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#JustLVMThingsbreadandbunny/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 02:46 AM
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How-To High Valuebreadandbunny/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 03:09 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYbreadandbunny/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 03:59 PM
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STRATEGYbreadandbunny/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 04:51 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYbreadandbunny/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 06:57 AM
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LEVEL UPbreadandbunny/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 09:42 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYbreadandbunny/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 10:21 PM
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LEVEL UPbreadandbunny/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 06:15 AM
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LVM LOGICbreadandbunny/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 10:10 PM
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SHOWER THOUGHTbreadandbunny/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 05:17 AM
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STRATEGYbreadandbunny/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 02:21 AM
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SHOWER THOUGHTbreadandbunny/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 12:43 AM
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#JustLVMThingsbreadandbunny/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 01:19 AM
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How-To High Valuebreadandbunny/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 04:23 PM
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DISCUSSIONbreadandbunny/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 05:10 PM
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WHOLESOME CONTENTbreadandbunny/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 12:07 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYbreadandbunny/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 04:04 PM
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#JustLVMThingsbreadandbunny/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 06:33 AM
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MOOD FOR LIFEbreadandbunny/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 04:20 PM
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DISCUSSIONbreadandbunny/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 09:37 PM
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STRATEGYbreadandbunny/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 06:59 PM
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#JustLVMThingsbreadandbunny/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 02:16 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYbreadandbunny/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 03:50 AM
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LVM LOGICbreadandbunny/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 12:41 AM
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FDS SUCCESS!breadandbunny/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 06:55 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYbreadandbunny/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 07:19 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYbreadandbunny/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 06:47 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYbreadandbunny/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 04:30 AM
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MOOD FOR LIFEbreadandbunny/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 03:57 PM
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DISCUSSIONbreadandbunny/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 10:56 PM
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Right?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 07:30 PM
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This kind of shit makes me NEVER want kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 07:29 PM
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I wholly agree. If someone cares about you, they think about these things and do stuff to show it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 06:43 PM
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I have known this type of person. It's sickening and not worthwhile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 06:41 PM
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Thank god I'm with a guy who gives me multiple orgasms. I feel sorry for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 09:54 PM
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Is the "stone" a literal piece of poop?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 03:25 PM
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These folks have no shame.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 04:55 PM
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These are really good tips! Ages ago, I stopped buying a brand of lotion I used to always use because I always used it when I visited an ex. It's funny how you begin to associate certain things with people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 04:54 PM
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This is why I am a fucking hawk for narcissistic tendencies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 07:47 PM
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They're literally incompetent. What is the point of having a brain in one's skull if they can't even think with it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 07:45 PM
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Hand to God, hell is empty and all the devils are here. I am glad you are free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 04:03 AM
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Facts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 05:04 PM
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This is something I never knew. They say that "behind every great man is a great woman." Well, they're not behind them. The men just step in front very often.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 01:34 PM
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YUP
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 02:25 PM
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I thought it was good for the reasons you mentioned, too. But I remember pointing out to my boyfriend that they kept putting Scarlett's behind in view. I expected that, but I loved the aspect of women taking control of their own bodies. I really hated that she didn't get to learn her mom's name.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 08:55 AM
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And dudes think we are living on cloud nine for some dumbass reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 08:38 AM
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True. Reminds me of an ex-friend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 08:32 AM
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I can't imagine going through life just trying to trick every person who comes my way. There are a lot of narcissistic men out there. This behavior is pathological. I'm glad you didn't fall for it, and I pity the people who go forth with good intentions and fall for this fuckery.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 01:12 AM
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This is something I learned the hard way, and it is so true and I couldn't have stated it better, but it was a feeling. After my last awful relationship, I told myself to never get that way again, especially about a dude. You will lose your light doing this with LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 04:12 AM
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💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 04:09 AM
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Utterly disgusting. I wish dudes like this could just be flung directly into the sun.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 04:06 AM
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Glad to hear it!
/r/ExRedPill15/07/21 04:04 AM
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This is a good point. I have actually been wondering for a while whether there are any male communities such as you have described. It seems like people here are giving you some good places to try.
/r/ExRedPill15/07/21 12:56 AM
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I feel like it's a different kind of disappointing when a woman falls for red pill trash. Anyone, really, but especially women. I've seen women come out of that rabbit hole, but it often doesn't happen until they realize that the men who have those same views always treat them poorly. It's very sad. Congrats on turning around!
/r/ExRedPill15/07/21 12:53 AM
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Especially if you tell a dude exactly what another one said and did to you, then they sit there and STILL try to give the benefit of the doubt to a bad man. Tf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 07:00 PM
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Congrats on the freedom! Life is too short to be with someone awful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 02:20 AM
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I love cats! I just want a gorgeous Victorian.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 02:45 AM
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It's so true! And despicable. I've heard some of the greatest hits, such as, "🤡 It's your fault your feelings got hurt because you should have known I'm a liar."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 04:53 PM
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I wholly agree!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 04:59 AM
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I think this is good advice. I remember going to the gym with an ex and he basically immediately wanted to leave. I honestly feel that my health is the most important thing to me, and I like a partner who is interested in that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 04:37 AM
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Learnt this the hard way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 04:26 AM
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These things thoroughly describe some of my exes. I actively avoid anyone with those qualities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 04:21 AM
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That infuriates me. I would never want to be in a situation like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 10:13 PM
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I'm glad I don't fall for that shit anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 11:26 PM
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This describes every dude of my past to a T. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 05:31 PM
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What a great guy! She and her son snagged a good one. 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 06:44 AM
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I truly value putting positive energy out into the world, which is in many ways a horrible place. One of the ways that I spread positive energy is to be kind. I can't stand that men often think this is an invitation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 05:38 PM
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Any time! I feel that this is an important space for women to educate and strengthen themselves! 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 09:26 PM
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These are things that absolutely terrify me, and I can sympathize to a degree (wasted thousands of dollars flying across the country for a man who was more interested in all his exes and shady sex stuff than ever being in a committed relationship). I don't like the idea of moving in when I am in the honeymoon phase for reasons such as you extensively described. I now constantly look out for signs of the narcissistic mask slipping and lack of effort (which I thankfully have not seen in my current…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 06:50 PM
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Yes, make it active and not passive. Nobody holds a gun to a man's head and makes him cheat. It is purely a choice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 11:05 PM
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I think this is the sort of post that needs to be stickied. People think we are overreacting. Dudes literally murder us for declining dates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 11:04 PM
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Jesus Christ of Nazareth, why does this world HATE women SO much?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 10:44 PM
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I really love the content shared in here. It teaches some important lessons. I wish I had found this sub three years ago. Coulda saved myself some pain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 10:42 PM
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I firmly believe this. You never know what could happen. That is part of why I am determined to have my own career and make enough to at least support myself. Plus, I have been in school for way too long to not make something out of it for myself. I refuse to not be making my own money. My boyfriend is very caring and a provider, some of my favorite qualities in a mate. He even offered to lend me money to stop me from once again getting stupid monthly fees for having a balance that is too low (I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 10:33 PM
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Just might!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 02:31 AM
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I have a degree in psychology, yet it took me a while to realize exactly what was wrong with a particular ex. I am fairly certain, especially after working extensively in inpatient psychiatric care over the past four years, that he was a covert narcissist. Textbook character traits: telling "jokes" that are really just insults, sensitivity to criticism (look into what is called narcissistic injury--VERY frequent in an ex I had), silent treatment, including depression and anxiety. And I knew that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 01:35 AM
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If you have used a hitachi, how would you compare the two? Just asking b/c my boyfriend recently asked me if I wanted him to get me a suction vibrator. I love the hitachi. But I have to take breaks from it because you can really desensitize yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 10:43 PM
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It's a whole new level. It says a lot about how poorly men treat women. So horribly that we would rather be alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 10:42 PM
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Yup! Several times in the past. Sometimes it is so random that I literally forget who it even is who is texting me. I rather enjoy the blocking part of that process! If someone didn't want you then, they don't have the right to keep coming crawling back. FOH.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 10:40 PM
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Various things my exes have done to me are now very clear signs that someone is not into me or my energy. These things include: (1) refusal to communicate (especially around conflict), and include tactics such as blocking me, literally saying, "talk about something else," stonewalling, minimizing things that are an issue for me in relationships, refusal to hear what I'm saying to them and make sense of it when I have always been able to take a step back and see things from a partner/friend's per…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 10:32 PM
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Yes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 02:51 PM
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👏🏿
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 12:56 PM
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It is r*** culture for sure. I fucking hate it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 07:44 AM
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Extremely valid point that is always overlooked! Men know what the problem is, they just refuse to say it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 09:04 PM
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I'd say it's a male problem in general. A lot of them just seem to not care about hygiene.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 02:39 AM
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👏🏿
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 05:52 PM
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When I was 19, I liked and looked up to one guy. He was cool, and we hung out a lot. Then I found out his political affiliation and that soiled it for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 05:51 PM
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Honestly, in every experience I've ever had, with the exception of ONE guy who had religious obligations around cleanliness, men do not practice good hygiene. They don't shower for 2+ days in a row or brush their teeth and wonder why you don't want to suck them off or French kiss. Oh my god, it is not that hard to take a proper shower or brush your goddamn teeth for 2 minutes TWICE a day. It's ridiculous!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 05:48 PM
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Almost all these perfectly describe my ex. So glad to be done with that fuckery.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 12:52 AM
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I would literally divorce a man if he did this to me. WTF.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 12:50 AM
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This is so disgusting. Why are men like this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 12:47 AM
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This is a true fact, unfortunately. Been through three of these things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 02:53 PM
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This is the reason women have to be cautious, and it sucks! If they would just be decent human beings, we'd feel safer about dating. But a dude is an imbecile if he really thinks you naturally have gold eyelids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 12:29 AM
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He's hilarious and I love his ruthlessness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 01:29 AM
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Tell him he's helping you workout and that you wanna stay strong! 😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 04:11 PM
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That is the sweetest thing ever. Awwww! 🦎 If my boyfriend and I were lizards, he would without a doubt do this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 04:06 PM
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As I'm sure you already know, orgasm is really great for strengthening the pelvic floor! I'm nulliparous, but I got stronger just from having orgasms from PIV. I honestly think it's better than kegels for that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 10:24 PM
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I'm very glad to be with my boyfriend, as he has no trouble finding and stimulating my G spot and A spot. I wasn't really aware of the latter spot before being with him. Wow...sex is like fireworks now, and everything I had before him I don't feel even counts. I can't stand to see women tolerate orgasmless sex (especially in combination with a man who treats them poorly). It's definitely possible, and is more likely to happen when you're with a guy that actually cares about your sexual pleasure.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 10:21 PM
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Do women really believe these things will save their relationships? Men do not care if they have a baby with you, they will walk away. This should be common sense, but common sense isn't really real, unfortunately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 06:04 PM
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"Keep pushing you all the way to hell if they can get away with it." Damn. I am saving this comment so that I NEVER forget this. Well said!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 10:47 PM
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I think this might be part of why messes literally cause me anxiety. My heart rate will go up and I will slam shit angrily into the trash. I've also dealt with narcissists, and they are so goddamn messy. Messes are indescribably heart-rate-elevating to me. With narcs, the mask always eventually slips. Same with sociopathy. They know how to mirror people and take advantage of them. I hate it with a passion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 10:44 PM
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Same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 10:42 PM
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This makes me so happy. I want my own house SO incredibly badly. I'm determined to get one when I can afford it, in a relationship or not. It is something I absolutely must have for myself. You are so fortunate! Congratulations!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 04:02 PM
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A very good question. "The side effects!" males complain. Listen. Women have been dealing with side effects since Sanger, some of which include deadly embolism with birth control in some women. We need to STOP putting the full burden of birth control solely on women. It takes TWO.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 05:45 AM
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I wish I could somehow help every woman who might date one of my crap exes before it would ever happen. Because the things these guys do and then not care how it affects someone who comes to them with pure intentions...there has got to be a special place for them in hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 10:40 PM
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What is wrong with some dudes? Seriously? This is disgraceful. Imagine being this huge of an asshole. I can't. I have a strong feeling that men who find this funny are fricken neckbeards. Ew.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 03:18 AM
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Preach! 🙌🏿
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 05:35 PM
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Ftp!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 05:09 PM
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His external appearance matches the way he treats her: like crap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 05:07 PM
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I have so much gratitude for making a decision to never accept poor treatment from a man again. I no longer worry about ending up single (even though I am not). I genuinely don't give a hoot anymore, I will not tolerate manipulative nonsense. If I see it, I will call it out, and cut that person the hell out of my life. I love myself enough not to endure crap from anyone anymore. I think being in a bad relationship really taught me a lot!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 05:04 PM
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Same!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 05:01 PM
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I'm seriously genuinely disgusted by an overwhelming number of men. Constantly, I hear them say things like this. A lot of them do not deserve to be fathers. Wtf?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 05:00 PM
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This is so true! She worded it well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 02:06 PM
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Very strange. I had a slew of random DMs recently. But have no idea how unattractive the dudes were.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 07:06 PM
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Your baby's father passed? I'm sorry to hear that. 💕 I get very smiley and weepy when I think of my prospective daughter. I'm sure I would feel very positively about her. I just fear being abandoned by the person who would help me make her and then having to struggle to take care of her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 03:45 PM
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It is sad and pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 03:42 PM
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It be like: 🤡 "She better have a giant bottom and flat stomach and long hair and a good job, meanwhile I can't even master basic hygiene!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 05:51 PM
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I think about this often. I think one should never stop working on herself. I'm in the happiest relationship I've ever been in right now. This is the first time I have ever been treated well, and consistently. And I can't pretend that it hasn't made me extremely happy. Regardless, I keep in mind my personal goals and what I am working on for myself. Everyone should strive for that. It's ultimately healthy to the self. I also try to mentally prepare myself for how relationships sometimes fail. It…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 04:53 PM
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She was unbothered!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 04:40 PM
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"I don't want to face the emotional consequences of my actions," describes my ex to a T. I'm not sure he was actually intelligent enough to gaslight with intention, but I know he knew he was wrong in many situations and that he treats people extraordinarily shittily. There isn't an excuse at that point. Coward couldn't even talk to me on the phone while breaking up with me. I'll never understand how a person reaches that point where they get like this. I would be ashamed of myself every time tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 04:38 PM
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I have a serious fear of having kids because of this kind of thing. Also had a dad who did similar things growing up. This stuff genuinely scares me, and as I approach 30, I find myself having more and more nightmares about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 04:34 PM
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She is 100% right! If men have a preference for physically attractive women, they seriously need to stop talking about this gold digging crap and realize that they're not the only people who have preferences. We all have these and look for them in mates. And chances are, the guys complaining about gold digging are really not making more than $40-50,000 a year.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 04:31 PM
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Right?! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 07:38 PM
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I am sorry you have suffered. Good riddance! Like, ffs, I go to the gym, I run, I lift. It's amazing to me the things some guys think they deserve, meanwhile they don't do shit towards self care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 06:11 PM
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Seriously, men who don't put any work into themselves and choose to sit on their asses gaming, eating cheese whiz/toxic waste, and gaining weight all day every day expect to have a woman with a nice body?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 04:09 PM
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🙌🏿
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 04:08 AM
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I love that SO much! You're very fortunate to have had a father like that. I can't say I had quite the same experience...I have determined that unless a man shows me through his actions, consistently, that he will put in as much work as I do into the household and raising kid(s), I cannot agree to having any children. I fear growing to resent the person if they fail to participate. I don't think there is any excuse for a man not to. If a single woman can hustle raising 2-4 or more kids completel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 04:08 AM
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Yup!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 02:42 PM
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I hate red-pill crap. Those people are incapable of rational thought.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 02:41 PM
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It's incredible the mental gymnastics some dudes will do around this topic. And the utter lack of taking responsibility for their own actions. Smh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 02:40 PM
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He's right!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 02:37 PM
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I got that. It just triggered me to think of this. Watching a crappy, disrespectful spouse in dynamic with a really good one showed me from a young age that I really didn't want to have kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 02:34 PM
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I literally have nightmares about being a single mom. And growing up, I quickly learned by watching my parents that this can basically happen to women without them becoming single. I remember vividly hearing my mom talk on the phone with a friend and she said, "I feel like a single parent." I also remember her saying, "I don't feel married." Needless to say, my dad seemed to believe that sometimes buying groceries or paying school fees sufficed for being a father. Many men seem to think that the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 02:27 PM
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These grandmas are my heroes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 02:18 PM
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Yup!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 02:14 PM
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This is reminding me of the time some fatherfucker stalked me off the goddamn train and started filming me, talking about how he thought black women are ugly. What the actual fuck is wrong with m**?!?! This makes me extremely angry! I am glad you are alive to write this post. Maybe there are security or traffic cams nearby. I would recommend trying to figure out if the police can catch this subhuman piece of shit. It's seriously not okay! Women can't even feel fucking safe in broad ass daylight.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 07:03 PM
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Omg, I decided to go on Tiktok today, and this was the first one I saw! Needless to say, I followed her. Had to share it with my sister, who seems to be having a really hard time getting over guys who were absolute shite to her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 07:00 PM
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Yes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 06:55 PM
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I'm glad you reported it. That's utterly horrendous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 06:31 PM
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That sounds like so much fun! I'd love to lift with nuns. Not enough women go to the weights section of my gym, but I've been seeing more since it opened again. I always feel more comfortable lifting when other women are around. About two weeks ago, I was in my little hiding corner where I like to do free weights because it's not directly in front of the mirror, and this random guy comes over. I thought he was going to ask me for one of the dumbbells I was using. Instead he stopped to tell me, "…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 06:30 PM
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That's so incredibly fucking creepy. Something is wrong with ***.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 06:25 PM
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Yet men still act as though we are being unreasonable when they know how awful some men can be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 01:57 PM
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🙌🏿
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 05:06 PM
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Precisely. I've dated those who don't even work. Never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 01:17 AM
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It is so sad! Wtf kind of dude...? Smh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 02:06 PM
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Jesus. That's shameful!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 02:05 PM
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Deceit ≠ reason
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 08:25 PM
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Been there, not dealing with that ever again. I have found that if this is a man's response to you basically telling them you find something they say to you disrespectful, they don't respect you at all and you should walk away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 09:42 PM
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I chose to go to a single sex high school, but I still remember feeling like such a loser because all my friends were already getting their first boyfriends and kisses and sex. I felt left out. I spent a lot of time feeling down about it. I hate that I had that mentality at such a young age. I would wonder why all my friends had boyfriends, especially when boys weren't even at our school. Society teaches women from a young age to base their self-worth on male attention. It's so toxic. When I hav…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 08:34 PM
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I can't imagine being this disgusting to people. How disappointing. Sorry you have to hear all this daily.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 12:16 PM
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Right? Always wondered how my ex "didn't notice" women who made a pass at him when he'd follow them back and love all their pictures. Sure thing, you don't notice! Lmfao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 12:51 AM
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Yes! I love that! Some troll asked me the other day "iF yOU're sO haPPy iN yOuR RElatiOnsHIP, wHY DO yoU haNG oUt iN A RADicaL feMiNiST Sub?!" FOH with that noise. Lmfao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 07:53 PM
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💜💜💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 07:24 PM
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Saving these comments for future reference. Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 10:59 PM
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That was gold! He very accurately demonstrated the mentality that many people have. "It has never happened to me, so it must not be true!" Yeah, I've never been shot in the face. Doesn't mean it doesn't happen to people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 10:58 PM
4

