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I don't chase, but sure, I should be crazy into you.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/21 12:39 PM
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Do you let her eat junk food like she craves? Lol, good luck to the guy trying to keep a girl from her chocolate.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/21 12:36 PM
0

I prefer low-normal N but not 0.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 04:23 PM
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If the answer isn't "I'd rather be alone" then it wasn't really a dealbreaker. It's in the name.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/21 05:32 PM
2

Mendy goes on trial in January. He was denied bail though.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 07:30 PM
8

A lot of guys here would probably prefer the company of some pornsick dude in a woman's body. Or just a bot really.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 06:03 AM
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About 8 months for both.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 07:17 PM
1

It'll be nice in a few months when you don't have to plan for the move anymore and have unpacked most of your boxes. Maybe.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/21 09:14 AM
2

Emma Watson is a feminist and a model into fashion. If any man likes her because she's low-maintenance, LOL. Personally I have a crush on her because Hermione Granger, not because she's "average."
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 10:55 AM
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Nah. I've been long-distance before and at worst people thought it sucked, not that I was lame. Of course, I had met the guy and we saw each other regularly and I didn't hide my relationship. I'd feel a bit awkward because I don't much like having people around when I'm calling anyone, but that's it really.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 02:18 PM
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I wouldn't date someone I considered "kind of dumb," no. He doesn't have to be orders of magnitude smarter than me though, because it's also a dealbreaker if I find out he thinks I'm the dumb one.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 02:14 PM
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In 2020 I spent 84.02€ on beauty products (oils, moisturizer, serums), so about 7€ a month. I also use a shit ton of cheap hair conditioner, so maybe another 10-20€ on top of that. No makeup. So far for 2021 I'm at 15.37€. Not a lot of hours of work.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 11:44 AM
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Women, what motivates you to develop your career? Stability and independence. I wasn't going to be unemployed on my parents' couch forever. I picked my study path knowing it would be easy to find a job that earned enough to easily move out, sustain myself, and save for retirement.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 09:58 AM
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Meanwhile I've been at my job for year and a half and did a double-take yesterday when my boss ended one of his emails to me with a smiley for the first time. I felt like I'd been promoted.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 05:39 AM
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Idiot, usually. If I say it with a smile it's a good sign I'm amused by you and have been enjoying our banter. I don't use actual terms of endearment if we're not dating but just "interested." I just got back from a work trip to England where everyone from the airport janitor to the cashiers to the factory workers called me "luv," and when I studied abroad friends called me "querida," and it meant less than my "idiot" to my boyfriend before he was my boyfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 06:17 AM
2

Adorable vs hot
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 01:41 PM
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Firefighter. Volunteering in an animal shelter is great and I would be all gooey-eyed over it, but it's not something I'd call sexy.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 05:57 AM
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We met a couple weeks before the first lockdown in our country. We hooked up days before they announced closing the borders (we were abroad). He drove me straight back to his place, overnight, so we made it before the closure. And then I didn't leave. It was fun and sexy and a lot like what you describe in your pros. By now though I've lived with him through several lockdowns, gone on dates and small trips, seen him interact with his friends and our families, so I don't relate to most of your co…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/21 11:56 AM
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1 No. I didn't date or even kiss until after high school. 2 Not really. I didn't like most high school kids. I had one major crush in high school who later came out as gay so, well, no regrets there. Some people were dating, some weren't. It didn't feel that huge at the time and it certainly doesn't now. But maybe it would stand out to me more if even when I got older I still didn't get into relationships. 3 25 4 F
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/21 05:50 AM
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I'm a strong believer that the idea of being sexually desirable is more important than the actual "act" of having sex Not for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 10:35 AM
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I've never felt pressured by anyone to date anyone, except some of the men who wanted to date me. My parents have supported my relationship with every single boyfriend they've met.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 07:45 AM
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I don't think I'd change anything. Well, I guess it could be nice to never be attracted to closeted gay men. Other than that, I've never really found whom I was or wasn't attracted to to cause issues for me, so there isn't much to change.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/21 08:40 AM
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They're very self-critical and prone to anxiety or depression. It's obvious to me why -- I'm cheerful and positive and encouraging. Even people with no romantic interest in me comment on it. I have a coworker who says "The sun has risen" every time I walk in. I guess that energy is appealing to the doom and gloomers I date. And they've all had brown hair but that's probably just because brown hair is pretty common. 😆
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/21 02:07 PM
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Do you think your male friends want to have sex with you? Why/why not? Why do you think the way you do on this question? I think most would probably take it if I offered, because they are men and I'm not ugly. I think most don't actively want it very intensely, since they haven't acted on it or hinted at it. have you ever had sex with a male friend? How did that end up? (I'm asking here about men you are already friends with who you have sex with; not men you had sex with and then become friends…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 02:03 PM
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Do you want male friends? Do you specifically want some of your friends to be men? I'm not opposed to having them but I don't actively want any. If so, why? If not, why not? I studied and work in a very male-dominated field and most of my peers were guys, so friendships with them are welcome... but not specifically because they are dudes, mostly because they are around. Do you seek (or have you ever sought) male friends? Or do they seek you out? I don't think so. How do you think your male frien…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 01:56 PM
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Wtf, how many women want a guy to shave his armpits? 🤣 Yeah, not many.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/21 02:29 PM
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Why not? I had no idea I could be attracted to women until I met my ex and thought Woah . Similarly, I didn't fully understand the sexual attraction had been missing in my early relationships until I actually experienced sexual attraction for someone in front of me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 09:08 AM
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First scenario: maybe if she was a lesbian with no sex drive. A straight man? I wouldn't start a relationship with him under those circumstances, but I might maintain it if he became physically unable to have sex for reasons outside his control. Second scenario nope.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 09:05 AM
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Of the ones that have ended, 1.28y. The average seems kind of meaningless though because those relationships were 2 weeks, 9 months, 10 months, and 3.5 years. The beginnings didn't involve anything very repetitive for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 05:58 PM
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Viscerally attracted based on seeing him IRL only? I'm not sure that's ever happened. At most, some curiosity or a nonsexual He looks great, but not visceral attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/21 11:06 AM
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Prince Charming is handsome, rich, and a prince. The male love interest in romance novels is pretty much always hot and assertive, and probably also rich, or high status, or a bad boy. Romance novels don't feature the female protagonist falling for some bland random guy with no defining "characteristic."
