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Question For WomenTimosox/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 04:11 PM
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Lmao what
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 09:00 AM
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Teach me your ways oh sexy one
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 08:58 AM
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Lmao of course Bazlenka is going viral on twitter for dating multiple women
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 12:59 AM
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It's women who talk so much about their intuition and the bad vibes unchosen men are giving off
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 12:58 AM
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I do think calling women 'uggos' is gross and shouldn't be done, but I know plenty of people of all genders who semi-regularly engage in casual sex. I don't think the women partaking are doing so out of some sense of "societal duty", but because they want it and enjoy it. Nor do they really care about whether the guy is lowering his standards or not as long as he treats them well
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 02:39 PM
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Do women not enjoy sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 12:54 AM
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And a lot of us do. Now what?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 03:56 PM
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I have been in one LTR. We met when I was 28. Not a single date before, and I've had 3 since we broke up
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 12:24 AM
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Sure. I guess someone has to be at the arse of the distribution curve
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 12:22 AM
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Yes, women gush constantly about who they find good looking. And yet whenever a man complains about his singlehood, immediately the question revolves around his morals and character. The implication thus being that his looks aren't the problem
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 12:21 AM
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Only a little bit
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 12:20 AM
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Depending on your definition, fat, yes. Repulsive, no. I don't blame women for being attracted to physically attractive men. I just wish they wouldn't lie about it
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 03:17 PM
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And I'm in that whatever percentage that have not. Certainly not from a lack of trying
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 03:16 PM
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How often do men talk about how physical attraction matters from very little to not at all?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 03:15 PM
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Lol ikr
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 03:14 PM
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Yeah I would. I don't blame or see it as a bad thing that those women fuck "higher" than themselves. I just wish they were more honest about how important physical attraction is
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 03:14 PM
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I find it so funny how so much of the narrative around situationships/casual sex/FBWs, is about the woman having low self-esteem and thus being led into that position. And yet, they never have that low self-esteem when it comes to ugly guys? It's always the hot guys that get women willing to debase themselves
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 02:37 PM
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It's the mental block that stop women from swiping right on me on apps. It's the mental block that promiscuous women I know irl hooking up with me when they were bored. It's the mental block that means the woman at the bar/party decides to approach my friend but not me
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 02:33 PM
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Yeah that guy is nuts. But I've seen how women act around men they're really interested in. Those guys had to do nothing. "Oh I like funny guys!" No, you laugh at all the jokes that guy you like made, despite how blind drunk he was, coz you think he's hot And that's fine. Just own up to it
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 02:30 PM
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I don't wanna hear any more shit about how women can sense bad vibes from men until Drew Pavlou's asian partner breaks up with him
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 02:28 PM
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https://x.com/ShamooYT/status/2070308547284574681 It's amazing the things women will sense and won't sense from men
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 06:07 AM
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Of course. I've had a crush on Nigella Lawson for years
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 02:44 PM
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Success, for me, is going on one (1) single date. That is a woman willing to spend a couple of hours with me over a drink or two to see if we get along
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 02:26 AM
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Why are you equating what it takes to get you in the door with behaviors once they are already in the door? That's the point. Reasons for men's undesirability are attributed to the latter, but those attributes don't matter for those men who do get into those relationships Most of them men I've met in my life who do well with women aren't openly dickheads. As far as I know, they're cool people. But I have met a few men who are absolute scumbags very openly, and yet they've never struggled to find…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 04:49 PM
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I am quite bitter about my dating life. I've never abused anyone. The few dickhead abusive men I've met aren't bitter at all. And I find it quite repulsive that you would assume that because I'm sad and bitter about my dating life that I would be abusive
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 04:44 PM
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So is bitterness is worse than abuse? And where do women think the bitterness comes from?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 10:31 AM
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Because they know they can end that sexlessness very easily. They have agency
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 02:05 AM
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What is flirting?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 01:03 AM
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What percentage of all that incoming interest is useless spam? Is that percentage less for men? I can only speak for myself, but I'd rather have to sort through interest, whatever the spam percentage, than not have that opportunity
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 04:12 PM
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And it's much better to have a stack of junk mail to sort through than not
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 03:29 PM
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I haven't seen Obsession, so I won't comment on the movie itself. However some of the discourse I've seen about it online kinda shits me. So the guy is a piece of shit, which maybe true (haven't seen the movie), but party of the argument why he is a turd is because is he has someone who is interested in him, and he's a coward for not asking her out, or asking his crush out. It really fucking shits me how this gets extrapolated across the sexless male population. I have friends. I'm on the apps. …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 03:26 PM
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What separates that man who was in the right place at the right time from the man next to him? I ask as someone who does enjoy a party, who does go out drinking, and isn't a shut-in hermit, I have been in the right place at the right time. But women always seem to choose someone else
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 09:50 AM
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I admire Thatcher too. Her grave makes such a great gender-neutral bathroom
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 01:42 AM
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I understand approximately none of this
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 01:43 AM
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Neither really tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 03:12 PM
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We never have a hero male character with a limp and a bald head. How about a wheel chair? Not disagreeing with your main point, but isn't one of the X-men bald and in a wheelchair?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 03:06 AM
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No, not at the same time, and not 100 people. But say around 15-30
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 11:53 PM
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Sure
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 11:52 PM
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From what I see around me, having had many casual sex partners doesn't hold anyone back, men or women
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 01:10 AM
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If you say so. Most people I know have both casual sex and relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 01:09 AM
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I agree it's not really discussed, that's fair
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 01:09 AM
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I agree it doesn't really come up, partly why I think the obsession over it is dumb
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 01:08 AM
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I can understand having had many partners not being a turn-on, but I can't see how it's a turn-off. Otherwise those men wouldn't have so many ex-partners in the first place
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 03:32 PM
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How does one identify the right bar? All the ones I go to seem to be mostly filled with men. Women rarely go by themselves, and mostly are there with their partners
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 07:17 AM
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Yeah I did that for a while. I had a lot of fun, but I never got laid from it
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 10:25 AM
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https://x.com/meowvivienne/status/2057244757303447781 I'm not really a height-guy, but lmao noone is acting like this for average or short men
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 02:34 PM
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17
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 02:27 PM
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Lol. Lmao even https://x.com/fesshole/status/2057090225755615311
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 01:52 AM
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If we're talking about anecdotal evidence, the vast majority of men, women and non-binary people I know have had casual sex at least once in their life, and most do it semi-regularly when single. And I don't know many gay men, so those men are mostly hooking up with women
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 01:22 AM
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I've seen plenty of men act in extremely toxic and creual ways, in ways I can't even imagine acting, and yet not lack for female attention. And sure, maybe those women are dumb/shallow/whatever, but at least they get that attention as opposed to complete radio silence. E.g. I met this one guy who had his date making jokes about the fact that he had ghosted another woman he had been casually sleeping with after getting her pregnant
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 02:11 PM
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I cannot tell a bunch of short-haired, bearded, white men in polos and khakis apart All my friends who fit in this category have no issues getting laid
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 04:00 AM
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I like having a fashion style that means I don't have to think too hard what I wear. Which sorta ends up being a business casual-esque style. Shirts and polos with chinos, usually chelsea boots but sometimes chucks. What does your ideal woman (or man) dress like? What values do you think she might communicate through her own clothing? Honestly I'm not really that fussed. I guess if someone is glammed up all the time, and not only at appropriate occasions, that would indicate to me that she is a …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 01:56 AM
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That's fine, but also many people will eat cheese pizza out of convenience. How does a guy become the convenient guy?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 04:04 AM
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Sorry, I meant to say I do agree with most of what you said. "Don't" was a typo. Physical appearance. Charisma. Pheromones. And confidence. From what I could see the few times I went it was always number one. Maybe pheromones, I dunno coz I'm a smoker and can't smell too well, but I would see myself and the mates I went with and other men trying and getting nowhere. I don't doubt you have seen these 'man magnets'. I personally haven't, every woman I know irl has no problems finding attention if …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/26 03:20 PM
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I don't really agree with most of what you said, yet, expecting groups of women to fawn all over them There were a few men who did experience this. So what was the difference between them and the rest of the men?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/26 02:48 PM
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https://x.com/sagharborcap/status/2051096556195942745 Lol. Lmao even
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/26 12:46 PM
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Fwiw I try to be very consistent on this question. The vast majority of men I know who get laid easily are wonderful, kind and great people. The small number of absolute dickheads I've met in my life have never lacked for attention from women. The two things that unites those groups is that the men are good looking
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/26 11:58 AM
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I generally dress semi-business casual when out. Butten down shirt and chinos. I have gone on 3 dates in my entire life. And yet women are complaining about going on dates with men with ripped pants and food stains on their t-shirts
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/26 05:44 AM
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Ah, we don't have middle school/junior high in my country. But I get what you mean. And sure, there are probably a lot of men too afraid to approach anyone or they stop after their first failure. I certainly wasn't one of those men. And yet, I never had a small group of women trying their hardest to make sure I liked them
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 05:55 AM
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I'm saying OP is mistaken and that a lot of men actually do go to these events and still end up being left on the sidelines like it’s a junior high (what is junior high?)after mingling and talking with people. And most women too, they just end up hanging out with their friends, except for the some competing for the hot guy's attention
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 02:45 AM
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I've been to a few dating events and yeah that's kind of what happens. People come in single sex friend groups, there's a bit of mingling after the initial fear wears off (after a few drinks too), and by the end of the night the room gender segregates again except for a few men each with 2-5 women vying for his attention
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 01:09 AM
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Are women banned from approaching men?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 01:06 AM
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Maybe it's just my circle, but people on this sub seem to really be out of connect with how much casual sex people are having
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 12:45 AM
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Women aren't attracted to me
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 07:52 AM
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When men ask how to meet people who have casual sex, they are often told to go to places where people have casual sex, i.e. bars or clubs or music festivals and the like
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/26 12:49 AM
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True, many people, mostly men, make this argument. I disagree with them. Hot people succeed the most, regardless of their "personality". Good hot people get laid a lot, and so do bad hot people. I don't think women are attracted to bad traits, but they're willing to overlook them in many circumstances
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 03:30 PM
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What do I do? Well, less at the moment, but in my past I was a prolific bar goer, I went to house parties and shoved various substances up my nose, went to a music festival. I won't say I did everything possible, but I enjoyed myself in those spaces people say casual sex happens. Did I have a lot of fun? Yes. Did I ever get laid? No
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 03:27 PM
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I've had one relationship in my life. I met her when I was 28. I wasn't convinced she didn't love me
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 02:43 AM
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I don't disagree the men here are gross. But I've seen it here from women too. "Why sleep with a guy when we will be a cumdump for him?" Noone I know irl thinks this way
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 04:34 PM
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I won't say those men are right. But as someone who has friends, etc, it's a great safety net to an extent. But it doesn't go the whole way
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 04:33 PM
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Fair enough, then yeah there's a apiece missing. But not for all of us
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 04:32 PM
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Sure, that makes sense for them. But not for all of us
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 04:31 PM
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Thank you. This is a really nice message
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 04:30 PM
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I've tried hard. Yeah also the fear of rejection has stopped me sometimes, but I'd say I'm sitting at 75:25
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 04:28 PM
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A lot of the women here underplay the amount of casual sex women have, or describe it in really gross ways. Being used as a cumdump or to be busted and dusted, etc. In my experience irl, from the people I know who have had casual sex, they don't describe it in those ways
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 04:28 PM
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That's fair, I agree with that. I guess my disagreements come from that the vast majority of people I know, men, women, non-binary, have had casual sex at least once in their lives. Most do it semi-regularly when single, and I don't know many gay men so all those men are sleeping women. So casual sex seems to be much more common than people here say it is And maybe people, but for me women, are bad with dealing with the emotions around casual sex. But why do they so often seem to choose men who …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 04:25 PM
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The most basic and simple steps. As little as someone agreeing to meet me for a drink or a coffee* I don't drink coffee, so a hot chocolate for me tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 04:21 PM
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In general re the women on here. Of course not every single woman on here has that attitude, but most do. And even the ones that do have casual sex describe it in ways that most of the people I know irl wouldn't
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 04:15 PM
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I've only had one relationship in my life. It happened once I had gotten out of shape, but I had continued to dress the same (normcore/sort of business-casual). So no, I don't think those were the reasons
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 04:14 PM
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Women on this sub seem to have a really strong anti-casual sex vibe. I only have my own anecdotal evidence, but this isn't borne out by reality
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 04:06 PM
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It's so incredibly hard to explain to people, men, women, non-binary, who don't get how hard it is to find any sort of sexual or romantic validation for some of us. They just do not understand what it does to the mind. Bless them, ignorance truly is bliss
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 04:02 PM
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But would men be as interested in sex where they don’t get off most of the time? I wouldn't be opposed to it. I've only had sex with one person, my ex partner and I didn't cum a few times with her. Not her fault at all, but I still enjoyed those times, even if it didn't end in an orgasm
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 03:59 PM
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I agree with all this. You are right, and men should absolutely do that stuff, reciprocating in the small or large but serious and real ways that matter to her. But what use is all this to us men who can't even get someone on a single date? Being in and maintaining a relationship is one thing, but landing that very first step is something else
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 03:51 PM
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Sure. But can you imagine why one set of "losers" would prefer to be in the other set?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 11:33 PM
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Why is it weird to you that men want to feel attractive and desireable?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 01:19 PM
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Even if this is true, I refuse to engage in such games
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 01:06 AM
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Why does every assume every struggling man is some shut in hermit?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 05:23 AM
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I was in that scene for a while. Many of the people there were single and fun. I made some great friends. It never translated into any action for me though
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 12:02 AM
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laugh at his jokes Sure, why wouldn't I want someone with a compatible sense of humour? show interest in what he says Sure, why wouldn't I want someone who takes an interest in me? praise him Um, not really don’t challenge him too much, don’t show that you’re smarter, don’t argue It kinda depends what you mean by argue, but as someone who likes to read and values intellectual curiosity, yeah I would be attracted to someone with these traits make him feel good about himself Yeah of course lol let…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 12:13 PM
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I'm not getting messages from anyone, so I'll take what I can get
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 07:35 AM
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"Noone ever said looks don't matter, you're getting angry over nothing", I would ask all those people to go to the blue-pilled/liberally-feministy dating advice places on the internet, whether certain subreddits or sites like Dr Nerdlove or Captain Awkward and, and start espousing the importance of looks. They'll shut you down hard
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 04:05 PM
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And yet they keep having it
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 12:15 AM
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Sure, that's my point. This is where I disagree with a lot of redpill stuff, things about women being attracted to dickheads or bad behaviour. They're not, they're attracted to good looking men, regardless of behaviour. And so why they'll act in a "suboptimal" way around them
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 02:16 PM
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All this maybe true, I'm disputing your numbers. Bit the vast majority of people, men, women, non-binary, have had casual sex at least once on their life. And most of them do it semi-regularly when between relationships. Also, I don't know many gay men, so the men I know who are hooking up are usually doing it with women So as much as women here say men looking for casual sex are looking for free prostitutes or cumdumps or whatever else they say, women like casual sex. Or at least the idea of it…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 01:59 PM
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https://x.com/Liv_Agar/status/2031483288125321675 Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 11:00 AM
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People can go from a yes to a no via their personality. But noone is going from a no to a yes And that leaves aside that the few vile men I've ever met/known never lacked for partners
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 02:19 AM
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Wouldn't bother me
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/26 04:42 AM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 02:44 PM
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That's good I guess, but it still won't make me watch the new series
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 02:01 PM
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This isn't entirely true, SLA Marshall's work has been quite seriously questioned. But yes, I think the American Civil War was the first major war where battle deaths outnumbered disease deaths
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 01:59 PM
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There's no actual evidence Tsarina Alexandra had an affair with Rasputin. He certainly had his way with many Russian aristocrats, but not her. And that idiot Tsar was gonna lose his life anyway, it had all been building up since 1904
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 01:57 PM
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I refuse to watch this shit. Season 9 was absolute garbage, I can't believe they're rebooting it again. Arrested Development, Chicken Run, Ghostbusters, it never works
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 01:55 PM
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How is it lying? It's been three days, they still barely know each other
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 03:08 AM
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I'm okay with that. But that's not the same as expressing annoyance, frustration or tiredness
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 03:07 AM
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Then again, maybe this is all just online drama. Irl I know plenty of people, men and women, that have broken online "rules" and have had lots of fun doing it
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 02:16 AM
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It's a woman complaining about a friend, who she has only known for three days, expressing interest in her, I get some women have a thing about close friends (and some don't), but there's no way they're close friends after three days. It's true, there is no one size fits all approach. Yet it seems like men are criticised for whichever route we take
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 02:16 AM
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Fair enough
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 02:14 AM
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https://x.com/Angryhijabii/status/2023385677946134766 Is there any point in time where a woman would at least be neutral about a man showing interest in her?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 01:32 AM
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And the DPRK is a shining example of liberal democracy
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 11:02 PM
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Made out with my date tonight. I can still smell her lipstick on me
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 03:22 PM
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I asked her out a few days ago, and we've been talking almost non-stop since. I'm nervous. Fuck is this going too well?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 01:24 PM
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That's fair. So what am I missing that everyone else has?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 02:48 PM
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Sure. Maybe I'm in a bubble, but yeah I don't know anyone who has it as bad as I/we do
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 02:47 PM
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Fucking prick
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 01:33 PM
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I don't know a single person who has it as hard as me when it comes to finding dates. That includes all the women, men, and non-binary people I know
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 01:31 PM
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Also, I'm trying to make this a wine night, not a whine night
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 01:29 PM
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How tf are you fucking someone when they're in pain? Why wouldn't you stop and ask how they're feeling? The shit?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 01:28 PM
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I really cannot understand how easy it is for people to go on dates. How do they find someone, anyone, at the drop of a hat?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 01:26 PM
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Someone once complimented my eyelashes
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 01:01 AM
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Eh, as someone who hates Pearl's politics (after never having heard of her and researching for about 5 minutes), I wouldn't call her ugly narrow hips, big shoulders Narrow hips I don't mind, and big shoulders have a relatively large niche with the whole "muscle mummy" thing alopecia Yeah, some/many men can get away with being bald, very few women can
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 01:00 AM
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Have you watched Ways of Seeing?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 12:56 PM
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What?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 08:40 PM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 10:51 AM
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Yea
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 09:30 AM
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Got a date for next week. Fuck yeah we ballin'
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 08:35 AM
