And that’s the 🍵👀

MixWide · 2021-06-04T17:28:54+00:00

Risk of contracting an STD from one instance of intercourse:

Disease	Vaginal	Anal
HIV	0.05–0.1% or 4 per 10,000 sexual acts	1.4% or 138 per 10,000
Herpes	0.3-0.7%	No exact data available
Gonorrhea	20%	84%
Chlamydia	4.5%	32%
Syphilis	51-64%	30-60%
HPV	4% per 100 person-months	33.7%-85.7%

Meanwhile we've got that recent finding that women have a 7% chance of orgasm from a first-time hookup with a guy.

driverslicensebyOR · 2021-06-04T17:06:08+00:00

extremely unfulfilling. and dangerous!! being a pickme and believing in sex positivity went hand in hand for me. nothing about casual sex is positive or empowering for women. i sure didn’t value myself then, but i know now!

MissWestSeattle · 2021-06-04T16:36:37+00:00

Yeah I regret my stupid casual sex phase, it did nothing but damage my self esteem, make me hate sex and despise men. Never again

Platipus6 · 2021-06-04T23:33:56+00:00

Having sex on the first date to "test sexual compatibility" is a complete lie, waste of time, and does the exact opposite of what it's meant to.

Of course sex on the first date will be great for the man and his dick will be compatible with 99% of vaginas. But he'll pump and dump and put us in the whore box.

Sex on the first date will be terrible for women who need to feel safe, secure and loved by a man they trust so they can relax and orgasm. She'll realise she was used, be sexually frustrated, and not get the oxytocin and release.

In which case she'll decline to see the man again. Both parties won't want to see each other again after a ONS.

It could have been good if they had gotten to know each other, he had begun to respect her, and she had felt safe, attracted to him and trusted him after a build-up of sexual tension.

But nah. men gotta lie to bust a nut and ruin it for everyone.

oddcharm · 2021-06-04T18:54:08+00:00

Yup. Had to get real with myself instead of lying and putting on a brave face. For starters, 99% of men suck at sex and can’t make you cum anyway! But those same losers left me with lower self esteem that had me second guessing my own worth. Good riddance!

I will no longer lie to myself and pretend I want what casual sex brings. I refuse to be treated like a human flesh light. I don’t even have a single friend who agrees that their casual sex phase was “empowering”

europoor24 · 2021-06-04T16:53:32+00:00

tried it twice, wasn't worth it. But the media sure made it seem like a lot of fun

TellCerseeItWasMe · 2021-06-04T20:43:50+00:00

Why sleep around when it's almost guaranteed that we won't cum?

poppinkitty · 2021-06-04T17:13:14+00:00

Also women should only have sex after being exclusive. And for Libfems saying that they have sex before being exclusive because it's important to them..you can dump the guy after being exclusive if you don't like the sex.

restlessGal · 2021-06-04T22:51:30+00:00

Wanted to add that I feel sorry for anyone in this thread who feels bad because they fell in the trap of “sex positivity”. However, your past doesn’t define you, it taught you something, focus on that and don’t drag yourself down with regret, otherwise you won’t reach your full potential

The past is in the past, the future is bright and limitless!

electroloop · 2021-06-04T16:10:36+00:00

Totally.

As someone who’s an ex cool girl and was okay with casual sex, I can tell you I’m paying the price now. I have extreme difficulties forming emotional connections with men, and it might happen once in a blue moon. When it does happen, I get scared and run away.

Casual sex was the fuel for my intimacy issues. I can admit that shamelessly now.

ketodietclub · 2021-06-04T19:57:15+00:00

Women normally regret casual sex. Men rarely do: it's in their interest to promote casual sex as a societal norm, not ours.

There's also the long list of STDs you can catch, the risk of picking up an violent asshole. The sex will probably suck. The risk of unplanned pregnancy, and abortions are getting harder to get.

Just nah. Save it for someone you want to be with long term. As my mother said to me, "only let a guy fuck you if you are happy to have his baby".

parabenprincess · 2021-06-05T00:09:22+00:00

Libfems helped create hook-up culture tbh under the false narrative that it would be so “empowering and liberating” for women. Men just followed suite and ended up benefitting from it way more than women did.

ColdxConfection · 2021-06-04T20:24:02+00:00

https://changehim.com/the-friends-with-benefits-myth/

Nonsluttymen · 2021-06-05T03:25:25+00:00

The pervasiveness of casual sex in popular culture and entertainment is like the ultimate manifestation of toxic masculinity in this patriarchal society - expecting people, especially women, to do the most intimate of acts with no associated emotion, or repressing any emotion, and somehow being proud of it.

ieattoomuchjack · 2021-06-05T04:28:19+00:00

This! Sex is something special. Not anything to give to just anyone.

Impossible_Mud_7599 · 2021-06-05T02:23:14+00:00

Yeah but FDS is tOxIc

Ok-Appearance5982 · 2021-06-04T22:55:58+00:00

I totally agree with this.

A_Fishstick · 2021-06-05T15:02:49+00:00

The only way I would have a night stand is if I was born a man. That way there's no risk of me being left pregnant, it greatly reduced my risk of assault and STDs, no slut shaming, and I would basically have guaranteed organisms. For women, there really isn't that much physical or emotional benefit for sleeping with a guy so quickly.... outside of pickme validation.

Wiggy_Bop · 2021-06-06T01:06:02+00:00

I personally think they are kind of a horror show for everyone involved, esp depending on how much liquor is involved.

Friends don’t let friends go home with strangers. Male or female. It rarely ends well.

Title	And that’s the 🍵👀
Author	restlessGal
Upvotes	893
Comments	89
Date	June 4, 2021 4:04 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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