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MALE DEPRAVITYabby_ch238/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 12:10 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYabby_ch238/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 03:37 AM
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PICKME CULTUREabby_ch238/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 01:29 AM
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LIES MEN TELLabby_ch238/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 09:00 PM
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FDS HUMORabby_ch238/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 02:17 AM
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LIES MEN TELLabby_ch238/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 05:10 PM
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TRIGGER WARNINGabby_ch238/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 03:13 PM
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STRATEGYabby_ch238/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 11:05 PM
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MESSAGE FOR MALE LURKERSabby_ch238/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 01:05 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYabby_ch238/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 02:34 AM
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DISCUSSIONabby_ch238/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 11:05 PM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYabby_ch238/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 04:19 PM
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DISCUSSIONabby_ch238/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 03:21 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYabby_ch238/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 03:55 PM
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NAH, SISabby_ch238/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 06:38 AM
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FDS HUMORabby_ch238/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 05:19 AM
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#JustLVMThingsabby_ch238/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 10:27 PM
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abby_ch238/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 03:51 AM
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abby_ch238/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 11:21 PM
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LEVEL UPabby_ch238/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 09:19 PM
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PICKMEISHA HALL OF SHAMEabby_ch238/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 02:02 AM
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Mama Saidabby_ch238/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 03:42 AM
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LIES MEN TELLabby_ch238/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 01:46 PM
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GLOBAL RESISTANCEabby_ch238/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 05:25 AM
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QUEEN SH*Tabby_ch238/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 07:33 AM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYabby_ch238/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 05:47 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYabby_ch238/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 02:41 AM
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DISCUSSIONabby_ch238/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 05:57 AM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYabby_ch238/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 03:37 PM
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FDS SUCCESS!abby_ch238/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 08:47 PM
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FINE AF FRIDAYSabby_ch238/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 09:50 PM
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THE AUDACITY OF SCROTESabby_ch238/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 04:38 PM
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LEVEL UP BRO! abby_ch238/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 10:17 PM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYabby_ch238/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 06:48 PM
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FDS RESCUE MISSIONabby_ch238/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 03:16 AM
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FDS HUMORabby_ch238/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 01:20 AM
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Yup! After a message a like that, no more energy should be wasted on him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/22 03:50 AM
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“Sex work is work but those in sex work are whores and they are to be used for sex only, not dating or anything else” -men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 05:18 PM
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Nah she needs to take it back
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 12:29 AM
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8 comments and 3 visible. Stay mad scrotes ❤️❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 06:11 PM
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THEN STOP GETTING INTO RELATIONSHIPS WITH US. PLEASE LEAVE US ALONE JFC
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 08:20 PM
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Has anyone seen archive 81? It was produced by a woman and I actually didn’t feel uncomfortable watching it. I was so happy for the POCs as main characters too. Nowadays I just browse the info section to see the director, rating and trigger warnings before choosing to watch a show
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 12:16 AM
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I haven’t read the post bc of the trigger warning but it’s funny how they blame us for drinking but if we don’t drink they keep pushing drinks our way and demands to know why we don’t drink. Like yes we should be able to drink and not be harmed but even when we do take the precaution of not drinking to stay safe they whine. Why? Because they want to harm us
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 12:14 AM
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I see her point but I don’t think you should ever tell a man you’ve been cheated on because that still falls under ways an ex treated you badly. And even though you’ve told the new man that despite how well your ex treated you, you still didn’t put up with infidelity, I still think the new man will take it as a challenge. I think there is no reason to say that at all and only talk about how well your ex treated you but it ended because of different goals or something neutral like that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 05:59 AM
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😆😆😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 04:19 AM
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This!! My ex did that to me. It’s like I need whatever airport security checks have at my door before getting intimate to make sure they have absolutely no devices on them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 04:06 AM
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Ohh okay I see, yeah it sucks that the patriarchy took over feminism to benefit them and gave rise to liberal feminism. Personally I reject libfem as feminism but I know what you’re saying about the term “feminism.” Nowadays people parade around that SW and casual sex are pro feminism so if you say you’re a feminist it implies those things to most people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 03:33 AM
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Who is asking you this? I feel like anyone asking this out of the blue is just looking to pick an argument with you and it’s best to just walk away and not waste your energy with them. Depending on the context though and if you feel like someone is genuinely asking I would say radfem but I cannot imagine a context where someone would ask me that genuinely. Like around women who I feel are safe I’m open about my views that would make it obvious I’m against libfem so again I can’t even imagine a s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 10:57 PM
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Literally the same!!! Learned the hard way by dating one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 03:42 AM
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Beware of ex muslim men even if they hate their religion and trauma dump on you about how the religion messed them up. They still hold the same misogynistic views. -from a non practicing Muslim woman who’s dated an ex Muslim man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 03:35 AM
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There’s no way you wouldn’t notice a whole 4 inches this is straight up fan fiction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 03:14 AM
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Literally like what is the point of having summers if I still have to carry a winter coat around whenever I enter literally any place with AC
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 12:55 AM
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Reason #2947473 not to be nice to men 🥰🥰🥰🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 02:49 AM
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Here’s another one that didn’t make it: https://www.tiktok.com/@lizbelortiz/video/7056565928557038894 Absolutely loved the addition of the baby filter 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 02:19 AM
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Wtf that second comment from a special needs educator??? They should be fired immediately
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 06:32 PM
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Also anyone who’s seen You should know not to go into a storage unit with a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 06:27 PM
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Not surprised. Look at how most men treat Alexa/Google/Siri
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 07:46 PM
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tHiNk aBoUt hOw HaRd tHiS iS oN HiM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 02:50 AM
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How in the world did we ever come to a point where if you find someone gets off on watching someone getting STABBED it’s KINKSHAMING WHAT THAT’S STRAIGHT UP A SERIAL KILLER AND PPL ARE SAYING DON’T KINKSHAME??? ARE THEY ABSOLUTELY NUTS OR ARE THERE MORE SOCIOPATHS IN THE WORLD THAN WE THINK????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 08:01 PM
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Idk if someone said “I dig your vibes” to me I’d them of them as creepy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 02:54 PM
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I found that a way to get people to stop telling me about their kids is when I started criticizing their parenting style and telling them how to raise their kids. LOL they stop talking to me after :D Edit: also there’s no point trying to talk about things in common with those people or trying to get them to accept your style of living. Only way to deal is to end the convo. Bc they don’t really have anything to talk about except their kids since their life has revolved around kids and there is no…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 10:11 PM
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Echoing /u/tikitikitaka-chalala’s comment that it sounds like you may be in an age gap relationship or definitely one where he has more power, and also that it sounds like you may be wanting to get out of your parents house more than actually moving in. I would agree with her comment that if that’s the case you should really strive to achieve financial independence first rather than move in with him, however if you are dead set on moving in despite these advice, then I will say please have an ex…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 08:19 PM
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iF yOu CaNt bE aRoUnD tHeIr eX yOuRe iNsECUrE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 03:21 PM
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Lmfao the guys on tiktok wearing nail polish and long earrings are the biggest f boys
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 04:24 AM
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This is so true though!! You ever just meet a man and he hasn’t even done or said anything but you can just sense his inferiority complex and become fearful of him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 01:54 AM
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You girls are the ones I’m relaying my experience to <3 anyone else I know IRL will be saying he’s just a nice guy 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 05:02 AM
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The first step is to respect yourself and your decisions. !!!! This!!! I keep telling myself even IF I’m wrong the fact that I don’t want to continue talking to this guy should be enough. Tired of always playing a role for other’s emotions
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 04:58 AM
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“What must women do to EARN equal rights pay” BRUH
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 11:15 PM
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Please share!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 04:03 PM
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Oh god I didn’t see that far ugh gross how does that not creep her out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 04:21 AM
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She made a response video. She said she doesn’t clean for them but because living in that level of filth affects her mental health. And that she can’t move out because it would break her lease so she’s waiting to move out once the lease is done. I feel bad for her tbh :/ https://www.tiktok.com/@vixenbeautybar/video/7036115851971661103 Edit: I listened further in the video. She’s also defending them saying they’re not bad people like no sis they’re taking advantage of you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 05:08 PM
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HES JEALOUS OF A TOWEL LMFAOOO BYE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 04:35 PM
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One of my fear even if I vet rigorously is that the guy I’d be dating had previously done this to other girls and doesn’t think anything of it but manages to hide it from me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 02:45 AM
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https://youtu.be/WMUl7sOe8W4
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 07:10 PM
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What rights don’t they possess? Their right to take away women’s rights 😤😤😤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 06:43 PM
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I don’t know why she’s hyped up tbh. She had her own show and I couldn’t even get past the first few min of the first episode because She was chasing a man who was barely interested in her and The man she was chasing was white and it felt like white worshipping. Her show didn’t feel any different from that show by Aziz Ansari. Both libfem propaganda
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 05:57 PM
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lmao thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 06:12 PM
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Any recommendations for what to start with? I know there have been plenty recommended here as well so I will look those up too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 04:46 PM
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It’s mainly family and I cut them off for almost a year but it was really isolating and also harder on finances (but I do agree that it was so much better mentally when I was NC). But my family does help me out, and they haven’t put me down as they did before since I had gone completely NC. So since it’s been beneficial for me too I want to try maintaining LC but it’s been hard. I keep engaging with other family members whenever they say pick me things and then I feel exhausted because it’s not …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 01:20 AM
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LMAOO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 01:14 AM
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It looks interesting! It says it also helps people with high sensitivity and since I have that from ADHD that might help me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 01:12 AM