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I have several women friends who could probably be placed in this box and they care deeply for their male friends
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 07:57 AM
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Nothing works anywhere. No apps work for me, but they seem to work for everyone else. I do go out and socialise, the only people who talk to me are men or lesbians. I have enough of a personality to make friends, but noone wants anything further
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 01:33 AM
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https://x.com/meishato/status/2018353002390909047 Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 10:58 PM
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It's not hard to find someone to have sex with or even a consistent enough thing to "date". How do you do it?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 10:50 PM
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I've been travelling as a backpacker. Everyone around me was fucking at the drop of a hat. Not me of course
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 10:47 PM
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Just finished the Liberation Trilogy by Rick Atkinson. Good series
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 10:58 AM
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I've been to a couple. After a few drinks, everyone loosens up, people start mingling. By the end of the night, a few men each have two to five women vying for their interest and everyone else is just talking with their friends
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 05:02 AM
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Not everything I see irl fits with what most blue pill people here say. The importance of looks, that most people have casual sex between relationships, and the usefulness of dating apps are something here they tend to disagree with
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 04:58 AM
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But that comes from having matches in the first place. I can see there you would want to narrow it down to someone who is really compatible, but I can barely even get a date
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 12:32 AM
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Maybe it's my bubble, but the dating experiences of the people around me do not at all reflect what is often argued in this sub. Looks are king, most people find dates and casual sex partners semi-easily between long term relationships, few people "pump and dump"/lie to get into anyone's pants, no-one gives a shit about n-counts, and dating apps work well for them all. I am the only outlier I know
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 11:16 PM
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Can women tell my demeanour and attitude from a dating app profile? Inb4 "don't use the apps because they're so bad for me", almost everyone else I know does well on the apps. I'm the only person who has had problems with them
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 10:39 AM
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That's true. But why does it always happen to be someone else, but never me?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 04:33 AM
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As someone who does do plenty of substances, this has never worked for me. But this doesn't justify OP's cruelty
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 12:37 AM
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My friends and I are in our early-mid 30s
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 11:52 PM
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Sure. I have very little experience with dating, so I can't comment on that
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 02:24 PM
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You're welcome! Best of luck. I guess for me I try to think more about personality traits than the specific markers
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 02:23 PM
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I've spent ages on the apps, but I'm neither a 300lb vegan nor a fit 20yo woman. I'm a 75-ish kilo mid 30-something guy, but I'm trying to complain less
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 02:22 PM
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Aye it is. For everyone else
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 01:39 PM
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What did I misread? Re relying on it, it becoming a job, well that works for all my friends. They have no problem doing that. That may be a situation that is self-inflicted, but they're not in distress. If you're referring to me, I don't rely on it solely. I don't know how I'm abusing it. What is self-inflicted? The complete lack of success that I face compared to everyone else?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 01:01 PM
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What exactly is self-inflicted? I don't think any of my friends are abusing it. They may put more effort into it than relying on irl connections, but why bother when finding partners, whether serious or casual, online works so well for them?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 12:43 PM
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I know 7 couples, off the top of my head, who are in long term serious relationships or married from the apps. And that doesn't include them, or others, having had relationships in the past, FWBs, hook ups, or even merely dates, from the apps. Maybe I'm just surrounded by really good looking people, but I don't know anyone who has struggled on them as badly as I
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 12:34 PM
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Hi Mads Mikkelsen from Another Round
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 12:31 PM
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I don't really get the complaints about online dating. Everyone I know who has used it has not had a problem with it at all. I am the only person I know who has struggled with it
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 12:17 PM
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This just looks a motivational poster for me to do shots
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 12:16 PM
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I think uneducated is different to boring/uninteresting or dumb/stupid. I value intellectual curiosity. I would want to date someone with a thirst for knowledge, someone who loves learning. That person may not necessarily have a degree, or a may have a technical degree, but can still have those traits. I want someone who loves to read As Nietzsche says, “Marriage as a long conversation. - When marrying you should ask yourself this question: do you believe you are going to enjoy talking with this…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 12:04 PM
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why do some men view sex as a reward Because the inverse is usually argued. That men can't find sexual partners because they're bad/failed do they ever run out of excuses as to why they can't travel, have hobbies, have female friends, etc What about those of us that do?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 02:06 AM
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Lmao suddenly looks are an objective and measurable factor when it comes to dating https://x.com/MadelaineLucyH/status/2012215174921343023
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 02:02 AM
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Try telling that to so many of the blue pilled people here
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 02:39 AM
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Toodle-fucking-oo??!?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 02:12 AM
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As I've always said, physical looks and attraction are the ultimate factor
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 02:02 AM
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So being a good person and having a good personality isn't actually that important for sexual success?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 01:51 AM
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Fair enough then, I've heard that before
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 02:01 PM
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That may well be true. It doesn't stop it being effective ragebait
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 01:42 PM
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I find them dumb, condescending, arrogant and also straight up wrong. Their advice is completely unfalsifiable. Any failure means you weren't trying hard enough. They're not the types to say looks aren't the only thing that matter, they'll say they don't matter at all or simply ignore the question
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 01:12 PM
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Does he not try to make her cum? Does he not care about her pleasure?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 12:52 PM
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Hello Daniel Day-Lewis from Gangs of New York
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 12:51 PM
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I am convinced the IncelExit sub was created by a group of scientists in a lab to perfect the most profound and powerful ragebait
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 12:50 PM
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I don't slut shame women. I am very much against it. But that doesn't help me, as an individual, get laid at all
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 01:03 AM
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Why do you care about the opinions of men who would apply stigma to a woman who has had casual sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 12:59 AM
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I did do bar work for a little bit, yeah I probably should. But in all these cases, the bartenders were women
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 02:00 PM
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They're still getting more interest, dating/relationship experience, and yes, sex, than I get. So as long as they don't hurt each other too badly, I would see it as a win
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 07:52 PM
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Yeah fair enough
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 07:52 PM
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Re point 2, I know plenty of people who have hooked up with bartenders, and bartenders who have hooked up with customers
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 07:42 PM
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There are plenty of people who have sex and relationships because they hate themselves. Their depression drives them to make connections with people because it makes them slightly less lonely
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 07:39 PM
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I just spent 4 days at a psytrance festival. Acid, mdma and women is right. For other guys though, god forbid any of them are ever interested in me
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 07:36 PM
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Yanks are so backwards, it's Saturday night here already
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 06:12 AM
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makes me go on long winded rants ablut politics Tbh I'd love to hear that. But I also don't drink coffee, how about a hot chocolate? Or a political discussion over drinks?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 11:22 AM
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I'd like that too. Sadly, one of the most common responses to a man complaining on the internet is "no bitches?" And I fully see the irony of people who would say they are mocking that man for his sexism (real or perceived) using the word "bitch"
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 07:07 AM
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I don't doubt that for you, and I'm sure it happens to many men. But it's never happened to me
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 09:35 AM
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As others have said, friends and "friendzone" are different. I love and appreciate my female friends. But I will say, they have done "nothing" for me. In that, many people here and online will say having female friends will help a guy find partners. That's not true in my experience
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 09:25 AM
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I'm not implying that you're coming off as creepy Oh no, I know you weren't suggesting that, I said that myself "friendly" conversation doesn't always do that I guess I'm concerned with finding the line between creepy and flirty In general, flirting and generally being a little bit silly tends to be a good way to break through this - women eat it up, it disarms them Part of my issue is that I can do this (not all the time), but on those occasions she ended up choosing someone else. Maybe it's be…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 08:42 AM
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Good for you
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 08:38 AM
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My friends and my social circle say otherwise. The men maybe bad at casual sex, but it doesn't stop women from hooking up with them
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 03:55 AM
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I don't disagree that this is an rea I can work on, but I don't think my style of talking is entirely analytic/formal. I guess I tend to err on that side, partly out of nature, partly out of a desire not to creep people out. However I have many female friends, women who enjoy my company. Some of those women I even asked out in the past, they said no but we maintained the friendship (and in one case I was instrumental getting her and her now boyfriend together). One other problem I guess is that …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 03:53 AM
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And women aren't interested in sex? The vast majority of people I know, men, women, non-binary, have had casual sex at least once. And most do it semi-regularly when single. I don't know many gay men, so those men are hooking up with women
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/26 08:34 PM
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That wasn't a gotcha question, but a sincere one. Yes, I have noticed it with my friends, but I don't think I have ever experienced that situation myself. It is possible that a woman was trying with me, but then this guy awkwardly resumes whatever non-sexual conversation they were having before in the wake of this, it signals... incompetence in that realm ensued. So I guess the question is how does someone who is extremely inexperienced with this stuff recognise such a situation? I have only eve…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/26 08:24 PM
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Grinding, maybe not, dancing with women, yes. But then they go make out/home with someone else
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/26 08:18 PM
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I'm 5'7 and Indian (but born in the West). How much harder or easier is it for me?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/26 10:33 AM
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Hello Arya Stark
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/26 10:11 AM
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What is a sexually charged situation?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/26 10:10 AM
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As a smoker, I do this often. It has made me many friends, they all are men, lesbians or women already in relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/26 10:07 AM
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At that time I was on the apps for four years and tried to ask out friends/people in my social circle/people I met at bars/pubs. Not a single date until I started dating my ex. In the few years since we broke up, I've again rejoined the apps for over a cumulative 18 months now, have tried asking people irl, joined hobby groups, been to speed dating and singles event. Out of all of that, I've landed three first dates, which comes out to less than one a year
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 08:53 AM
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What situation? Losing your virginity at 28, three first dates in 30+ years of living? One of my aforementioned friends went on dates with five different people in a month after he got on Hinge. Okay, I am taking this therapy stuff seriously. But what if it doesn't work? Do I get to say "I told you so" on my deathbed? Ask for a refund?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 08:33 AM
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Because many women and feminist dating spaces (e.g. Captain Awkward, Dr Nerdlove, etc) deny or ignore the question of physical attraction
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 08:17 AM
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You don't know it wouldn't change my life. And most people I know don't have dry spells. Two very good friends of mine found FWBs after their last relationships ended within a month or two. I am working on both. I am going to therapy, I am on antidepressants. Fat lot of good it's done me
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 08:11 AM
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Ran into a guy I met the music festival. He had just got into town, and within an hour had set up a tinder date. Fuck my fucking life
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 08:10 AM
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You don't think that if I got laid, or even just dates, as easily as everyone else I know maybe I wouldn't be so bitter?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 07:19 AM
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How many women don't want kids? I'm approaching my mid 30s, chronically dateless and kinda scared all the childless women are taken by now
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 05:35 AM
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Why assume it's my cynicism, emptiness, and hollowness that means I don't get laid, rather than the other way around?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 04:27 AM
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What are the choices these men make?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 04:20 AM
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DJ decks
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 02:08 AM
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I just spent three days at a music festival. It was a lot of fun. So no, us unfuckable men aren't just weirdo shut-in neurotics with no friends and no ability to meet new people and have new experiences. Also, I think the most assured way to get a guy laid is have him learn to use the decks
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 01:42 AM
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Hard agree. I often go to events by myself, and it's hard to talk to people in person because as a lone guy people are naturally unlikely to engage with me
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 12:30 AM
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I guess you can't really call a guy who fucks roadkill boring, fair
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/26 07:30 PM
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Most people I know do both fine
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/26 07:25 PM
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https://x.com/RawMeatGoof/status/2006503809896559006 What makes me less attractive than a guy who fucks roadkill?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/26 07:24 PM
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Do you not enjoy sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/26 09:10 AM
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Surely it depends on the lie. For example, my ex has this lingerie outfit she loves. Personally, it didn't do anything for me. But she felt super sexy and confident wearing it, I wasn't going to ever say anything otherwise. I wanted her to feel good about herself, so I wouldn't allow my apathy towards that outfit stop me from giving her the attention and affection she wanted
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/26 09:09 AM
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That's fair. But he got you into bed in the first place right? That's more than I can do
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/26 08:51 AM
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Women who refuse to date me. It's completely, entirely, and wholly their fault. I am blameless, pure as snow, as innocent as Bambi
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/26 08:23 AM
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No. But women are allowed to have their own baggage, why can't I?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/26 05:07 AM
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https://www.lrb.co.uk/the-paper/v40/n06/amia-srinivasan/does-anyone-have-the-right-to-sex Suppose your child came home from primary school and told you that the other children share their sandwiches with each other, but not with her. And suppose further that your child is brown, or fat, or disabled, or doesn’t speak English very well, and that you suspect that this is the reason for her exclusion from the sandwich-sharing. Suddenly it hardly seems sufficient to say that none of the other childre…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/26 04:51 AM
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What if I have general bitterness but I don't blame women?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 01:15 PM
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Re all the comments about women not wanting casual sex, the vast majority of people I know, men, women, non-binary, have had casual sex at least once, and most do it semi-regularly when single. And I don't know many gay men, so those men are largely hooking up with women
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 04:41 AM
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I wasn’t raised in an environment where I believed that looks don’t matter It's not even about being raised in such an environment. Using me as an example, I have trouble finding any sexual/romantic interest. I disagree with the redpill stuff for a variety of reasons, so I search for liberal/lefty/feminist dating advice for men. Blogs like Dr Nerdlove and Captain Awkward. And they all say that. They never talk about looks, it's only ever to do with personality
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 08:29 AM
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Okay, uni is one thing. Had I gotten laid in uni, I wouldn't be the way I am now. But your point about not revolving your life around sex appeal isn't necessarily bad, but I think that only really works for people who don't struggle. If I got laid as easily as all of my friends, I wouldn't be worrying about this. I wouldn't be on this forum
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 08:26 AM
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Because I think the redpill is sexist, stupid, and mostly useless. Most of the promiscuous men I know don't need to use redpill tactics or whatever, they're wonderful people. They're just hot
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 08:24 AM
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Just wondering, I'm very anti-redpill myself, what's the longest time you've ever gone where you've struggled to find romantic or sexual interest?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/25 10:03 AM
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Well, I like to think I know what makes me bad pizza. Noone else agrees with me, but they don't know what the issue is
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/25 05:05 PM
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And how do I become better pizza?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/25 12:30 PM
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And no man is ever going to shame a man for lying to get casual sex. I do, but they don't listen to me. And why would they? They're the ones getting laid, while I don't get shit
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/25 12:22 PM
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Hmm, that's not particularly helpful, but so be it. Thanks anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/25 06:33 PM
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Are you able to describe sexy vibes? It obviously doesn't have to be in detail, but that I guess is something I have trouble creating, and I don't ever receiving it from anyone
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/25 06:29 PM
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What is sexy behaviour?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/25 05:52 PM
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I’m stumped at how a man can claim to hate music, functions, gatherings, kickbacks, beer, wine, cocktails, people in general, and kinetic energy… and expect to magically be the “hook up” guy. I broadly agree. But I know some introverts who do well off the apps because they're hot. And I also have an example of someone who is a party-goer (myself) who has never had casual sex even once.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/25 05:47 PM
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He may not be classically handsome, but he's a damned good looking guy
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/25 08:28 AM
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If Adam Driver is ugly then I'm truly fucked
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/25 06:24 AM
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From what I've seen, it's the basic, immutable traits. And seeing how many women complain about their dates showing up in graphic t-shirts and stained and/or ripped pants, it doesn't seem like a lack of fashion sense is preventing these men from finding dates
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 02:50 AM
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I'm not really sure tbh. Maybe being a bit clingy, saying an odd or off-putting thing in the heat of the moment, being a bit awkward
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 02:27 AM
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Fair enough
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 02:25 AM
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I mean, there's no abstaining coz she's moving to a different city soon. So I won't even get the compensation sex afterwards
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/25 03:16 PM
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You don't think having had those experiences in your teen years have helped your confidence and skills, thus allowing you to be in the position that you are in today?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/25 03:12 PM
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You can, but people are much less forgiving of those mistakes once they're older
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/25 03:11 PM
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I've faced this as a guy a bit, I'm Indian. I've had a couple of people express their envy for my naturally long and thick lashes. It's nice to hear, but sad when it never goes further
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/25 03:09 PM
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If you say so, I'm very average and I'm sitting at 1/1, I'm sure it would suck if you're much smaller. I guess part of the problem is that people are getting rejected before even dick size comes into play
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/25 03:07 PM
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I went on my first date in 14 months a week ago. We made out, but didn't go much further because she said she doesn't do that anymore on first dates. I found out she hooked up with a different guy after a post-work party, a few days after our date Fuck my fucking chungus life
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/25 03:06 PM
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I think the disconnect is that many women show disdain, frustration, or even anger when men are open and honest in what they want. Not that women are necessarily wrong to feel that way, and it's certainly better than lying to get in her pants, but I, and I think many men, do feel a bit "attacked" for even wanting casual sex in the first place
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/25 12:31 PM
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What is the difference in your eyes? How can a man pursue casual sex without objectifying someone?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/25 01:15 AM
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Why? Is it so bad to want to get laid?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 10:46 PM
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I also lost my virginity at 28. I try not to be envious and resentful, but it's hard not to be. My friends find dates, sexual partners and relationships so easily, they barely have to try to get sexual validation. In the almost 3 years since my partner broke up with me, I've been on 2 first dates. Both of them over a year ago. I try and I try and I try, but I just can't get anywhere
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 07:08 AM
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I do try that. And I've made many friends, even close long term ones, by talking and flirting (in a platonic friendly way) with them out at pubs and bars. The problem is the only people who give me the time of day are men, lesbians, or women already in relationships It's easy to flirt a bit when the stakes are non-existent, especially with other men. But I don't ever get to try when the chance of something happening is there
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 11:45 PM
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To be confident, you must have competence in that respective thing. ... So specifically, by “that thing” they mean that he’s assured in his ability to confidently and breezily navigate social interactions in an intuitive and calibrated manner. But you see, that's part of the problem. I'm good at normal, platonic interaction, because I've been doing that my whole life. But to go from there to trying to create that sexual tension, flirting, etc, I'm not confident in that at all because I don't get…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 09:19 PM
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I'm not red pill. And also I don't think this is gendered. I only have my anecdotal evidence to go by, but the vast majority of people I knew, men, women, non-binary, have had casuals ex at least once. And most of them, more than once, they'll hook up semi-regularly when they're single. And I don't know many gay men, so the men I know are hooking up with women
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 02:43 PM
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You haven't read any Engels, have you
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 09:09 AM
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There’s plenty of women that will fuck men for attention that men here wont acknowledge. However, I think the issue is: The bruised ego that she’ll fuck anything, which is probably why men downplay women getting laid because ‘men will fuck anything’. Not wanting to put in the effort to talk to these women or even find these women. Where are these women? It doesn't matter to my ego if she's hooked up with dozens of men before. I'll gladly be one among a hundred
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 10:30 PM
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Yes, and none of it has worked. So either, give me further real advice that will help, or just accept when I say my issue is that I'm fuck ugly
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 10:20 PM
