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Take the pictures, print them out and hang them on the wall in her frames. Right next to yours.
/r/askMRP29/01/18 04:52 PM
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Get back in the game, find some side action, and have no dependence on her for sexual satisfaction. Withhold if anything. Careful bud. This is how you end up in court defending your own infidelity.
/r/askMRP13/12/17 03:02 AM
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Sending fake texts? Really... Sounds like you're bringing home a forged report card to mommy hoping she'll believe you're doing so well
/r/askMRP19/09/16 07:51 PM
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My thoughts exactly. I'm at 6'1/200 right now after a 40lb cut over the past year. From around 225 or so I cut, then gained back over the course of a year or so. Anything sub 185 would seem underweight to go for even if I dropped % a bit. Back in the 18-21 drug/drinking days I was around the 160 range at no body fat and looked like a holocaust victim.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/16 11:43 PM
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I'd moderate those gain numbers a bit, 20lbs of muscle in 2 months is a bit of a stretch, especially for a tall/skinny person. What kind of diet are you working here? I'm assuming you didn't have any weight to cut and any calorie/lifting increase just added mass. Sidenote, I find it very interesting how many guys in here are around the 6' range and weight less than 160 pounds. Time to pack on some weight boys. I'm 6'1 and can't imagine what I'd look like sub 185. A while back it seemed that most…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/16 11:40 PM
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Muscular or not, at 5'6 and 155 to start your wife was overweight, so I'm not terribly surprised that she's gotten bigger being pregnant. Based on what I've seen, 20-25 pounds gained at her BMI is relatively normal during pregnancy. That said, you're doing a lot of talking and not enough STFU. Where's the leadership? Is her diet shit? Stop buying shit. Eating too much Mcdonalds? Stop spending money on fast food and get your finances together at the same time. Your pregnant wife is a hamster fun …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/16 03:11 PM
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It would seem so
/r/askMRP30/08/16 03:00 PM
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Just came in to check things out, been absent a while. First response was "what the fuck is this bullshit?"
/r/askMRP23/08/16 03:57 AM
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What sort of hypothetical bullshit is this? "I'm not asking for me, but for a friend... well, technically for me cause it happens everytime I date a girl..." Your little hamster seems to be working a bit of overtime. Establish a frame man. And don't give a fuck. Perhaps you might want to look into why she's texting her ex's while she's with you in the first place, before you start worrying about context.
/r/askMRP23/08/16 03:56 AM
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I'm about to take the next step and start getting my diet under control, been doing some research and it seems that if I start dieting, gains might be compromised. Start lifting. The diet will become a necessity when you really get into it, and at least for me, came naturally despite resistance. Can one theoretically bulk and cut at the same time, if so can you point me to a tried and true method? I've done it. But I wouldn't recommend it right off the bat. Just start lifting.
/r/askMRP23/08/16 03:54 AM
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You 100% need to stop engaging with and get the hell away from this woman before it escalates, and it will escalate. If for no other reason, your son is being dragged into the middle of this and is seeing very, very unfunctional interaction between a weak but improving man and a fucking narcissist. If the two of you are going to remain in the home together, I would seriously recommend get some video/audio recording in place in common areas. Accurate or not, all she has to do is claim you hit her…
/r/askMRP01/08/16 06:32 PM
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I have made it very clear I am here for her, I still love her, and I am very much open to reconciling but she will have to abide by the 100% honesty and no contact rule. She gives ZERO fucks whether or not you're there for her. She knows you are, you've made it clear that you don't give a shit that she's riding the CC and will take her back regardless. You've shown your hand. Stop confronting her. Period. I know you might get up in your feels and convince yourself that simply confronting her wil…
/r/askMRP27/07/16 03:04 PM
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Wife touches your dick - "Hmm, must be a shit test, better not react" Wife doesn't touch your dick - "Hmm, must be a shit test, better not react"
/r/askMRP27/07/16 02:47 PM
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I like the 2nd to last paragraph where you basically explain exactly why she's cheating on you. Troll post is troll
/r/askMRP23/06/16 01:08 AM
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That... just... smh
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/16 03:30 PM
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I'll tell you the same thing I told myself. You're not gonna lean down until you do SOME type of cardio. Period. Running reminds me too much of high school wrestling, so that's out. Riding a bike is great, but only if I can get out of the house to do it. Solution? Heavy bag. 30 minutes a day, every morning. Simple Youtube search will find you plenty of routines you can do, and boy do they burn some calories. You can jump on the diet train all you want, track your calories/macros, etc. But withou…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/16 04:32 PM
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she has a habit of wanting to argue You've had more than enough time to be seeing this situation under control, but it doesn't seem that your mindset, or your tolerance for bullshit has changed. The petty little arguments are one of the first things to get worse, and one of the first things to go as you start to adjust yourself. You will struggle to create/maintain frame, then find yourself 6 months later wondering why your wife no longer argues with you over petty nonsense. Just have to actuall…
/r/askMRP07/06/16 12:23 PM
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Right. Openly expose yourself and your partner to the wide world of STDs, sounds like a damn good plan. Wife not putting out? Unhappy with your marriage? Introducing HOOKERS, the real life Game Genie for your marriage!
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/16 01:14 PM
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I came across this yesterday and immediately quit reading the second he went into chore mode. This guy is actually encouraging guys to do exactly what we've all found out the hard way doesn't work. Which begs the question, after 30 years of marriage to someone he openly admits was not right for him from the beginning, is he happy with himself? Deep down, I'm betting on no.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/16 01:10 PM
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Here's your main problem, you're allowing your frame to be rattled by the smallest of hypotheticals, let alone facebook. Facebook is full of women watching others live the lives they wish they had, if that's where she spends her time whining, don't let that be your concern. You need to take a step back and look into why this hypothetical is shaking you so much, getting you into your hamster mode and hurting your feelings. Does not sound like OI to me.
/r/askMRP03/06/16 01:04 PM
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Thanks for the FR on how your wifes doing. What are you up to?
/r/askMRP18/05/16 07:25 PM
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Let's see... potential for making nearly 1mil/year... you really think your wife doesn't already know she has a much better earning potential than you? You've already lost whatever fight you're trying to have
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/16 04:41 AM
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Perhaps it's time for someone else to step up to the plate? hmm? Find a way to make that guy you.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/16 12:43 PM
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This past Friday, she snuck up on me and gave me a kiss for the first time since January as she was going out to this 'business meeting' on Friday night...mind fuck territory. I feel I've been knocked off center again. Sounds like a guilt kiss to keep you in place and prevent any potential digging into her actions.
/r/askMRP10/05/16 06:55 PM
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Let's make sure this is very clear. There is no chance of a comfort test coming your way, she's very aware of your commitment and investment in her, she knows you're not going anywhere. Shit test? Possibly, in the more than likely form of her taking extra steps to contact this dude behind your back. Either that or she'll do it openly to see how strong that frame of yours actually is. Why does she know this? Because you gave her an ultimatum, and despite what you claim to be doing, are reaching o…
/r/askMRP10/05/16 06:50 PM
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Sidebar. Also, chill out with League of Legends like /u/sexyshoulderdevil said. At your age I was in literally the exact same situation. A habit that started as a means of staying awake to take night shifts with the baby turned into a complete and utter waste of time that consumed every moment I wasn't at work. There is nothing wrong with the occasional gaming, but in a family situation, it's difficult to lead your wife when you spend all of your time at a computer chair, while the laundry is pi…
/r/askMRP05/05/16 01:19 PM
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See the 12 levels of dread
/r/askMRP05/05/16 01:16 PM
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hey only thing I have not done is sex, but I don't have sex with strangers and that is what you are to me. So... she doesn't have sex with strangers, and that's what you are to her now... And she won't have sex with the guy you were 6 months ago either. Main event is coming man. Seconded on /u/stonepimpletilists thoughts, it's time to move up to MRP
/r/askMRP04/05/16 06:15 PM
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I just... sometimes man, your comments just get me rollin
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/16 04:07 PM
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Did you REALLY need to ask that question?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/16 06:43 PM
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In general, it's recommended that your get some on the SIDE and let her go out to the BAR on a regular basis, so that she can get her SIDE poked by random BARs regularly, it will make her want you more. At least that's what I've found on the interwebs.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/16 06:42 PM
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If you've only been lifting for 3 months, you can basically consider those first 3 months as non-existent. You weren't lifting? They never happened.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/16 06:27 PM
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Probably important to note these aren't covert contracts. I'm being more fun because I am more fun. And I have been enjoying myself regardless. You can say this all you want, but the text above it screams "I'm doing this for her reaction, and I'm not getting the reaction I want." Concern yourself with how "acting more jovial" and how these "fun excursions" are improving your life, not how they garner a reaction (or lack there of) from your wife. Everything you do should be done to enhance your l…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/16 06:25 PM
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UGH. She's not my mother Speaks to your mindset more than you realize.
/r/askMRP02/05/16 06:12 PM
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You're balls deep in those feels today aren't ya? Nobody can answer this question for you, you've got to decide what is best for you. You've got no RP post history, but from this post alone you are clearly not invested in yourself, but invested in her (along with your feelz). Your LTR's anger, fight starting, complaining is a direct reflection of your shitty leadership. Post history shows you've got a BJJ/martial arts background.. where is that discipline fitting into your actual life? It shows …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/16 03:35 PM
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Congrats. You've identified that you're afraid, of a lot of things. Now... what exactly are you going to do about it? Make the most of the moments you have, each and every one of us is completely insignificant in the grand scheme of things. The universe doesn't care if you owned a business, fucked 200 girls or made great art. What you do matters only to you, and in turn those you affect with your presence.
/r/askMRP21/04/16 08:21 PM
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Perfect timing! Was looking for something to listen to, might as well give this a re-read. I'm sure you saw below, there's an audio overlap issue at around 27:49 into Chapter 3. I listen at 2x audio speed, so I'm not sure if that time stamp will be the same elsewhere.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/16 02:32 PM
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The first thing you need to do is to set some realistic, measurable goals. Don't just say "I want to get shredded in 6 weeks." What's shredded for you? Lost 5 pounds? 10 pounds? 20? Is that 5/10/20 realistic based on your current routine/diet habits? Based on your current diet/routine, what are you losing per week? Two best things you can do for serious cutting is to up the hard cardio, and take a look at your diet. I'm betting that the latter is where you need serious work. How many calories ar…
/r/askMRP11/04/16 08:33 PM
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But I NEED to know that she FEELS great about doing it!
/r/askMRP28/03/16 06:42 PM
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You're getting enthusiastic blowjobs... why in the world are you hamstering about it?
/r/askMRP28/03/16 06:40 PM
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what channel is this on?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/16 02:30 PM
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... http://lmgtfy.com/?q=how+to+improve+credit
/r/askMRP13/03/16 02:25 PM
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My question to you rude, blunt, fucking assholes who saved my life and potentially my marriage..is how do I deal with this continued compliance test. We didn't save anything, you did. Question now after reading this wall, is did you do it for YOU, or did it so you could impress HER. Your wife is uncomfortable. She sees you improving and it's breaking the mold, of course she doesn't get what's going on. Stop letting her inability to handle your improvements shake your frame. From the sound of thi…
/r/askMRP08/03/16 09:10 PM
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Hand Holding Mode Engaged
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/16 01:22 PM
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Sidebar. There's more in there. See ASKMrp for future basic questions. Lurk on MRP to see how others are handling situations and implimenting RP into their own lives. Second, shift your focus. RP is not for your wife or your marriage. It's for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/16 01:21 PM
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My biggest question for you here, is why does this situation shake your frame so much? You're not involved in it, it has no direct effect on you or your marriage in anyway, and if nothing else it gives you both a bit of a reality check that it really can happen. Why add anything else to this? Should I even bring this situation up- ever- or wait for her? No. STFU. Is there a way to lead her to see this situation as similar to ours (although on a much smaller scale)? If she brings it up, you can p…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/16 01:13 PM
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Definitely reads like a bit of situation envy.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/16 01:08 PM
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My cousin gave his LTR/Fiance an ultimatum once. She decided to get pregnant. A year after the kid was born, she was addicted to pain pills, sleeping around and became a stripper, and wanted nothing to do with her kid. He's now a single father fighting for child support from his ex-fiance who never wanted a kid in the first place and had one to appease him. Just food for thought.
/r/askMRP03/03/16 06:27 PM