Good point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 05:10 PM
8

I picked peace. It feels so much better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 04:25 PM
26

Yup
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 03:37 PM
59

This is an extremely important point that all those red pill incels seem to forget. If you're broke af, you're already not going to fall into the category of traditionalism. If one loves traditionalism so much, they would want to be making bank and taking care of their family.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 03:31 PM
2

👏🏿 Spot on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 02:58 PM
2

I wish you the absolute best, whether you have kids or not. 💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 08:23 AM
1

I fully agree. I have come a long way being adamant about not wanting kids. I am, however, at a point where I can see myself having one. I am very happy with the man I love, and he is a wonderful person. I think our kid would be the ultimate expression of our love, and I would never just lightly make that sort of decision. Or make it to keep a man if I knew it wasn't what I wanted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 05:03 AM
1

Yes, exactly! If you think people who DO NOT want children should have them, you actually 100% do not give a shit about kids or them having a good life and being happy. People who do not want to become parents, whether male or female, should absolutely not do that. One of my good male friends recently scheduled his vasectomy, and I fully support that! This guy was ridiculous. FOH.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 04:19 AM
2

I immediately wanted to vomit when I saw where he was active.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 04:10 AM
1

Thanks. I just don't know why someone takes it upon themselves to do things like this. Are some people's lives really that boring?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 04:10 AM
1

Love it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 04:09 AM
6

It's like he doesn't know there are men who don't want kids as well. Wtf is this? 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 03:54 AM
29

Same! Never going to reach the point again where I allow myself to date an asshole just to not be single. It honestly doesn't even feel better than being single.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 02:46 AM
39

Why do men seem to think women all want kids? Plenty of us don't for our own reasons.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 02:45 AM
9

I'm 100% certain that the dudes who take issue with this sub are the ones who behave exactly like who we discuss (cheaters, liars, abusers, etc.). I am unbothered.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 10:45 PM
4

Another post worthy of saving. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 01:57 AM
4

I would rather d** alone with 5 cats. I remember being in that situation you described. At the time, I couldn't see how ugly the guy was. For some stupid reason, I happened to be in love. Looking back on it, I'm just so disappointed I wasted so much of my time and money on a person like that. It's not okay. It's emotionally destructive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 10:10 PM
5

And I can't fathom doing what was done to me, to a man. There's a serious problem with some of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 10:08 PM
12

My least favorite part is the tapering off of effort. Especially around communication. I absolutely hate that, something I learned about myself in my previous relationship. And I'm an introvert, but when the dude stops talking, especially to resolve conflict, that's on my list of things I will never tolerate again from any guy. If a guy sometimes buys me flowers in the beginning, makes an effort to come to me to spend time together, etc. I expect that type of behavior to continue throughout the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 10:07 PM
6

