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| 1 | The struggle is real.How am I mocking anyone? I never said anything I just noticed how contentious the comments were. Attacking another woman for an observation about the comments isn’t it either SIS. So stop. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/22 03:06 PM |
| -3 | The struggle is real.Wow. These comments. 🍿. Just….WOW. Clearly the FDS solidarity has gone out the window. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 03:54 AM |
| 51 | Have any of you had an actual relationship from tinder?Yes! But I want to clarify- this was EARLY tinder. Back when it was good— so pre-2013/2014. Those were tinder’s glory days when you had actual quality men on it. By 2015 the trash had settled in and now? Well now it’s just a complete dumpster fire 🔥 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 12:17 AM |
| 62 | Mom gives “Husbands in Training” course to her sonsOmg I was thinking the same thing! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 09:22 PM |
| 63 | The Scrotation Playlist😂 this one is the WORRRSSSSSTTT. And I would say that this is an LV trait but also can apply to abusers as well. The hobosexual emotional abusers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 01:52 AM |
| 99 | The whole unmitigated audacity of this scrote. 🤢 I am so glad sis leveled up, adjusted her crown and LEFT.I mean unless I could upgrade for something larger….. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/22 08:08 AM |
| 13 | Makeup Give Uplink to the light? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 08:41 PM |
| 13 | Being a more private personAmen to that | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/22 08:08 PM |
| 14 | Can a man that has done anal be a HVM?Im going to pivot and say this. It seems (to me) that you feel very insecure in this relationship. And I would really advise you to explore that. Relationships with HVM allow you to feel secure and confident. That doesn’t seem to be happening with this relationship. I would explore why. Odds are it’s (potentially) subconsciously something from him. Trust your gut. You body is trying to tell you something. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 05:58 PM |
| 1 | If you could write your ex's Tinder profile😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 02:49 AM |
| 3 | Revenge body? Try a revenge LIFE!Same* | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 11:18 PM |
| 7 | Revenge body? Try a revenge LIFE!😭 thank you for saying I can talk to you guys here. I divorced my LVM and lost all my friends so y’all are the only HV ppl I know now. (And I am immensely grateful for it) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 11:14 PM |
| 83 | How dare rich and successful men not have harems of 16 year old virgins, like I would have If I had even 1/10th of there powerNone of these women are ugly. I mean they all are gorgeous to me and most of the couples are equally attractive. Except Zuckerberg…..he’s always going to look like a troll to me. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 04:26 PM |
| 64 | How dare rich and successful men not have harems of 16 year old virgins, like I would have If I had even 1/10th of there powerIt happens! I blame autocorrect. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 04:23 PM |
| 13 | If you could write your ex's Tinder profile😂 oh no!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 04:45 AM |
| 68 | If you could write your ex's Tinder profile😂 I actually laughed out loud to this one. 😂 thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 03:19 AM |
| 123 | I’ve been saying this… It only takes men just a few months to know if you are the one! 👆I would also say to be cautiously aware of men who rush to marriage. My ex met his now fiancé not even 2 weeks after I left him (and before our divorce was even finalized). He was actively peddling to find someone, met her, moved in and proposed less than 9 months later. TBH I don’t even think she is aware that he was previously married. So I say that to say, vet vet vet. Yes it sounds nice to say “men know” but also so do narcissistic predators looking for supplies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 09:14 PM |
| 6 | Men on Reddit be like:😂 I literally spit out my water | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/22 09:31 PM |
| 25 | FDS: From minimizing dating disappointment to averting life-derailing disaster - Or the power of sticking the hell up for yourself.Also apply this mantra to your other relationships- like with friends. You cannot expect to be one way with friends and then suddenly FDS with men. FDS principles apply to all relationships, so align yourself accordingly. As OP said, practice makes perfect. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 03:35 AM |
| 10 | I met another FDSer in the wild! We are growing as a community!Oh wow. Very coded and very cool. We def need that for FDS 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 02:21 AM |
| 6 | I met another FDSer in the wild! We are growing as a community!Dorothy? Ok I’ve never heard of this. Elaborate please? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 02:03 AM |
| 7 | Someone’s lack of reciprocation is not an invitation for you to convince them of your worth.This applies to all relationships, those with friends as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/22 02:21 AM |
| 2 | FDS DIVORCE TIPSIf you could get a good amount of spousal support due I would honestly think it worth it. My scrote ex was a hobosexual so I didn’t even get an attorney bc ….bums have nothing to give. 😂 BUT- my dad was just like your ex in terms of being the moneymaker. My mom got attorney and I know she is glad she did. Bc she went for it she’s retired and getting paid off his pension (spousal support). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 09:21 AM |
| 8 | FDS DIVORCE TIPSHey OP- question: when you were together with him did you have access to all of these things? Or did he always keep it away? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 05:47 PM |
| 8 | Let’s talk hobbies! What are your current hobbies? What’s a hobby you’re interested in starting?Learning languages (Spanish), hula hooping, sewing, paper making, drawing/painting and hoping to start learning the trumpet soon (I have one- I just need to start/find the time for) lessons. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 03:50 AM |
| 50 | Introspection- when you aren't sure ask yourself would you do the same to him?I completely agree. I always ask myself this question. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/22 07:46 PM |
| 3 | The tinder swindler documentary 2022 on netflix: sex pozzy culture needs to end because it only hurts womenA typical narcissist | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 02:32 AM |
| 7 | There would be so many cockroaches with J namesJordan, Jonah, Jake, Jamel, Jarrel, Jared, Julius, Jodie, Jaylen, Jamal, Julian, Jerome, Jason, Jackson, Jay, Jack, Josh….just off the top of my head 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 07:47 PM |
| 2 | There would be so many cockroaches with J namesWait…why have I been hit?! 🐕 😂 J names forreal! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 07:41 PM |
| 9 | TW: public harrasment of a young woman. Rejection is so hurtful to men that they seek revenge from women. And assisting them is not just men but whole families, pickmeishas, who raise these men and blame women.She was married! With a child! Yet this fool wouldn't take no! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 01:58 AM |
| 23 | TW: public harrasment of a young woman. Rejection is so hurtful to men that they seek revenge from women. And assisting them is not just men but whole families, pickmeishas, who raise these men and blame women.This woman was married, and had a 3 year old son. Yet this sick scrote wouldn't take no for an answer and then k*lled himself when he was rejected. This r*pe and shaving+ blackening and parading was in retaliation for the scrote k*lling himself when she said no. Absolutely disgusting. The worst part for me was all the pickme's who paraded her around and participated in this. Just gross & reprehensible beyond words. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 01:58 AM |
| 23 | The Signals Sent by DivorceThis 100%. Everything you said is spot on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 06:19 PM |
| 56 | I think he told on himselfI personally feel that not only did he tell on himself, but he also revealed to you his plans (that he had already started to put into motion) with YOU. Notice what you said- you are a strong confident opinionated women, and he had your crying, crawling and begging with him. That behavior doesn’t happen overnight. He has slowly and quietly planted seeds of insecurity into you to get you to react this way. Please take a look at where these seeds were planted and how he was able to do this. Men li… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 03:52 PM |
| 4 | you're not toxic.As someone who has been divorced I want to tell you this: you WILL be okay. In fact, I am 100% guaranteed that you will be MORE than okay. Thriving in fact. You got this. This divorce is the key to your ascension and I cannot wait to see you rise. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 11:44 PM |
| 1 | The "cool girl" monologue from Gone Girl has stuck with me long after I watched the movie. Even though Amy Dunne is crazy, her madness touches on the trope I know we've all heard praised or even tried to aspire to.Omg same! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 06:50 AM |
| 39 | I’m just going to leave this here: “Mick Jagger, 78, is finally settling down with 35-year-old ‘gal pal.’”😂 it’s so pathetic | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 07:20 PM |
| 99 | A breakdown of Jason Mamoa's red flags now that he and Lisa Bonet announced their divorceTHANK YOU FOR THIS!! I always thought he was a LVM and this “announcement” of them divorcing again confirmed it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 09:12 AM |
| 12 | "I am afraid I will be conned by a psycho man that only reveal his true face after years of marriage"Yep. Which is why i would also argue that while your advice is great for dating, as you said- it can apply to any and all situations. Breaking that mindset is essential but as you said- sometimes we are so conditioned we don’t see it. The best quote I’ve ever heard (and that I feel your post highlights) is that when you have rose colored glasses on red flags just look like flags 🚩 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 11:01 PM |
