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The audacity of the men in that toxic community is unparallelled.
/r/ExRedPill12/07/21 08:53 PM
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Women don't tell their 5'4 200lb friend with two kids by two men, neither of whom pay child support, they're not on the radar of successful attractive men. Except that they do, lol. Women do tell each other these things, the entirety of society tells women these things. Just because the media have a lot of "you go girl" material in them, it doesn't mean that that's what reality is like for most women. Most media are trying to sell people something, so of course they display a rose-colored versio…
/r/ExRedPill12/07/21 08:47 PM
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They always complain that the woman is promiscuous and that she doesn't really love, but guess what, they too are promiscuous and don't really love either. If his girlfriend becomes fat, her love will disappear. Shhht, you're being too sane and honest here, we can't have that. Besides the definition of "love" is whatever definition makes men look good and women look bad, so men's love is still love even if depends on a woman's looks but woman's love is not love because it depends on a man's stat…
/r/ExRedPill12/07/21 08:37 PM
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the problem with wanting a man that doesn't cheat is that most men aren't monogamous by nature. Huh? Doesn't redpill theory say that women aren't monogamous either, since they like to be with an alpha and a beta man at the same time? Does that mean that this guy thinks men should also "just be content" with a girlfriend that dates them while cheating with hotter men and then making him raise the kids she has with those alphas? Or does he only think "nAtuRE" matters when it benefits him? These pe…
/r/ExRedPill12/07/21 08:30 PM
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Guys like this can never take what they dish out. It's all talk and no actions.
/r/ExRedPill12/07/21 08:19 PM
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The worst part is, most of the time, these guys are ok with it. If having daughters really made men more empathetic to women's plight, there wouldn't be so many countries where misogyny is rampant and fathers do nothing to stop it.
/r/ExRedPill12/07/21 08:17 PM
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Like the thought of their son being left out because women have standards suddenly starts to erase empathy towards other women. If only scrotes were the same with their daughters. Instead they'd rather only tell the truth to their daughter and then keep gaslighting and manipulating all the other women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 10:13 PM
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being a cool girl will not get you picked, It does get you picked. Picked to be a slave, picked to spend the coming years ignoring your personal well-being and desires just to make a scrote happy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 07:50 AM
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She thought she could escape misogyny by outdoing women yet preached feminism Modern feminism in a nutshell. Claiming that they're feminists is just a way for pickmes to hide themselves in plain sight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 07:47 AM
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and takes away their real prize, which is possession and control. Such an important statement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 07:40 AM
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And stop having children with 50/50 men. If he wants to go 50/50 before the kid, he certainly will want to go 50/50 when you have even less leverage to make him pay more because you just grew and carried and birthed his whole child and tied yourself to him forever for free. He won't pay you for your labor unless you make him. He's not going to spontaneously start treating you right out of sheer kindness if he knows that he can get away with not doing all that effort. He just won't. That's just h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 08:30 PM
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They want to have their cake and to eat it too. They want to get to make macho 'hurr durr we r better than females bc we r stronger simpler creatures' jokes and also play the 'listen to me woman because us poor men are so oppressed we hav to b strong all the time poor us' card. They want the fun of being able to play multiple personas while putting women into a box and not allowing them to be multi-faceted people. Too bad. Go be big macho man and deal with the subsequent mental health issues on …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 09:16 AM
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🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 06:19 PM
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Not to mention that there is no other place on the internet that has a big community of FDS-minded women, so telling certain women that they're not welcome here pretty much means telling these women that they should go back to be all on their own, with very little emotional support from likeminded people. It's a big deal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 02:04 AM
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Responses like this is the reason why I love this sub. There's always someone here who will have a nuanced viewpoint and be able to articulate it well to call out false dichotomies and other intellectual pitfalls that women are likely to fall into. I think women are especially prone to advising other women in very black and white ways sometimes because women are gaslit and invalidated so much under the patriarchy that they have a hard time believing that they have a right to choise between many …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 01:58 AM
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washes his hands This one alone excludes a huge percentage of them already 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 01:22 AM
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This! Female spaces are either truthful and depressing or positive and delusional/dishonest I've noticed, unfortunately. FDS is the space that has been the most successfull at balancing both.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 01:16 AM
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It's really annoying that there are so many cleavages in the womanosphere. Why can't wgtows and FDSers just coexist in disagreement? Why does one have to call the other "pathetic" and push out anyone who disagrees? What is there to gain from that? Too many women just drop the ball and repeat the invalidation, the ostracization all the emotional abuse that they've suffered under the patriarchy, and it's really sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 01:05 AM
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I'm sorry that that happened, it's sick!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 10:25 PM
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I think they view them as humans, they're just happy that it's a human that they'll be able to emotionally abuse and mold to their liking because of her weak boundaries. They're also happy that she'll stay attractive-looking for a longer time than an older woman and since they don't care about a woman's intellect, the looks are all that really matters. They're pathetic, but most of these youth-chasers probably end up alone or dissatisfied anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 03:38 PM
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I bet this saying isn't even true, girls don't mature faster they're just shamed more for immature behavior hence why they learn not to act like that sooner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 03:33 PM
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It’s not until we’re older and men expect our labor in numerous other forms in return for commitment -cooking, cleaning, paying 50/50 and birthing and raising kids- that we finally wake up and say fuck you, you don’t deserve my sexual labor too Bingo. Plus at least cooking and cleaning is not degrading, everyone has to do that at some point in their lives. But having to let someone do unnatural and gross things to your body for his pleasure definitely is. It makes sense that once women can make …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 08:32 AM
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This just made me realize why so many men support the production of these romantic movies. When something genuinely benefits women and only women scrotes do everything they can to make it disappear. Romantic movies are still around because scrotes benefit from making women believe that guys like in the movies exist. Wow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 03:54 AM
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Send her to an all girls school and ban her from dating men until she graduates. The all girls school part is a great idea I think, but I'm pretty sure that banning a teen from dating never works. If they meet someone that they like, they will do it anyway 9 times out of 10. I think it's best to not impose any bans, but instead just tell true anecdotes about scrotes being untrustworthy, disrespectful, disappointing, dangerous etc and she'll decide to stay away from them all by herself out of (ju…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 03:48 AM
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And unfortunately, their solution to solve that cognitive dissonance is to convince themselves that they like the hardcore stuff and they don't find it degrading at all. And then you find some of them on some subs here making posts about how low their self-esteem is low and wondering why they have a hard time regularly sleeping with their partner, who chokes them and calls them misogynistic slurs in the bedroom
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 03:35 AM
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It's such a stupid statement, unless they're saying that violence and rape is an inherent part of male sexuality (because it is an extremely pervasive part of porn for sure), in which case men should indeed be ashamed. But it's not an inherent part, I like to believe that most men are capable of not being sexually violent if they're taught not to be that, so shaming hardcore porn and shaming men's sexuality by itself really have really nothing to do with one another.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 03:28 AM
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It's the ciiircle of porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 07:38 AM
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if his wife didn’t let him be there and it would’ve been “a fuck you to have his mom there but not him,” Scrotes are narcissists, exhibit n° 351. His mom has been through childbirth. You haven't. She'll know how to act while you'll probably be a bumbling nuisance. So what kind of comparison is that? That statement makes no sense at all. It's just word salad meant to shame women and get his way. That's its sole purpose. So many pickmes said it was “unfair” and “selfish” of her to “deny her husban…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 07:27 AM
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Girl stop, he's using those sites and your nudes and, if he could, he would also ask your friend's nudes and your friend's friends nudes and...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 06:42 AM
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A feminist ex redditor is trying to create a female centered reddit-like site, I guess this is a good opportunity to promote it. https://thepinkpill.co/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 10:18 PM
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He's implicitely saying "rape isn't that bad, get over it". I would lose attraction to a boyfriend who said this so fast.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 05:58 AM
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I'm starting to have more and more of a hard time reading these stories without getting frustrated with the girl in them. How can you have a man's babies when you know that he already has a kid that he neglects? These kids will be messed up from having this as their father and, if she knew how he was before getting pregnant, that will be her fault too, sorry to say this but it's true. I aim to be supportive of other women in general, but this is the kind of mess that makes me run out of patience…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 11:59 AM
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Hmm good point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 03:00 AM
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I guess it's a good sign that the killing traumatized him instead of being a source of enjoyment for him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 06:26 PM
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This might be controvertial, but I believe that leaving a man (for a long time) can also make him change. People often don't realize how much something is worth unless they lose it, and I think that one of the biggest mistakes that women make is: they stay by his side and try to be supportive even when he's being terrible. Just to earn the title of a wife who riDes Or diEs with him. The truth is that you gain NOTHING from being his ride or die. Except things like if he wanted to dump you today, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 04:44 PM
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Honestly I'm not a huge fan either but I just focus on everything else lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 08:06 AM
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Yeah, I noticed how he mentioned "she's a pretty girl". Does he say the same things about normal looking women? He should, but I wonder if he does.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 05:47 PM
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there are men that understand what they should be doing, but don’t speak up. The most annoying thing. These men stay silent because they want to be a good guy while looking like a bad boy, they want to have it both ways and it's greedy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 05:45 PM
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Wow there's so much content out there made by women lecturing other women to tell them they're not bringing enough to the table, I can't believe it's a guy doing it to other guys for once. A little bit of my faith in humanity is restored.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 05:42 PM
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He couldn't even own up to his behavior, he sounds like a cowardly, slimey slithering snake, how did she end up married to that 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 05:33 PM
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I'm so surprised to see the difference in what the media portrays and what real women say about their experiences. It feels like a conspiracy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 05:27 PM
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Right. "Daring", women don't do these thingd because they don't want to not because they don't dare to 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 12:52 PM
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Are the Fine AF Fridays still a thing? I've never seen these threads.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 12:21 PM
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This has nothing to do with "health". It's so gross how scrotes take normal words and change the meaning so that they can hide their depravity in plain sight. "Nice guy" = resentful misogynist who hides it well. "A feminine woman" = woman who puts up with BS without ever complaining, even when she was done wrong "Sexual health" = getting everything you want how you want it even at the expense of your partner. If she refuses to get bruised and beat she's undeemining your sexual hEaLTH.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 12:12 PM
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Great post!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 07:35 AM
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Yes! I'm happy for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 08:22 AM
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"You'd discard all your standards for a tall, muscular felon!" - no dude, I think you would. Lmaoo. Also, everybody, male and female, gives attractive people more leeway than unattractive people. These guys need to stop talking about being less hard on beautiful partners like it's something that they don't do themselves. it's so weird and creepy to be this unself-aware. Having lower standards for felons though... yeah he's on his own on this one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 06:14 AM
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They're so creepy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 06:06 AM
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Someone who desires to abuse women is going to be abusive to you whether he is attractive or not 💯💯💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 06:05 AM
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I cleaned the entire place, purchased all new appliances and painted 1200 square feet of house by myself. Can you take back the appliances you bought? And sell them to make some of that money back. You deserve to be that petty, I'm pretty sure I would be, idgaf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 05:57 AM
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Absolute cuties
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 05:53 AM
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There's nothing wrong with a lot of gender roles, as long as they're not being FORCED and as long as they're genuinely not restrictive or harmful or dangerous. Honestly that's like saying "guns don't kill people, people do". The problem with gender roles is that, when they're there, they're also forced, restrictive and harmful. People struggle to find efficient ways to have one without having the other.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 05:48 AM
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People need to stop having knee jerk reactions to these types of phrases and ideas and really THINK about the message of what was being said. This is a dangerous thing to say in this context. People actually need to be careful not to be tone-deaf and they have a responsability to avoid using phrases that are usually used to gaslight and antagonize female victims. I got what she meant, but I also cringed when she used that phrase, because I know and she knows and we all know why it's so controver…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 05:38 AM
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These ideas are especially dangerous when the feminist gender roles aren't clearly defined. Feminism can be dangerous when it stays in the realm of theory and ideology without offering practical guidelines, as it often happens. I feel like this episode fell into this pitfall. Encouraging the idea that boys' role should be focused on exerting physical power whereas girls should focus on their political power is not very useful if you're not also offering a way to make sure that girls do, in fact,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 05:26 AM
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When she faces domestic violence or rape, she will look to male partners, friends, or police officers to protect her from that violence, and as we know, that’s often not a productive method of self protection. Yes, because many men are more loyal to criminal men than innocent women. Women should not be encouraged to rely on protection from people who have a huge incentive to betray them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 05:00 AM
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"Purged from the gene pool is offensive to me because I'm Jewish" huh? Way to grasp at straws... eugenics is so far from being something that has only targeted Jews. If people go through genetic counseling, it won't be because they're trying to discover who they can avoid based on whether they have Jewish ancestry or not. God. It just seems like these people are trying to insert themselves and make things about themselves even when it's not. Or trying to twist what we're saying to make it sound …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 09:31 PM
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Tbh there would be way less scrotes if nobody procreated with them, too many women really don't know the power that lies in having a womb
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 09:18 PM
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She is surrounded by idiots and it bothers me that she is forever tied to one of them because she just had his baby
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 09:08 PM
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"It was a great memory when it was just you experiencing trauma and screaming your deceased mom's name in anguish, but now that you won't let me laugh at you for it, it's not a fun memory anymore >:( "
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 09:05 PM
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This episode was very thought-provoking. I got a bit scared at first when the lady who professionally takes care of children was describing boys as "so eager to please" and "excited and proud to protect the girls" because I could already see red pill men take that narrative and run with it. "See eVen they adMIT that men are good and selfless by default, they only become violent and entitled later on because feminist gYnocENtric society berates them and stifles them and calls them toxic!" But in …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 07:57 PM
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I understand that men are physically stronger than women, but we shouldn't continue to teach girls that having other men protect us against them is the best solution for that problem. Yes, the solution is normalizing real female solidarity (not the popular performative type), creating more female-only spaces and teaching women self-defense fighting skills at a young age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 07:45 PM
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Also, I want to add that it’s vital to look at the reasons 2nd wave feminists tore up the “gender peace treaty” between men and women. Women were looked down on and treated like second class citizens in a man’s world. Women felt they had to invade traditionally masculine places to get any semblance of respect as a woman. Acting femininely resulted in nothing for women but abuse and degradation. Yes, it rubs me the wrong way when I hear people say that modern feminists devalue femininity or heavi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 05:58 PM
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I think that the logic behind it is that if you have a baby, you have something bigger than yourself to fight for and this might make you more motivated to stay committed. When the only thing that ties you to someone is your desire to be with them, you're more likely to just give up whenever it gets a little tough. You're more likely to take your partner for granted, to wonder if you can find someone better, and to lose sight of why you decided to be with them in the first place. What happens mo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 03:38 PM
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Yeah, it made me think of Lilithwon's recent post. Never just trust a guy's account of his relationship woes on reddit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 10:03 PM
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They understand that it doesn't exist for the most part, they're just holding out for the 0.01% that wakes up looking like a Victoria Secret model with no effort. These women definitely exist, they're just a very small minority.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 08:28 PM
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I LOVE THIS, do your thing queen 💅👑💁‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 08:21 PM
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Exactly, I hate how LVM constantly whine about how women have unfair standards because the "average" woman isn't attracted to the "average man", as if the average woman isn't way more attractive than the average dude. The average woman puts in effort, the average dude doesn't even do that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 03:05 PM
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Well he did say "I feel really horrible" in his post, so surely they're both hurting equally right now, rape feels just as bad for the rapist as it does for the victim /s 🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 10:46 AM
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Absolutely. The propaganda is everywhere. After FDS you can't unsee it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 09:43 AM
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What was the point of this study? And what were the other options? This seems like yet another useless study that scrotes make to tell women "see, look at these responses, so many other women have low standards, so you should have them too! You can't ask me to clean up after myself all the time, it's already a bOnUS that I didn't leave my dirty socks on the floor!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 09:40 AM
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Even women who only go after millionaires aren't wrong. At least, they are not any more wrong than men who only go after very beautiful women, and there are many men like that. These men rarely get truly shamed for it. They get a slap on the wrist at worst.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 09:35 AM
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One of the comments in that thread: "There doesn’t need to be a villain in order for someone to get hurt.” EXACTLY THIS. It doesn’t matter if you did everything right. She’s hurting, and it’s okay. Should she have used the safe word? Maybe. Maybe she was trying to break through something, maybe she was in a Freeze state and couldn’t, it doesn’t matter. Things didn’t go the way the two of you wanted, and you’re both suffering. Dealing with this, rather than assigning blame, will get you much fart…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 09:15 AM
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Yeah because this story makes no sense at all. Why would she just not use the safeword if they really have one and she knows that she can use it?! I think he probably started the roleplay out of the blue with no warning and she didn't use the safeword because she didn't know he was even roleplaying in the first place. She probably thought he had decided to real life rape her and she was so shocked she just didn't think about yelling "purple bananas!" because that's not what anyone thinks when th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 08:52 AM
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Don't feel bad about taking his money. If you get the opportunity, definitely do transfer a big chunk of his money to an account that only you have access to. Money is the most powerful way to give you safety.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 08:34 AM
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In order to be a hvm, he should be able to anticipate all the doubts you're potentially having and get ahead of them. If he takes you on a cheap date and you have to start telling yourself stuff like "well he did imply that he was in a weird spot financially 4 weeks ago, so I guess I'll just let this slide, be supportive and assume that he'll treat me better later when he has more means", that means he is not doing his job. He should be telling you explicitely why he's acting the way he is every…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 08:23 AM
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They want all the benefits of being a good person without having to actually be a good person
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 11:16 PM
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What a boppp, I'm going to be playing this one on replay for sure I've never been disappointed by a Madison Beer song
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 06:41 AM
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Is what I was thinking... 🤐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 06:22 AM
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Oh waw I didn't know about this song and I love Dua ! Thanks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 07:07 PM
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This line is so problematic. Why promote the idea that if you really really like a guy you're going to do more and more degrading things with him in bed? It puts such unnecessary pressure on young girls to do things they don't want to do. What libfems don't seem to get is that you don't have to share everything that happens in the bedroom to be an empowered woman. If you love that bdsm stuff, you can also do that stuff and keep it to yourself. When you talk about it and you have such a huge plat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 03:01 PM
