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RANTeuropoor24/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 12:48 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYeuropoor24/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 04:19 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYeuropoor24/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 07:25 PM
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DISCUSSIONeuropoor24/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 09:53 PM
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QUEEN SH*Teuropoor24/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 07:56 PM
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RED FLAG 🚨europoor24/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 03:12 PM
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QUEEN SH*Teuropoor24/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 05:59 PM
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STRATEGYeuropoor24/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 07:12 AM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYeuropoor24/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 07:15 PM
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#HeAin'tTheOne2021europoor24/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 03:16 PM
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DISCUSSIONeuropoor24/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 09:57 AM
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MINDSET SHIFTeuropoor24/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 09:34 PM
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FDS TRANSLATES MENeuropoor24/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/22 08:48 PM
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How-To High Valueeuropoor24/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 06:15 PM
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Story time ☕europoor24/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 06:05 PM
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Story time ☕europoor24/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 06:21 PM
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PICKMEISHA HALL OF SHAMEeuropoor24/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 10:58 AM
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REMINDER 👑europoor24/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 07:10 AM
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DISCUSSIONeuropoor24/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 04:28 PM
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PICKME CULTUREeuropoor24/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 09:04 PM
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FDS HUMOReuropoor24/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 08:38 PM
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FINE AF FRIDAYSeuropoor24/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 02:22 PM
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TRIGGER WARNINGeuropoor24/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 10:48 AM
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europoor24/r/RedPillWomen23/05/21 10:14 AM
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SCROTES MADeuropoor24/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 03:56 PM
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DISCUSSIONeuropoor24/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 10:55 PM
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Late 20’s and apparently don’t look my age and I don’t give a fuck for the most part. Also want to focus on me and feel no need to date. Also living situation just keeps getting better and better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 05:28 AM
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Oh wow good on you for having really strong boundaries ! He really tried it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 06:46 AM
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I am thank you. I don’t remember if those were his exact words but that was the gist of it. The condescending tone and facial expression just .. something was evil about it. I hope this helps people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 08:23 PM
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Had one dude from OLD say we needed to walk to his place because he forgot his jacket. He then conveniently thought I should come in so I’m not waiting outside in the dark alone because that would be unsafe. I strongly refused even after he tried to push a little and he condescendingly mocked/smiled at me. « I’m not going to fuck you/r*pe you ». This was in my early days of dating and I’m just glad I was warned to not go into strangers home right before it. This was our first date. And last one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 07:46 PM
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I’m so sorry had a former friend who this happened to and she bled the next day. The POS had the audacity to say he wasn’t a rapist when all her friends were telling her he was. That Manlet is still out there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 01:50 PM
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Had someone try that shit and my most recent ex who actually respected me in that way actually could tell the difference 🤔. They know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 01:43 PM
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This is so wholesome, will do the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 06:57 PM
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Op, your coworker is saying this to cope with the fact that she has been ghosted a few times. The ones who say this kind of stuff often don’t believe it deep down. She’s engaged to a guy she met two months ago and they want kids and they’re in their early 30’s? Your co-worker is settling because of that biological clock, and this is probably a case of the guy being ready to settle down with anyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 07:21 PM
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Never had an issue with acne, but when this asshole was trying to tear me down for anything related to my appearance and non related things I was asked « you’ve never had acne have you? ». Scrotes will look for anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 01:12 PM
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Here’s a warning sign; if he travels for work and starts traveling to the same place regularly, or several times in a short time frame.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 04:07 AM
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Why shouldn’t you?? It’s a good thing to be bilingual
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 10:26 PM
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Working in the U.K? Congratulations ! Have a great time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 09:38 AM
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Not anymore 😉. But if Americans want to work abroad they should go to the U.K. There’s a huge amount of French expats abroad due to the situation being bad there. They also dream about working in the states or Canada, or other anglophone countries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 09:26 AM
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Oh ok 😅. I was just wondering because it’s so true. I experienced the French job market for example, and there’s less opportunities, you need a degree for low level jobs you can easily get elsewhere, lots of paperwork, a focus on degrees and not on transferable skills, etc.. 10/10 do not recommend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 09:12 AM
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Did you downvote my post? I understand the complexities of the American job market, I’m not saying it’s easy but it has been the easiest one when compared to some other countries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 09:06 AM
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Society used to treat other humans beings as commodities (from the Romans to the white slave owners in the states and parts of Europe). Why is the commodification of women still ok?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 08:35 AM
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Imo as someone who’s experienced different job markets, the US one is one of the easiest ones. You can go into trades, you can get an entry level job without much qualifications and work your way up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 08:21 AM
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No you’re in the right. I was the child in a situation like this. There are boundaries you don’t cross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 07:47 PM
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😎😎😎
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 06:39 PM
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Didn’t finish reading this. If he invites you over on the first date ?! He’s looking for sex. If he won’t even buy you a tea when we know people spend more then that on literally anything. He’s looking for a free prostitute.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 03:13 PM
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This post should be saved somewhere. Imo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 03:04 PM
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That poor sweet old father of hers. Damn. My eyes were bulging out at this, OP is strong shittt no wonder her health is failing rn. The mom and the ex are nasty. That mom hates her, no mother who loves their child would do this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 05:49 PM
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ew...ew.. always been uncomfortable at the idea of threesomes, thank god. oh and the friend is a snake and will fuck him again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 11:49 PM
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I always thought Xander was bitter Buffy didn’t like him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 09:10 AM
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Less then a year and he’s slacking on the effort ??? In those two weeks he could have bought you a card and some decent chocolates. At the very least. Oh hunny..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 08:42 AM
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« Queen bitch » thanks for the actual laugh 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 10:30 PM
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snake.... i hope he gets roasted in the comments.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 06:10 AM
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Music videos/films/auditions should be added to this list. They will post ads on official sites and say things like there's a +18 scene so we need you to go topless in during the audition(a room full of men often) to judge if you'd be "right for the role". Or that you'll have to touch (basically a hj without saying it) your costars dong. Or creeps will literally trick you into acting out fantasies through text with some other woman as the "audition", (while they jack off). - It's so so subtle bu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 06:24 AM
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honestly same for the most part. Someone cheated on me and my sibling said I should sleep with his best friend as a form of revenge. I'm so glad I had found FDS and still knew better by the time that happened. It's not a power move at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 05:00 PM
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Unless it’s requested = gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 12:25 PM
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Most people around me just didn’t teach me to have standards. Sigh I cringe at some of what I did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 06:44 AM
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Wish I had you as a friend. I swear if I went on a coffee date and eventually made sure not to bring a wallet or something - to make sure said cheapskate would pay, they would get so mad at me and accuse me of lying and some would accuse me of having cash on me. They would never go as far as frisking me, but I swear I’d get annoyed and half-seriously say « do you want to frisk me » and some would consider it I swear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 05:48 AM
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I’m getting lots of notifications from triggered scrotes. Last one just called most of us hookers 🤣.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 10:52 PM
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I don’t understand why bisexual is underlined
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 06:00 PM
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was in a music video filmed in a strip club where a real stripper was dancing in front of my male "actors". They couldn't resist making misogynistic jokes and at 17 I got really uncomfortable. These dudes were legit getting turned on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 07:58 AM
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I mean we all take our phones to the bathroom, happy birthday takes two seconds
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 08:07 AM
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no wait i don't think op is the mother of the original 2 boys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 07:54 PM
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Yeah, unfortunately something happens during that time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 06:46 PM
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Oh I see, if he has a chance he’ll cheat
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 01:59 PM
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Why is medical sales a red flag? And yes that’s a bit nutty to me. There’s videos on YouTube from women who even make lunches for the friends/colleagues. What?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 01:52 PM
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Oh that sweet summer child. The mid life crisis « I didn’t sow my oats » hits way too often.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 01:34 PM
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Many women have been in that situation before, this girl is so sheltered I swear. I hope for her sake he doesn't hang her out to dry in 20 years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 01:06 PM
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Exactly my face when a male acquaintance told me years ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 08:22 AM
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wow I wish i was you at 22
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 08:01 AM
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Of course, I’ve just been told that if their junk has a permanent stench. It’s due to them not washing after masterbating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 07:41 AM
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week-end in paris probably
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 04:14 AM
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wash your junk as well... if his junk smells there's a very gross reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 04:12 AM
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Yes it’s like the start of abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 06:08 PM
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Up to her but having that guy for a father is going to be hell. Also I got literal chills reading that. I don’t know why exactly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 05:44 PM
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Immigrants stay in many European countries for at least 6 months visa or not. She had options.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 05:16 PM
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uh.. ted bundy reincarnated i guess. man that poor woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 01:27 PM
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It comes off as assault
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 12:25 PM
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I wonder if some of these women were conditioned to hold their feelings in from childhood.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 12:17 PM
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Never again holy crap learned that the hard way
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 12:12 PM
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Pervert logic. Using sex positive culture to their advantage
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 05:08 PM
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This is pretty common given the amount of guys who sign up for events like « the real nature of women ».
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 11:59 AM
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Yeah if any of his « friends » are in a vulnerable position near him I’m scared for them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 11:54 AM
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Uh.. being attracted to a friend can happen but you’d think with the amount of porn out there they’d have enough self control to not masturbate to someone off limits who would run if they knew.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 11:52 AM
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😩 depressing. Hard to wrap my mind around it but just have to get used to it I guess
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 10:25 PM
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Yeah that’s not what I meant at all, just since I’ve never met them I was wondering if it’s because I don’t frequent a specific place if you see where I’m going with this ? As for this thread well I’ve been SA’ed before and I’m not American, so sometimes there’s a cultural barrier here I think, also due to abuse I’m trying to not repeat past mistakes- avoiding some places and staying safe. That’s all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 10:14 PM
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OOF yeah now that I believe. Things that seem normal to me aren’t to others.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 08:06 PM
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With a SO or with a kid? You know I also had a very good role model and loving parent as well. But parenthood is definitely not for me right now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 07:46 PM
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Oh wow I’m so so sorry you went through that, I myself had a narc dad growing up, I’m so happy you’re actively putting in the effort to make your children feel loved and cared for .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 07:42 PM
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Thank you.. they also would try to figure out my financial situation (currently don’t need to work while in school), and look up my last name.. I don’t know if I’m being overly paranoid but I found that odd
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 07:33 PM
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Yeah I was typing really fast and tone never translates well through text.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 06:18 PM
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True!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 05:48 PM
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How is that victim blaming? That wasn’t my intention anyways. But just like you’re more likely to meet fuck boys on tinder, and some professions have more violent men, I think it’s normal to ask for your own personal safety ?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 05:48 PM
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my two cents? sex is the ultimate power move/weapon you leverage to your advantage. And a virgin? oh boy the number of nasty men who want that just for bragging rights is nasty. I've learned that the first time you have sex with anyone is best when you find the sweet spot where he's crazy about you(words are meaningless if his actions don't match) then that's where it gets tricky. After that first time, you can't be that doormat "nice girl" where he's comfortable he has you. As in maintaining yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 05:04 PM
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when do you stop investing? when your husband says the words day trading. SMH. that's so volatile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 04:56 PM
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Eventually someone will be ok with it. And frankly, if you don’t find someone you’ll have saved yourself so much trauma. With FDS you have a gift, the gift of the knowledge of all our bad experiences. When it comes to sex even the nicest guy will lose interest once he gets it. It’s night and day behavior which to women looks sociopathic at times
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 04:43 PM
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Where did you meet them? I’ve never had that happen before ?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 04:38 PM
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I’m starting to wish I waited for marriage and didn’t feel pressured, to you. « Women think clearly before sex, and men think clearly after » remember that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 04:36 PM
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Oh I’ve never thought about it that way! That’s insightful thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 04:34 PM
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It shows on my face sometimes but also my ex probably said something since I had to tell him I don’t have a relationship with my dad. Not sure how to hide that you know? Life was hell up until 22.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 04:33 PM
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Yeah I think I translated this accurately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 11:29 AM
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Just because I had a shitty parent doesn’t mean I will be one. Yeah of course it’s up to everyone if they can deal with people like this or not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 09:52 AM
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Humiliation kink?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 05:22 AM
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For traditional euros real food is simply a way of life. I'm sure you're fine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 04:53 AM
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I don't know the guy, but damn that response seals it. No remorse, no accountability, no "I fucked up", just accept whatever I do attitude? yeah YOU DON'T WANT someone like this in your life. Oh boy trust me. I've got a feeling this was a lack of effort gift not a genuine mistake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 04:21 AM
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Most just don’t care
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 10:20 AM
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Do not have kids with a narc they never change at all. I’m the kid of a narc and I’m only just now getting back my mental health
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 10:11 AM
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This story hits way to close to home, and I love your comments. ☺️🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 05:54 AM
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but they peak at 40 and have no wall right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 07:29 PM
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I think that’s fair. I stumbled into my current relationship by pure chance but I have similar thoughts. Good to focus on other things
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 06:23 PM
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Sounds like a fun time 😂 the irony is that the women always has the option to go on tinder and will get more matches.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 06:21 PM
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Hey do not force yourself if you’re not ready!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 06:19 PM
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I’ve had men lie about their height to my face right after I told them they couldn’t be said height since they weren’t taller then I was. I was tooo nice about it back then but damn the looks on their faces when they kept lying 🤥 I swear!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 02:18 PM
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This is an apple, men: no it's an orange. The apple is still an apple.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 01:05 PM
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Your a savage… I like it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 09:03 AM
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Found your reply interesting. I replied to a comment the wrong way and got a few aggressive notifications (no constructive criticism). I understand what OP means though, since some people it seems give too many chances without learning from their mistakes. I’ve also learned something interesting /been told = men do not police each other half as much as women do in regards to how they treat the other sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 08:57 AM
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Exactly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 08:31 AM
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Oh boy, a) who owns a business and buys property with someone you're not married to? b) after a while being a single mom is less of a waste of time then trying to get some guy to commit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 06:29 AM
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Sure, but children don’t know that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 03:07 AM
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Omg yes « Nice » just got me taken advantage of
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 09:17 PM
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I’m so glad at 18 my mum reaffirmed to me that stripping and sex work wasn’t empowering and would ruin my life. With all the normalization of it I was having doubts at the time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 09:14 PM
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The environment I grew up in traumatized me and I sought out any and all male affection on a deep level in response. Unfortunately predatory lvms smelled the vulnerability on me the way blood attracts sharks. The pick me label seems to fit since for my age at the time I didn’t seek that much validation from others besides men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 08:38 PM
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I bet men would riot against this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 07:21 PM
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I know right?! Every part is so much better due to not being on edge around someone. I’m happy for you! Your ex sounds nasty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 09:43 PM
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My abuser relished the idea that « I might be afraid to date men after this » I’m now dating a hotter guy, while he’s stuck with his micro dick and single. They want to ruin your life but you can’t let them. They get off on it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 09:34 PM
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Scrote just needs a coconut or a warm glove to finish into, if he can’t finish inside his girlfriend (or out) his dick is malfunctioning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 09:27 PM
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Omg I’m so sorry 😞 My partner respects my boundaries and doesn’t try to do anything we haven’t agreed to or hurt me for his own pleasure. How low is the fucking bar.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 09:19 PM
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Oh boy me too. And attempted coercive rape as well. They know the difference between your front and back entrance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 09:04 PM
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ah.. coercive rape. The most common form of rape schools don't teach us about and the patriarchy doesn't want recognized.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 08:40 PM
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Agreed. I think some effort is worth it, but after a friends lvm recently dumped her like a coward then the next day she tried to get back with him after she swore she wouldn’t then went for a walk and ice cream date with an abusive ex went that didn’t work.. I’m over putting in too much effort. People also have to want to change
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 02:04 PM
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omg thats worse then i thought.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 10:36 AM
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Ugh.. unfortunately accumulated some trauma with this mentality but at least in my early 20’s I realized something was rotten in Denmark. And stopped fairly early on. People openly encourage this crap and it’s stupid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 09:03 AM
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💯💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 10:33 PM
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All good! It’s nice to get a well written definition like this though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 10:32 PM
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Oh my above post was sarcastic, I’ve been negged before in the hopes of getting nudes. They really think we’re that dumb.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 10:06 PM
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But I was told a neg is a compliment 🧐🤔🤔??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 09:56 PM
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Men are so privileged they go on rants like these and complain about how women get 100s of matches when maybe 2-3 of those dudes won’t want to trick you into bed or worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 08:49 PM
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She got more pleasure from the toy and scrote didn't want to put in more effort then the toy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 07:22 PM
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Many male to male friendships are based on what? how many women they bang and work perhaps? they choose not to support each other emotionally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 01:33 PM
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Yep, so vile it’s making me depressed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 10:06 AM
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Figured.. 😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 09:58 AM
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my abuser was hurting me, making me bleed due to ZERO attempt at making it ok for me and all this to him = i must still have bits of hymen and me bleeding was me getting aroused.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 08:47 AM
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been there. yuck yuck yuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 08:45 AM
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I think there’s a way to have that conversation and pressuring you to have a procedure that is painful from what I hear is not it. The way he phrased it rubbed me the wrong way
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 07:43 AM
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Yeah I think M isn’t completely innocent and some of the things she’s said lead me to think she might have some manipulative tendencies but the criticism is disproportionate compared to H and what we can see.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 07:40 AM
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Well it could become like the situation in China, where men bring in women from other countries or literally steal women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 11:00 PM
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He’s shown several times he’s not redeemable! If she’s afraid she’ll have less options as she ages she needs to dump him asap. Like just in general dump him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 09:10 PM
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lowering your standards and putting said money towards better things doesn't make him respect you more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 09:05 PM
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I assume your friend has never been SA’ed. Pick mes like this are way too far gone. What they think an abuser will spare them if they try hard enough to be a cool chick? Had a drink so I’m a bit pissy but that’s maddening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 08:45 PM
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Is your friend indian? What the hell??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 08:10 PM
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When I started to adopt this mindset, being more selfish my time and body are mine etc.. I was shamed by him, the stepmonster, and all his friends. *him - my ZVM father and when I used to still live there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 07:33 PM
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Yeah I think H and M aren’t innocent but a pedo is way worse then anything else they seem to have done. Or supposed to have done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 07:28 PM
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Yes see you have to go with the assumption that all men talk, which is why vetting is very important and what I did helped when vengeful guys wanted to make my life hell. I’ve barely been with anyone btw, but they’ll treat every woman the same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 05:37 PM
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Late 20s avoid OLD!!!! Seriously also I’d perhaps consider joining clubs and maybe get to kno guys like that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 05:33 PM
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You’re right to!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 01:57 PM
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Racism and misogyny ? Yes, I’m just annoyed that most of the blame is on her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 01:33 PM
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I’m laughing at all the notifications from raging scrotes. I’ve come to the realization that I prefer men from my own nationality myself, but wherever you go the double standard is there and a girl has to protect her bag and and be able to focus on number one. I’ve dealt with the same thing you have and being far away helps, though my current boyfriend might have beaten the crap out of him. But whatever. I’m just glad I caught on relatively quickly to FDS principles.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 01:30 PM
70

