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How-To High Valueengineergorl/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 10:04 PM
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DISCUSSIONengineergorl/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 05:11 AM
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engineergorl/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 07:06 AM
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NAH, SISengineergorl/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 10:01 PM
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#JustLVMThingsengineergorl/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 12:20 AM
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PICKMEISHA HALL OF SHAMEengineergorl/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 12:10 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYengineergorl/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 01:40 PM
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Reddit: Sex work should be legalized! We support sex workers! AskReddit: Would you ever date a sex worker? Reddit: No, not like that! And look, I don’t think sex workers should be shamed (but let’s face reality, they always will be) nor that they should be punished by the legal system. However, sex work should not be glamorized or pushed as a viable career to young girls (a la “make an OF when you’re 18 and earn $$$!”). A job should not put you at risk for STDs, rape, or murder. There’s no OSHA …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/22 03:48 AM
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Apparently, “trusting your partner” is an imaginary concept to this scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/22 04:17 PM
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I get what you mean. She wrote in her memoir that she was motivated to pursue her career because of that prenup. However, even though “his family” made her sign it, he 100% backed that shit up. Her prenup could have allowed spousal support, but Ali straight up said she would have been FUCKED if she dropped out of the workplace and they got divorced. And prenup or no prenup, $70k student loans was a bomb waiting to blow up in his face.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/22 04:51 AM
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Honestly, good for her. While I was watching her first special, I literally went WTF at the part where she only found out about her husband’s 70K student loans WHILE THEY WERE TRYING TO GET A MORTGAGE. That 70K had to be paid off before they could get approved, hence why she used her savings to pay it off ASAP. That’s shit she should have been told BEFORE marriage! Not to mention, the student loans were HIS responsibility to pay off since she signed a prenup! It’s kinda funny that the prenup end…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/22 04:01 AM
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Haha, are you Chinese? (Kidding.) I think parents having certain financial expectations of their potential son-in-law is fair. That’s having their daughter’s best interests in mind. They don’t want their daughter facing a lifetime of poverty and financial hardship because she married a broke, unemployed loser. They want their potential grandchildren to grow up in a stable household with all their needs met. A stable job, a car, and (maybe) a house are standard expectations. Finally, expecting th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 08:18 AM
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Yeah, this advice goes for both men and women: don’t marry a financially irresponsible person. Yes, there are people that hide it well, but most of them are pretty obvious about it, like spending money they don’t have.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 05:41 PM
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Her demands are commonplace in China. To be perfectly honest, some women demand more. One city capped dowries at $7450. That is USD! $7450 is 47,000 RMB in a country where the average salary in 2020 was around 97,000 RMB, or $15,300. Some families will specifically save money to help their sons pay these dowries. There’s no welfare or social safety net in China, so not taking finances into consideration when choosing a partner can, in a worst-case scenario, lead to being homeless and starving in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 09:53 PM
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There's being a supportive girlfriend, and then there's....this. What does he do for her other than being a future doctor? She's investing her time, money, and effort into potential...that isn't locked down yet because they're not married. I guess we'll see if he stays with her when he finishes residency and finally gets that doctor income.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 04:41 PM
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Even if we gave him the benefit of the doubt and assumed his intentions were good and innocent and he just wanted to help a coworker out, there’s something called boundaries. I personally would NEVER live with a coworker as a roommate. What if they’re a terrible roommate or a terrible coworker? Imagine having to see the same person at work and at home. My coworkers are all around ten years older than me, and I’m not even friends with them outside of work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 10:11 AM
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Yeah, getting a wife is a bargain for men. A personal shopper, chef, assistant, surrogate, nanny in one that they don't have to pay a fair market salary for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 06:37 AM
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She's making 200k on OnlyFans, but there's no 401k, health insurance, PTO, life insurance, career progression, transferable job skills... The gravy train is going to run out one day (when she ages and starts losing her looks). What if OnlyFans goes bankrupt? Maybe she'll be lucky and make enough for a long time, but after that, what is she going to do? Even if she saves every penny of her earnings and buys a lot of stock, it still might not be enough for retirement. She has no degree, no work ex…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 06:30 AM
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John was married to his wife for 7 YEARS, no kids, no accidents. If he really wanted to avoid having a baby, he knew how (starting with not cheating on your wife).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 10:51 PM
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Eh, I wouldn’t put any celebrity on a pedestal. Success does not equal high value. She’s an entertainer, so honestly anything in her standup should be taken with a grain of salt. I found her specials funny, and am super happy for her success, and that’s about it, really.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 05:54 PM
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In my opinion, she’s somewhere in the middle (relationship-wise). She and her husband got married after 5 years of dating, and she talks about pressuring him to propose in her standup. So, she was on her way to forever-girlfriend territory, but she didn’t buy property or have kids before marriage like a lot of forever girlfriends. She has a joke about packing her husband’s lunch every day so he would be dependent on her, but we all know LVM would just take it for granted. She talked about dating…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 02:53 AM
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6 months is way too early to be planning serious financial decisions with your boyfriend like buying a home or splitting mortgage costs. Even if your boyfriend and you were to come to an agreement now, either of you could change your minds later or the relationship could come to an end before the agreement comes into play. Who knows what things will be like in a year or two? What you need to do is look at your situation, take your boyfriend out of consideration, and consider what you could or wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 02:40 AM
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He can dish it out, but he can’t take it 👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 04:04 PM
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This is hysterical to me. 50/50 in Asian culture? B*tch, where!? In China, men at minimum must have a house, a car, and a stable job in order to find a woman that will marry them (in most cases). Often times, the bride also expects a gift of money ( a 'bride price') to either herself or her parents. Bruh, bride prices got so high at point that one Chinese city had to set a cap of $7k. Can you imagine this ever happening in the West? https://www.nytimes.com/2011/04/15/world/asia/15bachelors.html …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 03:13 PM
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I would have a discussion with your boyfriend about your thoughts on his friends. I don’t think you need to explicitly ask him to cut them out since you said that you yourself have LVM/pick me friends you haven’t completely cut off yet. Just see what his thoughts are and encourage him to spend more time with his new friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 03:46 AM
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Consider your household income and savings, and work out a reasonable budget for a wedding and ring. NEVER go into debt over a wedding or a ring. If your dream wedding is really out of your budget (and by a doable amount), then either save up or downsize. If it's extravagantly out of your budget, then yes, you may need to adjust your expectations. The problem with pickme's is that they take adjusting downwards too far. There's reasonableness, and then there's miserliness and extravagance. Both e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 05:42 PM
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Reminds me of what Reaux (?) suggested on a podcast episode. Tell them you're Christian and pro-life, and that if you give birth, you'll come after them for child support. They'll all do a 180
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 05:02 PM
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If only the poor woman had invested in herself rather than this scrote. Now scrote’s new gf will reap all the benefits of her 13 years of “investment”. There’s a TikToker Miki Rai that has this same setup going on (she’s a nurse, her bf is a resident, she currently makes more money, and he has a hellish on-call schedule). She’s so smart, beautiful, and creative. Even though they look like a super happy, cute couple, I’m kinda terrified that this exact thing will happen to her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 10:00 AM
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Also why you should never marry down or be a Barb the Builder. When a LVM becomes more successful, he finds his “prospects” have improved and all of a sudden, you aren’t good enough for him anymore. Whatever help or connections you contributed to his success, it goes out the window the minute he thinks he can get a younger, hotter woman. If Jason Momoa had never landed GOT or Aquaman, he would 100% still be married.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 09:36 AM
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If it was me, I’d find a hotter, taller, fitter guy and take scrote at his word. He said threesome, but he didn’t specify it had to be the two women, one man variety.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 12:48 AM
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Wow, that’s a big yikes from me if this guy believes in stuff like that. I did wonder how expensive his hobby is. What is the hobby?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 03:37 PM
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Dude needs a grammar teacher first
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 07:57 AM
