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Thin_Radish_3439/r/Divorce_Men13/12/23 09:01 PM
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Yes and neither was right. My biggest dam regret even though you can't believe it or the truth about my feelings that have never wavered. I have opportunities but I didn't give up on you and walk away. Until now.
/r/seduction19/03/24 01:49 PM
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Should have told my ex girlfriend that.
/r/seduction19/03/24 12:53 PM
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There is one I thought I might be she has ripped my heart out and shredded it.
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/24 07:02 PM
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Well I cheated and then divorced. Not proud of the cheating. Yes it got better for a time and then the same issue returned for different reasons than the first so I am divorcing again. Honestly the intimacy issue was just a symptom of greater things in the relationship both times.
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/24 03:03 PM
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Merry Christmas. It will be just me and the dogs. Stbx will be with her kids. My kid is with her hubbies family. So cooking a ham and mashed and stuffing plus the custard pie that no one but me likes. Some knob creek old fashions and I'm good.
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/23 12:58 AM
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Yeah she couldn't do that. Other medical issues so is what it is.
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/23 01:20 PM
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FWIW I'm in the midst of #2 and I don't believe cheating has been the factor for me but I believe after menopause she has become ace as she states she just wants to live alone. Her personality did a 180 shift also. Where talking about anything and everything was common it is now seen as being talked down to or lectured. I don't always think it is the person you pick, or you. People change and sometimes they become incompatible that's all.
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/23 12:58 PM
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This is often false. Women are often poor communicators with men. Some believe if he can't read minds he doesn't care. It's often the woman comparing her life to the social media amplification of others that leads to unhappiness and excessive expectations.
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/23 03:32 PM
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I'm there with you. Big fight Monday and things have been bad for some time. I said I'm done and she took it and ran with it like a dog with a bone. Refuses to talk just screams I'm done and fu. It's hard but remember she's not one in a million she's one of a million. This is my second round. It's not easier the second time. Hang in there we'll get through it.
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/23 01:12 AM
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Honestly idk.
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/23 12:47 AM
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Haha 100s of comedians out of work and you're trying to be one. Nice try.
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/23 01:53 AM
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I have to say I would probably be happy if my stbx was active with anyone. At least I'd know she wasn't dead lol.
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/23 03:38 PM
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The right umm skills can umm drain your common sense shall we say.
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/23 02:23 AM
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Yeah I'm still providing. I just attacked the image of her whittle baby boy, and her shitty parenting. Oh and I'd like sex more than once every couple of months and I'd like her to actually move during it.
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/23 01:49 AM
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Yeah you have that right!
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/23 01:40 AM
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Nope nope and hell nope.
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/23 09:50 PM
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Can't touch it. Indiana law it's protected the first 10 years of marriage. I wasn't dumb I saw this coming a mile away.
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/23 09:48 PM
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Together 8 married 4 dead bedroom 3. She is 100% German she will hold this grudge forever. She would cut of her nose to spite her face. Giving up a 6 figure lifestyle for a 36k one and I have 40 acre farm coming to me in probably 6 months that's 500k in assets.
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/23 09:43 PM
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I'm not worried I have been without a total of 2 months my entire life after high school. I have the funds, don't look bad, and know how to hunt. Just going to miss her we were once friends.
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/23 09:38 PM
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I'll be fine. I had a practice round already with the first divorce and it was nasty. This one I think she just wants out and I will try to reconcile until I'm annoying, but in the end I come out way better than she will. She is foolish because Jan 15 her job ends so she doesn't even have a good job to look forward to and one sons house is full and she made an enemy of the other ones woman so she can't even do that. I did say she can stay as long as is reasonable, but I'm already replacement sho…
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/23 09:33 PM
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It is really time to reassess your life and who you are. I'm sure you will go through some depressive moments, and those suck. At the end of the day this is your reset moment. Figure out what you want from life, and then go after it. Find happiness in yourself because in the end you are the only one who can make you happy. Just in general go about your day and work on healing the scars left from this. Then be a better version of yourself one day at a time moving forward and only reflecting on th…
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/23 11:20 AM
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Just say ok. Then if you can be reasonable figure out how you want things split, get it written up and done. If it's not reasonable get mediation, or a lawyer. If she lawyers up you will have to if you don't want screwed. Personally I'd have the lawyer in a holding pattern from the get go. I do but so far everything has been cordial.