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Did you plan for things to go this way? In my teens? Yes, I fully intended to sleep with as many girls as possible. As a young adult, same thing. What did you learn, from all those experiences? Good and bad. And anything else, if you don't mind sharing. I learned that I have two problems. 1: I have an inability to walk away from even the most toxic of relationships, and, at least in the past, preferred to sabotage over simply ending things. 2: That at least to some point, I tend to fantasize tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/16 05:21 PM
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I have no problem going down on my gf but there's a difference between a 10 min bj for me and a 45 min bj for her. Work on your warm up phase. Studies show anywhere from 10-45 minutes for most women to orgasm, but you can definitely influence how much work you have to do by warming her up before hand. Try teasing and withholding, works for mine everytime. Key here is to keep things different, cuz thats a hell of a long time to be goin down on a girl. You've officially passed control of your bedr…
/r/askMRP23/02/16 04:15 PM
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Great FR, glad to see things have improved for you. Just confirm that you're no longer "not allowed" to get a gym membership, and that you're lifting more than used jugs of water.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/16 11:33 PM
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Sounds like you've got it all figured out. You want to eat meat, but doing so will cause your wife to get upset and want to talk, and nothing you can say/do will work. AA or AM is useless. Standing up for what you want is a waste of time. Being your own man just isn't worth it. Should consider changing to her religion to prevent that discussion from happening. Much easier to just retreat back into her purse where things are messy, but ultimately easier and more comfortable for you.
/r/askMRP22/02/16 04:39 PM
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No response needed after this. We'll said sir.
/r/askMRP20/02/16 04:24 PM
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Going to have to agree with /u/TrainingTheBrain here, you're likely leaving out some info and have been focusing on this woman to the point that she's showing up in your dreams. The bigger concern here though, is that your rattled so badly by your dreams. What it sounds like is that you're beginning to have thoughts of other women, and that the veil of reality is sinking in, you're realizing there are other options out there and you're not sure how to handle it. Dreams are just dreams. A few nig…
/r/askMRP19/02/16 12:37 PM
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Here is where i Slightly disagree. I am not just doing it for sex with her. I am doing it because I have come to realize I am tired of the fuck nut I used to be. I want to return the person I once was. Hard, focused, and diligent. Sex with her is the outcome of that work. Who are you trying to convince? Your post tells us the opposite.
/r/askMRP17/02/16 04:57 PM
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She is selfish, shallow and self centered. Traits she will readily admit to. I also feel that she represses her sexuality. I encourage her but I just feel like there are walls there Of course she will admit to it. Any suggestion of a reason for why she doesn't want to sleep with you is easier than telling you flat out "you don't turn me on." Which seems to be exactly what's going on here. Whether your SMV is lower than you realize, your behavior is suspect and causing attraction issues, etc, you…
/r/askMRP17/02/16 04:37 PM
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I assumed it would be pretty ego-centric considering, you know... him
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/16 11:11 PM
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I saw him speak a few months back at a conference and was pretty impressed with him. Pretty smart guy. Linchpin is required reading IMO these days, especially for some RP minded men who are in dead end jobs.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/16 09:00 PM
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That one is actually the next one on my list based on a recommendation from a colleague. I was a bit skeptical about it when it was recommended to me, but considering I took a business class in highschool based around his "philosophies," I figured I'd add it to my list. I'm not normally one to recommend something I haven't yet read, but I trust the guy enough to pass it on. Hopefully I'm not disappointed.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/16 08:58 PM
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Have a few more around here on the shelf but these are the better ones.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/16 04:17 PM
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I don't know much about crossfit, but from what I hear you've got to be EXTREMELY passionate and talented as a coach to succeed in it, or your people will just jump to the next hot coach in the area. Have you considered that you may not be giving it your all, or that you may be pursuing an avenue that isn't necessarily suited for you?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/16 04:16 PM
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Retracted original response. This should help you or anyone else looking for a non-RP reading list. This was most of my reading list last year and the start of this year. Self/Business Specific: Linchpin: Are You Indispensable - Seth Godin (a solid read for ANY RP mindset, strangely enough) Duct Tape Marketing - John Jantsch Traction: Get a Grip on Your Business - Geno Wickman FREE - Chris Anderson (actually available for free on Audible/Amazon) Purple Cow: Transform Your Business by Being Remar…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/16 03:57 PM
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Thanks to this sub I can confidently say life goes on with our with out her. The sub didn't do the work. You did. Glad to hear you're owning your situation and are able to stay OI to it all.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/16 09:20 PM
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You really should have returned those gifts and bought a bag of skittles instead. Hamsters need skittles to survive in the wild. Seemed to handle it all really well, aside from rewarding her nonsense behavior with gifts instead of skittles. Hope her outburst is not a guilty conscience projecting.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/16 08:14 PM
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I occasionally lurk on /relationships as it's what led me here 6 months ago. When and if I come across those who remind me of me, I silently PM them with some information on where they can find the resources they need. It's water thay has to be tread lightly, especially in certain subs, but ultimately the "you don't talk about fight club" scenario is defeating. Whether you like the pukes or not, at one point we all found our way here and more than likely did the same thing. If MRP has served you…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/16 10:07 PM
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Was just listening to Joe Rogan talk about him on his podcast yesterday or the day before. He got so royally fucked it's unbelievable.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/16 07:56 PM
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I didn't divorce her a year ago because I had just bought a house and wasn't ready. Why would you buy a house DURING the marriage that will have to be split, knowing you're going to divorce her. You could have just waited and saved yourself some trouble. You really need to be consulting an attorney rather than seeking advice here as far as how things will work out and what you should do. Get a lawyer, that's what you need to do. Preferably one who understands the plight of men in divorce and has…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/16 07:55 PM
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Full Barney Stinson over here.
/r/askMRP12/02/16 07:50 PM
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Get her a card and a bag of skittles. Be a Skittles Man
/r/askMRP12/02/16 04:09 PM
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The only drawback is that my pants are getting a little baggy and my shirts are starting to get tighter. I’m gonna have to replace a goodly section of my wardrobe in the near future. This part does eat at your wallet a bit, fortunately I refused to let go of all of my size 32-24 pants and had something to fall back on. Even if it means wearing older pants or the same few pairs every day, DO NOT allow yourself to walk around in your fatter pants until you make the decision to go get new ones. The…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/16 02:03 PM
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Your wife is not a snowflake. And your situation is all to common. In fact, my wife is on those stupid things too. First and foremost, anti-depressants DO kill some things, but it's not the go to excuse for why you're not getting the sex you want. When I came here back in September, she was on em, and I was getting it every other week or so. Now, she's on em, and I'm getting it every other day at least. The anti-depressants may help to keep her from jumping you the moment you get home from work,…
/r/askMRP12/02/16 01:55 PM
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My main focuses lately have once again been continuing to improve our financial situation, and to continue to fix problems that occur within the household. I have been owning my workouts since Jan 25th, I'm in the gym at minimum 4 days a week and have reached a point where if I miss a day at the gym, I am a miserable pain in the ass (only internally). I have been handling my wife's recent increase in shit tests lately very well, and they seem to be increasing exponentially since she followed my …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/16 05:09 PM
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I lift on machines every morning. The gym I go to has a schedule they write on a white board with what exercises to do for that day. It seems to be working, I've lost weight and have gotten a lot stronger. I let myself get to 240's, I'm down to 211. I want to see under 200 in the next few months. Glad to hear you're lifting actual weight and it's not just cardio. Just wanted to make sure you're on the right path here. You may want to get off the machines as your main lift, and get to some free w…
/r/askMRP11/02/16 05:03 PM
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Would not be surprised to find out that it was a TPB long game the whole time. Would certainly make for a great "ha gotcha" moment. The moment I read this, all I could think was that this dude was hoping his sob story would generate him some money. Unfortunately, if it's all true, dude's fucked.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/16 05:13 AM
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I say no problem, I take my raging hard on and go to my office. She comes in later naked and says come to bed. I tell her I'm busy. Sure... decline the thing you wanted in the first place. Perhaps that IDGAF/Got shit to do attitude you showed when she shot you down worked. Next time, she may not come after you and be impressed by the lack of butthurt. "Sweetie, I've never had a problem finding women.". (She met me in college when I had 2 girlfriends at the same time, she knows this.) I don't kno…
/r/askMRP11/02/16 05:06 AM
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It was one more chance to talk about her
/r/askMRP11/02/16 12:28 AM
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"Hey hun, I'm gonna take my red pill today, that means you have to let me lead and be alpha and you do what I say. Is that ok?"
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/16 05:02 PM
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You handled this well, but don't start thinking that you've done something wrong by having a random give you an unsolicited number. As far as what you should do with the number? Nothing, unless you're wanting to plate this girl, but it doesn't sound like you are. Question I have is should I have said anything about the number? I didn't want to get caught. She knew something was up. Im not looking for a divorce but just make myself and my marriage better. If I was alone nobody knows and I keep it…
/r/askMRP10/02/16 04:59 PM
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Came across this the other day on a "I've got the flu post." Lying in bed acting like a wounded animal and expecting your woman to nurse you back to health is basically asking her to act as your mother, instead of being a big boy and handling yourself as if you literally had no one around to care for you.
/r/askMRP10/02/16 04:53 PM
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I'll go out on a limb and say that he'll probably mope around, check her social media accounts and get pissed when she's out. All of that will not "win" her back. Based on his actions thus far, I would have to say this is more than likely what will happen. Unless he decides to own the information he's getting here. If he would want to win her back, he needs to be attractive to her in his behavior and the way he looks. All that can be done by him. If they do get a separation and he can use that t…
/r/askMRP10/02/16 04:14 PM
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Different person, and I don't mind spending my time in responding. My point here is that going to the wife of the guy is a waste of time at this point and further shows weakness. Grasping at every straw he can get drag his wife back when, for whatever her reason may be, she's clearly ready to GTFO. He doesn't need to reel in his wife. He already tried and that obviously pissed her off. It shows him as needy if he gets mad (and also very insecure if he reads through her messages). I agree with th…
/r/askMRP10/02/16 03:38 PM
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Refute it? Fine. Your solution to this mans problems is to jump on the 12 year old tattle tale train and instead of being forthright, you're instructing him to be a passive aggressive little punk who manipulates people through deception when his intentions are completely the opposite. Absolute garbage way to handling it. Ignore that the wife exists, ignore that she may be branch swinging. Ignore the dude who crossed his boundary, then continued to do so after being confronted about it. Skip go, …
/r/askMRP10/02/16 02:09 PM
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Nothing wrong with serving your country or making it known that you did, but to expect it to hold as your reason to consider yourself super AMOG just doesn't cut it. See this a bit too often around these parts.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/16 02:00 PM
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They do when your only accomplishments worth speaking of happened 10+ years ago and you feel inferior to your wife. But hey, let's all just puke a bit on the sub, it'll help us lose weight.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/16 04:27 AM
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Apparently I missed something good?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/16 01:06 AM
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Wait... you mean I can't hold it over people's heads for 10 years to make myself feel like a superior man?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/16 01:04 AM
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These are not the droids you're looking for...
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/16 01:02 AM
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far more alpha than her colleagues while they were training based on looks, physical presence, and the confidence that comes with knowing how to kill people. AMOG bro, not insecure at all. Pay special attention to what /u/whinemoreplease had to say. Your wife has yet to start her career and already you're completely defeated, falling back on your insecurities and fears that you'll never be worthy of her. There's a lot of doctors out there in the world. I know a few. Married men who work with the…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/16 11:31 PM
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Good ol' #WhyDoesMyLifeSuckBook
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/16 07:18 PM
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I'm gonna have to agree with /u/RIPBP here, start a business. But first, get rid of these excuses you're spouting out. There's no reason not to overcome your obstacles, period. Set a goal, a measurable goal, and achieve it.
/r/askMRP09/02/16 04:06 PM
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WISNIFG is a pain in the ass to read, but don't allow it's long windedness to distract you from your goals. And certainly don't let yourself be one of those guys that comes in here asking for the cliff notes because it's too tough to read. It will help out a lot. Best of luck.
/r/askMRP09/02/16 04:04 PM
1

