Top_Radio_9436 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
21	Has anyone's GIRLFRIEND been redpilled?		Top_Radio_9436	/r/ExRedPill	04/10/23 06:41 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
22	I feel like women aren't interested in relationships and are just as happy as single You are presumably a man. Suppose to the contrary you are a woman. If you live in the USA and you are well informed, then some of the things you observed in recent memory are: the Dobbs Decision which overturned Roe V. Wade, Donald Trump getting elected again and a bill banning abortion being introduced in Congress just four days after his inauguration. Also, there are other proposed policies that could seriously undermine your rights and make it risky to even have sex. The redpill is so pervasi…	/r/ExRedPill	01/02/25 02:21 PM
1	How do you help someone out of the redpill cult? I am finding it works to model curiosity, skepticism and look for patterns in information; see here. Point out through-lines between what they are saying and extremist ideologies from the past.	/r/ExRedPill	09/01/25 06:08 AM
1	Not All Women I am disheartened that she, and others like her, doesn’t seem to care that pregnant women have already started dying in red states by being denied medical care for miscarriages. And the same fate will befall pregnant women across the US if Trump wins again. What you are describing sadopopulism and its pretty disgusting. Trump fanatics are motivated by fear and hatred toward other groups, so much that it seems they will cut off their noses to spite their faces. I also think sometimes they feel pr…	/r/ExRedPill	03/11/24 04:09 PM
78	How do you deal with your insane envy of promiscuous people? You would deal with it in therapy. You obviously know that this isn't healthy and it doesn't feel good being where you are at. It makes sense to seek support for this. I don't really have this problem, but I can offer you this if it makes you feel better: many people (esp. men) embellish stuff like that. It might help to take people's accounts of their past sex escapades with a grain of salt.	/r/ExRedPill	21/10/24 03:02 AM
6	Toxic masculinity or the lack of ? Some of these guys will openly embrace an ideology which discourages men from pursuing "feminine" trades, but then bitch and whine about not being able to find a male therapist. Then the blame gets redirected at feminism. I have often heard red pillers call the required degrees for work in these fields "worthless" too.	/r/ExRedPill	21/10/24 12:48 AM
13	Toxic masculinity or the lack of ? I agree with the spirit of your comment. Although I had assumed that men typically don’t take on “nurturing” jobs because men aren’t trusted in that role. For e.g. a male teacher or nurse is treated with suspicion of being a predator by default compared to women in those professions, and for good reason. This would naturally discourage even well-intentioned men from pursuing these professions You are right. Men are sometimes viewed with suspicion for wanting to work with kids; they aren't truste…	/r/ExRedPill	20/10/24 07:34 AM
15	Toxic masculinity or the lack of ? One of the most common idea that I have come across in TRP is that many of the places that educate young boys are mostly run by women. School for instance.... You are right. Women are indeed overrepresented in the health, education, administration and literacy (HEAL) sector. This is where you would need to see more men taking up jobs in order for this change to happen in our society. The problem is that toxic masculinity makes these jobs no-go zones for men since these roles are considered "effe…	/r/ExRedPill	20/10/24 01:04 AM
8	Is red pill making me insecure or paranoid? I was always careful about them before but I feel that my bad dating experiences made me vulnerable because they offered solutions and answers. People and dating are really pretty complex. Be wary of people/groups/ideologies that offer simple, satisfying solutions and answers to complex things. It's a sign of false enlightenment. My grandmother got sucked into Fox News because its ideological framework offered simple, easy to digest answers and solutions to all kinds of complex issues.	/r/ExRedPill	09/10/24 04:40 PM
5	Is red pill making me insecure or paranoid? Did the red pill guys you know end up attracting women who were equally toxic and confirmed their beliefs? I.E. They think women are untrustworthy and manipulative and so only women who they get are exactly that because other women are repelled? That's very common and I've seen it happen lots. They set their expectations low, so attract crappy partners. It reinforces the belief and keeps their minds anchored in red pill ideology. Some go blackpill but there are another things I've seen too. I fi…	/r/ExRedPill	09/10/24 04:12 PM
10	Is red pill making me insecure or paranoid? I think yes. That's what redpill does to most guys I've personally known who have gotten into it. Some insecurities are there at first (there has to be a situational vulnerability that draws you in) but get worse because of how negatively redpill views women. In the redpill worldview, once you've met one, two or three woman you've met them all it seems like. "Ah she's just using me for validation. She doesn't really like me because I'm beta." "I'm not dominant enough. She's getting railed by bad…	/r/ExRedPill	09/10/24 02:43 PM
6	Is there anything wrong with being traditional? Most of my close friends are women. That's good, keep it that way. It is vital to keep these friendships. Also you don't want to make your future interactions with women only about sex; be open to platonic friendships with women. You don't want to make it harder to connect with women by limiting your perspective and social opportunities in these ways. Hanging out with mostly guys will not help you. It is counterintuitive that you would want to become more homosocial to meet women as a heterosexu…	/r/ExRedPill	09/10/24 04:00 AM
1	Best friend of over half my life has become so ignorant The Haitian pet eaters thing was debunked throughly by France 24. They seemed to do a much better job than any of the US domestic media in explaining the origins of the disinformation. Moreover, suppose these claims of pets being in Ohio were true. Even then, you still can't stereotype an entire immigrant community based on that. Technique rebuttal is a better approach in countering this shit than debunking individual claims head on. He, like my friends, probably doesn't have good logical reason…	/r/ExRedPill	17/09/24 02:53 PM
1	What’s the hate towards older women? By their def. of a good partner, older women are excluded because they are more experienced and won't be as malleable. Also there is a tendency for some people to be jealous/insecure about their partner's past partners and redpill speaks to men with these insecurities. Some subsets of redpill/manosphere are really adamant about their partners being inexperienced.	/r/ExRedPill	17/09/24 02:08 PM
1	As a woman how can I avoid being affected by reading misogynistic comments on the internet? Not all men have the situational elements in their lives that make a man vulnerable to TRP. However, those that do come from ALL walks of life and are at various levels of functioning (though I do think they skew younger as an aggregate). Though I have no real data to back it up, I have a mostly male work environment with transient workers from all over the country right now and "neomasculinity" seems to be VERY widespread. Be careful not to paint all men with the same brush, but still be vigila…	/r/ExRedPill	28/08/24 01:45 AM
