| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
|---|---|---|---|
| 2 | New FDS anthem - From Eurovision. We love to see worldwide resistance to scrotes!Thanks for sharing! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 01:00 PM |
| 3 | On the myth that your 20s are when you have the most options with HVM.true! why the fuck are men like that? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 12:02 PM |
| 27 | Huge disparity between men and women when it comes to empathySame same! They be asking us to emphatize and compromise with them but they never do the same | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 02:43 PM |
| 31 | Huge disparity between men and women when it comes to empathyWhy is it so true😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 02:42 PM |
| 14 | The Road to Recovery from the book Women who love too much.I personally use step 10 to recover from a breakup! I wrote lengthily about what I have gone through and shared with people I trust including my counselor. Trust me it works! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/21 08:46 PM |
| 11 | What love song do you dedicate to yourself?Natasha Bedingfield's Unwritten | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 07:45 AM |
| 10 | FDS PODCAST UPDATE: we're going to start doing interviews!Agreed!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 10:11 PM |
| 66 | The reason some men are so awful is because pick-mes let them get away with using and disrespecting them.Ladies I think they were poking fun those men. It is a joke or am I the only one getting it wrong? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 09:11 AM |
| 4 | Do you guys speak out openly about FDS principles and feminism?Omgggg it happened to me too. Guys like that are soo entitled!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 03:45 PM |
| 20 | Do you guys speak out openly about FDS principles and feminism?Yes and them thinking we should manage our finances 50/50 with men otherwise we aren't liberated. Like what the fuck. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 10:40 AM |
| 55 | Do you guys speak out openly about FDS principles and feminism?I can totally relate. When I voiced out my opinion that men should be paying women for dates and in marriage, libfem's pov is that we are indebted to men. It's hard for me to explain where I was coming from but I do openly talk about it nonetheless, bearing in mind I don't need to overexplain and I am entitled to my opinion. I just have to be ready to being misunderstood. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 09:00 AM |
| 2 | If he sympathizes with abusers...Yeaaaaa and people who play devil's advocate in especially things like this. Chances are, they are. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 10:30 AM |
| 17 | Cringe at me, sisters! Cringey pick me and cool girl behaviors I've done, a master list.I'm cringing because I used to be that cool girl too and I was like 80% of the list erghhh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 09:34 AM |
| 18 | LVM : I want a 9 or 10 women, with slim body who works out and put on makeup. Also LVM :Euwww those ugly men | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 09:04 AM |
| 10 | Defining GF and Wife BenefitsI'd argue the same. Whilst I understand that gf phase is tricky, it's better to spend a year or two and breaking up than marrying and divorcing. The latter is costly and higher stakes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 11:53 AM |
| 6 | Some great bites of insight into abuse and narcissism.Omg sameeee. I had some lingering questions in my mind if I was the selfish one and if I indeed was the narcissist. Every talk about my feelings when he crossed my boundaries, made HIM feel hurt. Made HIM feel inadequate. I don't think anyone else can emphatize with this until they've went through it in terms of how it left us broken, confused, empty | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 07:06 AM |
| 20 | Are you ever haunted by treatment you tolerated ?Yes and even after 6 months it ended, I still cried over how stupid I was. Learning to forgive myself everyday and I am learning to accept that I was ignorant then, but moving forward, I'll never tolerate the same way again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 05:50 AM |
| 2 | For those of you looking for signs of him being "Just Not That Into You": this is it!I love her blog!! Do you mind to share the link to the original article please? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 02:04 PM |
| 21 | From HVM to LVM the moment stress hitsThis is exactly what happened to me. In the pickme past I would've stayed and showed him I would stay but eventually I realized he was halfheartedly into the relationship afterwards, causing it to be too toxic for me. Leave, sis. You can do this. Block and delete. You deserve someone who knows what they want and emotionally mature in handling life and you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/21 02:40 PM |