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/21 09:19 AM
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u/death_by_1000_cats said earlier today that women nowadays think women hot= them being bi, lets say that these women fantasize or desire women in a sexual way, but never do it, or only twice...are they bi? Yes, that sounds bi to me. But death_by_1000_cats wasn't even talking about women like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/21 04:40 AM
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the top 20% is someone who is consistently called good looking by non family members unprompted Then nope
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/21 05:38 AM
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So the question I have for bisexuals of ppd, which gender do you find more attractive on average, men or women? I am more frequently sexually attracted to men because they flirt with me more and make me feel hot more. I find women prettier aesthetically. Like when you are on a dating app, do you yourself swiping right more on male profiles or female ones? During the brief time I spent on OLD, I hid my profile from men after a few days to get rid of the creeps and low-effort spam, and only contac…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/21 01:51 PM
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Te equivocas por completo. Es cierto que el español tiene géneros gramaticales que no existen en inglés, pero no cambian como lo describes. Los sustantivos que pueden ser femininos o masculinos lo pueden porque el cambio marca el género de la persona: el pintor, pero la pintora. El pintor es un hombre, la pintora es una mujer. En los otros casos el cambio de -o a -a cambia el significado de la palabra. El manzano es el arból que produce una fruta llamada manzana. No es una manzana para hombres. …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/21 07:54 PM
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They have a "handbook" on the sub that gathers the best strategy posts (dating, vetting) and some recommended reading. Most of the daily posting is memes and chatting yes. But the strategy part is easily accessible.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/21 01:10 PM
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Most women prefer a full head of hair. No point in sugarcoating it. Bald is infinitely better than balding. Shave it. My boyfriend started balding at 18 so it's no big deal to me, but obviously it's not going to help a young man's prospects.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/21 06:58 AM
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Sex is nowhere near as important to my quality of life as walking is. If tomorrow I couldn't eat burgers anymore, I wouldn't eat 10 burgers today.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/21 03:58 PM
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Yes, and cry buckets while doing so. That would be a huge loss of autonomy and would have big consequences on my life. I couldn't perform my favorite part of my job, for one thing. And walking is how I get everywhere so that would suck. My apartment building doesn't even have an elevator.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/21 01:50 PM
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Oh well.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/21 11:10 AM
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You're not addicted. You read romance and erotica "from time to time." That said, if you were reading a lot of it, masturbating so much to it you had trouble orgasming without it, and older than 14 but still lamenting that your boyfriend wasn't a werewolf sure, you would have a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/21 01:37 PM
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2 down, 2 across, 1 up.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/21 11:03 AM
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I've dated women and it's cool. If men lacked male sexuality I'd probably lose most of my attraction to them and be a lesbian instead of bisexual.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/21 10:31 PM
2

Why is it amazing?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/21 05:25 AM
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Because I know it feels good, or to fall asleep. But I don't picture myself having sex during it, and what prompts it is never a "Oh I'm horny" feeling -- just hey I'm in bed, not sleepy yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/21 09:13 PM
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Woman. Pretty sure I could comfortably go without sex for the rest of my life if I didn't have a partner there to awaken the desire. I didn't desire sex before having it for the first time, and don't miss it when single. I've never wanted "sex," but I have wanted "sex with him." I happily masturbate, but that's never been because of some sex drive or as an alternative to sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/21 08:30 PM
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Nope. Works pretty well.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/21 08:21 PM
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I just find it interesting the women felt pressured to change their response when there was a (fake) polygraph. If I were going to lie, I'd lie anyway -- what's the polygraph going to do? Nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/21 09:48 AM
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Usually in discussions here it is assumed women lie down and men lie up, and a middle number is picked. Not going to complain if you prefer to use men's average. Is there a modern man who actually cares if it was 2, 3, or 4? And how dumb are the women getting scared of a polygraph.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/21 09:31 AM
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Somewhat. I've never dated a man who was confident in life, but they were all quite comfortable in getting to know me. I'm confident, not sure about charismatic. Not many. Charisma is pretty rare. Less than 10%? Probably sameish. Who cares
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/21 05:33 AM
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If the writing speaks to me, I don't care what gender the author is. I'm not a big fan of autobiographies though. In general, it's quite common for authors to deliberately choose a pseudonym based on the people they want to appeal to, and that frequently involves picking a gender-neutral name or even one of the opposite sex. So gender isn't completely irrelevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/21 04:20 PM
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No one means if you're a 5.673 you should only date other 5.673s/10. Who cares about exactly. But if you're an ugly guy without any redeeming factors going after supermodels, you're shooting out of your league. If you own a mirror, you know if you're ugly and if you are a man, you know if she's a supermodel. That's probably what those people mean. I don't buy that you don't know if you're as hot as a model -- trust me, you would know if you were! how do you identify your looks match? I don't bot…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/21 03:36 PM
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It was... fine? I was in deep limerence with my best friend in high school for a couple years. Then a shorter period of pining after a friend in college, but thankfully we ended up dating. I didn't go all crazy stalker or anything, so I don't think those experiences affect me to this day.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/21 12:05 PM
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No one here disagrees with your title or is going to bother to change that view. However... If you meet someone you are compatible with and the relationship last for a few years and ends, that's perfectly fine. You met a nice person and enriched each other's lives, a net positive. This is not always true. You're older now. Maybe you are closer to the end of your childbearing years, maybe you spent a lot of money on relationship stuff that you could have spent on yourself, maybe you gave up on ex…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/21 11:57 AM
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Poor people date. Unemployed people date. Students date. Hell, high-schoolers date. And most people aren't working 80 hours a week. How do we date in modern times when we work so much? You meet someone interesting and swap numbers/Instagrams.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/21 05:43 AM
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I don't mind if he approaches out of the blue and starts a convo, but if he wants to ask me out he'll have a higher success rate after a conversation, some IOIs and some light flirting. I don't expect a guy to know before even talking to me if I'd possibly be interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/21 05:50 AM
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One dude had put pot noodles in the microwave without water ffs. Well that's just embarrassing
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/21 05:46 AM
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Not at my age. Maybe if I'm still dating in a decade and he's great apart from that.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/21 05:58 AM
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Nah. If I like him I will be excited and giddy that he is giving me attention. If I drift away because of "attention" it's because he's talking about love when I don't even have a crush on him, or getting attached weirdly fast.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/21 05:40 PM
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If I don't want a starter or a side or a dessert the waiter doesn't shove one down my throat. I just say no.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/21 10:21 AM
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if kids and marriage were off the table would you look for sex from a longterm monogamous relationship or would you enjoy the variety of short term relationships, casual partners, or FWB situations? Maybe the occasional fling when a guy seduced me. I think it would get old though. If you were 20 years old and you time travelled and discovered that in a decade at the age of 30 you meet your dream man, have children with him and live happily ever after, how would you spend that decade? I would foc…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/21 12:12 AM
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"Initiating sex as often as a man" isn't a good marker of female attraction. Men have way higher libido, and women's sexuality is reactive.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/21 10:15 PM
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I definitely place more value on my health, family, and hobbies than random male attention. Love with a partner gets bumped up on the valuable list, but attention as a single woman? Nah. Still, all those other things you listed are almost essential to me. Attention is a blip on the radar and a partner is a "nice to have."