True I’ve had people admit as much. I haven’t had many experiences due to simply not being interested in the first place but I’m so so glad I trusted my gut and didn’t sh*t where I ate. As you put it. Won’t go into details but the pick me gaslighting and lack of warning from them is real!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 09:45 AM
1

I’m sure it’s probably an incel though, the probability of it is likely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 08:56 AM
1

Not sure honestly, I know a woman who sounds just like this. However there's a higher chance it's a dude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 08:49 AM
58

Exactly ! wether casual or serious I believe my life would have been more chaotic if I hadn’t been doing this from the start
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 08:21 AM
14

Yes but not for the right reasons, they’re bored, desperate and looking for easy sex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 07:19 AM
36

Yup, the one good thing I’ve done in my pick me days (the deep ones) is date foreigners since I had seen way too often on tv that men will make your life hell after sex and ruin your day to day/reputation etc.. well these guys did tell their bros (of course) even the ones I only fooled around with lied to their bros so they’d have more material to degrade me in front of them(I wasn’t there but I’ve been told they’d make fun of me as a group). Since none of these guys were involved in my day to d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 06:56 AM
9

Didn’t want wills with a brown stepdad.. probably
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 06:40 AM
9

Yeah I used to like them a lot but can’t forget how this institution focused on H and M leaving but not pedo Andrew.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 06:39 AM
48

Oh my lord.. of all the things you can come up with I’d be afraid for my life if someone wanted to take me there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 06:37 AM
5

That’s how I’d talk about anybody I didn’t like but thought they’d be an interesting topic to bring up for one reason or another. 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 01:21 AM
33

🤣🤣 agreed he’s not a helpless butterfly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 01:07 AM
2

Agreed but how does that relate to racist Americans and the media that solely focuses on Megan?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 01:05 AM
7

Yes until things got dicey for them they were so passive regarding the pedo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 12:57 AM
51

crazy to me since i was in britain when the media seemed to love them (around their wedding) then shit hit the fan.. they're not making H responsible for much of anything which is so crazy to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 07:59 PM
7

When I found out that subreddits dedicated to the assault I went through had 100000 plus members, being a dog lady potentially forever didn’t seem so bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 04:29 PM
27

Made friends with a somewhat religious girl at school, she'd leave me on read for like over a week at times because she's just "bad at texting" but when she was bored and had noone else she'd be up my butt getting close to me. Tried to warn her about a guy from her religion (muslim) who was going to use her to fool around then ditch her which he did, she invited me out to a special event what seems like..? a year ago? then when I asked when and where she never got back to me. But on instagram ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 04:55 AM
13

Two simple things people don’t tell you. 1. Don’t sleep with him till he commits and it’s been a few months. 2. Have options.. go out with a few different people, it’s a numbers game.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 08:30 AM
37

I love your dad! Can he adopt me?? would love to get more wisdom from him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 12:52 PM
12

Well after running into men who had no qualms about deceiving me and abusing me it put me off for good (also doing my research about how common that is). Also the way they treat you after the fact even during and look at you with such disdain, disgusted me. I was never that into it before but that really cemented my disdain for it (for myself anyways). I'm in a LTR relationship now with someone who doesn't treat me like that at all - he cares about me as an actual person and I actually enjoy bei…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 08:36 AM
19

sometimes hits the gym? so man's flabby, skinny fat on top of it all?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 07:21 PM
32

projection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 10:42 PM
59

same late 20's and i don't desire 40 year olds
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 10:23 PM
65

Girl run no clue what he’s up to but in the talking stage guys who are interested don’t do that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 10:18 AM
15

This is so true, lived it. This whole post is relatable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 10:16 AM
79

yes liberal feminism is such a farce imo. Haven't met one woman in real life who truly enjoys hookup culture.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 09:16 PM
5

Depending on how bad they lie those guys don’t have as much success as I think they will have. In my early 20’s I tell you there were a few dudes pretending to be 22 when they looked 42-50. Even in my naive deep pick me days I didn’t swipe left on a Benjamin button look a like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 05:17 PM
35

Yes I learned that it’s best to date people not a part of your day to day. Some assholes would have gleefully ruined my reputation or tried to fuck with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 06:38 AM
10

It’s the lying for me. Dudes will lie about being 6’0 even when they’re as tall as you and not 6´0
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 06:31 AM
97

Yes in the words of my abuser « you’ll just get an abortion »
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 06:16 PM
8

I think this scrote is making doctor money and now wants the doctor life. I'm betting he's leasing a fancy car, maybe a mortgage on a fancy house +++ and that's part of the reason he "can't afford it".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 11:26 AM
11

"I can see where she's coming from" oh yes he does. He doesn't want to do it is all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 11:24 AM
12

admits all she did for him and still doesn't want to return the favour.. damn. this reminds me of betty broderick so much, glad I couldn't be bothered to do all of that for a dude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 11:20 AM
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Girl you see right through them. congrats!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 04:45 AM
2

I’m so glad you got through that. I can’t imagine dealing with that at my work place of all places.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 06:02 PM
3

Omg .. what did I just read. I’m so so sorry. Denying your own child health care, 15k a year? How does that work for a family?! I’m impressed you made it out of there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 05:57 PM
11

You quite literally described my whole life with this parent. Damn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 03:36 PM
5

Oh for sure, it feels good but at the same time I’m exhausted since that’s something I had to do over and over for decades. But I did get satisfaction that he was destabilized(?) that these tactics didn’t work anymore. I’m just sharing to emphasize how damaging narcs are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 03:12 PM
56

translation: can we make menial tasks seem romantic so women accept them and I get free sex?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 02:33 PM
7

Thank you also on behalf of your unborn child
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 01:53 PM
3

Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 12:06 PM
10

I’m happy that you’re putting yourself first. Most people don’t get it though. I went through the same thing some people will never change.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 11:14 AM
23

Eventually you just have to save yourself. He would literally smack us, put us down, etc. Then seriously can’t figure out why one doesn’t want him around. In a fit of rage he emptied out my old room and basically left huge garbage bags full of junk I’d left there at my mums old address on the porch. I have so many anecdotes, but the biggest mindfuck is them reigning it in in front of company so that you look like the insane one. When kids are upset or act out I’m always suspicious of the parents…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 11:04 AM
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I can relate to this so much. And the enablers are just as bad imo. Harassing you for cutting them out when if someone who’s not the scapegoat does they don’t get the same treatment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 10:56 AM
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Mine would try to punish me by saying I wouldn’t have dinner that night and I’d retort by saying how happy I was to avoid calories. This worked a few times and took his power away - he really didn’t like when I didn’t react badly to his domination tactics. I can relate to the reputation bit as well. I’m sorry that your mother was so useless, a mother daughter bond should be precious. * one example of many
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 10:53 AM
10

I will. He actually let me know years ago he thought I’d take care of him in his old age 🤣. I hope you can get out too. I feel so much better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 10:17 AM
11

I have completely cut him off and the enabler. I’m tired of him making me look nuts when I call him out in front of his friends. I will run into him in a couple of years and I’m scared.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 10:07 AM
33

Hard to describe but kind’ of like this; has flame 🔥 near you, you get burnt, you say « why did you burn me, hurt me you should have been more careful » narc says « whatever you shouldn’t have been in the way, you’ll be more careful next time ». - a metaphor
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 08:58 AM
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daughter of a serial cheater here - can confirm this is true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 06:15 AM
15

Dad left mom for woman 22 years his junior. He’s a fuck boy who aged badly, gaslights, refuses to take responsibility for any issue you may have with him. The woman is a slave who does most of the chores and if it’s not her it’s her family. They have a teacher-student thing going as well. I am afraid of aging obsessed with my looks, fear of commitment, hardly able to communicate my feelings if I get emotional at all. I feel really comfortable being a single mum like mine was since she’s the heal…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 03:14 PM
44

Racial groups were seen as commodities and goods to be bought and used, why was that not ok but the commodification of the female body is?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 10:53 PM
118

yeah this makes no sense. They can't take it but they can dish it out I guess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 10:42 PM
1

ah sorry i'm esl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 08:06 PM
8

It all amounts to the same thing the communication isn’t flowing. And yes but it seems like she needs more confirmation, so OP should do this if she agrees she needs more evidence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 10:52 AM
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The other users have summed it up pretty well, but I’ll add this: if you don’t want to tell him you snooped through his phone bring up the lack of sex casually one night, ask if it bothers him, etc.. if he doesn’t take that opportunity to be honest with bout the therapist etc. Then that’s a bad sign that you two aren’t communicating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 07:58 AM
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THANK YOU!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 06:02 AM
7

I don’t think anyone is defending deception of any kind just commenting on the logic. Ironically I’ve been getting notifications from scrotes comments defending this and not calling it what it is when there’s a legal definition for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 04:33 PM
14

I’m so sorry 😞 there’s even a Ted talk on it but it is starting to get talked about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 04:45 AM
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THANK YOU! I was beginning to wonder why people weren’t focusing on that first. Her idea is reckless but the replies are just 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 04:42 AM
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I sure hope so. Did expose the mentality of the men on OLD though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 10:43 PM
6

No clue. I hope so
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 10:25 PM
7

I think this is especially prevalent in American culture perhaps, or at least the anglosphere. Other countries have different problems but don’t seem to be as cheap as to offer « walk dates »
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 09:36 PM
39

Don’t forget lying/manipulation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 09:32 PM
36

Exactly horrible idea but your plan makes more sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 09:29 PM
56

yup I was a victim of it. It sucks, and its disgusting how most men think it's fine and whatever it's her fault. "
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 08:35 PM
187

Yeah that’s a whole other mess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 07:56 PM
30

meh.. it's not really on my mind right now. I'm past the phase of idolizing dating and men and that happily ever after bit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 07:48 PM
203

Average looking male had me 💀☠️ he thinks he’s missing out on harems of women wanting to throw themselves at him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 11:47 AM
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6’8 not even watching this video and I know that’s a huge lie. I’ve met men who are 6’4 and they’re giants, more like 5’6 at most.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 04:19 AM
1

That’s true. I knew this was bad but I wasn’t sure what kind of bad/logic since I’ve never run into this myself you know ?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 04:15 AM
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Thanks but he’s more of a creep in the way he thinks and still keeping his bestie pedo around. Wish more was out there for girls.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 07:22 PM
17

I was taught next to nothing about anything about this in school and my fathers useless and a creep and my mum only taught me not to drink much around men and how to guard my drink but not much else which might have saved me some trauma tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 07:19 PM
13

Agreed literally no one teaches this enough
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 07:15 PM
13

Yep. But they have a problem with 17 year olds (not always one 34 year old wanted to hide us going out potentially till 18), then the second their 18 they’re fair game.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 07:07 PM
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The logic is as long as it’s legal »
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 06:51 PM
15

🤢🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 06:49 PM
19

Mine was as well. She was a hot mess and years older then me and would kind of mock me when I’d try and help her be responsible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 04:35 PM
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Were we friends with the same person? This one got drunk and slept with her sisters boyfriend and was gleefully about it at first till I shamed her. Even in my deep pick me days I thought that was so gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 04:05 PM
24

This is why when a friend who dates a guy who she admits is ugly you never agree to have her set you up 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 11:08 AM
8

Exactly ! I’m so mad about female socialization in general.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 08:04 AM
5

I agree, I guess I just wish I hadn’t wasted so much time growing up on this crap but rather on self fulfillment. Alas growing up with a sociopathic narc ZVM also didn’t help me and probably made it worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 08:03 AM
76

yes and the abuse-porn pages are still up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 12:16 PM
13

Not just older men. But men in the same age range can spot a naive inexperienced woman can happen at 18-22, and take advantage of her, abuse, coerce, you name it. they can see it on you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 12:13 PM
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Yeah I wasted a lot of time fantasizing about romance and soulmates.. I could have been more productive or done something better.. but no. and that's what my friends mostly talked about as well. sigh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 12:00 PM
5

Will try.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 03:53 AM
11

Yeah something is off. Does he romance her? Or is she a sex slot machine ?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 03:50 AM
7

What the.. yes i will. A felony?!? Wow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 03:49 AM
4

Ugh 🙁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 03:47 AM
32

Will do. Thank you. Never ran into a single dad before so didn’t know the logic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/22 09:57 PM
23

Oh 😥 unfortunately that sounds about right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/22 09:03 PM
44

That makes sense thank you 😟 she doesn’t even want kids 🤦🏻‍♀️ or to clean up after a guy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/22 09:02 PM
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I know, considering our own zvm dad I’m surprised she’d put up with that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/22 08:59 PM
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My question is regarding him. What’s a scrote logic for lying about something like this, and should I be worried about her. As in is he just a lying scrote or is this the first sign of abuse or something
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/22 08:56 PM
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Well I was really surprised because she’s usually not.. but that wasn’t my question. Edit : feel free to downvote but I stand by this, this is out of character imo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/22 08:51 PM
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Am I the only one that didn’t miss the bit about him being fine with women letting him « do what he needs to » 🧐?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/22 08:43 PM
19

funny.. their first goal is always to get sex but then the ones that act like that I'll never understand. What makes you think that strategy will work?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 06:18 PM
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or "you're twisting my words" is a fun one. No Chad, you're just ignorant and you have the I.Q of a potato.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 06:12 PM
51

I walk to the grocery store, if a friend comes with me did I just go on a date? 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 06:51 PM
6

Is she old yes? Is she a well maintained old lady? Also yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 09:05 AM
10

No no no in the article there’s a quote from the father who said they fought for her hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 11:32 PM
20

Oh bless that father. Sad story but it’s touching hearing fathers who really fight for their daughters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 11:29 PM
19

I was just considering that as a side gig and that downside.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 08:38 PM
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I have one straight male friend and so far so good(he seems like a unicorn). But seriously that's it, don't even get me started on ugly guys who try to fuckzone you. I wouldn't have casual sex with an attractive guy I was friends with, but you an ugly guy want to reduce me to that as well? get bent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 07:40 PM
2

I’m in my 20’s right now working on my degree. Glad to know it gets better
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 03:40 PM
14

Yes please leave us alone? Promise ?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 02:44 AM
20

That’s my situation and chaos is the word I’d use.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 08:39 PM
29

Agree I grew up in a situation with a bad step dynamic and it doesn’t work neither me or my sibling were happy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 08:37 PM
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I have yet to see a blended family that fully works or where none of the kids are a bit traumatized. Could be wrong though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 07:36 PM
59

Or men who lead women on for sex on purpose then say women usually become bitter by 30. And then want to date 18 year olds forever to start that cycle all over again🤔🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 10:38 AM
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Yes I’m especially guilty of this with friendships then years later I sometimes get a message « we lost touch, don’t know how, how are you?? »
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 08:14 PM
47

Thank you, I’m not very sure what I mean by motivation but I just feel a bit rootless? Like my friends can always have a safe space to go back to whereas I don’t. Just feeling a bit unmotivated to do anything but achieve the minimum I need to survive. Hard to describe really
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 07:00 PM
41

He makes more then her and he’s mad he actually is paying for someone for once ? Instead of 50/50 every time?? Cheap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 06:21 PM
7

Yup used to happen all the time when I worked in customer service. They never saw my face but figured I had a sexy voice so why not? Some would also leave bad reviews when I didn’t give my number or last name when I literally wasn’t allowed to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 05:28 PM
6

Omg same we both got the worst outcome 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 10:56 AM
56

Total narcissistic NVM, reading some of these comments I’d rather have had at least a LVM dad. Serial cheater over decades. Financial abuse. Left us for a woman decades younger. Let us struggle financially when he had the opposite upbringing. If it were up to him he would leave us with no inheritance at all. Negative value beer bellied loser. I could go on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 10:49 PM
4

Christmas morning and eve with all my extended family and opening my presents. Precious to me since soon after that family dynamic imploded
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 04:09 PM
19

I’ve always thought so based on socialization alone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 02:05 PM
6

Hey you did the right thing even if she didn't reply. You should be proud of that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 12:05 PM
33

Yeah frankly I only tried them years ago when I was new to dating and had no self esteem at all. The messages on there were disgusting and I’ve got better things to do now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 02:28 PM
4

He doesn’t even send her money.. this isn’t low effort it’s no effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 09:51 AM
17

