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| 2 | Asking a girl to tutor meNah be honest with your intentions | /r/seduction | 12/07/24 03:14 PM |
| 3 | How do you get over just feeling super awkward if you go out by yourself? Especially if you don't have friends and aren't super talkative?Are you into basketball? Now would be a great time to go sit at the bar and talk to people. If nothing else, just go watch the game and hang out. However, also be aware that drinking is going to directly conflict with your weight loss. They can coexist but it’s also very easy to drink your calories. If that’s important to you, I’d advise you to be very mindful of that and keep your other meals very light to make up for it. One more thing. I have no idea what your body composition is, but it does… | /r/seduction | 03/06/24 02:53 PM |
| 8 | How do you get over just feeling super awkward if you go out by yourself? Especially if you don't have friends and aren't super talkative?I like how you dropped the expectation of talking to people initially. This is what got me started doing things on my own. I let go of the idea that the only goal was to socialize and talk to people. I told myself the goal was to show up. Anything else is a cherry on top. | /r/seduction | 03/06/24 02:46 PM |
| 7 | Is it over for me or is there any hope left for meIt’s never over man. You won’t be every girls cup of tea regardless of what you do. Nobody is. Control what you can (your fitness, proper grooming, confidence, etc.) and go from there. | /r/seduction | 31/05/24 03:12 PM |
| 0 | Using your friend zone to your advantage!Yeah for sure | /r/seduction | 24/05/24 07:55 PM |
| 21 | Using your friend zone to your advantage!That’s kinda the vibe I got from your post. That piece of nuance was more for the other repliers who will use people however necessary just to get some ass lmao | /r/seduction | 23/05/24 07:41 PM |
| 116 | Exhausted from Dating..Maybe she ghosted you, maybe she didn’t. That has nothing to do with your worth as a man. In my opinion, a good person would at least send a quick text back letting you know they aren’t interested in pursuing this anymore. You should only want a relationship with good people. If it’s stressing you out, take a break man. There’s no rule that says you always have to be dating. I found dating much easier this time around because I’m happy just being by myself. It takes the pressure off of dating an… | /r/seduction | 23/05/24 07:34 PM |
| 0 | areas for improvement: talking with tinder matchesMy man you’ve got some work to do but it’s okay most of us have been there. It’s hard for me to tell you what you should’ve said instead because I only know one detail about her profile. Overall, id say to keep the combo light and fun. Guide it in a direction where you can mention getting to know each other in person. Ask for her number so that yall can set up the details. Boom. Off of Tinder with her. | /r/seduction | 23/05/24 06:47 PM |
| 139 | Using your friend zone to your advantage!I mean if you genuinely like being around this girl then fine. But don’t pretend to be somebody’s friend for the sake of using them. Hot girls know other hot girls. But if the only reason you hang with that girl is for what you think she can do for you, then you have no hope to begin with anyway | /r/seduction | 23/05/24 06:41 PM |
| 2 | Hype a short king up for a date with taller girlHave good posture and show off your confidence. It’s only weird when it’s clear you’re self conscious about it. Like others have said, she still chose to go on a date with you. Must not bother her. Plus, tall girls don’t get as much attention from guys for this reason. Climb that tree brother | /r/seduction | 23/05/24 06:38 PM |
| 2 | Girlfriend of six months this is what happened. What to do next?You can’t insult her and then blame her for not wanting to pick up a call and communicate. Good luck but it seems like yall have a lot to work through if both of yall even want that | /r/seduction | 02/05/24 03:32 PM |
| 1 | Met someone through Facebook marketplaceLol I’m sorry I didn’t have anything productive to say. I guess my best advice would be just to shoot her a message. It’s gonna be a little weird since it’s been a few weeks but what do you have to lose? As for what to say, maybe just a “hey, I bought this guitar from you awhile back and thought you were pretty. Let’s grab a drink sometime?” | /r/seduction | 26/04/24 08:58 PM |
| 3 | Met someone through Facebook marketplaceWere you using the old “wedding dresses for sale” trick? | /r/seduction | 26/04/24 08:51 PM |
| 1 | Living on a boat with a girlMaybe OP is the one being implicated 🤨 | /r/seduction | 26/04/24 05:59 PM |
| 3 | Living on a boat with a girlLmao it’s all about the implication | /r/seduction | 26/04/24 03:50 PM |
