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| 3 | The Bar Is In Hell. The Audacity Is Sky High. I'm Scared For My Generation.This is personal opinion, but any guy who buys lingerie for me is not going to see me wear it, but a resounding, “do you have a receipt?” Straight up, Victoria lingeries goes for like $150/set in my country. I’ll probably get something that I ACTUALLY like and he can sit there and sulk. On a side note, I always what would happen and if women did the same thing and buy them underwear. Would they be mad that I bought them the wrong underwear, and got them tighty-whities because I think that their … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/22 01:54 AM |
| 2 | women shouldn't make men wait for sex proved with "data and psychology"There was like so many ads popping up in my phone lol This looks more like a blog rather than something off of a legit source that I would take seriously. This author sounds like he needs someone to stroke his ego. It feels like a cry for attention and some pickme is going to willingly agree with this bs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/22 01:38 AM |
| 41 | An Ode to Living AloneFolding my own laundry and not having him tell me I’m doing it wrong. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/22 12:51 AM |
| 18 | “If he wanted to, he would” fair, but how do I let him know I’m interested without directly asking him out?Oooohhh this happened to me last week! Met a guy from a mutual friend. He seemed HVM, he had a good job, has a degree, good listener, and patient. Bonus points that he didn’t work in my field. He was tall, had these broad shoulders and chest that I like in a guy. He was a good dresser. He never wore any of that white t-shirt and sweatpants bs to see me. It was always a nice sweater or collared shirt with dress pants. Both of us were sending signals that we liked each other and we were MAD flirti… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/22 12:39 PM |
| 25 | Feelings of loneliness is realYes, but that was when the pandemic had just started. I got into mindfulness, and try to keep myself busy. Whether it is doing laundry or taking myself out for food and shopping, I always try to keep myself busy and happy. When I find myself restless or bored, I just take a nice warm bath. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/22 08:43 PM |
| 68 | Ali Wong Getting a DivorceDespite what she says about him being the hot one, I always thought she was the better looking one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/22 05:44 PM |
| 22 | Ali Wong Getting a DivorceI guess she saw the light lol Edit: I made this post 58 days ago lol. I guess everything FDS says bears resonance. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/22 05:41 PM |
| 42 | Ali Wong Getting a DivorceYeah, he quit his job and now is a stay at home dad, and sells merchandise at her shows. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/22 05:40 PM |
| 15 | Ali Wong Getting a DivorceThanks for the tip, sis! It’s been blocked! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/22 05:38 PM |
| 170 | Ali Wong Getting a DivorceDamn, so he literally did nothing. It’s like she was done waiting for him to show her that he loved her. This is just me and I am speculating, but I think she agreed to the prenup because she wanted to believe that he would eventually treat her well, see her as an equal, and prove to him that she wasn’t after his money. However, he took advantage of her kindness and took her for granted. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/22 05:30 AM |
| 94 | Ali Wong Getting a DivorceHmm… alright case in point. He didn’t exactly do anything to shield her from his family’s abuse. He got what was coming for him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/22 05:24 AM |
| 297 | Ali Wong Getting a DivorceIf I remember correctly, it was his family that pushed for the prenup. She talks about how her father-in-law gave her the greatest gift of all… the gift of fear to push her to work harder. I truly think that they were in love at one point, but it was the prenup, money, and lack of effort that got in the way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/22 04:09 AM |
| 382 | Ali Wong Getting a DivorceHe’s in for a rude awakening. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/22 04:04 AM |
| 218 | Ali Wong Getting a DivorceMe too, alimony is the worst. Up to my knowledge, I think it was Nick Lachey that got alimony from Jessica Simpson. She once made this comment about how nice it was that Nick is able to treat Vanessa to the finer things in life with her money. Also, I think Mariah Carey also has to pay for his expenses every time Nick comes to see his children. Damn… like he can’t pay for his own hotel room to see his kids? This makes me wonder if he wants to see his kids at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/22 04:01 AM |
| 231 | Ali Wong Getting a DivorceHer book made me laugh at times. It was so heartfelt because she was writing this with her daughters in mind. She talked about her family, his family, and her life as a struggling comedienne. She even talked about her life journey and past partners. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/22 03:50 AM |
| 413 | Ali Wong Getting a DivorceLiterally all her Netflix specials and her memoir was like a giant foreshadow to their divorce. She was definitely naive and bought into societal constructs of how important it was for women to be married. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/22 03:46 AM |
| 354 | Ali Wong Getting a DivorceI hope so. I hope that when she signed the prenup, she had things set in place to protect her as well. She always said that no could have predicted the outcome that she was going to be the successful one. Everyone says that he also comes from money as well, but I wonder if he will ever inherit or even have access to his family’s fortune. My thinking is that if she signed a prenup stating that she won’t get financial help from him, then has to help him pay off his student loans, it makes me wonde… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/22 03:43 AM |
| 86 | Men resent women who help themThis is what I love to hear! Go get that money and leave him in the dust! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/22 05:50 PM |
| 66 | The Pickme Paradox.You forget about chargeback some of these scrotes want a refund after post nut clarity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/22 11:30 PM |
| 1 | Abortion starting to be banned in many states. No exceptions.All these comments make me want to not have sex with men until I go into menopause. These comments are scary and real. I knew someone that died giving birth to her son because her family shamed her for wanting an abortion. She died and I will never get get to see her again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/22 11:29 PM |
| 55 | I didn’t listen to FDS, I got hurt.I get it. No worries. It wasn’t your fault. He’s no good for you. I’m happy you left and you will find better. You are better than him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/22 11:07 PM |
| 34 | What characteristics are you looking for in a partner?Reliable, loyal, and empathetic. Mainly a do-er with no lip service. I prefer someone with a quiet lifestyle 🤐. No partying, drugs, and loud activities. Small group of friends preferred. Organized, thoughtful, and punctual. Having kids isn’t a priority. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/22 02:32 AM |
| 25 | What options are there for kicking out a LVM who refuses to leave?Im curious what does remove all doors mean? Is this the literal sense… like you’re removing the doors to every room to have no sense of privacy, or are you just changing the locks? I’ve never heard of this technique before… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/22 02:20 AM |
| 264 | You Cannot Save Those Who Love To Drown, And Honestly, It's Not Worth ItI had a similar story to this as well, but it worked out for the best. There was a co-worker that really liked my mutual friend. At this time, four people (me, the guy, the girl he liked, and another girl) knew what was going on. The other girl told suggested that we play matchmaker and put those two “lovebirds” together. Being deeply entrenched in FDS at the time, I politely declined. If he wanted to he would. For weeks on end he expressed how much he like her and wanted to date her towards us,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/22 01:38 PM |
| 144 | "You're a Saint!" isn't a compliment...I work in a daycare and I teach children to take responsibility and make them hold accountability for their actions. Whenever they apologize, it’s not just an “I’m sorry”. I make them apologize for what they did. For example “I’m sorry for pushing you into the mud”. Edit: I don’t extend my patience to men or grown ass adults just because I don’t feel like it is my responsibility or duty to teach them things they should have learnt long ago. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/22 03:49 PM |
| 16 | Run if he tries to create false intimacy with you.Is that what it is? It’s been happening a lot lately. I thought it was a glitch. 😝 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/22 11:32 AM |
| 128 | Netflix has been producing lots of pick-me and lvm propaganda latelyIt’s making a lot more sense to me. A while back there was that reality tv show called f-boy island, and there was this giant billboard advertisement about that show in my downtown city. The show did terribly, but there was so much hype. However, No one talked about it after it ended. No one wanted a second season. As for the bachelor/bachelorette franchises, I don’t understand why there’s more than 10 seasons with different versions for each country. 😆 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/22 02:59 AM |
| 28 | Netflix has been producing lots of pick-me and lvm propaganda latelyI’m sorry to have contributed to your depression it wasn’t my intention to make you feel this way. Personally, I wouldn’t read any graphic novels without strong female leads or FL in general. It just goes to show how bad at storytelling the authors are. A writer should be able to write and draw from different perspectives. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/22 02:37 AM |
| 105 | Netflix has been producing lots of pick-me and lvm propaganda latelyYeah… Netflix has been showing Asian films with crazy sex scenes in them and marketing them as indie/underrated films. To me these shows are filthy and there’s nothing cinematic or artistic about them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/22 02:32 AM |
| 41 | Netflix has been producing lots of pick-me and lvm propaganda latelyI want to be where you are once I’m done grad school. With my parents, they don’t want me to be lonely. They want me to be able to find someone who I can spend my life with when they leave this world. They want someone to look after me, but they’re just realizing that I am capable of looking after myself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/22 02:24 AM |
| 69 | Netflix has been producing lots of pick-me and lvm propaganda latelyYeah…for the most part I agree, but I also like watching Bollywood films, and korean dramas. Sadly, I just realized that some of the foreign dramas that I watch don’t have strong female characters, but of subservient women. With this particular K-drama that I watched, the female lead was a doctor but still a pushover when it came to her male colleagues who held the same position as her, and it got on my nerves a bit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/22 02:17 AM |
| 114 | Netflix has been producing lots of pick-me and lvm propaganda latelyI liked Aparna as well. My mom no longer worried about my future regarding marriage. I’ve proven to her that I’m capable of taking care of myself by cooking, cleaning, and maintaining a steady job. She no longer worries about my lonely future. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/22 02:14 AM |
| 34 | No fault divorce is now available in England and WalesWait… so you’re telling me that in order to get a divorce one needs to held accountable in certain countries? This means that one cannot get a divorce unless there is someone to blame. Keeping this in mind the one at fault could forfeit /lose assets, and even custody of their children. 🤯 Taking this in mind, I’m gonna treat marriage more seriously and vet harder. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/22 01:51 AM |
| 37 | Run if he tries to create false intimacy with you.You’re insinuating that there’s something wrong with me, making me second guess myself. I don’t have autism just because I felt that he was treating the relationship as a checklist/chore to have sex with me. Teachers have been trying to pin this label on me since grade school, I got tested, and my results came back normal. It’s bringing back unwanted memories. I almost fell down that rabbit hole thinking that it’s my fault the relationship ended because I may have been on the spectrum and ultima… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/22 01:11 AM |
| 25 | OLDs are literal hellI’m eight months OLD free. It’s great. No longer is dating a must in my life lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/22 10:47 PM |
| 92 | Run if he tries to create false intimacy with you.Now he can do that alone. 😂 Sorry, I’ve had guys lovebomb me on dates like that in which I responded with wtf? 😂 this comment brought back so much memories. Lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/22 04:00 PM |
| 27 | When HVM deletes the appSome guys express this, but never follow through. Some are manipulative and want you all to themselves. One of my matches wanted me to be exclusive and asked me to delete the apps. Did he delete the apps on his own phone? No! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/22 10:47 AM |
| 41 | Watching 'Ultimatum' on Netflix - the epitome of 'if they wanted to, they would'.I saw the huge poster, and I rolled my eyes ski just skipped it lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/22 02:17 PM |
| 18 | Hot Take: Marvel/DC Superhero culture is doing to men and boys what Disney did to women and girlsThey’re in their 20’s-30’s. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/22 01:40 AM |
| 264 | Hot Take: Marvel/DC Superhero culture is doing to men and boys what Disney did to women and girlsMost of the men I’ve gotten to know like Tony Stark… gee I wonder why… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/22 07:20 PM |
| 3 | I’m not accepting crumbs from my exHell yeah! Lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/22 10:44 AM |
| 17 | Positive stories of finding a HVM or enjoying singlehood?I literally finished laundry. I sat their thinking what else I needed to wash. My rooms smells so nice. Everything is clean. I have so much money leftover. I can now treat myself to things that I like. I no longer have to go hangout with his friends out of obligation. He used to get mad or sad whenever I wasn’t around with him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/22 10:41 AM |
| 2 | How to deal with men who want to be “orbiters”I used to frequent OLD and a few matches followed me. Generally they get bored and stopped once realize your living your best life, not following them back, and caring about what they do lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/22 09:34 PM |
| 26 | Man attempts to low-ball his date after getting horrendous advice from Reddit. Queen blocks and deletes in responsePlease cope harder lol got me reeling! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/22 09:18 PM |
| 27 | I don’t have lunch with my colleaguesThis is what I’ve come to conclude as well. On my first day of work, I showed up in a blazer and a Michael Kors tote bag and I already got passive aggressive comments from my current colleague about how she used to dress like me but then realized that she was trying too hard. She also made this comment about how “kids these days are brandwashed and forcing their parents to buy them things they don’t need”. All I could do was just laugh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/22 01:11 AM |
| 19 | I don’t have lunch with my colleaguesNow that you mention it, I remembered this one incident about them trying to eat healthy. One of them pulled out a frozen microwave meal and said that it was supposed to healthy and under 500 calories. She also complained that there was only one piece of meat and she said, “what am I paying for? Vegetables?” It just struck me as odd, because that was the whole reason why her meal was healthy. Out of genuine curiosity how does obesity come into all of this? Is it because of the stress? The ladies… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/22 01:00 AM |
| 11 | I don’t have lunch with my colleaguesTrue. Thanks for the reminder. If I were to calculate the total amount of time I’ve spoken to all three of my colleagues, it wouldn’t amount an hour combined. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/22 12:51 AM |
| 11 | I don’t have lunch with my colleaguesLike you, I’ve come across older women that find it hard to take orders from me; someone who’s old enough to be their daughter/granddaughter. Reality is that even though they may have more experience than me, I still hold a higher position over them. This is why many of my colleagues have difficulty working with me. I do agree with everything you said. If it’s not that you talk less, they’ll hate you for other things. I think that they’re internally battling with themselves about whether or not … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/22 12:22 AM |
| 47 | I don’t have lunch with my colleaguesThey’re in DEEP! They’ve been brainwashed by the patriarchy for so long, they don’t even know they could do better. Also, I don’t want to get fired. I’m the new hire lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/22 08:42 PM |
| 67 | I don’t have lunch with my colleaguesCoach is awesome! Shopping and food is always the best way to go when you want to treat yourself. This year, I got myself a pair of baroque pearl earrings, and had dinner at this cute Italian restaurant. I’m definitely coming back and brining my friends in the summer for patio dining. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/22 06:57 PM |
| 81 | I don’t have lunch with my colleaguesI volunteered at a daycare in a school during college. The daycare program ran during and after school hours. The conversations teachers have during their break will scar you. From what I remember, a lot of them were really catty and passive aggressive. You’re right, there was so much competition. It was like being in school all over again with their cliques. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/22 06:50 PM |
| 2 | Life Update After Finding FDSThank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/22 01:02 PM |
| 38 | Life Update After Finding FDSYes, congrats. This is what I love to hear! I get so excited hearing a Queen level up! I lost $400 on the deposit. If I went along with the wedding, I would have lost $100 for the entrance fee, $300 for the dress, and she was expecting a wedding gift as well so who knows how much that would have been…not planning to lose anymore money on her. My other HV friend and I just stare at each other when she goes on her pickme tangents. We usually try to change the conversation. It gets so annoying when… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/22 02:26 PM |
| 3 | I need support, I think I need to break up with himI went through this during the pandemic with my very first guy. The relationship lasted for six months as well. He was playing mind games with me and made me feel bad about myself. I was in a similar situation like you. I always thought that I was never good enough for him. However, let me ask you this, is he good enough for you? If you’re feeling these feelings of anxiety and breaking down, do you think that he’s good enough for you? The breakup was nasty for him as he he said I wouldn’t be abl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/22 12:26 PM |
| 55 | Woman finds out her boyfriend earns significantly more money than her, wants him to contribute more for their rent and take her on a nice date.Here’s another tip. This girl should not be moving in with this guy all together. Personally, I would not move in with a guy without marrying with him first. Anything before that is basically I have my place and you have yours. Until there’s marriage which is a sign of commitment, then you can expect to be sleeping at your place. No sleepovers either. If you’re stranded and need a place to crash for the night, either sleep in your car or rent a motel. I for sure won’t be opening my doors to you … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/22 11:44 PM |
| 330 | Half the comments have sense, the other half are… highkey horrifyingI’m around her height and weight and I can tell you that almost all the guys I’ve met knew their boundaries with me. Yes, we have played fight and it never leads to them hurting me. When they want me to stop they usually just do nothing and tell me that they’re over it. Granted I had one situation where I was on a date with a man child and he yelled squirrel and punch me on the arm. Yo… first and last date with that guy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/22 11:24 AM |
| 195 | Abstinence is one of the most powerful weapons against scrotes.Yes, I remember rolling my eyes at teacher(mother is super uptight about this topic, so most of what I learnt was in school) for telling me this, but honestly, it IS the way to go. I remember she briefly talked about the emotional side of sex, and being in a relationship. I didn’t get it until now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/22 08:55 PM |
| 388 | love thisI’m gonna do this lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/22 02:48 PM |
| 6 | 💐🌱🍒🍇🌽❤️Literally and figuratively speaking❤️ Beautifully written😊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/22 01:36 AM |
| 9 | Red flag: The man who disagrees with everything you have to sayAs a girl, I was told that if a boy is mean to you it means that he likes you. That type of thinking needs to die. It’s not cute. It creates pickmes and lowers the bar for women because they’re being breadcrumbed. It conditions them to take whatever small amount of effort and affection that guy has to offer. If someone likes me, they better show me instead of doing these hurtful things. I’m a daycare worker and I refuse to let that kind of behaviour slide. Whenever, a little girl comes up to me … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/22 03:16 AM |
| 33 | 40 Years a NEET: Reflections of a Stay-At-Home SonIs this how he makes money? Lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/22 02:41 AM |
| 8 | men's silence after setting boundaries is a vetting strategy and a very big tellThat’s fair. For me, when I talk to someone, they have my attention and I have theirs. When, I need to pass time, I’ll probably let them know and they can decide whether or not they want to continue the conversation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/22 06:48 PM |
| 8 | men's silence after setting boundaries is a vetting strategy and a very big tellYes, If he wants to chat he has to initiate first! That’s what I do when I date. I admit I’m clueless when it comes to men expressing interest in me, so it isn’t a loss for me if I never get their message. I will never be the person to chase after men! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/22 06:20 PM |
| 11 | men's silence after setting boundaries is a vetting strategy and a very big tellI understand your situation better. It’s hard to plan ahead with children. They will always be your first priority and you will cancel everything just for them. I’m single with no kids in my mid 20’s. I think both our situations are drastically different. I don’t want to date single dads either lol as they’re looking for a mommy bangmaid to unload their kids onto. In addition, single dads my age are not that mature. In my culture it’s perfectly acceptable to dump all these responsibilities onto … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/22 06:05 PM |
| 22 | men's silence after setting boundaries is a vetting strategy and a very big tellThe time you invest in a person could make it harder to leave whatever is happening, so for me, it’s better for me to leave at the first sign. No harm, no foul. I thinks it’s a personal preference of mine. Lol With the “what’s a good time to catch you on this app?” 🤯🤬 that’s annoying. It insinuates that you’re regularly on this app and I’d be offended lol. I think it should have been reworded to, “I’d love to get to know you more and I was wondering if we could stay in contact?” And see where it… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/22 05:28 PM |
| 28 | men's silence after setting boundaries is a vetting strategy and a very big tellThis right here! This is what I’m trying to convey in my long ass paragraph. Congratulations you’ve perfectly summarized my thoughts! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/22 05:25 PM |
| 18 | men's silence after setting boundaries is a vetting strategy and a very big tellMore or less. For example, if he we’re talking and conversation is flowing and he wants to see me, but all of a sudden, leaves me hanging for more than five minutes without saying anything, he’s blocked and deleted. During my 🤡 days guys took 1-2 hours (or even days ) to respond with an “ok lol” or just took longer to come up with a witty response, it shows that they’re either too busy for me or boring. I’ve had instances where they said they wanna meet up, and upon them finding out that they ha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/22 05:23 PM |
| 164 | men's silence after setting boundaries is a vetting strategy and a very big tellThat silence is crucial. My ex went silent whenever he didn’t get his way. He went silent whenever I wanted something serious and deflected my questions. My rule of thumb is that, if he goes silent for more than 5minutes while texting you (unexcused), block and delete. He’s either scheming or having second thoughts. During my 🤡 days on OLD, they’d ghost me and talk to me like nothing happened and I’d wait for them to revisit the idea 🤡🤡🤡. Now I know it’s a waste of time. Never give him benefit o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/22 03:38 PM |
| 1 | Can Anyone Help Explain This to Me?Will do! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/22 10:21 AM |
| 25 | Can Anyone Help Explain This to Me?My mother said the exact same thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 11:31 PM |
| 2 | A big moment of growth for me todayGood for you, sis! I’m still working on my confidence and I still choose to remain hidden and quiet. I’m glad you called him out! He should be embarrassed! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 09:58 PM |
| 16 | I don’t even know what to say 🤦🏼♀️Naw, she should leave. It’s already a sunk cost. Edit: Mods if you’re seeing this please delete this comment. I don’t think this is FDS approved… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 07:41 PM |
| 12 | sea-lioning, and how to push back hardSorry you went through that, you just have to block and delete them. By the way, what I’d like to do is write back something that would get them riled up and block and delete them forever so they will never get a chance to respond lol makes them even madder once they’ve crafted the perfect response only to find out their long paragraphs (probably longer then the stuff they submitted in school) wasn’t received by the other person. I will have wasted their time by making them think that I want to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 04:50 PM |
| 73 | I don’t even know what to say 🤦🏼♀️That’s why I don’t cook for them, or go to dinner at his house lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 12:25 PM |
| 199 | I don’t even know what to say 🤦🏼♀️Yeah, at this point… I would just end the relationship and finds someone who’s willing to marry me. I had this happen to me when I wanted something serious with my ex and he was like I love you but I need more time. At that point, it was just awkward since there was no movement in the relationship. It literally killed whatever feelings I had for him and I withdrew from him. She needs to leave him. The more time she spends with this guy will make it harder for her to leave him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 11:47 AM |
| 6 | I call BS on his “Parental Instincts”, and am I the only one who thinks this? I think he abused his powers towards minor girls.Well said! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 11:41 AM |
| 87 | I call BS on his “Parental Instincts”, and am I the only one who thinks this? I think he abused his powers towards minor girls.Yup, he’s been hired by Westport. 😔 So sad and fast… I don’t understand why society punishes women for life and with this guy, he just gets a slap on the wrist and gets to resume his normal job. If this were a women, no doubt, she’d ever be able to bounce back as quickly as he did. He literally found a job within a few months! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 03:10 AM |
| 53 | Have any of you had an actual relationship from tinder?No. I avoid that thing like the plague. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/22 11:36 PM |
| 96 | Nuff saidI agree, but can someone explain why? To me, it tells me that he’s a gamer and won’t have time for anything but his games. He’d rather play his games and wants to be in a relationship but not because of you, but so that society doesn’t judge him. He’s lazy and does minimal effort and yet somehow takes gaming way too seriously. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/22 04:37 PM |
| 62 | It took me years to get out of the Pickme mindset.When I was in my early adolescence, I was happy that any guy expressed interest in me, and flirted with them because they liked me, but I never took the time to thoroughly vet them, figure out why I liked them, and if they were good for me. It was always if I was good enough for them, but I never thought about if they were good enough for me. Guy #1: I liked him when he said that he liked me. But then he told me that I’d look hot if I lost some weight in front of my friends and they all just lau… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/22 02:08 AM |
| 7 | The most effort this dude has put into anything. Block and Toss.I’m going to take a wild guess that it was either in a : A)Brown paper lunch bag B) grocery bag C)Ziplock/sandwhich bag Btw all these bags are crumpled up, and we’re probably used. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/22 01:44 AM |
| 6 | The most effort this dude has put into anything. Block and Toss.This guys writing is horrendous. I can’t make out anything he writes let alone process what he’s saying. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/22 01:41 AM |
| 384 | Even the comments are clocking onto his weaponised incompetenceThey broke a Huda Beauty palette, Natasha Denona, and a Naked palette. 🤦🏻♀️ That’s over $100 worth of makeup. He is not looking after the kids. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/22 01:38 AM |
| 70 | Hiding my former crushes' posts on social media was such a great decisionSo… I block all my ex potentials and exes right after I’ve stopped seeing them. It’s just easier for my mental health and state of mind. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 03:21 PM |
| 100 | A recent post here got me thinking… who are women you look up to? In media, history, or even fictional characters?2 of my college professors. I know it’s not within your parameters, but I don’t look up to anyone in media since I think these characters were mostly constructed for the male gaze or to fit in with dominant discourse. Professor 1: She was in her 30’s. I was 17 when I started college and I thought of her as someone cool. She was never married, owned her own place in the city. She came off as difficult to men but I just loved her take on life and personality. She taught me about adversity and how … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/22 09:11 PM |
| 70 | Spotted one in the wild.The cognitive dissonance with this one 😂 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/22 08:43 PM |
| 20 | How are you leveling up?It’s tough but worth it. I admit that I wanted something less crazy but I was just presented these opportunities all at once. Here’s how it goes: Monday to Wednesday: Job 1 Thursday to Friday: Job 2 Weekends: Job three All nights: Grad school I like to keep busy because I’m the type of person that gets bored easily and I need to be stimulated. I think you should start out with part time gig, or do something like a small business. I used to go thrifting so that I could sell clothes on the side an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/22 05:58 PM |
| 12 | Major Trigger Warning on the topic of War, Rape, Violence. The Mỹ Lai massacre was the mass murder of unarmed South Vietnamese civilians by United States troops in Sơn Tịnh District, South Vietnam, on 16 March 1968 during the Vietnam War. 54 years ago today, American soldiers terrorized a village. 💔The Vietnam War was also known as the living room war as civilians watched the atrocities through broadcast television. Due to television it lead to people condemning the war because they witnessed the atrocities that happened. For once, television provided people with easy access to information about the war as oppose how things were done with WW1 and WW2. Soldiers who came back from the Vietnam War did not receive a “heroes welcome” like soldiers from previous wars. Instead soldiers were spat … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/22 02:34 PM |
| 30 | How are you leveling up?Don’t believe these guys. 5kg is a huge difference. They’re just trying to lower your self esteem. What a bunch of lug nuts 😂 Congrats on your weight loss! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/22 01:58 PM |