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/20 10:24 AM
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You snoop through his social media, and you find out pictures of him with his ex on vacation in Paris with the sappiest romantic caption you can imagine. Haha, this would make me incredibly sad but only because we have joked about getting engaged in Paris our entire relationship. When you ask him about it, he tells you about how expensive and boring that stupid trip was, and how much he regrets the time and money he spent on his ex. This would be a problem because I love travelling and calling t…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/20 07:12 AM
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But what do you call it when women withhold sex from a man and only offer it once he has proven himself committed enough? If it's not a reward, it's an incentive. Mitigating risk? A woman who does this is protecting herself from getting hurt, from getting dumped right after sex, from getting too emotionally invested in a man who won't do the same for her. It's about her and how she will feel about having sex, not about him and his "reward." She is not "withholding" to "punish him," no matter how…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/20 06:48 PM
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Sure, you are free to interpret it that way and I don't care to change how it "comes off to men." It's just false that the woman is rewarding anyone with sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/20 01:00 PM
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What
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/20 12:52 PM
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I don't believe there is anything here that requires a solution.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/20 12:38 PM
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Also untrue.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/20 12:38 PM
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Sure, I can understand why it would annoy a man. What I protest is when men here attribute the wrong motives to a woman doing that. She's not actively punishing anyone and doesn't see sex as a reward, even if that's how it feels to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/20 12:28 PM
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I've met all my SOs in class, at student events, or at work. So I suppose social circle.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/20 09:56 PM
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1) Avoid marriage with post wall women. There is no value in marriage for men in general but this is particularly true for these relationships. The only potential marriage situation is where the female has more money/income so the guy takes no risk. It's a pretty fundamental part of RP to discourage late bloomers from ending up with jaded women in their 30s who missed the marriage boat. Nothing really new here.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/20 11:48 AM
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There are several that are easily spotted, and presumably others that fly under the radar.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/20 08:21 AM
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It's good that in retrospect and by writing it all out you can see the red flags. Next time, you will weed out this type of man much faster -- maybe even before having unsatisfying sex with him! The (huge) lie about his age should have been a dealbreaker. It's great you found out on your own, though. Frankly, a 54-year-old man crying about "unexpected feelings" for a woman, saying he "cares too much and doesn't understand his feelings for you" is a red flag in and of itself. There's love, and th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 08:35 PM
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European, and I've never seen a circumcised one IRL but I don't think I'd care either way. Wouldn't have a kid circumcised unless it was medically necessary though.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/20 08:34 AM
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It is far, far more common for women to get off to romance novels and fanfiction than to chaturbate.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/20 08:26 AM
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I don't expect to get off every time because I don't always have sex to get off. However when I do want sexual satisfaction then yeah, that includes an orgasm.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/20 08:20 AM
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job Unconvinced, unless they have very long hours. Employees will party less than college students, but still tend to see their friends regularly, especially before kids. relationship Yes of course, if they don't have blended friend groups they will probably take a step back. And they will often choose to stay in and have sex over going out. retirement Depends.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/20 11:50 AM
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I don't have Instagram. I share the occasional photo on Facebook -- the last one was about a year ago --, visible only to Facebook friends. I don't see the point of Instagram either but there must be something.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/20 12:51 PM
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I'm spontaneous but I'm sure my ex felt I "made him wait" because it took me months to want it and be ready for it. what makes you decide to sleep with him? Wanting to. The sexual attraction isn't enough for me to want to, I need a dose of comfort too -- not love, but trusting the guy and feeling comfortable with him. If he can get me in that mindset, win.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/20 11:49 AM
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When I have sex, I do not have any less sex to give to someone else. Because it's an action not an object. I have not lost anything because I performed an action and did not give away an object This is objectively true, so yeah I agree with it. However, comparing it to dancing or singing is disingenuous. By its very nature, it is to most women a far more intimate act than singing. In sex we value lack of skill Not really, no.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/20 08:10 AM
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Indian
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/20 12:45 PM
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What's the point of a job if you can be fired? What's the point of education if you might fail? What's the point of travelling if you might get food poisoning? What's the point of going outside when you might get hit by a car? What's the point of asking someone else if you might get rejected? What's the point of living when covid exists? What's the point of doing anything when you might get hurt? Most people realize miserable divorcees exist before they are 21. Most people value what they get fr…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/20 06:21 AM
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Are you aware of the process?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/20 06:51 PM
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Replace the woman with a man and you get an accurate portrayal of an incel! I'm sure pandemic dating is a challenge but I hope most women's floors don't look like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 12:50 PM
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And it repeats in their relationships... My ex told me some of the things I expected from him were unreasonable. I repeatedly explained to him what I needed from him and why, but it was "impossible" and I should be ignored. I almost believed him. My next boyfriend gave me those exact things without being asked or prompted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 01:43 PM
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It's "bad" when you start treating real people as if they are that kind of character.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/20 03:09 PM
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I've only dated engineers and engineering students, until my now-boyfriend. And I'm the daughter of an engineer more than 30 years married to my mother. Engineering has LVM and HVM same as any other field, honestly. I have a cousin married to an engineer who is an attractive and devoted husband and father. My ex on the other hand was emotionally unstable. 🤷🏻‍♀️ On average they tend to have low EQ. Some are faithful, some are not. Immaturity and arrogance are common. The stable employment is a pl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 02:52 PM
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It's even more embarrassing, honestly. You shouldn't accept a proposal without being sure you want to marry him. If he's serious about marrying you he will, and quickly; you can wait that long to start the wife privileges. If he hasn't followed up by actually marrying you, of course it means nothing. Legally, a fiancée is still a girlfriend. Socially, engaged for 5 years is even sadder than a girlfriend of 5 years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 02:08 PM
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Hey, he managed to put in the effort to type "Hello" instead of "hi"... 😑 Generic and thoughtless bio, no wonder he couldn't come up with anything to start a conversation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 01:56 PM
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Straight men who will flirt with you and escalate are way, way more common and visible than lesbians and bi women. 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/20 07:23 AM
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Tragic. Guess my LTRs didn't consider it. Or maybe you're wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/20 08:38 PM
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Who is "they"? You?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/20 08:24 PM
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If you say so.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/20 08:20 PM
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The men in my life have been under no illusion that I want sex for sex's sake as much as they do. And obviously they know PIV isn't the most sexually stimulating thing to me. How could they not know? I'd never had PIV when I met my ex and he waited months, of course he didn't think I was sex-crazed. They don't ask though, and we don't spend time discussing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/20 07:49 PM
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If anyone on PPD claims men and women have the same sex drive, just ignore them, they probably got lost.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/20 12:35 PM
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I would say I clearly don't enjoy penetration as much as men do. If I could never physically have PIV sex again but could feel desired, wanted, cherished by a man who was faithful to me, I'd probably be fine with it. But that's not life. But it's also not a horrid traumatizing chore. I usually enjoy it. I just wouldn't go out of my way to have PIV sex for sex's sake, without other incentives.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/20 09:50 AM
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No.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/20 07:40 AM
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LDRs suck big time, if you know you want to leave and it's still early days with this guy and you have doubts about him being worth it already it's better to let him go.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/20 01:28 PM
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They're not exactly looking for a wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/20 11:46 AM
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Lol, most women don't approach anyway. There is no such thing as a stranger "attractive enough to approach" for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/20 09:46 AM
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Food addiction, weakness, and ignorance of how to lose weight effectively. They definitely believe in "thin privilege" and know fat isn't more attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/20 05:49 AM
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Provide emotional support A boyfriend wants to do this. Initiate communication and think of ways to keep it interesting everyday A boyfriend wants to "initiate communication," he wants to hear from her. And she'll be reaching out too. Financially support consistent arrangements LTRs where one person shoulders all the expenses are not the norm. Integrate with her respective family and friends and maintain a status symbol A boyfriend wants her family and friends to like him and she will want the s…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/20 05:37 AM