Fortunately, I'm now in a place where I have the ability and the strength to decide whether or not I will need to.
/r/askMRP09/02/16 12:33 AM
-1

Might want to ask CAD where your mutual wife has been
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/16 09:02 PM
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I've had this discussion on several occasions with a user who unfortunately has to remain nameless these days, but it seems that many of the women this sub has married have an inability most of the time to see past today, tomorrow or this weekend. Strangely enough, my wife does the exact same thing right before shark week. Life sucks, we don't make enough money, I should go back to school instead of being a waitress part time, I'd be happier if I was a nurse, I'd be happier if I was a dentist, e…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/16 09:01 PM
3

Fortunately I've not yet had to deal with this, but I was able to at least able to mentally prepare myself for it thanks to this sub and the inevitable possibility that I will face it soon, and from seeing the failures of my close friends who went through it. First and foremost, you need to recognize that life is no longer the way it was. And you said it yourself, you'd be mad to go back, so the reality is that it never will be again. This sub exists to help you rebuild yourself, not your LTR or…
/r/askMRP08/02/16 08:44 PM
2

Congrats to ya man! Just goes to show ya, there's no way outta the rabbit hole. See a new light in everything, especially the media.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/16 04:46 PM
2

You've now effectively puked to your wife and to the entire sub. Feel better? Got it all out of your system? Great... What do you plan to do now? Going through your posts briefly, this seems to be a pretty common issue for you, especially the brief and unenjoyable sex. Knowing you've only got a 5-15 minute window, are you going to continue focusing on whether or not she's into it, or are you going to start using that window to fuck her the way you want to? Where are you at in your reading (speci…
/r/askMRP08/02/16 01:28 PM
2

It's amazing how simple changes in hygiene can have an impact and how it can create a very passive dread. My first step after coming here was to up my game, buy some great smelling hair/body soap/shampoo, new hair cut as of 2 months (huge reaction from those around me for some reason) and to keep face wash/lotion available (I'm young, but it def helps with random zits). The one thing I'm working on that's had a major impact is a tooth that got cracked after being hit in the face (by tree branch …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/16 04:20 PM
22

She's telling you to leave. I'd say go for it.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/16 12:56 AM
1

It is. And for the most part, most noob stuff is handled and/or directed here so that the main sub isn't a bunch of new guys introducing and victim puking all over. If you've got questions you need answered, this is def the place to come. Just saying that if you've found something interesting (for the most part) that you'd like to discuss, or get a vetted guy's opinion on, the main sub is the best spot. Keep in mind, for the most part this is mostly new guys in here.
/r/askMRP06/02/16 02:05 AM
1

Less than a sentence into the article and I don't care enough to finish, the obvious is obvious. Future reference, if it's not a puke, and you want a real discussion, stuff like this can be posted to the main sub.
/r/askMRP06/02/16 12:05 AM
1

You can do one of two things. You can accept that she may have cheated in the past, let it go and chalk it up to whatever you'd like, or you can leave and continue to make yourself happy. Staying, especially after finding out the truth, is a very difficult thing to do and is not for everyone. For many, myself included, staying is the better option as it can fuck up the long game (financially, kids, move out of state, etc). Weigh your options and figure out if you can deal. Respect will never rea…
/r/askMRP05/02/16 11:25 PM
1

Congrats BPP. I'm sure it's a major relief to have it finished. Glad to see a specific order placed on the books over a time period, should provide the new guys with a task list so there's no longer a "where do I start first" problem.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/16 01:52 PM
2

so yea ideas? thoughts ? the idea I keep having is just MAC filter the PS4 off my home wifi , and that will be the end of it. Great idea. Don't clean the dirty bedroom, just bulldoze it so it's no longer a part of the house. This chick is clearly a piece of work and it needs to be addressed if it's gotten to the point that she's neglecting her household duties or NO LONGER TAKING CARE OF HER OWN FREAKIN CHILDREN. I'm 100% with /u/TrainingTheBrain that neglectful parents are about as low in the s…
/r/askMRP04/02/16 08:52 PM
0

Post retracted. Missed a key sentence. In the end, take care of yourself. It's your responsibility, no one elses. That said, glad you've moved past butt hurt when she doesn't take on the role of your mother.
/r/askMRP04/02/16 03:59 AM
3

I'll recommend to you the same thing I do to everyone else. Read the book Lynchpin by Seth Godin. Then, watch Jiro Dreams of Sushi on netflix. Sure, it's a documentary on a sushi chef, but you will never hear a better story of someone dedicating their entire life to their craft. If what you're doing with your life brings you no value, then your work will suffer, because you have no passion for your craft. No amount of fluffy plants and motivational "you can do it" bullshit cat pictures are going…
/r/askMRP04/02/16 01:50 AM
3

Will try to follow advice here. For my girlfriends sake. Cause fuck you, right? Do this for your sake. Rollo's book? Read it for YOU. Lifting harder? Lift for YOU. Eating well to cut weight? Cut for YOU. Let the benefits you reap trickle down to those around you and let them embrace your improvements. But in the end, they are YOUR achievements.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/16 02:02 PM
1

I wouldn't have fucked me either. Did you catch that? I wouldn't have fucked me either. In case you missed it, there it is again. This is what happens when you shed your pride and delusions and put in work. Damn well done man.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/16 01:57 PM
1

I'm assuming you'll be supplementing/eating a lot of nuts/beans to get your protein?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/16 01:55 PM
2

Yeesh... pregnancy running wild. In situations like this a simple "sorry bout that, didn't realize ___" isn't going to hurt you. You don't need to look at it as begging for forgiveness. Keep an eye on IrateMD's response to Redneck101.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/16 06:42 PM
3

First, keep in mind that your wife is pregnant. Normal rules don't apply in exact context here because hamster is in hormonal overdrive. I was much like you, in that I was not only apologizing for things that I had no business apologizing for (taking too long, showering with another woman, etc). Why should I apologize for things I intentionally did, I knew what I was doing when I did it, and i knew the possible repercussions. Obviously, there's a lack of context here, so we have no way of knowin…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/16 04:29 PM
1

If he wants to "track" his progress by counting the yes and the no, that's all well and good. But sharing this little time clock is manipulation and clearly attempting to negotiate desire. "You didnt say yes to my last 12 attempts" makes no difference to her or even to him when the husband is still at a point where he finds the need see the actual numbers behind his butthurt. There is absolutely no outcome independence in tracking how often he fails, cause from the sound of things the success he…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/16 01:14 PM
1

Is this 2x/week that you're getting any good, or is it the same old going through the motions to get this dude off me shit? Just want to show her basically in writing, look at all this shit you asked me to do about sex. It was done, and nothing has changed "Here, this is a spread sheet of all the things you asked me to do, the dates that I did them, and the number of times you've told me no for sex in the past 90 days, all dated of course." What about that screams sexy to you? What about that sc…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/16 01:08 PM
1

Do YOU feel like you've given her too much control over the situation? Feel like you're delegating too much? In the end, how much distance are you willing to put between yourself and the biggest purchase you're ever going to make (at least for the moment? When something goes wrong, and believe me, one way or another something inevitably will, are you in a position to handle it having been absent from the process?
/r/askMRP02/02/16 12:59 PM
1

Sidebar. Make sure to take a look at the 12 levels of dread. Important for where you've found yourself currently.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/16 09:13 PM
1

The noob part is pretty obvious from the question itself. But isn't a bad thing. The question about your reading speaks to your progress, which again is fairly obvious. Your post may help others but the responses are here for you specifically. Just like beginner gains in the gym, it can be tempting to see instant success (or what you deem as such) to assume that you've reached where you need to be, when a simple change in mindset can do wonders. The comments you're seeing are more of a warning I…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/16 09:13 PM
1

I don't expect going from 2300 to 1500 will be fun, but I'm ready to get to my goal weight so I can enjoy a summer bulk.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/16 09:09 PM
3

First question for you is where are you at in your sidebar progress? Plenty of guys have found their way here from NoFAP, and while I can't say that I did, I will say that it's situational. If fapping is keeping you from pursuing your wife, and is lowering your interest in pursuing sex in general beyond the thought of having it, then you may want to go for it. At the same time, you may want to look into why your sex drive is so low (I'd assume age plays a factor here). Beyond that, I don't see t…
/r/askMRP01/02/16 06:26 PM
1

Creatine will be cut out by the end of this or next week actually. Been in for 3 months, need to cycle off of it for a few weeks.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/16 05:37 PM
2

Fortunately he came here for some hand holding. Otherwise I think this dude would have found himself with a nuke going off over the next few weeks.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/16 04:58 PM
3

Back in September I was down to 206 from 220, after an untinetional, depression fueled period of intermittent fasting. Today, I'm sitting at a nice 210 after 6ish months of working out, and excited as hell that 60DOD came up for my cutting phase that was supposed to start today, started instead on the 25th. My "diet" has been pretty simply: Calorie Tracking: Using Myfitnesspal, I'm keeping myself limited to 1500cal/day for a period of 2 months. This is forcing me to stop with fast food (which I …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/16 04:48 PM
1

Thinking about a plate or two, is a long ways from the open relationship you are just dreaming about now. Focus on this for a moment. You're dreaming about an open relationship, thinking about a plate or two, considering turning this girl into a plate AND wanting to fix your marriage and revamp your failed sex life. Guys who aren't getting any, or who aren't getting the right kind of any are prone to fantasize about this kind of shit. The grass will always seem greener, especially if you've done…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/16 04:35 PM
1

Pretty sure /u/theultimatecad is gonna lay into this dude. Trying to ride a bike before he's even put the training wheels on yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/16 04:33 PM
1

Focus has always been a battle for me, but it's mostly a work problem and is based in my inability to properly manage tasks. Recently been looking into Alpha Brain on Joe Rogans' recommendation. Anyone tried?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/16 04:28 PM
2

(which is probably HB7 when I stop being surprised they actually think I'm a good catch, hahaah) Already stinks of validation seeking before I read the paragraph after. Before you can get any guidance, I think you need to decide what it is you're wanting to get out of this. Your post history tells me that at best you found RP a month ago, which is not enough time to have read through the sidebar. This, along with the content of your post, tells me you're not yet ready to be going dread 12, let a…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/16 04:01 PM
1

you are not whine, cad, BPP, Count, Sorcerer, McGill. You are CJ.... Very important to remember. You can set out to achieve a similar OI to Cad or whoever, but your frame is your own and only you can determine when you've reached the right place. Complacency is failure's waiting room.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/16 03:56 PM
3

I think the steps would be best served by adding step 2.5: Own your shit... again.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/16 08:21 PM
4

/u/BluepillProfessor. our local rage monster who wouldn't fuck your fat saggy pussy if you paid him Priceless
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/16 05:11 PM
1

At this point I'm sure there would be a moment of temporary guilt, but considering what led me to RP in the first place, I'm sure it would only be for a moment and solely for fear of being caught.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/16 05:08 PM
1

