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Training_Pumpkin3650/r/Divorce_Men23/01/26 07:23 PM
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Training_Pumpkin3650/r/Divorce_Men13/02/26 06:04 PM
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Dude I’m 34 and started divorce earlier this year. I found new friends hobbies and interests. I have had romantic relationships with old and new ladies. I know it sucks but you’re 30 man you got a whole new perspective. Sorry it didn’t workout but you have potential with a great paying career and whatever you want to do. Try one city and then the other you have nothing tying you down!! Personally I’d go to Tampa.
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/26 05:32 AM
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Oh, she gave me a lot of different reasons, but none of them really made sense. We were married for four years and she mainly had her divorce seat coworkers as her main friends they would constantly bicker and vent about the same issues for hours daily. They would also go out drinking after work. We got to the point last year where we were doing vacation separately be honest truth is we were drifting apart and we did some therapy because she wasn’t happy with the way that I was and she was tryin…
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/26 02:26 AM
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Well, I hit her with a subpoena because she’s hiding assets and she had a cash business which I’m willing to highlight, but I think her seeing me with a female friend really cause some type of a trigger. I’m doing very well for myself. I lost weight I got in shape and I’ve been getting the attention of females. Meanwhile, she threatened me with some guy that she was supposedly seeing which I no longer believe to be the case. The majority of her friends are her coworkers and ex roommates and it d…
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/26 10:39 PM
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I’m in the same boat, 6 months into the divorce 34M/30F and she had a lot of oral promises and she decided to hide some assets I’m in the process of uncovering them. The turning point for my x’s attitude is she saw me with another. She’s been very curious as to who my friend is but I simply stated she’s a friend and really none of her business or concern. My x has really changed and even been calling me to casually converse but I shut down the conversations, like she said to me not too long ago …
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/26 01:31 PM
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I’m 6 months into my divorce 34M/30F and it’s been slow but my x changed her attitude pretty drastically. She wasn’t talking to me and was ignoring me and waving me off, she saw me with a female friend and her whole attitude changed she called me and had a completely different tone. Whatever the case maybe I do not wish to engage or reconcile however I believe she may way to given a few other details.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/26 01:20 PM
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I have a situationship or best friends with benefits. Part of me wants to commit but there’s definitely commitment trauma. So for the time being I am enjoying the ride.
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/26 06:13 PM
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Well is this something you can workout with her? Losing weight is overwhelming maybe you guys should talk about nutrition and go on a clean consistent diet together so you’re not just attacking her about her weight. Make your workouts fun and maybe go on walks or ride bike together she has a lot of weight so be mindful about her joints getting back into it. Maybe buy some prepared meals for you guys. Losing 20 lbs is great on just an injection, but obviously a lifestyle change would help tremend…
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/26 02:24 PM
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My x knew she was going to file for divorce and moved around her assets were in the process of uncovering it so if you can do it protect and move your assets with the help of a divorce lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/26 08:38 AM
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Bring back the hobbies you lost during the relationship, if you didn’t then great. Pick up new hobbies and interests. Go to the gym. Start meeting new people.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/26 05:58 PM
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I gave up a lot of my hobbies and interests because my x did not like them or thought they were bad for me. I got back into raving, concerts, mma, kickboxing, Muay Thai, Brazilian jiu jujitsu, rock climbing guitar cycling hiking and even reading and painting. Do and find the things that make you happy. You are also free to self express however you want without judgement.
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/26 01:59 PM
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Honestly she initiated it and I was sad but I went to EDC Mexico and man I got a lot of compliments and action. I picked up all the hobbies I let go like cycling rock climbing bjj yoga and mma because of my soon to be x wife and I got brand new hobbies and new friends. I am getting in the best shape of my life and I have new ladies in my life.
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/26 04:41 AM
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I met up with gym friends for a social interaction on Friday, I went hiking Saturday with a gym session in the evening and an art gallery event. On Sunday I went out with a new lady friend I met we went to AEW Revolution 🤘 Throughout the week I am focused on going to gym classes, playing guitar, djing and reading some teen romance books. When I have nothing else to do I will play video games with my friends or by myself. I also watch movies with the amc subscription. On Friday I’m supposed to ha…
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/26 03:19 PM
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I was pulled from work and went on disability. I was unable to return to work on a part-time basis, the company didn’t want to for the longest and I was on disability for almost half the year, but it’s not really a request. They really have to abide by the ADA guidelines. I did end up suing and got a few dollars out of it and a better workplace at least for myself
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/26 10:52 PM
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I was very stressed at work. I was essentially handling managerial/Director level work as an entry-level. I was promised by the VP who is my direct boss a Reyes and title change once at the beginning of the year and then after my review, however nothing happened at both of those events and if anything I got more work emotional with high blood pressure I went to the doctor and thus began my healing journey. I was placed on leave from work and had the opportunity to manage stress, but people go fo…
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/26 10:49 PM
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Why don’t you go on a vacation? I am. I’m going to Mexico EDC this weekend :) I would also recommend therapy, I did stress in patient therapy before which was in a group setting. There are multiple different ways to coop and it’s up to you to figure out which work for you. For some people it hobbies, friends, box breathing method, meditation, yoga or going on vacation. Try listening to a guided positive meditation when you go to you for lunch that’s how we always started group classes before it …
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/26 10:18 PM
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Yessir 🫡
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/26 02:49 PM
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Thanks I didn’t think about this. I’m going to start giving the tax guy my stuff and think about it, but I’m leaning towards just simply saying file separately.
