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| 4 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 5/31/2020You should get involved in a club you might enjoy or hobbies that host other people. ❤❤ I'm sure it's not just you, millenials weren't well equipped by our parents to socialize unfortunately. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/20 06:32 PM |
| 7 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 5/31/2020He's a no sis. You're without kids and young and he has both kids and has been previously married. I have a young, single, smart friend in law school in a similar situation. She got hooked by a man who has children. He now asked her to move in- and despite advice against it- she's doing so. Her whole life will be ruined because of feeeelings. Thankfully you have FDS so the same will not happen to you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/20 06:31 PM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 5/31/2020I think your intuition is telling you something. Block and delete. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/20 06:23 PM |
| 18 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 5/31/2020Leaving men on read when you can't be bothered to text is a fat mood. I used to always stress about returning texts in my previous relationships even when I didn't want to and the men would smell the desperation and would leave without fail. Ever since I set boundaries men chase after me and want more. Now it's me leaving them on read, and me cutting them off for being annoying. Thank you FDS ❤❤ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/20 06:22 PM |
| 28 | This is me not settling for less :) I’m glad I did it. You ladies can do it too!Yup. I match their energy. They say "hey", I say "hi". They don't say "how are you?", I ghost. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/20 06:05 PM |
| 13 | This is me not settling for less :) I’m glad I did it. You ladies can do it too!Don't reason with LVM and don't send them paragraphs. Just block and delete sis. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/20 06:03 PM |
| 8 | Reactive Abuse - Why you should know about it (LONG personal story of abusive relationship within)Holy shit... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 03:52 AM |
| 2 | NVM calls rich, 24 year old gf a spoiled brat and undermines her success. Asks if he's TA.So he's jealous that he's poor? He needs to get a life and fuck off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 03:36 AM |
| 2 | I refuse to be with a man that cannot keep his own house clean.I love her body but sis needs to also level up her mind. I don't understand how such a beautiful woman can have a pickme mentality. Our society has seriously harmed women by making us think we can only be fulfilled by becoming slaves of men | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/20 11:17 PM |
| 8 | Unexpectedly popular: Women who “dated” older men as teenagers that now realize they were predators, what’s your story?My last predator is 13 years older than me. He's the type to say he wants nothing but friendship and pretends to be innocent but he's not. I'm currently rinsing him. If he can use me for my youth then I'm going to keep him as a friend and have him keep buying me things. He's my sugar daddy without the sugar. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/20 11:12 PM |
| 2 | Would it be okay to use dating apps secretly?Thank you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 11:03 PM |
| 1 | Would it be okay to use dating apps secretly?It's one thing to be frank and another thing to tear a sister down. We are all on FDS because we live in a patriarchal society that has conditioned us to be pickmes. And we are all actively seeking to learn. That's why I posted this question. If I had all the answers and if it were in the FDS handbook I wouldn't have asked about it. The FDS wiki states that a man should ask for commitment within 6 weeks of getting to know a female. It doesn't elaborate on what that means so I think it's very fai… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 10:20 PM |
| 1 | Would it be okay to use dating apps secretly?He's low value because he has no other options than to ask out an attractive medical student? Yikes. That's pretty harsh towards me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 10:02 PM |
| 2 | Would it be okay to use dating apps secretly?His whole body has been in frame. He's a bit more on the skinnier side than I prefer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 10:00 PM |
| 13 | When is it safe to start initiating contact with a man?I never let myself text first unless it's important. It kills the chase and they get too comfortable if you do it too often. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 06:27 PM |
| 3 | Would it be okay to use dating apps secretly?You're right. We haven't met in person. Thankfully not cat-fishing haha. We video chat regularly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 06:13 PM |
| 21 | Would it be okay to use dating apps secretly?You know what. F--- it. You're right. I'm probably not going to end up marrying him anyways so no reason I should mull over if everything ends by me saying I don't want to be exclusive. I'll be kind about it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 04:37 AM |
| 28 | This is messed up on so many levels. This is not ok. He raped her and she needs to report itThat's not a boyfriend. That's a groomer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 04:33 AM |
| 1 | Would it be okay to use dating apps secretly?Yeah. I was considering back tracking but I like how he buys me things and how he gives me attention. Is there a way things could work out if I change my mind in the future after we meet and if I like him in person? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 04:31 AM |
| 5 | Would it be okay to use dating apps secretly?Sounds good! I'll do it and not tell him :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 03:58 AM |
| 1 | Would it be okay to use dating apps secretly?He asked me to be his gf | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 03:58 AM |
| 64 | Do complacent men ever change?Idk why women come on here and say they love their significant others because they do soooo much and then they go on saying how their boyfriends treat them with the bare minimum. I'm sorry but my girlfriends do more for me than that. We can't let men pass with the bare minimum anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/20 03:15 PM |
