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God you’re so right. 🎯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 04:33 PM
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“Beaton often, given gifts, but never money so I couldn’t run away” 🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯😭 Jfc the things I learn here everyday
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 02:04 PM
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Every time I feel like this, I try to do this: Validate my own feelings and let myself feel what I feel When I’m ready to move forward, remind myself that whilst a bit of anxiety about this is normal, I should heal more if I am suspicious of all men - this is not someone who is ready to date. Do the healing - therapy, working on myself, finding out who I am am as my own person anyway, etc. Letting go of outcomes and continue vetting It’s really up to them to be better, not us. We aren’t dealing …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 07:57 AM
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I think the “logic” here is that it’s a way to reclaim their body from horrific and traumatic SA they’ve experienced by also getting money off men who as a group have previously taken advantage of them… but I agree it’s not something to glamourise or promote. Just because the industry exists and she gets paid doesn’t mean it isn’t actively harming other women by keeping the porn industry alive and well. I wonder if vulnerable women were supported more to choose other paths and almost went throug…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 09:43 PM
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Porn addiction
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 07:45 PM
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Both uni students and he was always condescending to me bc I was one year younger
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 02:30 PM
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Constantly talking about drug use on the first date
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 02:27 PM
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Not asking me anything about myself on a date
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 02:24 PM
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When my NVX told me he had a PA but that it was “cured now” (that he was w me) It was not cured.. I was unaware back then what a red flag this was bc I had normalised men in my life being PAs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 02:23 PM
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Lol it’s just deflection right!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 11:03 AM
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Watched a documentary on poly people in the US a year ago and it was fascinating. It seemed honestly like a lot of the women were definitely not as into their partners as the male partners were into the women, which I mean good for them if so? I didn’t really expect that to be honest; I thought it would be only the other way around. But either way the imbalance in love / connection doesn’t sit right w me. In each partnership they showed, at least one person from each one was doting more on their…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 09:55 PM
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When he dumped me and watched me cry for three hours even when I left the room he’d follow (clearly got off on me being upset) and then the next day he said he wanted to talk and regretted it and wanted me back. We lived together on a long term contract btw so I couldn’t leave the house.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 08:05 PM
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Oh my god. OH MY GOD. I need this. This has been an issue my whole life! THANKYOU!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 06:28 PM
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When you put it this way you radicalise me all over again and I think “God. I’ve still got a little pickme inside.” 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 06:45 PM
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I have a question relating to this subject - if you are married but want to get a divorce, and your joint income / savings in accounts are added together and split in half to get the even split of assets - if I earn more do I lose money? And if I keep £10k in a private account somewhere I thought for a divorce you have to declare it bc you have to declare everything, and it all gets split up anyway? I want to know if this is true as it’s really been putting me off marriage lol. I thought in a co…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 06:09 PM
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Call me money obsessed but this is 1000000% why. I refuse to stay in shitty situations due to “not having the money to leave”. I always will have the money to leave. As a broke person (hopefully not forever tho!) this is hard bc you can’t rly splash out on anything fun with your hard earned money as it all goes into regularly used necessities like food bills etc and then this sinking fund but it’s better this way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 05:00 PM
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I bet the top comment and many others are nothing but praise for his honesty and “don’t sweat it bro, it’s just natural to feel the way you do” with multiple awards. 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 01:22 PM
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This is a great guide. Just replace husband with wife.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 11:24 AM
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And he stared at her tits for the entire interaction while she was just being polite as she works in customer service, and is at work 😵‍💫
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 10:21 AM
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Red flags never come alone, where there’s one there’s always more. Like an infestation of rats or roaches!(Saw this on FDS!) 🚩🚩🚩🚩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 10:09 AM
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Your partner is a direct reflection of you, and your values. If he treats you like shit / has undesirable qualities and hundreds of red flags, that is him embodying your standards. It also signals to other people, this is who I believe matches me, and I believe this “love” is acceptable for myself. On a similar note, if he’s “good” but his friends are a mess (literally any red flag, like if they’re douchey scrotes or get angry&violent or all watch porn, etc) then that is a red flag. His friends …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 10:09 AM
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will be trying this!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 09:56 AM
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If you’re wondering why he ain’t acting right or what specific technique you haven’t yet thought of will fix the relationship: he probably ain’t the one!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 09:53 AM
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You put into words all my observations in my personal life this week 🙌🏻🙌🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 09:51 AM
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As women we should do what we need to do and burn the rest 🔥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 09:50 AM
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This is disgusting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 04:09 PM