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I also really love what Ariana usually stands for. I've been following her since the beginning of her career, and I can imagine that she could have been coerced into doing things she didn't want a couple of years ago, but at this point, she's... Ariana Grande. She has enough star power where her management and label will bend to some of her wishes if she says that she really, really doesn't want to do something. I understand the desire to defend her, but I think that if she has a song that sound…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 02:37 PM
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Exactly why men will jump in and say "not all men" if women say something negative about men but you won't hear them say "not all women" when someone says anything bad about women. Even the "good" men stay quiet when someone says something misogynistic because they know that it allows them to reap the benefits of the terror that the bad men instill into women, while still looking like good guys. And yet they will never admit that if you call them out on it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 03:53 AM
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They are clowns.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 04:53 AM
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You are completely right. All of these things can be said about men as well. The only reason why that is not obvious to many of the male-dominated groups is because these men are literally constantly lying about how noble and honest and loyal most men truly are. And they carefully word their sentences to make sure that they're always using the most disrespectful terms when talking about women and the most euphemistic terms when they talk about men. then they play dumb and pretend that they treat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 01:42 AM
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Kudos to him for telling the truth instead of gaslighting. It'll probably be a cold day in hell before any other prominent male celebrity is this honest instead of acting like equality is already there and feminists are exaggerating and yes they make misogynist remarks but it's jUst a JokE and women who feel disrespected are just paranoid etc I don't want to praise him too much though, he did the bare minimum when he decided to not gaslight. But yeah, that statement of his sums up a lot of what'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 01:32 AM
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Yeah, there's so much worse on there but I didn't want to bring too much of that negativity over here. Their subs are trash
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 01:25 AM
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Pick the style stone lmaoooo 🪨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 08:23 PM
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Your point is totally right, the problem is just that women are always told this "maybe his looks will grow on you" thing whereas for men it's "bUt they're VisUaL crEatUres, they can't hElp it" That's what could make people push back on what you're saying, but if you agree that men are also superficial if they prioritize looks over compatibility then sure, what you're saying is correct
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 05:44 PM
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that's a decision you made, so I'm not helping This one is especially toxic because it implies that you only deserve support when you're perfect. Perfectionism is such a powerful source of gut-wrenching anxiety. The only context where I can imagine saying this to your partner is if he repeats an offence after you've already discussed it and decided that he shouldn't be doing that, and it's clearly out of selfishness that he repeats it. But that's not something that should be happening a lot in a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 06:33 AM
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Thesemen create their own downfall it's pathetic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 06:12 AM
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Yes, I love that East asians care about male beauty as well. Some of their beauty standards can be oppressive, but at least women are rewarded with eye candy if they fulfill these standards, whereas in the West beautiful women are expected to consider any guy who is well adjusted with a decent job as a satisfying prize no matter what he looks like, even if they're accomplished women themselves. It's okay to want a guy who has money AND looks. These men certainly don't feel ashamed about demandin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 11:11 AM
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Impossible, don't you know that only women are hypergamous /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 11:06 AM
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So true. Since I've realized that I've been noticing that everywhere now. Old men with grey hair and visible wrinkles and everything paired with women with perfectly dyed hair who look like they could be in their twenties or maybe early to mid thirties at absolute most. Young guys are paired with young women but old men are almost never paired with old women on tv. Same with TV hosts for game shows or the news etc they'll have male hosts in their fifties or sixties but the female ones are very l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 11:03 AM
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Best use of Not All Men I've seen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 10:54 AM
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Plus so many of them aren't even attractive and they still got great women paying that cost for them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 10:53 AM
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I used to think men dominated certain fields because they were just really great at them and if they banned women it was because women were being a liability, and it gave men an aura of awesomeness to me, but now I'm realizing that they just bully and exclude anyone that exposes their shortcomings even when it's valid. It's so predatory and primal and lame and pathetic and I will never be able to look at them the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 08:07 AM
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By going 50/50 you’re making it cheaper for them to get access and play the field. I really don’t see it as power move. Yes. Selling yourself short is NEVER a power move. EVER. I hate that lib feminism tells you that it is. Nobody will respect you more because you respected yourself less. Nobody. Ever. People get mad at you when you ask more, but that doesn't necessarily mean that they don't respect you. If anything, you'll be respected more if you stick to your guns despite their anger. And if …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 05:12 PM
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but it becomes exponentially harder if you don’t have a supportive environment in which failure is an option. So many people don't know how true this is. I'm really glad that your daughter will be spared the hell that is being thrown into this scary world with little guidance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 04:20 PM
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I always, always went 50/50 so that no man I went on a date with would have the right to demand access to my body. And it worked. It did not work. What worked is your self-confidence and the fact that you said "no" very firmly. You can do that even if he bought you a meal. Three proper meals cost, like, 150 dollars. Is your body, your peace of mind, your reputation really worth a measly 150 bucks? He can make his money back, you can't unsleep with him. Women are worth more than that. You are wor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 03:34 PM
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well what did you do for them to want to do that to you?" Such an infuriating question. What people want to do has nothing to do with you. Humans are inherently selfish and the main reasons why they want to do something is because they like it and they feel like they can get away with it. Thats's the reasion. Being told I had to be nice to the boys at school that would say crude comments or pick It doesn't matter if a boy has a crush on you, if his way of showing that is being disrespectful, he …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 01:36 PM
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Yes, especially since the whole point of childhood is having a lot of free time so you can play around and figure yourself out. It honestly makes no sense to tell a child that he or she shouldn't have enough free time to worry about boys. Contrary to what a lot of people say, life is NOT about "working hard" all the time every second and showing the world how much of a "hard worker" you are. That mindset is very destructive for anyone's mental health, let alone a child's. This advice should say …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 01:21 PM
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"They insult you because it's the only way they can get your attention." Every girl should be told this, every single one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 04:48 PM
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If cishet men weren't present, delusion was. These two take turns
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 11:33 PM
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I've never understood the "she is promiscuous" argument. Like even if she is... and?? If you donate money to a lot of people, does that give me the right to open your bank account without your consent and take all your money? The idiocy, I can't. Edit: I'm talking about the lawyer and the judge. This might have sounded like I was attacking you, so
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 11:30 PM
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"No product is free. If you receive something for free, it's because you're the product." The fact that these scrotes think women have it eAsY because they receive free stuff, as if the men who give them free stuff don't generally expect something degrading in return, just illustrates your last paragraph perfectly. They don't see the whole system (or better said, they don't care) they only see the parts that are an inconvenience to them, nothing else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 11:17 PM
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I don't have real reddit gold to give you so here is some rowbloks gold instead🎖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 10:42 PM
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They do it because they think she'll let him get away with it and still like him and treat him right anyway
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 10:34 PM
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Look at this rom-com: the gorgeous model career-woman left a handsome, successful man for a schlubby man who looks like Adam Sandler or Seth Rogan! Look at how charming he is when he bumbles It's insane how pervasive that "rich hansome man = bad, broke unattractive guy=good" narrative is when you pay attention. Even recently they did it again with that movie Tall Girl. Scrotes use anything that they can as a tool for their propaganda.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 10:05 PM
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Perks of having your own money: easier to walk away from a rich guy without looking back
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 10:00 PM
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It still has worth because we Are aLL UniQue, so he will treat you just the same if many women sleep on the 1st date as he would if nobody did. He values your uNIqueneSs so you can't talk about sex like it's a market ruled by economical principles, that's crazy!! No matter what, you are a beautiful priceless unicorn okay Besides you as a woman can also have more sex than ever without commitment with men who will take care of themselves, so it goes both ways, everything is equal now, what are you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 09:35 PM
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They would probably close their eyes and yell nOt All mEN, the ultimate rebuttal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 09:25 PM
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Unfortunately they seem to receive that sympathy that they don't deserve in general :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 07:05 PM
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This is too real 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 05:09 PM
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This. Literally NO sane man will tell you to hide your body because it looks bad from the pregnancy you had carrying his kid, while still sleeping with you. NONE. It is not normal to separate a person's feelings from their body like this. Either you sleep with someone and you treat them with dignity or you don't sleep with them at all. Only weird psychopath narcs decide that they can just use a person for all their worth while treating that person's feelings like an afterthought or something tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 03:58 PM
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Omg how did he react when you dumped him? I want to hear a story about him suffering.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 11:59 AM
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You made me curious, I went over there. What a dumpsterfire. The post says: Men do not spend an entire day going back over their words when they receive a snarky comment. That's us, women. Men don't get offended and they don't pout. They're not like ourselves, our mothers or our girlfriends., their frame of mind is not like our frame of mind. They have a special type of honor and dignity that makes them want to be responsable and own up their mistakes. They hate being told what to do, but them a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 09:21 AM
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They think they're not like other girls because they can accept "harsh truths" with no denial and they're capable of putting their ego to the side and take criticism. When the truth is that they're "not like other girls" because they think the possibility of getting a man is worth being treated almost like a slave or talked about in the most disrespectful ways. They're "not like other girls" because they can't see that these "harsh truths" men tell them are just harsh, not true, or at least it's…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 09:12 AM
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"ALMOST married" That's what happens when you assume that just because a guy SAYS he'll do something, he's going to do it, or if a guy SEEMS reasonable, then he is. Being "almost married" means nothing. You're almost married and not actually married for a reason. They wait until the last moment so that they can put you on the spot and get you to do what they want "just to get it over with", like she said in this post. It's not a coincidence. It's a choice that they make. It's planned. Stop givin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 08:30 AM
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"Have been dating for 8 years" that was enough for me to not want to keep reading already This guy is trying to make sure that he'll have enough money to properly court the new girl he'll date when he will dump this one to replace her with a younger model. I wonder why he is even bothering to get married at all. "Not because of the money but because I don't feel valued" it should be about the money too sis, virtue signalling does nothing for you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 08:11 AM
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Just goes to show how threatened they feel
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 10:20 PM
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These stories teach me the importance of not running my mouth in these situations. It shows that the best approach is to be cordial and act like you don't realize that the guy is psycho, whilst planning the swiftest escape in your head. Gender based violence and guys acting extremely obtuse are things that infuriate me so much that my 1st instinct would probably be to yell at him and to tell him that he's acting like a disgusting idiot caveman, as if I were talking to a person that has the capac…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 10:09 PM
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My boyfriend crossed his arms over his chest and looked at me through this whole time like he was testing me to see how I was going to react instead of helping me and protecting me. This makes me so so mad. Both these guys are absolute pieces of trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 09:42 PM
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Legend has it that he's still looking for her, thinking that she's staying away from him because her love for him is just too overwhelming 💖 And if he ever finds her he will kill her to free her from the pain of feeling a love so deep and so intense 💖🤡🗡🗡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 09:29 PM
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"you are in your future" 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 08:31 AM
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he apparently said I had a lot of nerve to “talk to him” if I wasn’t going to sleep with him. 🤮🤮🤮🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 08:20 AM
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He walked out the room and told his gf, "I'm good!“.... and the doctor couldn't do anything about it (HIPPA)! No way. Surely there must have been something he could do 😟 Not disclosing aids is a literal crime, isn't it a crime as well to notice that someone is about to commit a crime and do nothing to stop it? Even therapists are allowed to break confidentiality if the patient is proving to be a danger to himself or others. Poor girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 07:52 AM
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/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 07:52 AM
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I've even been asked, "Do I really need to tell my partners?" Why yes you have to tell, it's written in the law 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 07:33 AM
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I just cannot understand why she clowned herself & allowed him to smear her reputation like that. Honestly she seems to have low self-esteem, despite the confidence that she pretends to have in her songs. The way she talks about him and how he 'taught' her so much (there's a video of her doing a speech where she says "you taught me how to be a woman"), it seems like she's so impressed by his leadership skills that she feels like she'd be lost without him telling her what to do. That's what being…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 05:25 AM
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the men hate her. But they also fap to her?!?! How scrotes feel about women in a nutshell
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 04:52 PM
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It's not empowering to take him back, have more kids with him and record an album about his cheating. The shade lol. I especially hated that she didn't make at least one song about what he had to do to get her back. It was all "he cheated, I got mad, I doubted myself, then I remembered that I loved him still, took him back, now we're a happy family, the end". I wanted a song about all the things he did to win her over after the fact, all the gifts that he had to buy, all the impressive acts of s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 04:41 PM
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or he won't date me anymore What kind of threat is that? Aren't you supposed to threaten people with something bad?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 08:24 AM
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"He keeps her in our bedroom closet but I literally have my clothes there" You can't make this upp 😭😭 This is a manipulation tactic, he's implicitely telling her that he really badly wants a girlfriend with a perfect body who does anything he wants, in the hopes that his real girlfriend will become more like the doll to convince him to get rid of the doll This is some ratchet bs. Edit: I wasn't done reading the post when I wrote this, now I am and holy cow, it gets so much worse. I'll respond to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 07:27 AM
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Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 12:21 PM
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Amazing post. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 12:19 PM
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Most women are under some bizarre hypnosis that almost literally prevents them from genuinely comprehending the shit that happens around them This a hundred times. Libfems spend so much time saying bs that makes no sense it's... there's some extremely deep denial and delusion going on there. It's like many women need that delusion to survive in this world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 12:18 PM
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Nah cause if they don't pressure these single women these women will just keep being single instead of eventually settling for their low value ass
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 12:12 PM
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That is a very very effective way to defend FDS principles without alienating yourself too much in society. Ask leading questions and force the guy to explain his disgusting opinions out loud while clutching your pearls and acting like he's tarnishing your pure innocent soul with his words.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 12:05 PM
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He said he was so against certain things but then his actions did not match with what he said. That's the tactic most LVM use. They just lie, directly or by omission, and pressure women to "JUst TrUSt mE, don't be ParNOid" to make sure that they never have to actually prove where their loyalty truly lies. Don't believe anything a scrote says if he hasn't proven it in any tangible way. Everyone can say things and make promises that they don't have to honor, words mean nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 12:02 PM
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I’ve seriously had it trying to explain myself constantly as if it is so necessary to prove myself? Most of the time the guys who say these things already know, they just don't care. You don't have to prove yourself. Women need to get used to explaining themselves only once and if the guy keeps being willfully obtuse about it, just being like "Yeah, I get what you mean, but I still don't agree", period. Because that's what men do with women, if you think about it. True confidence is quiet. The m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 11:58 AM
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sex work is 'empowering'! Selling your body as a sexual object for male consumption is 'sticking it to the patriarchy'. Sure, you will ruin your career prospects, no man will want to date you and you'll be labelled a 'slut', but you've reclaimed that word now, so go you! That part. Something is not empowering if it makes you heavily LOSE access to money and good quality social relationships in the long run. It's just not. There are specific cases where prostitution is an understandable option li…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 11:41 AM
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This is the biggest lie scrotes tell. "Guys below your league will treat you better", yeah right. Where is the proof for this? Oh nowhere, okay. "You should have dated someone below you" they'll say, while also saying "if you date someone above you you're hypergamous and that makes you a monster". Ergo they're saying only men should get to be hypergamous. In other words they're saying that we should never take advice from them because they're obviously bigoted morons, got it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 10:35 AM
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Their constant self-serving strategic thinking is chilling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 06:05 AM
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What kIngdOM, king of what Delusional
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 11:17 AM
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What a clown ew
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 01:52 AM
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No man who truly likes you will like you more or less based on whether you put out fast or not. No guy. Putting out fast is setting yourself up to be used. That's all it is. A guy should be with you because he likes to TALK to you first and foremost. Everything else is a bonus. I wish every single girl was told this. It would prevent a lot of heartbreak.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 06:57 AM
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I also once read a story where a man didn’t tell his pregnant wife he caught an STD cheating (I believe it was gonorrhea) - it spread to the baby and caused permanent blindness This is SO sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 06:36 AM
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the group and was like "the men pay to be here" and blocked the woman who blew the whistle. Well tbh she is right, if money is being made off of it then it's all okay, it's eMpoweriNG The men have to pay and the women don't so letting these men in is a feminist move /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 10:52 PM
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Personally this just made me lol. It's not even a creative diss. All he does by saying something so stereotypical and corny is embarrass himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 10:39 PM
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“I wish we could do that” But you can though? You can open a damn groupchat with your male colleagues and organize whatever outing you like and yet you're just complaining and making snarky remarks. They don't really care about the outings, they just want to derail the conversation and have the spotlight on them all the time, it's so ridiculous
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 10:34 PM
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they need to try to read the room, and channel their hurt and energy into raising awareness, holding each other accountable, and making it safer for women. If only.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 10:28 PM
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Wow that's actually so true. Meanwhile women are kneecapping all their sentences trying to make everyone happy, women are really raised to be suckers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 10:23 PM
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Why do we not recognize this for what it is ? It’s rejection, of arguably the best part of a woman, her emotional self. Because hoards of incels go on a gaslighting spree everytime anyone dares to suggest that being used as a human fleshlight is extremely hurtful and it's even worse than being used for your money in many (if not most) cases. Men gaslight en masse without fault, constantly, that's why so many double standards are in their favor. Women experience more rejection in pretty much any …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 08:12 PM
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they actually praise you getting along with 2-3 of his baby mommas and being friends/ hanging out with them and both of you all’s mutual kids with him, as your being mature As if they would ever praise a guy for getting along with his gf's baby daddy lol, "mature" here is code for "sacrificing yourself to the guy's benefit"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 08:01 PM
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Omg how did the colleagues react? Even in this misogynistic patriarchal society we live in I bet that most people would agree that anyone who displays their jealousy this overtly is a grade A loser lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 07:57 PM
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it’s designed to frustrate you, consume your time and energy, and distract you from your goals, all the usual bullshit. Thanks for this reminder. It gets easier when you realize how many men say disparaging sexist stuff literally just to waste your time. It changes everything. Sometimes I'm about to pop off on someone and then I realize that this guy probably knows what I'm going to say, he knows he's in the wrong, he just wants a reaction. Remembering this really helps with not letting their tr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 03:22 PM