| 37 | Remember at this time that if he can't listen respectfully to your political views, he doesn't respect you.Yes ma'am. No mansplaining over here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/20 02:37 PM |
| 76 | Are we going backwards?He is sleeping with that other woman. She's asking if she's the asshole when she should be asking how to dump him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/20 11:48 AM |
| 2 | Why do you want a relationship?Make sure he's a gift to you as well. My mother married a bad husband and good father. I could never hate him because he raised me right but it hurt growing up seeing how he treated my mom. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/20 08:35 AM |
| 2 | I (25f) feel inferior to petite women (actually to all women, but my thoughts focus on petite) and am plagued with toxic, radiating insecurityI used to have serious insecurity issues in relationships and what helped me was becoming spiritual and regularly going to adoration/mass. Prior to then I used to want men to fix my problems, my anger, my hurt, and whenever they inevitably fell short (because men are human and shouldn't be used as emotional punching bags), I made the relationship sour. You need to find a healthy coping mechanism and stick with it. Speaking from experience this insecurity doesn't just affect your mind, but everyo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/20 04:01 AM |
| 15 | Why do men think they’re invincible???There's red fucking sirens flashing from this guy. He asks you to travel to him. WTF??!? He PESTERS you to come to him???? WTF??!? It turns long distance 2 months in??? He's getting drunk as a grown ass man??! He does stupid reckless shit as a GROWN ass man???!? DUMP HIS ASS!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 03:32 PM |
| 50 | FDS First Date TipsIf he asks to go Dutch say you think it's more romantic if one person pays and then promise him you'll pay next time. He will pay but then make sure there is no next time. Men always have to pay. Wear clothes that are cute but that you feel comfortable in. Be yourself and pay attention to his words and actions. If he shows any signs of a red flag don't date him again. Remember you are the prize. Don't bust into pickme mode and make sure he is putting the effort into the conversation not you. Enj… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 03:26 PM |
| 4 | For those of you who are spiritual, have you ever felt like the entrance of a (lvm) man in your life has almost literally disturbed your spirit?Yes. Tbh, I feel this with most men LVM or not. It drains me to be around men so I think I might be destined to be single for life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 02:13 PM |
| 62 | YOOOO DO Y'ALL WANNA READ THE RED FLAGS I MISSED WHILE I HAD A CRUSH?I'm also a med student and I dated a philosophy major. He was also in his 30s, and working a shitty job.They're textbook narcissists and what attracted me to them was their intellect. The more I learn, the more I realize they're insecure mansplaining jackasses. Never making that mistake again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 01:05 PM |
| 49 | YOOOO DO Y'ALL WANNA READ THE RED FLAGS I MISSED WHILE I HAD A CRUSH?I dated a grooming POS philosophy major who is 14 years older than me. Never again. I will also never again date men a decade older than me again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 01:02 PM |
| 74 | Major makeup brand posts this on Facebook with the caption “hey, at least it’s the thought that counts??”. Chaos ensues in the comments.I just looked through your divorce post and you're an absolute bad ass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 12:04 PM |
| 3 | I need some adviceNo. He's a 'friend' 🤡. Friends are meant to make you feel better not give you wounds. Block him and never look back. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 04:52 AM |
| 2 | Is this LVM/NVM behavior?gross. Gross. GROSS. The men I talk to cannot talk about any past women much less their bodies. I would dump a man if he dared pulling a stunt that stupid with me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 04:50 AM |
| 6 | How to tell if he’s talking to other women while he’s courting youIdc if he's talking to other women. It's his loss and he knows this too 💅 Which is why he wouldn't dare to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 04:47 AM |
| 48 | LVM truly lie like they breathMaybe she wanted to embarrass him in front of all his friends and family. A girl can dream 💅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 04:42 AM |
| 1 | I need help, support, advice? I really don't know at this point..You need to file for unemployment insurance, sign a new lease, and dump him. In that order. Depending on a man financially is lethal. Literally. Men are dangerous creatures and you should never again rely on one to help keep a roof over your head. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 04:16 AM |
| 2 | How do I stop performing for men?Don't have crushes. Period. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 04:10 AM |
| 2 | Guy who is persistent on getting my numberYup. I haven't given the guy I'm talking to for 1 month my insta yet even though he really wanted it. Frankly, strangers don't deserve to know every detail of our lives. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 04:08 AM |
| 2 | Guy who is persistent on getting my numberBlock and delete. He is LVM. A HVM respects your boundaries. Woman get MURDERED by men who are persistent and don't respect boundaries so when a man shows a sign of a red flag we need to be RUTHLESS and block them out of our entire lives. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 04:06 AM |
| 4 | I feel like I’m being humored.Forget about men for a second- you need to become committed to FDS and read the entire handbook. You're at men's beck and call because you're falling in love with LVM. Don't fall for men at all until you have full commitment and even then, be extra wary of them. This man has no interest in feeding you attention because he already has you without even committing to you. A man can whiff desperation a mile away and he knows you have feelings. To avoid this, Don't have sex until commitment Date mult… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 03:59 AM |
| 2 | Is this too early to diagnose a LVM?Hang out with your girlfriends. Men can be your greatest nightmare or a positive in your life. Unfortunately it's more often the former than the latter. Too much risk just to hang out with men and not enough reward. If I'm trying to just hangout I always choose girlfriends over any man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 03:50 AM |