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/23 06:46 PM
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A year ago I should have divorced my wife and been much more active in pursuing my AP. Now I'm still divorcing my wife and my AP has left me for a coworker all in the matter of a couple of weeks. No regrets divorcing it was a long time coming. The AP I have many regrets she deserved to be number one in my life long before she was. Flame me for the cheating if you wish and throw in all the karma bs you'd like. Pretty sure I'm being punished enough.
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/23 05:31 PM
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Reminiscing is the worst thing you can do. Right behind it is holing up at home watching baseball. Change your environment and change your mood. Watch baseball at a sports bar. Take an evening walk. Go to the store for a few things and take your time looking. Smile and chat with some people in the store. Literally do anything but the same old same.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/23 05:32 PM
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I've cheated on my first wife and though things were so bad it was almost justifiable. It's wrong, but you should keep it between you and God she doesn't know so has nothing to forgive and you had better keep it that way. Why do you want to hurt your wife just to make you feel better?
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 11:13 PM
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It is great. I never in a million years could have imagined being this happy. She's much younger than me so for estate planning I will need to make the right legal moves to be sure she is well taken care of. I hate the odds are I will be leaving her, but I won't leave her without everything she needs.
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/23 02:52 PM
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LOL funny you ask that. I have had months of thinking about just that, and the woman I am with now makes me say a definite yes! The love between us is so strong and the caring so deep I can't imagine life without her. I wouldn't need the ceremony or the piece of paper, but I'd like to give her that promise and stability.
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/23 02:36 PM
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The IDF certainly raises the standards.
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/23 01:07 PM
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Thailand is nice and $1 American = $34 there. Don't get me wrong if you have children, take care of them.
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/23 01:05 PM
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Once and this one is on going. In both they became nuns and I got none(affection intimacy). Which was only one of the many issues. I think I am moving on to one amazing woman now and can't be happier.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/23 06:01 PM
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I was a 40 something for the first one after 22 years together and now 52 with 8 years together 4 married. Are we having fun yet?
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/23 05:12 PM
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Mine worked ok for just short of 8 years. 3+ years living together and 4 married and ending. Wasn't anything to do with whether she was the side piece or not, and a lot to do with the fact she ended up not being who I married. Turned 50 and decided she was old. What's the adage about marriage? You say you do and then you don't. Yeah about a year in bedroom went from 100mph to a dead crawl. Lots of issues with step kids. It's been time to call tod for some time. I have an AP again, and when SO fo…
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/23 07:33 PM
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Good news is since there is this guy in the picture she is motivated for a speedy divorce. That means she is more acceptable to terms that don't rape your wallet or alienate you children from you. Take advantage and move fast before she finds out this guy is just out to hit it and quit it.
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/23 03:26 PM
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Went to counseling with my first ex made one session and when it wasn't all my fault had to change counselors and when it wasn't all my fault...she quit going. I was the narc. too though no one believed that except a friend she worked with that got only one side of the story. She became the enabler.
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/23 12:48 PM
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Dude I stayed for the kid and it was a big mistake, but I'd probably do it again. After the divorce my daughter in a conversation one day said to me "I don't know why you didn't divorce her sooner" She was a smart daughter and knew things were bad for sometime even though we tried not to let it show. Yeah it meant she had greater resources and two parents readily available, but she also saw how two people cohabitate without respect for one another. So, 22 years the last probably 5 pretty miserab…
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/23 02:49 PM
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If possible and legal in your location I would have a recording device at all times when picking up the daughter and would record all interactions with the ex. Proof is harder to argue than he said she said.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/23 04:24 PM
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I'll add to this. Do you know her parents? Was this their style of relationship? Often this is a very learned behavior. She definitely needs the help to get out of this behavior and if there is conflict on to a better way to express and deal with it. If you are going to stay, you need help also. Help to deal with the trauma she has caused(you will need that even if you move on as it will affect future relationships). Help to know how to help her and to defuse the situation and not feed it. If sh…
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/23 03:59 PM
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Make her a sweet deal on the house. You keep the house as is and only take $50k from her retirement. By law and I'm not a lawyer but you should be able to get 50% of her retirement and 50% of the house plus spousal support and CS if you can get 50/50 custody.