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Men are angry because the commodity is endangering its resale value on the open market. This a hundred times. Many of these men get mad at women not being modest because their identity revolves around dominating women, and their life purpose is owning the most attractive woman that they can get. If women stop being passive things that are owned and passed around and treated like a joke, these men's entire identity and worldview is shattered. Feminist demonstrations make these men realize that th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 02:33 PM
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Doing the opposite of what men want isn’t empowering, it’s often reactionary and just as weak. Obeying men’s expectations, hiding your body that’s ALSO what men want. So I don’t see where the gotcha is. That's why the only real solution isn't spending all your energy trying to change men's minds but rather ignoring men and building safe spaces that cater to women only. That's literally what men do as a group, they do whatever benefits them and treat women's interests like an afterthought. Meanwh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 02:11 PM
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Making men pay in relationships is one of the few ways we've found to achieve this and yet libfem men and women want to take that away from us
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 01:50 PM
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To them, at that point, you're just another wh*re Seriously. And even if you're not viewed like that, there's no way for you to know for sure. As a woman, you never know what the man you're sleeping with truly thinks of you, and the fact that women are expected to just assume the best and have trust in their man and act like we're completely equal even though there's a chance that the guy is thinking or saying terrible things behind our backs is just insane. It's so inconsiderate and so disrespe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 01:29 PM
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It's always particularly hurtful to hear about despicable enabler boy moms.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 06:19 PM
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she said he dressed like a bum (not to his face, but on the internet) And he said she was an 8 behind her back not to his face she "eavesdropped" her boyfriend's conversation And she's an asshole for that because that is such a terrible offence woww, surely the boyfriend has neverrrr ever done that in his life /s "most people don't have partners that are 10s" Even if you think that it's not okay to say it. This is such a typical response from the socially inept cynical folks of reddit she "nagge…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 04:46 PM
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There's nothing wrong with not having super high ambitions. But I have a hard time believing that even these women who don't want a career are comfortable with the power imbalance that comes with depending on someone else's resources. They're happy to have the resources, but they just tolerate the negative consequences to have that. Even these women can benefit from being told that they should have at least minimal marketable skills that they can use in case the breadwinner decides to stop givin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 12:36 PM
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It's so disgusting how that script has been flipped to completely ignore the role men play in women deciding to sell their bodies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 12:25 PM
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We're shut out of every other path to power That part. That's what zero emotional intelligence incel scrotes pretend not to understand. They go on and on about how easier women have it because they have "female privileges" like chivalry or the ability to sell their charm, as if these privileges exist in a vacuum and having them doesn't come with not having everything else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 12:22 PM
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Attachment is not connection That one, wow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 12:16 PM
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Women ask men to be better to earn a relationship with them. Scrotes ask women to make themselves smaller to earn a relationship with them. Pickmes and lvm can scream that it's the same all they want, it's not the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 11:55 AM
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Why do they not realize how disgusting they sound Oh wait they realize they just dont care 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 11:34 AM
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Honestly I don't think that men really have such a high opinion of themselves, they're just looking for a woman who believes that they do. A lot of their confidence is just posturing. This guy right here was bluffing and he probably didn't expect her to have enough self-confidence to dump him without putting up a fight. He was expecting her to think "Oh wow what a dominant alpha alpha man he's so exciting I cant afford to lose him omg" and to lower her standards to make him happy. I think that m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 11:11 AM
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It still astonishes me how many men of all ages can only relate to women by trying to control us. That's really well put. When I think about it, it really boils down to this. These crazy incels are so caught up in "maintaining frame" and being "alpha" that they lose their entire identity in the relationship if they feel like they can't be the dominant one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 10:46 AM
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Him: "the kind of girl I want would be happy for the opportunities I create" Also him: only creates opportunities to go to crappy cafes that his date doesn't like while expecting her to sleep with him on the first date so that they can possibly maybe later have not even a relationship but sOmeTHing GoOD rEgulARILY That's a lot of words to say "my cheap ass wants a fwb aka free prostitute" lol what a pathetic scrote The trash really took itself out on this one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 10:31 AM
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And yet they expect women to ignore misogyny like it's nothing and call us "hysterical" if we don't 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 03:30 PM
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I don’t get how I would learn why what I’m saying is wrong if nobody chooses to explain (referring to why my original comment was wrong). That's a valid point. Many women here are not comfortable with explaining things because men often feign ignorance to trick women into giving them attention. They trick women into doing all the emotional labor of explain things to them that they could have googled themselves or asked someone else about (by "someone else" I mean someone who it's fair to ask lab…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 03:25 PM
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That is very well explained. All women know that fear and no man can ever understand it. I'm sure some scrote who read this would say that men "feel the sAme fEaR" when they imagine being attacked by a guy who has a weapon or a guy who is a lot more muscular but: 1) no matter how strong the guy is in that situation it is still extremely unlikely that he will rape them 2) men who are way stronger than them are a small segment of the population not half of the population 3) if they want to be stro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 02:59 PM
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I’m really disappointed not many are engaging in intelligent discussion about this topic. People are choosing not to engage respectfully because they feel disrespected. They're giving back the same energy that they feel like they're getting. I’m not defending the idea itself. But it looked like you were defending the idea because your post was worded in a tone-deaf way. Men often derail these type of conversations with "whataboutist" comments and that's a problem that everyone here knows about. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 02:11 PM
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I guess in a lot of communities in the USA, white women are specifically seen as having more privilege than men of color for example White women are only more privileged in domains where looking like a pretty and innocent damsel in distress gives you an edge. They're less likely to deal with the physical violence you deal with when people view you as a possible physical threat (from the police for example, like everybody knows by now). But that's it. They still deal with the terrible sexual obje…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 01:55 PM
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marginalized men still don’t relate our experience with theirs Because they're nowhere near as likely to get raped as a woman, no matter how short or frail they might be. They also still have male privilege in that nobody pesters them as much about the wall and getting married quick because "you're getting old" and being nice all the time otherwise you're a "b*tch", and all the psychological double standards like that which make women very vulnerable psychologically as well as physically. Margin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 11:23 AM
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It's good that this guy told on himself early, good riddance
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 11:17 AM
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All guys start out as nice guys, but women don't like that This one phrase tells you everything you need to know about how socially stunted or/and manipulative scrotes are. It's in the way they use the word "nice" when they actually mean "spineless loser". All scrotes do is hide terrible realities behind pretty words. The guys they call "nice guys" are actually either "guys who are nice sometimes who stop being nice once they realize it's not going to get them laid" or "guys who are genuinely ni…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 10:53 AM
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So finally I had one day were I was a little short and not cheery over the text and that was it. I Never heard from him again. It goes to show how valuable positive energy is from a woman. That's why scrotes go around telling women to "smile more", they want women to be free positivity dispensers, the place where they can get attention and positive feedback from a person without doing anything to earn it. A man will never go around telling another man to smile or give him any sort of positive at…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 09:32 AM
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so I've gone back and added them in. Lol I love thisss 🎉🎉🎉 And yes, energy vampires is the right term. Texting seems simple but it still can take a good chunk of your energy, especially if you're sitting around wondering "what should I reply?", "Is he being low effort or is that a proper text that he just sent me?". Realizing that your energy is valuable and shouldn't be given freely to whoever is a key component of self-respect. If he wanted to not be low effort, he would. If he was scared of l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 09:12 AM
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Idiotic retorical questions are the pickme's favorite weapon, I feel like I lost braincells reading this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 09:12 AM
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Feminist (ft. Actlika Pornstar & Lets Splitdabill) I can't read your mind (ft Zero Soshal Skillz) Gaslighting 'n double standards She's crazy (she doesn't tolerate my BS) Wifey material (ft Slavery)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 03:29 PM
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The last one, I wasn't prepared 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 02:53 PM
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The last one is their biggest hit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 02:49 PM
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The name of that sub is genius
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 05:23 PM
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Oh, and they are all banging each other in jail. Don't ever date a man who spent any length of time incarcerated, seriously. I keep hearing that that happens but it's so odd to me that criminals, aka people who are generally homophobic because they want to appear tough and masculine, don't worry about looking gay anymore once they've been imprisoned long enough. Good on them for become so open-minded and tolerant though I guess lol The vast majority manipulate women into supporting them financia…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 09:31 PM
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the half of humanity who are longing to protect and support you in all of your female womanessy girl life titsperiences The kicker is that they keep insisting that these super supportive guys exist without being such a supportive guy themselves. They just want to make sure that women keep believing in unicorns so that they can be trusted the way a good guy deserves to be trusted without actually being a good guy themselves
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 09:15 PM
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Yes he was totally telling you that story to see if you would let that type of bs slide or not
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 05:05 PM
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It’s like they know underneath their man has no capacity for empathy or kindness That's really what it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 04:37 PM
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Pretty much NO ONE sleeps with a non-relative friend of the preferred sex without at least thinking about them in a romantic or sexual context. I don't even want to sleep in the same bed as some dude friend, no matter how much I like him. Meanwhile these two are willingly laying in bed together while the girlfriend isn't there, it is ridiculous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 04:33 PM
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"This known gaslighter who would never admit to cheating is acting like a cheater, guys, do you think he's cheating? There's a very big chance that he's making me be in a poly relationship against my will and exposing me to life-threatening stds, will I be toxic if I say something about it? 🤔" The bar is on 👏 the 👏 floor 👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 04:24 PM
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Exactly, it's really sad but time and time again life shows me that real lasting change only happens when people want that for themselves. When I was younger I was in a bad place myself and I could not treat people with the respect they deserved because I was going through stuff and there really wasn't anything anyone could have done to make a difference at the time, I just needed to be a douche for moment to sort myself out. I shudder to think that anyone took it personally that I was acting wi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 10:21 AM
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Me too /u/frustratedanon123
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 09:48 AM
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Same, this post opened my mind
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 09:39 AM
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I love her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 02:06 AM
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What a pornsick idiot, glad he's your ex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 01:59 AM
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he would be like "again!?" Has he never taken a biology class or
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 01:55 AM
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I bet he's been using the same toothbrush for at least 5 years now and this pickme still thinks it's a flex that she gets to kiss him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 01:41 AM
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I bet she posted this but didn't post anything about the weeks she spent battling the infection she caught from being around this monstrosity for more than 2 seconds Reason why you shouldn't trust what people show on social media
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 01:40 AM
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This represents the patriarchal mindset in a nutshell: if a woman does something wrong blame that woman, if a man does something wrong find the woman who is the closest to him and blame that woman for not making sure that he did it right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 01:37 AM
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Hahaha this is the only correct reaction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 01:28 AM
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How is she not embarrassed to let the world know that the person she's committed to lives like an ogre? Why does she not feel insulted that this guy didn't bother to clean up even though he knew she was coming over? Why did she not lose attraction to him after seeing this? Why is she comfortable coming anywhere near, let alone sleeping with, a guy that could probably give her diseases with his lack of personal hygene? Why do women like her exist? Why?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 01:22 AM
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The 3 dates rule is so trashy, I thought that defending it was a manipulation tactic that men used to pressure women into sleeping with them fast, I can't believe that some guys actually believe that there's something wRonG if a woman doesn't want to risk getting slutshamed and getting an std or pregnancy for a guy that she hung out with just 3 times in her life. Your ex was incredibly ratchet and ridiculous
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 12:56 AM
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The problem is that women's worth is just really hard to quantify. Men's value is about tangible things like money and physical strength whereas women's lies in things that are really hard to measure like beauty or "being nurturing". Manosphere people love to pretend that just because this value is subjective and hard to measure that means it is non-existent but that's manipulation. It's not non-existent it's just... hard to measure because it's subjective. But men are still willing to fight ove…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 06:57 PM
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Women on the other hand... we’re taught to “humble” ourselves. Screw people who worship male arrogant people like Kanye while hating female artists who do the same things he does. Idgaf about humility anymore, successful men will never stop being arrogant douches and people will never stop loving them for it (because they live vicariously through them) so if these same people want to turn around and demand hUmiLITy when it's a woman who is successful, they can go fuck themselves
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 06:36 PM
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Lol bless his heart
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 10:28 AM
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These can too easily be taken off by the abuser and used against the woman, but I would happily buy the sneakers or boots version
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 03:37 PM
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That part
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 03:34 PM
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Ew
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 03:30 PM
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They pretend that these matches that women get are all from decent men who care about treating you right and being great long term boyfriends, even thougg we all know it's not true. Or they admit that most of these matches just want to pump and dump but then they pretend that the ability to be pump and dumped whenever is a huge privilege as if going through that repeatedly doesn't ruin your self-esteem and your reputation as a woman. Scrotes just lie and lie and lie and lie. It never ceases to a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 06:55 AM
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Wow I had never looked at it like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 08:31 PM
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Yeah that’s what I think. This excerpt makes it sound as if there’s no undoing this, so I wanted to see if she had elaborated on that. It would be really sad to have to accept that. Yeah that quote sounds very defeatist to me. The male gaze is a thing but so is the female gaze, and I'd wager that many if not most FDS women have learned to value the female gaze enough to not be thinking about the male gaze all the time, like this quote says that we do. I am constantly nagged by the feeling that I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 08:17 PM
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The best way to win at that game is to not play. If I see a man sexualizing random feminine items I just ignore it and I make sure I stay away from the guy who's doing it. There's really no reason to care what a guy like that thinks unless he's rubbing it in your face and you can't get away from it for some reason (which is luckily not the case most of the time).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 07:57 PM
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Yeah I didn't understand the last point about being your own voyeur, maybe she's referring to the way women look at themselves through the male gaze?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 07:54 PM
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Like most reddit searches on female things end up making me feel violated. That's why they do it. They know that overtly sexualizing a woman diminishes the woman's status in (our perverted) society, so it's an easy way for them to feel powerful. They know that it makes you feel hurt and violated and degraded and that's why they enjoy doing it. They get off on having power and control over a woman. I think that's the main reason but the other reason why they sexualize is because their hormones te…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 07:49 PM
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I can't offer you a bathroom I was kinda like "fair enough" until he said that. So he has no shower and no toilet? How does he deal with that? Does he just use the bushes as his toilet? Anyway whatever, I mean he didn't disparage the women who rejected him or act entitled so I don't really think this is a problem. He just needs to find the needle-in-a-haysack woman who likes his van life and problem solved. That woman certainly won't be me though lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 07:27 PM
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Good for you. You really don't have to wait until you get burned to start enforcing boundaries. Anyone who acts like you have to have a tragic backstory to justify saying "no" does not respect you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 12:51 PM
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more and more men are being exposed for this BS That's great but the thing is that being exposed does nothing for most guys. I've never heard of a guy facing real tangible consequences for sharing a girl's nudes like losing a job or losing his friends. When confronted he can always just be like "aww mann Im sO SOrry, I didn'T MeAn To, I wish I could take the nudes off the internet now but I cant I FeEl BaD" and I think most people will just forgive him then, unfortunally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 12:48 PM
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Would a man ever compromise himself for you like that? The only thing a man can do that comes close is giving his girlfriend a whole lot of his money. Being broke as a man is the closest equivalent to being sexual for a woman (and it's still not the same because you can make money back after you lose it, but a bad reputation pretty much follows you forever). And we all know how HARD men push the 50/50 narrative and fight to avoid having to financially provide for their girlfriend. Scrotes got on…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 12:38 PM
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where your pleasure and consent and soul are not just ignored but completely absent. Exactly, he's having sex to you not with you if he's beating off to your nudes. That's not hot at all if you think about it. If he cared about the intimacy first and foremost, he would be able to use regular pics of his girlfriend in a semi-tight outfit to be reminded of all the love and care he feels for her, but instead he needs her to be fully naked in the pic because he's actually beating off to the control …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 09:02 AM
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Great handbook-worthy post. Especially the last sentence. Just ASKING is a red flag. He knows the kind of pressure that puts on you. He shouldn't ask. Be with a man who understands the immense vulnerability that comes with being a woman and who treats that vulnerability like fine china.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 08:51 AM
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You articulated this very well, I wish I could give you an award.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 02:55 PM
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But I feel the manhater insult isn't all that powerful anymore. While in the past women were devasted and spent hours to explain "how much they love men" as soon as they were confronted with this insult, many women just shrug nowadays. At least the sane ones. I love this. I'm noticing that shift on an individual level within me as well, and FDS is one of the reasons why. If someone calls me misandrist now, in my head I just go "But I... nevermind." Now I have faith that there are people who perf…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 02:53 PM
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Seriously. I can understand that men in 3rd world countries or empoverished communities might feel a lot of pressure to not show vulnerability because it's important to have a tough and scary image in order to survive in these communities. But Western middle and higher class men complaining about that like there's nothing they can say or do to shut up or cut off the people who don't let them show their emotions is insane. Some guys are surrounded by guy friends who make fun of their emotions, bu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 02:37 PM
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And somehow just calling their bros out for being dumbasses and picking male friends who aren't like that is impossible ("impossible" meaning "they don't want to"), 😔 poor guys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 02:14 PM
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I can't stand the fact that people just ignore the power imbalance that typically exists between a man and a woman. Women struggle just to find a man who respects them, so when they do find one, they are willing to do a lot to keep him. Meanwhile the average man pretty much gets respect by default, so they're nowhere near worrying as much about finding a girlfriend who respects them as women do. That means that women are generally willing to do so much more to keep a man than the reverse. And wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 06:18 PM
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"Pickmeisha's are the flying monkeys of patriarchy." Yes 👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 05:49 PM
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Oh interesting. I didn't know it was a trend, good to know. It doesn't look bad, but I just need to get used to it I guess haha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 04:40 PM
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Thanks for this very elaborate response! I understand this trend better now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 04:34 PM
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Lol I didn't mean to be a hater but I get why it came across that way
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 12:55 PM