| 2 | Is this too early to diagnose a LVM?Don't date men who are a decade older especially if you're in your 20s. I think he's a LVM just because he didn't respond but you're breaking a couple FDS texting rules. You really should not be double texting and putting in effort. I also advise against women asking for favors from men (ie. Asking for a ride) because a HVM will offer to do it without you even asking for it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 03:47 AM |
| 2 | Ladies: Do you tell men you’re in a relationship with about beauty treatments you do?No. He doesn't need to know about it just like I don't need to know about his exact workouts at the gym. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 03:40 AM |
| 48 | Finally in a relationship with HVM, but it feels like the tables have turnedPull away from him. I would suggest dumping him in normal circumstances but you're 2.5 years in and there doesn't appear to be any red flag- rather yellow flags. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 02:47 AM |
| 6 | Why do you want a relationship?To have kids. That's basically it :D. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 01:47 AM |
| 7 | Anyone else weeding out prospects (and friends too) during this time?Yup!!! Blocked this one conservative gay guy I thought I was friends with because he cared more about posting cute guys than the protests going on. I told the rest of my followers I'd do the same to them if they posted about stupid sh-- and not justice for black lives and they changed their tune real quick. Always set boundaries regardless of the type of relationship! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/20 08:32 PM |
| 9 | “For years, I pursued men and got nowhere.” Older Woman and former pickmeisha follows “Getting to I Do”, a FDS book, and marries a HVM after 1 yearRead the FDS handbook. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/20 01:44 PM |
| 12 | “For years, I pursued men and got nowhere.” Older Woman and former pickmeisha follows “Getting to I Do”, a FDS book, and marries a HVM after 1 yearI felt the same. A woman shouldn't go into a stranger's car on a second date. Also, a man shouldn't feel his masculinity challenged because a woman wants to drive. He needs to be comfortable in his masculinity without me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/20 01:43 PM |
| 6 | Ladies Do Not be Afraid to Block- ANYONEYes!! Who would've known 3 little words could be so deadly to majority pride 🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/20 02:57 AM |
| 4 | Would love to hear thoughts and reactions to this articleWe need female only communes. If I don't get married- which I more than likely won't because I'm getting increasingly exhausted and annoyed with men- then I'm going to join a convent or live in a house with my girlfriends and just adopt kids that we can raise together. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/20 06:08 PM |
| 57 | THIS is why you don’t engage in BDSM. Some of these men are deranged!This is so degenerate. The absolute audacity of scrotes to talk to women like this. They like gagging women with balls? Why don't we give them a taste of their own medicine and gag them after letting them hang from their balls. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/20 06:06 PM |
| 18 | Reinventing self? Or putting yourself back together?Step 1. BLOCK, BLOCK, BLOCK You must block him on everything even if social media are inactivated so you do not get tempted to talk to him. Step 2. Read the FDS handbook. ALL OF IT. It will give you an ego boost and reminds you that you have inherent value as a woman. You Are Valuable. Just for existing. Never forget that. Step 3. Get into a Hobby Extra points if it helps you level up. Stopped reading? Get some of your favorite books out and start reading. Love crafting? Start some knitting or c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/20 06:04 PM |
| 73 | How levelling up has affected me socially :/This might be unpopular around this sub but I'm going to say it. I really hate School of Affluence. I know many women on here like it but it starts from the assumption that women are wrong if they don't fit this submissive, docile, ladylike archetype. As HVW we should level up, we should care about our appearance, we should exercise and take care of our health. But we don't have to do it in a Eurocentric, docile archetype and we certainly don't have to do it for men as is the underlying assumpti… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/20 05:47 PM |
| 8 | She says she felt weird about the first meet up, turns out he hit her car on purpose after months of planning and stalking so he could manipulate her into a relationship. Trust yourself! See it as a survival skill if nothing else D:He's a future wife killer. She best be getting out of there! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/20 05:30 PM |
| 32 | Ladies Do Not be Afraid to Block- ANYONEAnd they always come crawling back too! So pathetic. I have no space for racism. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/20 05:28 PM |
| 7 | Reminder to be more rudeWTF. No actually. WHAT THE F*CK? THIS IS PEAK MALE DEPRAVITY | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/20 05:02 PM |
| 20 | I just got my ex-husband’s stimulus checkQueen IRS | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/20 05:00 PM |
| 23 | “I see the potential”, has been me way too many times !Yes!!! As a medical student I don't have time for dusty men. They can either level up with me or be left for my future rich spouse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/20 04:57 PM |
| 4 | Your thoughts ladies?This is the comment I was looking for!!! A man is lucky if he even gets anything. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/20 04:55 PM |
| 2 | This bus is too loud! Wish I had understood this soonerDump him. He's insecure and will make your life miserable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/20 04:44 PM |
| 7 | Shit like this is such a slap in the face for those of us who dated a toxic man for YEARS, gave him the world, got attached, and never changed a thing.They never tell you that the women who fix shitty men use boundaries and tell them my way or the highway. Of course we deserve better and should never date a project. Men can fix themselves without us or be dusty and single for life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/20 04:42 PM |