| 65 | How are you leveling up?Career: I work three jobs. A few months ago, I landed a job with good pension but now I just started another job with a better pension package and work benefits. I also freelance on the weekends and my contract with this company has also been renewed as well. Education: I’m a graduate student and I’m about half way done my masters program. I’m excited to graduate next summer. Hobbies: I spend most of my spare time shopping and going to trendy restaurants. As you can see, I just don’t have time t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/22 01:31 PM |
| 38 | What do we think about a man wanting to be treated like a trophy wife?Remember that he has to have a hot meal of your choosing and the kids bathed and fed by the time you get home. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/22 10:26 AM |
| 49 | Ma'am, you cannot buy a man's love.I guarantee you that he’s gonna throw a hissy fit when she actually returns it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/22 07:35 PM |
| 7 | Whilst we are on the topic of being competitive with men.. A man is trying his hardest to get me fired at work.Is he unionized? And are you in a union? I can imagine that they keep you and fire his crusty ass. He’s 60. It’s likely that he’ll go into early retirement and just coast until he’s 65 or ready to retire. They’d be a fool to fire you and keep him. I mean, he doesn’t have long until retirement… As others have said, always journal and document everything he’s said. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/22 12:30 AM |
| 33 | The fake proposal -- anyone else?Yeah… he was complaining about how his friends hooked up with women in 2 months, and they were getting steady sex. He also stated how some of his pickme friends were sleeping with their partners 2-3 times a week for a few years. A few days after the “I love you” he made this comment about how he was a saint for being so generous to wait for three months. Personally, I don’t like being rushed. He started to become LV. It was just awful whenever we met up. This was when the unwanted touching start… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/22 11:14 PM |
| 168 | The fake proposal -- anyone else?I got the fake “I love you” three months in and I was like wtf?! He just wanted to fuck and figured that waiting three months was already too long, so he went with that instead. He tried to speed up the relationship. So glad I left. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/22 01:39 PM |
| 15 | He came back.Why do they always come back when you moved on and fully healed? It’s unwanted trauma. I had an ex from college, hit me up through my school alumni email after blocking him on all my personal stuff. I didn’t think he’d do that to me. He then proceeded to have his guy friends harass me. I had to block the whole lot of them as well as his pickme girl friends. We were up for hire with the same position and there were multiple positions to be filled as they were in need and most of the employees lef… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/22 05:03 PM |
| 42 | The whole unmitigated audacity of this scrote. 🤢 I am so glad sis leveled up, adjusted her crown and LEFT.Does anyone have links to the original post? I’d love to get more context. 😊 She sounds lovely ! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/22 03:14 PM |
| 40 | If you’re emotionally recovering from dumping a LVM, avoid listening to sad love songsNaw, go shopping. Buy the things you weren’t able to get while being held down from him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/22 03:03 PM |
| 1 | When men in professional settings treat you like sh*t when you don't wear makeup. I'm sorry, was this supposed to be a date?!Oh my gosh!! So I’m not the only one!!! My driving instructor made a comment about my outfit and my skin being too light and how My legs needed some sun. I was wearing capris and a polo shirt. This other time I was wearing full face makeup for a Halloween party and I swear he was creepily nice to me that day. This guy was older than my father. He could have been my grandpa. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/22 10:44 PM |
| 130 | Man Wonders If Leaving His Urgently Ill Girlfriend At The ER Was, Like, Rude Or Whatever.Oops they’re still engaged, sorry. It’s been 2-3 years. They’re blaming it on Covid for not getting married. However, she’s really pushing to have a fall/winter wedding. Who knows if it will happen… I made a post on FDS a few weeks ago about her bridezilla antics. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/22 12:32 PM |
| 225 | Man Wonders If Leaving His Urgently Ill Girlfriend At The ER Was, Like, Rude Or Whatever.I had a similar story to this. A friend went bike riding in the summer and fell off her bike and broke her arm. Her fiancé at the time said that she was being dramatic and refused to bring her to ER. She cried the whole night and couldn’t go to sleep and he finally gave in and brought her there so that doctors can tell her it was nothing. Called her dramatic on the ride there. Get this, upon seeing the doctor, he didn’t have to do x-rays, one look at it and he said that it was broken. There was … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/22 11:48 AM |
| 1 | Agent Carter 🎬I dropped $60 to buy Agent Carter lipstick. I love the series. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/22 02:37 AM |
| 53 | Husband tries to get his wife to sign papers blindfolded then berates her for not trusting him. So shady!! I hope she runs!!Someone slap this man child into oblivion. These are games little children play. If I were her, I’d just take the papers and bitchslap him across the face. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/22 02:31 AM |
| 40 | How to tell a guy texting is boring and you’d *hint hint* (or very directly) like to move onto calling/facetiming/talking in person? Should you leave it up to them to progress? Texting is feeling like a chore but the conversations are good. Not into false intimacy anymore.Been there; done that…he was nice, polite, and never asked anything of me. The only thing was that he lived across the coast. We were pretty much established in our respective cities. He bought a house, and I just started my full time job (I just received work benefits a few days ago). He made plans to come visit my city but Covid got in the way. Talking to him became a chore. He didn’t initiate anything, and I got bored. The conversations were agonizingly boring. I wasted a good 6 months talkin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/22 02:20 AM |
| 18 | The ad I got on a video about domestic violence. On International Women’s Day!Terrible ad; not going to buy or support Zola. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/22 09:27 PM |
| 12 | Thoughts as I'm packing my things while he sleeps, drunk after going to bed at 7am (a normal night for him)Good call, leave him in the dust. He sounds like a nightmare. You’re right he’s on the road to not changing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/22 04:11 PM |
| 7 | What would you do if your partner doesn’t like thirst traps when you send them?I wouldn’t even send thirst traps. However, in this case, I’d be annoyed and just stop sending him anything. I think he’s the type of guy that likes to complain about you sending him thirst traps and also complains when you don’t send him thirst traps. This will result in a quick and easy break up since he catch-22’d himself. Lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/22 03:18 AM |
| 116 | A cautionary tale from the '80s. This was a relative's former doctor and I found a newspaper clipping in storage. Full article in the comments.This is the stuff of nightmares. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/22 03:10 AM |
| 172 | I don't know if I did the right thing.He deserved what he got. Nothing wrong with what you did. Totally justified since he was in the wrong anyways. You’ve moved on. I’m happy for you! You don’t want to be the person you were before. You’re in a better place now. That’s all that matters! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/22 02:06 AM |
| 26 | Never Live With Men Or Become Their Forever GirlfriendsI just checked tenant law in my area. It states that a guest can become a tenant upon staying with you for seven consecutive nights or 14 nights in a span of six months. 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/22 05:24 PM |
| 21 | Never Live With Men Or Become Their Forever GirlfriendsThank you for your contribution. You’re right, it is dependent wherever you live, but it is time that women become financially literate to protect themselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/22 11:46 AM |
| 94 | Never Live With Men Or Become Their Forever GirlfriendsDue to my ✨new✨three year limit rule, it doesn’t make sense for me to move in with him before marriage. In addition, my culture frowns upon unmarried women living with men. On a personal level, I do not like rushing myself when it comes to living with my boyfriend since it’s such a huge decision. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/22 03:28 AM |
| 5 | I finally figured out datingI was 24 when I started dating and I broke up with him before anything “carnal” happened. Lol you’re not a late bloomer. I’d caution you to be careful about having casual sex. Hookups and FWB are never a good thing. Consider all the things you could contract… Best to just invest in a good vibrator lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 12:10 AM |
| 2 | What are the possibility that he’s going to settle down?I saw a bunch of clubbing photos. There’s a stack of alcohol he standing next to. Recently, I saw photos of him at work. He was in a cubicle. I went through, his posts and none of them had the happy Valentine’s Day wishes nor did he wish any of his gf anything. There was this single exception where there was an image of his high school sweetheart cuddling against him. Other photos were of him with his gfs on dinner dates. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/22 08:09 PM |
| 3 | What are the possibility that he’s going to settle down?From what he said, he met her while he was working in another country. They broke up when he was being relocated. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/22 07:32 PM |
| 10 | What are the possibility that he’s going to settle down?That’s true. I am a part time daycare worker and I’m attending grad school to work with children. My dream is to work with adolescent youth. I want to settle down. Right now, my job does require me to travel within my district for work and school. So that’s a no-go with him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/22 07:23 PM |
| 18 | NVM is caught watching porn. Fiancée calls the wedding off and he’s worried about not getting the deposit back. Scrotes and pickmes come to his defense 🤡He’s dependent on her. If she had the balls to cancel the wedding it means that she doesn’t give a shit about the deposit. Trust me, she’s fine with losing money on the deposit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 01:31 PM |
| 295 | Never EVER share financial information with a man. It starts with $20 now but can easily escalate to much more over the years. Come across the wrong one and they will absolutely destroy you financially.Unless y’all have a joint bank account, don’t give him your pin. He’s not even married to you, and he’s stealing your card to buy breakfast without you knowing?! This broke ass fool wants to surprise you with breakfast in bed with your credit card? Wtf? Dump him he’s using your resources. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 09:31 PM |
| 15 | Creepy IG man strikes againThat fake credit card though…lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/22 04:22 PM |
| 61 | I just got dumped mid-abortionThis is awesome! I would have done the same thing btw! What a great way to keep a scrote from seeing you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/22 04:19 PM |
| 190 | I just got dumped mid-abortionProbably needed that money for his abortions with other women. Scrote: Hey honey, so here’s the thing, half the baby is yours so I think it would be fair if we went halfsies on the abortion (him in his head: I got another women pregnant and I need to get her an abortion too). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/22 02:36 PM |
| 83 | Co-Worker Randomly Offered to Rent His Room to Me 😅🤣I straight up declined his offer in the politest way I knew how…thank God he works in another department and I don’t have to see him as often. Basically, it’s just him and I living together and he will have keys to my room since he’s the landlord and I don’t like the idea of him having keys to my room when he lives there as well. There’s just too much power on his end. Furthermore, I don’t trust him. My intuition is telling me that he’s no good. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 10:46 AM |
| 47 | Co-Worker Randomly Offered to Rent His Room to Me 😅🤣Exactly! There are powers at play in this situation as well. I’m in a higher position than he is, but he holds seniority over me since I just started working a few weeks ago and he been here for years!!! Maybe the reason why I feel so uncomfortable with what he said was because crossed a boundary with me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 10:30 AM |
| 32 | Forever girlfriends turned wivesI have friends going to the same process. We’re all in our late 20’s to early 30’s. Friend one: He proposed nearing ten years. She had to threaten him of leaving. I was MOH. In short, you could read all about it in one of the posts of FDS and how that’s going… In a nutshell, it’s bleak. There’s really no progress on the wedding because the brides doesn’t have her priorities in check. She sent him an email/clue to the wedding ring she wanted. He’s very lazy and expects her to do all the planning.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 10:25 AM |
| 21 | Swipe. Man goes on 63 dates, does not use FDS tactics, still single. Huh...🤦🏻♀️ I can imagine him now… He’s a “chill” guy, has no plans, and does “whatever”. Lol hahaha no thanks… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/22 07:42 PM |
| 5 | I'm engaged, but this is kind of a vibe.None of my students at daycare know about Cinderella. 😂 I intend to keep it that way. None of them are interested in being a princess. They’re more interested in things like paw patrol, and animals. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/22 02:15 PM |
| 20 | is planning the same weekend trip with a different girl one year later an issue?He’s treating you like her; dump immediately. It means he’s just looking for a replacement. History will repeats itself with this one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/22 01:52 PM |
| 1 | What is this the FDS take on “free the nipple” movement?I don’t want people staring at me. Simple as that. Many women say that it is empowering to have your nipples on display and that you shouldn’t care, but I do. I do not like putting on a show for random strangers to see. That being said, I do go braless in the comfort of my own home, except when I have company over. I had an ex try to get me to be comfortable and said I could go braless in my home and that it would be okay when he visited, because he wanted me to be comfortable . Hahahahaha…all I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 09:55 PM |
| 31 | Someone trolled the tony stark wannabeWhoever did this made my day, thank you! He’s homeless and picky!!! When I used to work minimum wage at a mom and pop grocery store, I definitely made more than $50 in a day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 06:10 PM |
| 40 | I’m tired of scrotes trying to mask their attraction to minors.I knew a guy (19) in second year university who told me he dated a high schooler as a flex. The only loophole was that she had just turned 18 in the summer and joined OLD . That girl was barely legal. Jokes on him because he couldn’t do anything since her father dropped and picked her to see him. A Week into the relationship, he realized he couldn’t sleep with her or use her, because she didn’t have a job and her parents were constantly interrupting their alone time, he dumped the girl over some… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 11:07 AM |
| 68 | Beware of Males that claim to have no social mediaFunny story: there was a guy I met through OLD that claimed he didn’t have social media, but the dating app. He was dumb enough to talk about his business and one of his prompts made me realize that it was an Instagram post mentioning a friend. I found out that person knew my friend from highschool. I made him cough up his Facebook account, to this day I believe it wasn’t real, but a burner account. He ran a business off of Etsy and I asked if he could show me so i can support him and he said he… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 10:58 AM |
| 8 | Pick-Meisha Wedding RantThanks for the clarification. I agree. She is LV and a pick-me. We’ve been friends for over a decade and I’m just beginning to see the light with her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 06:00 PM |
| 0 | Vetting strategies for dating a gamer.Hahaha you’re explaining my gamer friend and him! I broke up with him because he kept playing video games in my presence and didn’t want to make time for me. He was into comic books and action figures. He once asked me for permission If it was okay if he bought this scantily clad girl character from a video game he liked. There was an awkward silence lol The only time he suggested I play video games was because he wanted me to stop bothering him. Funny enough when I do, he gets annoyed that I wa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 05:51 PM |
| 17 | Pick-Meisha Wedding RantYour hug is appreciated! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 04:32 PM |
| 23 | Pick-Meisha Wedding RantI’m happy you chose not to go to her wedding. You’ve spent so much time in college working three jobs. I’m currently doing two so I feel your pain. The grades appear on your transcript and could effect your chances of getting into another program. She’s very selfish for making you fail a class to go to her wedding. It sounds like she’s never went to college to understand how hard it is to graduate with decent grades. She’s stupid to have her wedding on Valentines Day. Lol what did she expect? Th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 04:12 PM |
| 118 | Pick-Meisha Wedding RantI plan on using the $250 and money saved aside for other expenses incurred at the wedding for a solo weekend getaway with my dog near the beach. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 01:47 PM |
| 29 | Pick-Meisha Wedding RantYeah, my thoughts exactly. It’s a sunk cost fallacy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 01:45 PM |
| 95 | Pick-Meisha Wedding RantI’ve been listening to her fantasize about her wedding. I doubt any of her other bridesmaid wants to hear her talk about it. They were so preoccupied with their own worries at the dinner party. I doubt they’ll help with anything other than fill up on bread and drink themselves to death. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 01:44 PM |
| 207 | Pick-Meisha Wedding RantShe’s walking around telling people how much he loves her proud of the ultimatum that she gave him. It’s embarrassing. She thinks that she has the upper hand from that ultimatum… He probably bought her the ring because he was going to lose access to free sex, home cooked meals, and their 50/50 lifestyle. Btw, should I also mention that he’s not going 50/50 on their wedding? He literally wants her to plan everything and is fine with just showing up in a suit, saying I do, and have a few slices of… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 01:39 PM |
| 44 | Pick-Meisha Wedding RantLol I’d Venmo her $650. -$400 for failed first wedding -$250 for attending second wedding I’m over this shit tbh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 01:30 PM |
| 57 | Pick-Meisha Wedding Rant$400 is a lot anywhere! At the time, I was transitioning from a really bad job to a stabler one while still in school. The deposit would have paid for a semester of school books. I foolishly gave her my money without thinking. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 01:22 PM |
| 54 | Pick-Meisha Wedding RantI think stupid and naive would be a better description rather than patient. Obviously I ran out lol Nonetheless, you’re right. Honestly, I had those rose-coloured goggles lodged deep into my brain that I didn’t see that I was getting played. The friends that don’t keep in touch with her as well as outsiders have said that I was being dumb. Sadly, I was like no! This is her wedding and she gets it how she wants! 😂 The fact that she saw me as an insignificant speck in her life is hurtful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 08:18 AM |
| 112 | Pick-Meisha Wedding RantShe told me her parents offered her a modest amount (50k) to use in conjunction to her savings, but she told them it had to be either 90k or she wasn’t doing it. When the destination wedding fell through, she lost all support from her parents which meant she no longer had 90k due to her unwillingness to get vaccinated. At this point her parents were spending so much money on her without seeing any real progression. She was asking for designer items like earrings, necklaces, and bags that she saw… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 08:02 AM |
| 23 | Big oof. This whole thing made me cringe really hard. This is why we don’t chase or be too forward without properly vetting. The wrong men will get the wrong idea, their entitlement doesn’t have limits.She needed to screen this bitch first through video chat for a good 2 video chats. If he can’t make it through, he’s done. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 01:41 AM |
| 253 | Men Who Hate Women Show It When Women Are Most VulnerableYeah, he’s an asshole. And changing it so sister instead of brother is manipulative as shit. Girl better dump the dude. After eight years and he can’t even care for her for those three days. I hope she hires movers and throws his shit out when he leaves. He just wants to play and avoid responsibility to her. I hope the comments are siding with her. When are women going to learn that they’re so much better on their own ? Or in the company of other women? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/22 03:41 AM |
| 1 | The occupation of men on OLDGood idea! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/22 02:19 AM |
| 1 | The occupation of men on OLDFor me, it’s basement dwellers, army men, finance bros, hobos and day traders.🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/22 02:14 AM |
| 3 | Pornsick Scrotes Want Their Money Back!Wow… he’s bringing children into this? The lengths they go through to manipulate you to giving back his money. That’s gross. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/22 01:59 AM |
| 7 | Pornsick Scrotes Want Their Money Back!To clarify, it would reflect badly on her because she can’t hang up on him since hanging up on him is unprofessional because she didn’t achieve “customer satisfaction” and the problem isn’t resolved. I would have totally hung up on him and or have transferred him or put him “on hold” lol I’d make him wait till the end of time lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 01:23 PM |
| 7 | Pornsick Scrotes Want Their Money Back!I think the messages were recorded and if he compained it would have reflected badly on her. I would’ve hung up on him as well lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 10:08 AM |
| 214 | Pornsick Scrotes Want Their Money Back!Scrotes are stupid and desperate once they realize that they just blew a month’s worth of work! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 02:49 AM |
| 13 | Even girl friends can be energy vampiresA bout a few months ago I posted about my friends wedding and how I was excited to be MOH. Yeah… uh… so it sucks. Her fiance isn’t helping out. All he wants to do is the cake testing. He doesn’t care about anything. We picked out the suit, invitations, and venue. When they took their wedding photos, all he did was show up in an outfit that she paid with her own money. I’ve been her emotional punching bag for the past year and half when the wedding kept getting canceled due to Covid and that he’s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 02:36 AM |
| 33 | Ali Wong’s “Don Wong” ShowGood point. She is vulgar when it comes to talking about sex. I would definitely not watch it with my parents in the room. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 02:40 AM |
| 11 | What Do You Ladies Think Of The Following Films? | My boyfriend dislikes all of them, but I do find it a bit of a cOiNcIdEnCe that all of them ~happen to have~ female leadsI only like phantom menace, the others put me to sleep 😂 I only watch it to hear Yoda and Jar Jar talk since it makes me laugh. fell asleep watching the first ghostbusters film 😝 I haven’t had time to watch captain marvel seriously. Charlie’s Angels is 🤮. I haven’t seen the original one. I saw the one with Lucy Liu, and it was heavily sexualized. It was super cheesy. The recent film with Kristen Stewart was about feminism but I felt like the creators missed the mark about what feminism was about… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 12:29 AM |
| 67 | Hansel-and-Greteling my way out of a toxic relationshipReading this broke my heart as I used to do the same thing with my ex. Granted I was with him for eight months. He said I was too soft and emotional as well. I once came home from our first date with a bruise on my arm from him grabbing and flinging me around. I regret not telling him (Tried to be the cool gf 🤡, I didn’t want to come off as a complainer)because for the next few months he was manhandling me and groping me in places that I didn’t like and brainwashing me that it was what couples d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 07:37 PM |
| 16 | Happy Valentine’s Day, Queens! ❤️🌹✨Happy shopping! The only person you need is yourself. Today, I bought my mother a bouquet of roses. I will be meeting with my parents tonight for dinner. We’re having bbq. In the meantime, I’ll be shopping as well! I’ve been off OLD for 7months now. My goal is make it through the spring. I just cut off a long distance situationship before Valentine’s Day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 02:53 PM |
| 51 | Incel saying the quiet part out loud: we’re not people to them.This is the type of guy who says this and turns around crying because they’re single af wondering why they’re alone. Thanks for making my job easier lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/22 07:42 PM |
| 24 | He’s really dumbfounded, guys. He really has no words.It’s a neg. Ewww… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/22 12:20 AM |
| 37 | How do you remove a guy from your life when you see him everyday?Lol then I just grey rocked a friend who tried to get me into forex trading with her bs lessons. Did not know there was a word for that… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 03:33 PM |
| 168 | I need someone to help me make sense of this...You want apology because the lady was being considerate? Because she had common sense?Pull out! 🤷🏻♀️ He won’t be missed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 03:30 PM |
| 122 | Why does this man think that this is something to brag about? I already had an idea of what profession the women he was talking about was when I initially read his answer to the Hinge prompt. I've run out of words.Ikr? How is this supposed to impress women? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 07:28 PM |
| 35 | How can I politely explain to my friend that her match-making business is rubbish and I don't want any part of it?I wonder if you can sue her … it might be hard because she lives in China, but this has to count as fraud and stealing. This is a serious breach of privacy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 05:54 PM |
| 75 | If you ever want to get over an infatuation/crush, just check their Instagram follow listAdd in guys that lump you into his spank bank. I knew guys that create accounts just to have their stash of porn 🤮. Queens, you know better than to let him use you like that. This is on a different tangent but I had to unfollow a guy I met through OLD due to his online persona. At first, he looked really attractive. He was a doctor which checked out with just a quick Google search and did relief work for a prominent organization. Sadly, I unfollowed him since I figured him out through the people… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 05:38 AM |
| 7 | Age Gaps in the MediaI really hope that, that line wasn’t scripted lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 04:55 PM |
| 326 | Age Gaps in the MediaMy mom told me that she no longer finds Leonardo attractive. We watched don’t look up together and she was disappointed that he let himself go. She said he looked like an old man and gained lots of weight. She refused to continue watching the rest of the movie. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 12:38 AM |
| 292 | Classic RedditThis is my fear. This is why I have trust issues with men and will never have sleep overs with them. This man has issues which will likely progress and get worse. I imagine him raping and assaulting his partner in their sleep and pretending that it never happened. This is the type of man that is capable of taking advantage of you in your most vulnerable state such as sleep and use it against you as revenge porn. Avoid at all cost. He has no sympathy from me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 12:34 AM |
| 18 | Ladies, what are your experiences with a covert narcissistic ex after breakup?Apparently he was the “innocent one” and very protective of him. They operated in pack mentality. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/22 06:58 PM |
| 0 | Cooking together in a new relationship - wifey shit?Let me put it this way, I’ll set the house on fire before I cook or help anyone cook. I cook for myself and my parents that’s it. I will never eat anything he makes while we date. I don’t expect him to cook for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/22 09:57 AM |
| 117 | Ladies, what are your experiences with a covert narcissistic ex after breakup?His friends hit me up “accidentally”, so I had to delete and block all their asses. He “accidentally” butt dialed me a year ago after our three year breakup. Bro, how do you accidentally video call someone from WhatsApp? Lol He’s blocked and deleted. Apparently, he went through my old school channel. I made the mistake of not blocking him there as well, because I didn’t think he’d contact me through those channels. Also, blocked and deleted on there as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/22 09:14 AM |
| 413 | LVM f*cked around, found out.She’s Queen!!! Reading this made me laugh. She just left him at the sushi restaurant 🤣 . She definitely wants him out. There’s no going back lol He’s so dumb. He left out the part where she listed things that she didn’t like about him. I wonder what they were… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/22 09:05 AM |
| 14 | You guysss 🤮🤮🥲 “Ugh- husband woke me up in middle of night for sex and it was gross”Omg 🤦🏻♀️ There are people into this? 😩😵💫You’d think that the stomach acid, bile, and smell would deter him away.🤡🤡🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/22 03:10 AM |
| 177 | You guysss 🤮🤮🥲 “Ugh- husband woke me up in middle of night for sex and it was gross”Can she just throw up on his dick while he forces himself on her? He’ll get the message. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 04:26 PM |
| 40 | Trafficking disguised as dating or job offersI was approached by a trafficker when I was 12. I needed a new dress for a wedding and was looking at the mall’s map. This hag that smelled like cigarettes came up to me and told there was a third level to my local two story mall. She tried to tell me to come with her and tried to grab me. I couldn’t make out what she was saying since it was so slurred almost like she was drunk. My mom was on a phone call so she didn’t see what was happening. I still regret not making a big deal since the police… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 07:48 AM |
| 88 | What are the telltale signs that he might actually have mental illness and/or personality disorder?To further add, if you feel anxious around him alone and not when your with a group of people including him, then it’s no bueno. He should be the only person you feel comfortable with everywhere and especially when you’re alone with him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 07:16 AM |
| 6 | One close to home, 21 year old killed by her 47 year old boyfriend. Ladies there is a reason women his age don’t want him.Reminds me of “ You” from Netflix. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 05:14 AM |
| 31 | Promise rings are a fucking joke.Ahhhh I knew a girl that got one! He bought that shit from Pandora for $60, and took her virginity the same night. He broke up with her a few months after when shit got “ too real “. They were together for a little over a year and she was saving herself. That ring was just a catalyst to speed things up. It’s a literal form of love bombing! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 04:33 AM |
| 83 | No words…I would re-gift the present to him for Valentine’s Day. No sex, just more responsibility. The dog stays within the family, but he has to care for it now lol I’m being childish, but idc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 04:28 AM |
| 93 | I love herI work at a daycare, youth centre, and tutor on the side so I literally work with children all day long. Am I childish? Do I consider myself childish because I work in a field catered toward children? Hell no! I have to make serious decisions that could change their life. Trust me, you do not want to be with people who think your job is childish. You’re always going to be seen as less than to him. You need to be with someone who genuinely sees value, respects your passions, and most importantly … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 01:01 AM |
