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Since you like blunt or head on! You want something you will never get from her! You are acting like a husband. You will have to learn to let go! It’s ok to be civil but going out of your way to support and protect her is just a road block of not letting go.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/25 09:30 PM
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This is the worst part of the process. You will have to force yourself to eat something
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/25 01:32 PM
2

You choice to be this way because you get a benefit from it! The benefits are normally not great but you feel like they are, so you repeat them. The odds of you being a clinical sociopath are low, same for narcissists label. More than likely this is learned behavior, you can unlearn it but it will take a lot of emotional effort, most people are not brave enough to do the work!
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/25 07:50 PM
2

If you’re going to a weed shop, ask them about CBN. That’s the strain that knocks you out. You get high for about 20 mins till it starts to knock you out
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/25 07:51 PM
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Long term it wouldn’t work for her either, lots of family events are planned on weekends.
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/25 12:03 PM
2

EMDR
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/25 11:45 PM
11

Congratulations 🎈🎉🍾🎊 If you have a garage get a box and put all the stuff that annoys you in there. Then take it to good will or some other charity place. Trust me she left more than that coffee machine.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/25 01:38 AM
2

Dude as a female, if I post a picture of myself my DMs are crazy 🤪. How is this my fault (honest question). Seriously I’m 54 and if I post a photo of just myself, thirsty boys are in my dm. Should I not post anything to stop this behavior from thirsty boys? Why can’t I just post pictures of me on outings? Without the issues!
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/25 08:13 PM
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It’s also a disadvantage to woman! Lower life expectancy for woman Less career opportunities while being married Higher chances of getting dv event
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/25 07:17 PM
7

Female here: Have you thought about asking her to join you on doing the paired app daily. Anyways you might want to look into.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/25 07:15 PM
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Female here: dude get off the sauce! Stop sleeping with her it will mess up your head and heart.
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/25 01:49 PM
5

It’s not about the food. It’s more than likely something else. This could be solved with a simple series of conversations. Like hey honey I’m really sick of eating the same thing over and over, can you please help me to pick different dinner recipes you might like. I want to make there recipes and I know their not your normal preference but I would like you to at least try them. I have also been thinking of making you freezer meals that you can defrost and heat for when you don’t like what I mak…
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/25 09:14 PM
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Walmart? Isle 5 on the top shelf! Seriously it’s best to sit back and figure out your part of the problem before getting back out there.
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/25 05:11 PM
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Dude she married an alcoholic! Do you want to continue to be an active alcoholic? If not let her go, and continue on your path of healing! Mentally healthy people don’t marry addicts.
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/25 11:04 PM
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Anxiety/Avoidance?
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/25 10:31 PM
2

Dude it’s a business deal. You don’t have to take the house but you shouldn’t just roll over either. All Assets-debt\ by 2 = the deal!
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/25 08:50 PM
6

This op all of this. Sit down and write out three goal list. Short term, medium term and long term. Add to the list when something pops in your head. Get to working on one at a time, when you meet the goal throw a little happy dance party for your self.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/25 01:29 PM
1

Keep your individual therapy sessions, if they have a messaging session platform use it to dump on the therapist instead of soon to be x. Get busy, have a schedule of when it’s your time to be with the child and stick to it. Other times be busy. Got any friends that will let you hang out at their place?
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/25 08:10 PM
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Don’t let this spiral too long for the kids mental health. r/childofhoarder Hoardering has a serious mental health crisis in children that are forced to live in squalor.
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/24 12:04 PM
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Every child deserves a DNA test at birth.
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/24 03:19 AM
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Female here: What you seem to be describing is what people are calling living separate (not divorced). You want her to come back and live under the same roof as you. The advice the guys give of getting busy really does work.
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/24 12:31 PM
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Female here: I don’t really believe in “privacy” in marriage. Well except poohing in private if possible 😂. You want to read about my fantasy’s or my trash talk ok! You might want to talk or try to talk before pulling the plug
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/24 09:27 PM
1