38	Did redpill ruin me? Why do I feel totally in love with a girl but not so much sexual desire? You have to grasp that sex =/= defilement or disrespect of the woman you are having sex with. Those things need decoupling in your mind or you will face relationship problems in the future. You might need therapy to let go of this kind of thinking. Sounds like you might have been raised with some sex negative views but I wouldn't know.	/r/ExRedPill	21/08/24 07:38 PM
8	The redpill idea of relationships are so toxic and miserable Yea. That kind of relationship seems like the most likely outcome of following redpill teachings. I kinda think that RP teachings are just a tool for promoting a conservative boomer mentality to young people to some political end.	/r/ExRedPill	21/08/24 06:31 PM
14	The redpill idea of relationships are so toxic and miserable The redpill framing of long term relationships as misery and self-sacrifice is unnecessarily negative and causes guys who are in the RP belief system to think this is default for relationships. These low expectations make it easier to not seek out satisfying relationships and stay in shitty one. This mentality is what caused my ultraconservative grandparents to stay in an awful marriage for 60 years. People used to stay in toxic, mismatched marriages/relationships way longer because of social, r…	/r/ExRedPill	21/08/24 03:53 PM
–	If you were sex trafficked by people within Red Pill/PUA, please be sure to report it, even if it's outside statute of limitations. We've been able to prove that there was an international trafficking ring... Even in my own case, but from the other women I've talked to, they were lured to meet up with their "lover boy" groomer under the typical next stage of being together, getting married, etc. only to be led down a path of being sexually assaulted, recorded, some where raped by his friends, blackmailed into telling a different story, extorted into other activities like being a cam girl, etc. I believe you and this kind of behavior has been seen with psychopaths and sexual predators. Mike DeBardeleb…	/r/ExRedPill	13/04/24 02:26 PM
–	If you were sex trafficked by people within Red Pill/PUA, please be sure to report it, even if it's outside statute of limitations. We've been able to prove that there was an international trafficking ring... I believe you and I'm sorry you had to experience this. PUA is the side of the manosphere that appeals most to narcissists, psychopaths, sadists and other abusive personalities. With the kind of people who are drawn to this, something like this happening is inevitable. I read/watch a fair amount of true crime and sometimes see eerie parallels between what PUAs do and what psychopaths/sexual sadists do to try to dominate women. People like Mike DeBardeleben could blend right in in some of these c…	/r/ExRedPill	13/04/24 02:15 PM
15	Is is true that women are drama seekers? It's bullshit. Whenever someone talks about a diverse and large group of people like they are a hivemind, it should set off your bullshit detector. Also. What does perfect even mean? Doesn't it mean different things to different people? Is "perfect" according to one person's standard perfect by ALL people's standards? Are women not varied in what they want? Do all of any group want the same thing? You can't use an anecdote to draw conclusions about four billion people. Maybe Caca's ex wife feels…	/r/ExRedPill	12/04/24 07:40 PM
3	I don't think I've seen any proof of physical attraction being subjective in any way that's meaningful to me I've had this happen countless times. Countless. It was mostly guys I knew from high school and it was disturbing.	/r/ExRedPill	07/04/24 02:29 PM
12	I don't think I've seen any proof of physical attraction being subjective in any way that's meaningful to me It's a combination of things that make people attracted to each other OP and looks are but one of those things. Why get hung up on just one aspect of attraction? Not everybody places the same emphasis on that particular element of attractiveness anyway. These things are nuanced. Looks certainly help get your foot in the door but aren't everything. I'm an attractive guy but have had trouble at times because I lack approachability and look kind of menacing (rough environment). Take responsibility …	/r/ExRedPill	06/04/24 11:04 PM
3	Is there a community for women who dated a normal guy, and then their normal bf turns hxc redpill and now having to deal with leaving them and the long lasting abuse the guy put them thru cause of the toxic red pill community? I'm sorry, but please cut your losses for your own good. You are feeling beaten down and broken because you are being abused. The juice isn't worth the squeeze on this one. He fell for mysogynistic rage-bait which activated or amplified his insecurities. It was as easy as that to turn him into what he is, so he had issues under the surface that you were not aware of. I've lost quite a few friends to this trash. Maybe though, he was always an asshole and just hid his true face. Abusive people are…	/r/ExRedPill	01/04/24 04:08 AM
7	How has the redpill ideology negatively affected your life? It's driven a wedge between me and old friends of mine I grew up with. I understand how their insecurities got weaponized, but the things they say and do are alienating and morally unacceptable to me. Its pretty much ruined some of my friendships, as they pretty much are not recognizable as my friends.	/r/ExRedPill	01/04/24 03:37 AM
3	I feel like this redpill stuff is making me insecure. You can't assume that redpill influencers speak for all men. They speak for a subset of troubled and unhealthy men.	/r/ExRedPill	26/03/24 07:24 PM
8	How do I stop identifying with femcel ideology? What you need is CBT and to study logical fallacies, same as redpillers. I have some doubts that FDS even started organically. I think its entirely possible that FDS was originally created by bad actors (undercover redpillers, tradwives, etc.) as a manipulation tool to scare vulnerable men into taking the redpill and keep them. Afterwords, women who share the same cognitive distortions as terpers got sucked in and became unwitting force multipliers. I know bored NEETS sitting on their asses in m…	/r/ExRedPill	20/03/24 09:42 PM
2	Yet another relationship ruined by Red Pill ideas Me too. Those algorithms seem to prioritize anything that drives engagement and keeps people hooked, which is another part of this.	/r/ExRedPill	20/03/24 09:11 PM
2	Why does my brain force me to be miserable? Have you done any CBT? There's a high level of neuroticism inherent with the conditions you mention. You probably want to tackle the negative thinking patterns with professional help. It might help the depression too. I think anything which lowers neuroticism can help with redpill stuff.	/r/ExRedPill	19/03/24 04:48 PM
2	Yet another relationship ruined by Red Pill ideas This.	/r/ExRedPill	17/03/24 04:23 AM