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My boyfriend would never speak to me again if I suggested we sleep with other people. So what % of men do you think have this desire? And for those men, is their ideal or dream life basically a life of endless casual sex with a constant string of partners? Probably, but for many, that plus one woman to build a family with.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/20 04:24 AM
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No? People usually define the stages of their life by important milestones, life events, or just the passage of time. For my family, the "5 years we lived in country X" are a life stage. Married life is different so marriage marks a milestone. But so does, say, getting your first job, getting your degree, moving out of your parents' house, living on your own for the first time, becoming a parent, losing a parent, moving to another country... So no, for women boyfriends and breakups aren't the ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/20 08:24 AM
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For instance, would having a variety of failed relationships in your youth make you feel devalued? Depending on why those relationships ended, it would make me feel like I needed to vet better or it would make me wonder why I wasn't good enough. It's not just how to keep him but also how to choose him. I don't regret any of my breakups or wish I had "kept" them. Are they experiences that are either: a part of you, a part of your life story, completely irrelevant or other? A part of my past. Most…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/20 10:05 AM
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While I don't find the sub particularly red-pilling, I get the same impression. The questions and situations posted there I could understand from a 20yo, not someone in their thirties... It's fun to read though.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/20 07:27 AM
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No I do not, because realistically I won't be upset wouldn't be true for the vast majority of people.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/20 12:23 PM
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Starter, but basically this. Having a girlfriend can have its benefits so he goes along with it, but when she starts pressuring him to marry the relationship ends.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/20 06:48 AM
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Looks come first because they are the thing you can judge earliest. Yes, you have to pass a minimum threshold for attraction, and therefore a relationship, to be possible. However, even if that minimum threshold is met, other factors come into play. A guy can be physically cute but have a repulsive personality. He can be shitty for a relationship if his long term goals don't align with yours, if you don't find him funny at all, if you hate whatever comes out of his mouth, if he has a quick tempe…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/20 06:07 AM
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All of them were good most of the time. Only one got really sour towards the end, because we dragged it out for too long. 24, longest was 3.5 years. Compatibility and attraction. Each relationship taught me something new about what I couldn't do without in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/20 02:24 PM
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Very upper class neighborhood Women dating drug dealers Uh-huh.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/20 06:31 AM
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The 2nd. The main downside is the lack of life experience but I'm not super old yet, that can be acquired. No laughing disqualifies the first right out the gate. I don't intimately connect with people when our senses of humor are too different. Drugs and band disqualify the third.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/20 06:20 AM
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All of the above. It's not something I witness much offline though.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/20 09:18 PM
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Please respond in logical terms Why does it have to be logical? Why can't it just be: Eh, feels icky, no thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/20 10:19 AM
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If she likes him, it will hurt more to be pumped and dumped.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/20 11:28 AM
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1) As the recipient I would prefer the romantic date because I don't play video games. As the gifter... I'd get him a PS5 if we were serious and it was his birthday or Christmas and I knew he wanted one. However for anniversaries we both prefer experiences over gifts. 2) Yes. I spent a couple hundred on his last birthday for things I knew he wanted and wouldn't buy. Uses them every day and repeatedly tells me how much he loves them. Why would I spend money on something that will go unappreciated…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/20 08:44 AM
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My Gfs father never asked me weather I love her , he just wants to know my parents and see how i grew up , my history and how much I earn. I know all this about my boyfriend, too. Still love him. What's your point? My father raised me. I seek out qualities I value that are already highly influenced by the people who raised me. I don't need them to do my vetting for me. We don't marry only for love in the West. Most of us will love more than one person in our lives before getting married. And man…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/20 08:36 AM
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While meeting through your social circle is also ideal in my opinion, a guy would laugh in your face before you got through a third of that autistic speech. It's just weirdo talk. My advice for a person who preferred to get to know someone outside of a dating context would be to extend her social circle, not hit the apps and then tell interested men this.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/20 07:06 AM
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Yes, lesbians in relationships have so much sex the phrase "lesbian bed death" was coined.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/20 12:45 PM
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"Men and women are the same." 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/20 09:10 AM
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He's blue-collar, actually, but the company ships him out to clients all over the place. And yeah I had long hours on a work trip two weeks ago and loved coming home to him. We weren't actively looking to date when we met because we preferred to sleep when we got home. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 02:42 PM
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I'm 24 and not a mom. 😆 But fair enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 10:15 AM
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I don't know why you think I'm the one downvoting. I'm not lol, my top-level comment in this thread got downvoted. Relax, it's just reddit. I am a partner to him. We are working together towards the same goals. It's not like he didn't go to his own doctor's appointments. He just has another person on his team. And I have him on mine when I could use the support. It's reciprocal. And whether it is or not -- his life has improved, which was the question. I'm a woman and am nurturing which can seem…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 09:51 AM
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For me at least it's not about "wanting to be seen as serious all the time." I don't even think women are necessarily the "less silly" gender. It's just that everything you describe in that paragraph about hanging out with your male friends sounds gross to me, and I'm not 31 yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 09:48 AM
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Well, we managed it. Met at work so didn't need to drive very far to meet up. it's not that clear for me the way you phrased it Ironic, because your sentences lack a lot of clarity. How does our relationship improve his life? Is that what you meant? He has a soft space to land after a stressful and physically difficult week at a client's. He gets to enjoy my cooking. He lives in a nicer apartment (mine) without spending a cent more. He was accompanied to the doctors' appointments he needed. I fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 09:35 AM
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For dating new Tinder hoes every night, no. For a LTR? Mm, can be done. What do you mean, "in how far"?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 09:20 AM
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I don't think it's over or underrated. It depends on the bachelor, I suppose. My boyfriend when single was working 80 hour weeks, travelling constantly for work and basically living out of a suitcase. There was not much crazy ONS sex involved and he almost cried the first time he came home from a client with dinner on the table and a hug waiting for him. 😂 His life is improved by our relationship and we both know it. Some men have a different balance, and find the reward/effort ratio worth it mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 08:56 AM
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Not surprise, disbelief, lol. All my boyfriends were very happy to know what field I was in and that I intended to make my own money. Did it make their dick hard? Did it affect their sexual attraction to me? Probably not, but that's not the point, to a woman. Would they have LTRd me if I were a waitress with no prospects or with a shit ton of debt? Nope. And that matters to me. Boyfriend and I will sign a new lease together soon. So yeah, we care about each other's finances.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 06:27 AM
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Eh, that's still far too young to be bitter and depressed about your future relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 06:17 AM
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How old are you? PPD is bad news for some people. It's cool if you're here for fun, or because you have experiences and opinions you don't mind looking at through a different lens. But if it's "demoralizing" to you, you really should take a break. It's just a subreddit. Also, why ask red-pillers about such a blue concept as "the right one"?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 05:57 AM
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Facial attractiveness Physical state of his body These two are the first hurdle to clear so they could be considered the two "most important." However once the attractiveness threshold is crossed, being a 9 instead of an 8 won't matter as much as compatibility. Personality Compatibility Financial gain Status Ambition - bleh Amount of friends - if he has 300 friends he needs to see regularly we're probably incompatible but that was revealed in his personality Height - Wasn't sure where to put thi…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/20 07:44 AM
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I've never been outright asked for a number. Every partner of mine has ended up knowing it through conversations about past relationships. The math is easy. They weren't stressed about it. My ex we spoke about it before having sex, my boyfriend quite a bit after. Whatever. If a guy asked for a number and obsessed over it I would see it as a red flag.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/20 05:11 PM
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Mate guarding isn't just two men fighting. It also manifests in having her wear a wedding ring, vetoing a certain outfit, and putting your arm around her when you're out. These things are fine in a relationship. If a man is pushy in his advances despite her rejection, it's also acceptable to get more aggressive. She'll feel protected. If she is getting unwanted attention and you just sit and watch her struggle, how do you think that will affect her opinion of you? Obviously if you're brawling wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/20 05:59 AM