| 3 | Is Saweetie a FDS icon?Truly. Unfortunately not all women would see this the way FDS would bcs we have bene conditioned so or we've been taught culturally to keep it silent bcs it will affect their dignity. Much to unpack here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/21 01:01 PM |
| 8 | Is Saweetie a FDS icon?THIS. I LIVE FOR THIS COMMENT!! Absolutely true. When I finally had the strength to write my side of the story in a relationship I used to have, I knew there will be repercussions and it might backfire me. But I said I'm not going to stop from my voice being heard. Unfortunately, not even my best friend believed me. Not even the women who are in friendships with my ex. As much as there are women who lied, there should be room for our voice to be heard. I'm no going to let my ex walk around telli… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/21 12:35 PM |
| 31 | It isn't just about how he treats youBut also, he could be treating his mom and sis nice, but may not treat you right too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 07:33 AM |
| 7 | Never let a man know how bad he hurt youOur stories are similar! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 04:01 AM |
| 23 | Advice from a divorce lawyer - on Love, Marriage and FeminismSaved!!! This truly inspires me to become a divorce lawyer!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 04:30 PM |
| 88 | A short story about two HVM I work withHate to break this to you but there's so many cases whereby they may be HVM at work but not at home or with their partners. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 04:20 PM |
| 33 | So it finally happened; a NVM from my past came crawling back.Yes they will always come back. Either denying they have hurt you( to which it happened to me recently) or they will come stalking you elsewhere to see your updates, or more, they will admit to their mistakes and apologise( which might happen when the stars fall off the sky). Block and delete! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 02:17 PM |
| 475 | Why do men feel entitled to participate in spaces made for women?Reminds me of the same question I had in mind as I was talking to my guy friends about walking home at night is super dangerous for women and they just snatched the platform by replying "well men too faced harassment!!!" Fuck you I don't care I'm talking about my experience here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 02:08 PM |
| 51 | Male feminists in a nutshell.There is no such thing as male feminist ladies! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 05:27 AM |
| 35 | Why I left my Fiancé. - Woman shares inspiring story of how she trusted her intuition, decided to she deserved better, and left her fiance (a man she had dated for nine years).I too had the same feeling. The similarities are uncanny... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 05:31 PM |
| 5 | Chauvo feminists, the faux feminist men who are the scourge of campuses and nonprofitsWow I must say I've encountered way too many pretentious chauvo-feminist who are actually misogynistic in nature. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/21 04:53 PM |
| 0 | I'm just gonna say it, I don't really like Valentine'sYea why is he here to begin with???? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/21 04:36 PM |
| 7 | Rant - On Men & ClubhouseI did. Thank you!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 04:16 PM |
| 6 | Rant - On Men & ClubhouseUpdate : my ex reached out to me accusing me of slandering him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 03:25 PM |
| 3 | Rant - On Men & ClubhouseYes it's only for iOS! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 08:50 AM |
| 18 | Rant - On Men & ClubhouseYesss and it only makes me sick thinking just how men could talk about women empowerment when all the time they aren't living with their words 😐 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 07:12 AM |
| 2 | Which age you believe is ideal for a straight girl to start dating?23 (after graduation). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/21 12:47 PM |
| 3 | My father is a LVM, and I began to learn not to marry the same man like my father.Sis🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 04:56 AM |
| 10 | My father is a LVM, and I began to learn not to marry the same man like my father.Same. I can't be bothered to talk to my father or wished him a birthday because he never does. Mom would force me into doing it but for me I just couldn't because he never shows his interest with what has been happening with my life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 07:24 PM |
| 5 | I unfollowed my ex’s family on social mediaYou did the right thing sis. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 04:44 PM |
| 2 | Females After A BreakupAlright ladies, this tweet wasn't mine. The grammatical error and all aside, please understand that not everyone speaks English as their first language. Chill✨🙏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 04:07 PM |
| 2 | Perhaps you'll need this sign.DAMN THIS ENERGYY | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 03:07 PM |
