I have no words...

carlther · 2021-04-11T01:26:44+00:00

She has aged out, he needs to refresh with another teenager. What a disgusting human being.

Alarming-Midnight-73 · 2021-04-11T01:27:33+00:00

That's heartbreaking. She was only 19 married to a 31 year old... Shame on him and shame on her family

Fantastic-Living · 2021-04-11T01:43:59+00:00

Wait. You mean a 31 year old would marry a 19 year old and not have her best interests at heart? 🙃

EucalyptusLeafJuice · 2021-04-11T01:09:13+00:00

The fact that she's rationalising that the blame is on her, her stretch marks...

I just. Can't. 😶

notbasic4karen · 2021-04-11T01:34:04+00:00

She needs to lose 180 pounds of loose skin, aka him.

volcanic_equation · 2021-04-11T01:48:07+00:00

How do I start being less jealous over the idea?

You don’t. You get out now, before you shrivel up and become a shell of your former self.

I really want this to work and I don’t want to lose him.

He’s already on his way out. Bid him farewell and lock the door. The streets can have him now.

circescircus · 2021-04-11T02:22:18+00:00

Pedophile scrote strategy:

Step 1: Target a vulnerable underage girl with a bad home life for grooming. Be her 'friend'.

Step 2: Feed her a script "We started dating when I turned 18".

Step 3: Don't let her get an education, work skills or life skills. Knock her down. Make her feel worthless. Make her dependent on you.

Step 4: Cheat on her. Make her feel even more worthless.

Step 5: Impregnate her. Twice.

Step 6: Continue to cheat on her, but make sure to tell her that you want to see other people because she can't satisfy your needs, because her body is deformed after carrying your children.

Step 7: Tell her that it is her fault. Tell her she is crazy, jealous and ugly.

Step 8: Escalate cruelty and cheating.

Step 9: Escalate to even more vicious emotional cruelty, and physical violence.

Step 10: Find another underage girl to groom.

AriaLuz · 2021-04-11T01:14:41+00:00

Da fuck?

She is really trying to work this out. Also. They are married for 5 years. So that means she was 19 when they married but younger when they dated. He was a full grown man that preyed on an inexperienced little girl. She was groomed to depend on him. She has had no life and no mind of her own and no desires. All she really knows is being a mother. She is too deep and I hope she can get out.

Mila411 · 2021-04-11T01:49:23+00:00

I want to find her, and bring her attention to this sub so bad. This poor woman is going through hell. What a manipulative person.

Chances are highly that he is already cheating. He just wants to continue doing so comfortably.

2021-04-11T04:22:44+00:00

Friendly reminder that Reddit thinks we are the hateful ones. Our sub merely existing as a safe place to grieve over the fact that the world is full of this shit happening to women is seen as hateful and crazy. Reddit and men in general don't want women to be able to establish safe places where we can talk about stuff like this, they want us to be constantly waiting for the attacks, gaslighting, shaming, etc that men will use to silence us when we do consciousness raising activities.

Oh and another big thank you to the mods of this sub for making it a safe place. I have literally never had to see a male hate comment before mods removed it, all I have ever seen is "comment deleted by moderator"

Dexaroo5716 · 2021-04-11T02:24:17+00:00

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suspended_animation_ · 2021-04-11T01:54:03+00:00

This stuff always makes me want to cry. That's not the way to treat the mother of your children.

Apprehensive_Ad_7917 · 2021-04-11T02:09:13+00:00

This thread was particularly brutal because this woman is obviously in an abusive relationship and was groomed as a child by this man. A lot of commenters were using the same insults her abuser uses to keep her small. Reddit refuses to acknowledge how often this actually happens (look at stats for adult men dating teens, they often result in pregnancy) and would rather victim blame.

Edited to add: she mentioned he pressured her into the second because he wanted a boy. And now he’s pressuring her into trying for a third because the second one is also a girl. It’s a fucking nightmare. Red flags as far as the eye can see.

Zirniaisuspirgais · 2021-04-11T04:19:41+00:00

This is what happens when you follow the redpill plan and settle down with an old scrote in your peak "value". You will turn 25 and they will still drop you like a hot potato no matter how trad you are.

lucidlotus · 2021-04-11T02:27:22+00:00

Awful. I hate these predatory age-gap men.

yoursultana · 2021-04-11T04:09:42+00:00

Female slave socialization is so real. I’m frightened by how pervasive it truly is.

royaldetour · 2021-04-11T01:24:28+00:00

I hope there's a special place in hell for scrotes like this.

aquietsword · 2021-04-11T03:56:48+00:00

Holy shit she married a pedo and doesn't even realize it...

Maude2010 · 2021-04-11T05:56:47+00:00

They married when she was 19 and he was 31. That’s all we need to know.

Dexaroo5716 · 2021-04-11T04:21:09+00:00

That moment you wish spontaneous combustion was real and that fool who impregnated her only to body shame her for bearing his children would literally be gone in a flash.

suncolor · 2021-04-11T03:52:22+00:00

Are these posts real? Legit cannot fathom...

ellaellaellaayye · 2021-04-11T05:26:33+00:00

Find this woman and bring her here immediately! My heart hurts reading this.

Rowbloks · 2021-04-11T09:37:12+00:00

That's why age-gap relationships are dangerous, guys just grow more audacious with age and a chick ten years younger just doesn't have enough life experience to see that those outragous demands are outragous.

"His needs are important too" but what about your needs?

You had a baby for the both of you, so why should you be the only one who pays for the consequences?

What's the point of remaining his wife if he wants to see other people? Just break up or suggest opening the relationship on both sides and watch him crumble like the hypocrite he is.

If he doesn't crumble then your relationship is just over, you've already lost him, there's nothing that will "work" here.

