I was having conversation with my mother about a friend who has found someone way too good for him. He (23) finds it weird that they’ve been hanging out for a few months, but she doesn’t like doing anything romantic. Apparently she’s a bit “difficult” (his words not mine) since she’s (21) never dated anyone. My mother instantly recognized her as a keeper. She instantly asked me (27) why can’t I find someone like that on OLD. The answer is really simple being that there are more girls looking for serious and real relationships on OLD than guys. I’ve tried telling her that I’d rather not be on OLD for a while, and meet guys without using OLD. She keeps pressuring me to find a guy like that girl. She’s adamant that if my guy friend can find a girl like that, then it’s just as easy for me to find a man like that.

I just wanted to point out and say that I feel really hurt by what she’s saying. It’s as if she thinks I have poor taste in men, and that it’s my fault that I have shitty luck with OLD.

I tried explaining to her about the ratio of good men and women on there, and she wouldn’t listen. Instead, she suggested that I should “have fun” and talk to at least 4-5 guys. She made this point about how I always looked stressed out these days from work and school. Trust me, OLD will only give me more stress.