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I’m honestly a bit confused by his decision to pay for her degree in exchange for her having kids later. Like, did it not occur to him that she might want to USE her degree? Also, it sounds to me like she had doubts about having kids before she did her degree because why make that deal then? I feel like he really should have seen this coming. They should have had an upfront, honest discussion about what the future looked like a long time ago, including who would do the childcare, if either of th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 05:53 AM
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Yeah, what’s this “allowing” bullshit in the TikTok? Oh I know, if you answer no to all of them, you’ll be labeled a control freak. I would expect my partner to have solid boundaries when interacting with other women, that’s it. If he wants to blatantly flirt or push the line with other women, then it’s clear that I’m just a placeholder to him and I am O.U.T.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 05:37 PM
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It would be lovebombing if he’s doing it to get back together with his ex-wife. But from what he wrote, he’s just doing it to set a good example for his kids and show them he still has a cordial and respectful relationship with their mother even though the romantic relationship has ended. That’s a HV action to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 01:39 AM
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OP, you need to turn this into a post!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 01:46 AM
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I don’t agree with this post. I actually see it as the opposite way around: MCU Peter/MJ are the HV relationship, Tobey’s Peter/Kirsten’s MJ are the LV relationship. First, to address the Raimi Spider-Man films, you left out the events of Spider-Man 3. Peter treats MJ terribly in that movie. He kisses Gwen Stacy and after MJ breaks up with him, takes Gwen to the jazz club MJ is performing at and dances with her just to spite MJ. Despite this, MJ goes back to Peter in the end. MJ does FDS approve…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 07:38 PM
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Yeah, it’s not that FDS hates sex work. We hate how it’s become flippantly encouraged, with misconceptions of how easy it is to make a ton of money and idealized notions of it being pushed so that young women don’t look deeper into the dark side of sex work before they jump in. We’re not talking about the women that do sex work as a Hail Mary and it’s the only option they have left because they’ve hit rock bottom. We’re talking about people like the 17-year-olds that can’t wait until they turn 1…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 11:22 PM
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For dates, I think sticking to the "person who asks for the date pays for it" rule is a good bet, but for a lesbian relationship, the both of you should take turns planning dates. Some of the logic that goes into FDS principles doesn't apply to lesbian relationships, but definitely stick to the ones that apply to all relationships - vet for low valueness (like narcissism, laziness, etc.), make sure she gives back the same energy as you to the relationship (effort and enthusiasm!), evaluate if th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/21 11:40 PM
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I think a sweet note or a card would be fine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 04:09 PM
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I hate how choking during sex or “breathplay” has become so normalized through porn. It’s dangerous! How many men actually take the time to learn about the risks? Not to mention, strangulation is a strong predictor of getting murdered by an intimate partner. Any man who truly loves and cares for you will not be down with choking you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 07:16 AM
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It wasn’t a date (even as a naive-ass 18 year old, I knew dating a 30+ year old was off the table. I’d never had an actual job at that age or had to pay bills or even cook for myself, so just the completely different stages of life would have weirded me out.). Also, I was the one who suggested we hang out. So I’m not surprised about the Uber. He did pay for the Uber to the burger place and the food. Again, it was weird, and I never saw him in person again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 06:55 AM
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Yeah, it was probably the 100k job. His ego couldn’t take it, so he just took it out on you to take you down a couple pegs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 06:38 AM
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Yeah, not gonna lie, I made the same mistake too before I found FDS, but it wasn’t a date, it was a male “coworker” at my unpaid internship who was 10+ years older than me. I was in college, and in that part of town for an event, so I got it into my head, “why not pay him a visit?”. So I paid for an Uber both ways, met his rabbits, had a burger with him, and left. Thankfully nothing happened, but it was….weird.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 06:32 AM
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Passivity = low effort. He’s not passive to be nice. He’s fine offloading all the emotional labor and mental load onto you because he doesn’t want to put in any effort. Also, is he magically incompetent at only the things he conveniently wants you to do, or is he incompetent at everything? Does he have a job? Feigned incompetence is a thing men do. By pretending he’s incapable of doing something like cooking or cleaning, he has an excuse to push it off onto a woman. And finally, stop being his m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 06:20 AM
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Going to a stranger’s apartment on a first date is serving yourself up on a gold platter to a potential rapist or serial killer. It’s also the lowest of the lowest effort. He didn’t need to leave his apartment or spend a lot of money on food. Meanwhile, you spent 1.5 hours getting there. He was pissed because he thought it’d be a cheap date until he had to pony up for your Uber ride home. OP, read the handbook again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 06:10 AM
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Man, Tsar Nicholas II and Alexandra were such a HV relationship. It’s just a shame they were shitty rulers that were executed instead of being forced into exile. Nicholas II’s grandfather, Tsar Alexander II, was a LV man that had a mistress Catherine 29 years younger than him that he met when she was 12. Alexander II’s first wife Marie of Hesse was 15 and he 22 when they married. She got sick with tuberculosis and the imperial doctors told them not to have any more sex because she probably would…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 01:24 AM
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I’m guessing that she was fine with doing everything and letting him be lazy back when they had 0 kids. Then the first kid came, and her workload increased while her husband missed the signal to step up. Then the 2nd, and the husband still didn’t change. Why would he, when he knew she would pick up the slack? Then finally after 3 kids, she had enough. This was years in the making. Scrote should have seen this coming.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 01:04 AM
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This is why FDS stans financial independence. As another commenter put it, 6 months pregnant with no job and no money of her own. Leaving isn’t a viable option for her if he ever escalates into abusiveness. If he’s this testy over a drive, oh lord I bet it’ll get worse with a freaking BABY.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 08:28 AM
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He's got dead eyes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 10:19 PM
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I just know that if she ends up proposing, he’s going to say yes, but put off the wedding and make her a forever fiancé. I hate how predictable this whole thing is, but then again, if scrotes weren’t predictable, we wouldn’t be here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 06:01 AM
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Wow, this is the definition of cutting off your nose to spite your face. She’s clearly thoughtful and generous, and this situation could have been resolved in five minutes tops. Instead, this guy decides to torpedo his relationship. I hope she dumps him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 12:47 AM
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Texting him back after blocking him is a big yikes and definitely not FDS at all. ANY contact with an ex after a breakup is a big no-no. Like, yeah, what kind of outcome did you expect? He hadn’t changed, big surprise there! I get that it’s satisfying to “shut him down”, but attention is attention to a scrote, and you’ve just shown him he still lives in your head. That’s a win in his book, no matter how much you’ve called him out. You’re just wasting your time. Just delete his number off your ph…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 04:29 PM
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I wonder what would happen if you sent this screenshot to the scrote’s brother? I would die to see what his reaction was!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/21 06:42 AM
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That’s definitely up there for one of the cringiest pickup lines I’ve seen on the Internet. I’m sorry you have to deal with this, but Jesus, I’m feeling second hand embarrassment for this scrote. Also, the “Jesus Christ that may actually be worse” was hilarious. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/21 06:27 AM
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No matter what a man does, including triple homicide apparently, it’s always a woman’s fault because he said so. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 07:19 AM
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Classic “women can never win”. Man is praised for being “honest” when he wants to take things slow (just emotionally, sex is still on the table), woman that wants to go slow is “leading him on”. Meanwhile, nothing about the man trying to emotionally manipulate the woman into having sex with him. I love reading through the replies and picking out the misconceptions/misinformation about FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 05:55 AM
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I think the person you're replying to has a problem with allergies being used as "the blood in the water", not the blood in the water technique itself. And honestly, she has a point. People don't take allergies seriously because there are people that fake allergies. Plus, using a fake allergy as blood in the water will probably backfire because a LVM can call YOU the crazy one and he'll just think "aha, I was right to sneak her pistachios because the lying crazy bitch didn't actually have a pist…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 07:24 PM
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That really sucks, and I’m sorry you have to deal with this unfortunate situation. However, you didn’t follow FDS principles because a big rule in the handbook is never build a man (“don’t be a Barb the Builder”), which you supporting your ex financially through his PhD violated, and never date based on potential. And this exact situation is why that rule exists. Tale as old as time: girl dates medical student because he’s going to be a doctor someday, girl supports him through medical school an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 08:43 AM
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I don’t think there’s a rule of thumb, but I think it’s fair to say, don’t be excessive and don’t give him anything that will help him turn low value. Case in point, a PS5. Imagine wasting all that time to find one in stock and $1000 (or more, thanks scalpers) of your own money so that your boyfriend can spend his free time playing video games and neglecting you. God forbid he gets an addiction and starts “forgetting” to practice basic hygiene, cook, etc., and dumps all the responsibility on you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 08:11 PM