I'm not surprised. I think that's exactly what happened to me with my ex twice (it was not an STD, but recurrent BV that I'm sure was due to the fact that he would go days without fucking showering). It's really not that hard to just take a shower, at least once a day. Why don't men care about hygiene?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 10:03 PM
29

It was one day that I got off the train on my way to grad school. I don't know if you've ever heard of "Meth Mile" in Massachusetts. I'm certain he was not on drugs, however. Just some piece of fucking shit. I walked down this road a few times a week to get to the medical campus of my school because I didn't want to wait 20 minutes in the sun for a bus when I could walk in 16-20 minutes and get some exercise simultaneously. It was broad daylight out, but I remember walking and hearing this guy b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 03:35 PM
21

I'm sorry you went through that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 03:25 PM
18

This comment made me smile. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 03:23 PM
8

Some of the most insecure people. Smh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 03:22 PM
22

How did he treat you in the relationship? Did he continuously put effort in or chase you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 03:19 PM
21

I agree!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 03:18 PM
81

That's exactly what it is. I will never understand the poor hygiene thing. That turns me off A LOT. Aside from it being because I'm a germophobe, I can't imagine wanting my man to even touch me if I haven't brushed my teeth for just a day or haven't showered for a few days. That's so disgusting and unattractive. It's odd because people often put more effort into their hygiene and looks to attract a mate. Lots of dudes are like that initially, then if they bag you, they think it won't bother you …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 03:17 PM
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I don't think she's even wrong. Sometimes a dude is unattractive on top of being a bad person. Others, a guy is unattractive but behaves himself. I have also seen very attractive guys who are horrible, but still have women flocking to them. I don't care how attractive or unattractive a guy is, ugly behavior and treating women poorly makes an ugly guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 03:11 PM
2

I fully learnt this lesson. I think back to things I tolerated in the past, manipulative, unfaithful, sincerely terrible dudes. My god, seriously. Fuck that!!! Forget those shits. Never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 08:20 AM
43

And he's right. Don't let dudes who disrespect you waste your time. You're better off staying single and good to yourself than letting people fuck you over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 08:17 AM
26

Somehow, they'll still deny this information. It's pitiful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 08:12 AM
82

As recently as two years ago, I was followed and harassed by a white man who turned out to be videotaping me, talking about how ugly he thought black women are. I'm so incredibly sick of this disgusting shit. Before Ma'Khia, I have heard too many stories of police just shooting black women. Shoot first, ask questions later. So sick of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 07:32 AM
19

I don't even think it matters what exactly she was doing. The fact is, she was a minor killed by the cops. Couldn't he have at least just incapacitated her with a non-fatal shot? People are in comment sections rejoicing. I find it disgusting. Literally out there talking about, "she deserved it!" It's such a fugly ass response to a tragic event.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 07:28 AM
4

The latter almost happened to me. Bullet dodged.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 07:25 AM
5

I am saving this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 07:24 AM
19

Yup
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 01:43 PM
14

That is absolutely terrifying. I can't imagine that happening to me. You never really know a person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 02:55 AM
3

This means he listens to you. Actions speaking. He cleans, he does kind things. Keeper.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 06:53 AM
11

Why would anyone do this for random guys? What is she doing?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 06:51 AM
54

It's completely reasonable for a father to pay half of that. Ffs, that's bare minimum, the expectation for a parent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 06:49 AM
3

Felt this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 06:46 AM
15

That sounds like the type of sadistic, manipulative crap talk one of my ex's was fluent in. "Keeping him away from being satisfied." Fuck that noise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 06:44 AM
3

I love opal so much!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 06:41 AM
6

Wait...someone actually asked that question? How do people even...I just don't even -___- People lack an imagination.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 03:00 AM
11

The one about not being able to punch a woman. FFS, when violence is a person's bar for determining how they're treated compared to someone else. Smh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 02:58 AM
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I think my idea of what is beautiful in women came from crap I was always exposed to in the media growing up, and also from experiences I had comparing myself to other female friends, and growing up as a twin. I was just always the ugly one. I don't know why. People always seemed to like my twin more than me. My own friends would always tell me how pretty she is, coworkers would talk about how much slimmer than me she is, on at least two different occasions, my dad called me fat, all my friends …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 02:56 AM
58

Holy fuck. That quote...It's something that genuinely scares me. I am afraid to live with my friends or significant other because that kind of thing will literally start to make me see red. I don't want to end up hating people because I'm bothered by messes. I personally feel badly if I leave a mess and someone else cleans it up when I'm capable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 02:48 AM
22

That's a very good question. And it makes me sad to know there are many men who don't just hear what their woman is saying to them. Listening to someone you supposedly care about is a very easy thing to do. I feel like some dudes must not care all that much if it takes them reading something on the internet from various other women instead of just listening to the woman in their life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 02:43 AM
2

Lmbo. That was really cute.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 02:39 AM
19

It's very truthful. I like how calmly she said this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 02:38 AM
8

I wholly agree. Especially when we're young, that's when our brains are so much more pliant to falling for sexist ideology and toxic masculinity. I've always been about girls supporting girls and women supporting women. Probably why I chose to go to a same-sex high school. I think I was lucky not to have developed that whole "mean girls" mindset or go through such a phase.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 02:35 AM
6

If someone loves you, they will do the absolute most. I remember being the same way as the man in this post and not having that returned (long-distance relationship of 2 years). It's seriously a breath of fresh air to not have that problem anymore! What a sweet story.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 02:30 AM
38

Messes are literally anxiety producing for me. I'm not trying to come across as high maintenance or pretentious, I literally feel discomfort in messy environments. I cannot help that. Lots of clutter in the house growing up watching two people who should never have married each other rip each other's throats out daily probably is part of the reason I feel that way towards messes, clutter, and males not pulling equal weight in cleaning up the home. I remember my dad would leave used floss all ove…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 02:27 AM
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That's why I grew to be totally turned off by guys who have had that many. No way he actually gives a shit about any one woman. Often times when someone has had many, many partners in the past it is a sign that the person has something wrong with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 09:30 PM
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Precisely! I wholeheartedly agree. I don't understand why I got downvoted. I was serious. Reddit is weird.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 09:26 PM
15

Yup
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 10:01 PM
5

I will never understand it...I have never been and will never be interested in NSA and anonymous sex. I don't understand people who want that. It's the most disgusting, self-degrading, horrific, disrespectful thing ever. I want none of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 01:05 PM
15

That makes me so angry. No one should ever use their sexuality as an excuse to physically assault anyone. It sounds like he was faking an entire sexual identity because he thought it would help him get away with assault.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 06:47 AM
2

He has a good understanding of why women are so cautious. It's too bad this isn't the case in general.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 06:46 AM
1

I definitely believe there are women who get married within 1-3 years of a relationship and it all turns out just fine! I simply worry because every woman I know has suffered at some point because of moving too quickly and not, as you mentioned, thoroughly vetting the man they were with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 03:32 AM
6

Very well said. Saving this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 03:30 AM
16

Many things said in this post remind me of my ex. So annoying. No group is obligated to give everyone else a voice within their own space. This is not the same as actual discrimination or something. Many men need to get over themselves. Go make your own subs about how much you hate women that don't want crappy people wasting their time. Yeesh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 03:27 AM
1

I just feel so cautious about getting married quickly. I read another user's comment in a different thread here about a woman who was convinced she met the man of her dreams. She married him in about a year, had his kid, and then he left her for another woman. It seems so dicey. All the horror stories I hear about women who get married in 1-3 years, then the guy turns into Satan. I'm always thinking about narcs, because they can wear the mask for that long before they unleash hell on you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 09:17 PM
1

I personally don't know if I'd be ready to get married that quickly. But to each their own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 03:53 PM
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Yes! And that commitment, desire to impress, talk to etc. shouldn't end with marriage. That's actually something that scares me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 05:33 AM
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Literally when my dad moved out, my mom's and mine and my sister's anxieties went way down. If you are constantly around a person who is argumentative, short tempered, etc., you're going to be so anxious in your own home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 03:09 AM
1

I'm sorry for your loss of a good childhood. It's good you are healing from that. I'm glad to say my mom is definitely nothing like a pick-me. She very recently started to try online dating and she loves to swipe left! 30 years with a narcissist will teach you thorough lessons.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 03:05 AM
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I remember watching a show where some psychologist was saying that people typically fall in love within 6 months to a year and marriage often follows that pretty swiftly. I was "engaged" (there was no formal proposal or a ring) for about two years. A few months in I realized how unserious that "engagement" was. A serious man doesn't willy-nilly do that kind of thing. It makes me wonder why my ex ever mentioned it at all. All he wanted was to be a bachelor for life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 03:01 AM
10

It took me longer than I'd like to admit to really live by this. I can't believe how long. I know now that I would rather be alone than to accept poor treatment again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 02:54 AM
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Males should be taught not to attack and rape. Very simple solutions to a problem that is often blamed on women. "Well, you shouldn't have worn that/gone out by yourself/etc." Fuck that. Teach men not to attack women. Problem solved.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 02:51 AM
1

Also, I decided to check out his tiktok. He's hilarious! 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 04:50 PM
15

Holy shit. That's pretty scary tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 08:44 AM
3

I am lucky to have a few, some are my friends and I admire the men that they are. They understand the way women have been oppressed and are emotionally intelligent people. I'm sure you will meet one. They're out there. They're sometimes just hard to find.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 03:10 AM
4

Precisely! A HVM wouldn't be threatened by this sub because he knows what it's about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 03:07 AM
4

I feel similarly, that this space and hearing other women's stories helps me to avoid becoming the person I was when I accepted maltreatment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 02:47 AM
5

That's exactly what this sub is about to me. It has nothing to do with hating men. It's about avoiding the ones who seek to hurt or destroy us. There's nothing wrong with what we are trying to accomplish here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 02:45 AM
35

This is exactly how love should be. You could tell they were in sync and respect each other.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 02:43 AM
29

What the fuck? What kind of a person marries someone just to make them happy? That is absolutely insane. God, there's just so many bad people out there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 02:42 AM
3

If I were a man, I would find myself extraordinarily pathetic to push the idea that because I have more testosterone, I basically lack the self control to be a loyal individual. It is truly pathetic. Cheating is disrespect period, regardless of who is doing it, but FFS, this mindset is complete and total bullshit. There are dogs that have more self control than that. Imagine arguing that you have less control than an animal to justify your disloyalty. Pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 02:39 AM
1

I like this. I love hearing stories that went well. 😊 There are good guys out there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 02:28 AM
1

The block button needs to become your best friend. The less you see or hear from someone, the less problems they can cause you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 02:26 AM
13

I hate everything associated with "red pill." Some of these tactics remind me of an ex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 02:25 AM
5

That truly makes me sad. I think that if wives can work and come home and take care of kids and the house, there's no reason husbands cannot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 02:23 AM
7

This is a huge, huge reason I have always gravitated more towards not wanting kids. I observed the same growing up and amongst female friends who have become mothers. It genuine terrifies me that there are married women who do the actual child rearing all by themselves. Especially while maintaining a career and a household. I've seen firsthand how exhausting that is with a sibling 10 years younger than me and a dad who thought paying for stuff is really all a dad should have to do. It made mothe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 02:22 AM
8

