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| 2 | Hot take: therapy is kinda useless for men.Therapy isn't useless for me because I am a guy. It is useless for me because I exhausted the little that it can do. For someone in my case, let's just say tl;dr depressed, all it can do is gaslight me into thinking I am wrong about everything I think or feel, and that their way is right, and I need to replace all of my thinking with their thinking. I am being a bit hyperbolic, but I am thoroughly disenchanted with therapy. It is a piss poor substitute for what community, mentors, elders, good f… | /r/MensRights | 09/08/25 01:00 PM |
| 1 | ode to the children of saturn.Ok, I'm not advocating for circumcision, and honestly I'm bored. But "SWIM" isn't circumcised and have a sex drive as high or higher than virtually everyone they've ever met. Where does this whole "circumcision destroys the sexual instinct" come from? Does the procedure impact some more than others? | /r/MensRights | 18/07/25 08:21 AM |
| 1 | "How women are bearing the brunt of the male loneliness epidemic"Honestly, this post could've been about me | /r/MensRights | 12/11/24 04:30 PM |
| 4 | Are These Victory Meltdowns Real?I think most are real, but wouldn't be surprised if there are some bad actors in there too. Either way, it's sad and disturbing. I mean... if Kamala had won, I would be incredibly depressed right now. I'm already a depressed individual so I'd rather not think about just how much worse I might be. This election is probably the best thing I can remember happening for me in five years, and honestly Trump isn't even the savior he touts himself as—he gives me a slight false prophet vibe, metaphorical… | /r/MensRights | 07/11/24 05:06 AM |
| 2 | Seriously. Be Careful Fellas!Playing devil's advocate here, I basically agree with the OP post, but remember that a considerable number of women voted for Donald Trump. It was less than 50%, granted, and many of them may be married and/or much older than what young men might typically be looking for. But just wanted to add this bit of perspective. If there's something I'm missing though, please let me know. (also, the increase in vitriol could mean that women you already would've have had a problem with before could potenti… | /r/MensRights | 07/11/24 04:06 AM |
| 25 | Don't ask for relationship advice on Reddit100% agree. I think reddit is generally best for positive entertainment (heaven forbid), or at least to mutually commiserate with people who share your problem, even if they can't offer you a solution. But asking hundreds of internet strangers about a personal problem, unless you're very careful and very specific and you ask the right sub, you're otherwise asking for trouble. Even well-intentioned people are just gonna lead you astray, give advice that only worked for them because of circumstanc… | /r/MensRights | 23/10/24 11:56 PM |
| 7 | MSNBC Analyst: "Men would rather listen to Joe Rogan and be converted to fascism than go to therapy."Right? At least, that's how society is supposed to work. I think society is too big now. It's this amorphous mass of dissolved local communities. I understand that not everybody is in a position to give. There are many, many people (including women) in our situation. They don't have a job, or have a shit job that makes them question their willingness to go on. They don't have a significant other, maybe never had one, despite taking decent care of themselves and making a daily effort to be their … | /r/MensRights | 21/10/24 12:43 AM |
| 29 | MSNBC Analyst: "Men would rather listen to Joe Rogan and be converted to fascism than go to therapy."Thanks, you summed up my point perfectly. I'm not sure where that line of reasoning stops anyway. Mentally abusive parents? Just change your mind about them. Physically abusive relationship? Just change your mind. Feel a deep longing and scientifically human need for belonging, for true authentic connection? Nah man, just change your mind about that. It's utterly ridiculous to me. I'm preaching to the choir here, but all I'm saying is that men often seek real solutions. What men generally seem t… | /r/MensRights | 20/10/24 06:30 PM |
| 46 | MSNBC Analyst: "Men would rather listen to Joe Rogan and be converted to fascism than go to therapy."I tried therapy for ten fucking years. It cannot provide: a stable job that doesn't make one suicidal; return one to childhood or even teenage ignorance when the world still seemed like an OK place with a safety net (if you were lucky to have *that* I guess); life-affirming meaning; genuine fellowship (you're paying for someone to listen to you and then do nothing). All it really provides is word trickery, "cognitive reframing." It inherently and constantly gaslights that there's nothing wrong w… | /r/MensRights | 20/10/24 05:43 PM |
| 2 | Feeling Betrayed by Modern Dating: Why Do Empathy and Understanding Seem One-Sided?I don't agree with some of the solutions typically heard in the Red Pill community. I'm too much of a hopeless romantic for that. But what I do appreciate is that it's often been a space where other men can usually understand what you're going through. And that's hard to come by nowadays. | /r/MensRights | 02/09/24 03:01 AM |
| 2 | Misandry is Fuelling my Suicidal Thoughts.26 here. Might not be worth much but you're not alone. I had to take steps to tailor my online experience for my own preferences and sanity. This meant removing most social media apps (only reddit and YouTube now). But you still also have to regularly, consistently filter the content. Be Draconian with the hide, mute, block, don't recommend, etc features. There's plenty of content out there. You won't miss it. Don't get me wrong, that doesn't mean you magically forget misandry exists. It doesn't… | /r/MensRights | 01/09/24 04:00 AM |