| 4 | My HV boyfriend knows I post here. Scrotes can cry about it.Yes!!! I wouldn't call the guy I'm talking to HV since it isn't past the 3 month mark yet but he also knows I use this! If he's pissed then he can leave. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/20 04:37 PM |
| 5 | Yesterday my [21F] boyfriend [24M] slapped me for not putting enough makeup on before we had sex. It was the first time he hit me. He apologised last night. Should I give him another chance or dump him now?This has to be satire. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/20 04:10 AM |
| 39 | Sex: Why Should Men Wait for What You Gave Lesser Men for Free?It's because we have inherent value as women. Nobody is entitled to our bodies. No one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/20 04:09 AM |
| 4 | What happens to PUAs/players/LVM?No HVW stays with a cheating man/a player because HVW have self respect and so these men end up in marriages with pickmeishas and make the woman's life a living hell. The children grow up seeing abuse in the household due to fathers that treat women like shit, and mothers that put up with abuse. And the children are left with psychological trauma. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 08:54 PM |
| 45 | LVM (specifically white) are uncomfortable talking about issues the concern the oppression of any minority.Queen energy! Drop 10/10s because a LVM is a LVM. Appearances or not! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 07:43 PM |
| 15 | LVM (specifically white) are uncomfortable talking about issues the concern the oppression of any minority.👏👏👏👏 These LVM thankfully just weed themselves out. It is not our job to make men woke. They need to do that on their own and only then can they come into our lives. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 07:41 PM |
| 6 | PSA: Guys who start checking out of dating & texting want everything to come easy and want to prove that they CAN do the LEAST amount of effort, and you’ll still be thereThis is why FDS advises against OLD. It attracts the lowest of the lowest value men and because they're so used to securing women with minimal effort they continue to do it until a woman they like has self respect and leaves them dry. Block and delete these men at the sign of a red flag. You should not put your life and future on the line for garbage men when there are plenty of HVM to go around. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 07:39 PM |
| 5 | Honestly just thought this was so funny, I mean what else do you say back to that? Of course I am beautiful 100% of the time!!Yeah. Men always get taken aback when women just say "Yeah. I know". As if we're supposed to think we're ugly until a man tells us we're beautiful. Reminds me of that garbage one direction song. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 07:30 PM |
| 16 | HVM Start at HomeThank you for being a momma that raises HVM. My white exes have been so oblivious to race politics and it makes me feel so sick that I had to hold their hand and mommy them about race issues and police brutality. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 07:25 PM |
| 1 | Thank you Queens!So glad to see your progress sis! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 07:16 PM |
| 3 | If HVM are rare, how do I maintain a mindset of abundance?Self-esteem is the only way to avoid pickme mode. At the end of the day, men ain't shit. Not even HVM. Sure a HVM might be nice and treat you like the queen you are but you have to establish that queen energy in yourself and recognize your worth and happiness without a man! Only then can you feel fulfilled in a relationship and walk away when you need to even with HVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 07:07 PM |
| 1 | He said my personality was amazing and we're sexually compatible but I'm just not his type.Take the garbage out! Block and delete 💅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 07:02 PM |
| 1 | the idea of dating again gives me anxietyDon't date unless a HVM you're interested in comes into your life. Otherwise there's no benefit in dating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 06:59 PM |
| 6 | Hell no. I worked my ass off through the toughest of times to get where i am, there is nothing wrong with wanting a financially stable man and breaking it off if he cant build a financially stable life with meBecause men who actually care will rise to the occassion. I posted this above but I'll say it again. The guy I'm talking to is middle class and just enrolled himself in Computer Science classes when I said I will marry a rich man. If we send a signal that we'll stay with them no matter how dusty they are then they will never respect us. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 05:05 PM |
| 7 | Hell no. I worked my ass off through the toughest of times to get where i am, there is nothing wrong with wanting a financially stable man and breaking it off if he cant build a financially stable life with meYes. Sisterhood above men. I will stay with my girlfriends through thick and thin. NOT for men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 05:04 PM |
| 1 | Hell no. I worked my ass off through the toughest of times to get where i am, there is nothing wrong with wanting a financially stable man and breaking it off if he cant build a financially stable life with meYup! If a man is worth anything he will rise to the occassion. The guy I'm talking to just enrolled himself for computer science classes when I mentioned I will marry a rich man. We should never sell ourselves short and marry dusty men out of 'love'. A man will work hard for somebody he cares about. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 05:03 PM |
| 4 | If You Miss Having a Man, Buy Some Cologne InsteadI sleep with a teddy bear! Much softer to cuddle than male bodies! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 05:01 PM |
| 33 | LADIES I NOTICED SOMETHING IN MENMen love a chase and men love 'bitches'. We are the Prize. We have the egg. We are the choosier sex and men are biologically wired to hunt for us like they would deer. If it makes men sound like animals it's because they are. We just have to be cognizant of their nature and sort for HVM that meet our standards. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 04:56 PM |
| 3 | Y'all Saved Me.Sis I remember those texts and I'm so happy you dodged that bullet!! I can't imagine how dangerous the situation would've been if you stayed in that relationship or worse- had kids with him. We need to trust our instinct because it exists to save our lives! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 04:44 PM |
