Everything You Know About the Friend Zone is WRONG

bestyoloqueuer · 2014-09-30T19:01:16+00:00

Sounds like a click-bait title to me and also a title that sounds arrogant and can be offensive to many.

The information didn't live up to the title at all. All already thousand times blabbered information.

And the debate about whether friend-zone exists or not is also quite ridiculous since both sides seem to talk about different 'friend-zones'.

'Friend-zone' exists because there are situations where one side only wants to be friends and the other one wants more than that. It can happen to either women or men.

And also what is that everything one knows that is wrong? You never talked about that at all.

But it's just annoying click-bait journalism with a journalist repeating thousand times mentioned information so why do I even bother wasting time commenting.

Chadxman · 2014-10-01T01:34:38+00:00

Good lord, some of these comments are so STUPID.

Okay so in one corner we have women looking to you as a FATHER FIGURE because you provide for them.

In another corner we have women looking to you as a COMPANION because you show more signs of a friend who wants to hangout and and help each other.

In the last corner we have women looking to you as a sexual LOVER and doing cute lovey dovey things with.

All of these corners are interconnected, some corners just have higher levels than others. It's sort of like a pie chart in terms of which one you are, one might have a higher percentage than the other making you _____.

If you cannot follow this, then relationships with people probably are not your strong point.

aerondayne · 2014-09-30T21:33:23+00:00

When I saw that boyfriend was in the opposite corner from companion, this article lost credibility to me.

Boredfool · 2014-10-01T00:35:59+00:00

my god I'm a provider, i need to stop that, most of my relationships didn't have a good father/male figure growing up. and they all ended pretty badly, with me getting dumped.

TrentVanJames · 2014-09-30T18:37:09+00:00

Hey Seddit,

I'm Trent Van James, a contributor writer to Josh Sway's site.

I put together a theory called "The Attraction Triangle" that I think is a better model for female attraction, as opposed to what we typically call the "Friend Zone."

I also think it's more 'prescriptive,' in that it gives clearer guidance in how to avoid being 'friend zoned'

Would love any thoughts or feedback.

Enjoy,

TVJ

n0ss3 · 2014-10-01T11:56:32+00:00

reminds me of the hot crazy matrix

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hKWmFWRVLlU

user1F · 2014-10-02T02:51:06+00:00

This article is flawed from its basic premise up. If you try to enter every relationship thinking that a girl is looking for a provider you are going to get into a lot of bad situations. This is clearly a sexist assumption that removes any credibility.

transintraining · 2014-09-30T20:02:33+00:00

I'm friends with all but 2 ex's. I lived with one for 6 months within a year of us breaking up and watched her fall in love with her boyfriend. When she moved out from me, she moved in with them and all i found was joy for her.

Just refuting one of your points.

foxanon · 2014-09-30T19:36:17+00:00

I liked the read. I agree with the triangle of attraction as well. I started off as a lover with this girl I've been hanging out with and have been showing some provider traits as well. Last weekend we spent the night together twice and went to brunch twice as well. Had a great time all around.

pizzapiemia · 2014-09-30T20:58:41+00:00

great read

yummyluckycharms · 2014-09-30T23:38:02+00:00

Its not bad until it hits points 4 and 5 which are patently wrong. Also, the provider corner has just father, but I would add mentor to it

Providers very often become lovers - its called sugar daddy relationships or any other relationship that has an imbalance of power in it. Many women I play with like the fact that I can offer them advice, maturity that they can't get with guys their own age. I'm not their daddy but I do mentor them. Better known examples of this can be found with professors, famous artists, etc and their pupils.

Friends with ex.....again very common. You start off as lovers, then become friends and you can stay there in that corner as long as you're ploughing through other women. In fact, if you date a lot of women, just by numbers alone, you will have many exes that are good friends. What happens to some guys though is that they get fixated on that one woman.

WizTroll · 2014-10-01T02:31:35+00:00

Very nice. The diagram kept my mind on everything you were alluding to.

iraqibukkake · 2014-10-01T11:38:55+00:00

This article doesn't even say anything. It just arbitrarily lumps relationship types into categories.

KINGCOCO · 2014-10-01T01:54:49+00:00

I find this post to be pretty offensive to woman, especially the part about woman who grew up without a positive male role model. And a co-worker does not make a woman your companion. Really though, I find this post to be offensive to science. I mean this type of stuff might be the softest science there is, but your theory seems to be based completely on 2-3 personal experiences. Congrats on hooking up with your co-worker though.

Title	Everything You Know About the Friend Zone is WRONG
Author	TrentVanJames
Upvotes	259
Comments	60
Date	September 30, 2014 6:37 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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