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I find it extremely satisfying that Henry VIII didn’t leave any legitimate descendants to sit on the English throne. After six wives, he ended up with one son, Edward VI, that died at age 15 and faded into obscurity. How ironic that Henry’s daughters ended up eclipsing the son that he ruined so many people’s lives to get. Hell, Elizabeth I eclipsed Henry VIII himself. She’s lauded for being a great monarch, if not THE greatest monarch England has ever had. She got the credit of the defeat of the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 08:09 AM
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Hey, you should be careful about giving out your phone number. Your phone number can be used to find a ton of your personal information. Give out a Google Voice number or a burner number (lots of apps for this).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 02:00 AM
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This was my first thought too. If OP asked his salary or how much he makes, then he didn’t lie. It’s normal to give the gross number. If she specified his take home pay, then he lied. I didn’t read any defensiveness from the boyfriend from OP’s description. It’s what I would have said too if there was a misunderstanding like this. I think OP may have jumped to conclusions too soon. I do agree with everyone else that she shouldn’t be moving in with a boyfriend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 01:48 AM
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He does 50% of the childcare? Press X to doubt. If I was the wife, I wouldn’t even bother to cook next time. Just tell his guests, “oh, husband didn’t tell me he was having people over. We don’t have enough food in the refrigerator to feed you”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 08:18 AM
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Have enough money to leave. Period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 05:23 PM
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Is it love, or is it codependency and a fear of being alone? Your situation is a classic case of inflating the upside and minimizing the downside. You think the worst case scenario is that you’ll be alone if you dump your bf. The thing is, that worse case scenario has an “out”. Make new friends, date again (this time with FDS in mind), volunteer, etc. If you marry this guy and have kids, the worst case scenario becomes you have to shoulder pregnancy, childbirth, and childcare on top of paying th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 06:20 AM
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So happy that you took the trash out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 07:34 AM
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The "funny" part about slash omegaverse is that the extreme misogyny is projected onto men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 12:42 AM
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Well, RIP. You'll have to wade through a lot of shit to find what you want. Keep in mind that fanfics are fantasies, so people write whatever, whether it's depraved stuff or fix-it wishful thinking. If you're in the Mo Dao Zu Shi fandom and you like Wangxian, this is one of my favorite fics that I think really touches on a lot of FDS themes: https://izanyas.com/2020/05/03/atc-prologue/. Mind the warnings, there's heavy stuff in this fic. It is M/M & omegaverse, but the fic is not explicit. If yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 05:12 PM
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What do you mean "What should i do?" I think your gut is telling you, "Don't go on a date with him". Don't go on that date. Ghost him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 05:04 PM
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…..Shawn Mendez and Camila Cabello were a PR relationship. They broke up because the publicity was dropping and getting old and not enough to save her Cinderella movie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 11:10 PM
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Frankly, we will never find out enough information about any celebrity to be able to label them HV. Labeling celebrities LV is an entirely different ballgame because LV is inherently more obvious than HV (Leonardo DiCaprio never dating a woman above the age of 25, male celebrities cheating on their wives, Arnie Hammer cannibal messages). But to label anyone as HV, you have to know them personally and know what’s going on behind closed doors, or else you end up as a flying monkey that can’t belie…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 08:33 PM
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He has all this money, and what does he decide to do with it? Alleviate world hunger? Fund scholarships? Ahahahaha, no. Sleep with as many women as possible, it is! SMH. Perfect example of a wealthy LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 05:15 AM
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Not going to lie, I’m pretty sure some of Pete’s relationships after Ariana were mostly PR. He is a serial dater, but I’m not convinced that he’s doing the dumping in all cases. His mental health issues and drug addictions are already publicly known. He has BPD and Crohn’s disease. Dude really needs to go to therapy and sort his shit out before dating again. I honestly find the public’s reaction to his relationships more interesting. Like another commenter said, the contrast to Taylor’s dating h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 05:09 AM
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Uh huh, and what happens when the divorce case lands on a misogynistic judge’s desk? What happens if he hides his assets (like transferring them to family)? What happens if he loses it all gambling? What happens if he decides to take a lower paying job just so he can pay her less alimony?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 03:51 AM
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Celebrity and wealthy women are in an entirely different realm when it comes to the question of marriage. Quite frankly, most FDS advice about marriage doesn’t really apply to them. FDS advocates marriage as a statement of commitment and, more importantly, a measure of PROTECTION so that your partner will not be able to leave you in the cold suddenly one day. FDS says to never marry down. A woman of Taylor Swift’s wealth and status will find that very hard to do, and marriage is MORE risky. Look…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 03:39 AM
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But no, FDS is just a bunch of gold diggers, right Reddit? /s Ok, but seriously, wanting to be a SAHM or a housewife is perfectly fine, but women need to understand that it’s riskier than being a career woman because ding, ding, ding it’s always riskier to depend on a man (ANYONE else!) than on yourself. You better have a long term backup plan if, for whatever reason, you end up having to support yourself and your kids on your own. Get a degree, build up a nest egg and put it in the prenup that …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 01:51 AM
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This is why it takes years, not months, before men are even in the running for the HVM label. No, the guy you’ve been dating for 6 months is not a HVM. He may not be a ZVM (zero value) or a NVM (negative value), but he’s got a long way to go and a lot of vetting before earning the HVM label. Men can put up a mask for YEARS. YEARS. It’s a disservice to yourself to be so quick to think of your partner as a HVM when the classic abuser handbook is to pretend to be a HVM to reel you in, then start de…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 05:13 PM
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You may not have the education or experience for a white collar desk job, but don’t sell yourself short. Work ethic, grit, and reliability are all you need to get started. Get a job driving, cooking, cleaning, or housekeeping, be a nanny, etc., anything that doesn’t require a degree, and use it as a stepping stone to the life you really want - independent and beholden to no one except yourself, earning your own money, and spending it however you damn like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 06:51 AM
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You should not be dating for a very long time. You need to get you and your kids independent first, and then go to therapy. Otherwise, you’ll probably end up with another abuser and go through hell ALL over again. Do you have a regular job? Your own income + savings is the way out. Once all your kids are old enough to go school, I would go for housecleaning/housekeeping jobs. See if you’re eligible for any welfare or food stamps. Have the divorce papers been signed yet? Once you’re divorced, if …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 06:41 AM
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I’m so sorry this happened to you. No wonder FDS tends to be ruthless (example: dumping a man that you suspect is cheating even when you don’t have hard proof). Because women always know in their gut. Giving the benefit of the doubt just lets men hurt you more. What a POS. OP, read the handbook. READ THE HANDBOOK. Get rid of all the lingering pickme behaviors. Explaining how much you care about your health and how you’re faithful and giving him a speech and all that did not and will never make h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 06:12 AM
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Not going to lie, I would personally not date a cop. You can search FDS for why we generally avoid them. Talking about kids and marriage is not a first date topic, but I think after a couple months, it's fine to start a discussion. Since you're unsure about kids, now's a good time to see if your boyfriend is dead set on them. If your boyfriend is dead set on kids, tread carefully because once you take the leap, you can't go back. I think best case scenario your boyfriend is fine either way (kids…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 11:58 PM
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Ok, I know FDS has plenty to say about forever girlfriends, but getting engaged after 2 weeks and married at 6 months ain't it either. 2 years is a reasonable milestone to get engaged, not 2 weeks. Moving that fast is just as much of a red flag as waiting 10 years for a ring. I suspect a lot of lovebombing at the start of the relationship. Even LVM can exhibit HVM behaviors. Not living together until marriage is a great thing and is the recommended FDS way, but not when it's used to justify gett…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 11:37 PM
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OP said something about the parents getting tax benefits by selling the home. Presumably, the parents are buying another house to live in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 08:26 AM
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“I had an incredible time working with them”. Of f*cking course they’re going to be nice and professional to a coworker who’s also a famous actress. Lots of abusers act like the nicest people in public because the dumb ones that are known as assholes publicly don’t get any defenders from the community that “can’t imagine him ever doing something like this”. Any smart abuser does all the degenerate shit in private so that it’s just he says/she says and he can call her crazy or a liar and have peo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 06:00 AM
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Oh that makes this whole thing even worse! This is baaaaaaad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 05:46 AM