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I don't know what that "tangible, actionable" advice would be, because all the stuff people regularly say is stuff I've done or am doing. Have friends, go socialise, go travel, have hobbies, become well rounded and well-read so I can have conversations, etc. I've done or do all that, and have done it for years because that's who I am. And it doesn't help
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 09:31 PM
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One relationship, that lasted two years, when I was 28. Not a date before, not a date since. So I may not be at the absolute bottom of the barrel, but I'm barely half a step up
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 11:38 AM
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I've had one relationship, I got both. And no, I don't see sex workers out of principle, and I refuse to treat someone like that
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 06:05 AM
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2 is fine. 4 is basically any Indian wedding anyway, but replace Step Up with Bollywood music from the 90s onwards
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 07:18 AM
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Is there anyway to get over this? https://x.com/vivienigma/status/1983213215464001875
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 07:16 AM
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There has never been any such "guaranteed success" in matters of romance You switched from this to: Any level of "guaranteed success" has never at any point in history been promised to any, and all men. My point, is if men had the same level of guaranteed success women have, then yeah we would be way more picky with who we swipe on/ Like jesus christ, is taking a few seconds to read someone's profile, when there is a high likelihood that they will be an option for you so much work? It's not that…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 07:14 AM
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This switcheroo doesn't fucking work, because I never once argued that it was. You may not, but there are plenty of women who say they should. They say it's up to men to police each other and to interrogate sexist attitudes that we may hold And you keep missing that not shooting myself in the foot wouldn't make a difference. Hence the prisoner's dilemma analogy I said some level of guaranteed success. How often do you think you would match with someone if you swiped right on him? I can be judici…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 04:41 AM
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It's not on women to care how hard men have it. Why is it on men to care about how hard women have it? I wouldn't see it as burdensome if for a bit more effort I could see some level of success guaranteed. The issue for me, and some men I guess, is that it doesn't matter how we act, it doesn't make a difference, and that breeds a level of apathy and laziness that has to be actively fought
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 02:39 AM
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we'd know that a match is someone who is more likely to actually be interested in us and compatible with what we're looking for But you (general you) don't know how many times he swiped left before he swiped right. So I, say, could be picky and choosy with how I swipe, but to her I'm just another man trying to have a conversation with her Men not reading our bios exponentially worsens the dating app experience for women Is swiping left so hard? You're far more likely to match with every right sw…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 02:19 AM
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I don't know if that will change anything. I've never been bullied for my inability to get laid, all my friends have been sympathetic and, in their eyes sure, tried to be helpful. It doesn't remove the constant craving for some sort of connection, no matter how fleeting it may be
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 01:19 AM
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I'm sorry, I'm a bit lost. Is the piece of the puzzle you're referring to how he and his date denigrated that woman in front of me, but I don't see how he interacted with her? Sure, I can't see that, but my point is that if he's acting like this with a stranger, why couldn't she pick up on his bad vibes herself? Women often talk about how they have a sixth sense for shitty personalities, hence incels being unable to get laid
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 12:25 PM
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Oh, what am I missing? Do you think this guy spends his spare time rescuing puppies with cancer or something?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 12:13 PM
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I don't know, I never met her. But I've seen plenty of women say they can tell when a man is a dickhead, and that's why we're usually or perpetually single
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 08:59 AM
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If that were the case then promiscuous men wouldn't be promiscuous in the first place
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 08:44 AM
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I would think ghosting someone after getting them pregnant is a sign of a pretty shitty personality, but fuck it, what do I know. He's the one who got laid
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 07:45 AM
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I once met a guy who bragged about ghosting a bartender he had been casually fucking after she got pregnant, and he had his date making jokes at her expense. What a wonderful personality that guy must have
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 11:01 PM
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Moreover, dating apps are brutal for most men. And most men aren't capable of getting hot enough to thrive on them before hitting their soft cap anyway This just isn't true. I can think of seven long term, engaged, or married couples off the top of my head who met off apps. And that's not including them having previous partners, hook ups, flings, and dates off the apps too. I have a friend who managed to set up a date on his first day on Hinge. The apps do in fact work for a lot of people
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 11:00 PM
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I know plenty of men and women who have hooked up at bars
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 06:42 AM
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Sure, and who can help those who don't want to be helped? But I've tried, I have hobbies, I have friends, I've been to speed dating and singles events, I'm on the apps. It took me six months to get one match on Hinge, it took my friend one day
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 02:50 AM
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Yeah, a bit, but it's really expensive here lol and that's an addiction I don't want to have
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 01:48 AM
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Yes, but not intentionally. I just tried to talk with everyone who seemed vaguely interesting. Most of the friends I ended up making through hanging out at pubs were men and lesbians. It didn't matter, I still liked them and we stayed in contact, but single straight women never really seemed interested in talking to me
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 01:48 AM
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It's annoying. People keep saying that I need to go out, go to bars and clubs as that's where a lot of casual sex happens, have friends, meet people. I do all that, hell I became an alcoholic for a while because I legitimately enjoy drinking and chatting with strangers, and yet I've never met anyone that way. Friends yes, partners no
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 12:55 AM
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Maybe I should make a separate thread about this, but why do people assume the worst of struggling men when it comes to dating? At worst, there's the usual claims of sexism and hate and being prone to violence, but even at best it's assumed that we're all a bunch of shut in weirdoes who find it impossible to make eye-contact when going through the checkout at a supermarket
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 12:07 AM
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Hindutva prick thinks the racists will ask him if he's muslim before they lynch him
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 12:51 AM
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Why do women care about those people and their opinions?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 12:18 AM
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Yall told women to keep their legs closed and only have sx if willing to take care of a baby. I've never said this
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 01:57 AM
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Can women stop crying that men want to fuck them? It's getting a bit much
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 10:44 PM
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I can tell you've never read Marx
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 01:16 AM
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Hateful and bitter at someone is one thing, but can one not feel a bit bitter in general? There are men out there not attracted to me but that’s okay. Even when I was single I didn’t care or rather I never thought about it. You can feel okay about it because you know it is easy for you to find someone who will be attracted to you. It's not entitled to feel sad or bitter that noone is attracted to me, but nor does that mean I want to force her (referring to women in general) to be with me or attr…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 05:53 AM
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How is it entitled to want casual sex? Certainly I'm not owed it, but is it bad for me to desire it?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 12:42 AM
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Do you really care about the opinions of those slut shaming men?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 07:41 AM
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What's wrong with country music??
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 03:45 AM
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He's not my ex. He's my friend, who broke up with his partner two months ago. In that time he's gone on two dates. I broke up with my (ex) partner almost three years ago, and in that time I've also gone on two dates
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 10:51 PM
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conservatism is the new punk rock literally parrot talking points from government departments
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 10:50 PM
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If he’s good looking Ah
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 10:44 PM
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You misunderstand me. It's how are some people so quick, how is it so easy for them, to find another one, or two in this case, person/people who is into them? My ex broke up with me three years ago. In that time I've been on two first dates in total. He got two dates in two months
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 11:52 AM
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Imagine being in a relationship for your entire adult life. A bit over a decade. Then, it ends, and two months later you're going on first dates with two different women. Couldn't be me
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 10:39 AM
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A lot of women say they don't compliment men because it means the man will take it as her being interested, and they don't want to deal with that. They say that if men want to normalise being complimented more often, they shouldn't immediately take it as a sign of interest. I think many, I don't know what percentage, of men have ingrained that and so take compliments lightly. Also I guess some men don't know how to respond having never received one
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 10:25 PM
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Don't apologise about sounding harsh, I don't care and this is a reddit thread. Okay, so what changed for you? How did you find success? Do you think I always complained about my struggles? That I've been this way my whole life? Even when it didn't bother me, even when I didn't complain, I still never found anyone
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 07:01 AM
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Trauma dump? This is a reddit thread. And it does matter, it's people for whom finding sex relationships is simple as breathing telling others to shut up and stop crying. It's very easy to sit on high and pass judgement
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 06:45 AM
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I get it. I need to shut up. Noone cares about me or my problems. Cool
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 06:44 AM
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I bet you've never had to struggle to find any sexual validation in your life
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 05:37 AM
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Me listening to my friends' dating "woes": https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YfvRaGn0mRo
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 10:19 PM
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If you're cute you're probably not creepy C'mon
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 07:05 AM
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So it's all a self-fulfilling prophecy? There can't have been any external stimuli that people are reacting to?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 08:49 PM
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Where do you think the bitterness and sourness comes from?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 08:25 PM
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I like making people laugh, it makes me really happy to see my friends smile. And I've had women as friends since I was a teenager. Never helped me get laid though
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 06:56 AM
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Yes. That's the problem. God forbid I have almost zero standards when I'm looking for someone to have drinks with. Not fuck, not date, not marry, to have one single (1) date with to see if we actually get along. The most minimal investment possible
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/25 11:55 PM
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Calling it soulless and meaningless has quite strong negative connotations
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/25 09:14 PM
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What's the issue? Would you say this to a woman who's only looking for a hookup? It says nothing about the man other than he's got the right shape and a stick that fits. Is casual sex bad and dehumanising?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/25 08:59 PM
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I may have potentially had a woman interested in hooking up with me a year before I got with my ex, she very quickly lost interest when I told her I had never had sex before
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/25 05:01 AM
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I am well aware of the lack of effect I have on women
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/25 10:34 AM
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You say it's overhyped, yet my friends haven't stopped hooking up when they can when they're single, so obviously they must enjoy it. And I've had a lot of fun trying, made many great friends, had many wonderful experiences. Just not all the ones I want
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/25 03:40 AM
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I don't care about what's beneficial. I care about feeling sexually validated, desirable and attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/25 03:30 AM
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So simply ignore and repress that desire while my friends date and fuck and find partners effortlessly. Great
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/25 03:20 AM
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Ngl OP sounds like a guy to me, and I bet he typed this nonsense one handed
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/25 02:27 AM
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It's never been difficult for most of the men I know. I think people here really underestimate the amount of casual sex women have. I do agree it's wrong to lie to women to get them into a relationship, but god forbid men want to get laid and be sexually validated
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/25 01:24 AM
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I'm not conflating sex and love. But it seems when men want sex, it's gross. It's disgusting, we just want to use women as fleshlights Why is it so bad that men wants casual sex? Why is it bad that I want a fuck buddy?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 11:51 PM
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The above guy wrote a blog post ranking different nationalities of asian women by their fuckability. Seems pretty hostile to me
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 11:49 PM
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So when you were focused on sex, it's fine, but men being focused on sex is bad? Why is ok for you to want to get laid, but it's not okay for men? Merely because we can't as easily?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 11:16 PM
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So why are your reasons so great and normal, and men's are disgusting and about merely "putting their magic wand into a warm hole."?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 11:07 PM
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Yeah my teeth are fine (aside from being a bit yellow from smoking) but I look really weird smiling with teeth
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 11:04 PM
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As a formerly promiscuous woman, what were your reasons and motivations for having casual sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 11:02 PM
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I've met plenty of misogynists who have no problem getting laid. I mean, look at this https://jamesguilty.substack.com/p/why-do-girls-like-this-blog
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 09:50 PM
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I'm sure taking breaks for you was beneficial, that you learnt a lot, that it really helped. Good for you. But that's because as I said, you can choose to take breaks, you can choose to date at your own pace. You can decide "no, I won't date anyone for the next period of time". I don't get that choice
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 09:30 PM
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At this point I'll take feeling hollow if I also feel attractive, desirable and sexually appealing
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 10:24 AM
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This is said by people who have never struggled to get any romantic or sexual attention
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 08:52 AM
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This just isn't true. I was fucking miserable and sad and desperate before I met my ex. I was 28, we dated for 2 years. I was never scared of them leaving (maybe helped by the fact that we both knew the relationship wouldn't last), I never assumed she settled and I never resented her
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 08:49 AM
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If the choice is between being miserable and getting laid, and being miserable and not getting laid, it's an easy decision
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 08:48 AM
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who do not reside in the US
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 01:45 PM
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Deport from where to where?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 12:25 PM
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Most of the dealers I knew just partied a lot. They were attractive as well, and I'm sure dealing was part of their attraction, but they were mostly just hot and fun to be around. Most also had other day jobs
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 11:55 AM
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There are several dozen people in this world who do not reside in the US. I happen to be one of them
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 11:54 AM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 11:38 AM
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Paracetamol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 09:43 AM
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Graham Greene
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 09:42 AM
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People on this sub are so weird about drugs and drug dealers. No, not all drug dealers are stereotypical gangbangers bashing women and whatnot. Doing drugs doesn't mean you're some degenerate who can't hold a job and is fiending for used needles
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 09:41 AM
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Yeah, I remember that too. I miss forums
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/25 03:08 PM
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You like a post or pic Done She sees and likes posts or pics back. Hasn't really happened Dude likes a bunch of her pics Done sends a DM request that says “send nuuuuudes?!” Absolutely have not done
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/25 03:08 PM
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How does the whole "sliding into DMs" process work? ELI a glue sniffing 8 year old
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/25 01:00 PM
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Because those women are happy single knowing they can get their sexual and emotional needs fulfilled whenever they feel like. Men don't have that option, mostly
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/25 02:50 PM
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I don't entirely disagree with you, but do you say this to women who castigate men for daring to ask out or desire women who are "out of their league"?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/25 02:48 PM
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Sex robots won't make me feel desirable and attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/25 03:39 AM
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That's your experience. I know several long term couples and a few marriages that started off the apps. And many hook ups of course
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/25 11:44 PM
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Men whose opinions you care about?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 12:34 AM
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Hate from who?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 12:04 PM
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Men who complaint hat they are lonely would take women for granted once they get into a relationship. I didn't
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 11:48 AM
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Now that women are rejecting men who offer nothing but want everything Were women doing this we wouldn't be hearing so many complaints about the men they choose to date and marry
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 12:18 AM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 12:16 AM
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Ugh I hate that movie. It starts out as a great parody of bollywood tropes, but then just plays them straight and unironically
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 03:37 AM
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The point isn't wanting women who are into those sorts of men. The point is that struggling men are told they need to do X, Y, and Z, while there are plenty of men who do none of that stuff and never lack for partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/25 01:03 AM
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We'll have to agree to disagree, but in my experience casual sex occurs far more commonly than people here say it does
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/25 11:12 PM
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women they are attracted to are going to just come up to them hit on them, have sex with them, ... without them having to make an efforts, or have any social skills Tbh I have seen that happen
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/25 01:00 PM
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Men can certainly talk themselves out of getting some. But they can't talk themselves into getting some, unless she wanted him to some extent in the first place
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 10:57 PM
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It's rare, but Youtube comments sometimes really pass the Heinz
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 02:07 PM
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I'd like a woman to mark me as her man https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5y4b-DEkIps
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 02:00 PM
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https://x.com/pastapilled/status/1961465351503233271
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 12:34 PM
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People love to talk about how men don't read dating app profiles and just swipe on everyone. I finally got a like on an app, she says she's looking for a long-term relationship and wants kids one day. My account says I'm open to a long-term relationship but that I'm more looking for something casual at the moment, and that I don't want kids
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 08:53 AM
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And why am I unable to find casual sex partners?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 07:58 AM
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And why am I not one of them?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 07:36 AM
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So I have to go a specific niche forum to find that sort of rhetoric, while people hating on men looking for casual sex is everywhere. Go on facebook or twitter or most mainstream subs here and see how people discuss unsuccessful men. that its their fault for waiting, that they are selfish etc. There has been a large backlash against these sentiments, it has become more acceptable for women to delay pregnancies and most men who make the above statements are rightfully attacked as misogynists. Pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 05:30 AM
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I don't expect women, or really anyone to do anything, aside from maybe I expect my friends tolerate my whining on occasion. The vast majority of people I know have had casual sex at least once, and most do it semi-regularly when single. I don't know many gay men either, so the men I know are hooking up with women. That is true, people do miss out on things. Yet, this level of vitriol at worst and dismissal at best is only reserved for men who can't find casual sex. Women (and sometimes men) who…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 04:01 AM
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I'm 32, maybe there's still time for me
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 01:24 AM
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(which is what most women choose in the first place)? The vast majority of people I know have had casual sex at least once, and many do it semi-regularly. I don't many gay men, so the men I know hooking up are doing it with women. I had one friend who hooked up with 4 different guys in the space of the 4 months I knew her
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 01:13 AM
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So I guess everyone else got to have their fun while I missed out
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 01:12 AM
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What are couch surfing events?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 01:12 AM
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Absolutely pointless argument that didn't answer anything I said. Firstly, it is mostly women and feminists who push the idea that being laid is an outcome of being a kind or nice person. "Oh you can't get laid or find a partner, that must be because you're a terrible person. Treat women like people, don't be a dickhead", etc. So no shit people will askance when they do all that and yet they still can't find one person interested in them. It's not entitled to ask what the issue is when one has d…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 01:16 PM
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I think a decade past the average is a bit more than "a bit", but sure
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 01:09 PM
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FWIW a lot of the middle class diaspora are doing this much less
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 11:59 AM
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Yeah I don't get this fascination with paying for expensive dinners. A couple of drinks/pints at a pub or bar and a conversation to see if we actually gel I think is the best way to start
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 11:58 AM
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I had my first relationship and lost my virginity at 28
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 11:56 AM
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I'm sure plenty of men who are misogynistic assholes are single, and plenty of single men are misogynistic assholes. I have also known several misogynistic assholes who have never lacked for partners
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 11:51 AM
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Oh, I think I misunderstood you. So what's your argument? People becoming bitter and jaded shows they were never truly nice/kind/[insert positive attribute here] people? Do you really think people don't change and maybe become more misanthropic and closed off due to negative experiences? Is it all just a front for their secretly held disgusting attitudes?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 05:15 AM
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It's not sudden. Rosa Luxemburg was making critiques of the SPD's right ward shift years before August 1914. Hell, Marx was writing about this in 1875
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 05:01 AM
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socially awkward, misogynistic, assholes. And you know this how?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 04:36 AM
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Progressives are not going to suddenly stop being progressive in order to win elections. That's been a radical left critique of social democracy/soft-"leftism" for over a hundred years
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 04:35 AM
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I am better than AI-cels
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 02:15 PM
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I listened to Crowded House's Don't Dream It's Over drunk and then spent ten minutes crying on the floor. AMA
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 12:41 PM
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I'm saving this for the next time someone says "noone ever told you to just be nice or good and you'll find a partner"
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 10:11 AM
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Fair enough. I've only had one partner. I met her at 28. Everything was reciprocated. We knew our relationship wasn't going to last, yet we both gave it 100% for the time we were together
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 03:00 PM