| 1 | Everything starts well and they just ghost meDo you live in a small town? If you live in even a mid-size city (or near one) your opportunities are more abundant than you even realize. | /r/seduction | 26/04/24 03:45 PM |
| 3 | Everything starts well and they just ghost meAhh not much you can do about that then! It happens man. Don’t chase just keep it moving. If you’re looking for a long term relationship, your goal isn’t just to find a girlfriend, but a great one. She did you a favor by removing herself from the running. | /r/seduction | 26/04/24 03:36 PM |
| 1 | Everything starts well and they just ghost meHow long are you going from date #1 to date #2? I try to keep it within 3 days to a week. Not always possible with schedules but you may be waiting too long. Also, take initiative to plan the second date. “Hey let’s go do ____. I’m free X night or Y night. Which one is best for you?” Don’t leave it up to her to provide the date idea and the day. If she’s interested but not free those days she will give another suggestion for when she’s free. | /r/seduction | 26/04/24 03:31 PM |
| 2 | Everything starts well and they just ghost meYeah I get that. Also, as things get more serious you can ramp up the communication between dates a tad. Remember that in the beginning, text communications purpose is to establish basic familiarity and then set a date. The purpose of the date is to get to know the person (and maybe more depending on what you’re looking for). | /r/seduction | 26/04/24 03:20 PM |
| 18 | Everything starts well and they just ghost meProbably has nothing to do with you man. Ask yourself though. Would I want somebody who can’t communicate their disinterest like an adult? I wouldn’t. Anytime I get ghosted, it’s just letting me know they weren’t a match for me anyway. With that being said, I don’t reach out much after setting the date. I’ll respond if they text me but other than that, I let the current convo die out naturally then I’ll just check in the day of the date with something like “looking forward to seeing you tonight” | /r/seduction | 26/04/24 03:11 PM |
| 2 | Getting jaded from so much rejectionIs this feeling persistent? Or does it fade pretty quickly? If it’s persistent I’d say you need to find happiness in your life alone before focusing on meeting women (this isn’t meant to sound rude and obviously I only know a very small amount about you). This has helped me deal with rejection, change in energy, etc. I’m genuinely busy with my hobbies and happy with my life so it’s just a shrug and on to the next one | /r/seduction | 26/04/24 03:05 PM |
| 1 | Beards and DatingI feel like it depends on yourself. My beard starts to look patchy if I let it get too long. I also don’t like the way I look with my face completely shaven. So I keep stubble instead. Whatever you feel confident with will translate to the most success | /r/seduction | 23/04/24 03:18 PM |
| 1 | Biggest differences between masculine and effeminate male personalities?Exactly. Just be who you are. I have the best success when I just let the date flow instead of constantly thinking “what can I say to get in this chicks pants” | /r/seduction | 23/04/24 12:54 PM |
| 79 | How do you get a woman to want to leave youLike her back. Women seem to hate that shit 💀 | /r/seduction | 22/04/24 06:47 PM |
| 2 | Throw yourself in imperfectlyHaha thank you. I agree reading is important. Progress is definitely capped though if you never do what you read about | /r/seduction | 20/04/24 11:32 AM |
| 2 | Feeling dumpy after work shift and really hot coworkerAre you sure your fucked up look isn’t a turn on to her? That shit makes some women purr | /r/seduction | 19/04/24 02:49 PM |
| 12 | I’m so alone (and horny)Exactly. It’s a “holy shit I can’t think of anything but sex” tool. Not just for when you’re bored | /r/seduction | 18/04/24 09:00 PM |
| 2 | Am i being too stingy?Just my opinion, I feel like that’s a terrible mindset to take into a serious relationship. If you genuinely think she might be taking advantage of you, then she’s not the one to be in a relationship with | /r/seduction | 18/04/24 02:17 PM |
| 17 | I’m so alone (and horny)Maybe my wording was a little too unclear when I said “take care of yourself” lol. Beat your meat bro. If you feel yourself desperate for sex, take care of it. Don’t overdo it and don’t watch porn (I used to be a porn addict). Just you and your thoughts. This also helped me overcome my porn addiction because I allowed myself release on my own terms instead of keeping it bottled up | /r/seduction | 18/04/24 02:16 PM |
| 3 | Am i being too stingy?Personally when I’m in a relationship, I don’t really pay attention to how things like that are being split. Every gf I’ve ever had has offered to pay for things, they buy groceries and cook for me (as I do for them). Focus less on “I pay for what’s mine, you pay for what’s yours” and focus more on “we both put in effort to take care of each other. Who cares if it’s 50/50 or I pay mine and she pays hers”. That’s just my take | /r/seduction | 18/04/24 02:02 PM |