Most credit unions partner with financial counseling services. Got any family near you that will allow you to mooch off them for a period to fix this?
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/24 02:03 PM
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Life is limbo! What if and what’s next limbo. Technically there are three parts of life the past, now and the future.
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/24 02:48 AM
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Find your self a good EMDR therapist. They can help you to lessen the trauma she inflected on you. If you can’t afford therapy. Everytime the ghost comes back to put you down think of a big red stop sign and then tell the ghost to shut the f up and that it’s not true. Then replace that voice with the truth.
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/24 06:34 PM
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It’s not uncommon to make rules for a trial separation. Dude if you can’t go 6 months without dating/hooking up. You might have an issue.
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/24 03:20 PM
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Assets - debt / 2 = ? Doesn’t matter what account/pile it comes out of.
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/24 06:54 PM
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You are worth more, please reach out to a hotline or a real friend.
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/24 07:44 PM
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😂 looks like an advertisement for passport bros
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/24 08:18 PM
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Take your power back today and in your actions today. The past is the past and you can regret your actions of the past but there is no power in the past. Just ghost to haunt you.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/24 10:48 AM
1

You got extra rooms in that house? How about renting them out month to month and using that money to fight the legal battles. There are online services to just file.
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/24 09:46 PM
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Female here and that is sad. One of the most joyful times were when the kids came home from school. So full of energy, chaos, snack throwing and talking about their day. Anyways more then likely it’s about having to see you or having you around her space, at least I hope so. If you have the resources find someone else to watch after them durning “your time”, she doesn’t seem to want the responsibility.
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/24 12:13 PM
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Are you ok with left overs or frozen meals you make yourself? Meal planning and cooking a normal family size meal and then packaging up into servings sizes is such a time saver. Normally last me like 3 days. Then I cook a different meal and eat that for 3-4 days. There is also an old book called once a month cooking. This might work for when the kid is around too. 2 weeks ago I made seafood gumbo ate that for like 4 days. This week I made chicken breast in the air fryer with different spices and…
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/24 02:25 PM
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Female here! There is nothing wrong with an age gap. Not all men are predatory and not all women are gold diggers. This black and white thinking will not serve you well.
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/24 09:32 AM
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19 oops 😬 with 2 kids.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/24 10:58 PM
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Mentally unstable people normally attract the same. Victims normally hold some responsibility in the abuse they receive
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/24 04:07 AM
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It’s called radical acceptance!
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/24 02:36 PM
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No one cares my ex husband lied about being homeless and jobless, while living in the marital home with his new girlfriend and having a job 😂 right to the judges face. It’s just a mill machine.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/24 08:59 PM
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Go file online, there is no reason to stay a war and make lawyers rich. If she is broke too she can’t afford a war either.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/24 09:14 AM
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👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 Female here. Lots of us have to fight to get replacement hormone therapy. It’s rather annoying when you go through menopause and extremely unfair. That T is just handed out like candy. We are told this is just a natural process, I seriously haven’t heard of this issue when men walk into the doctors office. Disagree low t and lack of sex can destroy a marriage as well.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/24 01:29 PM
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Call the sheriff department and ask to speak to the officer that called you. Sheriff do call if you reported a crime or a witness. It’s not that hard to find relatives phones numbers on line.
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/24 12:34 PM
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Can you block her when you have the kids? What pattern does she have of doing this? Communication only thru court app. Block her on everything else. Grey rock her nonsense
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/24 02:59 PM
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Studies by whom? The theory is an old one. While not based in reality of modern feminism. I understand you don’t like feminism and would prefer more control over women’s issues to fit your narrative. That shipped sailed long ago.
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/24 10:49 PM
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Well did you? It’s the parents job to open the door to an adult relationship with their adult children.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/24 05:59 PM
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Yeah I’m calling bs too.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/24 05:54 PM
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Hmmm, I wonder why?
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/24 12:34 PM
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People still buying that pair bonding study nonsense 😂
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/24 12:30 PM
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The insurance will be little pricey, with a 2 year waiting period most of the time, because of the health issues. So her retirement plan is your would be life insurance policy 😂
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/24 04:25 PM
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Female butting in: Agree no one is entitled. It’s cruel to neglect your partner and make them a monk. Relationships are about mutual benefit to both partners, yes it flips back and forth of whom gives more over time. But there has to be a balance! Dead bedrooms is real and very painful emotionally. I personally would not put up with lack of intimacy, with the exception of medical or temporary funk.
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/24 10:20 PM
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You want the honest truth that ring holds no to little resale value, just like the marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/24 11:34 AM
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Seriously if my ex did that I would just call the police. I would not feel bad, i have made peace with what I did. I would be worried that he is going to try and kill me again
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/24 05:40 PM
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Female advice here: leave the light on and the door open. Their non fully functional humans at this point and are grieving the death of two parent safety! They need grace. It’s doesn’t matter what you did, they need time to process and yes they will side with their mother at first, maybe always. If they stay at your house then invite them to make it their home as well, favorite junk food, decorating their space, have the hard talks about female products that will forever be there.
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/24 09:31 PM
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Dude don’t friend zone yourself. Civil yes friends 🫤
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/24 02:57 PM
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That’s messed up!
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/24 02:47 AM
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Insurance is because males are mathematically higher risk, it’s your behavior. Auto, health and life. So unless you’re calling math sexist…. Plus if you are going to be accountable for your behavior then it would be logical to pay higher premiums since you file more claims for insurance in auto, health and life, because of your behavior
/r/MensRights18/04/24 04:40 PM
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Your bio kids are your responsibility. I’m female and if my roll was sahm that would include your children. It’s not the kids fault the parents are stupid. I can’t imagine not loving or trying to love them if I love you. Now ex wife or baby mama 🫤 meh, I might hate her but that’s my issue for choosing you. Anyways if this current situation doesn’t work out I highly suggest getting fixed and developing a relationship with your children, they need and want you
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/24 07:16 PM
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50% in my adult daughters case. Ex husband and new wife has the kids 50% of the time. Current situation over nights this week is Monday, Tuesday, Friday Saturday Sunday, then Monday, Tuesday. Then it will flip to her Wednesday-Sunday. Holidays are every other, basically even year he has them for Xmas etc, odd years she has them, vacations are 2 weeks a year and have to be agreed upon. We are working to switch it to every other week, since they are older now. We also live 3 blocks from each other…
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/24 06:49 PM
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You are a parent 24/7, it’s doesn’t matter whom the paid help is that takes them 50% of the time. Why wouldn’t you want to be with the kids.
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/24 10:09 PM
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No I don’t think men should always be strong. Your sub is a public forum
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/24 08:03 PM
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Female here and children will always follow woman, until they realize mom is not nurturing. The question for man is are you going to stay strong
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/24 08:49 PM
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I’m sorry she did that to you. If she is going to the way back machine more then likely she hasn’t resolved whatever she is traveling back to.
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/24 08:56 PM
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Female here 6 years together from 15-21 years old, him 19-26. I’m way off better then him and without him. Emotionally and financially. This mistake of a relationship, both from abusive homes to create our own dumpster fire. True case of DV, with X-rays to prove it. Financially what i got from him was 140.00 in child support a month for 17 years. So about 28k. For 2 children. Just walked away from all assets. House keep it, money in your bank account don’t care. I’m the one that filed and paid f…
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/24 07:20 PM
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So to sum up the video compliancy is a marriage killer.
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/24 11:47 PM
1