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What do you mean by gifts? We certainly treated each other plenty and equally. Birthday gifts, buying snacks for each other (which we preferred to say flowers). I would say she materially reciprocated during our relationship, but that wasn't something I paid too much attention to at the time
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 02:48 PM
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I don't disagree with your response, this all can be really gross. But it got me thinking, is this not in some ways a similar line of thinking to the way some women rationalise sleeping with sexist, but hot, men? "All men are horrible and sexist, so I might as well fuck the hot ones." I think that too is dumb (maybe less gross, certainly less exploitative), but it comes from a place where each side refuses to believe anything good is possible
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 02:30 PM
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I, for a couple of months, tried to pursue a woman who had a noticeable, but not huge, moustache. It didn't turn me off, I didn't even care about it
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 01:45 PM
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What are hook up conversation topics?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 01:33 PM
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Huh, I don't ever remembering meeting her
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 01:44 AM
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Weird, I'll have to tell my various lesbian friends and acquaintances that they actually hate me and my company which is why they ask me to hang out every now and again
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 10:05 PM
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Really? Women never have casual sex? What about all those women complaining about how they're stuck in another situationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 01:04 PM
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Are those women forced to enter or stay in those relationships?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 05:10 AM
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It's not about finding her attractive. It's about seeing how even absolute scumbags can find at least one person interested in them, and we can't find anyone
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 05:03 AM
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And I've never seen a good definition of flirting that actually distinguishes it from a general friendly conversation
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 04:52 AM
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Aside from the touching, that seems like any normal conversation that's going well
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 03:09 AM
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I get what you're saying, but a man's failure in this respect is often considered a moral failing, not that he was wrong, but what he even tried was wrong. You ask a friend out after a breakup and she's interested, great! You got the timing right. She's not interested, you're just some creep waiting to pounce on the sidelines. You ask someone out at work (I know plenty of people who have hooked up with bartenders for example) and she's interested, great! If not, you're a creep hitting on women w…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 02:19 AM
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What do you mean by chemistry and how do you determine if you have it with them?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 02:14 AM
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Can I DM you?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 10:18 AM
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I'll give Boo a go
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 10:17 AM
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I'm on Hinge, Tinder and Feeld. In the past I've used Bumble, OKCupid and Coffee Meets Bagel, with only slightly more luck. I'm not sure what else to use, they all seem to be about the same level of shit these days for me
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 09:20 AM
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I used to get on average a match a week. That included the bots/spammers. Not that anything came of those matches, including the real people, but at least I got them. Complete and utter radio silence is a new one
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 09:18 AM
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No clue. Maybe I truly am just that ugly. I've asked a friend, my sister, and her bf to help with my hinge account. Hasn't changed anything
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 08:23 AM
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Ikr, it's bad
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 08:22 AM
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So, what is my problem?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 08:22 AM
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Thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 08:22 AM
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Been on 3 apps for 3 months. Not a single match across all of them. Not even bots/OF/snapchat/insta people. This may be my worst stretch on OLD ever
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 06:31 AM
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I've heard it's possible
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 10:45 AM
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Some of us have done those things and still not gotten any
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 11:22 PM
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Sure, it's easy to remember normally. But when I'm say a tad tired and drunk and just need to get to my bed, I know there will be times I forget. The chances of anything negative happening may be low, but the potential outcomes are really bad
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 12:12 AM
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More like $30+ where I'm from, my glasses pay for themselves within a year. And one can go blind from sleeping with their contacts in, I don't wanna risk that
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 12:05 AM
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But part of the problem is also finding someone who wants to be "seduced". That itself requires consent from that person, which can't be determined until it's tried
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 11:36 PM
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They're expensive, and also as someone who drinks, I don't wanna go blind from accidentally falling asleep with my contacts in
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 11:15 PM
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Contacts are expensive, and the potential negative effects (as small as the chances of developing them are) of lasik are horrendous
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 11:15 PM
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My ex said I looked like the kind of guy who smelled nice. I lost my virginity to her, I was 28. Yes, hygiene matters, but not enough. Also, lose my glasses? Do you like disabled guys?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 03:29 PM
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If women stopped dating, that app wouldn't exist
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 02:00 AM
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Moshi moshi
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 02:00 AM
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I want to agree. I really do, but what do I dream about? Who do I fantasise about cuddling in my arms? If it is no-one, then so be it. But that is a hard pill to take, and noone else seems ready to squeeze down my throat
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 02:59 PM
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You're right. But even doing the former hasn't saved me from the latter. I can distract myself for a while, but eventually I have to spend time with my own thoughts
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 02:52 PM
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I'm sorry, but I don't see it. I didn't get into the ROMO (reality of missing out) mindset until I was 25. For years, I spent ages just doing my best, living life, trying to meet people and be fun and happy, and yet it didn't work. This baseline of expectation of failure came from failure. I try so hard to go out and be confident and fun and relaxed it makes me so many friends, I truly have met so many wonderful people from that it, but none of them are single women
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 02:49 PM
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I'd give up all the immediate gratification in the world for her. But there's no point, she's (they've) moved on. There's noone even "talking" to me. I try, but I have nothing to replace those thoughts with
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 02:40 PM
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The 2nd, and you're right, it probably is making things worse. But I don't buy this mindset crap. When I didn't have this mindset, it didn't help. This train of thinking was born from failure, not the other way around. Otherwise, The Secret would have solved all of life's problems
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 02:35 PM
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I feel so bad about feeling bad about my sexlessness. Then I also think about how so many people met and got married and fucked and loved each other even in the Nazi concentration camps. Love and human connection is so beautiful and resilient, yet seeing how hard it is for me in my relatively safe and nice first world life, what did those men have that I don't? The world may be falling apart, but is it so bad for me to feel even some small level of self pity?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 02:28 PM
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Yeah, you yanks do
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 02:25 PM
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I did that, still nothing
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 11:27 AM
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You think it's pathetic because you already had all your casual fun. It's easy to sit on your high horse and moralise when us men who never had that try to have some fun ourselves. I'm not really going after much younger women, nor would I ever be in someone's face about how much sex I'm having (were I to get any), but I see nothing wrong in older men who had been left behind try to catch up, assuming they're not dickheads about it
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 08:54 AM
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Why is it pathetic?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 07:09 AM
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Because the liberal arts have nothing to do with thinking?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 12:23 AM
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It is in the larger part the former, feeling lonely and left behind myself. But there is something about the latter. I've seen other crushes post about their weddings, I went to one, I know my ex has moved on, but none of those have had the effect this has. I think it's partly also me thinking about the past 15 years of my life, what I have done or not done, and the choices I've made. I think about the life I could be living had I made the choices that would have meant we could have been a compa…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 11:52 PM
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I don't know why I keep thinking of her. I never thought about her much before, but since seeing her wedding post, I can't get her out of my mind. Her smile haunts me. He's so lucky getting to wake up to it every day
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 12:22 PM
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Maybe it's just where I've lived, but pub culture is very common. Not for everyone, but it's not some small niche either
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 11:14 AM
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What's wrong with women who like a drink?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 05:53 AM
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It's one of the very few good subs on this site, partly due to the extremely harsh moderation
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 01:24 PM
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Dr Konijendik also helps run AskHistorians
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 08:19 AM
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My fun-ness and popularity has waxed and waned. I found no interest or attraction when they were at their peaks
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 04:18 AM
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I fit most of those remarks now, and did a couple more of the others in the past. I've been on two first dates in my life, and lost my virginity at 28. I highly doubt most of my friends, who found their first partners in their teen years, fit all of those requirements at the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 04:05 AM
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So what do you offer in a relationship? I'm semi-genuinely asking
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 01:54 AM
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Hmm, well tbh it's not that men are sexy, but I do have an appreciation for men's bodies, some of them. But I just can't do dick. Otherwise I'd love to hook up with say transwomen or even femboys
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 01:53 AM
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I wish I could do dick. There are a heap of gorgeous transwomen and sexy men out there
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 01:45 AM
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So doesn't this go back to the question of where does one find self-esteem, self-respect and validation? Often an argument I see here is that struggling men shouldn't base themselves on the opinion of others, but here you're saying that's all that matters, when it comes to finding a partner
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 12:11 AM
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Lol https://x.com/_danaykroyd_/status/1952352112265879792
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 10:40 PM
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If women weren't dating men then this app wouldn't exist
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 01:14 AM
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You cannot be serious
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 11:58 PM
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This is literally a Simpsons joke
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 04:40 PM
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It depends what one is looking for. The vast majority of men, people, I know are cool, fun, amazing, decent people. And they do great. But, I have known some absolute dickheads in my life, and they haven't lacked for attention. It's because they're hot
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 04:39 PM
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You're not wrong. She doesn't/didn't occupy my thoughts constantly, but she is/was an occasional reminder. Gorgeous, smart, funny. But such is life. I really do hope she's happy. She looked so beautiful in her wedding photos, I hope her husband sees it too
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 04:05 PM
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My biggest crush from my high school years got married earlier this year. Everything is going great 🙃
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 03:22 PM
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30rock is so funny
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 02:56 PM
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Do women not enjoy sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 05:16 AM
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Easy to say when you've never had to struggle for any sort of non-platonic connection in your life
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 03:32 AM
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And so the people who led me wrong, who lied to me, who coddled me, are let of scot free. No accountability, no need to every rethink who they are and what they've put out into the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 03:10 AM
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This isn't a bad idea tbh, and I get it. Do what you can with what you have, act is if you'll never meet anyone and try your best. Okay. But, let's say I do all that, I do live my life to the fullest, and yet not one person ever finds me sexually or romantically attractive. Do I get to say "I told you so" on my deathbed?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 02:45 AM
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Would I be with them forever if that's all they had? No. Would I at least go for a drink or two to see if we're actually compatible, then sure, assuming I also found them physically attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 10:02 PM
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Assuming he takes the rejection well (which can be a big ask), what's the issue?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 09:26 AM
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Except the bar isn't in hell. Otherwise those non-abusive basic men would at least maybe get a chance, and those abusive men, or not even abusive, just plain old dickheads, would get nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 02:26 AM
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Sorry that my naturally monotone voice isn't exciting enough
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 12:25 AM
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What does my voice have to do with who I am as a person or what I'm interested in?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 10:44 PM
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Also if they have a very rigid/repetitive schedule that they refuse to deviate from. Ah, is that why Kant never married?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 10:39 PM
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You're not wrong, but I think since 2022, and arguably since 2003, naked imperial aggression has become much more normalised, rather than it being hidden by the velvet glove of the "rules based international order"
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 10:38 PM
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What's wrong with wanting just sex? Do women not enjoy sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 07:53 AM
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https://x.com/ch4isutta/status/1949061845974950068 FML
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 07:15 AM
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You may want someone "who has the option to be promiscuous but chooses not to because that reflects character qualities I find attractive", but plenty of women don't care. That man wouldn't be sleeping with lots of women if they found that behaviour unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 01:54 AM
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Not to really take away from your point, which I don't disagree with, but have you seen Azealia Banks' latest rantings?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 11:51 PM
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If my options are being miserable and getting laid, and being miserable and not getting laid, the choice is an easy one
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 02:30 PM
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I am very aware us chronic undateables are in a small minority. My point though is in regards to the usual arguments that any man who can't find a date must be a dirty unwashed sexist piece of shit, despite such men being bemoaned by the women who date them
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 02:23 PM
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I really don't understand how so many people (mostly women, but many men too) think dating is so easy for men. As a whole, it certainly is very easy for some men
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 02:21 PM
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Let's say every single man on this Tea app really is a shithead. They're only on that app because they can get dates in the first place
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 11:15 AM
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See, women say this is a problem, but then constantly talk about men who fail to find dates or partners as if they're not up to scratch. "Oh, no-one is interested in you? Have you done X, have you tried Y, are you Z?" Then once a man says "yes I have done all that, and still I have no partner", the conversation turns to "well women aren't prizes, you're not owed one for fulfilling the stipulations I laid out"
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 10:58 PM
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I literally cannot understand how people can live their whole lives jumping from relationship to relationship. Not emotionally, but literally. How is it so easy for everyone to find someone interested in them? https://x.com/EvilLikeH0bbits/status/1948052033812267250
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 01:53 PM
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They absolutely do. Women engage in casual sex far more than people here say they do
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 12:47 PM
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Ah yes, social skills and personality are what women are looking for https://x.com/AshleyAlready/status/1947100979846906049
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 12:42 PM
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It was Paris that formed the heartland of the revolutionary population
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 08:18 AM
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But then if I do that, I'm not actually giving everyone a chance, and so I am rejecting people myself and am unable to complain. It's a lovely catch-22
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 02:13 AM
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Huh, I thought being desperate and hitting on everyone is unattractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 01:48 AM
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And you can hate manwhores. I somehow doubt they're too worried about your disapproval when they're busy getting laid
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 12:57 AM
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It doesn't matter if men like her or not, they're still attracted to her
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 12:52 AM
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But the manwhore still finds sexual partners. You can call him creepy, but he has no issues attracting women
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 12:26 AM
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Who calls women unladylike for approaching? Anyone whose opinion you care about or matters?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 04:03 PM
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I don't think we should ignore how old 30 is for one's first experiences. The average age for losing one's virginity across the Anglosphere is 17 or so, most of my friends in school lost theirs between 15-17. Had I lost mine at 30 I would be half a lifetime behind so many people I know
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 04:01 PM
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It's not about being "single" per se, it's about not feeling attractive, desirable, sexually appealing that hurts. If I could find casual sex partners semi-regularly (without lying or coercing women into it) I think that would solve most of the emotional problems (maybe)
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 03:58 PM
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I may not have romantic or loving feelings towards her, but I wouldn't hook up with someone I felt negative feelings towards. I'd still want to care about her as a person, care about her safety and pleasure, and I'd want her to feel the same towards me. But that doesn't mean I have to love her, or her love me
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 04:00 AM
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It really is. I've seen how being a local opens so many doors romantically, being a familiar face who you can conversate, drink, play pool or darts with really helps. For others though, never worked for me
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 05:45 AM
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Please point out which comments I've made where I attack, demean or insult women for having casual sex
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 02:29 PM
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I cannot remember a single instance of a friend or acquaintance of mine slut shaming someone in front of me. I'm not saying it doesn't happen, but I personally have never seen or heard of it. Maybe because people who know me either don't do that or know I'd argue with them over it, or more likely most men are just happy to get laid
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 09:48 AM
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So it's about looks, as always.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 09:46 AM
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Yet, guys somehow have the audacity to claim victimhood because “I never get laid” and “why do no women want me”. While those very same men engage in the behavior that makes it unsafe and unappealing for any woman to even consider it. Really? What behaviour do I engage in that makes it unsafe and unappealing for women to consider casual sex? The vast majority of people I know or have known hook up semi-regularly when single, men and women. And I don't know many gay men, so those men are hooking …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 09:45 AM
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I like doing that and women here told me to stop bothering women and to join a reading group
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/25 01:34 AM
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Be light and casual. Okay, I'll give it a go
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 01:22 PM
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I am aware that there isn't a cheat code that will get every woman falling at my feet begging for sex, however some things work better than others. The vast majority of people I know hook up every now and again, so they're obviously doing something that I'm not. Or I'm really just that ugly.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 12:44 PM
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Okay, but there's a difference between a woman thinking "this is not what I want" and a woman thinking "he's gross, men really are pigs". I'm okay with the first, I'd rather not contribute towards the second. And I'd appreciate a proper definition of flirting
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 12:33 PM
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Can you define what flirting is? Every explanation I've read includes smiling, making jokes and complimenting people, i.e. a normal conversation. What "certain things" should I talk about wanting? Don't women constantly complain that men turn conversations sexual too quickly?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 12:25 PM
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Can you define or explain what you mean by sexual energy?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 07:49 AM
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You haven't read a single history book, I can tell
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 03:53 AM
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Someone just replied to you saying that unattractive men asking out women they're attracted to is entitlement, so it does seem some people find it gross, morally odious and offensive
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 06:57 AM
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How many 15 year olds are getting double mastectomies? Have you seen what ballet does to girl's bodies and feet especially? Should that be allowed? Maybe this is none of your business and is the business of the person involved and their doctor
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 02:49 AM
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What vile stuff?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 12:37 AM
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God forbid a man even try
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 10:50 PM
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Tbh I don't know. My comment was more frustration at your post. It's pointless. Who is it aimed at? The maybe 5 people who really believe the government should force women to date men they're not attracted to? What's the point of saying any of this?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 10:38 PM
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Whatever, I get it. Me and my problems don't matter. Are you happy now that I acknowledge that?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 02:56 PM
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You should hear what shit women/girls have to listen to... Okay, and people tell me stuff all the time. If some drunk dickhead at the pub gives me some stupid advice about women or dating, I'm not gonna care what he thinks. So, if you don't care about anyone's opinion, why does it matter what they say?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 08:46 AM
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Who's telling you this stuff? People whose opinions you care about, people you respect and listen to when it comes to dating advice?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 07:10 AM
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Plenty of sexists and misogynists get laid all the time. They certainly have no shortage of women wanting to be with them
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 07:07 AM
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Lmao this is just not true. Being a socialist hasn't helped me get laid, and I've seen plenty of conservatives get laid. One's sexual attraction is unrelated to one's politics
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 01:37 AM
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Congratulations, you found one person in the world who said that. In the same way that I could find someone somewhere in the world who thinks the world is in the shape of a pyramid. Now, do you know anyone who you care about, someone who you respect or listen to, who complains about crazy cat ladies?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 04:16 PM
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I would have thought saying "no one" wouldn't be taken so literally. One could say "no one would do X" and then find someone who does X. God knows I have. But they're not people I care about, people's whose opinions matter to me. If I lived my life based on the wishes and whims of people I've never met, people I don't care for or listen to I would have ripped myself to shred years ago
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 04:04 PM
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I'm not American. And as much as he matters for broader politics, does he really have sway or influence over your immediate life? Do you plan to live your life based on the whims of American Goebbels?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 03:46 PM
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Being a socialist hasn't got me laid. That hasn't changed my politics, but nor are my politics a boost when it comes to dating/getting laid
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 03:43 PM
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When was the last time you read or heard someone say that unironically? From someone whose opinion you care about, someone you actually value and respect
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 03:42 PM
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They really aren't. Sure, there are pricks out there, and I've met a few sadly, but most people are just trying their best. Good for them. If I can't get what I want, so be it; I hope they find peace and happiness