| 48 | The rising number of men dropping out of the workforce could hamper housing, Social Security and economic growthI'm TRYING to find a decent job. My life is fucked up now. I went to school and got a degree in secondary education. Well, turns out that a career in education wasn't what I thought it would be like. I was worse than miserable; I was put in a mental wing at a hospital for expressing my emotions and thoughts about my own life to my therapist. My trust was betrayed and I was at my lowest point in my entire life. I managed to power through and finish my internship and earn my degree even with a uni… | /r/MensRights | 31/08/24 01:21 AM |
| 16 | Apparently we spread propaganda, disinformation, racism and sexismThat sub, like a bunch of other subs lately, has just turned into "we hate men and Donald Trump." How is that interesting as fuck lol? I've been enjoying reddit slightly more (not by much tho) after going out of my way to just mute/block subs like this. My feed is like 90% crazy ass Red Bull sport / adrenaline moments, Skyrim, Oblivion, Persona games, and meirl. My unsolicited advice is to intentionally curate your content feed constantly. | /r/MensRights | 21/08/24 04:24 PM |
| 3 | Has anyone experienced discrimination against them in hiring, firing, or promotion situations with employers?Yes, and it was nepotism. | /r/MensRights | 12/08/24 10:08 PM |
| 3 | What are your thoughts on the “mental load” debate?First of all, is the husband expecting her to do all of these things, and assumes no responsibility of them himself? If so, does the husband do an equivalent amount of work beyond the home? What conversation has been had about boundaries? How have the chores been delegated? If we haven't even so much as had a fucking conversation and come to a consensus about chores, by merely having a young-adult level discussion, then wtf are we even talking about here? That's a way bigger communication issue … | /r/MensRights | 04/08/24 05:24 PM |
| 7 | What if you are a therapist who doesn’t like working with male clients? - Article from Centre for Male PsychologyI agree 100% with that my man, have a good day! | /r/MensRights | 02/08/24 12:13 PM |
| 1 | What if you are a therapist who doesn’t like working with male clients? - Article from Centre for Male PsychologyThanks for correcting me bro. Wasn't trying to pick a fight or anything. I was just confused on how one might disagree* that women can be good sometimes (not better than men tho, just good / same as average man, no gamma bias) at being empathetic for the sake of their children, but it can often come at the expense of being empathetic to anybody else. Have a good day my man, no worries! There's probably a way I could better word my responses but I'm tired af, I'm realizing it's time for me to cat… | /r/MensRights | 02/08/24 12:05 PM |
| 2 | What if you are a therapist who doesn’t like working with male clients? - Article from Centre for Male PsychologyI have seen those studies. I think they were well done. That being said, I don't want to put words into your mouth, but what are you implying then? Women have no empathy? Or completely fail at empathy in literally every single situation conceivable, and also can never manage to learn it? I mean, you've got to admit that that would be a little absurd... right? I mean, from a logical standpoint that would just strike me as being statistically improbable. Very, very improbable that every woman ever… | /r/MensRights | 02/08/24 11:46 AM |
| 9 | What if you are a therapist who doesn’t like working with male clients? - Article from Centre for Male PsychologyMan, I went through a similar issue with my own internship. Luckily the director of my program (a woman) had my back. But my supervisor was a total fucking cunt. She had no right to be in a position that is responsible for supporting people's first steps into a career and completely lacked empathy. Without the director, I would've been so screwed. | /r/MensRights | 02/08/24 11:26 AM |
| 26 | What if you are a therapist who doesn’t like working with male clients? - Article from Centre for Male PsychologyThey're good at selective empathy *sometimes* (being mama bear for their children). That's it, and that often comes at the expense of being empathetic to literally anybody else. | /r/MensRights | 02/08/24 11:24 AM |
| 2 | I never really looked into the 2-10% of rape claims are false until now, and that number is not inclusive.I meant situations where an accusation is made but it never reaches authorities, yet still does damage to the falsely accused. Sorry for the confusion, my first comment didn't explain it well. | /r/MensRights | 01/08/24 03:13 AM |
| 2 | I never really looked into the 2-10% of rape claims are false until now, and that number is not inclusive.I know there's not really any way to include this scientifically, but this doesn't mention any of the false rape accusations that never go to court. The ones that stay as non-legal* reputation destruction. | /r/MensRights | 31/07/24 11:42 PM |
| 1 | Why don’t straight men read novels? "This idea of the hyper-capitalist man with no time for something as ‘pointless’ as reading began to take root in the Victorian era. In the 19th century, reading novels developed a reputation as a frivolous and feminised activity as bourgeois women"You raise a good point, I agree with a lot of it, thanks for the comment. | /r/MensRights | 26/07/24 07:58 AM |