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Exactly, sometimes I feel like "call the police instead" is just a different way for them to say "just do nothing and accept this". Many cops only feel like it's necessary to intervene when one person appears to be on the verge of hitting or stabbing the other aka when it's too late.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 11:07 AM
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There's another video of a woman recording a dude following her telling him once is enough! Why are you still engaging him! why are you making a TikTok instead of calling the police!" Because being told once was not enough for him? Because he is still engaging with her? And what's the police gonna do if the guy decides to attack her right now, does this person know that the police can't teleport and be there in a second when you call them? Those self-serving dumbasses are always ready to spit so…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 11:01 AM
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Between hurt someone's feelings and end up dumped in a ditch, I say hurt someone's feelings 👏👏👏 I do agree that it's important to not be extra and go "ewww" or get all your friends to laugh at the guy who politely asked for your number, but that's all. Not being a bully is the only thing you should do. You don't have to smile or justify yourself, just saying "I'm not interested" is enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 10:55 AM
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Can you tell me what song it is This sentence has been popular for a long time, I didn't know it was linked to a recent song
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 10:31 AM
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"Reject vomit" is such an accurate term, it's the rejects that got the most degrading things to say about women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 10:30 AM
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Exactly, don't care what they think, the only things scrotes think about are things that serve them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 10:28 AM
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She's spitting facts, but why did she put blush on her nose
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 10:26 AM
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LVM drag other people down and lie (gaslight). These are their only ways of not feeling bad about themselves. They're a literal mental health hazard. In fact, anyone who doesn't react to your confidence with either indiference or encouragement is just bad for your personal growth and mental peace.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 02:11 AM
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This just goes to show how much value women have. Being able to make someone doubt the worth of their entire existence just by ignoring them a bit is powerful. And it's true power that benefits women, not libfem "empowerment". Indifference is a powerful weapon, use it. That's the message that young girls should hear the most.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 02:01 AM
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What? Why do these women even answer such a question? No truly confident HVW should ever rate herself on a scale, ever. It's a question that is extremely disrespectful because it's objectifying, first of all. Second of all, none of the numbers you answer will benefit you. Rate yourself low and you look miserable with low self-esteem, rate yourself high and you look conceited. Either way it benefits everyone but you because it gives them a reason to treat you badly while you remain defenseless. Y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 01:43 AM
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Absolute predators.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 01:36 AM
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They do this to dimish women's self-esteem and make men look more important than they are. It's a subtle reminder to women that "we can make you uncomfortable whenever we want with no consequences and women can't do that to us, so you better do things our way". The more I observe, the more I feel like this explains like 90% of the annoying things that scrotes do. Even though they deny it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 10:35 PM
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Yep that's absolutely not petty. Guys will think twice about doing that if they know that everyone will know that they did it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 10:28 PM
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I like this post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 10:26 PM
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he’s showing high value traits, he told me to text him when I get home Friendly reminder that the only traits that denote high value are traits that require effort. A text requires no effort. A compliment requires no effort. Words are cheap. Don't be swayed by them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 10:18 PM
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at least our hatred manifests by protecting our necks, not choking theirs. You've said it all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 10:02 AM
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It's such an efficient, elaborate ploy. Once you realize how often men unabashedly lie, your journey toward strong, lasting self-confidence starts as a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 09:59 AM
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Funny how people call it "keeping the peace" when men are getting what they want and women have to seethe in silence while they refrain from calling people out on their disrespect. So pEacEFuL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 09:55 AM
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They only have empathy for men. If the problem is pushed 100% onto women, to them, it means that the problem is gone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 09:49 AM
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Exactly, red pill women are so delusional. "Just give your youth to an older richer man and you will live happily ever after." Okay and what if you aren't happy? Then you've just wasted your formative years on a useless scrote. And now that this man has stunted your growth and left you, you're left picking up the pieces by yourself, what a wonderful life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 09:45 AM
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That's why age-gap relationships are dangerous, guys just grow more audacious with age and a chick ten years younger just doesn't have enough life experience to see that those outragous demands are outragous. "His needs are important too" but what about your needs? You had a baby for the both of you, so why should you be the only one who pays for the consequences? What's the point of remaining his wife if he wants to see other people? Just break up or suggest opening the relationship on both sid…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 09:37 AM
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Yes, don't answer /u/mediocre_principle. That will only make him feel important and that's all he wants. Then he might feel even more motivated to do other things to get your attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 09:26 AM
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They confuse psychopathy with logic. That's why they always say that logic and emotions are opposites even though they actually go hand in hand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 09:23 AM
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This 100%. Especially the "insert himself into your mind" part. He's probably such a loser that knowing that he lives on in your mind as a boogeyman is probably the only way for him to feel like he has purpose in his life. To /u/mediocre_principle : As for the "you're not even hot", never underestime a scrote's ability to lie to save face. Never. "You're not cute" means nothing coming from a guy you rejected. Save the text message he sent if you can though, just so you have proof that he's a deg…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 09:21 AM
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Edit: The numbers are all wrong in this post, I don't know how to change it but it's supposed to be 2., 3., 4. I agree. What I'm explaining in the second to last paragraph I don't consider to be "FDS-ing men into being decent" though, it's general girl code that should help women find emotional support more easily throughout their lives. Searching for support and finding out you only have manipulative LVM and pickmes around you who do nothing but make you feel worse can be very suffocating and y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 08:56 AM
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Exactly. Scrotes are not dumb, they're just very self-serving and manipulative. They're so comfortable with double standards that they judge women for not being nice while not being nice themselves. The most dangerous lie that women are told is the idea that you can put your interests into men's hands and trust them to generally handle it with care and fairness. It's malice but men prefer to be called "dumb" because it absolves them of the responsibility to change or accept blame.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 08:01 AM
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Scrotes just can't handle any sort of negative attention. They will derail, deflect blame, check out of the conversation, do anything to fight against anything that makes men as a group appear in a bad light. Meanwhile pickmes will join into conversations about how a certain woman is a "golddigger" or any misogynist slur, eager to prove that they are willing to trash their own gender to appear fair and balanced. As if their "fair and balanced"-ness is going to be rewarded. Here we know that, mos…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 05:58 PM
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I get that feeding the troll is bad, but there are also lurkers who feel emboldened every time they see a post like that, so I understand that this woman decided to reply anyway. It's annoying that men can be braindead like this and, without any sort of punishment, effortlessly spread their caveman mindset to younger guys who don't yet have the ability to tell a trollpost apart from a true one. Then women are left having to do the emotional labor of talking to these guys who were brainwashed by …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 05:45 PM
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It would have been better if things had completely gone her way indeed, but it's commendable that, after giving birth, she didn't give in to the pressure she's probably receiving from everyone around her to be a present mom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 05:23 PM
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His motives are so transparent, like why would he even mention that otherwise. That was such a random thing to say, he showed his ass willingly and without necessity. 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 05:14 PM
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It goes to show that "not all men" actively support sexism but most men benefit from and count on it, and that's probably one of the reasons why most are so passive about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 05:10 PM
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Yeah, the only way I can imagine this being real is if the woman is religous and he used that to guilt-trip her hardcore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 05:08 PM
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I had an ex obsessed with getting me pregnant. He already had two abortions from two different women in his past. He fought tooth and nail about condoms. I should have left immediately. This is a receipe for stealthing. Any woman dealing with this should indeed leave ASAP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 04:52 PM
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This man is a monster.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 04:48 PM
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You give them an inch they take a mile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 04:45 PM
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Same for women. Hot girls are the ones who get relatively easy access to quality men, the rest also have to put in effort to get a date with a guy who genuinely likes and respects them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 08:11 AM
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I don't think men don't want relationships at all. They want a relationship with their dream girl and hookups with everyone else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 07:59 AM
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He's probably gunning for women who are more accomplished than he is. There are probably a lot of nerdy shy 27 year old girls with a low-wage job and little dating experience (aka girls on his level) who would take him up on his offer, but he doesn't want them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 07:38 AM
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He couldn't say it like that, that would have gone against the Scrote Commandments. "Thou shalt not mention your standards without doing a speech intended to make women feel very guilty about not giving you what you want."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 07:35 AM
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Both.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 07:28 AM
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He's basically saying "if you won't let me exploit you, I'm not hiring you! >:(" These men stay threatening us with a good time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 07:27 AM
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Exactly. Women pay with their safety and dignity when they date so paying with money is the least men should have to do to make things fair.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 07:25 AM
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Exactly! This is absolutely disgusting and terrifying
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 06:37 AM
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I hope this is satire. If they have really done all these things, well it's good to see that they're aware of how wrong that is and that they're supporting each other through it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 10:22 AM
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I would give you an award if I could. Very good post. I don't believe that disrespect should be met with an elaborate "I understand how you feel but..." explanation because it probably will make the kid feel entitled to that when they're disrespectful in the future. And then they might not know how to cope when they don't get that. I stay calm with people who are calm with me. I show empathy to people who show empathy towards me. But if someone is rude with me I am rude right back, period. It's …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 10:17 AM
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I like the concept of arranged marriages in theory. I think it can be a powerful tool to protect women against men's manipulation. A LVM will think twice before negging his date and being an overall dbag if he knows that he will have to justify that to her father. Parents who have a lot of wisdom and who really have their daughter's best interest at heart can be a very powerful vetting tool. But if the parents don't support the daughter's standards, arranged marriages are the worst thing. You're…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 09:53 AM
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That's such an idiotic mindset to have
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 05:43 AM
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That is so disgusting, touching that pathetic guy with a 10 feet pole would be the worst punishment 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 05:41 AM
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What a shameless idiot, I'm sorry that he put you through that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 05:10 AM
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Even if you get child support, that's so irrelevant lol. Wanting a man and wanting a man's money is not the same thing. Everyone wants money, no matter who it comes from. If you have access to the father's money, get it girl. These LVMs out here never miss an opportunity to twist things and try to make women feel bad for no reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 04:57 AM
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Choosing to have a LVM in your life is like choosing to have a bully in your life who is constantly breathing down your neck to make sure you're not respecting yourself too much. Why should we make that choice. People are insane.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 04:54 AM
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Yes, I really hope that social distancing will keep being a thing post-pandemic to some extent. There was never a good reason to be all up into each other's personal space like we used to be without covid, germs are not a new thing 😓
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 04:43 AM
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I've read about this and many mothers involved honestly believe this is necessary to ensure a good marriage for their daughter later on. Funny how they never reason that if it's men who are dissatisfied with an uncut woman maybe it's also men who should change and be made to get over themselves. Nope, let's ruin women's lives to appease men's whims instead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 04:35 AM
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The concept of cultural relativity is the height of male privilege -- it's real easy to remain a neutral observer when it's not your gender being oppressed True. Also these men are not "neutral", it's just that whatever benefits men is called "neutral", "objective", it's the default.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 04:28 AM
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The smarter, more logical sex, everybody.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 04:21 AM
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Wow your comment just made me realize that that must be a huge source of male entitlement. Just knowing that this stuff goes on in other countries must make it so easy for LVM to go "well I don't shower and I let her do all the domestic chores and I refuse to pay on dates but Im still a good boyfriend because I didn't have her genitals mutilated for me like these guys did!" It also makes me realize how being a woman means fighting your whole life to keep people from letting you be collateral dam…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 04:08 AM
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I saw a documentary where the village was pointing at an uncut 5 year old and laughing cause she will "feel things" Crabs in a bucket. It's so easy to be a victim of this mentality when you're a woman. One general trend I've noticed is: people let men thrive so that they can live vicariously through them, people keep women from thriving so that they can have company in their misery.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 04:00 AM
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“are you humble though?” Meanwhile he'll be praising and loving men who act like arrogant douches because when they lack humility it's dIFfeRENt, it's hUMoR, learn to tAke a Joke. You have at best another 10 years” 🤡 Translation: You're too much for me and I feel very threatened. I don't know what to do with you know but see you in 10 years when you'll hopefully be miserable enough to settle for trash like me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 03:25 AM
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Again on, men are insanely good at organized manipulation. This a hundred times over. When you realize that as a woman, everything changes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 04:19 PM
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They comment on our bodies because it's the only way they can feel powerful when facing a woman who is more successful than they could ever dream to be, pathetic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 04:07 PM
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They don't realize being single is better than being with a LVM. Many of them realize it, they just don't want women to realize it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 11:13 AM
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Typical nonsensical male gaslighting. I read that and I was about to start racking my brain to understand what he meant, but then I remembered that that's exactly what LVM want. They want us wasting our time trying to find logic where there is none. And while we're confused and distracted, they're on their merry way reaping the benefits of their gaslighting. If a LVM says something absurd, I allow myself to think about it but not longer than a minute, after that I just assume that he was being i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 11:02 AM
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This is handbook material. Very important post. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 07:53 PM
5

Curfew? What? How old are they?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 10:51 AM
14

But why
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 06:42 AM
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I hate that this happened to you! It can be really humiliating, that's true. Sometimes the guy is getting you to say something humiliating so that he doesn't have to. A person who cares about you will make themselves vulnerable too when you make yourself vulnerable. They'll do their best to meet you halfway instead of letting you take that scary leap all on your own. You deserve that in a relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 09:21 PM
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Omg yes there's no way I won't be using this one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 06:41 PM
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Wow, I had never seen this. She is so articulate, what a poignant interview.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 05:41 PM
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Thanks for your reply. I feel that way too. I'm working on no longer taking the bait when they do this. I'll just redirect them to google if they ask obtuse questions and I bet many of them won't even go look it up, proving that they didn't really care about an explanation. Many of them are just trying to make you look crazy, explaining out loud social realities that are common sense but implicit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 05:13 PM
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These are a all great replies, I'll keep them in my backpocket.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 04:47 PM
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Don't apologize, your post is great. It's a great testimony of what the ComMuniCATion advice can lead to. ​ This advice also implies that the man in question actually cares enough to actually listen to her and make adjustments accordingly and guess what! They usually don't. Important point. Advising someone to cOMmUniCAte with someone who will reply in bad faith can be dangerous, because gaslighting can be very harmful for your self-confidence. It can make you jaded and scar you for a very long …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 04:44 PM
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It seems like a lot of men generally act normal but have narcissistic tendencies in certain situations though. Most are not full-blown narcissists, but the gaslighting strategies that men tend to use as a group to gaslight women when women stand up for their rights... it's like most of them have taken narcissism classes and passed with flying colors.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 04:26 PM
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This is great advice. I wouldn't use the kid as a wallpaper because I'd be scared of becoming disensitized to it, but when I look at childhood pics once in a while, I also feel like it helps me readjust my standards very quickly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 03:36 PM
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To be honest, I see more lib fem women say that sex work is just work, most men really don't say that. Most men are pretty shameless and vocal about their disdain for prostitutes and women with a high "number" in general, but lib fem women keep turning a blind eye to it and acting like if they repeat that "sex work is just work" enough times, men will start believing it. Men are pretty disgustingly vocal and honest, libfems just refuse to listen. It's insanity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 08:23 AM
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I don't think anyone denies that non-white men can be sexist. Everyone knows that women have a terrible time in non-Western countries. It's just that these spaces tend to be filled with Western White feminists talking about how they can climb the societal ladder, and the people who have the most power to determine their fate in the West tend to be old White men. That's why old White men are the face of utmost privilege in these spaces. There's nothing racist about it. Black women call out their …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 11:45 AM
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Honest question no shade: why do women keep sleeping with guys who don't please them? What is the motivation?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 11:34 AM
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"patriarchy makes men suppress their feelings ): and men could just change the toxic masculinity standard if it bothered them so much since they are the ones in charge but they don't want to put in the effort :( so then they have to force women to do that emotional labor for them :( and then men feel kinda sorta guilty about that so patriarchy hurts men too ):"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 11:29 AM
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or a career ending decision such as having an OnlyFans page I still can't believe that something as destructive and permanent as nudes has been normalized. If women were the ones who loved nudes and men were the ones putting their career and reputation at risk by sending them, there's no way in hell that sending them would be considered so normal. It is such a lack of respect towards someone to pressure them to hand over all the power that they have over their own image and their future by press…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 10:59 AM
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Very well said.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 10:53 AM
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It means that instead of doing these things just to please all men indiscriminately and get nothing in return (like women had to do in the past), women do these things to please a man (or a woman) of their own choosing with the hope that he/she will give her what she wants in return. (I say "he or she" because women also treat women who comform to gender role expectations better. But men are still the ones who enforce them the most.) Honestly I get it. Getting to pick the guy whose wish you subm…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 10:30 AM
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FDS is priceless. I think that a whole less women would be pickmes if they knew that communities like FDS existed and that being a radfem doesn't mean you have to be alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 11:34 PM
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Lol telling on himself like that, how embarrassing. I'm glad that you dodged that bullet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 11:29 PM
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Most women aren’t feminists at heart and that’s the motherfucking issue. Sad but true. Pickmes are the real pandemic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 11:25 PM
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He was super pander towards women, and also very harshly critical of men. He wasn't super harshly critical of men though, that's the thing. LVM are trying to make it seem like he was "super harsh", but what advice has he given that was so extremely harsh? He was literally saying the same things that FDS says. He was critical but it was not too harsh, it was the right amount. Yes he seems to be a bad person but he was right way more times than twice. I've watched many of his videos in his car and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 11:19 PM