I’ve also found the story interesting psychologically speaking because Charles, a Frenchman of various ethnic descent seems to have a chip on his shoulder about being considered different in our francophone society.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 11:35 PM
39

Actually yes, many even father children very late in life because they’re scared of getting old.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 11:27 PM
75

Know what’s funny? The men in these situations don’t want their daughters doing this but have no problem when other women do
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 11:18 PM
25

The fact is, he'll have put in ZERO effort into getting a date with you that will translate into future disrespect. No no no, if your family thinks he should get a chance one of them should date him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 04:55 PM
4

Also this needs to be added; if you have an.. unpopular/not obvious ethnicity, so many of these guys who pretend to care about being educated" just want to gaslight you and pretend they know better then you what you're actually talking about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 01:10 PM
9

yes any version/variety of this is a red flag. "but you don't look x". Literally in highschool I would get "what are you? from scrotes" I'd get so annoyed I'd reply "an alien" or "a human being".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 01:07 PM
61

Also he’s lying how is he supposed to be 28?? He looks 40 at least
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 07:07 PM
71

I wish someone had told me this smh 🤦🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 06:57 PM
91

Yes women not being so nice!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 05:12 PM
47

"Do not let your Western-morals framework impinge on the practices of other people" - This is very very american. As a non-american, let me tell you men especially see americans as some of the dumbest people around and the women as "easy". Male misogyny and entitlement is rampant everywhere, but not only are women socialized to be overly nice and from birth have their boundaries trampled on, but it seems like americans especially are taught to be overly pc even in contexts where safety is an iss…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 01:43 PM
25

This happened! it's also a violation of boundaries. Did we want some annoying pos next to us?? no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 01:15 PM
1

Oh I feel you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 08:24 PM
59

I’ve had a guy joke about pushing me in a body of water .. I can’t swim. I wish FDS had existed back then because that guy was covered in red flags
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 07:23 PM
78

Some guys hold the door open for me in and out of buildings .. this guy doesn’t and he’s dating you? Hmm 🤔 seems 🚩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 05:04 PM
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I learned today that a friends ex would elbow her when she annoyed him and push her into walls when they fought and even spit on her once. She downplayed it a bit but.. these abusers are walking around freely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 04:53 PM
7

Saw it last night.. I felt mostly bad for her- her actions aren’t justified tho
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 01:00 PM
11

Thanks for reminding why I hate OLD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 04:05 PM
1

A neuropsychologist would have to prove that. Intuition is thought to be located in the right brain, hippocampus, and gut. They’d mesure the the neuronal activity during the whole process. Perhaps they’d show participants pictures of criminals and then pictures of non criminals and we’d see wether those areas would be especially active when participants would correctly guess which one was the criminal. Or other variables might be more appropriate. But there’s something to mesure there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 07:10 AM
11

Good thing I’ll have my pick of attack dogs then. Effing degenerate
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 10:17 PM
17

ah ok your comment made it sound like listening to one's intuition is all it takes to not fall for any psychological manipulation, which decades of research hasn't proven.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 07:37 PM
49

yes actually it does if you want to use the theories taught like that. We all say we'd never fall for it but expirements like the milgram experiment show that most people are susceptible to some form of manipulation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 05:14 PM
51

frankly a male doctor kept being condescending regarding my period pain and the fact that I WAS PUKING at times, currently have a nice female doctor and she diagnosed me correctly with Endometriosis the first time I saw her. Oh and let's not forget the male doctor with the crumy/disgusting/covered in gray dirt fingers who kept wanting to forcefully put his finger in my belly button after we've let him know I can't stand when anyone does that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 06:43 AM
3

Cut your father out of your life ASAP, it's been 6 years no contact for me and my self-esteem is getting better. I'm less and less begging for scraps of attention from men I never got from my father. Cutting out that toxic POS has done me a world of good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 09:50 PM
22

Yes. But it’s also some other anglophone countries as well. You’ve got adults who don’t want to consume anything else besides social media and stupid shows as adults where as in other places, many people can do a deep dive into political issues and take pleasure in cultural discussions. Not that that doesn’t exist in America but it’s not as common
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 07:54 PM
24

Worse part is some might. Extremely low- self esteem+ not free from said shitty father yet to rebuild self worth = desperate for love, affection, people pleasing easy prey.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 07:46 PM
36

Yes.. I’m the kid of a similar situation. He screwed us all up/I’m dealing with mental health issues .. don’t get screwed fixing this guy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 06:06 PM
5

long term commitment! some will give you the girlfriend label early on to lull you into a false sense of security. 2-3 months imo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 11:17 AM
138

When pick mes excuse male behavior while males in the comments don't. - seen it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 11:03 AM
20

More Disney movies like frozen/Elsa, so few movies for little girls decenter men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 07:59 AM
81

Yes that and the last minute planning stood out to me. Near his place?? So sex and doesn’t care about the distance she’ll have to walk home otherwise. Again sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 07:49 AM
100

I think the book has good messages from what I remember ; having a life, being busy not just pretending to be, if he behaves badly well you’re putting yourself first anyways so you won’t be chasing after him, not overdoing it on presents/effort when you barely know them. I think it’s good for people who are still getting some self respect/esteem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 05:01 PM
285

If i can’t understand him: block and delete
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 04:36 PM
407

I’ve heard that men in their 40s! Feel a crumb of remorse for the way they treated some women early on.. 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 03:50 PM
25

Yes Gary your SA fantasy is not the selling point you think it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 03:47 PM
34

Exactly ! Some of the messages I’d get were 🤮. I’m just hoping they’ll die out eventually/hookup culture is on its way out. I think many treat you like crap online because of the lack of jugement from his peer group.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 03:44 PM
184

Don’t. I was coerced on those apps and the number of stories I hear about women experiencing sexual trauma from these apps is heartbreaking. Don’t do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 01:34 PM
57

Frankly I wouldn’t date someone with kids at any age. It’s a lot of responsibility and there’s no way I’d want to impose on a child like that. Being imposed a step-parent can be pretty traumatic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 01:55 PM
4

That made me physically ill. But some guy telling him that wouldn't be normal right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 07:29 PM
10

I think some women who used to join convents chose to instead of marrying some scrote
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 07:03 PM
9

people used to make fun of me for the way I held my drink in front of me within direct eyesight or with my hand covering the opened top. "hahaha you're careful that's good, good for you..."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 06:53 PM
24

I’ve been there and was taken advantage of by a guy who lied to me. It sucks. Best advice ? Stop romanticizing men as a whole. Also 6 month to a year is a good timeline since most can’t keep the mask on that long(in terms of tricking you into bed).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 11:49 AM
63

Oh hun be careful, many men will love to be with a virgin and will take advantage of you. You dodged a huge bullet. He did you a favor. I'd advise you to vet for a good six months to a year in your case. This should weed out the scrotes trying to use you as a trophy. Do not assume a man wants anything more then sex until he asks to be your boyfriend by month 2-3 (after being properly vetted of course).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 07:02 AM
59

I’d like to add that frats tend to also breed race fetishists as well. - my experience
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 07:08 PM
31

😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 06:57 PM
61

Ah let’s see if I can be two for two: did a bunch of scrotes call this « guru »? - guess women are tired of lvms and sexual coercion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 06:37 PM
148

Is there a lower supply of casual sex ?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 06:23 PM
13

I think she was also deemed as more legitimate by some? As in she descended from Henry the 8ths sister and E1 was scène as a bastard by some due to her mother.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 03:29 PM
67

At least he wasn’t a manipulative psycho… god the bar is molecular level
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 03:21 PM
16

Frankly whatever the pro-life crowd thinks it won’t stop abortions, as usual it’ll be something done illegally and in a dangerous way, or those with the means/citizenship will go abroad to get them. If men don’t have to have forced vasectomies until they’re married/or some equivalent control of their fertility I’ll never not be opposed to it. Even then it wouldn’t be right but it wouldn’t be so obviously anti-women imo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 10:28 AM
22

Oh that’s especially true within French media. Female newscasters? All young and pretty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 09:25 PM
12

The whole movie? (haven't seen it yet). The premise seems funny in the trailer at least.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 09:11 PM
42

hey mix in some dogs in there and I'm fine being surrounded by cats and dogs haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 05:23 AM
103

We learned in class that stats show 80% of the chores are done by women here. And the pick mes still can’t wait for marriage 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 06:32 PM
18

I’d argue some only don’t like it if she’s really unattractive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 03:48 PM
116

There’s also lots of borderline cases not recognize as abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 01:15 PM
8

exactly I gave tinder a chance due to those rare cases. If it was more emphasized that these are extremely rare and not just OLD, then many women wouldn't end up traumatized, and used.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 10:42 AM
3

Agreed. Some do it from a place of entitlement and some from a place of revenge. But the general lack of respect for women is the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 10:03 AM
16

I think the confusion comes from the odd person who says they met their boyfriend off that app. But agree with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 07:55 AM
-3

Ah I can see where that came out wrong. Not in those terms no I don’t believe him. In terms of him not succeeding through any nefarious manipulation, coercion, I think that’s a possibility.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 10:37 PM
9

exactly. This one is so proud that he can brag to "the lads" that I'm sure he's done a number of these things. Unfortunately the law is behind on all of this, and most of these aren't classified as assault.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 10:24 PM
2

To be fair he is physically attractive enough. But heard it straight out of the prick’s mouth. 🤷🏻‍♀️ he’s shown he hates me enough due to it and he hangs out in bars all the time so I believe it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 09:44 PM
40

Learn to say no in other aspects of your life and this will translate to enforcing sexual boundaries. Learn to become your own person and love yourself before dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 07:16 PM
198

He’s not putting in the effort already at this stage. Block and delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 05:55 PM
33

It’s pure gaslighting. Like someone said above they wouldn’t appreciate a dildo shoved up there due to being pressured.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 05:34 PM
35

Unfortunately I wouldn’t be surprised. And I’m the only woman who’s « turned him down ». I’ll never know but it’s sad to think about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 05:10 PM
92

For sure. This is just to call out the ones that « don’t sleep around anymore so now you can date me » types.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 04:38 PM
29

Exactly! And yes this guy fits everything you listed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 04:25 PM
64

Love it. Unfortunately this was in my ultimate pick me phase before I started to gain independence and self esteem. He also towered over me and was stronger as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 03:53 PM
49

Thank you, at the time I hyperventilated after but I didn’t completely understand what had happened. It’s pathological that to them this behavior is normal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 03:29 PM
50

I tried. I forced myself. He sexually abused/coerced/took advantage and hurt me down there. Don’t give an ugly guy a chance to get revenge on women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 01:52 PM
198

RUN. run. run. it's never worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 10:46 AM
11

Same. It just encourages them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/21 08:08 PM
12

I love love your energy 🤣 here’s to dodging scrotes in our 80’s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/21 06:32 PM
9

I unfriended him on Facebook. And blocked him on Insta but he keeps finding others. I’m blocking him whenever he pops up. He lives in another country and said he could probably figure out my address.. sigh. You’re definitely right about everything unfortunately. I luckily keep my address private. I know he’s a dbag and I find him repulsive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/21 06:24 PM
7

Your reply is so good to hear! Any tips for your past 26 year old self ?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/21 04:33 PM
39

I’ll cry rolling around in 100$ dollar bills - I love this energy 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/21 04:20 PM
20

This is a player who’s 2 years older and who’s ego I hurt because he wasn’t able to be my first time and I still don’t want sex with him and don’t send nudes years later. Apparently I’m the only women ever to have rejected him. He’s stalked/looked for info on my inner social circle as well. It made me feel bad having my appearance being picked apart down to my nasal bladal folds(sorry I want to breath ??). Your message cheered me up! Seems like past 23 I should curl in a ball and become invisibl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/21 04:14 PM
2

Why can’t I see the reply to my comment earlier? I got the notification and from what I could read the lady seemed sweet?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/21 03:52 PM
57

This reminds me of scenes in media where gay men in the closet go hard on misogynistic insults in front of their bros just to not be thought of as gay. Probably some truth to what you’re saying
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/21 02:44 PM
72

thank you for this, someone that didn't succeed in tricking me into sex shamed me for being 26 and not 20 anymore and this makes me feel better. I have no lines on my face, rarely drink, don't smoke, try to eat healthy, and I'm focusing on skincare/getting toned. I've also more seriously started applying sunscreen now for 6 months. (those are the aspects im looking to improve on in terms of looks right now, working on my career/education as well). I've started getting some anxiety about not bein…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/21 11:16 AM
18

following
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/21 07:40 AM
39

Uh.. frankly many women who aren’t single end up alone anyways in the end. It’s better to cultivate healthy relationships with your children or friends if that’s what you’re worried about
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 04:38 PM
21

I definitely was naive and that’s what got me taken advantage of and coerced. I just expected to be treated with decent human respect and that was too much to ask apparently. Learning about how often this happens and how much worse it can get has raised my guard up and FDS is a source of guidance and personal protection that I never had access to. No one has ever called me bitter\jaded apart from this one stalker who realized I can’t be manipulated as easily. Why should safety measures and stand…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 04:34 PM
10

Nope you didn’t overreact. Most of us look at our phones even in the bathroom. It takes 2 seconds to let you know he’s to sad to go out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 11:43 AM
93

yup I smell a liar. He's scheduling in his sex dates. OP, block and delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 07:45 PM
44

He’s no Idris Elba but he’s…?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 04:19 PM
49

Don't drink alcohol, don't go back to his place, don't believe him if he says he wants a relationship(you have to pay attention to his actions), end the night perhaps with a kiss but not somewhere too secluded.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 04:00 PM
18

Exactly. I got taken advantage with of on there. Even after clearly stating my intentions/expectations. He lied and future faked me like you, and this other guy who didn’t succeed in tricking me still stalks and harasses me online, and my social circle. Narcissistic rage is real and OLD is ripe with men like these.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 12:50 PM
22

Exactly! Honestly my worst experiences were from OLD basically. My best: not going to any of those websites and just seeing what the universe had in store.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 11:24 AM
53

Never been on dating apps= smart woman. Don't do OLD. Look up psychological effects of OLD on men if you want, just don't do old.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 10:16 AM
148

So many guys ask for a threesome. It's so icky.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 07:39 PM
81

This 💯 they don’t want to lose the ego boost you give them by being a desperate pick me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 06:59 PM
67

Good on you for waiting till marriage wish I did and or waited longer and didn't give in to peer pressure and my liberal, hook up culture environment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 05:37 PM
12

"those are some big feet girl but I'll allow it"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 02:56 PM
79

of course, this is standard. Even though he doesn’t like her she's still a warm body useful for sexual relief.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 11:57 AM
41

probably it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 11:53 AM
134

odd, wonder what the point of that was.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 10:51 AM
3

Your dad is a unicorn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 08:06 AM
20

I’m a small scale food hoarder. That guy is just nuts
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 08:04 AM
39

I hope this is fake but a former friend got drunk on a date and fucked a random guy in the restaurant bathroom she met in the hallway. This is why you also vet your friends. But this also sounds like a porn fantasy. Who knows
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 07:45 AM
29

yeah also disagree, sometimes to hone in our skills/intuition we need help and the advice of others here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 06:32 AM
38

1- is he hiding something on his phone? 3- so his friend is sleazy but because it's his bro he's a "good guy"?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 06:31 AM
46

I LOL’ed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 04:52 AM
47

Same here, I don’t agree on everything but some of his self improvement videos and some of his comments on how tinder affects men are interesting. Don’t agree on a lot of the traditional men and women dynamics he talks about though-or I reject them at least
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 04:43 AM
19

I don’t think those guys are rare gems to be honest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 08:48 PM
5

wow they're so determined even if they're blocked huh?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 07:58 PM
65

yes they do exist, some are lvms in other ways but it does happen even though it's rare. When I experienced it the difference was that he pursued a relationship with me and i didn't have to say anything about wanting one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 07:56 PM
76

yes one friend is never single and said it's because she chases them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 05:55 PM
10

apart from number one, #3 seems like a sign of anger/frustration bubbling under the surface
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 05:45 PM
20

haha that's awesome. Sad that it has to be said.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 01:14 PM
41

former vegetarian current meat eater here. There's a difference between killing an animal for food/protein rather then making it suffer for your own sick pleasure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 12:50 PM
45

we learn our lesson the hard way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 06:33 AM
231

As if he had a chance with Adriana Lima.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 06:31 AM
38

pretty but not that pretty. - bro fuck off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 06:27 AM
925

You both have an INSANE schedule and she's creating a new life on top of ALL THAT?! yes you are the asshole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 11:00 PM
8

definitely something I'm considering as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 10:19 PM
17

do you have those links? I'd love to read through them for my research
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 10:08 PM
27

I'm considering co-parenting with a gay man perhaps.. its 10 years down the line though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 09:35 PM
36

🤮🤢 they really tell on themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 09:11 PM
1

thx, it's hard to wrap my mind around tricking someone in order to hurt them physically.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 08:10 PM
7

Definitely am incorporating all of this and working on following my instincts
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 01:44 AM
10

Thank you, funny how were taught the other way around. It’s an odd thing you know to be coerced and so to believe the lie that abuse during sex is normal. It’s different then the classic stories you hear about, almost like you can’t say it’s wrong because it’s not THAT
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 12:51 AM
20

That’s disgusting I hope you got away from your father! And thank you! It still makes me feel gross at times. I was lied to by someone who didn’t care that I was in pain physically. I’m not trusting anymore you know?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 12:38 AM
13

thank you it's really gross isn't it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 10:54 PM
47

Thank you, what shocked me the most was that the most empathy was "it's sad but now she'll know better". No comment on the guy and his actions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 10:52 PM
10

thank you, I really appreciate it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 10:47 PM
16