| 7 | Has the mental health community ever failed you?It's hard to say. I want to be careful of what I say. This is only my personal experience from 10 years of therapy. It was hard to find good therapists. It was hard to overlook the fact that I'm paying someone to "care." Some do, some don't. Therapy can't give you family, friends, a girlfriend who cares. I decided that if I were to keep doing therapy, what I needed *more* of was practical solutions. But therapy couldn't offer me all that many practical solutions, at least not for my problems. I … | /r/MensRights | 26/07/24 05:02 AM |
| 1 | An apology to men, on behalf of therapists — Michael Giles LCSW Counseling and Psychotherapy in Cedar Park, TX- pretty decent article, what do you guys think?Hey, sorry, meant to reply earlier and forgot. I saw many different therapists over that span, a few different schools of thought. I tried to stick with a therapist long enough to make a fair assessment as to whether it was worth continuing. Some were better than others. A couple I really liked. The first guy I saw was Brett; I was in high school at the time, suffering from receiving less romantic interest than my peers, unrequited attraction, typical. He worked with men in prisons. Really amazi… | /r/MensRights | 25/07/24 05:44 AM |
| 22 | Why don’t straight men read novels? "This idea of the hyper-capitalist man with no time for something as ‘pointless’ as reading began to take root in the Victorian era. In the 19th century, reading novels developed a reputation as a frivolous and feminised activity as bourgeois women"This comment is hilariously accurate. It annoys me to no end that MA and other stoics go uncriticized. There's some good stuff in stoicism, of course. But it really seemed like they were afraid to live, and didn't recognize negative emotion as being part of living a full life. Rather than embrace it head on, and care more for other people regardless of the potential negatives, they shied away. EDIT: In my personal experience, the degree to which I experience positive emotion is closely correlate… | /r/MensRights | 25/07/24 01:10 AM |
| 17 | An apology to men, on behalf of therapists — Michael Giles LCSW Counseling and Psychotherapy in Cedar Park, TX- pretty decent article, what do you guys think?I tried therapy for 10 years, and all it did was make me ultimately feel more confused while either nothing changed or things got worse. Medications did not help or just made things worse. Well, I actually did get some useful tips for managing anxiety. But that's it. (And I could've just as easily gotten those "tips" online. Like the 4 second / 4 second / 4 second breathing technique, in through the nose and out through the mouth. It's been very helpful to learn more and more about this mind-bod… | /r/MensRights | 23/07/24 11:37 PM |
| 0 | Weird question. Do y’all think using positive affirmations has been mostly feminized? Any research supporting this?I feel better when things in my life actually change. There's a significant limit to how much "affirmations" can change. | /r/MensRights | 23/07/24 10:59 AM |
| 12 | Full Bladders Can Cause ErectionsLmao, can you explain bored boners to me? Is there some real science or more like bro science? | /r/MensRights | 18/07/24 02:40 AM |
| 14 | False accusations are actually common, despite the attempts feminists make to diminish it.https://tenor.com/view/mib-flashy-thing-gif-5033587170079232259 You know too much. | /r/MensRights | 12/07/24 10:40 PM |
| 53 | False accusations are actually common, despite the attempts feminists make to diminish it.There are plenty of false accusations that never make it to the legal stage to begin with, but it's convenient for feminists to only look at the legal numbers (and in their defense, there aren't any reliable numbers I am aware of that include non-legal false accusations). A great deal of psychological study has been done on reputation destruction. Plenty of dudes lose friends, even family, and jobs from this kind of behavior. Those can all be caused by false accusations and there's not really an… | /r/MensRights | 12/07/24 10:14 PM |
| 20 | As a former fat guy, getting fit was like having the veil ripped from my eyes on sexism, groping and sexual harassmentIf that were true for sake of a thought experiment, I suspect they're particular about who gropes them. | /r/MensRights | 12/07/24 05:56 AM |
| 6 | Women were more cooperative with attractive men than with less attractive men in both ultimatum and dictator games, regardless of the fertility statusDelusional, maybe. I've found that it's very difficult for women to understand a man's mindset and vice versa. But growing up and just going through the public education system as a guy, I would see this preferential treatment all the time among the boys. You wouldve had to be blind, an idiot, or both to not see it. | /r/BlackPillScience | 11/07/24 10:32 PM |
| 6 | Women were more cooperative with attractive men than with less attractive men in both ultimatum and dictator games, regardless of the fertility statusLmao, take my upvote, you need it | /r/BlackPillScience | 11/07/24 10:27 PM |
| 19 | South Korea politician blames women for rising male suicidesI think there are men who commit suicide because of a woman, but not because of "women." I know a guy who worked for one of the big three. Divorce ruined him. Took his kids from him. Took a lot more financially. Reputation savage. I can't say for sure he committed suicide because of her. But he sure as hell killed himself, unfortunately. | /r/MensRights | 11/07/24 09:26 PM |
| 1 | I feel as if my life has fallen apart, and as a man nobody really caresTinder and all that definitely helped in reducing my confidence to dust. But I really appreciate your advice about trying to figure out what I can do! And I thank you for your positive outlook and kindness 🙏 | /r/MensRights | 10/07/24 06:06 PM |