I can't imagine being such a **** that I talk about ANY child I mother as my "old life." Wtf?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 02:17 AM
16

That's amazing. I definitely admire men who are very involved parents. What a great role model for a daughter to have. 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 02:16 AM
21

Bees are such amazingly dangerous creatures. There's a type of bee that can swarm in a ball and cause the temperature inside that swarm to reach 47°C to destroy their victim.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 02:08 AM
5

This seriously breaks my heart. Things have got to change.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 02:07 AM
2

This is great. I like it. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 02:05 AM
6

It's so exhausting, honestly. I have never felt entitled to invade a male space. It happens in this sub all the time, men coming here or creating other subs to talk about how we are all b******* because we are speaking from experience/don't want to be cheated on, lied to, manipulated, taken for granted, not appreciated, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 02:01 AM
8

I'm saving this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 01:59 AM
6

Especially when you have been mistreated before, it stands to reason to assume everyone might try to hurt you or deceive you. Protecting our hearts doesn't make us evil. All the good men should blame the bad ones for why women feel so wary of them all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 01:58 AM
8

I don't understand m** who are like that. If you're not happy with who you are, do something to change that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 09:33 PM
4

Inspiring!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 05:55 AM
43

If a guy cheats, it's because he has no respect for others. Plain and simply. But yes, that tone is so salient and it's disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 05:54 AM
2

Saved.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 05:51 AM
1

I respect it. Find yourself and your happiness first!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 05:50 AM
8

Something I can't understand about ***. I have never even done this to a guy. I just like having my one man knowing he is just into having me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 05:48 AM
7

This is loud and clear for me. Never going back. When I think about shit I used to put up with...just never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 05:46 AM
17

Exactly!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 07:22 PM
4

I'm so disappointed with men who do not parent their own kids. Losing a spouse is no doubt tragic, but raise your fucking kids. There are resources to help people do these things, therapy, other adult family members. Ffs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 07:21 PM
24

I find adulting attractive. Why do we have such unrealistic ideals set for women but men often aren't held to the same standard? Is it really that hard for the average person to take care of themselves? I'm lost...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 04:39 AM
15

I have been a neat freak since I was a kid. I just don't like messes. I can't help that. If my environment is chaos, the last thing I'm thinking about is sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 04:37 AM
26

I remember asking my boyfriend if he really couldn't think of any reasons why a woman might not like to walk alone at night.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 04:35 AM
43

I remember a post/comment being removed for using the b word. Curious why this is still here...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 04:50 PM
17

I love the message, I love her voice, I love the eyeshadow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 06:52 AM
2

This is how we evolve. I love it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 04:06 AM
144

I remember my sister and I were at the mall one time, and she said she overheard these two guys talking, and one of them asked the other if a jacket or something looked good on him, and the other guy says, "You're being a fucking female right now!" It was sexist as all get out. It's crazy. Men don't even treat each other well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 04:05 AM
17

I am disgusted by an overwhelming multitude of ***. I'll never understand the lack of basic human decency.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 04:03 AM
5

I couldn't even read this whole thing. I just don't understand this: why are so many men so aversed to basic hygiene? If you're not a 3-year-old, there's no reason anyone, especially a romantic partner, should have to tell you to brush your teeth...I remember my ex had so many oral problems and never even wanted to go to the dentist, despite having amazing insurance as a veteran, and wrote it off as just because he was lazy. I don't understand it. You are not shaming a grown adult by telling the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 04:01 AM
3

He's preaching being a manipulative, disgusting, asshole. Sickening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 03:57 AM
4

That is disturbing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 03:56 AM
3

I completely agree! It definitely goes both ways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 03:54 AM
12

This is what I don't understand about people going back to men who: didn't choose them, treated them poorly, didn't care about the relationship, etc. It frustrates me a fuckload. I feel like this is my sister right now. She has been going out again with guys who did not choose her in the past--literally went for someone else over her, knowing they weren't 100% about her, legit forgot about a date they asked her to go on, or guys whose views fundamentally do not align with her own, but she makes …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 03:53 AM
6

And it makes me sad when women don't love themselves this much. Anyone, really. It's important to have a good relationship with oneself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 03:50 AM
5

That's so sweet :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 01:18 AM
37

Bare minimum isn't celebratory. It's sad that the bar is so low that people are amazed when a dad does dad things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 03:53 PM
9

Yup!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 10:39 PM
9

I love this grandma!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 06:03 AM
40

Exactly. I've debated with some annoying people before who fundamentally do not understand that meanness is not systematic oppression. Does it suck? Yeah, especially when you actively treat others well, but it is simply not oppression.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 05:59 PM
3

I think I got you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 09:18 PM
4

Did I get you? Lol, I got like 14 message requests asking. Let me know if not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 09:18 PM
12

That is downright shameful. I cannot fathom being proud of/thinking it's funny that I brought a whole new person into the world and chose not to be a positive part of their life and care for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 06:23 PM
70

YUP! I saved that post because it literally gave me schadenfreude. (Feel free to inbox me if you want it, can't link other posts) And he tried to call her a deadbeat, when she was paying MORE than she was required to on the kid. It served him right, but that's seriously not fair to the child. Dude sucks! Women aren't your little herb gardens to plant babies in. ​ "Every month she pays 125% of the court ordered child support. She says that if I ever marry someone who wants to adopt him she will a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 06:06 PM
32

This is something that I really, really hate in people. I do not like people who are obsessed with being a parent but don't have any interest in or intention of doing the actual child rearing. My dad was like that, seemed to think that just paying for a lot of things was enough (when I got older, my mom told me he wanted to have 5 or 6 kids, and after my sister and I, I don't know why she agreed to a third). He was not really a true father in many ways. Fathers should do just as much, if not mor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 06:00 PM
14

Holy fuck this site. And yet they can sit there for days objectifying women, minimizing rape and shit and nothing happens to them. Reddit is fucked up. "Skinny videogame obsessed men"! 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 06:46 AM
2

The title of that book reminds me of who I once was. Never going back!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 06:45 AM
61

What the actual fuck. This reminds me somewhat of a shituation my sister was very recently in. She's the whole fucking package, about to do her damn residency, amazing body, gorgeous, kind, and the last guy she dated dumped her because his parents want him with an Indian woman. He straight up lied to her on the phone, saying he wasn't really attracted to her when he spent every date all the fuck over her and even pulled his junk out in the car at some point (which she declined). Something is wro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 06:43 AM
25

I hope to one day have a daughter like her who takes none of the shit! Love it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 06:37 AM
23

I gotta save this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 06:36 AM
6

I am already feeling nauseous. This made it worse. Because it's all true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 06:28 AM
3

🙌🏿
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 08:42 PM
1

I see that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 04:24 AM
17

Yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 07:57 PM
90

Actions have always spoken louder than words.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 05:19 PM
59

I wholly agree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 05:19 PM
1

I love that Facebook group and I joined it because the name was just so catchy. Broke out laughing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 04:06 AM
12

"Child palate" is my new favorite term. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 04:04 AM
5

I never thought I was petty to not want the dog in the bed or by eating healthy. They're just things that are important to me, and it feels great when your partner is very similar in those different areas.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 04:02 AM
3

Yup. Lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 12:34 AM
7

This is very true and an important, sometimes missed, point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 07:40 AM
6

Holy fuck. I feel for anyone putting up with this kind of tragedy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 07:39 AM
3

Do you work in mental health? This sounds like something I would have dealt with on a regular day on the psych ward.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 06:53 PM
1

Really? By law?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 06:51 PM
24

I don't understand why people don't brush their teeth, floss, shower, properly bathe their nether regions. I have been told by an ex he was "just lazy," but I can't imagine being so lazy that I do not wipe my butt! What even is that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 07:42 PM
33

I hate that it took me so long to realize that that is a lie. I'd rather be single than with someone who doesn't even wipe and take care of himself and his own things. Fortunately, I am not in that situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 07:41 PM
6

:( I'm not even joking when I say this makes me sad. Sad that a person cannot see himself in such a bad situation and rise up from it (depression is real, but some people are just assholes looking to see who they can pull one over on). Sad that a woman who is that established would allow a man who is not and, I'm assuming, doesn't treat her well on top of that, to take all of that time from her. How exactly did he convince you to be with him for any amount of time? When did you notice things abo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 07:40 PM
9

Likewise, sister.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 07:36 PM
21

I really want to vomit knowing there are people out there who expect sex while they're noticeably filthy. I don't even like to have it if I haven't showered first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 07:36 PM
6

I feel like unless someone has an actual medical condition where they may defecate in their pants, there's just no excuse for this. It's not that hard to wipe oneself. Lord have mercy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 07:35 PM
10

Lmgdao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 07:34 PM
9

7-in-1! Lmfao thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 07:30 PM
5

It's terrifying. Grown adults out here not knowing how to wipe their own bottoms? Oh no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 07:30 PM
5

Yup
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 01:59 PM
5

🤮 Adult for no one!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 11:54 PM
19

Any good relationship I don't think is based on submission. The idea that either partner submits to the other is sickening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 11:54 PM
2

I like the way he thinks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 11:53 PM
13

I remember reading about this. It was discussed in a class I took and I think the teacher (male) said something along the lines of, "Women could use it to get back at a cheating husband or boyfriend." I'm not sure he realized that the benefit outweighs that risk. There are places where rape is so rampant that someone would think to design this device.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 05:43 PM
5

It is true. And sad that these things are looked at that way. Simply put, a decent person behaves as they should towards the people they encounter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 05:41 PM
49

This is incredibly true. And I think the reason for that is because when someone is insecure they are more likely to tolerate bullshit from other people. That is what that type of guy is attracted to, because he knows he can treat her like shit and nothing will happen to him as a consequence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 09:15 PM
20

This is incredibly sweet! :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 09:12 PM
1

That's exactly how I feel about it. Imagine putting that much energy into being a good person instead of practicing disgusting and manipulative ways. Smh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 02:53 PM
1

Precisely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 05:36 AM
3

Also might be a narc. Narcs always come back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 09:33 AM
3

I smiled reading this. Yes, men like your fiancé exist and you have got one. I'm glad for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 09:32 AM
3

I wholly support your decision. Just focus on you. You owe nothing to people who just want to hurt you and waste your time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 09:30 AM
3

Having dated men who were broke before (two turned out to be LVM for reasons such as cheating, lying, and emotional abuse), she is 100% correct. It's seriously not about money, just treat us well, communicate, don't lie, don't cheat, build yourself to be financially successful. It's not that hard to be a good partner. Many men simply don't care to try.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 09:27 AM
12

Men like this do not deserve to be fathers. Stupid fucking asshole!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 09:22 AM
5

Yesssss. This reminds me of dudes of my past where I would legitimately say exactly how they hurt me. If a person refuses to comprehend that, they're not worth your energy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 09:18 AM
2

LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 09:16 AM
6

This is powerful. And uplifting. Don't let anyone thwart your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 09:16 AM
13

I agree. It's still SO bizarre to me...I really cannot fathom spending time and energy lying and maintaining lies. It's pathological.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 08:55 AM
53