Emeals app and Walmart delivery. Very easy to adjust for have kids, don’t have kids weeks Easy, open emeal app pick recipes needed for the week. It generates shopping list. Cross off what you already have. Merge shopping list with Walmart or Instacart (if you want pick up or delivery). Both Walmart and Instacart app will allow you to add other things to order like tp or dish soap, If not just go to the store. Then cook. A lot of the recipes are for 6 servings sizes and have calories listed. So e…
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/24 05:51 PM
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My great grandmother didn’t have the right to vote or own property. My grandmother couldn’t work or own a bank account(without husbands or father’s permission) My mother was under paid for her labor. Me I have no right to my own reproduction without husband permission. Now replace the pronouns to grandfather, father etc.
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/24 05:04 PM
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I say give yourself a time line. Stay in therapy and get to relearning your partner. Then make the decision to stay or leave. Slow it down, be logical and selfish about if this works for you.
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/24 04:42 PM
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I rub one off, easy done! Release the desire/tension. This lowers your sex drive for current partner.
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/24 04:28 AM
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Worst pain for girls is watching their first male figure being destroyed. Killing your self will leave a lasting hollowness.
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/24 05:07 PM
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The goal is live well in spite of the emotional harm your ex has caused. It’s not a whom is better, it’s indifference to them that wins.
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/24 05:59 PM
1