| 1 | I feel as if my life has fallen apart, and as a man nobody really caresI think the remainder of my problems are therapy resistant. It felt like a combination of gaslighting and asking me to lie or bullshit myself. It won't change my dissatisfaction with my dating or sex life, it won't win me the lottery or get me a decent job, it won't fix my social life, it won't fix my family situation. All it can promise is to make you stop caring or having preferences about anything, and I'm not interested in that, because it feels inherently dishonest and invalidating. It's pr… | /r/MensRights | 07/07/24 10:52 PM |
| 1 | I feel as if my life has fallen apart, and as a man nobody really caresI tried 10 years of professional therapists, unfortunately. | /r/MensRights | 07/07/24 01:03 AM |
| 1 | Neil GaimanYeah, this is just wild to me. Age in and of itself, except perhaps if someone has some serious parental issues / trauma, isn't an abuse of power (assuming both people are of legal consensual age, I need to add). People in their mid twenties may not know as much as someone in their mid fourties, but they aren't rarded. | /r/MensRights | 06/07/24 11:06 AM |
| 2 | I feel as if my life has fallen apart, and as a man nobody really caresIt's my fault for emphasizing that one moment in my post, but that isn't the only reason I'm leaving the profession. Unfortunately even making a positive impact for the kids didn't justify being so stressed that I was physically and mentally ill for almost the entirety of the experience. No other job I've done in the past was anywhere near that bad. The stress wasn't specific to the school unfortunately, but the job itself. 20k in debt is a hard way to learn that, but that's how the work world i… | /r/MensRights | 06/07/24 05:45 AM |
| 3 | I feel as if my life has fallen apart, and as a man nobody really caresThat's awesome man, I'm glad you have your faith! Idk about you but there are times where it can be hard to keep the faith, but it has been so worth it to pray to God during those times like you said, whether it is illness or other life circumstances. I wish you the best, and maybe I will see you again on this sub. | /r/MensRights | 05/07/24 09:54 AM |
| 2 | I feel as if my life has fallen apart, and as a man nobody really caresIt's not for everybody. I wouldn't dissuade anyone from trying it, but I also just can't recommend it for a lot of reasons. Not sure if this will make sense, but I think it might be similar to law... in the sense that it's the kind of career where you have to be okay with it also basically being a lifestyle. I think it just takes a certain kind of person for being a public school teacher is all, and I'm not quite that kind of person. It's a very sacrificial and thankless job, you see behind the … | /r/MensRights | 05/07/24 09:47 AM |
| 2 | I feel as if my life has fallen apart, and as a man nobody really caresI haven't given up on resetting it yet. I'm looking at maybe working for one of the big three doing menial factory work. Did it before for during/after high school. Just listen to podcasts or music and do the same shit. Machine breaks down, cool, free break until they can get it operational again. Factory down for retooling and maintenance every summer for a couple weeks, paid. Union makes it impossible to get fired unless you're trying to get fired. Some other options too like remote work relat… | /r/MensRights | 05/07/24 09:35 AM |
| 2 | I feel as if my life has fallen apart, and as a man nobody really caresYou mention the Book of Job. It's a good analogy. At this point, all I can do is pray to God. I've tried and I'm past my limit. I don't really know how I'm supposed to enjoy this life anymore. Take care man. Thanks again. | /r/MensRights | 05/07/24 09:12 AM |
| 2 | I feel as if my life has fallen apart, and as a man nobody really caresThanks a lot for sharing man, that really sucks. It might not be much but I think you're right, all we can do is try to distract ourselves in ways that aren't too unhealthy (listening to music or stuff like that is definitely better than drinking and smoking a lot). And I think it is good to connect with other people who personally understand how we're feeling, because they feel the same way, as long as we don't let ourselves ruminate too much. I'm sorry all that happened to you. I have a tough … | /r/MensRights | 05/07/24 09:07 AM |
| 2 | I feel as if my life has fallen apart, and as a man nobody really caresYeah, that was just the straw that broke the camel's back I think. I didn't like the work-life balance, especially when considering the pay or even prospects of pay. The only good part is the kids but there's too much bullshit that gets in the way of that, and I felt like a soulless husk outside of work because work controlled my entire fucking life, and left me numb and drained. | /r/MensRights | 05/07/24 08:59 AM |
| 1 | I feel as if my life has fallen apart, and as a man nobody really cares"If you read your op and this reply you can see a theme emerging. Forgive me if I'm wrong yet it looks like your highly fixated on the goal/outcome. Furthermore it's reads you don't like change and that control is a high priority. To add to this would be your inexperience of being a school teacher in a setting where adaptability and change is a key skill to have." This is all spot on. Unfortunately it's not something I understand how to change, or feel like I have a support net / system for chan… | /r/MensRights | 05/07/24 08:55 AM |
