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MOOD FOR LIFEthrowaway32132134/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 01:59 AM
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MOOD FOR LIFEthrowaway32132134/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 11:53 PM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYthrowaway32132134/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 01:59 AM
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THE AUDACITY OF SCROTESthrowaway32132134/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 07:56 PM
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QUEEN SH*Tthrowaway32132134/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 12:32 AM
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#JustLVMThingsthrowaway32132134/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 03:17 PM
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LEVEL UPthrowaway32132134/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 12:09 AM
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LVM LOGICthrowaway32132134/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 01:38 PM
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MOOD FOR LIFEthrowaway32132134/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 03:46 PM
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MESSAGE FOR MALE LURKERSthrowaway32132134/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 10:35 PM
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NAH, SISthrowaway32132134/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 08:56 PM
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QUEEN SH*Tthrowaway32132134/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 03:18 AM
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REMINDER 👑throwaway32132134/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 10:31 PM
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FDS MOVIES & TVthrowaway32132134/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 10:34 PM
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DISCUSSIONthrowaway32132134/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 02:14 PM
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#HeAin'tTheOne2021throwaway32132134/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 02:32 AM
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FDS MOVIES & TVthrowaway32132134/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 10:17 PM
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#HeAin'tTheOne2021throwaway32132134/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 01:55 AM
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#JustLVMThingsthrowaway32132134/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 11:58 PM
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THE AUDACITY OF SCROTESthrowaway32132134/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 07:31 PM
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PICKME CULTUREthrowaway32132134/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 06:51 PM
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#HeAin'tTheOne2021throwaway32132134/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 02:13 AM
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MOOD FOR LIFEthrowaway32132134/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 06:18 PM
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LVM LOGICthrowaway32132134/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 03:09 PM
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LVM LOGICthrowaway32132134/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 12:55 AM
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Sorry I did read it wrong. When I have seen a man personally say "not all men" it's been in relation to a situation similar to the example I gave where it's more to discredit and ignore an issue. So that's what I thought. But in the case of just saying rude things like "men are trash" i don't agree with. In that case It's definitely justified to say not all men.
/r/AntiFeminists14/12/21 11:48 PM
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it's offensive because of the context. So say if a woman is speaking to other women in an office about the pay gap between genders. Say a male coworker hears and comes over and says "not all men get paid more than women. My uncle actually makes less than my aunt." The point is not about whether or not men know a woman that makes more money. The point is that there are a large portion of people being paid less simply because of their gender. So to come in saying "not all men." naturally minimizes…
/r/AntiFeminists14/12/21 11:04 PM
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Plus redpill is setting up men to be abusive. While FDS is all about leveling up and having high standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 12:11 AM
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Scrote: so it’s a woman’s fault if a man hurts her because she didn’t vet him good enough? That’s fucked up. They constantly blame women for their partners behaviour... They say "it's the guys she's choosing." But ofcourse when a woman says the same thing, they act like they don't say that. 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 04:36 PM
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100%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 03:00 PM
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Ouuu I love this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 02:59 PM
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"The perfect girlfriend does exist" I'm dead. 🤡 The praise doormat women get is insane.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 12:13 PM
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Yeah I did. Same with my mom. Once you hit 7th grade ish everyone starts saying mom and dad instead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 12:10 PM
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Yeah I've always found daddy for a bf nasty. Even the reverse when they call gfs mami 🤮🤮. I always just call everyone their name. LOL. Even the baby voice grosses me out when couples do that. LOOL like we are adults?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 12:07 PM
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Also doesn't she have like an MBA? I rarely hear anyone talk about her education. You know it's nice to be like women should do what they want. But I think people need to realize we live in a man's world and whatever we do has consequences. Some are life long consequences.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 09:07 PM
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Lool I posted about a guy that gave his wife nothing for her first Mothers Day as a mom. He stated that his gift was making her a mom. I also got a reddit care for that post. LOOL how does that make me someone in crisis? Also SHE'S SO CUTE AND FUNNY. I LOVE IT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 08:08 PM
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That's wild. Not surprised though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 06:01 PM
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LOOL THIS HAPPENED TO ME TOO!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 05:46 PM
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There's a YouTuber I watch that was talking about an interview they saw. It was of a bunch of popular women on OF. They were making a lot per month, however that doesn't last forever. The interviewer was asking them questions in terms of their long term financial goals. They had none. I think that's the thing, a lot of them don't plan for the instability of OF. Even if you make crazy amounts of money you need to invest and save. It's the same with NBA players and rappers. Tons go broke because t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 04:51 PM
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Exactly! Also OF is not a sustainable business. You would need to get another job down the line. Unfortunately for women, sexual videos will be the main focus. It's like porn stars that have master degrees. Men always just focus on how they were a porn star. It's super hard to be taken seriously by men after that. It's already hard to be taken seriously in general.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 12:30 PM
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I'm confused with some of the words he chose to capitalize... Lool like can you imagine hearing someone say this bio out loud it would sound hilarious. 😂 "I want to be a * says it loudly, because that's how it reads* POLICE OFFICER in * says loudly again* KANSAS CITY. Or even * says loudly I GOT NO TIME FOR GAMES. Be consistent. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 11:55 AM
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I love this! So sweet. 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 11:49 AM
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I think I rather "suck dick for free" then have photos and videos of me sucking dick for the world to see on only fans. How they are not scared for future jobs is beyond me. These things will forever be on the internet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 11:20 AM
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This is so accurate!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 11:04 AM
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That's not even accurate. Even if you legitimately hated men, that doesn't mean your advice is wrong. The mental gymnastics I see on Reddit is truly wild.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 09:52 AM
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100% agree. Men are way too entitled and coddled. Also at the end of the day, people in general become better people (usually) through adversity. Taking the adversity away just breeds entitlement. Men need to face the consequences of their mistakes. Took a break yesterday from Reddit as I was having a bad day and was getting more annoyed, but I'm back today and let me tell you ALL the posts I have been seeing recently are FIRE. I am in fact, HERE FOR IT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 01:28 AM
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Yeah I've heard that too. I haven't experienced that yet. Maybe because this is the only dating sub i'm on. Everything else is things that would be strange if they got mad. Like I'm part of some hiking subs, so if they came for me i'd be like what the hell is going on??? That's fucked though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 01:22 AM
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Yeah I posted to one sub. I'm used to here, so I covered the name of the sub reddit and someone asked me what sub it's from. I said the name and then someone else got hella pissed. They were like "why can't you just fucking post the link?" LOOL like wtf? And then I was like ”oh I didn't want to brigade." Then other people were like ”it's fine.” So i did and people went and came back with comments like "I just commented xyz on the post" LOL LIKE ISN'T THAT EXACTLY WHAT THEY DON'T WANT??? Then no …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 01:14 AM
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Like, good lmao. I don't want to have to compromise my integrity to attract a LVM. LMFAO i love this. As though he thinks you should feel blessed by his presence... The audacity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 01:08 AM
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It's wild because other subs I'm on people literally post the other sub links and no one gets mad and then they try say Reddit isn't sexist 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 01:04 AM
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I just feel really sad today. I don't know if it's because I had a stressful day at work and now my feelings are compounded. But I feel THIS POST hardcore. I also feel so sad the way I was raised to believe in the happily ever after fairytale and then just feel like I've been blindsided by the truth. ☹️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 12:01 AM
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He sounds annoying....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 11:51 PM
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"I'd ask anything and everything" Proceeds to only questions that show a willingness for servitude and being a sexual object.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 11:47 PM
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Sometimes I feel so incredibly tired. ☹️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 10:07 PM
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100% agree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 12:32 AM
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100%. He knows what he's doing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 12:05 AM
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He did this on purpose as "revenge" for Father's Day. I got a notification and read the comment before it was deleted. It said "Well didn't she set the precedent when she did nothing for father's day?" So I definitely believe this. Doesn't matter that she had a traumatic birth, PPD and could barely walk though right? God forbid she comes first for once.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 12:04 AM
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Ikr, they literally act like men were born yesterday. As though he didn't grow up in a society with social norms surrounding mother's day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 12:01 AM
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wtf does he even think he contributed? all he did was shoot his load, you don’t even have to be awake to accomplish that. Right? What a clown. 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 11:48 PM
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Ikr. The gaslighting is crazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 11:47 PM
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Also did his mom and mil need to "explicitly tell him"? I doubt it...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 11:18 PM
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I feel like it being the first makes it so much worse. Sorry you had to go through that. ☹️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 10:58 PM
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Thanks so much 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 10:57 PM
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Men doing nothing and women buying themselves chocolates to make themselves feel like they are taking their power back. Yeah I saw a lot of "I treated myself today" comments. I just feel like that would make me feel worse....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 10:56 PM
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Yeah I joined the childfree sub but they seem very set in stone while I'm currently on the fence so that sub sounds great. I just want more information. I feel like being child free is not very publicized. I'm leaning more towards no kids though. recognizing you can like kids and still not want to be a parent. Love this. Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 10:52 PM
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Lmao 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 10:49 PM
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LMAO i love this! I wish I could see an update like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 10:48 PM
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The mental gymnastics are insane. 100% agree. They also constantly protect other men and act as though men are just clueless. When I was reading the comments there were tons of people saying oh maybe he forgot it was mother's day. So he "forgot" it's mother's day but made his mom and mil hand written mother's day cards?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 10:48 PM
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I used to celebrate my divorce anniversary for quite a few years. It’s so petty, but freeing. It's great you were able to celebrate though. A lot of people shame women for getting divorced. It's nice to see the opposite 🙂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 10:45 PM
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I'm sorry you had to go through that. ☹️ It's so disrespectful to not celebrate the mother of your children. I'm happy you got out though. 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 10:37 PM
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Exactly! Look at the men that went into a rage online about their gf not getting them a ps5 for Christmas. Then suddenly it's not materialistic...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 10:35 PM
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pickmeisha responses maxed out my monthly allowance of cringe. LMAO. Until I joined this sub I never noticed the constant gaslighting on Reddit in regards to women's boundaries. It's insane.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 10:34 PM
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LOOL ikr. The disrespect is insane.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 09:53 PM
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Ikr I love it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 09:24 PM
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There would be an uproar. Men don't care about holidays until it impacts them... Look at the uproar when a man's girlfriend didn't get him a ps5.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 09:24 PM
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The only way to impart information to someone who is not listening to you is CONSEQUENCES. Love this 100% agree. Also he clearly doesn't care about making her happy and is blantantly disrespectful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 09:01 PM
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Ikr, you would think he would want to spoil her even more because it was traumatic. Also to let her know he spent an hour writing cards for his mom and his mil.... Just adding salt to the wound.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 09:00 PM
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100% agree
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 08:55 PM
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Right? ☹️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 08:55 PM
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I love this! It's so true. He should WANT to get her something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 08:54 PM
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By his retarded logic, he also made his own mother a mom by appearing out of her so that should also be his present to her. LOOL i love this. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 08:53 PM
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100%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 08:52 PM
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Nothing has changed and can’t ever imagine losing my freedom and autonomy or worse: being potentially tied to a man for the rest of my life due to kids. These are my main concerns. Especially the lack of freedom. Pre covid I loved to travel. I've been looking into it more and more, to get more informed. Do you have any suggestions reading wise? Really interesting taking to women that are child free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 08:51 PM
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LOL i love this. People in the comments were saying men are morons and can't understand the importance of things. So men are simultaneously morons but also the logical gender. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 08:22 PM
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100% I think a lot of women don't want to accept that they just don't care. If he's saying his gift is getting her pregnant then he doesn't care. If he wanted to he would.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 08:20 PM
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And to see people in the comments gaslight the fuck out of women. One comment said men are morons so you need to communicate to them that you care about Mother's Day and that they need to do something for you. Lool and then to place blame on her because he's disrespectful... I can't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 08:15 PM
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It's so fucked he had the audacity to say "making you a mom is your gift". SO DISRESPECTFUL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 08:12 PM
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Things like this is why I'm debating being child free....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 08:11 PM
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He sounds like a complete asshole. Clearly has no respect for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 08:06 PM
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100% agree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 08:03 PM
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Women should do this for father's day. Lol would love to see their reaction. Plus it's true. The moms plan everything for father's day and buy the gifts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 07:58 PM
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Idk I work with people that have a wide range of severe additions, severe mental health, intellectual disabilities and behavioral issues. Whenever I have not remained calm it's bit me in the ass personally. Especially since I'm a woman. I'm also not saying it's a solution. Sorry if it read that way. People can still act ridiculous. I just feel like it leaves you open to have your emotions used against you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 11:46 PM
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LOOL ikr he's blantantly really rude to her. Doesn't even try to hide it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 02:43 AM
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Not victim blaming. But we have power. We don't need to settle for this. Peace the fuck out before it gets to this level. Who the hell does he think he is to yell at her like that? Also, I don't recommend showing emotions in situations like this. I think calm and assertive is best. Doesn't make sense to me to give him anything to throw in my face. Wouldn't want to be called CrAzY aNd EmOtIoNaL. I really try not to play into that stereotype.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 01:03 AM
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I'm sorry I had to comment again because I just can't... I read the article and it's basically he let her down, so to keep herself from being disappointed she lowered her expectations. I LOVE LOVE LOVE giving people gifts. It makes me so happy!!! Even at my work (I work with people) I make them balloon garlands and buy them unique gifts based on what they like. They are so sweet and appreciative when they open their gifts. Someone's birthday is coming up at my work that loves puzzles, cats, anim…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 12:41 AM
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I can honestly say I have never seen a father's day ad that includes "lower your expectations." Shocking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 12:25 AM
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Don't buy houses with boyfriends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 12:24 AM
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Ugh organized planned things make me so happy. This would royally piss me off. I'm loving how organized you are though. Super cool!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 12:01 AM
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Oh god, I hate the smell of smoke... That would annoy me. The smell probably got into their clothes too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 11:58 PM
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Pickmes always go on about how they are so happy with scraps of LVM 💖🥰😍 While simultaneously putting every woman in sight down. Funny how most happy people I know don't feel the need to put others down. 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 11:14 PM
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Like we’re interested in what he has to say in our cozy, safe, protected space where we plot to take over the world! But really though, we all want to level up and become the best versions of ourselves. This is our support group to do that. How would a man that doesn't have lived experience as a woman help that? He will never know what it's like to truly be a woman. All it does is silence us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 09:30 AM
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I want to finish my paint by number kits for my room and finish the scarf I'm knitting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 11:55 PM
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Lmfao. Oh sorry, I forgot that men are the gatekeepers to what's valid, silly me! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 04:26 PM
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LOOL 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 04:05 PM
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IT'S A WOMEN'S ONLY SPACE. The entitlement is wild. To think HIS voice as MAN needs to be heard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 03:59 PM
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So, as someone that worked 3 jobs for 5 years in the past... I hate this narrative. It's not about them working a lot. Women get mad because they become second to their S/O's job. Even when I was working 80 hour weeks I still made it to every birthday, holiday and event my loved ones wanted me to go to. You can work a lot but still have boundaries. I have a calendar that catalogs all my work hours and events. Most men that work a lot use it as an excuse to miss out on loved ones special occasion…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 03:41 PM
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Can you imagine even having to have that conversation to begin with? How degrading.. It does seem really normal to them. She barely reacts to it like she's heard it tons of times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 01:39 PM
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Especially to the first part where she counts down the days and says she loves him. Lool he didn't even say it back. Just acts like marrying her is a terrible thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 12:25 PM
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I know, especially since she felt so confident and pretty in the beginning. ☹️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 12:22 PM
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I often wonder how men like this get one, let alone multiple women... If I was dating a guy and he EVER referred to me as a plate, as though I am an object. I would cuss him out until the cows come home and then leave. What a disgusting way to talk about a human being.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 04:06 AM
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Lmfao I find it always so hilarious when stories illustrate how much men CARE about what OTHER men think. 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 04:00 AM
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So, these are the main things that are just fucked to me: Why is THEIR sex life only about his pleasure? There's no mention of him trying to be better for her in the bedroom? Why are they continuing with painful sex acts when she has specifically said she doesn't like it? Could it be he doesn't care what she wants? 😨 Shocking right? The level of pain he wants keeps increasing.... If he's obsessed with pain why doesn't he be the one getting gagged and hit?? The fact that he is turned on from her …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 03:20 AM
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Men get so emotional too in these kinds of situations. I've witnessed it many times. 😂 But "WoMeN ArE ThE EmOtIoNaL GeNdEr" right? 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 03:10 AM
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And if I were on the moon oxygen would be more valuable, but somehow I don't think I'll accept a man blowing air on my face in lieu of a real ring 🙄 LMFAO i love this 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 02:52 AM
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Honestly the fucked up part is I never realized how blatant it is until FDS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 02:43 AM
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UMMMMM?????? WTF? The gaslighting is insane...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 02:23 AM
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LOOLLLLL i love how so many men use the "I was just about to excuse" it's like the men that say "why did you propose? I was just about to soon." to their girlfriends after stringing them along with no proposal in sight. It's like the same regurgitated unoriginal excuses over and over. LOL as though we don't realize this.. 🤦
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 02:19 AM
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I would be incredibly insulted...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 02:08 AM
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God, it's wild how a woman's comment makes me so much more angrier than a man's comment. It is so depressing to see so many women choose men's needs and voices over another women's. First of all, men's voices and needs are always first in society, as a standard. We don't need to then add to the entitlement. We lives similar life experiences and care about people GENUINELY, even if they are strangers. We have so much empathy and kindness. To see it wasted on men that would never reciprocate or de…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 12:19 AM
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It's so weird though because I rarely see women feel the need to overtake men only spaces.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 11:19 PM
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No worries! This and the other post are very true and need to be talked about. Have a great day!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 03:51 PM
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Or acting like crazy cat ladies are lacking something in their lives, This and the "single because there's something wrong with her" trope are so untrue. There's plenty of abusive and fucked up people in relationships and marriages. They just want to scare is into believing we need them to be happy and fulfilled.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 03:49 PM
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I owe it to her to be happy. Women no longer need men. Women no longer have to be tied down to them. I owe it to her to not repeat her misery and to not put myself in the same position, because I have the freedom that she did not get to have. I’ll never marry a man without vetting him fiercely. If he ever acts nice to others but not to me, I’m divorcing his ass in her name. This is so beautiful! Thank you for writing this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 03:16 PM
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It's amazing too how society acts like women need to have sex to be happy. I've heard "She's just pissed because she needs to get laid" or statements similar thousands of times. As though a man's dick is magical and solves all your problems.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 03:10 PM
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I hate men being in women only designated spaces. Even if they are HV as hell, they will don't understand what it's like to be a woman. They can sympathize but not empathize. Love this space!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 02:51 PM
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I will engage if I see that they are respectful of opinions that differ from their own, if they have a willingness to acknowledge different life experiences and admit wrong doing without referencing the NoT aLl mEn rhetoric. 99% of men can't do this, so I usually don't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 12:01 PM
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Awwww the women in this are so sweet 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 09:45 PM
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I agree!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 09:53 AM
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I think the point of it is to say she doesn't want to date a guy that treats her nice, in a kind of deprecating way. Kind of like how some women will say stuff like "I love men that treat me like shit". That's how I took it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 02:32 AM
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Lmao right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 11:44 PM
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Her hot and heavy video is worth checking out too. It's really interesting, she touches on how weight isn't really mentioned if the man is bigger than the woman. It made me look at a lot of tv shows differently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 11:29 PM
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Even the fact that HE'S SURE that EVERY woman is sleeping with other men on the first date so naturally they then owe him sex by the third. Even if EVERY woman was doing that, (which I know I'm not so that's not accurate that it's every woman) they don't owe you sex because they slept with someone else sooner LOL WTF. But I love this woman and subscribed. Her use of the SVU dun-dun cracked me up. Yay I'm happy to get her more subscribers! She's so funny and intelligent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 11:27 PM
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Ouuuuu saw a fire comment: "If all you can add to the discussion is “not all men” then... You are very much a part of the problem." Going to start using this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 11:06 PM
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Oh I didn't look at the replies. I'll check it out though. I'm curious now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 11:02 PM
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Great points in the thread! Thank you 🙂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 10:42 PM
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Like it's so hard to treat someone as a person. It's sad how guys like those don't even go out to genuinely have fun. They just go there to scan the place with their fucking shark eyes looking for a victim As much as men love to act like woman are heartless, how often would you see this reversed?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 10:33 PM
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. She's not talking about shitty men revealing their nature once they get you in a relationship. Oh I read into it wrong. I thought that's what she was saying. She's talking about strangers approaching her and her friends while they're having a night out or whatever and treating her like she's subhuman because she's not the one they want to fuck. This is true! I've read an article on it. If I find the link I'll include it. https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.cosmopolitan.com/lifestyle/news/amp32430…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 10:21 PM
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Exactly this! If he has disrespectful beliefs towards women they will come out eventually. It just may take longer if he thinks you are attractive because he will hide it. While if he doesn't think you are attractive he probably won't hide his attitude. He's not going to be a different man with different beliefs because he finds you attractive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 10:13 PM
21