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Obviously not all relationships. It absolutely can prematurely end the honeymoon phase, reveal dealbreakers and cause tension. You're not as excited to see each other, you stop "dating" each other, you see more of each other's lows and flaws. It definitely changes the dynamic even if everything goes well. But I think it reveals incompatibilities more quickly instead of being the actual cause of the end of the relationship. Living with my boyfriend has been fantastic so far, 10/10 would recommend…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/20 12:11 PM
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1) Men are extremely visual but while your looks will be the first thing they are drawn to, it's untrue to say it is the only value you can have to a romantic partner. While being beautiful certainly gives you more options, there are loving ugly couples. 2,3) Yes. 4) Modern western men would not think of 2 as high N at all. Most people ain't shit. Male sexual nature is unpalatable to women, and you are definitely better off alone than badly paired off. That said, I strongly encourage you to take…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/20 10:12 AM
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That what triggers attraction in women is not fully portrayed in still unmoving photographs and a couple lines in a dating profile bio.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/20 12:40 PM
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Those things don't play a role in sexual attraction. My boyfriend sees them as big pluses in our relationship, but they're not why he wants to fuck me or why he loves me.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/20 11:21 AM
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Do you ask men on dates? Sort of? I don't do "formal" dating with strangers, but I've invited acquaintances. I asked my boyfriend to have drinks with me immediately after a work dinner and consider that our "first date." And if you do who pays? I did, but neither of us cared much. He assumed we would split.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/20 09:31 AM
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I would end the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/20 10:10 AM
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Men don't care, yet you are single.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/20 01:47 PM
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If your social circle is mainly divorcees, single moms, and women sleeping with criminals... yeah, that's a class tell.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/20 11:42 AM
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Tinder, the place people go to looking for connection on a mental level.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/20 07:27 AM
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Well yeah, young highly sociosexual attractive people will rack up higher Ns faster. But they are not a majority. OP is obviously talking about his own social circle but the title seems to be asking about "men in general".
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/20 08:42 AM
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Regardless of how easy it might be it isn't all that common to have 5 partners in a year.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/20 08:34 AM
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Most people, even those who don't pair off definitely in their early twenties, will have one or several LTRs in their twenties and thirties, slowing down the N increase. The average person is not hooking up with 3 people each year for a decade. 20 is still outlier territory if you take into account the entire population, but it depends on the circles you run in.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/20 06:22 AM
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You wouldn't want it, which is fine. But a lot of people see my attitude of "Once we're done, you're out of my life forever" as weird and a red flag. My ex hated it. Others might assume I only have "crazy exes" and hate all of them so there must be something wrong with me and all my breakups were nuclear.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/20 09:02 AM
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Yes, I think it's okay. I think some people can be friends with exes just fine. I've never seen the point, but some people do. Personally, I cut contact with all my exes right after the breakup and for all I know they could all be dead or have become rock stars by now. My ex, when we were together, thought it was weird I didn't keep tabs on any of my exes. Men stay in contact with exes while in a new relationship too, not sure why this is a Q4W. I'm very jealous and have boundaries, and my boyfr…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/20 08:57 AM
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You are assuming he wants or even believes in a "rarer, more valuable type of connection." He wants sex with different women.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/20 10:21 PM
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I'm not going to be attracted to some guy who doesn't pay attention to me. I certainly won't put "effort" into him. If this is in a relationship, then I will be annoyed and feel distant if it's too little attention, and lightly "dreaded" if it's just the right amount. I'd probably reward him with insecurity, comfort tests, and jealous questions.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/20 02:41 PM
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They are rarely single and when they are it isn't for long, yeah. They're probably not sitting around waiting for a man in his forties to decide they're worthy of effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/20 10:15 AM
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Don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/20 08:20 AM
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They're already in relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/20 08:13 AM
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I've never dated a guy who was big into social media. If he shared every part of his life on social media except me, it would be a huge red flag. If he just didn't use it much, cool, neither do I. It's more important to me to meet his friends and family and be involved in his offline life.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/20 05:28 PM
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I've had a LTR with a man I thought was my forever fail and end. Most people do. It sucks and it hurts and it's disappointing, but it doesn't mean it's not possible to ever have that us against the world. Of course, that's why I'm blue. I think I'm not so unique that there is no man out there for me among the billions.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/20 03:08 PM
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Got forbid a human actually care about making recovery easier for their loved one.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/20 02:03 PM
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I'm a woman. I don't need a lover. I had the hobbies, friends, own goals, pleasant life etc when I met my boyfriend. He had his hobbies, friends, and goals. Now we each have a teammate when it comes to achieving those goals. He's considering changing jobs and I am offering financial security if it takes a while. He's having trouble with one of his superiors at work and I am the person to vent to and the warm arms ready to hug him when he comes home. He'll be having surgery at the end of the mont…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/20 08:38 AM
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I'm lazy and would gladly outsource the day-to-day minor decisions like what to have for dinner tonight, where to go for a walk, and what movie to watch. I dread the question "What do you want to do?" However, I want to have a lot of say in where to live, when and where to go on holiday, marriage and kids, and basically anything financial. I think a lot of people are like this, so usually I end up participating in most decisions anyway. How it usually plays out is we hesitate on where to go for …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/20 08:03 AM
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Well duh. Men want hot young pieces of ass. She is highly valuable. A hot young woman has so many options she should have standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/20 07:30 AM
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And until that study (what study? How would you measure male thirst and an "equalized" SMP?) comes out you will prefer to just "logically" "think" that legalizing prostitution would completely change the American SMP. Okay, have fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/20 11:39 AM
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In places where it is legal, prostitution is mostly performed by imported foreigners (because the locals can have other jobs and obviously choose to) and will never have the respectability of waitressing. I'm stunned someone could imagine otherwise. Do you think the only reason people are repulsed by prostitution is because it's illegal?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/20 11:20 AM
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Yeah, I don't think billionaires and Dan Bilzerian affect the SMP for us regular people. And you must not have read my comment before replying to it. I never said only hideous loners would consider paying for sex, I literally wrote this above: Men who do have other options continue to pursue those other options, and maybe pay the occasional prostitute to go away after sex Again. I live in a Western country where prostitution is legal. I'm not fantasizing this stuff up. Dating for normal people j…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/20 11:17 AM
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If it were normalized, maybe. But I moved to a country where it's legal and accessible and wouldn't say it has a visible effect on the SMP. Men who have no other option than prostitution turning to prostitution does not affect the SMP. Men who do have other options continue to pursue those other options, and maybe pay the occasional prostitute to go away after sex. Plenty of simps probably have too much internal shame to see a prostitute even if it were legal.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/20 10:48 AM
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Do PPD posters overthink relationships? Yes, of course. That's why we're here. Is the main reason for changes in the marketplace people overthinking? Probably not. People don't marry as young anymore because they don't want to. Women don't want to start pumping out a dozen kids and men don't want to lock themselves down early. Birth control, women's careers, and a delayed entry into the job market are tangible factors that pushed marriage back. People don't need to be married to have sex or live…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/20 09:06 AM
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I feel sleepy usually. Plenty of men want to cuddle after sex. Plenty of men have sex with girlfriends and wives they love. Don't overthink it and don't make the mistake of assuming everyone is like the people here.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/20 06:09 AM
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You just made that up out of nowhere and you know it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/20 12:23 PM
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Many, many women of reproductive age are on the pill and hence not ovulating.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/20 12:22 PM
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No. Why would I? I believe the stats that there are a lot more men than women on dating apps. I had a brief, two-week stint on OKC and deleted my account because yuck. It's not difficult at all for me to believe OLD isn't a walk in the park for men. And this one wherein a woman comes out as bisexual and began to understand men more as she dated women I've had a girlfriend. It wasn't extremely different from getting a boyfriend -- we met, liked each other, started hanging out more and more and fl…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/20 09:57 AM
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Why? Most of them don't want a large family in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/20 08:09 AM
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Sure, a decent percentage are probably having a hard time because of a combination of low value, poor social skills, and high expectations. Losers of the SMP will always exist, but it's not 80%. Most of the younger generation will end up pairing off; just because they didn't all sleep with 20 people doesn't mean they will have had "serious struggles."