| 2 | I feel as if my life has fallen apart, and as a man nobody really caresI agree with you, I don't expect that higher figure like 70k or whatever right out of the gate (not with my meagre skills and experience anyway, it's just not realistic since I didn't go for astrophysics or get a master's in programming). It's just very hard to find something that seems to have those steps as you call them, instead of just another dead-end with no upward trajectory. And you make a good point about depression. That's something that only I can deal with, ultimately. I'm in my mid … | /r/MensRights | 05/07/24 07:08 AM |
| 7 | When did you realize that you aren't the problem?So was this like the predecessor to Johnny Depp in a way? I feel like Johnny Depp's trials had the same effect. | /r/MensRights | 05/07/24 07:04 AM |
| 2 | I feel as if my life has fallen apart, and as a man nobody really caresHmm... I've always struggled with finding a balance, so I hope that if I can find a decent salary (not even 100k a year, I'm talking ~70k) at a job with a decent work-life balance (there is no perfect job for that but some are better than others) that I can have some time and energy for the things I enjoy in life. Plus one day I'd like to at least have the option of having a family, and I can't see myself doing that on 40k a year. You're right, I do enjoy finding and connecting with the *right* … | /r/MensRights | 05/07/24 06:54 AM |
| 3 | I feel as if my life has fallen apart, and as a man nobody really caresHey Giraffe, thanks for sharing your story man. I'm sorry to hear you went through all that but I hope you're doing better now, or at least getting better. I do feel better just reading your comment and knowing that I'm understood and other people are going through it too. There's not many spaces to talk about these kinds of feelings or issues, not even on the internet. Your last sentence really resonated with me. I think one thing that sub-consciously tore at me while doing the teaching thing w… | /r/MensRights | 05/07/24 06:44 AM |
| 2 | I feel as if my life has fallen apart, and as a man nobody really caresSo I did have a dream for a while of working in Japan as an English teacher. But I did research first because I didn't want it to just be a decision based on "durrr Japan sounds cool" (I'm pretty into anime). With as much as I'm already struggling in life, I am very hesitant to do something that extreme. If I felt like I could do it, I also learned that it would have a lot of the same (if not exaggerated) issues that being a teacher here in the states has, and you know how that went. It's also n… | /r/MensRights | 05/07/24 06:33 AM |
| 4 | I feel as if my life has fallen apart, and as a man nobody really caresHi, thanks Tiger. I live in the mid-west US. A lot of the things I like aren't really conducive to finding employment, at least not a decent salary; video games, anime, reading books, playing sports, creative writing... I do enjoy language and writing more generally. I've worked in journalism before and during uni. Right now I'm looking for opportunities related to editing, proofreading, copywriting. Some of them are remote and have some more additional flexibility, which could be nice. Beyond t… | /r/MensRights | 05/07/24 06:30 AM |
| 1 | The United States Doesn’t Understand MenWhere do I go to hang out with other guys? Every guy my age (I am in my mid twenties) is working. You'd think there was a plague that killed anyone between the ages of 20 and 30. After graduating either high school or college, society has a process to isolate everyone. Perhaps this impacts men more, because men are more willing to move farther for school, to sacrifice more, toward the goal of their career or what have you. I think this is why starting a family was always such a big goal for men,… | /r/MensRights | 03/07/24 11:52 PM |
| 7 | What are some mens issues that people usually don't know aboutMan, I tried and tried therapy, with very little good results. After a decade it just made me more confused. And when you go to openly discuss this, usually what you hear is that you just need to find the right therapist. Okay... I've been to ten therapists in as many years. Not all were equally bad, but none were particularly helpful. Medication doesn't grant me a job without a dead-end, early retirement, purpose, meaning, the love of my life or prevent divorce. "Well, therapy is like that, you… | /r/MensRights | 03/07/24 11:04 PM |
| 1 | all hope is not lostWhat do you mean, if you don't mind me asking? Are you referring to the next generations? | /r/MensRights | 01/07/24 08:01 AM |
| 2 | all hope is not lostYea, sorry, it was just a bit of dark copium for me. I actually agree with you. 👍 | /r/MensRights | 30/06/24 09:16 PM |
| 20 | Still haven't found a place to cash in on my "male privilege"As a child, I could choose from an almost infinite variety of children’s media featuring positive, active, non-stereotyped heroes of my own sex. I never had to look for it; male protagonists were (and are) the default. I mean, they can't be serious on this one. All these main male characters in Marvel or DC stories, Aragorn in the Lord of the Rings trilogy, Arnold Shwarz, the dude in 50 Shades of Grey, the dude who played the main guy in The Witcher, Clint Eastwood, James Bond, Dwayne Johnson, *… | /r/MensRights | 30/06/24 12:12 AM |
| 1 | Tired of feeling like I have to prove myself as worthy to womenMakes me sewer-slidal* just thinking about it. | /r/MensRights | 26/06/24 10:54 PM |
| 5 | Where did the idea come from that women should have the expectation of never lifting a finger their entire lives and have everything handed to them?Lots of places. Toxic feminism as another top comment already explained; weak men raising future men and women; the rise of social media and certain narratives pushed in mainstream news; social conditioning / programming in the public education system; no-fault divorce, gynocentric divorce courts, and other factors that lead to fatherless homes (a weak man in the home would probably still be better than none at all). | /r/MensRights | 18/05/24 11:48 PM |