What does the law say in Australia? Can “dating” be used against you in the divorce proceedings? If there is no punishment then it is a morality question. No one can answer that but you.
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/24 01:44 PM
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Female here and we planned vacation with our last child’s input and as she got older she had the option of going or not going.
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/24 03:02 PM
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Who’s time is it? My time, her time? What about the kids what would they like? Do they want to go to that party, do they want to go to brunch?
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/24 12:11 AM
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This is not uncommon. Make sure it’s not physical, have a full blood test, make sure that T is at normal levels, happy pills, some bp pills can cause temporary ED. The other side of ED is mental issues. Therapy and openly talking about your struggles and stress with other men you trust or a professional therapist can help a lot.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 11:05 PM
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Female here and the toddler is just repeating part of what they have overheard. Don’t be them. You counter negative comments with positive ones. Praise and play is key to success at this age for bonding. Boil down or water down your questions to their level. “How was school” normally gets ok and zero results. Ask different questions like what’s your favorite color?
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/24 04:04 PM
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Children are not stupid. they learn and feel everything
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/24 03:20 AM
2

Female grandma here and my grandson 11 hates having two homes. He hates when his parents fight. He hates two different household rules. He hates having two different beds and pillows. So I communicate with him about what he likes and make his environment what he likes, and gently force his parents to be the same. My advice is to listen to what they really want and try to be that
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/24 03:17 AM
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Op. Listen to this and only this. You can’t force a real relationship between you and a teenager.
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/24 02:11 PM
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It is out dated and will change as woman make more money and have less children.
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/24 12:48 PM
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https://youtu.be/U3ASj1L6_sY?si=IDVsxAhnxM0cAu7P
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/24 12:35 PM
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You have nothing to be ashamed of this was do to you. They are both down low and dirty fers.
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/24 05:35 PM
1

Key words “bad match”.
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/24 04:17 PM
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10 mg of CBN/thc and 10 mg of melatonin. 30 mins before bedtime. Avoid booze.
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/24 11:37 AM
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10 mg of CBN/thc and 10 mg of melatonin. 30 mins before bedtime.
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/24 11:34 AM
1

Paying a payroll service is like paying an electric bill on budget. ADP will hold money for taxes withheld and possibly employer contributions to said taxes as well. There is no slush funds it’s a bill. Now she might have a payroll account that has extra money in it, think reserve account for payroll
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/24 04:54 PM
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Well if we are doing recommendations, I suggest a yoga class. Right along with sauna treatments.
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/23 10:56 PM
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Band aids are best ripped off fast.
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/23 05:44 PM
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She can want all she wants! Don’t leave that drunk alone with your child.
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/23 03:10 PM
2

https://www.audible.com/mk/t/title-3?asin=B01I28NFEE&source_code=GO1DH13304232190RB&device=m&ds_cid=71700000111539538&ds_agid=58700008443601057&ds_kids=p76839008689&gclid=Cj0KCQiAkKqsBhC3ARIsAEEjuJh2r8cCbrBJ6XIkpMWHk9SP1y_6BtN_0Ifb3G2e_PhQjG4pOMP6FzQaAiyUEALw_wcB&gclsrc=aw.ds You need to read this book.
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/23 02:41 PM
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There isn’t enough evidence that single dad households will be any better. Divorce is a bitch for children
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/23 03:22 AM
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You can learn all the girl stuff she needs, you just have to be patient and have open communication with your daughter. Grandmothers, aunts, even sisters can fill those gaps and roles. Lean on your support system if you have one.
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/23 03:55 AM
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I’m a mom of 4 children what your daughter needs is a loving mom, that wants to be there. None of that text seems like she cares. If your children were mine I would be all like your loss to her. But I wouldn’t send it. More then likely my response would be that sounds fair or the famous don’t give a x OKAY
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/23 02:58 AM
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It will get better ❤️‍🩹 Here is a video I have used when I start to feel a panic attack coming on https://youtu.be/30VMIEmA114?feature=shared Yoga and Meditation can also be helpful.
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/23 03:44 AM
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I can not forgive cheaters, you are dead to me. So if you can forgive then yes, if not you are just prolonging till the next time and the next time
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/23 12:06 AM
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Daughter and exsil are ordered to use it. He tried to not use it, because it was “inconvenient”. So daughter would screen shot his text and put them in app. Judge yelled at him. Nothing really happened except now daughter blocked his number and wouldn’t take calls from him unless it’s an emergency
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/23 02:55 PM
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Female here. I don’t want to give your hopes up but she might be waiting for you to say something. I would invite her on a “date” without the kids to talk. Durning that date I might, I might not ask her to go out again.
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/23 10:12 PM
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Because most of the time when a woman works outside the house, his behavior will still be the same. She will still have to clean up after him. He is creating a burden by being a piggy butthead. Why keep him if she is required to work and clean.
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/23 02:36 PM
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Female here: you mean date as in have sexual relations? Woman have it easy if that’s what they want, a boy toy to be all sweet and kind for a period of time, most avg men will line up around the block, if your ex is halfway decent looking and can be sweet for a period of time to get what she wants out of it. There are lots of double standards in life. Woman being able to get sex when they want is one of them.
/r/Divorce_Men16/11/23 07:54 PM
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Depends on the policy. The standard is 2-3 year waiting period.
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/23 03:19 PM
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Love is conditional and a choice. You choose to love your son because it is what is best for him to grow to be a healthy person. You choose to love your spouse even when they aren’t at their best because you hope they grow out of it. I love my husband and chose to love him even when I don’t like him. If you really think you have narcissistic issues you really need someone professional to balance your reactions to others. Being a narcissist is not necessarily a bad thing. It’s just the current bu…
/r/Divorce_Men09/11/23 11:56 PM
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The only solution is for you to become the main bread winner. You said bf, don’t officially get married.
/r/Divorce_Men07/11/23 01:09 PM
2