18	Yet another relationship ruined by Red Pill ideas Yup. In almost everyone I know who is pilled, hypergamy fears become a self-fulfilling prophecy and can be a vicious cycle. Trust issues are really worth seeing a therapist over since healthy relationships are dependent on that. How can you love in the future if you can't trust? That's something redpill takes away from people. I've often seen this: guy worries about it happening => acts insecure => pushes girl away => reinforces his belief => stays on platform watching grifters for more "advice"…	/r/ExRedPill	16/03/24 08:05 PM
2	How do you heal after years of being the recipient of redpill strategies I really don't think you have the kind of mental disorders that the people I am referring to have. Also, Incels have the same toxic views but they are unlikely to engage in abusive behavior towards a partner since they literally can't find one. I think you can't compare your former self to someone like the OPs ex except in your worldview. By definition you never abused or transgressed in a relationship based on those views.	/r/ExRedPill	12/03/24 09:36 PM
6	How do you heal after years of being the recipient of redpill strategies Great outcome, but what do you mean “doomed because of their own bad choices?” People can change and do change all the time even the pieces of shit jerks. Nah, that's pretty unlikely considering the kinds of people I am talking about. They don't take accountability for their actions and have dug holes for themselves in many other ways than just interpersonal that are going to follow them for decades. They are actually fucked in measurable real world ways that don't just involve turning over a ne…	/r/ExRedPill	12/03/24 06:40 PM
8	How do you heal after years of being the recipient of redpill strategies I'm sorry you are feeling this way. Understand that redpill tactics are just abuse tactics that have been used by shitty people since the beginning of time, it's just that there hasn't been a how-to training manual for being a piece of shit that had as much reach until now. Your process for healing is essentially the same as any other abusive relationship. Your path to healing will look like the path to healing that many others follow after being abused. When I was young, naive and new to dating…	/r/ExRedPill	12/03/24 04:45 PM
6	I don't know how to be attractive after a bad experience with a woman. Falling in and out of the Redpill. Every new rejection feels 10 times worse because of it. I want to be attractive again, but don't know how. Probably though, most women wouldn't see you through the redpill lenses like that. You gotta be careful not to project your negative self-perceptions on women and assume that they are seeing you through your eyes. This is your biggest hurdle to dating I think. SMV is such a nasty way to look at datings and relationships, its dehumanizing really. This is where therapy is going to come in handy. I look at what some of these views entail and wonder how anyone in this mindset could actually love the…	/r/ExRedPill	10/03/24 04:30 PM
7	Myron from Fresh and Fit lives in a bubble. Change my mind Either way, the guy spews toxic bullshit and the implications are bad. Lots of people acting on his advice are making bad decisions that hurt themselves and others.	/r/ExRedPill	09/03/24 06:50 PM
21	Myron from Fresh and Fit lives in a bubble. Change my mind Probably. I think even if you suppose that he is acting on good faith and actually genuinely believes his own garbage, he is working with a biased sample because he inhabits social spaces where one can reasonably expect to find a disproportionate number of shallow people who are obsessed with looks, status and validation (i.e. people who naturally act in redpill-y ways). Myron himself is shallow, superficial and concerned with status and birds of a feather flock together.	/r/ExRedPill	09/03/24 06:39 PM
6	I don't know how to be attractive after a bad experience with a woman. Falling in and out of the Redpill. Every new rejection feels 10 times worse because of it. I want to be attractive again, but don't know how. It sounds to me like you are vulnerable to redpill because you are dating inexperienced, have a toxic social "support" system and garbage people in your life. You need to find new healthier friends who are more understanding and not emotionally retarded. A reasonable person wouldn't make fun of you for things like that. It is negatively affecting you and you have no safe space. Red-pill cannot continue to be allowed to fill that void. You need to also understand that rejection is an inevitable p…	/r/ExRedPill	09/03/24 04:43 AM
5	Do most women have empathy for men? Some women are like that some aren't, hard to say what proportion. I think some women have a hard time living by those feminist principles (i.e. men can have feelings just as women) because, at the same time, they are beneficiaries of benevolent sexism. They were also likely raised in it, thus internalizing those values. Maybe their mom and dad had that kind of relationship. Allot of women have a hard time seeing how sexist their relational dynamic is because benevolent sexists "simp" hard and t…	/r/ExRedPill	09/03/24 12:24 AM
11	Do most women have empathy for men? Theres truth to that because of the reactionary cultural notion that men are supposed to be strong, tough and take it and can't have feelings. Notice how there is also a lack of empathy for male SA victims because of the same thing. There's also benevolent sexism of the sort that allot of people's grandfathers have where I am from. You can't hit a woman, but she can hit you because you are supposed to be a tough man-y man. I've seen relationship dynamics where the woman is the abuser and this ki…	/r/ExRedPill	08/03/24 11:44 PM
18	Do most women have empathy for men? I think you are in a toxic space online with allot of nasty people. Birds of a feather flock together, and the only people who respond positively to this are going to be nasty people. So essentially what you've got is a biased sample. You don't even know what proportion of all women who viewed it responded positively to it or at all. I think the frequency of women who actually care about that kind of stuff and are shallow isn't much different than men who do. There's allot of shitty men and wome…	/r/ExRedPill	08/03/24 11:27 PM
8	Self-Improvement Youtuber Hamza has now gone to promoting hurting other people via aggression, specifically women, as a "masculine goal", because "they secretly like it". How far is this going to go? Statistically, I'm fucking certain they have with how many people view this trash.	/r/ExRedPill	08/03/24 03:29 AM
47	Is following red pill content pages a red flag? Yes it is. I would definitely avoid this guy. Many redpill influencers tell guys to seek out relationships with younger women because of the power differential. It's not the age gap that is creepy, its the age gap + redpill shit together. Those two things in harmony could imply that he is seeking a partner who is easy to control. He might not disclose that he is redpilled and start using mental abuse tactics on you, which TRP promotes as relational strategies. I'd move on.	/r/ExRedPill	08/03/24 02:30 AM
8	Self-Improvement Youtuber Hamza has now gone to promoting hurting other people via aggression, specifically women, as a "masculine goal", because "they secretly like it". How far is this going to go? Guy is a sickie.	/r/ExRedPill	08/03/24 12:00 AM