I'll never understand cheaters and liars. Like, ffs, it's FAR easier to just be a decent fucking person!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 04:53 AM
5

What a pathetic dude. Christ.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 04:51 AM
2

Yup!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 04:50 AM
5

Lol! True.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 01:20 AM
7

That is wonderful! ☺
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 05:04 AM
16

This was something that really bothered me about an ex. He had some really inconsistent opinions when it came to social issues, especially those pertaining to socioeconomic status and also to race. I fail to see how someone who benefits from pockets of socialism inside of capitalism couldn't understand a number of things that we often discussed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 01:40 AM
44

I have learned thoroughly over the years that men in their 20s and 30s often go for teenagers or women who are barely legally able to drink because the younger you are, the more likely you are to put up with bullshit. Because you may not have had as much experience in dating and romantic love when you're so young, so they know they can treat women like shit and not face any consequences. It's often the most manipulative individuals who intentionally seek out much younger people. It makes me sick…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 12:05 AM
3

This is wonderful and I support it. Keep doing you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 05:16 PM
1

I wholly agree. I unfortunately used to be of the mindset that no significant other means no happiness. Boy, was I wrong! I had to start thinking more about the things I need to do for myself that bring me happiness. Even within an amazing relationship where I am very happy, I still think about that. My long term personal goals are important to me and will ultimately bring me happiness, happy relationship or not. I hope you're doing the most for yourself, too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 11:46 PM
3

I constantly come across people with narcissistic tendencies. I saw many signs of covert narcissism in my ex. I am always on high alert for narcs. Once you learn their behaviours, you can actively avoid and navigate those people to keep them the absolute FUCK out of your life. Those kinds of people can literally cause you so much pain that it can shorten your life span. I watched my mom suffer through her marriage with my dad, a blatant overt narc, for 26 years. I can physically see the toll it …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 08:32 PM
1

That's infuriating and disgustingly sexist as shit. I've been fed the "you're too emotional" line before. Dreck!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 08:25 PM
2

Oh...never mind. Damn, I got excited about him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 08:22 PM
2

He's my new favorite person! Edit: never mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 08:22 PM
3

That is wonderful! I'm happy for you. My last relationship was long distance, which made communication even more difficult. My ex did not want to talk on the phone even when breaking up with me. I really wasn't happy with that. It is certainly a breath of fresh air to have what we have. My relationship now is only a little over two months in, but I can do that with my boyfriend as well, anticipate feelings. I feel like we have been together for years! And it helps that he is very emotionally awa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 08:03 PM
2

I think that's a huge part of the reason my last relationship failed. I was always the one who wanted to communicate like that and it wasn't being reciprocated. I made effort back then too, but you have to get that effort back or a relationship will be one sided and unhappy. I would say that communication is the number one important thing as far as relationships go. My boyfriend calls me more than he texts back. I like that because it's him putting in effort so that we never misunderstand each o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 06:31 PM
1

I'm sure you will :) With all the people there are in this world, I always try to keep in mind that there are people like me, who need and rely on good communication and respect in their relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 06:06 PM
11

This is incredibly true. And I am so happy to have found a man who I don't have to do any of that negotiating with. The communication is one of the best parts of my relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 11:48 PM
2

Not only that. I've been friends with good people who ended up going down a very dark path, or who just plain didn't understand me. It sucks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 05:01 PM
14

Leave women the fuck alone if you don't want to get married. If you don't want to be married, don't ask a woman to marry you. Just go be a promiscuous douchebag with people who also want that. It's not that hard. Some people are so goddamn fucking stupid. Even more disgusting is the "let me distance myself emotionally/completely and wait for her to divorce me/break up with me" act. Fuck everyone who does that shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 08:32 AM
6

What the actual fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 08:29 AM
13

I wholly agree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 08:26 AM
37

Exactly. This is an important message. Even when I have argued with exes in previous relationships, I never once said things like, "I'm trying not to hate you," or call names and awful things like that. It's just plain unacceptable if you actually respect a person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 08:25 AM
9

I still feel upset with how some of those relationships ended (friendships as well). When you know you were treated unfairly it's infuriating as FUCK in the long run. Especially when you were doing so right by the other person. I hate it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 08:22 AM
23

I have wondered this same thing. Things are often made out to be a woman's fault instead of the man who actually caused damage to her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 10:37 PM
3

🙏🏿
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 09:30 PM
9

That's what I fucking hate the most. Too many men like that and part of the reason I have never wanted anything to do with hook up culture.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 08:24 AM
3

The man can't even spell. I wouldn't be able to sleep with that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 08:23 AM
16

Why is that always the go to? The, "there are women who lie about rape." Imagine being that much of a callous person that you can't just focus on the fact that there are people who get hurt without making it about something else? The first person I ever told about sexual abuse wound up becoming a Hitler idolizer on top of talking so much shit about feminism. So tired of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 04:17 PM
28

THIS IS THE PART THAT BAFFLES ME THE MOST. THE AMOUNT OF TIME AND FUCKING ENERGY SOME DUDES PUT INTO LYING JUST TO OBTAIN SEX instead of simply going and fucking with someone who agrees they just want sex and nothing more. Imagine how well a person who does shit like that could clean themselves up if they simply diverted that effort to self improvement instead of manipulative abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 08:37 AM
6

Yup!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 08:33 AM
21

I have nothing against people hooking up when BOTH parties know clearly what the situation is. It is ridiculous that even with that, guys have tried to manipulate you. It goes to show that there are some seriously messed up people out there. That doesn't even make sense...isn't that many men's fantasy? To be with a woman who doesn't give a damn that you're fucking multiple other women? But they still want you to be in mental anguish? Fucked. Fucked up. ​ Until I met my boyfriend, I thought I'd a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 05:58 AM
1

It doesn't make me sad anymore, it makes me fucking angry. Because I remember dealing with that. NO ONE should put up with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 12:50 AM
17

It triggers me that people are treated that way in relationships. I don't like it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 12:21 AM
82

I remember this happening to me in the past. It was so infuriating. My ex was talking about how I was drunk and he found that embarrassing, even though his family weren't having a problem with me. But the moment I reminded him of things he had done that I didn't like, suddenly it's, "I knew you were holding onto that/holding that against me! Don't you realize what you're saying sucks for me?!!!" 😑🤨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 06:56 PM
2

It's upsetting to me. I am tired of having to explain myself. It's the same thing with when I said, "I don't like people who smoke right outside of hospital doors. I think that's rude and unhealthy," to which I was told, "You hate smokers." I'm done explaining myself to people. Sometimes they look for offense where it's not intended.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 04:24 PM
84

Someone who I'm not friends with anymore told me I am a manhater (weren't the exact words, but essentially what was said) because I don't like men who manipulate and mistreat women. Is that every man on the face of this earth? Obviously not. But for whatever fucking reason, you can't talk about men who manipulate and mistreat women at ALL without it meaning you're referring to every single male in existence. And this was said to me after I had already confided all of the manipulative or abusive …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 10:00 PM
1

That's the message I got.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 04:28 PM
1

I don't understand the poor hygiene thing with some men. Whyyyyy? You should want to be not-filthy so you can attract a mate, right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 04:13 PM
5

Please do. I wish I could warn everyone my ex goes after next. I sincerely do. But I'm no-contact. I hope he tries it with someone who sees red flags and doesn't ignore them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 06:18 PM
25

It is very attractive to me when men take care of the home. And do it well. But I always clean because I've generally not been satisfied with how other people do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 05:04 AM
3

I heard that in the grocery store the other day and really listened for the first time to what they're saying. It's not the things you do that tease and wound me bad But it's the way you do the things you do to me Every girl wants you to be her man But I'll wait my dear 'til it's my turn I feel sorry for any woman who wants that. Fuck that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 08:26 PM
29

It's not so much money that I like about a man, receiving flowers or something small and thoughtful once in a while is something that I like from time to time. I do things like that for the person I love, and I don't think it makes me a gold digger to want those types of things reciprocated. Also, there is nothing wrong with wanting to be with a man who is similar to you in terms of education level, finances, etc. I'm so tired of this gold digger mentality. I have dated men before who couldn't a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 06:37 PM
5

Was it really after the 70s? I shouldn't be surprised anymore. That's extremely fucked up and why I HATE people who always jump to "men are the ones who get screwed over in divorces!" Fucking think!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 11:34 PM
16

Wtf? Why would someone not want to actively participate in one of the biggest moments of their life? Your kid being born should have undivided attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 11:33 PM
25

That's why I gave up on my ex. Couldn't be happier. ☺
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 11:32 PM
8

Yeah! Wtf? It's such a weird and stupid contradiction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 11:31 PM
5

I agree!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 11:29 PM
8

Yup
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 11:29 PM
5

The second guy is a king (if that wasn't just for the camera). 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 11:28 PM
1

And there's no shame in doing this. Everyone has boundaries and that's perfectly fine. I support your choice. Life is too short to fill it with men who don't respect your boundaries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 10:50 PM
2

Absolutely support this. Edit: don't know why people keep thinking my comments here are insincere. That was not sarcasm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 10:09 AM
2

Demonic behavior. Makes me sick. Guys who do that do not deserve to be fathers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 08:02 AM
5

Valid point. And I find this so fuckin' upsetting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 08:01 AM
3

Definitely rings true about being in an abusive relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 08:00 AM
6

This whole thing. Got broken up with before in a long distance relationship for "his needs." That's just straight up weakness in my opinion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 07:59 AM
5

That makes me fucking livid. Glad he's your ex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 07:57 AM
22

They like to remind you about them. My ex admitted he would like photos of his exes sometimes just to bother them. Imagine being that kind of person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 07:56 AM
2

Yes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 07:54 AM
15

HAHAHA! But seriously, why the fuck do men do that? If you have a significant other, just go fucking drool all over her photos and social media. Then they wonder why women aren't trusting. My ex literally commented "damn" on his ex's photo and was always all over them and women he knew liked him while he was engaged to me. I hate that shit. Gtfo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 07:52 AM
7

Having found my man, I can't believe I once settled for less than what I want and need in a relationship. I have let go of who I used to be when I would do that. I haven't suffered through a divorce, though. Thankfully.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 06:51 AM
1

I'm sorry, mate!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 05:03 AM
7

With the right man/person it happens :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 02:27 PM
14

This is basically what happened the first time my ex broke up with me. Something I can't fuckin' stand about anyone is the utter inability to just SAY what the fuck is going on. What's so hard about simply stating, "I just want easy access to sex and I don't have the maturity level or desire to be in a committed relationship" and moving on? I fuckin' hate people who don't communicate. I never again will tolerate a relationship where the dude is fucking afraid to have a goddamn conversation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 03:15 AM
5

I still need to figure out where to buy this shirt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 03:12 AM
5

Artemisia Gentileschi's Judith Slaying Holofernes has always been one of my favorites. Amazing chiaroscuro.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 03:10 AM
12

Yup! And nothing wrong with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 03:07 AM
1

I love a clean home. That's a great quality in a mate. It's refreshing seeing relationships be that happy and reciprocal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 06:11 PM
16

The narc mask always slips eventually.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 02:12 AM
1

I love it when people get their comeuppance!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 02:12 AM
2