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Something that helped me in the beginning was imagining them saying something that would enrage me, then learning to control my reaction to it. I’ll try this, I’ve actually been trying to maintain a daily affirmation journal except I repeat things like “I will not make jokes at my own expenses” etc because in social situations I just forget and turn into that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 01:11 AM
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Treat them like they have dementia (or another mental issue that can cause difficult behaviour). This is good!! Especially to maintain distance and not engaging
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 01:10 AM
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First, you can't be healthy in a toxic environment A lot of it is family and I had been NC with my mom for almost a year, and it was very calming but also isolating because I also left my friends since having a narcissistic mother meant I chose similar friendships. Later I stopped NC because of the isolation and I want to try to maintain LC but whenever I’m around them I just start engaging too much and arguing. I want to be able to maintain a distant kind of relationship but honestly I agree so…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 01:09 AM
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This this this!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 03:30 PM
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Having a hard time figuring out where to watch this in Canada. It seems I can watch it on Crave tv? If so I’ll get the 7 day free trial
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 04:30 PM
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Now, I don’t know, she’s different. She doesn’t even look like herself at 115kg. She trips over her words, has anxiety, can’t leave the house, won’t meet new people, won’t see a therapist, spends most of her time crying. I keep telling she’s so young (she’s 26, he’s 32) and has so much to look forward to but he changed her and I hate him so much for it. She has PTSD. I’d suggest to give her space to process it all. She’ll get therapy when she’s ready. Took me almost three years before I started …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 06:24 AM
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Yup! Being able to do everything I want without having to give my energy to someone else feels amazing. If someone happens to come along who adds to my life that’s great but otherwise I’m fine with just never dating again. Nothing else matters except my peace of mind
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 09:21 PM
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Or when guys say that every girl will have a hoe phase so if you haven’t already had one and you say you aren’t interested in it, they’ll insist they know you better than you know yourself and that you WILL do it eventually. Dumbasses
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 06:30 PM
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Shhh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 01:35 PM
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Don’t ever believe it when a man says he can’t feel a thing when wearing a condom. They are lying and even the condom companies are calling these men out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 09:01 PM
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character flaw I LOVE IT
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 09:07 PM
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That man doesn’t need to go to therapy that man needs to go to JAIL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 03:19 PM
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ah okay thanks!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 09:41 PM
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holy shit my nex did this 😐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 02:39 PM
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Do we get notified if our post is reported or has violated a rule? I posted something ytd and only after posting realized the title should have been more specific since the reason I shared it was to add the strategy of contacting exes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 08:29 PM
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something small like a $2 coffee is fine bc it will embarrass them but anything higher no way am I paying for him bc these hobosexuals don’t care about life lessons they’ll just take advantage of these and start using their dates for free meals now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 02:53 PM
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-144 downvotes in another 😐 I don’t even know why he was unsure enough to post. Hope he doesn’t doubt himself more after those comments This is why I literally cannot go on any other subs anymore even if I’m interested in the topic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 02:46 PM
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I think we had this idea of having to confront ingrained thru media. Idk like I watched a lot of tv growing up and they always had the theme of someone did something wrong and you’re not happy about it and then needing to bring it up to them and then bam conflict resolved. And me as someone who was very afraid of confrontations it became ingrained that the only reason I’m not good at relationships is because I don’t know how to confront people and I need to learn to do that and until then all my…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 03:11 PM
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This is the reason I want to delete my LinkedIn. Like I hate that in this day we need LinkedIn and sure it has good sides to it but with so many creeps out there this is just NOT safe for us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 02:57 PM
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It’s not her sound. Usually people on tiktok use a sound to reenact skits. U can find the original by clicking the sound usually but looks like this person downloaded the sound and reuploaded so can’t view the original
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 02:53 PM
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Not sure if pickme culture is the right tag, but jokes like this can encourage other women in relationships like this to think it is normal to be with men that rages over video games.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 11:23 PM
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This is so gross why’d she even agree to do this 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 02:37 AM
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Also “something I’d tell my kids” his kids literally would not care nor would be listening while he goes on about some dumb game
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 02:35 AM
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Aaaahh no don’t even worry about it then. I had a traumatic uni experience and never want to go back to that shit so I understand. Someone else recommended a really good book below so I have that :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 06:34 PM
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Would you mind sharing some of the readings of that class?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 03:33 PM
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I don’t even think there’s a hip thrust machine. U just put a barbell on u to do hip thrusts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 08:55 PM
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This is what I love about working from home. I don’t have to hear these scrotes ever again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 02:00 PM
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I wonder if the stats are that way because a man lived in the home with the woman? I was thinking this tweet is more for women living alone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 06:42 PM
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Does anyone know what Canada’s gun laws are like? Can I keep one at home? I’ve been thinking about how it’d be nice to own a home but wouldn’t be safe living alone as a woman, but with rising prices in Canada I’ll probably never be able to afford a home anyway. But maybe if I moved to the states I could do that and also feel safe because they are allowed to keep a gun at home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 06:39 PM
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👏👏👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 03:42 AM
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Thanks! Looked at some threads mentioning wasp spray will try that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 02:47 PM
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I fucking hate that pepper spray is illegal in my country. It’s like they want women to get harassed. Will look into taser but probably illegal too. Literally any object if it’s used to harm someone even in self defense it can get you charged. Basically Canada says if you get assaulted we don’t care. Edit: just looked it up, surprise surprise it’s illegal to own a taser too 😑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 02:20 PM
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Yeah same I was wearing a long skirt just above the ankles and a loose hoodie zipped fully up and had the hood on too, mask on face and sunglasses. Only my hair sticking out. It’s never about the outfit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 02:19 PM
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but sometimes its fun to be a bitch Yup Also I take back what I said bc I just realized when we’re quiet they think they have a free pass to harass even more. Bitch on sis, hurt his ego ✊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 05:48 PM
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A guy followed me around the subway and I started screaming at him like a psycho til he left. It sucks because not a single person in the subway even looked my way to check if I’m okay. Not even the women near me. I was shouting at him to stop following me. I hate the world sometimes but I found that acting like a psycho screaming at them is effective
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 05:40 PM
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Is it possible for you to just not communicate with him at all unless work related? Like when he makes comments like that just don’t even acknowledge his presence. Scrotes love getting negative attention too so any retort to him harassing you gets him off. Especially since you mentioned you’ve reported him for sexual harassment and the company has done nothing. Also if possible look into leaving because a company like that isn’t good for your mental health. But I understand that it really sucks …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 05:37 PM
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Yes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 09:11 PM
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We should not put their names up. The van attacker in Toronto literally said in his hearing that he wanted people to remember his name. Which is why the judge removed his name from the court logs and replaced with John Doe or something like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 03:26 PM
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There’s a whole femicide going on in the world and attacks against women are still not considered a hate crime or terrorism. They don’t care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 03:20 PM
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This!!!! I just ordered a bunch of face masks. In a way maybe I should thank the anti vaxxers in my province to keep the pandemic ongoing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 03:16 PM
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Gonna become an anti vaxxer now so the pandemic stays forever and I can keep wearing my masks. This was likely developed by a creep who used the excuse that it will help cops. And those who funded this creep were also creeps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 03:14 PM
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When my younger sister was 19 she was on tinder and put her preferred age up to 30 (I gave her a lecture about it and why it’s dangerous but she said she’s not serious she just wanted to see matches - don’t know if it’s true but she’s the type where if you tell her something is dangerous she’ll do it more so I just gave up). Anyways one of her matches was a guy in her company where she was doing co-op who was really high up. He was 29. So no it’s not always guys with no jobs, it’s guys getting p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 03:11 PM
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Nah whatever if they are more intrigued by what’s out there please just go. Thanks Also “All they do is start podcast and talk about plate fixing” LMAO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 11:35 PM
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From the comment on this tiktok apparently the people spamming managed to crash the site lol love it https://www.tiktok.com/@shutupmegxxx/video/6999482770925866245 Apparently it’s back up again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 07:52 PM
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I really just don’t understand this. And I’ve noticed this is very common in Quebec. Like both men and women will say marriage is too serious but have full on babies with their boyfriends so what gives?????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 07:58 PM
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yup I swear they are unhinged
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 05:09 PM
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Ya like despite all the gaslighting, after going NC I was able to talk to her without taking her seriously and laughing it off when she tried to gaslight but what she said is just so vile like I am disgusted that a WOMAN could say that like I want nothing to do with her anymore
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 04:35 PM
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!!!!!!!!! Like even if I did have kids I’d never want them to get subjected to her. Like I’ve been programmed to function on love bombing and it’s so hard even to this day to overcome, and I do not want that for my children if I have any (which I don’t because I have not yet healed from the trauma she put me thru)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 04:16 PM
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I should specify that she didn’t even get forced into marriage. She married when she was 25 after completing her masters. She worked after marriage too. She lived a fucking life of privilege and doesn’t give a shit about the children that gets forced into marriage because they’re baby machines.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 03:24 AM
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Yes I’m going NC again. I was able to ignore her pressuring but it’s the fact that what she said is support for child marriages which is so fucked up that a woman could even say that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 03:22 AM
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Yup going NC again it’s honestly so disgusting that she can have 0 empathy for the children forced into marriage and wished it on me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 03:20 AM
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I can’t do this today
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 06:07 PM
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Ugh that’s true maybe it is better just for my safety
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 06:55 AM
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In the other threads on this, the comments by dudes were along the lines of “yes I would love this but I would never accept it if it meant taking away the freedom of my sisters and mother” and other dudes were praising him like “well yes because you were taught that women are also human.” They are admitting that they would love it, and only holding back because of sisters and mother, as if any other women not related to them matter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 07:36 PM
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Why was the question removed? Did the male mods of that sub get butthurt? Tbh that question is making me think to just never want marriage or anything with a man. Far too risky even if I find an HVM since who knows how he will change over the years as I age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 04:42 PM
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Thanks!! Downloaded the app just for this. Also it’s weird it said I have 5 followers but I could only see 2
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 10:31 PM
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How do you check your followers list? I have two followers but no idea who those might be and I’d like to block them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 05:34 PM
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Ew post his IG story on his LinkedIn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 05:29 PM
