If he sympathizes with abusers...

Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2021-03-27T02:15:55+00:00

It's true and this is a huge red flag. Also goes for men who sympathize with or excuse pedophiles and rapists.

paribanu · 2021-03-27T02:21:43+00:00

if he sympathizes with liars, manipulators, cheaters, etc...

Jinxhourglass · 2021-03-27T02:40:39+00:00

Yes! I think a key way of finding out a man’s stance on abusers/predators is to ask him, in a nonjudgmental way, what he thinks about particular celebrities that are flagrantly abusive but have been “forgiven” by their acolytes. Being neutral is key because a lot of men will happily give a speech on why what said celeb did was:

not as bad as everyone thinks

-Imply the person isn’t at fault because they have existing mental health issues

-talk about how they have changed now and that by donating to charities that help women is proof

-downplay what they did if the person the celeb victimized has publicly forgiven them

Then someone can take this info to block and delete accordingly. A mistake I see is that women will share their own personal trauma stories, only to find out afterwards that their partner doesn’t feel empathy for their situation. Whatever you tell a man can be used against you. You don’t have to tell your story to someone when there’s other ways to pull that info.

I think it’s also important to people to ask about celebs that aren’t massive predators but are still shitty partners. A lot of people will agree that a man who has attacked 40 women needs to be held accountable, but won’t keep that same energy for celeb serial cheaters or people they know in real life.

logickilledthecat · 2021-03-27T03:15:56+00:00

Nothing to discuss, all said in OP.

Downtown-Temporary52 · 2021-03-27T10:30:59+00:00

Yeaaaaa and people who play devil's advocate in especially things like this. Chances are, they are.

Title	If he sympathizes with abusers...
Author	sacchilax
Upvotes	95
Comments	9
Date	March 26, 2021 4:50 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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