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Thankfully, most of the comments are telling her not to go for it, but from her comments, she really wants to go for it and may disregard all the advice. This is her childhood home! Can you imagine an ex potentially taking your childhood home hostage? She has an emotional attachment to the home. If they co-own the house, he would be able to force a sale of the house to get his equity out, and clearly she wouldn’t be able to afford to buy him out. It’s currently worth $800k since the parents were…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 05:41 AM
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In most states, your inheritance is not considered marital property unless you do something with it that makes it joint property: put it into a joint bank account, use it to pay off joint debt, buy a house with it, buy jointly owned assets with it. Google it for your state. If you get married, get a prenup anyway and get everything clarified by a lawyer. See, if you’re a low earner, the prenup should protect you financially if your partner ever dumps you (default is 50/50 split of marital assets…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 05:21 PM
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Thank god some states mandate an additional keyless deadbolt. When I’m home, no one, even if they have a key, is getting in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 11:37 PM
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I hope OP has woken up and realizes that she needs to dump this man as soon as possible. Like 99% of the comments here are sympathetic for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 03:51 AM
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That’s right: when you get a job offer, negotiate. Companies will usually initially offer under what’s budgeted for the position or the lower end of the pay band. This is where your room for negotiation is. If you don’t have another offer on the table, just do one round of negotiation (initial offer, you ask for something higher, recruiter comes back to you with a no or another offer, you accept). If you do have another offer on the table, use that as leverage for perhaps multiple rounds of nego…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 03:03 AM
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She’s the one who’s body was found in a field in Wyoming, and he’s on the run from the FBI. But Brian was totally the victim /s. Righttttttttttt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 03:49 AM
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The sad part is…I think I know what university this is because I went there and heard about this too, but when I went on Google to find about what happened to that OBGYN….I found that the rival university also had an OBGYN sexually assaulting patients. Sick fucks. I hope they die in prison like Larry Nassar.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 03:44 AM
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Poor Gabby. Just 22. Had been with her abuser since they were teens. She was too inexperienced and dug in too deep with him to know better. He might have been her first serious, long-term relationship if she got engaged that young. Sometimes, it takes experience to learn, and she never got the chance because the scrote killed her or left her to die rather than cheat or dump her. She was probably gaslit by his family as well when they lived together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 05:06 AM
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This is….creepy. “Genny” probably doesn’t even remember this guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 04:40 AM
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This is great! For freezing eggs, you should definitely include a costs breakdown since retrieving them is very expensive ($8k and up!) and storing them is around $500-600 A YEAR (I got these estimates from Google). Furthermore, when you choose where to store your frozen eggs, you may have to distribute them across a couple different facilities so that if the refrigeration at one fails, you don’t lose all those eggs (this has happened!). Assistive reproduction is $$$$.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 10:31 PM
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"Rising threat". Ha. This shit has always been around. In 1989, a 25-year old male engineering student killed 14 women, most of them also engineering students because he "hated feminists". https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/École_Polytechnique_massacre
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 12:09 AM
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This is why the #1 piece of advice in "The Gift of Fear" is "trust your instincts!". If it "feels" like a huge red flag, then it is!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 12:02 AM
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I nuked my account completely of all my posts and comments just to be safe because I think I gave away way too much about myself before. However, my flair changed from FDS Newbie to PickmeishaTM :( afterwards I think because my FDS karma is now all gone. For tech-savvy FDSers, I used Shreddit (https://github.com/x89/Shreddit) to mass-delete everything. Shreddit not only ensures everything gets deleted, it also replaces your posts and comments with random text to make them unviewable in things li…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 11:59 PM
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Guns are basically non-existent in Asia, and it’s rarer in general for individuals to “act out” in public in collectivistic societies. Emotional and verbal abuse is perfectly acceptable as long as it’s behind closed doors, but committing a crime that lands you in prison or hitting your SO in public brings shame on your family. If you do something wrong, people will also put the blame on your parents, deserved or not, for “raising you wrong”. Everything, especially your kids compared to other peo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 09:06 AM
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OP, what book is this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 06:33 PM
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The scrotes that complain that women only go for a small portion of men because their standards are too high are the SAME men that go “she should have known better” or “why did she date him in the first place?” when a man killing/beating/stalking his gf/wife/ex makes the news. Newsflash, you don’t get to victim blame when you’re also the ones pushing the message of “not all men”, “give men a chance!”, and “women should be less picky!” When women give garbage men a chance, they run the risk of ge…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 06:12 AM
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Wow, Elise Matsunaga’s husband literally fucked around and found out. He cheated on his first wife with Elise, and surprise, surprise, cheated on Elise too. Elise is rightfully in prison, but I have no sympathy for the husband. Just another rich abuser asshole that thought he was immune from consequences, like Betty Broderick’s ex husband.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 05:53 AM
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I think there are a lot of useful subreddits that cover different aspects of adulting. For example, you can go to personalfinance, povertyfinance, etc. (specifically their FAQs first) to get an idea of how to manage your finances. You can go to eatcheapandhealthy, gifrecipes, etc. for cooking. There's even the adulting subreddit, although I can't vouch for how helpful it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 05:52 PM
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The answer is...complicated. There's a subreddit cscareerquestions. You can read about people's personal experiences and the paths they took to land a job in the tech industry. It sounds like you're already in college since you're talking about switching majors. In that case, if you want to be a software engineer, then yes, switch to computer science. DON'T DROP OUT unless it's for financial reasons. Completing a computer science degree is "the path of least resistance". You'll have an easier ti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 05:47 PM
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You could freeze your eggs now and consider going the SMBC (single mother by choice) route when you get old enough that infertility becomes a concern. Honestly, there's nothing wrong with being worried, because having kids in a marriage with a HVM would clearly be THE best case scenario for you. SMBC would be the next tier scenario. However, it's an issue when women get so desperate that they're willing to have kids with a LVM/NVM. 99% of the time, your quality of life is better off being childf…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 05:24 PM
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Ah ok, I hadn’t considered that. If that is the case, then I have more understanding for OP. I hastily judged that OP’s post was low effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 09:42 AM
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If you had the time to type all of this out, you also have the time to go back and edit this. A couple typos is no big deal, but typos and incorrect grammar every other sentence make this post difficult to read and difficult to understand. As for men hiding their porn use with incognito mode, I wouldn’t worry because there will be other telltale signs of pornsickness. If he’s locking himself in his room for hours, going through all the tissues, and having trouble in bed, you won’t need his brows…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 08:02 AM
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Here you go, and I have to preface this with a trigger warning bc it’s even more revolting than this post: https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/nods2d/saw_this_on_my_instagram_feed_and_im_completely/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 06:15 AM
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Abusive piece of ****. This gives me the exact same vibes as the report card guy (he killed his wife, and a crime scene cleaner Instagram posted a pic of the “report card” he so lovingly /s wrote for her). Let him who is without sin cast the first stone SMH.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 01:35 AM
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19k a year for 6 years is 114k. So assuming he’s been making the same salary and doing this for 6 years, he walks away with a 401k worth at least 114k, while she’s in the negative because she could have been contributing to her own retirement savings instead of doing 50/50.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 04:25 AM
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I wouldn’t want to be like previous generations of my family. Polygamy was outlawed in China only after the communists took over in 1949. Secondary wives were status symbols and sources for more heirs (which had a lower status than the main wife’s children) and sexual gratification. My great grandfather had the gall to have two wives. My great grandmother was the “main” wife, and basically had to keep having kids in order to get a son. Five kids, 3 daughters in a row and then 2 sons. The 2nd wif…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 01:26 AM
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We all know he’s paid her $0 for all his shit she’s cleaned up. And she’s taking money out of her “fun money” fund to give to him? Oh, honey no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 11:47 PM
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This right here is also why FDS says you should never have children with a boyfriend. A boyfriend has not yet demonstrated long-term commitment to YOU. Furthermore, you will not have the legal benefits of marriage. This guy is a scrote, but gf should have never given him a child. He says he’ll be “there 100% for his child”, but how much do you want to bet he’ll be a weekend dad that resists paying child support? SMH to this couple.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 07:23 PM