Plenty of other guys can find her body attractive even now, yet she's wasting her time with this monster, this is sad.

savedempath · 2021-04-11T04:33:28+00:00

Normalize Pre-marital counseling!!!

VivaLaSea · 2021-04-11T07:51:12+00:00

This is exactly why I’ll never give a man kids. Or at least at the top of the list on why I don’t want kids.

breadandbunny · 2021-04-11T06:44:10+00:00

That sounds like the type of sadistic, manipulative crap talk one of my ex's was fluent in. "Keeping him away from being satisfied." Fuck that noise.

Colour_riot · 2021-04-11T11:09:04+00:00

This is literally why we need to shame age-gap relationships. I don't know about M-F relationships where the woman is a lot older, but it's usually the man and that has never been for a good reason

eveloe · 2021-04-11T10:20:22+00:00

OP did you DM her?

deudeo · 2021-04-11T14:04:24+00:00

Oh my god. He’s trading in for a new teenager. I couldn’t understand why a 20-something woman at a completely normal weight would look “disgusting”... and then I saw the ages. It’s so sad when young women fall into these situations. I hope she got out of that relationship.

eclo · 2021-04-11T11:13:07+00:00

This is heartbreaking. Men are so fucking selfish, she risked her life each pregnancy (bc every woman does, pregnancy is always a risk) she gave birth to two human beings, and all he can care about is if she still looks hot? And she is so brainwashed and gaslighted by society and his shitty abusive behaviour that she’s the one who feels guilty. Guilty for being a human being with an actual human body.

reallyuglypuppies · 2021-04-11T07:37:35+00:00

What the actual fu k

neonred1 · 2021-04-11T10:24:32+00:00

why are women so concerned about losing absolute pieces of trash?

throwaway32132134 · 2021-04-11T14:24:54+00:00

"he says my stomach now looks disgusting". Where do men get the audacity to speak like this in the first place? The way he talks to his wife is ✨disgusting,✨

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HengroenAndLlamrei · 2021-04-11T14:55:01+00:00

I sincerely believe the only women for whom it’s safe to breed are the ones who are independently wealthy and go the donor route, or the ‘gold diggers’ married to billionaires who are well taken care of, contractually, after the inevitable planned divorce (basically they went into it like a job, planning to provide a service for x amount of years until they are let go with a nice benefits package, and both parties are well aware this is the plan).

I could never breed with an actual romantic partner. Regardless of how in love, I don’t think I could ever trust someone that much. The male gender is too fickle, too unpredictable, and not reliable enough outside of fiction.

2021-04-11T10:21:57+00:00

This is terribly sad.

AwkwardDisaster4150 · 2021-04-11T14:16:55+00:00

Throw the whole man away. And maybe give him the kids.

crazykitten27 · 2021-04-11T13:56:37+00:00

Oh god poor woman she's asking how she can be less jealous about the man she gave children to being a selfish monster instead of asking for help away from him. Shs sounds too far gone to be helped but has anyone sent her a message directing her here? Maybe it'll help her. Stuff like this is so soul crushing.

AnniaT · 2021-04-11T14:14:49+00:00

She was brainwashed by this narcissist abuser to think so little of herself and abide to his selfish whims! She needs to be rescued. I hope the comments told her to start making her exit plan.

lickyblickyuhh · 2021-04-11T09:12:50+00:00

And yet if she would just emotionally let go of his dumb ass I bet she could still pull more than he could. Lmao

RegularStatus5 · 2021-04-11T10:09:30+00:00

I am appalled. They married when she was nineteen! What was her family doing? My parents would never let this happen to me and I know I would have thanked them years down the line. On good news, she is still young. She has time to divorce his useless ass and live her life.

Frizzycatt · 2021-04-11T12:37:22+00:00

I threw up a little in my mouth.

MadameDestruction · 2021-04-11T12:56:43+00:00

This is so sad. Can we do anything to help her?

eatapeach18 · 2021-04-11T17:19:29+00:00

This is an easy fix.

You leave him, take half his shit, keep the house, demand alimony and child support, and he can have custody of the kids on weekends, which will make it harder for him to date (ie: screw) other women on Saturdays and Sundays.

CandidKick · 2021-04-11T20:16:56+00:00

Married as a teenager at 19 to a 31 year old man. Did no one in her life work to protect her? What a sick man. My heart hurts for her.

Waste-Win · 2021-04-11T20:18:50+00:00

F*ck all these predators that take advantage of women, destroy their confidence and sense of self worth just to jump to the another teenager to repeat the cycle, it's sad.

LR_today · 2021-04-11T02:54:51+00:00

Well, that's what happens when you marry a pedophile.

thinktwiceorelse · 2021-04-11T09:12:14+00:00

What about the wedding vows? Don't they say something about loving each other in sickness, or when they're old? And this woman thinks of herself as selfish. JFC.

deep_faked_beans · 2021-04-11T16:58:15+00:00

They already say you're just jealous and insecure if you don't like your partner following loads of porn accounts on instagram, some men will probably say the same to this situation soon.

ciaramcw · 2021-04-11T19:15:09+00:00

Well if he wants to see other people then so should she...get outa jail free card right lol

Throughthebeerglass · 2021-04-11T20:31:33+00:00

How do you start? You should quote the great Ariana Grande:"thank you, next"

Conclusion-Waste · 2021-04-11T23:52:03+00:00

We need to save her.

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2021-04-12T06:27:10+00:00

Throw the whole man awy

quirkypinkllama · 2021-04-12T22:55:12+00:00

I'm sorry, but your weight and height are totally normal. he just wants to be free to do as he wants.

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Date	April 11, 2021 12:58 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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