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Just watched a video of the sound oh my god. I’m getting one. By the way would anyone be able to comment on whether it would be culturally insensitive? The video I watched also explained the custom for its use so I’m just wondering whether it would be disrespectful for us mass using it on creeps The video: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=I9QuO09z-SI
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 05:26 PM
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Seriously!!! And anytime a woman brings this up a dude will comment “so how am I supposed to meet women if I can’t approach a girl I find beautiful and ask her out” MAN IDK IDC BUT PLEASE LET US EXIST IN PUBLIC IN PEACE I LITERALLY DONT EVEN WANT TO GO CHILL AT A PARK ALONE BECAUSE I KNOW THEYLL DISTURB ME
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 05:23 PM
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Thank you for doing this but also double check with mods as I saw in another thread that stuff like this could also get us banned
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 10:27 PM
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NO😭😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 11:11 PM
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Please tell me she said no on live tv
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 03:01 PM
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In the video a woman talks about her experience with men cat calling her. She said that when it’s safe to do so to pull out your phone and record them. Most of the time they get embarrassed and that is because they know what they’re doing is wrong
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 05:40 AM
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I don’t want our marriage to be a failure He’s the one who failed her and their marriage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 09:44 PM
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Pick mes And honestly tell yourself this, if it happened to you, those mutuals wouldn’t respect you either and would do the same. They are not people worth keeping
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 04:24 PM
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She even snickered at me Oh the urge to punch
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 04:23 PM
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Your post actually got me thinking about something sorta similar regarding keeping friends who do not cut off known predators. I am still sort of in touch with a female friend who is friends with a man who has made every one of the women in our friend group uncomfortable. And multiple times we warned her about him but she still keeps him around. I don’t know about the rest of the group but after I cut him off completely I haven’t hung out with the friend group either since I don’t want to know i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 03:21 PM
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This is exactly why I don’t fucking trust therapists. Like yeah I’m sure there are good ones out there but my last two made ME feel like I was problem when it was my narcissistic mom and ex. One even said that I should stop being clingy and have a life of my own like my bf does and that I’m bothering him. Fuck that man it’s a drag just trying to talk with people like this. Cut off anyone who doesn’t respect you, INCLUDING pick me therapists
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 03:07 PM
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Thanks for including the hadiths! While I was raised as a Muslim I don’t know much about the religion and I hear many Muslim women say that Islam is a feminist religion because it gives women a lot of rights etc and since I’ve never read the Quran I kind of believed that it wasn’t the religion but rather the people/men using the religion to oppress the women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 10:44 PM
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Would love if there’s a separate post on this to get a discussion going! Often when we are abused we just walk away and don’t want to fight I against the abuser because we don’t want to deal with their abuse anymore. My example being that I walked out of everyone’s lives after my abusive relationship because I didn’t want to bother explaining to anyone that my ex was a narcissist. So now everyone believes whatever he chose to say (whatever it is I don’t even know because I went off the grid comp…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 10:30 PM
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I found that in Amazon CA but says currently unavailable. Will probably be back in stock again I’ll be on the lookout thanks so much!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 01:47 PM
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used to be part of a discord server in university with almost all men. They make a bigger uproar about the gym than book clubs or skill share work conferences. If anything they use the skill share to seem more feminist. I was in CS so they’d be like yeah it’s really good we need more women (but only behind the curtains they will say any women who get hired was hired to meet quota). But the gym oh lord they’d start an uproar immediately like if there are women’s only hours then I deserve a lower …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 02:44 PM
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What’s it called? I’m trying to look it up on Amazon or other. I see like blue or red pepper spray but pepper spray is not legal in Canada.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 05:04 AM
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The fans just want to blame her for “taking” Justin away but really he’s mistreating both of them. Unless she leaves he’ll do the same to her too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 03:16 AM
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low key narcissistic tendencies Even his facial expressions reminded me of my nex, like I actually was thinking maybe I shouldn’t have looked thru their videos bc later on they kept replaying in my head along with moments with my nex. I didn’t know the media painted her as a bitch I haven’t really followed all these much, but yeah she looks so loving towards him. I wouldn’t be surprised if he uses some sort of past experience to keep her feeling sorry for him and giving him all her emotional ene…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 02:09 AM
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I DOOOO❤️❤️❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 09:17 PM
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Glad you wrote this post!! Especially the part about him placing his stuff right next to you always to engage you, I fall for these easily and I’m questioning whether this is happening to me now...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 01:25 PM
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I would love it if someone here had advice on a test for vetting this!! My nex pretended for a year that he had things in common with me and then after that suddenly drops “we don’t have the same sense of humour” or “we don’t really like the same things” on me. I started questioning my sanity wondering if I made the past year up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 06:03 AM
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Seriously!! If someone tells me an insecurity of theirs I instantly relate bc of all the times others have hurt me and try to make sure I never even accidentally say anything that could be triggering to them meanwhile it’s as if LVM use that same energy to come up with a neg to that insecurity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 05:54 AM
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u/ndf250 u should screenshot that text to his boss
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 05:41 AM
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not to mention how triggering some of the self defense classes can be for survivors This reminds me, whenever self defense videos pop up, I actually have to scroll past them because they’re so scary to imagine, and nothing has even happened to me so I can’t imagine how awful it would be for survivors.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 11:34 PM
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The law in Canada is confusing. There’s always a thread on self defense and the overall replies are along the lines that any item used to hurt another will still get you charged and the best way is to take self defense classes so you can defend yourself. You’re right about physical altercation though like I really don’t get how a 100lbs woman is supposed to push off a 200lbs dude let alone fight him. But ya tbh best way is to live stream
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 08:58 PM
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Canada and every few weeks there’s a thread on self defence and the replies are always that if you used anything to hurt the other person you’ll get charged as well and the best way really is to take self defence classes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 08:55 PM
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Ya someone recommended her on one of the narc abuse subs! She’s amazing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 08:53 PM
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The alphabet analogy is so perfect!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 08:52 PM
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I found two but tbh I can’t even remember if it’s one of these ones that I was talking about or there’s more https://m.tiktok.com/v/6948839555415936261 https://m.tiktok.com/v/6937382736894119174 But ya like the way he dismisses her when she tries to show affection it kinda reminds me of how my nex did the same with me. Like it’s subtle and people sometimes say it’s not a big deal or what’s the context but like for those who’ve experienced this like you can tell this is kind of a daily thing espe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 08:35 PM
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I checked out the comments omgg I can’t... THIS IS THE WRONG SIDE OF TIKTOK WHAT IS WRONG WITH ALL OF THEM at least there was one reasonable top comment though “I recommend 🧚‍♀️moving on 🧚‍♀️”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 03:57 AM
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Aaah how does she even have the energy like literally after mopping the floor and cleaning half my bathroom today I nearly passed out and have been looking to hire for cleaning services how does one have time to do all that for an EX
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 03:52 AM
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Not sure about details but she was on and off with bieber for 7 years. Then 3 months after their break up he proposed to his female best friend. Also Selena had a lot of mental health problems after the breakup so people speculate that she probably went thru a lot of gaslighting in the relationship and likely the reason for her mental breakdown. Especially given that he married his best friend right after the breakup. Anyways he treats his wife just as badly based on a video that surfaced (I can…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 03:28 AM
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If only our bites could inject poison Edit: on that note, has anyone tried biting? I wonder if it’s a good strategy like they might get scared thinking ur psycho and run. Since any self defence tool is illegal in my country I might just resort to biting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 03:21 AM
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True while I’m not entirely there I am definitely a lot better with my boundaries in that I don’t chase after crumbs even in friendships anymore :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 03:19 AM
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❤️ Also omg exactly same thing I didn’t even know what narc abuse was until the break up with my first ex and I was confused why a break up would make me feel symptoms of trauma. Literally by googling my symptoms I discovered it lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 03:17 AM
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As long as Im being honest with myself, its incredibly insightful and helped me make conscious informed decisions rather than relying on what feels natural to me, cause given my traumas, what feels natural to me was ruining my life and mental health. That’s a good idea! When we’ve been abused and been told it’s love what feels natural to us isn’t gonna be helpful to us
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 03:13 AM
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Lmao that comment! As long as you pace yourself and have other (solo) things going on people will just see you as someone with an appropriately full life and fill in the blanks for themself. that’s true!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 03:08 AM
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LOL DIDNT NOTICE OKAY NVM YES LEAVE DONT WASTE YOUR TIME ACTING
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 01:42 AM
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This isn’t related to dating but on that note of “if every experience you’ve had was a bad one you’re the one to blame,” I’ve had this experience with my friendships because having been raised by a narc who constantly gaslit me, I just chose the wrong people, and so when I saw through it all and decided to leave my family I also realized I had to leave my friends and so I did. But I’m really scared of telling people this because the common denominator is me. And I don’t really know how it wouldn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 01:41 AM
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Maybe OP can correct me if I’m wrong but the way I read it was just to stop the usual societal brainwashing of women having to act nice. I don’t think OP implied to stay and act bored, but rather to express what you’re truly feeling in the moment instead of catering to a man’s emotions as we’ve been taught to do. Edit: I was wrong LMAO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 01:33 AM
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GIRL screenshot and send the pic to his wife
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 11:44 PM
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“Sex without kissing first” At some point I started to wonder if something was wrong with me because the common explanation from scrotes is that kissing is more special so they reserve that for a girl they truly love but sex is just sex so they just fuck whoever is available. It started to make me feel so degraded because I could not imagine wanting to open up my body like that if someone only thought of me that way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 08:31 PM
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THIS IS WHY WHEN YOU START TO FEEL THAT THINGS ARE OFF ITS BECAUSE THEY ARE!!!!! these kinda men will drag you along to keep their constant source of warm hole all the while looking for their upgraded warm hole. But most of these men are not smart enough to keep the mask on. Your intuition will know and that is why when your gut tells you something is wrong you listen and you RUN
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 05:03 PM
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The sleep thing is insane!!! During my relationship with nex I was worried I was getting old because of my eye bags. I had even started to put cucumbers on my eyes to stop the eye bags. Then after the breakup like I was extremely devastated that he left me but I was sleeping better and it was so confusing to me!! Like I thought I loved this guy and I wanted him to take me back but why am I sleeping better??? The eye bags are gone???? It’s insane how society gaslights women into not believing the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 04:39 PM
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At the end of my relationship with my nex at 27 years old I looked like I was hitting my 50s. Now I’m 29 and people don’t believe I could be older than early 20s. Scrote aged me by thirty fucking years but you bet I worked my ass to get myself back. Also side note: I genuinely believe I look exactly as one should at 29. I think it’s because women are gaslit into dating LVM that they start to age faster and so people say shit like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 04:34 PM
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Excuse me did she just say you have to fill out tax forms so all jobs will see it???? I had no clue. I really feel awful for all the young girls they are preying upon who don’t understand the real world yet that this will end up following them. Fuck these people
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 02:54 AM
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This!! I would love to have a living arrangement like this but this is exactly what I’m afraid of!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 04:10 AM
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THIS IS MY FAVOURITE BOOK OMG