| 11 | We lost another good teacher, I was hoping we could show some supportI managed to get through the program, but then you just have a lifetime of *that* (the kind of thing you mentioned) waiting for you on the other side. | /r/MensRights | 14/05/24 12:02 AM |
| 2 | Is being a provider in 2024 a scam? "Drizzle Drizzle here to stay" apparently...Unfortunately, I think those women lack the self awareness and self reflection necessary for this trend to be anything other than entertaining for some men. | /r/MensRights | 28/04/24 04:30 AM |
| 1 | I don't know how to make heads or tails of this reddit post about sexual attractionI think men are more prone to having "friends" because of circumstances, while women are prone to making "friends" for transactional reasons. Neither of these are the same as having true friends. I don't have any science to back this up. It's just a personal observation I think about sometimes. I'm bringing it up because I think women are very good at shallow networking due to their inclination of keeping around many "friends" for social advantage (status, information) and other benefits, which … | /r/MensRights | 22/04/24 05:24 AM |
| 1 | I don't know how to make heads or tails of this reddit post about sexual attractionMaybe they edited their post after you saw it, but to be fair they said it doesn't excuse their behavior, it just explains it. And he said playing devil's advocate, so he might not agree with anything he said anyway lol. But you make a good point imo, I don't think most women would care about a man who was sexually abused by his mom. Most people still think that it's impossible for a woman to commit rape or sexual assault / abuse. | /r/MensRights | 22/04/24 12:17 AM |
| 3 | I don't know how to make heads or tails of this reddit post about sexual attractionInteresting take, and maybe a bit alternative... but I think there could be merit to it. If I understand you correctly, you're theorizing that she sees men approaching her friends, but men never approach her. So viewing sexual advances on the basis of physical attraction as "disgusting" is a defense mechanism to explain this reality away. | /r/MensRights | 19/04/24 10:39 AM |
| 3 | I don't know how to make heads or tails of this reddit post about sexual attractionI think this is where my confusion came from. I can understand feeling disgusted by a person's sexual advances when the person gives you a reason (idk, kind of an absurd example, but let's say the person is a close family member). But any and all sexual advances on the basis of physical attraction = disgusting, not just strange or unwanted but DISGUSTING, is something significantly different. In my experience, I've not even been disgusted when a gay man has hit on me. Just awkward. Even if I don… | /r/MensRights | 19/04/24 09:20 AM |
| 1 | I don't know how to make heads or tails of this reddit post about sexual attractionI hear you. I would just like to add that when I said "when I get to know women I usually become less attracted to them" that I didn't mean that as something I want to happen. I just do not get along with most women. I find many physically attractive, but I am turned-off by their personalities and other aspects of a person that take a little more time to get to know. In other words, I'm really not that much different from whoever made that post I'm referring to. I also value emotional connection… | /r/MensRights | 19/04/24 07:42 AM |
| 2 | Faking pregnancy to manipulateProbably the most insane thing that happened to me (in relation to the thread topic) was going on one movie date with a girl in high school, who then told people the next day that she was pregnant. She even told this to my face. She was even talking about it IN THE CLASSROOM before class had started. Well, she was certifiably insane. Luckily, but also kind of sadly, all of her "friends" weren't really her friends. They knew she was insane. They were just being nice to her, tolerating her. So all… | /r/MensRights | 19/04/24 06:24 AM |
| 1 | Male loneliness is not as simple as "all men are incapable of being friends with other men""deluge of noise" is a great way of putting it. And it sounds like we agree. I don't have the solution either, but I think it is fair to say that the supposedly common sense solutions like talking to a friend, a family member, or a therapist do not always work. I have tried those solutions for years. Sometimes it is possible to find advice in that deluge of noise that is genuinely helpful. But I think people, not just men like you said, often need access to an opportunity, to real tangible and p… | /r/MensRights | 19/04/24 03:11 AM |
| 2 | Scarcity mindset vs abundance mindsetThe fact that many men still believe or in or desire the values you refer to, including OP, would suggest to me that unicorns is not an apt description. You're literally replying to one. I don't see how life expectancy is relevant. "I'd live as a decent person if I was going to die in my 30s, but since modern medicine and technology allows me to live to be 70, I don't need to live as a good person." I can't follow the logic. And if most people get married when they are 30 but most divorces occur… | /r/MensRights | 18/04/24 06:45 AM |
| 4 | Male loneliness is not as simple as "all men are incapable of being friends with other men""Thing is, at least for me, the existential loneliness that I and many of my friends struggle with is not about a lack of friends. It comes from living in a society that doesn’t give a fuck about you. It comes from either not being able to find a romantic partner or being in a relationship that just treats you as a means to an end. It comes from knowing you’ll waste you the best years of your life working to make some lazy, useless rich guy richer while you struggle to maintain an acceptable sta… | /r/MensRights | 18/04/24 01:50 AM |