| 100 | Absolutely heartbreaking. This needs to stop.Wow...i've gotten yelled at for giving second opinion about whether or not husbands should give allowances to their wife on moisturizer/sun screen. In PUBLIC. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 05:58 AM |
| 14 | If you're terrified to lose him - you MUST leave.I wish I had realized this sooner. Thanks for the reminder!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 12:45 PM |
| 5 | Hot Tip: If you have to consult Google to see if his behavior is okay, it's time to dump him, sis.Whoa thank you for recommending the blog! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 02:08 PM |
| 8 | The trope of the broody, mysterious, damaged, bad boy who deep down just needs to be loved by a woman and he’ll be saved needs to die.https://balqishazhar0904.medium.com/reflecting-bridgerton-from-real-life-experience-6f64e4ce0826 Daphne’s mother is a product of patriarchy and how women were taught to be patient, be loving more, and hope that the man can turn his head around to realize that the women he has is the prize. Women are taught about pain as an equivalent of love. Women are taught to stay in an unhappy marriage. Women are taught to give, give and give, hoping that somehow her love will change the man. Sis, I have bee… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 04:32 AM |
| 6 | Bridgerton....yuckhttps://balqishazhar0904.medium.com/reflecting-bridgerton-from-real-life-experience-6f64e4ce0826 "Daphne’s mother is a product of patriarchy and how women were taught to be patient, be loving more, and hope that the man can turn his head around to realize that the women he has is the prize. Women are taught about pain as an equivalent of love. Women are taught to stay in an unhappy marriage. Women are taught to give, give and give, hoping that somehow her love will change the man. Sis, I have … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 04:30 AM |
| 6 | Reflecting Bridgerton From Real Life ExperienceI feel u sis | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 05:38 PM |
| 17 | Reflecting Bridgerton From Real Life ExperienceI don't think Daphne is FDS approved though😅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 05:05 PM |
| 2 | How Do I Make Myself Indifferent to My Ex?I feel the same way. I think there should a safe space in a romantic partnership to talk about your feelings, your worries, what you read etc. When I first communicated to my ex about what I feel in the relationship, it immediately backfired me in a way that he raised his voice at me. Even telling him about John Gottman's book and emotional infidelity made him attack me back. It's so weird yet so odd the feeling of repressing your thoughts and feelings just to keep the relationship going and to … | /r/askFDS | 01/01/21 12:54 AM |
| -1 | How Do I Make Myself Indifferent to My Ex?Y'all...I can't thank you enough for writing your fair share of opinion. But I've come to the conclusion that I should continue writing on Medium, either about him or general relationship stuffs that I could anecdotally relate from my own experience. His friends can support him and back him up, I don't care. They are not my friends. I'm speaking(or writing) the truth, so if he feels hurt, I'm only hurting his ego by describing what he did to me. Now that we have broken up, do I care about his pr… | /r/askFDS | 01/01/21 12:47 AM |
| 2 | How Do I Make Myself Indifferent to My Ex?No, I don't write hoping him or his friends and family to see. But it came out to him after a friend of mine who's a friend of his cousin knew about he article. Thank you for your opinion, I truly appreciate it. I'm not trying to prove to anyone he's abusive. I did it solely for healing. But I'm glad some came out and have talked on how my article on identifying emotional abuse has helped them. | /r/askFDS | 31/12/20 04:53 PM |
| 13 | All the best for 2021!Happy new year!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 04:14 PM |
| 5 | How Do I Make Myself Indifferent to My Ex?So much of love here. Thank you and I wish you a happy new year(I'm one hour away to midnight!!). ❤️❤️ | /r/askFDS | 31/12/20 02:51 PM |
| 3 | How Do I Make Myself Indifferent to My Ex?I need this. Thank you for understanding how difficult it is healing from an emotionally abusive rship. As much as I don't want to think of his reactions, there's still that ties I haven't fully severed. I need to rise above his feelings and thoughts, and that makes me should continue writing and share my experience with others without thinking about his pride and ego. Afterall, healing is about me right! Thank you sis for your empathy and understanding. | /r/askFDS | 31/12/20 02:41 PM |
| 5 | I'm upset I didn't leave sooner and let the abuse go onSis, I went through an almost the same phase too. But I'm here to tell you to leave him be. I always keep on reminding myself the best karma is for him to stay as he is, date the next girl, let the girl leave him -- then only he knows that he is the problem. As for me, the next person I date is I UPGRADE HIM. He didn't upgrade me for loving him wholeheartedly, so sincerely, yet I begged for bare minimum and basic decency. A friend of ours told me to write him a letter for him to reflect on h… | /r/askFDS | 31/12/20 02:35 AM |