Loyalty isn't hard at all. It's about self control.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 02:04 PM
2

Good!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 02:08 PM
3

Those last two sentences ignite rage in me. It should NOT be like that! You either KNOW what you have and value it the entire time, or you don't deserve it. I have a lot of emotional trauma from that sort of behaviour. I'm telling you: if that's how you're being treated, that guy is not the one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 02:08 PM
3

I think this is true. Especially when men lie about their age. It makes me very uncomfortable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 02:03 PM
1

I had to learn this one the hard way. It's very true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 02:02 PM
1

Randomly looking through my posts and I saw this again. I haven't posted in this sub for a bit because it reminds me of all the FUCKERY I used to get put through that was like this. I'm so sick of emotionally damaged men demanding from women while not fucking treating them well. GET THERAPY, actual psychiatric therapy, ffs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 01:59 PM
3

"Are you my mommy?" 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 09:10 PM
1

I found the picture elsewhere and the commentary spoke to it pretty accurately. One woman said, "And they act like they don't no [sic] why some woman [sic] be damage [sic] exspecially [sic] if they doing more then [sic] cheating."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 02:59 AM
2

😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 02:57 AM
2

🤬🤮🤬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 02:49 AM
2

And I will always seriously despise everything about that mentality. It makes me so angry. Especially for someone to do it when they're not even with a shitty partner, but someone who takes the commitment of a relationship or marriage seriously. It's like a punch in the face. Some awful, awful people out there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 02:48 AM
2

Very well done and explains so much shit. I wish I could have shown this to my friend years ago who thought that her boyfriend got drunk and drove drunk because of her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 03:33 PM
45

That is very saddening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 03:27 PM
3

Very true. It makes me feel sad. If only everyone had a stable and emotionally healthy upbringing so that they wouldn't be really hurtful in their relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 10:26 PM
11

Very valid point and so important. It shouldn't just be mom paying that degree of attention to their child. Dad needs to be 100% involved, too! Otherwise, men shouldn't be out there impregnating women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 03:55 PM
35

Crygasms ftw!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 01:13 PM
11

I'd have to disagree to an extent. Was with a large guy for two years and never orgasmed. In fact, sex was often painful (also due to him not liking to do positions that I need to get off or even close to it). Current partner is average and it's like he was made for me. It didn't occur to me that orgasming from PIV was really possible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 01:12 PM
3

He's right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 01:08 PM
7

🎯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 01:08 PM
36

I have seen men blame women for their bad behavior (lying, cheating, manipulating). It's despicable. I don't understand how a man reaches adulthood and still behaves that way. But many do!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 01:06 PM
5

This is very sad. 😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 03:25 PM
11

Alone means you can't get hurt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 06:48 PM
12

I genuinely think I am just destined to be alone. For reasons beyond my control. I always end up wanting to be with someone who decides they would rather be doing something else, something which fundamentally doesn't coincide with the needs I have in order for a relationship to work where I'm happy and they're happy at the same time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 02:08 AM
1

Not if they're not going to do it back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 01:13 AM
8

Just fall in love with yourself. You can't do this stuff to yourself. That's where I'm currently at.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 01:08 AM
49

I don't even feel like it's worth it to try anymore. Men are afraid of relationships. They don't want them. It doesn't matter whether you're good to them or not, they don't want relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 01:03 AM
7

That is pretty terrifying. I feel like I vaguely remember reading somewhere that women who don't ever marry actually end up the happiest. Good people are hard to come by, and the wrong ones take years off your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 01:00 AM
4

It definitely does say a lot. I keep remembering that Chadwick has left us. It truly makes me sad. I was looking forward to more from him. There are good men out there. Some of them die too soon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 12:58 AM
5

This makes me sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 07:24 AM
7

I always felt that LDRs only work if you want them to (I'm the only one who wanted mine to work) and asking for a phone call isn't asking for a lot. You're lucky.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 07:22 AM
8

I got an email yesterday saying my diploma (master's) has been approved. But I still wake up crying some days. I still didn't want my relationship to end. I wonder if money can seriously cheer me up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 07:20 AM
57

That movie I found to be so unsettling, but I loved the ending and how she dealt with her boyfriend. Maybe that is sick, but that is honestly how I feel. I have somewhat mixed feelings about it, regardless. I wouldn't actually be comfortable with it being the sub's icon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 07:17 AM
4

I don't feel like I can be with anyone without them trying to destroy me. I try to take comfort in being alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 07:15 AM
8

😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 07:13 AM
15

I constantly tell myself now, "If a guy makes you feel badly for expressing to him how something he did made you feel, that is a red flag."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 06:59 PM
7

I wish I had the money to buy myself some jewels now. Gonna be a while. Sigh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 06:58 PM
3

Precisely. Everyone should have this mentality. Pretty amazing in a bad way that people think that makes someone cold.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 10:56 PM
22

I don't consider a male a man if he has not already done those things himself. It should NOT take a woman dealing with his fuckery shitcraft for this to happen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 05:54 PM
9

I don't feel like it's even worth it to try anymore. I give up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 02:03 AM
3

😔 It sucks. It absolutely hurts my soul to see people be treated like this. Especially when they DO NOT deserve it. I always wonder how some men are so fucking evil.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 01:11 AM
3

Fucking narcissists are rampant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 10:51 PM
2

It's so fucked up. I don't understand why they find it SO HARD to just be a good person. It's actually extremely easy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 08:26 PM
15

It's the best joke I've heard all week.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 05:12 PM
47

I'm sickened by the lack of insight. He's asking her to be friggen friends when he did all of those things? Some people may as well not even have a brain because they clearly can't use them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 04:21 PM
2

I often feel that as well, predatory purposes. I have learned to keep my guard up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 03:35 AM
2

🤷🏿‍♀️ I sincerely think I'm going to end up alone. Because I just don't want to settle for being with someone I'm not interested in and I don't date. Just isn't anyone where I live that I can find who I want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 03:26 AM
3

That's nice and fantastical, but I just don't think it happens for some people. They can be kind, happy, do things to occupy themselves, and still end up alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 02:44 AM
3

I do those things. I often end up being too generous to the wrong people. Yeah, people like me at times, but it's never anyone I'm interested in dating. It makes no difference. It's not a horrible life, but I don't want to be single forever. Nothing I can do about it, unless I go and settle for someone I don't actually want and I'm not going to do that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 02:20 AM
2

...I don't invite strangers into my home. Especially not men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 02:18 AM
3

I don't even date. There's just not currently really a way for me to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 07:11 PM
5

Is it necessarily a bad thing that it has happened so frequently that you don't trust even a HVM?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 06:21 PM
8

I dunno. Maybe something to do with you telling her she's the only one you're with while you're out there fucking 5 other women? I mean, obviously a person wouldn't be upset with you when they find that out! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 05:58 PM
18

I don't have any reason to talk to them at this point in time because I'm just not in contact with anyone. That may change soon, but I have learned that even in their thirties, an overwhelming multitude of men are still out there lying to try to get what they want from women and it's despicable. One would hope that is something males stop doing after their teen years, that childish behavior like that actually ends at 30+, but nope. I don't have the patience for it, and I don't understand how a p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 05:35 PM
2

The blues are superior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 05:27 PM
12

I cannot find someone who DOES NOT BEHAVE THIS WAY. Age makes no difference either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 05:23 PM
15

Manipulate, lie, cheat. Manipulate, lie, cheat. Manipulate, lie, cheat. Manipulate, lie, cheat. Then wonder why women don't like them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 05:22 PM
2

It's ridiculous. If my teeth were rotting out of my mouth and I had great insurance, I'd go to the goddamn dentist. Men are the most confusing people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 10:40 PM
1

I'm not religious at all. I literally have no interest in sex if it's not in exclusivity and commitment. So, I don't have sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 12:35 PM
1

That's utterly disgusting. He probably is also a beater.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 12:29 PM
1

I still can't believe it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 12:28 PM
2

TIL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 11:52 AM
2

What the actual fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 11:51 AM
39

Guaranteed half of them do not even actually READ the posts in this sub. They just say these baseless things with no actual idea of what is discussed here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 05:05 AM
23

"Violence"! Lmgdmfao. 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 05:04 AM
16

The thing that men constantly forget about this sub is that it is a female space. Plain and simple. Reddit has plenty of spaces for men only, moms only, dads only etc. People need to seriously get over themselves. Every group has its own space for their issues, and there is nothing wrong with that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 05:01 AM
2

I love the colors.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 11:39 PM
17

I'm going to marry my-fucking-self.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 04:52 AM
2

That's going to be me at all my friend's weddings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 12:48 AM
5

It's called MaleDatingStrategy. It doesn't seem very active. But it definitely discusses low value women, which I don't think is a bad thing or should imply, "all women are bad," like they seem to think this sub implies about men. The point is the same as this sub (but I can't be sure. I really haven't read too many posts there), except geared towards men. Some of it appears to be just blaming women for why a guy isn't having success dating. I'm not surprised, though. This is the internet. ​ EDI…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 07:40 PM
3

I would have to agree. It just gets annoying because I think it's clear that the men women are talking about in this sub are the bad ones. People need to get over themselves. There are crappy men and crappy women. One need not have to always specify "SOME" when they're talking about a crappy person from whatever subgroup.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 09:37 PM
25

The "brother" sub to this one thinks we mean "all men" because they expect us to constantly specify "some" when we talk about low value men. I really don't think that is necessary because we clearly are talking about men who abuse, manipulate, and hurt women. I'm sure they talk about women who do that to men, but you don't see us sitting in here crying, "they're misogynists!" over it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 05:09 PM
5

I concur.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 06:13 PM
3

🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 06:13 PM
4

I don't even know what type of person it is that men like. I'm assuming: pretty, generous...I really don't actually know. As far as the men I have attracted before, I think they want someone pretty, who tolerates their lack of effort and unnecessary rudeness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 06:11 PM
10

Whenever I see posts about this kind of thing, I always wonder how people think it's a good idea to go on dates and just be straight up stinking. Come on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 06:08 PM
13

I fucking hate that with every fiber of my being. It's not unreasonable to ask your boyfriend not to thirst comment all over other women online. There's nothing unreasonable about asking a significant other not to do that because it's a boundary issue for you. If I had a significant other and he told me that made him uncomfortable, I just wouldn't do it. No big deal. From your description, this guy was a complete piece of shit. I'm sorry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 05:45 PM
6

When my fiance broke up with me, I expressed how that made me feel. But I wasn't the one who broke up with him via text message, refusing to at least talk on the phone so that there could be closure, I didn't snap at him, delete, and block him. I literally didn't do anything to him, yet he took issue with me expressing that I was upset when he chose to do the things he did. Men are seriously unbelievable sometimes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 05:42 PM
2

I hate ***.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 06:14 AM
8

Fuck every single piece of shit that does that. FUCK YOU! You're not the one having a hard time. Stop treating people like shit! Plain and simple. (Not directed at OP. This shit just makes me fucking angry, especially because I've been on the receiving end of it.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 12:49 AM
36