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 03:06 PM
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It obviously does vary from person to person, but some people do prefer to err on the side of caution. I was in a relationship for 2 and a half years. Even after being together for that long, my ex would appreciate if I asked for consent beyond a hug. Sometimes she would put my hands where she wanted to go herself, and if we're naked and going at it I didn't ask if I could put my dick in her, but there sort of was a line between kissing and hugging and going beyond that. She liked that I asked d…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 06:05 AM
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Went to a trivia night with my sister and her mates. Every other group was made up of couples. Fml
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 01:20 PM
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I was until I was 27. I wasn't a party animal, but nor was I a hermit. I partied, I went out, I was at uni. Didn't mean shit, but I eventually found someone
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/25 03:48 PM
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It doesn't matter if I call myself that or not, it simply describes my state of being
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 07:56 AM
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I mean, why don't "incels" advocate ... for less car-centric cities? Why don't they advocate for actual socialist policies? I'm literally a socialist, but you're allowed to keep making stuff up
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 12:06 AM
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Well, I got there in the end. Maybe just much later than everyone else
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 11:03 PM
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So the intelligent thing would be to just know that 85% of the population is straight up lying to me?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 10:39 PM
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What about those with friends and social interaction who haven't dated anyone?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 12:54 AM
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This is deeply misogynist
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 02:28 PM
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Aww I'm sorry. All I can offer is I go down on you for perpetuity, and you give me a half-hearted wristy in return. Deal? Also, I make them play Russian roulette with a parasite they cannot legally remove in some states I'm not American, I support abortion anyway, and carry a condom in my wallet, just in case
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 08:19 AM
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There is a difference between a relatively niche sex act and affection and physical contact as a whole. It would be like me complaining about women not having anal sex with me
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 07:52 AM
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As for women encouraging each other to sleep around? That really depends on the friend group. Speaking from mine, we’re emotionally aware, grounded, and don’t push casual sex like it’s a personality trait....So, no, it’s not some universal female bonding ritual Sorry, I didn't mean to imply that sleeping around is some sort of initiation ritual that young women have to go through to be accepted within their friend groups. I should have been more clear, if a woman were herself to decide that she …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 07:51 AM
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Fair enough, that makes sense. I agree with that
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 07:33 AM
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I absolutely agree with you regarding the hypocrisy. I do think it's stupid when men want to sleep around but then shame women for doing so (hence I don't shame women for wanting to sleep around, I wish them the best). My point about caring is, who will you (again, general you) suffer this reputational damage with? Most of the woman's friends would likely support her in any journey fucking around, assuming she was doing it safely and not cheating/homewrecking, etc. She's not gonna tell her paren…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 05:10 AM
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Ghosting is now on the same level as violence? Reputational damage: The “ran through” label still clings aggressively to women, shaming them for doing the exact same thing men are often praised for. I don't entirely disagree, but then why do women care? Why care about some hypocritical sexist decrying your sexual habits and focus on what you (generally) want? maybe it’s less about the act and more about choosing something on her own terms for once. And that’s not shameful. That’s survival. That’…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 04:06 AM
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I'm in my early 30s. Is there still time for me to learn?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 10:52 PM
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I carry a condom around with me at all times
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 01:16 PM
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Damn
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 12:02 PM
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Cool, that's good to hear. What do I need to do?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 10:59 AM
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I didn't mean 3-5 women at the same time. It could be a ONS here or there, a FWB thing with one woman, and then another when the first ends, etc
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 10:53 AM
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Sleeping with a number (I'll take around 3-5) women when we're not in a committed relationship or dating to maybe be in one
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 10:44 AM
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A promiscuous man
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 10:34 AM
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I might go months without taking a photo of myself, or have anyone else take a photo of me
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 10:07 AM
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It's all ogre :(
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 09:41 AM
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How hard is it be(come) a fuckboy? No, I don't want to lie or lead women on about a potential relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 09:34 AM
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That's fine. You're welcome to do so. Again, I didn't say you can't complain about these things if you don't have casual sex
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 12:24 PM
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That's not what I said at all. What I said was, if women weren't hooking up, these complaints wouldn't exist. You can't complain about a bad experience if that experience doesn't happen at all I don't want to think about how god AWFUL - even when compared to current state of affairs - men would be at sex then. Again, odd considering how often women do complain about the quality of the casual sex they're having. And yet those men are the ones those women choose to have sex with Plus it probably m…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 09:20 AM
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Your bullet points are all true, I don't disagree. And yet, the vast majority of people in my life, men, women, non-binary have had or do have casual sex (sex outside a committed relationship) semi-regularly. I don't know many gay men, so those men are hooking up with women. Maybe I'm just blessed/cursed (blursed) to have promiscuous and good looking friends, I don't know. But women like sex, and have it. Women certainly wouldn't be complaining about the orgasm gap or the lack of sexual pleasure…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 07:33 AM
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You cannot change how much having new sex partners motivates you. You need to make having new sex partners a priority for you in your life. This will be a lot harder for you, if you are not as intrinsically motivated as other men. I am motivated yes, but motivation into action is a separate question, and maybe something I need to address have you changed your hobbies, dropped everything that isn't attractive to women? What hobbies do I need to change and what hobbies are unattractive to women (h…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 03:19 PM
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Okay, what sort of personality do I need to cultivate to find a higher number of partners? Go for hypersexual women... go for drunk women, go for old women, go for lonely women Not even these women want me. I've never tried going after mentally unstable women, mostly because I've never really met any, but maybe that's all that's left
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 02:05 PM
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Which, contrary to popular belief, has very little to do with how attractive or tall you are. Then what makes a man be a desirable sexual partner to women?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 12:19 AM
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You're avoiding my point. And my other question. But I guess that's understandable when you live, in this respect, a life of privilege and ease. Best of luck, I'm glad at least one of us is having a good time
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 04:00 PM
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They weren't relationship material. The date wasn't going to be a 2nd or 3rd That's fair. Then what qualities does a man need to have, in your experience, that makes him eligible for hooking up after that first date, even if he's not eligible for a longer relationship? Great for you. I never encountered a man who was put off. 🤷 Great for you too. I'm not put off by casual sex. Just because I've never had it doesn't turn it of for me from potential partners. It's the "making relationship guys wai…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 03:53 PM
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I had sex on first dates, because the date wasn't going anywhere and sex seemed fun Ah right, then what do you mean by the date not going anywhere in this context? And well, you do you, but tbh I'd be really put off if I knew the person I was seeing was hold off on having sex with me because of this whole "relationship" context while also happily hooking up with other guys after a first date. Not that she also ahs to fuck me on the first date as such, but the reasoning would seem insulting and r…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 03:36 PM
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What made you make those men in those relationships wait for sex when you were happy to hook up with guys even if the date was lacklustre?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 10:50 AM
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Just because it's a primary source doesn't make it a history book
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 11:36 AM
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Cute!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 11:29 AM
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AskHistorians is in shambles right now
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 11:29 AM
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Is that the flirting or the escalating? Okay, and if she never touches me? Yes, that could be that she's not interested, but what if she may be interested but feels shy/too influenced by broader norms that women aren't meant to be too forward even if they feel like it? Should I touch first?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 11:28 AM
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Not a history book, and frankly a terrible read. Every nazi should be made to read it, they'll be bored out of their edginess
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 11:26 AM
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So there was no "overwhelming" vote for them by anyone. A very large vote yes, but not even a slim majority. And even then, to repeat, their vote was trending downwards. And anyway, blaming women for the Nazi vote is dumb and ignores how people mostly voted in that period, broadly across class lines. Middle class and rich men and women voted for the Nazis as they basically consolidated the then existing conservative voting bloc
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 11:26 AM
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I'm begging people here, on my hands and knees, to read a least one history book before spouting inane nonsense about our past
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 11:09 AM
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What do you mean by flirt and escalate? I have never received a good definition of either
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 11:08 AM
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Hitler was never voted in. The Nazis got a very high vote, but never the majority, and their vote was trending downwards when Hitler was installed as Chancellor by Hindenburg
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 11:05 AM
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They were like all Marxists looking to see who was oppressed and therefore virtuous victims and who was the oppressor, therefore evil villainous oppressor without any redeeming factors You haven't read a single word of Marx or Engels. Just stop. 30 years after men had died on the D-Day beaches for freedom for all You haven't read a single word from a decent military history book. Just stop
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 10:06 AM
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Lmao what
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 12:09 AM
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So what determines whether a guy fucks or not? It seems him being sexist or not doesn't. What evidence do you have for me being a "misogynistic troll"? Several reddit comments? Certainly much less than the various sexists I've unfortunately met irl but have had no problems finding partners
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 04:08 PM
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Cool story bro. Do you have anything constructive to say?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 03:18 PM
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Did you not say that unsuccessful men want to use outside factors to cover for out misogynist characters, and so justify our sexlessness?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 03:16 PM
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That's really true, it is my fault. It's my fault to listening to the women around me. Not my mum, not even my sister, but my friends and coworkers and classmates. It's my fault for taking women seriously at their word, "it's all about personality, looks are so unimportant". It's my fault for not being cynical and trying to read between the lines, trying to parse the secret messages being told to me. Now I know. Personality really doesn't mean shit. No, I don't think dark triad traits or whateve…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 02:38 PM
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As Ben Cousins has tattooed on his stomach, such is life
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 12:30 PM
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They certainly do. For other people though, not me
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 10:43 AM
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If you are a part of "cool kids" sub culture where partying on drugs involved, you will get sex sure I did that for 18 months. I had an absolute blast. Still no sex
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 09:36 AM
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Sorry, I'm not a shill for the DNC providing left cover for genocide
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 09:34 AM
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Gross
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 09:29 AM
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Women never say they don't care if their partner is physically attractive. What they will say, constantly, is that it's all about vibes, personality and character. Anytime a man brings up his lack of dating or sexual success, the emphasis is constantly on whether he is funny, sociable, interesting, or even worse, a good person or not. The fact that women avoid the question of looks at best, and worst openly downplay it in favour of complaining about a man's personality/character means many men d…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 09:28 AM
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I don't really agree with your third paragraph, I think most evopsych is a joke, I think this is mostly true and largely fits with my way of thinking "women are not visual creatures, men are - women are more attracted to personality" thing that's been going around since the dawn of time I guess. I guess it's my fault for actually listening to what women have to say and taking them at their own word
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 09:09 AM
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So no misogynists ever get laid or into relationships? Every sexist man is chronically single and sexless?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 09:02 AM
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yes they do get someone When? How long until they find someone?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 10:21 PM
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Oh sure. Here is one thing. But what I mean is, the fact that some men will call women sluts for sleeping around doesn't really impact most women irl. They fuck who they want when they want. They don't care what a bunch of troglodytes and misogynists think about them. The ones who do care about their local priest's thoughts are religious themselves, but that is a minority
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 10:18 PM
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Every single woman around me, and I do literally every, told me to take women at their word. Don't try to assume things without evidence, trust that she believes what she says. I don't have to agree, but she is speaking her truth. And all those women, and many men, told me physical attraction doesn't matter. It's all about personality and emotions. So maybe I'm the idiot for listening to them
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 10:16 PM
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For the record, Heracles completed 12 trials
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 10:10 PM
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then called sluts if they get with anyone Do you really care what these glue eaters think?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 10:00 PM
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If you're happy with the way it is, then that's fine. But you didn't spend those 34 years (well, minus the time you were a child and couldn't be arsed with dating) trying and failing
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 12:02 PM
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Thanks for this comment. I'm going to save it
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 10:43 AM
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How does one then be actually confident and self-assured in being undesirable? "Huh, you're not seeing anyone, why not?" "Eh, it's fine, no-one's interested in me so I stopped looking"
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 10:43 AM
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Why would they support war otherwise? Lmao what?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 09:23 AM
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Hookups are a rounding error. This just isn't true in my anecdotal experience. yes, the vast majority of sex is happening in relationships, but most of my friends, whatever gender they may be, do hook up occasionally when single. And I don't know many gay men, so those men are hooking up with women. One woman I was semi-good friends hooked up with four different guys in the space of three months
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/25 03:26 AM
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sometimes kissing/making out, saying goodnight, exchanging numbers, and following up after. Still more than I ever got
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/25 03:25 AM
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I am mature enough to say the word rape, and I do think buying sex is barely one step below that
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/25 02:27 AM
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I am assuming that because you just said you would get icked out. And I know of at least one occasion where a woman may have been interested in me, but was immediately turned off when I told her I was a virgin. I wasn't even describing it as an insecurity; she just asked how my first time was, I said I hadn't had one, and she immediately checked out of the conversation Also, have you seen the way so many women talk about older involuntary virgins? Even if they don't assume the men will be insecu…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/25 02:20 AM
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Interesting and intriguing are two different things I think. I think I'm a quite good conversationalist. Not with everyone or about every topic, but I think I can ask generally good questions and I have curiousity about the world (something I appreciate in women too). I'm well read, both fiction and non-fiction, and have a serious interest in literature and history. I have travelled and have met a lot of interesting and fun people. I don't have great "stories" as such, but I can chat a lot, espe…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/25 02:18 AM
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I'm not talking about whether it's a good idea or not. I'm talking about the utility and need to meet new people constantly
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/25 02:14 AM
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Dunno, but I do like going out to a pub/bar at least twice a week. Also, I don't know how useful that is, considering the number of men I know who have fucked their way through so much of their broader but static social circle
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/25 02:07 AM
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So then how do you know that I am uninteresting and that is my problem? And by "I", I'm referring to any man who receives that spiel
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/25 02:06 AM
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I'm not taking it as an attack. The point about explicitly telling someone is that it's often paired with men talking about their feelings of inadequacy about their virginity. Women often say they want men to open up about their feelings, to be emotionally open, but then also not want to play therapist. But then often when men do open up about this topic in particular, it leads to her attraction, if it ever existed, evaporating
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/25 02:04 AM
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What about me is uninteresting?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/25 02:02 AM
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Yeah, so did I. Eventually. Only took me until I was 28. And I haven't anyone since
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/25 02:02 AM
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Friendly reminder that all those people telling you to decentre sex and relationships, to not care about it all so much and focus on other stuff, come from a place of privilege
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 11:15 PM
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Based
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 11:14 PM
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Yeah, fuck me for expressing my feelings, problems and anxieties
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 11:10 PM
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Sure, never is a long time. But how long do I have to wait?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 11:06 PM
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I've had weed, molly, coke, ket, acid and DMT. I had a great raving and going to house parties. Never managed to hook up with anyone, let alone end up in a throuple
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 01:32 PM
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I wouldn't need drugs if I had had a promiscuous phase and had my ex from three years ago hooking up with me
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 11:16 AM
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I've lost. I've given up. It's over, time to hook my veins up with copium
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 10:53 AM
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Nah, telling a woman that she's out of your league is definitely shooting yourself in the foot. If she's talking to you and seems interested, just go with it, take it face value (unless there is clear evidence to not). Saying she is out of your league is part of that whole pedastilising thing women hate, and it puts yourself down and makes you look like shit
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 07:17 AM
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So you don't know how to help us, you don't know anything about me, but you certainly and definitely know that I'm a sexist, misogynist asshole and that's absolutely why I can't get laid (you in the general sense, not you personally)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 07:16 AM
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Fair enough. Those of us who are chronically unemployed, to go with your analogy, don't have the luxury to not care. And it's not like we can fight for welfare
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 12:06 AM
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Because dating will always be easier for you. The call for decentreing relationships comes from people who have always found it easy
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 05:05 PM
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he can't complain then about not finding suitable women to date But then am I not allowed to complain?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 09:18 AM
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What about those of us in our 30s who don't want kids at all?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 08:49 AM
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Very much agreed. The few good looking assholes I've met never lacked for company, but the vast majority of men I know who get laid with little effort are cool wonderful people. They're also just really attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 06:14 AM
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This is strange. I only have my anecdotal evidence to go on, but the vast majority of people I know, men, women, non-binary, do hook up semi regularly when single. And I don't know many gay men, so those men are hooking up with women. I’m curious - would you have sex with a woman where you got her off and you didn’t get to? No orgasm and the sex was uncomfortable? Absolutely. I love getting women off. See, you and the other woman are talking about sex for validation v sex for orgasms, and your c…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 08:05 AM
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being used as a hole Do women not enjoy sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 12:16 AM
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I'm sure it is a great fact for you. As Marx said, being determines consciousness
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 04:22 PM
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Congress Left Yeah lol, this conversation won't go anywhere. And yeah all those minor parties have no explicit ideology, they are pure electoral and patronage vehicles, but they do subscribe to the basic fundamentals of capitalist politics. And lol, I've been very near many current and future politics. One day I hope to be close to them again, handing them a stool and a piece of rope
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 04:16 PM
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What's there to love? Every party is on the spectrum of centre-right to full fascist, and 70% of them are in practise mafia fronts dedicated to screwing over ordinary people to appease their benefactors in an elaborate protection racket
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 04:06 PM
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It is, the joke was about him having two "families". But he's (in the early seasons at least) a very sexy charismatic guy. Never wanting for a partner. Violent yes, but strong and powerful and so can project an air of protection for some women. There are some who saw through him
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 03:58 PM
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Have you seen the Sopranos?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 03:51 PM
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Sorry, I meant to say she said I was lucky when I asked her out, I missed a word. But yeah, I really resonate with your partner. It's so good you two did meet each other, I really do hope you're happy with them
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 03:51 PM
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Ok, we're gonna have to agree to disagree re our music tastes
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 03:48 PM
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Tony is a serial killer I guess by a strict definition, but not by the standard definition
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 03:36 PM
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Don't feel bad, you should absolutely feel proud. I can see why singledom is rare to you. It was the same with my ex, she once said to me that I was when I asked her out, she's rarely single, and for good reason. It's just an experience I wish I could relate to
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 03:30 PM
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That sounds way more fun tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 03:25 PM
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Old Pulteney, it's my first time having it. Huh, that is an odd combination, sounds very sweet
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 02:52 PM
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Old Pulteney, it's my first time having it. It's not bad, but it tastes a tad bland to me. An adequate but non-distinctive taste
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 02:52 PM
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youregoddamnright.gif
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 02:42 PM
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So, I've had some whisky
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 02:33 PM
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I was never long for singledom either, honestly. Though it was never really me looking actively for someone. Usually people either came to me or it just naturally happened Found my partner fairly quickly I would love to have this
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 02:31 PM
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Oh, I think you may be referring to student politics in the US high school sense, model UN and whatnot (I'm guessing here, I'm not from the States). I meant student politics in uni, in groups/factions tied to the real life adult political parties, training grounds for future MPs, union hacks, right wing slop journalists and other scumbags
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 02:30 PM
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There are plenty of other words one can use to describe or insult a sexist. Yet incel is the word that has become most popular. It's not hard to figure out why
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 02:26 PM
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God, I've seen what you've done for others...