| 14 | "I am afraid I will be conned by a psycho man that only reveal his true face after years of marriage"I would argue that your posT DOES include them. As someone who divorced a Narc your advice is spot on. You are entirely 100000% right and this is honestly the tough love that we as women need. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 09:57 PM |
| 11 | "I am afraid I will be conned by a psycho man that only reveal his true face after years of marriage"This needs to be in the handbook. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 09:53 PM |
| 5 | A guy once wrote me a huge paragraph on how when a man offers to pay a bill, you need to argue and insist to pay for yourself. Pls, share your funniest and dumbest interactions about first date courtesy.can i get the link to the thread? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 05:25 PM |
| 10 | Every LVM's apology ever, to a t. Bonus points: doesn't include an actual apology :)THIS WAS THE LAUGH I NEEDED THIS WEEK! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/21 06:29 PM |
| 20 | A short film on Gaslighting - Quite educational for those who haven’t gone through it and relatable for others who have gone through it.Well this was truly horrifying. Just in time for Halloween too. But on a serious note-- thank you so much for sharing this. It should be viewed by every woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/21 06:41 PM |
| 4 | Role of a therapistI had a marriage therapist that I was seeing with my ex. We started off together, but it became clear to them that joint sessions were not beneficial. So we did individual sessions with the therapist. Then the individual sessions turned into two days a week for him- one day for me. All through my individual sessions with the therapist I told this therapist of the things he was doing (which of course escalated once we started therapy). It was so bad that I was actively texting the therapist at al… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 10:28 PM |
| 9 | When evaluating a man, don't just look at how you perceive his behaviour. Also look at the factual realities of your life before/after he came into it.This is excellent and amazing advice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 03:00 AM |
| 23 | Men tend to complain about women being fatter in person vs. their dating app pics... Well in my experience TOO 👏 MANY 👏 MEN 👏straight up LIE about their heightI remember my ex told me that his height is with shoes on just like the NBA players do. LOL. Maybe if he had skills like Muggsy Bogues it would've been different....but the only basketball skills he had were on NBA2k. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 08:45 PM |
| 32 | Does he accidentally break/ruin your things? Or is it covert domestic violence?My ex did this. He would break my stuff all the time "accidentally". My favorite wine glasses all mysteriously were broken while he cleaned them. Everything just broke as he was trying to help. Except for when he got angry-- then he would break things on purpose such as my birthday gift (on my birthday) and a PS4 I had bought for him (which he threw at me in a fit of rage when I pointed out ALL the various things I did for him (business investments, rent, food, etc etc) for him despite his words… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 05:00 PM |
| 89 | Here’s What Women Say About Their [Male] Partners In Therapy"We often marry our issues" My therapist told this to me during our individual couples counseling session and it completely opened my eyes to what/who my ex was. I knew my dad was a narc, but hearing that opened the possibility to my ex being one too. Shook my entire system but it fortunately made all the shingles on my eyes to fall off and I left him VERY soon after. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 07:55 AM |
| 15 | Prepping to leave - biding my timeTell them that you have had a family emergency come up that is now resulting in you having to break the lease. Leave it at that. Don’t tell them about him cheating or anything bc you don’t know if an LVM is the leasing manager and will tell him. Just tell them your circumstances have changed, that he will still be there and what next steps you need to do to break your part of the lease. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 12:39 AM |
| 13 | Religious FDSI am a Christian. I love God. I feel that a lot of “religion” has been impacted by some dangerous interpretations of the Bible. From my reading and experience God is love. Not only is he love, but he is extremely organized. The true definition of order. When I look out at all he has created I see how he has created and built upon things to make a myriad of different plants and animals. This is why I believe we have so many animals and plants that are similar yet different. It was as if he starte… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 07:25 PM |
| 5 | Knowledge Share: What Feels Good For You During Sex?😂 I have no advice but I am here to laugh at your girl on top comment. It is as if you were reading a chapter from my life. I’m looking forward to reading all the responded cause ya girl could use some advice as well. 🙋🏾♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 08:32 PM |
| 10 | Once upon a time I dated a scrote to get over an HVMYour story was a whirlwind, but what I find most interesting was that it wasn't very unique at all. AKA_- scrotes play from the same playbook. I could've totally taken your short scrote and traded him for my bum scrote and we would've still had the same story. LOL. These men are ridiculous. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 04:35 PM |
| 3 | Pre-nupsI agree with you and your thoughts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 04:27 PM |
| 12 | Using the carrot and stick approach to neg and emotionally abuse. 🚩🚩🚩These men are psychos | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 03:35 PM |
| 186 | Concepts that need to be retiredI have another: “you have to fight for your marriage/relationship” Nah. If you’re fighting to keep it it’s not for you and likely toxic | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 03:47 AM |
| 3 | FDS is BACK!I legit thought I had f’d up and was banned. Or that it was destroyed. Both situations I came up with had me in a panic 😂. SO glad it’s back | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/21 10:12 PM |
| 15 | Why it Never Works When Forever Gf Finally Gets the Ringum....WHUT? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 03:00 PM |
| 32 | Let’s create a megathread: What is one of the best pieces of advice you’ve learned from this sub that has blown your mind or had the greatest impact on your life?Faking usually lasts 3 months. Wait the three months to see who they really are. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 03:57 AM |
| 3 | When friends enjoy the circus 🤡I agree it is due to self esteem issues and the gaslighting. It's unique for me bc i was with a NVM narc as well-- and divorced him last year. So I know how they (narcs) move and operate and the cycle of abuse-- which makes it even more infuriating to see it all play out. I dont plan to not be friends with her-- bc isolation is a narcs goal-- but I will need to mentally check out in a way bc the circus train is exhausting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 05:19 PM |
| 26 | When friends enjoy the circus 🤡😂 girl there is too much going on at that three ring event for me to even type out 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 05:43 AM |
| 46 | When friends enjoy the circus 🤡😂 that’s honestly what I’ve done. The few times I’ve engaged. I told her point blank she has 3 options: flee the country n start anew, divorce him n focus on coparenting (they have a baby together) or stay and do the mental gymnastics to forget the flags you’re seeing and make it work. 🤸🏾♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 05:14 AM |
| 38 | Strategies for running background checks on menI’ve always thought about creating a site | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 07:58 PM |
| 170 | Bad... But not unexpected... 💔I knew this was going to be the outcome. From the beginning I just knew he killed her. I honestly thank FDS bc before I actually might’ve thought he didn’t and “sHe KiLlED hErSeLf” as various scrote and pickmiesha heavy subs have been tying to say. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 11:49 PM |
| 7 | Tell him you don't like to drink (even if you do)I love this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 12:05 AM |
| 8 | Very FDS Book! How to Spot a Dangerous Man Before You Get Involved by Sandra BrownLoved this book | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 04:07 AM |
| 79 | "If He Wanted to, He Would" The B Side DiscussionI agree. I just think that we say that mantra and that many FDers might be thinking things are okay since they don’t have to chase their men to do things. They don’t have low effort so they think things are fine. I just wanted to point out that at all times we should be listening to ourselves and our bodies/emotions over the actions of men. So many times these type of people stay “good” until they feel they have you locked down (I.e: marriage, a baby, etc). If we are vetting actions, by the time… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 03:34 PM |
| 35 | As I was leaving he attacked me and I went to jail. View previous post pictures in linkOh hon, I am so so sorry you’re experiencing this. First of all, do NOT feel like you don’t want to be here. Over that POS? No. No no NO. You will get through this, your life is not ruined, you will survive and you will thrive WITHOUT him. Do not even consider leaving this earth over that NVM POS. Hell no. He doesn’t have that much value or importance or power over your life to influence that. Now on for the rest— as others have said get photo evidence. Report everyone. I’m not an attorney nor d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/21 08:51 PM |
| 19 | Women growing out their body hair IS an act of bravery in western society, insensitive fucktardAs someone who recently stopped shaving I love this. It’s hard AF to not shave anymore bc we have been trained that hair is gross. My mother has been struggling with the fact that I stopped shaving. 😂 not shaving my armpits, legs, pubic area or gasp my upper lip. 😂 it’s been a trip— but a good trip. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 04:37 PM |