Exactly. I like genuine good men. That are kind to everyone consistently and not because of self-serving reasons.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 10:10 PM
23

Exactly, if their intentions are self serving then they aren't nice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 10:09 PM
23

Lool what else is new?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 09:38 PM
3

Definitely will! Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 09:32 PM
5

LMFAO this tiktok was so funny😂 Thanks for sharing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 09:11 PM
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I hope so. There were a bunch of comments agreeing with her, which is concerning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 09:07 PM
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Hate to break it to her but most men treat EVERY woman like that. Lool even the ones they want. 😂 They may be nice to the ones they want at first but once they are comfortable their disrespect for women as a whole, comes out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 08:59 PM
3

Yeah 100%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 07:57 PM
5

Love this comment! Yeah I think when people are in the middle of an abusive situation it's super hard to see how strong they are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 06:42 PM
1

Yay! I'm glad you liked it. 🙂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 06:40 PM
7

The part that real brought home to me that he is delusional and entitled was when he compared himself to an abuse victim, that just tolerates abuse. Amazing how even 20 years in he doesn't respect her. Lovely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 05:21 PM
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It's so annoying to see people do mental gymnastics when you let them know their S/O sucks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 04:40 PM
10

What's the handle? I would love to check it out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 04:06 PM
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I love this! A lot of times my comments will put the ownership on us. I'm not doing it to victim blame I'm doing it to reinforce that we have power! We have control over our lives. It's super important to recognize that, so if something isn't serving us we feel powerful enough to leave. We control our lives. If someone can't meet our standards we leave. It's not our fault that they treated us badly but we do need to take responsibility for consistently tolerating bad behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 02:56 PM
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I HATE the whole "he was drinking so I'll take it with a grain of salt" excuse. I had a friend in college that had her boyfriend literally kiss another girl infront of her at a party and she said "he was drinking so I'll take it will a grain of salt, he probably didn't mean it.” LOOL what??? Whenever I liked/loved someone I thought of them more when I was drinking. If they want to cheat while drunk they want to cheat in general.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 02:37 PM
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When I said her excuse I meant her friend. I'm not saying the boyfriend didn't do anything. I'm saying the friend should take responsibility for her part in it. It's disrespectful to not follow up when you know someone is coming. LOL like what the fuck? I would be so pissed if my "friend" was just like "oh sorry, I wasn't paying attention to my phone" when they knew I was coming at a certain time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 12:33 AM
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I only work there in weekends. I have two jobs. Yeah you could there is a even mix of men and women that work there. A lot of people switch back and forth between sites.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 08:07 PM
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Not at the site I was talking about because there's a lot of turn over
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 05:35 PM
1

They didn't end up dating. He just roasted her. It was super uncomfortable afterwards because she would always look embarrassed and awkward around him after that. I feel uncomfortable whenever I had to work with both of them. She left and then he left like 8 months later.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 05:28 PM
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They know what they are doing too. He would openly say he plays dumb. He's also said that the lady that sent the email will put up things, that I won't. So clearly he knows who to test limits with. Lol and then I would watch women baby him despite him openly saying these things. man wish i was a white disorganized man , who got to the top What a life eh? The privilege is insane. There's always been an expectation that I'm organized.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 02:47 PM
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"Bitches" are respected though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 02:16 PM
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I doubt it. He's popular. He switched sites though so he's no longer my problem. 🤷
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 12:35 PM
1

I've asked myself that many times. He's super irresponsible, unreliable and doesn't follow through on the things he says. One time I did a work project with him when I didn't know him that well. When doing the project I obviously realized how disorganized he is and this 50 year old coworker noticed I was irritated and said "oh you don't know because you don't work during the week. He is very disorganized. You need to stay on top of him if you work with him." To be clear she said it in a poor him…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 11:17 AM
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Yeah I'm just saying in this situation it wasn't like he's an older men specifically targeting a younger women for power. He literally treated her the same as the other women. There were other women that were similar to that lady in regards to him and they were the same age and some older. They also cut him so much slack.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 11:10 AM
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It's not really an age gap that creates a power imbalance. She was just a major pick me. It's not like he manipulated her because she's naive. They are grown adults. This is why I don't agree with the whole "older women put up with less than younger women." There were a bunch of women in their 40s and 50s that put up with nonsense I never would because he was SuCh A nIcE gUy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 10:30 AM
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If he genuinely liked her, he would want to pay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 12:52 AM
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Love this post. 100% agree. I think it's always good to be cautious. I also go into things recognizing that most men are terrible and because of that I need to be careful. Then I look for patterns in their behavior. How someone acts consistently over long periods of time is to me, the biggest indication of character. It's also important to be mindful of how much you share opposed to them. If they understand you more than you understand then you are opening yourself up to be manipulated. Also, ke…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 12:21 AM
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He literally was looking for a hookup - yet still was turned off by her behaviour. He could “too easily” have sex with her. LMFAO im happy she didn't get used for sex, but the too easily could have had sex with her is hilarious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 09:26 PM
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40.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 09:22 PM
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He was almost 50 as well... So it's not like they stop acting like this when they get older. It's good to let them do the asking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 09:03 PM
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Just wanted to say first I'm super sorry for your experience. That's so shitty and disrespectful. When I get back I had missed a call and some texts, she blamed everything in the step kid and said he had her phone and didn’t tell her I texted or called because he was playing games on it. Even though he was apparently doing online school today. And she knew I was about to arrive at the time I arrived. Her excuse makes no sense. Even if the son didn't notify her, she knows when you are coming. Any…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 08:39 PM
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She needs to leave. No man is worth your self esteem. Plus there are plenty of men that will gladly have sex with her and find her attractive. Block and delete who gives a shit if it's a 3 year relationship. Her needs aren't being met and he clearly doesn't respect her. He's totally fine with her beating herself up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 06:33 PM
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Yup this is a common thing I have seen. Men frequently make fun of women that make the first move. I had a coworker that drunkenly sent my old supervisor a email professing her love and he went around telling me and other coworkers how "she messaged him late a night". I felt so bad for her, it was so embarrassing. They just see it as you don't respect yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 06:28 PM
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LOL right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 09:53 AM
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LOL ikr. I can't believe she got shamed for that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 09:50 AM
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some loser told me I was going to die alone because I only wanted to date people who weren't drug users, LMAO WHAT?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 01:08 AM
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Men to women: MaYbE yOu ShOuLd LoWeR yOuR StaNdArDs. If YoU DoNt YoU wIlL dIe AlOnE, yOu OlD hAg (said to every women above 18, even in their 20s). Also men to women: ShE hAs To Be EveRytHinG I wAnT, In EvErY WaY. Society to women: YeS yOuR tOo PicKy dUmB HoArs (LOL DO YOU GUYS REMEMBER THIS FROM THAT OTHER POST?) Lower your standards or you will die alone! You need to give every UGLY, LOW VALUE and ABUSIVE man a chance or else your a stupid b*tch 🤬. Let him abuse you! That's how he shows his lo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 01:07 AM
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She needs to run and take the couch with her. LMAO 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 10:41 PM
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My husband pissed on the couch AGAIN. LOOL WTF?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 08:21 PM
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100% agree!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 07:44 PM
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So he obviously talked shit about her to his friends. Why else would his friend say that? 🙃 What a catch. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 04:17 PM
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Have you noticed how men will "compliment" woman on things that have to do with being taken advantage of? Take being low maintenance for example. Not a compliment. They are praising you for accepting less than you deserve.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 04:08 PM
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Men make fun of women like this by the way. I had a coworker that drunkenly sent my old supervisor a email professing her love and he went around telling me and other coworkers how "she messaged him late a night". I felt so bad for her, it was so embarrassing. He majorly took it as an ego boost and made sure to let everyone know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 01:06 PM
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If he wanted to, he would. Low on cash? He can make her dinner with candles, nice music and make her a nice card. He could be creative to show he cares, even if he has no money. When I was younger and broke I constantly found creative ways to spoil people I love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 11:30 AM
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Society does not teach men to respect women. That is why women should NOT ask men out. Why would you go up to someone that doesn't respect you and give them things (your time and number) they haven't earned?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 11:18 AM
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LMAO I love this 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 12:47 AM
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As I walked in with arms full of grocery bags, I was shocked to look down and see that the Cheerios had been swept up. I kept walking down the hallway and looked into the living room to see that a majority of the toys had been put away, heck even the throw blankets were folded and laid on the couch! But when I turned the corner, that’s when I saw it. And it was the sexiest thing I had ever seen.There he was, my husband standing over the sink, drying the last of the dishes. Honestly things like t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 12:43 AM
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LMFAO 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 11:34 PM
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That's just sad. Can you imagine spending time writing a article putting down a woman you don't even know because your s/o makes you feel insecure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 11:17 PM
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"I will love him for all that he is and support him with anything he wants." Lol men don't respect doormats. Can't wait to see how this turns out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 11:13 PM
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If you are wondering where it really hits home that Mark is very LVM, it's right when he says these two things: "I don’t remember people’s birthdays — she remembers every single person’s birthday in our family and they are taken care of every single time without fail. She reminds me to make calls: ‘it’s your dad’s birthday you have to give him a call.’ She reminds me of all that stuff.” and "She makes the home a home. Every holiday, we would have nothing if it was up to me.” This where we see ma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 10:58 PM
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In other words, he's a major waste of time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 10:46 PM
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Just read the article. This part is so fucked. A sex robot cannot give consent — it can only take whatever its owner throws at it. As a result, it not only invites abusive treatment, it demands it. The brands behind the robots explicitly encourage the owners to act out sexual entitlement and aggression on these plastic bodies, allowing for men to associate the sexual pleasure of their orgasm with non-consent. Why else would True Companions dolls have a “frigid Farrah” setting that encourages the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 09:51 PM
1