Thank you 🤗. I’m definitely learning a lot here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 10:25 PM
12

Thank you 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 10:05 PM
43

Thank you! It’s going to take some time to become an FDS expert but I’m slowly learning to stand up for myself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 10:04 PM
6

par for the course with him really, he would say you're too sensitive and it was just a joke. He also wouldn't want me to get r*ped but had no problem saying it should have happened to Kim Kardashian during her robbery.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 09:13 PM
15

TW: I was taken advantage of and lied to/taken advantage of by some other dude who told me going in raw was normal - ended up with trauma down there (that healed) and bled. Consented to painful "sex" under false pretenses, smallest peen I've ever seen so I think that's part of the reason I didn't know this wasn't normal for the longest time. Still don't know what to call that, but honestly I'd rather die alone then go through anything worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 08:15 PM
19

I wish. Mine didn't believe me when I told him his bestie tried to grope me and would always hug me too hard, and made me feel uncomfortable and he would think it's ok to not have me get braces in part to "give these guys a chance". Also some other stuff. An incident happened where I was taken advantage of/lied to in order to be abused and thinking about the dad I had growing up it could have been worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 07:58 PM
689

anyone who calls another guy a simp is a pos who treats women like trash and shames hvm because they make him look bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 01:46 PM
38

I assume purple head mushroom has to do with his penis? Dude wants an in house porn star, submissive cook and maid and to be able to fuck other women as well. Feels like I need to sit on my knees and wave my arms and pledge allegiance to some king - that's what this comes off as. nerd nice?= I'm a nice guy aka you're an asshole, anyone nice never has to say that. a bunch of crap that seems meant to appeal to women = emotional intelligence, which is sus. liking animals at least at a general level…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 01:39 PM
21

Yes if I’m meant to get married or meet someone the universe will make it happen. OLD is serious trash but of course many men are jealous and foaming at the mouth when I tell them it’s so easy for casual sex it takes longer to get my Uber eats delivered.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 06:25 AM
13

Probably Marseilles. High crime rate - I’d take Paris any day rather then go there. One of the places with the worst reputations, partly because of how poor it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 06:20 AM
66

"having fun" got me taken advantage of and abused. Yeah I'm out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 06:08 AM
1

Unfortunately yes. Probably told her about the other girl too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 05:31 AM
9

Yeah unfortunately when you’re American for example it’s pretty shocking. Believe it or not there’s actual cities in France so much worse as a French woman I wouldn’t go there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 05:29 AM
173

AWW this is nice to see.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 04:25 PM
66

I'd love to find a HVM french man, but here's the thing they excel at culturally romanticizing their mistakes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 03:38 PM
112

sounds like a HVM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 02:59 PM
7

Whatever happened to the; hey I respect that this makes you feel uncomfortable even though I'm fine with it sentiment?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 12:16 PM
24

A breathing living fleshlight is better then an immobile one. That’s why.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 07:51 AM
7

good comeback. need to save this for later.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 06:37 AM
19

I'm sorry that happened to you, but thank you for the advice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 06:34 AM
316

They really get angry when we start standing up for ourselves don’t they?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 11:04 PM
168

The other night I told someone during a girls night I don’t care if I get married or not and I was told don’t worry you’ll find someone 🙄. Nice sentiment but why does everything have to be about being partenered up?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 10:58 PM
2

OP this comes off as very racist. You’re generalizing based off ethnicity. That’s the problem. You didn’t tell your friend to look for a HVM within the black community if that’s what she wants. You based it off skin color and stats… there is such a thing as statistical outliers. There’s also non-American black men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 10:50 PM
92

They do know. Unfortunately. Heard it several times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 10:09 PM
308

When that’s the bare effing minimum. The bar is molecular level
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 10:07 PM
1317

funny enough how it's always right after sex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 09:28 PM
53

Not the most well-versed in FDS but odd to bring up therapy on a second date: -> what kind of issues is he dealing with? ->is he just trying to lull you into a false sense of comfort/trust to get a pity fuck ? or to become his personal therapist? ->what kind of baggage did he go through in his 20's?hm -- Being in therapy can be a good sign that someone is working on themselves, but mentioning that on the 2nd date? pretty odd, it's not as if you've known him a few months and it's going well then …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 04:38 PM
21

completely understand. Sometimes we're confused and have to learn a lesson the hard way unfortunately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 01:43 PM
42

Great post, but I am a bit annoyed at your friend that she pursued things with someone when right from the start he stated his intentions (which doesn't always happen).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 01:12 PM
65

Posts like these are the best kind of contraception. 10/10
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 01:08 PM
62

Hi hun, I’m really really happy you figured out his game before anything worse happened. Don’t ever drink or leave your drink unattended around this guy! I’m 26, I know guys his age who literally have admitted to me that they have no problem manipulating and leading on 18 year olds. If a guy who’s over 2-3 your age is « interested » in you? Run. It’s usually sex and age gap relationships often lead to abuse. Let me tell you about these guys(I heard it from the horses mouth): fucking 18 year olds…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 08:57 PM
6

1) get off OLD 2) he's only suggesting alcohol related dates and dates at your place. HE WANTS TO BANG. 3) do number 1
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 07:50 AM
91

BS! BS! BS! Your daughter needs to realize most of the time what they're saying is bs and is only a manipulation tactic to sleep with you without a relationship. Men who are interested in you have no problem getting to know you for some time then comitting before sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 07:43 AM
28

Fit women workout enough, no one wants to be lifting weights while being intimate with their partner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 08:42 AM
90

Fun story: a really ugly guy from one of my classes posted in a forum asking people how to « get me » this guy referred to me as « pretty but not the prettiest but still pretty » when all my ex’s have been attractive and I’m considered pretty attractive by people. Then he got pissy when I wasn’t interested!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 08:40 AM
31

You’ve never met IRL and he takes more then a day to reply (even that’s pushing it)? On to the next.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 08:30 AM
38

Agreed, like the red flags are full-blown in your face?! what more do you need.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 10:35 PM
8

wow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 09:42 AM
114

No, when a creepy man took a sneaky picture of his underage daughter on vacation my dad nor did the stepmonster care since at the time I wanted to be an actress and "I should be flattered and it's just something I'd have to put up with if I suceeded in that field". That's only the tip of the iceberg really.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 09:40 AM
16

Wait OP, so if she said no her partner would keep going? did I read that right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 06:52 AM
33

wherever the US goes, the rest of the world tends to follow Watching what happens in the states is like watching a weird ass show then that last bit reminds you it's actually real, can affect you and you get this oh shit moment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 06:42 AM
37

I’m very light skinned (mixed) and the few times I’ve been hit on by black men most were pushy or I’d get comments about my pretty skin. It’s always made me uncomfortable because I’m too often defined and only seen through my skin tone and « being exotic » and as an introvert pushy men scare me off. Then seeing the colorism comments online always makes me wonder if that’s the reason they hit on me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 05:11 AM
39

it's threatening because these young girls might be out of their reach.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 07:10 PM
43

Making friends/having friends is like dating, and I'm not desperate at all when it comes to friendships, I usually distance myself till I never speak to them again. Your "friend" is a b*tch frankly, and I wouldn't have the energy to deal with someone who's so insecure they need to put someone down to make themselves feel better. Have had "friends" like these who are always so surprised when I distance myself from them or don't confide in them, I have too much self-worth to put up with that. They…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 01:42 PM
19

Though Karen has some legit applications.. why haven’t we come up with a term for a male Karen ?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 10:00 AM
26

if he's a zvm, you'll be making sure that literally everything gets done yourself; health appointments, admin appointments, the zvm won't buy the kid clothes, will find a way to avoid/lower child support if his job allows it. Be careful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 05:10 AM
96

"you've changed" "feminism will make you miserable" then why am I gradually becoming more and more confident and have better boundaries? and content? Scrotes will also say crap like this to keep you a desperate mess willing to put up with any crap for any crumbs of attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 11:30 PM
129

ah yes. My grandma forcibly married to an older man who would beat her even while pregnant. Those marriages?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 11:25 PM
699

Dates younger women, says the problem is her age, then keeps dating women her age. The audacity I swear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 07:55 AM
7

thanks saved me some time, love nina so was tempted to watch it. Good for her that she got a part but the trailer came off a bit like "the ugly/average lvm gets a hot chick".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 05:57 PM
28

OOF sis been there. What I've had to learn the hard way is to not say you want an LTR and to give it a time limit, he's got 2-3 months to commit or he's out. No sex of course. Many men enjoy pursuing and lying to a woman who's honest about what she's looking for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 05:47 PM
45

Please tell the wife, give her the option of getting the fuck out before she wastes any more time on him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 04:11 AM
104

happened to me too. dude had the nerve to hit me up this year to chat with a half-ass apology. he has a gf as well. so gross
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 06:18 PM
87

oof "open to a serious relationship" that's the line I was given by one of the guys who took advantage of me then ghosted after sex. Heard that from other guys who tried and failed to play me. - be careful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 01:47 PM
27

Wow! I didn't know that. Makes you wonder if getting married is worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 10:04 AM
115

I've also watched a bit more about her, turns out they were going through a divorce, still lived together and she took care of his ill elderly ass right till he died before the divorce was finalized, had to pay for the entire funeral and the kicker? he left her and a child (from a previous marriage I believe) out of the will.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 10:26 PM
118

they're so delusional! Then they complain about gold diggers. Then they complain about dying alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 09:29 PM
107

Completely understand. I've considered this myself really. It's not worth it to prioritize them in any case. I've also thought a lot about these old ladies in nursing homes who say the secret to a long life is to keep them at bay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 01:34 PM
105

i think deep down she's thinking "better then being alone"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 12:00 PM
4

Yeah he also was a dick about hooking up with brooke behind peyton's back while brooke was drunk. Also hooked up with many others as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 07:37 AM
36

Yes yes yes. Block and delete these men are trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 05:53 AM
256

There was a case like this where an old man did that to kids I think. what the fuck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 05:40 AM
11

I think Nathan changed perhaps but at the same time wouldn't a HVM be respectful of any woman he's with?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 04:25 AM
67

as a teen one touched my shoulder in a train car, and basically was going on about how he was going to take me back to his and r*pe me cause I was his, and said something similar to my stepparent.. funnily enough only backed off when my ZVM raised his voice at him (then he shuffled off like a coward of course). one got in my face about giving him money so I did - he was taller and stronger and as a teen I was scared. 22- a few flashed masterbated in public in front of me, happy as a clam knowing…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 03:22 AM
14

This wasn't an accident. How dumb do they think we are. He was seeing how you'd react to hooking up. Show the girlfriend then block and delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 09:13 PM
16

I think I see what you mean. It gets annoying when all you're supposed to do is commiserate and not talk about anything else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 12:44 PM
2

omg i could have used this as a teen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 12:20 PM
58

I've noticed this as well. I believe this ties back into how we're socialized, as a whole women are socialized without these skills which is why as adults we're often playing catch up with men who've built these basic skills since childhood.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 12:07 PM
43

I used to date someone (casually) would would pull this crap all the time. Turns out it was to keep me on the back burner in case other options fell through.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 09:45 AM
71

exactly. They also want you to catch feelings and shit on you for having those feelings - just for an ego boost.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 09:27 PM
142

Trust me you didn't miss anything in the dating world. They did you a favor and probably saved you lots of trauma.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 07:48 AM
3

I'll add one more thing to this: I'd consider only dating someone that can't ruin your reputation. As in someone from summer camp, an extra curricular where you don't have any friends in common, etc. Not someone from school for example. So that in case said person lies about doing something to you for example.. well you won't have to deal with the splashback at school.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/21 10:10 PM
1

Thank you for your lovely comment. I've read it several times. The sad thing is that it's only now that I'm finding out that it's not normal to have abusive fantasies like this when at the time it seemed so normal. I guess it's hard to make peace with that fact.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/21 03:20 PM
212

I didn't date in my teens and am thankful for that. To add to the other pertinent comments, do not get drunk around boys, guard your drink because some will try to put something in it. Do not believe anything he says, look at his actions not his words. Boys will lie as easily as they breath to try to get sex/nudes and by extension bro points from you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 10:44 PM
58

love that energy!! it's really the fact that you don't care or think about them that gets to them haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 05:09 PM
37

Thank you <3 , this sub is so lovely. I hope it keeps growing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 09:15 AM
137

Thank you, I was tricked into consenting to abusive sex/sexual abuse and it hurts to know someone is so evil as to do that. I'm forever jaded and not innocent anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 08:15 AM
219

Coming into the dating scene generally " trusting men" right off the bat and not being wary af got me; 3 times sexually coerced, one of those times being abused sexually. Yeah so no. Everytime a woman starts off trusting them all, they make us regret it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 04:12 PM
26

if he's short+insecure about his ugly face run. I gave an ugly short guy a chance and was coerced and abused for my trouble.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 01:44 PM
1

you know it sucks but i really did think this was normal and i should get used to it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 12:56 PM
5

You're absolutely right. I'm getting better at it. It's a long long road to self-esteem and self-worth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 08:52 PM
42

Didn't mean to have one but: got coerced 3 times, sexually abused one of those 3 times. Wisened up and was more careful about trying to get into a relationship. I thank my lucky stars I didn't catch an STD/I. Did you know it's been proven that casual sex lowers a woman's self-esteem and harms her mental health while it's the opposite for men?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 07:17 PM
3

I can't even recognize the person I used to be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 06:30 PM
4

I just.. wow. I would never plan to do that. Keep learning new things everyday.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 06:15 PM
7

coerced by 3 people and yeah i'm coming to terms that it was sexual abuse and not just another type of sex like i figured at the time. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 06:05 PM
1

thank you for giving me a name for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 06:01 PM
12

Looking back with my more mature eyes he even tried to pressure me into a threesome and I atleast had enough intuition that "can my friend come in" and "promise he's really cute" sounded alarm bells even if at the time I didn't realize what he was trying to do because again - super naive and trusting. Yes, I had to say no several times to that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 02:17 PM
10

Would this be considered sexual assault? for some reason I'm more comfortable with sexual abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 01:58 PM
15

I wish I could think like that you know, just be like whatever about it and forget about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 01:54 PM
21

Thanks, I've been struggling with this especially since it's not r*pe to societies eyes and to some just bad sex. I guess sexual abuse, and assault is a fitting term even if it's not r*pe. It helps to put a proper name to it. I can't go to therapy for several reasons right now but in the future I'll see if I'm able. This happened years ago but yeah I've ruminated over it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 01:50 PM
53

Thank you, reading the replies to this really cheer me up you have no idea. I also wanted to share this as an example against the "YOu ShOulD gIvE an UgLY GUy a ChaNcE" trope that was told to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 12:47 PM
33

Yes he could. I won't go into details but yeah. I'm afraid this might have been some red-pill loser excited to abuse someone out of his league (not saying this to brag someone said I was)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 12:08 PM
4

Way back I remember seeing a few profiles of men pretending to be in their twenties looking late 30's and beyond.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 09:16 AM
12

They know height is a big deal to many women and they think we're so dumb we won't notice even when they're supposed to be the same height as us. They also feel so entitled to a date they'll lie to get it. Just like sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 09:15 AM
71

not to mention even kidnapping women+other men's wives as well
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 09:56 PM
6

Only if I was dating a man who was divorced with kids (but still he shouldn't hang out alone with her). Let's be real, men are more likely to cheat, apart from one guy friend I have (who I keep vetting), the reason guys often keep exes/female friends around is for sex or other options.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 07:09 AM
130

Men: yooo this chick doesn't have sex she's such a bitter prude hag Also Men: I can't get laid :( Also also men: Just had sex with this girl then dumped her because she's a sl*t. Bruh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 07:05 AM
11

Ugh I've been having a hard time forgiving myself for one of those times. Ugh. This is why FDS is important.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 04:02 AM
47

This kind of stuff happened to me a few times, so even in my pick me days what I started to do was not bring any money at all to fight against my passive nice girl tendencies. Some of these scrotes were so annoyed and some even accused me of lying. *all the dates were near my place during the day but they didn't know that. *these guys off tinder would be the ones asking me out and it would be a first date and they wouldn't want to pay if the date went badly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 05:05 PM
87

I blame both? how about that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 12:44 PM
62

Only need to read the first page to know it's not therapy. No way. He's either cheating or it's porn. I don't believe it's video games either because they don't enlist that kind of guilty reaction
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 04:46 PM
260

HMM I'd be worried. What if you get pregnant, can't maintain it for a period of time? this person would look elsewhere
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 05:54 PM
76

Not to mention scrotes laugh at both the pick me's who loves casual sex and the nice girls who put up with bs. It's all and all never worth it. We have to teach girls to not be so nice/accomodating/whatever
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 05:46 PM
21

Dated someone for a couple of months 6 years ago, every couple of years he pops up out of the ground to ask for nudes or something else that disgusting. He's mad I didn't lose my virginity to him, mad that I rejected him for sex after and mad that I'm still not interested. Apparently I'm the only woman ever to have rejected him which triggers him so much he looked through all the people I follow to find my boyfriend's profile and my sisters and is looking for information/profiles on the rest of …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 10:19 AM
121

"GiVE An UgLY GuY a CHanCE!" - yeah no never again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 12:52 PM
28

IRL I'd avoid Logan, but I understand his appeal. attractive, fun to be around, charming, cultured, money, looks, smart, educated. But his promiscuity would definitely put me off IRL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 06:51 AM
23