| 2 | 4 months and she realized she was a placeholder when he had to show basic effort. That's why vetting is important.Thanks! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 09:08 PM |
| 352 | There would be so many cockroaches with J namesIs this actually a service ?! Lol They’d make so much money lol EDIT: It is a thing, and they’re running it again this year! There are other zoos who are offering rats, and cockroaches as well! Honestly, I’m not gonna participate, because he’s not even worth $5 at this point lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 06:55 AM |
| 14 | Spotted this ad under "housing" on craigslist 😬What sucks is that women are going to take their chances out of desperation. Some naive young girl is going to take him up on his offer, and he knows this as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 06:17 AM |
| 321 | A very discouraging thread on Reddit about a woman's BF wanting her to starting wearing more slutty clothes because...So… I work in a daycare and at a youth centre and I had an ex tell me that I need to start dressing like an import model in public. Apparently, my clothes made me look like a grandma, childish, and weird. Wtf… He used to make me feel self-conscious, Here’s the thing, if I were to show up with my ass and tits hanging out that would be a career ruiner because none of my colleagues, student parents, and students would take me seriously. It’s funny how women never ask men to show up with their body … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 04:19 AM |
| 4 | Why he will punish you for giving him second chancesGlad you got away from him. Twice a week is crazy!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 12:21 AM |
| 1 | Men who give unsolicited feedback during dating?I had a scrote tell dump me then proceed to give me a list of reasons why lol he tried hahaha I just left cut him off and left. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 11:22 PM |
| 2 | 4 months and she realized she was a placeholder when he had to show basic effort. That's why vetting is important.He definitely knew it was your birthday, what a bitch! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 11:18 PM |
| 1 | 4 months and she realized she was a placeholder when he had to show basic effort. That's why vetting is important.What does PUA mean? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 11:16 PM |
| 2 | 4 months and she realized she was a placeholder when he had to show basic effort. That's why vetting is important.Really? Took me one date before he started accusing me of being a gold digger. The first date was a walk in the park lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 11:15 PM |
| 26 | The title was « exactly why you should do coffee dates first »For real though! Coffee dates are a high school/college thing! My girl friends keep telling me they’re not, but idc! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 10:35 PM |
| 70 | My friend says "I don't like men that are kind to me, they're boring, I like my men a little bit toxic" how to respond to her? She keeps ending up with trashy men, and when they use and discard her I'm the first person she comes running to and I'm sick of it😩Don’t talk to her. Shut her down and have better boundaries. If she calls you the moment she starts talking about him, hang up and pretend your phone ran out batteries. If she texts you, reply when you’re ready and not instantly when it comes her toxic desires in men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 06:53 AM |
| 34 | Why he will punish you for giving him second chancesThis was what many people said to me. My parents told me this and I was too far brainwashed to see what was happening. They said the exact same things you expressed and I did not see it then. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 10:43 PM |
| 37 | Why he will punish you for giving him second chancesWell, she must’ve been surprised seeing an empty home. I imagine her sitting on his chairs wondering if they got robbed lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 10:41 PM |
| 61 | Why he will punish you for giving him second chancesI’m hollering rn!! He probably had to eat with his hands, sitting on a milk crate that night! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 09:29 PM |
| 174 | Why he will punish you for giving him second chancesI had an ex who held the idea of breaking up with me over my head. I became paranoid and everything I did I always had to wonder if he was going to break up with me. Whenever we argued he suggested breaking up so I would buckle. After our very last fight, he suggested breaking up, and I didn’t want that so I said no (even though I was headed in that direction). It too me a few hours to re-visit that idea and actually go through with it. After I said I wanted a break up, the reaction I got was di… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 06:34 PM |
| 53 | Act around men you are attracted to but haven't signaled their interest in you yet as if they were takenOf course! He has to make the moves first and keep initiating. The moment you initiate, it’s all over from there lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 05:43 PM |
| 7 | Men will literally p1ss anywhere in public and are less demonised than women breastfeeding in public.Have you seen My Best Friend’s Girl? He pissed on a cactus and got pricked in the process lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 05:27 AM |
| 43 | Saw this on IG. Could say I'm shocked but sadly I'm not.Don’t be shy, drop his IG handle. He needs to be stopped! This post alone could possibly have him as a registered sex offender. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 11:30 PM |
| 151 | Why are women hated so much by men?Wow… men saying that you have to test the car first before you buy and them also saying they don’t want pre-owned cars lol There’s literally no logic with them. Total catch 22. Edit: Grammar | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 07:53 AM |
| 2 | Pays 40K for his gambling addiction or his incompetence (dunno which is worse)Hahah that was what I was going to say ! A few months ago, I was approached by someone that offered me a “training session”. I had to pay $1500 upfront and $250 every month hahaha Guess what? The team dropped them because they exhausted all their sources and connects. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 05:51 AM |
| 5 | Ladies who have taken back an ex, did he change and what made you take him back?I have a strict no return policy. Up to this date, I have never taken anyone back after the relationship ended. 🤷🏻♀️ I’ve always explained it clearly to each and everyone one of my bfs during the relationship. Many try to test my boundaries though… it’s fun watching them beg lol Everything that these ladies have said about them never changing and only changing for a short amount of time is true. There have been studies on intrinsic and extrinsic motivation, and usually the latter isn’t as effec… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 09:49 PM |
| 18 | STOP BENDING OVER BACKWARDS FOR ABUSERS WHO BEND YOU FORWARD AND SCREW YOU. She is so fortunate not to end up like Gabby Petito, yet she still wants to be accommodating to her hobosexual ex who ousted her from a van in another state.She could drop it off at the police station and while she’s there, file a police report on his ass with the couple as witnesses. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 08:42 PM |
| 82 | STOP BENDING OVER BACKWARDS FOR ABUSERS WHO BEND YOU FORWARD AND SCREW YOU. She is so fortunate not to end up like Gabby Petito, yet she still wants to be accommodating to her hobosexual ex who ousted her from a van in another state.lol I would have said, maybe one of your hookups took it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 08:14 PM |
| 47 | Friendly reminder: Reality shows are casted and scripted. XYZ did ABC on 90 day fiancé is pathetic for us to be talking about here.Does this count for Singles Inferno as well? Lol Everyone saying it’s real, but I think it’s all fake. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 08:57 AM |
| 24 | Conman pretended to be a rich guy to scam women he met on OLD. Nope, just nope.They’re only rich in their head. 😉 You gotta sort out facts from bullshit. I know a friend who claims he’s a day trader, but works at Starbucks for minimum wage until his career takes off. The truth is he’s a 30 year old college drop out barista. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 09:30 PM |
| 159 | Conman pretended to be a rich guy to scam women he met on OLD. Nope, just nope.The moment anyone drops the words, bitcoin, day trader, forex trading, mortgage, and mentions any credit cards, I’m out lol EDIT: Added day trader to the list. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 01:15 PM |
| 42 | On "Roasting"Self- esteem issues galore with these guys!!! My theory with these guys who are into roasting women is that if you dig just deep enough, you’ll find that they’re insecure or feel inferior to either themselves or other men. Reason why they don’t go after other men is because—like most commentators here have said that— they’re too afraid of getting beat up by men. So, an easier target would be women. I knew three guys who were like this. The first one had deep insecurities with himself because he … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 08:42 AM |
| 83 | I dumped the guy I was vetting over the birthday gift I received 🍪I got an even better one. I had an ex who told me he preferred me without any makeup. This also the dude that offered to buy me fake lashes/pay for my lash extensions. All I can say is that wearing fake lashes is like wearing an uncomfortable bra and at the end of the day, you just want to rip it off as soon as you get home. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 08:11 AM |
| 59 | I dumped the guy I was vetting over the birthday gift I received 🍪Cookies, and chocolates are an impersonal gift that you give to people you don’t know very well. Also, there are so many other healthy variations besides cookies. He could have gotten you a fruit bouquet which is healthier, or just next the food idea all together and sent roses. Regardless, still a horrible gift. This guy is trying to mess with your boundaries. Telling you to “let loose” is a clear red flag. I’m glad that instead of letting loose, you cut him loose. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 05:23 AM |
| 179 | If This Is a War, the First Campaign Should Be . . .I’ve already started the revolution 😜 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 08:15 PM |
| 21 | No second date, so he wants moneyThis is why you block and delete. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 09:45 PM |
| 109 | You will KNOW when a man wants you as his everything. Because HE KNOWS right away.I’d even add that, within 30 seconds they’ll gage as to how much effort it will take for them to have sex with you. In short, they’ll figure out if they want to marry you, use you as a placeholder, or hook-up with you in the first 30 seconds. Personally, I doubt they’ll ever change their minds once they already made the decision. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 09:31 PM |
| 20 | Valentine’s Day Has Always Been the Saddest Year of the Time For MeThanks for the reminder. It took me a moment to realize that this post was one that was filled with resentment, regret and anger. This is not what I want for myself. I don’t want to be angry all my life over this. To be honest, I don’t even know how to forgive him and where to begin. It’s so hard to forgive someone, since I know that they’d do it all over again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 06:40 PM |
| 29 | Valentine’s Day Has Always Been the Saddest Year of the Time For MeI know that now. I think it was cruel of him to make me decide. I shouldn’t have to make those decisions. He just wanted to go on that trip and wanted to absolve his guilt by asking me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 06:13 PM |
| 56 | Taking “breaks” before holidays.Now I don’t feel bad over what I did. When I suggested we breakup, he started hurling insults at me telling me that I’ll never find anyone like him. I suggested going on break so he’d stop. He tried to win me back through a cheap movie date. I didn’t talk to him for the whole week and I ended it with him shortly after. I felt so much guilt because he reached out to see where the relationship was at, and when I said no he said the cruelest things ever and admitted to knowing it wasn’t going to be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 03:33 PM |
| 8 | Apple AirTag: a perfect tool for stalkingThank you, I just check my Bluetooth, and nothing is out of the ordinary. In addition, I’ve also turned Bluetooth on my phone and iPad off as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 02:13 PM |
| 12 | Apple AirTag: a perfect tool for stalkingOmg, thank you for the clarification! I just checked my Bluetooth on both my iPad and iPhone and nothing is out of the ordinary. I do have an iPhoneX, so I don’t know if it’s that old lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 02:12 PM |
| 11 | STRATEGY: How to Emotionally DetachI agree with this list. All of these things was how I got out of my bad relationship. What also helped was that I was good to myself, and gave myself so much TLC. I was also attentive to my own needs as well. I went on solo online shopping sprees, and gave myself spa days as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 02:05 PM |
| 34 | Apple AirTag: a perfect tool for stalkingFor the past week, I’ve had my iPhone send me notifications that says, “This accessory is not supported” should I be worried? It’s been popping up for a few months. All of my products are Apple. It’s showing up on my phone and iPad now. All of accessories are bought straight from Apple, so it’s compatible with Apple. I don’t use any third party accessory bought outside of the Apple store. Do you think someone is tracking me through Bluetooth? I often get messages telling me that I’m driving when… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 01:54 PM |
| 23 | 'The audacity': TikToker calls out man for requesting $4 via Apple Pay after saying he'd pay for their coffee date. She’s a Queen 👑! I’m Glad She Called Him Out. The Only Person Playing Games Was Him! $4 Coffee Dates Don’t Equate To Sex! He’s Just Upset, He Didn’t Get What He Wanted.😂Make sure you add the gas bill too! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 01:49 AM |
| 3 | Makeup: How do you ladies do it?I like routine. When the pandemic hit and everyone was in lockdown, I was restless and fidgety. I had so much anxiety that I needed to maintain a routine just to get through the day. At the time, I left a shitty relationship, school was tough, financially unstable, and I had isolated myself from my friends and family from being in that relationship. I had no one to impress and was at home by myself most of the time. Makeup helped me not think about how much of shit show my life was at that time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 04:50 PM |
| 162 | Scrote is mad that his date has standardsI’m in my mid 20’s. Trust me, girls in their early 20’s don’t date guys in late 20-30’s. They won’t date younger or older, since they’re so picky at that age. Often they won’t date younger guys and men three years older than them. The idea/ trope that girls like to date older men (e.g high school girl dating a college student) is dying out. I work with female adolescent youth and young adults, and most of them express that they want to be with someone their age. Dating any younger would be datin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 04:29 PM |
| 3 | West Elm Caleb: Women Warn Each Other about LVM on TikTok, Patriarchy Immediately Freaks OutSafe to say, for the moment, Caleb is no longer a name I find attractive. Since all of his contact information is down, I’m gonna be wary of any dude named Caleb, or anyone that fits the description. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 05:31 AM |
| 101 | Men Abuse Women Who They Perceive to be BETTER THAN THEMSo true. I was talking to this guy I had met through OLD. He’s a student/day trader who was older than me by three years. He went back to school to get his bachelors and I was completing my Masters, and was working in my field. When he found out, he called me stupid out of the blue right after I told him. Instant block and delete! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 03:37 AM |
| 81 | How are men so obsessed with sex and yet still SO BAD at it??They just want a high body count lol I just read this creepy article about Gene Simmons (from Kiss) and how he kept Polaroids of the women he slept with. He prides himself on sleeping with 4800 women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 03:33 AM |
| 234 | If you needed another reason to avoid hiking with men. This older man was posting looking for a "female hiking partner," but at first seemed well-mannered and talked about mutual hobbies. Then this happened... I am assuming he's a predator luring women into the woods.It’s such a shame when they can’t even maintain composure on the internet 😔… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 03:30 AM |
| 5 | “AITA For Buying My Fiancée A Lab-Grown Diamond And Refusing To Exchange It For A Natural Stone?” What does FDS think? Disclaimer: Article is pretty old, but found it on my feed. Comments are saying that he should leave her…😩A lot of my girl friends are saying that he did nothing wrong and that she’s in the wrong. I personally, think that she’s not wrong. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/22 03:15 AM |
| 43 | Be careful of this new generation of “SAHD”, who won’t do any chores, won’t take care of the kids, doesn’t contribute to earning money but will lie and cheatWhen she and if she cuts him loose, she’s gonna see the light and how easy life is since she doesn’t have to care for another person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 06:32 AM |
| 4 | "I just fell asleep" Men that won't say goodnight or just dip from convosThis and I would like to also add, men who get mad when you don’t say good night to them first. It couldn’t hurt them to be the first ones to say goodnight and good morning first. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 01:35 PM |
| 7 | Some of the creatures lurking on online dating sitesI’m so glad I can’t smell this through the internet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 09:02 AM |
| 43 | Absurd Things Your Ex's Mom Would Say That Are REDFLAGSMy ex relayed this to me as a way to neg me, but she wanted him to keep his options open. 😂 I dumped him shortly after, so she got what she wanted. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 09:00 AM |
| 12 | Why vetting is SO important. I hope this woman gets a divorce and full custody asap.Catch 22 right here!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 03:16 AM |
| 14 | I am a 40 years old and haven’t dated for 2 years and for the first time in my life, felt at peace with it.I want what you have. I want to be debt free and independent. I’ve been single since 2020, but I’ve dated here and there. In August 2021, I left OLD, and it’s been great! I’m also in school and will graduate next year. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/22 11:04 PM |
| 113 | My story of the worst NVM I allowed in my life, back in my pickmesha days 🙆🏻♀️This might sound illogical, but he hates you for being better than him. The fact that you were able to loan him money and not expect anything back is clear indication that he’s a shithead, and he knows this very well. When he should have been taking his anger out on himself, he took it out on you. You made him feel inferior as have other women from his previous relationships. He’s in a predicament where he wants to be with someone that is worse than him, but could care for him in every way possi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/22 10:59 PM |
| 6 | If He Wanted To, He Would 💍Congratulations! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/22 09:45 PM |
| 88 | Men tell on themselves the second you refuse to settleI’ve been off the app since August and it’s been nice. I get lots of time to myself. It’s debilitating being on that app. This Valentine’s Day, I have plans to take myself out on a shopping spree, and spa day. So far, there’s a nice leather agenda that I’m eyeing. I plan on getting myself some jewelry as well. I have my Valentine’s Day outfit laid out. I’m going to wear a red dress with my red purse shaped like a heart. I’m going to do my make up really nice and go out for some cheesecake. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/22 04:28 AM |
| 31 | girl whatWatch… he’s going to be begging for therapy soon to show the he has changed when he realizes his house of cards has fallen.I just hope that she doesn’t fall for it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 01:44 PM |
| 23 | girl whatI love hearing success stories like this. We have another “Ali Wong” special right here. Ali Wong is a comedienne and her father-in-law made her sign a prenup to protect his son’s assets, because he was a Harvard graduate from a wealthy family/background. Long story short, she became famous, and even paid off her husband’s debt. The father-in-law had the audacity to call what he did to her “the gift of fear”. 🙄 Anyways, good on her for not being stupid by conjoining their finances and supporting… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 01:26 PM |
| 34 | you're allowed to want a fairytale wedding & a pricey ringWhat’s interesting is that, my girl friends have said that I’m high maintenance and the ring I want is too expensive. I wanted a 18K yellow gold solitaire (at least 0.7 Carat) princess cut diamond ring as an engagement ring followed by a simple 18K gold wedding band. She said that she would settle for moissanite, and sterling silver. Weddings aren’t important to her and she’d rather go to city hall, sign papers, and eat lunch with close friends (Sex and the City style). Guess who now wants to re… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 05:30 AM |
| 35 | Giving up sex with men has been the best thing everMy ex and girl friend tried to use one of the arguments with me by saying that I’m his gf and I was supposed to do sexual things with him. I wasn’t even there yet. A hoard of OLD men tried to say that sex is a need for them. Throughout every relationship, I was afraid that they would leave me if I didn’t sleep with them. I wasn’t ready for physical intimacy and thought there something wrong with me. All in all, OLD, my ex, and a couple of of my friends really hurt me. Granted I’ve realized that … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 05:12 AM |
| 48 | Current guy I’m talking to lied about his height on dating appI got bamboozled as well! Guy said he was 5’5. Granted, I’m 5’2, and he stood at the same height as me and blamed that it was my block heels (which were about 1.5 inches high) 🙄. The second time we went on another date, he gelled his hair so it stood up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 04:51 AM |
| 9 | What’s with men not giving a damn about birth controlGood thing you didn’t go, I imagine him charging you for utilities and food for the night. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 04:42 AM |
| 23 | What’s with men not giving a damn about birth controlYou got me at dollar store face masks couldn’t he at least sprung for Walgreens? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 01:56 AM |
| 11 | Where do my FDS ladies like to shop?We’re the same size. I’m a size 6 at 5’1. I often buy my clothes from H&M, Gap, Old Navy, and Shein on a budget. For mid level purchases, I shop at Abercrombie & Fitch I know it’s marketed towards younger people, but they recently did a rebranding and now it’s more towards young working professionals. I also shop at Uniqlo as well. For higher end purchases, I shop from Aritzia from their Babaton, Wilfred, and Sunday Best line. I also shop from Club Monaco, Nordstrom, and Holt Renfrew when I want… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 05:02 AM |
| 92 | Why do they keep romanticizing “toxic love” ?Love isn’t supposed to be hard! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 01:34 AM |
| 22 | “Ask her out, but you dont need to pay”🤮 Dating has gone into flames. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 09:29 PM |
| 14 | “Ask her out, but you dont need to pay”What is autoswiping? I’m a bit new to this lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 08:49 PM |
| 2 | Looking the same after babiesAs a child, I was told that the female body is suppose to snap back right after child birth. The younger you are, the easier it will be snap back. Needless to say, as an older woman who is more educated, I understand that that’s some bullshit. It was just propaganda in my community to encourage us to have children faster and earlier lol What really opened my eyes was when I learned about postpartum depression. I started seeing and recognizing the signs with women in my community. It’s not really… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 09:50 PM |
| 6 | Strategy for scheduling datesNo problem! 🤣❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/22 06:31 PM |
| 141 | Strategy for scheduling datesThat’s totally fine! I don’t go home until 6pm most weekdays too. To me, staying out past 6pm is overkill. By the end of the day, I just want to take off my stockings, take a bubble bath, light some candles, and meditate in my pyjamas afterwards. If I were you, I’d take it a step further and only meet on weekend afternoons, so I can have more time to myself lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/22 02:33 PM |
| 77 | Flip the scriptI usually like to ask them to paint me a picture, like as a pretend date and see what they say. Most of the time it’s nothing good. Just a bunch of park and movie dates. Lol One of them wanted sex after four dates, which consisted of a movie date, walks in the park, and small dinners where we split 50/50. Another guy wanted to take me on a hike in a forest with McDonald’s. Lol They were obviously unmatched pretty quickly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/22 02:28 AM |
| 279 | Ariana grande’s character in don’t look up called Leonardo dicaprio an “old fuck”. Leo’s current gf is 4 years YOUNGER than Ariana! The irony is killing me!!!Did a quick Google search and found some photos of Leonardo and his current gf and he has a gut!! What happened to his abs??? Is he method acting as a middle aged father living in the suburbs? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/22 01:35 AM |
| 62 | “You’re so Weird!”/“You’re quirky”Ask them, “How so? What makes me so different?” I think this person is trying to pull the “you’re not like other girls” bs on you. I guarantee you they’re either going to take a moment to think about it or say something along the lines of “I don’t know, I just feel like you are.” The slight pause in their answer is so crucial because it tells you that they don’t really mean what they’ve said. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 02:03 PM |
| 19 | “You’re so Weird!”/“You’re quirky”It’s like we’re dating the same person 😂 hahaha!! (God, I hope not😬😵💫). I had an ex say really mean things and later on tell me that he was joking when I got mad. I’m not surprised that a lot of men do this. When are they going to learn that it won’t work? 😤 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 01:46 PM |
| 20 | “You’re so Weird!”/“You’re quirky”This right over here!!! Hands down best advice when it comes to confrontation. Also, never go along with whatever bs they say, because it diminishes your self-worth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 01:34 PM |
| 14 | “You’re so Weird!”/“You’re quirky”It’s okay to be different. Everyone comes from different walks of life. To me, the terms, “quirky”, “weird”, and “eccentric” are negative connotations. People have often said that I remind them of Jessica Day from “New Girl” and they’ve used these words to compare me to her, and it’s annoying because we’re two different people. People expected me to act like her, dress like her, and they just assumed things about me, because I was “exactly like her”. Curiosity and desiring to learn about a perso… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 01:26 PM |
| 60 | “You’re so Weird!”/“You’re quirky”I’m very close to my mother as well. I’m not surprised that an LVM called you weird for being close to your mom as I have had that happen to me as well. In my opinion, it’s a tactic that men do to get you away from your support groups so that you become dependent on them. It makes you an easier target and more vulnerable to them. I’m glad you left your ex since he couldn’t truly appreciate you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 01:10 PM |
| 49 | “You’re so Weird!”/“You’re quirky”You don’t have to reply back. Just nod smile and leave. It’s the best thing there is. I’ve learnt that there’s a difference between listening to people and agreeing with them. Often times, I ask for clarification as a polite attempt in front of others and to let them embarrass themselves in front of others. For example: Male co-worker: you’re so weird sometimes!!🙃 Me: what do you mean I’m weird? 😂🥴🧐 Male co-worker: [awkward silence]… well it’s just how you behave and talk…😅 Me: Really? How so? I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 12:11 PM |
| 50 | “You’re so Weird!”/“You’re quirky”Sadly, this is a manipulative tactic done by lots of men towards women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 11:48 AM |
| 49 | “You’re so Weird!”/“You’re quirky”Yes of course it could be applied to anyone! People who say this are not your actual friend. They say this because it’s unexpected to them, and they’re not benefiting from it. You could even take it a step further and ask them to clarify why they think you’re weird. They will be taken back and most of the time it will take them a moment to think about it and give you an answer. To me, it signifies that them calling you weird wasn’t thought out properly and was something done out of impulsiveness… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 11:44 AM |
| 8 | Happy Scrote-free Birthday to me!Happy Birthday! Splurges are always a good thing to do for yourself. Indulge yourself because you’re worth it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/22 07:23 PM |
| 36 | Do any of you NOT want to get married one day?I want to get married and be with someone I love. I don’t want children, because I think it’s not conducive to my lifestyle. It is the only reason that I date. I think wanting marriage is dependent on your age, where you’re at in life, and why you date. I have my own prerequisites as well. I will never be with a man for more than 3-5 years if he hasn’t expressed any interest in marriage. He has to propose with a ring, and we have to get married in a certain time frame (2 years). I’m not here to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/22 07:21 PM |
| 147 | Never stop vetting! Even after being faithful to your partner for 8 years, he could still think that he can do better and want to bang other women. Scrotes like this just want to get their dick wet and are never satisfied no matter how spectacular their gf is.I read the article. 😂😭 It backfired on him badly. He thought he had game!!! This is a prime example of why you should always appreciate and not take the people in your life for granted. All I can say is obviously she’s going to get more attention and dates. You have a beautiful woman who is sweet, supportive, and willing to put out. In addition, she’s also non-committal and most men on OLD want to have no strings attached sex. 🤷🏻♀️ This guy was hoping that it would swing in his favour just beca… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/22 11:30 AM |
| 379 | Never stop vetting! Even after being faithful to your partner for 8 years, he could still think that he can do better and want to bang other women. Scrotes like this just want to get their dick wet and are never satisfied no matter how spectacular their gf is.Woooooowwwwww…🙄🥴 He’s so STOOPID LOL🥴😭 His reasoning for leaving his gf is that he wants to have “dating experience”. Has it ever occurred to him that, what he’s currently doing rn IS dating, and people use OLD in hopes of finding what he has with his gf. I can’t believe he wants to throw that away to have meaningless sex. Love is not a game where there’s a redo button and you have multiple lives. You can’t go back to that person because it will never be the same. That being said, I fully suppor… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/22 10:11 AM |
| 79 | Oh god…this is so cringy and sad. Why is no one telling this woman to get some therapy? I have no words. This is far worse than just a PickMe.I hope this girl finds FDS. She could really use some girl friends. She could get better support from FDS than paying for a gigolo to fake his emotions. All I can is, save the money and go on a shopping spree or see a therapist. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/22 10:01 AM |
| 30 | Remember: you and your sanity come first. Walk away from anyone who makes you feel miserableIt’s okay to leave someone because you’re not happy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/22 04:36 AM |
| 22 | My sister is dating a guy who lied about having kids, thoughts?This happened to my friend. She found out she was pregnant with his son when she was only 17. He was WAAAAY older (he was in his 20’s when they met) and had multiple baby mamas who he never sees once they become pregnant. He has never met any of his babies. He just moves on to be with another child-free woman and leaves them when they get pregnant. That is his game. The really sad part of it all is that, every year and holiday, his son writes letters and pictures to his father asking the mother … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/22 10:25 PM |