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/20 07:53 AM
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There's a pool of men who are very successful in the casual sex scene because of their attractiveness and seduction skills. Let's say these are the top 20%. They are having sex with a pool of women who are sexually open, not a top 20% in terms of attractiveness necessarily but of disinhibition and sociosexuality. Maybe the numbers don't strictly match up so it's 15% of men and 30% of women or some other distribution, but nowhere near 20% of men and 80% of women. These two groups are responsible …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/20 07:29 AM
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The Pareto principle applied to sex is more that 20% of men are responsible for 80% of the casual sex being had. It does not state that 20% of men are having sex with 80% of women as even TRP never intended to be that outrageously wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/20 07:18 AM
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My boyfriend told me a story of a night out where some people started fighting next to him. One of them swung a punch at him and my boyfriend woke up in an ambulance. To the best of my knowledge that is the extent of his fighting experience and knowledge.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/20 05:24 AM
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Gay men get more sex because they're having sex with other men who have a male sex drive, come on. It's got nothing to do with respect.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/20 08:57 PM
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Both genders do this when they're lukewarm about you at best, but enjoying the attention or sex. Why should they take the initiative to "speak up and clarify things" if they like things as they are? If you don't want the same thing, move on. Don't get too overinvested in someone who hasn't committed to you or even shown genuine interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/20 07:28 AM
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Woosh.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/20 05:48 PM
2

Did I say I don't?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/20 04:18 AM
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Have to agree with you there. WTF.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/20 01:04 PM
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I'm quite willing to believe I have little of value to offer to "men" at large. However I don't struggle to get commitment from an individual man. "Men" in general have nothing to offer me, either, but the right man offering his love and a shared life is priceless. In my boyfriend's own words, I "make his life easier and brighter," "save him" on his rough days, "thank him enough and more than deserved," and my emotional support is "a freaking mental orgasm" to him. Also the sex is amazing and fr…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/20 12:43 PM
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I don't think the "average modern woman" is struggling to get commitment and IME men are not exactly extremely resistant to commitment. 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/20 12:14 PM
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is that a record?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/20 07:57 PM
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WTF at everyone saying nah. That's it, this is the most controversial thread I've ever seen here. You Americans are weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/20 06:16 PM
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Sure, I'll admit it. My world does revolve around me. The people I love are important too, but that's still about my feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/20 06:12 PM
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I've never been attracted to or dated an overweight guy and can't see that changing. If a guy was overweight and didn’t gain or lose (maintaining, typically genetics at work here) would that bother you? It would bother me if he blamed genetics instead of his diet, yeah.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/20 05:50 PM
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I'm assuming she wants to feel desired. Women don't get much out of being slept with because "Well, she was there and easy."
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/20 12:11 PM
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...or gets approached by enough women that he figures that she’s not worth his effort In other words, he's not that into her. Men are the ones who get aroused from looking at a picture of a hot woman. Women need a bit more seduction. Feeling like she is "not worth his effort" kills female desire and causes dead bedrooms lol. Why approach that?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/20 12:09 PM
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If she has to make the moves he's either married, not interested, or cripplingly shy. That's how she gets pumped & dumped by a guy who's not that into her but still willing to sleep with her. And then she still gets approached by the shitty men. What did she gain? Nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/20 10:50 AM
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they are easily manipulated, they "believe in love", they are simple minded in matters of relationships like always being nice to her. men that are aware of womens behaviours of probably only liking a guy for his looks, Sleeping around before settling, knowing he needs a certain amount of money, knowing to get a prenup, being aware of changes in her behaviour, knowing about hypergamy, monkey branching etc You are not wrong that women prefer the first type of man for relationships. Where you are …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/20 06:40 PM
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In my eyes JK Rowling can do no wrong so I'm biased as fuck, but I'm sad to see everyone, even the main cast of the movies, labeling her tweets as intolerant or hateful. I'm not surprised though. She's a very public figure and I'm sure she isn't surprised by the backlash either, and knowingly used her platform to defend her position. It wasn't some innocuous tweet that unexpectedly drew attention, and she can handle herself. If sex isn’t real, there’s no same-sex attraction. If sex isn’t real, t…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/20 05:02 AM
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You and everyone else here. I don't see many women on here complaining about repeatedly falling for "a player's" sweet talk about marriage. Not sure who OP is hoping to hear from. If a woman is on PPD she probably doesn't need to be warned about guys who only want sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/20 12:29 PM
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True enough though we have Boomers in office too. When I found out how old Trump, Biden and Sanders all were I thought it felt more like a papal conclave than a presidential election.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/20 07:11 AM
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I mean I too am thankful I'm not American but my country isn't exactly led by the poor youth either.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/20 06:59 AM
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Getting into a LTR with someone with wildly different values is a bad idea anyway. Most people are not hysterical about political issues and may vote for different parties without hating each other. Radical liberals aggressively posting on twitter were never going to happily marry tradcons or racists in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/20 06:37 AM
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You really don't seem to understand that it isn't fear driving these answers, it's lack of interest. Not fear of approaching but an outright lack of interest in men who don't make themselves sexually visible to women. Men don't approach out of bravery or even habit, they approach because they see a cute woman and want to hit that. Not so for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/20 05:56 AM
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Men's sex drives don't simply allow us to not desire women anymore. Men who have had sex for most of their lives aren't going to masturbate alone in their cat-filled apartments for decades on end. So it seems you do understand "men and women are different." Why then are you so angry that women are answering they would be alone in this scenario? The OP said nothing about us being given male thirst so women are answering under the assumption that we keep our sexuality. Hence the cats.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/20 05:11 AM
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Approach or be sexless. In that situation, men would choose to approach. Women would choose to be sexless. It's not that I "don't like" approaching. I have decent social skills and am not shy. There's just no reason for me to approach in a sexually charged way when I don't desire someone sexually. I've never been on tinder and I'm in a happy relationship because some poor guy desired me, thanks for your concern though. Cats are amazing.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/20 08:39 PM
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I wouldn't get "mad" lol, I'd be a sexless lady with cats and indifferent to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/20 08:30 PM
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What if men were women and women were still women? I would live with my best friend and lots of cats. Because no man would ever catch my eye if he's not trying to seduce me. There would be no "man I'm interested in." My sexual desire is a big fat zero if I'm not being made to feel desirable. If by some weird miracle I ended up in a relationship with a man who was "passive" during sex, we'd have a dead bedroom. It's not like "society" collectively decided the "burden" of approaching was on men. M…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/20 08:18 PM