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Going ahead with buying a fake PhD has more potential of blowing up in his face than working out for him. Scrote could be getting set up as a fall guy, or he finds himself flailing in a job he was originally unqualified for, or his fake credential is found out and he's fired.... I wonder what the BIL's angle is here? Supposedly, BIL works for a "large corporation", but this scrote is ONLY getting $180K for a "C-level" position? There's no way. Scrote is either exaggerating the "large corporation…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 04:08 PM
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hIS Is cUtER???? HIS IS CUTER?????? girl, no. Not only are you devaluing your own work, you're doing it by coddling his ego. Fam, we have eyes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 04:08 PM
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Considering it's clear OP was listing off those qualities based on herself, the 2nd part of this comment is negging OP for her education and multilingualism. OP already extended an olive branch with the "I'm a bookworm" comment, so this response was just unnecessary. A short critique that OP was being too specific and not considering diverse circumstances (like not having the money and time to get a degree or more degrees) would have been enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 12:58 AM
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I think I needed this because I think FDSers (including myself), or at least a lot of the women who post about finding FDS, are very quick to label themselves HVW just because they know FDS principles now and plan to follow them. Dating is just a small aspect of being a HVW. We don't label men HVM so quickly, why are we so quick to hand out the HVW label? I've taken a long look at myself, and realized that while I'm not a LVW, I'm not as HV as I thought. While I think I have the character, kindn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 12:38 AM
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Lol, listen to everyone here, hugging coworkers is NOT normal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 06:22 AM
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You should wait until you’re no longer her manager. If things become awkward after you have a conversation with her, because girls that are in DEEP like this rarely react well to well-meaning advice, then at least you don’t have to see her again at work. Definitely have a conversation and try to get her to see she’s going too fast and too deep. However, who knows if she’ll take the hint and reconsider the relationship. It’s just, UGH. 1. Quitting a job for a boyfriend, NOT EVEN A HUSBAND, smh. I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 12:20 AM
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You’re lucky “Adrian” didn’t string you along for 7 years like he did to his girlfriend before you. Seriously, you should be thanking your lucky stars (and Shawn!) that he blocked you. If he hadn’t crossed the line of blatantly broadcasting how little of a shit he gave about you, maybe you wouldn’t have seen the light and you’d still be in love with him. I’m glad you’re free of him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 09:08 AM
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...two dates? I hope someone pointed out that LVM are perfectly capable of pretending to be HVM to reel women in and then pull a bait-and-switch as soon as they can get away with no effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 04:13 AM
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Picking the restaurant yourself is still leg work. Tell the next man your preferences (Chinese, sushi, Italian, Thai, BBQ, etc.) and HE finds the restaurant. The only thing you should have to do is approve the restaurant. If he picks a cheap place or a fast food chain, you know to cancel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 10:31 PM
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Lol, I’ve noticed this too! Newbies constantly posting about how the guy they’ve just met is totally a HVM just bc he didn’t show any red flags after 5 dates SMH.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 10:20 PM
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Yeah, I found it in the New York Post. I did some research, and yeah a bunch of tabloids misrepresented the WHO report. This was not in the New York Times. The actual quote in the WHO report is: “appropriate attention” should be given to the prevention of drinking alcohol among children and adolescents, as well as “among pregnant women and women of childbearing age”. Also, a little suspicious that the alcohol lobby, the “Portman Group”, is the one crying sexism. Don’t worry, I’ll start protestin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 03:19 AM
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Link the article please.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 03:06 AM
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I recall that OP was reacting to an “article” of the World Health Organization. It’s not like alcohol is banned now for women. Plus, it’s the WHO. It’s a bit much to jump to the conclusion that the WHO suddenly wants to oppress women. Like maybe that guideline is because the WHO is trying to improve women’s health? OP should link that article so we can see what it says.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 03:06 AM
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Girl, calm down! Alcohol is pretty bad for everyone in general. When you drink, alcohol goes straight to your bloodstream and your brain. And actually, women who binge drink end up with bad outcomes like liver failure sooner than men who binge drink do, so alcohol affects women worse than men. Nothing to do with childbearing ability. Lol I’ll say it again. CALM DOWN
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 02:11 AM
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I think it would be hard to prove she didn’t know about the debt, a “he-said, she-said” thing, but that’s definitely something for a lawyer to answer!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 03:36 AM
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I think OP is concerned she won’t be able to return to the US.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 03:32 AM
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You need to consult an immigration lawyer (email one with a short summary of your situation) and focus on getting a green card (or whatever immigration status you're entitled to being married to a US citizen). I'm not sure why your husband's debt and IRS issues would affect YOUR immigration status/application, and you need to talk to an immigration lawyer to see if this is true or your husband is just lying to you to keep you in this shitty situation. As for your husband's debt, if it was incurr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 03:22 AM
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If you haven’t read the handbook yet, please do! There’s more great advice in there. But yes, you didn’t do anything to make him change for the worse. You definitely don’t deserve to be treated like shit by ANYONE. I’m proud of you for putting your foot down, and feeling hurt initially is normal, but eventually you’ll see that giving men any emotional reaction or sympathy won’t do anything. Stay unbothered, newbie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 03:21 AM
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I have faith in you that you can keep leveling up.👏 I’m so sorry you had such terrible experiences and traumatic events with men. Always focus on your happiness and don’t be apologetic about it . There’s nothing wrong with focusing on yourself. Finally, a man “down on his luck” should not be dating in the first place because he should be focusing on improving his own situation first and hustling. So for all the ladies out there, don’t date broke/unemployed/“down on his luck” men. You’re not obli…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 11:32 PM
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Honestly, there’s no one consistent place to find them. The podcast talking about this was hilarious. You pretty much just have to live your life. HVM are rare, and there’s lots of LVM to crowd them out. It can be a hard pill to swallow, but the truth is that you may never come across a compatible HVM. The way I see it, I’d rather be single than stuck with a LVM that makes me do 50/50 on finances while sticking me with 100% of the housework, cleaning, pregnancy and childbirth, and childcare on t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 11:00 PM
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Hey, CS is my wheelhouse, and I’m a software engineer (still new, but I went through the job search song and dance). I don’t know what your current situation is now (looking for a job or already employed, etc.), but if you want to talk about anything career related, you can DM me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 10:51 PM
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This brings tears to my eyes. I’m so incredibly happy for you! Congratulations, queen! 🎉🎉🎉 You ARE empowered. If you need any career resources/advice (generic, no identifying details), reach out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 10:36 PM
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If you have to “get” a man to be the giver, you’re already doing it wrong. FDSers do not “nag” or “build a man”. You don’t need to waste your effort trying to change a man. It’s a waste of time, and the next woman will enjoy the “new and improved” man. Lol, throw the whole man away. Dump him. And if you can’t find someone who meets your standards, stay single, happy, and free. Never compromise the BARE MINIMUM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 10:25 PM
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Remember, words are wind. Promises don’t mean shit. He’s going to say he’ll change, that he’ll treat you better, how could you do this, blah blah. Whatever he says to try to get you to stay, start off with the assumption that’s he’s lying and willing to say ANYTHING to manipulate you into not leaving. There’s a lot of good advice in the thread. Here’s my piece. Once you leave, NEVER speak to him again or meet up again. NEVER. NEVER. NEVER. So many women have been murdered after successfully leav…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 10:14 PM
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All this is doing is giving men who strangle their girlfriends to death during sex a pass. “I didn’t know what I was doing!” “I didn’t think pressing that hard would hurt her!” “She wanted me to choke her!” Wait for all these excuses to be rolled out in court. Absolute clowns, both the men and the pickmes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 04:14 PM
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I know right, the both of them are in the same tax bracket (which is FDS compliant), and the guy is STILL like this! Their combined income is 250k a year! Also, ultimately who’s the one digging for gold? He is. She makes ~30k more than him A YEAR. As he said, after they get married, “her money is our money”, so he’ll be making up the difference in less than a year. And if they divorce in a couple years and split half, he’ll definitely be up at least 20k.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 06:00 AM
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So you’re telling me SHE makes more than him and the difference between their salaries is bigger than the cost of the engagement ring she wants, $20k. Aha. Ahahahahahahahahaha. He’s such a clown: “our money”, but he clearly still doesn’t think his money is hers, just the other way around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 01:38 AM
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Yes, we should ditch fuckbois. Unfortunately, men are liars and cheaters so sometimes it’s hard to tell initially but nOT aLL mEn rIGhT lurkers!? One way around the HPV problem is to insist he’s vaccinated for HPV and check his vaccination record. It won’t be 100% foolproof if he already has one strain of HPV, but it will prevent him from getting more strains.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 07:21 PM
