholic drink. I don’t do coffee dates anymore unless I want something long term. Doesn’t really put them at ease.
/r/seduction10/01/22 08:47 PM
1

It may be challenging for some women to see you as masculine in those settings. Especially with you sharing that your goal is to have friends and let them hint at their own that they want to be with you. If they see you as passive you will quickly become the gay best friend
/r/seduction10/01/22 02:10 AM
2

There are plenty of mid level apartments. Find a solid place close to the city. Will help your dating life.
/r/seduction09/01/22 11:00 PM
4

If it’s killing your confidence. The money will be well spent to get out of your parents place. You’re clearly in your head about it. A phone call might work with someone who is lukewarm or low interest. But just out of the blue? It’s more likely shooting yourself in the foot.
/r/seduction09/01/22 09:15 PM
8

Definitely agree with the other poster the phone call was a really bad idea. Most people don’t like talking to dating app strangers on the phone. You can tell her attitude towards you changed as soon as you asked. You got the date. What do you need a phone call for?
/r/seduction09/01/22 08:57 PM
1

🤡
/r/seduction09/01/22 07:03 PM
1

If I do send a second test it’s always light hearted
/r/seduction09/01/22 07:03 PM
3

It’s really pointless. Send a meme or two but just keep contact until you can actually do something. Most people have little to no interest at all in a pen pal tbh
/r/seduction09/01/22 05:48 AM
2

It would be the first week of January but the maybe means she probably isn’t interested.
/r/seduction09/01/22 05:47 AM
1

Depends on how long we’ve been together. If we are living together. I usually pay my own fair and then pay our expenses for the actual trip otherwise
/r/seduction08/01/22 06:13 PM
11

On a one off never. If I go to a restaurant and I and the waitress become on a first name basis. I might get their number. But by then we’ve established some rapport
/r/seduction08/01/22 05:08 AM
40

Got to rebuild your confidence. Get in the gym. Do you have any hobbies?
/r/seduction08/01/22 04:32 AM
1

This probably isn’t the sub for you r/confidence
/r/seduction07/01/22 11:31 PM
1

Do you watch shows? Do you have any creative talents?
/r/seduction07/01/22 11:21 PM
1

What are your hobbies
/r/seduction07/01/22 11:16 PM
2

Your first message should briefly remind them who you are and then yes it’s a good idea to transition into asking for a drink. Many women don’t care for small talk and because you didn’t engage online you should assume they do not until they prove otherwise
/r/seduction07/01/22 08:46 PM
4

You’re using small talk when you made a power move in getting their number. It’s like going backwards. If you were aggressive enough to ask for the number. You should get to the point in setting up your date. Ask them to grab a drink with you on Saturday. If they aren’t available they should pitch an alternative date
/r/seduction07/01/22 08:29 PM
2

🤣 your tears are delicious troll
/r/seduction06/01/22 09:19 PM
2

This meltdown is priceless 😂 Let me get some 🍿
/r/seduction06/01/22 07:23 PM
5

😂 I’m not poor at all I live rent free in your head 🤡
/r/seduction06/01/22 06:41 PM
2

Lol did it strike a nerve with you? Must be lonely and single. I see why. You have the social skills of a rock 😂
/r/seduction06/01/22 06:04 PM
21

Very well said. The truth is you should always be improving yourself so there should never be a point you’re like “I’ve done it all now I’m gonna go find me one” The people with that attitude often post here “I did everything and I still don’t have a woman” as if that checklist is what was stopping them the whole time
/r/seduction06/01/22 10:20 AM
5

It’s not confusing. She lost interest. This is pretty common. It’s not your fault. You did nothing wrong. First dates are a double edged sword. Their interest can go up but a lot of the time it will go down.
/r/seduction06/01/22 10:00 AM
58

What are your hobbies? Joining a social group be it hiking or running is a great way. I met a girl I’m dating in a flag football group
/r/seduction04/01/22 08:30 PM
1

Don’t add on socials. Get on a first name basis. Then ask to hang out.
/r/seduction02/01/22 07:58 AM
3

Talk to them a few times. Build rapport. I have asked out people working with some success and some not. The more you see them the less weird it is. I never recommend just randomly asking out some girl who is working personally.
/r/seduction02/01/22 04:29 AM
9

I never invite them over right away. A lot of them probably get cold feet. Get a drink near your place. Then invite them over. Much better success rate than that
/r/seduction02/01/22 02:48 AM
2

Some will but some women are turned off by cops, military, etc. pretty much any job. It also wont necessarily be because you’re a nurse rather the insane hours and stress. As for how women treat you at work you’re asking the wrong sub. Act like a dominant masculine male and you’ll be fine
/r/seduction01/01/22 07:02 PM
14

Your mindset is completely wrong. As long as you are respectful and take a decline in stride should it come most women don’t mind or even appreciate being approached. It makes them feel attractive
/r/seduction01/01/22 06:09 AM
1

There are some great guides to gaming in a bar if you search the sub
/r/seduction01/01/22 02:40 AM
1

Stop thinking you need to fix something. You asked her out most women don’t mind being asked out as it happens often. She wasn’t interested. You shot your shot and you move on. Abundance mentality dude
/r/seduction31/12/21 10:48 AM
1

You’ve got it all wrong. You don’t tell someone you would potentially date you have a boyfriend She’s not interested in you.
/r/seduction31/12/21 10:47 AM
2

I’m not sure how you expect some strangers on the internet to tell you. You have nothing to lose. Ask her out
/r/seduction29/12/21 06:30 PM
0

The intro is weird like your tipping a fedora and saying M lady
/r/seduction29/12/21 11:17 AM
12

Instead of taking a single photo. Take a burst. Out of 15-20 there should be 1 or 2 that look normal
/r/seduction29/12/21 05:31 AM
1

Wrong sub r/r4r
/r/seduction29/12/21 05:30 AM
1

You have a little bit of tension because you haven’t kissed yet. That’s not a bad thing. You’re good yeah for some women if you don’t kiss them by the end of the second date you will definitely friend zone yourself.
/r/seduction29/12/21 05:23 AM
1

Not necessarily. A lot of women find it cute when a man doesn’t kiss them the first date. I don’t know if you missed an opportunity or if it never presented itself. If she goes out with you again that would be a clear sign she wants one.
/r/seduction29/12/21 05:07 AM
2

You should initiate with a nice embrace when you see her again. Some good extended eye contact. By the end of date two there isn’t any reason you shouldn’t seal with with a kiss
/r/seduction29/12/21 04:59 AM
4

Stop overthinking it dude. She’s asking you out. You fucking go and take it from there Just because she’s bisexual doesn’t mean she’s any different romantically. Many bisexual women prefer men
/r/seduction28/12/21 11:27 PM
3

Stop double texting! You’re coming off needy. She’s probably not a good texter or not interested. Like the other poster said. Secure a date. Otherwise stop wasting your fucking time
/r/seduction28/12/21 11:08 PM
1