Get yourself a plan of things you want to try. Write them all down and then do them. Humans need not just physical activity but mental activity as well. You need a challenge. So thing to look forward too
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/23 12:58 PM
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You sound like your drunk posting this. ????? I’m female and you need to get your shit together now! Stop whining and start doing. Now how bad is the drinking? Do you need medical detox or distraction and behavior changes? My dude you need a ducking plan get one. She isn’t some saint to worship. At minimum she watched you self destruct and didn’t kick you in the balls to stop.
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/23 02:23 AM
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I’m female and agree! When I went to got my stuff I called him the day before and informed him of when. My father, my bf and her husband, her husband brought his two male friends and I called for the non emergency number for cops to show up. We did not go in till the cops showed up. Cops were nice enough to stay for the hour it took. I think they stayed because of my recovering black eye.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/23 10:29 PM
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The word you are looking for is NO! No I’m not going to move out till we fix this marriage or till we have a solid legal plan in place. Till then I will be living here and sleep here.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/23 03:00 AM
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Female here! Nope run away and take that child with you. Yes, post birth mental issues can happen. But this is way over that if you are being honest. Kid is bonded to you and she doesn’t sound stable. Bottom line get her to give you full custody so she can be free. And get her working if possible
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/23 02:08 AM
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Why get divorced if she can basically do what she wants?
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/23 02:48 AM
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Girl you got to be trolling?!?!?! I’m female and divorcing because you think he is racist because he made some comments in anger against you? That’s got to be the most lame Excuse ever. What’s really going on. He thinks you cheated with a black man! Let me tell you something children aren’t stupid and are exposed to all kinds of ideas. Divorce takes the control away from you, he can and will do what he wants when he has them. You think you are playing damage control now 😂.
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/23 10:42 PM
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Or maybe they are just using the wife as an excuse not to hang out with you. 😂 my husband does this sometimes when he doesn’t want to do something or go out with someone.
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/23 01:38 AM
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Sounds like you haven’t bonded with them. Bonding comes from actual activity of caring for them. Simple things like brushing your teeth together, reading stories and tucking them into bed. Bonding can also come from just playing.
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/23 01:09 PM
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😮 if you don’t want to be in the child’s life please don’t be. You will pay the reproduction tax aka child support. I suggest you get the snip if you don’t want to pay anymore child support for other children you might create.
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/23 02:04 AM
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Learn to not care what crazy or immature people say! Once you flip that switch it’s just funny, when you hear that gossip just laugh and add in some sarcastic comments like yep did hookers and blow too 😂
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/23 01:47 PM
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Keep it in a safe, every time you start thinking with your dick, go look at it!
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/23 02:42 AM
1

Some children don’t adjust well and need therapy. If her arm was broken you would take her to the er, right? She is 8 fix this now before hormones set in. It’s what I call the divorce shuffle, two different household two different rules.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/23 11:05 AM
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Because the kids might question if they are next on the don’t love them anymore list! Why cause more insecurity to make you feel better? Why assign blame now? Children will know in the long run. Plus their about to be exposed to the divorce shuffle. Never really having one place to live. Never really having one xmas. They are about to learn different household different rules. So yes let’s assign blame, bad mouth the other parent, let’s start a war.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/23 02:39 PM
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I’m annoyed/pissed for you, cut that cunt and father too! There are some lines you don’t cross. They seriously would be dead to me.
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/23 06:30 PM
2