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 02:24 PM
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Is the door not shut?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 02:23 PM
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Indian politics is such a joke
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 02:23 PM
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As someone who was in student politics for a long time, it's terrible, it breeds and empowers the worst most pathetic narcissists around and ever conference had at least one rape. I hated it
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 02:22 PM
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She's not the only one tbh, just that she was the most recent and the one who came to mind first
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 11:47 PM
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pursue women who you already know have casual sex. I tried that, she still was never interested in me
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 10:30 PM
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What about them? If they're down for something casual and the guy does his best to take their pleasure seriously and show them a good time, what's the harm?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 10:29 PM
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Because there is a sense of loneliness about it. I'm not generally lonely, I have friends and my sister who I get along well with and see regularly. But I also want intimacy, I want physical closeness, I want to feel attractive, desirable and sexually appealing
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 02:04 PM
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I guess I broadly agree with the rest, except this: being a good human being I have met too many terrible people who have no issues getting laid to believe this
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 02:00 PM
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I'm so fucking sick of this topic
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 05:46 AM
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Why do you assume I'm not honest? It's everyone else who denigrates men's desires. "They're just horny, they just wanna get laid, etc". So what? A woman who wants to go out and get laid will be given all the support and blessings she wants, and men who can and do go out and get laid are too busy doing that to care about the protestations of people online. It's only men who want casual sex and are unable to find it who receive recriminations
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 01:52 AM
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Fair enough, and good for your sister. But despite all your BIL's problems, he was still your BIL. He still managed to date and then marry your sister. They were together for years. His lack of care and admiration and respect for your sister did nothing to stunt his romantic life
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 11:29 PM
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Why is it bad or invalid if a man wants to get laid and is bummed out that he can't?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 11:25 PM
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I'm not dismayed at women having the same preferences. I'm annoyed and frustrated at the constant argument that a man failing at finding a romantic or sexual partner must be because he is a sexist or a general turd
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 11:19 PM
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I'm not on tiktok, and I'm not talking about "Chad". I'm talking about the people in my life. The women I'm friends with, the women I meet at pubs and bars and whatnot. I don't have many gay male friends, so my friends who do hook up do it with women. No, it's not all women. But it's certainly much more than people say it is
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 02:26 AM
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The first. Idgaf about her previous partners
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 01:45 AM
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You’re just sore because you think everyone else is having more sex than you. I don't think they're having more sex than me. I know they're having more sex than me The overwhelming majority of sex is not being had in hookups mate This is true, but I do think you're drastically underestimating the amount of casual sex women have
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 01:40 AM
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Most bars and pubs I go to tend to have very few women. And the ones who are there are like you, partnered
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 01:39 AM
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Dunno man. Ask my parents
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/25 03:43 PM
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Those first parts sure, but I do wonder about the whole being better in bed. I'm not saying you're lying, but so many women complain about the quality of their hook ups and men's efforts in the sack. How does a man convey that he is a good lay, or at least wants to be, before you're in bed together? And why are older men, in your experience, better in this respect than younger men?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/25 02:39 PM
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Born in India, grew up in Australia. And I don't think that question can be answered, one can point to positives and negatives of colonisation, but to say that a state or people or area would have "been better off" is beyond understanding P.s. beans on toast is fucking grade A tier food
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/25 02:37 PM
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It hurts my reader brain to see people here misuse the term Romanticism
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/25 01:23 PM
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What made you want to hook up with him?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/25 01:18 PM
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What attracted you to them?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/25 01:18 PM
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That is actually disgusting
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/25 01:17 PM
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I'm not even British (though I did spend nine months there and have been colonised by them twice over) and you only survived due to French intervention. Americans owe their independence to frogs
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/25 01:17 PM
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Or is this like how yanks will call a chicken burger a chicken sandwich?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/25 10:51 AM
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Huh? It is a burger
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/25 10:50 AM
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Made breaded mushroom burgers for dinner. They were bloody good
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/25 09:55 AM
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He goaded her into doing it. Literally told her to "do it" when she waved a lighter around. I guess he was asking for it
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/25 08:38 AM
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That was during the Second Boer War and done by the British military, not by the nascent Australian government
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/25 08:37 AM
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Why do I have to pay for another man's sins?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/25 03:51 PM
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What does it mean to move like a single man? Does it have something to do with the Ministry of Silly Walks?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/25 03:49 PM
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TE Lawrence was not asexual
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/25 03:43 AM
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I have no idea what that caption says. What's 304 and who is Cassie?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 05:52 AM
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I think I see what you're saying, but I think his actions after that scene show it wasn't casual for him internally; it was a hard moment for him that started the break with his adherence to the church
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 04:00 PM
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Oh wow, congrats! I hope it goes well, best of luck to her and the baby
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 03:18 PM
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I largely agree, but the tea scene wasn't casual at all imo. He was so uncomfortable the entire time, he knew what they were doing to the girl, and he was perturbed at the Mother's attempt to bribe him. Immediately afterwards he goes to see the girl in the kitchen to offer his name and support
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 03:10 PM
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Just watched Small Things Like These. The Catholic Church really sucks huh
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 01:58 PM
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That's fair. Obviously though many women do, otherwise that man wouldn't be the community sausage in the first place
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 11:13 PM
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1, we were together for 2 years. I'm happy with who I lost it, but absolutely I wish I had lost it earlier
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 12:51 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 09:38 AM
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Know that feel bro
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 02:02 AM
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What's with the onion hate in the other replies? Insane
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 01:58 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 01:55 AM
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All I want is to find a(nother) woman who is attracted to me who loves getting hammered at the pub while doing a crossword and discussing literature. Is that too much to ask?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 03:38 PM
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I really wish I had a friend who kept tabs on me like that
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 03:31 PM
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Who's the Glup Shitto of Middle Earth?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 03:31 PM
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Mercury hard cider babyyyyy! Short of goon, it's the strongest drink for a dollar to drink ratio. Or a good g&t, heavy on the g
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 03:18 PM
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I'll take your word for it, there's no harm in giving things a try
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 03:04 PM
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Bro, I do think people here, and in general, severely underestimate the amount of casual sex women have, but this is insane. If this were true then even I would be getting laid
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 02:37 PM
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Thanks for the rec!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 02:35 PM
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Hmm, I've never seen Cheers because frankly I'm too snobby for it I think, but I'll give it a go
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 02:34 PM
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I'll check it out, thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 02:25 PM
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Light, for sure
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 02:24 PM
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Sure, but there's only so often I can complain to my friends about "wahh wahh my dick is too dry" before they've had enough. Like yeah I try to be emotional and open with my friends, but surely they have a limit and I don't want to cross it
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 02:24 PM
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I feel like I'm going insane. I doing pretty well at remaining normal on the outside, being friendly and gregarious and a functioning member of society, but inside I'm falling to pieces; I don't know how long this contradiction can hold. In other news, I've just cracked open a bottle of wine, what should I drunkenly watch tonight? The Simpsons?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 01:20 PM
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Ah, I see my issue now! I don't treat women decently or listen to them. God I've been such a fool https://x.com/Notalwayswrite/status/1922106568109072666
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 08:23 AM
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I probably wouldn't be able to get her even were she single. But I won't even try now, I'm not a homewrecker. The main thing is that it's so hard to find women who even are single in the first place
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 12:24 PM
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Been working temporarily at this job. Met a woman today, she's cute and funny and we got along well, teasing each other and making jokes. Of course she has a husband
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 09:13 AM
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Lmao I'm not pre-drinking, that's what the pub is for. And I was there from about 8.30-12
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 01:31 PM
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Who is lying about what?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 01:31 PM
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Went to the pub twice over the weekend. Not a single unpartnered woman anywhere
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 12:17 PM
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Why is it stupid for an older man, by your definition, to want a casual/non-committal relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 03:58 PM
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The Know Nothings have never been more vindicated
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 11:29 AM
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I am aware of that. And there was a 4 month period where I spent literally every night out at a pub, bar, club or music event. And yet nothing
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 03:53 AM
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I'm sure luck plays a role. But some people are consistently more lucky then others. If we were rolling dice, at some point I would have to ask why are some people rolling 5-6s while I only roll 1s
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 03:22 AM
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But that is different to an older guy being clear and open about not wanting a serious relationship, which you took offense to in your original comment
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 01:13 AM
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Your average 15 year old going on dates in high school has not "self improved". I doubt my friends who have hooked up with guys after knowing them for less than a night (or even less) cared about whatever self improvement journey those men went on
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 09:58 PM
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At what age does it become unacceptable for a man to look for a casual/non-serious relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 09:53 PM
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but when we choose better and leave men unfit for relationships alone There wouldn't be so many women complaining if this were true For not being pleasant to be around? For being shitty partners who expect women to be their personal servants? When does that responsibility kick in? Why do you assume that if a man can't find a partner at all he must be unpleasant and want a mummy/bangmaid?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 01:37 PM
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Firstly, who has I don't value the women in my life for who they are? Why do you assume I don't have women who I admire, respect, am friends with? Secondly, please point out where I blame women for anything. At no point have I assigned blame to anyone
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 01:08 PM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 01:08 PM
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Firstly, it's not just messaging, they're fucking him too. I wouldn't be too fussed if it were just messages. Secondly, that is so fucking absurd. I can't imagine trying to suck up and objectify myself if I ran into a woman who was racist. But it seems I'm supposed to be the better person
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 01:08 PM
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Again, at no point have I ever blamed anyone, maybe myself sometimes. And yes, I am resentful of the positive attention they receive. It's very simple, whoever he is as a person is getting him laid while I am not. Also it's great you've latched onto one aspect about me I said I am, kind/decent, while ignoring all the other positive things I think I have going for me
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 01:08 PM
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Not to break rule 7, but he is being pursued by Asian women. The very women he is being racist towards. If we’re arguing “numbers don’t matter”, wouldn’t be fair for me to say “incels want to kill women” because of the small number of men who write rape/murder fantasies on incel.is? I'm not saying all, or even a large number of, women are attracted to horrific people and toxicity. But evidently more women are attracted to that than whatever I'm putting out
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 11:55 AM
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Where did I say women are awful? Where am I dragging them for their preferences? And yes I am comparing myself to that person, because frankly I do think I am a better person than he is. And I will continue to be so because I should be and I want to be, no matter how dry my dick stays You barely know a single thing about me. You don't know about the friends and connections I have made in my life. The people who value my friendship and companionship, my time and my thoughts and my presence. All y…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 11:52 AM
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It doesn't matter numbers of women who are or are not attracted to that stuff. The simple fact is that he, and men like him, are getting laid and I am not. Being a kind, personable, interested person with friends, hobbies, interests and decent conversational skills has gotten me far less sexual/romantic attention than a guy who "rates the races of Asian women by fuckability"
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 11:33 AM
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it’s about avoiding people who openly despise you Do women avoid men who despise them? https://jamesguilty.substack.com/p/why-do-girls-like-this-blog
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 11:20 AM
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If the Worst Boyfriend Ever guy is real, I might actually just end it all
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 01:50 AM
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Yes you do. If you don’t, tell me an example of people you’ve chosen to be around where looks is only part of the equation. Every one of my friends. I have been involved in political and sports groups filled with young people and geriatrics alike, I don't care what they look like. I'll happily sit at a pub and chat with old geezer about everything from his job as a painter to his time with the Red Cross in Croatia in the 90s (two real life examples of conversations I've had with complete strange…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 01:26 AM
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I don't fill my social life and dating pool with hot dumb women, I just met these two randomly at a pub, and I don't have a dating pool. And she has every right to have her standards and go after a hot guy. I'm not glorifying him either, the he's a prick and a literal fascist (greater Russian chauvinist in this instance). My point is very simple: looks are by far the most important thing when it comes to dating/sex and many women (as will men) will happily overlook how scummy a person maybe if t…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 12:09 AM
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She was quite good looking, no idea about her self esteem. I'm not complaining that women are bad. I'm saying looks are by far the most important thing when it comes to attraction. You can crap on about quality or "bimbos" or whatever, but out of the three people in that anecdote, only I didn't get laid
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 11:58 PM
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I mean, she's no Vaporeon...