An attractive women will get several matches a day and in balancing a social life will only agree to meet up with some of the guys. There’s a good chance she likes your attention but doesn’t want to actually meet you If you ask someone out in OLD and they are flaky about meeting there’s a high chance it will never happen
/r/seduction28/12/21 10:41 PM
2

Attraction is a spectrum — while some women would be repulsed by him some women are drawn to eccentric types.
/r/seduction28/12/21 09:24 PM
2

For sure but she just gave him snap. Probably had a premium Snapchat she was trying to sell
/r/seduction28/12/21 06:58 PM
2

The discussion here was how to avoid fake profiles. There’s a big difference between adding someone you’ve actually connected with on social media versus just adding someone’s social media only later to find out they’re not a real profile
/r/seduction28/12/21 06:53 PM
2

Glad it’s working for you. I would much rather not be in a sea of other guys sliding in the dms. The number is more direct and shows you mean business. But keep doing you
/r/seduction28/12/21 06:48 PM
3

Don’t add them on social media. You get a phone number or a date. Nothing else is worth it.
/r/seduction28/12/21 06:38 PM
2

Check in but don’t talk too much that you talk yourself out of a date.
/r/seduction28/12/21 06:27 PM
13

It’s more about them being much more likely to decline or flake
/r/seduction27/12/21 04:33 AM
27

It’s generally a bad idea to take someone on an attraction date as a first date. The ideal first date is drinks or coffee. To make sure they are even a person you want to spend extensive time with. Go on a few dates FIRST then hit her with that
/r/seduction27/12/21 04:10 AM
52

Definitely best to play dumb. Even in regular dating there’s the saying treat a woman like a celebrity and she will treat you like a fan. A big reason famous people date other famous people is they treat one another as peers
/r/seduction26/12/21 09:18 PM
0

You’re good. The mods will decide. It’s fine to talk about sex here but usually in terms of seduction. Your post is specifically about riding, no biggie bro
/r/seduction22/12/21 07:33 AM
3

😂 r/sex
/r/seduction22/12/21 07:26 AM
3

The friend zone definitely exist. But I agree there is no timeline for it.
/r/seduction22/12/21 05:26 AM
9

It doesn’t matter but it never hurts to pay for a date (if you can afford it)
/r/seduction21/12/21 07:47 PM
5

Gotcha. Push pull method. Instead of just pursuing constantly like other men. You pursue a bit and then pull away.
/r/seduction20/12/21 08:33 AM
6

Then it shows where you stand with her
/r/seduction20/12/21 08:30 AM
-8

Don’t show her that you’re completely romantically interested in her. Create a sense of doubt in her mind.
/r/seduction20/12/21 08:23 AM
1

So what did you say next?
/r/seduction18/12/21 06:39 PM
2

She didn’t even dignify you with a verbal response. She seems not interested
/r/seduction18/12/21 06:12 PM
4

They aren’t mutually exclusive. Many like both.
/r/seduction18/12/21 05:12 PM
26

Totally depends on her reasoning. If she tells you “I don’t get a romantic vibe” then she just doesn’t want you at all.
/r/seduction18/12/21 12:48 AM
7

Reddit is one of the loneliest places lol
/r/seduction16/12/21 04:20 AM
35

Yeah maybe it’s not coming off natural. Are you using it in all social situations, including when you’re not around a woman you’re romantically into?
/r/seduction15/12/21 10:42 PM
171

It could be many things but you could do some research into strong posture, eye contact, body language to aid the vibe you’re giving off.
/r/seduction15/12/21 10:36 PM
3

She wasn’t interested in you
/r/seduction13/12/21 11:51 PM
19

Watch Don John
/r/seduction13/12/21 07:32 PM
4

“Too direct” is not a thing if you’re serious about closing here. You don’t need even need her snap to ask her out. Message her on Ig and pitch going out to eat again. Make it simple
/r/seduction13/12/21 06:54 PM
15

30 minutes
/r/seduction13/12/21 07:41 AM
7

You’re in your own head mate. Women will give you a sign and it’s up to you to take it. When she touched your leg you should have made the move. It almost sounds like because she made the move you felt emasculated and weren’t feeling it
/r/seduction13/12/21 06:55 AM
2

So you have asked her out multiple times and she says she’s busy without offering an alternative day? There’s a great chance she’s simply not interested in you. In my experience when a woman can’t meet on a day I pitch if they’re interested they will pitch an alternative. “Gosh I’m not free Sunday but how about friday?”
/r/seduction12/12/21 08:18 PM
52

You can’t change someone especially an attention seeker. I think it could be a compatibility issue. My question is why does someone who post a lot of selfies bother you. Do you feel insecure. Do you feel like she wouldn’t be loyal to you?
/r/seduction10/12/21 08:33 PM
2

Women have a lot of guys allude to asking them out but never actually do it. Showing your serious and know what you want is an extension of confidence I don’t do food until the third date. I like a drink, a hands on activity that allows us to break the touch barrier or seeing an attraction.
/r/seduction10/12/21 07:15 AM
2

Compliment non facial features. Observe the weather. Joke about something going on. Things that make her comfortable you’re not a creep
/r/seduction10/12/21 06:41 AM
1

A drink is totally fine. But definitely take ownership. Pitch a time and place. If she wants to go she will counter offer. The whole “when are you free” crap will just do what happened the first time you guys tried to plan something
/r/seduction10/12/21 06:24 AM
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Beware of needy energy. I cringed at “I wanted to kiss those lips a little more” She can tell you like kidding her. You kept going for it. Wait a day or two then ask her out again My hope is she does want to see you again but sometimes womens opinion can change after a first date. Especially if it’s overly affectionate.
/r/seduction10/12/21 06:14 AM
2

My method is offer a date 3 days out. When they can’t make that day but reschedule it shows they are interested. When they say they’re busy and don’t counter offer it’s usually a sign of lukewarm or no interest
/r/seduction09/12/21 09:30 AM
1

“Friends” we are discussing cold approach
/r/seduction09/12/21 03:19 AM
5

Yeah familiarity breeds comfort. You are absolutely correct to start with small goals. Then the big goal will become achievable
/r/seduction09/12/21 12:19 AM
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Asking for her number in this manner can be construed as platonic. It’s better to ask her out. Now you could ask her in that moment but in my experience women usually plan their days ahead of time. I would ask her if she would like to get food sometime and if she agrees then pitch possibly going at that moment but with an eye on doing it later.
/r/seduction08/12/21 11:24 PM
1

Nah when you approach quality women with basic compliments they get them all the time so it has little value or impact
/r/seduction08/12/21 10:27 PM
1

My results speak for themselves. My approaches work because I put thought into what I say. You keep coming up with low effort lines with the ladies buddy.
/r/seduction08/12/21 08:54 PM
5

He said that was his opener in day game. That’s totally different than club game.
/r/seduction08/12/21 07:38 PM
-1

It sure does. This guy is proof 🙄 lol
/r/seduction08/12/21 07:32 PM
-6

Observational humor. Works every time
/r/seduction08/12/21 02:59 PM
33

“I came to say I think you’re cute” how can a woman respond to that besides thank you or being weirded out? Your opener should cause them to think so that they can engage with you
/r/seduction08/12/21 02:35 PM
63