| 4 | How to stay charming in a relationship?Don't talk to him every day. Sounds ruthless but it has worked out in every relationship I have tried it in. If you have to do work but you oh so loooove his company, go do your work and not worry about him. If you'd rather watch anime/a movie than talk to him, then go watch that movie sis. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 07:48 PM |
| 5 | I love my boyfriend so much but he has never been in a good financial position and it's taking it's toll.It sounds like you want to move on. I'm supportive of your decision. A man can be the world to you but if he doesn't have his life together it's not your responsibility to wait forever. Maybe if he is a perfect guy you might have a future together OR if he still doesn't have his life together in 5 years, you dodged a bullet. Don't keep hanging on. Live your life and don't regret it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 07:42 PM |
| 1 | I was considering getting back together with my ex - until he posted a present from the girl he cheated with on instaYes!!! Now block him on his email. They always find a way to come back. You deserve a much better man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 07:38 PM |
| 2 | I had to re-read this few times and I still don’t understandYou're talented for being able to read this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 07:29 PM |
| 9 | After a date, do you bring up about scheduling another date while the current one is going well?As a HVW you should have your life structured. I am a girl that needs downtime so I would never schedule a date right after a really good one. It also kills the chase because the man would not have enough time to let the feelings settle in and you'd be setting yourself up to get hooked in. I personally would respond "I'll let you know some other time". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 07:18 PM |
| 9 | What is one FDS principle all newbies need to know?Don't be afraid to take out the trash. This principle reminds us that we should never take ourselves for granted and never take any disrespect from anyone. It doesn't matter how good a man treats us, as soon as he shows signs of disrespect we need to trust our instinct and BLOCK, DELETE, and REPEAT. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 07:14 PM |
| 2 | Clown man demands his women need to know how to cook without a recipe....Queen energy! So glad he's an ex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 07:11 PM |
| 1 | I love finding these videos!I didn't downvote you hon. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 07:09 PM |
| 9 | "It took me HOURS to put up some signs in a video game 😩" Girls, how would you react for this type of proposal?No. Idc if you put 30 hours into it. It's a video game and I deserve a real proposal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 07:07 PM |
| 1 | Men don’t understand or care about the consequences of their selfish actions. I hate that women will destruct themselves to build up a shitty man.Ugh. I wish all women were given FDS at birth so they'd never have to go through this pain. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 06:56 PM |
| 3 | Want to look LV and desperate? Be taken for granted? Put on your clown nose and go right on ahead.Great idea! Just did the same. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 06:51 PM |
| 21 | I love finding these videos!So sad that we expect so little from men that we consider this fake. May we all treat ourselves better and never settle for anything less than a HVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 06:48 PM |
| 17 | NVM Hall of Fame.Found it xD He's pathethic https://tuckbot.tv/#/watch/euqk9y | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 06:36 PM |
| 12 | Gf stays in shape, bakes for him, and has sex whenever he wants and he still insults her...and she wonders if she should stay!!She needs to take out the trash. I happened to be reading Why Men Love Bitches while I was reading this post and it makes me realize that men actually enjoy being treated like shit. A woman gives this man the world and he calls her a 'slave'. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 06:30 PM |
| 3 | Miss sparrow gotta pointQueen energy! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 06:24 PM |
| 10 | Really felt for this woman. I just hope she keeps her standards high and knows her worth now.Yes. May she level up and never be with a LVM again. I love the FDS advice of not showing up for dates unless the man texts you to check in. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 06:22 PM |
| 2 | Testing Quality of a ManYou're right! There are so many rich men who are so so low value like Justin Bieber. I'm just going to take things slow. :) Thanks for the advice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 06:19 PM |
| 12 | Advice needed - how to exert queen energy via text? How to deal when men get defensive?Don't express disappointment. When he disappoints: delete, block, and repeat. You have to be RUTHLESS with these LVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/20 01:22 PM |
| 16 | Clown man demands his women need to know how to cook without a recipe....This is why I don't cook for men or tell men about my cooking. They think they're entitled to our cooking full stop and even if you do acquiesce they'll want you to cook Michelin star food. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/20 01:21 PM |
| 1 | Woman gets a lazy proposal that she thought was a joke. Comments say she is high maintenance for wanting a redo.Really in bed saying we should get married? How is that a proposal at all? She should just dump him altogether if he thinks something as significant as a proposal should be taken that lightly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/20 01:19 PM |
| 3 | Your techniques for NOT catching feeling too soon?Date other men. This is an underrated strategy in the FDS guidebook but seriously date other men. It'll remind you that he's another man in the wide ocean and you can easily get another man if he does anything wrong. https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/feixg6/no_excuses_date_multiple_men_until_commitment_is/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/20 01:12 PM |
| 14 | I thought I was saying a HVM until he got drunk and "dumped" me (minutes after telling me he loved me and saying goodnight), then immediately regretted it. Dumped, blocked, and deleted. As hard as it can be, I deserve better. Damn, it feels good not settling.Being drunk removes one's inhibitions so a man who is drunk is speaking from his heart. He knows you're worth more than him which is why he projects and asks "why do I need you?", he realizes he does need you and that you have your life sorted. You dodged a huge bullet. Men who feel inferior to their partners can cause extreme stress, and domestic violence. I'm so happy you followed your gut on this red flag. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/20 12:24 PM |