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Are you arguing against your own V? For what it's worth I agree with you, which is why I'm under automod. Some men don't cheat because they can't, some men don't cheat even though they can. Dating a man with no other options doesn't mean he will treat you well; in fact he may very well be dissatisfied with his only option (you) and suffer from huge FOMO. If a man with options genuinely thinks you are his best option, that's probably better for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/20 05:36 PM
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CMV no one gets guaranteed loyalty and commitment.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/20 05:29 PM
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Women would not be excited by this kind of movie if the female protagonist wasn't excited by the man. But apparently you're talking about making this porn for men. Then why does it matter what women think about it? It would probably pass censorship, but why on earth do you need women's approval for the type of porn you watch at home? I don't go around asking men to tell me my fantasies are okay. Lol, men should be grateful women aren't aware of every twisted fantasy men have and fight to keep it…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/20 10:09 AM
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For the millionth time, that's not the part of 50 Shades of Grey that actually excites women.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/20 09:51 AM
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Cats.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/20 08:14 AM
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I didn't downvote you. I was asleep when you posted this reply, being in Europe. The majority of men won't get that thanks to female sexual nature. It doesn't mean they don't want it. The question was about male nature and I answered it. There is no man I wish was inside me that's some sort of slut, but obviously if a dude is whoring around it's because enough women let him fuck them so I don't disagree, I just don't see how your point is relevant to the discussion.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/20 07:59 AM
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No. Sometimes. That's not English.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/20 06:58 PM
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Exercise self-control.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/20 06:58 PM
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I mean if you feel the need to fuck and can't attract anyone, then sure, get an escort. I never said you shouldn't. I'd be repulsed by a man telling me he had but I'd probably be repulsed by a man exuding the sentiments in your OP anyway, so who cares? Go see escorts, just don't expect women to weep in sympathy over a six month long dry spell. I've had peanut butter on my shelf for longer than that, and I love peanut butter.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/20 06:42 PM
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People go 6 months without sex all the time without going nuts.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/20 06:21 PM
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Understand? I guess, in a distant, AMALT-aware way. Accept, overlook, and not judge him if he told me? Hell no.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/20 06:20 PM
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Male sexual nature, aka AMALT, is mainstream knowledge. Fathers warn their daughters of AMALT. Men want lots of sex with young pretty women, preferably lots of them, and they will lie to get it. They will look at and masturbate to other hot young women regardless of how amazing their girlfriend is. It's just not really a hard red pill to swallow that throws women into the anger phase because it's already known. See: men are pigs, men only want one thing, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/20 12:11 PM
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I don't go into details. Frankly, I don't want to hear anything about other girls other than that it happened. The way my boyfriend puts it is "We both have a past but I don't want to hear about how big his dick was." That said, my SOs have known about my N and specific acts I've tried or haven't (through wanting to do them with me). Theirs was equal or higher so I guess it didn't occur to me that I had anything to lie about. I feel like if I were high N, I'd be slutting it up with male sluts an…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/20 08:17 AM
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Because hot young men aren't desperate to settle down in their early twenties either. Women do have LTRs in their youth and start fantasizing about marriage to their guy pretty early. Things don't always work out with the college sweetheart.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/20 07:15 AM
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It's not just about the money. And they're not talking about 18-24 yo women. That's still CC era. They think women panic and pick a man they are not attracted to in their thirties and get married the week they meet him.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/20 05:26 AM
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He hit 26 and had his quarter-life crisis. Decided to quit his IT job to become a pilot and dump me to chase new pussy. AMALT. To be fairer to him, prior to this we had had several big arguments about our future. As stated, he refused to support me financially, which was fine by me, except he also expected me to move to wherever HE found his dream job. I figured he couldn't have it both ways, expecting me to take on all of the financial and career risk. I could probably have kept him if I'd been…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/20 01:30 PM
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What happened when?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/20 07:43 AM
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Some "red"-pillers act like AFBB means most women have tons of casual sex until their thirties then lock down some unattractive schmuck and dead bedroom him as soon as the wedding cake is gone. That interpretation of it is not grounded in reality. Women are not en masse marrying men they were never attracted to after racking up double-digit Ns from ONS. Women date around until one sticks. They marry a guy they met in their mid-to-late twenties who displays enough alpha traits to be attractive an…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/20 07:41 AM
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Not significantly happier, no. Male thirst hasn't had that much negative impact on my life. Some catcalling and street harassment, a couple unpleasant or frightening experiences, but nothing traumatizing. I really enjoy feeling desired by my SO and responding to his desire. I'd miss that like hell if it suddenly disappeared. On the other hand, if I'd never known active male desire I probably wouldn't care at all about its absence and would have cuddly friendships and lots of cats.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/20 06:08 PM
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To be fair, some guys really do just want a pretty face. The thing is I don't want to date a guy who's only interested in my looks. My ex thought I was cute but he also really appreciated that I was driven and had passion. He didn't want a dead weight. He didn't expect me to have a high-flying career but he'd never have let me be a SAHM. We also had similar education levels and he was passionate about his work and talked about it a lot -- if I hadn't had that education I'd have been a less pleas…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/20 08:52 AM
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This comment is way too sweet for this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/20 03:36 PM
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So women, do you believe you could view a man that is crying as a protector? Not while he's crying. But I can see a man who has cried in front of me as a protector in different circumstances. Would this effect your future interactions with him if he pursued you romantically? I have seen every single one of my SOs cry. On one occasion, before we started dating. So no, not really. I wouldn't be attracted to someone who cried all the fucking time but if you have a reason and trust me enough to shar…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/20 07:30 PM
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I mean no one reads Nicholas Sparks novels for their realistic portrayal of love. I think "unrealistic" is to be expected. But I wouldn't say it's ugly. Men in fiction are often faithful, caring, and loving. They make big romantic gestures. They would go to the ends of the earth for the woman (singular) they want. An actually "ugly" depiction of male love would be more like Wolf of Wall Street, but that's not fully fiction. Maybe the movie Passengers somewhat fits the bill -- unreasonable and ug…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/20 04:25 PM
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I never said men only talk to women when they have an erection. But if a man cold approaches a stranger to flirt or ask her out, it's usually not because he thinks they share a passion for Tolstoi. "Men are horny" is true. I didn't mean it as an insult, but they are the sex with the higher sex drive and lower standards for "just sex." If you disagree with that statement, I don't know what to tell you.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/20 08:21 AM
