We often talk about how important it is in dating and seduction fundamentals to be 'outcome independent' i.e. to be able to meet women, go on dates, flirt, talk, etc, but be removed from the desire for one particular outcome to occur i.e. have sex. The reason for this is because letting the desire for the outcome take precedence in interacting with women results in a neediness and a desperation within men that women can pick up on, and is a massive turn off. It is far easier to be a chill, happy, and non-needy person if you aren't obsessing over the outcome of *getting* one particular girl. It's also closely related to having an 'abundance mindset'.

My question related to this is how does being an outcome independent man not result in you being a walk-over who will tolerate flakiness and weirdness from women that would otherwise generally be deemed unacceptable.

For instance, you're happy to invest time into dating a women, flirting, trying to have a good time, all while being outcome dependent and not feeling like you need this particular woman. What about if she flakes on you, stops following up for a week or two, meets other men, it doesn't work-out with them, and then she comes back. As an outcome independent man, should you tolerate the woman coming back to you again and risk being seen as 'an option', a 'walk-over', and taken for granted, or should you be saying 'nah, this wasn't cool, cya' and not tolerating that behaviour?

I ask this question in the wake of a second date with a girl where she hasn't texted back after the date. I was debating in my head that if I'm a chill guy, outcome independent with options (being the ideal), would I be ok with her coming back and texting after several days? I don't want to be a pushover or taken for granted and there are boundaries surely, but at the same time where should those boundaries be and should we be less in our ego about girls being flaky?

There is a line somewhere here and I'm just looking for someone to spell it out so its clearer.