This is a vent post so I’ll let it be but you are sending five paragraph conversations? No wonder you are getting ghosted. Women want to go out with men who ask them on dates. You’re going up to women in day game and telling them their attractive? Yeah that’s going to make them fall for you…
/r/seduction08/12/21 09:31 AM
5

Well if you can’t approach them why does it matter if they’re checking you out. If they’re going to be afraid to do it you have to be the one to step up
/r/seduction08/12/21 03:15 AM
2

You ask her to get together when she is in town. It’s simple as that. If she’s just lonely and wants attention she won’t agree to see if you. If she wants to see you you know it’s worth pursuing
/r/seduction07/12/21 08:24 AM
3

If you’re going to criticize his comment you should explain Why
/r/seduction04/12/21 09:57 AM
3

This is good advice
/r/seduction04/12/21 08:28 AM
32

You went on three dates and never kissed? That’s very platonic of you. It’s most likely that you never escalated physically. I get it she rejected you the first date but if you’re not at least kissing by your second date it’s probably going nowhere.
/r/seduction04/12/21 07:10 AM
5

Sounds like you have some answers on your own. Definitely try to engage in non male dominated activities. Join clubs with women in them. You said the average age is older than you at your college. Are you 16 or something?
/r/seduction03/12/21 09:37 PM
3

Keep going. Invest in yourself and don’t date with the fear of being broken up with
/r/seduction03/12/21 12:29 PM
2

Doing any counseling or therapy Uce?
/r/seduction03/12/21 12:27 PM
1

Well you came here for advice. Explain
/r/seduction03/12/21 12:02 PM
1

Is she the one who ended things
/r/seduction03/12/21 11:54 AM
7

You want to show yourself as high value. Remember that old saying absence makes the heart grow fonder. Tell a woman no sometimes. Tell them you’re busy. Generally they will pursue you harder
/r/seduction03/12/21 10:19 AM
6

Don’t worry about asking them out. Start with hello
/r/seduction02/12/21 10:14 PM
37

You seem to be focusing on eye contact my advice to you would be to switch your focus to interaction a woman can eye fuck you to death but unless you approach it’s pointless. Instead of focusing on holding eye contact. Just say hello. You need to do just step one. I don’t believe you need to hold eye contact to exert dominance or anything silly like that. You need to act on the fact you caught their eye. Does that make any sense
/r/seduction02/12/21 09:55 PM
4

I used it to show myself as high value. Doing fun stuff. Nice restaurants. Around women and men . But no you shouldn’t be sliding in dms.
/r/seduction02/12/21 11:05 AM
3

Nah there is lots of bad advice on this sub but plenty of good advice too
/r/seduction01/12/21 11:40 PM
4

For me it’s either a few months or multiple years. No in between
/r/seduction01/12/21 11:33 PM
21

Stop overthinking it. Introduce yourself. Since you work together you can play the long game. Get her name and give yours. Next time you see her talk more. You’re killing yourself because you haven’t taken step one.
/r/seduction01/12/21 11:28 PM
4

Right 😂 Dude asking like there’s a magic one liner
/r/seduction01/12/21 08:29 PM
3

Great advice
/r/seduction01/12/21 08:29 PM
3

Your post might get deleted for breaking the rules about basic questions but I’ll say this. Don’t worry about lines. Be good at noticing situations and making comments and observations about them and your surroundings . Search the sub for tips on where to meet people.
/r/seduction30/11/21 10:09 PM
2

No one said you can’t compliment them. Simply telling her she’s cute gives her and you by extension nothing to work with. A confident man will warm a woman up and then get what he wants from her.
/r/seduction29/11/21 07:36 PM
484

I’m not India but in general just telling a girl she is cute is not a great conversation starter. Build some rapport.
/r/seduction29/11/21 11:01 AM
1

It’s not the same but make some male friends. Some social circle is better than none.
/r/seduction29/11/21 09:00 AM
7

Your text wasn’t exactly a conversation starter. I don’t send compliments on appearance over text. I would have transitioned out of that
/r/seduction29/11/21 08:59 AM
7

Use an app like stitch fix. They have advisors who can find clothes that suit your style and appearance
/r/seduction27/11/21 08:22 AM
8

Yup and maybe you end up with one of her cute friends. That’s still a win
/r/seduction26/11/21 09:10 PM
1

If you’re not good at flirting. Get good at making people feel comfortable around you. It has the same effect.
/r/seduction26/11/21 04:58 AM
2

Cold dming women on Instagram is the biggest waste of time ever. You’re one of many guys who message them. For hinge. Get better pictures or your profile reviewed on that sub. A lot of guys have major red flags in their profile and don’t even know it. Living with your parents isn’t a dealbreaker at 27 for most. Help your chances by getting out and engaging women in the real world. If you look out on Reddit a lot of women are glad guys are approaching them in public. It’s the best way to show con…
/r/seduction26/11/21 04:43 AM
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Yeah I don’t know what he thinks a bunch of strangers on the internet can say like we know her
/r/seduction25/11/21 09:15 PM
1

No beginner topics
/r/seduction21/11/21 10:11 PM
1

Rule #4
/r/seduction21/11/21 08:10 AM
1

Why would it be cringe. You tried to hang out and she respectfully declined.
/r/seduction19/11/21 08:24 PM
2

By asking them out. If someone agrees and follows up with spending intentional time with you they are interested. Otherwise they are just wasting your time
/r/seduction19/11/21 05:30 AM
2

You just said you hung out at each other’s places. Why not watch a movie and put your arm around her. I have an Amazon device that plays music on command. I often dance to break the touch barrier. From what you have described you two sound like platonic friends. You need to fix that
/r/seduction19/11/21 05:23 AM
2

Move on. Tell her to hit you up when she is back in town. Unless you’re already dating starting a LDR probably won’t work. She’s at college meeting and banging dudes
/r/seduction19/11/21 03:18 AM
3

There are a lot of clubs in the states that are 18 and up. You can also meet women at the beach. Make sure you are working out and have a nice physique. It helps The accent is going to be hit and miss. Some women love them. Some won’t care and some might not like them. The best thing about the accent is it will get you in the door. “Oh where are you from?” But yeah if you’re a geek the accent won’t do shit for you
/r/seduction19/11/21 01:12 AM
1

You can ask for video chat but most women dislike them
/r/seduction18/11/21 09:06 PM
1

Most women don’t want to video call a stranger. Worse you can’t get physical over a video call they’re mostly a waste of time
/r/seduction18/11/21 09:04 PM
2

There are two schools of thoughts on this. Asking their availability is passive and so sometimes they say dumb shit like “I’ll let you know” I’ve gotten compliments for offering a time and a place. They appreciate just being able to say yes or no. If that time or place doesn’t work then we adjust
/r/seduction18/11/21 08:42 PM
13