The only option here, should I eventually decide to seal the deal instead of just spitting game for the sake of doing so, it will be done in silence. My bullshit "I took a vow" morals aside (obviously, she broke hers), I have entirely too much at risk financially to get caught. Fortunately, I'm just shy of 30 and look great, so hittin that 21 year old market is incredibly easy to do. As far as the quality, I don't imagine I'll care much. All I'd care to find is someone who wants to rip my clothe…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/16 02:05 AM
3

3rded
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/16 10:30 PM
1

The reading material provided for you will give you plenty of warning about the resentment, disinterest and even anger that may develop over the course of improving yourself. Sometimes there's just no avoiding it. All a matter of how you handle it and ultimately, figuring our what it is that you truly want and what will make YOU happy in the end.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/16 04:04 AM
1

Occasionally acceptable to allow the internet to amuse us, even in pill form.
/r/askMRP28/01/16 11:24 PM
4

Not specifically RP in anyway, but Joe Rogan's podcasts (The Joe Rogan Experience) occasionally touches on some great RP material, and in general a lot of awesome guy shit.
/r/askMRP28/01/16 04:13 PM
4

My point in that is that their perceived SMV not only doesn't matter, but is likely completely wrong. A man with a truly high SMV is not still struggling to get a pity handjob from his wife. Perceive yourself as a hard 7 all you want, reality still shows you to be a 4.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/16 04:11 PM
3

She has fantasies. She just may not want to share them, because currently, you're not in them.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/16 03:08 PM
3

Initially, I found that the sex got better, and the flatten's out. The more I impliment the things I learn here, the better it gets. But I too have lost interest in sex with my wife, and it's not for a lack of frequency, excitement, variety, etc. For me, I always believed that I had a variety of options available, but never proved it to myself, so I just accepted the sex I was getting as what it is. Over the past months, I've found that there are plenty of options available to me, new and more e…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/16 03:06 PM
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It's very interesting what new guys percieve as their SMV vs what reality actually is. Seen plenty of guys come in here claiming their SMV is 99.9998 and well above their wives, yet still they find themselves here struggling. Step #1 needs to be get a damn reality check, you're not a snowflake either!
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/16 01:56 PM
3

This all depends on what it is specifically that you're "pushing." From the small amount of substance in your post, I'm guessing what you're wanting to avoid pushing on is sex, and that you're not able to be OI about it should you get turned down. First, keep in mind that it will take at least 1 month for each year that you've been married to undo the damage that's been done. That said, you need to remain focused on the core: lifting, STFU, sidebar. You don't mention anything in here about your …
/r/askMRP28/01/16 01:53 PM
2

How in the world am I missing these posts? This seems like comedy gold and I'm not seeing them!
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/16 02:54 AM
3

Entirely too much talking. Period. Do not engage the hamster.
/r/askMRP28/01/16 02:52 AM
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Have you made it clear why she's continuing to get a no? Would your wife continue to give you foot rubs on a daily basis if she hated nasty ass feet? Pretty sure it would have been nipped in the bud on day one.
/r/askMRP28/01/16 02:50 AM
0

If you HATE doing it, you're reading alone should tell you that you need to stop doing it. You can completely ignore the fact that she has her own covert contracts here, or the fact that you're getting "good boy" handjobs like a 13 year old instead of the sex you're wanting. As scurvemuch mentioned, you've already got an established system here that you've made clear you don't approve of, so break the system. If her "love language" is backrubs, your's needs to be blowjobs (at minimum). For the l…
/r/askMRP27/01/16 09:49 PM
2

As a reformed gaming addict, I have a similar take to this. How you choose to unwind is on you, if gaming let's to relax, then go for it. The question you have to ask is this: is there anything productive I could be doing? If your gaming means lifting, working, hobbies, self improvement, etc take a back burner, then watch it. If the siding is falling off the house and your faucet has been leaking for a week, you've clearly got some things to take care of and haven't earned your opportunity to re…
/r/askMRP27/01/16 05:10 PM
4

If you're holding out for 20-30 minutes before cumming, you're doing fine in my book. Thing is, I don't have a chapter in your book. Are you ok with lasting 20-30 minutes? Are you not ok with it because your concerned over her satisfaction with your performance?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/16 01:55 PM
2

Tip #1 for not getting screwed in marriage: Don't get married. You can be screwed in more ways than just financially.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/16 01:52 PM
1

Focus on this. Either what she did is ok, because you never ask about withdrawals, or it's not because she was supposed to disclose it for casino night. Your boundaries here are awfully sloppy to the point that neither of you seem to understand the agreed upon terms. Step back, set your boundaries and handle it if they're broken in the future.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/16 09:01 PM
9

Do your hobbies make you happy? Are you a better man because you allow yourself to enjoy them? Then do them. Are you blowing so much money on your hobbies that you're budget is suffering? Are your hobbies a part of your monthly budget? Then there's no problem. Not your fault she has no hobbies.
/r/askMRP22/01/16 04:10 PM
1

Any substitutes for those of us who can't do coconut? The smell alone makes me puke. Stupid Jimmy Buffet.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/16 02:27 AM
1

This is the way I've been looking at it recently. I've had to dial it back, because it's been met with some lack of satisfaction at home lately, along with some anger phase thats still lingering from her BS chad phase, making me desire to pursue a hard close rather than just training my game. So long as what I'm doing doesn't turn out to be validation seeking (which I've had to catch myself on), I see no harm in practice, especially when confidence in the long term of your marriage is still wani…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/16 04:26 PM
2

This is fucking perfect. My start date was Feb 1st, no reason not to start early. Fitness Goal: Stop making excuses for day 3/4 being missed. Move workout to 6am so that there's no excuses for missing a workout day. Align lifting/fitness schedule with cutting season. Begin cardio on off days, utilize recently purchased exercise bike for this. By end of 60DOD, reach goal weight of 190 (206 now). Diet Goal: Meal prep & Fast Food holocaust. Original plan for cutting season was Feb 1st - April 1st. …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/16 04:16 PM
3

I can't speak to her tone, I wasn't there. But what I do see is a mom who's trying to prevent a small kid from waking up. She made a pretty passive statement from what I see, and you responded by being a dick about it, as if "nobody's gonna tell me what to do" was the only mindset you had here.
/r/askMRP21/01/16 04:02 PM
2

First of all, you aren't going to change her. Only she can change her. It sounds like you're with someone who is the complete opposite of you, and instead of enhancing your life she's holding you back. There are way too many women out there to be tying yourself down to a homebody who doesn't excite you and who doesn't leave the house. And I certainly would not throw kids into the mix, especially if you have even the slightest bit of doubt about your relationship. Recipe for disaster. Bottom line…
/r/askMRP21/01/16 03:59 PM
1

Sounds like you need to spend some more time in the sidebar. Frame is covered repeatedly in many different places.
/r/askMRP20/01/16 01:50 PM
11

RP in general will tell you that the only person you can control is yourself. Being the guy who, through his own insecurity, feels the need to control his woman's every move for "his own protection" is beta as they come. An attempting to control your woman's movements, actions, etc, is ultimately an attempt to negotiate her desire for you by limiting her access to the outside world and the potential for her to interact with other men. And it screams beta insecurity and a lack of OI. Since there'…
/r/askMRP20/01/16 01:48 PM
1

You've identified that eating out daily is an issue. You've identified that you don't have a lot of time each morning to prep your day's lunch, and that preparing meals in advance on the weekend would be a better option time wise and financially... Why do you need further advice? Do you really think anyone is going to advocate that you continue to be too lazy to prep your meals and save money?
/r/askMRP14/01/16 04:49 PM
1

Where people fuck up is recording the sandwich they made (meat, bread, cheese) but excluding the 3 scoops of mayo, the mustard, etc. Or not following the portion size for chips/fries, etc. Just takes a bit of effort.
/r/askMRP13/01/16 07:02 PM
1

Jefit + Myfitnesspal. Don't trust what other people put. If you want mayonaise, measure out exactly what you used and record it. Stay the hell away from fast food and anything you can't accurately record.
/r/askMRP13/01/16 01:27 AM
5

Good. You're here. Here's a cookie, now GTF to the gym. Sidebar it up, you'll be glad you found this place man.
/r/askMRP13/01/16 01:22 AM
1

Again, how you handle that is all that matters. You wouldn't stop working out for 3 months with the expectation that it'll lead to more gains and the gym wanting you inside it more right?
/r/askMRP13/01/16 01:20 AM
2

Disagree. Pretending to NGAF about not getting laid in an already sexless or low sex marriage is bullshit. You do give a fuck, you're here because your marriage is not living up to your expectations. If you want to fuck your wife, fuck your wife. If she has no interest in fucking you, sidebar until you're worth fucking. If you want to abstain from sex, stop the butt hurt and learn to abstain from bad sex.
/r/askMRP12/01/16 06:20 PM
1

I have to do the same. My advice would prove a bit hypocritical
/r/askMRP30/12/15 12:50 AM
3

It's $8000. Mow some lawns, shovel snow, deliver some freakin pizzas. You fucked up and allowed it to happen, so you will have to make some sacrifices in the mean time (including your hobbies) to get yourself out of it. Go get the Total Money Makeover by Dave Ramsey. It's financial planning for idiots and it works for just about anyone.
/r/askMRP23/12/15 01:49 PM
2

You need to make the decision based on what YOU want, period. You can look at it in two ways: You failed to take control of your situation, AGAIN, and now you have to clean up the mess that was made as a result. You didn't have an adequate plan in place to cover necessary things, like medical expenses (sidebar: fillings, doctor visits, etc are necessary dude, they're your kids). Moving forward you will follow a strict budget where every dollar has it's place, and get yourself out of debt. Split …
/r/askMRP23/12/15 01:47 PM
4

Please, show me the way!
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/15 01:38 PM
15

Sweet... I'm now owned by at least 4 men and one extremely overweight woman. This is awesome
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/15 10:05 PM
2

Assuming you've reached maximum dread or don't care enough to do so, step #1 is to seek legal counsel. That said, major life decisions should not be made in the heat of the moment when your balls deep in feelz. Disconnect yourself, get some time away, then come back and make your decision.
/r/askMRP21/12/15 04:58 PM
1

Time to take a trip to the frame store
/r/askMRP20/12/15 10:06 PM
2

Whatever the rest of us do is irrelevant. Your boundaries are your boundaries. Keeping in touch with the ex-boyfriend is a deal breaker for you? Let it break the deal then, move on and don't look back. Your other option, of course, is to allow her to break your boundaries, and instead throw a pissing whiny tantrum about how she upset you, betrayed your trust and that you can't believe how she'd do this behind your back. But that option leaves you in a weak position, and tells her that she can ig…
/r/askMRP14/12/15 06:48 PM
1

What can/should you say/do? You've already stated what you want, you can and should tell her that you're going to your gma's, it will make you happy and that you'd like to do your own special thing afterwards, xmas night for you both. What you will do? This might just get a bunch of responses, but you've already failed this, and it's clear you're too afraid of her to stick to your guns and do what you want. You'll go with her to her grandma's, solely because you don't seem to have the ability to…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/15 01:16 PM
5

Never a good idea to make major relationship changes in the midst of chaos or crisis.
/r/askMRP04/12/15 08:45 PM
5

First of all, don't apologize. You expressed your thoughts on the situation, those are your thoughts, don't apologize because you're afraid she doesn't like them. Your GF is the product of an abusive relationship with her mother, and just like domestic abuse survivors, they defy logic and continue to seek the approval of their abusers. Your GF needs to seek therapy, period. This isn't a "captain save a hoe" situation, you cannot save her or undo the damage that has been done by a lifetime of abu…
/r/askMRP04/12/15 05:34 PM
11

Considering she most likely wasn't doing that anyway, it seems only fair.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/15 02:49 PM
2

Post wasn't worth much, but that top comment was. God forbid a man finally puts himself first, finds value in himself and lives life to the fullest.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/15 03:36 AM
1