He doesn't respect her. Block and delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 08:51 PM
2

I found an article on it. Thanks so much will definitely be using this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 08:44 PM
1

How do you do that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 08:43 PM
2

Dildos with assorted insecure baggage. LMFAO.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 03:45 PM
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It was the end of our date anyways. We had gone treetop trekking and we were walking back to our cars. I just moved my hand away so he couldn't grab it and said "excuse me, that's not polite." Then I got into my car and left.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 02:07 PM
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and he almost hit the phone out of my hand softly but firm and said focus on me. Uhh no scrote this has to with the emergency of earlier, it's important. I can't believe this is a common thing. That's so rude honestly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 09:45 AM
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LMAO I love this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 09:43 AM
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I will never understand why some men keep reaching out even if they barely know you. I went out with this guy literally twice two years ago. I hate controlling men so even if I see a little bit of that, I find it a major turn off. There were a bunch of things I didn't like. The last straw for me was when I was out with him and someone called me. I picked up and said "hey sorry I'm out right now I'll call you back later." They then tried to continuing talking to me and I said "no really I have to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 01:18 AM
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lmfaaaaoo 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 11:27 AM
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My kink is kink-shaming. Lol love this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 02:00 AM
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It's was already a screwed up situation before the potentially haunted wedding ring came into play. LMFAO im dead, honestly LIKE WTF 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 01:44 AM
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LMFAO what the fuck did I just read. LOL I can't believe he gave her a dead person's ring and after he claims the other one is not up to his standards. LMFAO It's so stupid it's honestly funny. He strikes me as a barely functioning adult.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 01:40 AM
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LMFAO. I love this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 01:35 AM
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I have never understood this. So they believe "women want to be treated like shit because it makes women want them more." Even if that's something men believe/have been told, if they are a decent person they won't want to treat someone bad, even if that person wants that. They will recognize that they don't have a right to treat someone badly, just because they have the power to. It's like that reddit post where this guy's gf wanted him to choke her but he didn't want to. He felt uncomfortable a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 03:12 PM
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Love this comment. Wholeheartedly agree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 05:14 AM
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This is exactly how I think.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 03:19 AM
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What else is new? Very few men ever stand up for women's issues because they see it as not their problem. They need to always be the victim and the center of the attention. Even with this situation. They are still making it about how they would feel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 09:18 PM
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Lmfaaao this is hilarious. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 09:13 PM
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100%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 04:59 PM
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No problem! Thanks for helping to spread awareness of things we need to look out for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 04:27 PM
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Wanted to just also mention more info she left in the comments: I mentioned therapy to him but he took it as in I was trying to tell him what to do. And that there was no need for him to go to therapy since he claims he's fine. But says I'm the problem for how I'm behaving and acting like I'm a better parent than him which is not was I was implying and If he can't understand what I mean then it's on him. I always try to have a calm conversation with him but he thinks I'm the one creating problem…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 04:26 PM
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Ah hem... Venting is not the same as making someone else look worse for your own benifit. Exactly this^
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 03:53 PM
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Same with MiSaNdRy. Men will never face as much sexism as women do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 03:52 PM
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This bullshit would NEVER work if not for misogyny. 100% this. There would be an uproar if a woman did this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 03:50 PM
2

Men know this too. I have seen so many men put children in dangerous situations because they know the mom will step in. Look at the guy that got mad at his wife and then never picked up his kids from daycare because of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 03:47 PM
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ETA see and you know he knows she's the type of person who will wring her hands all like "maybe I was too harsh" that's why he's like this, that's why this parasite preyed on her to be his partner. I'd love to see a mf get on social media like that talking about me, I'd be in the replies ripping him a new one and then I'd kick his ass out 100%. He knows he can get away with it. Even in the comments she said they are both working as well. So it's even worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 03:45 PM
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It's messed how many men find non consenting things hot. Disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 03:42 PM
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, but he was pissed she didn't lose the baby weight in the 6 weeks since giving birth and she was worried Lovely. 🙃 I can't believe you got a warning for manchild. LOOL wtf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 03:21 PM
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Wtf? So someone can call someone an asshole but not a loser?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 03:19 PM
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There are some like this guy: "NTA. 💜My only thought is that, even though he is doing less, he might be equally or more drained mentally (which can also affect his body). 💜Like you could have 2 people on a rollercoaster. And one is totally relaxed and the other one is about to pass out. 💜Or you have 2 people learning a new computer program. And one intuitively picks up everything, while the other one gets a headache. 💜Maybe your mama bear war of hormones makes things easier for you." This is wha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 03:13 PM
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😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 01:43 PM
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Girl....a few a years ago it was almost every month I kept hearing about women being murdered in one night stands and “swinger meet ups”. These men are depraved, you are risking your life doing this. So fucked
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 01:42 PM
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I just posted it 🙂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 01:40 PM
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lmmmaaoo 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 01:39 PM
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Totally! Even when I feel like I have vetted a man well, I am nervous about allowing them access to my home. Even just knowing your address, even if they didn't do any weird stuff makes me nervous. You're approach is really smart.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 01:35 PM
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This is exactly how I feel^
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 01:31 PM
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I also got paranoid about being taped the two times I went to men’s houses. This actually did happen to one of my friend’s friends. This is terrifying. You would have no idea what they would do with the footage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 01:29 PM
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This is why I've always wondered how people aren't scared when having a ONS. Going to their place isn't safe and them coming to yours isn't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 05:23 AM
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Yeah if it's cool with her I will. 🙂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 05:05 AM
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Can you please take a screenshot and post it in this sub? Is this cool with you? I don't want to take over your idea if it isn't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 05:05 AM
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I felt the same way. It's crazy how manipulative he turned out to be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 04:34 AM
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LOOL why have I never heard of this before? This reminds me of the religion that worshipped AR-15s. Just has you being like ”what the hell is going on?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 04:33 AM
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You have ancient religions treating sperm as a magical substance LMAO wtf. I did not know this. Clown shit. 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 04:29 AM
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Love this. I don't know if it's just me, but I've noticed I'm super skeptical of a guy giving women advice like this. It's super nice but I constantly wonder if they are making videos to help women or for validation. While when a woman says stuff like this I feel a sense of sisterhood and pride. I'M LIKE "YES! A STRONG WOMAN? I LOVE TO SEE IT." Ugh, I feel jaded.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 04:28 AM
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LMAO. The accuracy. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 04:23 AM
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What the hell did I just read? Who even thinks about sperm in their spare time?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 04:22 AM
2

Found it. Already read some and it's wild. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 03:14 AM
2

Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 03:13 AM
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Is it a new post? I'm going to try and find it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 02:52 AM
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This is exactly what I'm talking about. They understand like one layer LOL. All that male priveldge has made them lack depth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 02:52 AM
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Lol wiiilllldddddd
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 02:23 AM
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That’s key, right there. There is no debating. No exchange of differing ideas or new information. It’s all about dominance for them. I’ve had so many guys absolutely HATE that I could go toe-to-toe with them on certain subjects - in fact, one resorted to screaming at me and drawing a chart with a marker on his kitchen floor to show me how right he was. It’s fucking ridiculous. 100 percent. It's exhausting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 12:16 AM
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And must overpower other people's voices.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 09:28 PM
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Has anyone else noticed how so many men lack depth? I can usually talk about topics to women and have them understand nuances, while men can't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 09:27 PM
44

Lmfao the accuracy. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 09:24 PM
2

It's really disgusting...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 05:29 PM
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Natalie is 'super mature' for her age, while Bobby has 'a younger heart'. Meanwhile Natalie is jumping on the couch like a 5 year old.....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 04:36 PM
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She's immature as hell.... I was never jumping on couches like a 5 year old at 19.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 04:32 PM
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I don't feel sorry. I feel irritated. I hate the "young and dumb" narrative the same way I hate the "women are emotional" narrative. The young and dumb narrative has always led me to have to prove myself at work more than someone who's older because my position is not common for my age. People that are older are almost always taken more seriously even if they are terrible at their job. Seeing someone play into a bad narrative just irritates me. Obviously he will be ahead of her in areas because …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 02:31 PM
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I hope not either but he's clearly fucked. 100% the contempt for her is massive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 05:11 AM
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Men really think it's a top tier compliment lmao 🤡. Way to say "I think all women are stupid"... This is exactly why it's not a compliment. Good on you to recognize that though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 04:50 AM
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Yes, 100% agree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 04:46 AM
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I have had guys say this to me many times and wherever I respond with "oh that's unfortunate, well this is my standard." or "care to elaborate?" they always back down. Funny, they want to debate my standards but when I don't back down there's no further discussion? They are suddenly then okay with the standard I set? Could it be they are seeing what they can get away with? Shocking right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 04:31 AM
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This starts early in the relationship. He’ll flood you with complements about how “different” you are to other girls and put you on a pedestal. And you’ll feel special because “unlike his ex, you’re generous and low maintenance!”. Loving this post by the way. This part in particular in so important not to internalize. Being "not like other girls" is NOT and will NEVER BE a compliment. It's a backhanded compliment that is degrading to other women. True compliments don't put others down. Also, we …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 04:26 AM
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Can I just say I hate how the older person in the relationship almost always acts as though the younger person is a dumbass. He literally acts like she's stupid and then she plays into it like teehee I'm so young and dumb. It just goes to show you they view you in an age gap relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 04:07 AM
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LOOLLL thanks so much. I saw a comment that said she's so inspiring and that they respect her so much for doing this out of the kindness of her heart.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 10:04 PM
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What's her handle? I want to see the comments.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 07:54 PM
6

I've never felt the statement "if he wanted to, he would." more in my life, than I have right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 03:14 PM
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This so true. You don't feel like you have to prove anything and understand you bring things to the table. I have noticed that people usually would attack things that they assume I would be insecure about and thought I would then try and prove to them that I'm worthy. Nope, I know I bring things to the table just like everyone else. If someone can't see that or does but doesn't acknowledge my worth, that's fine. Their impression of me is not my responsibility.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 01:08 PM
8

This is exactly why I say the bar is as low as we chose it to be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 01:03 PM
7

LOL I LOVE that he spelt whore as hoar. Omg he's such a manhoar LOL i love it. So funny. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 02:42 PM
4

Yeah i have these kind of headphones. I always watch people in general so I'm always aware of my surroundings. I also like that people don't understand that I can hear them. It gives me the element of surprise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 09:20 PM
14

Yeah now that I'm thinking about it I've heard catcalling is way worse in the states. Like men are a lot more aggressive about it. I live in Canada, they aren't as aggressive as other countries I've been to. When I went to Italy they were a lot more forward with catcalling
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 05:47 PM
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Oh I was under the impression they were just staring and cat calling. I have had men do that and not approach me. I didn't think they were coming up to her. I don't have any other ideas sorry lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 05:41 PM
21

I personally wear headphones. You can listen to podcasts or audiobooks as something to focus on to lessen the anxiety. Some men will still cat call but you can just act like you don't hear them and they will usually stop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 05:32 PM
73

So I went to B.C a couple years back and met two guys like this while hiking. My friend thought it was hot that they lived in a van because it was adventurous, so there are people are obviously into it. While I did not. I'm mad adventures, I have my scuba diving license, I hike, I love ziplining, rafting, kayaking and traveling. That being said I get being adventurous but you can do it in a way that is more adultlike. He doesn't have to live in a van. He could use airbnbs, he could buy a cottage…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 12:31 PM
7

And older men too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 08:27 PM
9

Ikr!!!! It's really disturbing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 08:27 PM
9

The depravity never ceases to amaze me. 🙃 I was really disgusted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 07:12 PM
30

Okay so there are three things men "compliment" me on that ALWAYS make me cringe. My ass, my waist and my eyes. Since hit puberty I have always had a larger than normal ass along with a small waist and let me tell you it really showed me how many men are sickos. I remember being a teenager and having 40+ year old men coming up to me and telling me things like "you got a fat ass" or "you got a nice shape" or "i remember you because of your ass" (a cashier) or "you got a little waist and a fat ass…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 06:40 PM
2

LOOL 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 12:31 PM
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Do women actually say things like this in real life? I have never had a woman say this to me? I would honestly be like um ok???????? Lol what a weird thing to tell someone. What the hell is going on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 12:10 AM
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LOOLLL they have an awarded comment. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 11:55 PM
7

That's a good idea! I'm going to use this next time. Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 11:11 PM
41