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 04:07 AM
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True about condo parking!! I don’t have a car yet but I’m actually scared for that. I have a locker in the parking garage and I’ve never dared to go down there. Definitely would feel a lot safer with my own garage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 05:20 PM
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I live in Canada lol but true if I move to US I could
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 05:15 PM
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Any safety tips for living alone in a house? I want to buy a house someday and hopefully a bigger one (although in the city I live it’s impossible but we’ll see maybe someday) but I’m worried about being tagged as a woman living alone and ppl breaking in to hurt me. That fear makes me think I’m safer living in a condo cuz of all the added security.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 06:08 AM
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Yes!!! And they do it to animals so like why not to men when they behave like one. And also lately I’ve been considering carrying scissors around and if a scrote harasses me just pull them out and threaten to snip snip. They love their 🤏 more than anything so I feel like that’d be a good deterrent. Then again I worry I’d just get arrested for carrying a weapon 🙄. Like I wasn’t actually gonna do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 06:02 AM
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what the fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 05:57 AM
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I can’t remember what the term for this is, but narcissists do that thing where they hype your expectations up (constantly mentioning how he’s saving up for that ring) and then when the time comes for it they start to slowly take it away. It’s a way to devalue you. And they do it on purpose.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 05:52 AM
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sigh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 05:47 AM
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I never ever got shown any of those. It picks up quickly what category of people you’re in and shows you stuff like those. And like the other reply said, if you join and follow the accounts from here you’re more likely to fall on radfemtok.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 05:47 AM
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Ok but I don’t agree with food and drinks in the bedroom 😡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 05:41 AM
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At this point idk if you’re joking or if “subspace” is an actual term they use
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 05:38 AM
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what if we all used this app to select vanilla (but not match with anyone) just so there’s a record of our preferences so if a scrote ever tried anything they couldn’t use rough play excuse. But isn’t it funny we need to resort to something like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 05:36 AM
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Seriously like I want to find her and shake her til she agrees not to leave her job. But by the post it seems like she’s already resigned??? I really really hope not. How did they even meet and date from two different cities. ITS NOT WORTH MOVING FOR A MAN EVER EVEN IF NO PAY CUT. AND SHES DOING IT FOR 75K I DONT EVEN MAKE THAT MUCH IN A YEAR GIRL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 06:24 PM
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I can’t wait to get back into weightlifting when gyms reopen. Been off for over a year :/ And hahaha maybe I should take up boxing too then that would definitely be an outlet for that anger too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 06:14 PM
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thank you<3 And yes honestly I am so glad I posted here I feel much calmer after all the support here. Maybe someday you could find a job with mostly female coworkers or better managers who will actually care about your comfort and peace of mind at work this is the dream! I honestly want complete segregation from men and LVW at this point
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 10:26 PM
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vacation YES I think that's part of why the impulse to quit was so strong I need a break, I've been overworking and had no energy for myself afterwards and it's exhausted me new job: at this point I am already no longer staying, I just need to keep my rage in check and not quit, and have enough mental strength left in my free time to start applying to jobs and doing interview prep. today was just awful but I am doing better now and I really appreciate the support <3 it's about their own insecuri…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 10:24 PM
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thank you I will try to do channel the anger, i absolutely cannot control myself when rage gets to me but the support here has actually calmed me down today <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 10:13 PM
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You are not working there for the manager, you are there for the pay, benefits thank you I've actually calmed down a bit by repeating this over, taken a break too ask to speak with the people You would be working with !! didn't think about this but this is great advice!! funny enough one of the senior devs who ended up being really creepy towards me was actually at my interview and in the interview he seemed so shy and blushing I had actually gotten a bad feeling right there
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 10:11 PM
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And being nice risks looking like you’re interested and then they blame you and say you lead them on. Yet being a bitch also takes effort because when I’m in a good mood I am really nice and friendly and can only be bitchy when in a bad mood. And most of the time being around people like this just puts you in a terrible mood so you’re bitchy and that’s not even good for you because you’re not in your peaceful state.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 04:09 PM
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Focus on doing well at your job. Having a real hard time with this because I’m so pissed at them. Like why should I do good for them when they don’t even value me, when the work I do won’t even matter. Yet if I rage quit I won’t get a reference. Not to mention this will be the second time in a row I’d rage quit. I just hate that they have the power to disrespect us and we just have to just take it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 03:49 PM
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At this point whenever I get romantic feelings for someone and imagine cuddling them I just think of how in reality they’d probably just poke me w their dick and I just lose all feelings. I really feel you though I sometimes really wish to cuddle with a man like I like muscles and broad shoulders like even skinnier guys still have broad shoulders but if only their dicks didn’t get in the way 😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 02:42 AM
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How do we even begin to get through to a woman who’s adamant not to leave such a scrote and doesn’t even see how WRONG this all is? We don’t because we can’t . She will keep engaging and you can only hope that eventually she will realize how ridiculous it all is and leave herself. I remember reading about zen masters who would continuously engage their students in their own folly until the students themselves can see how ridiculous and pointless it is
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 05:32 PM
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It’s time we claim that word back!!!!! Like I happily and proudly call myself a spinster I’ll take that any day over being married to a man who sucks the soul out of me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 04:46 PM
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It’s irresponsible to let children be on devices without supervision tbh. Not even just parental controls kids are smart and can tackle those better than the parents but just straight up don’t put a computer in their room don’t let them be on the computer without your supervision. Like 8 y o should not be discovering porn TF raise your kids
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 03:23 AM
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I’ve only ever gotten asked this by older pick me women and when I give that reply they’re always like “you just need to find the right guy” like ma’am I am happy with my free time I am not wasting it on dates trying to find a unicorn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 12:03 AM
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Right??? Like if your wife is narcissistic and abusing your children how about you divorce her and take the kids and protect them instead???? Men literally will murder their own family and think they’re being saints because they’re “protecting” but really it’s because they don’t see their family as people, they only see them as their possessions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 09:05 PM
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!!!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 02:09 AM
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There was a post here a couple of months ago with quotes by johns. It was so disgusting honestly. I’ll try to find it but if someone else remembers more details please share!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 11:31 PM
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Yet they loooove their homies though. Why don’t they just leave us alone and stop harassing us and chasing after us and just go fuck their homies instead
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 11:27 PM
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This was fucking horrifying to watch. And the fact that these women just laugh ha ha so cute he so dumb like no he doesn’t give a shit about you at all. WHY THE FUCK IS THIS SO NORMALIZED WHY DO WE JUST ACCEPT BEING TREATED LIKE THIS FUCK IM SO ANGRY
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 11:26 PM
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👏👏👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 09:58 PM
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But likely it didn’t go the way he is saying where she started flirting. He probably negged an already vulnerable/low self esteem young girl and she just went along bc she saw no other option for herself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 05:49 AM
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You’re absolutely right on this. Why are we engaging here on a site that hates women. Really appreciate the mods for all the work you’re doing in keeping this place scrote free and have a chance for us to have proper discussion but it would be great if this could be moved to its own site where accepted users can post and generate content. I think Ovarit does that but not much activity there. The mods do a lot of work but I can’t imagine how hard it must be having to sort thru all the garbage fro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 05:50 PM
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This!!! This is why we never tell our SOs details about past traumas, you just can’t know who is acting and when the mask will slip off and they use that against you, like for example when the OP said she doesn’t like her neck touched and that is where he insists on massaging (if he liked giving massages he could pick literally any other spot, you know damn well he’s picking the neck to push her boundaries, bc that’s where she is traumatized).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 03:20 PM
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please don’t make this a thing. Lets just stick to #allmen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 01:46 PM
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They would lose their shit if we went out w our gfs watching men’s dicks. Yet they insist it’s not the same thing. Absolutely disgusting that they’re okay engaging in depraved behaviour with their friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 01:27 PM
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ALL MEN. ALWAYS. I don’t give a shit anymore. Even the “good” ones benefit from the actions of the rest. Until those men actually work towards stopping the rest it will be #ALLMEN.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 02:59 AM
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Video is of an experiment where they have a woman dressed plainly and a woman dressed attractively and then have them carry a heavy suitcase up the stairs and time how long it takes for someone to help them. For the plainly dressed woman it took 45 seconds wheee plenty of men just passed her by while she struggled to pull the suitcase up, and then finally two women came to help her. For the attractively dressed women it took 8s and a man helped her right away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 02:43 AM
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When we say no in a nice way they’re like yOu ShOuLdVe BeEn mOrE cLeAr. Then we say no in a bitchy way and then they call us heartless. But honestly though as the others in this thread have said, it is so much more peaceful being a bitch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 12:31 AM
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And they also have the audacity to ask women they meet for their only fans. FUCK THAT
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 02:06 AM
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I related to the parts about explaining the struggle like for example this part really hit home: Juggling complex lives, many women don’t have enough energy left over to keep close friendships. But the tips at the end were awful. They absolutely ignore all of the triggers that were explained. I’ve never found useful ADHD tips honestly. It’s like they explain what the struggles are and then go on to give tips that will only exacerbate those struggles.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 03:10 PM
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functioning as a piece of furniture Reminds me of how our teacher explained when we watched the movie production of “A Doll’s House” in school that the wife’s dress matching the curtains is supposed to symbolize that she is part of her husband’s home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 03:01 PM
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thank you!! Everyday I am so grateful I got out of that brainwashing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 01:23 PM
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“Emotional fortitude” 🙄🙄🙄 sleep country assembles free of charge you’re welcome
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 02:19 AM
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Literally my nex said this to me, that he didn’t have to treat me nicely like other ugly guys bc he’s good looking. And my dumbass really believed it and did everything to try and keep him bc I felt that I wasn’t even pretty enough for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 12:59 AM
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And it’s pure projection too bc the minute she called him out he went running to mommy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 08:58 PM
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Her calling out his asshole behaviour “made him hate the birth of his own son” JFC the gaslighting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 08:57 PM
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Society conditions us to not see when the men in our lives literally hate us. She’s literally saying but he’s still a good guy when he has no concern for her, literally does not even remember an event that caused her a lot of trauma
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 04:52 PM
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God the comments on that tiktok are atrocious they’re saying “and the hands too” “the neck” “the feet” they literally only see us to be used. They do not see us as a person. Ever. None of them. It’s ALL men. ALL OF THEM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 04:29 PM
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They really have zero sympathy for us. That picture had literally made me cry and I’m sure other women too. Meanwhile all they think of are the other holes they use of us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 04:27 PM
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Relevant tiktok about babies saving marriages: https://m.tiktok.com/v/6953858906468781317
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 03:47 PM
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OMG SO this one time I googled “female authors Reddit” for recommendations on female authors and one of the first few posts is of a man complaining that “boo hoo i don’t like female authors change my mind” like he’s doing some huge favour to us women by being willing to read of their works. 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 01:06 AM