You literally do not need to have sex with someone to see if you're compatible with them. This guy was just trying to fuck. That's literally it. At least have the balls to admit that. For fuck's sake. I don't even want anything to do with sex if the guy has no interest in actually figuring out if we work as a couple and then being exclusive. FOH with that. I really, really hate that mindset. I even have some female friends who are like, "Just have sex and see if you're compatible. You know, get …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 05:28 PM
13

Why are men commitmentphobes? I remember this book I have (written by a man and woman) for women about all the bullshit, and the author said that he couldn't get many guys to commit to an interview for the book. Some couldn't even commit to a goddamn gym membership. That's how terrified they are. I wish I could remember the name of the book...Men Who Can't Love: How to Recognize a Commitmentphobic Man Before He Breaks Your Heart. A number of the accounts of male depravity in that book were utter…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 05:48 AM
4

What a dickhead. Sad part is, they're still like that in adulthood.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 11:31 AM
7

I have said this a lot, especially in this sub, but I spent a ton of time researching personality disorders since my last relationship, and this reeks of narcissism. Narcs always try to come back. The lack of attention kills them. They keep a garage of supply to entertain them. You have succeeded in removing yourself from that supply.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 08:09 PM
7

He definitely doesn't have any business at all. I hope you come back with a new account :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 08:07 PM
7

What astounds me is manipulators and abusers who think they can just keep making a comeback. It's actually quite laughable to me. I'm pleased you were able to block and move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 08:06 PM
36

It was disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 08:01 PM
48

"Y'all came in and made something seem like it was one thing and then it wasn't." That's literally what the hell she means. That guy got all defensive and dumb. Clearly, she's talking about the scenario where a man creates this illusion that he's loyal, loves a woman, is exclusive with her, when really he's just being manipulative to get what he wants. Then the woman finds out he was lying and that's what makes her "crazy." It's not even "crazy," it's a valid reaction to someone manipulating and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 08:00 PM
62

They don't think that far. Everything must just be about how women get a free pass on everything 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 06:50 PM
1

Nice!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 02:04 AM
2

That's fair. I agree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 07:55 PM
32

Those things cannot break up with you or waste your time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 06:54 AM
2

Holy fuck, 30K? Nice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 02:41 AM
9

I agree, there is a FUCKASS double standard about black women dating outside of their race when compared to black men who do it. That being said, I have dated down outside of my race, and the guys remain as crappy regardless of race if you date below your level of achievement. Except I haven't dated a non-black guy that has baby mamas...unless there's something my ex didn't tell me. 🤷🏿‍♀️ I remember some random black guy trying to get my attention being flabbergasted when I said I was not a mom.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 12:49 AM
6

I can say the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 12:44 AM
1

May I ask what your culture is?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 12:43 AM
2

I've never dated a black guy (not for any particular reason), but that would surprise me, them wanting me to buy them flowers, chase them, etc. It seems to me that many black men fall for the whole "alpha male" personality type, and I wouldn't think they'd want a woman to do things like that. I don't think it's bad for men to want those things, it simply strikes me as uncommon. Those are things that make me feel cared for if a guy does them. I guess it depends on one's love language.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 09:59 PM
4

Agreed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 09:55 PM
28

If a 19 year old frat boy knows how emotional intelligence works, a grown ass men should know it too. I also believe this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 09:53 PM
6

I wasn't trying to. I just saw this on Facebook and it seriously made me want to cry. I hate it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 06:09 PM
68

I have wanted to feel like it's okay to break tradition, but I also think that this in particular is something a man should do. Especially because the way things are now, people act as though marriage is something men absolutely do not want. Like it's some kind of burden to them. I would not want to feel like the guy doesn't want to marry me. So, if I felt like I was the one who had to propose, I would think it's because a guy doesn't want to marry me. Especially if it was something we discussed…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 05:26 PM
13

I don't understand people who give minimal effort. I don't even bother with someone that I have no intentions towards. There's no point in instigating something if you're not going to put in full effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 07:03 PM
14

...the person reads your message and doesn't respond.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 03:48 AM
9

In other words, forwarding me memes from all the women they're fucking because they have no sense of boundaries? And people wonder why I get quiet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 01:23 AM
2

I have virtually lived one, watching the way my dad treated my mom like shit, and still took half her pension. There are remorseless demons out there that seriously will marry you SO THAT when you finally can't take their abuse anymore, they can get their filthy hands on your fucking PENSION. I seriously cannot stress this enough: it is not extreme to do any of those things. And it has nothing to do with being a gold digger or any stupid fucking stereotype like that. There are manipulative peopl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 12:42 AM
3

Same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 09:19 PM
12

It's fuckery. It's childish. I can't imagine being that emotionally unintelligent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 07:24 PM
2

We were talking about what significant others did that hurt them/things that they couldn't handle about the relationship. We were talking about getting hurt in relationships. One of my male friends is polyamorous, and he's open about that so that anyone he might date is aware of that, but he couldn't handle that a girlfriend slept with one of his friends, even though he apparently gave her permission to. He said he just couldn't deal with it. The other said that he had grown unhappy because the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 07:16 PM
2

So, what really annoys the fuck out of me is people talking about their "white guilt," when you try to discuss white privilege with them. I'm not going to say that there are NO people of color who do in fact want every single white person, an actual racist or not, to feel badly for things that are actually beyond their control (like the example I provided above about the study with convicted criminals searching for jobs). However as a black person, I just want white people to realize that they a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 10:06 PM
23

I remember ages ago I dated a guy for 7 months that had his dating page up even after we were together maybe a few months. (I had already gotten rid of mine and was curious whether his was still up). I asked him to delete it, and he did. But I don't feel that it makes a difference. People just get sneakier.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 07:08 PM
2

I didn't think the post implied that a husband wouldn't also confide these things in his wife. If it was a female he knew since childhood, it really wouldn't bother me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 06:24 PM
6

They’re normally married too Did you ever tell their wives? I would. Because if I were married, I'd want other women to let me know something like that so I can save myself the pain in the long run.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 06:22 PM
4

What they do provide is an insight into how men treat women in the dating scene. Including how they think in relationships. A few weeks ago, I sat down with two of my male friends and we just talked for about 3 hours about relationships. It was one of the most insightful conversations I've ever had on the topic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 06:19 PM
4

The worst one tried to drug me after I said no, we were friends for 6 years before that. It was “purely platonic” for 6 years and he tried to assault me. So no, I don’t fuck with male “friendship”. I'm sorry that happened to you. Although, it shouldn't surprise me. Many times, women know the person who assaults them/attempts to assault them. Just makes you feel like you cannot trust ANY men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 06:16 PM
2

May I ask where you're from?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 06:15 PM
3

I agree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 06:13 PM
2

Because I know I am capable of being very good friends with males, it wouldn't bother me if my hypothetical significant other had a female best friend. I just think it's sketchy when a guy has a myriad of female friends and you find out he has fucked all of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 06:12 PM
3

The other dude asked me about politics and he didn’t believe in white privilege but supports the BLM message and he wants police brutality to stop. We got into an argument about it and he wanted to take a break from talking. So we did. Haven’t heard from him for weeks. As stupid as this seems it ticked me he didn’t believe in white privilege (oh and he’s white). This other person and I tried to educate and talk to him about it but he couldn’t see it. We both gave up. I don’t know why it bothers …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 06:02 PM
2

Not all women can be friends That reminds me, one of my dearest female friends is bisexual. I remember her saying she thought I was very pretty when we met. I think she even said she had thought of hitting on me. I don't know whether she feels that way still, but either way, I absolutely love her platonically. And our relationship as friends seems to work. We emotionally support each other the same my male friends and I do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 05:38 PM
3

I'm sorry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 05:34 PM
2

So that was assault and not okay at all. I'm glad you cut him off. I'm fortunate enough that my male friends don't have the patience for that kind of crap and they intervene if they see it happening. I remember complaining to one of my guy friends about a coworker who just didn't seem to understand that I wasn't interested, and he told me he once literally pulled said coworker away from one of our female coworkers at a party. Some guys don't have enough respect to realize that no actually means …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 05:33 PM
3

See, I think it generally works out that way. If a guy has sisters and a good relationship with his mother, he's likely to be a HVM. But I have known a guy who has that female influence and still turned out to be really crappy towards women. But, I guess it shouldn't surprise me, seeing as he made fun of his sister when they were kids and used to be aggressive towards his mother. I wonder if there's really a perfect formula for males to turn out very decent which doesn't involve them having sist…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 05:28 PM
3

That's nice :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 05:26 PM
2

once I see you as a friend, you are forever a friend. If anything romantic were to happen, this person would have to start off as a romantic interest. The conversion from friend to romance just never happens for me. Exactly the way it is for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 05:25 PM
2

I'm not saying you're wrong, but it hasn't been my experience. Maybe it would be if I had far more male friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 05:24 PM
9

I did think about that, someone being bisexual. I definitely think genuine friendships are possible. It's just that some men seem to have NO idea how to NOT try to fuck every female that they come into contact with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 10:04 PM
6

That's wonderful!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 09:58 PM
6

It's my comment. Lol. And I agree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 09:57 PM
22

Interesting take. I have a handful of male friends (hetero males) that I have never had anything romantic with. I realize there's no guarantee that they themselves have never had romantic motive towards me, however if any of them did, they never acted on it, nor was it obvious to me. It seems to me like most straight men who have A LOT of female friends have slept with most of them. I've come to feel very distrustful of that. I think it's strange. I can't imagine staying friends with a guy I hav…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 09:56 PM
3

This is such a valid point that is constantly forgotten!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 05:57 AM
2

It's utterly pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 05:30 PM
3

That's really pedophiley. I would never want to date someone that much younger than me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 03:10 PM
2

I feel sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 03:03 PM
6

"Forbidden." I remember hearing that word. It's incredibly childish to me. Why can't people just be happy with their partner who is beautiful, provides for their ass, and is a good person? The only way I could cheat or run around using and discarding people is if I was a complete piece of shit and knew it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 03:01 PM
32

Welp. I feel sad that he was my first crush. He sounds like a tool. But there are so many men, celebrities or not, who have good women and still cheat. I'll never fucking understand a person with that mentality. If I was dating a really attractive guy and he was a very high quality person, I wouldn't even look at another man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 05:03 AM
16

I don't get the reference. I'm assuming he cheated on a VS model?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 04:54 AM
96

They generally don't care about taking care of anyone but themselves. 🤷🏿‍♀️ You could be a Victoria's Secret model with a great personality, and they'd still get bored.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 04:28 AM
6

Yeah that's nice. I will probably just end up living in a nice house with my twin and/or friends. But I still want a husband. A good partner in life. I don't believe it's possible for me anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 02:35 AM
3

Sure
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 01:27 AM
11

Being that first woman is terrifying to me. I have never aspired to not work, and that's part of the reason why. I sometimes sincerely wish that I was a lesbian, or at least bisexual, because I feel that I would have better luck with women, who are at the very least, generally emotionally intelligent. Either way, I don't want to end up alone. But I think that's what's going to happen to me. I'm really not happy about it, but that's what I foresee: a career, a social network, but absolute lonelin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 01:16 AM
11