Make a little rapport and ask for a date fairly quickly. Getting snaps just makes you a fan. Going on a date is how you escalate to something physical
/r/seduction18/11/21 08:03 AM
13

No one said you need to hookup with multiple women. You can be happy and sexually fulfilled with just one woman. It’s great actually. You are probably seeking a happy committed relationship with great sex and fun. That’s what you should pursue
/r/seduction18/11/21 05:45 AM
2

None of us can tell you whether he has interest or not. What we do know is that YOU have interest and you owe it to yourself to find out if the feeling is mutual. If he’s just being friendly there is no harm done finding that out. It’s not like you see each other on the regular as co workers or classmates. Ask him if he would like to get together and see how he responds. If he isn’t interested you didn’t waste your time
/r/seduction17/11/21 10:36 PM
3

I disagree just a little bit. I don’t get their snap because it’s an app their friends are on. I don’t ask for snap I ask for dates or at least a phone number. Showing you mean business and are there to date weeds out the waste of time
/r/seduction17/11/21 10:19 PM
11

Remember women know if they don’t agree to a date they know you’re going to ghost them so sometimes they say they’re interested just to keep you giving them attention. Let them know your time is valuable
/r/seduction17/11/21 10:18 PM
73

You have to use your time efficiently on apps. If you offer a date and time. She either says yes or pitches another day “how about Wednesday” if she does not. Don’t waste your time I’m not anti dating apps but there are so many women who use them and have no intention of meeting. One trend in your post is your always catering to them. Stop wasting your time bro. If a chick is feeling it she will be happy to meet up
/r/seduction17/11/21 09:18 PM
1

Yeah a hangout downtown is a good place to start. You can flirt and see if she’s willing to touch and escalate
/r/seduction15/11/21 02:10 PM
1

Let’s focus on some basics. Does she like being around you. Can you get her to see you? Those are great places to start.
/r/seduction15/11/21 09:57 AM
12

When you’re having fun people will naturally vibe with your energy and want to interact with you. You’ll get smiles. People will get a good feeling about you which is a launching pad to deeper interactions. You can learn to dance on YouTube or take classes. You don’t even need to be a great dancer. Just good enough to follow the best and not step on a woman’s toes Initiating a dance just depends. Sometimes you can ask. Sometimes you just join a circle of people. For clothing it will depend on yo…
/r/seduction15/11/21 01:24 AM
1

So you’re not closing the deal?
/r/seduction13/11/21 06:02 PM
1

Interesting when you have a post literally talking about how you are lonely and hoping to make friends
/r/seduction12/11/21 08:49 PM
2

So the alternative is to be lonely like yourself. Got it 😂
/r/seduction12/11/21 08:42 PM
2

There’s no stigma because most of these cases never get that far.
/r/seduction12/11/21 08:37 PM
3

Sexual assault cases very rarely end in conviction. They have to prove it was not consensual. The whole “change their mind afterwards” thing rarely flies. https://www.dallasnews.com/opinion/commentary/2019/09/15/why-are-we-so-bad-at-prosecuting-sexual-assault/?outputType=amp
/r/seduction12/11/21 08:03 PM
1

No wearing a sealer belt is getting consent from people you have sex with. You wouldn’t get poon anyways. We’ve seen your post history.
/r/seduction12/11/21 08:00 PM
1

awful comparison. Most vipers attack humans. Most women don’t make false accusations. Some do. But with your logic I shouldn’t drive a car because I could get in a car accident
/r/seduction12/11/21 07:14 PM
3

Nah 😂 if this was that common there would be way more men in jail
/r/seduction12/11/21 06:52 PM
3

Haha they could or they could love the sex and appreciate spending time with you. That’s how it usually works for me 🤷‍♂️
/r/seduction12/11/21 06:51 PM
19

Ding ding ding
/r/seduction12/11/21 06:40 PM
2

Haha no one is saying to force yourself on women. They even have apps where you can give consent to sex now. But you stay a lonely virgin. Do what you gotta do 🤷‍♂️
/r/seduction12/11/21 06:39 PM
6

That’s fine to have that fear but you’ll never get anyone with that attitude. If you simply set some rules for yourself “I won’t try to sleep with women who are really drunk, I will make sure she text her friends that she’s okay” etc etc it’s not hard to protect yourself
/r/seduction12/11/21 05:39 PM
2

And if you let that hold you back you’ll never get laid.
/r/seduction12/11/21 05:37 PM
44

You’re already starting from a place of fear. Very few men get me tood. That’s not the issue. You will get rejected on this journey. That’s apart of it. You don’t ask for a hookup. You ask to hangout. You make new friends. Do you go to parties? Do you have a social group? Do you interact with any women
/r/seduction12/11/21 09:16 AM
2

While your sending her messages some other guy will ask her out and you’ll get a message “she’s not feeling it anymore”
/r/seduction11/11/21 08:10 AM
4

Because you’re tying to make sense over bullshit. If you shut where you eat as you say you call her bluff. Ask her out. Otherwise she’s going to ignore you until you cave in. Balls in your court.
/r/seduction10/11/21 09:35 AM
0

I rarely compliment women until we’ve been on a few dates. Complimenting someone can be a form of charm but it doesn’t land with everyone. You can use other forms of seduction like banter or gentle teasing if words of affirmation is not your game.
/r/seduction10/11/21 08:48 AM
2

Anything but what you’re doing which is making it harder on yourself. Stop thinking about perfect opportunity and just do it. You aren’t asking her out. You’re making the first contact. Breaking thru
/r/seduction09/11/21 11:42 PM
2

Exactly this. I actually don’t compliment on appearance until the third date. Works surprisingly well
/r/seduction09/11/21 07:52 PM
1

Yup I don’t text until we have established enough of a connection we don’t need text messages anymore
/r/seduction09/11/21 05:39 AM
3

Observational humor always lands. Things around you and bantering about it
/r/seduction09/11/21 01:02 AM
40

A) if you talk too much and become chat buddies you put yourself in the friend zone. B) you know they’re attracted to you. Hence then matching C) if they aren’t willing to meet there’s a good chance they are just there for validation and attention I ask early. If they need more time they ask if we can hold off on a date.
/r/seduction09/11/21 12:45 AM
52

Quick banter, flirting. Ask to get drinks in less than 7 or 8 messages
/r/seduction09/11/21 12:09 AM
1

Don’t bother friend. I only see flakes when they make attempts to meet another time
/r/seduction08/11/21 07:22 PM
59

You said she was in the same area as you. Why not engage her again? Offer to get her a drink? Get a number? You did good to dance with someone. That’s a positive
/r/seduction08/11/21 07:21 PM
1

Be more specific. Flaked as in didn’t say anything? Or apologized because she couldn’t make it?
/r/seduction08/11/21 07:17 PM
2

Or they aren’t attractive
/r/seduction08/11/21 04:46 PM
6

How old are you how old is she
/r/seduction08/11/21 10:37 AM
1

I was responding to you saying if he has good photos it’s his prompts. He could have good photos and prompts and not do well. I’m on the hinge and tinder subs and they’re are guys with killer profiles who don’t do well. Especially if they live in a small or superficial city like LA
/r/seduction08/11/21 08:43 AM
1

