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Men that don't understand women think it's all just one perverse game on which somehow women have collaborated in order to make sure men don't get sex. Reality is there's a rational reason for why women hit the LMR, and usually it comes from a place of wanting to ensure some class of commitment from the guy that's about to sleep with them, so they don't feel used, and so they're sure of what theyre about to do. It's a safety/value thing, because once they've slept with you, they no longer hold t…
/r/seduction21/11/24 11:20 PM
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0 expectations and not pressuring myself into any nonsense seduction games. Literally just turn up, genuinely listen to her and ask questions, and maybe tease occasionally, and that's it. Genuinely not sure I could fail to get a second date following the recipe now - unless I purposely turned up unwashed/scruffy. Now it's just a matter of whether I want the second date or not.
/r/seduction21/11/24 03:49 PM
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I know what you're alluding to, again, outcome independence - the behaviour of another girl shouldn't determine your emotions, feelings etc. Roman Emperor Marcus Aurelius wrote that if you are upset about something you cannot control, care less, or something to that effect. So I will ask one more question, because I believe we're still dancing around the line I'm searching for; while there is a seductive passive strength to being outcome independent like this, I do believe there is an active ele…
/r/seduction19/11/24 12:45 AM
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Overanalyzing. As someone who falls into this trap sometimes, you have to park your ego and desire to be chased, and display persistence here. As long as she's not rejecting you or stringing you along during the dates, then keep pushing forward. Otherwise the only thing that's stopping you keeping going is your desire for her to want you and demonstrate it. Seeing as you're not a couple, you have to keep pushing forward here until the connection/relationship grows; at which point then she would …
/r/seduction18/11/24 04:20 PM
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What you're witnessing here is guys attempting to portray confidence, busy-ness, competence, by pretending to be disinterested via not texting. It's a game they're playing to try to counteract any risk of demonstrating neediness, and to play on girls anxiety. You want to absolutely have cultivated a life where your character, interests, passions, busy-ness, and social intelligence mean you're not needy to begin with, in which case you won't give a shit whether you message immediately after a dat…
/r/seduction18/11/24 12:55 AM
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Do you mind me asking how you are personally demonstrating that in terms of "I am honest with women about this...". I'm interested to hear what this sounds like to you, as I could equally imagine it coming across as petty or intense for someone that is letting ego drive the sentiment, rather than self respect.
/r/seduction17/11/24 09:41 PM
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I think this is a good response, ironically leaning on the grey area haha! So in my shoes, after a second date with a girl, where I texted to say I had a great time - and we had discussed a third date; but she never responded or texted for the past 3-4 days - would you leave that just sit, or send a text again? I am currently leaning on the 'let it sit', but I was weighing in my mind whether thats my ego speaking which is jeopardising my chance to shoot a shot again, or is it just genuine self r…
/r/seduction17/11/24 09:39 PM
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I have a question for you which might help me summarise a response to your explanation (to which I agree to a large degree by the way, and thank you for writing). I have gone on two dates with a girl - we talked about a third date etc. After the 2nd date I texted to say I had a good time, she never texted back and that was 3-4 days ago - it's been silent since. She has demonstrated her interest which is evidently low by her actions - but then the issue is I struggle to agree with your point of a…
/r/seduction17/11/24 09:36 PM
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I'm going to screenshot and save your responses, they're so good! Thanks once again!
/r/seduction15/11/24 02:26 AM
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You're great - thanks for your responses; so nice to interact with such a well thought-through and comprehensive reply. Hopefully all your dating experience continues to pay off for you and you've lots of luck in the future going forward, if you haven't had already!
/r/seduction15/11/24 02:25 AM
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Thanks friend, that's a very encouraging message. Unfortunately she never messaged since after I'd said thanks for last night etc, so I think she's fairly disinterested haha! We were kissing on the first date, and she was signalling a lot of interest: leaning into the conversation, touching me a lot, playing with her hair, laughing tonnes - but that's when we relaxed and the conversation let rip. The second date the dinner was good, then drinks it felt a bit more stagnant afterwards, like the co…
/r/seduction15/11/24 01:49 AM
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Man reading the comments in here actually makes me feel better. Had a second date last night that didn't go amazingly or badly, it was fine; but despite a good first date, she has since left my follow up message on seen and ghosted me... Good to see other people are getting hit with this shit at the moment, makes me feel less like crap after last night. It's actually so fucking ridiculous that the standards are so out of whack and that we're all struggling to get any purchase from women.