| 13 | Weekly FDS Check-inThanks. I’ve been parroting back to my friend inconsistencies and then showing the holes in his defense. For instance, his big excuse (and the one that she gives him) is that he just doesn’t know HOW to be a father — but I pointed out to her that for this other two hobbies he started of which he knew nothing prior about, he puts not only effort into but also spends countless hours researching to make sure he does it right. I haven’t used the words abuse or control because honestly I feel it’s to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/21 03:06 PM |
| 11 | Weekly FDS Check-inFor those who were with narc men— what made you leave? Was it something someone else said? If so- what did they say that made the 💡 go off with you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 10:16 PM |
| 16 | Weekly FDS Check-inI completely agree. I kept seeing the hype so i tried to listen to the album. Couldn’t even make it through a full song. It was just terrible. The first 10 seconds of every song gave me a legit headache. I would fast forward to the middle of the songs to see if things improved and NOPE! Just more foolishness. 🤦🏾♀️ whoever is hyping this album and Drake as a whole needs to SIT DOWN. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 10:14 PM |
| 71 | I must eat my words, he is not a HVM now that I see clearlyFirst of all, I am so sorry you have had to go through this, but let me give you ALL the props for not only realizing your mistake but also sharing with the group. Owning that AND then sharing it to help others is SO High Value--- you are an amazing person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 12:47 AM |
| 19 | Women aren't morally obligated to have babies.The gross assumption is that women are unmarried having casual sex and having abortions as a result of that lifestyle. I had a friend who is a Christian. She “saved herself for marriage”. Married a man. He raped her. He got her pregnant twice (intentionally— first time he ejaculated in her, second time he poked holes in the condom). She had an abortion both times and left him. She was not irresponsible. She was not “loose”. She was not “avoiding the consequences of her actions”. She was married … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 05:02 PM |
| 3 | Unlearning my perception of pubic hair.No it’s not as uncomfortable as a tampon. First time you insert it can feel a little strange and since I have cramps first day I took an aspirin -but unlike a tampon which swells as it absorbs it doesn’t happen with that so it feels much more comfortable. I legit forget it’s there. Plus there isn’t a constant string hanging out which is so nice. I don’t know exactly how much the cups hold but I usually change it about every 8 hours. If you have a heavy flow I would think every 6? But just test a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 05:07 AM |
| 2 | Unlearning my perception of pubic hair.Honestly— I did feel weird at first but after that first cycle it doesn’t even phase me anymore. Especially once you find how easy it is and how less mess it is! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 04:15 AM |
| 11 | Unlearning my perception of pubic hair.😂 I do this all the time! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 02:37 AM |
| 10 | Unlearning my perception of pubic hair.Have you tried menstrual cups? I have a heavy flow and started using them this year. COMPLETE game changer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 02:36 AM |
| 44 | Look out for these traits in yourself, acc. a narc in therapyThat’s a good sign! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 06:19 AM |
| 134 | Look out for these traits in yourself, acc. a narc in therapyThat’s a good sign! Your body is letting you know this is NOT okay! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 06:19 AM |
| 39 | Look out for these traits in yourself, acc. a narc in therapyThis was one of the scariest things I’ve read. Oh my goodness. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 06:19 AM |
| 6 | Never take your freedom to choose to avoid LVM for granted. My heart is broken for our sisters living under Sharia law.Honestly not only does this upset and gross me out, but it confuses me. Like...seriously WHAT is wrong with men!?!? I walk in the mornings at a track. Usually there are high school boys there running for track and field practice. As it is summer, they usually have their shirts off as they run around. I NEVER FOR ONCE THOUGHT/LOOKED AT THESE KIDS IN A SEXUAL WAY-- BECAUSE THEY ARE CHILDREN! LIKE....again-- WTF is wrong with men!?!? My brain literally cannot even process/fathom looking at teenage … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 07:13 PM |
| 8 | "Why Does He Do That?" by Lundy Bancroft has a whole section describing the abuse tactics of softbois (Mr. Sensitive in the book)Wow. My ex husband got a book written about him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 02:28 AM |
| 58 | What’s your best FDS quote?Growing pains are a thing for a reason | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 03:01 AM |
| 141 | Pick-me glorifies female oppression & slavery in the third world under the guise of protection of women.I was gonna say the same thing. I smell a 🍆 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 01:44 PM |
| 27 | What's happening in Afghanistan at the moment is absolutely terrifying. We can never take our freedoms for granted.Which is honestly even more tragic. I couldn’t imagine being born in 2002 and now having to face this. It’s night and day. It’s terrifying. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 06:03 PM |
| 45 | What's happening in Afghanistan at the moment is absolutely terrifying. We can never take our freedoms for granted.What in the entire FUCK | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 06:01 PM |
| 83 | What's happening in Afghanistan at the moment is absolutely terrifying. We can never take our freedoms for granted.This whole thing makes me so mad and sad. I am disgusted by what is happening and I feel so much for the women and children who will suffer the most from this. I am seething at these damn billionaires though- the Besos, Branson’s and Musks who are having fucking pissing contests to go to space instead of using their money for THIS cause. Send your fucking jets there to GET PEOPLE OUT! Ugh. The whole thing has me disgusted. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 02:05 PM |
| 6 | FDS position on lube?Honestly— if he does he work and turns me on then no lube is needed. If I’m not feeling it and faking it- so much lube is needed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 01:29 AM |
| 8 | Don't be discouraged that you tolerated a LVMI completely agree and have come to that same understanding. Just recently I realized how much I’ve grown. I was returning an item to a store and was getting a lot of flack about it from the manager. While I’m talking the manager keeps interrupting me. So I put my hand up ✋🏾 and say “excuse me, I’m still talking”. WELL- this woman then starts saying “ma’am, please don’t put your hands in my face. We can talk but I don’t need your hands in my face”. Normally I would’ve immediately felt bad and fe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 03:16 PM |
| 4 | Gone with the Wind - both Rhett and Ashley are LVM😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 03:07 PM |
| 5 | Gone with the Wind - both Rhett and Ashley are LVMSo i see you’ve met my ex 👀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 03:06 PM |
| 22 | New moms get less sleep and it's linked to aging... what do you think? They only studied women, but where are the dads helping out?I have a strong suspicion/theory that the severity of PPD can be directly linked to the husband’s involvement in caring for the child. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 01:14 PM |
| 6 | Extra vetting bulletpoints I wish my mama had taught meOof the delusion vs ambition. Definitely need to know the difference between the two | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 03:59 AM |
| 48 | PSA: The "system" is and always has been flawed. Ladies, PLEASE protect yourself and heed FDS lessons in this sub because they CAN save your life!And she was only 23!! TWENTY THREE. So freaking young! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 07:11 PM |
| 38 | It is NOT elitist to treat your friendship as an exclusive invitation to the world’s most important club. How “pickmes” reproduce toxic behavior. On “Pickme” energy, “friendship” breadcrumbing, digital boundaries and vetting other women for friendship.😂 oh wow this post. Very timely for my life right now. I’m currently practicing “matching energy”. Because honestly so many ppl want you to do the heavy lifting in relationships and as someone who usually is the one lifting i am DONE. I instead match energy. They want to hang o it? Cool. Then plan it. Show me that you want to spend time with me. 99.99999% they won’t because they want to say it but then have you make it happen. As OP said- treat your friendship like the most exclusive club in the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 04:48 AM |
| 4 | Where to Find HVW Who Put Sisterhood/Friendship First?Um….excuse me….but are you me? 😂 but no seriously. It’s as if you wrote my exact life right now. Word for word. Glad to know I’m not alone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 04:35 PM |
| 9 | John Lennon was a horrible man.Thank you for this. While I agree John was terrible Yoko was terrible too. And we cannot ignore that fact. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 01:43 AM |
| 10 | I'm ready to leave and I need help.I’m In my 30s and left a year ago. Best decision I have ever made. Hands down. No regrets at all. I was exactly where you were a year ago and I made that leap and it was SO worth it. I too had the bait and switch. And I am here to tell you leaving will be AMAZING for you. You can DM me if you need any more advice or specifics but trust me sis- you got this. Edit: I just read your post history. Seems VERY similar to my personal story. Leaving is your best option. Be sure to do it and go complete … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 01:24 AM |