| 2 | Male loneliness is not as simple as "all men are incapable of being friends with other men"The point is, I don't think men need advice. And I don't think they need therapy. If anything, the problem some men have is there are too many cooks in the kitchen. David Goggins and Jordan Peterson and Andrew Tate and Joe Blow and 10,000 other people all giving them advice and telling them what they should do. I think they need *actual* help, and no, I don't mean therapy. They need an actual opportunity, they need an actual coach, they need an actual mentor. But I also appreciate your 5 cents. … | /r/MensRights | 17/04/24 10:35 PM |
| 4 | Male loneliness is not as simple as "all men are incapable of being friends with other men"I completely agree. While men can have "problems of thinking" (for lack of a better way to say it), I think a lot of men—myself included—struggle with real shit that is happening to them. These are "doing" or "being" problems as you say. It feels like gaslighting to be told that you just need to "think about it differently." Like fuck off, what is happening to me is *real*, it's not some trick of the mind. The fact that I can't find a job that doesn't make me want to off myself is real. The fact… | /r/MensRights | 17/04/24 10:32 PM |
| 5 | Male loneliness is not as simple as "all men are incapable of being friends with other men"I mean no disrespect but I currently don't have any interest in making friends, going out, socializing, I'm sick and tired of approaching people, and my social life (or lack thereof) wasn't meant to be the point of this post anyway | /r/MensRights | 17/04/24 10:25 PM |
| 2 | Male loneliness is not as simple as "all men are incapable of being friends with other men"i can definitely relate to that in a way | /r/MensRights | 17/04/24 10:24 PM |
| 5 | Male loneliness is not as simple as "all men are incapable of being friends with other men""which idiot said this?" yeah, I know, I was preaching to the choir a bit with this post | /r/MensRights | 17/04/24 02:38 PM |
| 6 | Male loneliness is not as simple as "all men are incapable of being friends with other men"That sucks, sorry to hear that man. If I went on a trip I would be polite enough to not ruin it, but more than likely I would try to politely decline the invitation to avoid having to do that, if that makes sense. I'm at a point now where I see people trying to help, but I know that it's not the help I need, and I don't want to waste their time. Generally if somebody does something to try and lift my spirits, which does work sometimes, I just hope they're not going way out of their way to do it.… | /r/MensRights | 17/04/24 11:27 AM |
| 1 | Male loneliness is not as simple as "all men are incapable of being friends with other men"I went to university and have a teaching degree which I finished 5 months ago, but I'm kind of back to square one. I can't blame the world for all shortcomings but the world certainly doesn't make me motivated to try anymore. Not sure what the point is. I don't feel like competing anymore, I'm kind of over it. Besides what I mentioned, I go to the gym and have started attending church on Sundays but that's about it. But I appreciate your advice nonetheless. | /r/MensRights | 17/04/24 07:49 AM |
| 3 | Male loneliness is not as simple as "all men are incapable of being friends with other men"Thanks bro, at the moment I spend most of my time playing video games and watching anime. I've been reading and writing as well. Trying to stick with consuming positive content and staying away from doomscrolling. | /r/MensRights | 17/04/24 07:02 AM |
| 6 | Male loneliness is not as simple as "all men are incapable of being friends with other men"Thank you for sharing, I agree with some of the things you said. I've tried therapy, although not A.R.T., and it's just not something I'm interested in any more. If therapy works for you or somebody else, I think that's great. But more than ever I think people need mentors who care without paying for them. And it's not easy being a mentor. I tried to be one in university for just one person, one semester, and it was so difficult. Again, I think it's very difficult to mentor someone who is the sa… | /r/MensRights | 17/04/24 03:10 AM |
| 6 | Male loneliness is not as simple as "all men are incapable of being friends with other men"My personal issue with social media isn't with failing to understand I am looking at highlight reels, although I acknowledge some people fail to understand that, especially teens or younger. Assuming the person's content isn't completely staged (which some of it is, sure), my issue is that anybody gets to experience those highlights to any degree at all. | /r/MensRights | 17/04/24 02:52 AM |
| 5 | Male loneliness is not as simple as "all men are incapable of being friends with other men"It sounds like we lead very different lives. Thank you for sharing your perspective. | /r/MensRights | 17/04/24 02:15 AM |
| 25 | Male loneliness is not as simple as "all men are incapable of being friends with other men"thank you, said much more succinctly than how I put it. | /r/MensRights | 17/04/24 01:51 AM |
| 10 | How are falling birthrates going to affect men rights?Not sure why you're being downvoted, I think maybe people think you agree with those views when you're just pointing out how those groups are likely to respond. I think eventually feminists won't be fine with it, but they'll also still be in denial about the causes. | /r/MensRights | 16/04/24 12:47 AM |