Petty is petty and we all do it! It’s kinda funny how we let petty things annoy us.
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/23 05:55 PM
1

He mostly trusted my instincts to protect our children. I trust his. He wasn’t happy about his uncle being on that list. Till I asked him if that is the kinda man he wanted his daughters to marry or sleep with? So why expose them to that kind of behavior. So we made a comparison, drive separate to family events where his uncle will be, me and kids stay for beginnings and dinner, then we leave and he can stay, so limited exposure of trash for the kids. If he wanted uncle over for poker night, I w…
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/23 05:48 PM
1

You are welcome 😂 I’m female and think woman need to actually get to that point of equal rights.
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/23 04:56 PM
4

Why be humiliated or embarrassed? Did you fuck her mother? Honey this is simply a case of taking out the trash. File the paperwork the easiest way the lawyer says to do. Protect your rights to assets and children. With in the law. Pay your divorce tax. Then find a good therapist and heal from this dumpster fire. I personally would take a hard look at everyone in my life and cut contact with people that don’t serve a purpose.
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/23 04:47 PM
4

What no West Virginia 😂
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/23 04:35 PM
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Google says that depends on differ facts and is up to a judge. I wouldn’t allow her to threaten me like that, I would say no with equal rights woman are required to go back to work and support them selves and custody is normally 50/50 now a days with minimal cs support. All assets are split 50/50. So is all debt!
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/23 09:11 PM
1

Female here and I came from that dumpster fire trailer trash of a family. Some of them are ok and some of them are not ever dealing with you again family. Seriously I don’t want our children around those jerks ever, I don’t care if they blood or not. My husband comes from that nice middle class family. He has some of those jerks too, guess what I’m not dealing with them or expose our children to that trash. I’m still in the why are you dealing with that nonsense phase? Why can’t you just say no …
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/23 04:26 PM
2

Right, I’m like he is too young to be part of the hay day of Jerry springer.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/23 04:12 PM
2

Female here, if her parents are willing to allow her to live with them long term, and for free. she more then likely doesn’t see it as a financial loss. More then likely already talked to her parents about this. She just changed locations of sahm. If her parents are not pushing her to work and she has a burning desire to be a sahm then she would not work. She would not care what the courts say, she will just get less of an allowance and bitch about how horrible the ex is. Op basically becomes ba…
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/23 02:32 PM
1

It’s sad really because so many people are missing out on the benefits of having a decent long term caring relationship. The I don’t need but want mindset is horrible but it is basically a female emotional thing that men need to understand. Plus I’m sick of hearing it in my female circle 😂. And correcting it. It’s highly insulting to men, since most men want to be needed, honestly most women want to be wanted. It’s also part of the reason the divorce rate is higher after a woman can fully provid…
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/23 03:11 PM
4

That is not going to work under the current laws. Women don’t have to stay married anymore for protection or financial or children. Staying married to a woman is now an emotional choice. Gone is the need, it’s a want now. Men still pick whom they want, but woman now pick whom they keep. Men do need their social life back
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/23 02:20 PM
4

Female here. Married 30 years and it is not always easy. I look at this long term relationship as 80/20 happy/annoyed. Sometimes that flips to annoyed/happy. Durning these times I focus on the long game. Not all couples are willing to work and grow together. Yes marriage was designed to allow woman to focus on nurturing children. A male provides the resources. A female turns those resources into a nurturing environment for children. A blind eye was given to whoring around on both parties for the…
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/23 01:20 PM
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Maybe, I’m female and I somewhat agree with him. Wives shouldn’t ignore their husbands sexual desires Yes females are more emotional then men, most females require emotional feelings to sleep with you in a relationship. Outside of a relationship we just find you attractive or we are horny. Here is the part that doesn’t make sense to me. 304’s, body count, slut shaming, etc. So enjoy sex but not like that, enjoy it like this. Do have duty sexy, but don’t have duty sex. Lazy 😂 hardly the majority …
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/23 10:05 AM
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So if we replace her being the drunk your advice would be he is typical trash behavior for leaving to get her attention? To get her attention to stop this destructive behavior.
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/23 12:22 PM
1