| 11 | This is the sign you were looking for - carry on!Level up ladies! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/20 12:15 PM |
| 3 | Valentine's Day is a Woman's HolidayHe's so repulsive!!! Never date LVM | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/20 12:14 PM |
| 3 | Valentine's Day is a Woman's HolidayI think they also tried raiding FDS. Pathetic Thankfully most of them are men so they'll be banned right away. They show their true colors in other subs and say "pump and dump" about women who have real standards. Thankfully will not happen to us because we have the FDS handbook that tells us to never have sex until commitment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/20 12:13 PM |
| 4 | Valentine's Day is a Woman's HolidayThat is so sweet <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/20 10:38 PM |
| 7 | Valentine's Day is a Woman's HolidayYes! If a man loves you he will show it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/20 04:12 PM |
| 8 | I thought I was the best girlfriend.I'm so happy you're leveling up and learning from your mistakes! On that note, being single is not loneliness!! It is the best time to have growth, level up and teach yourself care and self respect. You have to level up and be happy in singleness before you have full clarity for relationships. FDS will be your best friend during this time of singleness. Cherish it girl! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/20 01:54 PM |
| 23 | It’s almost as if they try to take the least flattering photo possible 🥴Hey now, Khyler the cat shouldn't be compared to a LVM. He gives you cuddles, attention, and warmth in bed. He also knows how to clean himself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/20 04:30 PM |
| 64 | "Unpopular opinion: Fellow females of reddit, if you ask a man his height, he has EVERY RIGHT to ask for your weight, bra size, vaginal depth, RNA sequence, and urine pH level. Double standards are NOT cute, ladies. Stop objectifying men!!!"The same is true with a man who makes less money. Most will say it's not a problem but they'll make short digs here and there about gender roles. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/20 04:28 PM |
| 1 | Testing Quality of a ManThanks. I needed to hear this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/20 04:25 PM |
| 11 | Testing Quality of a ManThat's something that worries me. I don't want to be hooked in after getting a cute bag and then be manipulated into a bad relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/20 04:00 AM |
| 8 | Testing Quality of a ManIt is definitely within his means. I asked him what his budget was and he said "Just send me a link to the bag". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/20 03:59 AM |
| 7 | Ladies, always honor your instinct even if it bruises their ego.I'm happy you dropped that dead weight. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/20 03:47 AM |
| 2 | Thoughts on Lana Del Rey’s recent controversial statements on Instagram? Curious what you ladies think and how you interpret her wordsIt sounds *reaaaaaally* pickme. And she's setting a bad precedent by normalizing abusive relationships. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/20 03:42 AM |
| 10 | Why would he do this? Why would he disrupt my peace knowing that I would be pissed.You need to block him off your snapchat. It's a way men breadcrumb women. Block him on everything. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/20 02:34 PM |
| 2 | So many pickmes / lvm were making nasty comments on this. A man should be finacially secure plus be able to afford to take care of you! This shows he can take care of himself and has enough leftover for you. If I wanted to go Dutch I'd get a female friend roomate or go for a girls nite dinner.That would be a good standard for everyone tbh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/20 02:29 PM |
| 8 | Playing wifey as a girlfriend never works outSame | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/20 11:52 PM |
| 47 | Playing wifey as a girlfriend never works outThe comment section of the video was even more sad! Some women 21 full years, a full family, and no ring. Title of baby momma for their entire lives. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/20 06:49 PM |
| 7 | LVM does not tell his gf until 6 months into the relationship that he has herpes and also admits to not disclosing this to past partners...and she is completely fine about this 🤦♀️He knew! Nobody walks around with chlamydia not knowing. Dump his ass and sue him. Rinse him and take all his coin. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/20 03:19 PM |
| 52 | ExactlyI love Matt Fradd, he has a series on how porn is bad for individuals. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/20 03:11 PM |
| 0 | Why do you desire marriage?A man's choices are his own. If a man cheats that's his own problem. And I'll be sure to get that alimony check. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 09:17 PM |
| 5 | So many pickmes / lvm were making nasty comments on this. A man should be finacially secure plus be able to afford to take care of you! This shows he can take care of himself and has enough leftover for you. If I wanted to go Dutch I'd get a female friend roomate or go for a girls nite dinner.Well I'm a traditional catholic and in our view men should pay for everything. Similar to a father. He should pay for all the groceries, house, bills, etc. The woman can also work if she chooses but she must be able to take care of children as long as the husband pays for everything financially. This is traditional catholic standards I realize secular standards might be different but I could never imagine myself paying bills in a married relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 08:05 PM |
| 3 | Let’s play a game! Rate these messages from most eye roll worthy to least eye roll worthy. P.S. I unmatched all of them. (6 is on Hinge. I usually don’t match with guys who sent “like” w/o a message because my profile is well-written, but made an exception. But of course he didn’t deserve it)We rated them the same! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 07:58 PM |