The way he was looking at her on skype.. *vomit. Completely delusional I'd rather be alone with a dog.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 04:50 AM
2

haha I guess so, the whole time I was living my best life and he was liking my sm pics. I shut that offer down hard (I was with someone else as well).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 04:11 AM
36

yes.. i think the previous woman was pregnant as well(not sure).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 01:01 PM
7

that same guy asked me for coffee 2 years later. When I tell you they only respond to a lack of emotions they really do. haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 05:16 AM
54

Frankly yes, any men who has dumped me has always been surprised/hurt that I don't reply to a break up message. I sent a guy a thumbs up in response once because he was asking why I wasn't saying anything back and he got triggered. Emotions aren't the way to go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 07:09 PM
0

He liked you and is still curious about you, wondering if he can still have a chance with you/ego boost.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 05:52 PM
234

That wasn't a bullet. That was a massive foul-smelling lethal bomb. I got chills reading that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 01:53 PM
42

He's settling and he's going to be a drain on her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 04:28 AM
2

Yes exactly. They always always project. Wether out of jealousy or guilt. The worst part for me is that the fiance doesn't respect that it's something that makes her feel uncomfortable even if it's something he wants. (I wouldn't want a guy who likes strippers but I think you get my point).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 04:16 AM
5

oh god.. well basically I've often dated people who were insecure/kept asking if I was out with some other guy etc, one of these cases in a LTR. Turns out both guys were cheating or trying to cheat/meet up with women. They were accusing me of doing exactly what they were doing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 04:07 AM
-1

It was a joke...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 04:01 AM
147

I'd cancel but also my petty self would have hot male strippers at my party if he acted like this. Honestly though if he's comfortable with a friend who's lying he's probably lying as well/done the same thing (ask me how I know).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 08:10 PM
60

THIS! no way was he that smooth through text then a complete idiot in person
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 07:19 PM
45

does he think he'll live forever? i dont get it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 04:36 AM
30

never said it wasn't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 06:58 PM
58

it happens more then you think, look up "the spectator effect" it explains the psychology behind it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 06:45 PM
11

I'm sorry :( in my case this is just some nutjob I dated but opted not to have sex with who keeps stalking my sm. These men are soulless
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 07:38 PM
20

I'm sorry you had to deal with that. Know that these guys just get validation from having women being into them and they're empty and miserable people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 04:31 PM
99

seriously though a narc ex of mine admitted he'll go after 18 year olds even as he becomes middle aged. But hated the fact that they wouldn't like an old dude coming after them. He's 28, already triggered at the fact that he's aged out of most 18year olds preferred age range. They only care about how these young girls can validate their egos, not that they're individual people. Or I suspect people at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 01:40 PM
70

I do, and this is why women need to set a time limit on these relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 06:43 AM
173

yep many love to act like they don't age as well. Frankly I'm hitting my late 20's now and some of my peers are already looking a bit rough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 07:02 PM
110

I'd imagine they'd go for men with looks and some money?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 06:27 PM
338

*surprised face when it's hard to find a younger woman willing to do that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 05:56 PM
4

They were definitely all bad, but I do still think the one that treated her the best was Dean before he got married and became terrible. I would stay away from logan IRL, but there is something fun about him which is nice. Don't remember the reboot much but wasn't a fan of any of them ahahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 03:49 AM
15

JESS! Everytime I have rewatched the show I've always hated him. He's the worst, violent, tries to force himself on her (wtf), ditches her, prick to her mum and everyone else, ghosts her all the time, and so on. Then HE'S THE ONE that makes her realize she needs to go back to Yale?? (what?). Yeah some of his "antics" were funny, but he's always been trash. pre-marriage Dean was probably the best boyfriend she had, but I did always have a thing for Logan.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 03:04 PM
23

lmao good one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 06:32 AM
6

No mental health professional will raise these red flags: - boundaries are "changeable." - therapists/anyone in this field is taught to remain neutral and put their bias at the door.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 06:13 AM
25

This! This! This!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 06:08 AM
10

not about what they think, i'm agreeing with the previous poster's idea on unity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 05:19 AM
17

many of them expect to fuck 18-20 year olds forever and get mad that the only slight chance of that happening is if they're rich.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 05:11 AM
39

Men see women acting like this and they have a laugh about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 07:58 PM
13

no but damn I'm so tempted to do this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 07:01 PM
203

Give him the grocery store coupons I receive when I do my weekly shop and call it a date/present.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 04:09 PM
17

true as well
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 02:58 PM
17

It sucks, is it wrong that I understand your perspective and his? Both sides are hard imo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 12:48 PM
219

in situation one, I think the guy was trying to win you over and got hurt that he put all that effort into it for nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 11:51 AM
13

I still watch them but there's been videos where I've seen that. For sure a turn off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 07:47 AM
47

this year=25. Dude who i almost lost my virginity(I'm so thankful I sensed he was a bad guy and didn't go through with it) to asked for nudes and admitted he had planned on taking advantage of me then ghosting(he was laughing about it holy fuck, and weirdly focused on the fact he's the first person who i fooled around with, pretty disturbing that someone acts like they own you, or you're territory he's claimed-he was dissapointed that I was like whatever about it. These men want you to be still …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 05:48 AM
23

It would be hilarious OP if your ex then found a way to contact you and tried to beg you to come back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 03:53 AM
5

low self esteem on the woman's part and they want a relationship.(the guy)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 03:26 AM
1

Watching this stressed me out I thought he was going to assault or kill her. Fuck this idiot, any women would run from him as well. This is also the kind of behaviour which reinforces racial stereotypes. I hate this so much, this man got a kick out of acting like a deranged predator. OP are the comments roasting him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 03:18 AM
47

Please please call the police if you're scared. - a woc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 03:14 AM
11

Oh I'm a "jugemental b*tch" because I told her over and over again for years to stop going back to the scrote who anally r*ped her, to not steal his laptop and break it, to stop showing up drunk on his doorstep and stop getting jealous when he chats with/sends nudes to other women online since "maybe we'll start dating get into a relationship" doesn't make him your boyfriend. Frankly she's tall, fit, blond, attractive and could get a relationship (even an lv one) if she just got therapy and self…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 04:52 PM
3

I'm impressed, you checked off all the things I know for sure that applies to her and I'm sure the others do as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 04:40 PM
5

She slept with her sisters boyfriend in their house because she got too drunk. Did she grow up in a bad family situation? yes but that's so gross imo. Frankly she went out with men who gave her money at one point so I don't think she'd care much. I'm physically/morally opposed to cheating on a visceral level due to the hardship my serial cheater dad put us through, she knew this and still wanted me to do all of the things I mentioned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 04:32 PM
4

Heroes? I cringe when I remember reading cosmopolitan and others all throughout my teens to "prepare" to be the best cool girl a guy has ever come accross. didn't date in highschool at all and I'm so so so glad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 03:46 PM
6

I cringe when I think back to my 2 year cool girl phase. How do we forgive our past selves? Did I sometimes get an orgasm? yes, was it worth it? no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 03:39 PM
5

gpa I think
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 01:21 PM
234

Her husband married her for her youth and perhaps her face. He settled, if he could get a pretty skinny 20 year old he would. That's what's up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 04:19 AM
14

Sounds like her! sleeping with her sisters boyfriend, going back again to dudes who just use them as part of a rotation then whining about it and back again, drinking too much and sleeping with randos. She wanted to meet my boyfriend at the time and I was thinking the whole time - never going to happen!).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 03:17 AM
42

That's so stupid, I'm sorry. I tried out hookup culture for a bit, it sucked and I'm glad I stopped early on at least. There's nothing great about being in a rush.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 03:10 AM
20

she's "material". I never used to believe that most men don't see women as human, but damn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 06:37 PM
40

she was a bit unhinged and way too much drama I'm glad she's out of my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 06:22 PM
482

Had a friend who would try to encourage me to cheat and to have lots of casual meaningless sex while single or otherwise. She always acted like it was so much fun/nbd and that I should "loosen up", she's had countless amounts of casual sex and it's "so freeing". On rare moments of clarity she'd complain and be sad about not having ever had a relationship at 33 (not that you should go into a relationship just because), and the many problems she'd have with lvms who would use her over and over aga…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 03:22 PM
3

oh god. This is why I'm introverted and take my sweet time trusting people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 12:56 PM
52

Kevin Samuels
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 04:27 AM
140

Never give anyone money unless it's a gift. Most people will be lazy about paying it back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 04:23 AM
56

DAMNNNN
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 03:23 AM
7

so he's going to seduce this petite woman in order to do this? am i getting this right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 04:45 PM
43

Huh?? I'm lost.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 03:10 PM
288

Why do some men act like being a single mother (by choice or not), adoption and fostering children isn't a thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 08:59 AM
21

seems like he's doing that cause he wants to talk rn. If the roles were reversed he'd have no empathy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 06:55 AM
57

How do you find men like your husband ha!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 07:57 PM
28

He showed his true thoughts
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 03:34 PM
16

exactly. It's a way to vet idiots though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 03:48 AM
37

What do you think of as average"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 03:47 AM
359

same energy as the idiots who ask "do you have a loose or tight vag"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 09:17 PM
14

good for you frankly. Many of us have had first experiences like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 09:03 PM
41

I'm in this facebook group for relationship/breakup/self esteem support and women are literally falling over themselves to defend a guy that shit on a woman who wouldn't drive 1h15minutes for a first date(and she told him it was weird that she had to come so far to meet him), the restaurant in question was 15 min from his house.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 09:02 PM
50

yeah I wouldn't either - it's bad for my posture.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 02:55 PM
81

Yes omg short scrotes will actually try to convince you and wear you down that they should get a chance with you. Women don't get to have any standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 02:39 PM
239

- Boyfriend isn't kissing her (she leaned in for a kiss) - the male friends are smiling (some shady shit is going on and they find it funny) - grey hoodie girl is acting weird. - OOF poor girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 07:05 AM
5

i hope the cat clawed him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 03:19 AM
21

not to me but some women would go for it i think.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 01:13 PM
65

He will only propose if he can't find anyone else/gets too old and undesirable
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 12:36 PM
519

this guy will propose within 6m to a year if he meets someone he actually loves. She'll be wondering wth she did wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 03:56 AM
30

are they both worth buying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 03:26 PM
16

whats CF?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 06:43 AM
27

I wonder if OP's dad told everyone the truth about how they met or the full story. Wouldn't surprise me if they're both feeding their friends and family a completely different narrative then the actual truth of it all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 04:21 AM
67

A fun way to turn that around is "I'll do X if you let me do it to you first". I've found it always shuts them down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 08:58 PM
64

I think a lot of that has to do with how LVM raise their daughters (and pick me mums as well).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 03:51 PM
192

sounds like a 50 year old scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 02:34 PM
2

look I don't agree with him outside of anything financial, I just mean that I understand that many of his views are influenced by his faith. I just find that it's been a useful ressource to get me from 0 to a healthy bank balance without spending money on products or being told about anything too gimmicky. I thought I'd share because it has helped me but I can also focus on how usefull something is and seperate that from the person. I understand some people can't do that. edit: also not trying t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 01:45 PM
0

Yeah... the question wasn't really if you agree with anyone's politics or anything related to that. He's christian so the "don't get pregnant out of wedlock" rule is because it's a christian based company, I personally don't agree with that but I also won't work for a christian based company, he also fired a man for cheating on his wife in part because it's disrespectful of the religious vows of marriage. Many people who follow him don't agree with anything else but how simple, effective and str…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 01:14 PM
8

In terms of finance, I'm a big fan of Dave Ramsey and his baby steps plan to financial peace/wealth. It's simple and straightforward and it's something anyone can follow. "Investing with rose" - explains investment terms pretty well. "Rich dad, Poor dad" - financial book with basic concepts but good for beginners. "The richest man" in babylon is another good one. -------------------------------------- I',m also interested in reading the book "why men love bitches," which seems like it can explai…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 11:17 AM
20

I was completely charmed by Naley at the time. I also believed in the fuckboy who will treat you differently because you're special
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 05:49 AM
3

I was thinking more about the "my sister/family" is really into it/consenting vibes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 06:31 AM
10

i think most stories like these are fantasies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 06:05 AM
90

from my experience it's more canadian+american men. There's culturally more pressure for both genders to be decent/presentable here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 04:44 AM
215

french men usually dress better in general, it's a very silly american thing not to be at least presentable
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 03:38 AM
3

OP, if this suits you I think that's fine personally. But since others are uncomfortable with it you shouldn't impose it on others.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 12:00 PM
45

stay away, he told on himself. someone should look at his computer - bet it's got some weird stuff. Also he doesn't give a crap, there's no emotion/remorse in his message
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 03:35 AM
42

and do they put effort into winning her back? no. They never treat her like "the one". Seems like it usually ends up being the guy messing things up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 06:36 PM
6

My LVM dad is in therapy now last time I heard, and the only apology I got in 4 years no contact (he finds ways to contact me) was "I'm sorry I may not have been the best father". Dumbass should get a refund on that therapist. - over the years I've gotten short "woe is me" type of messages from him and his wife. -angry, passive aggressive message from his wife and him. -Not one time has he admitted he's a piece of shit for still hanging out with his friend who tried to grope his teenage daughter…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 03:47 PM
123

I've had exes who I barely dated who came back when I had forgotten their name and face. I don't understand that at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 03:41 PM
60

what's on offer? like items on a menu? wow.. and here I thought men would mature as they get older
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 03:31 PM
5

thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 03:27 PM
60

Wait I don't really understand the meme, like men will have conversations with their bros about an ex he still misses? wants back? or will try to come back to said ex?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 03:25 PM
5

what's AI and NI?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 02:46 PM
23

This has to be a troll post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 07:46 AM
63

it's also hard to leave someone when you're so involved with his family and become attached to them. Ask me how I know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 06:21 AM
100

Is this supposed to make you want to get married?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 04:07 AM
11

I'm much taller/imposing then you and I get the sense that plays in my favour and that they might go especially for women they perceive as easier to prey on perhaps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 05:08 PM
102

ewwww when I was 13 I didn't know what sex was. What the hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 03:57 PM
42

don't need any more reasons to quit dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 12:48 PM
79

well yes scrotes will scrotes to women at any age, but I specified teens / younger women in my post because those are the targets in this case. Probably due in part to less life experience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 06:57 AM
130

Frankly I just shared this for everyone but especially the young girls he's preying on as a reminder. From what I've been seeing they're the ones more vulnerable to believing him. I did see him yesterday as well before being aware of this and he's picked the bus stop that usually has the most traffic in town.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 04:46 AM
52

Yeah I've had to see that as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 04:42 AM
1

that's lovely to hear! thank you. Any specific novels i should check out?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 12:54 PM
13

when i was 17 i joined OLD and lied about being 18 and this 30 something man really wanted to go to prom with me. he knew i was 17. most will say younger is better but i believe most are just looking for vulnerable girls
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 03:56 AM
6

My mum is the complete opposite of yours. I'm sorry about how you were treated and frankly you shouldn't have to deal with her anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 05:04 AM
23

yeah it's like the 2 for one deal of red flags. It says something about him and it says something about the family dynamic that's there, it says something about her as well. RUN RUN RUN
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 04:35 AM
37

imagine your mum telling people she doesn't like talking to you and telling potential dates you're depressed. You shouldn't date him but damn!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 04:01 AM
1

Thank you so much for this! How did you feel about not having a dad but only a donor? how was it growing up? Obviously stay anonymous but I'm just looking to see what's it like from the child's POV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 09:45 PM
5

i use this sub to be informed on what red flags to look for and the other one to level up honestly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 06:36 PM
539

I think all the crap he pulled trumps her snooping through his phone. THANK GOD she snooped or else she wouldn't have known. He doesn't care about her, and he's using her snooping as an excuse. Also he's trying to divert any form of responsibility and guilt on her. Fuck that asshole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 01:09 PM
85

This seems like a NVM rather then a LVM, and a particularly bad case at that. W.T.F.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 08:25 PM
1

Thanks, wasn't aware of that. I'm just thinking back to my own experience and how being in a single family home would have been a smoother ride, ideally I'd find a HVM, but if that doesn't happen I'd like to create a healthy nice environment and not have to compromise with someone I end up loathing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 01:08 PM
1

before i reply completely can you explain what parentified means?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 04:11 AM
4

I'm straight but a close friend is bi. She prefers to date men due to wanting to start a family (yes I know about the other options but that's her preference), why would it be a problem to prefer to date one over the other?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 03:46 AM
254

pretty expensive way to justify a superiority complex imo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 03:32 AM
13

all of the previous comments are right OP. Please keep that in mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 03:27 AM
76

even in my worst pick me days ex's wouldn't do that if i asked. No it's not normal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 01:09 PM
82

If he's living like this on purpose due to working towards a financial goal I'd consider it. If he's just not motivated to move out or lazy or something like that then no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 06:12 AM
6

Thank you for sharing, this might be something I do 5-10 years down the road, but I'd like to start looking into it now so i'm well prepared. We're the same age and I'm definitely feeling the tick of that biological clock, with endo as well. Is this something you'd consider as well?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 03:49 AM
7

fair enough, just looking into it first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 03:39 AM
0

in terms of the first part, I agree with you, why not plan for something that happens to women rather then be taken aback and struggle? and the second part i'm not sure, it's all speculative.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 03:37 AM
21

will do thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 09:05 PM
19

thank you! I don't know why I got down voted, this is a new topic for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 06:26 PM
6

Ah so the dynamic I might be looking for is clear? wasn't sure. That's actually an interesting idea worth pondering thank you! I also understand I'd have to be extremely prepared, it's not something I'm planning on anytime soon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 06:25 PM
18