You go for it. You don’t worry about the group falling apart. It won’t. Ask her to hang out aside from the group. There is no key to slow flirtation.
/r/seduction08/11/21 08:38 AM
5

He’s trying to test her interest in you. I disagree somewhat. Don’t ask for a week but if she does agree. Go with her. Don’t say you’re busy when you’re not.
/r/seduction08/11/21 08:37 AM
9

While photofeeler and profile advice is great. Online dating doesn’t work for a lot of people regardless. I get so much further faster in person then I do online Many women are refreshed to be approached off the apps
/r/seduction08/11/21 08:36 AM
1

Setting up a threesome is work. They have to not only be attracted to one another they have to get along. One may be jealous of possessive of you. It’s much easier to setup a threesome by finding a unicorn online with your partner
/r/seduction08/11/21 04:16 AM
1

You would setup a meeting between the two of them and see if there is any chemistry. There is a really good chance there won’t be but it’s worth a shot. Stick to what you have if it’s good.
/r/seduction08/11/21 03:39 AM
1

Go to the sub wiki. There are a bunch of sources for reading and YouTube material on the art of flirting. There are no real tip or advice to it. It’s something you form as you practice.
/r/seduction08/11/21 01:31 AM
1

Give yourself space from her. She’s in control. See other women. Show disinterest. Don’t chase the kiss harder.
/r/seduction07/11/21 11:13 PM
1

You make plans to see her this week. All that other stuff won’t go anywhere
/r/seduction07/11/21 10:38 PM
52

Don’t overcomplicate things. Set a date in the next 5-7 days. Make it a simple date. Start with drinks so you can sit close to her and connect. Take it from there. So many guys text themselves out of a date. Set a date. And go from there
/r/seduction07/11/21 06:15 PM
1

Definitely see a doctor. It’s worth it to invest in yourself. Remember there are plenty of other ways to please a woman.
/r/seduction07/11/21 06:21 AM
6

Most guys make terrible dating profiles. Get your profile reviewed here or are the tinder bumble or hinge sub. I get about 3-5 likes a day doing that.
/r/seduction06/11/21 11:15 PM
3

Giving your shoulder is how you end up in the friend zone. When a woman is having trouble with other guys you never talk about the guy. You show them a good time and make them forget about ex guy
/r/seduction06/11/21 03:26 PM
8

Because you don’t beat yourself up over a decision with a guy you want to date. You go to your gay best friend. I’ve had women dump their boyfriends and want something with me. They come after shit is over.
/r/seduction06/11/21 01:15 PM
2

Focus on your end goal. Whether that’s getting a number. Having a conversation etc.
/r/seduction06/11/21 08:11 AM
24

Yup don’t bring it up. Don’t ask about him.
/r/seduction06/11/21 06:13 AM
8

I think this is cringe as fuck because it sounds like you just want to find someone skinny. But you can always encourage them to walk with you or work out together. Do NOT try to change the way they eat.
/r/seduction06/11/21 06:12 AM
62

Just play it off. It’s a bad sign she’s calling you when she’s having issues with the boyfriend.
/r/seduction06/11/21 03:33 AM
1

Correct OP it sounds like she’s trying to friend zone you
/r/seduction06/11/21 02:31 AM
6

Join a club at school. Probably something stem related
/r/seduction06/11/21 02:19 AM
1

More context is needed. Are you friends? Have you kissed before?
/r/seduction06/11/21 02:19 AM
1

Doesn’t mean they won’t make assumptions about you
/r/seduction06/11/21 12:23 AM
1

Totally depends. On dating profiles ACAb is pretty common. so it will press some and immediately turn off others. Cops also have the highest rates for divorce and domestic violence is higher with law enforcement so yeah it’s going to be polarizing
/r/seduction05/11/21 11:44 PM
3

The sub literally has a list stickied. Start there https://reddit.com/r/seduction/wiki/index?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
/r/seduction05/11/21 11:33 PM
1

Exactly
/r/seduction05/11/21 06:42 PM
2

Not recoverable. She got what she wanted and is on to the next one. Texting usually doesn’t lead to anything dude. Use sexting to tease them. Nothing more
/r/seduction05/11/21 09:05 AM
1

Go for it
/r/seduction05/11/21 01:49 AM
3

The important question is why do you want to take it slow? It can work but why risk the woman feeling you are passive or trying to date her.
/r/seduction04/11/21 12:10 AM
2

Am I reading this wrong or did she take a photo of your back?
/r/seduction03/11/21 08:02 PM
-2

He’s here to pay his ego. “Oh no they developed feelings for me”
/r/seduction03/11/21 07:27 PM
0

Just because a woman wants a long term relationship doesn’t mean she won’t consider a short term one with a guy she finds engaging. Anyways you’re a little bit defensive here and I’ll let you be. I wasn’t putting down your style. Just saying it’s not necessary to experience many different women
/r/seduction03/11/21 07:25 PM
3

I’m in a big city so there’s plenty of women to meet and engage. I love to travel but not at the expense of having a home base and social circle. My issue with the expiration date is it cuts you off from some women immediately. Some women see it as “there’s no point” even for casual fun. Many women find it refreshing encountering a man who know what he wants.
/r/seduction03/11/21 07:04 PM
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I’m glad that’s working for you. The biggest reason I wouldn’t consider something like this is that it doesn’t seem worth it to constantly uproot my life to get women to agree to something casual. I love having a solid base. A house/apartment I’ve set up to host. You can accomplish the same thing by telling women that you’re planning on moving in the next few months. Or even better just being up front you aren’t looking for something serious.
/r/seduction03/11/21 06:51 PM
5

Don’t feed the troll. Mods why hasn’t this one been banned yet. Look at the post history
/r/seduction03/11/21 06:00 AM
8

Yeah with two weeks you should definitely get a phone call in. Hinge has a video/phone call via the app feature. If you just don’t talk for two weeks you probably won’t end up actually meeting.
/r/seduction02/11/21 07:21 AM
26

That’s the problem if you’re not careful you can come off platonic and friend zoned. Can you do a phone or video call?
/r/seduction02/11/21 06:43 AM
108

Why did you set the date so far out? You definitely need to check in every few days. I hope the date actually happens but generally you don’t want your dates more than 5 days out. Way too easy for them to flake or find someone else.
/r/seduction02/11/21 06:28 AM
7

Yup and continuing to chase her will reinforce you aren’t worthy of respect Women like that it’s best to ignore them. 95% chance you never talk again but occasionally thru reach out when you show you’re going to focus your attention elsewhere.
/r/seduction01/11/21 08:02 PM
1

Yeah you would simply say are you free this Saturday to do X around this time. If she can’t ideally she would say I can’t Saturday but I’m free Sunday etc.
/r/seduction01/11/21 06:24 PM
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The answer depends on their style. If she text a lot you shouldn’t ignore her but most guys text too much. A little tension and curiosity if you really like them or have other options is super helpful
/r/seduction01/11/21 06:22 PM
6