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I mean, I can see how a sub like this is a scrote breeding ground. “I’m not an incel it’s an unpopular opinion sub” 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 10:23 PM
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I wish I knew this and internalised it years ago 👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 12:54 PM
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This ring is divine!!! Congratulations!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 09:28 PM
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We really overshare on Reddit 😂😩 but also it’s time for him to be publicly shamed so yessss queen 👸🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 08:51 PM
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Oh to be a female bird vetting rapey male birds & to procreate with a with a penis-less male bird who treats my bird self correctly ‼️‼️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 09:18 PM
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Passed all my uni exams, moved out, made new friends and rekindled old ones, started going to the gym, got two job offers and came off anti depressants. The last two were coming anyway but with the free time and energy I have they’ve materialised faster. Also, just feel dead weight lifted! I wish the “relationship” didn’t go on as long as it did and eat away my prime years. My grades, physical and mental health all could’ve been better… The most important being my mental health which was literal…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 10:45 PM
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Read: being a woman is a risk factor 😐😐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 09:02 AM
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All the contradictions. “He needs a woman to do X BUT not too much or he’ll cheat”. Isn’t this just too accurate. We’re always either too much or not enough. Meanwhile men are quite literally never enough and act like the prize 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 07:29 AM
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Short / ugly men wouldn’t look at a woman who is not conventionally attractive, they think they deserve supermodels despite.. you know… everything about them. SMH The confidence they have…😪 Yet we’re “shallow” for discriminating based on looks, including height.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 08:28 AM
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My LVX broke up with me and asked for me back twice this academic year. Both times right before major exams for me. Yes we were both doing the same degree and he knew. They simply don’t give a SHIT. how did he do it twice? I know, I’m embarrassed. But I’m happy it’s over now. We lived together on a fixed term contract for a year and it was the start of the year that he dumped me. He asked for me back the next day. 🙄🙄🙄 Fortunately I aced that exam, but I have so much resentment. I knew all the wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 08:15 AM
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I’ve just thought of a good one: “someone who is true to themselves/ being themselves” 😏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 06:57 PM
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A dissertation? 😟 sometimes these LVM don’t realise they’re privileged not to be blocked … ⛔️📵
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 08:38 PM
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I absolutely love this as a strategy. I hate when scrotes latch on to your language and your personality and morph into it.. not the being a high level self respecting woman part of my personality, unfortunately; but I mean reflecting your language and repeating it word for word like they came up with it😪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 08:32 PM
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Yep, this is exactly why I believe bad wording is a problem now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 11:56 PM
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Jfc, exactly!!! Imagine if she said “I noticed you were narrow”? Or “short”?? Or “fun sized” or anything else that is CLEARLY not a compliment lmao. Not saying being wide is bad and being tight is desirable, but come on, it’s not a compliment to be called wide. If we brought their dick size or shape into it, they’d immediately be so butthurt. Because it’s backhanded if a compliment, at best, and obviously rude at worst.. lesson: Sis, it’s time for him to go in the 🗑 if he’s a grown man& communic…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 11:32 PM
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So sad. You can’t help her though, only she can.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 08:47 PM
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Me and u both then, sis 😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 01:27 PM
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You’ll stop resenting others with this mindset too.. like “how could they let me down by doing XY??” Level yourself up instead and let others deal with themselves. Worry about yourself first, it’s what everyone else is doing🌞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 01:24 PM
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😂 I should’ve explained more but I meant scrotes who can’t communicate will literally start humping ur leg to initiate.. and that’s “communication” 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 01:20 PM
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Starts humping ur leg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 09:39 AM
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Lol exactly. “Sorry I didn’t do anything earlier.. but bc I’m being nice now in your DMs maybe you’ll still have sex with me?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 07:47 PM
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And then you’ll be known as “not chill” and “fiery” for saving your own money and protecting yourself. Really they’re just mad at you because you stopped providing them your service for free. Oh no, I guess I’m not “cool” about things anymore..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 01:27 PM
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I’ve only just realised that’s what was happening to me. Oh my god. 🤯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 01:16 PM
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I feel bad for her. I used to be the one in my relationship who would always nag for things to be taken to the next step. If it doesn’t come naturally or if you’re the one doing everything… then sis… he just isn’t that into you. You’re a placeholder. I’m sorry it sucks to hear, even if he’s a 2 and you’re a 10, you’re holding a place for another woman - one that he will actually work for. Or there may not be one good enough in his eyes, actually. Either way.. him not even thinking of taking thin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 10:03 AM
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That’s so annoying.. I’ve also found that that same thing with my ex (eating mammoth portions at dinner time) I wonder if they knew it’s because they didn’t eat earlier in the day? And also I wonder if they knew they could do it? Like, have real food at dinner time bc I’d make it 🙃 I like having leftovers too tf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 04:52 PM
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Lol my ZVX is like this - his mommy would make him weeks and weeks worth of food for him to defrost and eat….