Thank you for your thoughts, and what about someone I know being a sperm donor? So that I could tell him or her who their father is? (just trying to work through all the possibilities) ie: would it be good for me to know him personally or not for the child?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 05:09 PM
7

why? generally trying to be as informed as possible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 05:07 PM
7

not much, but i'd fully prepare before hand. I'm a planner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 04:46 PM
23

tHE AUDACITY bahahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 03:55 PM
8

OOF I'd distance myself from her. Seriously I'm not sure if she'd even be considered a pick me, she seems more off. Some people are just too far gone for you to help or be there for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 06:43 PM
78

this usually translates as "I can make you c*m in 2 seconds" on OLD.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 06:36 PM
0

Yeah i tried to phrase my first reply politely but you replied aggressively so then as did i. As a biracial woc, same to you. Peace.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 03:20 AM
-4

Um you could have said exactly that or phrased it to mean that, what your family members are doing/saying is gross because of the intent behind it. But the way your original post was phrased came off was as you wanting to keep the bloodline intact because of a general disdain for biracial people not as a way to preserve your culture. Yeah some of my ancestors have an awful history to actually as recently as the 20th century. and I get hate from both ethnic group for just existing and accused of …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 09:42 PM
40

You're allowed to have preferences, but can we not use "diluted bloodline" as an argument? Maybe it's accepted in your culture but being mixed myself "diluted bloodline" is the reason I've suffered from racism my whole life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 05:00 AM
4

i was busy trying to pass math.. silly me /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 03:09 AM
15

he really did. 4 years is pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 11:07 AM
9

true, but that's the title of the article.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 11:07 AM
121

They tell women that they expire at 25/30 years old and then whine about women wanting a commitment too fast. + they want women to stay with them approx.10 years without the assurance of said commitment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 03:50 AM
23

EW, you're right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 10:28 PM
152

He thought you were younger then 20?? eww someone has a pedo fantasy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 09:01 PM
156

Delusions of grandeur, too much t.v, some kind of personality disorder perhaps
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 11:02 AM
690

"dragging your intestines after your bleeding asshole"- how does that even work? As usual: women: we just want to have healthy boundaries and standards and be treated like human beings. most men: REEEEEE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 09:55 AM
90

Finally have time to properly dump LVM (was very busy lately don't ask) Starting last year of undergrad Will work on cv for internship search Skincare routine at night Getting back into the habit of eating healthy (this goes with dumping the LVM - he was very into junk food and I was tempted) Power walking on the treadmill at least 20 min every morning - to slowly start being physically active again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 06:12 PM
8

Made him buy me food/takeout most of the time and a bit of clothes, bedding and a ring I think I can sell. I think with the money I spent on him it evens out a bit. Also small price to pay to learn that I'd rather be single then with a shitty lvm who throws dirty underwear/clothes at my face as a joke despite me stating I don't like it. At least it only lasted 3 years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 11:19 AM
31

wow.. thanks for sharing. Marrying someone you don't love is such a foreign concept for me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 03:52 PM
697

he wasted someone's time for 3 years and he's the victim?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 04:48 AM
81

example: JFK would have a doctor on standby for abortions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 03:48 AM
222

This! Most people also never put the onus on men to "be responsible for their own actions" and practice safe sex or have a vasectomy as a form of BC.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 03:47 AM
122

I hope she runs! Shame on the women encouraging her to stay!! He will do it again, and if they have kids he will spend large amounts of money on women he wants to wine and dine while he's away then dump her for a younger woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 08:43 PM
167

He said he wanted a relationship (which he might/might not) but he quickly realized he didn't want one with you, but used you to keep him company/maybe get sex, while he waited for another woman he was interested in for a relationship. - this is a possibility imo, he's using you to pass time and it's disrespectful. Block and delete
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 05:31 PM
14

#frenchmenaswell plus a few more misogynistic jokes as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 01:12 PM
49

Men who date multiple women makes me think: fuckboy, community d*ck, one of those losers who copy and paste messages, and those guys who try to be the cheapest date possible. (the coffee, walk dates)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 11:43 AM
20

same literally for stating in my worst pick me days that I had one preference and one boundary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 09:14 AM
30

women are taught to be overly accomodating where men aren't at all. Men know this. Which is why you get women still fucking dudes despite not being into it or letting lv men trample their boundaries and putting up with toxic lv women. Also why dudes freak out about FDS imo, because not accomodating = manly quality we are not supposed to have.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 09:10 AM
58

i fell for it for less then that. Men lie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 06:31 AM
8

Yes queen! nothing better then learning to respect yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 06:29 AM
8

OP he treated you like a bangmaid and you were always the one paying for him??? that's not even a 50/50 relationship. He's bottom of the barrel of the lv men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 11:25 AM
47

I'm just trying to get rid of my pick-me ways nowadays and it feels as if you are waking up from a fog, like you didn't realize you've been brainwashed to accept abuse and little effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 08:46 PM
26

My zvm father would receive money from family intended for us and never tell my mother or spend it on us. Always have your own money ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 12:09 AM
25

that's not dating, it's pedophilia. i'm not as old as the guy and can't imagine dating a teenager
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 11:28 AM
268

That customer that tried to flirt with you while you were busy at work? boom has your address.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 05:27 PM
10

oh yes that's what he "said" and it's still cheating. But I wouldn't be surprised if it was true since he's not exactly a ladies man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 12:01 PM
20

wow what a BS excuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 07:14 AM
143

"And ladies, if you feel the need to snoop his electronics, do it. If I hadn’t, who knows how many more years he’d lie to my face." - this. I just found out my soon to be ex lvm was on tinder for a year trying to cheat and he had no plan of ever telling me. Always snoop. My post got deleted, but I'm planning on dumping him as soon as I'm done with a personal conflict im dealing with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 12:27 AM
80

I look at lesbian porn because two women together is a beautiful thing. "
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 11:13 PM
309

as if he only does in brothels.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 04:24 PM
3

yes you did, those people are horrible to live with
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 02:32 PM
126

or his nostrils flaring
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 01:52 PM
11

Good vetting questions. Some scrotes will also use you as an excuse to not see said toxic parent but will keep in contact with them for money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 12:03 AM
21

yes this too, my gran is a misogynist(ex: women want to be raped) and my father treats women like dirt. Also your example does happen as well. The crazy goes back at least 4-5 generations in my family, I'd advise anyone to ask about family members that aren't here anymore as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 07:59 PM
26

Good for you, I unfortunately was born into it and for reasons I won't go into am deeply tied to them for years to come (hating the world, one's own family, and paranoia keeps them alive a long time apparently). I have physical manifestations of stress every time I see them. (ex: literally you're criticized for saying thank you too much then for saying it not enough)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 07:30 PM
37

I hope you find a way to do so if you can. My mum was cheated on for over 20 years without her knowledge, kind of wrecked her life... It's not your responsibility, but I can't help but think that there's another good woman like my mum who shouldn't be wasting her youth on some zvm who's just biding his time before meeting someone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 11:56 PM
6

Wait so we're objectifying ourselves by rejecting men? is that right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 11:40 PM
31

I got a dm from an FDS sister when I posted in redpill women.. still trying to shake off my pick me ways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 11:34 PM
85

they always say what suits them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 01:20 PM
40

"have you tried having a baby?" BC is the only thing I'm on right now because I don't know what to do
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 04:41 PM
112

Endometriosis here party of one!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 02:39 PM
112

yeah OP is too naive. This post makes me so frustrated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 04:39 PM
82

oh yeah, in college, some people I LITERALLY never spoke to apart from hi, would call me a bitch, arrogant, rude, behind my back etc.. I was just doing my thing not bothering anyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 04:31 PM
1

It would take too long to explain, but I'll summarize it like this: I think she's fake and fakes a lot of things for good pr.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 06:10 AM
7

i don't like her but i agree with this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 07:48 PM
11

ex-friend of mine got drunk and slept with her sister's boyfriend. In their house. She never told her sister.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 04:56 PM
24

they are called that for being decent men, draw her a bath? simp!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 02:24 PM
76

frankly I have little sympathy for pick mes like that. She's in so deep she doesn't care about herself, others or even her own child which is gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 02:22 PM
11

oh i've run into men who didn't like hearing i go to the bathroom. they exist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 08:13 AM
3

i hope so otherwise it's pretty pathetic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 07:13 AM
2

live and learn, sigh* i'm just glad i never dated people within my social circle
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 10:58 PM
3

yes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 10:55 PM
8

that happens?!?!?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 10:55 PM
27

Well yes, but just in case someone gives in/is a recovering pick me, they'll need the reminder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 05:03 PM
1149

Ok since no one mentioned it, what kind of inhumane shit is this to ask her to walk a few blocks to a nearby grocery store to change? Like she's a dog who needs to be taken outside for her daily bowel movements?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 04:47 PM
14

yes why wait?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 01:57 PM
73

Oh yeah they'll never do MMF, I'm also straight and I've gotten similar offers. I also think since they are attracted to two women together we will be attracted to the idea as well. (again not considering the fact that we want different things). I also find it annoying when women or anyone really peddles this idea that all women are fluid, it's led to some awkward conversations about not wanting to expirement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 01:56 PM
106

Lots of comments and generalizations based on my skin color and apparently I was being racist to this white guy for being annoyed and calling him names, then he was shocked I wasn't into him. Sniffed out a racial fetish fuckboy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 01:08 PM
120

I think it's because most men have a lesbian fetish, so they're hoping you'll get turned on by a woman and potentially be open to a threesome
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 01:03 PM
148

That's horrifying. I'll add this if you're going to send nudes anyway, don't show your face.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 11:37 AM
3

yes he had two more kids in his 50's and 60's, quality genes right there. He's an abusive POS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 07:38 AM
41

that post about the scrote finding his friends daughters attractive sent me through the roof! My ZVM dad didn't believe me when i told him his friend(50's) was creeping on me(teens), and forced me for months to greet that pedo with a kiss on the cheek(cultural greeting). Now my zvm dad wonders why I cut him out of my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 08:53 PM
171

wow congratulations! I think it's also pretty disrespectful for someone to say faith doesn't really matter, a HV trait is to respect that it's important to you even if said HVM isn't religious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 03:40 PM
25

you know what, i believe you given the audacity of some scrotes i've encountered, must have worked for them at least once
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 02:39 PM
170

Some of the most attractive women have the lowest self-esteem
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 12:18 PM
16

bahaha I just saw this, and even after putting in a height requirement of 5'9, obese, 50k I got a delusional score of 3/5. I must be really lucky because most men I've dated have been at least that height all the way to 6' something, made at least 50k and not obese or married. Those are basic standards and we can't even have those? I'd rather get cats.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 08:43 AM
45

Or he's a POC dude with a complex. I've met those.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 08:39 AM
2

yep it's pretty horrifying and i think members of the cast have talked about it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 07:35 AM
5

I did like Chloe when I was little, but now I have a hard time seperating the actress from the character with the whole sex cult thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 05:10 PM
14

Smallville - Clark and Lana, even though Clark can pretty much excuse his lvm behaviour on kryptonite or saving someone or hiding his secret, Lana doesn't know any of that and still comes back for more! I like her but she's a Pick-Me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 08:16 AM
3

Yeah, I won't even share with you the different ways these women have died but it goes from horrifying to medieval style horrifying. Not enough effort is put in to catching these guys or supervising them, some of them are let out of prison due to overcrowding. The fact that it's often 1st gen immigrants just contributes to racism as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 08:32 PM
9

51 feminicides in France since the start of 2021. Always at the hands of their partners, and often (at least from what the media shows) at the hands of French of foreign descent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 08:09 PM
48

how old are they? (just curious)because apparently "Men DON't HavE A WalL"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 10:21 AM
61

yeah I gotta say scrotes who propose a coffee date are cheap, those who propose drinks or walks in the park are menacing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 10:19 AM
3

even if you give a chance to guys that are average or short, or don't fit your preferences in some way, they'll treat you like shit. It's not worth compromising your preferences.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 10:45 AM
22

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=igxN6HmHj_s Made me think of a video a youtuber I like made. Look at how they react when they get hit on. It's a prank video but it shows they have no problem hitting on women in France but when it's the other way around oh boy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 10:06 AM
36

As a younger woman (mid-twenties) I appreciate the warning, education and advice older women have. Being hit on by older men in their 40's-60's is repulsive since I know they're a part of my parents generation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 08:44 PM
18

depending on your age range, it could be a problem if you want kids. But if you're past child bearing age? why not?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 03:41 PM
16

I wish I had this when I started dating!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 04:03 PM
4

ah sorry didn't understand x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 11:15 AM
2

it's not every war ever? and that's why i put trigger warning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 08:23 AM
3

yep heard about it, there's many recent examples that just aren't talked about because it doesn't affect the west.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 08:22 AM
16

And for a more recent example(TRIGGER WARNING): https://www.ecosia.org/images?q=french%20soldiers%20raping%20algerian%20women french soldiers raping algerian women during(and before) the independance war that ended in the early 60's. It's never talked about internationally but it's fairly recent and so is the violence that came after. Slavery didn't end there till the 60's.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 09:19 AM
14

I'm a tall(5'7-8 without heels) woman and I don't date short men, It's one of those things that's very unattractive to me. I tried to explain this to a short guy at a party (didn't realize he was hitting on me/was being nice), he then proceeded to try and literally sit on the arm of this couch I was sitting on (to match my height) and get in my space while talking to me bit by bit like he was about to kiss me, I nearly fell over the couch trying to avoid him. Midgets be crazy. This isn't the wiz…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 12:36 PM
6

I've narrowed it down to 50 so far... it's crazy the amount of people you accumulate
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 07:56 PM
38

most likely? NAH Definitely sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 10:26 PM
19

does he know where babies come from? and that women give birth?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 01:22 PM
11

nah sis your brother is nasty! that's it, and i'm sorry you have to deal with that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 09:15 PM
5

100% this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 10:16 AM
50

A scrote replied to me on another subreddit and said he would be reporting to the moderators because I'm also on FDS lmao. Triggered scrotes never make sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 08:18 AM
15

If you feel you need to get it all out just because holding it in would be unhealthy I think that might be worth doing. However he won't care. I'm sorry to tell you but "if he wanted to he would" really applies. He doesn't care about you hun, and when he's "busy" he's doing something with someone else or doing something he cares about more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 05:52 PM
123

Wait a second... I thought men aged like fine wine and didn't hit their peak till their 40's and 50's? I'm so confused!?!?!?!?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 02:32 PM
20

Agree, I think you can find a HVM in your league and it not fit the 100k+ salary, model type, idea of a man. What I mean is that you should look for a HVM in your league which might be a man who makes 50-80k (around the same salary as you), lives comfortably, is a 7/10 (similar to you) looks wise, and loves to read books and goes camping rather then traveling abroad just like you. FDS is lovely because it teaches women that there are basics to any HVM (hygiene, caring, takes care of his health, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 04:18 PM
6

I thought I'd hit my peak at 25 or that I'm old af now and would be left alone by pervs.. but nope fit right in his desired age range. EW.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 01:23 PM
34

I cut out a LVW friend this year. She was older then me and a complete and utter hot mess, regularly put me down and then on christmas eve (my favorite holiday+I was going through a hard time) she cut me out of her life and called me a b*tch. Months later she then tried to get back in my life and I never replied. Why? well my interactions with her and my efforts in trying to pull her up (metaphorically) always left me drained and stressed, and I've learned due to previous fights I've had with ot…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 01:19 PM
9

I don't have kids but I think this is important. Teach her to respect and honour her boundaries/trust her gut. What I mean by that is do not teach her to always be the better person, or to be nice no matter what or to let go of things, I believe this contributes to someone being passive and having a hard time saying no to things that make them uncomfortable but they don't say no because they have trouble hurting other people's feelings if it means having boundaries. I'm now getting better at it,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 10:25 AM
14

agree, if a large group of guys makes jokes like that - I think some aren't just idiots but think that's ok and may act on it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 08:49 PM
51

Many many men are violent. I used to be on this other forum and didn't reply to a dm (it literally said: hi) and the next dm was something like: I want to fuck you in the ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 04:44 PM
35

this is exactly it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 02:55 PM
13

Yep, guys who say this crap just want to keep giving pick mes hope so that sex just keeps being available ..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 08:51 AM
12

This just proves that minorities can be just as racist to each other. (I've been told otherwise).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 05:36 PM
74

13 yrs.. that's the length of some marriages yikes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 02:27 PM
37

" I don't want a step parent or siblings, I don't want to integrate and play happy families with a bunch of people I'm not related to" - oof completely understand. Honestly I ended up going no contact because I decided to not be a part of that trainwreck anymore and am starting to find some sort of stability and healing from the psychological damage. It was the best decision for me, up to you to figure out what you need. - Sorry you have to deal with this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 11:30 AM
1

I understand his logic of work hard to become financially independent early on, but this is his wife. Someone passionate about travel would speak about this while they were dating ... so no sympathy here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 11:25 AM
74

I used to go to a meet up a couple of years ago in another country and got to know one of the people who was participating as well/partly coordinating it. Turns out the main man in charge of it had r*ped the woman I got to know, possibly several times and threatened her if she talked. I had a few interactions with this r*pist at the time without knowing he was a r*pist. Meet ups are fun, but you don't know these people, always be carefull.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 03:10 PM
78

Have done that even during my pickme days, I just hadn't heard from these guys in so long I ended up deleting their number then months later I'd get a "hi how are you?" text and have no clue who it is. or "hi"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 05:39 PM
29

lmaooooo that's new
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 02:16 PM
62

Short guys are unattractive to me and I have a bad back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 02:13 PM
3