| 12 | woman calmly dumps and kicks out cheating bf (as she should)I agree. There is no point in confronting them at all. They really dont care. What I did was I just changed the locks, told him to sign the divorce papers, told him what day he could get his stuff (and what time) and that was it. No other communication. No other explanations. He kept begging me to talk with him but I just ignored any and all communication. There's no point. And my ex didn't even cheat on me- I just realized he was a sh*t person and was done. Nothing to explain after realizing th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 05:22 PM |
| 10 | Couples and MasksYes!! I imagine that too! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 03:12 AM |
| 3 | Things that are definitely NOT queen energy and why FDS must remain blunt and focused on priorities / real life strategies rather than blind following ideologies and people pleasing everyoneLove this post. Thank you mods! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 02:53 AM |
| 12 | Question: historically, were there any human societies that were matriarchal rather than patriarchal? Also, which present day countries treat women best?Wheee can I find this at? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 02:47 AM |
| 2 | Update on moving cities for dating scene: I realized I'm not moving cities because I'm obsessed with men, I'm moving because I'm obsessed with ME.Do you miss being able to have good public transit? That’s the one thing about CA that sucks | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 02:04 AM |
| 66 | I effed upCan you share with us what compromises? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 03:44 AM |
| 30 | How can you deal with celibacy & accept it?Yes. So for myself, I first had to determine where I lacked. What was hurt/starved inside of me that needed to be repaired. For me this went back to my childhood and I had to look and discover the areas where I wasn't emotionally loved/fed as a child. Those childhood wounds were the base from which I then started to rebuild. So for me, I had a father who while he was physically present, he was emotionally unavailable. He focused on work and valued work more than he valued his family (and in turn… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 03:36 AM |
| 320 | How can you deal with celibacy & accept it?Get to the root of your high sex drive. Like another commented, I too thought I had a high drive, in reality it was just me seeking emotional intimacy through that which I knew: sex. Once you start feeding yourself the emotional intimacy you so crave you might notice the drive disappearing. Ultimately for me I had to learn, REALLY learn how love myself and care for myself in a truly intimate and complete way. Once I learned that everything changed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 05:03 PM |
| 26 | How can you deal with celibacy & accept it?I agree with this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 05:00 PM |
| 15 | Ladies, how do you tell if you don't want kids or haven't found the right circumstances yet?I agree with this. For me personally children have always sparked joy. I absolutely love themA from their thoughts, their views on life, their laughter (even their tears), all of it. I feel like if you don’t have joy in regards to children- just don’t do it! No one will hate you for being authentic to yourself | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 02:11 AM |
| 17 | This is a new TV show...the bar is drowning now😂 this can’t be real | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 02:22 PM |
| 15 | OF COURSE women initiate 80% of divorces.This is so true | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 06:45 PM |
| 2 | "Women aren't funny"No I haven’t! Is it good? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 02:41 AM |
| 29 | "Women aren't funny"Same girl. Same. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 10:46 PM |
| 29 | "Women aren't funny"I’m honestly the funniest person I know. Legit. Ppl keep telling me to do stand up, until now I’ve never considered it seriously but as of last week I was like “hmmmm” 🤔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 10:45 PM |
| 49 | Not having children in this pedophilic society.Same girl. Same | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 06:33 PM |
| 23 | Parental seekers – Juveniles and Baby BoysOmg. 🤯 the baby boy was my ex husband. To a T. Everything you said - and you are right! After a while sex just began to feel…creepy. And he did ONLY want it at night! So he could fall asleep! I would legit argue with him like “can we mix this up”?! Even when I was debating leaving him the one thing I felt bad about was abandoning him bc subconsciously I did see him as a child! And it was very hard to leave bc they DO seem so innocent and “not so bad”. Ugh. shudder I’m so glad I pushed those thou… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/21 03:32 PM |
| 7 | Dating & Socioeconomic StatusI completely agree- which why for us as women, I do agree with OP that it is best to not date down. Honestly I think overall women are more self aware and so then that shrinks the pool even MORE for a self aware man who climbed the socioeconomic ladder and didn’t bring his poverty mindset (and the family poverty mindset) along with him. I mean, it SOUNDS nice, and I am sure there is 1-12 men out there who have done it 😂 but realistically…it’s slim to none. And I’m sorry about your families react… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 11:08 PM |
| 4 | Dating & Socioeconomic StatusI would argue it can be both. Many ppl learn behaviors from their upbringing and surroundings. Men, in particular REALLY LEAN HEAVILY on their upbringing— this is why you find rich asshats and poor asshats. Yes it’s values but when dating down many of those values men have are so ingrained that it would be hard to separate the two. A man who grew up impoverished would literally have to disown and condemn their way of growing up, decide they don’t want to do that and then make a choice to to bett… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 10:57 PM |
| 1 | Rebuilding after traumaRead some books. I have several I can recommend to you that really helped Me. This is of course in tandem with therapy. What worked for me was therapy and reading— a lot. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 06:30 PM |
| 17 | Vetting Men by their job position“Entrepreneurs” 9/10 these men are hobosexuals. Especially if they are “just starting up”. And a lot of the high earning ones are complete narcissistic LVMs (I’m looking at you Elon Musk, Jeff Bezos, Bill Gates, etc) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 06:27 PM |
| 13 | Vetting Men by their job positionI knew someone married to a pilot. Got married right out of HS, had two kids…he cheated on her with EVERYONE. Had a GF that he paid and apartment for and everything. Just sick | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 06:23 PM |
| 4 | Can you imagine being a SPICE GIRL and still having to wait 21 years for him to make up his mind🤦🏻♀️I think an iron clad prenup is what you get to protect yourself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 06:22 PM |
| 4 | Never go on any date that’s not as cool as one you would plan for your girlfriends.Vegan cheese tasting you say? Where is this?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 08:29 PM |
| 18 | Why the overwhelming majority of divorces are initiated by women.Mine too | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 08:26 PM |
| 1 | Gay man’s view on women picking LVM.The story of my old life. 🤦🏾♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 04:03 PM |
| 9 | Write down your boundariesThis list would be amazing if you don’t mind sharing | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 05:10 AM |
| 79 | This tweet speaks truths BUT FDS is here to stop women from choosing LVM to have kids with.Somehow all roads lead back to women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/21 08:14 PM |
| 20 | Don't be afraid to get that ring!Hey All! As someone commented-- this isn't me! I just saw it on IG and thought it was some true Queen Sh*t and had to post it here! This was a post by Dasha Kennedy (@thebrokeblackgirl) a few weeks back. I don't follow her (yet)- but some other commenters do and highly recommend following her! Anyhow- just wanted to let you know-- and when I DO get my house--- I"ll definitely follow this trend! ;) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 06:12 AM |
| 15 | Guide to: Being a High Value WomanA HVW is one who is kind to herself and then kind to others. That’s it. That can be putting away dishes or ordering Wingstop and falling asleep on the couch. That can be working out OR binging on candy once a month. The basis is that they are kind to themselves in all areas and THEN kind to others. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/21 04:45 AM |
| 84 | FDS's stance on dating outside of your social classI did it and I would never do it again. I dated down and honestly it was just me exposing him to so many things. First international trip, restaurants, clubs, scenes, etc. Always me pulling him up. Plus I was putting myself and my class (status and money) at risk by marrying him. Thankfully he was stupid (and still broke) when I divorced him so he didn’t get anything…but I could’ve lost a lot. Don’t be with anyone who has less to lose than you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/21 04:34 AM |
| 17 | Leave the Door OpenYES!! I thought this exact same thing! Just pure trash! A LVM anthem! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/21 02:52 PM |
| 21 | UPDATE: I got a job! (From: "I'm an escort and camgirl. The FDS Podcast made me realize I need to quit")OH MY GOODNESS!! Congratulations!! When I say your original post touched my heart. Ugh. It really did. It just kept resonating with me. Since then I have legit been praying and hoping for this for you! And for this update!?!? YES! I am so happy for you and SO proud! You are amazing!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 03:14 AM |
| 42 | Always, ALWAYS check his phoneThat shame you feel? Honestly that is the hardest part. Push through. Tell your mom. Tell people. LIFT that shame up from you. Be authentically and unapologetically you in your reality. Shame is just an illusion- living underneath it will be far more detrimental than facing it. As someone who left their husband last year once you conquer that “big scary shame” that you feel will consume you you will be infinitely more powerful than you have ever been before. Trust me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/21 08:35 PM |