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 04:50 PM
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Self asteam 💩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 10:22 PM
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I was thinking about how this happened to me just the other day in one particular class in high school. It was so unfair, bc we clearly did not like eachother but the teacher told the class it was to make sure he didn’t act like a fool bc I was “good”. Miss, I had anxiety so I didn’t and wouldn’t challenge it. Omg. Also he bullied me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 08:31 AM
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Totally agree!! I feel like some jobs in particular are are breeding grounds for LVM or has particularly high rates tho
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 11:42 PM
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I don’t want to reveal too much personal info about myself but having observed a couple of them, whilst at work, and is just my brief experience so this is a tiny sample size you must bear in mind.. they were actually wonderful. Really respectful, in fact really HVM and I was really thinking of putting some sort of special mention out there for them; they were nothing like some of the horror stories I’ve read of some disgusting gynaecologists I think on this sub? on a post about getting Pap smea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 11:30 PM
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This is great to hear! I expected as such but honestly don’t have the experience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 06:15 PM
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This comes from again from my personal experience not yours. In mine, them being narcissistic and often being a mess in their personal lives. This isn’t cut and dry.. ETA: wouldn’t rule it out I suppose but i feel like the possible range here would put it in the unsure category.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 06:14 PM
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With 3 close family members and my X being drs please just hear me out: NOT DOCTORS! For all the reasons others have put here. Just don’t do it!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 09:36 AM
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❌ Military, police, doctors 🥼 psychologists, finance bros, anyone who works in a supermarket and doesn’t plan to move on, unemployment, lawyers ❓Unsure category: Construction work or a trade, never really interacted with anyone like this but I’ve had enough of men who are too inept to be able to help me fix common shit around the house. possibly a PT? They can’t all be like love island? And they seem so nice but maybe that’s their job… Nurses and PAs- not sure about their egos, variable person t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 09:34 AM
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Just wanted to vent.. I blocked my NVX over a week ago and he reached out to me on a form of social media I hadn’t blocked on. For various reasons I can’t go complete NC yet and so he called today me to let me know we’re finished. I knew that anyway as I had blocked him 😩 but it still annoyed me that he was trying to do some sort of power play with me. Waiting for various contracts we share to end soon so I don’t have to worry about it anymore
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 09:15 PM
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Ugh absolutely. Move in with them and scrotes start taking liberties
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 08:46 AM
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I thought I was someone with lax boundaries when it came to this but after being the live in bang maid for a year, unmarried, the romance has obviously died for him and my LVX has become full on scrote. I guess the universe wanted me to learn the hard way. If I went back in time I never would have lived with him, but then again I didn’t see his true colours until now. In my pick me ways I thought living together and sort of proving that we could do it was “the next step” but all it’s done is mad…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 08:45 AM
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God me too. I always used to joke that he had a “New York” themed room bc it was so grey and boyish. Not in a charming boyish way .. like really bland.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 08:33 AM
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Lmao my NVX flat out said “I’ve read the instructions they’re really hard I can’t do it” and “we need extra tools to assemble it that I don’t have” (which we didn’t).. if I had vetted this earlier I would have avoided so much pain. My dad came around the next day and had my thing built in about an hour and enjoyed it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 08:29 AM
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My ex would always never want anything so it would just me looking around going “we should get these [necessities for living]” and him groaning and stonewalling me bc he doesn’t want to spend any money and probably didn’t even want to be there.. he’d always be quiet and I’d feel like he was pissed and it would upset me bc I was just trying to have a nice couple-y day out … lol I feel sorry for past me who had to put up with his total lack of enthusiasm for everything. And his cheap ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 08:26 AM
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Win or lose, it’s almost as bad either way. Sure the rates are higher when England lose but why are they so high even when they win.. this number is what we should look into. From someone who has been physically abused and trust me it has never mattered if it was a Monday morning or a Saturday night..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 08:20 AM
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Omfg the “Ill prepared”.. are you describing my ex?? What is it about IKEA and LVM that brings out literally identical traits we all seem to resonate with?? 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 10:12 PM
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That’s the thing, he was ugly. Objectively, he was roughly my height and scrawny. The whole situation makes me annoyed even now.. I found out from a conventionally attractive female friend that he said I was coming on to him and he had to “escape” me. Omfg. He had this idea for years that he would marry this same friend of mine who looks wise was wayyyyy out of his league and is in a LTR. 🙄 Another time this happened with some other guy, he was an acquaintance and I sat at a table next to him in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 09:37 AM