Yay!!!! I love guys that stand up for women. So rare! He has nice eyes and a nice voice too. Yay this makes me happy! Thanks for posting. I'm going to save it 🙂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 10:16 PM
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LOOLLL one time I was getting chinese takeout with my friend and this old man WITH A CANE checked me out and then loudly (for everyone to hear) said to my friend "Your friend is sexy." and then winked. Like sir you could literally be my grandfather.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 09:21 PM
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I don't believe you all never daydreamed about some guy in highschool before you got hurt by some jerk that caused your hate for men How does not wanting to be disrespected equate to man hating?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 02:01 PM
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LOOL 100%. Omg this is the first time I've legit seen a male comment here. The delusion of the comment is unreal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 01:59 PM
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I LOVE how they ALWAYS praise the HELL out of doormat behavior and then simultaneously say how they weren't into them. LOLLLLLLLL 🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 01:52 PM
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100% Agree. Thanks for posting this by the way!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 01:30 PM
20

I don't think it is sarcasm. I looked at the comments and they were agreeing with her. Plus her other videos came across as very pickme. The bar is only as low as you set it. She's so pretty too. She deserves so much better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 01:23 PM
14

Okay that makes more sense! Thanks for explaining it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 01:16 PM
36

I checked the video. The caption is "IT'S LITERALLY SO ATTRACTIVE". Why is it literally so attractive? I don't understand the difference. They are both means of communicating? Am I missing something? Also maybe it's just me but I prefer men I don't know that well to not have my number. I don't have snapchat but if I did I would prefer they had that. Easier to block and delete. Ive had men that I blocked and deleted reach out with different numbers, it's honestly really annoying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 01:05 PM
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I feel you! I had a friend that did it non stop with her boyfriend. Even for mundane things. I remember going to the mall with her and her boyfriend and they talked like that for like an hour. LOOLLLL. Just being like *baby voice "isn't this mug cute?" *baby voice "yes it is." While I'm like.... Um ok???????? Honestly annoys me. I hate the sound of it. It reminds me of someone whining.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 01:43 AM
15

LMAOOOOO. 😂💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 11:57 PM
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they can't imagine that women are having our own thoughts and feelings. This^ I have experienced this 156886416436621357432566 times. It's so common. Also not believing that women don't do everything for male approval.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 11:44 PM
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Ikr. It's mad disrespectful. Everyone has things to do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 10:43 PM
29

Why do some grown adults like doing a baby voice. I've always found it repulsive unless they are doing it to animals or children. LOOL like to talk me normally? I'm clearly an adult?????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 10:34 PM
30

Omg, LOL literally almost a decade... 😂🤡💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 10:29 PM
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Yup. A couple years back, I had a guy ask me out for dinner on a Friday. I said yes. He said okay I'll look into some places and get back to you. You can pick. I said great. This guy never got back to me so when the Friday came we obviously didn't go out. Then on Saturday he messages me asking why I stood him up LOL 🤡. I mentioned I didn't hear back from him so it wouldn't have even been possible for me to stand him up since I didn't have a place or time to meet him. He then says "Well, I'm very…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 09:26 PM
17

So if I say have a drug addiction, it's not a drug addiction until it distresses my partner? LOL what? Did I hear that correctly?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 09:15 PM
5

Lool random but I wonder if he repeatedly has to buy the balloons or reuses them. They are mad expensive. Just like the number balloons.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 09:11 PM
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LOOL. The delusion is hilarious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 08:55 PM
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Lol this is so accurate! I'm genuinely a really busy person. I have two jobs, multiple hobbies and friends. Whenever I would date and ask for a week's notice for a date they would act shocked. I even had one guy tell me. "I'm really a go with the flow kind of guy. The weeks notice is too much. I don't want to date you if your so "busy" (the audacity to put busy in quotation marks, I can't)". LOL as though I'm supposed to just stay at home rather than doing other things incase they decide they wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 08:44 PM
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LOOLLLLL what did you say? That's wild.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 08:40 PM
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LOLOL As though they are a baby. I'm dead. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 07:46 PM
5

So if he gets to have sex with other women, does she get to have sex with other men? Men are always saying how they are all for EqAuLiTy 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 07:43 PM
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Why do men think women are just waiting around for them after LITERAL years? I've had so many men make this assumption with me. As though when they are not in your life, your life is at a stand still, frozen in time until they decide to grace you with their presence. LOOLLLLLLL I'm lost.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 07:39 PM
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The amount of things I have seen them normalize only for men is wild. Even "not all men". When men talk about things they don't like it's always, all men. I've consistently heard men say "all men cheat, just accept it.” to women. LOOL but then when a woman says "men cheat" they're are always men in the comments that say "NoT AlL MeN, MISANDRY!!!!!" LOOL so which one is it then? Clown shit for real. 😂🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 02:20 PM
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Lool omg I can't believe there used to be a subreddit for this. That's wild.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 09:46 AM
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Preach! 🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 08:46 PM
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LOOOOLLLL "They should listen to what men want" Meanwhile the kind of advice I have seen from men: Ask HIM out! He will think you are the HOTTEST thing since sliced bread! He also will respect you so much for it 😍 Cheating is a normal, but only for men. 🙂 MeN hAvE nEeDs. cook and clean for him while he does nothing, his mere presence is enough 💞💞💞💞💖😍 He tries his best. He just can't clean as well as you. 🥰 Have no needs, he will love you for your strength ,😍💖😍 Men HATE needy bitches. Move in wit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 08:25 PM
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I KNOW!!! Same here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 07:09 PM
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LOOLLLL what is the food in the microwave?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 04:29 PM
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He obviously has zero respect for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 01:52 PM
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We need to stop this madness. We put too much value into our relationship status and we suffer as a result. Love this. Definitely agree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 01:51 PM
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Right? Like doing the dishes without being asked is not even meeting BARE MINIMUM standards, that's just being an adult who cleans up after themselves. He must walk all over her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 12:14 PM
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Why is incompetence seen as cute by so many women? I HATE HAVING TO BABY PEOPLE. it's always things like "teehee, my husband can't perform basic life tasks which then causes me more work since I decided to marry him. Isn't it so cute how incompetent, disrespectful and stupid he is?" 😍😍😍😍😍😍😘😍😍😍😍🥰💞💞💞 Drives me nuts
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 12:09 PM
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How is this even rewarding? I would be insulted if someone gave me an award for doing the dishes. I hate being babied. I would feel like such a dumb ass creating rewards for doing dishes. I feel like he's some ungodly age for this too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 11:44 AM
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Reminds me of the quote "The road to hell is paved with good intentions" I wonder if these women are legitimately trying to be nice to men that don't deserve it, or looking for a ego boost from being a martyr 🤔 A lot of pickme women come across as self serving.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 11:33 PM
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On top of that, it's not safe. They could easily rape you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 11:25 PM
3

LOLL 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 03:14 PM
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How does a man not respecting you = emotionally intimacy? 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 01:37 AM
5

I can't believe this guy really had the audacity to say "I cheated because you are really ugly." Like what in world is going on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 09:07 PM
9

Guys I work as an insurance agent and you wouldn’t believe how many men I talk to when I ask for their wife’s bday for the quote or their kids they barely remember and give me a “ball park” of when their birthdate is. LMAO WTF😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 09:05 PM
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It always makes me feel uncomfortable.... I had someone the other day do something weird like this in a group chat. Someone said "happy birthday! make sure your loved ones spoil you! it's your day, you deserve it!" They replied with "I deserve to be spoiled? Tell my husband that LOL". The secondhand embarrassment was real.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 09:02 PM
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I don't know if this is helpful. Hopefully it is. I didn't mention it in my first comment because I try not to disclose info about myself online. But I think it might be helpful. I have had relationships with people with addictions like I previously said. The part I left out is that I have worked with people with severe addictions for five years in supportive housing. So I have experienced this both personally and professionally and I have drawn the same conclusion. You need to distance yourself…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 11:40 PM
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His addiction will always come first. Even to her detriment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 11:26 PM
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I've experienced relationships with addictions and I wholeheartedly agree with what your saying about being night and day different people. I think setting boundaries was really good and important. However, I think it's important to keep in mind he may not become sober again. I know someone that was sober for years, went to school, got a job, a place to live then got sucked in again. They haven't been sober since. I think it's important to prioritize yourself. If he can't be a part of your life …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 10:57 PM
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Beautiful!!!! I'm going to use this too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 10:17 PM
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I think in your personal life, block and delete. However, I have experienced this dumb shit at work. Since I have, I think again, men just need to be held accountable. My go to thing to say when people try this is "I have no problem with your emotions. What you feel is your business and I will not tell you what to feel. However, you do have a responsibility as an adult to manage your emotions in a productive manner. How you handle your emotions is your responsibility, not mine. So moving forward…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 10:13 PM
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I've seen this at work. Had a supervisor like this. I think it's because people would constantly let him walk all over them. He also would have women email him confessing their love for him while drunk (I know the girl personally it's true, she was mad embarrassed after), show up at his workplace after he dumped them (i saw and talked to them), women talk to him in a baby voice as though he's God's gift to them (witnessed then do it) and women that would always make excuses for him BeCaUsE hEs S…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 09:25 PM
17

I just wanted to say thank you so much for the added books to the fds book list. I'M SO EXCITED. I love finding new books to read!!!!! 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 09:13 PM
5

Happy cake day!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 08:36 PM
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The reason? He was afraid that she wanted to “use him for his gas” LMFAO I'VE NEVER HEARD SOMETHING SO DUMB IN MY ENTIRE LIFE. 🤡 It really amazes me how quick men are to villanize woman, while women do the opposite.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 08:35 PM
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But we have to tolerate unwashed men who sleep in nests and brushed their teeth in high school for the last time. Because we aren't visual creatures. You are hilarious. LMAOO 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 07:57 PM
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Lmao 😂 accurate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 05:47 PM
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I agree. The lack of support is super sad to me though. You constantly see men support other men, even to the detriment of others.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 03:07 PM
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Preach! Yay I'm so happy women are commenting things like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 01:52 PM
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So accurate it hurts lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 12:34 PM
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Agreed!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 11:41 AM
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Oh I didn't realize. I'm not familiar with running paces. That's even worse then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 11:38 AM
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^ Exactly this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 11:14 AM
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Men aren't raised to respect women and they are opportunistic. They have no problem stringing women along for YEARS. On top of that woman have more to lose when it comes to dating. So yes, till the day I DIE I will say yes a man should pursue me. For men that have and will continue to invalidate that by saying "well i guess we couldn't date because I don't purse" I say: "That's okay. We can have difference preferences." 🙃 Sidenote: Is it just me or do other woman find it more upsetting when it c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 11:08 AM
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LOL 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 10:36 AM
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100% agree!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 01:58 AM
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OMFG!!! THEY LITERALLY DON'T WANT TO DO ANYTHING. Just today some guy was bitching about having to take initiatives with dates. They don't want to ask women out, they don't want to plan dates, they don't want to pay for the dates, they don't want to provide emotional support, they don't want to be responsible, they don't want to be faithful, they don't want to buy you anything, they don't want to do housework, they don't want to watch their kids, they don't want to get married, they don't want t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 12:13 AM
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The one thing men have taught me, is that they band together. They will excuse the most disgusting things because they hate women. I'm honestly sad. ☹️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 12:02 AM
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Honestly I love your comment. Feel the same way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 11:30 PM
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So him taking her on a date that she planned is something drastic he's doing in order to keep her from leaving? LOOL did I read that right? Even when she's leaving he is low effort. 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 11:17 PM
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This is so painfully true. Men are not raised to respect women!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 11:13 PM
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Right? 😂💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 11:13 PM
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Lool they will say they will respect you if you act like a doormat. Considering that people learn respect through boundaries and consequences for overstepping boundaries that's obviously not possible. This is exactly why I never take any dating advice from men. Their intentions are almost always self-serving.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 09:33 PM
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LOL I feel like they complain no matter what.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 09:23 PM
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For me, I think it's respect. People don't respect things they don't have to work for. I've seen men get their "dream girl" and then ended up devaluing her because once they got together, she let him get away with everything. That's why I agree with constant vetting. Men need to always be aware of boundaries and face consequences of they overstep. They should not be cut slack because you are dating or married to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 08:21 PM
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100% agree
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 08:06 PM
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It amazes me how much men praise doormat women. They act like these woman are the best thing that ever happened to the world, while in reality they show these woman zero respect, loyalty, empathy, decency or kindness. They are praising someone they repeatedly walk over and then encourage other women to be walked over as well. True clown shit. 😂🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 07:51 PM
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LMAOOO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 06:19 PM
2

✨ Continuing the tradition of cleaning a guy's house after I sleep with him ✨ LMFAO 😂💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 05:24 PM
2

He didn't "have" to do that, he chose to do that, expecting that she would just rearrange her schedule for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 04:54 PM
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I searched for the post and there was another post talking about the post and they literally said it's ” systemic oppression for men" LMFAO I CAN'T WITH THESE MANBABIES 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 03:56 PM
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Lol and women are consistently making more money than men. So the one thing he does have, wouldn't necessarily be more than what she has. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 03:14 PM
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So, I don't want a big wedding. I realistically would elope, if I ever decided to get married. I've always been a private person and I prefer small intimate ceromonies. That being said, that's MY preference. Just like someone wanting a big wedding is THEIR preference. There's nothing wrong with either choice. I'm so tired of men/pickmes shoving down their preferences down women's throats. The point is not big or small, expensive or not. The point is MAKING YOUR PARTNER HAPPY AND SHOWING HER RESP…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 03:05 PM
7

This just screams ✨ L a c k o f r e s p e c t ✨ Divorce
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 02:54 PM
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The streets can have him now. LMAO this^ and when people comment "community dick" kills me. 😂 Comedy gold.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 02:30 PM
8

"he says my stomach now looks disgusting". Where do men get the audacity to speak like this in the first place? The way he talks to his wife is ✨disgusting,✨ Divorce
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 02:24 PM
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LOL love how when women make less men still expect 50/50. There's hundreds of posts on reddit showing examples of this. But when men make less it's unfair.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 02:20 PM
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I think this is a scare tactic. What work professional would take him seriously? When I'm at work and people talk about their dating life I don't take them seriously. I just think "where are your work boundaries" in my head. Also what is he going to say to these apparent professional contacts that would slander your career? It was one date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 02:18 PM
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Does he think men look better with age?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 02:11 PM
2