| 64 | I’m so alone (and horny)You gotta overcome that inner feeling of desperation. Girls can smell that from a mile away. Play it cool and “take care of” yourself enough so that you’re not constantly on the edge. You want to be able to last for a bit when you get some success anyway. | /r/seduction | 18/04/24 01:38 PM |
| 5 | What are good and free activities or jobs you can do to expand social skills/circle and meet woman?Bunch of geezers on the meetup in my city too. I joined with the primary goal of making more male friends around my age (24). Was extremely disappointed lmao | /r/seduction | 18/04/24 01:28 PM |
| 1 | Any one ever use business cards?Full transparency, I’ve never tried it. My initial thought is if I give a girl my number in that capacity, I want her to know it’s personal, not business. | /r/seduction | 17/04/24 06:03 PM |
| 6 | How to stop being a "Nice Guy"? How to balance wanting to be fun and upbeat, without just being "platonic and boring"?I’d normally say get yourself back to baseline before putting yourself out there but you obviously don’t want to take forever with this girl and there’s really no downside to trying. Just go be yourself man. Leave the shitty parts of life behind and tell yourself the only goal is to go grab a coffee with a pretty girl. Maybe she becomes a romantic interest. Maybe a friend. Maybe neither. Who cares, just go buy a couple of coffees and have some laughs with her. I know it’s easier said than done b… | /r/seduction | 17/04/24 03:45 PM |
| 17 | How to tell if a girl is on her period before a dateYeah, you can ask her. I’d seriously advise against doing that though 😬 | /r/seduction | 17/04/24 03:09 PM |
| 5 | How to offer to go down on wemenOh absolutely. Seducing your significant other while yall are out is elite foreplay IMO | /r/seduction | 16/04/24 02:16 PM |
| 66 | How to offer to go down on wemenAre you talking about when you already have them in the bedroom? I think it’d be a terrible idea to ask a girl if you can go down on her while you’re at the bar | /r/seduction | 16/04/24 02:12 PM |
| 2 | Is it attention seeking move from a girl?I would invite her next time you do whatever it was that she joked about you not inviting her for. If she says no I wouldn’t even bother asking about her seeing somebody or the other excuses she gave. Whatever the reason is, she likely isn’t interested in you at that point. That’s okay, on to the next | /r/seduction | 15/04/24 07:51 PM |
| 3 | Is it attention seeking move from a girl?Obviously I only have so much context but this could be a case where she enjoyed the attention and when you took it away she missed it. Feel free to get details on that and pursue but I’d be cautious that maybe she just enjoys the attention | /r/seduction | 15/04/24 07:45 PM |
| 2 | Asking for the date alongside the IG?I agree with this. Point of contact is simply to lock in the date details. Her saying yes to a date should occur before asking for the contact info | /r/seduction | 15/04/24 07:04 PM |
| 2 | Throw yourself in imperfectlyThat’s really cool! I appreciate you being willing to share your insight | /r/seduction | 15/04/24 04:35 PM |
| -1 | An unanswerable question from a woman:I would just say something along the lines of “I dont think that amount of distance is a big deal if we find out we have a good connection”. I feel like that’s a question that should just be answered instead of danced around, personally. | /r/seduction | 15/04/24 04:31 PM |
| 1 | Expectancies and disappointmentI’d say to let those expectations go. Let the only expectation be that you’re gonna go out and have a good time. If you’re having a good time, people can tell. Your confidence to approach will be higher, and your success rate should be too | /r/seduction | 15/04/24 04:05 PM |
| 133 | help me understand why eye contact is such a big thingI think it’s just a display of confidence thing. You don’t have to stare intensely into their eyes the entire date. I try to soften my gaze a little bit and look slightly above the tip of their nose instead of directly into their eyes. In my experience this displays confidence without being terrifying lol | /r/seduction | 15/04/24 04:02 PM |
| 1 | Throw yourself in imperfectlyIn your experience, are there also a fair amount of people that are not the best at dancing? I think I’d feel more comfortable if I knew there would be others who also feel awkward and struggle a bit | /r/seduction | 15/04/24 03:42 PM |
| 21 | You are stranger who cold-approached her, that’s why she won’t go out with you on a date even if she seemed interested.Just to play devils advocate, what is the difference between this and setting up a date through a dating app? Even though a short conversation usually proceeds the date suggestion, I would still be a stranger at that point. | /r/seduction | 15/04/24 03:40 PM |