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Lol (but actually not really 🙃) there was one or maybe two times when I’ve just been nice to guys and then they clam up and start avoiding me and being rude as hell - bc some mens MOMMYS taught them they’re Gods gift to fucking earth and they took it as me flirting…. 🤨. And bc I was not an object of attraction they were disgusted and ran off telling all their friends I was creepy or told me later that I was being weird and made fun of me publicly🤡🤢🤡 I wish I could get a drop of that confidence /…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 12:16 AM
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This has actually changed the way I look at things!! Thankyou
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 12:00 AM
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I really needed to read this today, thankyou!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 11:59 PM
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This post is 💯 as always. Go with your gut. If he’s making you feel shitty - he’s being shitty
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 09:44 PM
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Literally. Some men do this and think they need medals and trophies when it’s like… the bare minimum. I think the bar i want to raise in my next relationship is ~ -isn’t in love with his mommy -non toxic, normally attached mommy (my X’s belonged in the JNOMIL sub) -can drive and has a car (I drive and I want to be driven around not the other way around!) -can cook good food. My exes could get by but I certainly wouldn’t enjoy eating their food made from scratch.. -good haircut and knows how to s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 03:09 PM
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Sounds like my NVX I’m NGL. (He said his love language is sex) 🤡🚩 I know using sex as a bandaid 🩹 can be an easy option but it’s not a solution at all. What happens if / when the sex goes? you know, after giving birth; if you take certain medications, grief or depressive periods.. any change in a woman’s body could cause this,and literally any shit happening in life. You can’t emotionally be in a HV relationship whilst also pacifying a pornsick man-child with sex indefinitely, or at all, in my e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 02:59 PM
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Totally agree this a modern phenomenon - if a guy sees you and likes you, asks you out, etc etc… why would he ask that? It’s not a job interview ffs it’s meant to be romantic and getting to know one another. Nothing would dry me up faster than hearing this question on a first encounter… what happened to taking an interest in me and my life and showing YOUR value rather than asking me to explain myself to a stranger. Guarantee a guy like this would also mansplain economics to you. I think it come…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 02:46 PM
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God that’s awful. I thought, from social media and seeing her on TV, that she actually had her head screwed on! Then again I don’t know her personally nor her husband
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 02:39 PM
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Askreddit is a cesspool for these ridiculous questions that stroke men’s egos 🥴 Currently there’s one I JUST scrolled by on my feed that’s like “guys, what do you wish girls knew?” I already knew it would be scrotal shit like “don’t be afraid to make the first move we love it” and “pay us a compliment 🥺” (& there they are at the top, with 5k+ upvotes 😐) Giving that “don’t I get a hug? 🤗🥺” energy 🤢 Just say you have no game, Jake
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 11:54 PM
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Fuck, this was my ex. No boundaries by the end and it still didn’t make him stay. I didn’t get fucking picked 🙄🤡 Good job for ending it though and not losing all your dignity. You could have been a forever girlfriend or someone who pined over him for ages after the break up despite his shitty, shitty treatment of you. We’re going to come out of our shells as women who men won’t even try their shit on us and attract HVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 12:11 PM
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Only Narcs and absolutely emotionally immature, ZVM who feel threatened and personally victimised by everyone and everything would NOT have this mindset (that you deserve boundaries that shouldn’t be pushed). Do not sink to their level and try to come across “friendly” and “reasonable” by meeting him halfway and making excuses for him when/if he pushes back. Let his mask slip; feel the ick and FOLLOW it girl. He’s being a child and showing you who he really is - that he is selfish and only sees …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 12:05 PM
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Wtf. Is wrong with men 😞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 07:48 PM
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Oh my god, that was the worst. He’d need examples of everything! And I’m like, DUDE, every day it’s the same old shit!! I could talk til I’m blue in the face and you’d till wouldn’t get it / do it. It was actually impossible to try to communicate let alone argue with him bc he’d stonewall so much
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 09:20 AM
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He didn’t have any female friends for the past year, he’s acc become a loner gaming incel. But yes in the first stages..I’ve never been able to check his phone 📱 properly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 09:17 AM
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He would do something similar - his style was to stonewall and ignore / not put any effort in. So he would just stop doing anything so it would all be totally one sided and I mean TOTALLY one sided. Then of course he’d be like “oh how am I supposed to know what you want” or “I can never get anything right according to you” 🚩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 09:16 AM