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/23 07:36 PM
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Had it before I met her.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/23 11:23 PM
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Read again I lost 40
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/23 04:57 PM
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Hmm I pay everything but the grocery bill. Take her places. Wanted to spend time with her. Lost 40 pounds. Bought her pretty much what ever she asked. My roi starfish to no sex. Hot dogs and mac n cheese out of the box. Complaints lots of complaints. Being ignored in my own home. Three adult step sons on my door step. She gained 60+ pounds. So, yeah not feeling it's my fault.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/23 02:01 PM
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Sorry about that.
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/23 08:52 PM
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All I can say is spend your time wisely. Be sure to estate plan so those you care about don't have to deal with it.
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/23 08:49 PM
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Mines in the case in my medicine cabinet stopped wearing 5 years before my divorce. She noticed the last year.
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/23 11:07 PM
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Mental picture when you have these thoughts, dog returning to his vomit and eating it. Hopefully that works. Thank me later.
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/23 04:55 PM
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Unless your profession is psychology, you can't fix that. I don't know how you made 6 months let alone a year.
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/23 11:20 AM
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You got this. Don't beat yourself up too bad. An animal will chew it's own arm off when trapped so anything short of that is understandable. Those who cast judgement didn't walk in your shoes and have no clue.
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/23 08:16 PM
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Well my first marriage was that way. I tried really hard until I couldn't and then I did what everyone vilifies and got a mistress. I'd been accused and mistreated for years so why not. Child was in college so, it was just me and the person I could do nothing right for or enough for. It's not my suggested method but it did give me the self worth and confidence to finally end it.
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/23 07:30 PM
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Some times it's hard to let go even if you know you need to. Hang in there man.
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/23 06:59 PM
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Yet they can be so oblivious to the things that men need in a relationship like they have no clue how to relate, or they just get complacent.
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/23 03:47 PM
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I doubt your ex CPA talked your ex wife into anything. First truth of divorce is you will get f$%ked more by your ex than you ever did by your wife. Second is no agreement is ever made unless it is documented. I'd definitely take her to court even if the end is a zero sum win. Sorry man you are learning the hard way.
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/23 03:32 PM
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I mean use the cameras as you will. Can be for your defense, or supporting evidence of her bad behavior. If you wanted to try to fix it. You could put her bad behavior in front of her face. Mine wouldn't even believe the therapist. We had to switch several times because they were all "on my side". I finally recorded her and played it back. Still didn't matter and I just waited for the end.
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/23 01:25 PM
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Oh I get it. Mine was bat sh!t crazy. I would get yelled at for giving directions even. During the separation she even had to take a 72hr vacation without her belt and cell phone. Yeah it would suck and I'm just giving you food for thought. Really sorry you are in the situation because no matter what you do it sucks.
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/23 01:20 PM
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Don't count on the 14 year old. Young men twist around a mothers finger like string. My daughter knew I was the parent the entire time yet when the separation happened she went with mom. Where she was told how much of a deviant I was and how abusive etc. until the devil looked tame. It's taken years to get back to where we have a good relationship and that is probably the biggest hurt of all.