Cocoa butter
/r/seduction30/10/21 07:46 AM
1

No it’s not internal. Women’s perception of you is outside of you. That’s why top men keep a social circle and have plans. Ever since I stopped being too available. Women wanted me
/r/seduction29/10/21 09:40 PM
1

That would be messed up! If someone is vulnerable enough to share something like that because I asked I would want to make them super comfortable
/r/seduction29/10/21 09:36 PM
1

I respect it that’s way for you but on the opposite end I like to show that pictures don’t really do it for me or getting them isn’t a big deal. My most common response to disinterest is let me see you to which I tell them I’ll show them in person 🤷‍♂️
/r/seduction29/10/21 07:01 PM
2

That’s why it’s important for men to work on themselves and project confidence . If you have a reputation that no one wants you. Women will figure something is wrong with you.
/r/seduction29/10/21 06:13 PM
-2

Gotcha and good for you on your journey bro lol but that has nothing to do with other women finding high value men attractive
/r/seduction29/10/21 06:40 AM
-1

So what does that have to do with no woman wanting you? You just said a bunch of women wanted you My quote was women like men who are found attractive by other women. Doesn’t sound like you buddy.
/r/seduction29/10/21 06:30 AM
2

If the guy is hot. Then I doubt no one wants him
/r/seduction29/10/21 06:20 AM
2

Continue on. Ask her how she’s been. What she’s working out that day
/r/seduction29/10/21 03:12 AM
2

Did you talk to her last time?
/r/seduction29/10/21 02:57 AM
8

I usually say something else of disinterest ooh I bet it’s even nicer in person. It kind of makes them self conscious. Did he really like it? Pictures do nothing for me. I want them in my bed. Nothing else matters.
/r/seduction29/10/21 01:04 AM
30

Yeah my female friend had a saying. No woman wants a man no one else wants.
/r/seduction29/10/21 12:39 AM
17

Don’t sext until you have had physical relations. When you sext ahead of time for the most part they get the benefits without having to give it up to you. When a woman sext me. I tease them and make them want to see it in person. There is a thing called dick curiosity. If she wants to see your penis you have to make her earn it.
/r/seduction29/10/21 12:38 AM
2

Meeting new people is everything. A social circle will expand your options and improve your confidence.
/r/seduction28/10/21 07:20 PM
4

Ask her out. Simple
/r/seduction27/10/21 06:04 PM
1

On everything
/r/seduction26/10/21 10:34 PM
3

😂 🤡
/r/seduction26/10/21 09:30 PM
3

What can I say my post are popular And I live rent free in your head so there’s that 😂 🤡
/r/seduction26/10/21 08:14 PM
1

Gotcha well I’ll be honest with you dude. You just gotta ask her on a date cuz this shit you’re doing isn’t working
/r/seduction26/10/21 08:13 PM
1

You’re saying you’ve asked her to study Three times?
/r/seduction26/10/21 07:45 PM
3

You use reddit because you lack the confidence to do anything in real life. Stay on the teen sub creepo
/r/seduction26/10/21 07:44 PM
1

Go the studying route then. Its very innocuous and will allow you to connect with her
/r/seduction26/10/21 07:39 PM
2

Yes either an informal coffee date or if you aren’t there yet to study
/r/seduction26/10/21 07:34 PM
3

Just funny how your post history exposed you as a lonely fraud 😂 Got a girlfriend but hitting on teenagers on reddit. Makes total sense pedobear
/r/seduction26/10/21 07:31 PM
2

Setup some one on one time. If you aren’t confident enough to ask her out. To study at a coffee shop or library. You’re not going to get her over text especially if she acts disengaged with you
/r/seduction26/10/21 07:30 PM
2

Because your post history you talk about being nervous when a women approached you. 😂 You’re also on subs for teenagers so you’re either a creep or just inexperienced.
/r/seduction26/10/21 07:19 PM
3

This is a thread about advice for men. I Wouldn’t affirm if it I wasn’t successful. You wouldn’t be so lonely if you talked to women in the real world. But in your post history you say they make you shy
/r/seduction26/10/21 07:09 PM
2

Which I clearly wasn’t doing because I affirmed online dating. You’re super insecure and weird bout this. So I will let you be
/r/seduction26/10/21 07:01 PM
3

It’s like approaching. Most won’t work out but we do it for the ones that do. Many men make the mistake of thinking a match means she wants me! They get lots of matches. You got to seduce them beyond the match.
/r/seduction26/10/21 06:59 PM
3

Yeah on the one hand hinge has higher quality women but tinder has a much larger user base. I’m not a fan of bumble because it starts things on a passive note for male users.
/r/seduction26/10/21 06:57 PM
5

No one said you can’t but the majority of people who are like “online dating doesn’t work” are putting their whole fate in the app. Why would you not expand your options to both?
/r/seduction26/10/21 06:55 PM
5

“If you just spoke their drink it’s easy to get laid” lmao
/r/seduction26/10/21 06:51 PM
8

OP is a fool. This isn’t a conquest for all of us. If I have one really great sexual partner. I’m pretty happy.
/r/seduction26/10/21 06:50 PM
4

It’s really not hard at all to avoid bots on tinder. If there is a snapchat or social media link it’s a fake profile.
/r/seduction26/10/21 06:49 PM
7

I want to affirm that tinder can be really great. I invested in some professional photos and started swimming in matches. The problem is guys who only use tinder in place of also getting real world experience. A combination of both goes a long way.
/r/seduction26/10/21 06:48 PM
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Good for you. You got her number now what are you going to do?
/r/seduction26/10/21 03:42 PM
8

Absolutely not because that statement comes off as your own insecurities. If a woman doesn’t want you in her lite she knows she can ghost you and you can’t do shit. That’s not to shit on your idea completely. That stuff can work with someone who you have an established relationship with. But anywhere under six months. You’re giving off red flags
/r/seduction25/10/21 11:26 PM
10

Damn missed opportunity. “Wanna fuck?” What the fuck 🤦‍♂️ Put your arm around both of them. Kiss one on the cheek. Then kiss the other. Then on the lips then the other. The biggest issues with thereesomes are someone being left out. Touch them both. Ramp them up. Don’t act like you’re the nervous one.
/r/seduction25/10/21 10:14 PM
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If she has explicitly said she wants a relationship with you. Then yes you should be up front. If she simply wants a relationship with anyone. It doesn’t hurt to ask. Some people are willing to do fwb until they find a long term partner.
/r/seduction25/10/21 08:47 PM
3

You gotta decide if you want to go for her or not. Yes there is social circle risk but the shit you’re doing now being a text buddy isn’t going to win her over
/r/seduction25/10/21 06:23 AM
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Rookie mistake man just texting most girls doesn’t get them with you. You got her snap you should have used that to setup a hangout. The fact she’s texting you about other guys is further establishing you in the friend zone. Setup a time for you and her to hangout if she puts up resistance this one isn’t the one
/r/seduction25/10/21 05:28 AM
2