Can you imagine if she just talked like that when having a normal conversation. Lol I'd wonder what the hell is going on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 12:40 AM
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He should WANT to buy his girlfriend things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 12:21 AM
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I'm sorry the part about him washing her mug before putting coffee into it HAS ME DEAD. 😂 I LITERALLY LAUGHED. Someone washing your dirty cup before putting coffee into it is not something to praise. LOL WTF IS GOING ON. Also side note, WHY CAN'T WE HAVE BOTH? Why can't we have everyday love and momentary love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 12:06 AM
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Honestly, I'm not a fan of moving in with a boyfriend to begin with. So he wants her to pay part of his mortgage, but not put her on name on it. So if they break up she's basically lost a shit ton of money. 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 10:50 PM
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LMAO 😂 honestly the comment section is always comedy gold.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 10:45 PM
1

Am I the only one that feels like she talks like a news reporter in her tiktoks?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 05:52 PM
5

Love this! agree 100%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 02:35 PM
4

So I just made this comment on another post and I think it's worth noting here. I think reframing the situation is important in these kind of situations. I think looking at what he's doing for the new girlfriend and how it compares to you (atleast in my case) makes you feel like you aren't good enough. Instead of comparing (because how he treats people is out of your control) I think we should look at it as he didn't meet your standards so he's not a part of your life. How he treats others is ir…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 02:32 PM
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Hope it helps!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 02:05 PM
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I think reframing the situation helps. Instead of looking at what he's doing for the new girlfriend and how it compares to you. Look at it as he didn't meet your standards so he's not a part of your life. How he treats others is irrevelant. What matters is how he treated you. You deserve to be respected, valued and cherished. Anyone that can't do that shouldn't be a part of your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 02:00 PM
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And violence/necr*philia is ALWAYS ok in the bedroom, as long as the woman is the only one who is uncomfortable. You sound a little sEx nEgAtiVe tbh. THAT’S why you can’t get a man to propose to you with a piece of string and a rock like my man did for me!!! Thank you for writing this. I had a good laugh. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 01:17 PM
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LMMMAAAOOOOOO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 02:36 AM
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WHAT THE HELL IS GOING ON. I AM SO DISTURBED. I don't even know what I would say if a guy ever asked me to be motionless during sex. I think I would just leave. I hate when men say "oh well so and so let me do it." That's great for them. Unfortunately I'm not them, so I'm not doing it. What's even the point of that? Like I'm going to suddenly be like "Oh, I was against it before but now that I know that so and so does it, I'm on board." No, everyone's boundaries are different. I've even had guys…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 02:20 AM
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I think this is satire. However, it doesn't matter how low the bar is set. Just because it's low for them doesn't mean we need to praise nonsense. It matters where MY STANDARDS are set. If my standards aren't met, I'm out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 01:08 PM
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Believe consistent actions not words.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 01:03 PM
2

LOOL really?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 12:09 PM
20

He should WANT to make her happy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 06:47 PM
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If he has a job interview will he low ball them too? Realistically no, he would put effort to dress nice, be on time and be prepared. Why? Because the company is vetting him and first impressions matter. Why should dating be any different?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 05:52 PM
5

So because he made bad financial decisions, she has to fix it? 🤡 Why even marry him in the first place? 🤦
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 05:15 PM
4

That's so uncomfortable....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 03:37 PM
20