Where a man can be guilt tripped and led into telling the truth, a woman with a guilty conscience will only find more reason to hide and manipulate to protect her situation. The best you can hope for is trickle truth, which isn't shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/15 03:36 AM
3

At one point after discussions, disappointment mentions and "negotiating" failed me, I went cold blooded to get her attention. Asked my daughter, in front of her, what mommy does all day, her response: "sits in the chair and plays on her phone." This of course was quite some time ago, well before I found RP, but it worked out well enough. She had a very stunned look on her face to say the least. I don't think she realized how noticeable her addiction her phone was at that point or that it was ke…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/15 11:49 PM
3

The wife has a large problem with "scroll envy," and at one point, on a bi-weekly basis, would engage in rants and depression periods over how much fun her single friend's lives were, who had no bills or no kids and could do whatever they pleased. Blowing thousands of dollars on clothes and posting to FB, buying a new car and tagging their friends to show it off. This of course meant that her life was now somehow less enjoyable because she didn't get to engage in all of this single 30 year old w…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/15 11:29 PM
2

This is you not only lying to MRP, but lying to yourself. Your GAF meter was at an 8 yesterday, and is still at an 8 because you can't figure out how to handle the situation, and you're letting it run you right now. Not one bit of OI here at all man.
/r/askMRP03/12/15 05:45 PM
1

Pretty simple, don't do anything nice with the expectation for a reward. Do it because you want to do it. If your generosity is coupled with you championing yourself, singing your own praises and expecting "attaboys" and sex rewards, you're doing it wrong.
/r/askMRP02/12/15 02:15 PM
3

Don't forget to add cinnamon. It's like perfume for pie
/r/askMRP02/12/15 02:10 PM
1

Was starting to wonder when we'd see an FR from you. Sadly, I expected it to be something along these lines. You have got to get to a place of OI, and for the love of god stop with the bullshit talks and feelz, you're coming off very needy and desperate, desperate for a decision from her which she obviously isn't ready to make. The day you're no longer pussy footing around wondering when she's gonna leave, what she needs you to do to fix XYZ, is the day you have a shot at keeping her. I know you…
/r/askMRP26/11/15 03:35 PM
2

Look at guys like Neil Strauss or that ridiculous dude from The Pick Up Artist show Erik Von Markovich or Ross Jeffries. Hell, google just about any pick up artist and I bet you 8/10 times they won't have model good looks. Doesn't mean they can't pick up women, implement RP strategies. Being a handsome dude helps picking up women, but it won't hide obvious insecurities and betaness in general. I look to myself as the perfect example of this, it's easy to get em off your looks, it's even easier t…
/r/askMRP25/11/15 04:05 PM
2

You sure you didn't post this for yourself to read?
/r/askMRP24/11/15 08:08 PM
2

There's a pretty specific order to the sidebar... Start from the top and work your way down... Also, check out /u/bluepillprofessor's 12 levels of dread, will give you a perspective on progression here: https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/2l7pqe/the_12_levels_of_dread_the_rules_for_any_long/
/r/askMRP24/11/15 08:03 PM
1

That username though
/r/askMRP24/11/15 08:02 PM
2

Your perspective on this is that of a depressed captain attempting to captain an empty ship, rather than a captain with a first mate. There is more that goes into a woman's desire for sex; for instance, her need (or want) to feel appreciated, desired, attractive in general. The man who accepts starfish sex is also the man who likely isn't ravishing her, isn't seducing her, isn't bringing variety into the bedroom and thus creates a very stale, unappealing environment. Women desire sex, they just …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/15 07:07 PM
3

Perfectly acceptable for a wife in her mid 20's-30's to go around shitting on her marriage, but don't you be a man and do it, that's just wrong.
/r/askMRP24/11/15 02:02 PM
1

See my actual response to the post. Seems like a great way to get your heart rate up prior to the gym.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/15 01:41 PM
1

The truth in this post is that the shit tests truly never end. The sad part of this post is the perspective you took on the situation. Why turn down sex with your woman to go to the gym? Wanted to tease her? Great, tease her for a few minutes, then grab her and haul her ass to the bedroom. Use it as an opportunity to get your cardio in and your heart rate up before you hit the gym. You did a great job of showing her that her sex isn't necessary and that you won't get "butt hurt" if you aren't ge…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/15 01:38 PM
1

Seemed like the perfect opportunity to. I get needin to go to the gym, but I don't get blowin off getting laid in order to do so.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/15 01:34 PM
3

It's his journey, why exactly should he be stopped from sharing it?
/r/askMRP24/11/15 01:31 PM
1

As a former addict myself, I can tell ya that the only thing that's going to get him on board with any game plan, whether it's moving his addiction from meth to food to women to working out, is his desire to do so. That desire to do so has to be more than "I need to do this" it has to be an overwhelming sense of purpose that will make him change his ways, and he can only find that in himself, not through suggestion. Getting in the gym is a sure fire way to at least start to reconsider some of th…
/r/askMRP23/11/15 05:11 PM
1

Agreed. 6-9 months of recovery is garbage and clearly comes from entering someone else's frame.
/r/askMRP22/11/15 10:26 PM
1

Assuming he follows through that is
/r/askMRP21/11/15 10:15 PM
1

Looks like we've both got the OK to start putting duct tape on girls mustaches moving forward as our retribution
/r/askMRP20/11/15 11:35 PM
1

My wife used to do this same thing with me in almost the same (albeit less OCD crazy sounding way) with my occasional single back hairs. She would treat it as a game, yank a few out when im either not paying attention or trying to fall asleep. Same scenario, I'd let her do it once or twice after the initial sneak attack, then tell her to knock it the F off cause she couldn't yank em out (she'd try, miss, and it would just hurt). Never caused any issues, certainly never got butt hurt over it (her…
/r/askMRP20/11/15 07:15 PM
2

So what do you do when you get home after a night shift? Do you go straight home? Sit on the couch for a few hours? Watch TV? Chase your wife around? There's plenty of time to hit the gym for an hour before or after work for an hour, 3 days a week. Stop making excuses for why you can't do XYZ. Own your shit, you'll be happy that you did.
/r/askMRP20/11/15 04:37 PM
1

Simple solution. If it needs to be done, do it. You know what needs to be done daily, you know what you've slacked on doing around the house that you could be doing. Going around the house handling your business without the thought of the potential "good boy" reward will help you. Do it because it needs to be done, always.
/r/askMRP20/11/15 02:04 PM
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She knows your motives for going to the gym? Great, she knows you wanna get in shape and feel better on a daily basis. She knows why you STFU instead of engaging her in bullshit? Great, she's slowly going to learn that her behavior is no longer going to get her what she wants, or the response that she wants. She gives you sarcastic responses when you get home from hanging out with friends? Great, her responses to your going out have literally no effect on you going out, they let you know that sh…
/r/askMRP20/11/15 02:00 PM
2

So you're saying she's not a unicorn?
/r/askMRP20/11/15 01:51 PM
1

You have to at least start, your lawyer is there to help you get your kids out of this situation. Have faith in the system, it's going to suck but it needs to happen.
/r/askMRP19/11/15 11:42 PM
1

See about getting Nest wifi cameras for "home security" that will also record and upload her blow ups for evidence if you are forced to do the controlled burn. The more evidence, the better. If you have to, your concerned about break ins. Video evidence trumps all crazy in court.
/r/askMRP19/11/15 11:41 PM
1

Not much to say, it's all been well covered and I hope for your sake you act quickly and play this smart. Women like this are the same type to fake a domestic abuse situation to fuck you over, so do this shit quickly and behind closed doors before it costs you way more than you're willing to pay. It's about protecting your children at this point, not you're failed abusive marriage.
/r/askMRP19/11/15 11:38 PM
1

That is indeed my biggest obstacle. Ground rules will be set, if they're not followed I'm putting the D conversation back on the main table, refuse to live broke again.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/15 11:32 PM
1

Very good point.
/r/askMRP19/11/15 03:50 PM
1

Truth
/r/askMRP19/11/15 03:50 PM
4

Unfortunately from what I saw she didn't take your advice. I checked out her posts sometime during all of it, and she was doing quite a bit of posting in the anti-RP subs. Just like many of the guys who come here to puke, she didn't like the feedback she got and it didn't fit what she wanted, so she went elsewhere to get the validation and "support" she needed. My hope is that OP sees this, re-ups himself on the sidebar material and starts to lurk, CAREFULLY this time, and utilizes what he can. …
/r/askMRP19/11/15 01:54 PM
3

To add to this, get control over your physical rage. Ever seen a 2 year old throw a fit over not getting a snack or when he can't play in the pool when it's 30 degrees? That's what you look like throwing chairs, punching doors, hitting walls in front of her. A grown man toddler incapable of controlling his emotions that's lashing out physically for attention. It's difficult to stop doing it, just need to STFU and walk the hell away, take that anger and bust your ass in the gym. If all else fails…
/r/askMRP19/11/15 01:24 PM
3

She came in here upset over no longer being in control, and then got upset when she wasn't able to get any control (or validation) in here.
/r/askMRP19/11/15 01:22 PM
3

To be fair, "fix my broken pipes" could have been an invitation
/r/askMRP19/11/15 01:11 PM
3

She's has initiated sex perhaps three times in the last six years. You'll be surprised how your measurement of a good sex life stops being measured in how often she initiated, but rather how sayisfied you are with the quality of the sex you're getting. I am the husband in our neighborhood that other wives gossip about "wishing my husband was more like him" because I can fix anything from a car to electronics or anything in the house. You need to let this go, as it's a delusional assessment of yo…
/r/askMRP19/11/15 03:45 AM
1

I'm pretty sure he saw "stfu" and took it as "stfu in this sub" instead of "stfu with your wife." Strangely, the longer this thread has gone on the more it has needed to apply to both.
/r/askMRP18/11/15 11:37 PM
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The "club" is never full, and is welcome to anyone who is willing to do their due diligence. We all got slapped in the face at some point, by someone, for some stupid ass shit we posted. Generally, those slaps are necessary and are absorbed as you realize "oh shit, maybe I don't know WTF I'm doing, maybe this dude's right despite how harsh the comment was and how much I disagree with what he said." When an entire community is addressing you the same way, sometimes it's best to take a step back a…
/r/askMRP18/11/15 09:08 PM
2

Your actions will speak decibels louder than your words. Especially if you don't talk about the actions you're going to take.
/r/askMRP18/11/15 04:25 PM
1

but then i got fat... Lift. and turned into a little bitch... STFU. Sidebar. Problems solved, just focus and give it time.
/r/askMRP18/11/15 04:23 PM
1

The advice you'll get in providing FR's here is the same you should take with your wife. Don't tell us what you're going to do, just do it. Trust none of what she says and only half of what she does applies just as much to her as it does to you. You've failed as the captain before, telling her your plans only gives her more ammunition to shit test you when you don't follow through. In your last post you asked her for the "3 things she needs you to do." You didn't need that then and you don't nee…
/r/askMRP18/11/15 04:22 PM
1

What I found out was that she was uncomfortable with pleasure from inside, made her feel like she was gonna pee and that squirting was gross. I simply did it anyway about a month ago, got it to happen and made sure my reaction to it was extremely positive. Now, she's getting much more comfortable with the idea of it. No toys yet, haven't found the need.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/15 02:05 PM
2

The advisor is there solely to help me create a manageable budget, nothing more. My problem was rooted in living outside of our means and not paying off bills as any normal person would do. This bonus gives me an immediate break even point to start from scratch. I've got Ramsey's book as well and have listened to him for quite some time, I've absorbed the material, just never got off my ass to take action on any of it. Started my own version of his journey about a month and a half ago, fortunate…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/15 01:31 AM
1

The need for a strict budget to be in place is more important now than ever. As I discussed in a convo with proto today, her inability to see past the weekend creates financial problems in the now as spending tends to get out of control, and I've not done all I can to take back that control. This should help.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/15 12:47 AM
1