| 60 | Don’t give away your love too easily.Agreed. My recent heartbreak taught me to not attach so easily, to not be invested so quickly and deeply, but more importantly vet hard. It's not our fault for loving sincerely sis. The thing about love and relationships is always a calculated risk, if not a gamble. I hope you can take care and we are always here to support you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 07:49 AM |
| 4 | Should I accept the request?Dates of course. So romantic interest is established. | /r/askFDS | 29/12/20 03:28 AM |
| 3 | Should I accept the request?So the word meetup is not acceptable? | /r/askFDS | 29/12/20 03:24 AM |
| 14 | My Red Flag Radar is pretty well honed but I still find this hilarious 🚩This shit hurts me🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 05:42 AM |
| 7 | Just because he respects or has a good relationship with some women in his life does not mean he’s a hvm.Samee :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 08:26 AM |
| 4 | Work vs. Effort In RelationshipsSounds like my case too :'( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 05:35 AM |
| 4 | I keep coming back to the anger in my stages of GriefI am. I've gotten my peace of mind and my glow back again 😊✨ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 05:50 PM |
| 31 | I keep coming back to the anger in my stages of GriefHey, I hope you are feeling better. I went through a 4 months ish of healing after a 6 months of relationship that was toxic and emotionally abusive. Worse, I realized how emotionally abusive he was after two months of the breakup, when I could finally fit all the puzzles together. All that I'm gonna say is, a toxic and abusive relationship that includes gaslighting will affect you more than a usual breakup. I myself everyday would think about my ex and the things he did, and I'd be asking mysel… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 05:24 PM |
| 12 | Share your stories about dating a workaholic.This I agree. They are running away from their life that they work very hard as a coping mechanism... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 09:09 AM |
| 12 | Girlll, if only I could tell you the full journey it took me to get here..I tried to talk about FDS ideas to my guyfriends and they didn't seem to get it, if not oppose to it. I think that means they belong to LVM when they don't see how empowering FDS ideas is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 08:41 AM |
| 1 | When A GirlI should do it too! Thanks for suggesting❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 04:47 PM |
| 38 | I don’t understand men who hide important stuffs on their OLD profile(divorced, kids, height etc) and claim that they aren’t insecure about itOmg tell me about it! Went on a date with a guy who said his height was 168. Turned of I think he's about 160 cm. I am 163 and I was wearing heels that date too. The height differences is just too stark to ignore. The audacity to lie however, is not forgiveable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 01:34 PM |
| 3 | Should I Text Him?You're right. I'm still stucked between the bare minimum work he did and not letting me know he's not interested in second date. Finally blocked! | /r/askFDS | 06/12/20 08:13 PM |
| 1 | Should I Text Him?I have such a soft heart to not block him :(( I should learn how to do it. He has surpasses that one week deadline. Guess he isn't interested in me afterall. | /r/askFDS | 06/12/20 08:04 PM |
| 11 | LVM ShenanigansYou did the right thing there! | /r/askFDS | 05/12/20 05:13 PM |
| 6 | Should I Text Him?To be fair he treated me to a good and expensive restaurant on the first date. Religiously too we both are practicing so we don't do sex before marriage. But I agree with you that self respect has to be stronger than my feelings :) | /r/askFDS | 05/12/20 06:02 AM |
| 7 | Should I Text Him?That is actually true looking from my previous relationship😭😭 | /r/askFDS | 05/12/20 06:01 AM |
| 6 | Should I Text Him?Thanks! | /r/askFDS | 04/12/20 06:41 PM |
| 19 | Should I Text Him?I thought so. Suffice to say I met him through OLD, we found out we had mutual friends so I felt better with him. I think there's this 3 days rule to not make a guy look like a desperate. And agreed to planning second date within a week. He has another day to make it a week. But thank you, I think I shouldn't initiate the message. To be fair all this while he's been the one initiated the conversations and I would promptly reply whenever he did. | /r/askFDS | 04/12/20 05:17 PM |
| 40 | When there is conflict and the guy tries to act like it never happened...He downplays and invalidates your emotions. A conversation about your feelings became his. This is potentially manipulation. He's emotionally immature and a man-child. You've probably got the answer already. | /r/askFDS | 01/12/20 07:35 PM |