How his parents didn't let him have pink sneakers when he was a kid and how badly it traumatized him LMAO WHAT
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 12:15 PM
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Oh God when I was younger I had a guy friend I grew up with. Was literally like a brother. He's honestly a nice guy but dear Jesus, I seriously think he needs to see a therapist. He used to vent to me and i didn't mind at first, I genuinely like listening to people's stories. I started to irritate me when he started calling me 2 or 3 times a week about problems he has. Then saying I'm HiS ThErApISt or such a GoOd LiStEnEr. I noped out of there real quick. I don't mind listening to others if they…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 12:02 PM
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LMFAAAO 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 11:45 AM
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Me: if you don't continue until I cum, it is withholding sex and immediate grounds for divorce LMAO 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 11:52 PM
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I've always been a block and delete woman because I HATE WITH A PASSION, HAVING MY DAMN TIME WASTED. I don't even want to waste my voice, vision or hearing on some idiot. These are grown men, they know right from wrong. They act disrespectful? Cool I'm out. I'll just ignore them until they stop even if they reach out in different ways. I'm just grateful for this sub because until I found this sub I felt so alone in my approach. I would always get shamed for not giving a moron who knows what they…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 11:48 PM
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I'm sorry if get married and decide I don't want to have sex one day and my husband decides that " ItS ImMeDiaTe GrOuNdS fOr DivOrCe" then I'm clearly better off single. Arrivederci!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 09:33 PM
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So when I was little, my mom had a habit of not following through on things. So as a little kid I learned whatever I would get was not contingent on my behavior. Here's an example. Say I wanted to go to my friend's house and my mom asked me to X. I knew that I didn't have to do X if I didn't want to and I instead could keep watching TV or playing. I knew this because she would get mad and do it herself and then take me to my friend's house when she was no longer mad. Now my dad on the other hand…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 06:43 PM
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It's okay when they do it. Just not when it's done to them..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 06:04 PM
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Lool so had tried online dating about a year ago. I was talking to this one guy and we exchanged instas (big mistake). Before we were supposed to go on the date he did some rude things so I was like forget this guy, I'm not going on the date with him and ghosted him. Tell me how for almost a year this guy kept going on about how I ghosted him and he's losing all the respect and trust he had for me since I won't answer. Pretty much just kept having a convo with himself since I never answered. I s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 05:11 PM
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Why does it always seem to be the six month mark too? I've even had petty things like this at work. I once had an old manager come to the site I work at to let me know he doesn't work there anymore (he left six months prior) and acted as though I should miss him. He was also 20 years older than me. LOOL like wtf 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 05:01 PM
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If he's so happy with his new partner why did he feel the need to write this "thank you" letter? 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 04:32 PM
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Lool this is beautiful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 02:16 PM
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This just screams wanting male validation to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 11:10 AM
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This was one of the comments: "I recommend actually being forthright if you have interest, no matter the type of guy. I've never been the quiet type, but you could slap me with a card saying "Bang me" and I still wouldn't get it." LMFAO what nonsense. I've had guys that like me, find the most non flirting, mundane things such as "hello" be taken as a "hint". Men confirm this. If they like you, they will take pretty much anything as a "hint". LMAO I've even heard a guy say he could tell this cowo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 12:10 AM
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Same with me. They just want someone to do it for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 12:02 AM
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"So I started meeting him at his speed." His speed was in park honey. LMFAOOO 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 11:47 PM
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tHe FiRsT (and 2nd, 3rd, 4th, 5th) mOvE 🤡 In fact, the most empowered and bravest women make ALL the moves. 👌👍💪💋😻 I'm dead. LMFAAAOOO 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 11:44 PM
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Now tell me If it was the HOTTEST THING HE EVER SAW why didn't he accept her offer?🥴 LMFAOOO 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 11:25 PM
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Lool I've seen a woman do this and the husband didn't even complete his chart, while her kids completed theirs LMFAO. 🤡 I can't with the strategic incompetence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 08:45 PM
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I would die of embarrassment if my friend saw my attic full of my husband's piss bottles and cum shirts... OMG.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 04:52 PM
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And "we will make sure to get society as a whole shame you, if you do." Love your username btw! 🙂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 02:27 PM
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They think it's a big deal if a woman does it, just not a man. I've seen the uproar when women cheat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 01:59 PM
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women thanked him for his insight That's insane.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 12:22 PM
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Can you imagine if a woman made this same post? Men would be coming through the woodwork to attack her. Meanwhile plenty of men have said this and continue to and there's no backlash. Smh 🤦
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 12:17 PM
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I'm sorry, I don't find these remarkable things? He's showing everyone he has a sense of smell and can see? Why is this something to praise? This is below the bare minimum in terms of compliments. He's acting as though he should get a pat on the back for being so amazing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 10:03 PM
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I know I love Kurtis! He's so funny and just genuinely respectful. He also stands up for women and people of color a lot. It's so refreshing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 09:17 PM
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I wish I was one of the lucky chosen ones. Lmao! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 03:37 PM
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One time I shit you not - he posted a picture of a word he wrote because he was particularly proud of the way he wrote the letter 's' (his handwriting was not good and the s was not that exciting). Another time he posted a picture of a button he had sewn himself. One family member was like "wow! I see a costume designer in the future!" Thank you for sharing. I had a good laugh. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 12:19 AM
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✨ M A L E P R I V I L E G E✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 11:48 PM
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Women need to stop saying yes after saying no. Nobody repeatedly asks me anything. People will say my nos don't turn into yeses. When you say yes after a long period of time you are teaching them that your boundaries are negotiable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 08:02 PM
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God, I'm so tired. I think I've had enough of reddit today.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 06:01 PM
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"They didn't have sex, but slept in the same bed."Come on, how can you be this naive? 🤡😭 Especially after he openly admitted he likes the other girl. Then proceeds to say she still wants to marry him and have another kid that she doesn't want and he will mostly not take care of. 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 12:23 AM
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This is 100% the case here. She's wanted kids for the entire five year relationship with her ex but he kept pushing it off. She's an amazing mom. It's really nice to see. I think it's important not to jump into live long commitments like that with a man that isn't suitable. It can be super detrimental to the child. Let's hope her child doesn't end up suffering.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 07:33 PM
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This post is wonderful. Oh man, what a beautiful world it would be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 05:23 PM
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I will never understand why people want to have kids with a boyfriend. I had a friend that had a kid with her boyfriend of three months (after ending a five year relationship two months prior to them getting together.). They planned it too, apparently. 🤦 Now it's almost two years later. She talks about how they have a "ten year plan for the future" and she wants to clearly get engaged and will mention it while he just remains silent LOL. So awkward. So you don't want to get engaged but have a te…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 08:28 PM
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This is true. I've had the same experience. Abusers pick and choose who they abuse. The "they abuse everyone" notion is not true. They have even said themselves in documentaries how they pick people that won't stand up for themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 05:25 PM
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Yeah see what I mean. The fact that they are so shocked shows how little they are called out. Women are called out all the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 09:35 AM
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Leave it to men to always find a way to play the victim.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 01:25 AM
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Honestly I love calling men out. They almost always look flabbergasted that I'm not going to put up with their shit. Glad you're holding them accountable!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 01:19 AM
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I've never personally met a man who was into men's rights causes so much that he put his money where his mouth is. This is exactly why I ask what they are doing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 02:43 PM
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Happy to help! I swear being calm and assertive is such a beautiful thing. They can never call you EmOtIoNAl because you are calmly and politely telling them off. 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 02:42 PM
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It even works in arguments. I've had arguments where I'm setting a boundary and I've been told things like "oh I was just joking (they weren't) and you're being too sensitive. I just calmly say, "unfortunately, I am not interested in the reasons behind why you did something or whether or not you believe my feelings are valid. I am just looking to enforce that boundary. That being said, moving forward, I expect that this will not happen again. If however it does continue this is how I will react …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 02:40 PM
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"Besides silencing victims what are you doing about this? Because if all you are doing is protecting your ego by silencing scared women, you are part of the problem and ARE one of the men." Beautiful! Perfect response. Men need to be held more accountable for their opinions that no one asked for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 11:56 AM
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I think more people need to call them out in a way that they can't get out of. Say I'm with a group of people and I mention something that will garner a response "not all men" or "men face these issues too" I say "I agree, however we are talking about this specific issue. Since we cannot productively talk about separate issues at the same time, I'm going to continue with what I'm talking about. When I'm done then you can tell us more about your issue." When I'm done talking about whatever I was …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 11:21 AM
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Men need to realize strategic incompetence is still incompetence. They end up having their growth stunted. So stupid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 12:10 AM
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Sounds like you dodged a bullet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 09:00 PM
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What did you even say? What is he expecting? You to be like "oh since you said you will leave me alone, I actually agree."?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 08:32 PM
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I myself present the bare minimum while being maximally entitled. The effort of "walk date near my house" translates into the rest of my life. So far I was rewarded by society for this. Lmao. This sub kills me. 😂💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 08:05 PM
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when i disagreed he said I sounded tired so he'd leave me alone..... LMAO WTF
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 07:56 PM
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I (100M) went on a date with this foid (18f) I took her for a walk in the park, and then she bought me some McDonald's. The fact that he's 100. LOOL 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 06:03 PM
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The "Let's see if we feel a spark on a dog walk." guy and him could be bestfriends. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 06:00 PM
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She looks tired to the BONE. This is so sad. The way men take advantage of a system that tells women their worth is based on being married and having kids, is disgusting. His lack of empathy is alarming. I feel so awful for her and I don't even know her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 01:27 PM
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Daria gets it Notice how they 100 percent think what she's saying is true. I'm dead. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 01:13 AM
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LMMMMAAAAO honestly i laughed out loud. The AUDACITY. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 01:11 AM
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Except without the muscles or the hair or the skills or the affluence. LOL 💀😂 But yet have the same amount of ego.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 10:24 PM
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Gaston outranks OLD scrotes and we aren’t even talking about hairline. Lol, i'm dead. The bar is hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 10:23 PM
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LOOL I hated Gaston as a kid. I was like who the hell is this guy, thinking he can tell Belle what to do?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 10:19 PM
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LOOL honestly you're so funny. It's so accurate. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 09:02 PM
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Do you ever get the impression that he thinks women just sit around and do nothing and wait for a man to appear? Does he ever seem confused that you would do something that is not explicitly for male approval? I have felt and seen this 10000 times. I'm dead at the accuracy. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 08:43 PM
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No because they're convinced, utterly convinced, that men don't abuse "for no reason". All men are good and . wonderful and calm and rational and if they abused it's because she provoked him. "She must have done something". What did you say to earn a smack in the mouth? What did you do to set him off? To make him jealous? Their logic still makes no sense. If someone provokes me and I hit them I'm still in the wrong. I'm the one who still made that decision, as an adult to hit someone else. That'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 02:21 PM
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I think all the bad men make me appreciate the ONE (LOL SAD AS HELL IT'S ONLY ONE) HVM I know. I feel so grateful because I've experienced bad. It's so nice to know a genuinely GOOD man. It's like a breath of fresh air. I'm a firm believer that the bad creates depth and deep appreciation for the good. I'm not diminishing horrible experiences. I'm sure there's a lot people that would have liked to avoid certain experiences if they could, myself included. I just feel like whatever bad that happene…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 02:08 PM
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Ugh I literally CAN'T STAND men that say "women have life on easy mode". In what way sir? Is it the constant threat for our safety? The constant sexual harassment? The pay gap? The SYSTEMIC sexism (which is even more oppressive if your a person of colour)? The high rates of intimate partner violence? The SYSTEMIC conditioning that tells women they aren't good enough, pretty enough, smart enough, young enough, thin enough etc? The SYSTEMIC conditioning that tells women they aren't worth anything …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 01:02 AM
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Exactly, what a dumbass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 05:06 PM
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YES! Only weak, insecure people need to lord their experience or power over someone else. It's honestly really dumb though. Wherever people have acted like the fiancee I have lost respect for them. While the people that have been kind when I was learning something new, I have remembered years later and have so much respect for. The fiancee's approach is unfortunately way more common.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 05:01 PM
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If I asked my ex to slow down so I could run alongside him he said I was holding him back and ruining his progress, and being unsupportive. He could easily do some runs alone and work on his pace? Then keep your pace since you are running together. What an asshole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 04:48 PM
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Why even get engaged to him in the first place? This just shows MAJOR disrespect and bad character. I doubt this is the first red flag. I've been doing Muay Thai for four years. Wherever I spar or do padwork with a new person I am nice, patient and understanding even though they usually make way more mistakes than me and usually need a lot of direction. I've always appreciated the people that are kind, welcoming and patient when I learn new things so I try to emulate that. I would never act like…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 04:44 PM
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This just reads to me like he views her as a human fleshlight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 11:59 PM
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I would like to see the photos. A box cutter sounds insane. I'm so curious what it looks like. Glad you got out. Sorry you had to go through that, but you came out stronger.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 06:57 PM
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Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 05:27 PM
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Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 04:32 PM
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Thank you for posting it even though you were self concious. I know it's hard to do. Something that may help in the future, that helps me avoid situations like this is having firm boundaries about time. I'm really strict when it comes to time. The reason behind it is, you can never get it back. We are all going to die someday and we don't know how many days we have left. So to me, wasting my time is incredibly disrespectful. Especially since you could have filled your days up with other things a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 04:16 PM
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"I didn't give him a chance to try because he would have done something when he remembered." The bar is in hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 04:55 AM
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Oh God, it sounds like people that obsess over celebrities. They let them get away with everything. I hope he experiences some fall out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 04:25 AM
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I don't think anyone will take his advice seriously again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 04:17 AM
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Thanks so much!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 03:43 AM
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"The degenerate cumslut you aspire to be" No truer words spoken. I've spent my whole life aspiring to be a degenerate cumslut. 😍😍😘💞 /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 03:22 AM
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Scrotes genuinely believe that women go into a dormant stage after they leave So accurate. It's like they think we have no life outside of them. It's fucked. I'm the main character of my story, thank you very much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 02:57 AM
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LOL 😂 Btw your title was hilarious. I legitimately laughed at the third person part!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 02:39 AM
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I've had people call me heartless because I'm like this, but atleast it keeps me out of situations like this. For me, if you cross certain line with me, that's it. I will straight up just peace out and there will be no ReAcHiNg OuT after five years, ten years, hell even twenty five years later. A lot of people take it as holding a grudge but it isn't. I won't stay mad because it's detrimental to my well-being. But it's about learning from a situation. Once I learn someone is harmful to my well-b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 02:38 AM
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"Depressed women can be cured by a good dicking" LMAO 💀😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 02:20 AM
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Him talking is third person is so freaking weird, what was the point of that? I don't think he's sorry. If he was sorry he would not have made this video. He constantly just makes excuses for things people called him out on (like the weird body language).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 02:18 AM
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Saw this in the comments, lovely to see: "I hear stories like these all the time. Over my many years as a single adult female, all I keep thinking is, ‘why would anyone stay in a relationship like this?’. I get that society trains us to believe that being a part of a couple, marriage +- kids is what we must find and maintain at all costs, to be seen as a valuable member of society. But, at what price? For the individual and the children (and pets) involved. How can someone ‘love’ an individual t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 12:35 AM
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OMFG coworkers like this murder me slowly dear Jesus.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 12:29 AM
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a) that makes it any better 🤡 Lmao the clown emoji always kills me. It's perfect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 11:52 PM
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He doesn't respect her. Him saying their relationship is "nothing special." is so disrespectful. I would be livid, WTF. Divorce, sorry not sorry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 09:33 PM
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Thanks! I'm glad it helped you in some way. 🙂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 12:26 PM
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And from a "relationship expert". That's scary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 12:19 PM
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Some lovely parts of the article that really resonated with me. 🙃 Can you prevent your partner from having an affair?Yes absolutely, but it would be wrong to get paranoid about it. So incredibly toxic. What do I do if my partner has cheated on me? First of all, ask yourself a question. What do you want to have happen? And the immediate reaction is people feel hurt and betrayed and angry their whole world is suddenly shifted. It's easy to want to lash out and hurt the other person. But is that ac…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 03:10 AM
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Something that always helps me and hopefully will be helpful to others, is remembering this. If someone disrespects you and that results in you not being in their life, they don't value or respect you. Someone that values and respects you won't put themselves in a position to lose you. Anyone that has valued and respected me has CONSISTENTLY exceeded my expectations, and they are high. When you get back together with someone that doesn't respect you, they will treat you well until they are comfo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 02:43 AM
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Shit like this makes me fucking LIVID. I'm in a leadership position at my work and 90% of the employees are like this. It drives me insane that I can't block and delete at work (wish I could). I don't understand how grown adults want to be SO DEPENDANT. Do you not want to grow, change and get better? On top of that, before I was in my current position I have always made sure I knew everything so if anything happened to the other person (sick, got new job etc.) I was fine. So it's not "oh it's ju…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 11:16 PM
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Everyday it seems to get lower and lower.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 03:57 PM
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LOOL can you imagine? I would die.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 03:52 PM
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Thank you so much for posting this!!!! This is so sweet. Ugh it's so lovely to hear. Just to give hope to any women who are starting to think they're right, though... I once denied my husband sex for almost a YEAR because of mental health issues. Honestly, I was just depressed. Instead of constantly pestering me before going and jacking it in the bathroom, he replaced sex at night with extra long massages, replaced sex in the morning with not just the usual coffee, but with breakfast and snuggle…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 03:51 PM
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"If there is a spark over a dog walk." LMAO 😂 i think I have officially heard it all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 02:11 PM
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Hate seeing another woman be yet again GASLIT by men. But can I just say I love her strength. She's in her late teens and already has started developing a take no shit attitude. I'M HERE FOR IT. YES, DON'T LET HIM GET AWAY WITH SHIT. Even her response to the commenter, SHE'S NOT BACKING DOWN. I'M HERE FOR IT. Okay I'm going to stop excitedly yelling now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 02:06 PM
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Having to argue that your partner should value you and do nice things for you is an exercise in futility. They should already be doing that. I've never had to be asked for effort on birthdays or holidays because I want my partner to feel special and so I put in that effort myself. Like an adult with a brain. This^ Love your mindset Haha, a person like OP's husband would call you heartless and you can see how "valuable" they are, so don't even let them bother you :) You have a great point, thank …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 01:28 PM
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No problem! Have a great day!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 01:03 PM
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Yes, you can't make anyone listen or change. You can only control yourself. The communicate trap is so harmful to your self esteem. That must be so heartbreaking to even have to ask in the first place. Then after asking receive nothing. Thanks for sharing this! I'm going to screenshot this for later when I get called heartless for having boundaries LOL. This is the future without boundaries, you end up with men that were not vetted properly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 01:02 PM
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If I’d been more clear about my boundaries with myself, and not fallen into the trap of “communication” I would have saved myself so much pain. I agree. The messed up part though is that society gaslights you. Everyone tells you to communicate. The problem is, if someone doesn't want to change or listen you can't make them. You can only control yourself. There's a quote I heard once that ties into this. "Some people will not hear you regardless of how much, how loud, how truthful, how loving, or…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 12:58 PM
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Ikr it comes across as so disingenuous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 02:56 AM
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I watched the cheating video on youtube. The body language is so uncomfortable to watch. Didn't they just get married like a year or two ago? I remember seeing it on social media. There's no point of staying in a relationship when there is no respect. She needs to leave. She deserves so much more than this. Random, but her voice is beautiful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 02:34 AM
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LOOL ikr I'm dead. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 07:11 PM
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Imagine someone asking you what you do for a living and you say "I'm a sexual assistant". I'm dead LOL. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 07:01 PM
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HONESTLY YOU ARE SO FUNNY. Even your other comment. Just straight comedy gold. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 06:59 PM
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LOOOOOL 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 06:55 PM
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LOL ikr.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 03:35 PM
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Also, “Engagement rings are a scam. Did you know diamonds have no value? Back in the 19....” I’ve had several men on OLD start up with that. LOOL these are the same men that will propose with onion rings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 01:04 PM
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Is this the way this lady views older women? The way she talks is honestly kind of insulting towards women over 30. "I don't want to grow more old and more disgusting each passing day." WTF.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 10:55 AM
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She’s waxing poetic over guac and I guess him reading an employee handbook to her? Nasty. Agreed, it's really gross. In her case the guy isn't even anything special. He's literally just is older. She's acting as though he's a gift from God. He's also INCREDIBLY condescending, you see like 6 examples of this throughout the whole article. Also the ironing his pajamas is just plain weird.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 03:47 AM
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No one dies with you and comes back like “yea she got there alright.” I'm sorry I love this! You are so funny. I literally died at that. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 02:38 AM
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The Older Man was also my editor, which added a power imbalance to the mix—a dynamic we all know can be equal parts problematic and irresistible. What the hell is going on? Power imbalances are almost always abusive. How is that something to rave about? He gave me helpful advice on my career (“Don’t fuck your boss”) and about sex (“Stop screaming”). He also taught me what a 401(k) was. It was like an apprenticeship for life. Why is this considered groundbreaking advice? There are podcasts on unh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 01:22 AM
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The one older guy I was engaged to was 10 years older than me. And he kind of tricked me because he looked younger than he was. He was actually an undercover cop! He already worked in law enforcement but he ended up sticking with that because he could do it so well. Lmao. Should've been a warning to me about leading a double life and all that but I was genuinely intrigued by that.Had I initially known his actual age up front, I don't think I would've dated him. But because of his job he was more…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 06:49 PM
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Hi, I just wanted recommendations for more books that are FDS friendly. I'm currently listening to the audiobook of Why does he do that. It's fantastic. Anyways yeah I'm looking for books that will change my thinking. I also am a big fan of books that tie in sociology concepts. Even books around boundaries, communication styles. Here's some books ive read so people have an idea for recommendations: Daring greatly, daring to lead, hood feminism, outgrowing good, quit like a women, the nature fix,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 04:18 PM
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I mentioned upthread about parentification and how it makes the younger partner in this kind of relationship more susceptible to this kind of grooming but it actually made me recoil from it, since I hated being parentified by the one parent who did it most often. I've had a lot of older men try and date me and I've felt the same way as you, I recoiled as well. I'm surprised other people were more susceptible. I would have thought they would have reacted like us because they have experienced pare…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 03:50 PM
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LOOL WTF. Why is she doing a fake accent?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 11:37 AM
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I think people need to remember something too. As I've mentioned in previous posts, I literally had all the characteristic of a parentified child growing up. My parents were both very absent so I didn't have a choice. I have heard "YoU ArE mAtURe FoR YoUr AgE" or "YoU ArE An OlD SoUL" by coworkers, family and friends my whole life and I am legitimately mature. I also have seen how a lot of times I have thought differently than people my age because of my childhood. That being said though, I look…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 11:36 AM
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Yes! It doesn't flow naturally at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 02:52 AM
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So disgusting. It's really a sight to behold, the way men openly admit to using women while at the same time witnessing women be told "LoWeR YoUr StAnDaRdS, Or YoU WiLl Be AlOne." BY SOCIETY, NONETHELESS. Talk about being a men's world eh?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 02:49 AM
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LOOOOLLLLLL THIS COMMENT IS AMAZING. I LITERALLY LAUGHED. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 02:16 AM
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Is it just me or does her accent not seem real? Oh man, I really hate seeing women stand up for men as though they don't have enough privilege already. Women struggle way more than men. On top of that, look how many men are silent about women's issues because they benefit from women's struggles. Her sticking up for them will not make them stick up for her. Definitely looking for male validation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 02:16 AM
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LOOOOOOOOOOOLLLLL IM DECEASED 😂💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 12:28 AM
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😂 I'm dead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 10:17 PM
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Men have said themselves how if they are serious about a woman they will pursue her and pay. This lady is just setting herself up to be walked over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 10:14 PM
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One hundred percent agree! I feel even with things like scare tactics or mind games I will recognize much sooner than most people because of my LVM dad. I am also hyper aware of patterns of behavior and power dynamics, as both can lead to abusive situations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 01:02 AM
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This is a really good point, thank you for mentioning it. I didn't think of that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 10:05 PM
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I never realized how common is for women to leave and come back. All that does is teach him not to take you seriously. He literally didn't change a thing and she got back with him multiple times. The sister thing is so disgusting it's unreal and she still got back with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 09:57 PM
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"Not to mention the hours we text daily" has me completely deceased 😂, as though that's an amazing example of how he "cherished her". Even that is very telling. If a man thinks texting you is going above and beyond he is useless. He's worse then the expired leftover guy. And to think I didn't think anyone could be worse than the field guy. Men just keep outdoing eachothers bad behavior. It's like it's a competition to see who can do the least while being the most entitled. 😂 What a long winded w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 01:22 AM
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Oh man, can I just say he's HOT AS HELL. I'm loving his voice and eyes. Anyways, LOL why is this something that even needs to be said? This is common sense. He's acting like he had a major epiphany and now needs to share it with the world. I truly believe the men that don't help their partner or listen to their partners needs/wants are CHOOSING to do so. Being respectful of your partner's wants and helping them is the bare minimum. There's no way they wouldn't know they should be doing that. The…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 11:26 PM
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My reply might be a bit confusing so I screen recorded a demonstration. Hope it helps! I can do it now!! Thanks so much! THIS IS SO COOL 🙂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 12:03 PM
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Thank you so so much!! It was really nice of you to screen record too! Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 11:59 AM
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I love this! Agreed,.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 11:55 AM
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I love how even when women are dying of CANCER which is usually a very painful way to die, men still find a way to make it about them. I doubt he met up with her because of his deceased wife's "apparent wishes". But regardless, women can't even die without men making it about them. Why does him feeling lonely have to factor into this at all? WHO CARES? IS HE THE ONE DYING? LIKE PRORITIES! Have enough respect to honor your deceased wife then down the road after a respectful amount of time date wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 12:49 AM
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This just comes across as terribly naive to me. I really hope she didn't open herself up to now being manipulated by the same men that read this post. I feel like this is exactly what abusive men would love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 12:21 AM
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LMAO YES. This is perfect! 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 12:13 AM
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LOOL I LOVE THIS 🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 11:42 PM
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Exactly this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 11:38 PM
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When men start respecting, appreciating and valuing women then I will be nice. Until then I have no problem being rude. Men are not entitled to my number. On top of that have you seen how the majority of men act when you say no? They are rude and try to steamroll your boundaries. So instead of firmly sticking to what I originally said, it makes more sense to be nice? Has this girl not seen the way men walk over women? It's everywhere. The only time I agree with being nice is if a woman is in a d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 11:37 PM
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The probably don't even wipe their asses 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 09:33 PM
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How do you copy posts like what you just shared on mobile? I can only do it on my laptop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 09:19 PM
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I'm dead. 😂 How incredibly degrading.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 05:30 PM
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I checked the comments too. The amount of people suggesting CoMmUnIcAtiNG is appalling. Sigh, disappointed but not surprised. Why should you even have to tell a man "Hey, I don't want to eat your leftovers, especially expired ones" and "Hey I don't like when you don't order enough food for everyone." 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 05:11 PM
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LMAO YES. Perfect way to handle it. I love it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 05:03 PM
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I 💯 percent believe this is the case. He doesn't value her or respect her at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 04:30 PM
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The thing too is that it's not even being frugal. It's just being blantantly disrespectful and inconsiderate. Like who invites someone to their house and doesn't even provide enough food for them? If you can't date in a respectful manner, don't date. No one is holding a gun to his head and saying he has to be like that. He's choosing to be like that because he doesn't care and there's no consequences.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 04:01 PM
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Which is wild. He's clearly walking all over her. I would love to see the comments.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 01:15 PM
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It's truly amazing how a man will BLANTANTLY disrespect a woman and she will still be like "Am I In ThE wRoNg HeRe?" I'm so glad I found FDS. Before I did, I didn't realize how common it was for women to blame themselves when men disrespect them. Just on reddit alone you can come across tons of posts of men just straight up walking over women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 09:48 AM
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I think people need to remember too, that a guy could remember many things about you and still not care about you. I have a great memory and I will just remember things in general. I could hate someone and still remember small details about them, like how they take their coffee, how many siblings they have etc. It honestly irritates me sometimes because it seems like a waste of my memory storage, but I digress. People a lot of times think I care more than I do just because I remember everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 04:28 PM
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I'm so sorry you had to go through that. I am however super happy to see you supporting a woman through this. So lovely. Love your compassion and empathy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 02:05 PM
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I feel like a man calling a woman jaded, knowing damn well how low the bar is for men, is a red flag. Also, should everyone not be cautious in general? Should I leave my door unlocked because "NoT EvErYoNe StEaLs"? Should I leave my car unlocked with my purse inside because "NoT EvErYoNe StEaLs"? Like do you realize how insanely stupid that would sound if someone told me not to lock my door or car because "NoT EvErYoNe StEaLs.". Not everyone stealing is not the point. The point is that there is …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 01:08 AM
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I will never understand how love bombing doesn't freak people out. Whenever someone is doing things that are abnormal given how long they have known me, I FEEL UNCOMFORTABLE. I literally think "Stranger danger" in my head. Maybe I'm just cynical but I also think that since they barely know me they are not genuine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 12:03 AM
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Preach this is so true!!!! Whenever men do things like this to me, I say. "So right now I'm talking about my concerns. When we are done discussing that we can talk about yours, as it's counterintuitive to talk about seperate issues at the same time. Thanks for your understanding." If they do talk about whatever topic they interrupted with (which many don't as it's usually used to deflect) after I talk about my concerns, I make sure they are accountable for what they say. 🙃 So take for example, i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 11:06 PM
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Okay my only thing is how do I communicate this when I already smile a lot in general? Legit I can't tell you the amount of times I'm smiling and I don't notice until someone points it out. I've had a lot of guys tell me they couldn't tell if i was interested in them because I smile a lot all the time, I'm enthusiastic and I'm really friendly with everyone. They don't know if I like them or if I'm just being nice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 10:30 PM
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Wow those flowers are stunning!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 10:26 PM
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Preach!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 11:03 PM
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Why are so many women this naive? I've even seen it with women twice my age. I don't understand it. Women are villianized by other women so easily it's wild.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 09:58 PM
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I think any progress is still great.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 10:36 AM
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Agreed!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 10:34 AM
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I think women are socialized to live opposite to this, so I wouldn't be too hard on yourself. Agreed!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 10:33 AM
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I love this comment! Your mindset is so incredibly lovely. Ugh I love seeing strong women. It's so uplifting. I wholeheartedly agree. Thank you for writing this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 12:46 AM
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I'm dead💀😂 Theaudacity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 09:22 AM
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Does anyone else find it extremely unattractive when someone does something for you and expects major praise? Especially when it's bare minimum behavior? They should be doing nice things for you, not for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 09:21 AM
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I'm dead 💀😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 08:51 AM
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Yup, I've even seen it with men in higher up positions as well. You'd think they'd be more discreet given the position but no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 02:21 AM
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Horrible. But this message is so sweet!!!! Ugh I love when people go out of their way randomly to thank others. Thank you mods and everyone that contributes to this community! I feel so supported here! It's so lovely. Awwww this makes me so happy I'm literally smiling LOL. 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 02:10 AM
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I think women need to always be willing to walk away. Being afraid to lose someone can very easily keep women in abusive situations. Definitely don't think that's something to disclose either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 12:37 AM
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I'm sorry but making a 20 slide powerpoint is already bad. But for a guy that refers to you as a plate 😂. I'm deceased. Dear Jesus. At some point you need to help yourself. Wow, being with him sounds like the ultimate fantasy 🥰😍😍😍😍😍. The dread game, him not listening when you speak, him not saying he loves you back, his blantant disrespect AND how he calls you a plate. What more could women want? Perfect man alert! 🥰😍😍😍 /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 12:24 AM
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Right? LOL. Even in the workplace my male coworkers gossip more than the women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 10:51 PM
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I would expect men to pay consistently. I think men need to show you they are invested in you. I also want to date men that are generous and want to pay for me because they genuinely want to. Men that want to treat me well because of their character. I'm talking about independence in terms of things like having your own hobbies, having your own place, financial stability, creating and enforcing your own boundaries, having your own friends outside of the relationship. All of these things would re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 12:35 PM
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Yes you can. This is the definition of interdependence. "Interdependence suggests that partners recognize and value the importance of the emotional bond they share while maintaining a solid sense of self within the relationship dynamic." You need to have some dependency in a relationship. You can't be 100 percent independent. I understand that, what I'm saying is when I read it, I'm seeing things such as "the most abusive relationships my friends and I have been in are the ones where the men wan…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 10:41 AM
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Honestly, I think I'm just going to have to disagree on this one. I'm not a fan seeing independence being seen as the problem here, as though it attracts users. When it's clearly the lack of boundaries. It's like when people say things like "being nice gets you walked over." I don't agree. People pleasing does. Lack of boundaries does. Not holding people accountable does. I am very nice but I am very clear on boundaries and I will stick to whatever consequence I have set with overstepping that b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 01:57 AM
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?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 01:52 AM
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The problem is the very clear lack of boundaries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 01:52 AM
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Thank you! Exactly this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 01:48 AM
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"because the husband is merely useless." 😂 I'm deceased.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 08:01 PM
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I personally don't agree with this. I am an independent woman. Due to this I wouldn't put up with a dependent man that needs me to cater to him, as though I am his mother. Most independent women I know want independent men. The goal is interdependence. Two independent people that can be dependent on eachother, in order to foster a loving relationship, but are capable adults on their own. Plus being independent makes it much easier to leave abusive situations as you would be more likely to have s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 06:57 PM
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REALLY? that's wild. As though they don't have enough things for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 06:21 PM
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Incase anyone is curious.... this is what the replies look like: "None of this is okay. He is barely adulting at all. What does he do when you sit him down and tell him his behaviour is unacceptable, uncaring, and is making you think of leaving him? The financial situation really stands out to me. You don't have a joint account you both pay a set amount into each month and then that account covers all the bills, groceries and rent? Did he always mooch off you? Does he have a gambling addiction? …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 06:20 PM
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😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 04:16 PM
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I agree. He clearly has zero respect for her. He can't even get her a Christmas present until mid January 😂. What a useless man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 04:09 PM
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💯 agree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 04:04 PM
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💯 percent this^
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 03:56 PM
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And she still keeps giving it to him. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 03:55 PM
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Lool "but now she has two." 😂 I'm deceased.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 03:54 PM
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I agree. Love your mindset though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 03:54 PM
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Preach! 🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 03:51 PM
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It's funny when I was a kid and I heard women talk like this I thought they were so harsh. Now as an adult I think this is so smart. You need always have one foot out the door. This is why I think independence is super important.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 03:50 PM
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I agree. There had to be red flags and it always sounds like there was already a pattern of him not sticking to what he said. Patterns and red flags can prevent so much hurt. Women really really need to pay more attention to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 03:48 PM
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I HATE when I hear anything related to making someone whole. Such as "he's my better half" or "my whole life I was missing something until I found you" or "I wasn't truly happy until I found you". We are the main characters of our lives! It's amazing to have loving relationships, they add a lot to everyone's lives when they are healthy. BUT, we need to be great on our own. We need to be happy, fulfilled and whole on our own. It's so unhealthy to put your happiness, worth, fulfillment in ANYBODY'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 03:46 PM
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Right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 03:40 PM
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This is why you don't marry someone when you see red flags. This guy is fucked. HIS WIFE who he's supposed to love, care for and protect, needs extra things for her pregnancy and he's nickel and diming her. I am disappointed but not surprised.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 02:19 PM
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Men.. oh sorry I mean women, as a woman "wrote this". 😂 ALWAYS SEEM TO FORGET THERE IS A INTERNATIONAL MEN'S DAY. I just googled the date for this year. November 19, 2021. For someone who takes the time and effort to write a whole post you would think that they would atleast have known about International Men's Day. It's funny how men rant and rave about how it's unfair they don't have a day when they do. They just don't take the time to celebrate it. 😂 How can women be sexist if we are the marg…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 02:07 PM
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😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 01:59 PM
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Block and delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 01:59 PM
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If it's not a HELL YES, it's a HELL NO.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 03:33 AM
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Beautiful! Right on point with your message! Love it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 03:18 AM
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I'm dead 😂💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 02:42 AM
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LMFAAAAAOOOOOOOO 😂💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 02:23 AM
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Aww thanks, I appreciate the support 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 02:11 AM
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Love this! Preach!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 10:21 PM
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He doesn't respect her. She needs to leave. Women NEED TO STOP responding to scare tactics! Men use them way too much! If he threatens to leave you, LET HIM LEAVE. Why would you want to be with someone that constantly holds something over your head? I would literally rather DIE then give a man the power to hold something over my head. THIS IS MY LIFE, not his. I will do whatever the hell I want with MY LIFE. Scare tactics IRRITATE THE EVER LOVING SHIT OUT OF ME. I'm not scared, I'm angry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 10:18 PM
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My mom really fucked up my childhood. She was incredibly absent. When she was around she treated me like garbage and my brother like a king. She also would let my brother get away with everything while i got away with nothing. I literally had every characteristic of a parentified child. My mom used to literally joke with people that it's like I'm the parent and she's the child. Which is sickening looking back. It created major trust issues and I used to be very independent out of not wanting to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 10:04 PM
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"Always let her pay." 😂 I'm sorry this whole post has me dead. I literally laughed out loud. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 07:00 PM
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Busuu. You have to pay for it but I highly recommend. It's the best language app I've found besides Anki.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 12:06 PM
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Time to play what objects are women today!? Drumroll please.... Exotic rental cars. 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 01:42 AM
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That's wild. I didn't know these things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 01:34 AM
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😂 "Social butterfly he was always meant to be." I'm dead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 01:32 AM
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This comment is gold.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 01:17 AM
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"If women thought the benefits of feminism to men." I'm assuming he means if women showed men how feminism benefits men? If that's what he's going for... WHY DO THINGS NEED TO BENEFIT MEN FOR THEM TO HELP? Look how much they benefit already? Why can't they just help to help? That's like asking someone to help the homeless, then someone replying "You should really be showing me how helping the homeless helps me, then I will." (BuT pRoBaBlY nOt StIlL). 🙃 What a dumbass. It'sAllMen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 01:16 AM
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OMG I had this happen the other day! I'm learning Italian. My first language is English and I am aware I write well. I need to write well for my job, as we have the ministry come in. So on the app I'm using, native speakers correct non native speaker's exercises. So I correct someone's exercise in English. Tell me how this random guy WHO IS LEARNING ENGLISH then comments on my correction and tells me "that's not right, but nice attempt." LOOL LIKE THE AUDACITY IS AMAZING. 😂 That's like me going …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 10:14 PM
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No problem! I'm glad you were able to grow from a bad experience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 10:56 AM
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"It's so exhausting having to text first and plan a date." Meanwhile the date consists of something along the lines of "Hey, there's this field I know." 😂 I'm dead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 12:39 AM
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This is very insightful. Especially this: "Now that I'm a bit more emotionally removed, I think that no woman is ever going to satisfy his never ending void, and he won't admit it." and this "because of him, I learned valuable lessons about boundaries, standards, learning when to walk away, and never attaching your worth to what other people think of you." You are very wise. It's so lovely to see. I'm sorry you had to go through that but you have such a lovely mindset despite it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 05:13 PM
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Oh I'm definitely going to check it out. I love to read. Thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 04:41 PM
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I have no idea what that is. I will look into it thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 04:41 PM
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I'm from Canada and I can confirn this blame the woman mentality is prevalent here as well. So true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 04:40 PM
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LOL WTF is going on. What did he even say to that? That's so incredibly hurtful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 04:39 PM
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I wish I could upvote this x1000. 100% agree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 04:39 PM
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Preach! 🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 04:38 PM
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Lool that's so fucked that he just casually is like "hey by the way you need to see me once a week or I will cheat on you." 😂. Glad something positive came out of it in the end!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 04:38 PM
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RIGHT? I love your mindset :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 03:02 AM
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Can you imagine being a teenage girl and seeing this? Heartbreaking. I 100% agree. Cheating is an example of bad character through and through. If a man isn't happy he can respectfully end the relationship. Cheating is just a selfish way to have your cake and eat it too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 02:48 AM
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I agree with this. I think it's so terribly sad though for an entire society to gaslight women and make them feel like they aren't good enough. But what else is new.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 02:35 AM
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What a lovely skit. 🙃 Really shows how he knows how low the bar is for men but continues to gaslight women. Thanks for letting me know this! I was not old enough to remember the whole hillary Clinton thing. That must have been terrible for her to go through.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 02:32 AM
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"I'm just an impatient person sometimes." she says after stating she's been a forever girlfriend for almost ten years. I'm dead😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 02:27 AM
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Really? That's insane. It's wild how common societal gaslighting is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 02:24 AM
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I love this! Thanks for posting this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 02:10 AM
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Love the article. Especially this " Explaining to someone how to treat you with the basics of love, care, trust and respect or repeatedly laying out why something doesn’t work for you or is hurtful, is incredibly devaluing." They should be respectful from the onset.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 09:21 PM
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Love your mindset. Wholeheartedly agree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 08:49 PM
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I also just find it insulting. Like can you imagine communicating "hey i actually don't like you giving me attitude." Why should they even NEED to be communicate that? Who would like that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 08:35 PM
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I don't think all women don't know. I just don't see the point in me spending time engaging with someone I don't know. If it's a friend of mine then yes I will hold them accountable. But if I don't know them personally I'm not going to take it personally, even if it is. I rather just ignore them. Seems more productive to me personally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 08:08 PM
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THANK YOU. It's such a waste of time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 07:26 PM
1