19	Self-Improvement Youtuber Hamza has now gone to promoting hurting other people via aggression, specifically women, as a "masculine goal", because "they secretly like it". How far is this going to go? I've head allot of guys say disturbing things like this in recent years and it really bothers me. The idea that you should ever foist something on someone sexually because they 'secretly like it' is completely wrong, unethical and will lead to sexual assaults. This idea is EXTREMELY bad. While there is nothing wrong with rough sex, in and of itself, it has to be established as a mutual interest of both parties. Everything does. If you engage in any sex act with someone who doesn't want it and as…	/r/ExRedPill	07/03/24 11:48 PM
4	The biggest red pill contradiction about women’s happiness Redpill is not a logical worldview, as much as it pretends to be. The arguments only exist to convert insecure people into reactionary ideologies, make money from said people and/or isolate them from other groups to create division (as a tool of ideological subversion). It's probably one of several factors in the growing opinion gap between men and women in the west (which ironically is probably contributing to some guys not having much sex). Different grifters may have slightly different audien…	/r/ExRedPill	06/03/24 12:34 PM
3	How to regain my trust in women (people in general really)? I can't take their alleged "rationalism" seriously when their arguments are so full of textbook logical fallacies. Like you don't have to know the formal terms for allot of these to know an error in reasoning when you hear it. Those kind of twisted fantasies don't resonate with healthy rational people who are actually "based" and thinking with logic. I think they resonate with people who are depressed and thinking with their (negative) emotions. I've noticed with redpillers, the explanations the…	/r/ExRedPill	03/03/24 05:43 PM
5	How to regain my trust in women (people in general really)? I've encountered extremely few redpillers who can actually "think about thinking" (i.e. they almost always have trouble mentalizing). Then there's nearly always high neuroticism and anxiety which fucks up their information-processing and leads to interpretive bias. Redpill = neuroticpill.	/r/ExRedPill	03/03/24 02:25 PM
9	How to regain my trust in women (people in general really)? People are so varied dude. Not all women are guaranteed to act like the women you work with. Maybe you happened on a particularly nasty, toxic group of people. Certain workplaces can attract toxic people for some reason. If you must know though and maybe it will make you feel better, not all of the reasons people cheat involve sex. If you have a healthy mindset and carefully select women you are compatible with it's less likely to end this way. Maybe their relationships are secretly terrible or …	/r/ExRedPill	03/03/24 05:04 AM
7	The redpill ruined my mental health and turned me (24, F) into a misandrist. 95% agreed. I don't think hypergamy is made up but is just a behavior which manifests in people who are social climbers and use others for security and validation. Its not a man/woman issue at all. Redpill misrepresents all women as being fundamentally that way. It seems like hypergamy is actually kind of contrary to feminist/left ideas, since it entails a certain level of dependency on men. Why would radical left promote a relational strategy that makes women more dependent on men? That works i…	/r/ExRedPill	29/02/24 10:39 PM
7	The redpill ruined my mental health and turned me (24, F) into a misandrist. I think you've been in online spaces which select outrageous soundbytes from extreme far-out leftists/feminists as propaganda to discredit those groups. The tone you have toward feminists and "the radical left" seems to imply that. There are nutcases who think all sex is rape and say insane shit but you can't base your perception of feminism on a few nutcases. Honestly, there isn't really much of a radical left in America since the Overton window skews right anyway. We have more elements of fasc…	/r/ExRedPill	29/02/24 10:20 PM
8	The redpill ruined my mental health and turned me (24, F) into a misandrist. l've had lovers by 28 I'm a slut but if I'm still a virain at 28 l'm a prude an old hag and a waste, that has made me snap and turn me into a misandrist. Lol. A woman cannot win with redpill; you are damned if you do and damned if you don't because redpill ultimately hates you for what you are. Why is it that you think all men think like this though? That's the exact same thinking error redpillers make about women, its a hasty generalization. If you place such a high premium on logic and reason …	/r/ExRedPill	29/02/24 04:00 PM
5	How do I form a friends with benefits relationship with a woman? THIS is 100% spot on OP. If you are going to try to do casual stuff you should get your street smarts up first. You don't wanna be a mark. Even for neurotypical people there are inherent risks to this kind of thing.	/r/ExRedPill	28/02/24 07:33 PM
6	How do I form a friends with benefits relationship with a woman? It's more mainstream and less sketchy than Adult Friend Finder. If you're gonna try hookup culture this is a better platform and I know people who use it. Still be very careful OP.	/r/ExRedPill	28/02/24 12:41 PM
15	How do I form a friends with benefits relationship with a woman? Fucking exactly. You will even find sadistic trolls looking for vulnerable lonely men to hurt, just for the sake of being cruel. Think of the kind of people who enjoyed tormenting Chris Chan.	/r/ExRedPill	27/02/24 08:20 PM
10	How do I form a friends with benefits relationship with a woman? Take what you said in your post about having matches already. I am willing to bet you don't. It sounds like a bait-and-switch tactic by the platform's designers to get you eager to spend your money. You need to be instantly skeptical of things like that to navigate these setting safely. You are at a disadvantage with this; date the old fashioned way and don't put yourself at risk.	/r/ExRedPill	27/02/24 08:01 PM
19	How do I form a friends with benefits relationship with a woman? OP, do not take this the wrong way but I think putting yourself out in this way could be extremely dangerous for an autistic person. There's all kinds of scammers, predators and trash people in these spaces and if ToM (reading people and understanding their intentions) isn't a strong suit of yours you should stay TF away. You have to be a street smart person to navigate that kind of social landscape safely. Looksmaxxing only goes so far if you aren't developing your social skills through interac…	/r/ExRedPill	27/02/24 06:46 PM
3	Avoiding the black pill makes me happy. Less experienced with BP'ers than RP'ers. The guy I suspect is blackpill, whom I know, is a biological determinist. He talks about bone structure, evo-psych and has said some weird pseudoscientific bullshit that reminds me of the Nazis. Maybe this isn't true for you, but for him its almost like a tool of self-harm. Like this shit hurts him and causes him pain but he keeps going back to it. It's like he wants the negativity he feels about himself to be true, even if it isn't, and he is seeking co…	/r/ExRedPill	24/02/24 04:15 PM