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 11:49 PM
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I once met a guy who had his date making fun of a previous fuck buddy of his he likely got pregnant and then ghosted. Sexism has never stopped good looking men from getting laid
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 11:48 PM
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Well, shit lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 02:36 AM
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Hmm, fair enough. I think I dress put together, if a bit conservatively/unimaginative. But I like how I dress and feel good with my (lack of) style
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 01:34 AM
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It makes a lot of sense, but I have questions and points. bars and clubs if you can quickly switch it to "You wanna go somewhere?" I guess I a) don't know how to get a woman to that stage where that question would be appropriate, and b) how to switch to that question without it being seen as gross or creepy I wouldn't waste your time on women who are clearly showing signs of being interested in someone else I'm very good at telling when she's into the other guy in the conversation, having now se…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 01:34 AM
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I do go out quite often, with friends or by myself. I go out to pubs or bars, I love having a pint while reading a book. I did use to go clubbing semi-often, while I don't so much these days I want to get back into it a bit. Related to that is that for a while I used to go to a friend's house parties for a while. I'd meet a lot of different people, and despite how high/drunk everyone was, I was one of the few people not getting cuddled at the end of the night. I also used to be heavily involved …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 03:08 PM
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At this point in my life, sex. It could be an ongoing situation, but I'm not looking for a proper committed relationship. It could end up being that way, if we really like each other and our values/goals align, but I'm not going looking for it. And I would be upfront about that
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 08:20 AM
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If you're sad you're a misogynist https://x.com/PauGabar/status/1917553906822832142
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 03:43 PM
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women simply can't do that Huh, that will be a real surprise to most of the women I know
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 03:32 PM
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Top 10 tips for cooking grilled cheese on prison radiators A day in the life of a body double for Reza Shah Pahlavi
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 10:07 PM
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Personality can turn a yes into a no, but I've never seen it go the other way around. Also, I doubt my friend really cared about that guy's personality when she took him home after knowing him for half an hour
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 04:35 AM
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Lmao what
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 04:33 AM
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So true queen, stay strong!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 01:38 AM
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That's fair, there is a lot of absolute nonsense written here. But that doesn't apply to me, everything I've written is 100% correct and is the absolute truth because I am at the centre of the universe
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 01:21 AM
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What makes you think my opinions weren't informed by going outside and seeing how my friends and family live?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 12:31 AM
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My very good looking friends know they are. But they're not wankers about it either
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/25 11:46 PM
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Dating is so easy guys https://x.com/BlondeBullStud/status/1916870325293158664
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/25 08:20 PM
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Tbh I don't know how stressful the process is, he's just started it, or is preparing for it, I can't remember. Luckily he's the grandchild of someone born in Italy, so he should be able to squeeze in That's so fucked though. Has there been much outcry from the Italian diaspora about this ruling? What's the reaction in Italy? Meloni and co aren't super popular, but this may not be something they care about domestically
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/25 06:13 PM
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I'm not hiding my jawline, I'm hiding my extra half chin
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/25 06:05 PM
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My cousin's husband is about to start that process, he's trying to build a bridge so he and his family can maybe leave the US one day if they need/want to
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/25 06:03 PM
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B for sure
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/25 06:46 AM
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There are dozens of us. Dozens!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 02:48 PM
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I thought low standards are a sign of desperation and are unattractive
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 02:45 PM
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Based
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 05:36 AM
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I wouldn't call it dating myself, but I'm glad you had fun! The big cats are so cute
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 04:57 AM
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I think not doing anything for fear of being seen as a loser is the more loser behaviour
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 04:56 AM
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I feel like I'm acknowledging I couldn't find anyone else to go with I get that, I guess I kind of am acknowledging that, but eh, idgaf. I'll still have my own fun
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 04:56 AM
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Ah right, fair enough. If you're a homebody, I guess this question isn't for you
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 04:53 AM
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Looks great! I love a good bob
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 04:53 AM
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You wouldn't go see a musician or movie you wanted to see if noone could join you? Maybe I'm misreading your first sentence
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 04:13 AM
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Your stylist doesn't use moisturiser?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 04:04 AM
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The money thing is fair, but I guess I was leaving that aside for the purposes of the question. Plus I do love a good pint and a book, so I often go to bars/pubs by myself
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 04:03 AM
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Ah right, nice! Is this the first time they've used this shampoo? Why the change?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 03:55 AM
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Oh lol I was making a joke about my balding. Did you get it chopped off before or after the shampooing? And who is they?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 03:53 AM
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Open question for everyone, why do you think people have such an aversion to doing things/going places/attending events by themselves? I do invite friends along when I go out, but if noone is available, I'll happily go by myself, I see no reason not to have fun even if I have to have it alone
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 03:52 AM
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What hair?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 03:50 AM
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I've gone to many raves or house parties where everyone was high as a kite. I had an absolute blast and I really want to do it again, but it never helped me get into anyone's bed
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 03:42 AM
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Travelling is/was a lot of fun. It never got me into someone's bed
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 06:59 PM
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I get you. I try hard to be a principled anti-sexist politically, but personally it's becoming harder to not become very bitter
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 06:31 PM
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The anti-MRAs seem to be as chronically online as the MRAs
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 05:25 PM
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Literally who in my life could I have tomorrow, regardless of how I actually feel about her? Point her out to me Where did I blame women? Where did I say I'm not taking responsibility of my own life? You people always assume this stuff because it's a convenient strawman to fight against because then you don't have to acknowledge that there are men out there who have strong platonic relationships, that have friends, that have a life and yet are simply unattractive to the women they meet
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 05:17 PM
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It's not hard to take 20 minutes out of one's day to complain on here while drunkely sitting on the tram home after having a few pints with a friend
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 05:05 PM
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Cool. So for me it's still May 2024
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 05:03 PM
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Sorry, but I can't agree. There were things that I disliked about London, but the crush and density weren't among them
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 05:00 PM
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And those stop gaps only work because most women know they could find a sexual/romantic partner tomorrow if they tried. It's not so easy for even those men with good platonic relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 04:51 PM
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Travel, have adventures, make more friends, live fucking life. Why do you assume men don't do this?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 04:43 PM
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Do you sincerely and honestly believe that all the frustrated men here are shut in weirdoes without friends or positive life experiences? Because if so, I must have then hallucinated the last year of my life
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 04:40 PM
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I've said it before and I'll say it with my dying breath, all the talk about decentreing relationships comes from a place of privilege. But I would say this comes from both men and women
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 04:35 AM
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They'll get a cigratte case for their 10th birthday, a zippo on their 12th and a pipe at 18
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 07:20 PM
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Hard agree. If she's not attracted to you, you could be a saint and she'd still rather cut her feet off than get naked with you
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 07:18 PM
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Huh, I spent basically the entire last months doing that. I spent four of those months going out every single night, bars, gigs, pubs, gallery openings, raves, singles events. Everything. All I got was polite rejection, disinterest or the women were already partnered. I take very good care of my hygeine and I dress okay. I don't want a porn star or mum. I'm not even gonna dignify the rape/murder bit with a response
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 07:13 PM
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I don't see anyone out there celebrating or defending dead beat dads
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 07:05 PM
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Please point me to my hundreds of options
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 06:53 PM
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Sure, but to me "butterface", (and I hate that term, to go full woke for a second), means she's ugly, not simply average
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 03:46 PM
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I'm quite surprised how many people are so confident in the accuracy, strength and reliability of LLM models
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 03:44 PM
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Bro what? Or is this a gay thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 03:42 PM
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I've never rejected a woman. Never had the chance too, not that I went looking for it
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 08:28 AM
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Rare EqualSea L
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 07:28 PM
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So am I, though I grew up in the West. So what? I don't really fit anything OP said we are (except that I would argue looks are the first and second most important things in dating)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 07:22 PM
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What's so bad about wanting to have sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 11:38 AM
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I fucking love smoking
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 06:10 PM
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I really appreciate this comment. And honestly, I would rather they just tell me it's over for me if it really is, as opposed to me continually running on the treadmill of trying new things and constantly failing. I do get some people are dropping out of dating, and if it's the right choice for them, I wish them the best. And I do agree that people are generally trying to protect themselves from harm, emotional and physical especially for women. However I can't really agree with you. Firstly, we…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 04:48 PM
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I agree people can get less attractive through their personality, but I've never seen anyone get more attractive. And also, tell me how much someone's personality matters when she decides to take him home after knowing him for 30 minutes. And again, you imply I'm a woman hating bitter misanthrope. Maybe I should become a racist, it seems to have some payoff https://x.com/wobblymami/status/1908547121633960334
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 04:44 PM
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I can't speal for other lonely men, but what I want, from the people who know me, is either actionable advice on what I am missing, or just accepting when I say my issue is that I have a face that doesn't inspire desire or lust
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 12:41 PM
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"Noone actually says looks don't matter and it's all about being a kind and decent person" Also, please tell that to the racist I posted about in the daily chat thread. His "decency" didn't stop him from getting laid
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 12:37 PM
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A) great username. B) tell that to all the people who say it's about personality and not looks
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 12:30 PM
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When I wanted to date, I was already going out and visiting museums, visiting parks, going to fairs, taking random classes, attending common-interest groups etc. Why do you all assume that I don't do stuff like this? I'm literally travelling across a different continent by myself. I go do stuff by myself all the time. Yeah I invite people, but if none of my friends can join, I don't stop myself from having the fun I want A recent study says like 50% of dudes have never asked a woman out at all. …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 10:20 AM
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How can one enjoy or not enjoy dating if they can't find one person who wants to go on a date with them?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 10:08 AM
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Dude really thinks he'll pull from this godforsaken forum?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 10:44 PM
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I'm guessing this is just something I won't understand until I go through it
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 05:25 PM
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I think I'd find it slightly odd, and then not care. Beggars can't be choosers
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 08:46 AM
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I agree with everything you said, but my time raving never helped me sadly
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 06:19 PM
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Such is life
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 05:53 PM
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There is no formula, there are no cheat codes. But this sort of desire and attraction is not uniformly or randomly spread. Some men are generally more desired than others, are more able to find or create this connection. Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 11:10 AM
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I dunno how to post gifs on old reddit, but please google Henry Hill helicopter. Have you seen Goodfellas?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 11:11 PM
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Tbh I don't really have one, but not being a sexist wanker that treats women as people and has had many women friends since I was 13 hasn't done anything for my sex life
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 11:10 PM
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Save your sanity and leave
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 10:51 PM
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Henry Hill-core
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 10:51 PM
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(Literally asking me to do the emotional labor of explaining a concept you can look up) If this is emotional labour, then the concept has lost all meaning. From what I remember, the original concept came from the labour that was required from flight attendants, and was then spread to peopl, usually women, across most other service jobs, the labour that came with maintaining an emotional balance while servicing customers. The extension of the definition to include the "mental load" that many/most…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 10:44 PM
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What is the crab bucket here? Because if it's sexlessness, treating women as real actual human beings with agency is not a way out
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 10:36 PM
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Fair enough. I am, and I've never seen anyone who's successful with hooking up also have problems finding a relationship. Most people I know do both
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 03:22 PM
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What do you mean by simp logic? And is it so bad for people to want to be desired, to want to feel attractive and sexually appealing?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 03:21 PM
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I'm not talking about relationships. I'm talking about anything. Relationships, sex, hook ups, dates, any sort of positive romantic/sexual contact with their desired gender. I said that a depressed man has basically 0 chance to get a gf in the first place We'll have to agree to disagree on this
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 03:20 PM
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I don't think my friend (loosely defined) really cared about that guy's drive, passion and purpose when she took him home after knowing him for 30 minutes
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 03:19 PM
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There are so many people, men and women, who will talk about how their depression fuels their sex lives, that sex gives them a temporary sense of closeness and intimacy, how they chase that over and over. So no, if you're hot depression won't mean you're rejected and will instead fuel your drive to hook up
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 03:07 PM
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Like the average teenager has all that or thinks about that. I only know one other person other than myself who lost his virginity after 20. Drive, passion and purpose don't play any part in attraction at the age when most people start dating. And do you really think that stuff matters when people hook up at bars or clubs?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 03:01 PM
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Yes, it works for them because they find partners easily. They don't have to focus on finding partners, so they have that time and energy to focus on other stuff
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 02:44 PM
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Yep, the mainstream dating subs, mainstream feminist subs, and most anti-redpill/feminist dating sites like Dr NerdLove and Captain Awkward will say this nonsense
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 02:33 PM
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It's so funny, all the calls for men to de-centre relationships come from people who have no issues finding partners. "Don't even think about eating cake, de-centre bread from your lives"
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 02:31 PM
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Lmao, what nonsense
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 02:12 PM
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Me last night
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 02:12 PM
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Is it so bad to want to feel attractive, desirable and sexually appealing?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 01:59 PM
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No it isn't. It's buying a woman's consent. And even leaving that aside, it's not real desire or want, it's fake
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 01:46 PM
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Why do you people always resort to prostitutes as a panacea? Should there be a class of women whose only role is to service fuckless men's needs?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 12:07 PM
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I haven't either, but I appreciate the candour. Obviously the level of misogyny can vary, some get away with more than others, but I'd like to see this more
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 12:27 AM
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Huh, I guess I imaged all those drunken hookups I've seen around me
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 06:59 PM
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Or she complains about how all men take friendliness for flirtation and this is why she's closed off and not friendly to men she isn't already friends with
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 09:35 AM
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It's not about wanting to be a woman per se, but I guess enjoying the benefits women get, in this field
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 01:01 AM
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a dancing monkey Why do you all assume that because I'm frustrated that I can't get laid that I talk like this? Anyway, no, I don't really go to that extent. Tbh I don't think I've ever lied to anyone about anything in my pursuit of finding a casual partner. Not that not lying has helped me in any way, but yeah I have my limits. No, I won't pretend to like chick flicks, or Harry Potter, or rugby, or whatever else just to try and get laid. But, what if it did work? What if I did lie a little bit,…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 01:00 AM
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As someone who does that a lot, by not trying to attract people I've somehow magically not attracted a lot of people. Who could have seen that coming?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 12:28 AM
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Why do people always assume this?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 12:18 AM
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Most women aren't interested in casual. I only have my anecdotal experience to go by, but I really disagree with this. The vast majority of people I know, men, women, non-binary, have or have had casual sex at least once, and most of them more than once or semi-regularly. And I don't know many gay men, so the men are hooking up with women Chad yadda yadda so RP style psychopathy only "Chad", sure I guess. Psychopathy, no. I think the dark triad stuff is nonsense Anyway. You didn't really answer …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 12:14 AM
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If what you want is casual sec, then why are you wasting all your time trying lie and trick a woman who isn’t interested in that? Why do you assume I've lied or tried to trick people? The very few times I've even had a chance of broaching the subject, I've been open and honest Why are you doing relationship stuff for someone you just wanna bang and dash? I'm not entirely sure what you mean by "relationship stuff", but I would like to think I'd treat even a casual partner well, take her comfort a…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 12:12 AM
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What if at the moment I'm not looking for medium/long term? What if at this moment I'm looking for short term/casual?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 11:14 PM
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No. Why do you think people trying to change their personality, sincerely, or trying new things makes them a sociopath? Do you think it's sociopathic that people in general present the best of themselves when they are in the early stages of dating?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 11:03 PM
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You literally said some of these women only want you for casual sex, or love you on a "personal level", whatever that means. You really don't seem like you're struggling
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 11:01 PM
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Maybe he can be under certain circumstances? Maybe he wants to be more that way and he's practising? Maybe people's personality traits aren't hardcoded like that to function the exact same way in every context? My ex could very outgoing and sociable at times. And yet she sometimes made it hard to make friends or to reach out to people because she could also be quite shy, depending on the circumstance. I only knew the former aspect of her when I asked her out, I don't think she was lying to me th…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 10:57 PM
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How is it fraudulent to step out of one's comfort zone to try and strike up a conversation?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 10:40 PM
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Personally when a man is too shy to make a move after I've been flirting with him, I lose any and all interest. Sure, but how do you know they are actually shy and they know you're flirting with him? I have never come across a serious hard definition of flirting, what you may think is flirting is him thinking is politeness
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 10:37 PM
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Can I do option D minus the blaming?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 07:34 PM
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Ok, maybe we just disagree on the definition of "fault". I wouldn't assign any "fault" to women not fucking around (as much as I think this sub and reddit in general underestimates how much they do so)
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 02:19 AM
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See, that's the problem. I did try out. I'm not a weird friendless shut-in. I work, I have friends, I go out to pubs and bars regularly. Unless I had good reason, a job interview the next day, an exam, etc, I've never said no to a social invite from a friend. Where is the fault there?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 02:17 AM
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I don't think that page exists anymore, sadly
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 02:14 AM
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I certainly agree it is my problem, but I take issue with the word "fault", as to me it implies an active wrongdoing on my part, that I have done a specific action/s to lead to this outcome, as merely not being appealing enough. Action versus inaction, I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 02:38 PM
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Because its you’re own fault Who are you referring as "your" in this context? If it's men's general horniness as a whole, sure. If it's specifically at OP, and presumably at other sexless men, how is it our fault?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 10:43 AM
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But there’s a type of woman who likes horndogs who aren’t that good looking. Who are these women, where do they tend to congregate and how do I recognise them?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 10:40 AM
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I would say it's unattractive for anyone to play games. I wouldn't like it if a woman did it to me either; most men wouldn't
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 06:04 PM
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Fair enough
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 04:33 PM
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How have you missed the Sopranos revival of the early 2020s?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 04:30 PM
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Are really denying the sexiness of Tony Soprano?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 04:26 PM
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My point still stands though. There are more women having more casual sex than most women, and many men too, here claim. Not every woman my friends have hooked up with can be hypersexual, it's just they're (my male friends) hot and everyone is at least a bit tipsy
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 03:53 PM
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And what about all the other women my friends have hooked up with? Or am I just in the strange spot of being the one unfuckable man surrounded by very promiscuous and good looking people?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 03:47 PM
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Last night, I legit saw a regular at my local pub go home with a guy after meeting him for half an hour. She has hooked up with several other regulars from this pub (but not me for some reason 😒). Most of the friends I know have had hook ups/FWBS or short term relationships recently
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 03:44 PM
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I really believe women on here, and reddit in general, severely underestimate the amount of casual sex women are having
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 03:40 PM
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😳
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 12:59 PM
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They repress you, they beat you, then they commodify your resistance and sell it back to you on a t-shirt costing $30
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 12:53 PM
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Queen shit
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 12:51 PM
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I care! Why is the October revolution in November??? Oh, Russia was just that backwards at the time
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 12:51 PM
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Happy International Working Women's day. Don't let the capitalists steal this one too
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 12:22 PM
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No menthols though
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 12:21 PM
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I want her to enjoy the sex. And be vocal and open about it
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 02:39 AM
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I hate to say "not all men", but this is not all men. I know several men in relationships, and more that have flirted with or pursued, older women. Not very much older, about 3-8 years older
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 02:38 AM
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A pack of smokes and a deck of cards. And I read books