| 1 | Let’s play a game! Rate these messages from most eye roll worthy to least eye roll worthy. P.S. I unmatched all of them. (6 is on Hinge. I usually don’t match with guys who sent “like” w/o a message because my profile is well-written, but made an exception. But of course he didn’t deserve it)5, 2, 1, 3, 4, 6 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 07:58 PM |
| 12 | I saw this in another group, would you consider this a LVM? Or it’s not his fault?LVM. I'm 21 and I could never picture me taking on debt for my parents at 18. I graduated college debt free and have significant savings. If I could figure out my finances at 18 then no man has any excuse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 07:55 PM |
| 0 | Why do you desire marriage?I want to get married because I want a man to provide for me financially while I raise and homeschool my children. My future husband would have to be able to pay for my already lavish lifestyle which is why I always vet finances in whatever guy I date. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 07:52 PM |
| 26 | Why FDS's high standards for vetting men are importantYes. Which is why we have to be comfortable with being single. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 07:45 PM |
| 37 | I cannot get over how disrespectful Justin Bieber is to his wife “Listen to me woman.”He is so toxic and so LV. This is why Selena dumped him. I feel so bad for Hailey. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 07:41 PM |
| 6 | Really hoping that this is a jokeYes and a man who can get alimony out of you! Cue Adele | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 07:40 PM |
| -9 | What happened when you started demanding better?I started talking to a guy a couple weeks back and I asked him to get me a designer purse next month and he agreed. Btw: have not given him sex, kisses, or affection. I make my boundaries clear and he listens. Idrc if I date him or not but I do appreciate the free gifts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 12:54 PM |
| 21 | Am I low value? Kissless virgin.Why do you think there's something wrong with never kissing a man? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 12:48 PM |
| 10 | What was your turning point to follow FDS?I'm blessed to grow up with a mom who just didn't care about men after getting divorced. She lives happily single, leveled up, and gets to travel the world without dealing with LVM. She showed me through her actions that being single is better than being in a miserable relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/20 09:12 PM |
| 6 | I think about this oftenWhy go MGTOW if you can just get pickmeishas to do your will for you? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/20 09:07 PM |
| 3 | Found an old note that I wrote to my old pickme self back when I was having relationship troubles with my asshole ex who I was with for 1 1/2 years and it's kinda funny seeing the difference in how my attitude to men has changed.Ugh. Now I need to look into my old repository of text message notes that I never sent to my exes. So glad FDS has helped us level up! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/20 08:18 PM |
| 5 | Male friends? What are your thoughts/ experiences? + little storyMale acquaintances? Yes. Male friends? No. Scrotes only want one thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/20 08:16 PM |
| 17 | What the actual fuck!This sounds very rape-y. This is why we cannot support BDSM shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/20 08:14 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 5/13/2020What is the ideal length of dating before being engaged? I think a year is more than enough but I realize everyone differs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/20 08:13 PM |
| 9 | Get outWe’ve dated off and on for about a year and a half and started dating for the third time Sis, I had to stop four sentences in. This needs to end. This sort of behavior is very unhealthy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/20 02:25 AM |
| 11 | Woman gives up on dating because she can’t find a man to meet her standards. Cue the scrotes telling her to lower her standards!Being single is better than being with a LVM. ALWAYS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/20 02:17 AM |
| 8 | 'I'm looking for confirmation that a girl is giving consent to fuck her, if I take her out of state'.The comments are repulsive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/20 02:15 AM |
| 18 | Tall attractive guy in good career shows he‘s just trying to get laid and I’m way too quick to prove myself by putting more effort into the convo, more at 8Block him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/20 02:14 AM |
| 2 | You are a woman, sureSadly this might just be a pickmeisha. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/20 02:11 AM |
| 85 | Who is gonna tell her ? Five years spent . Being. Fuck. Buddy. Not. Even. A. Forever. Girlfriend . Ladies remember if nobody knows about you ,you aint his woman .This is why we shouldn't do any wife shit for men unless we are their wives. No cooking, No laundry, and No living together. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/20 02:07 AM |
| 8 | Who is gonna tell her ? Five years spent . Being. Fuck. Buddy. Not. Even. A. Forever. Girlfriend . Ladies remember if nobody knows about you ,you aint his woman .This is so sad. I feel so bad for her. I hope she finds FDS and snaps out of it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/20 02:03 AM |
| 14 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 5/13/2020Been reading FDS every time I ever have thoughts to text a guy all day and it has helped so much in keeping texts to a minimum. FDS > Texting men any day of the week. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/20 02:01 AM |
| 3 | how important is passion/chemistry?If he has money, decent looks, and provides for me then I won't be missing anything. I find chemistry and connection with my female friends. I rarely develop friendships and emotional attachments to scrotes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/20 08:13 PM |
| 1 | “Before sex, a man isn’t thinking clearly but a woman is. After sex, a man IS thinking clearly but a woman isn’t” : Post-Nut ClarityDon't respond. Pretty sure it's a man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/20 08:11 PM |
| 4 | how important is passion/chemistry?Unpopular opinion: I don't find it necessary. The less I like a man the less he's able to mess with me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/20 07:50 PM |