| 19 | Did any exes hit you up for New Years 2022.Nah I blocked them the minute they’re no good to me. Lol I learnt that the hard way this year when an ex “accidentally” wanted to video chat with me through WhatsApp. Lol There’s no need to chat you don’t owe them anything. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/22 05:46 PM |
| 3 | This sh*t right here!!How the hell did he get through?!!!!! 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 FDS MODS please help! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 09:30 PM |
| 43 | You Have to Vet Harder Despite Health ComplicationsI won’t settle. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 10:15 PM |
| 31 | You Have to Vet Harder Despite Health ComplicationsThis made me cackle during a tough time! Lol 😂 Honestly, thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 10:15 PM |
| 52 | You Have to Vet Harder Despite Health ComplicationsThis gives me a glimmer hope that there is someone willing to be with me. For a while, I was hesitant posting such a private thing to the internet, and thought that FDS would not approve. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 08:22 PM |
| 24 | You Have to Vet Harder Despite Health ComplicationsThank you for your kind words. I know you have good intentions. I will look into Teal Swan. 😊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 08:20 PM |
| 72 | Where do you find HVM?OLD is a free for all. It’s a fluke if you end up finding a HVM in the wild. They get snatched up pretty quickly though… HVM are pretty hard to find using OLD or IRL. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 06:50 AM |
| 31 | How does gift-giving go when you are a plus one to a wedding?I once went to a birthday party, and my ex got mad because I showed up with a gift and he didn’t. He complained the whole time because I made him look bad. Now, he had to buy a gift because I got her one. I told him that he can split it with me lol big mistake. His explanation was that she didn’t expect any gifts, and most people aren’t going to come with gifts anyways. I liked her and got her a gift for her hobby. Fast forward to the party, all her girl friends brought her gifts, except for the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 06:44 AM |
| 14 | LVM lining up for cheap, tacky, overpriced jewellery two days before Christmas. The comments are defending them. “bE gRaTeFuL” for the bare minimum? Nah.This is giving me major flashbacks with dating men. One of them refused to walk in pandora for earrings that I paid for myself on my birthday. He complained the whole time in line right up until I got out. The other one bought cheap Etsy jewelry. I’m not bagging on Etsy, but I realized right away. He got mad when I left his gift in his car. Um… yeah, I didn’t want it lol he said I was being unappreciative. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 01:40 AM |
| 79 | Was I supposed to be impressed?Ladies, he is tipping well above the average!!! He did the math this is a 20% tip! Lol 😂 He is truly a big spender. I truly think the amount that he’s willing to tip truly represents his worth… $4 🥴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/21 09:38 AM |
| 1 | The TV Show Series, “And Just Like That…”Point taken. That’s true! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 12:37 AM |
| 8 | The TV Show Series, “And Just Like That…”*TRIGGER WARNING*** That was actually the reason why I lost respect for him. He clearly knew the girl was being held hostage against her will. Instead, he didn’t spare her and just “power f***ed” her through her snot and tears. 🤮 It’s sad to see that he’s gaining so much attention in this recent decade. I’m done with this guy. Any movie movie with automatically sucks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 05:41 PM |
| 7 | The TV Show Series, “And Just Like That…”My thoughts exactly! But then Big had to go to Paris and get her back. 🙄 This never happens in real life. Ofc SATC writers had to give Big a grandiose entry where he saved her from her abusive boyfriend. This guy emotionally abused Carrie for years and writers are thinking that the audience will forget after he did the right thing for once in the series. 😩 Honestly, Carrie could have dumped her European bf, and had an “Eat, Pray, Love” journey on her own. I would have been happy if she ended up … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 03:28 PM |
| 15 | The TV Show Series, “And Just Like That…”You’re right, it’s not Miranda’s job to care for Stevie’s mother. If memory serves, Stevie was held up with work at the bar. The distance between their Brooklyn house and Manhattan was really far. I think he did come home in the end and was notified of the situation. Miranda bathed her mother-in-law, because she didn’t want Stevie to see how badly his mother’s condition deteriorated. I remembered that when she found Stevie’s mother, she was in complete shock and despair. Also, it’s probably best… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 02:41 PM |
| 7 | The TV Show Series, “And Just Like That…”Yes! She even attended their wedding as well. I think Magda was a good maternal figure. It’s a shame that Miranda didn’t take any notes from her. I feel like Brady could use someone like Magda. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 08:01 AM |
| 18 | The TV Show Series, “And Just Like That…”As soon as I saw Bobby Lee in this movie, I immediately knew it was going to be horrible. Carrie needs to leave the podcast. This is not the right fit for her. Despite her newspaper column, and the numerous books she wrote about love, there was a sense of elegance to her work. The podcast is just raunchy, trashy and nasty. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 07:59 AM |
| 6 | The TV Show Series, “And Just Like That…”It seems like Steve is passively saying, “Boys will be boys”, which is not cool. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 07:52 AM |
| 5 | The TV Show Series, “And Just Like That…”I get what you mean, there were other ways to express her awkwardness. The series was poorly written and out of touch. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 06:58 AM |
| 25 | The TV Show Series, “And Just Like That…”I love Magda!!! She was a good person. There was this episode where she hid Miranda’s vibrator and another where she “accidentally” erased all of her TiVo shows as an attempt to get her to go outside. I do agree that Miranda and Steve need to be better parents. In my personal opinion, being the “cool parent” by letting your children have sex in your own house in the next room is not okay. It’s made me reconsider my parenting technique if I ever choose to have kids. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 05:32 AM |
| 24 | The TV Show Series, “And Just Like That…”OMG!!! You’re talking about the movie. My favourite scene was when she hit him with the roses from her wedding bouquet. I found their city hall wedding to be lacklustre, but if that’s what she wanted all along 🤷🏻♀️… Deep down, I think that Big never found someone he actually liked or wanted to settle down, but married her because he realized was getting older. In the movie, it was never properly explained why he was having second thoughts. All this breaking up and making up with Carrie and Big … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 05:25 AM |
| 0 | The TV Show Series, “And Just Like That…”It is cringe, but it was the main point. Miranda doesn’t understand her privilege and she’s trying her best to impress her professor. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 04:41 AM |
| 29 | The TV Show Series, “And Just Like That…”It’s like you took the words out of my mouth! Lol I did get a sense that they were tryingtoo hard to be “woke”. I watched the original series during the pandemic, and I think that it was supposed to be like a female’s guide to dating while one is living in the city in their 20’s/30’s. The only episode I found useful was when Samantha moved into her new apartment and realized that instead of making enemies, it was better to extend an olive branch by throwing that big barbecue. Wait, Che was Carri… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 04:00 AM |
| 15 | The TV Show Series, “And Just Like That…”I agree. I guess the writers have slowly realized. Lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 03:33 AM |
| 9 | The TV Show Series, “And Just Like That…”Niall Cunningham is 27 years old in real life. In the movie he plays Brady who is 17 according to an article I read. So far, the series has not revealed his age, but Miranda does mention that he’s a minor. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 03:20 AM |
| 16 | The TV Show Series, “And Just Like That…”Big was staring at her and he couldn’t talk. Their last scene was of them staring at each other intently. It may have been too late to save him, but she could have reacted differently by calling 911. I think that most people were upset seeing her hold Big and crying instead of picking up the phone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 03:14 AM |
| 16 | What are your standards when dating?All of the above. Patient, empathetic Problem-solver | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/21 01:04 AM |
| 7 | This holiday season I urge you to take trip down the girls toy aisle.It is sad to see that we have gendered toys that dictate what girls and guys are supposed to be and play with… As a girl, I used to get lots of flack from my own parents when I wanted Hot Wheels, remote control cars, and Beyblades as gifts. They always said no and were embarrassed because the packaging usually has a boy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 10:37 PM |
| 22 | Is it me or are the dating apps dead or declining in numbers of men?I think that they’re migrating to the new “it” place. In the early days of OLD, Tinder was considered to be the number one dating app. By 2015-2018 Bumble was popping off. Around 2019, Hinge was taking off. I don’t know if there’s another new popular app since I left OLD in August. Even if the number of men are declining, the male to female ratio will never be matched since there was never enough women using OLD to begin with. Lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 10:07 PM |
| 4 | If a man is this obsessed with slimness, he doesn’t deserve to have someone carry his child. He is also probably repulsed by pregnant women.What a stupid reason to break up with someone. He sounds crazy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 01:53 AM |
| 72 | How do you handle interactions with men who have already made assumptions about who you are?I was looking at the curved graph pertaining to the Dunning-Kruger effect, and there’s a sharp point which represents people who overestimate themselves. In addition to this, I saw memes and comics over this, and it’s pretty funny. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/21 12:12 PM |
| 67 | Sometimes men of all classes just don’t listenIn one of the concerts, instead of saying I need you to come back to me, he said, “I need you to run right back to me”. WTF? These are some messed up words… It’s almost as if he’s saying that leaving him was a bad mistake on her part lol the audacity… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/21 12:24 AM |
| 132 | “Cuddling”Should have known what it meant. Waaay back when, I agreed to cuddling and suddenly his hand was underneath my bra. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 08:38 PM |
| 14 | Break up songs by guys that make you laughIt was like the only saving grace to that song lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/21 09:17 PM |
| 132 | Break up songs by guys that make you laughBeautiful Mistakes by Adam Levine (FT Megan The Stallion), he sounds so whiny in that one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/21 04:49 AM |
| 171 | Break up songs by guys that make you laughHe says he almost gave a piece of himself to her. Keyword is ALMOST. Lol BTW it was her female friend that did it for her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/21 04:48 AM |
| 85 | Imagine trying to pick up women by negging about living in a van down by the river. Yikes!Just showed my father this, and he immediately called him a homeless loser. Lol Even my father sees through this deception haha! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 07:48 PM |
| 7 | Imagine celebrating men for doing the bare minimum!Wait wait wait 🛑🛑🛑✋✋✋ hold up… I’m reading differently. What I see is that he would continue even when she said their safe word…that would count as rape, because it non-consensual. In other words, she celebrating or happy that he isn’t raping/assaulting her… The bar is not in hell…there is no bar. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 05:11 AM |
| 5 | If you won’t bother checking the FDS handbook before posting your question, at least ask yourself this…I do the same thing hahaha! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 05:07 AM |
| 30 | I see posts like this weekly - thank god the comments unanimously say GTFO ASAP. But how heartbreaking that this woman WITH AN MBA has resorted to CAMMING and is putting up with this for some scrote she's dated for 5 WHOLE MONTHS?!?!?!??!I wonder if she could have unfollowed, blocked, or restricted him to certain content on the platform. I did that with my ex and he eventually unfollowed me, because he wasn’t getting anything from me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 04:54 AM |
| 7 | Information to withhold initiallyEducation. Lots of people assume that I don’t make much, but I do pretty well, where I reside. At the time we were dating, he and I we’re both contractors. I quickly realized he was undervalued for his talents, so I convinced him to apply where I was at. It had benefits, and the hourly wage was better than what he made at his current workplace. He instantly rejected the notion and told me to never bring up that conversation ever again. It was really serious and I felt like we were almost going t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 05:28 AM |
| 64 | Information to withhold initiallyWithhold everything from him! I once dated a guy and found out I easily made triple what he made on any given month, and not only did it shatter his (already) fragile ego, but he would find ways to mooch off of me. He’d subliminally guilt me into going 50/50 with him, and we’d take turns paying lol I once casually talked to a dude about my earnings. Apparently, it wasn’t what he thought and he lashed out at me right away. It was his fault for assuming that people in my field don’t do well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 02:42 PM |
| 31 | I deserve better than this relationship, but I have never experienced love this deep.Think about your future. When you have kids with this guy and he can’t hold down a job, who’s going to support your children? When you buy a house with him, and he doesn’t have good credit, who’s going to pay for the mortgage? I once dated a guy that told me that he stopped paying his student loans when he only had less than 10k left. He was really cute, and polite. Paid for everything I wanted. Thought about me first. However, my friends in finance cautioned me and told to imagine my life with … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 03:54 AM |
| 17 | When the queens say "dicks are abundant" it reminds me of Self Esteem by Garfunkel & OatesI love them! I’ve been listening to them since I was a teenager! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 03:46 PM |
| 17 | Guy got fired because he refused to get vaccinated.Amen to that. 😊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 07:49 PM |
| 33 | Did you ever get this gut feeling?Yes! It’s like the pins and needles sensation, and I get this chilly sensation. I think it gets progressively worse as I ignore the feeling. My body will start telling me in other ways. I started getting acne, headaches, stomachaches, and lumps in throat. Funny how those things went away when I broke up with him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 05:50 PM |
| 49 | Is This A Case of Too Good to Be True?Right off the bat, he’s working for his father. He didn’t earn the position, it was given to him. He’s probably incompetent af. I knew someone who is in the same position, and when his father sold the company to a corporate oligarchy, he was fired immediately, because they didn’t understand his value towards the company. In fact, it was his assistant that replaced him. I honestly think that behind closed doors, his assistant was being paid just as much as him by the father to do his job. He was … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 05:43 PM |
| 105 | Guy got fired because he refused to get vaccinated.I had a guy ghost me after I got my first dose. Lol Up until the very last minute where I sat in the clinic he was begging me not to get vaccinated. He believed that the vaccines had gps tracking systems in it, and Bill Gates is the one controlling the whole operation. 🥴 I wonder what would have happened if you said you got vaccinated lol He’s racist, and unemployed for reasons that are within his control. He wouldn’t have lost job if he just got vaccinated. 🤷♀️ This is a no brainer to stop see… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 05:22 PM |
| 5 | Tech Boss, Venture Capitalist Michael Goguen Kept a Spreadsheet of 5000 Women He Slept WithI knew a guy that kept a spreadsheet of women he was seeing. He never got to call them his girlfriend. So at this point, it was just a spreadsheet of women who talked to him? Lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 03:39 PM |
| 44 | I haven't seen a disgusting serial dater like Pete DavidsonI don’t find any of his jokes funny. He crossed a line when he made a joke about replacing his partner’s birth control with tic-tacs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 06:58 AM |
| 65 | Gomez Addams 💚I love the Addams Family! Gomez was crazy about Morticia lol I’m starting to see it now… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 06:54 AM |
| 43 | Have you dated a man that can actually clean up?Hahaha I knew a guy that claimed he cleaned up after himself, but somehow forgot to throw out his own trash when he left my place. Guess who ended up cleaning up after him after he left? 🙋🏻♀️ This is why I’m happy to invite my girl friends over to my place, because they’re more inclined to help me clean up after we hang out. So grateful they’re in my life. 🙏🏻 They actually willingly help me wash the dishes, and sweep my floor after we hangout or have dinner together at my place. Unlike some of … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 06:22 AM |
| 21 | Mom said something that really bugged meI’m sorry to hear that. I’m out too! Lol 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 06:18 AM |
| 49 | Mom said something that really bugged meI also forgot to mention that “having fun” to her means that you don’t have to put out lol She has no idea that in this day and age, it’s what men are after, and only want on those apps. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 06:18 AM |
| 8 | LVM blocked by ex decides to plaster self-indulgent hoover letter all over her new neighbourhood (French)With my very limited French, this is a very informal letter. He’s addressing her as “ tu” instead of vous. Personally, if a man were to apologize without any formality, I’d be annoyed because he isn’t sincere. I find this cringey. He probably thinks that it’s a form of closeness He says that part of the reason why the relationship didn’t work was because of the distance, fear, and other bs I couldn’t translate lol At some point he starts comparing her with the woman he cheated on. He said someth… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 03:04 AM |
| 8 | The importance of lying about your disfunctional familyYes!!!!! For a long time Idk want to say about my family too, but I think lying about family drama is a good way to go. There are so much predators on OLD who feed off of vulnerability. I’m so glad I’m not the only one to see this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 02:40 AM |
| 9 | I can't help itI pray that they get a flat tire that day. Lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 02:00 AM |
| 9 | Reminder: Don't befriend male colleagues who are married!Keep it professional. If he holds a a higher position: All one word answers. Keep your voice monotone, and boring. Don’t be enthusiastic. Don’t even look in his direction Don’t touch him, not even high fives. Don’t give him a reason to talk to you. Look bored and uncomfortable all the time. Do not be in the same room alone with him. If you somehow find yourself stuck in a position where you’re alone, like you were early to a meeting. Pretend to be busy, take a phone call, or listen to music. If … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 08:05 PM |
| 4 | How Do You Handle Friends Trying to CompareThose are not friends. My petty ass would do the same shit they were doing. I’d be like so how’s your kid doing these days and your husband? Or yeah, I still live them, beats having to deal with the housing market, how’s that going though, you know with your job and all? I have friends who are like, whatever you do, stay at home; don’t bother moving out. I live with my parents too! Real friends compliment you about your weight loss and bring you up! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 06:31 PM |
| 16 | Finally ready to date again thanks to FDS!!Hahaha he’s gonna have to move back with the cats and coke head now. You did right blocking him. Maybe his dear old dad can support him by paying for his bachelor pad as well… you know, one like yours. 🥴🥴🥴 I’m off OLD, and it’s been a while peaceful four months. I don’t plan on going back. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 06:24 PM |
| 22 | "Should universities be offering sex work advice to their students?"🙈🙉🙊🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🙅🏻♀️ Why?!!!!!😩😩😩 They should be teaching students about the dangers of sex work, how it follows you everywhere and how to get out of the industry by providing various outlets, and guidance. My worst fears have come to life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 12:36 PM |
| 13 | [deleted by user]Oh my gosh! It’s like you took the words out of my mouth. Numbers 2 are really big to me. Touching in a non-intimate sexual way is a sensory bonding aspect to the relationship. I love playing with their hands, and hair for no reason. It’s really more important than hugging, and kissing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 12:14 PM |
| 53 | "Being economically dependent on a man leaves you in a vulnerable position." - This is what the handbook looks like IRL. being tossed out like a rotten piece of meat while he goes out to groom someone your daughter's age.Men are vindictive even when they’re at fault. I saw a comment about having separate money. They key to this is to not let him know that you have your stash otherwise he’s going to drain it as well. In fact, don’t let him know you have money. Let everyone believe you’re poor. I know several women who have exit plans. One of them told me that out of blue one night, her mom told her and siblings to each grab a laundry basket and fill up all of their personal belongings and get in the car. Apparent… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 11:37 AM |
| 152 | Another stage of the vetting process- are they there for you in times of grief?When my mom lost her father, my dad was there to uphold the home. For the whole year, he had to take on tasks that he’d never done before like comb my hair, pick out my clothes, and cleaning the house. He had to pick up the slack for things that she wasn’t able to do just yet. We ended up moving in with family, because my grandpa died in our house and my mother could not bare the sight of our house, because my grandpa did a lot for the house. The main point was that when we moved, my dad did not… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 11:21 AM |
| 11 | How do you deal with HVM that know they have options?You have a wonderful sister. I think it’s a mixture of everything. Everyone whether ugly or handsome will be attracted to you. The fun part is that you get to have options and vet accordingly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 02:12 PM |
| 24 | How do you deal with HVM that know they have options?Yeah, I’m off TikTok. Some of the content makes me angry. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 04:34 AM |
| 2 | The maze I went through to find ONE seemingly HVM on OLD. The statistics are staggering.I’m sorry to hear that he ghosted you, but I’m happy that you’ve decided to delete the app. Yes, it does feel great spending time with the people that deserve your love and affection. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 11:34 PM |
| 158 | How do you deal with HVM that know they have options?Late to this reply, but I’m glad you’re not seeing him anymore. They have to be interested in YOU. There’s no point chasing after them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 06:49 PM |
| 2 | Is it a red flag if he kisses you on the first date without asking first?Yes, I’d smack him. He’d be lucky to hold my hand. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 03:12 PM |
| 3 | The maze I went through to find ONE seemingly HVM on OLD. The statistics are staggering.I’ve taken myself out of OLD, and it’s been a peaceful four months. 😊 I’m not ready to go back to dating since theres too much drama. I’ve been showering all the love that I have towards my parents and family. ♥️ This list made cringe, but I’ll definitely keep this in mind when I start using OLD again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 03:10 PM |
| 3 | Netflix Love Hard movie - typical storyline of giving LVM chances (spoiler alert)I didn’t get past the first fifteen minutes. Too much OLD trauma. 😂 I think I stopped at the part where she goes on run in the park with her friend with blonde hair and she wearing a bike sweater. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 04:45 AM |
| 14 | In most cases, it is a bad, bad idea to buy a house, especially your childhood home, with a bf, not a husband 🚩10 years together, no ring 🚩he makes > $100k, she $60k, but planning to split mortgage 50/50 🚩house is barely affordable even with their combined income. Ways this can go south in 3…2…1Yes! Just buy the house alone. That’s what I was thinking. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/21 05:56 PM |
| 7 | In most cases, it is a bad, bad idea to buy a house, especially your childhood home, with a bf, not a husband 🚩10 years together, no ring 🚩he makes > $100k, she $60k, but planning to split mortgage 50/50 🚩house is barely affordable even with their combined income. Ways this can go south in 3…2…1That sounds like a shit idea. My interpretation of what she’s saying is that her parents are willing haggle with her on pricing. It sounds like they want her to take it off their hands. If I were her, I’d go to her parents and tell them that her bf should have no part in this and that she alone is going to be the sole owner of the house and not not expect anything from him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/21 05:52 PM |
| 165 | Scrotes will be scrotes. NEVER move in with a boyfriend.Oh no. She should just bite the bullet and move back with her mom. I know that her children are happy and have made friends, but they’ll be able to make more friends in their new school. Either that or she just sucks it up and drives 1.5 hours a day for her kids. I’m pretty sure this guy is sick of her and found a better offer, which is why he wants her out really fast. What’s likely going to happen is that, in a about a few short months he’ll ask her to move back in with him when he needs anoth… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/21 04:14 PM |
| 54 | Man hides 14 y/o daughter from fiancé for the entire duration of the relationship. Either he was trying to have two separate families ,or he was trying to trap her into supporting the daughter. Something malicious is at play.You’re not selfish if you don’t want to care for another person’s kid. This is a big factor for me when it comes to dating. I’m nearing that age when men have toddlers, and they look for women with the whole package to swoop in and do everything. Due to my profession where I work with young children, a lot of men expect me to rear their children as well since “it’s what I do best”. Upon meeting this guy’s daughter for the first time he had the audacity to ask if I could change his daughter’s dia… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/21 01:29 AM |
| 20 | Excessive video game usage might be a red flag for a bizarre porn addictionHe was expecting me to say yes. I was so quiet, I gave him a deadpanned look. Honestly, I was processing the whole conversation, looking at him and the figurine(s) that he wanted to build. I was so confused. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 03:06 PM |
| 17 | How I met my HVM husbandThis is true. I was brainwashed into going there to date because everyone in my generation keeps using it and it’s trendy. It’s all not worth it. A majority of them have issues with themselves and seek from validation from women with these apps. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 02:54 PM |
| 58 | Excessive video game usage might be a red flag for a bizarre porn addictionI had an ex who was into constructing action figures. One day, he asked how I would feel if he started constructing these figurines of girls dressed in scantily-clad clothing. That was a hard pass for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 04:18 AM |
| 223 | How I met my HVM husbandLove your analogy with the deck of cards. It has brought a new outlook for me with dating. For that, it has further solidified my stance to not use dating apps. I will continue to focus on myself, and be around people that truly care about me. Thank you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/21 07:40 PM |
| 177 | Chris Pratt continues to be the worstI feel so bad for Anna Farris. When news broke out of their divorce, news outlets were painting her as this evil person, and the one at fault. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/21 05:48 PM |
| 28 | Walk dates: I'm not a dogWow… he’s cheap. Probably got looks from staff and customers, so he offered 99 cent noodles and tomato sauce to make him feel better. Glad she didn’t accept the offer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/21 11:24 PM |
| 20 | This is part of the reason I will never date a "car bro". He proposed by doing a dangerous stunt in his $500 car with a rockless ring that costs less than his scrap metal on wheels. I'd be embarrassed to even post about it.I’m curious as to why he thought it would be a good proposal idea to do these dangerous stunts in the parking lot. 😓 How did he connect two and two together? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/21 11:20 PM |
| 176 | Never let your guard downI’m sorry that happened. Men never mean the things they say 🤷🏻♀️. It’s just better to judge their actions until the end of time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/21 10:15 PM |
| 3 | My family and friends push me to be a pickme & tell me I’m being too picky if I don’t want to date men I don’t find attractive.I think you’re on to something. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/21 10:13 PM |
| 7 | Finally Someone is Exposing Leonardo Dicaprio's Creepy Dating HistoryThat’s right! Males can be asymptotic carriers of STDs and STIs. One example is bacterial vaginosis (BV). With Charlie Sheen, HIV is one of the incurable STDs. In addition, the singer, Usher also has herpes and there’s a lawsuit against the people he slept with. At one point he tried to pay people off, but he just could not anymore, so that’s where the whole lawsuit began. Personally, I think that most men won’t admit they have STIs because they’re too proud. I think that most people will out th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/21 09:55 PM |
| 1 | When we say some men are delusional, this what they mean. Your wife is not yet born is creepy! Calling women pretty young things is gross and dehumanizing.Here’s how the conversation would have started right after he gives you the look down: Her ( in her head): Why is this blob-like greasy baldy with fake tan looking at me? What a creep!🤬 **** grabs her water bottle and leaves**** | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/21 09:52 AM |
| 49 | My family and friends push me to be a pickme & tell me I’m being too picky if I don’t want to date men I don’t find attractive.Yeah, all the time. I have to be picky because I don’t want to get hurt again. I can’t be the easygoing cool girl. It sucked pretending not to be hurt when someone let you down. When you’re with someone out of pressure from family and friends and you hate the guy, and when he breaks up with you, it sucks even more because you never likes him in the first place. It’s like a giant waste of time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/21 08:52 AM |
| 73 | Just saw a guy entering the subway with a bag of laundry…I bet you he thought it was a kind act on his behalf, and he also got points for being a good bf. Glad you saw through his deception. This is textbook bait and switch. He buys you a cheap toothbrush, to trick you into thinking that he cares about you, when he really wants a bang maid. It’s a horrible trade. A $1 toothbrush for cooking, cleaning, and sex. 😖 Just thinking about this makes me angry… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 11:24 PM |
| 14 | Finally Someone is Exposing Leonardo Dicaprio's Creepy Dating HistoryWoah you just blew my mind 🤯 . | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 10:55 PM |
| 14 | If You Have to Confirm Plans, Cancel Them Instead.“Make exceptions for the exceptional” Is that even a thing? Hahah Guys say the lowest things these days 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 10:08 PM |