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LOL all this says is that UNICEF is involved in child trafficking and wants to continue doing so, and so they funded some fake study
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 10:11 PM
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Fuck this so much, they complain when we get our nails and hair done like we’re too superficial yada yada then when we don’t do these things they complain we don’t take care of our looks like other girls do. I had a friend (who is NO LONGER a friend) complain that his gf isn’t putting effort into her looks like getting her nails and hair done YET HE WOULD ALSO MAKE FUN OF ME IF I DO THOSE THINGS. GTFO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 03:20 PM
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This made me so happy so glad she won the case! She had a serious conversation before sleeping with him and he lied to her and saw other people behind her back and then gaslighted her by pretending he didn’t know they were that serious at the time. The comments by the glamour ppl at the end really pissed me off though, calling the verdict “over the top.” He fucking lied to her and ruined her life he deserves it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 10:51 PM
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Right?? After having gone thru gaslighting like this, even if it is satire I can’t stomach it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 04:29 AM
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I genuinely sometimes want to wear some sort of metal armour thing around my chest and hips to protect from being groped. In grade 7 there were boys who would always grope the girls and to this day I still instinctively cover my chest and move my butt away if someone walks near me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 04:17 AM
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While not necessarily your typical definition of horror as in nothing paranormal, a lot of books by Joyce carol oates are horror for women at the hands of LVM. Two really fucked up ones I read recently are: My Life as a Rat, The Grave Digger’s Daughter. Trigger warning: extreme violence/domestic abuse/rape/emotional abuse. They were really difficult to get through. One of them is a relationship with a narcissist and it triggered memories of my nex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 02:07 AM
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I don’t get why any women would even agree to taking cringey pics like these like this is just embarrassing for her to be with this man child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 11:14 PM
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She thought she was being reasonable but by his reaction aka throwing a tantrum she’s questioning herself? Just hope she realizes and gets out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 07:27 PM
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Thanks! I checked again and found it at the very bottom, turns out it was bc of the way chrome is formatted on mobile it was covering the last flair -__-
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 04:44 PM
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hey I’m trying to post for fine AF Friday too but I don’t see the flair?? How did you post this or can I just not see the flair?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 03:35 PM
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LOVE THIS!! always hated Jim
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 01:57 PM
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the hysteria of men LOVE IT👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 11:02 PM
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You’re welcome omgg didn’t even expect anyone to go thru all of them hahah glad you liked them ❤️❤️ and it wasn’t much work I was just browsing my faves while working and saving them lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 08:44 PM
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I love these accounts: rvmvntics, Oscar.be.wilde, sparknotes_, shakespeare.made.me.gay https://instagram.com/rvmvntics?utm_medium=copy_link https://instagram.com/oscar.be.wilde?utm_medium=copy_link https://instagram.com/sparknotes_?utm_medium=copy_link https://instagram.com/shakespeare.made.me.gay?utm_medium=copy_link Here’s some of my faves, sorry just have the links hopefully they will preview automatically without needing to click https://www.instagram.com/p/CPQ7dxwAgZL/?utm_medium=copy_link …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 07:58 PM
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Follow literature meme pages!! So many Austen and Bronte memes it’s wholesome ❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 03:30 PM
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PREACH And tbh as much as I love the super fans sub I also think it’s not worth posting there either. These men love attention regardless of good or bad so chances are they are trying to rile you up just to even get posted to that sub. Ignore ignore ignore do not even acknowledge their existence
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 01:32 AM
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He could have said anything else. Like at the very least if they both were active he could have said “we’d both reduce our gym hours and I’ll take care of OUR child while you’re at the gym and you’ll take care of OUR child while I’m at the gym.” Like the answer was SO SIMPLE really.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 01:27 AM
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For the “image” of having a man. Idk your friend so I’m not trying to talk shit about her specifically, but in general the pick mes that push reluctant men into marriage and kids just want a man in the picture for the sake of their image, and they’ll go on putting down other women for not doing the same. Idk why they do it though, trauma/societal brainwashing I guess. I also feel like some pick mes are on the narcissistic side.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 01:25 AM
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Sure not all of them would get to, but considering the amount of people I know whose daddies have 2+ baby mamas it’s certainly possible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 04:58 PM
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In the video she is talking about a coworker who said he only wants a boy and will leave the relationship if it’s a girl because he wants to pass on his last name and a girl can’t do that. This means that he will go on impregnating and dumping women until he gets a boy. We should be posting publicly men who expresses this view so that women who are getting involved know beforehand not to get pregnant by these men since they will 100% leave afterwards. Shit like this should absolutely be availabl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 03:59 PM
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Let's do away with this "You don't trust me!" shaming. It is healthy and normal to not fully trust, until someone has proven themselves trustworthy. 👏👏👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 02:31 PM
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SAME!! Omg I get so sick of seeing ppl say that cat owners are good people who knows how to respect boundaries bc a guy I worked with had NO RESPECT for my boundaries would always try to push further, get close to me try to touch me/poke me etc yet he had TWO cats. DO NOT TRUST
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 01:54 PM
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I agree with this completely but the thing is I don’t have it in me to do it, and I think that’s why I’d rather just stay single. Bc it is absolutely necessary to do this if you ever get involved w a man and I just can’t go thru all that hassle
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 03:45 AM
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Being bothered by this behavior is actually a symptom of self-respect and high self esteem. !!!!! I love you said it, this needs to be said more!!!! It’s so messed up how we’re gaslit into thinking we need therapy for normal reactions. IT IS BECAUSE I VALUE MYSELF THAT I AM BOTHERED THAN YOU ARE NOT VALUING ME
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 11:55 PM
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men have been doing this for ages. Apparently even ancient Egyptians used to let the women’s bodies decay more before burying to prevent necrophilia. The article says “beautiful women” but I doubt that since these depraved fucks just need a hole https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Necrophilia#History
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 08:27 PM
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I wish I wasn’t heterosexual so bad some days. !!!! Seriously so much risk even when we think we’re vetting it seems marriage is dangerous bc you never know when your supposed HVM may turn on u over the years if you get sick
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 08:15 PM
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Ewww why are they mentioning these dudes in a professional setting even leftist men think these guys are gross. Idk at least from my city’s subreddit but that’s cuz Jordan Peterson is from there and we’ve seen the disaster he’s caused. Was it a SWE interview? I find that in other cities the kind of men who end up in swe are mad into musk/Peterson/rogan
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 07:52 PM
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I think it actually does happen. I have a coworker who is obese and a gamer and he mentioned his wife is extremely thin. I can’t imagine why she’d be dating this guy. Also he’s a creep he also sometimes looks at me in a creepy way and it pisses me off bc like dude you have a wife??? Also he told me his wife’s a gamer too so I guess that’s how they bonded and got married. But still I can’t imagine why she’d marry him unless low self esteem and w.e. There’s a lot of talk about how ugly guys are ni…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 03:36 PM
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Thanks I do those too and nothing showed up, but I wonder if there are Canadian versions of these sites where I won’t know by just googling if my info is out there
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 02:49 AM
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Wait uhhhh wtf is this scrotes can find out where you live from here???? I googled my name but since this is only in the states I was looking thru other ppl w my name and I can see their phone number and addresses and people they’re related to..... feel like this should be illegal?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 01:47 AM
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A coworker lied to me about his age too. He told me it was his thirtieth birthday and then another time he told me he was born in 1987. Did he think I wouldn’t do the math???? He would have been 33 at the time 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 01:44 AM
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When my uni announced women’s only hours the men were demanding their membership fees get reduced since they’re losing one hour of service. And they’d make arguments like “men feel self conscious working out around women too why can’t we get our own hours” umm dude it’s not even about being self conscious it’s SAFETY you’re not getting gawked at by women the way men stare. Literally once while doing squats a man was staring intensely at me and it scared me so much bc already I always fear losing…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 10:57 PM
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Omg I didn’t know about this!! We literally had a guy like that in our friend group, all the girls would tell any new ones joining hey be careful around him he’s inappropriate etc but whenever I’d try to have meetups without him they’d say oh but he’s chill otherwise you just need to stay away 🙄 Ended up leaving that entire friend group bc I liked the other girls but I hated having to always keep my guard up around him. And since I also had to leave my HS friend group because of bullying I basic…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 10:19 PM
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The worst part is we literally smile to keep ourselves safe but we can’t voice the harassment bc if we do then they say well you were smiling. I hate it here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 08:23 PM
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No but I think it’s time we stop lying to these fucks in the real world too The sex was my thirteenth reason Size matters when my thumb is bigger than your dick Your dad bod made me vomit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 08:21 PM
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Guys really can pull shit like this without worrying about getting robbed or murdered tf. Time to bring ur friends and rob any dude who says that so they stop
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 08:13 PM
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“I’m not trying to shame” NO, absolutely go right ahead and shame these porn addicts for wanting to fuck their daughters. It’s gross it’s not normal, only fucked up depraved men want to be called daddy in the bedroom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 01:30 PM
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why didn’t you stop after the first dave 😭😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 01:47 AM
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❤️✨😔I do not perceive you 😔✨❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 02:28 AM
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Someone who’s seen this thread please message her and tell her to dump this leech
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 04:10 PM
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lol when I got laser hair removal done the technician told me that I’m so well behaved bc her male clients usually would be screaming.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 04:02 PM
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No but like there was an actual study posted here recently that said when men look at an attractive woman the “object” part of their brain gets activated as opposed to the part that sees it as a living thing. So no surprise there 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 04:01 PM
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If all we offer is pussy then don’t date us. Please. Just leave us alone. Thank you ❤️✨👋
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 03:54 PM
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I 🐣 love ✨💖 this so much 👽☠️😈
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 04:27 AM
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hello 👋 I also just ✨💖 wanted to join 💀in 🕷👠
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 04:25 AM
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I’m the same as you, I can’t wear make up bc I become overly aware of anything on my face and feel uncomfortable but at the same time on special occasions I feel so bland compared to others that I want to put it on too. I’ve tried putting just light make up but even then it’s like everyone else seems like they belong and I stand out so I feel like I have to put on just to not ruin the aesthetic of the event, if that makes sense?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 02:41 PM
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In Sapiens, the author explains that gossiping is the reason we developed complex language
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 07:32 PM
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Not even a first date. But two reasons: 1. First date probably wouldn’t even have been scheduled. We were in a group of friends and he’d always just suggest he wants to hang out w just me not the others but he never asked me out directly. I’m the one who told him if you want to hang out I’m free on X day 🤡. If I had FDS then I’d have never asked him out 2. while I was commuting to said date, and about half an hour away, he texted me asking if we were still on. I remember being really upset he as…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 12:38 AM
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multiple therapists tells me I have communication issues So the therapists are gaslighting her too. Ugh this is why I don’t even want to try therapy, so many end up gaslighting you that it makes things worse. When I was with my nex but didn’t know about narcissistic abuse, my therapist basically convinced me I was needy and that I needed to have my own life like he does. Meanwhile I was never like this before him, I only became that way because of the love bombing and discard phases that made me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 04:15 PM