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🎯 Oh my god yes the scrolling, we’d be watching TV and he’d be turned away, on Reddit 😩 Lol every time it was my birthday he never knew what to get me. Or he would buy me the most hideous things. I know it’s the thought that counts but I knew it was a problem when my dad got me so many cute and thoughtful gifts for my birthday.. without being told what to get! I told him please tell your mom to get me “x” and then he’d just get me that thing anyway 🥴 like please have some imagination! That is a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 09:14 AM
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🎯🎯🎯 We’d been doing 50:50 dates for the whole relationship, for 2.5 yrs, before.. idk the last two months or so, because I just stopped paying him back (Thanks to FDS). I think he acc didn’t like me anymore so couldn’t even be arsed to fight though, not like it was his idea or wanted to pay for me. Probably was gonna end it soon so didn’t mind.. 🤡 A few weeks ago on FDS I read a post about symptoms of porn sickness and read through it. Idk how to skip to the important parts of this story bc it’s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 09:08 AM
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Oh my god!! BINGO! 🎯 Literally he broke up with me in November and asked for me back the next day crying, and acted like it didn’t happen after that. (He did watch me cry for the whole day though like a fucking sadist, so it was REAL ladies). CEO of gaslighting and pretending he’s never done anything wrong🤢 Thankyou queen, still finding my feet. It’s hard in COVID times to not feel really lonely, but I think I have to do what I have to do to get through it anyway. This “relationship” had a few f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 08:59 AM
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Yeah oh my god. Bingo!!! 🎯 I was getting upset bc he’d never text anymore and wouldn’t call unless I asked essentially. He said we could have a date on Friday or Saturday.. (ie yesterday!) there wasn’t ever gonna be one of course, unless I started nagging. The worst: for weeks we’ve been talking about planning holiday and I haven’t heard a thing about it in a few weeks. One that he was “really keen” to go on. Shit head.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 08:57 AM
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Omfg. BIG BINGO! He would always just be there like 🧍🏽😐 and would literally say NOTHING! And I mean it would be like talking to a literal wall. Horrific and actually so invalidating, it’s worn me down for the past few months 🥺
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 08:54 AM
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Lost nearly 200lbs!!!! 🥳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 08:52 AM
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BINGO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 08:50 AM
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I right now am mourning all the time energy and emotion I wasted on a LVX and how it didn’t make him treat me better. I guess all I can do is learn from it and not try to take on any “projects” again. I overvalued him and he was /ison a pedestal. (Working on it.) I was not objective and didn’t vet. I would make myself accept the new low / ever lowering standards he set for a “relationship”. and it still hurts to see the potential I see just isn’t what he IS. I feel sorry for the woman who wrote …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 03:59 PM
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The fact that, I was probably 13 or 14 and I didn't know that women could orgasm. It wasn't ever spoken about in sex ed. Sex ed only taught us that m*n ejaculate and then sex is done. [Catholic school] Everything is through the lens of the male gaze and pornography, even at a fucking religious school. Religion should not be filtering out education, especially when its frankly hazardous to not teach about the other 99% types of sex and all the other parts of it. ​ But no, even sex ed from a catho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 12:00 AM
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Lol this is how I felt too. I’ve watched gaslighting like this happen firsthand in my family. I was telling myself to lighten up and just laugh it off (just pickmeisha tings?) but my body deep down isn’t having it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 09:56 AM
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I think some people AHEM men watching may not connect the dots here. I hope so but not sure
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 09:54 AM
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I hope so too! She does seem to be pushed around by these characters on the show more than I’d expect tbh for just being a woman. I know the show is meant to showcase how they’re all deadbeats but it’s hard to see past how they treat women on this show to see the “comedic” side 🥲
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 09:52 AM
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After reading the YouTube comments I learned that, but I was just watching the show yesterday and this scene happened and I was just aghast bc.. that’s how it is. That’s how men are!! they’re awful lmaooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 09:48 AM
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Ugh completely. I have no “friends” atm except maybe one but she lives far away now so I can’t have regular contact w her. Everyone else has shown themselves to be trash in the past 6 months. So so disappointed but learning to not feel lonely. If anyone has any tips for the loneliness they’d be well received in responses here..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 04:36 PM
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Thanks ladies. I feel like most of the answers were in hindsight common sense and maybe I was putting too much value on the book on boundaries. this sub is so great for keeping me on the right track to knowing my self worth!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 11:28 AM
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I agree. It wasn’t a specific example of something that’s happened to me, but I have been ghosted for a while before too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 11:22 AM
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This is a fair point. I feel like most people I try to communicate boundaries with don’t even know what they are and take it personally or get angry anyway. Even if communicated politely 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 11:19 AM
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