/r/seduction14/11/24 11:52 PM
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So I've been thinking about this during the day - I'll give you my thoughts, whether you find them interesting or not haha! I have a few thoughts on why I've been potentially striking out, and I'd be interested to hear your perspective on them. I'm wondering is it some combination of the below: I'm escalating to kissing etc at a rate that is incongruent to how the interaction is going - particularly on the second date. This isn't happening on the first date because I'm only kissing as I feel the…
/r/seduction14/11/24 08:21 PM
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That last line is very interesting: > 100% of the time you struck out, at some point you elevated your interest level above hers, and you already that if you look back at the interactions. Its interesting because its true. But, I will say is it not natural for a man to have interest in the girl and hence break the ice, interact, flirt etc? Is it not more apt to say that you '*demonstrated* your interest level above her'? Or do you fundamentally believe that its purely down to whether the guy is …
/r/seduction14/11/24 08:10 PM
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So in your experience in dating, have you been personally more successful in withholding physical escalation unless prompted by the girl? Or do you use it sparingly even? Do you not run the risk of that platonic vibe - or are you getting around that by verbally flirting? They say human interaction is 80% physical, 15% tonal, 5% the words you say - do you concur? I ask because I'm back in dating after a few months off, and have had a few strike-outs on the second date; my latest was last night wh…
/r/seduction14/11/24 06:36 PM
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Interesting description, what brought you to this conclusion? And how do you marry that with escalating/expressing desire towards women?
/r/seduction14/11/24 06:03 PM
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Yeah perhaps a little bit in my head after we moved from dinner to drinks. Dinner went well, then drinks started ok but stalled a bit and I got in my head a bit about the dynamic, but then rallied towards the end. There was nothing untoward that happened, I just felt the conversation started to get a bit forced. It's crazy though - it feels like dancing on ice in terms of nailing the date and trying to have everything working; that when there's a lull, it can completely derail things. I'm good w…
/r/seduction14/11/24 05:00 PM
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In what ways would they manifest, neediness or desperation? Or similarly not strong emotionally? I could very well have a blindspot I'm not picking up on here - I'm trying to identify it currently because there is no point in going on dates with women if I'm turning them off by something. I will admit that I find the 2nd date more performative than the 1st, where I turn up and just chat and flirt/tease a bit, whereas the 2nd has been feeling a little more forced recently. I did ease up last nigh…
/r/seduction14/11/24 02:54 PM
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Very fair response. Thanks for your time and consideration.
/r/seduction04/10/24 03:55 PM
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Thank you for this. I suppose a large issue for myself is my standards have increased, and I'm less interested in dating random girls I don't have things in common with. But my problem is that I find because I'm meeting essentially strangers from online dating, I don't know them that well or even know whether I like them at all to want to go further with them; but at the same time I have to be escalating and seducing because that's the done thing - so I feel like this is incongruent and quite fa…
/r/seduction03/10/24 09:23 PM
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Unfortunately, getting girls can be a bit like trying to corral very skittish sheep, especially in younger girls with options and time in their favour. Girls in general don't want to be pinned down or committed to something by a guy that's trying to get with them, so they will be very loose and flaky unless they 1. become invested in you or 2. perceive you as someone worth having. To make them become invested, they need to share some sort of emotional connection with you, via friendship, shared …
/r/seduction02/10/24 10:59 PM
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Yeah I think the uncertainty is just exacerbating my weariness from investing into dating people at the moment haha, and I'm fatigued from trying to game/seduce! Had some excellent dates with a girl recently, where chemistry was good, humour was good, conversation flowed, values aligned etc, only for her to blow me off with a 'feel not enough spark' as we planned our third date. That bummed me out. Follow that with a subsequent date with a gorgeous girl that was boring as sin once we met in pers…
/r/seduction02/10/24 10:42 PM
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Brilliant description, really enjoyed reading it actually haha! And I agree with you entirely. Ok, so lets assume we're beyond the queue in Starbucks, I'm talking about the stage where you have the number and are going to meet up. I still know nothing about this person, other than she looks pretty enough to want to meet her; and now I have to hang out with her and escalate with someone I know nothing about, or what their qualities are, whether they're worth my effort, whether I'm actually intere…
/r/seduction02/10/24 09:39 PM
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