| 23 | Another red flag from Chris Pratt’s captionWhy would he say these things? It’s not nice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 09:58 PM |
| 9 | They are trying to keep men hooked. Calling them an extremist if they don't use it. Real men don't need pornMy eyes just glaze over anytime I see the name, Jordan Peterson. 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 09:01 PM |
| 11 | They are trying to keep men hooked. Calling them an extremist if they don't use it. Real men don't need pornI knew someone who tried to justify the use of pornography, by saying that it stops men from having violent urges. He sent me a few scientific journals as well. Lol He’ agrees with Jordan Peterson, and says that his arguments make sense. We’re no longer speaking after that conversation. I lost so much respect for him after that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 08:57 PM |
| 3 | Please carve my eyes out of my head nowCan I just be really honest here and say that sexting, nudes, and dick pics should just be banned entirely. Whenever, someone sends one it should just bounce back as “message not received”.😂 Let’s be honest, most of the time these are really spontaneous and impulsive ideas and both parties end up regretting it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 08:42 PM |
| 40 | Finally Someone is Exposing Leonardo Dicaprio's Creepy Dating HistoryI agree and me too. I’m happy someone mainstream is speaking about it. I hope this gets more publicity. I think that he gets away with too much due to his privilege and money. I’ve never found him attractive (especially during his “pussy posse” days). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 08:11 PM |
| 29 | Finally Someone is Exposing Leonardo Dicaprio's Creepy Dating HistoryInteresting. Well then he’s kept it hidden very well. Look, I’m not giving him credit for his actions. The last statement was a sarcastic remark. I’m sorry you didn’t see it that way. Regarding your comment about STDs and STIs, according to the World Health Organization (WHO), currently out of the most common types of STDs only 4 are curable. There’s medication that you can take to treat the symptoms, but it still doesn’t make it go away. Here’s a link from WHO: https://www.who.int/news-room/fac… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 07:37 PM |
| 112 | Finally Someone is Exposing Leonardo Dicaprio's Creepy Dating HistoryThe article in the thumbnail has been out since 2019. Here’s the link https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.insider.com/leonardo-dicaprio-girlfriends-reddit-chart-2019-3%3famp He has a type and only dates women younger than 25. It’s amazing how he isn’t a father or hasn’t caught anything yet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 06:51 PM |
| 33 | How to stop thinking I need a man in my life?Spend less time with the people that tell you these things. I’m not saying disown your parents, but leave when they bring this up, don’t say anything, just do something else. Hang out with your friends whenever you feel the urge to be with a guy. Or just busy yourself with small projects. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 06:15 PM |
| 80 | If You Have to Confirm Plans, Cancel Them Instead.Now that’s what I’m talking about! This gives me hope that guys like this do exist! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 06:38 AM |
| 28 | To dress up for dates or show up as you are?I like to overdress, but obviously it depends where you’re going. IDC if he says he likes me natural, I will still dress up. The reason behind is because I’m the type of person that will put effort. I always want to be the best I can be in front of others. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 03:33 AM |
| 272 | If You Have to Confirm Plans, Cancel Them Instead.Also, make sure he’s on time. If he says he’ll meet you at “X-ish” time, that’s hell naw. Don’t even account for traffic. If you do, you’re letting him off the hook way too easy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 12:42 AM |
| 32 | Cancelled a date today 😌 My first unmatch block delete!!Proud of you, girl. Stay strong and keep vetting. ♥️👑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/21 08:10 PM |
| 8 | What do you wish someone had told you about men when you were 14?Don’t come to him, he’ll come to you. Most of the time, they want to smash (yes even at this age). Ask them why they want to date you, or try to figure out why. I’m only saying this because I was fat, and people thought I was easy. Guys thought they were doing me a favour by giving me scraps of their affection. 🥴 (Jokes on them, I look better, and I’m smarter than them now). Bring him to your parents if you think it’s serious. At this age, they’ll have better judgment. Don’t have sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/21 03:32 PM |
| 89 | Is it okay to not want to date in your 20's?Reading all these post gave me assurance. Im turning 25 in a couple of weeks. I just got out of my first serious relationship. It lasted 6 months. I was and still am a bit traumatized from dating the first guy. I went on to date a few others, but it was just as painful each time when I put myself out there. I decided to not go down this spiral, so now I’m just focusing on school, work, friends, and whatever makes me happy. It’s been going great! Don’t worry about meeting other people and your fa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/21 10:03 PM |
| 1 | Taking your time from day 1.He gotta work for it! 😊😉 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/21 04:44 PM |
| 4 | Taking your time from day 1.He should have tried to talk to you rather than go to your friend. If he wanted to, he would have created any reason to hang out with you from day1. From his actions, I wouldn’t give him my number. He sounds lazy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/21 03:37 PM |
| 28 | The "you have to trust me" argument when it comes to having acess to your s/o phoneSomeone I knew of had a husband that was addicted to heroin and coke. Anyways he’d get so paranoid that she would leave him. She didn’t want to confront him, and he thought he didn’t know. Lol ofc she knew! She had a house and three kids with him, so it was hard to leave. His paranoia lead him to installing a tracking system in her car, and phone. In addition, I found out later that he was cheating on her. The crazy thing was that she still didn’t leave him after he started cheating, tracking he… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/21 06:51 AM |
| 33 | How do you strategize outfits and fashion for dates?My ex was the same. He never did anything fancy. He even refused to dress fancy for both our birthdays. But that’s in the past and I always dress to impress! For me, the first outing is always important. I have to set the tone and expectation, so I dress to the tens for the occasion. You’re right the outfit doesn’t have to be provocative. But effort was put into what I wore. I showed up in a skirt, a sweater (it was winter), thick winter tights, and I wore chunky heels. I broke out my expensive … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/21 03:42 AM |
| 3 | Just broke up with a LVM and have FDS to thankThanks for clarifying. And yeah, you need to run. That is terrifying to know that he never got help and that he’s so freaking nonchalant about it. That kind of thing would have made me run for the hills. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/21 03:29 AM |
| 91 | this is (yes really) a marketing strategy for a dating app.This is a way to recruit guys not women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 03:08 PM |
| 2 | Just broke up with a LVM and have FDS to thankMake more sense now gotcha, thanks! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 02:58 PM |
| 13 | Let's talk about picky eaters.It is important for men to know how to cook. My father has been packing my mother’s lunch since they were married. In addition, he cooks for her extended family whenever they visit. My father loves trying out new recipes and would often accept constructive criticism. It’s not that my mom doesn’t cook. She can cook too, but he just loves it so much that it’s his “thing”. I once went on a date with a guy that only ate beef and potatoes year round and it was BORING. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 05:46 AM |
| 4 | Just broke up with a LVM and have FDS to thankCongrats, glad you’re not seeing him anymore. He was tying you down with buying the house and everything. He’s gonna go bankrupt unless he finds roommates. Sadly, that’s exactly what he saw in you aside from free labour and sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 05:40 AM |
| 6 | Just broke up with a LVM and have FDS to thankWhat does it mean to be shot to death by a state agency? Like he got the death penalty? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 05:34 AM |
| 8 | PSA: Halloween is almost here for many of us.🥂🍾🎉🎊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 05:28 AM |
| 35 | PSA: Halloween is almost here for many of us.Every Halloween, I just take a photo of myself in my backyard, post on social media and go back inside to change lol I stopped going to parties because it’s too much for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 01:29 AM |
| 79 | This is what men think of women they hook up with. It is not in our best interests as women to sleep with men casually.This 💯. It’s happened to me as well! Some guys aren’t as subtle and come off as creeps! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 01:02 AM |
| 369 | This is what men think of women they hook up with. It is not in our best interests as women to sleep with men casually.Sad but true. Some men will gauge how much effort and money it will take to get you to sleep with them. Remember that you’re worth more than a free meal, movie date, or a walk in the park! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 10:48 PM |
| 7 | Take your SO to a haunted house and see what happens.It’s okay, we’ve all been there! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 10:31 PM |
| 4 | Knowing Your Worth: Pricing the First Date$200 is a reasonable amount for a man to spend on a date with a stranger . If men don’t have that then they should not date, or take up some jobs. By the way, this doesn’t include gas 😂. I used to be an awful pick-me and thought that just spending time with the dude was enough hahaha. It got to the point where a guy accused me of being a gold digger after paying for a ball and frisbee at the dollar store for our park date (woof 🐶 😂). After that, I seriously judge a guy on how much he spends on t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 05:52 AM |
| 5 | I just called the caretaker of my building to do some maintenance in my apartmentMine left the hot water running for God knows how long on full blast. I came home scared AF thinking that someone broke into my apartment and took a shower. He left a note saying that he could not fix my chipped bathtub because he didn’t have the correct paint. The funny part is was that yes, he did paint the bathtub, but it was missing the tub drain overflow plate, so there’s this nasty sharp gaping hole, and the inside was just rusted. I mentioned it to him as well, but again, I had to go thro… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 05:27 AM |
| 12 | GASLIGHTING: Which tips/tricks did you teach yourself to combat (self-)gaslighting?I simply say, “Then why don’t I find it funny?” This is where there is awkward silence or he’ll just say something to make amends. It’s important to not respond to make your point clear that what he said is not okay. Don’t be afraid about hurting his feelings. Embrace the awkwardness of the aftermath. What he did and said was wrong. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 05:12 AM |
| 12 | What kind of tattoos are LVM red flags to you?Personally, tattoos are very personal to me. There would have to be tremendous meaning to it. I will judge you if you got it because “you were bored” or that it just looks nice. Tattoos are forever.Yes there’s laser removal, but the process is painful and sometimes traces of it are left. In addition, it’s also expensive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 05:07 AM |
| 11 | Does he accidentally break/ruin your things? Or is it covert domestic violence?Ahhh! You’re right. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 05:19 PM |
| 31 | Does he accidentally break/ruin your things? Or is it covert domestic violence?Sorry my bad! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 01:47 PM |
| 170 | Does he accidentally break/ruin your things? Or is it covert domestic violence?Gavin De Becker talks about this in, “Why Does he do That”. These erratic lapses are intentional. He knows what he’s doing and his moves are all calculated so that you’re tied to him. I think about my friend’s ex and how he’d go on these rampages and claimed that he lost control. He broke her reading glasses and laptop that she uses for work and school, but somehow his gaming computer and action figure remained intact and untouched. If he did in fact lose control and “blacked out” then he would … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 01:32 PM |
| 2 | The good old “what’s your type” questionI knew a guy that said Miranda Kerr was his type, and I was like, you wish . 😂 Why are you talking to me? I’m not her! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 09:24 AM |
| 1 | Buzzfeed pushing dangerous LV shitSo… I don’t read Buzzfeed articles as much as I did in college ever since they were slammed by their OG content creators about the stress and abuse they went through. Last I checked, they’re more like a gossip column promoting anything related to sex, sex appeal, and celebrities like Kim Kardashian. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 09:20 AM |
| 1 | This is why we don’t do hike or walk “dates”…he proceeded to MAKE FUN OF ME, before I unmatched. DANGEROUS.Shhhiiiiiittt 💩 💃🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 08:22 PM |
| 3 | Degrees don’t always equate to success. Be on the look-out for Dr. Hobo.I knew a man who holds a phd in the sciences and yet, he pimped out his wife because he didn’t want to work. I saw him “give” his wife to a middle aged neck beard at the back of the mall. Since I worked there, the neck beard gave her back to him around noon. Grossest thing I’ve ever encountered. He’s always walking around the mall like he owns it and boasting about his degrees and how he was better than everyone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 08:19 PM |
| 6 | A weird form of negging, but I can’t quite put a finger on what I should call itI wonder what would happen if you give them a fake trauma, and watch them try to use that against you. Hahaha I should try that the next time I’m on OLD and watch the manipulation unfold hahaha. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 10:04 PM |
| 102 | Safety when dating men: Memorize a fake numberA few years ago I gave a fake number to a telemarketer and he made me repeat the numbers I gave him. I felt really bad I couldn’t, because I was a liar, but now, instead of feeling guilty, I should have said you should be glad I’m letting you down easy 😂. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 09:10 AM |
| 16 | Men are such pick mes trying to gaslight me into being a pick meThe reason why I stopped using OLD. Lots of guys trying to tear you down there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/21 06:58 PM |
| 10 | Shout out to everyone who told me to lower my standards, that no one would ever meet themYaaasss! 👑❤️😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/21 02:03 AM |
| 36 | He cheated because he “liked me too much” 🥺🥺🥺🥺🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄 “What a shame, baby what a shame coulda been with me instead of what’s her fucking name. Gave you a million chances, don’t get no more. Can’t wait forever, I’m getting bored.” —Leyla Blue. 👆👆👆👆👆👆👆👆👆👆👆👆👆👆👆 You’re better off without him. Sending you lots of love since that fool never did. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ This is something that would have messed me up during my pick-me days as well. I would have blamed myself for not being enough. I’m glad you’re not like me and see… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 02:30 PM |
| 3 | A HVM will WANT to plan a wedding with you a LVM will check outUPDATE: Her mom finally cracked this morning. During a raging fit with her future son in-law, she vented and told me everything that she hated about him. It was a 45minute conversation where everything was just spilled out in the open. I’ll only share the “wedding highlights”. They’re going 50/50 on the wedding. The groom only wants to pay for things that he is involved with like the venue, food, and his own suit (we picked out his suit and the bride paid for it as well, so he’s a liar 🤣)He’s no… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 03:01 PM |
| 44 | Men have become so comfortable with violating women’s boundaries that they don’t feel any shame in admitting to itThis is my biggest fear when sleeping with someone (even with my husband) is that they’ll try to have sex with me and film it while I’m unconscious. Huge red flag 🚩 Lots of people think it’s kinky, but it’s scary af. You don’t know what could happen to you, if he’s wearing protection, if he’s filming this act and if it could be put on the internet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 08:25 PM |
| 50 | A HVM will WANT to plan a wedding with you a LVM will check outSo… I’m the MOH and guess who helped pick wedding invitations with the bride, help her pick a venue, and assemble the wedding favours? 🙋🏻♀️🙋🏻♀️🙋🏻♀️ I even helped her pick out his suit….🤦🏻♀️ It’s so clear that she’s the one carrying the relationship. I talked to her about it, but she’s so stressed that she snaps at me, she is so far gone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 07:02 AM |
| 8 | Finally left my fiance thanks to this subYes Queen! If only my friend could see the light as you did. She’s so far gone now… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/21 11:06 PM |
| 24 | I was shopping today and saw this. Looks like they now make a giant mug for desperate women to broadcast to the world how pathetic they are.I hope this is in the clearance aisle of Marshals lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/21 10:55 PM |
| 5 | Other than Dinner dates what are some FDS approved first dates?My idea of a HV date that does not involve food would involve: Some kind of art activity. These could include basket weaving, and pottery painting classes. This are like the most underrated activities and sadly it gets a lot of flack from men because they find it boring. I think it’s a fun way to hang out with someone. One day workshop. I went to a photography workshop and got some really cute photos.l and learnt about angles. Museum and Art Gallery events. These are the best events. Imagine sip… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/21 01:28 PM |
| 7 | Found one in the wild!Walk yourself, dude. I ain’t no dog. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/21 01:11 PM |
| 3 | I've lost my married friends.Yeah, it happens. They disappear off the face of the Earth. One of my close friends ditched me during brunch because her bf scored free tickets to a baseball game and the other time was to a Kanye West concert. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/21 01:10 PM |
| 1 | Girlfriend Left Waiting 30 Minutes Because LVM Refuses to Leave Movie TheatresI guess we have different values, and maybe I should have told you about their background of the situation. I see your point that it could be controlling. In this, she used public transportation which resulted in her early arrival. They barely get to see each other due to the distance. I still would have dumped him, for making her wait. She’s not narcissistic. In the past, he would reschedule and cancel plans with her out of the blue. This particular instance was just one the of the many ways, h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 09:25 AM |
| 38 | The most painful part of heartbreak is realizing that he’s never truly loved you. He might’ve even hated you. How to cope with it?We’ve all been there… No contact with ex and mutuals is probably best for you. Don’t rebound. Is there anything you wanted to do or get? Treat yourself with things you love. Hug your pets. Take all of that love and affection you had for him and shower it towards your pet. They’ll treat you better than he ever could. Spend more time with friends and family. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 07:13 AM |
| 13 | I turn 24 today.Happy Birthday and congrats on your accomplishments! Have fun being the main character! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 07:07 AM |
| 78 | We all thought of *that* one ex-boyfriend now, didn't weHim three weeks ago!!! People are telling me it’s a butt dial. Bro, why do you still have my number from three years ago? Delete that shit! I deleted your number, but forgot to block you. That was my only mistake. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 11:05 AM |
| 16 | Why it Never Works When Forever Gf Finally Gets the RingI had a guy tell me that he needed 10 years for me to prove to him that I was wifey material to him. LOL I thanked him for dinner and left the interview. Some other girl can fill that job title, because it certainly won’t be me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 04:35 AM |
| 25 | Why it Never Works When Forever Gf Finally Gets the RingA male friend once told me that in about thirty seconds, they’ll know if they’ll like you and also try to gage if you’re gf, wifey, and even hook up material. Ladies, don’t trust anything they say, it has to be from their actions. If they want to marry you, they have to propose with a ring. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 04:32 AM |
| 18 | Self-Realization with Myself and Potentials.I’m starting to understand my body’s way of telling me that I need space and I’m trying to listen to my inner thoughts more as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 05:13 AM |
| 27 | Self-Realization with Myself and Potentials.I thought that I was self-sabotaging my relationships, but every time I stopped seeing someone, there’s this sense of calmness that would wash over me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 05:11 AM |
| 3 | Found out a man I went on 2 dates with with was married (and not divorced 4 years as he said) by searching public records online! Here's how to do it.Talk to his wife about this too. I wonder how’d she’d handled it. It sucks, because as you get older you run into these con artists through OLD. I had a guy in his late 30’s hit me up only to find out that he’s been married to his wife and he’s been having marital problems…so he’s looking for other women instead of fixing his relationship with his wife. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 01:37 AM |
| 18 | Coping with Ex having large circle of friendsThis is so true. Quality does not equate to quantity. Your better off being alone until you find your own group of friends. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 03:34 AM |
| 20 | LVM Threatening to Divorce Partner Over COVID VaccinationShe’s been with this guy for a long time. Once, she told me that she’s at a “dead end”. She has no post-secondary education, or career. She thinks that if she gets married, she’ll have accomplished something. She doesn’t want to leave him, otherwise she’s going to fail at everything. That’s why she’s trying to work things out with him. I don’t think she’ll fail. In fact, she’s smarter than me and I’m starting to see this side of him that I don’t like. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 09:20 PM |
| 12 | How do you deal with gaining less interest in dating and men overall?None of these men are worth your time. Don’t worry, I feel the same way. It’s likely that you subconsciously found something you didn’t like with them, and you no longer find them desirable, so you don’t want to spend time with them. I find it perfectly normal if you don’t want to spend time with them anymore; you don’t owe them anything. Right now, you’re unconsciously filtering men who aren’t worthy of you, which is awesome! All you have to do is to just keep meeting new people, and don’t re-v… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 01:16 PM |
| 48 | Funny?? - women are treated worse than pets.It’s funny when the tables are turned and I only pay attention to their pets. This is due to the fact that the only thing they have that’s good about them is their pet. That speaks a lot… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 12:24 PM |
| 23 | But gaming addiction isn’t realThis would have been my future in a nutshell had I not dumped my exes and potentials. Thanks for the reminder! Can you imagine going through contractions, pushing, and asking your husband for your support only for him to say in the next round honey. I’d chuck a bedpan at his head. 😝 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 05:17 AM |
| 70 | Update: I posted here a few days ago about a longtime male (now ex) friend in his 30’s randomly sexualizing my 13 yo daughter (check my post history for more details). Many of you prophecized that he would say “it was just a joke”. And well, received this from a mutual friend tonight.My response would be a resounding, “no”. It’s okay to lose him as a friend. He’s gross. No one should make jokes about someone’s daughter. This isn’t a joke. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 02:48 AM |
| 50 | The Body Keeps the Score and how trauma influences the people you choose to dateThe first time I realized I had to leave a relationship was when I realized I was just like my mother trying to find the good qualities and hanging on to the belief that he was good man when he didn’t care about me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 08:04 PM |
| 186 | Thinking about being married to any of my exes fuels my single hood🤢This so true!!! Whenever I think about this, it literally goes to, oh shit, he’s a psycho, why’d I ever get into a relationship with him?, or I can’t believe I dated this guy!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 04:46 PM |
| 2 | What couples counseling looks like with a NVMThis is my favourite scene in the movie! Wanda Sykes is awesome! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 01:51 AM |
| 121 | “She Divorced Me Because I Left Dishes By The Sink”Before reading this article, I knew that there was more to story as to why she felt the need to divorce him. It’s not just leaving glasses by the sink. It’s how he treats her and how he behaves. She probably addressed him about this problem many times, and he brushed it off or just acted like a child and she just got tired of picking up after him one day, so she left. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 01:38 AM |
| 14 | Strategies for running background checks on menCheck for mutual friends in his list. It was how I found out that a potential was an abuser and currently in a relationship. He got so frantic when I found that I go WAAAAY back with one of his friends, and that he had a social media account. Have you reversed engineered any of his pics? Usually that leaves behind a paper trail. Also, did he boast about having money and show you random stuff like a Rolex? I had that happen to a friend who tried scamming her for Bitcoin. She used tineye to find w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 08:57 PM |
| 393 | Scrote steals from wife and gets mad when he can't anymore. DONT! GIVE! MEN! ACCESS! TO! YOUR! FINANCIALS!They’re using her as a cash cow. What’s sad is that she has a kids with this guy and even if she gets a divorce she’s gonna be chained to this loser and his family for life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 08:38 PM |
| 5 | FDS approved fiction?I’m looking into reading anything by Laura Bates. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 03:06 PM |
| 68 | Teenage Girl Raped And Stuffed With A 'Hoe': And How People Memed It For LaughsSo… I’m never dating men, and I’m glad I don’t live alone. I’m getting a dire wolf 🐺 as my bodyguard. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 03:54 AM |
| 104 | This is a new low…This explains the relationship in one swoop. Past, future, and present. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 12:59 AM |
| 92 | Oh shit here’s another one😆 Scrotes big mad about this sub and my activity on it. See my last 2 posts in this sub for more context.The most that happens is that we stop dating men. We don’t go on killing sprees when we don’t get laid. Instead, we start planning our future without the need for men. Have you heard of women going on killing sprees lately for misandrist intent? What about men for their misogyny? I can name three at the top of my head. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 12:51 AM |
| 19 | I've decided to actively understand Zoomer's clothing styleThe word, “cheugy” does not bother me at all. Clearly, I’m too old to care hahaha. I do not stay in trend in what is cheugy and not cheugy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 07:09 PM |
| 109 | Tell him you don't like to drink (even if you do)I had this happen too with a match on Hinge. Before even going out, he just wanted drinks. I said no, because I needed to get myself home. He said that I could crash at his place until I sober up on our first date. No thanks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 07:06 PM |
| 13 | Hiking aloneI had something like this happen to me when I was in university twice. It was during the early hours of campus. On two occasions two men followed me everywhere I went. Classes start at 8am and I had to be in the city by 6:30am because of transit schedules. I pulled out my phone and started talking to my mom because campus security didn’t pick up (despite telling us that they had 24/7 security all the while I was on school campus). Thank God one of the doors were open, and I just ran inside. My s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 06:59 PM |
| 9 | My EX’s phone called me.Thank you for your kind words. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 09:05 PM |
| 11 | My EX’s phone called me.It’s his number, but I deleted and block his contact information on my phone, but not on WhatsApp. So when he called on WhatsApp, it was his number, but there was no caller ID. I thought it was anyone but him. Turns out it was him because his profile pic was on it. Regardless, him spamming me after three years with or without a fake number is pathetic. I admit that my only mistake was forgetting to block him off of WhatsApp. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 06:58 PM |
| 4 | If he wanted to…Careful about this one. I had a potential who took notes about me, my family, hobbies, where I went to school. Turns out, he was seeing so many women that he had to keep a spreadsheet. He couldn’t remember one thing about me without his damn spreadsheet. At first, I thought it was endearing and smart of him, but naw, he’s absent-minded af. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 06:45 PM |
| 9 | My EX’s phone called me.Google voice isn’t available in my country. I want it so badly though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 06:05 PM |
| 46 | Green flag - thoughtful, non-sexual giftsI would have dumped the previous dude the first time he gave me lingerie. I would have thrown that shit in his face so hard! As for the current potential, does he have any hobbies? If he’s a gamer, don’t give him video games or the console. It’s too expensive for a first gift. Has he mentioned something he wished he could have done but never did? Did you share a special moment with him? With a HVM, I mentioned that I was waiting for a certain perfume and makeup palette to come out, and the poor … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 10:55 PM |
| 17 | Weekly FDS Check-inI’m meeting them through my shared common interest and mutual friends. My school has a club dedicated to grad students from different faculties. It’s refreshing to talk to them and learn new things at the same time. Every few months, I have game night with my closest friends and we invite all of our mutual friends to play. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 11:03 AM |
| 63 | Never respond to street pick-up. There's too much evidence on them approaching multiple girls weekly to get free sex. No, you're not special.No one wants communal 🍆😂. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 10:21 AM |
| 73 | Reasons why exes come backSome of them will gaslight you to the very end. Don’t even bother. The last few messages after saying you want to break up is stupid. Just interrupt him and say bye ✌️. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 09:44 PM |
| 11 | Tell me all of your favourite ways to treat yourself to a date!I like to go window shopping. Before the pandemic, I did this a few times every month for myself. I get dressed up really nicely by showering, doing my makeup, and picking out a curated outfit. I take my time to get ready. I start the day with some starbucks in hand. I go to the biggest mall in my city. I go to my favourite stores to see what’s new and try out new things. If I like them, I’ll get them. If I’m hungry I’ll get some food and continue shopping. This is all done alone. No friends, fa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 07:05 PM |
| 21 | An engaged couple go out for a trip, the man comes back without the woman, refuses to cooperate with the police and hires a lawyer.These are the first two things that come to mind when a women goes missing. It never ends well. She either comes back to her family really scared and deranged-looking or in a body bag. The fact that he’s lawyering up, already proves that he’s guilty, and there was some foul play involved. Let’s hope that I’m wrong and that she comes home safely. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 01:58 PM |
| 76 | Weekly FDS Check-inSo far, it’s been 6 weeks since I deleted all of my OLD apps. I’m super happy with the progress. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 01:21 PM |