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 12:41 AM
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Can't both be true?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 12:41 AM
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I read through more of that old thread. I disagree with the guy who said you can't have golden retriever energy and be argumentative; I love getting a tad drunk and having a light-hearted historical debate. But also, why don't you like stealing hotel towels? Is it a quality question?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 06:24 PM
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God you're lucky! I'm Indian and so am about as hairy as the average boar, thus I sweat too easily 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 06:20 PM
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I mean, I won't turn down a hang out at the beach with friends, but I don't enjoy the sun and the heat. I don't like sweating, is that too much to ask? 😑
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 05:49 PM
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Such a shame you love summer and the beach 😥
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 04:08 PM
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It may not be JUST looks, but looks are the most important factor. A Nazi alcoholic can make up for all his problems by being good looking
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 03:06 PM
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Huh? Both their time is valuable, and men's fertility issues increase as they get older too, it's not just about her. And how is this reducing her attractiveness?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 11:31 AM
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Why are do many straight guys in this subreddit want their partners to always and only wear modest clothes? Weird trad fantasies and wanting to control their partners. Tbh I couldn't really give a shit what my partner wore, I love seeing her dressed sexy Am I the only guy here who likes it when his wife dresses sexy from time to time and hopes that some other guy might get turned on and later jerk off at home fantasizing about her while I alone get to enjoy having sex with her for real? Why even…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 01:57 PM
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Then why do so many sexists and misogynists get laid all the time?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 12:55 PM
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I legitimately don't know. Sure, I would say I'm less good looking than my friends, less charming/charismatic. But to the extent that I got zero interest? It boggles me. Not even one date. I've had a few people say it could be a race thing, though such topics seem to be banned here, I don't agree with them anyway. My ethnicity never held my sister back, or any of her friends or the few friends I had who shared my background
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 09:48 PM
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I mean, what explanation can I give when for 28 years not one person ever agreed to go on a date with me? I remain/ed friends with many of these women, so obviously they do enjoy my company to some extent. What was I missing compared to all my peers who have been effortlessly finding romantic and sexual partners since they were teenagers?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 06:32 PM
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I keep trying but always get rejected What should a man do if this is just true?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 05:49 PM
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The Boondocks had a whole episode making fun of R Kelly in 2005
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 11:21 AM
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I don't disagree. But then why do non-harmless men rarely lack for partners?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/25 03:54 PM
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And the bar is in hell
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 11:22 PM
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And the bar is in hell
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 11:22 PM
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I've read a bunch of Arruza and Bhattacharya's works, Feminism for the 99%, and a few articles; I thought at best it's repeating stuff already written by Marx and Engels, none of it was new, and worst it was just a bit dumb. There was one articld by Bhattacharya where the premise basically seemed to be: "80% of all labour in the world is dedicated to social reproduction, let's just be nice together" I could be wrong. But it didn't strike me as anything worth putting effort into, you could get th…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 08:13 PM
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Semi-based, but I think social reproduction theory is overrated
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 03:22 PM
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Lazy boyfriend Can't be a lazy boyfriend without first being a boyfriend in the first place. If he's so lazy that it's ruining his love life, how did he get to be the boyfriend in the first place?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 12:45 PM
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Absolutely. The vast majority of men I know who have slept with a lot of women are charming, sweet and generous people. They're also just really hot. The few hot arseholes I know never lacked for partners either, but they're a minority
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 11:41 AM
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I drink myself. I love a night out at the pub
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 10:30 AM
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Of the people in my life whose sex lives I know even a little about, the vast majority, men, women, non-binary, have or have had casual sex semi-regularly. And I don't know many gay men, so those men are hooking up with women It depends. It can definitely be something a man does to a woman. I don't disagree. But why is it the immediate assumption that if a man is looking for casual sex it must simply be so he case use a woman as a fleshlight, not caring about her feelings or pleasure?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 11:34 PM
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I guess this depends on what you mean by "loving context", but why the disdain for casual sex? Do women not enjoy casual sex? They seem to be having a lot of it. And is sex something a man does to a woman or a fun activity shared between two people? Is a woman having casual sex that she is enjoying simply being used as a fleshlight? Is the man merely a meat dildo?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 10:59 PM
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I better remind those women to make sure they feel violated because their partner asked them out in a place where a random person on the internet disapproves of
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 07:11 PM
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Yeah? Leaving aside that I know one woman who dated two men who chatted her up while she was at work, or that I know plenty of people who have hooked up with bartenders, those are the exact scenarios I try to talk to people in. I'm not talking about random women out and about (though again I know of couples who met that way too)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 06:38 PM
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Right. Under what circumstances then should men try to engage and converse with women he maybe interested in dating in order to get to know her better to see if they're compatible? What are the acceptable ways for men to try and find women they could date?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 06:18 PM
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Please don't feed bread to ducks. Peas are much better for them
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 04:53 PM
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It's shitty and entrapment to try and have a conversation to get to know someone?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 04:52 PM
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I largely agree, and we're also talking about early season Tony, not the later seasons where both his character and Gandolfini himself are feeling the strain. I don't think the young women actually want to fuck Tony Soprano, it's more just being charmed by his confidence. But yes, 99% of young women don't really want to fuck middle aged men
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 02:52 PM
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Maybe it's an online phenomenon, and it is semi-ironic, but it's more about the swagger and confidence he shows more than pure physical attraction
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 12:56 PM
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I broadly agree, but Tony Soprano gets a lot of thirst, from men and women. Gandolfini has that sexy swagger
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 12:31 PM
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Why do you always do this? Just say pedo and rapist. It's okay
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 04:19 PM
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I don't think merely dating a white guy is supporting "white patriarchy", I just think it's really funny
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 11:55 AM
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Every white racist man has a non-white gf, and every "hates white guys" non-white woman has a white bf
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 03:01 AM
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It's that thing about wanting to feel desired, to feel attractive. I don't have a strict timetable, e.g. she must do X within 24 hours of meeting you or she doesn't really like you; but it the question of how much effort do I have to put in to get her to treat me like she treated previous partners? And why? Why do I have to do more than others? Not that doing "more" is always a bad thing, I like making my (hypothetical) partners feel happy/good
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 06:18 PM
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You know what, fair enough, I didn't really think my comment through. All I can say is, I get your point about external circumstances can have an effect on someone's mind, so if she's going through something and doesn't want to jump your bones immediately, it doesn't mean much. However, many/most one night stands, hook ups, etc, happen during parties or when people meet at a night out. So I think one could say if you meet someone in that environment and they don't show immediate physical attract…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 05:32 PM
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So women never hook up with men they've just met?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 04:22 PM
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Eh, depends on how tall/short you are. I think being tall helps, but not as much as having a good face. I know plenty of players/fuckboys (non-derogatory) who are average height, they're also just hot
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 11:13 AM
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also probably more scared of rejection than your average man. Lol why? They're far less likely to face rejection
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 05:15 PM
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Where is the line then? Because women also say they don't want to be overwhelmed, they like men to not be too into them at the start, to leave an air of mystery. That the man wants you, not needs you. How much chalantness (I don't think that's a real word) should a man show?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 05:12 PM
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Aside from the ethical problems with prostitution, it's not merely about the physical act itself. It's also about feeling wanted, feeling desired and sexually appealing
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 01:09 PM
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maintaining an air of mystery. What do you mean by this? Isn't the whole point to get to know each other better? I thought women hate it when men are closed off. Don Draper is hot on screen, but how many women would enjoy that treatment irl?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 06:54 PM
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My local pub has a resident pigeon that lives right behind it. It's the fattest bird I've ever seen
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 04:55 PM
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That's fair. I do acknowledge it does suck to deal with people who don't take rejection well, and you can't be sure of who will and who won't
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 01:11 PM
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There are so many couples that have met on public transport. A friendly acquaintance of mine (she's between the two so I didn't know where to place her) used to work as a staff member at the train barriers and dated at least two men who chatted her up while she was at work
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 01:33 AM
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Get a Tinder account. Talk to the single men around you. I'm sure you can find plenty of positive attention if you look for it
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 01:30 AM
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I refuse to take blame for the men who won't/can't
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 01:29 AM
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Sure. And God forbid that as someone who reads I'd like to talk to a woman who's reading about her literary habits
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 01:28 AM
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Which team? Bombers fan here
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 05:23 PM
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In your opinion, how does one get sexy?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 02:43 AM
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Furthermore men who have dating related problems aren’t said to be “just bad people.” This just isn't true at all. Go over to any mainstream feminist sub, or say the anti-incel subs. A man's un-fuckability is directly tied to whether the man is a sexist, a bigot, a bad person, etc
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 05:22 PM
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I agree with this. There are plenty of ways for women to have a go at men for being sexists, that incel is the most common currently used phrase does mean there is some element of attacking the man's inability to get laid. But that's also the point of an insult, it's meant to hurt
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 05:50 PM
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Rome 1 and Medieval 2 TW are the fucking best
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/25 03:39 AM
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What pets do you have?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/25 03:37 AM
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This is really well written and summarises my feelings about it. For whatever reason, and I think we can identify those reasons, some people are destined to be at the arse-end of the bell curve. Statistically, they just have to be
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 11:28 PM
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Do you not take part in society? Use "society's" resources? Do you not care about your fellow person
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 11:27 PM
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No, that's because burning at the stake was designed in a way to keep the victim alive for as long as possible to draw out the suffering. Has anyone on this sub ever read a book?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 03:17 PM
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Preach brother
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 09:31 PM
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Hard agree. The physical act is a lot of fun, but it's knowing that even if it's only for that night, she found you attractive and desirable enough to go home with
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 07:36 PM
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just the other day in Germany they killed tens of people and injured hundreds of others The guy was an ex-Muslim Saudi who supported the AfD
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 11:47 PM
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Working class women worked too. As did peasant women. What do you think they were doing, cucking their husbands while he toiled on the lord's land to fulfill his corvee?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 08:03 PM
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It's not faking a persona, it's that at the very start crying about one's emotional issues will just turn someone off. Women say this all the time, complaining about men they've just met trauma-dumping, complaining about being used like a free therapist
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 10:41 PM
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There was a headline from the Times: "Don't replace the culture war with class war". They want us divided and angry over stupid shit so the real issues are forgotten
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 10:29 PM
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When we want sex, many of us don't want it with any guy, and will also live single, long and hard until we meet Mr. Right. How true is this? Why do so many women complain about fuckboys, about being tricked into casual relationships, complain about their situationships not being clear and honest and open? Why do so many women complain about their long term boyfriends and husbands? Not just the occasional grumble, but serious long-standing complaints. If women were willing to live single, long an…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 10:54 PM
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I agree dating is harder for men on aggregate, but how does that make men victims? Victims of what? By who?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 07:33 PM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 11:08 AM
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I fucking love the Australian White Ibis
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 12:44 AM
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What are your thoughts on Daniel Penny?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 12:42 AM
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Yes, they care about getting into their pants, which is nothing to get excited about. Isn't it? Plenty of women have casual sex and enjoy it. So sure, they may not care about sexual attention from every/any man, but they will if they want him
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 11:27 PM
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Bro what. Do you not even have some small talk with your friends?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 08:35 PM
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So no woman is in a long term relationship or married to a sexist?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/24 01:55 PM
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Where does this hatred and vitriol for casual sex come from? The vast majority of people I know, men, women, non-binary, have had or do have casual sex semi-regularly. Those women enjoy it, they have a good time, they're not "masturbatory aids". Women enjoy sex
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/24 02:56 AM
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The men that are coupling long-term have demonstrated a willingness to see women as equals Do misogynists not get laid? Is every unfuckable man a sexist?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/24 02:53 AM
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And how does one become less boring?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 04:30 PM
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I think the issue, or at least my issue, is figuring out/wondering why some men are so much more compatible with women, on general, than others. I can go out with a mate, and he's far more likely to find someone immediately attracted and compatible with him, even if she only wants him for that one night. My record is sitting at 0
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 02:37 PM
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Third time she almost literally said i should keep paying, because that's what men should do. Dropped her right there and then For sure, once or twice I'd pay, like I would for my guy friends as well if they needed it. But the moment someone said this, I'd drop them as well, as you did
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 01:35 PM
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Hanging out is friends....untill you are the one pressured to always pay for drinks in club/bar, because it's a men's job Hahahaha what? I've never had a female friend expect me to pay for her drinks or food
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 12:21 PM
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Outside of red states? No she doesn't. It may shock you, but the world is larger than the United States. Also, even where abortion is technically legal, there can be blocks (e.g. the number of weeks) or there can be a dearth of providers so accessing one can be difficult Why can't she? I sure you don't complain about the male loneliness epidemic and how it's such a shame women don't fuck the average guy and boo hoo I'm not getting laid
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 12:31 PM
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The disparity is that the woman has to carry the fetus for 9 months and then push it out in what is often a long and painful process. Otherwise, why can't men keep their pants zipped or their dicks wrapped?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 10:38 AM
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And yet the vast majority of people I know, men, women, non-binary have or have had casual sex semi-frequently
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 02:38 PM
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especially if you’re coming from a place of lack and feeling worthless / envious This is largely where I'm coming from Like to prove to yourself that “I can do something that those loser men can’t!” But not this at all And there’s plenty of men who come to realize that random meaningless sex was not all that validating as they hoped it would be. They lived and they learned. And yet, to get to that stage, they had all that "random meaningless" sex. You say being a fuckboy says nothing else positi…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 01:56 AM
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Sure, if you personally think pussy is the ultimate form of validation. That’s pretty cringe imo. I wouldn't call it the ultimate form of validation, if a single ultimate form of validation exists, but being desirable, being appealing, being able to find partners willing to get naked and have sex with (general) you is a big deal and feels great
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 12:28 AM
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Sure, I agree. There's no guarantee. But the point OP is trying to make is that men get only told what doesn't work, which isn't always true but whatever, but rarely get given generally helpful tips that may improve one's chances What we do get is men wanting to have casual sex in itself being treated like a bad or immoral thing. That we simply want a free prostitute, that there's no idea that a man may want a non-committal night of fun with a woman and help her have a good time as well
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 02:14 PM
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Women aren’t here to just be a fleshlight for men. Sure. Except women enjoy sex. Even casual sex, otherwise I wouldn't know heaps of women who take part in it. Is it bad for men to desire casual sex? Obviously women don't have to have that sex if they don't want it Yes, sex isn't the whole relationship, but then what differentiates a friend from a partner?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 01:41 PM
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I agree with all this. However, this doesn't mean women aren't having casual sex, in my experience they have it a lot (just not with me lol). Also, that's the point. How do we find someone with mutual interest and who is sexually attracted to us?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 01:39 PM
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Why does anyone get into a relationship then? Should we only have friends and masturbate in our own time?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 11:54 AM
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Do women not enjoy sex? This will come as a shock to all the many women I know who have casual sex relatively regularly
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 10:36 AM
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I've spent most of my life in Australia and recently moved to the UK. So I'm basing my experiences from these two places
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 05:03 PM
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You probably interact with the same group of the same types of people. Quite possible. I certainly don't get casual sex
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 05:02 PM
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To repeat what I said in a different thread: The vast majority of people I know, men, women, non-binary have had casual sex at least once, and most more than once. And I don't know many gay men, so the men I know tend to hook up with women Maybe I'm just blessed/cursed to have very good looking and promiscuous friends? I don't know. I do agree there are a large number of women who don't have casual sex or stopped after the first couple of times. But I do think you're inflating that number
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 04:15 PM
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Yeah I agree with this. I think the where the idea of this: There's also this view that you have an attractive guy who's sleeping with a bunch of women and that those women are all pining away for just this one guy. comes from is where many men have a friend or few who do get a lot of casual sex, and see a him hook up with a number of women. But they don't see that woman hooking up with other guys as well. I don't think Chad harems are real, but I do think people underestimate or underplay the a…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 03:22 PM
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I have spoken with women re sex, and it's both. They're obviously not having casual sex with men they don't like. But I would argue that a) what they like is determined mostly by physical attraction, and b) that women have far more casual sex than people like to pretend. The vast majority of people I know, men, women, non-binary have had casual sex at least once, and most more than once. And I don't know many gay men, so the men I know tend to hook up with women
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 12:03 PM
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Do women not enjoy sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 09:41 AM
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How long is eventually?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 09:29 AM
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For me, it's two reasons. I've recently moved overseas on a temporary work visa. I do have the option to maybe apply for sponsorship if I find a good enough job, which I am open to, but if I don't or choose to return home, I doubt many women are going to want to enter a relationship with someone who isn't sure will stay in the country forever/ for a long period of time As a late bloomer, losing my virginity at 28, I would like a more physical relationship because it is also about validating my f…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 10:44 PM
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This is it. The few men I've met who are hot dickheads have never lacked for attention. But the vast majority of men I know who get laid easily are cool, chill, nice and kind people. They're also really physically attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 10:19 AM
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Are you okay man?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 02:10 PM
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I get that, it makes sense. But it's still them having casual sex/hooking up on occasion with one to a few people. I guess to clearly state my point of disagreement, I think many people downplay the amount of casual sex women are having
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 01:33 PM
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I do think women feel pressured into sex and do it. This is true, this does happen. But does it happen in every situation? Is every hook up like this? And by casual sex I include FWBs as well, so these people are having repeated non-committed sex with a person, I doubt in these instances the women feel pressured. stop allowing themselves to be used as a cum dumpster. Is it impossible for women to feel good and to enjoy casual sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 01:23 PM
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Honestly despite what red pill theory teaches you they are rare I disagree with this. The vast majority of people I know have had casual sex at least once, and most of them more than once. Men and women. And I don't know many gay men so the men are usually hooking up with women. And for sure, good for them, I wish them the best of luck. But I see people hooking up around me constantly, it's not rare
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 12:06 PM
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Yes I have male friends, and all but one of them have no issues dating. They're either in long term relationships, so even when they're not, they have no issues finding dates/short term/casual partners Yes. I've had female friends consistently since I was 13 or so. Not a heap, but a few Yes Not really? I'm not the best at it, but I can do a pretty good job of meeting people and making contacts, almost always other men, when I'm out and about. Carrying a book and smoking helps
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/24 09:34 PM
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Fair enough. That's all I've ever received (except once), and that's all I've ever done
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 04:35 PM
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I guess this is after a conversation has started, usually we're both at a pub or a bar
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 04:29 PM
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That's fair. Then how does someone make a woman feel desirable in an appropriate/healthy manner? I usually try to compliment them on other things, how well read or funny they are, how good conversationalists they are, but that hasn't worked for me either
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 04:26 PM
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So I guess the question is, is it worth me asking/trying/flirting with the probable chance it may make her feel somewhat uncomfortable?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 04:24 PM
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Sure, but her saying no to a regular customer could lead to even more awkwardness. And to add on, in some cases, these men aren't regulars
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 04:22 PM
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Fair enough, I guess I was using the definition of outright to mean directly or openly
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 04:21 PM
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Do women not want to feel desirable?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 04:20 PM
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working (she’s being paid to be nice to you if you’re a customer, she probably doesn’t wanna flirt) Just on this specifically, I hear this a lot, but the number of men I know who have hooked up with bartenders at their regular pubs is insane. One woman I know who used to work customer service on the barriers at a train station has gone out with at least two men who chatted her up while she was on the job. This kind of seems to me like one of those things which people pay lip service too but don'…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 03:04 PM
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Are men not supposed to flirt to show interest? I mean, I've never come across a good definition of flirting, but what is so wrong if he had flirted with you? Not from the very start, but maybe once a minimum level of rapport had been built
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 03:02 PM
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Do women not enjoy sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 12:28 AM
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Ever seen someone successful at making friends and unsuccessful at dating? Yeah me, I think. I've recently moved to a new country and city and have already made a few new friends from just talking to people at pubs/bars. Even when we haven't exchanged numbers, I've also had great conversations from just sitting down and talking with people. I also usually carry a book and that often invites conversation. I do all that because I enjoy it, it's fun and I like talking with and meeting people. But i…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 12:51 AM
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