Don’t you find the double standards funny. It always makes me giggle. Go get under a 20 year old. 😂 if a woman does that she belong to the streets. Anyways op if you want her back and want to try to see if this marriage can work, then go do it. Full stop with the nonsense of having her on a pedestal. Full stop with the poisonous mindset, do not go get sober for anyone else but yourself. When you fuck up there is a lesson to be learned, so go learn it!
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/23 11:47 AM
1

Water is your friend, drink that instead. If you can’t stop find your closest AA meeting and go listen to the horrible stories.
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/23 11:38 PM
6

You need to wrap your head around she does not respect you
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/23 01:44 PM
1

This is not a safe environment for the kids. If you don’t have family, friends or even a co worker to help. Have you tried calling all the churches and begging them?
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/23 02:55 AM
1

My divorce lawyer didn’t change for a consult, but he was more of a strip mall paper pusher. Now all the other lawyers in my life since then do change a discounted hourly rate for shopping around. Judge a lawyer by his reputation not by his clothes or office location.
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/23 01:42 PM
5

Sounds like a fool’s errand. You don’t have to be friends with her, if you run in the same circles people gossip.
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/23 11:28 AM
17

My grandparents were married 64 years My parents were married 49 years All death do you part marriages, it wasn’t all rainbows and kittens but they definitely had love and commitment. We are going on 31 years and now I know what my parents and grandparents went through. I agree it’s sad and heartless state of marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/23 02:22 AM
1

Female here. The right answer is Monday after school switch. Ex wife gets even calendar day Monday’s, you get odd calendar day Monday’s. You can’t solve a problem with out information. What you really want to do is talk to her alone (take her out for her favorite junk food) and figure out why, not a fight but a conversation. Then do that with your son. It could be as simple as her favorite clothing is at moms house or your environment is lacking something or the vibe of your parenting style.
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/23 01:33 PM
1

Know your zoning laws and talk to a lawyer. Zoning laws in my area don’t allow for people to live in rvs for more then a 14 day period. Nebors parents visit every summer from June-October in their rv. The Karen of the Nebors didn’t like the fact that they are breaking the zoning laws and caused ton of problems. We offered them to spend the night in our driveway. Not good enough for Karen. That witch can’t even see our driveway from her windows. So now the neighbors parents have to move the rv ev…
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/23 01:11 PM
8

Hire a lawyer and follow the law. No reason to talk to her. Ex husband ghosted me, the law required me to run an ads in the paper, for a set of time frame. Since he refused to disclose his location. Then the divorce proceeded as normal with or without him there.
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/23 03:50 PM
1

That’s a barn burning down flag.
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/23 08:22 PM
2

Female here and it’s purely a logical financial decision. His credit was better and I put down the deposit. Our current domicile is in a location for his work and near his family. So if I were to die that would make it easier for him, paperwork wise. If we were to get divorced, this is not my location choice to live and have property in my chosen location, only in my name (retirement home) woman normally live longer in retirement. Domicile home is worth twice of the retirement home, but domicile…
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/23 05:29 PM
2

5 😂 my sisters cat gets pissed when she leaves for more than 2-3 days and will shit in her bed.
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/23 12:41 AM
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You have zero control over what her dumb ass does. So just shake your head. As far as the kids heck yeah take then, just hug them, say you love them and proud of them, then redirect want to play x or do x. If they want to vent about it let them, but never bad mouth her. You don’t have to, children really aren’t stupid.
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/23 11:19 PM
2

Female here and this is the correct answer!
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/23 09:58 PM
6

Every child at birth deserves a dna test, before the birth certificate is signed. Every child that doesn’t have a father signed birth certificate should be required to have a dna test before paying child support.
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/23 12:44 AM
1

I will tell you what I told my friend! Stop fucking around with dirty dick, sure the sex is amazing but he isn’t just fucking your body, he is fucking you up mentally, so stop fucking dirty dick!
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/23 03:35 PM
8

My daughter had this problem with her ex. He didn’t like the courts having access to his written temper tantrums. I just told her to copy and paste what he texted her into the parenting app and then answer it via parenting app. With “above message was texted by x, court order required communication to be in parenting app” Do not answer his calls. You can also take screenshots of text and email them to your self. In a divorce email account. Took him about two years to stop the harassment outside …
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/23 10:35 PM
2

Female here. I’m sorry, that’s abuse and she needs to be punished for it. Will she??? Tell the doctor the truth and call the police. Press charges and ask for a restraining order. Fuck her your goal is to fight and protect your child.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/23 02:20 PM
3