| 5 | Have you taken your husband’s surname? Or, will you take your future-husband’s name?Naw, I won’t be taking his name. There’s too much paperwork. It doesn’t really matter whether or not I do take his name in my culture. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 12:27 PM |
| 150 | An engaged couple go out for a trip, the man comes back without the woman, refuses to cooperate with the police and hires a lawyer.Willing to bet that he either killed her or sold her off into a human trafficking ring. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 12:24 PM |
| 22 | Always ask for a police escort or trusted male friends/relative to be present when collecting your belongings before/after a breakupThis is blowing my mind! You can get a police escort to help you get your things?! All my life I thought police escorts were for funeral services. Do you have to pay them a fee for the escort? It’s about $400 for to get a cop to show up for a funeral escort. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 11:46 AM |
| 28 | Making more than your SOI made three times as much as my ex and when he found out, he wanted to go 50/50. I complied since I felt badly for him. Guess what? I later found out he was trust fund kid with more than 80k to his name in assets. He still wanted to go 50/50. Turns out, he’s a lazy POS that doesn’t work unless he has to. Sorry, I’m gonna need a guy who’s work oriented and motivated. I need a guy who makes more than me and doesn’t sit around all day playing video games. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 11:05 AM |
| 61 | How would he act if he had power?One of them told me that if he ever won the lottery, he’d tell no one and disappear in the night and not tell his wife or kids. Yeah… he’s totally hubby material. 😂🙄 I told him that they wouldn’t want him back either. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 10:20 AM |
| 3 | Men on reddit advising women to talk it out after a male slaps them during sex (without their consent) is this normal?I don’t enjoy getting slapped especially during sex. I’m don’t like it when people spank my ass, during sex or when they do it playfully. I’d be scared to be intimate with that person ever again if they physically hurt me. Ladies, if he hits you in general, he doesn’t respect you and you need to leave safely. It’s too late to talk it out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 10:01 AM |
| 50 | How do you deal with rejection?I just treat myself to nice things and pamper myself. Know your worth and don’t settle. Know that you’re a great person and that he doesn’t see it. You have a lot to offer. The fact that he went for a younger version of you is because you had expectations that he couldn’t meet on a daily basis. The issue is with him and not you. Don’t sell yourself short. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 01:42 AM |
| 53 | Man Stands her up, lies about it, then floods her inboxOmg this is hysterical! Apparently his mom left a message as well. 😂 Sadly I’ll be working at 7:10. I hope she posts it on social media. I really want to hear what his mother had to say. Yo it sounds like a guy I dated lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/21 10:38 PM |
| 2 | It's peak PUA season. Be on alert at all times!That’s why I always have my AirPods on and pretend to be listening to music, so they can’t approach me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/21 08:09 PM |
| 2 | College student draws up 17-page CONTRACT with her boyfriendThis reminds of the movie called, “To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before”, when Lara Jean writes a contract with her fake bf at the time. This must be like what the adult version looks like. You realize that she’s basically giving him a cheat sheet, and he’s a fool if he messes up. I think the first thing the guy is going to do is look for loopholes in the contract. 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/21 08:06 PM |
| 5 | The Top 10 Professions With the Most PsychopathsNotice how you can find a lot of these men and their occupations on OLD. Yet, more reason to be off the app. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/21 08:00 PM |
| 1 | Ladies how do you feel about mother’s who pick out girlfriends for their sons?Had this happen to me three times! I find it that the mother finds you less threatening and someone to bully in my culture. She’s going to pick a pick-me as well. Also, your whole relationship is dictated through the mom. Sometimes, I felt like it would have been easier to just cut the “middle man” aka her son, and speak to the mother directly, because he would have agreed with his mother anyways. The first was technically by the father. The mother hated me. She thought I wasn’t good enough to b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/21 05:47 AM |
| 9 | Vetting for low value behaviour in men doesn't just apply to romantic relationships. It also applies to your friendships and associations.Remember that it’s not just guy friends that you have to vet, but your girlfriends as well. If they exhibit LV behaviour chances are they’re with an LVM. Consequently, if you don’t have strong boundaries and self-consciousness you might be dragged back in as well. I gave guys chances due to my friend’s shitty advice. In addition, I’ve been told I’ve made a bad mistake for not giving a guy a second chance after being verbally abused by that same friend. Sadly, we don’t talk as much anymore and th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/21 05:16 AM |
| 11 | "Exclusive" is not a relationship status. You are either in a committed relationship or singleIt’s so funny because they’ll not want to be exclusive when they want sex, your time, and money. They’ll make a scene when the situation isn’t in their favour. Lol 😂 When ever guys talk about exclusivity, or anything about proving myself, or even having an open relationship early on into the relationship, I just throw in the towel and keep on moving. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/21 05:08 AM |
| 40 | Can't even shop in peaceWhen I was 18 I once did this thing where I embarrassed an LVM in public for even talking to me. I literally created a scene and yelled, “Mom, that grown man just asked me out!” to my mom. My mom along with some other soccer moms gave the gross scrote the dirtiest look possible. He got so embarrassed because people thought he was a pedophile, so he left without saying anything. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/21 05:04 AM |
| 21 | From pickme to picky: This sub has made me fall in love with being single!Congrats on all the accomplishments! Guys who use women to build them up tend to relapse. The hard thing is to not come back to him. Never lower your standards. A bunch of my friends told me that my standards are too high and told me to lower my standards. I don’t really listen to them anymore and do my own thing. It’s like why lower your standards to be met with disappointment and disgust? My bar is set really high because I can’t be bothered dealing with anything less. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/21 04:57 AM |
| 39 | Men Who live With Parents or RoommatesI don’t feel comfortable having sex or sleeping over. I come from a very traditional culture and staying over with a man is a big no-no. I follow these rules because there’s so much benefit for me to gain when dating men from my culture. There’s this double standard where the mom will even try or act cool (like the mom is their son’s wingman) if you sleep with their sons, but when it comes to their daughters sleeping at their boyfriend’s place, they’re suddenly not so cool and their real faces s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/21 04:49 AM |
| 77 | What was your moment of clarity?He was treating you as a last option, because no one wanted him. If you were a pick-me you’d eat this up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 01:06 AM |
| 5 | I just found his alphabetized nudes from previous relationships. Mine included.He has back ups. Delete them from the cloud. And his all his shit over with your car. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 09:05 PM |
| 2 | Following hot girls on instagram - red flag?My ex did this. It destroyed me. I tried to be like them and it was bad. Lol It was like living up to his fantasy. If a guy ever does this to me again… I’m out! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 09:04 PM |
| 14 | Can we talk about Leonardo DiCaprio?Omg ew! People are passing it off that he has a “type”, but at this point, he’s dated half of Hollywood. There was an article about this and chart detailing his lovers and their duration a couple of years ago. 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 05:50 PM |
| 33 | Can we talk about Leonardo DiCaprio?Wait, Kate Winslet liked him? I thought she hated working with him because he was a massive playboy. It was during the time when he had his “pussy posse”. Yes, that’s what he called it. 🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 12:27 PM |
| 17 | Ask Amy: After husband announces relationship with a 19-year-old, it’s time to talk to an attorneyHe’s going to end up alone. I don’t know if he has kids, but they’re going to side with their mom. I hope the 19y/o turns out to be a man that leaves him penniless. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 07:07 PM |
| 1 | How do you feel about video games?This was one of the reasons I broke up with a previous partner. I dabble in a bit of games, but once I start to feel addicted to it, I ruin it for myself. I also think that one should pay attention to what kind of games they like and the community that they immerse themselves in as some gaming communities are toxic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 11:22 PM |
| 5 | MicroaggressionsThis is why I started teaching my younger nieces to not take negging from her male classmates. If they like a girl, they should treat her nicely, and not call her names, and punch her. Society always tells little girls that if he’s doing that, he likes you which is bs. Boys better act right in the presence of a lady. It’s clear that this guy never got past this stage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 09:31 PM |
| 12 | 'The Three Stop Signs' from Dr. Craig Malkin's "Rethinking Narcissism," p119Question 🙋🏻♀️ : Is gaslighting also when he says that your too sensitive? If that’s so, then it’s a hell yes!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/21 01:21 PM |
| 12 | Why do males think it's okay to rank women?Remember to add in some negative values as well. The bar is in hell for men, so it’s only fair. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/21 01:18 PM |
| 22 | This is some of the vitriol that our podcast hosts recieve. Be very careful when talking about FDS. These men live and walk among us.Even during my pick-me phase, I avoided guys like this…🥱 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/21 01:16 PM |
| 2 | RANT: WHY do men feel the need to change their gender to "female" on dating apps?Always subtract by three to anything they say about themselves. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/21 06:16 AM |
| 2 | What are some examples of imbalanced relationships that stand/stood out to you in media? I’m currently rewatching Harry Potter for the first time since joining FDS, and I’m finding Hermione’s relationship with Ron… a lot less endearing than I used to 🥴Here is my list: New Girl: Jess & Nick. Jessica is constantly putting so much effort into Nick, so he’d turn out to be a decent human being. They keep breaking up and getting back together which is stupid. Sex/Life: Every character in that show. It’s just painful to watch. Naruto: Sakura & Sasuke. I used to like Sakura because she’s super smart, but I always get upset that the writers did her so dirty by pairing her up with Sasuke. Throughout the whole series, I was hoping that she would forget … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/21 06:06 AM |
| 2 | I let myself reopen my mind to walking dates.... Whoops-a-Daisy 🤦♀️Here, I’ll give you a list of cons for walking dates right now: B.O. both of you (but more of him) will smell like ass. It rains during your damn hike and you walk back a mile away from your car. You get sick in the process as well. You can get raped in a deserted forest. He’ll probably dump your body into a ravine and your body won’t be found until an investigation is done to figure out why the city’s water reserve taste “funky”. You have an injury. This means loss of pay. You’re not a dog, but… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/21 05:48 AM |
| 2 | What are your personal pickme horror stories from hell?Believing that relationships are 50/50. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 07:32 PM |
| 77 | Leveling up this weekThis week: 1. Don’t download dating apps. 2. Get through three journal readings. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 06:40 PM |
| 418 | When he says he needs at least ten years to think if I’m “the one” for him. 😂🤡He told me that he went through three relationships, and all of them tried to plan a wedding with him. 🚩 He literally had three chances to be with someone and he threw it all away. This was one of the biggest red flag, I’ve heard. I know that in his head, by him saying that, he wanted me to think that he was a good guy. The things in my head that was raised were: 🚩🚩🚩, 🚨🚨🚨 , ⛔️⛔️⛔️, ⚠️⚠️⚠️, ✋ ✋✋and 🛑🛑🛑‼️‼️‼️ 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 09:04 AM |
| 451 | When he says he needs at least ten years to think if I’m “the one” for him. 😂🤡He was just upset that he lost his access to free sex, a maid, and home cooked meals. He knew it all along. That was why he was hesitant about breaking up with her. I’m glad she kicked him out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 08:45 AM |
| 52 | Why are some men’s egos so damn fragile?These men don’t handle rejection well as women do, so they resort to the “ok then fk you, b*h”, line. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 07:20 AM |
| 31 | How do you come to peace with the money you spent on an LVM?Unlike every guy I’ve dated, I don’t keep track of the amount I spend on the dude. Honestly, what made me feel better was giving myself an estimated amount I spent on him, take up extra shifts and work until I got to that amount. With the first guy, I took out $3000 from my savings. I ended up working extra shifts through weekends and holidays for six months. By the end of it, I had a little more than I intended and took myself on shopping spree. I never had to spend money on the last guy that h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 06:25 AM |
| 32 | Why you shouldn’t go back to OLD.I wish I could be like you. My longest streak was 6 months. So far, I’m 2 weeks clean of OLD. Hopefully, this is my last time on there for a little while. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 12:46 AM |
| 36 | When men withhold feelings/emotions: do they have them or do they just not care?Men who can withhold feelings/emotions are the transactional type. It’s always tit for tat, and 50/50. I’d steer clear of this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 02:08 AM |
| 14 | Scrote wanted to waste my timeThere’s Rosetta Stone as well. Yeah, I would send this and block his ass. Lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 02:00 AM |
| 3 | Men who date multiple womenI blame OLD for normalizing dating multiple dating. I think that it’s really important to screen men that date you. Find out if they have an active account. If they do, chances are they have matches and it’s probably best for you to stop seeing them. Trust me, I learnt that the hard way. Men who date multiple women will never change. Well… maybe when they’re 60 with one foot in the grave looking for a bang maid, they probably settle for anything at that point. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 04:16 PM |
| 7 | My first time blockingGood for you, OP! Keep it up and take bs from no one! 👑❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 09:31 PM |
| 27 | I’m really curious to know..I would say, it’s good that you waited this long, now wait longer. If you know it’s going to end badly, why start? Also, never date anyone in your field and take advice from someone who seems like they care about you… You have no idea how hard that shit is going to affect you… It’s okay if you can’t take a joke. To my younger teenage and adolescent self, if he doesn’t respect your family and tries to divide you from them, he ain’t no prize or keeper. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 04:28 PM |
| 16 | I love you FDS!!I’m glad you got out. Stay strong, 👑. I know there will be better days for you here on out! ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 04:25 PM |
| 33 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 26 - The 16 Rules of Misogyny - Part 1The part where the ladies talk about setting boundaries by saying no is true. I’ve yet to meet a guy to understand and not make a piss about things when he hears the word no lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 07:10 AM |
| 22 | What are examples of a LVM playing red pill mind games ?It’s to just lower your standards and they’ll use it as a cheat sheet. Often times, I find that the old relationship will be re-created to some extent. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/21 05:04 PM |
| 40 | Why are Jordan Peterson’s views problematic to FDS?I tried watching some of his stuff but it makes no sense to me lol I feel like he makes his videos complicated and hard to follow along on purpose. I’ve met people who support him and agree with him. Safe to say that I’m not friends with them anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/21 03:58 PM |
| 48 | What are examples of a LVM playing red pill mind games ?The most toxic ones are people that ask you of your dating history and keep prying to see why it failed early on into getting to know you. When that happens it’s an instant “no” for me, and I try to look for ways to leave w/e that is happening safely. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/21 02:37 PM |
| 12 | He actually said she should be happy with a lump of coal in the comments 🤦🏼♀️$2600 is nothing! You can make that back in a month. He just doesn’t want to spend that much on a ring lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 10:01 PM |
| 14 | King of Anything - Sara BareillesThis song was a JAM back in high school!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 09:54 PM |
| 63 | 100%I think she’s staying with him not out of love, but for the business. Beyoncé is a talented artist, but an EXCELLENT business women. Jay-Z and Beyoncé own Tidal. She owns her own masters, and having Tidal means that she could cut out the middleman, so all the profits go to her. At one point, some of her music could only be streamed through Tidal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 09:51 PM |
| 195 | Another scrote exploiting a teenager.I knew a girl in this position in college. She was 19 and he was 34! He made her dress and do her makeup like she was in her late 30’s. She wasn’t allowed to wear anything revealing. The only reason why she talked to me was because I was a girl her age. She’d always gush about how he was good to her dropping her off school and picking her up. He’d also send her these messages to “check in” on her. I saw him drop her off at her exams like an elementary student, and he was old. I was naive to unde… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 01:33 PM |
| 55 | Even China knows the detrimental effects of too much video games and they are protecting the next generation. Our millennial addicted men however are addicted to the point of reneging on adult responsibilities and sharing choresThis was the reason why I broke up with my LVM and potentials. I’d often been treated as a second class citizen with these dumb games. It’s like you can play video games anytime you want, but your gf will dump you if she feels lonely. In this day and age, it’s hard to find a man who isn’t a gamer or a porn addicted weirdo with PIED. These two traits go hand in hand. If he likes games, chances are he’s a pervert and vice versa. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 01:23 PM |
| 60 | First Block and DeleteYou dodged a bullet! He’s beyond toxic. I don’t think I’ve ever met a man like that. You don’t have any obligations to send him nudes. Don’t tell anyone anything especially a guy. He’s gonna instantly judge you and see how vulnerable you are to exploit you. If he asks, just say something really general. I know that there are guys who want details so that they can use it against you. Don’t let them. Instead just keep on giving vague answers. They’ll either drop it or peace out lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 11:45 AM |
| 273 | The man is so gross he's an insult.This guy has his own movie production company (Happy Madison) and casts himself as the male lead and with hot female actress. He’s got all this money and yet, he can’t afford to buy a suit. 🤯 Joking, it’s not that he can’t afford it, he’s banking on the fact that he has money and therefore, can afford to look like a slob. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 11:08 AM |
| 109 | First Block and DeletePlease tell me you did not meet through OLD apps. He sounds like a horrible human being. At first, I was skeptical of FDS as well, but I realized they were on to something. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 10:25 AM |
| 75 | Honestly...if she’s the “breadwinner”, then why is she the one getting the side hustle? It just kills me to see women fool themselves! And for what?! Struggle love?It stands for multi-level marketing, like Avon and Lularoe. Btw, don’t be fooled, these companies are one step away from being a pyramid scheme. The only difference is that they offer a product regardless if it’s a shitty product. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 09:37 AM |
| 73 | Stumbled across this… 😷Gross. It’s not that hard to clean and buy new furniture. I redecorated and replaced certain items in my place during the pandemic for less than $1000. Are these guys thinking that this is a temporary situation? Girls who see this video, are not going to be impressed that this is what their place looks like 😝 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 09:22 AM |
| 2 | Watch how LVM react to you caring for childrenI once went on a date with a LVM, and there was this toddler trying to get our attention and I turned around to play with her. Before, the dude just kept ignoring the kid until I noticed and started interacting with the kid. He tried interacting with the child, but he sucked! His motions were so bad and unnatural. The toddler was weirded out and went back to her meal. That’s a bad sign lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 06:03 AM |
| 5 | Vet his family! for yourself and your (potential) future kids.These types of guys are what you’d find on OLD. I used to put them on a rotation and eventually delete their info the minute the text “how r u?” Or “wyd” on a random Wednesday lol. These guys are not LTR material. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 05:08 PM |
| 7 | First date: let’s watch a movie on discord!Naw dude, I’ve had guys come to me for dates. After the online screening, they always come to me. Oh yeah, I always do an online screening to make sure they’re worth my time getting ready to leave. Here’s the thing, they always come get me for dates. I don’t go up them. Anything less is just stupid for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 04:47 PM |
| 64 | Dude makes 6x more and refuses to adjust the 50/50 budgetYikes, I was almost put into this trap. A guy I was seeing to figure out if he was worth being my bf, made 70k a year. He just bought his own place two bedrooms and bathroom. At the time I was still a student barely breaking 20k. He wanted to go 50/50 on our future dates after 6 months. When I said no he went ballistic! Called me a gold digger. Said that I’m taking advantage of him because he makes more than me. Broke up with me on the spot. Called me back a few hours later to apologize and star… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 04:43 PM |
| 4 | Never enter the dating scene or be in a relationship between jobsIt’s because they’ve never been taken advantage of. They’ve never experienced being groped, women never coerced them into sex or performing sexual acts, and they’ve never had the fear of being raped hanging over their heads. Also, men who are unemployed are usually the ones looking for women to mooch off of. They’re more likely to be abusers. I always run when I come across these types of people. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 07:16 PM |
| 14 | Never enter the dating scene or be in a relationship between jobsI almost got married at 23, right after university since idk what to do with my life! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 01:02 AM |
| 36 | Never enter the dating scene or be in a relationship between jobsYou’re right! My parents were my only support system at the time and they were two cities away. As for my current situation, there’s so much instability in my life rn. Since I don’t exactly know where I stand with them for the next few months. I’m up for a contract renewal. Socially, I have not met anyone in my program. Friends from my previous school and my parents are all I have right now. I think this dating hiatus will be for about 6-12 months when I find out the direction that my company is… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 11:28 PM |
| 89 | "Do you want to hang out?" Vs "Can I take you out on a date?My ex told me we were on a date after the hanging out with his friends one night . For Valentine’s Day two days in advance, he invited me out with his group of friends for food. I woke up to a message and he said that was our pseudo Valentine’s Day date to me. I was like wtf? It doesn’t count if I didn’t know lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 11:21 PM |
| 6 | OLD strat: what's yours?The best way to weed the low effort men on OLD is to not like any photos and wait for them to make the first move. Lol most men who have the “just ask me” line in their bio almost never initiate and wait for women to come to them. All I can say about men with that kind of mentality is that they’re going to be waiting for a LONG time. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 12:24 PM |
| 32 | I need to learn to trust my instinctsHe sounds like a handful. I once went on date with a guy who refused to pay off his student loans. He had less than 10k to pay off and he just decided to stop. I instantly had a flash forward and saw the financial burden he’d be on me lol any kind of feelings I had for him dissipated then and there. I’m glad you got out of the situation safely. You gained more experience and are now less willing to take anyone’s bs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 07:31 PM |
| 45 | OLD strat: what's yours?I deleted the app a few days ago, because I was starting grad school and had no time for shenanigans. Go into this and don’t expect ANYTHING to happen from these conversations. For me, OLD is mostly used to practice weeding out scrotes using the FDS handbook. Lol there are so many of them there that you spend more time saying no and rejecting them 😂. Don’t upload revealing pics, or let them know anything too serious. Keep your boundaries and standards high. I know that some people eventually cav… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 06:31 PM |
| 29 | Thanks to FDS men's language classes, I now know that what this means is "we want to be useless and play video games our entire lives so we're victimising ourselves."It’s like, duh dummy 🙄. If you actually got off your ass and did something useful, instead of sitting on your ass and playing video games all day, I wouldn’t have to dump your ass and find someone that does shit for the family. Many guys have already cracked the code, but don’t want to do it. Instead they write shitty tweets like this to complain about how hard their life is because no one wants them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 01:16 PM |
| 76 | When you don't set boundaries in the beginning LVM will not respect you trying to set them later.True. The only option is to break up with him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 01:10 PM |
| 38 | OLD profiles of attractive men be likeThis guy is delusional lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 07:27 PM |
| 243 | Pickmes are brain dead 😑I can’t believe she went along with this lol This is public too! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 07:25 PM |
| 29 | Why are the comments saying this is cute?!Damn, I wouldn’t either 😂 lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 05:29 PM |
| 88 | Why are the comments saying this is cute?!Lol he plays in a closet. That’s funny!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 04:02 PM |
| 2 | Just saw this post on FB… biggest load of male sympathy horseshit I’ve seen in a minute 😂 men have no inherent value, yet they receive the most societal benefit for doing the bare minimum. Okayyyyy“The Prince” takes me back to my school days. I stand corrected he was a shitty lover. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 03:02 PM |
| 2 | Anyone else notice this? How come men's convenience is put above womens health & comfort? If you're not making him wrap it then you're playing yourself.I just went to a friend’s party and a friend was freaking out that she could be pregnant because she let this ONS cum in her. The kicker was that when I asked her why she didn’t make him wrap it up, she just drew a blank face like it was a normal thing. Her other friends go on to say that they left their long term relationships nut in them all the time and that it’s normal. She doesn’t even want to get a pregnancy test because it’s “too early” to get tested. Nothing about this conversation was n… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 01:52 AM |
| 12 | Make it make sense 🤔Good luck to any guy that tries to humble me. Lol I make my own money, so I get to choose how I want to spend it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 01:34 AM |
| 35 | Another reason why coffee dates are a waste of timeI’ll pass on the coffee date. Instead, I’ll do a 30 minute screening to see if the scrote is even worth my time. Usually these guys are mad when I offer them the zoom call lol In my head, isn’t it a win-win for both of us? We don’t have to leave the house because we’re in a lockdown. In addition, we still get a sense of what each person is like. If it doesn’t work out, cool none of us spent money and time getting our asses out of the house. Most importantly we didn’t risk our lives to leave the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 01:32 AM |
| 19 | It's important to have your own friendsMan this was me back in the day. Granted, I never had a lot of friends to begin with, and when it ended …🤷🏻♀️ I found new friends, and reached out to old ones. I cannot stress how important it is to have your separate friends. It was a strange relationship with that one. At first, he accused me of not opening up to his friends like how I am with him. What can I say? I don’t open up to anyone and it takes time. If I don’t like them, then I’ll probably never be myself around them. He wanted me to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 01:18 AM |
| 55 | Just saw this post on FB… biggest load of male sympathy horseshit I’ve seen in a minute 😂 men have no inherent value, yet they receive the most societal benefit for doing the bare minimum. OkayyyyyWhy is this douche hiding behind a picture of Niccolo Machiavelli? Machiavelli was a renowned philosopher, this shit this guy is spitting out is fallacious. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 12:21 AM |
| 6 | This is the most benign unsolicited DM I’ve received since joining this group💯 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 09:31 PM |
| 3 | There's a "promaledatingstrategy" to contradict FDS. Men really don't know how to act when women have had enough.I feel like they just took one our PSAs and played ad libs with it! This clearly wasn’t thought out lol I’m gonna pay no mind to this, and keep hanging out with FDS. Lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 06:02 PM |
| 26 | Attention Male Lurkers: You need to SHUT THE FUCK up about your online dating problemsWait, idk know this but there are bots 🤖 with OLD lol I never thought that dating apps would use bots to even out the number of girls. This is pretty funny and eye opening. This makes me wonder what the male to female ration is like on these apps…🤔😵💫 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 06:32 AM |
| 23 | Living large and proud to show the world his mad skills as a home decoratorLet’s be real here for a second, he’s living with his mother. This is his old room that his mother converted into her craft room thinking that he won’t come back. The reason why he’s not sprucing up the place is because his mother doesn’t want him back and he’s probably thinking that this is temporary so he doesn’t need to invest in quality furniture. 😂 The next girl that he’s going to trick is going to be younger and much more naive than his ex. He’ll find a way to trap and manipulate her into … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 09:45 PM |
| 29 | Living large and proud to show the world his mad skills as a home decoratorThat’s what I was thinking! It’s like he hasn’t even grown up! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 09:37 PM |
| 7 | Should you ever pay on a first date?Naw I don’t pay unless he demands it. After that, I just block and delete. 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 04:49 PM |