| 5 | For young girls who think it’s fine to send nudes"I got a whole collection bruhhhh" And this women is why you never send nudes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/20 07:33 PM |
| 5 | .....Pickmeishas evolvingPickmes in the comments are saying it's 'funny' | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/20 07:26 PM |
| 4 | A reminder to thoroughly vet the person you’re dating before getting attached!Yes 🙌 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/20 05:38 PM |
| 8 | Permanently Banned from r/relationships simply for participating in FDSI created a reddit account for FDS and I'm automatically tagged 'throwaway account' . | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/20 05:26 AM |
| 41 | The bar is so low on advice subsI broke up with my highschool sweetheart because he forgot my birthday. It boggles my mind how some put up with this for several years!! We deserve better!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/20 07:59 PM |
| 37 | A moment of self awareness...This is rape. I'm so sorry this happened and I'm shocked reading all these stories of rape where men thinks it's a game. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/20 07:36 PM |
| 18 | Words of wisdomI don't even do this to play games. I just straight up tell guys that I prefer rich guys and they gift *all* *the* *time*. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/20 05:49 PM |
| 21 | Always have plans that don't include menI'm a homebody during quarantine. I love when I'm able to reject men's requests due to things I'm doing at home like watching movies alone or doing crafts. Time is money. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/20 02:06 AM |
| 9 | If he left that easily, he was never worth keepingThis is why women must never lose their ambitions for any man married or not! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/20 06:45 PM |
| 1 | Boyfriend destroys her Animal Crossing island out of spite, she later decides to work on their “communication issues”.Ugh. LVW normalizing abusive behaviors. This is so sad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/20 02:53 PM |
| 4 | Girl Wash Your Face Book - Pick Me behaviourTake the trash out sis. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/20 12:14 AM |
| 1 | With online dating, I really recommend waiting a few days before giving a new guy your social mediaYup. Currently talking to a guy and even though he gave me his instagram I don't plan on giving him my real one for several months. He can beg all he wants but I have a right to *my* privacy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/20 12:13 AM |
| 6 | I broke up with my BF, I thought was a HVM, because of things he said 7 years ago (Screenshots)Unfortunately there are so many men like him. When I was 12 I pretended to be 14 on the internet and I was hit on by a 22 year old. There are so many creepy bastards online that get away with the most heinous of crimes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/20 12:11 AM |
| 8 | I broke up with my BF, I thought was a HVM, because of things he said 7 years ago (Screenshots)A man who agrees with you on everything is mirroring. It's a psychopathic behavior that is done to lure women in and make them think they have the exact same personality. If you ever encounter a person who mirrors every behavior or thing you say then *run away*. They're a psychopath. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/20 12:09 AM |
| 2 | The AudacityYes, and make sure you never sleep with any new date during lockdown. They're looking for an easy bootycall. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/20 12:03 AM |
| 2 | How do I process a “relationship” I had with a 35 yr old man when I was 18-19 ?He was abusive, he was manipulative, and he is trash. You need to cut both him and her off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/20 12:02 AM |
| 2 | This is why you must have separate accounts even if you think he's a HVM. You can never be too sure.Ugh. This is why I will be signing a pre-nup. "While I am entitled to half [of her money]" No, you're entitled to none of it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/20 11:58 PM |
| 8 | Is it a bad idea to send your long term partner sexy videos and pictures?Never send a man nudes. Read the FDS handbook. All risk with no benefit in return. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/20 11:56 PM |
| 6 | People that force talking everyday.When a man shows you his character- believe it. If a man shows you he's trash, take the garbage out sis. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/20 11:54 PM |
| 2 | How often do you expect to hear from your partner?It's called love bombing hon. Read the FDS Handbook it's a godsend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/20 11:53 PM |
| 20 | Are HVM even worth it tho?Nuns have all female communities. I'm seriously considering joining one (not joking, read my username) so that I don't have to be around men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/20 11:50 PM |
| 10 | Are HVM even worth it tho?Personally no. Even with HVM you still have to talk to them which can be exhausting for HVW that have life already going for them. I choose to continue in relationships as long as I make my boundaries clear. < 7 hours of talking each week. I don't have the time or effort to talk to a guy all day or spend time with him when I find it more enjoyable to spend that time with friends. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/20 11:47 PM |
| 14 | I communicated my standards but nothing changedDump him. When men get into this pattern of stringing a woman along you can only dump them. It's an early sign of an abusive relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/20 03:58 AM |
| 1 | Not Messing Up With a HVMHe just chases me. And he goes out of his way to please me. He has his life together and makes a decent amount of money even at a young age. Then again I haven't passed the 3 month mark so I probably shouldn't put too much weight on the beginning of the relationship | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/20 02:35 AM |
| 1 | Not Messing Up With a HVMIs being a medical student HV enough? Idk. I've always been focused on bettering myself but I do often fall into a trap of putting men on a pedestal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/20 02:34 AM |
| 2 | Would you end a relationship for being called a D***head once?I would dump him merely for treating you bad! Dump him sis and never look back! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/20 08:53 PM |
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