8	Does the Red Pill damage the nuclear family structure All red pill does is radicalize men who have dated women with personality disorders. The deceit, cheating, hypergamy is all behavior that is linked to particular PDs in Cluster B of the DSM that both men and women can have. Lots of people have dated a toxic Cluster-B personality its not uncommon. Cluster B women didn't cause the ideology, the experience of dating them was common enough for someone to get the idea to cash in on the pain. It was a cheap shot by some sleazy grifters.	/r/ExRedPill	21/02/24 10:22 PM
11	Redpill boyfriend Deeply depressed and brainwashed is exactly how he sounds. He sounds very, very sick and is obviously abusing you. Maybe he had deep insecurities to begin with that caused redpill to resonate with him. Either way, you don't deserve to be treated this way and it sounds like you could do much, much better. You can't stay with someone who basically doesn't see you as human. Redpill causes men to distrust women and see them as manipulative and hypergamous and that's probably how he is seeing you. It…	/r/ExRedPill	16/02/24 03:19 AM
1	I feel like I threw away a chance with a great girl because of Red Pill To answer your question, i like who i am now more than the fake player character but at the same time i have this, almost, hatred for myself for being so inexperienced and not standing up to my parents when i was younger as they put a lot of fear in me about women, relationships, knocked my confidence a lot, Ease up on yourself dude. Lots of us, myself included, learned garbage from our parents in our formative years that fucked up our growth and we have to unlearn it. It was within the last fiv…	/r/ExRedPill	15/02/24 07:23 PM
2	I feel like I threw away a chance with a great girl because of Red Pill My knee jerk reaction is like some kind of CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy). Redpill insecurities, like most insecurities, feed on cognitive distortions and logical fallacies which really common thinking traps that most people fall into at some point. CBT helped me work through allot of trauma from my childhood. Another important thing; redpill has some attributes of a cult. You are (to some degree) a victim of undue influence and thought reform which has to be considered. Certain resources th…	/r/ExRedPill	15/02/24 02:28 PM
4	I feel like I threw away a chance with a great girl because of Red Pill I was following the false red pill ways where all women wanted players and men who had fucked a lot, i acted like a player because i thought all women liked this. Thats one of the main problem in the redpill, its one big over-generalization; there does not exist any one thing that ALL people like because preferences are so varied. Applying a one-size-fits-all narrative to relationships is insane when you think about it. People as an aggregate may skew a certain way, but there is still allot of v…	/r/ExRedPill	14/02/24 07:03 PM
11	I feel like I threw away a chance with a great girl because of Red Pill I kinda feel like you might have blown your chance with this shit: I'm behaving and talking like a playboy, so when she asked me how many girls I've been with, i've given a false number higher than the truth, i said close to 10 but the truth is 1. She seems put off. Then i go on and say I've dated two women at once. Red flag! I didn't take her seriously, i thought she wanted something casual so I played the fake role of the player. It's really just common sense that you don't want to say shit li…	/r/ExRedPill	14/02/24 12:42 PM
6	Red pill hypocrisy and circular logic Red pill definitely meets some of the criteria Lifton set for thought reform/ideological totalism. The book is available here if you wanna check it out (see chapter 22). TRP is essentially a decentralized cult, though people shy away from calling it what it is.	/r/ExRedPill	02/02/24 03:24 PM
12	Red pill hypocrisy and circular logic When women do the opposite of what they predict, they always have some snarky response as to why that’s not true. Then when a woman SAYS something on a podcast that reinforces their beliefs, suddenly they believe all women. This is how people who are in cults reason; Robert Jay Lifton called this "doctrine over person" in his book Thought Reform and the Psychology of Totalism. All of your reality and what you experience ends up being reinterpreted to fit the doctrine. When a woman says something…	/r/ExRedPill	02/02/24 12:45 PM
4	Incels and virgins The sixes thing is definitely manospherian in origin and incels endorse that shit. Without anymore information though he just sounds like another sexually inexperienced boy who has dabbled in the manosphere which is unfortunate but very normal. There are lots of 'em and they aren't all incels.	/r/ExRedPill	29/01/24 06:02 PM
–	16F ..brother who is 30M is a raging nigcel He sounds like he is in a bad, bad way. This isn't going to change until he makes serious changes in his life and starts making better choices (it sounds like getting his GED is a good start). The motivation has to come from within though to do these things and if he doesn't have it, there is nothing you can do to change this. I would just do things to keep you sane while you still have to live with him and not try to de-radicalize him. It might be that, right now, because of all of the shitty c…	/r/ExRedPill	26/01/24 12:14 PM
2	RP damage/ life advice? Exactly. Its a self-fulfilling prophecy.	/r/ExRedPill	24/01/24 11:46 PM
1	Deep Ignorance + Arrogance If somebody believes a person who promotes such ridiculous ideas, they’re idiots (at least partially). I’m not removing personal agency from the picture. Yeah I’ve been there many times too since 2015. Pretty jarring, however, that just means those people were stupider than I thought. This is called the fundamental attribution error.	/r/ExRedPill	24/01/24 06:40 PM
1	Deep Ignorance + Arrogance Otherwise intelligent and even seemingly progressive people have been radicalized right in front of me. One of my mentors in the IT world (very intelligent guy) was a Trumper and had strong redpill views. His issue is his strict Catholic upbringing giving him a Madonna-whore complex that even he seems unaware of. Allot of us aren't even aware of our own vulnerabilities enough to predict how someone could weaponize them.	/r/ExRedPill	24/01/24 12:48 PM
1	Deep Ignorance + Arrogance I thought this way about right-wing propaganda pre-2016 and used to share it. I have never been a right-winger and the intention was to laugh at and mock the BS. I was thinking other people in my life were on the same page, that everyone in my circle was seeing things rationally too and knew why the arguments were flawed. They seemed like critical thinkers before when we went to school together, aren't they still now. I was off in my assessment. Some people got the joke, but it turned out there …	/r/ExRedPill	24/01/24 12:14 PM
4	What should I suggest for a fourth date? Sometimes things fizzle out because of compatibility issues and it's alright. I think that might be what is happening here Also, she doesn't want to have kids / not sure, while I do, so I'm not even sure we are compatible. Yea. I am like her in this respect and it would give me serious pause if I heard someone say that they wanted kids as much as you do. This may end up being a serious compatibility issue and both of you would probably be way happier and healthier dating someone else who wants t…	/r/ExRedPill	23/01/24 07:21 PM