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/26 11:54 PM
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Damn so we have to do it together 🙄 I’ll have the tax guy make contact if she wants to 🙈
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/26 06:22 PM
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I think sending a blank Valentine’s Day card would be better. Keep the notes to yourself written and kept in private.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/26 08:40 PM
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Better do it sooner than later if you already have these feelings. The longer you wait the more she can claim during divorce. You can try to work on these issues and do personal and couples counseling but it usually feels one sided and someone is always attacked in a sensitive group setting.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/26 06:03 PM
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She’s being petty and wants to get under your skin just move on. If possible see if you can get a defamation suit but I wouldn’t respond with anything verbal or physical which is what she wants you to do.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/26 05:59 PM
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Holy crap it’s usually for long term marriages over 10+ you get potentially life alimony but it also depends, for shorter marriages it’s up to half the marriage. I’m in California and this is what was told to me.
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/26 10:03 PM
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It be like that bro, I hope you are doing well. Grab stuff and claim it 😅
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/26 01:21 AM
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I read your situation to be honest I would attempt to engage casually with the shared hobby.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/26 09:32 PM
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I have a full just to get me by until I get something more permanent at which time I would prefer a queen.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/26 07:07 PM
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Sign a prenup and if you don’t it better be because she makes more than you 😂 I would also wait a very long time to get married because no one tells you how long annoying and expensive it is to get divorced even if it’s amicable.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/26 07:02 PM
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I’m sorry you are going through this but at least you found a good support group here. You will find lots of answers to your questions and you can always post and other men will help with their knowledge. We did couples therapy but she gave up and spent a lot of time with her upset and divorced girl friends. I know my soon to be ex wife had her mental issues and substance issues but hasn’t really tackled them. For us we were married 4 years so part of me is glad it didn’t go longer but it does s…
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/26 06:10 AM
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Right it’s an emotional affair ah well hope you and the rest of the guys are doing well today.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/26 03:07 AM
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It sounds like you have your answer :) I hope for the best for you future Dr.!
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/26 06:13 PM
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Life is your own journey. Do it for you and because you want to not because you are looking for validation from us or to spite your ex. Best of luck if it’s what you decide to pursue :)
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/26 03:42 PM
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The red flag for me was that my wife was hanging out with a lot of of her unhappy and divorced women in her office. She stayed friends with a woman who got fired, who was divorced. They will talk every day. Their conversations would always be the same how she can’t believe they fired her how it’s so unfair but I think all the negativity from others ended up impacting her which made her reflect on our marriage. When we had minor inconveniences, she really highlighted them. I know there was nothin…
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/26 12:23 AM
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Camping near lakes or rivers for the weekend. I enjoy going to Mexico it’s cheap and plenty to do. That’s mostly it I haven’t gone to other countries the cost of flights puts me off until I get tired of exploring Mexico 🇲🇽
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/26 09:15 PM
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I hope it’s not true but that’s what I heard from some lawyers, mine is only 4 years so if I am on the hook for support it would only be 2 years I’ve been warned that it can be lifelong for marriages over 10 years but that’s why I said to consult a lawyer every state is different.
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/26 06:49 PM
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We’re in the process but I plan to go on a solo trip and coverup a matching tattoo we have. Instead of rings we got the tattoos. I want to do it now but I have a feeling if she sees I covered it up she may get emotional and delay or further contest the divorce she asked for 😂. I’d like to hang out with the boys but it’s seemingly very difficult to gather everyone, so I’ve learned to simply do things for me I can meet new people and start a new chapter.
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/26 06:31 PM
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I’m not sure what state you’re in but in California after 10 years you owe alimony or support for life. I would recommend that you talk to a lawyer you can usually talk to them for free. Sorry you’re going through this.
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/26 02:44 PM
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Hang in there friend, It’s part of the process. Better times ahead!
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/26 07:48 PM
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Thanks unfortunately the registration is under her name but the medical was always me. I’m starting to feel like letting her go is the best course of action. She rehomed our other dog so it’s a complicated situation but I really don’t want to fight and want to move things along.
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/26 11:34 PM
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Ridiculous the house is under my name but she still wants a share of it 🙄
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/26 09:01 PM
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I think that’s where we are. We both care for our dog and I’m ok with split but I think she wants our cut to be clean. I would perfer to keep the dog but maybe we can work something out. Did you get any kickback or benefit to something else for giving her the dog? For instance did you perhaps gain a small financial advantage on the split or anything like this?
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/26 07:44 PM
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Did you find anything? I’m in Los Angeles and the main issue for me is going to be property as well. I hope you’re doing well friend.
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/26 07:17 PM
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That’s what I thought I was being more than fair by just saying everything should be split even co-parenting our dog but she said she wants no contact and no seeing each other so dog trade wouldn’t work. I’m sure she knows it would be co-parenting but she just let me have full custody at least as of yesterday today or tomorrow she might change her mind. As for the condo she said she wants to continue to live in it and I simply walk away because she is equating her marriage input as a financial b…
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/26 07:42 PM
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That’s good to hear I’m happy to do 50/50 but she wants me to walk away with nothing which I simply can’t do. I figure I would request a buyout as she can live in it and essentially make money getting a roommate or renting out the property. Thank you for your input and advice I will check out ChatGPT and call around. Any advice for what to look for in lawyer? Google reviews lol
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/26 06:52 PM
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