| 8 | Men Should Pay for WeddingsWhat culture? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 03:22 PM |
| 25 | If you're still using dating apps, you're a pickmeNo girl. The point is to STOP looking and start living your life. Stop keeping an eye out. FDS tells us that the looking, the keeping the eye out, all of that is the pickme behavior that we are trying to unlearn. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 08:29 PM |
| 47 | If you're still using dating apps, you're a pickmeHonestly the pure fact is that yes, while there may be a 1% chance of meeting a HVM on the app— how much time are you going to spend looking for that 1%? Read that again. YOU ARE SPENDING TIME LOOKING FOR THAT 1%! Which is (as OP said) the literal definition of a pickme. Delete the apps. Put the phone down. Go outside. Live your best life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 05:24 PM |
| 11 | Signs from men who try to create a false sense of intimacy.Yes yes and YES. My ex husband did all of these things and he was a complete narcissistic nightmare. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/21 04:49 AM |
| 2 | The Pink Tax and Makeup CultureAnd even worse- many women who also have your rich chocolate complexion STILL dont apply their true color. They will go 1-2 (sometimes even 3+) shades lighter! It's madness! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 11:04 PM |
| 6 | The Pink Tax and Makeup CultureYES. As someone with large boobs I am mystified that women want large racks. I mean, I like what Ive got-- but with that comes: Sleep Bras (cause going without them is uncomfortable from the pull of the weight) Lounge bras (yes- those too. Different from a sleep bra and not a full regular bra- instead a softer yet still supportive "sports like" bra. Something that keeps them strapped while hanging around the house). Limited options with strapless items. Limited options with halter tops limited… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 11:03 PM |
| 11 | The Pink Tax and Makeup CultureI personally use(d) and wear/wore makeup to express my creativity-- scenario below. This was when I was working in a soul sucking job that I absolutely hated and so wearing makeup/different looks everyday (in addition to my outfit and hair) was the only way I could still be my creative true self while stuck in the stale office confines that I was in. SINCE THE PANDEMIC I have not worn makeup at all. Hell- even thinking about it when I was NOT at work (aka- the weekends, holidays, etc) I woul… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 10:58 PM |
| 11 | True crime and age gapsI agree, it’s a huge red flag. One of my old friends married a man 13 years her senior. She was 24 and he was late 30’s....with two ex wives and 4 children. She blindly married him because he sold her the story of her being the sun, the moon, etc. She had a kid by him, she wanted more but he told her no. So now she not only didn’t get to have more than 1 child but is also bound to this dude for life via the kid. Now she’s a former shell of herself last I heard of her. It’s so sad to see someone … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 11:01 PM |
| 26 | "Division of labor imbalances in marriage are a form of spousal abuse...make him earn his right to stay married or divorce his ass."Yes, yes and YES. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 02:44 AM |
| 8 | Stop calling acceptable men “HV”?List please! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 08:10 AM |
| 4 | Why is popular culture trying to convince us that a dad bod is more attractive than THIS? (No shade at ppl who like that just saying it seems like a way to shift women’s standard of physical attractiveness, something they would never do to men’s)The minute my ex husband started to get a dad bod was when my eyes (finally) were opened to what a POS he was. Left him less than 6 months later. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 04:34 PM |
| 6 | Ladies, can I please hear your success stories on divorcing abusive partners?As many others have said, I played the long game. I after cool and calm like everything was fine while I plotted my escape and got things into order. Things like joint accounts, bills in my name, my important documents. Also- take a picture of his important documents too! And GET YOUR MARRIAGE CERTIFICATE. Get the original of that because you will need it for so many things moving forward. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 05:33 PM |
| 8 | Any other shattered women finding FDS “late” in life?Oh hon, you are not alone. I got divorced last year- 2020 was a real eye opener for me too regarding my husband. Everything you said I had done and I was TIRED. I couldn’t do it anymore! I’m in my early 30’s- so not much behind you. Everything you described I have gone through and I will not lie the awakening and feeling of shame and realizations is SO painful. I mean just literally gut wrenching, BUT- it is the best damn thing you will ever do in your life. Almost a year post divorce finalizati… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 05:28 PM |
| 2 | What love song do you dedicate to yourself?I love all these responses! For others who might be looking for some songs they could use, here are a few more I personally love to dedicate to myself: All My Life- by K-Ci and JoJo Differences- by Genuwine So Into You- by Tamia | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 04:47 AM |
| 7 | Weird Red Flags?Lol I’ve found that the men who are listening to free YouTube instead of paying for a streaming service (Spotify or pandora) are often super cheap. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 03:38 AM |
| 2 | What love song do you dedicate to yourself?I love this. My mom is a perfectionist too and does the same things. I am definitely going to share that song with her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 11:50 PM |
| 16 | Weird Red Flags?Says that they love women with small hands. If he says this- RUN. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 10:24 PM |
| 10 | Weird Red Flags?LOL I say it's weird because normally when you find this out the man has been in your life for a while, so you may be more apt to brush it off. I mean, I don't know any man who say this from the jump-- but they may slip it in after being together for a year(+), which then women might think "hmm that's weird" and then be more apt to ignore since they have had a year(+) of this man being "amazing". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 10:23 PM |
| 109 | Weird Red Flags?Watches (and loves) the Joe Budden Podcast Believes (and wants) their women to have babies at home without medication because "it's safer for the baby" Won't wash between their ass cheeks because "I'm straight" Has a weird mother-son relationship with their mother Says other women have called them "an asshole"- but ONLY because they aren't emotional Can't keep a job more than 6 months-1 year Talks about "leaving a legacy" a lot. If a man uses those words- RUN. Talks about all the fun they'll hav… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 08:31 PM |
| 3 | I literally cannot remember the last time a woman approached me in public for anything.Wow okay, because I get approached by women all the time. All the time to get asked for directions, comments about ny hair, outfit, questions, etc. So while that’s your experience mine is the exact opposite. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 03:00 PM |
| 2 | I'm so effing mad about France, help me calm downWow really? Forgive me if I sound ignorant— but why do they care so much about what women wear?? Cause the only reasoning my mind can come up with is Racism. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/21 01:19 AM |
| 19 | Fear on Public TransitOn public transportation I’m never really alone. There are always security cameras, operators and tons of people on the train or bus with me. And not just men but tons of women (young and old). Driving a car I am literally alone. If the car breaks down, I’m alone. If I got to park, I’m alone- be that a parking garage or a parking lot. If I go out and then go back to my car- I’m alone. It’s very isolating which makes me feel more vulnerable and less safe than being on public transit. Does that me… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 10:05 PM |
| 26 | Fear on Public TransitI agree. As someone who lived in Chicago for over a decade I felt much more safe on public transit than I did driving a car. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 08:58 PM |
| 28 | If your partner does this, RUN in the opposite direction. This is abuse and a power play.🤯 my ex husband would always run ahead of me. ALWAYS. I hated running and he claimed to love it so I chalked it up to that. BUT! Last year when everything started with the pandemic I took up running to lose some weight. I started veeerrrryyy slow but eventually worked my way up to running 12 miles a week (3 miles a day for 4 days). Meanwhile his lazy LVM self started to look like that which he was always on: a couch. It was disgusting. He actually started to get large man boobs. 🤮 After asking h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 08:41 PM |
| 0 | When LVM’s rear their ugly little heads.I personally love it. Put your money where your mouth is. After being divorced from a cheap worthless LVM, I will definitely implement something of the type for the next one. I’m not African so it won’t be the same (bc cultural appropriation is a no no) BUT, I will ensure that prior to me getting married some sort of monetary deposit is put forward for me in exchange for me partnering with this person. Im worth a lot. Periodt. Partnering with men is a HUGE benefit to their lives (ex: kids, our k… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 04:08 PM |
| 62 | The Kardasians are the ultimate pickmeasTHAT PART!! Yes!! Kris Jenner is behind the ENTIRE THING! Which makes it (IMO) EVEN WORSE!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 03:56 AM |
| 7 | If he sympathizes with abusers...Agreed. Especially family members. If they have an uncle or father who was an abuser that they sympathize with, that’s a huge red flag. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 02:49 AM |