| 285 | Pickmes will blame other women even when it has nothing to do with them. Classy.OnlyFans will ruin your life. It requires you to post your tax forms, and ID to confirm your identity. Your future employers will see this. To the many young and naive girls that think this is a temporary gig, imagine that when you do become a teacher, nurse, doctor, lawyer, or politician are your employers, students, clients, and colleagues going to take you seriously? Are you going to be hired if your employers see your employment history? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 04:18 PM |
| 249 | I don't like women with stretchmarks!Story of my first relationship. I’ve had stretch marks all over my thighs and knee caps due to the medication that I took for a medical condition that I had from childhood. When he saw them he was so surprised. He kept running his hands over it and saying that none of his friends had it. He even asked me if I would consider getting them fixed. It was what made me cover up in front of him and his friends. Up until that point, I had never once considered getting them removed or that they were even… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 02:06 PM |
| 15 | “I am not a monster”Keep it business and formal! In fact, if you can, if you can somehow sell it off or find a way to not see him again, do it! You need to time to heal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 09:45 PM |
| 48 | Again. Single dads will use younger women for childcare.I run into a lot of these guys on OLD. Half of the time their kids are posed as their “nieces and nephews.” Nowadays, as soon as I see pic of a man with children I just reject instantly. I’m not sticking around if he has kids. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 05:11 AM |
| 38 | Believing your gut feeling the first time is crucialYou should read, “The Gift of Fear” the author talks a lot about “gut feelings” and why you should listen to them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 12:50 AM |
| 89 | Along the same lines as the post about not being afraid to lie - saw this infographic on FB the other day, very helpful for the "too-friendly" of usI don’t even talk to my uber driver lol I have my earphones in and pretend that I’m listening to music. Or I pretend to be texting my friend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 12:48 AM |
| 36 | How do you know if he’s a HVM or a LVM that’s really good at love-bombing/future-faking?I have a story about this from three guys that love bombed me. Guy#1: Wrote a love letter to me and promised things in the letter, so I have it in writing. He said he’d wait for me blah blah because he understood he knew that I was his first. He lists a number of traits he likes about me, and about how compatible we are. Not more than three days later, he couldn’t even remember a single thing he wrote in the letter 😂 Guy2: Lovebombed on the first date. Showed up 90 minutes late. I was such a pic… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 07:16 PM |
| 108 | Lvm prefers to play with the boys than fit into my scheduleNaw, he’s testing your boundaries. Soon, he’s gonna show up on weekdays. Don’t make exceptions for him. He’s starting this thing where he’s trying to make you revolve your schedule around his needs. There’s more guys than girls in India, dw, you’ll find someone instantly! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 06:48 PM |
| 81 | "Oh, the veriety is so big now theres OLD, you have to be decisive."True. I don’t play by any dating rules. The three month rule and the third date rule could die in a hole for all I care. In some cases men already know these rules and are trying to leverage it to their advantage. Most of the time, I feel like these rules do not work in our favour. Ladies, if a man ever tries to explain these rules to you, and if he swears by it. Ditch him! He’s trying to rush you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 06:40 PM |
| 73 | One of the worst things your potential partner can do is exploit vulnerable women because peen. It does not matter if he checks all the other boxes, if he's done this he's ZVMHaving an Only Fans counts as well! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 01:46 AM |
| 242 | How did this clown get a doctorate 🤡🤡🤮The real question should be who df gave him a doctorate? It should be revoked! I’m trying to look for his credentials and any inkling of info but it’s all deactivated or something. There are screenshots from ppl, but that’s about it! 🤬🤬🤬 Is this guy really a doctor or self-proclaimed? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 08:35 PM |
| 2 | break up reminderYes! Always be ready to pick yourself, dust your shoulders and leave. I’ve left a relationship when I wasn’t happy, the moment I felt the slightest disrespect, and when the conversation turned sour. Women should not take shit from anybody. Stop thinking that they will get better. It’s only going to be worse as time progresses. The time and effort one invests in that relationship (even if you stopped having feelings for them) only makes it harder to leave. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 10:39 AM |
| 6 | You Don’t Love Yourself Because You Hold Yourself to Such a High StandardThat’s flawed rhetoric. One holds high standards for themselves because they love themselves and they regard themselves in that light. If one were to lower their standards it means that they don’t see themselves as worthy and deserving of their own desires. All of your colleagues want to lower your standards. Keep doing you and don’t let their words cloud your judgment and perception of yourself. If this wasn’t a work thing, you’d never have to see them again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 10:24 AM |
| 2 | This is not a dating post but I felt terrified last night because of a man. I feel partly responsible; I know I shouldn't say that.Stay safe, 👑 ! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 01:45 AM |
| 12 | This is not a dating post but I felt terrified last night because of a man. I feel partly responsible; I know I shouldn't say that.I understand that this is a routine for you, and work gets in the way, but would it be possible to bring the garbage out during daylight? I’m worried about this. Is there anyone in your house like a husband, boyfriend, or literally any other male figure that could help you take the trash out for you during this time? It sounds like this man is noticing a routine and pattern and you are his prey. Always trust your instincts and take the right precautions. It sounds to me like your neighbourhood i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 09:17 PM |
| 2 | But he’s got a 2k PC set up for gaming, complete with a $200 chair, spends $300-500 a month on weed/alcohol/fast food…but you should settle for this Cracker Jack ring because he shouldn’t have to prove he loves you. The pick me’s in the comments were just sad…Looks he got it out of those coin operated machines. This ring reminds me of the cheap 25cent ring that you for being good at the grocery store from your mom lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 01:46 AM |
| 5 | FDS ladies this reminded me of you, her videos are absolutely hilarious.The level of gaslighting in this conversation is phenomenal. Boys are stupid lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 01:43 AM |
| 30 | SNOOPING 101My older sister shares her laptop with her husband. If the devices have the same Apple ID it should be linked up to one another. When they’re both at work, he’ll sometimes talk to his friends on his phone and she sees his conversation with his friends on their laptop and know where he’s at with find my iPhone. Same with my mother, but she only uses find my iPhone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 01:29 PM |
| 4 | Someone I've known since middle school just got proposed to with a Ring Pop.Let’s hope he doesn’t give her a tootsie roll… we all know what’s at the end of that bargain. 😏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 11:42 AM |
| 12 | Someone I've known since middle school just got proposed to with a Ring Pop.Well said! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 11:06 AM |
| 97 | SNOOPING 101My older sister has her husbands iMessage linked onto her MacBook, so she sees everything and knows who he talks to. 😂 She and my mom put gps tracking on their spouse’s phone. It’s quite impressive since none of the men know it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 10:25 AM |
| 10 | Honest question: have you ever met a man who has fully examined his relationship to patriarchy?The real question is do they really mean what they say? And are they willing to talk the talk and walk the walk? Most men will just run their mouth to sleep with you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 01:13 PM |
| 2 | Have you ever truly felt immediate "sparks", or was it just lovebombing/emotional vulnerability on your part?The butterfly feelings never really last. I’m tact, it’ll go away the first time they mess up. I never allow myself to get those feelings, because It clouds my judgement. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 11:45 AM |
| 44 | You can learn a lot about a guy via his social media profileOmg the trophies thing!!! That’s sooo common. It’s like they want to build creditability with their friends that they had a chance with these women. They’ll probably make up some lie about how they hooked up and broke up with them after. 😂 Ladies, never be the one to give out your Instagram first. Make him give his information first and see if it’s even worth a follow by checking his followers, and who he follows. Also, check the quality of his pictures. If he’s using the same pics from his dati… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 01:41 PM |
| 27 | I don't think men are capable of seeing us as humans, everIt’s sad but true. I’ve been told that in about 30 seconds a guy can make a decision as whether he sees you as wifey, gf, and side piece. They categorize you before getting to know you. They also gage as to how much it will take to get you to sleep with them as well. Never lower guard. Guys and pick-me’s cannot be trusted. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 01:28 PM |
| 2 | Ladies and gentle..ladies, welcome to Tinder! There is literally one line in my profile text. Solely stating where I’m from.I get this a lot. Men don’t even read your profile. It’s so annoying. Even if I put down my ethnicity, they don’t read it. It’s also the first question they ask too! The moment they ask me about my ethnicity, I start playing this game where they get to guess my ethnicity and if they’re wrong, I block and delete them. At this point, they’re not worth my time since I know what they want from me. It goes to show that men are vain and they want to hook up. 😂 Boi bye 💅🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 05:55 AM |
| 4 | Deleting OLD never felt better!Yaaasss Queen! So happy for you! As an aside, I’m about to make my getaway too! So far, I’ve deleted almost everything except for one app. Despite my friends irl telling me to broaden my horizons and join more apps, telling me that I won’t find anyone sticking to one app, but the truth is, I’m waiting for everything to open up, so I can meet people irl. Hopefully, when this is all over, I’ll get to go downtown, have a glass of wine/champagne and stare at art again. These places usually weed out … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 05:30 AM |
| 22 | Stuff like this irks me. Waited for 10 yrs of disappointment. Fucked on the first date, rarely works out. Marriage after 6months, only if I knew him before then. Stuff like this is unrealistic. Before I would have shared and liked. Now I want to 🤢There are guys that use post like this towards their advantage. 🤮 idgaf if guys call me a prude. I’m not fucking anybody before marriage lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 02:39 AM |
| 3 | Sick of Tinder? Try OfferUp! Sell your vehicle and get laid !I’m sorry you went through this. I’d humiliate him by filing a police report, by sending these messages to his gf/wife and mom. Some of his closest female friends as well if I had time to do some digging. Men need to be held accountable for their actions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 09:33 PM |
| 32 | Make it stop. 💀That statement makes no sense, so no thanks! I’m not into situationships! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 09:28 PM |
| 8 | Oh no…the NEST! 🤡Hell no, I refuse the nest 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 09:26 PM |
| 48 | It’s a myth when scrotes justify cheating and poly with ‘It’s biOlOgY’To add, female infanticide is prevalent in countries that prefer girls over boys. 1.05:1.00 (boys to girls) is a world average. It’s even worse in countries that prefer male babies over female babies, because the ratios are more disproportionate where men outnumber women. Knowing this, it’s why I don’t settle for bare minimum. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 07:51 AM |
| 1 | Share your badass breakup stories!👑🙌🏻🥳🎉🍾🥂❤️!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 05:29 AM |
| 3 | "High" standards will literally save your life. Say no to flying out to meet strange men. Say no to walks & hikes with strange men. PLEASE protect yourselves ladies!Here’s what my sister taught me before going on my first date, if you don’t know the guy, always go on public dates with lots of people around. Be sure to not leave food unattended and if you do, don’t eat it after you have returned. If a guy ever asks you to come to his house, go on anything that involves the wilderness, and wants you to come to him, run! The first date should always be on your terms. He could suggest ideas, but it’s you who has final say in the activity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 05:08 AM |
| 32 | Why they're hung up on their exDo they even have awareness of what we do for them? I think there are men out there who don’t know how much women sacrifice for them. I truly believe that NVM will not take the time to think, reflect, and realize anything. I truly think that they’re going to keep repeating the cycle well into their grave. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 04:55 AM |
| 6 | Normalize not proposing on hikesI don’t want to be sweaty and out of breath when he offers me a ring lol I wanna look glamorous af with a feather boa! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 07:08 AM |
| 2 | The Bachelor franchise is a treasure trove when it comes to dating red flagsHas there been a relationship that was successful off camera? 😝 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 04:10 AM |
| 20 | Why is he single ladies??? Where is his queen??Wtf did I just read? Lol 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 01:07 AM |
| 3 | How many of you “developed” issues while in a relationship? I’ll go first: depression and anxiety. Cured as soon as we broke up.My acne cleared up after I broke up with my ex. Lol I thought it was the hormones you get from being in a relationship, but it was just stress. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 12:16 AM |
| 6 | Proud of myself for making better choicesIn my opinion, the initial 🚩 was when he asked you what you’re looking for. He wanted a cheat sheet, so he could pretend to be that guy for a few months, but messed up by sending you that picture. Also, “adventurous” is one of the many code words that means that one is a “freak in the sheets”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 06:04 AM |
| 30 | Do you think that “the right one” will change an LVM?No. I believe that people will not change for anyone but themselves. There has been studies over intrinsic and extrinsic motivation, and it shows that intrinsic works best. As a result, he won’t change for you; it has to be for himself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 02:25 AM |
| 75 | No, just no…This is TRUTH right here! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 12:47 AM |
| 547 | The truth about the "honey moon phase"Thank you, I needed to hear this. I thought it was just me, but I truly believe that if they love you, they’ll make you happy for the rest of their life. Being and feeling love has no expiration date. I had a guy ask me if I had a certain limit as to when he “can get serious with me” which is code for he wants to know when I will stop vetting him, so he can start exhibiting his LVM behaviour. Hahaha I told him I’ll always be vetting him no matter what, and I’ll leave the moment he stops treating… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 12:28 AM |
| 3 | Part of vetting is seeing if he can grocery shop and cook without being spoon fed like a toddler.Omg, I just saw this on TikTok ! If you have to do this for him then he’s definitely not a keeper. He’s totally doing this on purpose if he fails to get the right things. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 10:43 PM |
| 157 | No, just no…I saw this while scrolling through my Instagram, and I had to immediately unfollow the account. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 10:40 PM |
| 10 | Hilarious Ex-Scrote StoryNo!!!!!! He’s a sicko. It’s been six months, he needs to leave you alone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 10:12 PM |
| 34 | Hilarious Ex-Scrote Storylol 😂 He’s trying to make you jealous that he’s getting laid!!! Good on you for dumping a man-child! 🥂 My general rule of thumb is that, if I didn’t pack it in the first place, then it probably wasn’t important to me and I don’t want it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 09:24 PM |
| 8 | And Another One Bites the Dust! 🥳🍾For real though… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 06:36 PM |
| 29 | And Another One Bites the Dust! 🥳🍾Thanks for the support 👑, ❤️ you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 06:15 AM |
| 74 | LVM Moocher!! Thank GOODNESS she got some solid advice in the comments to DROP! THAT! SCROOOOTE!This sounds like dating culture in my area 😂 This is why I hardly date men from my city. Men are so lazy and put in no effort these days. One of them had the audacity to tell me that I should go see him downtown after work for a drink and to “chill” at his place. Stupid, you think I’m that dumb? I’m not lifting my finger for anything, if you wanna see me, you gotta come to me first. 💅🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 05:13 AM |
| 82 | Keeping in contact with ExesNever EVER stay in contact with your ex! I make sure to delete and block all of my potentials and exes contact info. Any trace of their existence in my life is just overkill. Just the thought of them is a mood killer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 05:05 AM |
| 1 | "You look like my ex..."I get comments like this around Valentine’s Day. It’s funny af since they think it’s a pick-up line. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 01:41 AM |
| 6 | Beware of shady matchmakers, ladies.Just block, delete, and keep moving lol 😂 I do this to random men that try to follow me on Instagram lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 01:34 AM |
| 299 | Don't give a guy a chance after he offers a coffee date, even if he offers a nice dinner date after you say no to coffee.A friend of mine got tricked as well. He first asked her out to a restaurant and then suggested cheap Chinese takeout at his home. I can’t believe she went along with it since it’s not safe. Going home with a guy you just met is not safe under any circumstances. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 12:40 AM |
| 45 | Men are intimidated by my educationThat’s a great approach to men who say these things! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 07:56 AM |
| 31 | my quickest vetting strategyAnother vetting strategy that I do is ask them to paint a picture or their perfect date with me. It’s fucking funny because these men are telling on themselves as to how they picture it going down. I had one guy tell me he was old fashioned and would like to take things slow. He imagined us fucking by the fourth date after going to the movies. The first three dates were coffee and park dates lol naw dude. I had another guy love bomb me by saying he’d buy me flowers on our first date and cook a m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 11:16 PM |
| 87 | Why I Stayed Single in College and Why You Should TooFinancially, you’ll be better off. During college, you and your SO will be so broke, he’ll likely pull the 50/50 thing on you. I didn’t date anyone all through my two years of college, and it was glorious. I wasn’t broke and I had no one nagging me on what I should and shouldn’t spend my money on. Even after all that shopping, I did on weekends, I just had more money. However, during my last two years of college, I dated and it was costing me since he wanted 50/50 because we were both broke stud… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 11:06 PM |
| 1 | This is What LVM consider “great dating” and gaslight us into believing is acceptable. Hope the PickMe Woman Who Settled for these Low Effort Dates Wakes Up...No thanks, I prefer to be out and about lol It’s so funny because back in my pick-me days, my exes and potentials preferred me in my tight crop tops with full on makeup while the they lounge around in their ketchup stained white t-shirts and baggy sweatpants. They’d treat me differently if I showed up like I rolled out of bed like them. For this reason, I’d rather go out all dressed up then stay at home catering towards his needs in uncomfortable shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 11:52 PM |
| 58 | Blocking is therapeutic.This is so true! For the past few days, I’ve been talking to this guy on OLD, and he seemed solid until he said that he thought OLD was a numbers game, and he was swiping on as many woman he thought was cute. That set me off, but I was hesitant to unmatch. I then started to see how much of a bad person he was. I kept telling myself that it was nothing 🤡 and when he stopped talking to me, I gave him 24-48 hours to respond 🤡. Queens please do not be dumb like me. The waiting gave me anxiety and st… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 08:46 PM |
| 1 | He's finally gone -- Thank you FDSIt was 3-4 months after the relationship had taken its course. I wrote in my journal with the “Dear ____” and at first I wrote about things that bothered me, and “asked him” for comfort and advice since I used to seek out his advice during my pick-me days. Sometimes I’d write to him expressing my happiness and anger since I was attached to him and we’d tell each other about our day. It got to the point where I was worried, because I was using this as a crutch since he had moved on, didn’t care a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 07:17 PM |
| 2 | He's finally gone -- Thank you FDSI did this for a while and it took me longer to get over him, because of the projection since I thought he’s still in my life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 06:27 PM |
| 4 | It's OK to be flawed. As long as we work on it.I understand. It just takes a little bit of time for you to heal. I have no doubt that you will get there. Take all the time you need. I understand that it’s hard to escape the clutches of social media, but if you have to block all the social media websites, you should do it. I think you should do whatever it takes to heal and move on. De-activate your account and leave for a few months. I’m pretty sure you can’t see anything on Instagram without being logged in to an account. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 01:31 PM |
| 1 | Pink offers to pay female Norwegian handball team’s fineI love her! “Cover Me in Sunshine” is one of my favourite songs! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 12:22 PM |
| 12 | It's OK to be flawed. As long as we work on it.I’m going through a similar situation like this as well. Blocking him and making sure he’s out of your life is a good option. Right now, you’re projecting by still imagining a life with him. Some time away from the thought of him will work best. I’d also take some time to be by yourself, listen to your inner needs/thoughts, and treat yourself to whatever it is You want right now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 12:20 PM |
| 6 | It’s amazing when they out themselves, men really are self-aware wolvesWtf?! Lol 😂 He’s playing some mind olympics with you before the race even started lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 12:03 PM |
| 7 | Male friends are a scamIt’s the usually women that set the boundary when it comes to having male friends. Once men realize that they’ll get nothing from you, that’s when they really assess your actual worth in their life. Most will stop talking to you or keep you at arms length to see if anything changes. I’ve had close male friends only to find out they were romantically interested in me and our friendship was never the same again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 12:00 PM |
| 11 | Ladies, it’s OK not to force yourself to feel attraction.Never give a guy your time if he ain’t attractive to you. My parents tried to set me up with a family friend and I was repulsed by the guy. They told me to “give him a chance”. I did and what did that get me ? I got taken advantage of and groped for a month. I still remember it until this day. I was only 21 and he was 26! I had a life ahead of me and my parents wanted me to get married. He had no aspirations or the desire to be better. He graduated from a trades school working in a field nowhere… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 11:55 AM |
| 6 | Sex/Life: The Ultimate Show for Pickmeshas, LVM, and NVM!There’s no HV character in here. It’s worse than Sex in the City. Lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 10:16 PM |
| 14 | Sex/Life: The Ultimate Show for Pickmeshas, LVM, and NVM!She’s such a pick-me, I couldn’t stand her! She makes me so angry because she’s pathetic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/21 11:56 PM |
| 13 | Sex/Life: The Ultimate Show for Pickmeshas, LVM, and NVM!Oh yeah! Honestly though, the scene went by so fast. I literally thought it was a shadow. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/21 08:26 PM |
| 42 | fr.This had me in tears and what’s funny is that there’s a female version of Bob the builder called Wendy. 😂😂😂🤡🤡🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 09:50 PM |
| 85 | Why waiting makes senseHere’s the thing, most guys know about the 3-4 month rule and some are patient enough to wait longer. I saw my LV Ex’s friend did that to this girl. He wined and dined her for 4 months. For those four months he was the perfect bf. Always driving up 2.5 hours to see her, picking up the bill, and when they slept together, it was over within the week. The girl was serious, but he said they were just casual wtf. He slept with three other women in the month. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 01:15 PM |
| 3 | yeah, she has such a big heart! 😒 sure… 🙄🤡 😂🤪😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 10:25 AM |
| 4 | Beautiful Mistakes by Maroon 5 and Megan Thee StallionMe too! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 01:04 AM |
| 24 | When I was with my NV Ex husband I used to have to come home and clean after work while pregnant! My now boyfriend does my yard work and cleans while I’m working… we don’t even live together 🥳Aww y’all have the cutest conversations ever!! This is hella sexy. I gotta find me a man like that! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 11:05 AM |
| 20 | if you're in doubt remember all those lies: "men's desirability peaks at age 50. But women's desirability starts high at age 18 and falls throughout their lifespan."It’s too early in the morning for this lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 03:41 PM |
| 1 | Are You The “Clingy” Type?Who’s the crybaby now ? 😝 👩🏻🍼🍼🧃 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 02:02 PM |
| 16 | dOuBle StAnDaRd - please be advised that I only entertained this imbecile for S**** & Giggles 🙂🙃🙂🙃I’m here for this! You’re literally teaching him Iike a damn grade schooler hahaha! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/21 05:40 AM |
| 8 | When did you realize he hated you?He told me he loved me to get into bed with me. I didn’t fall for it (Thank God). I thought he was serious. Two months later, he took back what he said and said that he wasn’t sure. I broke up with him two weeks later. I felt so guilty for doing it, but I should’ve done it earlier. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/21 04:10 AM |
| 10 | The absolute AUDACITY of men who want to have their cake and eat it too.You should have just ripped the note in front of him to hurt his ego. I’m sure your mom would have understood. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/21 12:26 PM |
| 9 | Futurama: A Cautionary Tale About an LVMYes, watch it. I think you’ll like it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 06:49 PM |
| 78 | Futurama: A Cautionary Tale About an LVMFor sure, Fry is an LVM. No argument there. He doesn’t even get better in the show either. This episode perfectly captures what every girl feels like when they’re with an LVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 02:23 PM |
| 17 | This song is catchy as hell, but on a closer inspection, the lyrics seem to make it an lvm anthem (second pic) thoughts?He literally slammed the door in front of his wife’s face. That video clip bothers me and commenters were making excuses about Hailey had the worst luck with paparazzi. Naw, that’s how he normally treats her and it’s probably worse in private. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 08:25 PM |
| 34 | Only 200 hrs of community service after sexually abusing a minor 🤡I always got a scrotey vibe from him and the things he posts on social media. This is not a good way to stay relevant, dude. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 08:07 PM |
| 8 | In desperate need of help…If you feel it, it’s there. It’s time to cut him loose. You’ll feel so much better. It’ll hurt, but it’s better for you and your child. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 02:24 AM |
| 3 | If you have to make him sign a contract to ‘keep him’ - he was never yoursAnd the truth comes out! 👏👏👏 Men be calling women gold diggers when it’s really them that play on our emotions. I’m glad she hit him up with marriage. Now he’s broke, and stupid. His side chick ain’t gonna support him through school. I bet you he was using his own money for that girl while you babied and coddled him through school. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 11:24 PM |
| 6 | So the LVM in my city are pulling this now. Thoughts on how to respond ladies? It was that “let me get the first you get the second” line. She declined a 2d date and got this in reply.Even if she invited him, he should pay regardless. It’s a romantic date. You wanna know what my response is? It’s this: “🤣” then block and delete. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 11:19 PM |
| 14 | “New phone, who dis”-ed a guy who ghosted me for 3 weeks after a first dateI love your new energy! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 11:13 PM |
| 5 | Ikea knows what's upTotally doing this 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 11:08 PM |
| 187 | Why do so many women think they need violent sex now?The thought of violent sex just hurts my stomach. Men should not hurt their partners during sex or in the relationship. I’ve had relationships where we were rough-housing and it’s usually the guy who knows when he needs to stop because I’ll end up in bruises if he continues. In addition, I’ve had to end relationships because a few guys were unintentionally rough with me. It’s a sign that he can do worse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 10:53 PM |
| 73 | Visions From PickMe PastThere’s nothing wrong with looking expensive! My ex used to do same thing and I fell for it. The next time I’m meeting the parents, I’m showing up in a feather boa, so even if we break up, They’ll always remember my glamorous self. 🤣 In the past, I’ve had guys spend a shit ton of money on clothes for themselves because they didn’t measure, and that’s how it should be. Either you get on my level or I get someone new. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 10:48 PM |
| 20 | Moving cities for a better dating pool? Looking for advice on what to consider. (city ratio of women:men is too high)So I wasn’t the only one thinking about this the other day. Before moving into said city, remember to set your location setting with whatever OLD dating app you’re using to get a “feel” of the guys there before making the big move. Some guys can be jerks and that may be the culture of the city. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 03:15 AM |
| 44 | LVM who love being "one of the girls"This makes a lot of sense. I questioned why my ex was with a lot of girls and always took photos with his girl friends rather than his boy friends. I always question the intentions of that one straight boy that’s hanging out with a bunch of girls. He’s in it for the attention and that he can’t compete with his guy friends. I low key found them slimey but couldn’t figure out why. On the flip side I’ve also been part of groups where I was the only girl. Trust me, it never ends well. They wanna fuc… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 09:40 PM |
| 4 | Imagine your boyfriend telling you he won’t hesitate to hit you because he’s afraid you’re a psycho...This reminds me of a story with one of my encounters. He enjoyed my company so much that he jokingly said he wanted to kidnap me right after the first date. Long story short, till this day he doesn’t know where I live. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 08:19 PM |
| 5 | Is this how much women have lowered their standards? I just received this text.This is too much work. I feel sad for this girl. She’s putting out too much of herself and not creating a sense of mystery. The massive texts are enough to scare away the guy. Sending the picture through sms when you don’t even know if this is his number is just a big no on my end. Never send nudes, if you want to send a picture, show what you’re doing sometimes. If he wants your face in it, ask for him for a picture of him as well in real time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 06:29 PM |