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/23 11:54 AM
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I would suggest seeking out several lawyers. Not all are equal. I have had in the past conflicting advice. I would start putting some cash back in a shtf fund. If possible set up security cameras to record where the two of you interact. Expect a DV charge and TRO. Great if it doesn't happen, but better to expect the worst. My ex once she found out I was done made me out to be some raging homicidal monster. Yet even while separated I fixed her car and took care of things. I was the wage earner so…
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/23 11:48 AM
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Don't engage and just drop it all in a box and mail it, that should piss her off.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/23 01:17 PM
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All I can say is this woman has more issues than National Geographic, and it sounds like she has no room for any kind of relationship except a clinical one. I would just legally protect yourself accept this, and work on moving on. She treats you badly and treats herself almost worse? What is your attraction? If you met her today as she is would you date her? Would you marry her? Be honest with yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/23 04:50 PM
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You're 3 months in, you will focus on what you are losing. Give it 6-8 months and you will be glad with your freedom. The divorce process sucks. There is no emotional support and usually a financial fleecing for the man. Find emotional support where you can, and a good lawyer is worth his weight in gold.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/23 02:46 PM
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Push a little harder for the things you need to be happy and you won't need to make the decision, she will. Sounds like a horrible version of odd fellows. You know that your life passions and goals are not aligned and the romantic life doesn't sound so amazing. Yeah she's a nice person and you're a nice person that doesn't make a relationship. Do not have a baby!!! If you want, try marriage counseling at least you will stimulate the economy and know you did everything you could. In the end it so…
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/23 02:31 PM
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So stop paying and bank it. She then gets monetary motivation to get this done and over with.
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/23 08:17 PM
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Yes I was married mom 3 years later turned DB. Divorced 20 years later. Judge gave me a $380 present.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/23 09:46 PM
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Well I got to do my paternity test on my birthday and a speeding ticket on one.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/23 07:50 PM
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Einstein got divorced! Are any of us smarter than Einstein? Wish someone had told me this before marriage one or two.
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/23 03:31 PM
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Don't get married or have children at all. Ask yourself this, If you were a few weeks in to dating and life was like this would you continue? It sounds like this person is all about take and little about give or even care. She's using deflect and redirect blame in your attempts to communicate which is manipulation. Do you love that? I know harsh but truth. Ask yourself is it getting better or worse? Sorry but been here and you will care and let history coerce you into staying until you start loo…
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/23 06:46 PM
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The total inability to be a team on anything. I remember talking about finances while we were both going to community college and her wanting to quit her job to concentrate on school. We had discussed it at length and had not reached a solution. Couple days later I'm blindsided at or daughter's soccer game that she just quit her job. I couldn't afford to support us and both of us go to school so guess who went and who didn't? Plus she carried the medical insurance at the time. If I had known I'd…
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/23 01:23 PM
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My ex got her clan and snuck in while I was at work. Made a hell of a mess and I'm still trying to figure out what she stole. Years later if I can't find it I assume it was her.
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/23 04:01 PM
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I'm going to pose this. You don't love her. You love the memory of what was. Two different things and easily confused. You care about her of course, she is the mother of your children. You can love the memories and care about her, but the truth is very likely if you look at who she is now as a new person you won't love her.
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/23 04:08 PM
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Unless the child is young enough to not know they will make you the outsider.
/r/Divorce_Men09/03/23 12:33 PM
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I've been married 4 years. Shortly before the wedding I started seeing things I didn't care for. Wish I'd listen to my gut.
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/23 01:28 AM
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My first divorce I had a man and he did ok. Ex wanted it done quickly and so did I. Grown child and only property was a gift of land from my parents and her 401k. She tried to make me pay half the land until my lawyer mentioned I was entitled to half of the 401k, so we called it a wash. Doing it again now and chose a woman. We'll see this one might try to put her hooks in a little deeper, but again no property and no children.
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/23 04:53 PM
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All normal feelings man. Contrary to most I would still lend my ex a shoulder to cry on. Sure we didn't work out in the end, but we worked for a time. About 18 of the 22 years I'd say. Life is to short to be angry or hurt. Humans make mistakes and they change over time , and it's time that just keeps going on. You really don't know why she tried to move on, and obviously it was a crash and burn so nothing wrong with some human compassion.
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/23 07:43 PM
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Best yet! Couldn't have said it better.
