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SELF IMPROVEMENTTomatilloMindless381/r/RedPillWomen26/06/24 03:43 AM
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ADVICETomatilloMindless381/r/RedPillWomen04/07/24 04:04 AM
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I think that femininity is much more nuanced than a lot of people believe. It is not a "one size fits all" cookie cutter personality, which took me years to realize. This year I have really come into femininity, while not changing my personality entirely. I am a natural leader and problem solver, but becoming feminine helped me learn when and how to take a step back from that if needed. For me, femininity helped me slowly release my need for control and dominance. Speaking in analogy, rediscover…
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/24 01:32 AM
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First of all, welcome to RPW! It is so good that you are making these changes and your mindset is shifting earlier than later! I'm a 20 year old woman and this year have had much the same value change that you have had, except I had a run-in with the depravity of modern culture which led me to seeking RPW. I have written some of my experiences in my post history. Since you are young, I must remind you that you do not have to agree with everything in this community (or any community/belief system…
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/24 11:40 PM
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For starters, stay off Instagram/TikTok and any other platform where unrealistic beauty standards are constantly shown. Spend a lot of time out in public in the real world and you will learn that the vast majority of people don't have the "typical features." I am a couple years older than you and know what it is like to be the "ugly kid." I was the girl who was asked out as a joke and got laughed at. I only recently started to really glow up. I have a cute but unconventional face. What helped me…
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/24 10:58 PM
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Hey OP, I am the daughter of a single mother and my father was never in my life. Growing up, so many of my friends who's parents were in an incompatible/unhappy marriage and staying together for the kids. My grandparents did the same, and I lived with them for a few years when I was a child. Kids are not oblivious, and will sense the unhappiness and marriage troubles. If you have sons, they will learn how to treat their future wives/girlfriends the way your husband is treating you. If you have d…
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/24 10:35 PM
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Comparison is the thief of joy. I am single, but I really had to overcome comparing myself to beauty standards. What helped me was finding ways to accentuate my natural beauty and features, instead of mask it. Finding what clothing and styles make my body look its best, figuring out how to do my makeup in a way that accentuates and compliments my features, as well as finding a hairstyle that compliments my face. Complimenting, NOT masking. I have a square jaw and chubby cheeks, despite being thi…
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/24 08:30 AM
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Here's my two cents as a woman who was raised by a single mother and had a difficult childhood. Do not have kids unless you TRULY want them with all your heart. While my childhood was chaotic, I always knew that my mother wanted me and that she loved me. Don't have kids just because of society or because it "the next thing to do." Its not just 18 years, its for the rest of your life. I am 20 and live away from home, and talk to my mother on the phone nearly every day. Her and I went through a lo…
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/24 02:40 AM
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Love this post! That is one of the major reasons I joined this community. I love the constructiveness and seeing both the positives and negatives of each sex. I cannot stand reading all the man-bashing online. "I would choose the bear" is the most ridiculous BS I have heard in ages. I hate the broad assumption across online circles that all men are bad and are potential rapists. Those beliefs being spread around online are NOT helping men or young men AT ALL. It does not surprise me that so many…
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/24 02:25 AM
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Single here! I recently had the epiphany that being the primary pursuer of a man is the worst strategy. Looking back, it made me look desperate and put me in a masculine place, even if the interest was mutual at first. I am relatively new to RPW, but I am working on "dropping the handkerchief" to subtly invite a man to peruse me. Of course I don't mean to avoid speaking to a man unless spoken too, heavens no. Speaking in analogy, my main issue was "taking the seeds of his attraction, and over-wa…
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/24 02:09 AM
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Great advice! Reminds me of a quote I saw once: "If you treat him like a celebrity, he will treat you like a fan"
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/24 06:32 AM
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I'm so sorry they said that. If you're religious, try a women's or young adult group at a church. Maybe see if there are any clubs or groups in your area with likeminded women. Until then, participating in discussions on this sub is a good idea
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/24 06:29 AM
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Welcome to RPW! I'm 20 and fairly new to this community as well and can relate. I have a lot of friends who are very left wing. That being said, I don't share my full views with them, but I do share a watered down version. Harsh backlash vs respectfully disagreeing is the difference of if you should find new friends. Do you have any other people in your life who would be accepting of your views? For me, my mother and aunt have similar views so I talk with them about my beliefs. Be wary of friend…
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/24 06:56 PM
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Thank you for the advice! Men need to be "the hunters" and I cannot anymore be too obviously available to them. I also agree about matching his energy. There is this one man who I was interested in for a bit, and it started out seeming mutual. However he would never initiate contact whereas I would. I definitely need to practice matching their energy. I do not want to be the convenient female attention.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/24 06:46 PM
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Thank you so much!
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/24 06:37 PM
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Thank you so much for those resources!
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/24 07:54 PM
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Thank you so much for sharing! That was really eye opening. After reading your reply, I did a deep dive into the insecurities and roots of why I have those patterns. Thank you
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/24 07:53 PM
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Exactly. While being masculine can be fun for a little bit, it gets draining real fast. It feels so liberating to climb out of this masculine "shell" that I had put on for years.
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/24 01:51 AM
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Absolutely! I have had so many run-ins with weak and effeminate men. Last year, I briefly was getting involved with a man a decade older than me, yet he was so obviously weak (didn't own a car, no emotional intelligence, lived in a frat house despite not being in uni, was super left wing, and even hinted at me paying for future dates). Needless to say, I rejected him and learned my lesson from that. I have also had the opposite, dealing with men who claim to want to date and get to know me, but …
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/24 01:49 AM
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Thank you for your suggestion! I am very active on my Instagram stories about little tidbits of my day to day life, and have been recently going out of my comfort zone, posting about things such as femininity and appreciating the little things that make this world beautiful. I have been recently considering making my account public and posting more about things I am passionate about, such as femininity, minimalism, capsule wardrobes, photography, some of my (non political) views on life.
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/24 01:56 AM
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Thank you! Letting go of all that negativity and masculinity, feels like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders. I feel so much more adoration for myself and unity within myself, and through that I feel so much more adoration for life and the world around me.
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/24 06:02 PM
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It's so amazing to notice the beautiful things in life. For my whole life I thought I was one of those girls who does not care about flowers, when in reality I love flowers. I bought an orchid plant for my room and it makes me so happy
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/24 05:59 PM
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Thank you for the advice! I am on a student budget, so wigs and extensions might be a bit out of budget but if I find something I like for not a bad price, I'm going for it. I'm using the hair grow-out phase to experiment with shorter but not masculine styles. Right now, my hair is beginning to reach the stage where I need to get the back cut to avoid a mullet.
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/24 05:56 PM
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