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Wow nice, I wish her the best! :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 11:06 PM
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Exactly. Women are too naive. Going 50/50 with guys just because guys complain about their problems all day even though they are clearly more privileged as a class? So gullible. All manosphere men do is guilt-trip women with a heap of lies about how they have it "just as bad", and most women just eat it up. "Women endure most of the sexual violence and they fight a lifelong uphill battle to be treated like humans instead of throwaway objects, yes, but men are JuST As oPpreSSED because they're no…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 10:53 PM
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Makes you wonder why he even had a kid in the first place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 12:00 PM
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Yes, I feel bad for her that he self esteem is so low, but when pickmes pickmeness starts affecting their kids, it becomes harder to feel sympathy for them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 11:59 AM
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Is this genius kid older now? Can she talk? I want to know all the amazing things she's doing with her life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 11:54 AM
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Seriously, imagine wondering how you should nicely tell your man that he needs to stop abusing your kid. Some people got the most messed up of priorities
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 11:49 AM
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I like this guy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 12:08 AM
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So glad that you didn't pay him back. These type of stories often end with the girl saying that she paid the dude to "be the bigger person" or to show him that she's "not a golddigger", but you have nothing to prove and you have no obligation to be the bigger person. Keep the money and leave this clown on read.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 12:03 AM
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Exactly! I even saw a few parody videos of how “If you broke up with your bf due to Derrick jaxn you may be entitled to compensation” 🤡 except...those breakups were probably warranted. This just goes to show how insiduous and pervasive their predatory manipulation and gaslighting is. They're capable of making jokes like this that make absolutely no sense, with a straight face. They'll do and say any BS as long as it serves them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 01:00 AM
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No nice person has to say that they are one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 09:05 PM
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It's always on the woman to compromise and submit to HIS 'kinks' That part. "Spicing it up" always means having the girl put herself in a position that's more and more degrading one way or another while the guys just has to... be there. Business as usual for him. Just that only shows that it's a scam.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 09:01 PM
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Kevin is the ultimate douche I can't even believe he has a platform, the fact that he has this many followers just proves how pathetic LVM really are
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 08:51 PM
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It's all the mom's fault because she should have used her magic psychic powers to know what man would never leave her in the future and pick him as a partner, but since she chose an attractive man instead of an ugly nice guy it's her fault that she's a single mom
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 08:46 PM
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Exactly, his old videos were really good and are still relevant to this day. I hope that women are going to be smart about this and not badmouth the quality of his work just because he's a dbag in his personal life. Doing that as a woman is shooting yourself in the foot. I'm not saying that women gotta go buy his books or give him money still, they should just not pretend that he did a bad job as a relationship coach just because they don't like him now. He was one of the best male relationship …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 02:54 PM
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I get that point but I don't think it's a realistic option for most women. Most women want a partner. Being single can be really lonely as a woman because making friends as a woman is also super hard if you don't want to have any pickme libfem friends. Most women prefer to be with a partner who slightly disappoints them rather than to be all alone in a world full of male and female sharks with no male protection that keeps them from being eaten. If women actually had solidarity and a true sister…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 02:43 PM
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They are inadvertently admitting he spoke the truth! As women, we're reacting from a place of disappointment, men are reacting like "haha, that's what you get for snitching." Exactly. Men's reactions to this are so childish, they give me a headache. Women's interests are just a joke to them. If for any reason things don't work with my current partner, I am done with men I think. Can't blame you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 10:09 AM
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Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 10:07 AM
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We literally come here to escape the opinions of male feminists and here we have a post going into detail about why we shouldn’t just ignore his lessons because that’s what men want us to do... just ignore the guy. Like lemon_bars_addiction said, this post is for people who care about celebrity culture and who would have reacted to this scandal anyway. I'm just making sure that those who already care have the right strategic reaction. But of course if you don't care about any celebrity in genera…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 10:06 AM
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Exactly. Once you set an ultimatum, go through with it. It's the only way to let people know that you're serious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 01:48 AM
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Finally, stop worshipping these self-help gurus. Also, why should anyone be "sad and disappointed" when a fraud is outed. They hoarded fame and they got their just desserts. Sad and disappointed because now LVM have more material to use in their "let's brainwash women into believing that HVM don't exist" campaign. I don't worship self-help gurus and I don't think that anyone should but that's not the point... people are influenced by the behavior of public figures, they just are, even if they sh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 01:38 AM
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This post isn't really about this man, it's about the way people are reacting to his scandal. Anyone can have a platform and present whatever they want but not everyone can do it as well as he did. If someone is a fraud, it will usually show a little in the advice that they give, but Derrick's story is particularly shocking because he gives the most sane advice while being a nutjob. The contrast is crazy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 01:14 AM
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I'm going to delete this thread because I accidentally posted the same thread twice, but yeah I also think that these guys know what to say because they are manipulators. Some part of me hopes that he is going to embrace the downfall and openly rebrand as the douchebag who gives advice to women on how to avoid ending up with a guy like him! That marketting strategy really could actually work. His advice was so valuable I really don't want him to stop giving it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 12:46 AM
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Lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 07:47 PM
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All they have is the audacity but, in a way, it's quite admirable to be honest. I would love to be as delusional about my value as they are, constantly assuming that there's no way people don't date me because I suck, no, it must be because they're crazy or there's something wrong with them. Must be nice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 09:28 AM
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Asking for effort = violence. Pathetic. It really is ridiculous how much they victimize themselves even though the caards are stacked in their favor by default as men. So much privilege and they still act powerless. Meanwhile women thrive even in the incredibly hostile environment that is society.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 09:23 AM
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This goes to show how powerful women are. If women weren't, these guys wouldn't feel so threatened. If only more women knew.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 09:19 AM
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Exactly, women don't have too high standards for men, men have too low standards for themselves!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 09:17 AM
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Don't c sections hurt like hell? They probably come with their set of complications too 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 08:58 AM
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That would be so amazing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 01:31 PM
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But... what is the reasoning behind the rule?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 01:31 PM
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You deserve all the support in the world and anyone who shames you for this deserves to be ashamed themselves. This guy was being an idiot or a psychopath, in any case, he deserved to get dumped and I'm glad that you found the strength to do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 01:11 PM
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Also "sHe wIlL bE a gReAt mOtHer" = "she will be a great doormat my feet are so ready to step all over her I can feel tingles in my toess 😊"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 12:39 PM
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Funny how he cared about looking bad in front of the world but didn't care about looking bad in front of you. It says everything about where his priorities lie. Glad that you dumped this clown.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 12:35 PM
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The most efficient brainwashing technique LVM use is acting like normal demands are "sky high" and "crazy". I've seen a popular manosphere joke that illustrates that perfectly a while ago. I just searched and found it again, it's called "The husband store": You may visit the Husband Store only once. There are six floors, and the value of the products increases on each successive floor. The shopper can choose any item from a particular floor, or go up to shop on the next floor, but she cannot go …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 11:17 AM
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By using it a bit and then not brushing your teeth for a looong time I guess 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 10:57 AM
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I know right, 3 years? Why do women put up with that, I would immediately assume that he's hiding something that I need to know if he kept me out of his appartment for not even a year let alone 3. I hope she's very young cause otherwise she's not being judicious with her time at all, staying this long in a relationship with a guy who hides things from her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 10:54 AM
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But why does he do that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 10:48 AM
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Yes, just the hygene aspect makes this absolutely unacceptable, how is that not obvious to her? He doesn't wash the clothes that he sleeps on, that's like never washing your bed covers or never brushing your teeth. Just imagine all the sweat and mold all gathered up in there. I don't get why she treats this like it's just a weird quirk when It's actually a total health hazard? The smelliness proves it. If something is smelly it's usually because it's bad for your health, this is Being Human on P…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 10:46 AM
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I felt the same way, the energy is on point
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 04:12 AM
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Are you experiencing cognitive dissonance? I bet that's what it is. Some women want other women to suffer in life just because they're suffering. It hurts them that they didn't get to have anyone in their life who kept them from making the mistakes that they've made, so they don't want other women to have anyone either, they'd rather mislead other women with terrible advice and watch them crash and burn. It's sad, but we can't really do anything about it...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 04:08 AM
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I agree with you. But I read your message and it sounded like a fairytale and an absolute lie. That's how you know that LVM have gotten to you: when you see someone describe a HVM and you can't believe that guys like this truly exist anymore. Because LVM do everything to make us believe that genuinely good guys don't exist, to make us settle for them. Thanks to spaces like this sub, I can see through LVM's tactics and gaslighting so clearly now. They're like a pack of wolves, always on the prowl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 02:11 AM
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This is heartwarming.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 01:17 AM
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Men are really out here thinking that they are LESS shallow for not caring about my intelligence or morals, and trying to get me to do the same for them, just because they have nothing to show for who they are as people. Hit the nail right on the head. They need to level up instead of encouraging you to level down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 06:21 PM
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I don't trust sob stories from men and I don't help them anymore. Even boyfriends and guy friends have taken advantage of me by asking for help. They didn't want help, they wanted free resources. This is so important. They don't ask other men for help because they know that men have standards and won't give in to the pressure to be nice and give away valuable labor for free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 10:14 AM
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It's so annoying to think about all the parents who don't educate their sons about entitlement. Parents just unleash them into the world and force other women to educate them out of fear, like you had to with that guy etc. Since parents don't do it, boys should be taught about respecting women's boundaries and safety in school.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 04:19 PM
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(you can stand in front of another person, people often hesitate to hit someone not involved in a disagreement that turns violent) Oh no, this is not a good mindset to have as a woman. Most people don't hit others even if they're mad. So if you catch someone having a physical altercation, chances are that they are more violent than most people. And if they're more violent than most, they really just might hit you if you intervene. Or they might be a generally peaceful person who will be violent …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 03:53 PM
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This is awesome.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 11:42 AM
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In the beginning, most of these LVM had a problem: they felt powerless and bored. They had two solutions: 1) The easy solution: you remain mediocre and live a life so unfulfilling that you need to attack people in weaker positions (women, in this case) in order to feel powerful and entertained. High value people distance themselves from you because your choice to stay mediocre and your lack of ambition is draining for them. Instead of causing you to self-improve to be on their level, being rejec…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 11:26 AM
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I get your point, but I think that posting LVM behavior is pretty important for the inexperienced women (usually younger women) who come here, because it counters the lies that women are constantly sold ("feminism is No lOngER NeEDed in de the west!", "we already have equality, what are you still whining about!") as a way to guilt women into accepting 50/50 relationships. These liars do everything to make sure women remain naive sitting ducks who strive to make things fair for everyone, while ev…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 10:41 AM
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Imagine believing that basic respect should be debated
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 09:32 AM
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FaIR and BaLancED dEbate is the goal
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 09:26 AM
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Nothing hurts as much as being ignored, not even being insulted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 09:21 AM
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Exactly, all they want to do is pry on women's insecurities and tell women over and over again that they deserve nothing, brainwashing women into believing that their opinion is a fact. What's the point of letting them share that opinion on here? All it would do is peer pressure women into giving men what they want. It doesn't help fair and balanced discussion prosper, it stifles it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 09:15 AM
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Why is it that only women's spaces are constantly being attacked for this? Why is it that women are always expected to cater to everyone else, even those who are hostile to us? They know that they're not being fair. They know that they're asking you to do things for them that they wouldn't do for you. They just don't care. And they're willing to lie to look like they care. When LVM get you to waste your time trying to untie the knots in their contradictory self-serving arguments and theories, al…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 09:00 AM
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I love to see that there are places where ostracizing and ignoring NVMs instead of rewarding their behavior with attention and a debate is the norm. That must have been one classy cocktail party.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 08:53 AM
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Sometimes I wonder if one couldn't push this idea even further and say that they love the status that your vagina brings them more than anything. Since every romantic "conquest" for a man ups his status (and diminishes the woman's), getting into a woman's pants makes them feel like they've accomplished something in their lives even though they did nothing but get laid and play xbox all day. And that egoboost that they really want you to give them is part of what they call their "love" for you. I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 08:46 AM
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Shit is draining as hell and you WILL NOT change their minds as the patriarchy benefits them and they know it. This is really the solution. I've asked myself why I read what they write and get bothered a bit still even though I know that they only say idiotic stuff and I realized that what bothers me is that they are bumbling idiots who get attention. If they were ignored like they should be it wouldn't be such a problem, but instead they ruin the good times that women can have with each other b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 08:34 AM
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There it is, thanks for the fix.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 08:22 AM
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Tell these guys this and they'll be like "But but b-b-but men love women for who they ARE, women love men for what they DO, but women ARE boobs and ass so men love women for who they ARE, wow men are so noble, checkmate feminists"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 08:20 AM
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See also men who leave their wife when she gets old.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 08:14 AM
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These clowns are literal dumbasses, they're only listened to because they're men and they have male privilege. Their audacity and stupidity knows no bounds. Everybody is loved for what they can do. Except maybe kids who have parents with very big hearts. The manosphere's most used manipulation tactic is taking statements that are true for the whole of humankind and pretending that it only applies to men and men are the only victims. They have zero EQ. Would women be loved if they didn't carry ou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 08:13 AM
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Lord I'm sorry to hear that. The rapist should be the one burning for making your life hellish, not you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 08:02 AM
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This is a beautiful post and a useful post because it's very relatable. I see now that he would pull away from our relationship whenever I wasn't acting in accordance to what he wanted, which would lead me to act in a way I knew would bring him back closer to me This is so important. I used to not be as aware of the fact that what he does respond to is just as important as what he doesn't respond to in a relationship. Vetting is easier now that I know this. he finally cheated on me last year [..…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 07:59 PM
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Do you mind sharing what aspects you dislike about FDS? I'm curious because it's rare to find someone who likes some parts and not others, usually it seems like women are all in or all out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 07:36 PM
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Women do not need strategies to attract men Seriously. What they want is pretty clear. The problem isn't "how to attract a man" the problem is "how to attract a man without degrading yourself (if you want one)".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 07:34 PM
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Seems like appearances rule the world more than anything else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 07:17 PM
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I agree. I don't know her so I'm not endorsing her completely, I'm endorsing her message. I see a lot of people in this thread talk about how cancel culture has gone too far, as well as other people saying that it hasn't, but I think this debate is useless when we speak in extremely general terms like this. "Cancel culture has gone too far" literally means nothing, because there are instances where that's true, yes, but there are also many instances where the cancelation is absolutely justified …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 07:09 PM
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It's a type of sound that toads make. It sounds like a scream, so some guys in male online communities have decided to use that sound as a way to explain discontent. Reee is how you write the sound. It's kind of a meme. https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=iQrjbRz3y7A Funny how these men willingly decided to compare themselves to toads.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 06:08 PM
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what are you doing this guy is a fucking piece of shit! block his ass You were responding to the brainwashing that says that you'll end up all alone if you're not a libfem liberated sex doll who talks about it all the time with anyone and has it all the time with anyone as well. You were not listening to the part of you who knows that sex is not "just another subject" because as a woman it can be used against you in a way that it can't be used against men. It's normal and many other women go thr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 05:59 PM
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It's a balancing act and they're all in on it (not literally "all" but many, too much). They want to keep you right on that line where it benefits them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 05:48 PM
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Men who just say not all men: thanks for the encouragement, but you don’t realize that this is not the time for that conversation This! It's not that they're saying something wrong, it's that they're saying it at the wrong time. And they're saying this exactly at that time because they KNOW that the most efficient way to break down women's boundaries is to catch them right at the moment when they're having that conversation, that moment when they're standing up for themselves. Men intervening li…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 05:09 PM
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Being a woman is such a mindf**k
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 04:16 PM
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I can't believe this is finally happening. Hearing women say the things we say here is so much more impactful than reading it. It shows that we're real and we mean it and we're not alone in thinking the way we do here. And it shows that the people here are sane, articulate, and look nothing like the portrait of lies low value men and pickmes have been trying to paint of them. Great thanks to the three courageous women who have decided to put themselves out there and start one of the few female o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 10:47 AM
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Female solidarity is the biggest lie, men are the only ones who have an actual brotherhood that is the most likely to support them through thick and thin, good and evil.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 10:25 AM
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We’re made to feel useless when we don’t want to be used anymore. This is really well worded. It really resonated with me. What we forget is that we're still useful even if we don't let that guy use us, because our most important usefulness is the one that we have toward ourselves. We deserve to take care of ourselves and be happy even if it doesn't benefit someone else. If the way you are makes you happy and doesn't harm other non-parasiting good people, screw what that guy thinks. And yes we'r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 10:05 AM
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Exactly. This reminds me of how men and women of the manosphere love to say that men have a "natural protecter's instinct" towards women and that's why women who have orbiters or who let men be their platonic friends are so terrible, they're tAkinG AdvaNtaGE of men's natural sweet instinct to protect and provide, as if 1) men don't have agency and don't willingly choose to orbit around women who have very clearly friendzoned them, waiting for her to change her mind, 2) many men don't regularly b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 09:55 AM
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So annoying how many men want to be judged by their intentions over their actions. You don't get to have that, especially not when you're twice as strong as half the population and on top of that you start to purposefully stalk the population that's weaker than you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 09:37 AM
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This guy: has already crossed every limit Also this guy: iF YOu kNow YoUr LimITs it should be HArmLeSs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 09:34 AM
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"If I lie and u fall for it it's uR fAuLT, you shouldnt have been so GuLlibLE" what a damn moron, so glad to hear that he's your ex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 10:22 PM
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Hopefully there's a silver lining and the dogpiling by men will teach her that being a master pickme doesn't keep men from bullying you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 10:09 PM