If that doesn’t work and it doesn’t work out you should consider dating someone asexual. Other then just “getting over it” you could date someone who wants to be emotionally connected to you but is totally okay with your desire to not be naked.
/r/seduction25/10/21 01:47 AM
4

If you’re going to therapy and it’s not getting better. That’s scary stuff. Not sure what us strangers can do. Baby steps man. Maybe start with letting her see you in your underwear.
/r/seduction25/10/21 01:45 AM
1

Yeah if you get a new phone and number then you’re fine.
/r/seduction24/10/21 11:29 PM
1

Shadow bans are usually when you get banned on your original account
/r/seduction24/10/21 11:27 PM
1

I doubt your shadow banned
/r/seduction24/10/21 11:21 PM
4

If you aren’t having success on tinder and bumble you likely aren’t going to have success elsewhere. Hinge is probably the other good app. It’s probably your photos. If you want to pm me and send me your profile I can give you feedback. So many guys have shitty photos or red flags in their bio
/r/seduction24/10/21 11:16 PM
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There’s so much info on this sub. Check the guides on the sub wiki. Heck even search the sub for field reports. Come back when you have more specific questions
/r/seduction23/10/21 05:55 AM
1

There’s a good chance. In my experience when women really want to see you but are busy they offer an alternate date. I don’t like asking when they are free. Offer a specific date for this coming week. If she says yes, great. If she offers an alternative, great. If she gives you a vague answer. Say, you let me know when you want to get together then stop texting her and go pursue other women. Too many guys waste times chasing women who aren’t interested.
/r/seduction22/10/21 05:20 PM
2

I personally won’t do dinner for a first date. It’s expensive. Most first dates go nowhere. It’s not easy to get out of. And it’s not a great way to break the touch barrier.
/r/seduction22/10/21 04:54 PM
2

No just don’t touch a black women’s hair. You can use the shoulder to transition to a kiss.
/r/seduction22/10/21 04:37 PM
1

I wouldn’t overthink this man. Maybe a photo of your Halloween costume but focus on what you are pursuing here.
/r/seduction22/10/21 04:34 PM
6

I don’t know if you’ve seen the memes but as a bipoc I’ll let you know. Never touch a black woman’s hair unless she gives you permission
/r/seduction22/10/21 05:39 AM
6

Ghosting is inevitable. Even the best guy will have a woman who just chooses to distance themselves. We have told people that ghosting is socially acceptable unfortunately under the guise of mental health. Don’t see ghosting as something you did wrong but that person needing space for their own personal reasons
/r/seduction22/10/21 04:04 AM
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I am not sure that sending a pic is value. It’s pretty platonic unless it’s somewhere exotic that they would want to come to. For me I hate the offering two dates. It makes you seem too available. I prefer to be specific. I would love to go to the haunted house this weekend, are you available Friday night? You either get a yes or she says I can’t Friday. But how about Saturday? If she just says she can’t. I would focus my efforts elsewhere.
/r/seduction22/10/21 03:17 AM
2

I would not wait two weeks and lose any momentum you have built up. You can handle halloween two ways. You can tell her what your plans are (find an event and invite her) or you can just tell her you’re doing something aside from her but want to see her after Halloween. (I personally like to play the long game but not everyone will agree) I would not give a passive “what are you up to” and then when she tells you she has plans. Be like “oh that’s fun”. This is where a lot of guys get lost. They …
/r/seduction22/10/21 02:54 AM
1

The only way to find out is to get friendly with her and eventually ask her out. I wouldn’t ask her out because she mentioned your haircut but because you are attracted to her
/r/seduction22/10/21 02:32 AM
1

I genuinely hate to over generalize but this is it. You have to ignore your brain that tells you “this won’t work” or “this is a bad idea” Constantly be thinking about what you want and pursue it. While being selfless and considering others is good in certain situations. Those same thoughts will cause you not to pursue the woman you desire.
/r/seduction22/10/21 02:29 AM
3

Remember that most communication is non verbal. Texting someone who would struggle to understand you or need a translating app (which are not reliable) would not help. Pro tip: text in your language and let him use a translator or their own app to convert it to their language. Less chance of error that way Make plans to meet in person as you have. If it doesn’t work out don’t sweat it
/r/seduction22/10/21 02:23 AM
1

You circle back. Put her on the spot with a “I caught you staring” but playfully and let her know you came back for a reason.
/r/seduction21/10/21 10:32 AM
2

You’ve given us no information whatsoever. Your age and gender your partners age and gender. What happened with the dv. Etc
/r/seduction21/10/21 10:31 AM
1

Do you talk to women in your social circle
/r/seduction20/10/21 07:11 AM
3

What efforts did you make to become more attractive out of curiosity
/r/seduction20/10/21 06:38 AM
1

please don’t say “you want to be my girlfriend” That’s not what women are into. Like the other poster said. The boyfriend/girlfriend discussion should be much further down in your pursuit
/r/seduction19/10/21 09:05 PM
1

So what are you going to do to change that?
/r/seduction19/10/21 08:45 PM
2

You don’t need to ask anyone to be your gf. You need to make a physical connection first
/r/seduction19/10/21 08:33 PM
1

I stay friends with girls because saying “be mine is bad” Huh? If women like you as they say. They are giving you an invitation to get closer to them. To touch them. To cuddle. To kiss and eventually have sex. You seem to be in your own head about what can go wrong instead of focusing on what can go right.
/r/seduction19/10/21 07:13 PM
4

There are plenty of women who post here so no the point of seduction isn’t to get your dick wet. We also have people who are trying to seduce a single person and that’s okay too. The I sleep with 100 women a year guy was getting downvoted because his whole thing was you should believe me because I sleep with a 100 women a year which isn’t verifiable
/r/seduction19/10/21 07:06 PM
1

While side by side is good it’s not always feasible. A lot of women find it awkward with someone they don’t know well. I love places with a round booth. You can start across then move closer
/r/seduction19/10/21 08:28 AM
1

Online dating isn’t all bad. You can “approach” hundreds of women at a time technically. And no I have definitely matched with women above my league in OLD. People have different taste and preferences.
/r/seduction19/10/21 08:26 AM
2

I was a virgin until 27 and had really bad confidence with women. I was particularly clingy and needy and had one Itis that every girl is “the one” I realized that it’s a skill. One that requires much practice and failure. But at the end of the day I don’t think about the ones I messed up with. I focus on the ones I did well
/r/seduction19/10/21 08:24 AM
1

Lol you’re still trying to convince people that’s hilarious
/r/seduction19/10/21 08:10 AM
3

He’s an idiot. He is on this sub way too much to actually be getting women.
/r/seduction19/10/21 08:10 AM
1

😬
/r/seduction19/10/21 08:06 AM
3

Someone with similar goals goes a long way. Another thing I find important is them keeping some element of chase in our game. Someone I like more then they like me.
/r/seduction19/10/21 06:45 AM
4