| 2 | Throw yourself in imperfectlyRespect to you! Dancing is one of those things I haven’t quite conquered my fear of looking dumb with. Working on it though because I’ve heard it’s an excellent way to meet fun women. | /r/seduction | 15/04/24 10:43 AM |
| 6 | girls think i am gay, but i'm straight and attracted to women. what to do about this?You do if you’re insecure about it. Game ain’t one size fits all homie | /r/seduction | 14/04/24 03:57 PM |
| 7 | girls think i am gay, but i'm straight and attracted to women. what to do about this?Is it possible to change your voice? At least without artificial hormone intake? I’m honestly not educated on how that works so I gave advice on the areas I do understand | /r/seduction | 14/04/24 03:54 PM |
| 4 | girls think i am gay, but i'm straight and attracted to women. what to do about this?Also your friends are your friends. I have LGBT friends too. Maybe don’t adopt so much of their vocab though. | /r/seduction | 14/04/24 03:38 PM |
| 58 | girls think i am gay, but i'm straight and attracted to women. what to do about this?Find new women. Once they see you as feminine, you won’t change their mind. Hit the gym hard. Lift with intensity 4-5 times per week and eat a lot of food (with an emphasis on protein consumption) to gain weight. I don’t care if you put on some fat, it will happen and it will be fine. You can fix that later. Finally change the way you dress. You don’t have to look like a blue-collar worker on his day off but make sure you give yourself a chance to be masculine. Ditch the art major vibe. Bonus po… | /r/seduction | 14/04/24 03:37 PM |
| 40 | Throw yourself in imperfectlySomething I’d encourage everybody to think of in every aspect of life is to let themselves be bad at things. Just because you’re bad at approaching women, or maybe a sport you want to try, doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do it. That’s the only way to get better. You will only improve so much by sitting in this Reddit sub all day reading. Go do it | /r/seduction | 14/04/24 03:26 PM |
| 2 | Game for solo travellingIf your goal is to get laid, then make that your goal. If your goal is to have a good time on your vacation, then make that your goal. I attended a hot yoga class, and yeah I had it on my mind there would be lots of women there. However, my goal was just to go and experience something new. Even when I fumbled and didn’t end up talking to a really pretty woman, I still had a good time because I remembered my goal. | /r/seduction | 14/04/24 12:48 PM |
| 1 | Im a 21 year old male. I am going out on my 21st w/ my squad to a party. I am ready to become a confident man. What’s a “seductive” look that will turn women on? I wear a lot of drip fits and it’s hard to tell if it is a turn on or a turn off. Also, what’s the most seductive hairstyle for men?If you wanna be seductive wear the hairstyle and outfit you feel most confident in. Then go out with your friends and have a blast. Girls love guys that are confident and having a good time. Then when you see a 10, make eye contact with her, smile, and approach if reciprocated | /r/seduction | 14/04/24 12:45 PM |
| 7 | What could be the cause ?With all due respect, I would guess your pictures suck | /r/seduction | 14/04/24 12:43 PM |
| 1 | What's a cool gift I can get for my new gf's bd?How long have yall been together? I’d recommend focusing more on the experience you give her on her bday. Spend most of your effort and money planning out the day with her. Flowers and coffee in the morning, go get a pedicure with her if that’s her thing, dinner at her favorite restaurant at night, and help her set an orgasm record. Fill in the blanks with other fun shit | /r/seduction | 14/04/24 12:35 PM |
| 4 | What's a cool gift I can get for my new gf's bd?Lmao this is also how I interpreted the title. I was glad to open it and see that’s not the case. | /r/seduction | 14/04/24 12:33 PM |
| 1 | How must a man display confidence if he is short and fat and?First of all. You’ll never change your height so don’t stress it. Most women won’t care as long as you’re taller than them. The ones that care just ain’t for you. Second, some women are attracted to the body type you described. And yes some of them are hot. Finally, if being fat bothers you (notice I’m talking about you, not others) then lift with intensity and eat in a way that allows you to lose approximately 1% of your body weight per week on average. You can use a maintenance calorie calcula… | /r/seduction | 14/04/24 12:32 PM |
| 4 | I 21M get tired during sexSounds like you need a heavy and consistent dose of weightlifting. You might always get fatigued to a degree since humping is a motion that’s pretty exclusive to sex (or at least it should be) but at least if you’re used to the feeling of your quads and hammies burning you can push through it | /r/seduction | 14/04/24 12:28 PM |