7	Feeling invisible (need help) The only thing that bothers me more than her ignoring me is that she isn´t getting enough praise. There you go again, projecting attributes such as your own apparent desire for praise and admiration onto her like that is what she needs too (just like you) and it is a crime that she isn't being given that (how you feel about yourself). Not everybody requires excessive praise. So for context, I have a little bit of a superiority-inferiority complex. As in I think I am better than everyone else but…	/r/ExRedPill	23/01/24 03:42 AM
3	Do women in traditionalist countries have better morals than western women? Better by whose standards yours or mine? You see, better is subjective and varies depending on your perspective. From a traditionalist, non-western perspective I think it could be said that the average western woman has worse morals but only within that traditional moral framework. When I look at women in traditionalist societies, from a western secular perspective, I see them as neither better or worse morally because I am not seeing women through the same lense as men in their cultures.	/r/ExRedPill	23/01/24 01:55 AM
9	Feeling invisible (need help) Or she's really a very different person from you except for a few superficial quirks, this kinship is a lot of projection on your part and she's actually very spacey in general. This is it. He projecting lots of his own qualities on her and reading his intentions into her actions like she is a clone of him. He is denying her individuality in a way. Reading it totally reminds me of how narcissists view people. Very creepy.	/r/ExRedPill	23/01/24 12:13 AM
5	Redpill men and Pick-me women. Ah, the fitness-manosphere pipeline. Good on you for recognizing it and getting some help. Allot of people in it can't seem to do self-awareness.	/r/ExRedPill	22/01/24 12:33 PM
7	Redpill men and Pick-me women. It goes from being not cool to actually being quite disturbing once you've heard one of these guys say that they literally don't think someone who is raped can be considered a victim because the Law of Attraction says that they are a "co-creator" of the event. "Crunchy" PUAs in this mindset could easily become predators because they aren't inhibited by anything morally.	/r/ExRedPill	22/01/24 01:12 AM
5	Redpill men and Pick-me women. I'm over 6' tall and better looking than I seem to comprehend. Not all good looking people have high self-esteem and can have issues that make them susceptible. I've dated girls who have been through one or more red pill guys so its not like they are all basement dwellers covered in Cheetoh dust, writing hateful screeds or whatever. As far as it not descriminating, I'm from the west coast originally so I've even seen redpill get people who are from a hippy/new-age demographic too. The result is …	/r/ExRedPill	21/01/24 10:36 PM
21	Redpill men and Pick-me women. Then why aren't Redpill men "picking" them? The person making that video needs to go look around. They are picking pick-mes, I've seen it before. Not all redpillers are incels and some are having sex. Pick-me women (and young girls who are new to dating) are some of the only women I've seen redpillers date. Tradwives are also a manifestation of this phenomenon. Women who aren't turned off by redpill usually have internalized sexism and are manifesting it in their lives as part of their self-conc…	/r/ExRedPill	21/01/24 09:08 PM
2	Virginity An obsession with virginity can be a symptom of an insecure dude who compares himself with other guys to an unhealthy degree and you shouldn't date these guys generally. They are afraid of girls comparing them to other guys in the sexual arena and not being the "best" or whatever. They don't have to worry about those comparisons with a virgin.	/r/ExRedPill	20/01/24 04:01 AM
1	This sub is no better than the redpill subs. Hell, one lousy comment doesn't even condemn the commenter! An underpinning for RP is all/nothing thinking. Someone who is still adjacent doesn't see the fallacy in that.	/r/ExRedPill	20/01/24 02:13 AM
10	I think the solution to TRP and inceldom is for a person to have a consensual purely sexual encounter with a woman. They think every man thinks like them and have no concept of within group differences too. Even if I tell redpillers that I (as a man) feel differently than they do about women, relationships, power, etc. they dismiss it. They cannot conceive of another man (who isn't next level attractive by their standards) not sharing their thought processes. They will often feel comfortable saying things around other guys that are nasty and offensive about women because they think most other guys are on the …	/r/ExRedPill	16/01/24 11:57 PM
5	I think the solution to TRP and inceldom is for a person to have a consensual purely sexual encounter with a woman. The problem is that the TRP/incel views often preclude sex because of the lack of basic trust and respect these men show toward women. The risks associated with casual sex for women when compared to men are higher and most women are aware of this (often from first-hand experience). Not many woman would actually feel comfortable being intimate or vulnerable with a man who has those views on women. It's not like things these guys think, say and do actually make women feel sexy. Either way, most wo…	/r/ExRedPill	16/01/24 11:13 PM
1	I feel like there’s such a common characterization of relationships as meritocractic on anti redpill/incel subs that’s so frustrating men want to be desired physically more than anything Do you think this statement applies for all men? they don't want to be settled for People who exhibit "settling" in relationships are in it for the wrong reasons. These are often women who "need" to be in a relationship and for whom any relationship may be better than no relationship. It can be a sign of insecure attachment and I don't want to be with someone like that again EVER. I would take a hard pass on any woman with those characteristic…	/r/ExRedPill	15/01/24 09:22 PM
6	I feel like there’s such a common characterization of relationships as meritocractic on anti redpill/incel subs that’s so frustrating “You aren’t single because you’re ugly you probably just have a bad personality” when I know racists homophobes sexists and just general assholes who are extremely successful wihh the women because they’re hot. Yeah, but "success" is subjective. Success as you've just defined it TBH sounds like just fucking and the attraction in these instances is only physical. If that's what being "extremely successful with women" means to you then I can't argue with that. Not everyone wants sex without substa…	/r/ExRedPill	15/01/24 12:28 AM
6	Do redpillers have girlfrends? I think you nailed it with the codependency dynamic and them moving on with other men. I've seen this allot where I am from. Women raised like this are taught to put their man's needs first and ignore their own until they are resentful and unhappy. The relationship model redpillers gravitate towards is indeed codependent and a potential recipe for infidelity, which ironically is one of the things they try to avoid by getting into these relationships. I also think allot of the men who are taking …	/r/ExRedPill	08/12/23 02:28 PM