Battle wasn't the best word to describe our situation, but rather a changing dynamic. Good friends, no outright battling. Fortunately my financial issues have had a MAJOR improvement as of this afternoon. I kept my word to myself and went to my boss this afternoon about a bonus that's been lingering in the air for a few weeks. Asking for help was not something I felt great about doing, but did what I felt I needed to do to get out of a hole. Not only did I get the bonus I wanted to get our entir…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/15 12:45 AM
1

Go check out the sidebar on /r/redpillfatherhood, need to make my way over there myself one of these days.
/r/askMRP17/11/15 04:17 PM
1

Thought this for the longest time myself, until I realized I could get my wife to squirt a few weeks ago. Trying new things makes for some interesting reactions
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/15 04:11 PM
3

Shit I'm Owning: My workouts, I have been steadily increasing resistance and working out to absolute exhaustion 3-4 days a week. Seeing major changes in definition, arm/shoulder/chest size (whats left of the gut seems smaller in comparison). Expecting to be to a 225 squat/180 bench within the next month or so, which puts me back at high school level weight. Sex. Sex in general has been off the wall intense. Variety has been great, wife is responding with YES to any demand/request in the bedroom …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/15 03:56 PM
3

Ch. 33: "Your Excellent Track Record is Meaningless to Her" "A man's track record means nothing to the feminine. A man could be perfect for ten years, but if he's an asshole for 30 seconds his woman acts like he's always been one. The feminine responds to the moment of energy, forgetting her man's history of past behavior. A man's past behavior is irrelevant to his woman's feeling in the moment. But men base much on another man's history of behavior, so they think their own track record should c…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/15 01:55 PM
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Been seeing a lot of this. "I'm a hard 9, 235lbs, completely beta in all aspects of life, constantly needy, wife isn't fucking me but she's a 4." Tell me again how you got to that 9?
/r/askMRP16/11/15 05:08 PM
1

I'm sure it's pure coincidence I just couldn't help but draw a connection after seeing RPW getting hit up for info, and a bunch of RP bashing posts showing up last week
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/15 05:00 PM
1

Strangely very accurate numbers though
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/15 01:29 PM
1

She read the material sure, but I find it awfully weird that she shows up in here right before a shit ton of material about TRP gets posted to the DailyDot and several other websites bashing it. No mention of MRP, just found it interesting. RPW got hit with a bunch of interview requests and misquotes around the same time she showed up.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/15 01:27 PM
1

Welcome to shit test 101, make sure you study. Your journey is yours, she doesn't need to know where you're getting help from, just that "im working on making my life better" or some variant of that vague answer. You are not by any means obligated to answer her questions in full detail. Revealing any of this information now would come off as validation seeking behavior and seeking her approval of the changes you're trying to make. Are you trying something different? Sure. Does she need to know w…
/r/askMRP16/11/15 01:21 PM
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You're reading into A LOT of what she's telling you but ignoring what she's doing, while refusing to take responsibility for your part in this. Focus on you, and improving you. Either she comes around to it or not, in the end you end up a better person either way.
/r/askMRP16/11/15 05:23 AM
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Glad you enjoyed it
/r/askMRP16/11/15 05:21 AM
8

All these little chores are shit-tests and if I mess up one time out of 100, she will use that one instance, that single isolated transgression to justify her notion that I am some kind of irresponsible, sad excuse for a man. This is almost an exact quote from "The Way of The Superior Man". You're right, she probably doesn't respect you, you're her drunk captain steering the ship off course. This is about as classic as it gets, almost to a specified format. As far as it being a lot to take in fo…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/15 01:34 AM
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You're wife is giving you the exact same advice that you're going to get here. She is literally telling you to swallow the pill, which you clearly haven't done based on the wall of text you posted. Stop focusing on her, and start focusing on you. Your dependence on her for your own happiness, desperation and neediness is pushing her further away without you realizing it. Take your wife's advice, and if not, take what you get here and internalize it. Tell me, with all the effort you put into atte…
/r/askMRP16/11/15 01:01 AM
1

It is, just finished it a few days ago.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/15 06:18 PM
2

is there a r / mybutthurts?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/15 05:32 PM
1

Can't imagine it would take much time to view the previous months pukes and find out who's still posting this month at the least
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/15 05:04 PM
2

That's what I was wondering
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/15 05:01 PM
1

If the comment/advice/response stings a bit, cuts to the core, there's a reason for it. This level of truth more than likely causes some guys to run off swallowing the wrong pill cause they didn't like what they heard, didn't fit into their comfortable little world. Also, thanks to /u/sorcererking for this one, if the advice includes feminized verbiage like "i feel like..."
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/15 04:49 PM
7

"Yeah, but there is a difference bewteen 19 year olds that would look good in a garbage bag wearing them and a 32 year old trying to hide the fact she's had two kids." I then reached over and squeezed by wife's lower stomach. Wife turned red, tears incoming-I knew I had fucked up. The wine had been too much. Then the smoke show neighbor beams at me and pipes up. The fuck is the matter with you dude? "You know-I wouldn't be talking about her body if I were you-considering your skin looks like a b…
/r/askMRP13/11/15 04:18 PM
0

Way of the Superior Man is out there, didn't see it listed. Fair warning though, you may want to download a PDF version of some as you won't be able to do any exercises like in NMMNG. I kept a PDF companion on my laptop and once I got to work, would review the exercises and complete or write em down for later.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/15 02:04 PM
1

Agreed. As far as "forgetting" goes, you need to step up. You need to reach a point where things like this in the house are handled because you want then to be, handle house work as if she doesn't exist. Dishes get washed after you're done eating, trash goes out when it starts getting full, clothes go in the hamper, because youre the captain and the captain maintains his ship. These are basic responsibilities in life and your lack of maintaining the basics is giving her dozens of opportunities t…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/15 01:27 PM
1

Yet another example of a never ending learning process
/r/askMRP12/11/15 04:00 AM
4

And for the wife who knows you can't check your phone but spend all day on a computer... stay the hell off Facebook!
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/15 01:43 AM
2

All of this should be a book, simply titled: The Players Guide to Success
/r/askMRP11/11/15 10:39 PM
1

My personal favorite is the "I'm a 9.98 SMV to my wife's 6.59234" and then proceed to explain exactly why that SMV assessment is completely false
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/15 06:35 PM
1

Start by getting comfortable with the command line before moving on to your language of choice. This
/r/askMRP10/11/15 01:53 PM
1

Depends on what you're after. Taking some basic HTML courses will start you on the Web side of things, see if it sparks an interest. CSS, PHP and Java to follow.
/r/askMRP10/11/15 01:47 PM
3

Cliche, but it fits RP perfectly. Find and do what makes you happy. A dead end job isn't going to help your SMV, neither will being broke. You obviously know this. I work as a marketing director, deal with marketing strategy and I love it. I started as a Web designer, taught myself how to build quickly and turn a lot of profit without a lot of work, and it led me to a great career without any degree. That said, it took nearly a decade of hard ass work to get there. If you're remotely tech savvy,…
/r/askMRP10/11/15 01:19 AM
3

I'm looking for jobs but the market is in deep shit right now and i'm fairly young, so it's no easy, quick task This is a bullshit excuse. Don't convince yourself that the job market is keeping you from being employed. Got a car? Go deliver pizzas every night and spend your days looking for a career in your field of choice. There is no job that is beneath you. The only thing that is beneath you is being unemployed and unable to provide for yourself and your family. should i keep doing more at ho…
/r/askMRP09/11/15 04:46 PM
2

Don't do chores around the house with the goal of pleasing your wife or for the increased chance of "getting some." This is a covert contract, and you won't. Do chores because they need to be done and because you're not a useless slob. Wife didnt sweep the floor? Do it, because YOU want it done. Wife isnt cooking? Cook, because YOU"RE a man and need to eat. If you're cleaning up your kitchen, all the while thinking "my wife is going to be so happy when she sees what I did" then you're doing thin…
/r/askMRP09/11/15 04:36 PM
3

If you are not yet married, then stop looking for someone to marry. There is nothing in it for men. Men do not need the comfort or security of Marriage. Best advice you're going to get out of this entire thread
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/15 01:54 PM
0

*sexual frequency drops for a number of reasons: beta husband, complacency, children, etc. At this point in life, I can say that all of this is within the control of any man who knows his purpose. Your sex life drops if you allow it to through your actons and inaction within your marriage. *met, dated and slept with around 100 women before getting married. Main reason for marriage was children, had two of them by the time I felt the need to put a ring on it. The desire to see and bed other women…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/15 01:43 PM
2

You can get every single on of the books listed online for free as PDFS if you need to be discreet. Doesn't help the authors but hey, no paper trail.
/r/askMRP08/11/15 04:51 PM
2

Demanding specific advice without having done any of the actual RP legwork is awfully big of you. All of your questions can be answered simply by reading the material and absorbing the advice you're being given. What you're asking is pretty easy to understand. Showing interest is one thing, but coming off overly interested reeks of desperation and will have the exact opposite effect you're looking for. If you're working with the right balance of alpha/beta, her needs will be met. The fact that y…
/r/askMRP07/11/15 07:16 PM
1

Lawyer up, abandoning your home could look bad for you in court without getting legal advice first. Second, court finds out you knew about the affair and continued living there, could end up being used against you by saying you condoned it, simply through your inaction. All these things I learned thru my attorney. I suggest seeing one before making any decisions. If you don't own a house together, live out of your car if you have to. But do it after getting legal advice and serving her.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/15 03:30 PM
2

Why would you be worried? You don't think you're a top tier wife? Only real disclaimer to hiding vs not hiding would be the ability to maintain frame when found out. Newbies wife finds all his pukes on reddit and jumps him for it, clearly not going to be capable of handling it without his tail between his legs
/r/askMRP07/11/15 03:27 PM
3

It sounds like you already know exactly what you need to be doing. Post baby is probably going to make this extra hard mode for a while, her body is going thru rapid hormonal changes now that baby is out. Your frame is going to need to be set and strong to deal with that whirlwind. Sidebar, lift, stfu, repeat. You already know what you need to do, you need to own your shit and not allow yourself these massive "backslides"
/r/askMRP07/11/15 03:20 PM
3

Just because the lifestyle she's become accustomed to is a low income one, doesn't mean she won't be given (or won't seek) to keep as much of it as she can post divorce. 1000% seek legal advice ASAP.
/r/askMRP05/11/15 11:03 PM
1

If you're at the point that you cannot trust your wife to tell you about the time she fucked chad, is it really necessary to go a seek out confirmation elsewhere? You're not buying her bullshit for a reason, because it's bullshit. You'd be better off putting your efforts into becoming a better man and improving yourself, rather than constantly sneaking around, depressing yourself over the possibility that your disrespectful, liar of a wife might have cheated. How you gonna handle it if you find …
/r/askMRP05/11/15 06:38 PM
1

I do tend to be quite critical Is this constant criticism actually working? How is improving YOUR life?
/r/askMRP05/11/15 06:34 PM
1

stop giving a fuck about her orgasm This. You hooked up with another and all that happened was you went down on her? Drop the sex in the city bs and fuck how you wanna fuck, the second you stop concerning yourself with whether or not you're pleasing her and fuck her like chad is the day she'll actually be "begging for your cock."
/r/askMRP05/11/15 02:06 AM
3

Do this.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/15 08:56 PM
1

I like it
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/15 05:45 PM
1

Maybe I should have said "replace your justin bieber soundtrack" instead? May have applied to more people.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/15 05:45 PM
1

The sequel to this should probably be the "pants on the ground song." Also, download freakin Audible. For $8 a month you can replace country music and talk radio to/from work and expand your knowledge through the magic of non-fiction.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/15 12:49 PM
6

/u/theultimatecad 's puke bucket must be empty. Will you fill it for him?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/15 12:48 PM
3

