Today I blocked my now EX! I feel good. I feel at peace. I no longer have to listen to the whining. I can no longer fool myself into believing the “relationship” added any value to my life. It was dying a slow, slow, undignified death til I called it off!
I can’t believe the peace I feel right now. He can’t even get in touch and it’s bliss. Spent some time talking to an older HVF friend today after it was done and her support was everything. I feel free.
Context: This relationship was my first and I really into this guy. Thought at one point we’d do it all together- marriage kids etc (🤢🤢🤢) Been together for 2.5 years since meeting at uni.
I was emotionally all over the place before the block, and I knew he was treating me like garbage for months. I couldn’t cope with life let alone an imminent break up. The validation from FDS (that I stumbled on randomly two months ago) that I’m not overreacting for wanting more was the start of me seeing the light at the end of a dark dark tunnel.
Most of all, the relief I feel in the curt and almost professional manner of ending things with a simple block- oh my god. The high. I wish I had the capacity to have done it sooner ✅ for ages I have known this isn’t right but today I am so proud of myself. I don’t have to explain a thing and I don’t have to listen to a thing. A conversation was pointless. This guy knew me inside and out he just didn’t give a fuck about me and wasn’t even decent. Having a “big conversation” would just rile me up and that’s exactly what he wants. Not today.
Thankyou mods and contributors to the sub, I know I’ve got a long way to go and probably have more tears ahead with all the unlearning and probably will have days where I doubt myself. But this couldn’t have been possible without your unforgiving attitude.
🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🥂🥂🥂🥂🥂
🚩🚩Btw PLEASE in the comments below write some red flags you think he may have had and I’ll reply “bingo!“ If you got one. 🚩🚩
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