| 3 | Ladies, this is why we stay away from older men.I think it's not just avoiding from romantic relationships with older men. Befriending with them too may make you realize that the entitlement is just the same when you are a lot younger than them. I've experienced this sort of ambush and personal attack from someone who's 10 years older than me. What do you expect? Equating my current achievement to you that are way 10 years forward than me? Is that even fair? I used to internalize those criticisms from them given to me, but now I can't be both… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 09:23 AM |
| 7 | If it isn't working out, a true HVM will break up with you swiftly and respectfullyBut even a LVM could do break up face to face. So don't confuse that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 06:16 PM |
| 5 | Fake woke menThat's my ex. He always preached on women empowerment economically through pension funds for housewives and social empowerment etc and even goes vegan for the most of it. But guess what...he disrespected me and emotionally abused me IRL. Sometimes I want to vomit looking at those fake woke men who could not even walk the talk. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 02:49 PM |
| 2 | I like that someone fixed this picture's caption. I have seen it without that. 🤮Wait what is that your ex's name | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 02:09 PM |
| 9 | If you could go back to your early 30s self, what dating advice would you give to yourself?I'll add Adam thanks | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 01:55 PM |
| 1 | Raise your hand if you've gone out with this guyI learned the hard way. But I'm thankful for his presence in my life. He taught me how important women to be given UBI, housewives to have pension fund invested by husbands, among others. He has all the theory. He just didn't treat me right. Now I'm using his ideas for my own writing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 05:00 AM |
| 2 | Suzanne Venker: Author, Speaker, and Relationship Coach (Appears to be FDS)I read her e-book. Which part again that she's an FDS? It seems to me that she's teaching women to play by men's pleasure in order to be successful in love life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 04:53 AM |
| 3 | Raise your hand if you've gone out with this guyDated this kind of guy that turned out emotionally abusive | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 04:25 AM |
| 12 | Instead he'll try to bring her down to his level with all the manipulation, gaslighting, negging. Happened to the best of us.Happened to me :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 06:05 PM |
| 10 | Came across this video and this is perfect for all the ladies who just got out of toxic situationsNeeded it✨🥺 2 months and a half since I graduated from a toxic relationship with an emotionally abusive ex, now I'm getting my glow and vibe back💓 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 05:24 PM |
| 30 | The audacity!did we date the same person? My ex blamed me when I sulked at him for forgetting our video date, telling me I was not empathetic because I didn't remind him. Whaaat???? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 04:10 PM |
| 24 | The audacity!Geee this is very my ex. It's always been me to comfort him back when I confronted him about his behaviours to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 04:09 PM |
| 61 | I accept.We are in this journey together sis💪 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 04:53 PM |
| 3 | If he wanted to marry you, he would. A year into dating and he’s getting the ring made.I want to do this to reflect on my being a HVW | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/20 07:30 PM |
| 4 | How I do cope post breakup*all by myself | /r/askFDS | 24/10/20 07:20 PM |
| 6 | How I do cope post breakupNo worries. You can always talk to me whenever. I personally feel that after I left my ex, I got my energy and peace of mind back. No more doing emotional labor all to myself to keep the relationship afloat. No more holding to my toxic ex. I got my glow back and honestly I can do so many things once he has left. Just imagine the quality of life you're getting when you left a wrong person. | /r/askFDS | 24/10/20 07:19 PM |
| 15 | How I do cope post breakupI think for me, re-reading r/FemaleDatingStrategy over and over again really does help me to cope with a breakup(which happened 2 months a half ago). I looked at him and the mess he was that was proven to be a LVM. I queen myself up and focuses on increasing my value to become a HVW. You can do it :) | /r/askFDS | 24/10/20 07:04 PM |
| 1 | I wish all of you ladies that feeling. 💪😎Need this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 01:25 PM |
| 1 | This is why we don’t sit around and put our eggs in one basket and remember if a man wants you he will say it directlyI'm laughing at the video right now. 5 weeks ago I cried and lost my appetite because my ex, 5 months into relationship talking about marriage and all suddenly went exactly what this guy said. Not gonna be a pickmeisha ever again! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 09:38 AM |
| 2 | My nightmare breakup-let's find the lessons!The similarities in your story with my story is uncanny.... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/20 12:17 PM |
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