I'm going to assume from this post that you've not started your reading, and recommend that you pick up NMMNG immediately. The red pill magic solution you'll probably get throughout the rest of the day, is to do what makes you happy. Is that telling your dad to fuck off? Bowing at his feet begging for guidance and approval? That's up to you. That said, I was raised by a successful man, who was very disciplined and a good father, little did I know he was a severe alcoholic which was relatively hi…
/r/askMRP04/11/15 12:40 PM
3

Could be the new bitcoin
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/15 05:18 PM
1

Spend all this time trying to throw blue pills at the wall hoping they'll stick, only to find out that one red pill I found stuck the first time, with just a bit of effort and ongoing maintenance to keep it in place.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/15 05:16 PM
1

Used this one the other day after reading it in another one of your comments a week or so ago. The look on her face was priceless.
/r/askMRP03/11/15 02:54 PM
0

If she is really fighting social anxiety, then she needs to pursue therapy for it as it is affecting her family in a negative way. That said, if you want her to go with you and be a part of the family during the holidays (like a wife should) then let her know this. You want her there, get her there.
/r/askMRP03/11/15 02:09 AM
1

Why not cut the home gym loose and spend the $10-$30 a month so you can actually get out of the house to go the gym?
/r/askMRP02/11/15 08:19 PM
1

I found that mine would use "I'm tired" throughout the evening when I'd get home, as if prepping me for 5 hours later when I try to initiate. "But i've been saying all night that I'm tired." Right... that afternoon nap you take everyday must make you extra tired. smh
/r/askMRP02/11/15 08:13 PM
3

I wouldn't have had it any other way. NMMNG opened me up to see the reasons that I've been unsatisfied in life and especially in my marriage, and focused me on me. MMSL came along after, after I had shed my pride, accepted responsibility for my own happiness and was able to take on the issues in my marriage. Don't think I would have gotten as much as I did from MMSL had I read it first, mindset wasn't right to be able to take on the MAP.
/r/askMRP31/10/15 04:18 AM
1

It is pretty fuckin cold blooded BPP, don't know how you wouldn't snap on her a bit, I sure would have
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/15 07:03 PM
1

That was my first thought to. Rather than going for it overtly, he did the whole massage and "im not REALLY trying to have sex, but I'm actually trying to have sex" thing. Might work for some, but like you said, whether I'm going for sex or not, wife takes it as me manipulating, responds better to outright intention than the back handed "warming up" tactic
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/15 07:02 PM
2

It's what I needed to, but instead what I came looking for (without realizing it) was validation from others. And believe me, I got exactly the kick in the ass I needed.
/r/askMRP30/10/15 06:55 PM
1

Pukes will happen, just be prepared to own them. If you come in puking, expect to get some kickback. I don't know about DB or how any of the other subs handle it, but you will get nothing but straight talk here, and it might hurt a bit. Own your weaknesses, don't let them define you. It may not be nearly as difficult as you'd expect. It all depends on you. Keep in mind that you'll hear consistently, minimum 1 month for every year you've been married to start seeing changes.
/r/askMRP30/10/15 03:26 PM
2

EDIT: Googled it, heartiste I'm assuming
/r/askMRP28/10/15 09:07 PM
1

Was not aware there was a story, but I'm all ears
/r/askMRP28/10/15 09:05 PM
2

Haha. I've been actively withholding affection unless shes putting out, which she has been. She's been in shark week, so I've been distant. Reward was nothing more than a show of appreciation and an ass slap. Bag of skittles does sound like a decent idea though.
/r/askMRP28/10/15 05:59 PM
0

If you haven't read the books, you're doing yourself a disservice. They are without a doubt the most crucial thing you can do (besides STFU and lift), which is why they're on there as mandatory. NMMNG drags a bit, but will do a lot of good for your particular situation from the sound of things. MMSL is a breeze and easy as hell to read, but might hurt a bit. Get on it/
/r/askMRP28/10/15 04:05 PM
1

I may be missing something here, but can you not find a way to get him on his own sidebar so you're not feeling the need to manage him as well as yourself, or is this a "you don't talk about fight club" kind of thing. Then again, I'm pretty sure you've got some posts about ol' boys wifey tingles for you somewhere on here from the past month.
/r/askMRP27/10/15 05:19 PM
2

You could have done us all a favor and simply repeated "she/her" 6000 times instead of writing this mess, would have made the same point and I might have been able to make it past the second paragraph. Hope you read these comments and take em to heart, you need some sidebar bad.
/r/askMRP25/10/15 04:35 PM
1

So my mistake was to believe her "words" when she tells me... No, your mistake was thinking that you are going to change anything about her through your words or actions. You can only control you, so focus on that. Her words and actions are not something you can control. Bottom line is you're lying to her and she can see through your bullshit. If you think she's overweight, own that. Don't tip toe around your real feelings as if it's going to make you or her feel better. You're lying to yourself…
/r/askMRP22/10/15 03:03 PM
5

Does your toaster still work when Seinfeld isn't on? The red pill is for you, not for her. You are working to change yourself, to improve yourself. TRP wont make her less depressed, won't remove excuses for not providing XYZ, but what it will do is help you improve yourself, put your needs first and possibly get her to jump on board with you. The deeper you go in this, the more you're going to realize what YOU need, her depression or "insert other excuse for why I cant XYZ" here won't matter, th…
/r/askMRP21/10/15 07:50 PM
1

“Strike me down, and I will become more powerful than you could possibly imagine.” God, if only she would get this reference lol
/r/askMRP21/10/15 01:31 PM
2

Nothing, period. Calling her back begging for forgiveness over a stupid joke you made isn't maintaining your frame, it's entering hers. Apologize for nothing, let her hamster run for a bit and wait for her to contact you, you'll be surprised how a little time will clear up her little fit.
/r/askMRP21/10/15 01:30 PM
1

That's exactly the quote I had in mind
/r/askMRP20/10/15 06:42 PM
1

Based on my situation and how badly it went, I'd tend to lead to "she took what she could get." Her sexual denial was replaced by drunken desire, which to me is a sign that she would have taken anyone but chose you since you were there. Then again I'm generally a bit of a pessimist.
/r/askMRP20/10/15 06:41 PM
1

See my previous post. Clue app.
/r/askMRP20/10/15 12:08 PM
1

Wasn't aware of this. Here come the star wars quotes
/r/askMRP20/10/15 12:07 PM
1

That's what I installed, the "PMS is coming soon" notification alone was worth a laugh and an install
/r/askMRP19/10/15 03:22 PM
1

I'm all for it, but she's disgusted by it (even tried in the shower a year or so back, she nearly puked). The good news is that her period is generally guaranteed blowjob week.
/r/askMRP19/10/15 03:21 PM
1

If she's on BC she has a period, just may not be regular. Download the app, as soon as she starts, track it. The more you do it the better you'll get at recognizing the changes and while it may not be exact, you should at least be able to predict roughly when shell start, even on bc
/r/askMRP18/10/15 04:37 PM
1

Is it OK to divorce? Sure. Is it reasonable to expect excitement from a new girl when you've been getting nothing from your wife? Sure. My question to you is this, what makes you think swinging to another branch is going to prevent this from happening again? Do you really believe you'll find your snowflake, make no changes to yourself and that you'll never find yourself in this spot again? My money is on the following, since I've been exactly where you are: fucks new girl for a bit, she sees his…
/r/askMRP17/10/15 03:21 AM
4

This is one of those things that I continuously have to remind myself of. Top comment was indeed sobering but necessary.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/15 03:03 AM
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Clear cut case of tingles, and she's feelin guilty as hell about having em it sounds like. I could be missin something here but it seems a bit off
/r/askMRP16/10/15 02:52 AM
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You've now given her hamster until 9pm to come up with 1000 reasons why you aren't going to get sex tonight. You can try, but you're more than likely going to get a no, and then a hard now depending on how you handle it. What's your plan for 9pm when you get shut down again? What are you going to do when you get that hard no? Sidebar, lift, STFU, repeat. Over and over. Once you've gotten through MMSL, then you'll have a better game plan for yourself and how you're going to get the sex you want w…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/15 03:24 PM
2

That's basically what I've been gathering from all of this, I need to focus a bit more on STFU. For whatever reason I started talking more the past week or so, about shit that doesn't need to be talked about.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/15 07:43 PM
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Throwaway to me means you're afraid to own your shit and simply want to puke everywhere, only to create a real account when you finally decide to man the fuck up. I say this, because it's exactly what the fuck I did. Came in here, puked all over, got my shit kicked in by the captains, and decided to make a real account where I controlled myself.
/r/askMRP13/10/15 02:52 PM
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I've also got to start initiating and fucking her in places other than the bedroom. Our sex life bores me sometimes. I'm right there with you. My wife has been all over me lately and the sex has been great, but I'm already getting bored with the new stuff were doing because it's always in the bedroom so wandering kids don't stumble in on us. Sometimes I find it more entertaining to grab her up in the kitchen, throw her up on the counter and fuck her crazy right there.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/15 02:47 PM
3

Frame is set, and having a very positive effect on interactions with my wife and other people, including in the office. I've been able to identify and pass the few shit tests I'm getting with flying colors. Seeing real results after a month of lifting, right now it's mostly beginner gains but my body is seriously responding. Diet is good, body is changing, wife is responding to my new found activities, dedication and attitude. The one thing that I'm seeing in myself lately, as my head is inflati…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/15 02:41 PM
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If you want to get anywhere in this process, you need to do two things. One, get rid of the fucking throwaway and make a legit account, quit hiding. Two, stop posting every single day, spend your time lurking and absorbing what you see. You will find very quickly that when you stop seeking validation from this community that you will learn to validate yourself, that you don't need anyone to rub your back and tell you what a good boy you're being. The more of the sidebar you read, the more you br…
/r/askMRP13/10/15 02:31 PM
1

slow clap I swear your replies get better every week. Can't even reply after this
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/15 01:18 PM
1

While you're looking for the cliff notes, you might also browse around on amazon for a hamster cage so you can just lock him up and never have to actually deal with him. Smh...
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/15 05:43 PM
1

Sounds like you need to go full on monk mode until you've got your confidence up, and until you're making some improvements physically. The biggest thing here after reading your comments is that you need to distance yourself, and stop worrying about whether or not what you're doing is making her happy. Her happiness is not your problem or your concern, your happiness is. Focus on self improvement, sidebar and lifting. And for god sakes, hit up Dave Ramsey or whatever you need to do to get out of…
/r/askMRP09/10/15 04:57 PM
1

Go to the MRP sidebar and read the 12 stages of dread, it will guide you through exactly how and when to implement the things you're learning. I would follow it and be conscious of where you are in the steps at all times, don't start spinning plates and going nuclear until you're ready and you've changed your mindset. The thing you'll hear over and over is that it's going to take at least 1 months for every 1 year that you've been married. If you dive in and swallow the pill for 2 weeks, then ca…
/r/askMRP09/10/15 04:50 PM
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It's not a problem unless it becomes a problem. If you want to watch porn, watch porn. If you want to jack off, jack off. There are only two real reasons not to watch porn: 1, it becomes a replacement for your wife and you either turn her down for sex or become disinterested in it and 2, you are doing it compulsively, as in all the time, for no real reason. In my case, I could watch porn while my wife is in the shower, then take her to bed and go to town (although it does mean it's gonna take tw…
/r/askMRP09/10/15 04:45 PM
1

Shit, get a hotel room if it's not going to break the bank (unless she's doing this nightly). That oughta make for some interesting dread when she checks the bank account.
/r/askMRP05/10/15 07:37 PM
1

Touche
/r/askMRP05/10/15 07:34 PM
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NMMNG, MMSL, WISNIFG. Download em on kindle, you can breeze thru em real quick. MMSL seems like where you need to be, you seem like your regurgitating things you've seen in comments without actually reading the logic behind them from the sidebar. MMSL can be finished in a matter of days if you just make time to read for an hour or two throughout the day.
/r/askMRP03/10/15 02:50 AM
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"when you listen to me it makes me feel cared for." And i replied, "when you suck my dick it makes me feel cared for." Sidebar dude.... fucking sidebar...
/r/askMRP03/10/15 02:47 AM
2