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/23 08:57 PM
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After 20 some years, if you need to divorce I assure you there is a reason bad enough that you probably don't care that much. What's worse is when you see your grown child chooses the ex or in laws over you often when it comes to association. Super bowl parties, weekends, other activities. The facebook pictures are a punch in the gut. Mine was 22 years divorced in my 40s for my affair partner at the time (flame away idc it was an escape from being emotionally abused you didn't live my life). 10 …
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/23 12:24 PM
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Unless you need a serious got you moment it does you no good legally. Only way it does is if there is custody and he is in some way a danger to your children. Best to shut up and get the divorce over with.
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/23 03:58 PM
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Spend time with your child. I worked my ass off most of my daughter's growing years and yes I could give her a good childhood and life as a young adult, but regret daily the time I missed seeing her grow up and now see her rarely. She has a good career, husband, and life. I have a quiet house full of sparse memories.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/23 08:45 PM
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I must be the idiot optimist. 1 divorce down, 2nd soon to come, and my new interest I have seriously thought about in a marriage kind of way. Idk maybe I'm not so smart.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/23 08:29 PM
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If you aren't in the right place don't go there. Someone else will pick up your slack lol. Where is this gym now lol?
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/23 02:13 PM
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This right here is the way!
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/23 09:47 PM
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Happens all the time.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/23 07:38 PM
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See a therapist and a lawyer. Hopefully there isn't a child in the mix. Then you just have to get through. It's tough but it gets better once it's over.
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/23 02:22 PM
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First and you know this consult with a lawyer or three and see what you can do to shift residence and protect assets. Take the time to make this most advantageous for you because no matter what you will get the worst of it. Don't rush or declare until you get these things done. It's most likely not in your nature to be devious but you may have to a bit. Sorry you have to go through this but people change it's a fact of life you either grow together or apart.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/23 06:35 PM
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It feels like a failure but in reality you can only own part of it at best. Like they say it takes two to tango. Most people who aren't happy are not happy with themselves more than anything else. Stop beating yourself up. Sounds like you put in the effort, and she checked out.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/23 02:32 PM
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Do not walk but run away from this. It will not get better only worse. I tried to be the good guy even fixed the stbx car twice while paying spousal maintenance. Yet I was a "narcissistic ass". She came after me for half of the value of the property my parents gave us, until I was informed I had rights to half of her 401k. Filed her own bankruptcy while I was paying for a joint one $2500 in legal fees burnt. Then blocked me everywhere. So yeah just run away as fast as you can. You are now offici…
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/22 08:24 PM
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Mine can't do it so it's been fun.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/22 05:21 PM
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Menopause and those changes caused a lot of it, but usually sex is a symptom of other issues too and I know there are plenty.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/22 05:02 PM
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When we started she would give me head until I thought I couldn't complete the deed as we are failing now, a blow job what's that?
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/22 04:58 PM
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Give it time. It's kind of like grieving and everyone does it differently. Sounds like you are a bit in shock of it all and the process really doesn't give a lot of space for emotional separation it's pretty much business. So, keep moving forward and if you need to talk to someone about how you are feeling. Good luck btdt
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/22 02:04 PM
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If you even care about her as a person get the police involved. The only person that can force rehab on her is the court and for your divorce it puts 99.9% of the balls in your court. Even if you don't care it's the right thing to do for your kids so they might have a sober decent mom at some point. Good luck this situation sucks for all involved.
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/22 06:54 PM
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I did. It was a very heart felt letter. I had known for some time it was over and except for a melt down when it hit that tipping point I was generally good. I never stopped loving. She had messed up our plans and had been working against me for sometime, but had undisclosed mental illness. I wrote her a letter with my regrets and best wishes. Urged her to get the help she needed , and thanked her for helping raise our wonderful daughter. Went so far as to tell her she would always be family eve…
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/22 02:14 PM
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It really depends on the state and the judge. As has been said a trust is a good idea, but you need to find a very good divorce lawyer. I don't think the reddit law experts will suffice. Sorry to hear about the divorce. I've been there find yourself some good emotional support it can get rough. BTDT
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/22 03:44 PM
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Only for my piece of mind. Probably no
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/22 09:17 PM
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I know bailing is the usual way to go. Have you tried couples counseling? Not saying it will work. It didn't for me, but I had the solace that I had done everything possible.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/22 06:43 PM
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