40	Do redpillers have girlfrends? I've actually seen redpillers date. It seems like these men attract women who had very traditional, conservative upbringings or are from a culture where men have dominion over women. Basically they are more likely to take sexism and offensive views for granted because it is familiar to them and miss all the red flags.	/r/ExRedPill	07/12/23 06:05 PM
4	Are they harmless? A "bunch of pathetic guys" are likely to be unhealthy and together can reinforce each other in what they believe. I think that individually these people tend to be harmless, but the ideology to which they subscribe is problematic and increases the risk of violence. It's the echo chamber they are in which is dangerous and preventing them from getting better. These ideas are unhealthy (at times hateful/dehumanizing) and being exposed to people on a massive scale because of social media. Most of th…	/r/ExRedPill	07/12/23 04:23 PM
6	“Chads” and “Tyrones” are trash whose behavior should not be an example These fictional characters are exploitative, have no empathy, are sexually promiscuous, irresponsible, lack realistic long-term goals and show criminal behavior. In other words, they have psychopathic tendencies. They just love 'em and leave 'em without a shred of concern as if they are objects. The manosphere seems to promote the idea that being a soulless psychopath without capacity for genuine attachment is the key to success. Stacy IRL would be a soulless, vapid, self-absorbed b*tch who is a…	/r/ExRedPill	04/12/23 07:34 PM
3	Are women really more valuable than men like the red pill guys make it out to be? And I feel insecure about my value. This is some truth to there not being enough men in teaching, psychology and the nursing professions. Men are told at various times that they don't belong in those kinds of fields, the same way it is/was with women in STEM. Allot of men are forgoing careers in fast growing job sectors because of these expectations. Its the opposite side of the same coin but redpill frames it as a battle of the sexes.	/r/ExRedPill	21/11/23 02:36 PM
43	Are women really more valuable than men like the red pill guys make it out to be? And I feel insecure about my value. If I go into the mens rights subreddit. They act like us men are seen as worthless and women are automatically high value just by being women by society, is this even true? Its BS. They act like that but they forget that Roe v. Wade was overturned recently. Is there a parallel movement by women to take away men's bodily autonomy by restricting vasectomies and condoms? I think the men's rights people have a zero sum mentality where women's equality = female privilege and oppression against men. A…	/r/ExRedPill	20/11/23 11:07 PM
1	I have this conspiracy theory about redpill I think it started organically but became a useful tool in the "culture war" and has probably been weaponized/amplified by various bad actors. TRP nearly always skews men to the right politically by conditioning them to hate feminism and "woke." It also promotes pseudoscience and conspiracy thinking which can easily lead someone down the alt-right pipeline. Nearly all redpillers I know profess some level of hatred towards feminism but can't even accurately define it. It is a very good tool for i…	/r/ExRedPill	15/11/23 02:14 PM
3	Why do heterosexual women laugh at the revelation that a traditionally masculine man is gay? What's the joke what makes it, funny to y'all? Why the ridicule? Also.. why do heterosexual men treat masculine gay men like shit? It sounds like the people surrounding you are ignorant and stereotype people. Your existence is blowing their minds because they can't put you in any of their boxes.	/r/ExRedPill	14/11/23 02:59 PM
2	Why do woman post on Instagram? A better place to start is by asking "why does anyone post on Instagram?" It doesn't make much sense to assume that there are different motives for posting on Instagram based on a person's gender and go from there. That is something which remains to be seen and must be determined by looking at data, which should include many individual women AND men. You have to compare data from both groups.	/r/ExRedPill	13/11/23 07:26 PM
9	What's the reason red pillers love to hate on women over 30, Obese women, single religious women, Single moms, and effeminate men? Its a sad, pathetic coping mechanism. They see everything in hierarchies because their brains can't comprehend the world any other way; they are often binary thinkers. In order to maintain their self-esteem (which is unsustainable and comparison based) they need reassurance that they aren't at the bottom to feel better about themselves. The patriarchy forms a vital part of their identity. They need to feel like they are in a special class or else they feel that they have no value and must be at …	/r/ExRedPill	12/11/23 04:37 PM
19	How bad is fresh n fit? Are they ruining masculinity? Complete trash. "Neo-masculinity" is certainly going to cause some harm to this young generation of men. Andrew Tate was/is real popular among high school boys in my town, as is Fresh n' Fit. I think it just normalizes and promotes toxic masculinity.	/r/ExRedPill	11/11/23 12:12 AM
12	Listening to red pill podcasts made me incredible insecure Remember, the manosphere does not speak for all men. It speaks to a subset of guys who are sexually frustrated, entitled, immature, raised wrong or have psychological wounds that haven't healed yet. Not a mentally/emotionally healthy demographic. The only truly smart red pilled guys I've met were on the autism spectrum (don't understand people) or had dark triad traits (don't care about hurting others/see women as objects). They were vulnerable for whatever reason(s) and redpill found them and i…	/r/ExRedPill	09/11/23 12:14 AM
2	What do you think of transmaxxing? Its dumb. I'm all for LGBTQ+ rights and freedom of choice but anyone doing this is opting for life-changing surgery based on false premises. Men who become trans for these reasons probably make up a few of the "detransitioners" that right wing media outlets like to report on.	/r/ExRedPill	06/11/23 05:39 PM
8	Why do I think that talking to women is giving them attention?(Disclaimer what I will say might be offensive) You need to ask yourself some questions. Do you feel this kind of suspicion when men try to make friends with you or just when women are trying to make friends with you? See this as a opportunity for practicing your social skills with women. Heterosexual guys who are homosocial and can't make friends with women (or won't unless sex is involved) are at a disadvantage and with how widespread this RP crap is, it might even a red flag. When they start talking to you, talk to them.	/r/ExRedPill	03/11/23 07:10 PM
10	Shoutout to all the people in this group who have autism and who at one point we’re red pill. I think having poor theory of mind (ToM) is a major risk factor for getting redpilled. I know two engineers who have gotten sucked into the manosphere. Both are very intelligent but completely "mind blind." This sounds bad but, in all honestly, the only highly intelligent people I've known who are/were redpilled had traits consistent with high functioning autism.	/r/ExRedPill	30/10/23 11:07 PM