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This is beautiful 🥲
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 10:04 PM
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That's the thing though: pickmes are literally insane. I think that many (if not most) of them have already made life choices that they can't change based on their pickme beliefs so now they're stuck spending hours writing garbage strawman articles on the internet just to avoid having to deal with the cognitive dissonance that comes with admitting that you made a mistake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 09:47 PM
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It's also funny that they don't see that saying that makes men look bad more than anything else. People who feel "alienated" by self-respect are generally not good people. And caving to their wants is not going to make them better, much to the contrary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 09:42 PM
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Interesting point!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 09:36 PM
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Basically you're saying that women shouldn't pay because men don't even really appreciate it when they do pay, and you're absolutely correct.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 08:11 PM
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That's smart haha I just might use this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 07:40 PM
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Lack of tact and elegance is extremely low value though, isn't it? He's suppose to make you feel secure and you're not gonna feel secure with a man who is putting you on the spot and asking you antagonistic questions all the time. If he doesn't have the common sense to realize that this is an awkward question to ask, he probably lacks social skills in general. There's literally no benefit to asking that question. If he's worried that she's a lib fem who will feel offended if he pays he can still…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 07:36 PM
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I would never pay someone who said that they were inviting me, it's their own damn fault and they need to be honest if they dont want to pay, instead of trapping people. Well, I might pay my half if he starts making a scene but I would definitely let him know that that behavior is off putting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 07:30 PM
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I don’t think a man asking if you do 50/50 makes him low value, I think If he “expects and requires” 50/50 then he is low value. It is very low value because if he doesnt expect and require it then why ask? Why not just pay? Simply asking the question already puts the woman under pressure to say "yes" and they know it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 07:25 PM
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If they have to ask, it’s because they’re trying to skip the get to know you phase, which imo, looks low value This is really accurate. I felt that but I couldn't put it into words.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 07:22 PM
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If I had gold I would give it to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 07:07 PM
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Being a gold-digger is okay. Men are the biggest youth and beauty diggers and they don't get even half the social reprisal for it than women get.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 07:04 PM
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Here is a relevant post I have made in response to someone in another thread about paying. It got burried pretty quickly, so I'm allowing myself to repost it here: Im i the only FDS user that doesn't like when they pay for both? It always makes me very uncomfortable. I see it as a power play where they assert their dominance by being the one paying and i hate that. Also i don't want to feel like i owe them anything. Even if a date pays for you as a woman, you still owe him nothing other than res…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 07:01 PM
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Am i the only FDS user that doesn't like when they pay for both? It always makes me very uncomfortable. I see it as a power play where they assert their dominance by being the one paying and i hate that. Also i don't want to feel like i owe them anything. In my opinion, the moment that FDS has truly sunk in into your mind is the moment when you realize that, even if a date pays for you as a woman, you still owe him nothing other than respect and basic decency. You're a woman and, as a class, you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 12:18 PM
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I don’t know how to explain my view on this. I like to pay for people and treat them... but I would not want to pay for a man that thinks women should pay? Is that dramatic? Nope. It just means that you like to treat people when you know that they truly appreciate your gesture. None likes to give a gift to someone who feels entitled to receive it. Just imagine buying someone a car or anything expensive and instead of saying thanks and showing you love that person just says "wow this is great!" t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 11:23 AM
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I bet that when you said no he made up his mind that "Okay I'm going to pay for the few first dates but later on, when I'm sure that she won't leave I'll be free to come at her with 50/50 bs".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 11:11 AM
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Proof that when men ask you uncomfortable questions and justify that because "cOmMUniCAtion is important", they're just playing dumb and testing you to see how much they can get away with by putting you on the spot. That's why it's fundamental to learn to be unwavering, unafraid to be straightforward and honest when it benefits you. HVM know that women are caught between a rock and a hard place when it comes to honesty. Because dishonesty gets them called dishonest and honesty often gets them un…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 10:57 AM
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Pickmeness is an illness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 10:13 AM
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It refers to the fact that, even though both care about looks, women are more likely to sacrifice looks for security in a partner, whereas men rarely do that. But the problem with this rhetoric is that people who eagerly use "men are vIsuAl CreAtures" to excuse shallow male behavior love to turn around and angrily call women "gOLd digGers" when women say that they want a man to provide. They want to have their cake and to eat it too. Screw them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 10:09 AM
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This! Women spend too much time trying to explain themselves with words even though they're talking to someone who is deaf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 10:02 AM
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I had to read this 5 times to understand his message. Because his tweet is what's "UnBElieVabLe". Way to make the sex-trafficking industry all about himself. This is like saying "A person knocked down my favorite vase on his way out of my house while he was kidnapping my daughter. That vase cost me a fortune, he has to pay it back!" Literally all they care about is themselves. Edit Here is another tweet this idiot wrote: "I don't know why this isn't getting the attention that it should. We are w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 09:40 AM
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They do understand, they just don't care. If they were honest they would call themselves "the narcissistic sex" because that is a lot more accurate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 09:30 AM
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This stuff used to be very disturbing to me until I realized that a lot of the things men say are just negs or some type of lie. It's easy to SAY that from now on "mY cuTOFf wilL BE 25", but how many of them actually live by this? There's also a survey going around saying that men of all ages prefer 22 year olds whereas women prefer men around their age, and that's also used to scare women but, again, how many of the men who answered this survey actually only date 22 year olds? Their "PrefERence…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 01:05 AM
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This sounds fake. Like it's the fantasy of an incel who wants to pretend that he knows what it feels like to reject an amazing woman
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 10:05 PM
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Exactly, this is libfem logic at its worst, it doesn't make you any more "powerful" as cooking him a meal or doing literally anything else that he likes does
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 02:46 PM
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Idiots.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 12:42 AM
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Exactly "lower your standards, you wont like him but he'll treat you like a goddess" nobody cares about 'godess treatment' from a guy they don't even like, standards are there for a reason. For some reason they understand that for men, but when it's time to apply that logic for women their brain shuts down
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 12:40 AM
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They're literal animals, makes me want to avoid any guy who has a reddit account, the men here are insane
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 12:33 AM
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That was so disgusting, could they be any more selfish and overtly self-serving, I bet none of them actually thought through what they wrote they just blurted whatever was convenient for them, I want to throw up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 12:29 AM
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Yes, the more hardship I experience, the more I understand that some people really don't mind not being independent. Independence is a lot of responsibility, a lot of stress, and if anything goes wrong you have none to blame but yourself. Some people don't want to live a life where they constantly have to put in the effort to be the sole manager of their own life and thus they find more meaning in deferring to someone else, being a leader's help, rather than being the leader. The part where it g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 07:06 PM
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This! They don't become camboys because they don't want to deal with the stigma that comes with it, but they completely disregard the stigma that women also face when they do this type of work. Women are just expected to accept the mental toll of misogyny, but men feel entitled to never having to deal with that type of dehumanization.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 06:43 PM
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I think it is generally easier, not because the lifestyle is easy, but mostly because radical feminism isn't popular. Being a radical feminist is usually very lonely and most people would rather pick a harder lifestyle that allows them to belong to a group rather than an easier one where they will be alone. Yeah, I'm saying that radical feminism isn't popular because it's not popular. It's a cycle. None wants to be the pioneer. I think that changing that mindset would require heavy, concentrated…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 06:25 PM
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Yes, I'm also happy about the influx of women figuring it out, but I'm also alarmed that it took this long for women to start pushing back, given that all the overt misogyny has been around online for such a looong time. Even this sub is like, what, 2-3 years old? I don't know, it scares me to see how passive and compliant women can be in the face of overt disrespect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 06:21 PM
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I think the problem is mostly the latter, they're extremely young. Young women prefer to live in denial simply because they can. To men they're the ultimate prize so men act extra nice towards them, the young girls mostly see the nice side of men and they assume that older women are feminists because they're just bitter and jealous. And even when these girls get older and finally understand why feminism isn't just for miserable bitter women, they're replaced by another group of naive idealistic …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 06:11 PM
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It's sad that they put men on such a pedestal and they have such low self-esteem that they'd rather be re-traumatized over and over instead of becoming what they look for in a man and satisfying their own needs independently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 06:02 PM
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Hahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 05:47 PM
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True. I meant that if a guy approaches you and you're interested, you shouldn't automatically dismiss and ignore him because he's richer or prettier or whatever, you can act the same way you would act with a guy "in your league". I don't encourage women to approach first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 05:41 PM
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I can't believe that some guys use sex-positivity as a weapon to intimidate women now. It makes no sense, sex-positivity is about protecting women from slut-shaming, it's not about accomodating men in any way. Anyone who uses feminist concepts to force women to be "more liberated" is missing the point so badly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 07:34 PM
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They just move the goalpost and say whatever suits them even if it's contradictory. Best not to listen to anything they say.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 07:29 PM
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It will subconsciously trip you into thinking that HVMs really don’t exist and you gotta settle with LVMs. This is the main reason why blocking & deleting is crucial. Thanks for this post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 07:27 PM
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I feel like that's another thing that they know but they don't care. They count on women accomodating them so they allow themselves to be disagreeable instead of being considerate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 07:01 PM
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Acting like you know it all and acting like a little kid is the same thing. Pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 06:54 PM
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(I've edited this post, I got inspired) Honestly, women should have that mindset. You won't necessarily get it and you shouldn't be rude if your don't get it but you should freely go after what you want. Go after him if you feel like you can handle it (no matter his league), and if he doesn't reciprocate your feelings just be gracious, move on, rinse repeat. All that "you should have known better, he's out of your league blabla" talk is just noise, and people who tease you like that are probably…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 06:13 PM
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I think that they're mad at women depending on whatever they personally need. If he doesn't have money, he's gonna be mad that women don't work. If he has money, he's mad that women work instead of staying home to raise his kids. If he has no friends, he's mad that women don't smile enough and laugh enough at his jokes, if he has enough social interaction he's a bit more likely to let it go. In any case, they feel entitled to having someone who takes care of whatever need they have at the moment…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 10:36 AM
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It's crazy how much men get to have their cake and eat it too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 05:56 AM
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This is really one of the greatest inequalities between the sexes. Guys get so many do-overs, second third fourth chances, if they play their cards right. Even if they were promiscuous, they still have access to girlfriends who weren't, even if they were jerks in the past they aren't branded a jerk forever and they still have access to a good girl. As a woman the mistakes you make are more likely to leave a stain on your reputation and follow you your whole life. Men have an absurd level of priv…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 05:51 AM
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I get that dudes crave male validation, but I don’t understand why women are so often the complete opposite It's lack of self-esteem from being told your whole life by society that you're worthless without a man. When you criticize your friend's choice, I think it's important to remember that it's not just what you say it's how you say it too. So you should be mindful to not voice your criticism in a way that makes them feel like you think they're stupid or you think you could never make the sam…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 05:38 AM
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Omg I will never stop laughing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 03:22 PM
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Your explanations probably made sense, he just didn't care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 03:19 PM
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This. It always surprises me when I see some people (even on here) say "haha this rich 50 year old really thinks that the 21 year old he's dating is in love with him and doesn't just want his money! He's in for a rude awakening!". Like... this guy knows. He just doesn't care because he's using her too. It's pretty obvious. Or people who go "Why is this 50 year old man going after a 21 year old? She's immature, she's probably going to be a headache for him!". He knowwws that she won't be as inter…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 03:10 PM
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I'm happy to see that Billie understood the game at an early age. The best way to win is to just not play. She understood that she doesn't have to show her body to the world to "prove" that she's confident in it like so many other celebrities do. There's nothing wrong with showing your body and nothing wrong with not showing it. She set a great example and she rocks. Now I just hope that she doesn't hide her body because she's terrified to show it but just because she doesn't want to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 02:53 PM
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I don't really understand this reasoning. Or rather, I don't think it's true. Even if a guy is attracted to you and would sleep with you if you wanted to, it doesn't mean that he's not your friend. Women also know guys that they're attracted to who are just friends to them. People who say it usually have good intentions, but I think it's dangerous to spread the idea that "men can never be friends with a woman" because it tells women that they cannot possibly have any worth to a man beyond how se…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 02:39 PM
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Yes. Also, turning anger inwards often happens when you feel like you can't turn it outwards. /u/nat_at_all , I think that one of the keys to helping your friend is convincing her that she CAN find better guys, guys who will stick around and stick to their promises. If she still doesn't agree with this video after what the Bumble guy did, she has a very serious case of denial and getting rid of that is the first step to getting her to treat herself better. Also, maybe her self-esteem is so low t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 01:50 PM
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Worse, I've noticed that a lot of ugly guys tend to be jealous of more attractive men, not because they have more sex, but because they are "allowed" to get away with treating women like shit. Ugly guys can definitely still get laid, they just need to work harder at it. Most ugly guys are simply resentful that they "have" to be nice to women This is so true. It's even more ridiculous when you realize that these same men also let pretty women get away with more than an average woman, but they sti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 01:39 PM
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The worst part is that if they accepted that they had to change, they still wouldn't have it that bad. Seriously, they'd just have to be clean, have a job, get decent social skills, invest in interesting hobbies, and financially provide for ONE girl, their girlfriend, to the best of their ability, in a world where the workforce is set up in their favor and a world where women are very willing to chip in sometimes if they see that their boyfriend is not rich but he's still doing his best to provi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 12:49 PM
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all they do is bring you down to their level rather than rise up to your’s Exactly. The guys who get mad that women chase Chad completely ignore the fact that many people are content with mediocrity and won't work hard if they can get away with not doing so. And since women are taught since birth that they're worthless without a man while men aren't taught that they're worthless without a woman, women are more likely to give in to the pressure and let their boyfriend get away with being mediocre…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 12:27 PM
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All because a woman is given value based on the man she managed to bag instead of based on who she is in this society. I hate that women are basically coerced into being in relationships with men because they can't get respect without being in one. And that leads to all the unfettered pickmeness growing like cancer among women, women who have unconsciously accepted that they have no choice but to sacrifice their self-respect in order to live a happy life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 12:17 PM
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Ladies, don't fall for this trap. If you are beautiful inside and out, you deserve to be with someone who is also beautiful inside and out. If you can't find a man who meets that standard, stay single. It is better to be single than to be with a man who will make you miserable. This should be every woman's mantra.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 12:11 PM
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Exactly. When they say that you shouldn't ask for money they're just moving the goalpost.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 11:47 AM
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Wow. Insightful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 11:45 AM
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I'm so sorry that this happened to you. I feel like a lot of misogynists view sexual assault as THE golden opportunity to get back at women. They're jealous of women's power to attract and control others with their bodies so there's a part of them that's sickly happy to hear stories where a woman's feminine assets are a cause of suffering for her and not a source of (what they view as) "privilege". In their idiotic minds, they think about the free drinks or the free meals or any sort of help tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 12:20 PM
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I think we have moved past that, most guys would never say that in real life, they're just acting tough and saying idiotic bs because it's the internet and nobody will really hold them accountable here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 11:07 PM
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Beautiful, all parents should do this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 11:01 PM
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Yes, I don't get how so many moms bring daughters in this world only to teach them pickme values and make their daughters suffer as much as they did. Anyone bitter and vengeful enough to consciously pass on their suffering to their kids should not have kids
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 10:59 PM
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The audacity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 04:55 PM
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Because many women believe that they cannot defeat the patriarchy and they will never have the power to make a man pay for his mistakes so they prefer to just let men do whatever they want and to fight other women, just to avoid feeling completely powerless, sadly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 04:52 PM
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It's because it's objectifying. It just shows that your looks and your cuteness are the most important things that he's after. Or it shows that he thinks that you're shallow and you care a lot about these things so that's the best way to flatter you. Pet names only mean something when they come from someone who has proven that they care about your non-shallow traits too. Coming from a stranger, it looks lazy and manipulative, as if he's trying to skip the natural progression of things, and reap …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 09:16 AM
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Ew, the stench of low effort is nauseating
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 09:01 AM
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Men who say this don't even mean it, they know their criticism is stupid, they're just looking for reasons to close down this sub so that women remain ignorant and vulnerable to manipulation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 07:30 AM
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But why aren't waiters paid minimum wage?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 11:30 AM
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We honestly have every reason to hate them, and I'm not obligated to like them/ trust them for any single reason, given the way they are. I feel like saying this is one of the most significant tests you can put a man through to see if he's a HVM or not. If a man responds to your distrust with defensiveness (pouts/gets mad/throws sarcastic jabs at you) and he pressures you to trust him as much as you would trust a woman because otherwise you're "prejudiced" and "too feminist", you can be pretty s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 11:19 AM
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Yes, having strong feelings and loving is not the same thing. Many of them don't get that. Love is selfless. Their "love" is often controlling and parasitic. I don't know if it can really be called love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 11:04 AM
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!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 10:58 AM
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There's a point where cOmMUnicaTing is enabling. There are things that a grown man should just... know. And if he doesn't he should go seek advice from any sort of older mentor figure like a parent, uncle, etc. Especially now that google is a thing, there is no excuse to "nOt KNow". And the more women cOMMuniCate, the more men feel entitled to not doing their own research.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 10:13 AM
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I don't think this will ever happen. Women just can't have their humanity recognized in this world without attaching themselves to a man. Maybe I'm being too pessimistic, but at this point, I just don't see this getting better anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 10:07 AM
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The last sentence breaks my heart.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 10:04 AM
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I love that this phrase has become so popular. It's saving lives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 09:24 AM
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Yes, engaging with them will cause you to lose braincells and turn into an idiot yourself, beware
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 08:54 AM
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A hundred times this, especially the last sentence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 08:50 AM