Yes settling down is great. It’s power knowing you can get any woman but having one you want to focus your energy on.
/r/seduction19/10/21 06:29 AM
1

Agree on both points. It’s nice when you’re a five minute drive from that club or bar. You also have more confidence and can groom better
/r/seduction19/10/21 05:59 AM
1

I’ll try to take this comment at face value seeing how you admit to not dating many people. You assume that every woman wants to be exclusive with a guy. They more just want to know where they stand. Simple as that. Most of my dating ends with them telling me “I found someone I want to be monogamous with” which allows me to continue to play the field but we keep in touch because sometimes they do come back
/r/seduction19/10/21 05:51 AM
2

This is the best answer. I’m not quite poly/enm but I let them know I’m dating casually until further notice. It’s never been an issue
/r/seduction19/10/21 05:41 AM
1

It’s usually loud. Non verbal cues are everything
/r/seduction19/10/21 01:01 AM
2

I just ask people to dance. Especially if the place is dead
/r/seduction19/10/21 12:04 AM
3

Don’t focus on results “taking someone home” focus on the process. Get yourself comfortable in that situation
/r/seduction18/10/21 11:52 PM
6

Go around the club making eye contact with several women. See who smiles back and reciprocates. On your second go around ask those women to dance with you.
/r/seduction18/10/21 11:26 PM
1

There are biking groups you could join. Download the meet up app and see if you can find one in your area
/r/seduction18/10/21 10:38 PM
1

Wasn’t like that for us. I introduced the cards once. And then we would just use them occasionally to spice things up. Just kept them near the bed
/r/seduction18/10/21 06:25 PM
1

It doesn’t have to be. What are your hobbies?
/r/seduction18/10/21 06:20 PM
1

I would take space. If she has any feelings she will notice you pulling away 😏
/r/seduction18/10/21 06:18 PM
2

Buy sex cards. You pull them and have to perform certain acts on a partner. Not all are overtly sexual but some are erotic. “Lick the side of her rip cage ” etc.
/r/seduction18/10/21 06:07 PM
5

Exactly this. I have gotten a lot from this sub. I don’t take it as gospel necessarily but I take different things from different people to build my overall philosophy
/r/seduction18/10/21 05:56 PM
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🤣 she wanted your money. Nothing more man. They rely on repeat customers so they often try to “connect” with you so you come back. Go meet women in the real world.
/r/seduction18/10/21 05:54 PM
3

If you read his post he’s inviting her to get a post workout smoothie
/r/seduction18/10/21 07:22 AM
4

I would wait until she’s alone to ask. You can approach them together and introduce yourself. But don’t ask if it’s her dad it’s disrespectful to ask out his daughter in front of him
/r/seduction18/10/21 07:11 AM
3

No way of knowing if she was waiting for you but the smoothie is a friendly way to gauge her interest. Way to be forward
/r/seduction18/10/21 07:04 AM
1

If that’s your definition of a girl “sleeping” with you. You won’t go far
/r/seduction18/10/21 05:45 AM
0

Don’t say see you tomorrow it’s presumptious. I usually tease them. “Damn covid got you”
/r/seduction18/10/21 05:40 AM
1

It’s totally dependent on the woman. Some will move on but it can be an effective tool for a woman who you have deeply connected with physically or emotionally
/r/seduction18/10/21 05:38 AM
3

Because she gets your attention without commitment this was painful to read. Have respect for yourself. It’s simple if she wanted to go on a date with you she would say “I am pretty busy this week but I’ll go with you next week” you get none of that.
/r/seduction18/10/21 05:35 AM
1

There is male birth control
/r/seduction17/10/21 09:45 PM
11

No contact absolutely works! They either miss you or you realize they were never that into you
/r/seduction17/10/21 09:44 PM
16

Yes the game is to get attention from you without having to actually see you.
/r/seduction17/10/21 09:43 PM
7

“Should I reach back out again” You really don’t get it do you. 🤦‍♂️ You keep reaching out and things aren’t getting better. Time to change your strategy you think?
/r/seduction17/10/21 09:39 PM
10

What women tell you isn’t what they always mean. She wasn’t on birth control when she had sex with you. How do you know she wasn’t on birth control when she had sex with other men?
/r/seduction17/10/21 09:38 PM
12

And what does it say that you have to keep messaging her and she isn’t engaging with you?
/r/seduction17/10/21 09:37 PM
12

You keep texting her even though she is making no effort to see you
/r/seduction17/10/21 09:15 PM
10

She’s not acting on it because she doesn’t want you
/r/seduction17/10/21 09:14 PM
16

Waiting to make someone have sex doesn’t mean you want to be with them. Or there’s a chance like the other poster said she didn’t enjoy the sex with you. You are trying to convince yourself there is hope here. Why else would she pull away if she wasn’t feeling it?
/r/seduction17/10/21 09:13 PM
29

She wanted to have sex. That doesn’t mean she wants to be with you or commit to a relationship You should look into avoidant attachment styles. She is a classic example The more you pursue women like this the more they keep you at what they perceive to be a safe distance.
/r/seduction17/10/21 09:07 PM
18

I would perceive she likes the attention but is afraid of intimate attachment.
/r/seduction17/10/21 09:00 PM
53

You can’t beat yourself up tying to find out. Maybe it’s someone else. More likely she has intimacy issues and getting close to someone scares her. The thing to do is give her space. Have fun. Post stories of you doing fun shit and hanging out with people. She will either come back or you will find someone better
/r/seduction17/10/21 08:42 PM
49

The realistic truth is some connections end after sex. That’s okay OP
/r/seduction17/10/21 08:41 PM
0

Way to downvote me. 🤣 no one takes you seriously and it burns at you. Let guys who actually get laid give advice
/r/seduction17/10/21 05:48 PM
2

You can tell he has no experience with women 😂 I took a girl home Friday with a 35 minute drive. Conversation was so good she never asked “are we there yet”
/r/seduction17/10/21 05:43 PM
1

😂
/r/seduction17/10/21 05:41 PM
2

Lmao you fucking virgin no wonder your post got downvoted to shit. I don’t need plausible deniability. I want them to go home with me and my making dominant moves I take them home. There’s a reason this woman left this dude at the club. He didn’t close the deal
/r/seduction17/10/21 05:41 PM
4

You don’t get many women do you? Physically escalating is how you take them home. You give them a preview then they come over because they want more of you.
/r/seduction17/10/21 05:37 PM
1

What is your relationship with your mother
/r/seduction17/10/21 09:59 AM
5

Don’t focus on their looks. Approach all women the same
/r/seduction17/10/21 09:57 AM
5

Exactly. OP future reference don’t ask when a woman is available off tinder. It allows them to use you as an option. Especially if they are attractive and get attention from a lot of guys. You’re out of sight and out of mind. For tinder meet ups. I set a time and a date. They either agree or they pitch another day that is good for them. If I get neither I tell them to contact me but I did all I could to get them to meet up
/r/seduction17/10/21 09:09 AM
7

You can control that by approaching women
/r/seduction17/10/21 09:06 AM
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