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I’ve started becoming a stone cold bitch too recently, and what helped was going thru this sub and seeing LV behaviour all around, it just made me despise a person immediately the moment I see LV behaviour and so I wasn’t in the cheerful mood to be nice anymore. I do act polite though, just distant. One thing that will help is to start noticing your body language, and reduce it. The less, the better bc then the people will be uncomfortable and leave you alone. Most likely they can sense your fea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 11:07 PM
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Thank you I’ll check them out!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 12:31 AM
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I have both but only skimmed thru the fawn responses part for the first and usually just go over them whenever I start to feel bad. I need to read them in depth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 10:39 PM
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I just wanted to add that I really like the horror stories though because they’re always a good reminder for me, especially since I’m extremely forgetful and tend to forgive easily because I just don’t remember past disrespect. But I do get that they can be too much but I find these horror stories are a constant reminder for me of why I need boundaries and not go back to my people pleasing ways. Though maybe it’s different since I got diagnosed with cptsd so I think my pleasing ways are like ing…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 07:30 PM
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Just wanted to add, if you want to link directly without it linking your account, you can remove anything in the link after the question mark. When you do that it removes your account and just shows “tiktok” in that place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 06:54 PM
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Eh she’ll learn her lesson soon enough. I got dumped TWO days after writing in my diary that the dude I was with was worth waiting years for marriage. 🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡 It’s pretty funny looking back
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 07:42 PM
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LMAO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 02:39 PM
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Wait what??? I didn’t know she said the N word!!!!! Ok nvm I’m joining in cancelling them. Also what’s dollskill?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 01:45 AM
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Yo people were commenting on their video saying “you’re bringing race into this” or “fetishizing POC” and MADE THEM MAKE AN APOLOGY VIDEO WHAT THE FUCK. it has nothing to do with fetishizing POC. I don’t know why these girls got dragged down to make an apology it made me so sad they had nothing to apology about and the song was NOT fetishizing POC. I swear scrotes came up with that just cuz they hated the song cuz they got called out and they dragged the girls down. It really really pisses me of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 01:40 PM
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Link for anyone who doesn’t have an IG account https://m.tiktok.com/v/6942205473575685382
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 09:27 PM
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Having to live together is always so wild to me because imagining preFDS you’re w a guy for sometime so it’s the “right move” to live together without any other commitment means you’re risking never having any permanent home. You’ll at the least live at one place for a year (since leases are likely to be a year long and I’m assuming the ppl trying out “living together” quickly finds out they are incompatible). Then you’ll have to find another place again. Then you meet another guy and then repea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 09:21 PM
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As a joke. Her comics are really cringey. She tries to make awful parts of relationships look “cute” thru her comics but it’s just sad...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 01:24 PM
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💀😭😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 05:03 AM
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These men always go for the “how dare you go through my phone you don’t trust me????” argument but it’s like dude you made her not trust you with your actions. If she didn’t go thru ur phone you’d have continued to cheat. Relevant tiktok I saw earlier today on this exact thing guys always do https://m.tiktok.com/v/6949782691181104390 And that’s why these fucks use this argument
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 04:57 AM
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It’s what they would want to do on dates ayo it’s already what they do on dates, except instead of free food it’s free sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 10:02 PM
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GIRL most leftist men also hate Jordan Peterson. RUN! Jordan Peterson, Joe Rohan, Elon Must, etc RUN!!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 08:17 PM
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Oh my god I’ve heard of this too!! Like they do it discretely so the woman won’t know... glad your aunt had enough sense to dump him!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 05:55 PM
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“I did not pick the job the job picked me” yes that’s called sex trafficking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 03:53 PM
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Wow it didn’t even occur to me at the time...wish I had FDS back then. I usually just tried to avoid convo w him since he creeped me out (he’d try to come too close to me and always accidentally brush his hand against me or would poke me). This happened over a year ago, before the pandemic. After that we WFH’d and I never spoke to him at all, and he’s leaving the company next week. It’s funny tbh bc I doubt any report could have harmed him but would harm me instead bc I am much his junior and th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 03:00 PM
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Oh my god I didn’t consider this until now but especially the eye roll thing. Sometimes I literally have to step away when someone says the most annoying thing, and it’s always a man dismissing me even though I know my stuff just bc I’m a woman. Like I really have to remember to hide my facial expressions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 03:18 AM
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SAME 🤡🤡 my mom suggested it to me when I was making plans to move wherever my then bf moved. Turns out he didn’t really want me and dropped me and tbh that was the best thing he ever did for me ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 03:09 AM
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Heard of muslims doing it too. It’s like a ceremony where you’re married in the eyes of god which matters more than law according to what my friend said (she did this w a bf to live w him - I don’t talk to her anymore so dunno how that turned out) but ya they just do it so they can sleep w the person. Heard some men do it so they can sleep with whoever is their current girlfriend and still remain halal. Also I guess that’s how some get away with multiple marriages where polygamy is illegal. My n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 03:01 AM
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You know what’s really scary is that, so I have this coworker who just reeks of NVM, was extremely creepy towards me so I started avoiding him. Anyways at some point he told me he loved kids etc and one day I overheard him on the phone with what sounded like a little kid, and in the past he’s mentioned that his friend has kids and he’s like a second father to them. Anyway later on I find out the person who was on the phone was an 11 y o girl and idk why my heart skipped a beat in thinking he mig…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 02:36 AM
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I’ve been hearing more and more of women paying off their man’s debt recently like wtf... and then he has the audacity to rack up another 25K AND HOW DO YOU EVEN RACK UP THAT MUCH IN TWO YEARS LIKE THATS SO MUCH WTFFFFF
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 11:40 PM
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I don’t like seeing her videos on this sub bc while sometimes she gives okay advice, other times she really sounds like a pick me. She had another video that was like “don’t expect him to treat you like a queen if you’re not going to treat him like a king” and that really pisses on women bc we go above and beyond for men already
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 07:09 PM
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I find it more annoying when friends ask but then forget, like they’ll tell me to text them that I got home safe, then I do, then I don’t hear back til the next morning with a “oops I fell asleep glad ur home safe tho” like to me it doesn’t seem like genuine care tbh, I’d rather they hadn’t asked at all in that case. Especially when it isn’t a one time occurrence, like it happens every time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 03:32 PM
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Did you message at least??? The fact that she said in the post that she’s questioning everything makes me feel like we could still save her!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 02:40 AM
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“You’re lucky he wants to perform his favourite scenes with you” like....as opposed to what???? The other option is that he performs them with someone else...do people not even realize what they’re saying??? How is that even a compliment smfh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 08:22 PM
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U can try tiktok, people repost a lot of memes and the safe thing about tiktok is that it groups you with likeminded people so you’ll never see the stuff you disagree with. Also memes on tiktok w a person in front is kinda nice it feels like someone sent me the meme ❤️ lmao Also IG, and what’s great about it is that you can follow specific topic accounts, and you don’t have to deal with the comments like on reddit bc IG’s comment interface is really shitty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 12:08 AM
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I think it’s just how psychopathic men will become when they get angry for not getting what they think they’re owed. Heard a story on here from a comment where someone told the guy beforehand she waits six months and so he stuck the six months w her and ghosted her after.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 10:25 PM
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Yup it’s projection. My ex always made fun of my misaligned teeth and constantly told me to get them fixed(even though I didn’t really want to, I kinda think they’re cute). But it took a long time for me to realize he was projecting because he himself had gotten work done on his misaligned teeth. He just couldn’t stand seeing me actually liking myself for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 10:16 PM
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Nooo I really appreciate all the recommendations, thank you❤️❤️ I’ll be checking them out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 11:05 PM
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Can you please recommend a few reads? Thank you!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 07:21 PM
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Lmfaooo I have this dude blocked on tiktok cuz tiktok keeps showing me his vids even though I’ve put “not interested” sooo many times. Anyone else get major creep vibes from him???? Like he’s just trying so hard
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 02:56 PM
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A lot of the comments are saying he was the only worthwhile character, but the way he objectifies women is really really gross. For example how obsessed he was with Cece’s boobs when she wanted a breast reduction and felt like they were “his” even though they weren’t dating anymore (not that even if they were dating they would be “his”) and then he begged and begged her to let him say “goodbye” god it was the most disgusting thing ever and ofc the show was written by a man so she takes off her s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 02:47 PM
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I thought the point of #1 was specifically the fact that some men purposely date hot women and then reject them to “humble” them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 02:41 PM
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Your comment deserves its own post you explained it so perfectly!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 04:56 AM
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I don’t actually know this, but given that men already send us dick pics w/o us asking, I’d like to know who would even pay for that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 02:27 AM
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Nicki Minaj’s moment for life is my favourite and makes me feel so strong but the Drake part is unnecessary. All he does is come in and start talking about partying and girls and it just ruins it. SO glad someone uploaded a version without drake on yt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 08:40 PM
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I don’t think those people should be your best friends if they tell you something like that. Because when someone tells you that a person who treated you badly can be a good person, they are telling you that you did something wrong and therefore you deserved the bad treatment. And that’s never true. A good person won’t treat someone so poorly. A good person would leave you if the relationship was incompatible, they wouldn’t stay and treat you badly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 08:37 PM
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Omg I’m so glad you wrote this out!! I was actually thinking today about how I have a tendency to overshare too early on and how can I stop it, but also maybe it’s not an issue because if anything a good guy wouldn’t harm me anyway so as long as I’m aware of my emotions etc etc. But glad you pointed out why that’s bad, I never considered that it could be retraumatizing if it’s shared with a potential abuser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 08:14 PM
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My posts aren’t showing up either!! Did you post a link or a text post? My links in the past have shown up but my text posts don’t seem to. I messaged mods asking if maybe I’m banned now but it’s only been a day so I’ll see
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 07:04 PM
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The women in Minnesota need to do exactly this to protest this stupid law
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 07:01 PM
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Yeah it would be but they deserve it. You could maybe do it in a few years when you’re more established at the work place and know they can’t replace you easily.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 06:55 PM
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This is so fucking annoying does this guy realize they are HIS kids too????????????????? How about asking himself why he doesn’t prioritize his kids instead of himself selfish ass fucker
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 03:36 PM
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Oh no we don’t want to offend the pedophiles how cruel /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 05:56 AM
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Also goes for men who sympathize with or excuse pedophiles and rapists. Did you notice how all of the discussions in most subs about the Aimee thing moved to feeling bad for pedophiles and how they need help?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 03:21 AM
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Oh my god with what went on earlier this week on Reddit, the discussion around it was making me sick. So many people were sympathetically talking about how these pedophiles need help, and that society has such a stigma against them that these poor pedophiles can’t seek help before acting on their urges because they will get arrested. Oh these poor poor pedophiles oh dear nobody understands and wants to help their poor soul. 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄 I don’t know enough about pedophilia scientifically to say w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 03:13 AM
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Right??? Like when you really start seeing all the shit written online and realize there is an actual man behind that and it’s like, THEY’RE OUT THERE. sorta relevant tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@vausflores/video/6883621016027843841
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 10:11 PM
24