| 39 | We have a generation of men who don't know what they are doing wrong.I agree with everything you said, but... in a river? I am so confused. | /r/MensRights | 13/04/24 01:06 AM |
| 10 | Comments on a TikTok about a female predator that raped boys as young as 12. Our society is disgustingYup, one tends to use physicality to rape, and the other tends to use psychological manipulation to rape. Still rape. | /r/MensRights | 09/04/24 10:50 PM |
| 3 | What Do You Guys Think Of A Pill To Reduce Or Temporary Suspend Sexual Feelings?I understand that. It just seems like a useless, invalidating way to dismiss suffering and dismiss a problem. A person can survive without modern medicine, without a job, without a home, without a family, without friends, without hygiene, without knowing how to read or write, and so on. This whole "survival = need" just seems absolutely absurd to me. To me, the topic of this thread refers to a real psychological and emotional need, and life isn't worth living without it. And if the lack of somet… | /r/MensRights | 01/04/24 12:34 AM |
| 1 | As a man, dating and relationships is too confusing for me, taking a toll on mental health (rant)Women don't seem worth the effort to "try hard." Anyway, I do appreciate you taking time to share what you think could help Tabopo. I actually agree with what you say about "how annoying the whole process is". That's a very nice way of putting it in my opinion. But where our experiences differ is that that "annoyance" has not at all led to a natural decline in the drive. Just added frustration unfortunately. | /r/MensRights | 31/03/24 11:59 PM |
| 4 | What Do You Guys Think Of A Pill To Reduce Or Temporary Suspend Sexual Feelings?I guess I am using a looser definition of the word "need." People don't really need to be raised by two parents either, or parents that are loving, attentive, supportive. People can live to be 80+ years old without any of that. People could theoretically even live to be 100 as a slave from birth; people don't need freedoms, even though the vast majority of people would agree that having some freedom is psychologically and emotionally better than having no freedom. But I insist on calling intimac… | /r/MensRights | 31/03/24 11:54 PM |
| 6 | What Do You Guys Think Of A Pill To Reduce Or Temporary Suspend Sexual Feelings?Yes, because I hate having a desire that I cannot fulfill through mutual enjoyment with another person who shares that same desire. Masturbation is adding insult to injury. At least hunger and thirst have the decency to kill you after not being met for a relatively short period of time. In regards to sex, people will gaslight you and say it isn't a need, the constant stress and suffering evidently having zero psychological impact on a person. | /r/MensRights | 31/03/24 06:30 PM |
| 2 | As a man, dating and relationships is too confusing for me, taking a toll on mental health (rant)Hear, hear. Unfortunately I'm still trapped in this body. Thanks for your comment and understanding man. | /r/MensRights | 31/03/24 06:15 PM |
| 4 | As a man, dating and relationships is too confusing for me, taking a toll on mental health (rant)thanks man, and your username is very relatable | /r/MensRights | 31/03/24 06:13 PM |
| 2 | As a man, dating and relationships is too confusing for me, taking a toll on mental health (rant)I gave the video a chance, and I'm glad I did. This is the first time I've ever heard somebody talk about this. Cuts through a lot of the bullshit, and doesn't get bogged down in a pity party (like my rant tbh). Thanks for sharing. I at least feel like I'm not crazy. | /r/MensRights | 31/03/24 06:12 PM |
| 1 | Where do I, or you, get help?I pretty much agree. Although, whenn I get to know a woman better, I usually find things I don't like, or vice versa (when they get to know me better, they find things that they don't like). And I find myself regretting ever bothering in the first place. If there are things you don't like about female nature, or otherwise very common tendencies or traits and behaviors that the strong majority of women exhibit, you're kind of fucked in my experience. Even just in terms of values, I feel I'm diffe… | /r/MensRights | 11/07/22 06:08 AM |
| 2 | Where do I, or you, get help?Thanks Mike. | /r/MensRights | 08/07/22 09:28 PM |
| 2 | Where do I, or you, get help?Yeah, I'm not interested in consciously turning myself gay lol like that guy was saying above. I checked out ArakoTV and I like what he has to say, but I also feel like a lot of those clips are just going to make me more bitter and jaded than I already I am. Like, no matter how hard I try, I already hear that or see that kind of shit on the regular from women at work or especially at uni. That's pretty much where I'm at right now bro. Ignoring all female distraction and worrying about myself. I … | /r/MensRights | 08/07/22 09:24 PM |
| 2 | Where do I, or you, get help?Thanks HighonSeverance. I agree with you about loneliness. And yeah, it's important to know you deserve love too, but in the context of the current society and this sub-reddit how helpful is that do you think? | /r/MensRights | 08/07/22 09:00 PM |
| 2 | Where do I, or you, get help?Thanks. I hope most people like yourself who comment see that I am calling myself out on it and trying to find a way, but I just can't see a way out right now so I'm seeking advice/guidance. | /r/MensRights | 08/07/22 11:24 AM |
| 1 | "A woman's loyalty is tested when her man has nothing. A man's loyalty is tested when he has everything."Wow! Thanks for reminding me dude! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/05/21 07:55 PM |
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