The action of sex (release) is not intimacy. Intimacy is a close, familiar, and usually affectionate or loving personal relationship with another person or group. Basically it’s an emotional bonding experience not having sex with someone whom you like or have a desire to have physical sex with.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/23 06:08 PM
1

Your dad did this because back then it wasn’t common to get 50/50 time with your children. You got limited weekends and off days on holidays. Unless your wife was willing to share. Divorce was also more expensive in maintenance support payments. Go do your homework, talk to several lawyers about your options. Yes, get your self into counseling. Do this tomorrow and give yourself a time limit to decide.
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/23 12:21 PM
10

Sounds like she never left
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/23 11:06 AM
2

Female here. She is wrong, leaving a 6 year home alone is wrong. He is not of the age of reasoning. This means he doesn’t have the reasoning power to solve dangerous situations. He is also to young to handle the emotions that can result of being left home alone. I would report her, if it was my child. Not as being vindictive but as a this is not acceptable behavior and it needs to stop for the benefit of the child. Boo hiss on her!
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/23 02:39 PM
3

Female here: It’s called a boundary and it’s going to be a hard one. I’m a fence sitting atheist, basically others can have their relationship with whatever god as long as they leave me out of it. If my husband turned religious 🫣😳😬. I and any minor children we have would not be joining or going. Hard pass, willing to die on this hill, will not be entertaining any of your god talk. Period end of story. Plus I would be a total bitch about the negative snide comments and use their chosen religion a…
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/23 04:42 PM
2

How rude of her. Odds are neither of you are narcissists. Mostly all humans have narcissistic traits, which doesn’t make you a clinical narcissist. It makes you human!
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/23 04:16 PM
4

So do most places stick in butt people hang out.
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/23 06:31 PM
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Have you read fair play? Female here and I can tell you woman are sick of Working 40 hours for less pay. Working 40 hours for ungrateful family. Week after week, year after year. It’s the biggest complaint I hear other woman complain about.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/23 09:18 PM
2

Have you asked your therapist for recommendations on books. I told mine I love to read and can eat books daily. She gives me a new book recommendation weekly. I now tease her that I don’t have a therapist but I joined a book club. If you don’t connect with this one you are paying them for a service try another one. A good therapist should be checking to make sure you are doing basic self care, not harming yourself, teaching you stuff to lessen stress, anxiety, working out your traumas, working t…
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/23 04:31 AM
2

You change the card numbers and freeze them. This will not hurt your credit and allow you access if needed, with a phone call. it also helps with oops and fraudulent transactions.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/23 07:16 PM
5

Simple question why do you need a government license to be married in the legal sense of a contract? Does you license make you love your spouse?
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/23 04:30 AM
4

Because nasty woman find nice guy to abuse and use and then ditch them.
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/23 12:46 AM
2

How about this all assets are sold and dividends equally between the children! 😂
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/23 08:39 PM
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Oh crap I must not be female 😂 special day, and what jewelry? Got the kids. Still got the man. Darn I need to tell him we should get divorced so I can marry him again for love and resources. In all seriousness I see the trend. Of non compatible people getting married and then never truly working at their marriage or life and then poof divorce, second hot girl summer, repeat second attempt.
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/23 02:09 PM
1

I’m still stuck on $500 of Starbucks a month. She sounds like she has some mental health issues. Is she treating them with Starbucks? 😂 Sorry couldn’t help myself
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/23 01:29 AM
1

Cbn/thc gummy is the only thing that works so I can sleep, after a life of omg abuse as a child. Weed has a place in medicine. We just need to study it more.
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/23 01:20 AM
17

A marriage should benefit both individuals. You might want to write a list of how it did not benefit you. And ask her to do the same. You two seem to be playing some silly emotional game.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/23 08:23 PM
1

Strong independent woman don’t run around saying that nonsense we just do it. It’s kind like guys saying they are all big and tuff.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/23 06:30 PM
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Female here. I think it’s possible to be her friend or to care about her. You need to make sure she isn’t taking advantage of you.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/23 08:34 PM
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Marriage takes two people. So logically it’s both persons fault, no matter what anyone says or assignments of guilt. The only time this changes is actual physical or verbal abuse.
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/23 05:02 PM
1

That is a great idea.
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/23 04:37 PM
2

Ding dong the witch is gone!
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/23 03:27 PM
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