Oh please they’re gonna say it’s because “women have it so much easier they could get away with everything because bOoBs!!!!!” 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 03:03 AM
25

But then why did porn come to be in the first place? Women didn’t sexualize younger men/boys in the distant past and pass pictures around or rape etc. Porn is a result of what was always done to women by men. If women did those things in the distant past the porn we’d have not would reflect that but it doesn’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 12:53 AM
1

It’s not even just withholding promotion unless given sex, it’s threatening to fire sometimes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 07:56 PM
43

A surprisingly high amount of men think this way and it’s so scary. The three month rule, if not just for the sake of not getting used by men, might also be helpful in vetting out guys with bad hygiene before touching their nasty bodies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 03:02 PM
30

I think a lot of bird species mate for life so majority of male birds are HVMs. Maybe that’s why the OP wants to try with the relationship
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 02:59 PM
172

I don’t understand, don’t people who live like that also smell outside of their home? Can others not smell them? Reading this made me scared of even hugging someone now if it’s not possible to smell them...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 02:58 PM
14

I think open is better because it takes time to be able to accept that you should have higher standards. I lurked for a while before I actually “got” it. At first I didn’t understand FDS because I thought what is the point of even dating then because men will never like that, they will never find a man this way. That was still my pick me brain. It took a long time til I realized that it wasn’t about men liking us. It was about us liking THEM. FDS wasn’t about finding the right guy so much as it …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 02:22 AM
75

Even my city’s subreddit went private and the sub is toxic sometimes. I was so surprised and happy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 01:48 AM
21

I’ve noticed this with pick mes they love to boast about giving blow jobs when they get nothing in return like they’re sOoOo cOoL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 04:34 PM
167

At some point it has become a common thing for people to have fucked up kinks and if we’re disgusted by those kinks then we are the evil people. Seriously what the fuck, how did it become a normal thing to accept your partner’s kinks and if you don’t you’re a horrible person. Like some things should absolutely be shamed. And the fact that men are so depraved that they have manipulated the narrative to make kinks like this normal, to make the other person feel bad for being disgusted. Like they’r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 04:25 PM
11

Have had a pick me friend boast about what a liberated woman she is because she looooooves hooking up on tinder, she’s soooo good at flirting “oh Abby you should learn from me ur so cute” and giving blow jobs when she’s on her period. 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 02:38 PM
36

Have had a pick me friend boast about what a liberated woman she is because she looooooves hooking up on tinder, she’s soooo good at flirting “oh Abby you should learn from me ur so cute” and giving blow jobs when she’s on her period. 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 02:37 PM
13

Same here!!! Completely stopped watching tv and movies. Only documentaries and books by female authors and certain male authors. Once in a while I’ll watch a movie if someone showed a few clips and it seems to look safe. But for the rest I just don’t have the stomach for it anymore, it upsets me too much and it’s not worth spending my leisure time watching things that upset me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 02:33 PM
7

Yes!!! They are constantly hijacking the discussion to make it about them. We should stop even saying that phrase. Use [redacted] instead if you really need to say it and most importantly when a man tries to steer the conversation about him by saying [redacted], WALK AWAY. don’t give them any more attention. They do not get control over our experience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 03:08 PM
86

What the fuck reading this was just sickening. You can have a world full of women who only wear burkas and the men will complain their eyes were tempting. Then have the women cover the eyes too, I believe it’s called the niqab and then they’ll say the woman’s voice was tempting. The fuck you want from us?? Voice altering device too???? And in any case this stupid argument over clothing doesn’t hold because men have raped children in CHILDRENS CLOTHES and you’re gonna blame the tiny princess outf…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 08:04 PM
10

Yup, the system is designed to keep you oppressed and not even fight back. I hate it here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 05:40 PM
23

I thought that at first too but if you go to prison then the guards will just assault you there
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 04:33 PM
35

In Canada basically any weapon that is used to harm someone will get you charged. Even if it was self defence. Which is just so disheartening. You basically have to walk around knowing if you defend yourself you’ll get charged yet if something did happen to you they say “you don’t have enough bruises to show you fought back.” 🙄 I hate this world sometimes because there really is no place where you can feel safe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 03:25 PM
16

Seriously!! If you lightly hit a guy and he punches you back, people will say well you shouldn’t have hit him, if you hit someone you get what you deserve. But god forbid you lash out at a guy after he’s been crossing your boundaries for days, and suddenly it’s yOu ShOuLd HaVe sAiD sOmEtHiNg sOoNeR iNsTeAd oF LaShiNg OuT
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 02:27 PM
24

that’s a serial killer someone please save her!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 01:31 AM
36

It’s one of the things men still have the decency to be ashamed of at the very least Not sure about this because I’ve seen too many “jokes” about putting peanut butter on their balls
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 02:34 PM
4

😆😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 01:32 PM
1

the argument that sex work implies women are the product and therefore women cannot be empowered when they’re also an object is pretty irrefutable. If someone argues against that then well that tells you exactly what kind of person they are
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 04:48 AM
75

Ohh is that why # of comments don’t match what I see sometimes???? Didn’t know!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 04:37 AM
20

thank you ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 03:07 AM
13

Went through the same thing, emotionally abusive family, made me feel suicidal etc. It’s harder said than done but cutting them off is the best way. I spent years in therapy too but not having known that my anxiety issues were related to their abuse and not because I am defective. I am more confident in myself now that I am no longer in contact with them because I don’t have to hear their constant abuse, belittling etc. You can try moving out but these kind of parents have zero respect for bound…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 11:03 PM
131