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I think these guys also think that way because they believe that the virtue signalling that people do in mainstream media actually represents the reactions that people have in the real world. So they see guys being called out in the media for things like metoo, and they start thinking they're "oppressed" and it's going "too far" even though men in real life are still barely being called out and held accountable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 08:49 AM
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Men on Reddit misuse or fundamentally misunderstand terms and concepts introduced by feminist thought because they refuse to engage with power dynamics and the existence of misogyny. This is such a good way to summarize their behavior. I had noticed this trend as well but I didn't know how to put it into words. You did a great job. I believe that guys on reddit and antifeminist men who are very vocal about it are a segment of the population that just generally lack empathy. That's it. There's no…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 02:26 AM
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How is it that this mentality for women isn't the majority? I think that many women's self-esteem is too low to set proper ultimatums. They believe that if they demand to be treated right, the guy will refuse, and they'll embarrass themselves or they'll have to end the relationship. Leaving their relationship is terrifying to them because they don't have satisfactory friendships with women or they lack something like a great career or a successful hobby that could keep them from feeling lonely a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 01:04 AM
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Yes, do this! And if she talks about "IT's All fOr LovE", ask her why he's letting her split everything 50/50 instead of taking care of her financially out of "love", then? Why is she the only one who's making actual sacrifices for love in this relationship?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 12:32 AM
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I think that people do sometimes change but only when they hit rock bottom and their actions have very serious consequences. Either way, that still means that it's best to just leave that person than to try to change them. I feel like you're very right about the fact that many women really just don't... listen. They listen but then they make up all kinds of excuses to justify ignoring what men say and keep that idea in their head that all the feminist criticism of men isn't justified.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 11:12 PM
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Could be a "boys will be boys, you need to lower your standards because they can't help being like this and you're rude if you don't accept them the way they are" piece.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 11:07 PM
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That's understandable. Not all sahms do what they should do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 08:48 PM
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Lmaoo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 07:51 PM
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A hundred times this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 07:46 PM
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I understand why someone would want to be a SAHM, clocking in everyday is not easy and not everyone has the luxury to find a job that they don't hate. However, one can be a SAHM and teach kids to clean after themselves at the same time, and that's what all SAHMs should do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 07:43 PM
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They ruin it for all of us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 10:34 AM
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Ew, you deserved better. I love that you didn't fall for the gaslighting at the end, good on you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 10:27 AM
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How could they even say something like that, what a douchebag
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 09:52 PM
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Exactly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 03:55 PM
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Funny how they're so proud of the fact that they don't care about the hard and long efforts a woman has put into being a valuable, strong, high achieving member of society. As if their superficial attitude didn't slow down the evolution of society as a whole. And women are supposed to be sad that they'll be spending their time with their cats rather than with a parasite who resents them for spending more time getting an education than putting on makeup and cleaning his mess? Men really love to o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 03:53 PM
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So true, they're such predators
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 08:01 AM
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But all of them sure as hell would love to bang as many pornstars or any women as they can hence my comment of how they all view women as objects. Oh I see. However I think it's important to note that just wanting to sleep with many women does not mean viewing women as objects. Being willing to disregard women's feelings, hurt them, lie to them, ruin the friendship in order to sleep with them, or refusing to interact with them at all unless they can sleep with them, that's actual objectification…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 07:44 AM
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What I also hear is "I took too many women out for dinner that I didn't have a real connection with. I just selected them based on superficial traits and then I was very surprised when it blew up in my face" and in the case of the OP what I hear is "Now that I've spent too much time giving my money away to random pretty chicks, I'm gonna make you pay for my mistakes by being very guarded with you, even though I was very generous with them. If a girl is extremely beautiful but there's no connecti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 07:00 AM
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I was just having a similar thought and browsing this thread for someone who would echo that view. One of the weirdest things about being a woman is having to pair up and build your life with people who have such a huge tendency to only care about a very small part of you and want to discard the rest. That's SO bad for the self-esteem. And it's very anxiety-inducing to have to wonder if the person you love even views you as a person. Mutual respect should be the basis of any relationship. Withou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 06:38 AM
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they’ll either start tearing you down emotionally at best or punch you in the face because “they love you so much” at worst The last example is so telling. If you can hurt someone on purpose, you don't love them. Or you 'love' them but you don't respect them, and you have a very lowbrow primitive view of 'love'. I can't stand the idea of someone using "I love you" as a reason to be overy controling and oppressive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 06:13 AM
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That must have been so hard to experience, someone that you love trying to make you feel like dealing with this kind of disrespect is normal. Good on you for loving yourself more than you loved him and seeing through the nonsense. You're strong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 06:10 AM
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That's only interesting if he accepts you the way you are. If he only 'does anything' for you as long as you're perfect and you fit his idealized version ox you, I can see why that gets old real quick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 06:05 AM
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So true. Some men do that thing where they ask you inappropriate or deep personal questions and then act like you're weird if you don't want to answer, don't fall for it! If you have a real connection with someone, you'll find yourself talking about the present and the future, you won't feel the need to talk about the past a lot out of fear that you'll run out of things to say. I think that many people don't know really well how to form real connections with others so they start asking overly pe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 04:03 AM
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I guess I'll have to wear dirty pants tomorrow to work." What? So if you didn't clean his clothes he just... didn't clean them? I feel bad that you had to deal with that, no wonder you were not attracted anymore, he sounds like a gross giant baby
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 03:47 AM
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This reasoning is nuts. I think that many libfems only say crazy things like that because they think that if you gaslight people hard enough, people will start believing that the crazy things they say are true, they'll really start treating women and men exactly the same and they'll really believe that men and women are so similar that there's no reason for men to be paying women. But it's been decades of their propaganda and sexism is still alive and thriving, what more do they need to see that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 06:10 AM
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Amen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 06:00 AM
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Sex panders to men. Maybe I'm being indescrete, sorry if I am, but I wonder how do you deal with sexuality now that you have this view? Do you avoid it altogether? Because if you view all sex, no matter the type, as pandering to men, it must be hard to still have sex I guess? I find your viewpoint interesting because it's different from the majority and very not lib femmy and I think that's really cool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 05:52 AM
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They can even resent you for being too nice if you are empathetic. A woman's role in a relationship is to put herself first to keep the guy from slacking. It makes things better for both the woman and the man. He'll complain, but on the inside, he'll respect you more. That's what men won't tell you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 06:42 AM
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Yes, this should definitely be a thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 09:57 PM
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He's trying to minimize the importance of the things that women here say. He's trying to get you to lower your standards by making you fearful that no guy is ever going to take what is said here seriously. That's what he's saying in caveman language. The answer is to just ignore him. Being ignored is what they hate the most.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 05:20 PM
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This is so accurate. Men's potential is ruined by the way people spoil them. And people spoil them because they see so much potential. It's ironic, isn't it? Potential means nothing. You need to act on it. And most men just don't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 10:44 AM
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It's only unsexy to the men whose lives aren't as exciting as yours.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 10:37 AM
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Yes, FDS is a blessing. I think a LOT of women feel deep inside that 50/50 relationships are not fair at all, but since they are in an ocean of misogynistic conservatives and misogynistic liberal feminists, they end up believing that they will never find their tribe and they subconsciously give up their standards to fit in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 10:32 AM
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Exactly! The guys who don't care about your career are the guys who don't care about their own careers aka the guys that women don't want anyway. Their standards are low because these men are low overall
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 10:26 AM
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Of course, even if we don't meet their "preferences" they still want to date us, they just want to be able to devalue women and shame us into lowering our standards. They want to be able to turn to their 30 year old girlfriend and go, "your sexual marketplace value is low, you are in no position to be making demands, you don't deserve any better, you have to put up with this" Understanding this is the key to maintaining your standards high. Stop considering LVM as viable boyfriends, because they…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 10:15 AM
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Oh yeah definitely. This guy is abusive and dangerous because he's going way overboard and not taking no for an answer but he's putting in effort to make her his wife (but not for the right reasons). It just shows that people fight for what they truly want, whether what they want is buying their favorite car, getting their dream career or winning over the person that they love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 07:30 AM
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Oh wow really? Boy do they love to blame women for their own choices. I'm happy that you enjoyed this post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 08:04 PM
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I want to save this woman so badly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 07:39 PM
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Proof that if a man really wants you he will put in effort
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 07:36 PM
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Exactly what I was thinking, she shouldn't have showed her face
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 07:32 PM
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The guy in the screenshot already didn't like her for other reasons, but he used that as an opportunity to make her feel insecure about her age. Most 34 year old guys would be completely fine with a 27 year old girlfriend. When men tell you why they don't want you, don't automatically believe them. Remember that many don't have your best interest at heart.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 07:28 PM
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"Healthy fertile partner" is the creepiest, like, are they talking about women or about livestock?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 07:23 PM
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I've seen that reasoning before around here but I don't think that that's a good strategy to vet manipulators. Saying "thank you" is not a sign of submission, it doesn't mean that you care what the person thinks, it means that you appreciate the fact that they went out of their way to show vulnerability by admitting that they like something about you and that they want you to know it. You don't have to blush or act coy or say that it's not true, but saying "thank you" is the polite thing to do a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 12:11 AM
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Men create the same sense of "it's opposite day, you're gonna miss the boat" if you don't give them the benefit of the doubt, if you dare have the notion that men ain't some type of scarcity. If only there were a VPN and ad blocker for men. I think FDS is the closest thing to being an ad blocker for men. Exactly. That's why they talk about the wall so much. Their primary strategy is using women's biology as leverage to force them to settle for subpar mates, implying that you should stay with tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 08:43 PM
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This is a big green flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 06:57 PM
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I think it implies the opposite. It says that your words are enough because saying what you think is all you can do. Past that point, no amount of pushing or twisting or turning will do anything, it all depends on whether he has the needed comprehensions skills to understand what you said. And if he doesn't, you can leave and be at peace knowing that you did everything you could.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 05:37 PM
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Every woman needs to be taught this very young. Just because they say they don't get it, it doesn't mean that they don't. That's probably one of the reasons why men love to say that women are complicated mystical creatures: it absolves them from being held accountable when they treat them wrong because they can just claim they "didn't know" or "don't understand women".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 05:32 PM
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This! The term HVM is being used in so many ways that it's hard to tell what it even means anymore. A HVM is a man who treats you right first and foremost and who has the other things that you require in a man second. A very rich man who doesn't give you any money is less of a HVM than a middle class guy who gives you every penny he earns. There's no point to being with someone who has great features that you like (looks, money, fun hobbies etc) but who doesn't use these features in a way that b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 05:25 PM
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This post could be interpreted as victim-blamey, but it's probably just meant to explain reality in a neutral fashion. Everybody knows the douchbag things that men do, so it's helpful to have a post about what women can do to protect themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 04:51 PM
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Lol. Because you don't care when other people cry, Josh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 04:08 PM
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You've said it all. I used to feel bad for not finding edgelords funny when I was younger, but now I understand that these jokes are only "funny" if you're far removed from the issues that they are about. In other words, you pretty much have to be a straight white dude to be able to laugh at that. Seeing how butthurt straight white dudes act when they get a taste of their own medecine drove the point home for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 04:06 PM
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This was an important nuance to add thanks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 03:51 PM
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The last part is hard and I think that's the reason why many people struggle with unrequited crushes, but it is very true. It's hard to know if you lower someone else though, so I think it's more accurate to say that you shouldn't be in a relationship with someone that you personally feel inferior to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 03:46 PM
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Amazing post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 03:44 PM
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Your last sentence sums it up pretty well. These men get away with not adulting because male privilege causes people to view them as capable and worthy even when they do nothing. People, male and female, family and girlfriends will want to endlessly believe in their "potential" and give them an endless number of chances even when they do nothing. I think that being aware of that makes you less vulnerable to being manipulated by inaction because you'll be less tolerant of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 03:38 PM
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Seriously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 03:24 PM
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And on top of that they pretend that THEY are the victims. And the pickmes fall for it. It's crazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 03:22 PM
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These men agree with you going by the normal definition of a relationship but these guys are so desperate that their definition of a "relationship" is just "exclusively sleeping with someone" and everything else is just icing on the cake to them. That's why they keep bragging that their standards aren't extremely high like women's and they are "open to dating anyone". If you regularly just meet up to get laid and then barely talk or hangout outside of that, they'd also call that a "relationship"…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 03:20 PM
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To be honest, maybe it's just my experience, i don't know, but I've befriended quite a lot of boys growing up and they seemed to talk just fine among themselves about all their emotions, the good, the bad and the ugly of their lives. They do tease each other a lot, but when a guy is seriously feeling down it seems to me like they can find male friends who will put the teasing on pause and be supportive if they want to. I'm starting to believe that this "men can't talk about their feelings with t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 03:06 PM
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This is so refreshing to read. No other people give it to you straight like they do on here. When you stay away from here for a long time and the social conditioning creeps back inside your brain, this sub slaps the pickmeness right outta you again. I love it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 02:40 PM
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This! I was just thinking about how they always complain that the average guy is very lonely and that's why women are cruel for not lowering their standards and giving more guys a chance. That reasoning doesn't add up because why do these "lonely" guys not just make male friends to reduce their loneliness if women don't want them? Why do they care so much about relationships with women and not with other men even though it's harder for them to relate to women and interacting with women comes wit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 02:31 PM
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And to then say it on a public platform.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 01:54 PM
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Thanks for this post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 01:15 PM
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Once you understand that, so much of their behavior starts making sense. That's the ultimate cure to being a pickme: realizing that you're spending your precious energy defending someone who is actually way more capable of defending himself than you are capable of defending him. Men take their privilege for granted and women forget that men are nowhere near as vulnerable as women are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 12:56 PM
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This is so true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 12:50 PM
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You haven't answered it. I asked you: "Do you think that a financially 50/50 relationship between an average man and an average woman is generally fair? Or do you think that it's fair for the woman to ask the man to pay for more than she does in the relationship?" You replied "as long as she does 50% of everything else, 50/50 financially is fair". But then, as I asked in the op, how do you account for the greater sacrifices that women make in terms of looks, youth and chastity in a relationship …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/20 04:26 PM
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They all do. They have no legal choice. What? Just because you don't have a legal choice to not do something it does not mean that if you do that thing, it's against your will. Plenty of men on this earth want kids. And plenty, if not the majority, of women on this earth only try to have kids after their SO consented to it. You're operating under the assumption that most women trap men into having kids even thought that's not the truth. Also, if men have as much of a right to decide whether a wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/20 04:10 PM
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you can conceivably argue that he hasn't lost as much as her because her time is more valuable. Indeed. I'm not going to argue about that, I find it weird and pointless Many things that are weird are not wrong, so I don't think it matters how weird it is. It's not pointless for women. You might want to dismiss that point because you're not the one who bears the brunt of a system that dismisses the sacrifices that women make, but women can't dismiss it as easily because they are. I estimate that …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/20 03:34 PM
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Of course low value men's point of view is an irrelevant technicality to you. This makes no sense. High value men also go on dates. But as long as the woman isn't a sexual partner, the man hasn't received any value yet Yes, he has. Her time is more valuable than his given that a woman's youth is more valuable than a man's. How is that fair if the man doesn't even pay for anything then? You're making him pay with no guarantee of receiving anything, She is also giving her time with no guarantee th…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/20 01:12 PM
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And being the only ones who get to make the decision to make them both parents. Oh the burden. Yes, and? Most men don't become fathers against their will. So you don't believe in unequal division of household chores, alright. Men don't hate feminism because it demeans them. The title of this thread is not "Why do men hate feminism", so please stay on topic. Are you going to answer the actual question in the op?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/20 01:00 PM
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well thats not what the only thing thats needed for the discussion now is it I never said it was. Are you going to answer the question?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/20 08:32 AM
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I prefer to call it offering her looks, youth and chastity out of love, not being exploited. Of course you prefer to use euphemisms to hide an ugly truth. Anyway, men value youth (and looks and chastity) in a sexual partner, not in a date You're pointing out an irrelevant technicality. Men have to go on a date with her before she becomes a sexual partner (most of the time), and that's what matters. Why should things change after 40? Women's look keep declining after 40 and men still care more ab…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/20 08:29 AM
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I will agree that women are more vulnerable to male underperformance in a typical relationship. Good to see you agree with that. Again, being excessively rigid of dogmatic isn't helpful --context is always king I don't believe I'm being excessively dogmatic. We both agree that context matters, we're just fleshing out what part of context matters how. But if having a man pay for dates is an effective part of a decent screening strategy that isn't overly onerous on the man, then why not. Good to s…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/20 11:35 PM
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if the man and women do 50% of everything else than its fair for financially 50/50 I just explained in the op that women tend to do more (sacrifice more) in a 50/50 relationship, so why are you talking about a scenario where they both "do 50% of everything else"? What does doing 50/50 of everything else look like to you? Your question is kinda irrelevent to that No it's not. My question is about that.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/20 11:28 PM
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Or because women have more innate value in a relationship somehow? Women's value depends on more things that they can't control, but they don't have "innate" value because that value diminishes with time. ​ that the guy is just luckier to have her than she is to have him because women have more value. ​ It's not so much that the guy is luckier to have her than the reverse, it's that it's easier for the average guy to take advantage of the average woman than the reverse (if the relationship is 50…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/20 09:02 PM
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Women don't deem enough men fuckable to make things fair everywhere else. Do you think that a financially 50/50 relationship between an average man and an average woman is generally fair? Or do you think that it's fair for the woman to ask the man to pay for more than she does in the relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/20 08:33 PM