| 1 | Need some advice tbhI also adopt the mindset that ultimately it’s my fault but I choose to think that way because my actions are the only thing in my control. But yeah no sense beating yourself up. Learn what you can and go from there. Plenty of fish in the sea and some of them are hotter than others anyway | /r/seduction | 14/04/24 04:53 AM |
| 1 | Do i respond to an instagram DM or let it go?What do you want from this girl? Sex? Relationship? Either way don’t make it awkward if you choose to respond. Either play it cool and nonchalant or don’t answer at all if you’d rather not pursue. | /r/seduction | 13/04/24 05:45 PM |
| 1 | Learning self control (de-escalation?)I can’t say I’m familiar with the reference lol. I hope it helps though! Good luck man. | /r/seduction | 13/04/24 05:43 PM |
| 2 | Learning self control (de-escalation?)Remember that you have every right to say no. Whether that’s to yourself, or whether you need to tell the girl. You obviously don’t have to be rude but you can politely say I’m not ready for that. As for your own self-control, maybe keep yourself satisfied to take care of your own drive. If you’re against that, then you will just have to be very strong mentally and make it a focus of yours | /r/seduction | 13/04/24 04:18 PM |
| 2 | How to get better at kissing/less anxious?Half the battle isn’t even about the kiss. It’s about the lead up. Almost like foreplay. Make her anticipate it by looking in her eyes before leaning in (eyes start to close at this point. Don’t forget to close your damn eyes). Then maintain the slow pace. If she starts giving it to you hot and heavy feel free to give it back because she’s probably telling you to escalate further | /r/seduction | 13/04/24 04:14 PM |
| 8 | Need some advice tbhOthers have made some good points. I have a counterpoint. Sometimes it’s not anything you did wrong. Maybe the other person has some issues that it’s not your job to heal. Ask her what happened if you want to. If not, move on. Don’t let it discourage you. | /r/seduction | 13/04/24 12:37 PM |
| 25 | How do you not feel bad and upset about teens having more experience than you?If it bothers you so bad then get busy. It’s only as big of a deal as you make it. If you let being a virgin be your personality then you’ll never get laid | /r/seduction | 12/04/24 10:33 PM |
| 1 | How clumsy is this?Sex has awkward moments sometimes. Especially when it’s with a new person. Laugh it off and adjust | /r/seduction | 12/04/24 10:19 PM |
| 6 | Any tips on how to improve my weak ego?If they don’t find you attractive that just means you aren’t their type. It doesn’t mean other girls that are similarly hot won’t find you attractive. The best way to fix your ego is to look in the mirror and like what you see. Say it until you actually believe it. You will never be everybodies cup of tea but you don’t even have a chance without some confidence | /r/seduction | 12/04/24 08:39 PM |
| 1 | Renegotiating the terms of a relationship.The kindest thing you can do for this girl is be honest with her. She clearly likes you as a boyfriend more than you like her. That’s not your fault. But be kind and honest. | /r/seduction | 11/04/24 01:18 PM |
| 1 | Approaching someone at the canteen at work. What can happen?Ask if you can sit with her. Pay attention to whether or not she’s enjoying your company. If she seems like she’d rather be alone, politely excuse yourself and say it was nice to meet her | /r/seduction | 11/04/24 12:44 PM |
| 0 | guys i need help ...... she's too beautiful and high statusOne way to find out. What is there to lose? | /r/seduction | 10/04/24 09:01 PM |
| 5 | guys i need help ...... she's too beautiful and high statusHey man unless she has directly told you that you’re not good enough for her, then it’s all in your head. She’s a human being just like you and I. Ask yourself if the barriers you’re putting between you guys is rational, or if it’s something you’ve created in your head. | /r/seduction | 10/04/24 08:54 PM |
| 58 | guys i need help ...... she's too beautiful and high statusIf you think she’s too good for you then you’re right. Believe that you have a chance or don’t bother because she will sense it | /r/seduction | 10/04/24 08:51 PM |
| 2 | Give me advice on how to proceed.Good man 💀 | /r/seduction | 10/04/24 07:05 PM |
| 2 | Give me advice on how to proceed.Sounds like you dodged a bullet I guess 😂 I hope you had a different reason to be in her city instead of just visiting her | /r/seduction | 10/04/24 06:35 PM |
| 5 | Give me advice on how to proceed.Brother she’s pursuing you. You’ve already tipped the tables in your favor. | /r/seduction | 10/04/24 05:29 PM |
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