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He's taking his own personal opinions and applying them to all women. Haha. There is not a scrap of evidence in this entire thread. There is barely a debate here. It's just: "men get uglier as they get older too!"; "yeah but they get richer and smarter and that makes them more attractive!"; "women get richer and smarter too!; "men don't care about that nearly as much, if at all!"; "I am a man/woman and I do/don't care about that, so therefore your generalization is wrong!" My post tried to find …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/15 12:10 AM
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Well you had second-wave feminism and female "sexual liberation" in the 1960s and 70s. So for the "modern American era," this is pretty much when our "Leave it To Beaver/I Love Lucy" family norms started fraying. Is everyone on TRP actually yearning for a return to the 1950s? Nah. But there is a criticism of second- and third-feminism for promoting societal changes and acting ignorant of some of the consequences. For two quick examples: "Women should go to college, have high-powered careers, and…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/15 01:22 AM
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Oh for fuck's sake. Go Google "George Clooney golden girls," and view the images. I'll wait. At a minimum, they're worth a laugh. Done? OK. So I'll even concede if you ditched the bad 80s haircut, Occasional-Sitcom-Guest-Star George Clooney would be more "physically hot" than A-List Actor George Clooney. But A-List Actor George Clooney is... an A-List Actor. He is more successful, intelligent, wealthier, and charismatic than his 1980s counterpart. Before he got married last year, I'm sure he was…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/15 12:52 AM
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The reason I am even asking this is because people on here don't seem to think having a high SMV means actually having sex with a lot of different women but rather being some well read philosopher with a nice salary and the freedom to travel the world (which I respect!). No, people on here are saying that SMV is not causal to "number of times you've gotten laid." Obviously, there's a correlation. But "man, I learned all these PUA routines, I'm hooking up with a bunch of girls, my SMV is off the …
/r/TheRedPill24/01/15 12:45 AM
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I had a similar problem back in the day, and this is what I'd do to mitigate it. If you are going out for drinks, go to a place that has a seating arrangement where you're sitting next to each other, not across. For example, sit at a booth with a rounded back seat, or sit a small circular bar table where you're at one end and she's to your left or right (not across). Find something to show her on your phone. I have a dog (a pretty fucking adorable pug), so that's what I'll use personally. I'll s…
/r/seduction22/11/14 10:20 PM
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A couple suggestions... A lot of people will probably chime in and say "don't overthink it, it's just like conversation with anyone else." They will be right. Everything else I'm about to suggest is less important than this point. Be prepared with good "identity statements." She will probably ask you questions about yourself. When you answer, even if it's a mundane question, be descriptive. If she says, "what's your favorite food?" don't just say "pizza." Say "Pizza, although only if it's from N…
/r/seduction30/09/14 11:25 PM
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Any relationship is going to have elements of all three dimensions. Clearly I don't think every LTR consists of either banging the girl or buying her shit. Well, maybe it's not so clear, if you're making a comment like that. My intent was to show there was a Boyfriend "zone," that consisted of mostly Lover and Provider traits. There is still some Companion behavior. An extreme Lover/Provider relationship with no Companion behavior would literally be a sugar daddy/baby arrangement. With that said…
/r/seduction30/09/14 09:50 PM
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It sounds like they're saying, "I'm get more attracted to generous men that I'm already sexually attracted to." I don't think this is even that inconsistent. In other words, if you are already a Lover, you can increase attraction through Provider behavior. And if you do want an LTR, this is probably what you'll want to do eventually. I don't think it's particularly "TRP" to say that most women would say they want to marry a Lover/Provider combination. All I'm really saying is that it's extremely…
/r/seduction30/09/14 09:37 PM
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Hey Seddit, I'm Trent Van James, a contributor writer to Josh Sway's site. I put together a theory called "The Attraction Triangle" that I think is a better model for female attraction, as opposed to what we typically call the "Friend Zone." I also think it's more 'prescriptive,' in that it gives clearer guidance in how to avoid being 'friend zoned' Would love any thoughts or feedback. Enjoy, TVJ
/r/seduction30/09/14 06:37 PM
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You're probably still coming across as "boyfriend material" to these girls. They want an LTR, and something about your actions or words are saying, "I'm open to an LTR with you." This is why you feel bad. You know they are doing these things because they want exclusivity, so feel like you're selling them a false bill of goods. You can probably solve this by adding some 'distance' to your interactions. Sure, it helps to explicitly say "I'm not looking for anything serious right now," but basicall…
/r/seduction21/09/14 07:35 AM
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You're terrible with names. I'm terrible with names. Everyone is terrible with names. Since I'm incredibly qualified to talk about this because of my psychology minor degree in undergrad, this is because the cerebral cortex controls BOTH things like memory AND perceptual awareness and language. So when you meet someone new, your cerebral cortex kicks into overdrive because you're thinking about making eye contact, having a good handshake, making sure you say "nice to meet you," etc. While your c…
/r/seduction11/07/14 01:39 AM
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I don't like the phrase "scaring them off," but I do think these principles apply: In night game, women are typically seeking stimulus. That's why they went out to the bar or club or party -- they are looking and open to receiving said stimulus. Most daygame scenarios, the women are already stimulated. They are reading a book on the subway, or working out at the gym, or whatever. If you're too aggressive in day game, you may get shot down simply because she's upset at you interrupting her stimul…
/r/seduction11/07/14 01:01 AM