I can't lie, the more I've read, the more I find myself chuckling in the middle of conversations where in the past I would have entered her frame, for whatever reason I can't help but laugh at the hamster as I now know what he's up to
/r/askMRP30/09/15 02:28 PM
2

Not sure what the mods here are capable of, but reworking the design/layout of the sub to bring attention to the "New to MRP?" portion of the sidebar might help reduce things. I know I came in and victim puked all over the place when I first got here, had no idea AskMRP even existed until someone mentioned it in a comment.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/15 02:24 PM
0

The answer, regardless of all of your variations would be a resounding yes, except for the last, as I would never pass on anything to do with my children in any way for anyone.
/r/askMRP30/09/15 02:19 PM
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At the very least, wait for her to be in the house before you start entering her frame... jesus. This. Gonna go walk this off. Holy shit funny
/r/askMRP29/09/15 06:39 PM
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You can't stop her from cheating Keep telling yourself this. A woman that wants to cheat, is going to cheat. You being paranoid, untrusting, scared, harassing, isn't going to stop her. In fact, if that's really on her mind, all of that is going to give her more reason to go for it. The only thing you can control is yourself, so control yourself and do you.
/r/askMRP29/09/15 06:08 PM
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I'm inclined to think that if you have an issue, bring it up there and then, not 16 hours after the fact. If you're dealing with a man, I'd have to agree with you. But instead, you're dealing with a woman, and you know this isn't how it works. The hamster needs time to get her worked up about a number of things before she brings up her issue(s)
/r/askMRP29/09/15 02:03 PM
2

No no, telling a woman what his needs are "is beneath him." God forbid he have the balls to tell his woman that his sexual needs aren't being met.
/r/askMRP29/09/15 01:49 PM
2

Life is not only about sex. Am I the only one who noticed that he prefaced the entire story by saying how unimportant sex is, and then continued on to explain how lack of sex is what ended his relationship?
/r/askMRP29/09/15 01:44 PM
1

The best part?.... "why are you here?"
/r/askMRP26/09/15 12:25 AM
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Try picking up something heavy and putting it down a bunch of times This really needs to be a slogan for Golds Gym
/r/askMRP25/09/15 02:48 PM
1

Clearly you read the material
/r/askMRP25/09/15 02:46 PM
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For the love of god please get NMMNG on Audible immediately, it will be a tremendous help. Followed immediately if not at the same time by MMSL. You'll find that your mindset will change almost immediately as these books expose all of the dumb shit you've tried to do to get her affection and how it's actually prohibited you from getting what you're wanting.
/r/askMRP25/09/15 12:30 PM
1

I haven't yet been presented with this situation since I got fully immersed into RP, but I've been aware that it's coming. I get off and say "this isn't working for me" I fully expect to get a shit storm.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/15 03:34 PM
3

Sounds like a very major lack of backbone and dedication to marriage in you. Take some time to read through the sidebar, especially NMMNG and MMSL, they may very well help you identify things that can change in YOU that will have a positive effect on both your marriage and your relationship with your wife. She is 5 months pregnant, that means you have at most 4 months to own your shit and improve yourself before you even need to consider getting a divorce. You've reached Phase 4/5 without bother…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/15 02:14 PM
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This is my next step, while the sex isn't frequent it does happen maybe once a week, it's just not any freakin good. Been lookin for something along these lines on how to handle her responses to stopping, thus far the "making sure I don't come off butt hurt" part is the biggest factor. So you just straight up got up, said "this isn't doing it for me" and it was left at that?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/15 01:41 PM
1

To poorly quote the great Jim Jefferies, we do it because "we know you hate it." That, mixed with the fact that it's generally forbidden territory mixed with an over abundance of anal in porn, how could you not want to give it a shot?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/15 07:21 PM
1

Wanted to post a link, not sure if I can... so just get on Youtube and search "slow clap." Good shit here
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/15 06:25 PM
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Girls love a guy that plays an instrument, guitar especially. If you've already got some skill you have an advantage over a lot of guys, pick that shit back up and start gigging at some bars, guitar/singing is fucking gold getting a girl's interest (whether it's your wife or some girl down the line). Nobody croons over a dude who's balls deep in video games all the time, I've learned that the hard way.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/15 03:41 PM
1

For the same reason I stuck around after she cheated, pure fucking weakness. Was wrapped in "I can't lose her" "She's the one I want" "I need to do whatever I can to keep her" bullshit. That's why I'm here.
/r/askMRP22/09/15 04:47 PM
1

Couldn't agree with you more, but that doesn't change that that's how I've been handling shit in the past unfortunately.
/r/askMRP22/09/15 04:45 PM
1

I'm through NMMNG (1st read) and hoping to finish MMSL today. WISNIFG is next on my list.
/r/askMRP22/09/15 04:11 PM
1

Not sure how the 180 is regarded here, but I found this quite relevant "Do not believe any of what you hear them say and less than 50% of what you see"
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/15 03:57 PM
1

sex won't be good and you should wait to initiate until you are in a better frame of mind. I'm starting to lean more towards this direction. I've been focused a lot lately on how "sex isn't good enough" for both of us, and putting it on me that it isn't passionate or intense. The more I'm reading, the more I'm starting to identify exactly why things have been so damn dull.
/r/askMRP22/09/15 03:47 PM
2

Speaking solely to your points about finances and moving to this country, I have several Indian friends who have moved here and done well. One in particular was a psychologist in India, moved here and worked for me years back detailing cars, as his degree was useless in the States. He ended up moving back to India 2 years ago and is absolutely prospering, even met a girl from what I have seen (he lost his virginity while living here, though had a VERY difficult time getting into LTR for some rea…
/r/askMRP22/09/15 03:44 PM
1

If only we could somehow get an icon of Shaggy/It Wasn't Me
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/15 03:26 PM
1

CTRL + SHIFT + N should have been more than enough, in your case since you say she introduced you to reddit, a "throwaway" might have been a good idea to use for a RP related shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/15 03:25 PM
1

From the sound of things he'd be too worried that the gun would get upset with him somehow.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/15 03:21 PM
1

I found it.
/r/askMRP22/09/15 03:20 PM
1

At this point, if she's not fighting tooth and nail to keep you after her fuck up, then you need to impart that reality in her. It's this right here that has gotten me fully immersed into RP. My realization that she's not even remotely trying to keep me after what she did (especially after the sidebar reading I've done thus far) has told me that I've dropped just about any reason for her to be attracted or nervous at this point. She hasn't had a reason to think I'm on the verge of out the door, …
/r/askMRP22/09/15 03:19 PM
1

I found a torrent of Sex God yesterday after some lurking I did and something I was reading in MMSL, haven't started it yet as I want to knock out MMSL first. I generally don't focus on her orgasm, and wasn't in that particular case either, it just happened to stick out to me that she did after the fact, as I can't say I've ever noticed it seeming so fake in 7 years.
/r/askMRP22/09/15 03:17 PM
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This forum, NMMNG and MMSL alone have given me more to work on and think about in a weeks time than I've done in years. How in the fuck is it possible for this to be a real thread a year later?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/15 03:01 PM
1

"Jenny, in case you're reading this, I'm sorry!" Can it be officially changed to this?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/15 02:44 PM
1

Don't seek validation from you wife. Don't seek validation from us. This. I almost want to glue this to my damn keyboard.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/15 02:42 PM
1

This is solid gold. Printed it, taking note.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/15 02:38 PM
1

Nevermind. I found it, and printed it. Differences understood.
/r/askMRP22/09/15 02:36 PM
1

52 year old man pay from yesterday... He's so textbook, I almost want to call it fake, I e want to hang that example in my wall. Read it, come back and see if you spot the differences between you I feel like I'm missing your point here??
/r/askMRP22/09/15 02:25 PM
1

A couple times in the past few weeks I've gotten up in the middle of bad sex and told her straight up that if she was gonna be a cold fish then I wasn't willing to do it. But most of the time I've just accepted that all I'm gonna get is bad sex, finish up and go about my day (I finish her too, but not when I'm getting "get the f off me vibes"). The more I'm reading the MMSL the more I'm finding that I've been creating my own problems, despite her infidelity. And to answer your question no, I hav…
/r/askMRP22/09/15 02:24 PM
1

I can't say I disagree. I've been changing things up (mostly when kids are asleep) and being dominant just not all the time, grabbing her and taking her in random spots in the house (took her on the dining room floor, kitchen counter, bent over living room couch in the past couple of weeks) and she responds to it well. She is 1000% done with me approaching her at night in the bed, and if she gives in when I do it's always bored/missionary shit.
/r/askMRP22/09/15 02:14 PM
1

I do this just about every other day, if not everyday. She gets angry when I attempt to bed her, doesn't generally matter which way I approach her. Half the time I initiate verbally in some way, the rest I generally grab her up without a word and initiate. Our problem has been two fold, she denies and complains that all I ever want is sex, or she gives in and the sex is basically me accepting bad sex. The only time I get interest from her and good sex is when we're drunk, and that hasn't been ha…
/r/askMRP22/09/15 01:48 PM
1

This. If one thing has been made clear to me since coming here, its that I seek validation from everyone but myself.
/r/askMRP22/09/15 01:31 PM
1

Clearly, I've got more work to do.
/r/askMRP22/09/15 01:29 PM
1

From what I've gathered, all she needs to know is "I'm working on me" and that alone is enough. Can't help but think anything further would either make her think you're doing it for her or that she'll see you making changes and react differently because she knows you've been reading xyz.
/r/askMRP21/09/15 10:33 PM
1

If nothing else TRP or at least MMSL should be the default wedding present for any buddies you know taking the plunge
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/15 06:30 PM
1

Would tend to agree with the "dick move" portion of this to a point, especially with the storm of "I haven't been able to hang out with person XY&Z in weeks and havent had a day off in 8 days." Advice moving forward seeing as how I already went through with all of this? Apologize for dick move?
/r/askMRP21/09/15 06:23 PM
1

I get you, woke up this morning feeling like I MAJORLY dropped the ball and responded the way I would have in the past. Reminded me of comments she made about her OM, dude ignored her completely when she did shit like that and all she did was chase him more. Felt like a bit of an idiot.
/r/askMRP21/09/15 04:45 PM
1

Kind of a "why the hell would he stay with me after what I did to him" kind of thing. How can a woman respect a man who allows her to trample all over him and sticks around after it?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/15 03:01 PM
1

What would you say to someone with no religious motivation? I've been getting myself prepared for the fact that while I currently feel that I want to stay and save my marriage despite her cheating, that my RP journey is going to lead me to a place where I next her solely to regain my self respect (I'm realizing already that she does not respect me in anyway, and feel like staying, regardless of whether I fix my problems will only further that lack of respect).
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/15 02:59 PM
1

Worked out better than I expected, but I was almost immediately presented with a shit test the moment I got to the bar. She got on my laptop to play some games with her brother and law, and of course, saw that I cleared my history (didn't want her seeing anything MRP/TRP related), so I had ended up explaining that "I'm working on me, reading some things to help improve myself, didn't want you to see it." Feel like I not only answered too quick, should have ignored it completely, but that I may h…
/r/askMRP21/09/15 02:40 PM
3

So I ended up going. Sat down before the kids went to bed and got my work done so I had no more bs reasons to convince myself I didn't want to go. Kept trying to look at it as "I'm doing what I wan't to do, if she doesn't like it she can deal" but kept telling myself I was going to cause problems by going. Turns out, doing what I wanted to do caused a couple of shit tests, which I apparently passed, and she's at home being nice as fuck, not throwing a fit.
/r/askMRP21/09/15 02:56 AM
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