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Yep, every dude you sleep with needs to show you a recent STD test, and ONCE is not enough if you keep sleeping together. Nah, even if he’s only with you, he should still get regular STD tests. Some STDs lie dormant, and you don’t want to get a nasty surprise!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 06:04 PM
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One more quick suggestion. Maybe this is out of your wheelhouse, but it’d be great if you could add on a post about inheritance in different situations (married, not married, he dies, you die) and how to protect your assets for your children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 01:52 AM
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YES! Ladies, no matter what your situation is - single, married, divorced, etc. - TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR FINANCES. Never let someone else manage your finances. YOU are responsible for knowing what‘s in your bank account, your retirement accounts, your bills, your TAXES. How much are you willing to let anyone steal from you for the peace of mind of not thinking about or dealing with your finances? Believe me, if there’s an opportunity, a cheater will take it ALL. It doesn’t matter if your husband i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 11:46 PM
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Scenario 1 and 2 still apply even with life insurance. But yes, if you are married and have kids, make sure that both you and him have term life insurance, with his policy having a bigger payout than yours. Consider passing the payout of YOUR life insurance policy to your children via a trust instead of directly to your spouse (if your spouse remarries and then dies, half of that insurance payout goes to his new wife). If you don’t have kids, you probably don’t need to take out life insurance on…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 06:47 PM
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One thing a lot of traditional wives and SAHMs forget is that the arrangement can be as great as possible (he hands over 100% of his income), but it won’t mean squat when he either 1) loses his job 2) becomes unexpectedly disabled and unable to work or 3) dies. Trad wives and SAHMs are only secure as long as their men are able bodied and able to work to provide an income. Maybe he was smart enough to put enough in savings and pay off the house to provide you a nice inheritance, but maybe he wasn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 08:26 AM
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And they call US gold diggers!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 01:29 AM
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Yeah, you have the right of it. Blind is toxic. A lot of comparing salaries, a lot of whining about their social life or dating life 😂 I only go there for salary info because even though it’s anonymous it requires a work email to sign up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 11:44 PM
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😡 Is FDS the only all-female sub on Reddit? Maybe FDS should adopt all the female subreddits infiltrated by men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 09:21 PM
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I know, tech can be a minefield and the workplace experience for women can be very different depending on the team and company they end up in. I hope more women entering tech will eventually decrease the amount of hostile workplaces. I think I lucked out. All of my other coworkers are men, but they’re older, married, and have kids, plus we’re all remote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 06:08 PM
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CodeAcademy is great, but I also recommend w3schools (w3schools.com/html/default.asp). The nice thing about HTML is that it follows a mostly consistent format with opening and closing tags. If you don’t get anything right away, don’t feel discouraged! Honestly, it takes a few tries to really understand how to code on your own without following a tutorial step by step. My first try, I just copied programs out of a Java book and ran them all. One thing, HTML is technically not a programming langua…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 06:04 PM
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This is why I 100% support more women in STEM. My company gives around 4 months of maternal AND paternal leave (paid!) on top of the FMLA 10 weeks for pregnancy-related disability. Tech companies have some of the best women-friendly benefits (Facebook offers 10k just for fertility benefits).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 05:49 PM
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If you want any help or advice, let me know in a comment! I’m a software engineer, so maybe I can point you in the right direction or just explain some concepts. Code Academy is a good step! What language did you try?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 04:03 PM
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Unfortunately, he probably does make that salary. He could be lying about his hours though. This is on Blind, a platform where mainly software engineers bitch anonymously about their salaries, companies, life, etc. and accordingly love to one-up each other on whose salaries and benefits are better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 03:41 PM
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Ah Blind, never change.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 03:14 PM
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He makes more than enough to hire a cleaning service or a maid......
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 03:13 PM
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This is a a standard term in tech because software engineers don’t just get paid a salary, they usually get restricted stock units and an annual bonus as well. So “total compensation” is all of that added together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 03:09 PM
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Yes, he should have the vaccination, but keep in mind that if he already has HPV, the vaccine won’t treat it. He can still pass HPV to you, so please make sure you’re also vaccinated!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 06:49 PM
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If he’s taking you on a proper dates at a restaurant and paying the bill, then he’s spending money on you. When relationship becomes more serious, then I think it’s ok to ask for money, but there should be a legitimate reason. Don’t do 50/50.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 06:39 PM
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If you’re making a post on Reddit, then your gut feeling is probably right. Yeah, listen to everyone here and drop him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 06:37 PM
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Here’s my report card for this murderer: Being a HVM - F Being a good husband - F Not murdering your wife - F Overall - F The nerve of this abuser! I bet he wouldn’t have tolerated his wife making a report card for him, but we all know abusers are the biggest hypocrites.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 06:28 PM
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The “algorithm” doesn’t do anything without being fed data first. I wonder what your potential LVM is looking at on Instagram that the “algorithm” thinks he’ll be interested in content like that. If he’s viewing a certain type of post often, then the algorithm sees that bringing up those posts will make him more engaged. Have you seen his likes and comments? Here’s a good article: https://www.google.com/amp/s/blog.hootsuite.com/instagram-algorithm/amp/ Don’t worry though, LVM usually reveal them…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 04:20 AM
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Plus, when you do only OF, you expose yourself to an insane amount of risk to your safety. You could attract stalkers that try to relentlessly find you in real life. What if you get recognized in real life? Your nudes are reposted to Reddit and stay on the Internet forever even after you delete your OF. You’re going to be worrying about that OF for the rest of your life long after you stop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 06:50 PM
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Also look up yourself and ask yourself how much personal information you want out there. Stalkers can also use your public records and piece together your social media to infer a lot of other things about you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 06:27 PM
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Circumstances can change abruptly, like a sudden medical emergency, getting laid off from your job, a recession like 2008, or a pandemic. If these dads had adequate finances when these girls were born, then I can understand things out of their control negatively impacting their finances. If this was the case, then I would expect HVM to be striving to improve the family’s situation. We simply don’t know their circumstances just from watching videos. Now, if they were broke when they had a kid, I’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 06:10 PM
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Ask yourself what are the risks that are going to apply to every man into extreme adventure sports like BASE jumping or even going way too fast on his motorcycle? There are two worst-case, but likely going to happen someday scenarios. 1. He dies. Great, now you’re a widow and potentially a single mother. Since he probably wasn’t retirement age, he hasn’t had the time to build up an adequate inheritance to take care of whatever children you may have had with him. If there are no kids, you’re not …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 06:44 AM
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Alternatively, there’s also Google Voice and burner phone apps that redirect phone calls from a proxy number to your real phone number.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 01:56 AM
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Why do men need women to “push” them to become better? The “men are so helpless!” notion that so many pickmeishas have is patronizing AF. Yes, I know men like to maintain the delusion to get out of doing more work, but I’d be so insulted lol. HVM will already be striving for money, education, future, and goals before he ever meets you. Don’t be like Barb the builder here. She’s going to “prosper with him”, and he’ll take that prosperity with him to another woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 01:36 AM
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DO NOT MERGE ANY OF YOUR FINANCES TOGETHER UNTIL YOU ARE MARRIED. No, engagement is not enough. Engagement does not give you any legal protections. Take this with a grain of salt, but my advice: 1. Have your own accounts that only you can access that your paychecks go into. NEVER direct deposit your paychecks into a joint account. A joint account should only hold money for expenses. 2. If you decide to split expenses, don’t do 50/50. Do it proportionally. Add your incomes together and divide you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 05:48 AM
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Yep, proportionality matters too! A couple thousand dollars is nothing to a rich guy, so generosity can also be a double-edged sword and a red flag if it’s part of lovebombing. Ultimately, his character is the most important thing. If he is a well adjusted and stable person, then full time employment, good money management, cleanliness, neat and organized living space, etc. should flow from that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 05:09 PM
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When it comes to money, the two things I want to see most are 1. responsibility and knowledge of money (he has to know budgeting, retirement accounts, taxes, etc.) and a healthy sense of money (no gamblers, WSBers, or pathologically cheap men) and 2. his salary is higher than mine and he has a stable career (sales has high, but unpredictable income, so sales is unstable). This is the very bare minimum. Honestly, his generosity and willingness to provide are more important than how much money he …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 03:28 PM