Thank you, I'm usually pretty responsible so I'm gratefull someone helped me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 09:19 AM
32

ewwww
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 06:05 PM
233

I drank too much while on a date with a scrote and he left me in the middle of the night in the street (people at the bar had tried to get me to stay to call a taxi but I was drunk and too accomadating - you know what I mean, so it's not like he didn't realize his date was out of it), so I was walking home alone at night in a busy city center and this lovely woman found me, gave me her phone number to let her know that I got home safe and basically walked me home. (to my neighbourhood I think). …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 02:39 PM
4

OOF - disagree on Prince Harry. For one his uncle (E8) was pro-hitler, and wasn't there something about him replacing his brother(the monarch at the time who became so once his brother E8 stepped down to marry Wallis) if the nazis managed to invade the U.K? (but yes the family did not like his wife at all and were against the union). Harry got the approval from the Queen to marry Meghan, she was invited to family celebrations before their marriage which was unheard of, apart from some of his fam…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 06:40 PM
16

I'm open to dating number 3 since my current SO fits into that category. However you still need to vet them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 08:31 AM
29

Really happy for you that you found a lovely man, that makes you happy and treats you well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 07:50 AM
38

FOR THE FIRST TIME? ARE THEY HIGH?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 07:33 AM
22

There's probably a political question you can ask to see if you'd match, to see if you're both left leaning or vice versa. That seems important since it shows what you value
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 07:31 AM
93

anyone who states this while putting other women down is compensating for something imo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 08:49 PM
186

ah.. jealous of naturally pretty women and women who are good at makeup?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 05:31 PM
7

i usually look for mixed cause that's all i know that applies ha!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 02:08 PM
9

Oh thank you! That's a really clear explanation really. I have amazigh(is it the same as berber?) ancestry as well, if they are the same race as arabs, what race is that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 01:54 PM
16

I usually identify as european(raised as a euro) of mixed descent but people don't understand that at times or argue with me how that's wrong so I don't tell people I have mixed ancestry. And yes white,black,brown people calling me white or brown Unpopular opinion but I feel like I have gotten racist/negative/ignorant comments from white and black people, so I don't tell people my ancestry unless we're close, since people speculate on my looks often. I have olive skin, brown eyes and hair, look …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 01:50 PM
54

many white guys have an asian girl fetish.. ew. who wants a old scrote who's close to retiring
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 01:09 PM
10

yes and no, some white people have said i;m brown and some black people say white and vice versa.. i'm just really confused.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 12:55 PM
12

i'm french, and it gets even more confusing because not all north africans are arabs?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 12:51 PM
41

off topic but as a north african are you considered a POC? (i have some na ancestry and this makes me confused cause i've gotten mixed reponses) Context: I have olive skin and look slightly tanned look like i'm from all over the world according to some people. I'm french of mixed ancestry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 12:28 PM
276

Tell me you're a loser without telling me you're a loser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 06:53 PM
12

My SO and are in a LDR, he booked a plane to meet me, since we were in different countries while he was in school. This guy isn't interested at all and she's seeking out attention from scrotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 09:03 PM
6

i'm 7 years older then you! this is weird and a new trend perhaps.. I couldn't imagine dating a highschool kid, there's just such a difference in life experience and maturity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 10:48 AM
55

Yes, it was so clear I've had someone admit this before point blank.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 06:59 AM
1

it's a disgusting case honestly, as he beat her nearly to death he was hurling anti-semitic insults at her. https://news.yahoo.com/neighbor-tossed-elderly-jewish-woman-121046808.html This is the case, this woman deserved better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 06:51 PM
48

been there, imagining dating a guy a few months who does that regularly! Never again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 05:05 PM
36

fellow euro here, have never been able to hold a male friendship in north america, but outside of it, yes. It's very very odd for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 04:49 PM
145

Or when you want to make friends and wind up on a date without realizing it. Or when you think you're giving girl advice then the guy tries to kiss you. Naive? maybe, but that's what I get for being too nice as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 02:25 PM
45

I agree, I would say that I might be tempted to act like the friend but that's mostly because I have trouble asserting my boundaries when I'm uncomfortable - so there's those kinds of reactions as well
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 09:03 AM
90

off to unsubscribe to Jaack now, thx!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 10:55 AM
55

too many eyelashes? wow ...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 10:53 AM
14

That reminds me: - needs a bedframe ! *adds to list of must haves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 08:13 AM
10

nope fuck no. How is he supposed to feel lucky he's with you when he didn't put in the effort in the first place?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 07:51 AM
2

You know I've heard of some of these relationships IRL so wouldn't surprise me if it's true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 07:42 AM
55

This describes my NVM father to a T. Married a woman 20(?) years younger, cheated on my very HV mum for decades, afraid of aging, has many friends decades younger, was a fuckboy in his youth (no he is not aging gracefully - bald,belly,lazy,bitter) - I guess that's how they age afraid of getting old and trying to feel "young" again. Edit: completely approves of age gap relationships (20 year old dating a 50 year old? not a problem) but not for his kids of course!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 07:57 PM
6

I agree with you on that one! I'm in my mid twenties and would only consider moving back home to save money for a downpayment since I won't make much after uni.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 05:54 PM
7

I'm sorry that happened to you, that guy sounds slimy. It's also a good reminder since I tend to be wary of extroverted men for that reason, but it's also because I'm introverted myself and feel as though I connect better with introverts, more of a homebody and all. I do like socializing, just one on one mostly and not for extremely long periods of time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 05:29 PM
4

maybe not that introverted but I'd rather have that then the opposite, just works better for me ;)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 03:25 PM
8

I'm introverted and need the same anything else is exhausting. It's just a preference
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 03:23 PM
4

up ;)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 03:22 PM
25

don't feel like getting into details but - heavy drinkers, big partiers, and not intellectually curious/cultured - not a match for me, etc been burned three times so never again. One still contacts me once every couple of years to make a sexual comment and ask for nudes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 03:20 PM
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- No extroverted men - No irish men - Must be bigger or at least 6 inches - No one who pretends to have an allergy to latex - No one I have to force myself to be attracted to. - Must have a clean mattress - No one who "leaves their phone at home" for the night. (It's always BS) - No one who cancels plans last minute - No one who states/insists "I'm a nice guy" Will probably think of more later, and yes the bar is in hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 01:31 PM
23

the food counter is trisha paytas a youtuber
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 01:41 PM
22

oh.. wow that's pretty bad. lmao he did you a favor
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 01:32 PM
5

He doesn't love her. If he did he would find things to do together which she can afford OR at least cover the expenses she can't. OR.. pay for the whole thing once in a while. There are many options to avoid these problems but he doesn't care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 01:18 PM
4

Sidebar: a second job to pay for a vacation with HIS family?!? Hell no. same!!!! way too lazy for that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 01:12 PM
1

wait if that's your maternal gran wouldn't it be her's as well?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 05:43 PM
92

RIGHT? I was lucky but it could have turned into a bad situation he tried to pressure for a threesome with a roomate right at the door of his bedroom!! (I was sober so had all my senses thank god) - Worst sex, worst treatment, worst looks, tiniest dick I've ever seen, It's not worth it at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 05:35 PM
170

yeah.. gave an ugly guy a chance once and worst mistake ever. Ugly men are just as likely to be a fuckboy/aspiring fuckboy. Also they're worse in bed, will never date one again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 04:42 PM
25

This was so so sad to read. Eventually you have to learn from your past mistakes and not fall into these situationships again. It's not supposed to be this hard, especially at the start! Women need to start paying attention more to actions then words, scrotes like this will say anything, but.. IF HE WANTED TO HE WOULD. Scrotes like this don't care about you! not even a little bit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 04:37 PM
61

i cut my losses after a month lmao - when a guy's excited about a relationship he wants to lock her down pretty soon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 04:27 PM
88

I don't buy that a woman wrote this. The way it's written makes it obvious and the odd woman who would enjoy that kind of attention wouldn't like it from "crusty old men". I'm in my 20's and I hate the looks i get from men especially older men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 09:51 AM
6

cheating - probably, dates - don't know since my SO isn't like that, catcalling and more - yes some cities are pretty bad (ex: Marseilles) but in general yeah it's much worse. Misogyny tends to be more out in the open here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 09:30 PM
9

oh i would have thought the opposite!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 04:50 PM
28

more often then that even.. and sexual assault and watching what you wear ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 03:33 PM
63

It is unfair to women everywhere that's true, but being french and comparing my long-term experiences in anglophone countries.. I just wanted to share what it's like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 02:15 PM
265

Well, in 2017 a anti-semitic asshole beat and threw his jewish neighbour from a window in paris which killed her, and it was recently ruled that he can't be tried because he was on drugs(period of insanity) and therefore not responsible for his actions even though he has no mental health problems in his medical history.. If you think America/Canada is unfair to women France is worse. I hope I'm wrong but i don't have a lot of hope for her.. Edit: https://news.yahoo.com/neighbor-tossed-elderly-je…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 11:25 AM
2

seems like that could be rare though, my experience bigger is always better unless he's good at the other stuff
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 09:48 AM
201

yes lowest would be 5-6inches. any lower is a horrible experience
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 05:53 PM
8

Yes!!! for the longest time I've had trouble with this too. Now I just stop putting the effort after people flake on me once.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 09:07 PM
29

nope he doesn't. She has on love tinted glasses though and believes what he says and not his actions
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 09:04 PM
21

I'm younger then your daughter and I don't understand how she can say that to her own mother. You were 17, he was the adult. The responsability and blame was solely on him. Point blank.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 08:57 PM
64

or don't want to read.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 08:44 PM
43

crypto is equivalent to gambling, instead of working this scrote wanted a quick fix. UGH*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 04:11 PM
42

"how many times have you heard of a woman who has showed her boobs because she felt confuse and then regretted it?" -lmao what??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 03:58 PM
2

thanks! No other way of expressing that came to mind ;)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 12:55 PM
2

I just meant that I didn't fall into their trap, I figured it out because the wording was obvious (to me). What your describing seems like the equivalent of getting a nasty surprise in an audition room with no red flags popping up in the casting breakdown. I'm ESL, and always willing to improve my vocabulary, how else would you phrase not falling into their trap?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 08:35 AM
2

just a guess but they might relate to something in their past
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 04:39 PM
59

Oh yeah, western european here. When my NVM dad left my mum for a woman 20 years younger after cheating for several decades my gran's response was that my mum must have done something. (I was 7 when she said that). My dad treated my mum like a slave and he does the same to his new wife and her extended family, he pawns off everything on someone else while he sits around and works or just hangs out on his phone. This includes homework help, child rearing, cleaning, anything that's not "fun" for h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 03:38 PM
309

these people also post fake casting calls aimed at young women, i didn't fall for it. And they insist it's not porn when it is! *for acting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 03:22 PM
34

Thanks for the reminder!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 01:22 PM
79

So she's the gold digger for accepting a job for less money to try and make this work with this guy and she's agreeing to not get a prenup? I don't get it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 11:55 AM
39

i think it's peter pan syndrome, they refuse to grow up and wish they had a second go at it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 10:22 AM
7

oh don't even get me started. They're letting out psychos early due to prison overcrowding and they constantly fail women killed by men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 08:57 AM
5

Same here! I do remember that my old self at least had some standards and congratulate myself for making some good decisions in the past.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 08:37 AM
26

exactly! That scrote didn't think he was good enough, just *pretty/boobs* *maybe i can get laid* is the extent of it. I'm so jealous!! I hope to one day have a german shepherd or a doberman pinscher, however I've never had a dog before so apparently these aren't good breeds to start with?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 06:03 PM
11

I'm just happy and thankful that I have a naturally imposing stature, when i'm not ill, I'm usually pretty intimidating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 05:55 PM
29

oh Nice? yeah.. france is ripe with sexual harassment
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 04:25 PM
34

Thanks :) it's been really nice reading this sub, and finding like minded women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 03:34 PM
52

Yes lots of macho idiots like this in western europe, and the police are useless. I briefly took courses at a school with other girls we were 18-23, where mentally ill, smelly, dirty brothers walked around flashing there dicks and masterbating in public in the neighbourhood also near the school and the police didn't do anything. That school also had highschoolers **
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 03:33 PM
33

older by 5-6 years, and I would just resist the urge to go crazy when it comes to dating, and not go on dating apps (they weren't worth it) and to instead focus on taking some time to figure out what my career should be and build a strong friend group. I would also focus on doing some soul searching and healing (do you have trauma you need to heal from?), I'd focus on my health as well, hobbies, and work on not being so desperate for validation and attention (I was starved for it due to past tra…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 02:08 PM
109

Right? I pretty much stood there gobsmacked because I've never seen someone do that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 01:40 PM
90

i'm also in a very patriarchal country rn as well.. so yeah wouldn't work in my favour
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 01:29 PM
18

maybe, it was off of tinder which is scrote central
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 06:20 AM
77

yeah went out with a 28 year old at 21 a couple of years ago, that one date was so awkward for me. Now at 25 that would be fine..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 08:58 PM
6

Yeah.. mine wasn't great either. Best decision however was that it wasn't in highschool and out of my social circle so if it turned ugly I wouldn't have to deal with the repercussions on my social life, and that's pretty much what I've always done and it's served me well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 01:24 PM
136

Yeah I was going to say even that's hard to find.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 09:25 PM
216

how's that petty though? seriously what he did was disgusting, it's only fair.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 07:17 PM
41

This. Fucking this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 07:04 PM
30

same, I'm just glad I learn fairly quickly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 06:55 PM
28

This is so so gross. I'm also glad I never dated in highschool. At 13 I had guys try once or twice to gross things but I didn't understand what "sex" was... While some boys were boasting about having sex in 6th grade.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 05:31 PM
44

this is where they get it from as well as their LVM dads.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 05:11 PM
63

What hits me is the mum congratulating him for sending her such a dickhead text. With insults and all..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 05:07 PM
30

Oh lord... I have never heard of a scrote shitting in a shower... who is raising these wild animals? I've been with some LVMs but this is a new one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 11:44 AM
6

exactly! my SO isn't active on sm but he was fine with changing his relationship status
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 10:37 AM
11

I'm a bit like that, it's just been beaten into me not to accept gifts in a way so it's weird when I get some now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 10:22 AM
6

good for you! he was giving you breadcrumbs, never settle for that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 11:24 AM
74

I got called a gold digger by some random scrote on a financial independence group for saying i'd want a decent wedding - not expensive, just not in a costco/wallmart (the post i replied to was about two people who got married in one).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 10:54 AM
2

I've been out of HS for 8 yrs now and I'm still friends with only two people.. It's hard but as you move forward in life my experience has been that you'll meet more people and pick up some good friends along the way. You might not be good friends with people from HS but you'll make more friends!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 10:21 AM
216

why do I get the impression he would r*pe a woman to teach her a lesson... seriously she needs to dump him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 08:45 AM
12

it's like hearing about a unicorn lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 08:43 AM
8

you know I like to see that some young guys are with older women, it's so accepted for older men to go for younger women, so if those older women are happy why not right? I wouldn't be into it, but hey good on them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 08:06 PM
12

Well it's good for both of you because it's when he comes to the city and it's your city but to some that's spoiled I guess?? anyways whatever he showed his true colours early on. NEXT!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 01:54 PM
3

your wiser then most of us were at 21!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 12:22 PM
52

Dodged a bullet, you just said you'd meet him when it's good for both of you? nothing wrong with that. It's not as if you had been talking for a month or two consistently and were both really motivated to meet..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 12:01 PM
5

damn. And I used to be so jealous of women like you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 10:47 AM
6

love this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 10:17 AM
7

my ZVM dad did it all the time, he did it once when i was carrying several bags of heavy groceries(I was 12?he was carrying some bags as well) and he disappeared, had to call the cops cause I was lost in the city (ended up finding my way home to mum's).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 09:52 AM
6

yeah.. this happened to me as a kid. Might have gotten kidnapped if it wasn't for my mum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 09:43 AM
15

lived it. seen it. holy shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 09:37 AM
7

what have you done to age well?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 09:29 PM
13

Thank you, I'll look into it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 02:35 PM
87

i do worry about wrinkles and anti-aging treatments a lot more then i used to.. but i'm coming to terms with it. People just make it seem like you're an old woman at 30
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 12:41 PM
241

25 and I've started being a bit more conscious about aging and taking care of myself. Reminders like this help remind me it's not the end of the world
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 12:20 PM
205

he called her a slur as a joke?? hahaha I guess/s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 09:24 AM
71

I used to be like that... that girl is dead now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 08:51 PM
61

Bare minimum was planning a date you could do at night.. what a lazy ass
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 07:47 PM
3

Good luck!! you can do this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 06:58 PM
15

Have a few, but one that sticks out (when I started having some FDS vibes pre-FDS) is this one guy who broke up with me after 2,5 months. He was always selfish in bed and ended dumping me but wanted to be friends right after (no clue why/maybe we didn't vibe who cares). He contacted me two years later asking to meet up whenever I returned from my travels (yes he had been checking out my sm), I replied with this: Error: Your message could not be sent. The Ex you're trying to reach has a boyfriend…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 06:08 PM
2

Yeah it comes off as badly out of context for sure, but the conversation was fine - basically we just came to the conclusion that upon first impression men are more looks focused.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 05:32 PM
22

I'm with someone who treats me well now, but I used to wonder why I would always run into crappy men and if that was just normal, I also thought that this must be what relationships/dating are supposed to be like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 04:43 PM
12

EXACTLY! My SO told me that a man's first thought when he meets or sees a pretty woman is wether or not she's fuckable. Then after he might think wether he wants to date her or not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 04:34 PM
16

I'll add one more thing, if you date a man you met in a way that isn't tied to your daily life - school,work.. if you break up things won't be awkward and you won't run into him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 04:24 PM
4