This is super useful for toxic people at work. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 05:07 PM
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I'm dead 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 04:29 PM
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Yeah it's very similar.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 02:52 PM
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"He got really lucky because she's from a stereotypical background where she was essentially doing all the house work by age 16 and used to pleasing people." 😂 I'm dead. They say men have no idea what they are doing, even though they are strategically picking women that will do everything for them. 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 02:39 PM
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Agreed! Happy to see that you are growing though! No problem
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 12:27 PM
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No it's a different person. I don't know their actual name. They go by butterflies rising
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 12:26 PM
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I have no idea how his reaction didn't bother her. She seemed so pleased.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 03:58 AM
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LMAOOOO I know! Is it just me or did he seem annoyed she proposed before him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 03:56 AM
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I agree to an extent. I am very big on boundaries. I am very clear, kind and firm about them. The way I look at it is, in order for me to be loving, kind, generous and engaged I need to take care of myself. So, I set boundaries that will keep me out of resentment and keep myself happy. However, I do think many people do things that are obviously viewed as rude. Some example being late half an hour late, giving attitude or yelling. Then they continue to do so unless they are called out even thoug…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 03:34 AM
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No problem! Glad to help spread positivity!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 03:23 AM
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I'm sorry can you imagine buying your own engagement ring, giving it to him and having him put it on your finger in a very unenthusiastic and uncomfortable manner? 😂 iliterallyratherdie
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 03:20 AM
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I have never understood this. The person your partner cheats with is not in the relationship with you? Therefore, why would your partner not be the one to face consequences as they are the one that you are dating?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 03:14 AM
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Right. I wish I could upvote this x10
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 03:07 AM
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Man I know I love the ending about being a blessing. Butterflies rising has a lot of really good quotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 02:17 AM
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Lmao 😂 i'm literally laughing out loud.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 01:35 AM
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WHY COULDN'T HE WAIT? Men literally act like if their needs aren't met 24/7 they will die. WHEN ARE WOMEN'S NEEDS MET. Women's needs are always overlooked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 01:19 AM
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I love how women are EXPECTED to go without sex when there is something going on with their partner. Say their partner got into a car accident and couldn't have sex for a while. On what planet would people be like "Women have needs, it's okay to cheat. It's so ok that their partner (that is suffering from a major car crash that they may never recover from) WANTS them to." Because of course we prioritize the partner who isn't suffering from something traumatic over the survivor right? Even the pa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 01:16 AM
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If men put even half the amount of energy that they exude when trying to get an ex back into their relationships, the world would look so different. PS: I love your nail color!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 01:08 AM
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The entitlement of men is truly remarkable. I don't think I have ever in my entire life seen an more entitled group of people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 10:14 PM
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She's so cute 🙂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 10:10 PM
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My husband as the boss 🤮🤮🤮 I can't stand this approach to relationships. Equal decision making or nothing. I can't stand when people take away my right to make a decision.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 03:37 PM
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I love this post. It's lovely to see a man want you to be treated well and have standards. It should be a norm. But it's not. I'm here for the positivity today after the story about the guy that manipulated his wife into having children. Dear Jesus.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 01:53 AM
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😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 01:29 AM
4