| 3 | Why I almost left FDSDoes the limp dick always come from porn? I ask because my ex husband (to my knowledge) wasn’t into porn at all, but now that I read this I do feel he suffered from a lot of sexual shame. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 05:23 PM |
| 12 | Great take on Derrick Jaxn cheating scandal😂 I saw that on Twitter. My mouth was like 😟 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 01:58 AM |
| 5 | Some great bites of insight into abuse and narcissism.Ah a post about my ex-husband I see. 👀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 01:57 AM |
| 5 | Derrick Jaxn Caught CheatingNah I think you are spot on. I would also think he’s marrying her to protect his image- not necessarily for her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/21 12:18 AM |
| 2 | Derrick Jaxn Caught CheatingI know the word gets thrown around a lot, but I very well feel it could be used here. Also- I think the word is being used more because we are educated more on just how fucked up ppl are. Before it was “iT’s a CoMUniCaTIon iSsUe” and these same psychos had so many more years to abuse and prey on ppl. Now that we have the lingo as well as traits we can call it more what it is: you are a narcissistic psycho and abuser. Goodbye 👋🏾 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/21 12:11 AM |
| 4 | Derrick Jaxn Caught CheatingAfter she got pregnant?! Do tell. ☕️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/21 12:05 AM |
| 0 | Reminder: FDS is about a specific way to date. It's not for everybody. Totally cool if this is not your cup of tea, just move on. We are not going to change our beliefs to accommodate misogyny.🗣 PERIODT!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/21 08:47 PM |
| 14 | A must read for women: The Covert Passive Aggressive Narcissist by Debbie MirzaThis was my ex husband. This book was a game changer for me. I knew about narcissists, but this type of narcissism? No. It wasn’t until I read this book that everything clicked. Specifically the passive aggressive part. When it’s not intentional, and extremely subtle and extremely passive aggressive- it is so hard to recognize. Definitely a must read. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 04:24 PM |
| 26 | Alcoholism in Women caused by TraumaY’all remember that song “Chandelier “ by Sia? Literally described my twenties. Only now do I understand depth of the deep trauma and abuse I was coping with via alcohol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 09:04 PM |
| 685 | 5 lies about FDS in Vice's latest hit pieceWhen I first found this subreddit I hated it. That’s because I was married to a narcissistic LVM and pickmiesha brainwashed to think that he (as well as all the “good men” he represented) were being attacked through this sub. Now that I am free my eyes have been awakened and I am so grateful for FDS. So so grateful. I could’ve collapsed after my divorce, instead I’ve leveled up, found my voice, my freedom and my PEACE. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 03:38 AM |
| 6 | How To Avoid The “Nice Guy”Phew. Did you date my ex-huaband? Lol. But seriously, I loved this. The list was SPOT ON. Im so glad that you are free. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 08:04 PM |
| 4 | Have any of you ladies actually gotten an orgasm from men?Only 1, and it was in college. He had an amazing penis but was a trash man. *sigh* | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 07:50 PM |
| 24 | A true classic! Dixie Chicks Goodbye EarlOne of my all time favorite songs. I’ve loved this song since I was a child. Due to my upbringing I became a pickmiesha but my TRUE SELF was never supposed to be a pickmiesha. Deep down I knew better, and now that I’ve been awakened and reintroduced to who I am I will DO better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/21 09:48 PM |
| 16 | The backlash that FDS gets, both on and off Reddit, proves that society is committed to keeping women in unsatisfactory relationships to the benefit of menI think that the core of FDS is teaching women how to love and respect themselves. And not just in that BS face masks and spa days love yourself rhetoric that is perpetuated, but to TRULY love yourself and thus move accordingly. The reason I follow FDS is because I love myself. Period. And FDS supports me loving myself and the practices preached and put into place are things which reinforce that. FDS isn’t teaching me things or asking me to behave in ways which are detrimental to me- no! It’s th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 08:15 PM |
| 32 | The backlash that FDS gets, both on and off Reddit, proves that society is committed to keeping women in unsatisfactory relationships to the benefit of menI feel like I would rather die alone than with a person who is detrimental to my life. The latter option is like death by a thousand paper cuts EVERY SINGLE DAY. TUH. No thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 08:10 PM |
| 37 | Boomers Mad Millennial & Gen Z Women Aren't pushing out enough babies for them to leech off of to their graves. Maybe if they didn't spend the last 40 years demonizing mothers, providing absolutely no support, and raising garbage sons, we'd think about it.I want to have biological children. I wanted to before when I was married to my NVM, in fact I was actively trying to get pregnant and thanks to God I did not. I still want biological children, but if anything it's for far different reasons. It's because I want to pass down all the work I have done on myself and all the health that I have learned and pass that health down to my children. Also, having biological children isn't my sole goal, I also want to adopt. Open to all ages but specifica… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 05:23 AM |
| 19 | 84k subs and how does this even exist?So...rape? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 06:35 AM |
| 24 | Yep...I didn’t even realize the eye contact thing was a thing. But I DEFINITELY DON’T do it. I make SURE to make eye contact with men on the street. To say “I see you AND I can identify you”. I’ve found that making that eye contact makes people back away. 🤷🏾♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 04:31 AM |
| 6 | Most Toxic Songs😂 same girl. SAME | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 11:19 PM |
| 8 | Most Toxic SongsLMAO 😂 I heard this song the other day and thought exact the SAME THING! I was like “what the hell were they trying to teach us with this song?!?” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 11:19 PM |
| 10 | Most Toxic Songs😂 I thought of this one too! I was like “Girl WHAT?!” Nah sis. Keep this eyes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 05:59 PM |
| 8 | Most Toxic SongsAll times are welcome! These songs have been being churned out for AGES. We need to be aware of them all! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 05:45 PM |
| 19 | Most Toxic Songs“She finally found a man who’s gonna put her first” he laments as he complains about losing her. 🗣 GOOD FOR HER!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 05:44 PM |
| 38 | Most Toxic SongsI’ll share first: My Life Would Suck Without You by Kelly Clarkson 🤮 what in the world is this song? I didn’t realize how bad it was when it first came out- but now that I’ve been awakened I’m like “oh NOOOO!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 01:47 AM |
| 141 | So trueAll facts, no printer. 🖨 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 02:15 AM |
| 7 | Ladies can anyone recommend a good dildo/vibrator ?Can you tell me the benefits of glass vs silicone? Also I’m allergic to latex- any recommendations? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 07:59 PM |
| 79 | This is an actual life size model of a clitoris. This why DICK SIZE MATTERSOn trust- dick size DOES matter. -Signed, a woman who divorced a NVM teeny 🍆 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/21 06:24 AM |
| 11 | Never take a man at face valueOooh i can’t wait for the pt. 2 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/21 05:57 AM |
| 6 | Can abuse in a relationship ever stop?What did she say to not do? What did she say to do? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/21 06:20 AM |
| 16 | Reminder: Vetting a man is one of the most important things you can do as a woman. Even more so if you plan on having children.Can you tell us how you met you HVM and recognized before marrying him he was HVM? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 05:11 AM |
| 20 | Men learn how to manipulate women by learning how to manipulate their mothers.I completely agree with this and saw it with my ex-husband and his mom. In fact that revaluation was a large component in me leaving him. I realized it wasn’t just him who was toxic, it was his whole damn family. There was NO WAY he was going to change when literally his whole family was a cesspool of toxicity. That toxicity was his reality and he was simply operating in that with me. Does that make it right? Hell no. But it helped me to understand exactly what I was up against. Leaving that rel… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/21 09:16 PM |
| 3 | Which age you believe is ideal for a straight girl to start dating?I say whatever age they feel comfortable but from the poll I would say 15. That is casual dating- going to the movies, bowling, etc. And not a serious boyfriend/girlfriend dynamic but being able to go on dates. 15 or 16 ideally. By 17 you have way too much pressure for your future (college apps) that I don’t feel it would be right to introduce dating. Same for 18- you have graduation, going away too college- too many other things to then start learning to date. Starting to date in college I pers… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/21 06:33 AM |
| 1 | HVM that aren't your physical type?Truthfully I felt that because he wasn’t my type and that I was settling that I would be safe. That he would be the safest bet. He was not my type physically. Appeared to be my type by profession and hobbies but came to find out that was all an illusion- that disappeared 1 year into the relationship. After that I really only want someone im physically attracted to. Off the bat. I don’t want to warm up to physical attraction because again- I’ve done that and it didn’t work out well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 07:39 PM |
| 3 | HVM that aren't your physical type?YES! I love that! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 06:23 PM |