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Okay so you're purple pill. ​ That may require one person to do more. But you don't talk about it. ​ How can you keep the bargain as fair as possible without talking about it? You saying that "youth, chastity and looks have no transational value and we shouldn't talk about it" just sounds like you telling women to suck it up and accept an unfair bargain without compaining.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/20 08:31 PM
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If you actually find a suitable person, you’re not giving up anything Yes, you are. Time doesn't stop because you found a suitable person. That suitable person is still benefitting from you making sacrifices that they don't have to make. It's still not fair. And you don’t like to criticize it because you know women use child support and kids as weapons in court.. No, that's not why, and I said why. But that's not the topic at hand. yet you don’t are about the lives destroyed by feminists ? How a…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/20 08:22 PM
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"And no, I do not think that between two people who have decided to become a pair, 'chastity' or 'youth' or 'looks' have any transactional value in the relationship whatsoever. That is the path to a hellish relationship." Are you red pill or blue pill?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/20 08:01 PM
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And no... nobody is entitled to your money, nobody is entitled to “pay for you” to “date you”... I personally find that behavior disgusting, finances should only be discussed if you move in together, have been for more than 6 months together, or simply are married..." Okay then back to the original question: if men don't even pay for more, what does a fair relationship between a woman and a man look like, knowing that in 50/50 relationships, women give their youth, looks, chasitity while men don…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/20 07:46 PM
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Yes THEORETICALLY speaking child support is for the kid Which goes to show that it's not a "female privilege" thing. Women don't get paid that money because they are women, they get paid that because they have custody of the kids. And men who have custody of the kids get paid by women as well. why do you think she hasn’t gotten cancelled ? Because she barely has a career? How can you cancel someone who barely does anything? And of course there are women defending her, just like there are people …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/20 07:29 PM
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" Your entire life’s savings ? Lmfao 18 years of child support Alimony checks " What are you responding to here? The privileges that women have? Do you know that child support is not for the woman but for the kids? "while her “yas queen sisters” praise her " I haven't seen anyone who knows what she did praise her. And if there are people like that, they are the minority. Maybe you've seen something else because of confirmation bias, but you need to check again. " But hey... take notes guys, that…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/20 07:16 PM
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"A woman’s “sacrifices” in a relationship are practically null, they’re nothing compared to what a man actually has to put on the line" What does a man put on the line that a woman doesn't in a financially 50/50 relationship? "society gives women insane privileges and insane amounts of protection" What privileges does society give women that isn't a response to the privileges that men have? "If any woman is not willing to give their best years to a SO, then she’s completely worthless" Why should…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/20 07:05 PM
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" I guess she's supposed to do it for love, but I'm afraid that's not a good answer" That's really not a good answer indeed, all it does is get women exploited by men. "She can ask for ongoing resource transfers as compensation, but it's semi-taboo" Do you think it's fair if she asks for compensation during the relationship? I don't think that asking for compensation is taboo if you do it in an elegant way. "Personally, my main problem with the man paying for dates is that you're asking for mone…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/20 07:05 PM
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"If you choose a man who makes a lot less than you, he can't really pay way more than you do. " Yes, he can, if you accept that he won't be able to take you on the same dates that you would be able to take him on if you decided to do so. "And once in a marriage,resources are pooled." That's not guaranteed. Eveyone has their own ideas on that. I'm asking what your idea on that is here. So do you think it's fair to pool all the money in a marriage, even when one person makes more than the other? "…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/20 07:05 PM
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" Wouldn't they owe nature if they owe anyone at all? " You can't pay nature, so the second person in line who should pay is the person who is benefitting from the natural unfairness. ​ " You are both getting what you want, the other person. " No because what you want isn't just the other person, what you want is a fair exchange with the other person. Many women are willing to stop the relationship once it stops being fair, so that proves my point. ​ " If she doesn't find him to be of equal wort…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/20 06:42 PM
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" Women can and often do choose to be single. " Okay but we're talking about the women who don't do that. Most women and men are not happy living a life where they are single forever. " Women have the advantage over men in this regard as men are thirstier. " Women only have the advantage if they don't mind dating bottom of the barrel men and most women do mind doing that. Men who are actually attractive have standards. I don't get why red pillers so often go from "men are thirstier" => "women ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/20 06:31 PM
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Thanks for the thorough response, I appreciate it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/20 01:41 PM
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Seriously. I've received some pretty decent responses, but most of the responses that I received on ppd are full of deflections and random opinions with no elaboration. Looks like they're just scrambling for things to say to pressure women into taking an unfair deal. It's so sad and scary to see so clearly that men are collectively gaslighting women into not seeing their own worth and that most women are falling for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 12:12 PM
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I was asking why is it that "If you can read 10 threads on TRP or FDS without wanting to punch those people in the face, you’re going to have a long, hard life." But you've since edited your post, so I have the answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/20 11:59 AM
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By "different in this context" I meant that people are usually comfortable with making rules of thumb on most subjects. But once it's time to make one on this subject, suddenly everyone becomes a philosopher and starts arguing about how it's all subjective and generalizing is wrong etc. That's suspicious. It just looks like people start philosophizing as a coverup for the fact that they just don't want to talk about it. In that case, I'd rather that they say "I don't want to talk about it". "You…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/20 11:49 AM
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What is your view of a fair relationship? Do you believe that a financially 50/50 relationship is fair? Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/20 11:17 AM
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But how is a financially 50/50 relationship fair (I guess that's what you mean by "common decency") when a woman is generally sacrificing more (in terms of youth, looks and chastity) than the man is in such a setup?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/20 11:15 AM
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"With respect to the cultural treatment of men (generally) as being innately higher status than women helping to balance out this hypergamous instinct in women, I think you are right. However, even in the past it wasn't enough to fully balance it especially since women have a more discriminating and possibly just weaker sex drive than men." It is hard for the men of lowest status to balance it out, yes. But doesn't the average man manage to get a wife? So, in a relationship between an average ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/20 11:13 AM
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That's not an answer to the question I asked. If you want to discuss that you can start your own thread. What is your vision of a fair relationship between a man and a woman? Who should be sacrificing what?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/20 11:02 AM
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I didn't ask if we should make things fair, I'm asking what your idea of a fair relationship is. What is it?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/20 11:01 AM
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Did you read the whole post? Did you think before responding or did you just say what you wanted without caring about whether it makes sense or not?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/20 10:59 AM
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It's not men's fault that nature isn't fair but men do benefit from the unfairness when they get into a relationship with a woman. If they benefit from it, why should they not pay for it? Or do you really believe that everybody should always be able to get everything they want without paying anything? I'm not saying that random men should pay for any random woman's lifestyle, I'm saying that if a man is dating a woman and personally enjoying everything that she has to offer, it makes sense that …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/20 10:56 AM
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What if women do screen for that but there just aren't enough men who do the chores in a relationship? Because that is what most women say that they experience. So you talked about the chores, how is it fair that women are making more sacrifices (in terms of youth, looks and chastity) in the relationship if men aren't required to give more money in return?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/20 10:50 AM
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"Men don't give a fuck about looks. " ​ I don't believe that you're being intellectually honest when you say that. Just because men don't care about their own looks it doesn't mean that they don't care about the way their SO looks. It's very obvious that when I said that men care about looks I meant that they care about women's looks. But from what you said I can gather that you think it's fair for a woman to demand that a man pay for dates before and after marriage. You've answered my question …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/20 11:40 PM
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" Somebody is going to have to do more, or be more, and they might not benefit from it equally anyway. " ​ Okay but do you have an idea for a general rule of thumb? People make rules of thumb all the time, why is it different for this context? ​ Also, men rarely put up with a woman who is just pretty and who has nothing else to offer if they want a serious relationship. And if they don't want anything serious, how is it unfair that a woman doesn't do much other than looking pretty, given that a …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/20 11:34 PM
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" At their best FDS women routinely engage in dates to get free meals. " ​ Where did you read that? I've spent quite some time there and it wouldn't surprise me that some of them do that, but the majority don't waste their time doing that. If they want a meal, they just buy it without forcing themselves to spend time with a guy they don't want to be spending time with. ​ I'm pretty sure that everything else you've said is just something you've mostly made up. That's what you think, but it's not …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/20 11:28 PM
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" Guys already do that " ​ Many guys don't. Do you think it's fair if an average woman demands an average guy to do that? ​ " your problem was when you send was to pay for everything to find I guy like that is statistically impossible " I wasn't talking about what's statistically impossible or not, I was talking about what's fair or not. Also, it's not statistically impossible, it's just not possible for all women. Exceptionally beautiful women are not excluded from this conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/20 11:24 PM
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Are you okay with the woman demanding that the man pays for everything on dates? And after marriage?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/20 11:19 PM
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What pill are you? Red?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/20 11:18 PM
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So you're saying that things can never be fair? ​ Are you for or against women demanding that men pay for more than women on dates and after marriage?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/20 11:16 PM
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" Well, first off, not to be pissy but an average looking man with average income is not qualified to date and mate with an average woman these days " ​ That's the whole point of this post. Red pillers are always complaining about women vetting men based on income, but what else are women supposed to do to make it fair? Just give their youth, their looks and their chastity away for free like men do? How is that fair? ​ " I think the social constructionist theoretical ideal with this gender-less …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/20 11:14 PM
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" go ask your 5'2" bald Indian janitor how glad he is that he isn't judged by his looks" Your looks at the time that you meet your future SO gets you in the door, yes, but afterwards you have to make the person stay. Of course that, as a man, if your looks are extremely subpar, you're not going to pass the threshold. I never said that men's looks don't matter at all. I'm saying that womens looks matter more. As a women, even after you get in the door, you have to worry about losing your looks to…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/20 11:06 PM
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"People only find "fairness" attractive when they're benefiting from it, and they don't find it attractive when they're not." I'm not disputing that. That's why I'm looking for the fairest way, because it's the way that would help both people to benefit from it. And I get that one person will always do more than the other person at times, but do you have an idea for a general rule of thumb? People make rules of thumb all the time, why is it different for this context?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/20 10:58 PM
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I understand. But if humans weren't selfish and wanted fairness, what do you think that a fair romantic relationship between a woman and a man would look like?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/20 10:43 PM
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Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/20 10:39 PM
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Okay, but most men don't work in jobs where women have to put less work in than most cases. And we're not talking about jobs, we're talking about relationships here. I'm not talking about solving all the world's problems, I'm only talking about relationships. ​ Can you answer the question in the context of relationship, imagining a standard relationship between an average man (average looks, average income, etc) and an average woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/20 10:39 PM
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" 50/50 is fair. It's just not 50/50 on every single thing all the time. " ​ But do you have a rule of thumb? Because that's the kind of reasoning that encourages women to enter unequal relationships. The guy will be like "Oh don't worry I'll make it right later", but how? That's the question I'm asking. What can a man do to compensate for the fact that a woman is giving her looks, her youth and her chastity to a person who is only making these sacrifices in return to a way lesser extent? How is…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/20 10:34 PM
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Where did she commit the apex fallacy? Are you implying that only the 20% of men don't do their fair share of household chores? Because even women who aren't married to superstars and models complain about unequal divisions of labor in the household. And even these women complain about all the sacrifices I have mentioned in my post that men don't have to make in a 50/50 relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/20 10:28 PM
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" If you don't like that then you clearly value the state of the house and the example given to your children more than you value the "fairness" of the relationship. " ​ How did you jump to that conclusion? ​ " Even part of it is too much. If you did not earn the money by working in the job marketplace or by selling a product or a service then the money is not yours. " ​ So we're just going to ignore all the sacrifices that women make in relationships that men don't have to make? That's your ide…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/20 10:22 PM
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What if a huge percentage of men are slobs and that makes it very hard (if not impossible) to meet a man who has compatible values and personality, but who is not one? Because women say that that's their biggest problem. They can't find that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/20 10:19 PM
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Why would getting rid of welfare make things fair? It doesn't erase all the problems that women deal with that I mentioned in the OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/20 10:17 PM
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I never said life was fair. What is your point? ​ " Trying to get fairness out of feminists is like trying to get Nazis to treat Jews as equals. " ​ Here you're implying that the main problem is that feminists aren't being fair to men, why (I'm talking about most feminists, not the extremists)? Why are you not addressing men's sexism towards women?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/20 10:16 PM
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What about the women who don't do that? What about the women who don't date "highly deviantly toxic males" (aka the majority of women) and are still asked to go 50/50? How is that fair?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/20 10:12 PM
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Okay. What is your point?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/20 10:10 PM
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Okay. Let's change "pay for everything" into, "pay for dates until marriage". What is your answer then?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/20 10:09 PM
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" but women being sexually attracted to men who are somewhat more than their equal in many ways. " ​ What if women's attraction is a direct response to the fact that women are treated as inferior by society? Men need to satisfy women's hypergamous needs, but it's also easier for a man to have higher status than a women does in general because men get more respect than women by default, even in developed countries. If you're a man and you're on a woman's equal level, you will be treated with more…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/20 10:07 PM
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" If the man doesn't do his share, then that chore just wouldn't get done, with the consequences that would result from that. " ​ Yes, and the consequences that would result from that are bad. That's why women do the chores when men slack. What is the alternative? Letting the house get disgusting and letting that be and example of what a house should look like for the kids? Catch infections because of the unhygenic lifestyle? " This argument isn't an excuse to demand all of a man's resources. " …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/20 09:58 PM
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"Can we stop it with this bullshit narrative" Why should we stop if it's true? "no I don’t wanna hear you lecture me about the sexism women faced in olden days" I don't have to talk about the olden days, sexism agaisnt women still exists now. "yes I am using the not all men logic" Not all men is true. There are men who really do an effort to not say sexist things. "look at the women pedophiles" What? This doesn't prove at all that sexism against women is not normalized. ".look at people who thro…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/20 09:51 PM
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What is your post about. Did you want to discuss something? Yes, I wanted to discuss how we were supposed to make things fair and balanced between the sexes. It's written in the title.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/20 09:32 PM
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" but I think there has to be a line where we say, "This is an unhealthy addiction." " ​ Do you think the same thing for men? If you don't, why?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/20 09:28 PM
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There are spots and comments blatantly hating on men, but there are just as much if not more comments blatantly hating on women in manospherian communities (as well as in society in general, but it's usually not as blatant as online). Female communities life FDS are usually a response to misogynistic communities, and it's very important for there to be a response that brings balance because otherwise women end up with low self-esteem, feeling like they are "evil" like it was said earlier (even w…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/20 08:54 PM
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Some crazy people here say these things unironically so I don't blame you.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/20 12:36 PM
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Can you tell us in what thread you've posted the comment that got you banned? I want to see that trainwreck myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 12:34 PM
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Lol no. Most women at FDS aren't even evil, they only come across as evil to men who cannot stand women who respect themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/20 12:33 PM
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I think she's validating what you're saying and she's right. And so are you.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/20 12:32 PM
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This is scary as hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 12:26 PM
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I wish this wasn't true. But advice from someone like you who has been through something like this weighs more than mine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 10:44 AM
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That's also very normal, especially if that's your first relationship. But it doesn't mean that the pain will never stop. Other people who've already been through it will tell you the same thing. Patience is the key here, even though that really, really sucks x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 10:39 AM
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What a dumbass. I'm sorry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 04:01 PM
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This is not a mistake at all. This is what you're supposed to do in your early 20s. Trial and error. It hurts, but it's very normal. The attachment will fade when you find someone else or when you find something that makes you happy even when you're single. There's absolutely no reason to feel dumb! Take care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 02:49 PM
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What we do can be enough to protect us, but it's always a combination of what we do and good fortune that determinates the outcome together. Don't lose hope that you can have good fortune the next time. Stay strong. I wish you the best.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 02:45 PM
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I think something that can help is to focus on the good parts of the relationship. Even if that guy turned out to be a monster, you were still happy for 5 years before he showed his true colors. It doesn't make it all okay, but that's what I think about when I think of past failed relationships. I hold on to all the good I got to experience with that person and I stay hopeful that I can experience that again with someone else. It's not exactly the same when you find someone else because you get …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 02:40 PM
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Denial and heavy gaslighting from society.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 02:17 PM
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Pretty sure this guy is just a troll. He would never have the guts to treat someone like this in real life. Just ignore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 02:12 PM
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Ignore him forever. Ignoring is way stronger than verbal decimation. He just wants your attention. If he really cared beyond just wanting attention, he would have treated you right. I know you feel angry and you want a release right now, but later you'll feel a lot more victorious and self-confident when you'll have found happiness without him him in your life and without having given him the attention he pathetically asked for with this stupid text.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 02:07 PM
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"Empowering on its own". The mental gymnastics.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 01:54 PM
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So cringy oh lord
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 02:46 PM
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Oh really, what sub crossposted this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 02:20 PM
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> They blame the woman for being dumb enough to trust this clown. ​ In other words, they blame the woman for having faith in humanity. It's disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 06:43 PM
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I stupidly didn't realize that it wasn't okay to criticize me. That's okay. We live in a society that never fails to tell women that they should look perfect and they should feel guilty if they don't. You shouldn't beat yourself up about falling victim to the propaganda, like most women do. It's great that you eventually realized that you deserved better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 05:43 PM
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>something which RPW always blamed themselves for. ​ Seriously. The good thing about rpw is that they aren't wrong about male nature, but the way they treat themselves, the lack of self-respect, is so sad. Things don't have to be this way for them. But they don't realize it or they don't care. ​ (edit: How do you quote things?)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 03:29 PM
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The worst part is that red pill men are so smug and act like women are the worse of the two gender, while simultaneously admitting that men only care about looks and submissiveness, and many other things that really, really don't paint them in a good light. The lack of self-awareness if sad. Or maybe they're self-aware but they lack the empathy to realize that they're being horrible? I don't know. But I'm happy that you found the light.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 03:26 PM
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