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Your advice may have some theoretical basis, but in practice guys have the opposite problem. If things are going smoothly, they don't escalate nearly as often as they should. Your advice could easily be twisted into a psychological cop-out. "Well I shouldn't be escalating now anyway, d8_thc said I will look like I DON'T NEED SEX TONIGHT NOW and that's fucking hot." And then on the second date... "Well I shouldn't be escalating now anyway, d8_thc said I will look like I DON'T NEED SEX TONIGHT NOW…
/r/seduction08/05/14 04:52 PM
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It's probably the expression of confidence, not the actual confidence, that has regional differences in how it's perceived. Say you have a good career and make a high salary. In the northeast, I've found it's basically fine to discuss your paycheck directly. "Yeah, I like my job. Got a raise last year and now I clear six figures, so I'm pretty happy there." In the south, that might be considered bad 'etiquette.' So you want to say something like. "Yeah, I like my job. Got a roof over my head and…
/r/seduction14/03/14 08:12 PM
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Hey guys -- I'm Trent Van James, and I just joined the staff at JoshSway.com. My first two articles were about why it's almost never worth it to play 'The Long Game' (https://www.joshsway.com/articles/view/dont-play-the-long-game), and the few exceptions for when it's okay. Would love any feedback or questions you guys have. You may have noticed me lurking around here before and commenting with advice to other guys' questions, so I'm all the more excited to be able to have a platform at JoshSway…
/r/seduction11/03/14 06:29 PM
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You used the word "woman" in your question, which implies that she's older than a high school or college age. If she has a good career, various friends/hobbies, etc, then her response could literally just be a logistical one. If you asked her out to a drink on a Thursday evening, for example, she may need to check she doesn't have some sort of work deadline on Friday. As most of the advice here has already indicated, there's really not much you can say that will make a difference. She'll either …
/r/seduction10/03/14 04:03 PM
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Try the "open-ended comment.' If you're next to a cute girl in the elevator or lunch line or something, just make some sort of amusing comment or question loud enough to hear. A couple examples: [if you're outside] "Jesus, it's hotter than Zeus' nutsack today." [if you're near some guy wearing shorts] "That guy has a very liberal definition of 'business casual.' " [if you're walking down the same hallway] "Well, time for my 19th meeting of the day." I'm sure you could think of better ones if you…
/r/seduction10/01/14 09:45 AM
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I think the only things that will limit you are logistical. Such as: Does she turn 21 soon? Does she go to bars? Does she go to college? Are you still in high school? Does this mean your schedules will be incompatible? (e.g. she wants to hang out on Thursday because she has no classes on Friday). If you act cool and mature (which you obviously have so far), then you don't need to worry about 'presenting yourself in an adult fashion.' You just need to minimize any time a logistical limitation wou…
/r/seduction10/01/14 09:19 AM
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If you're anything like how I used to be, the problem is your enthusiasm causes you to "disconnect" from reading non-verbal cues. This is actually a common psychological phenomenon. For some people, activating verbal functions in your brain causes you to "shut down" non-verbal functions. There's a whole theory about introverts basically just being people who have to 'work' at processing both verbal and non-verbal functions at the same time. So going to a party where they don't know many people s…
/r/seduction03/01/14 10:02 AM
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Your question doesn't make a lot of sense. The reason why a lot of PUA advice emphasizes that you don't have to be an asshole is because it is not necessary. It's not out of some misguided chivalry. AFCs often ask, "why is it that guys like assholes get laid?" And the PUA response explains that the asshole behavior is driven by things like expressing confidence and emanating scarcity. But those things are completely orthogonal to 'being an asshole.' You can be a confident alpha male and be an as…
/r/seduction22/12/13 08:18 AM
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Is her friend a guy? If so, reschedule. Last thing you need is some dude AMOGing you. If her friend is a girl, I'd say you could still try and make this work. I'm going to assume you're in the 21-24 age range and the girl is the same, since you said you were at a bar. Your scenario often happens when you make plans on a Saturday night, because girls in their early 20s have active social lives. I'm sure her friend asked her what she was doing, she said, "Well I'm supposed to meet up with some guy…
/r/seduction21/12/13 10:03 PM
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If you can get a 20% conversion rate on $1,000 products, I have no idea why you're not doing that right now instead of arguing with me on Reddit.
/r/seduction21/12/13 08:54 PM
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I've also worked in internet marketing, and there's no way your math makes any sense. It's incredibly rare that any action has a conversion rate of 5%, let alone one that requires purchasing a $47 product. That's not conservative at all! You only see a 5% conversion rate for marketing emails saying "hey guys download this cool app for $0.99." Let's put it this way: if Groupon thought a 5% conversion rate on purchases from an email was "conservative," their stock wouldn't be in gutter. I'd say it…
/r/seduction21/12/13 06:49 PM
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That's an interesting point, but I don't think having similar preferences is a bad thing. In my experience girls generally group up with friends that are similar to them anyway (hence why they're friends). So having different preferences from your wingman may mean less "conflict," but less opportunities for you to approach girls that you'd both be interested in. Also I agree choosing your wingman wisely is key, but I think the most important part is trust and friendship. The best wingman is some…
/r/seduction08/11/13 06:51 PM
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What do you advise for those who just awkward with physical contact in general? One thing I dread is seeing a female acquaintance for the 2nd through 5th times (e.g. a co-worker's wife). If she gives everyone else a hug, then I feel like an idiot if I just offer to shake her hand like we just met. Somehow I usually end up doing one of those platonic half-assed hugs. I imagine being more comfortable with sharing physical space even in platonic situations would make it easier to 'diversify game.' …
/r/seduction22/09/13 07:09 PM
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Josh -- a lot of your post talks about 'change.' Are you essentially saying, "if the girl is attracted to you, she'll modify her own behavior to be more attractive to you?"
/r/seduction22/09/13 06:37 PM
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