| 19 | Recovering PickMeisha Here! After researching the sub, I started writing myself a document to reference when dating. Would you guys mind reviewing what I have so far?I love this! My one potential edit- you say 50/50 split in emotional labor— what does this mean? I say it could be a place for concern because often when you think you’re doing 50/50 in reality it’s like 90/10. People telling you they’re doing 50% but it’s really not. Instead I would seek someone who gives 100% in emotional labor (again- need clarification on what exactly that is) and then you just match that energy as you see fit. Personally when it comes to relationships I want autonomy. Where… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 06:22 PM |
| 12 | HVM that aren't your physical type?That’s interesting you say that. My ex narc wasn’t my type and that was a train wreck. I think the challenge is that when you actively aren’t going for your “type” or what you are physically attracted to you are already in a sense settling— which I think can lead to a slippery slope. That’s just my experience | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 08:04 AM |
| 15 | The Peter Pan “momma’s boy” is a Narcissist tooWhew Chile!! You literally just described my ex husband. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 06:42 AM |
| 39 | HVM that aren't your physical type?I agree. Personally I think when this happens- when a woman finds what she thinks to be a HVM but he’s not her type then she can very well turn into a pickmiesha. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 06:40 AM |
| 11 | HVM that aren't your physical type?I would agree! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 06:37 AM |
| 40 | it came! happy 30th to me, from meLOVE it. Great job!!! 💎 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 07:10 AM |
| 82 | it came! happy 30th to me, from meOmg this is gorgeous!! Are these diamonds?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 06:46 AM |
| 52 | Y’all be safeLOL. I love this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 06:53 AM |
| 5 | MAXIUM FEMALE BENEFIT IN ALL RELATIONSHIPS1) I'm so sorry for your dad. My father passed away a few years ago and the exact same thing happened with me with my "friends". I ended up losing 97% of my friends, and the other 3% that were left I lost after I left my LVM ex husband. 2) I love your mantra-- I'll be adding that to my 2021 mantras as well! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 06:30 AM |
| 3 | Ladies! Cell Phone Tango PART TWO 😍THIS IS AMAZING! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 07:55 AM |
| 2 | Divorced Women of FDSI definitely agree with the prenup thing and the keeping separate finances! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 06:23 PM |
| 6 | Divorced Women of FDSPhew girl. Did we marry the same man? lol. But seriously-- I am so glad you are free! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 04:52 AM |
| 8 | Divorced Women of FDSOmg are we twins? My ex didn’t have issues with porn (that I know of but again- who knows), but I much like you got married in 2018 and filed for divorce in 2020. We were also friends before we got married and that was the hardest part as well but I completely came to your same conclusion: a friend wouldn’t be doing that if they were worth it. I’m so glad to hear you’re free. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 04:11 AM |
| 28 | Divorced Women of FDSThank you for sharing. And I want to add— your final “straw that broke the camels back” is NOT small. Don’t minimize it or feel like you have to justify it with other bigger reasons/examples. The reason mattered to YOU and that is all that matters. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 03:57 AM |
| 2 | New FDS Spotify Page! Now with SIX Playlists! Please post any songs you would like to nominate for the playlist under "FDS Anthems" on the Subreddit or the Website! Thanks!Lose You to Love Me-- By Selena Gomez. A great song for those who have been in relationships with abusive (or narcissistic) men and how they need to leave them to get healthy and love themselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 10:00 PM |
| 5 | Being in you 20’s should be about self development, your eduction and to lay the foundation for financial independenceOooooh, I would have to disagree with this one. Experience is required to learn. Especially when it comes to love and relationships. You can read all you want, discuss it all you want- but until you go through it you'll never learn. The worst thing I have seen are women in their 30's with no dating or relationship experience. They are like literal prey on the market and are playing this dating game with an empty playbook. Things that they might have noticed as red flags due to dating in their … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 02:31 AM |
| 1 | Bridgerton or the epitome of liberal feminismTHIS! I saw that part (only saw a few scenes from episodes to see what all these sex scenes ppl were talking about) and that part DEEPLY disturbed me. It was so gross. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 09:44 AM |
| 5 | Bridgerton or the epitome of liberal feminismI was so disappointed by this show. I only saw episode 1 but that was all I could stomach. It is toxic as hell from all sides. The diversity-- check. The misogyny- check. The pickmiesha culture- check. I saw some of the sex scenes in other episodes just to see what ppl were talking about- if anything it again reinforced the stereotype of needing to please the man. Every scene with Daphne and Simon were him jackrabbiting here. There was no intimacy, no passion. I thought to myself "damn! girl mus… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 09:40 AM |
| 7 | It’s the last day to use this flair! At the start of the year I NEVER thought I’d have the strength to do it, yet here I am single and thriving thanks to this sub. How many queens were able to KickHimOut2020?!😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 07:11 AM |
| 6 | It’s the last day to use this flair! At the start of the year I NEVER thought I’d have the strength to do it, yet here I am single and thriving thanks to this sub. How many queens were able to KickHimOut2020?!Congrats sis! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 07:04 AM |
| 2 | It’s the last day to use this flair! At the start of the year I NEVER thought I’d have the strength to do it, yet here I am single and thriving thanks to this sub. How many queens were able to KickHimOut2020?!Same!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 07:04 AM |
| 3 | It’s the last day to use this flair! At the start of the year I NEVER thought I’d have the strength to do it, yet here I am single and thriving thanks to this sub. How many queens were able to KickHimOut2020?!Amen To that! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 07:04 AM |
| 6 | It’s the last day to use this flair! At the start of the year I NEVER thought I’d have the strength to do it, yet here I am single and thriving thanks to this sub. How many queens were able to KickHimOut2020?!Left my LVM in July, finalized the divorce in September!! I am free!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 07:03 AM |
| 31 | LET GO OF MALE VALIDATION IN 2021🎉Honestly? I don’t even care about men anymore 🤷🏾♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 06:27 AM |
| 7 | What to say when men tell you you’re so pretty 😍😍😍Is it bad to say thank you? I mean, I just thank them for opening their mouth to state the obvious and keep moving 🤷🏾♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 08:35 PM |
| 2 | Confessions of a Former PickmeishaAwww thank you! And I LOVE your whole line “it’s okay to demand the best” Yesss!! snaps taking that ALL the way into 2021! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 08:28 PM |
| 3 | The Cycle of Sexual FrustrationWere you at my divorce hearing? Because you definitely described my ex-husband. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 03:08 AM |
| 48 | Not all women agree with Female Dating Strategy, and that's okay. There are plenty of women alive today whose mothers and grandmothers were anti-suffragette, and nowadays we still get to enjoy the right to vote. Future women will benefit from FDS, whether you like it or not.I love this sub, but I will say that I would like to see more content focused on HV woman, HVM traits, leveling up strategies, advice on getting out of toxic situation and etc. Lately I've seen a lot of content around LVMs and Pickmieshas, which is okay, but I don't want it to dominate this sub and I dont want the bulk of the content to be around that. I want more sharing and stories of women who have been where I am at and who are thriving and their stories of success. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 01:06 AM |
| 168 | One track mindOmg...my ex husband would always comment on how he loved my small hands and hated women with big hands. That’s cause his penis was as small as a 🐛 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 06:45 AM |
| 3 | Looks like my search for a HVM is finally over, he even made a new account to message me, I feel so special!I got this message too- reported him. What a creep | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 05:52 PM |
| 31 | My husband of 3 weeks now, said he wished he married his x instead of me.Take it from someone who got warning signs 3 days in and chose to ignore them. Didn’t end up leaving until almost 2 years later. Leave NOW | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 06:59 AM |
| 9 | Your husband/boyfriend should NOT be your be your best friendI completely agree. My ex did the same thing! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 07:03 PM |
| 32 | Do any of you have HVM dads?My dad was a LVM (narcissist), hence why I am here 🤷🏾♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 03:43 AM |
| 7 | Do any of you have HVM dads?Thank you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 03:43 AM |
| 3 | NVM destroyed meTwo other books I would recommend: psychopath free by Jackson Mackenzie and then Whole again- again by the same author. Psychopath free addresses the narc, who they are, the relationship, etc. Helps a lot for the situation. Whole again focuses on you and the core wounds that lead you to be with someone like that. Reading them (first psychopath free and then whole again) helped me immensely. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 06:32 PM |