6	“Women lose value as they get older” There are a lot of great relationships involving very differently aged partners, and a lot of terrible relationships involving same age partners. There is no particular reason to pick on this variable, and not any other one. True, not all age gap relationships are bad. The thing is, we are talking about men who are redpilled and have embraced misogyny. When someone with that mindset is specifically seeking out an age gap relationship, it is troubling. Context is everything.	/r/ExRedPill	28/10/23 03:14 PM
3	What truly is a Redpiller? Pick up artist.	/r/ExRedPill	28/10/23 01:25 AM
33	“Women lose value as they get older” In the context of redpill, and especially with regard to someone like Andrew Tate, its all about power (being "alpha"). They go after women who are more malleable, passive and naive so they can have total control. It's about them requiring dominance over women in order to be in a relationship with them.	/r/ExRedPill	28/10/23 01:15 AM
8	What truly is a Redpiller? You conflate incels and redpillers. Both are part of the "manosphere" and share similar misogynistic, dehumanizing views. The subset of redpillers you are talking about are PUAs and their "game" is basically emotional manipulation of the sort used by abusers and players since the beginning of time. The women PUA techniques appeal to are usually just the ones who are vulnerable to dating pricks for any number of reasons and they often aren't very mentally stable. I've seen redpill PUA types morph…	/r/ExRedPill	27/10/23 07:09 PM
1	Trying to find closure with a Toxic ex girlfriend I am sorry you're going through this dude. What she is doing would fall under libel/slander; its defamation of character. Is legal action an option for you? If so, you might want to seriously consider it. Otherwise you might need a fresh start somewhere else. You don't want that kind of reputation getting in your way. You also gotta be ready to let go of any "friends" who aren't giving you the benefit of a doubt. Rotten fruit tends to fall on its own, though I wouldn't hold my breath. This is ob…	/r/ExRedPill	26/10/23 05:11 PM
1	Isn't the core message of red pill to improve yourself? Yup, that's the version of "reality" redpill wants you to reorient yourself to.	/r/ExRedPill	23/10/23 11:45 PM
4	Isn't the core message of red pill to improve yourself? Self-improvement is the chaser and much of the self-improvement advice is mere common sense. Most terpers are not incels, but many incels were once terpers. They are subsets of the broader manosphere. Red pill is saying that the fault you aren't successful with women is within you and you need to fix yourself. This is often true and sounds good at face value. The problem is that the solutions redpill offers men are based on a flawed worldview. The framework redpill gives men is often based on bu…	/r/ExRedPill	23/10/23 07:21 PM
7	Why do you believe RP is wrong? Agreed. I also think the kinds of women men attract with the fake RP persona are ones who conform to their RP expectations and are toxic. It becomes a vicious cycle when combined with confirmation bias. I've seen this happen before with one of my friends and after a few iterations he went full black pill and ended up with a drinking problem. He stopped working out at the gym even and all he does is game and hate on feminists and women.	/r/ExRedPill	21/10/23 04:12 PM
6	Who do we even date in this society now? Something to remember is that the personality traits which redpillers ascribe to all women are only actually true for a small subset of women and not all people with those problems are women. You say you dated a closet narcissist, which means you've dated within that subset. A common trait of narcissism in both women AND men is that they feel a false sense of uniqueness and prefer to associate with high status people. Narcissists are often hypergamous and act in allot of the ways redpillers broa…	/r/ExRedPill	20/10/23 05:09 PM
15	What caused you to become redpilled ? I was probably semi red pilled as a teenage boy way back before red pill was even a thing back in the late 2000s and early 2010s; good thing we didn't have Andrew Taint then. My dad is an old-school misogynist and my mother was raised by socially conservative parents who are now severely Fox brained. In hindsight it was my dad and his friends carping about how women frequently make false rape accusations (total BS) and how women are favored by the judicial system (somewhat true). In hindsight, s…	/r/ExRedPill	16/10/23 05:22 PM
1	Has anyone's GIRLFRIEND been redpilled? Ooof, that sounds more painful than what I endured. All of this happened within months of her joining TikTok. Full-on red pill conversion. Shocking. I wonder what happened to cause that kind of a personality shift that rapidly. She must not have has a stable sense of identity to begin with. For the terpers in my life the conversion seems to have been more gradual than just months. It was also a mix of relationship trauma or reinforcement from within their social group. It was disturbing to me wh…	/r/ExRedPill	06/10/23 06:46 PM
6	Has anyone's GIRLFRIEND been redpilled? The thing is, red pill is just a collection of ideas that have been floating around in conservative ideology for a long time, especially when it comes to gender roles. Agreed. But there were definite signs of red pill exposure, such as the lingo she used. Hell, my own mom believes things like "men should run the household" My grandmother is that way. This was different and considerably nastier.	/r/ExRedPill	04/10/23 09:50 PM
3	Has anyone's GIRLFRIEND been redpilled? The girls that are red pilled are the ones that recognize themselves, in the stereotypes/characters in the stories the red pill guys use as examples. for one reason or the other. You know, that assessment might be spot-on in relation to my ex.	/r/ExRedPill	04/10/23 09:47 PM
3	Is Jordan Peterson Red Pill? He is a gateway drug to TRP; many RPers have found their way into the ideology through Jordan Peterson. He takes old sexist, socially conservative ideas and uses his credentials and a bunch of "big words" to give them an air of legitimacy. To be honest he is allot like the post-modernists he hates. He conducts himself like this sometimes: JP: I think feminists don't criticize Islam because they crave masculine dominance. Interviewer: Why do you believe that? JP: Its because of archetypal, transe…	/r/ExRedPill	29/09/23 10:29 PM
3	When men and women have high body counts, it doesn't make them any better. It makes them neither better nor worse than anybody else, it's just neutral. Comparisons in this regard are not healthy. I find its healthier to focus on what I do with my own penis and how that's going, not what other men do with their penises. Men in TRP need to stop obsessing over other men's penises or what women do with their vaginas. Work on yourself.	/r/ExRedPill	29/09/23 06:14 PM
8	This is my list of Redpill/MGTOW beliefs. I need help with challenging them- the world right now seems to confirm them. Once those influencers get you to accept these views, you will start interpreting the world in a way that confirms those views; it's confirmation bias. You may also notice that after you take their ideas in there seems to be a higher frequency of certain behaviors (like hypergamy) which those influencers discuss. It's because your mind will start looking for the pattern after it has been suggested to you. This is sometimes called the Baader-Meinhof phenomenon and is also related to confirmation …	/r/ExRedPill	27/09/23 05:10 PM