Queen shit! Nice job seeing through the BS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 11:17 AM
9

I'm just waiting for exercise classes to open and stay open! Yoga, Pilates, etc! Really looking forward to that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 11:09 AM
5

I'm drinking 3L a day right now, I usually try at least 1L. I'm the type to munch mindlessly when I'm bored so instead I just drink water. I just think it's really important for your skin and general health so why not make it a priority? My problem is staying active.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 11:06 AM
3

no problem I have lots of diet tips but this is what helps me the most. I also wanted to add healthy fats keep you satiated, which is why I don't cut out dairy as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 08:49 AM
30

- Diet tips that have worked for me: - limiting all junk of course - limiting the amount of grains I eat - focus on eating fruit and veg, some nuts, some dairy, protein. - lots of water. edit to add: legumes are good too; chickpeas,lentils,beans etc. Also healthy fats like nuts but also olive oil.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 08:24 AM
11

Hey hun! glad you found this sub reddit at 18!! (jealous!) anyways your ex is an idiot, he just wants to be allowed to fuck around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 08:03 AM
1

yes older teens usually move on to adult vogue
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 07:24 AM
8

You will get through this! and there is better out there!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 10:40 PM
10

Where did you find these scrotes? my cat was cleaner then this. That's next level dirty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 05:12 PM
8

Agreed, in a fantasy land libfem ideas would work, but you need to be realistic about the society you live in as well. Continue educating people on consent, and working towards those ideas. But stay safe nonetheless ..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 04:45 PM
1

it really is something when you read a post you could have written. The crying about scrotes and wondering why they just won't let you show how caring and how much you have to give, really hit home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 08:45 AM
4

pushing dogs in a pram and never leaving them alone is a bit much for me as well. Then again who knows if he's telling the truth? Biggest red flag though, he wants to be taken care of as well as the dogs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 09:21 PM
25

true! These same scrotes will be lucky to date a woman in her 30's which for them is "hitting the wall" um ok.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 08:19 PM
29

teen vogue published an article a few months back on how to do anal sex i'm pretty sure. It's vile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 08:16 PM
539

Girl, at least you found all this out before kids were involved. He will never change! Run!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 06:58 PM
23

same I use to believe these relationship rules they publish (ie. 3 dates then sex) to try to make some scrote my bf. When it didn't happen at all like that with my SO.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 06:49 PM
78

I know that now. How silly to think women's magazines with "how to please him in bed" would actually cater to women right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 05:50 PM
123

still astounded women's magazines support the idea you should have sex on the 3rd date. So gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 03:59 PM
99

What's hilarious is that scrotes will talk about hitting their peak in their 40s and becoming rich and dating younger because they can.. I mean sure you're legally allowed to hit on 18 year olds, however will that 18 year old want you? most don't. Oh and most will not become rich and won't age well. I saw 40 year olds when I was 18 and I wasn't interested.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 03:55 PM
44

when you put it that way.. damn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 02:30 PM
106

the bar is so low it's underground lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 02:25 PM
91

List all of the reasons why you leave and keep leaving. Would you want a friend to go back to this person?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 01:54 PM
5

isn't it almost euphoric?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 09:11 AM
21

well if you remove the amount of men that have manipulated them into it i can bet their number would be lower
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 08:31 AM
25

same here! although i've made the mistake of telling some of these types i like sweet/nice guys before so not all of them have bragged about it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 10:36 PM
8

Thanks for sharing! I've looked into them out of curiosity and it's basically guys bitter about being denied sex so they have strategies in place to try to trick women into sex. - Their self-worth is tied to how much sex they have. It's pretty pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 10:12 PM
29

Oh wow, so that's what it's like to run into one of those red pill losers in the wild? Damn. I'm so so so sorry you had to deal with that. Now that you found FDS you won't have to be trapped into a relationship with one of those creeps ever again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 09:34 PM
51

Yeah, I wish I told you people change but they don't. My father always had to be begged to pay court mandated support, for school or anything else. I was always put down and always just told to suck it up and stop being whiny. Ever since I cut him off my confidence has soared.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 09:26 PM
41

And we have this one source dedicated to help us navigate this BS and they wet their pants? Over it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 08:27 PM
118

Run ladies run. Seriously then they're shocked when the wife or daughter doesn't play that role.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 08:25 PM
13

Oh damn.. scrotes really do be crazy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 07:18 PM
89

EXACTLY! Hopefully OP keeps helping her out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 06:40 PM
303

she's about to be family as well like.. good for OP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 05:54 PM
14

as the daughter of a NVM i concur!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 05:21 PM
230

men would rather say not all men then keep each other accountable. Then they complain about women who are tired of the same old bs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 05:18 PM
157

you could also make one about men leading women on to use for sex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 03:51 PM
2

why did I read that as Jay leno ahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 11:51 AM
45

truer words have never been spoken
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 11:40 AM
11

I just posted that lmao - so true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 10:01 AM
5

If he has to say he's a nice guy when you first get to know him - He's not a nice guy. (every time.) Ladies run!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 09:59 AM
2

hate his character in the boys, but love the view
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 07:33 AM
11

*grabs popcorn*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 06:37 PM
33

My ex-friend was similar, one guy she had a years long situationship with ass r*ped her, and she still went back. Making a few mistakes especially when you've got nothing to compare it to is fine (happens to all of us), but repeating the same mistakes over and over and never learning your lesson is sad. I think casual sex may harm a woman's mental health.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 06:35 PM
21

my SO is pretty chill, so I mostly hang out in yoga pants/tights and any shirt I feel like wearing. Love me some cute loungewear as well
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 06:14 PM
38

you know, an ex-friend of mine is pro-casual sex and has had countless amounts of it. Didn't make her any happier.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 05:55 PM
42

We've been lied to for so long, it's pretty shocking
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 05:16 PM
1

thanks for the reminder! You're right, I'm still learning FDS principles as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 05:14 PM
195

So true! What scrotes also don't get is that once we experience someone who treats us well why would we ever lower our standards again? edit to add: even someone who just treats us decently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 04:56 PM
147

tried it twice, wasn't worth it. But the media sure made it seem like a lot of fun
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 04:53 PM
12

brown hair, blue eyes = my weakness
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 04:45 PM
1

true, I thought it was funny but didn't realize it wasn't worth sharing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 04:33 PM
6

Right? lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 04:11 PM
11

Is it weird I strangely feel like an official FDS member? lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 04:09 PM
12

damnnnn girl i think he aged decently as well
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 04:06 PM
5

ohhh latin men yum!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 04:04 PM
6

eh.. I'd usually run into attractive f*ck boys in my single days so I just won't purposefully look if I'm single again in the future.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 03:58 PM
17

With time it'll feel better! you've got your whole life ahead of you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 02:53 PM
18

he is fineeeee.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 02:17 PM
64

I mean it was a nice wham bam thank you mam and he stopped texting but I'm fineeee just fineeee *insert forced grin*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 10:41 AM
59

A pet for company, friends, and focusing on charity work is looking better and better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 10:28 AM
13

where do they find these psychos ?? seriously this is just basic level respect in any relationship.. what the..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 09:18 AM
0

Love the episode ladies, keep the podcast going I've never laughed so much! I just listened to 5 episodes in one day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 10:27 PM
45

Same here! So out of their league but I wasn't as confident as I am now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 10:22 PM
4

just discovered it i'm cackling haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 10:17 PM
150

i can't believe i was ever that excited over crumbs of attention from those scrotes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 10:12 PM
33

Here's my free award! Love this list
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 09:35 PM
32

Happy Pride month! and good for you, sounds like you have a HVW. I wish I were Bi! haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 09:22 PM
14

OMG I dated that guy. lolol and I did level up. and he tried to get in touch years later. Wow FDS these same patterns of men exist over and over again I guess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 09:09 PM
15

DAMNNN even in my deepest pick me days I'd never settle for that. Wow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 08:54 PM
25

i cackled at this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 08:33 PM
48

one time I was too busy to meet this guy on tinder, so I had to reschedule twice (I actually wanted to meet but hey I have a life). He started calling me a horse faced bitch (sure lmao), and how dare I reschedule on him since he can have sex with multiple women daily and just fit them in in 20 minute increments. Oh yeah! now I'm going to come running. *eye roll*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 08:25 PM
7

love it! and your nails!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 08:21 PM
8

used to feel awkward about those devices, not anymore. Hello Amazon Prime.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 05:54 PM
25

So scary, in France, one woman dies everyday/every 2 days at the hands of her partner and women being burned alive at the hands of their partners or ex partners isn't unheard of.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 05:43 PM
29

yeah... i'll be fit, age well, and still won't be desperate enough for these idiots
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 05:26 PM
33

she'll learn..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 04:43 PM
45

yeah.. you're fine with not putting in the bare minimum of effort i'm fine with not dating at all
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 12:52 PM
65

What gets me the most is that she's trying so hard to shame others for not being ok with it lmao. Sis if it doesn't bother you ok. But to encourage other women to lower their standards/what makes them uncomfortable is weird.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 11:40 AM
137

oh I moved my fingers to like instagram posts - phew what a workout.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 11:29 AM
79

They don't want us to get animals for company instead of having to settle for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 10:53 AM
10

yeah don't mention it until you think it's safe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 10:51 AM
20

Un related but OP, be safe out there. Men will line up to have sex with a virgin like it's some kind of trophy. Also scrotes will lie and take advantage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 09:21 AM
11

My mum once told me my dad told her on the phone the way I acted around him was like "a seduction" - I nearly puked in my mouth. He's also the sicko who gleefully thought Kim K should have been r*ped. These sickos are out there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 08:43 AM
2

Oh he wants a side piece, so he can have more then one woman. ew
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 08:26 AM
6

I saw a commercial for bumble yesterday and it was advertising it as women having the power and it's never been easier to find a relationship. Sure Jan
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 07:55 AM
103

What a pile of human garbage. She called out for her mum in a traumatic and painful experience and she told him to stop making fun of her for it and he just HAS TO SAY THAT IN FRONT OF OTHERS? wow. Have some self-respect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 07:07 PM
36

ew... look at me I'm so cool going to swingers club. Imagine listening to your kids doing this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 07:01 PM
2

True... nowadays I can't imagine waiting that long either
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 06:48 PM
14

Hmm well if that's her idea of fun I'm not sure what's wrong with that tbh. Maybe not taking so long to propose?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 05:38 PM
15

lmao what? hahahaha what a scrote. Always there for a bro I guess
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 05:30 PM
84

Imagine this crap making you feel good
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 03:45 PM
36

stay strong, you deserve more then some scrote who can't put in the bare minimum of effort
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 03:42 PM
12

oh yep these ones are the hardest to stay guarded from!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 02:19 PM
102

Never going back, I just have to remind myself of my past experience with it to be put off
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 01:54 PM
9

Yes and if they say so during a date as well I know to run now. I used to be way too trusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 01:29 PM
17

yeah they never say "women get X too" do they?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 01:24 PM
11

What's OLD? and I've always been able to spot the obvious ones (muscles, tailored clothes, big photos with all their mates). But I've been duped by the less obvious ones who state "I'm a nice guy". - This is what happens when you lack experience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 01:18 PM
2

Yeah I've got a lot of self love, but to them all that matters is how much sex you get I guess?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 11:30 AM
15

Oh no far from it actually, but It's all the scrotes I run into care about. Which is why I usually focus on myself when I'm single. I just focused on that in my comment above because it's laughable to be seen as a f*mcel when I voluntarily stay celibate when I'm single.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 11:28 AM
41

I've realized it's so pathetic to lead a woman on for sex, like wow you had to trick someone into sleeping with you? you're soooo cool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 11:15 AM
37

You know what I've figured out? they don't hold each other accountable for their shitty behaviour, then they wonder why women say things like "men are trash" and are fed up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 11:10 AM
19

Not trying to brag but: - I have a sweet SO I'm currently happy with. - I'm pretty attractive - Last night me and my SO made a tinder profile for me as a fun expirement (since we were having a debate about the difficulties in the dating world) and in one hour +99 likes I'd have to pay to see and I kept getting matches even though I was being "harsh". - If I was single I could get sex whenever, I choose not too (even when I'm single). - Also not too worried about hitting "the wall" I've got good …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 11:08 AM
11

You hear so much about homeless druggies raping and killing women and others here. This is so reckless. Give them money if you want, but to bring them home??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 09:40 AM
7

I bet he mocks you a bit, and the way he wants you to do things is the way his mum does it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 09:29 AM
1

Um, it seems as though your therapist is trying to stay impartial(that's what they have to do) but also perhaps trying to get you to explain your feelings so that once they're out you don't hold on to them and can move on, if that makes sense. Don't over think it, you just confirmed to yourself that he's a shitty person who wouldn't have made a good friend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 09:26 AM
21

true unfortunately
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 09:18 AM
13

lmao I don't care
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 07:47 AM
45

they're mad we're comparing notes ;)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 07:47 AM
47

tit for tat - I don't care anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 07:30 AM
137

Who are you? me? This sounds exactly how I used to be, now I'm just going to live my life and see what happens
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 09:25 PM
358

and your beard shouldn't be the only part of your head that has hair.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 09:14 PM
8

that's a good point, actually. I'll keep that in mind
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 08:35 PM
34

Hmm.. I'm torn because kissing is fun for me and I don't get hung up on a random kiss. I don't know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 07:57 PM
63

Great post! And with the meal prepping/grocery shopping dates - it's two birds one stone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 07:48 PM
12

Glad you found us! I hope this offers you the support you need
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 07:31 PM
52

When more women stop being people pleasers then maybe they'll step up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 07:24 PM
24

nice reminder! it becomes a reflex to accept things you don't actually want to accept just to be "nice". Unlearn that crap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 05:28 PM
14

Hey if they're trying to bed us as quickly as possible why should we make it easy for them. So over their BS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 04:51 PM
17

So gross. I really hope FDS only grows bigger. A ressource like this is really important for women who just don't have the experience to know better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 12:33 PM
14

That's disgusting. Thinking back, one hookup tried to pressure me into a threesome by trying to invite his friend in the room. Didn't realize it then but had the good sense to at least realize how odd it was and didn't accept it. ALWAYS BE ON YOUR GUARD LADIES.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 12:18 PM
10

I've never heard of that, but I'm sure there's a video out there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 12:07 PM
9

You're being hard on yourself, yes you back slid. But it takes practice to rewire your brain and how you operate. Keep trying, you'll get there eventually.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 11:42 AM
102

I'm thanking my lucky stars right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 11:11 PM
27

I didn't even bother reading it.. holy crap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 10:56 PM
244

So true. I went out on a date with some scrote who said he spent a night or two in j*il because his ex threatened to k*ll herself if he broke up with her or something to that effect, she apparently called the cops and "I WAS THE ONE WHO GOT ARRESTED". I was so sympathetic, dodged a bullet on that one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 09:55 PM
20

So true. I went out on a date with some scrote who said he spent a night or two in jail because his ex threatened to kill herself if he broke up with her or something to that effect, she apparently called the cops and "I WAS THE ONE WHO GOT ARRESTED". I was so sympathetic, dodged a bullet on that one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 09:53 PM
22

I've been on here a few days and it's been such an awakening to how real and true all these experiences/memes/stories are. They're crying because we're finally comparing notes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 09:47 PM
7

"they just want to stay home and watch TV scratching their balls and eating Cheetos." I spit my tea! LOL this !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 09:39 PM
65

I think like many women your mum was socialized to be too nice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 09:34 PM
192

ew.. I'd rather be celibate then deal with this crap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 09:31 PM
14

You'll make new ones. You're better off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 07:37 PM
2

100% it's for that reason. I'm glad your boyfriend is there for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 07:35 PM
17

I'm sorry to read this, you were right in trusting your gut. This guy will take the first chance he gets to r*pe you. I had a knot in my stomach reading all that. Can you get the police involved? what has your boyfriend said? can you move? Avoid this guy at all cost! He will not say it but he wants to give you drugs to lower your guard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 06:59 PM
160

Two things I got from this: 1- your ex is a monster. 2-Your "friends" are not friends. Welcome to a sub of like minded women. I think we all have similar stories.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 04:06 PM
89

so a basic functioning human?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 03:53 PM
12

good on you! kicked my toxic parent to the curb years ago and let me tell you, life has never been sweeter. You can do this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 07:28 AM
24

I burst out laughing. Some of them are so delusional.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 11:28 PM
2

oh.. wow that's what I do too much
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 10:20 PM
20

right? an 80 year old who still expects his wife to look great at 80.. But has he put in the effort? hmm
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 10:19 PM
3

I wish I knew this before lmao - Happy FDS is here for younger women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 07:45 PM
13

whenever they call it "hanging out" that's another red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 07:42 PM
10

You're on the right track! congrats!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 07:30 PM
2

exactly! I'm glad, because I finally got to give tongue lashings/and shut it down with actual self-respect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 07:12 PM
5

good! he's a dud. Also since he's volunteered that information, ask yourself "why would they ghost him?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 07:06 PM
14

You're lovely! and we're here for you. Time really does help!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 06:31 PM
20

this always happens doesn't it. It's happened to me twice already where old scrotes have popped back in when I've been doing well.. It's like they can smell something's different. Edit: make that 3. He's such a scrote I forgot he tried to pop back in
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 06:30 PM
36

Offering them a drink because they're mature..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 06:27 PM
2

you are wiser then most of us were at 17, good job :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 06:09 PM
1

It really does, I wish FDS had been around years ago! Seems like an important guide for women, especially young inexperienced ones. Random articles, friends etc.. will sugar coat things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 06:05 PM
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