Wouldn't men feel embarrassed to wear those?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 01:13 AM
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I didn't even think of that. You are so right. He clearly doesn't respect her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 01:00 AM
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i love your username
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 12:46 AM
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I think this is a prime example of why we don't lower our standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 12:38 AM
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I'm sorry these parts leave me truly amazed. 🙃 "You might also consider: It’s hard to be romantic on command. It’s hard to be demonstrative when you’re walking on eggshells, wondering every time if your efforts will be met with approval or criticism. " Is it though? Is it hard to demonstrate things if you really want to? It is hard to respect your partner and their needs? Women have been doing that for centuries. "It’s hard to love someone who can’t always take it in. In these ways, he’s expendi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 10:29 PM
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I can't believe this guy really said he won't forbid it.... Is he her dad? He's not the one wearing it so who cares what he thinks? I love how she feels doesn't seem to matter 🙃 It's funny, when I was a child I literally thought men would buy (with only their money) their fiancee a ring they would love regardless of if they liked it themselves. I used to also think people only got married out of love 🙃. What a time to be alive 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 10:17 PM
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Lool It's the lack of shame, bad morals, lack of empathy, lack of respect and lack of effort for me. 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 04:32 PM
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I love your username! Yes it's depressing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 10:36 PM
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I love how he acts as though getting a co-worker pregnant is a small mistake. The lack empathy leaves me not surprised, but at the same time amazed. The way men can compartmentalize, make everything about them, be insanely entitled and abusive and then at the same time be incredibly hypocritical is wild to me. There is zero respect in this marriage. Funny how even in decent men, as I have met a few I still see these same traits in a milder degree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 07:34 PM
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I love this💖 Thank you for sharing this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 07:22 PM
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Yes!!! How someone makes you feel is an amazing indication of if they are someone you want in your life. Great point. Omg I relate so much to this! I have a major baby face and genuinely smile a lot so people always think I'm more naive then I am, as well. Honestly I think it works in our favor though because they don't expect us to be watching them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 05:38 PM
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Women need to stop letting men dictate our relationship. We are the ones that determine how our relationship plays out. If he's not able to provide whatever standards are set we need to leave. We have so much power in simply just saying this is not serving me and walking away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 02:13 PM
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I always prefer knowing the truth rather than a sugar coated version. However, sometimes I feel so tired.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 10:54 AM
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Yes, honestly I think it's very silly to tell people a lot about you when you don't know them. It makes you easy to manipulate. While if you just listen it's easier to see patterns because they don't know to hide things you do not like yet. Even when someone asks me a lot of questions and offers nothing about themselves it raises red flags for me. I will start saying "how about you?” "what are your thoughts on that?".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 01:08 AM
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People really need to pay more attention to patterns of behaviour, rather than words. The truth lies in what people do consistently. If she looks at the patterns of disrespect that he displays towards her there would be nothing he could say to keep her around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 10:24 PM
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I don't know if it's just because I've always been a cautious person but these types of things have never worked on me. I am someone who looks at patterns of behavior. If I see repeated signs of things I think are shady (ex: negging, inconsistent communication, moving too fast, love bombing and fake vulnerability) I will not deem someone trustworthy. I am cautious about giving out any kind of information about myself unless I deem that person trustworthy. I also tend to ask a lot of questions. I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 10:02 PM
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Can you imagine someone saying that to you in r.l I would literally laugh. Or ThErE's ThIs PaRkInG LoT I KnOW. I would literally die, honestly. Comedy gold.😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 03:54 PM
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I forget the other references ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 03:53 PM
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Women really don't understand how much power we have. We control our lives. She really needs to lay down what she wants and move on when he shows her yet again that he is not willing to provide it. Time is so precious and irreversable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 11:08 AM
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I'm dead 😂. They literally tell on themselves. They are basically saying "Hey, I'm going to half ass your birthday. Due to this there is no point in doing a lot for my birthday. ". I just feel like wherever I see a guy that half asses things I think it's actually a no from me? He's going to keep that same energy with you if he's doing that to other people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 08:38 AM
6

Ofcourse, why just be a pick me when you can be a cool girl as well? 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 08:29 AM
4

Don't forgot consideration! I'm lost too as to how you subtly communicate that. I can't imagine a husband saying that to me. THE AUDACITY. I'm dead. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 08:28 AM
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LMAAAAAO I'm dead. The accuracy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 02:04 AM
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There's this field I know....🙂 I'm sorry seeing "walks" as one of the options is hilarious to me. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 01:31 AM
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Of course, it's so thoughtful right? 😍😍😍😍😍 All the time and effort put into finding just the right field to walk through. I'm swooning /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 01:00 AM
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LMAOOOOO I'm dead 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 12:59 AM
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Yeah I checked out her other videos I love her video on the topic "boys will be boys" Thanks for sharing with everyone!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 12:56 AM
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Ugh God I love this sub. It's so lovely to feel validated in world that has constantly invalidated me. I love her. She's so articulate. It's inspiring.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 12:03 AM
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I'm dead. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 10:41 PM
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He's providing care and consideration. 🙃 I love how I always see posts like this where its like "he's such a lists generic positive traits, man." Then proceedes to give many examples of how he doesn't add any value to the relationship. Then, proceeded to ask "WhAt ShOUlD I dO To MaKE oUr RelatIonShIp BeTTeR?" You can't have a healthy relationship without both parties engaging in a healthy dynamic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 10:21 PM
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I'm sorry but the "He subtly let me know he didn't expect to pay any bills" part killed me. 😂 The lack of shame is hilarious. LOL wtf is going on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 10:08 PM
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😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 10:03 PM
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I sleep in a sleeping bag because I don't like to make my bed... I'm deceased. 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 10:03 PM
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Don't worry I will go to him for my birthday. Wouldn't want to inconvenience him on MY BIRTHDAY, right? I mean picking out a parking lot for us to celebrate my birthday is already asking a lot. I just have a great boyfriend that does so much as you can tell, so he's willing to go all out for me.😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍 /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 08:11 PM
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lmfaaaoo i'm dead. 😂😂 I swear to God i love this sub. You are hilarious. I'm literally laughing out loud. "His sense of equality" dkm. 😂😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 08:06 PM
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Then it's only fair for her to request money for the gifts she gave him for his birthday, right? 🙂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 08:00 PM
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I hope for my birthday this year my boyfriend is kind enough to take me to a parking lot. 😍😍😍😍😍🥰😘😘😍 The thoughtfulness leaves me in tears, am i right ladies? /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 07:51 PM
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I love how every time a woman writes a complaint like this men are always in the comments like BuT wHaT dId YoU dO fOr HiS bIrThDay? and NoT AlL MeN. As though it had not been show time and time again that women are CONSISTENTLY more thoughtful, kind and put way more effort in relationships. There are a zillion example just like this one. The level of delusion is truly amazing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 07:47 PM
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The way I look at it is even though it's clearly depressing. Women are so much emotionally tougher than men because we have not had it easy in life. If roles were reserved they wouldn't be able to half of the things women can. We can always become better from hard things if we choose to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 06:47 PM
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Of course. The world is not set up to benefit women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 06:31 PM
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Lmao 🤣 I'm dead. But I can save him from himself. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 04:40 PM
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YES. 💯 percent this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 03:55 PM
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I think if you surround yourself with the right people you will not feel annoying. If someone respects you they will make you feel safe, valued and loved. If you do something they do not like they will express that in a way that is productive. I just it's more the people in your life than you. I think the more important questions to ask are: does this person respect me? Does this person add value to my life? Would this person move mountains for me?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 03:54 PM
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I'm deceased. You know pickmes will be lining up for the opportunity. 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 03:43 PM
4

What restaurant is this? Looks amazing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 03:34 PM
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I feel like those men are secure with themselves. When you are secure and confident yourself, you will want to build others up and don't look at them as a competition. In my opinion I rarely see men do any work on themselves. It ends up being like " I don't feel good enough so I will tear down the woman I'm supposed to love and support, so I can feel better about myself." It's easier for them to tear a woman down than doing the work on themselves to create a healthy self esteem. Women end up bei…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 02:30 AM
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What a time to be alive.... 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 02:15 AM
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preach!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 11:49 PM
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I wanted touch on a more traditionally "masculine" hobby. I have been doing muay thai for four years. Men have constantly told me things like "oh you know if we got married you would have to stop doing that." "that's a really manly hobby to have" "i don't think women should be fighting". I love muay thai and I never let their comments bother me. On top of that, the men that I used to spar with were always super supportive of me and honored my strength. I think the men making comments about my ho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 08:19 PM
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It truly amazes me how common it is for men to have no respect for their partners.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 03:35 PM
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I'm dead 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 02:57 PM
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I feel like when men say "tell me what to do" it speaks on having a lack of respect for their partner. If they were coming from a respectful place they would not need to be asked. They would just naturally think about their partner and help without being asked or just come in and start helping. If there is respect there, then if their partner is for example cutting carrots they will just come in and start helping with peeling the next carrots. If there is respect THEY WILL WANT TO HELP YOU. Cons…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 04:43 AM
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This video helped me a lot with dealing with coworkers that are very negative and are not team oriented. Hopefully it helps you in some way. It helped me to reframe the way I looked at a lot of situations. https://youtu.be/Lu1UamHgIbI
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 03:15 AM
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It's amazing how normalized it is for men to bring nothing to the table but still feel entitled to a wonderful partner :). Blows my mind truly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 02:31 AM
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That's so sweet :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 01:57 AM
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