| 2 | NVM destroyed meYes! If cycling works better then do that- and I don’t know where you live but if it’s cold just bundle up, put on a playlist you have made for yourself and then cycle away. Start short and then work your way up from there. I guarantee you that even if you do a 10-15 minute ride in the cold you will feel immensely proud of yourself for getting out there and doing it. That daily pride that you will be pouring into yourself will help your confidence grow. Then once you start to see the physical re… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 06:04 PM |
| 8 | NVM destroyed meIf you are up to it, I would suggest you take up running. Start slow, start with short runs but commit to doing it 3-4 times a week. The slowly work up your distance and time. I have been exactly where you are, I gained 30 lbs with my narc ex husband and felt terrible. Earlier this year I finally got frustrated with it (and his excuses for lack of sex) and I took up running. I started slow (truth be told I HATED running) but I actually found it helped me if anything have a thing just for ME. Tho… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 04:43 PM |
| 23 | Subtle red flags to watch out forThis is all so true especially the Instagram profile. My ex husbands profile is entire of him- with pictures that I took of him. It’s sick | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 12:36 AM |
| 17 | Finding FDS means you’ll witness your friends and loved ones sleepwalk into shitty relationships repeatedly. It’s not your responsibility to save them - they can only save themselvesMy friend is married and expecting with her LVM. It's been a fine line of me being super excited for her while also secretly being sad that she is now going to be stuck with this man for a very long time. I firmly believe he is a covert narc. Heck-- she even said she thought he was too many years ago, however once he realized he was being discovered he lovebombed her, rushed an engagement, wedding, and now a baby. I am only thankful he hasn't felt too threatened by our friendship and tried to ge… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 04:07 PM |
| 2 | Man to avoid: the insecure narcissistHA! Oh wooow. I don't know if mine will come back, I did complete NC when I filed for divorce and I think that really shook him. BUT - it has only been a month since our divorce was finalized so you never know. I'm thinking a hoover attempt around the holidays if he hasnt found his new supply yet. Ironically he moved to NYC after the city had shut down. He was so insecure that the pandemic gave him the boost of confidence he needed. He saw this as an opportunity to "live there cheaply" and "take… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 04:52 PM |
| 4 | Man to avoid: the insecure narcissistOOF! I am telling you I think we dated the same person (well, I married him but ugh..still). My ex husband was the same. I never worried he would cheat on me- which is why I was so shocked when I discovered he was a narc because they always say "Narcissists cheat" but mine prided himself on being such a GOOD GUY that he was SO against cheating. He felt safe. You're right- because he was so humble, so "Good" i never felt that he would hurt me or leave. I thought he was safe. We started out as fri… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 04:43 AM |
| 3 | Man to avoid: the insecure narcissistGirl same same SAME. I didnt even realize that I had been being abused to early in the relationship until I started to look at my behavior of screaming and throwing things. I am not that person at all- but the gaslighting and emotional manipulation he would pull just pushed me over the edge! For the first three years of the relationship he mindf'd me to think that it was ME who had the issues! Tuh! Come to find out it was him all along. 5 years total of this crap (3 dating and 2 married). They a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 04:37 AM |
| 2 | Man to avoid: the insecure narcissistOMG...you literally are describing my ex husband. The public fights (one in NYC too!) the screaming matches, the Jekyll and Hyde moments, the "I'm a good Guy". Oh my goodness if I had a dollar for everytime he would tell me that. Near the end I told him that if he was so good then why was I feeling so crappy? I just told him that he says it but his actions dont show it at ALL. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 04:34 AM |
| 1 | Man to avoid: the insecure narcissistOMG this post was spot on for my ex husband. To a T. But I suspect he was a covert insecure narc as he would ALWAYS say how confident he was. Can you write a follow-up on that one? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 04:32 AM |
| 23 | Cardi B Says She Left Offset Because She Didn't Want to “Wait Until He Cheated on Me Again”I think she had a family and she wanted to keep that family together. I can see where she came from, and I respect her doing what she felt at the time was right. I also respect her growing and realizing that despite her best efforts it wont get better and now filing for divorce. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 04:10 PM |
| 2 | Never put yourself down for your past choice in menI honestly blame my parents - specifically my father (narcissist) and my grandmother (narcissist). They just were so toxic and I was a child. I learned and was modeled incorrect things and was forced to become someone to survive. I give myself grace (and praise!) for surviving the both of them and now that I have realized what they poured into me I am extracting it and becoming who I have always been. Who I was supposed to be. Yes I married the wrong man because I was broken- but guess what? I r… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 04:56 PM |
| 34 | "Let them slide once, and they'll start figure skating"YES! I agree with this 100%. As someone who is recently divorced I agree with every word- especially the communication part. I tried so hard to fix it but once I realized it was him - I left. Filed for divorce and was divorced less than two months later. I wasn’t playing any games- I had been played enough. Now I know and will implement this quote. 🗣 no skating here!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 04:52 PM |
| 69 | Saddens me more than I can sayHappens all the time- especially between white women and black women. I don’t want to bring race into it, but I have to be honest- as a black woman the largest threat to my existence is white women. Yes misogyny is a problem but every road block I have had, every setback, Every threat, every vile word, action and created problem in both my professional and personal life has been at the hands of a white woman. Consistently. It has often reaffirmed to me that for some being a woman means you only … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 02:35 PM |
| 6 | Sex before marriageThis is interesting to hear. I’m recently divorced but sex was a huge issue (covert narc), we were together for 5 years total, 2 married and the sex was great UNTIL we got married! Then it switched and was terrible. Now that I’m single again I’m really concerned on what to do regarding sex. Sex is important to me and I feel he really took all the fun out of it. It became something I had to beg for and a headache. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 03:50 PM |
| 15 | Something doesn’t add upMine too! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 02:25 AM |
| 8 | Something doesn’t add up😂 this is too accurate | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 02:25 AM |
| 14 | Let's clarify what it means that "relationships take work"THANK YOU FOR THIS! I just got divorced and I was telling my friend that people need to stop saying “marriage is hard work” because it does nothing but portray a wrong perception and allow for abuse to continue longer than it should because people think “ well yeah! This is the hard work I was warned about” no no NO. The list of what is considered “work” is exactly all it should be and that’s IT! I was driving myself crazy wondering why things were so hard- it was all HIM! Covert narc. I know th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 02:37 PM |
| 21 | Let's talk about gaslighting for a sec“You’re being petty” is the most common term used today. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 02:10 PM |
| 3 | SCORCH A SCROTE: Today I burned every single love letter, card, note, drawing he ever gave me- AND I DID IT LITERALLY WEARING A CROWN I ORDERED JUST FOR THIS OCCASION!I did the same! Burns all the stuff my ex husband gave me and I gave him. It felt amazing!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 03:00 PM |
| 2 | I’m Declaring Our Right As Women to Have Specific Penis PreferencesYou are SO right! This also felt so freeing. Ironically my divorce was just finalized yesterday so I am officially BACK on the market and now know what I want!! 🎉 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 10:24 PM |
| 3 | I’m Declaring Our Right As Women to Have Specific Penis PreferencesThank you for this post! My ex husband’s penis did not cut it for me- that was actually a part of the reason I divorced him. The sex just wasn’t good. I foolishly believed the “all dicks matter” rhetoric but for me that is not the case. I never got an orgasm from PIV with him. His penis wasn’t big enough. I like long penises- 8+ inches because I have a deep cervix and short dicks simply won’t hit my spot. Long and wide. I agree I like plump balls. I actually prefer uncircumcised as well. It’s ni… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 10:02 PM |
| 2 | When LVM Have Good PersonalitiesI agree! I’m having to learn this now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 05:22 PM |
| 2 | When LVM Have Good PersonalitiesSame with mine! Oh you ladies are speaking exactly my marriage. Our divorce is happening this month. Leading up to it I’m getting nervous and sad because I am losing what I thought was my best friend. But he treated me exactly as yours did- even down to not being able to keep a job. He dropped the ball and no true friend would do that or put me through that so thank you for the reminder | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 05:20 PM |
| 1 | Resources for getting swag back after a hard break up?I read the book Stages by Marie Footman to get me FULLY out of my rut. U can find it on Amazon. | /r/seduction | 15/02/17 08:43 PM |
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