Yooo can just say it’s bc of covid!! I bought a little spray bottle to carry Lysol so I can wipe my goggles/face shield but I didn’t think of this!!! Edit: just remembered laws in Canada say that any item used to hurt another person is illegal and you can be charged so this won’t work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 10:52 PM
37

Omg I’ve had the exact same experience but much older! I discovered anime at 22 and absolutely loved it - until I joined the anime club at my uni and saw how messed up a lot of the fans were. It straight up disgusted me and I completely quit watching because I couldn’t stop thinking about how much they sexualize women, especially children, and how obsessed the men are. God some of those guys brought their titty mousepads TO UNI. Like are you not ashamed????? It was horrifying seeing that. I did …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 07:32 PM
3

That’s great to hear!! Thank you!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 03:36 PM
83

OH MY GOD THE MUSIC AT THE END WAS SO PERFECT THIS WAS SO DRAMATIC LMAO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 02:46 PM
7

Can you get the vaccine in your late 20s? I thought it was over for me bc by the time I learned about hpv I was 26 and it says max age for the vaccine is 25 for girls. I’m 29 now and if possible I’d like to get it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 02:43 PM
15

wow...after all that I went thru..that kinda makes me feel better lol thanks!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 04:46 AM
112

this one makes me really upset because I could see what my ex was liking and it was always his female friends pics but he would never like my pics. And when I would point it out he’d either say I’m not on IG all the time (lie bc I can see his activity) or say I follow too many people ur stuff just disappears (oh and yet u conveniently just see your female friends pics???) I know the “logical sex” have no logic to them but I still can’t wrap my head around why he ever dated me if he didn’t even l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 10:32 PM
6

omg yess
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 02:42 PM
14

Do you know how awful things have got to be for me to think “wow at least he’s aware enough to ask and consider officially making the switch, most guys when they realize they don’t want the gf longterm still drag the girl along as a ‘gf’ but only think of the girl as a fuck buddy while cheating/looking for the ‘right’ girl.” WHY.ARE.MEN.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 10:06 PM
47

Read short stories by Joyce Carol Oates!!! The two books of short stories I read recently called “Cardiff, by the sea - four novellas of suspense” and “the Doll master and other tales of terror.” are all horror and absolutely true things that almost all women can relate to. Edit: corrected the titles
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 02:24 AM
22

I just feel extremely validated as who I am and the things I’ve felt but tried to repress throughout my life. Us girls get a lot of libfem views pushed on us and I’ve felt abnormal for not wanting to sleep casually, date casually etc. I found FDS two years after being discarded by a narcissist (my first and only relationship). After being discarded I pretty much withdrew from everyone since I was in a lot of pain and could never imagine being touched by a guy again, let alone even having enough …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 03:13 PM
27

Funny how we’re “incels” now yet the one thing they complain about is that women have it so easy they can just step outside and sleep with anyone they want wah wah. So which is it scrotes??????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 02:23 PM
25

They probably do read. It’s that they have a problem with us not putting up with being used and abused anymore
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 02:21 PM
47

The best way to respond to people that use that tactic is just to say “then die” and fucking WALK AWAY
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 02:27 PM
4

I’m not sure, on her tiktok profile the only link is to her Instagram.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 11:35 PM
346

I’ve been feeling like the best way for women who want children would be to live communally with other women and just raise children together, rotate working and staying home with the kids. If there was an arrangement like that I think I’d want kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 09:24 PM
5

Can we normalize telling women that when your man gets a new female friend and you start to question yourself YOU ARE PERFECTLY VALID and you should walk tf away!!!! I am still so bitter about going through a whole year of my own female friends telling me I am just being insecure even though he was getting closer and closer to this girl and getting more distanced from me. And whenever I’d bring it up he’d call me insecure and my GIRLFRIENDS would call me insecure and I really just for a whole da…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 12:18 AM
5

You said it perfectly!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 05:06 PM
15

but I can’t teach you to be invested in my pleasure Like how can you even be in the moment and enjoy if every time you have to TRY to get him to pay attention to you. I think that’s why women just don’t bother trying to get an orgasm bc you can’t teach someone who DOESNT WANT TO and just cares about his own pleasure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 04:53 PM
12

Thank you for writing this out! I feel a lot better after reading this. It’s been ingrained in me that there’s something wrong with me for not wanting casual sex and feeling like a prude, so I’ve been really glad after finding this sub and it’s helping to undo that kind of thinking. It would be great if this post was stickied or added to FAQ or something because I’m sure there are others like me who were brainwashed into thinking casual sex is normal and if you don’t engage in it you’re a prude,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 04:49 PM
171

The thing is everything you listed can be summarized as having empathy, especially towards a person who you supposedly are supposed to care for. That’s why we go to all these lengths, it’s just empathy and care towards someone we like/love. It’s literally the BARE MINIMUM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 03:20 AM
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I just wanted to say I feel really validated after your post because a similar thing happened to me. I met a girl on meetup who I thought was pretty cool and then one day I notice she stopped following me on IG. It was a day that I had posted a story (I usually didn’t post stories unless I go out etc) and it was about a few days after we hung out so there were no new plans in the making. The story I posted was just of random things I saw at the mall, I don’t remember it anymore but I think it wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 12:52 AM
15

On a related note, what is with guys and going on their phones while on a date? My LVX used to always be talking to his friends while on dates so one day I just started doing the same as he was doing AND SUDDENLY MANS IS SO UPSET LIKE WHY AM I ON MY PHONE WHEN WE’RE ON A DATE. When I pointed out he was doing the exact same thing he just wouldn’t acknowledge it. At the time I didn’t even know what gaslighting was and later on I found out my ex is a narcissist but even then, it seems every woman h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 10:40 PM
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I don’t understand how people can be friends with someone like that. I stayed friends with my hs group despite one of the girls starting to bully me at some point because no one else spoke up and everyone else liked her. After two years of bullying I finally lost it and left the entire group but I wonder how they all like her despite her openly bullying me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 02:27 PM
68

Wait... I love this. I’m all for rebuffing the not all men comments with #yesallmen. LETS DO IT LADIES
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 02:48 AM
55

And their g spot is in the bum too!! I’ve actually been wondering about the Ancient Greece thing, like wasn’t it normal back then that most men had relationships with their male friends, so I wonder when that stopped and when men became so homophobic. Even the homophobic women aren’t as homophobic as the men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 04:07 AM
3

The fucking audacity. Not even “like” but “love” Yes that’s why I really think we should be as loud as we can with normalizing calling out this bullshit. I don’t want other girls going through what we did and feeling like we are insecure when we are being disrespected!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 03:59 AM
7

I saw this video that says if the men are agreeing with you in the comments then you should take back what you said. So if the men in her comments are agreeing with her then yes she’s a pickme. This is the video: https://m.tiktok.com/v/6930027216256371973
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 10:26 PM
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Honestly I’m all for shaming pick mes. It’s comments like these everywhere that made me feel so abnormal for feeling upset by my then bf liking other girls pics, and then thinking that I was probably really insecure etc. And she had the audacity to add “ffs” at the end I AM MAD ALL OVER AGAIN
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 10:35 PM
159

Also men are the ones who made us want taller men too because even 6ft men wanted a women a whole foot less than them so they feel larger
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 07:19 PM
29

Yes!!! I feel like there should be a part added where you should trust your own intuition and why you are attached in a certain way with a person, like let’s say you were raised well and you’re securely attached but you find yourself being avoidant with a certain person, then it’s probably your intuition telling you to keep away. And even despite how you were raised, you’ll find that you can probably form secure attachments with people who deserve it (as I’ve learned more about myself, I realize…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 04:42 PM
124

I’m so grateful for the lack of male POV. I hate that about twoxchromosomes because there was a post where a girl was complaining about how guys change their texting style after three months (and us girls know that’s because these guys know they have us now so they’re not putting that effort anymore into pretending to be whatever they were being to get us) and some scrote commented that it’s probably because her attachment style is anxiously attached and that she should read about attachment sty…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 04:11 PM
3

Omg I’m so sorry. Yeah honestly even despite that fear of retaliation, it’s better for them to fear you and the only way sometimes is to not tolerate bullshit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 03:59 PM
13

I struggle with this in my daily life still. I’ve given up dating completely but I find myself scared of any men and especially at work I take a long time to write emails and replying to messages and if I need someone to do something for me and it’s a man I’m scared to give a command cuz I’m scared I’m hurting his ego deep down. I try not to care and try to sound straight forward so I don’t end up getting walked over, but it terrifies me because you never know what a hurt man could do to you. Al…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 04:25 AM
24

why did you make me picture that 🤢😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 04:17 AM
41

I think in cases like this his name shouldn’t be blurred out, like if anything he needs to be put on a list and MONITORED.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 07:03 PM
15

I just realized I did this about four years ago! For my friend’s grad I showed up with flowers, her bf didn’t even show up. She did say that she didn’t want her grad to be a big deal and that she’s only going so she doesn’t have to wait for her degree in the mail, but it turns out her bf didn’t do anything special that day at all. But she continued to date him for the next couple of years while always contemplating break up. We’re not in touch anymore but my god I really hope she realizes and le…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 03:37 PM
30

I feel like “pick me” behaviour starts as a result of this giving up too, like accepting that men are all animals and so you develop a “if you can’t beat em join em” mentality and just accept the bad treatment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 11:19 PM
19

My ex used to always complain about gold diggers, except that when we dated I was working and he wasn’t and I paid 90% during our trips (he paid for the food) which I thought was reasonable because he wasn’t working. Then I lost my job and he was working and guess who still wanted to 50/50 on trips and then when I couldn’t pay for a trip he wanted to go to he just said he’d prefer to go alone, except I saw him start talking more to a female friend of his who’s all about travel and he ended up du…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 03:39 PM
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