| 158 | A guy I met on Hinge sexually assaulted me, so I get him banned on dating apps whenever I see him 💅Thank you for your service, 👑 ! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/21 08:53 PM |
| 44 | Covert NarcissistCongrats on grad school! If you want to move far away, go ahead! A fresh new start and meeting new people might be good for you. After my breakup, I threw myself into work and distracted myself with grad school applications because I didn’t want to to think about my ex. I spent money on myself and got myself the things that I wanted for a very long time. Even though, it was temporary happiness, as the days went by, other things happened and I slowly forgot about him. I hardly ever think about hi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/21 01:35 AM |
| 63 | Are the dates he offers for HIM? is he just having you tag along to his fav restaurant or to the movie he's been wanting to see?I believe this. During my pick-me days, my mother would often describe me as a lovesick puppy or my ex’s forgotten toy and I hated her for that because it was cruel, but I’m starting to see it now. I hate myself for it, but never will men use me like that ever again. If I a guy doesn’t bend over backwards for me, I’m out. There is no compromise with me. Compromise is shit you do when you’re married, not dating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 11:35 PM |
| 9 | I just did it.Exactly, It’s just creepy and insidious. These men need to stop! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 11:21 PM |
| 3 | Thanks FDS.Oh shit! I knew someone that wanted to do anal. His girlfriend broke up with him over it. Till this he still thinks he wasn’t wrong for pressuring her to do anal and acts like she was in the wrong lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 01:19 AM |
| 14 | OLD Case Study #1All the things he says about love is all one-sided. He expects it out of you but won’t reciprocate. It’s best to just run from these people. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/21 10:01 PM |
| 5 | The Five Love Languages and Books of this NatureIt’s now a movie called “What Men Want”. The title is much more accurate than the book I must say… 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/21 05:28 PM |
| 3 | Imagine if we became a collective mindBlack Mirror Should make an episode on this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/21 01:59 PM |
| 2 | The Five Love Languages and Books of this NatureI 100% agree. Those tests are inaccurate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/21 01:40 PM |
| 14 | Thanks FDS.🚩 he said phrases like “you’re over thinking this”, “oh so now it’s my fault?”, or “I don’t see what the problem is” 🚩 initiated breaking up but never committed. In fact, I bet that you were the one that broke up with him and actually committed to it. Anyways, I’m happy for you ! Let’s Celebrate 🎉 Cheers to you! 🍾🍻 You got this, Queen 👑! You’re going to meet a lot more interesting people in university and literally planet Earth anyways. University is a time for you to explore and experiment. It’… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/21 05:42 AM |
| 27 | The Five Love Languages and Books of this NatureI feel like all girls should say that their love language is gifts so that this book trend dies, because these cheap ass scrotes don’t want to spend money on anyone but themselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/21 02:20 AM |
| 105 | SexIntheCity: Ultimate Pick Me show!!Carrie was the biggest pick-me. Mr. Big and Carrie kept breaking up over and over again and it’s just a waste of time in my eyes. Miranda could do so much better since he’s LVM no matter how much the show paints him to be a genuine nice guy that makes mistakes. I’m a bit torn between with Charlotte, because Harry does love and care about her. But I find their love story too fast and how they connected too fast. Samantha’s character almost follows the FDS narrative, but there’s something off abou… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/21 06:38 PM |
| 15 | JUST A FRIENDLY REMINDER: If he’s a HVM and wants to be intimate with you he will get tested for STDs firstThis is a legitimate requirement for me. Just so he can’t falsify these documents, we will do this together, and I need written proof sent home in a sealed envelope. I don’t mind getting tested either and would do the same if my partner expects this of me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/21 02:15 PM |
| 22 | finally broke up with my NVM bfGood for you, Queen 👑! Let’s celebrate !!!🎉 From what I’ve read, he sounds like a textbook douchebag. Trash dump-worthy material in my eyes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/21 02:13 PM |
| 53 | The only man I will consider having sex withI have actually been thinking about this for a while too. The part where you start questioning your identity is what I’ve been dealing with and people thought it was weird that I didn’t want to have sex. The truth was that the men I was seeing weren’t attractive to me. I was talking to porn addicted weirdos, Otakus, and gamers. Deep down it was a turn off, and I blamed myself for not being attracted to these men since I thought it was normal that men were into these kind of things when really, i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/21 06:56 PM |
| 11 | Typical OLD scrote wants his sex NOW and will cheat if he doesn't get it!This. And don’t even bother teaching him anything lol Women will be able to see through his bs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/21 09:10 PM |
| 2 | Blocked and deleted ex so he called from a different number.Never give them the satisfaction by answering their calls or messages. They want to see you struggling. They want to know that you still think about them. It’s okay that you do at certain times, your healing, but never let them know this. These types of people feed off of your misery and knowing that your life isn’t as good as theirs. Block them on everything so they can’t keep tabs on you. Indifference is the best form of punishment for these narcissistic assholes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/21 08:24 PM |
| 55 | Response to the “used goods GF” post 👻Stares at other women in front of you. Calls her cute. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 03:40 PM |
| 11 | Tl;dr I hate that my girlfriend is more successful than me and takes decisions about her life without consulting meHe jealous af lol Sadly, I’ve dated guys like this and they expect you tell them everything. They know everything about you from your sleeping schedule and daily routines. When something unexpected happens they get so tilted. The fact that he doesn’t he acknowledge her success is stupid. She’s not “lucky”. There was a lot of work and thought put into her decisions and he doesn’t see it. He’s jealous of her success and he’s comparing himself to her which is toxic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 02:36 PM |
| 11 | The “Honeymoon Phase” is a Trap, Run!Out of curiosity, what are some mechanism that you’d use to slow down? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 05:45 PM |
| 46 | It finally sunk in. 50/50 is unfair.50/50 is the most stupidest piece of propaganda that LVM use. I just get infuriated when men suggest 50/50. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 04:42 AM |
| 7 | EXPLAINING WHY 50/50 IS BAD FOR YOUNGER GENERATION OF WOMEN (TEENS)I had a guy who asked to do 50/50 on our second date. He painted me this rosy picture about how when I cook, he’ll do the dishes, and that we’ll take turns paying for meals. Or that he’s a big boy and he can do his own laundry when we live together. It’s obvious he’s projecting to try and make me agree to his 50/50 agenda. He threw in every argument FDS told me about! All these comments all solidify what my sister and I thought of the situation and that 50/50 is bullshit! Queens, never EVER do 5… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 04:36 AM |
| 27 | EXPLAINING WHY 50/50 IS BAD FOR YOUNGER GENERATION OF WOMEN (TEENS)That’s a shitty friend. I would never do sloppy seconds. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 04:17 AM |
| 89 | Rich AH mad that his GF is still poor after she took a second job.Ewww I can’t believe there are people like this. Common decency would be to ask her and feed her. You’re right they’re shitty people who raised a shitty boy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/21 11:58 PM |
| 92 | Rich AH mad that his GF is still poor after she took a second job.Yup lol 😂 Maybe they should think before they post things like this. I hope commenters were roasting this douche bag. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/21 11:37 PM |
| 181 | Rich AH mad that his GF is still poor after she took a second job.I just literally had a flash forward. I was about to be in the same position as this girl because the dude wanted to go 50/50 onwards for the second date fully knowing that I was still in school working part time for the next two years, while he on the other hand, made almost triple the amount working full time even if I were to work full time. Any guy that wants to go 50/50 doesn’t care about anyone but themselves. This is just one case scenario of their selfishness. Reading this post definitel… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/21 11:35 PM |
| 11 | Movie Rec: MOXIE - just watched it twice and love itI’m watching it tonight. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/21 10:42 PM |
| 13 | A couple of years ago, I wouldn’t even fully admit to being a feminist in a dating situation cause I didn’t want to scare men away. Today this quote is the only text I have on my dating profile.I love her! I used her TED Talk called, “The Dangers of a Single Story” to teach my students about the need for multiple historical narratives. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/21 05:48 PM |
| 3 | Your standards are never low enough for a LVMHahahaha you hit the mark on EVERYTHING! He just moved places and is living alone. He doesn’t even have a bed frame. He sleeps on a damn futon. There’s no furniture in his place and it’s been almost three months. He said that his break up was “mutual” and I don’t believe it. He said that they fought over a bunch of things but distance was the main aspect of the collapse of their relationship. The scrote even said that he’s still friends with all of them since that’s “the type of person that he i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/21 05:05 PM |
| 5 | Your standards are never low enough for a LVMThank you for your kind words, my sister had a hunch about him testing me since his turnaround was so sudden. I now have more clarity on the situation that he was testing my boundaries. He and his friends are blocked. I will look into getting a Google number. His argument was so flawed. It was like, hey if we’re going to be serious I need it to be 50/50 since it benefits me and my friends and exes have done it before. 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/21 04:30 PM |
| 10 | Your standards are never low enough for a LVMHe wanted at least four dates before making the decision whether or not he wanted to be my girlfriend. Before the second date, he suggested going 50/50. I told him no since I wanted a provider and it was a vetting strategy. He said he thought I was a “modern women”, brought up moving in with him and paying rent, said that all his past relationships and friends agreed to this. I am neither his friend or his exes. Had the audacity to ask what I brought to the table if he’s coming up to me, and spe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/21 03:58 PM |
| 61 | Your standards are never low enough for a LVMI just stopped talking to one that wanted 50/50 six months onwards. Called me a gold digger and threw every argument FDS warned me about. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/21 12:47 AM |
| 27 | Screening video chat…for a walk.This is awesome! My mom and I are cackling like hyenas. I’m totally stealing this line and using it whenever a guy offers a park date. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/21 04:28 AM |
| 9 | Screening video chat…for a walk.🤢🤮😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/21 04:24 AM |
| 19 | Don't Be Coerced Into Birthday BS by Friends' LVM Husbands and BoyfriendsThat is gross. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/21 01:17 AM |
| 11 | Recently Got Back On ‘That app’ and Here’s My Bio Hall Of ShameOh gosh, this is a cesspool. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 08:42 PM |
| 6 | They settle down when they get old. #geriatricGotcha! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 08:39 PM |
| 13 | Learning to Say "No" and Learning to Ask for What you WantYeah, I’m learning to do this as well. The profession I’m in a “helping profession” and we just get saddled with unnecessary work where our boss just makes us do things “for the sake of humanity”. There were times that I couldn’t leave my work until 7pm and I didn’t even get paid for it. Now, I’m more assertive with constant “resting bitch face” to ward off the mooches who want to take advantage of me. I used to get bullied by older staff. One of them made me run around the building to do a head… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 08:02 PM |
| 27 | They settle down when they get old. #geriatricI questioned this pair when I was little. My brain couldn’t fathom why a young successful lawyer would choose this subpar movie star, and I still do. From the comments that I see in the subreddit, it makes sense. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 07:39 PM |
| 19 | When they lie about their ages on dating apps and think we won't notice 😂It’s the twin towers 😂!! If he was 23 at that age, he’d be 43 right now! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 03:41 AM |
| 3 | How do you end a date early?I always let people know where I am and when I’m going on a date. My friends love being a “cockblock” when dates don’t work out. I excuse myself to the bathroom and send a message to my group chat and I can always count on one of them calling me and making up some lie to get me out. If it’s really bad and I need to get out pronto, I just call an Uber tell him that something came up and leave without giving him a chance to say anything. I usually pay for my meal so he won’t chase after me. To me,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 09:33 PM |
| 78 | How do you end a date early?It’s funny how the girl had to call you to apologize. Personally, I have too much dignity and self-respect to apologize to a stranger. That guy is the very definition of LVM lol. He doesn’t think that it’s any of his fault for all of this and made her apologize. He is an adult man child who will not own up to his mistakes. Also, to call his friend to get her to talk to you so that he can talk to you again is dumb and childish. You were right it’s a form of negging. He’s trying to lower your stan… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 09:27 PM |
| 149 | Do not become friends with your LVM/situationship once it’s over!!It’s such a shame when guys do that, but you can tell that they were after pussy instead of love and that they’re not ready for what you have for them. Oh well, on to the next one. He treats you like that because he’s still butt hurt that you dumped him which is immature and shows no growth on his part. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 12:23 PM |
| 48 | Just bought myself diamonds for the first timeGood! Diamonds are a girls best friend! Who needs men! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 10:45 PM |
| 5 | Old pick me VS new Queen meI’m glad I made you laugh! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 08:45 PM |
| 13 | As a HVW, how do you combat feelings of hopelessness in today’s harsh dating climate? How do you stay positive, yet realistic?I try to keep dating while putting myself first. Not trying to think too much into the future and to enjoy whatever this I thing I have going on with the dude without compromising my needs, boundaries and desires. At any moment I’m prepared to get up and walk away from him. I don’t feel any sense of remorse or guilt when being with him because I am neither his girlfriend, fiancé, wife, nor am I his friend. Therefore, I owe him nothing. I don’t feel obligated to sleep, kiss, or hug him just becau… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 03:02 PM |
| 21 | If he still uses Snapchat, lovebombs you in the talking stage, and/or attempts to triangulate you against his ex/gf while seeing you or otherwise uses EtHiCaL nOnMoNoGaMy to justify why he needs multiple women, DISCARD HIM. Do not be the unwitting participant in any scrote’s harem 🤮I should follow these rules and do a role reversal but instead of sex and intimate stuff, I should waste their time and money. 😂Yeah Queen, 👑 Let’s go!!!!! Jokes aside, I’m too busy to get on their level. This is only works on pick-me’s and dumbass guys who need a reality check. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 11:35 AM |
| 110 | Just started talking to this guy on Hinge (28M) and he's already tryna make me (22F) his motherHe’s future faking you. My first relationship and a few of OLD matches all did this to me and I fell for it. I would say 90% of guys use this tactic to get women to open up and become more vulnerable. Recently, I had a guy talk to me about marriage and ask where I thought this relationship was going during the first week of talking to me via OLD, and I was like dude, the furthest I thought is tomorrow(our first meet-up). Like chill and stop projecting these thoughts in my head. I know what you’r… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 11:09 AM |
| 84 | Old pick me VS new Queen meWow…wtf? He had ample time before the date to make plans. I’ve never had this happen to me, but if it did, all hell would break loose. This is no effort at all. Of all things, why food court? Is he that cheap? 😂 I’ve had guys that drove around different places, pull out their phones, Google places to eat, and call right in front of me to make reservations. It’s the least they could do for wasting my time. Honestly, you deserve those shoes, so you can run as fast as you can away from him 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 10:51 AM |
| 64 | Tip - if he reschedules even once for your first date, there is a 99% chance he is using you as a backup.If he’s talking to you while you’re already in bed, BLOCK. I’m vindictive to these types of guys. I just let them make the plans without intentionally going to any of them. If they end up going, then they get stood up. Think of the times that you got ready and made time for them to have them treat you like shit. It’s clear that they don’t respect you or your time. It’s just nice to give these types of guys a taste of their own medicine. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 02:49 AM |
| 15 | At first it looks like a good answer, but then you realize the first part is about him, the second part is about you helping HIM achieve HIS goals (!), and the third part is a hastily assembled mishmash of Good Qualities he put in at the last minuteIt’s code for “ I need someone to suck-up to me 24/7, be at my beck and call since I’m so “busy” and great. Naw dude, I ain’t got time to play mommy bang-maid I got a life and shit to do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 02:40 AM |
| 8 | Only a man would come up with the idea for this dumb shit and then actually do it after being encouraged by other menI hope this greedy prick gets diabetes, loses all his teeth, and arrested for stealing. It’s less than a dollar for this drink where I live. He thinks he’s so smart, but he’s really hurting his health in the end. This is not smart or “big brain”. He reminds me of Mr. Krabs in Spongebob Squarepants which was a cheap LVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 02:35 AM |
| 5 | Dealing with the realization that I'm a PickmeshaIt’s okay. I’m in your situation as well. Recovering pick-me right here. 🙋🏻♀️ I’m so glad to have FDS guide through these scrotes and slugs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/21 04:19 AM |
| 15 | Hadn’t been OLD in almost 15 years. I wanted to see what you all were talking about. Now I know I will be single forever. On purpose. 🤣💖Yeah get a dog, they’re way better listeners and they can follow instructions. If you adopt, some of them are already potty trained as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/21 04:16 AM |
| 3 | HOW TO TEXT LIKE A QUEEN 📱👑They think that we’re their servants when owe them nothing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/21 01:43 AM |
| 7 | “But ugly guys will treat you better and they won’t cheat on you!” No. Countering scrote propaganda:Been there, done that. Not falling for it again. 🤡🤪 He’ll end up thinking that you’re the ugly one and treat you badly. Worst of all, you’ll be thinking like you’re the ugly one and that your lucky to be “graced by his presence”. This is giving me so much PTSD. It took me so much time to build back my confidence. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/21 02:11 PM |
| 183 | Leave the Door OpenBruno Mars is the epitome of a LVM. He treats women like trash in public. All of songs are about sex and how he’s a player and he’s going to leave them. I couldn’t listen to “Versace on the Floor” because Zendaya was so young in that music video. She was a fetus in that video and it made me uncomfortable. It was so suggestive in nature that it made me cringe. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/21 01:53 PM |
| 9 | HOW TO TEXT LIKE A QUEEN 📱👑Oh Ma Gawd!!! This is what I practice and I get called out by my friends for my “cruel” behaviour. I’m so glad FDS and I are on the same page. If it’s been 2 days I just unmatch with him and call it a lost cause. No need for closure 🤡 or an explanation. I have guys lined up at my beck and call 😂 don’t play games with me. Never text a guy during work, always do it after work. You’re losing money over him! Also, if he calls you and you’re in bed for sure it’s a booty call. Don’t be his toy. A guy … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/21 01:39 PM |
| 15 | Dick is in abundance and low in value. Getting “flewed out” is not the move.We need more videos like this on TikTok! I’m tired of seeing videos of pick-me’s flying out, and spending their own money to go see their tinder matches in Vegas. 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/21 10:58 AM |
| 16 | The last podcast episode made me realise that all these "extreme cheapskates" dudes are probably just abusers doing coercive controlSis, next he’s gonna say food is a waste of money and have you consume air. Thank God you left that POS boyfriend. I was always taught in my family that frugality is a good trait in men but this is just insane. To me, not caring about your appearance, cleaning your house, and seeing the doctor is just insane. This is no longer frugality; it’s just lazy. Thank you for opening my eyes to this and putting this into words. A lot of men in my family are cheap and it’s viewed as being frugal, which is… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/21 10:49 AM |
| 15 | This guy literally took notes about me while we were talking.Yes. If I remember it clearly, he wrote it on a notepad, and within the first 5-10 minutes of us talking, he took out his pen and popped it open and started writing away. 🤪 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/21 03:13 PM |
| 28 | This guy literally took notes about me while we were talking.Thank you. The pieces are connecting. For the past few months I was so confused as to why he would write notes about me, and like FDS has explained it clearly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/21 01:44 PM |
| 33 | This guy literally took notes about me while we were talking.Everything you said here is TRUTH. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/21 01:31 PM |
| 62 | This guy literally took notes about me while we were talking.It didn’t work out. Lasted for three days, because he didn’t like that I had a hereditary medical condition, which was also a question he had asked me lol He’s deleted and blocked. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/21 01:29 PM |
| 30 | This guy literally took notes about me while we were talking.This was my first time seeing someone do this. I find it hard to believe that he was a serial dater since he is awkward, but then again, you never know… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/21 01:17 PM |
| 86 | This guy literally took notes about me while we were talking.I felt like I was seeing my therapist. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/21 01:12 PM |
| 41 | This guy literally took notes about me while we were talking.Straight up he told me he was a family man and looking to get married. He even asked me how many kids I wanted. He even asked if I was willing to move in with him since he has a place downtown. This guy is skeevy lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/21 01:11 PM |
| 58 | This guy literally took notes about me while we were talking.Yes! I did meet him using OLD! Omg this makes so much sense now! I had suspicions that he was seeing other women since it is online dating. He said he that his grad school was really competitive and that he sometimes forgets things. But somehow he still has time to date lol 😝 This is a scrote for sure and here I was giving him the benefit of the doubt. Eeeewww 🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/21 01:08 PM |
| 5 | What would the perfect dating app look like?One with a lie detector 😂 lol But jokes aside, We need like a button that says I dated this guy before, so we can avoid PTSD. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/21 12:21 AM |
| 6 | Yet another reason to avoid dating apps.With OLD, there are unspoken rules that I feel like everyone should follow even during COVID times. Here they are: Under any circumstances NEVER ever EVER go to their house. You don’t know them that well. Especially during the lockdown, I know that it might be easier, and your practicing those rules but when you go their place, it’s a disadvantage towards you. Also, it’s also LV. Hiking, walking dates, and park dates are not good either. You need to be in a public place where people can see you.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 03:24 PM |
| 16 | REMINDER: FDS is NOT WGTOW/OVARIT/FEMCEL etc, We're a Dating Strategy....So You Should, Ya'Know, DATE.I’m exploring the field by seeing what’s out there. I’m looking for something serious, but vetting like crazy. I know what my boundaries are and will not let men take advantage of my kindness and body. I no longer feel the need to be upset or lower my standards whenever things don’t work out. I just dust my shoulders, pick myself up, and move along to the next guy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 02:49 PM |
| 3 | A HVM won’t be in contact with his exOmg I didn’t expect to get this reply! Thank you so much for the support! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 02:26 PM |
| 3 | A HVM won’t be in contact with his exMy LV ex mind fucked me so badly. He admitted to still talking to his ex right. He texted her that he was having dinner but left me out of it. He said that it was up to me if I should stop talking to her and showed me their whole chatting history. He put the whole responsibility on me. How was I supposed to respond at the time? If I said no I was jealous and I didn’t want to say yes (ended up doing it anyways because I didn’t want to come off as jealous). 🤡 I should have broken up with him soone… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 01:09 PM |
| 12 | How much debt are you in as a direct result of a LVM ex?I was with him for 6 months and I was a broke student that had delved into my savings. I had to spend 4 months to put back the amount I had saved up for my new car. I spent a little over 3K. I had student tuition to pay off and bills to cover. I thought he was “the one” and a little bit of suffering would not be a big deal. He was complaining about how he didn’t want to pay for meals or things we’d do on date night. Of course me being the “cool girlfriend” offered to take turns paying for his sh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/21 10:46 PM |
| 29 | Update: Saw My Ex on OLD.Good for moving on Queen! Pretty soon, you’ll mentally barf at the sight of him on anything. In addition, you’ll feel the urge to block him and friends on social media as well. Just focus on yourself for now and don’t even look at his profile. Better yet, block his profile. The best form of punishment is indifference and not giving a shit about him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/21 10:36 PM |
| 11 | Stopped Talking to the Boy I met before FDSGood for you, Queen! You recognized the signs and got out quickly. Guys like this are scum. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/21 08:37 AM |
| 1 | THANK YOUCongrats Sis! Happy for you and your new puppy! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/21 03:40 AM |
| 14 | Seeing Ex on OLDI’m glad I made you smile! Yes, a major mama’s boy when shit hits the fan otherwise very dismissive of her. Glad I dodged that bullet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/21 01:14 AM |
| 24 | Guys take exception when the girls fawn over pop/Kpop Idols and consider the same as detrimental to a relationship. Imagine how bad porn and only fans are - they know the stars by name and spend money on them.My LV ex used to send YouTube video of KPop girl groups and ask me why I never dress like that public. I looked at the photo and it was a bunch of girls in school girl uniforms and miniskirts. Can you imagine a grown women in her mid 20’s wearing this shit? The biggest disrespect was when he sent me a video of a dance rehearsal where the girls were just twerking for 8 minutes and told me that he enjoyed their songs. I’m like sure buddy. 😏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/21 01:01 AM |
| 27 | Men thinking you'll randomly fall in love with them after a walk date and some texts with 🍆 emojiWait until he gets mad and one day rises up from the dead with his threatening messages. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/21 12:53 AM |
| 22 | Seeing Ex on OLDSpeaking of the devil, my LV ex scrote deleted his account and his new account appeared on my profile last night. He’s still obsessed and talking shit about his mama though…nothing new. I met him in school and I didn’t know about his Oedipus complex. Every time he deletes his account, I chuckle because I know he struck out and his match probably saw him for who he really was LOL 😝 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/21 12:43 AM |
| 8 | What every woman wants to hearThis statement makes me want to mentally gag. I used to eat this shit up when I was little, but after FDS, I want to vomit because I see it for what it really is! 🤢 🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 08:32 AM |
| 11 | Be wary of guys who brag about being richSame could be applied to his profession. If he’s bragging about how he’s doctor or lawyer chances are he’s probably using that to sleep with you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 08:29 AM |
| 4 | Left a six month relationship with a lvmThank you! It’s never too late for you to start following your aspirations as well. We’re all here to support you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 08:53 PM |
| 6 | When LVM think being creepy as hell is romanticThis made me laugh so HARD, thank goodness you dumped him! Him trying to win you back is hysterical! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 07:36 PM |
| 3 | Left a six month relationship with a lvmI’m starting to realize that being in love can be addicting since loneliness can be scary, but experiencing pain and having unreciprocated feelings is even worse. I am in a state where I have so much to look forward to and be thankful for earning! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 07:15 PM |
| 2 | Left a six month relationship with a lvmThank you, and yes I DEFINITELY will! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 06:25 PM |
| 21 | This is absolutely domestic abuse and he should be in fucking jail. I'm outragedThis made me realize what I went through in my last first relationship as well. I’m still recovering from it. I didn’t realize that this is abuse. Thank you for teaching me. I got lucky and didn’t get intimate with him. Stayed with him for half a year. He wanted me to wear more revealing clothes and wear my makeup differently. I always felt like I wasn’t good enough for him. He said that I was fine the way I was, but then “offered” to buy me clothes and new makeup. He sent me a YouTube video so … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 10:21 PM |
| 3 | Don't use OLD if you are not comfortable with itThe last sentence made me laugh because it’s true! I’ve been on there for about two years now and I think the app has give up on me due to my high standards. Due to my own health reasons I can’t be around people who smoke, do drugs, and smoke weed since it worsens my condition, so it’s an automatic no for me. I don’t mind if they drink in front of me, but I’ve noticed that it’s hard for them and it could ruin the mood since my medication can’t be taken with alcohol. Just that alone eliminates at… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 03:06 PM |
| 4 | Just a few dating strategies:Thank you for this. It helped me a lot. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 02:15 PM |
| 11 | Popular Canadian brand targeting teens suggesting a prostitution site in their advertising email headline. Has pandering to the patriarchy gone too far?Eewww!!! I just got the email a few days ago. I literally had to unsubscribe lol I no longer shop here. They overcharge for cheap quality. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/21 07:57 PM |
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