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Women live longer than men anyways 👀 Even if you do find a man, he’s probably going to die before you. So HE won’t die alone, but you will. Edit: Also, do you know how often people pass away unexpectedly? Accidents, heart attacks, COVID, suicide, murder, etc. Imagine putting up with a NVM to not “die alone”, and then he dies of a heart attack at 59. You’re free, but you’re back at square one of “not dying alone”. Not to be morbid, but maybe you’re the one who passes unexpectedly. Do you really w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 07:01 AM
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Thanks for the gold! Don’t feel too guilty, you won’t make the same mistake with the next guy! Lots of FDSers have learned FDS lessons through experience with people like your ex. Keep leveling up ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 04:34 AM
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For all the ladies out there, you should only enforce your boundaries once. If your boundary is your bf not following Instagram models and OnlyFans girls, you should only have to tell him once that you’re not ok with it, and NO ARGUING. “Endless requests for him to unfollow...which only happened after much arguing and many, many requests from me”. If he truly cared about your boundaries, he would have unfollowed after the first request without argument. IF HE WANTED TO, HE WOULD. And then the ga…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 04:20 AM
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This 🤣🤣🤣 And for the lurkers out there, no, not even six figures is golddigging. Six figures is middle class because America has gotten so expensive AF. You have to get into the millions to enter gold digging territory.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 01:45 AM
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Yep, this situation is why we CONSTANTLY vet and never let up. Just because he acts nice and perfectly in the beginning does not automatically make him a HVM. Narcs can put on a HVM act (even for a couple years!) in the beginning to hook you and get you to trust him and lower your guard. Once he has you, the devaluing begins and he uses your love and trust as a shield while he’s tearing you down. I’m so sorry this happened to you OP, and I hope things only go up in the future for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 01:31 AM
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So proud of all the queens here. Even if you don’t have all the things other commenters have listed, that’s ok too! Focus on leveling up and motivate yourself, and one day you’ll have them too. Don’t let a scrote distract you from the prize: a happy, healthy, wealthy you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 01:26 AM
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Lol FDS’s disgust did not materialize in a vacuum. FDS is disgusted because men do disgusting things to women, the worst of which are rape and murder. Even if all men magically became high value tomorrow, FDS would still need to exist as a woman-only space.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 02:49 PM
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Yup, they will say single moms should have known better than to sleep with a deadbeat, but then complain that our standards are too high. Fam, we are trying to avoid becoming involuntary single mothers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 10:09 AM
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A list would be so helpful! Here’s mine: nervous/shy/afraid when OP describes him as good looking. attractive men will not be afraid they can’t attract women asking OP what she was doing after...hmmmm...maybe testing the waters to see if she’s up for sex that night. Nice dodge OP, going to bed by 9 pm asking where OP lives...after only having known her 2 hours tops, and then AGAIN after they meet up a second time offering to walk OP to her car again after she said no the first time...kinda remin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 09:55 AM
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It’s the combination of virtue signaling and bashfulness that did it for me. It’s...too performative. It’s so easy to say anything about yourself. A man who actually respects women does not need to say that he does, it will show through his actions and expressions/demeanor eventually in the long run.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 09:07 AM
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😧😧😧 WHaaaaaaaaT? Ugh https://www.pinkvilla.com/entertainment/hollywood/john-mulaney-reportedly-dating-olivia-munn-days-after-announcing-his-divorce-anna-marie-tendler-736465 FDS says it over and over again: men don’t leave unless they already have another woman waiting in the wings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 08:54 AM
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Google organizations that help sex workers leave the industry and look for any possible ones that are in your geographical area. I found this one in the Dallas-Fort Worth area (https://www.newfriendsnewlife.org/women) that has a resource center that women not in the area can use (https://www.newfriendsnewlife.org/resources). Best of luck to you!!! You can do it!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 08:40 PM
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Ohhhhhhhh. Thanks for clarifying. Lol, I’m glad she was 17, not 13, but the situation is still as gross 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 06:28 AM
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Asians are on a different level when it comes to aging. I can’t think of a single Asian man who has hit the wall.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 06:24 AM
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All that work for a beautiful egg to grow into a LVM 😫
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 06:22 AM
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WTF, a FOUR year relationship as a SEVENTEEN year old??? So this girl was 13 when she started dating a 30 year old man!? Is she Margaret Beaufort (look up how old this chick was when she gave birth to Henry VII 🤮)? HER MOM dated this creep!? Wow, I’m more angry at the mom than the creep. Who’s worse, the predator or the pickme enabling him. For everyone who sees absolutely nothing wrong with this situation: what do a 13 year old and a 30 year old even remotely have in common? She can’t even lega…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 06:16 AM
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Not to stereotype, but have you considered Asian men? As I read your comment, I couldn't help but think of Ali Wong talking about this in her Netflix special: https://youtu.be/yRHjWFtYGyw?t=164 "It's like making love to a dolphin." -Ali Wong
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 10:26 AM
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To be fair, I’m pretty sure the main reason why employees don’t really have to give notice to employers is because of the existence of “at-will” employment in America. In an “at-will” state, your employer can fire you at any time for any reason without having to establish “just cause”. It’s an extremely shitty practice that enables toxic workplace practices that hold people’s jobs hostage. It’s unreasonable to expect employees to extend the courtesy of a two months notice when employers can fire…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 06:46 AM
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If you can, start looking for your next job and interviewing. DON’T let any of your coworkers or managers know you’re job hunting if you do this. Once you have an offer with a concrete start date, ditch your current job. Btw, whether you give two weeks notice is up to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 02:53 AM
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OMG you were the one that wrote the original post! I have to applaud you, I HOWLED with laughter when the hosts read your writing out loud.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 07:43 AM
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Lol as recently as 100 years ago in China, polygamy was legal, common, and “high status” because supporting multiple women and the additional children meant the man had money. Technically, he had a “main wife”, but his mistresses could be given legal status as his secondary wives or consorts (“concubines”) to be part of his household (which meant he was legally obligated to support their living expenses and children). So yeah, cheating was basically an institution, and wives had to live together…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 08:51 PM
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This woman gave him $200k+ (!!!!!) to pay off his gambling debt. WTF. It’s sad she had to abort her baby because she was so injured and needed heavy doses of medication.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 07:27 PM
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Funny thing is there’s a TIL Reddit post going around about how Bill Gates apparently made a deal with his wife where he could take a vacation with his ex-girlfriend once a year. Which he did, every year, for more than a decade now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 11:00 AM
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How do you deal with these types of LVM in the workplace? I guess this one isn’t your direct manager, but if you get a manager like this, do you have any tips? This is one of my fears as someone in tech, which skews heavily male, and you know how tech bros are. My instinct is to just document, document, document.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 11:55 PM
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The same guys calling her shallow and materialistic for expecting a real, quality ring will upvote and applaud girlfriends buying their boyfriends PS5s for Christmas and say, why won’t my girlfriend get me one too????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 12:33 PM
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Oh. Ohhhhh nooooooooo. Oh no no no no. Dating coworkers is a terrible fucking idea!!!!!!!! Good on you for dialing back from the LVM. But seriously, dating in the workplace is way too risky. Even going on a first date with a coworker is already too risky. Breaking up sucks, but I guarantee you breaking up with a coworker will suck even more. There’s no block and delete with a coworker. He knows where you work! You have to see him at work regardless of how the date or relationship turns out. He c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 12:26 PM
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Queen energy 🔥🔥🔥 I only brought up the “hard to work with” bit because I was thinking that kind of gossip would hurt your chances of promotion if it reached your manager. I’m very junior, <1 YOE, so it’s the first thing that occurred to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 12:02 PM
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It hurts to say, but not all women are HV. Plenty of pickmeishas and narcissists out there. Give women the benefit of the doubt, but vet them too because shitty friends can also suck the life out of you like a LVM can. With friendships as with relationships, prioritize yourself first and only give as much of yourself as you have to give.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 02:29 AM
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Yes, they 100% felt superior to you. Funny thing is, I bet they would have still looked down on you if you were a man for being a designer, but they would have given you a modicum of respect for being a “bro”. As a developer myself, I sometimes fall into the us vs them mentality myself because I get jelly that designers don’t have to deal with coding headaches. You designers have to deal with a different set of headaches, though. Do you think they call you a bitch behind your back? Be careful ab…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 02:21 AM