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Men are thirsty. Men, as a group, have no standards. Attention from "men in general" means very little, it just means men are horny which we already knew. Attention from a guy I want matters because yay, we want each other. Also, of course men think a hot woman wanting them is more valuable than an unattractive woman wanting them. I don't see how you could honestly believe otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/20 06:09 PM
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Nah I suck at it. I legit thought my last 3 SOs exuded self-confidence when we met. One of them literally swaggered, lol. Another I met when he was drunk so I guess that helped. It was a façade; I got to know them and nope, they were full of deep-rooted insecurities. I put up a similar front so I get it. If you lack self-confidence it's not a bad idea to fake it anyway. I have a bit of a savior complex so I guess I attract the type by being the one to boost their self-confidence or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/20 05:52 PM
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If we're talking about an otherwise decent approach, I don't think it's mainly "disgust." If it's a guy around my age I just feel flattered, then kind of bad for rejecting. If it's an older man I feel really uncomfortable and there probably is some disgust mixed in. This may be because it will make her feel ugly because the unattractive man thinks he has a chance with her? No, I don't think like this. I have no trouble getting into relationships with the kind of man I do want and that affects my…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/20 05:42 PM
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Oh for sure PPD is totally different to offline. I was referring to "real everyday life." I definitely find it fascinating to discuss this shit on reddit, no judgment from me there. Here it's totally expected to get people arguing with you if you claim high N doesn't matter or that you only want low-N partners. So you're left with the choice of rationalizing your feeling and explaining it or being accused of bigotry with no way of defense. In regards to this, I think on here guys who just fess u…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/20 01:10 PM
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Take the rest of my comment as a general "you" and not a personal one since you don't agree with the rationale yourself. What you're describing mostly happens if you set a different standard for yourself than for the person you want to date. To use your own example, if you say you want a one-sided open relationship in which you would never want your SO to see other people, way more people are going to think you're an asshole than if you want a mutually monogamous one. Similarly, if you're high N…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/20 12:29 PM
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Red pillers are the one trying to rationalize the feeling of disgust. Not rationalize it away but just outright argue that their feelings are totally rational. "She is more likely to cheat." "She can't pair bond." "She will divorce rape you." "Lock and key." Personally I completely get the ick factor about dating someone who is high N. Okay, then don't if you don't want to. That's what I do but I'm fully aware it's based on my feelings and not the fact that high N people are all terrible, terrib…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/20 09:47 AM
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If it got to the point where "most" men had seen prostitutes and didn't hide it from women, I'd probably become a lesbian. Mind you, it's legal where I live, and my boyfriend was smart enough to emphatically tell me he's "not into that."
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/20 08:18 AM
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Lol at Moana and Merida being "chubby."
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/20 06:01 PM
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It sounds to me like what you're trying to say is, a guy should be ready and emotionally available for your needs Maybe your ex needed more sympathy from you and because you withheld it, he keep trying to seek more because you keep pulling it away PPD isn't a creative writing exercise. Nothing in my comment suggests this.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/20 08:13 AM
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No idea really, sorry. I just hope he finds a way to feel less hopeless.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/20 08:12 AM
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It's a balance. Hitting her with all your past traumas on the first date is going to be too much. But never showing emotional or vulnerability will push away a woman who wants a LTR, a partnership. If she doesn't feel like you are open with her, she won't feel like you are building an emotional connection. She will leave, or distance herself emotionally and sexually out of self-preservation. That's what not wanting to date an emotionless robot is. Men I am already in a relationship with opening …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/20 04:46 PM
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Low: Religion, traditional values, high inhibition, risk aversion, poor social skills, introversion, neuroticism, reactive sex drive with no one to react to most of the time, restricted sociosexuality.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/20 08:03 AM
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It's the same combination of things that make me want to bang a guy and relationship him up. I feel safe with him, he makes me feel desired and sexy, I respect him, he has a few personality traits I like, he's opened up to me emotionally about a couple things, I know he's into me, he's fun. That balance between sexiness and comfort is what makes me want to have sex and call him my boyfriend. "Only hookups" guy doesn't exist to me, I want to date them all and I do. When I was just starting out da…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/20 06:55 AM
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I found red pill first, probably through the AskWomen sub or maybe the DeadBedrooms one. Just random reddit browsing. Then PPD from there. The first time I joined was around 2016, maybe early 2017. I found there was a lot of bullshit to wade through and initially got triggered enough to join just to disagree with people. But a couple reds and more than a couple blues and purples sometimes brought stuff to the table that I found interesting to think about and see reflected in my life. Some people…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/20 12:06 PM
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How did you get from this: are scared of being hurt to this: Have you ever turned down, avoided or broken up with a woman - because she was weak, too nice. Too easy going. to pleasant, too subservient? That's not the point. Nice, pleasant, subservient, weak people end up being seen and used as doormats. These women are not afraid of being turned down and dying single, they are afraid of trusting a man and giving him everything and only getting breadcrumbs in exchange.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/20 08:54 AM
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We're all engineers. I guess we all have brown hair too. Do you find that you date men that you have a lot in common with do you think that's a benefit or do you think that actually harms relationship? Depends. I don't care much about common interests and hobbies. I actually like learning about a SO's hobbies. I've only ever dated one person I had much in common with, and while it was very, very pleasant, it's really not an important factor to me. However I think having goals and values that ali…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/20 05:38 PM
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I'm French and let's be honest, men go to pâtisseries all the time because they're usually combined with a bakery, and it doesn't make them less masculine. I know dozens of men who have eaten macarons without suffering a dramatic drop in testosterone. Jesus.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/20 08:58 PM
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What, do people not lock their laptops once they're married? I've had password-protected PCs since I was 10... it's the default thing to do. My parents share a password on the home PC but I doubt she's ever gone through his laptop or he hers.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/20 11:04 AM
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Yes and no? Someone describing themselves as "high-risk, low inhibition" would definitely be waving a huge red flag at me, because I want a stable, drama-free partner to share my life with, someone reliable who will be there for the daily, boring, mundane and sometimes stressful shit as well as the fun exciting stuff. For someone like you, it wouldn't be a red flag. I'd also automatically filter out someone who told me they weren't interested in travelling because it's way up there on my list of…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/20 10:59 AM
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what's fun/attractive about high-inhibition? Like attracts like? Some people would be absolutely miserable dating someone who always needs to be experiencing something new. A lot of people, especially as they age, tend to favor stability over new experiences and "fun," and will prioritize things like paying the bills, coming home to warmth and comfort, and providing a stable environment for kids. Some people don't want to leave their comfort zone every other day and aren't constantly seeking a n…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/20 10:20 AM
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