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I’ve heard that there’s still stigma around divorce in India. You go, queen! I hope you don’t get too much shit for being divorced, and I’m sure your life will only go up from here without deadweight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 01:28 AM
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I think this is why the handbook says we have to vet CONSTANTLY. There’s no goalpost a man can reach before we stop vetting because a man can suddenly flip and be LV 20 years into marriage. As long as you continue vetting, you don’t have to worry about your pick me thoughts turning you back into a pick me. Remember, niceness is a choice, not a personality trait, and it doesn’t necessarily mean HVM because the best manipulators will use their niceness to let your guard down. Finally, reread the h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 06:28 AM
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If you’re worried about having children one day, and it’s financially feasible, freeze your eggs. If you don’t find a man “in time” or give up on finding a HVM, use a sperm donor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 01:55 AM
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Go to a male (and/or gay) strip club a la Magic Mike too. Or...a co-ed strip club with both male and female dancers if those exist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 12:54 PM
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I think the royal family was actually very welcoming to Meghan, and it’s well documented that they gave her many privileges (like an invite to Sandringham) that even Kate Middleton hadn’t gotten. The queen had her personal aide give Meghan 6 months of “duchess” lessons. The narrative that it was the royal family that drove Meghan and Harry out is quite new. I remember when Meghan and Harry were saying they wanted to leave because of the media invading their privacy. Of course the royal family wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 08:09 PM
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And anyone who points out that women should not make the first move gets downvoted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 06:52 AM
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Yeah, I felt bad after getting her response because I think I came on way too strong and hit a nerve.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 03:57 AM
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The trouble is the whole comment section is going "yas, more girls should make the first move!". Also, from her replies, this girl is going to be the one dragging her man through the whole relationship. "I'm down with chivalry, but I'm not going to sit around waiting for you to get the balls to speak up." Sooooo close!!!!!!!! Yes, this is exactly correct, but you should be running AWAY instead, not chasing him and giving him your number first!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 10:50 PM
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I think I’m regretting commenting. Should I delete or no? I know we don’t make the first move, but rereading this, I think she was trying to make a guy friend. Oops. What’s your opinion on giving out your number to cute guys you don’t know to make friends? Recipe for a stalker?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 10:05 PM
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The pandemic just shows how unexpected life can be, and a lot of people saw their finances change for the worse. You need to be prepared financially to weather these kinds of things, especially with a child. When you calculate savings for an emergency fund, include expenses for the future child as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 08:20 PM
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That’s not high value. That’s exactly scrote behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 01:46 PM
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Be very, VERY careful. The most dangerous time in a woman’s life is during and after a breakup.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 09:50 AM
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This guy not only shot his ex-wife, but also his own daughter AND her boyfriend. Absolutely disgusting. It’s also been speculated that the victim of the sexual assault charges he had was the daughter, and this was the reason for the divorce.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 08:01 PM
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Just the single paragraph that phrase was in had so many contradictions. So your husband comes off as cold and distant sometimes and told you that you were overreacting to a looming possibility of China-virus Trump being re-elected? Wait, no he’s “instinctively” empathetic? Which one is it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 08:16 AM
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So, they actually did get married, but I found a blogpost she wrote that’s quite...illuminating on what that marriage is like: https://thekoreanvegan.com/that-time-america-ghosted-me/ A short snippet: When I expressed my fear that Donald Trump would inspire racially motivated attacks against people like me, my brother, my parents, Anthony blithely replied, “You’re overreacting. Stop paying so much attention to Facebook.” The America I knew disappeared overnight, and every single time Anthony cou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 07:56 AM
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I saw a YouTube comment that said she married the guy (“Anthony”), so I went through her blog, and OMG it’s true! This woman also said in another video that she had been married before to, and I paraphrase, “the first guy she ever loved”. She literally said, “it was love at first sight, and I was 13, and I married him as soon as my parents would allow me, which was after law school.” Apparently, she had heavily bought into “the mythical first love”. Well, it ended in divorce. Source: https://you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 07:46 AM
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About you resigning, you already have your next job lined up? I would advise you only leave a job if you have another one lined up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 09:54 PM
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Oh yeah, now I go, “WHAT WAS SHE THINKING???”. If that had been me, I would have gone to Carnegie and the bf could either take himself out or go for a long distance relationship. Actually, scratch that, I would have dumped because college would have needed 100% of my focus. She’s doing fine, though. Managed to graduate in 3 years somehow (Cal’s CS curriculum is no joke and she must have taken an extra workload), interned at Amazon one summer, and is now working full time as a software engineer i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 10:52 PM
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This is not as bad, but a girl in high school I knew decided to go to UC Berkeley instead of Carnegie Mellon because her boyfriend (another high school classmate) was going there too. I'm pretty sure the boyfriend must have gotten rejected from Carnegie Mellon, otherwise I think he would have chosen to go there too. UC Berkeley and Carnegie Mellon are similarly ranked, but Carnegie Mellon has a more impressive reputation for CS. At the time, I thought it was romantic because they seemed like the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 09:52 AM
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I came across this on the livestreamfail subreddit, and wow, this scrote had the stupidity and AUDACITY to treat his girlfriend like this on camera. If this is how he acts while being filmed, imagine how much worse he acts off camera. Actually, you don’t need to. You can literally hear him screaming at his girlfriend and throwing her around/beating her judging by those thumps in the background while his sister has the camera. This dude is like every horror story FDS counsels us to avoid. This gu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 01:46 PM
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👀👀👀 girl, I’m pretty sure it’s a sub rule to not post any pictures of yourself because it basically doxxes you to male lurkers. You’re beautiful, but you should delete this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 08:11 AM
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Yeah, that fancy wedding and expensive dresses and all that were essentially paid for by UK taxpayers. FDS preaches financial independence, and Meghan and Harry are complaining to Oprah that they’ve been cut off. I’m sure all the taxpayers that subsidized her lifestyle appreciate her and Harry running away from the duty at least she had promised to carry out. I remember all the PR saying Meghan was ready to hit the ground running and the engagement interview. Lol, and then on the day of a Royal …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 05:26 AM
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....yeah, and now Meghan is acting exactly like her dad and her sister. Meghan ran to Oprah to give basically a tell-all about the royal family. Apple doesn’t fall far from the tree. No surprise the royal family doesn’t really want to associate with her again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 11:00 AM
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She and Harry literally left the royal family because they wanted to do commercial deals. People have short memories because no one literally seems to remember that they initially wanted to be half-in, half-out. They had a big fancy website announcing their intentions...instead of talking it out with the royal family in private beforehand. The royal family said no to being half-in, half-out, if they wanted all the privileges of being royal like security, they have to be full time committed worki…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 12:24 AM
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Lol no. https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.thecut.com/amp/2018/12/meghan-markle-didnt-ban-harry-from-hunting-boxing-day.html
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 09:38 PM
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She got a 30 million dollar wedding, a million dollar wardrobe (did you see that 100k Dior maternity dress and 78k engagement photo shoot dress!??), Frogmore Cottage (plus millions in renovations), and prestigious patronages/positions. Oh yes, she was definitely treated like shit 👍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 09:34 PM
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Preach 👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 08:59 AM
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As an Asian American, I can tell you that a lot of women in China follow FDS principles more hardcore than I think FDSers do. Chinese women will usually only marry if the man is from a “good” family, has a good salary, AND owns a house and a car already. If you ever visit China, you’ll probably notice how many BFs and husbands carrying their SO’s purses 🤣🤣🤣 I just brought this up bc I notice the guy in the video is Asian.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 06:54 AM
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I invested relatively early at $62/share, but I wasn't dumb enough to sink $10k, 20k, 50k, even hundreds of thousands of dollars into the stock like I see people bragging about on WSB. I think men are more inclined to ignore the "don't invest more than you're willing to lose" rule of investing because YOLO amirite? Worst case scenario for me is I lose $620. Sure, my gains right now are only $2.5k as opposed to people that are up big to pay off student debt or put a down payment on a house, but y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 11:39 PM
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I’m sorry, how do I change the link to a no participation link? Thanks mod!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 06:55 PM
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