I mean no disrespect saying this, but I feel that it's not worthwhile to engage with men who have been in or are active in the military. There is simply not enough to help veterans in general, especially as pertains to mental health. I am speaking from experience. I can't stand being accused of things, heightened reactions to innocuous situations, etc. which encompass all of that PTSD. It makes a person incapable of functioning in a relationship in a way that makes that relationship healthy, as …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 01:11 AM
2

There's a lot of obscene things posted on that page, but some of it actually makes me laugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 01:07 AM
1

I misread. But I still stand by what I said. I feel like there are simply no quality men available for me where I live. That is inevitably going to be the reason I remain single.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 01:07 AM
1

There's a Facebook group I found it in called Diaries of a tattooed sad ***: https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=610770566472049&id=223334508548992 (Couldn't spell the entire name of the group due to rules)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 11:07 PM
1

50?!? Christ. I think that I live in a place that there is an extreme shortage of quality men. I only ever end up being with people who seem okay at the beginning, the first 6 months to a year, then they always decide they would rather sleep around than be in a committed relationship. I feel like it would be too hard to find even just 5 men that I would consider dating in the first place. If I had to weed through people continuously, I probably wouldn't find the right person until I am 85. Sigh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 11:06 PM
7

May I ask how many LVMs you had to trek through?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 07:51 PM
3

Hahaha :D
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 07:50 PM
9

I second that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 06:19 PM
19

Me too! I just didn't feel like trying to squash all of it into one image. But my favorite part is where he said "emotionally wounded community penis." It's so accurate for so many men. And it's sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 06:18 PM
57

Marriage is not a guarantee for anything. That's for certain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 06:17 PM
6

Exactly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 03:31 PM
26

Please send the password to the HVM vault.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 05:36 AM
2

I love her reply. Omg rofl! 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 05:35 AM
6

It's a narc thing. They need backup supply.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 05:34 AM
4

This happens to be EVERY guy I attract! Without me even trying to!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 05:33 AM
7

I have a hydrangea bush now that I planted. Men don't give a fuck about doing nice things for women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 05:32 AM
4

That's the thing that blows my mind about this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 02:04 AM
53

This has happened to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 12:30 AM
2

And I hope we all learn NOT to do this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 10:20 PM
8

I hate that so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 05:50 AM
17

Lol. Well done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 12:52 AM
1

Yup
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 12:51 AM
16

I remember being at a bar with my ex and several times realizing him staring ad nauseam at some woman across the room. It happened before elsewhere, and I just found myself thinking, "Is what we have even at all what he wants? Is he ever going to not be like that?" I almost feel like it's better to end up alone so you're not constantly wondering.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 12:50 AM
45

Perhaps it's good that I'm alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 12:44 AM
12

Oh, he's so deliciously fat and I want him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 12:44 AM
35

Damn. Where do they make these guys and how do I get one?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 12:43 AM
12

I am a young spinster.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 12:42 AM
2

Absolutely. People only change if they want to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 12:41 AM
2

It just means the dude is too stupid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 12:41 AM
1

That's fucking infuriating. If you could go back in time, you could discard him first before he even got the chance to feign emotions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 11:10 PM
1

I'm so sorry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 07:52 PM
2

All true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 07:52 PM
14

he'd turn it around and be like "It hurts me so much that you think I'm such a terrible partner" The shit makes me fucking livid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 11:25 PM
26

I've had to figure that type out for myself, and my BS is in psychology. I wish I had spent more time on the personality disorders. But before I knew what to call it, I was still able to identify it as a problem in people around me. Now I suspect it so often that I wonder just how rare it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 11:23 PM
3

Christ.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 11:21 PM
26

I really don't even mean this in a sexist way: women are SO much more emotionally intelligent than men on average. That's not something I would ever expect a man to do. Being an asshole, your s/o tells you that you hurt them, but then NOT going to therapy to work on it so that you don't do that to them again, requires a great deficit in emotional intelligence. Maybe I should marry a woman. Problem solved.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 09:19 PM
110

Narcs are fucking maddening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 05:12 PM
1

Absolutely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 08:06 PM
4

I like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 08:06 PM
3

Yup!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 07:05 AM
21

Most men don't give a fucking shit about being in a relationship, period. That's why men in their 30s won't commit. Commitment is not hard to do, they simply do not give a fucking shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 07:03 AM
13

A very pathetic man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 06:59 AM
10

I'm glad that is considered assault. It's fucked up, and anyone who does it should suffer the fullest consequences. Then you STILL have all these men complaining about how women TrAP tHeM into having a baby while the fatherfuckers sit there and REFUSE to use condoms. Foh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 09:15 PM
9

I don't like any of those people and I have no patience to listen to their codswallop. I remember reading about "red pill" women complaining about how badly their like-minded men treat them. It's just a shame. If you're going to support such degrading ideas, don't be surprised when those same guys treat you like utter shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 11:15 PM
2

Every time I see a tweet from that guy, it's just fucking disgusting. What the fuck is wrong with this prick? Fucking IDW shitheads.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 06:28 AM
5

I feel like it's not even worth it. This is just all too common. I'll just die alone, then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 06:23 AM
39

I've never had a one night stand, never will, and never want anything to do with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 06:22 AM
6

I love Issa Rae. I have loved her ever since Awkward Black Girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 06:20 AM
7

I'll never understand people who do that. Break up with someone multiple times, then get upset when that person won't take them back. Dude, YOU ended it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 06:14 AM
2

Very well said.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 04:51 AM
3

If a man can't understand why these things are stressful and a boundary issue, he must be extremely emotionally unintelligent. I have heard of that sub, but I have never been there. Thinking I should take a look.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 04:42 AM
5

My standards are essentially everything on the right. It's amazing how hard it is to find that, and it's not even remotely unreasonable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 04:37 AM
35

This is why I'm always automatically wary of an attractive guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 04:34 AM
3

Now I really want to know what happened after that last text. He probably exploded at her all over again. That's what always happens.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 10:35 PM
2

I think it sucks because what if the broke man actually treated you well? I've heard about it being like that, but I think it's rare. Usually, that broke individual treats the woman like shit, at which point, being broken up with is a godsend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 09:50 PM
12

The covert narcissism is something I only recently learned about. And I grew up with an overt narcissist (father). NPD isn't always that stereotype that people think of when they hear the word "narcissism," where someone is just obsessed with the way they look and thinks they're better than other people, there is so much more to it. Reading about it got me thinking how many people I have actually known who meet the criteria (at least 5 out of 9 characteristics). Now I suspect it all the time. It…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 06:15 PM
16

Looks like a narc to me. I can't help seeing it and assuming it all the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 05:22 PM
9

I think the provider instinct is definitely real for men. I can see how they're socialized for it from a young age. Ffs. I JUST want for the man I want to be with to be and stay committed, whether he is broke or not. I'll read this book, but it doesn't stop me from always attracting a guy that isn't prepared to actualy settle down and stop fucking around. That's what I am fed up with. It isn't about money to me. I need for someone to fucking commit like I do. None of them do. And these aren't me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 07:24 AM
20

I just don't trust anyone anymore, plus I'm not attracted to anyone. What's the point now? They're all careless. I'm tired of it. Just do something nice for yourself, do your hair, buy something you really want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 04:40 AM
16

I have dated guys that didn't make much, and they STILL broke up with me because they didn't have a lot of money. Even though money wasn't the reason I wanted to date them 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 04:26 AM
3

I don't frequent that many subs these days. I feel like this is the only one worth my while. Idk what other sites to go to for this particular topic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 04:24 AM
24

I have seen this picture before, but in reference to there simply being groups for all kinds of people (gay people, POC, etc.) and it still rings true. People need to be allowed to have their own spaces to talk about their issues. It's really not a crazy or inhumane thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 04:22 AM
1

Love it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 04:20 AM
11

I genuinely think LDRs CAN work and be very reciprocal. My cousin is proof of that. She moved to Sweden to be with her now husband. He came to the U.S. first a couple of times. He really committed to it, and now they are very happy together. My family has been to visit her a few times. I still haven't had the chance. I think of their success story and it makes me just feel so fucking depressed that my situation didn't work out similarly. I think people have to work with you, or else it won't wor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 08:18 PM
4

I think a lot of men are afraid to admit that. So, they get into relationships to feel top tier by association/basking in reflected glory, then realize they can't hold a candle to the woman they chose. They run off to be with low value women in order to not feel emasculated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 08:10 PM
1

Oh my god, that's so awful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 08:07 PM
11

Reading that was painful. I feel sorry for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 08:04 PM
4

I gave up on all of that a long time ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 08:04 PM
10

I only have a few good things. I otherwise haven't received a whole lot of physical gifts. My ex a couple of years ago randomly bought me roses. It wasn't Valentine's Day or anything, he just did it to make me happy. One time. A male friend of mine maybe 2 years ago bought me a little basket of fruit and left it on my doorstep for Valentine's Day. I think he must care about me a lot. I thought it was sweet. He still checks in with me, especially when life is going very shittily for me. My ex-fia…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 08:02 PM
13

I flew from coast to coast in a long distance relationship at least five times. If someone isn't going to find a way to get to you, smh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 07:59 PM
3

I'm just going to marry myself. FTS. I'm sorry you went through that. But glad you have a support system.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 07:57 PM
5

I like Tina.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 05:15 PM
15

Some guy about a decade ago when I tried online dating took me to a movie. He lied about how he really looked in person (his profile photos were a few years old and he had put on noticeable weight). In the middle of the film, he held my hand. I thought it was kind of strange for someone I just met. But it wasn't that big a deal. But next thing I know, he starts literally making out with the back of my hand. With tongue. I laughed and retracted my hand. I used to have a really bad habit of laughi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 05:08 PM
3

Very well said.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 05:00 PM
24

I have never met a man that responded that way to my rejection. That's a unicorn right there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 04:58 PM
15

I've chosen to just be in love with myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 04:55 PM
9

Same. Basic respect, communication, and commitment are not things you should have to teach a guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 04:55 PM
4

This is very true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 04:54 PM
5

Yup
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 04:53 PM
2

Yeah, but I never like anyone. It's so difficult to ever find someone I'm interested in all around. There simply isn't anyone for me. Whenever I think there is, they just bail.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 12:08 AM
27

That's what I was thinking. I find it extremely concerning and unnerving that a man would use a non-sexual toy which is for a child for self pleasure. Something is seriously wrong with that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 05:47 PM
6

What the actual fuck?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 05:43 PM
3

Louder for the people in the back!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 03:23 PM
2

No worries. I think that it does cloud judgment. I've dealt with that. I just ultimately wish I could turn off that desire completely. Because it causes me a great deal of emotional pain. Maybe there's a way to psychologically unlearn it. I'm working on that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 07:03 PM
3

Yeah, resources make a difference. I just hope you understand that my comment up there was not me saying, "Black women tolerate intimate partner violence and poor treatment more than white women." I just don't know how you deduced that that's what I meant...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 03:56 PM
7

I did some research, and it actually is true that women of color experience higher rates of intimate partner violence than white women. It had nothing to do with "to make it sound like we are more likely to tolerate bad men than white women." You completely misinterpreted my comment. (https://www.cdc.gov/mmwr/volumes/66/wr/mm6628a1.htm https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1447110/ https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S1359178908000797) Also, the abuse women experience at…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 03:15 PM
10

I always ask myself why there are men who think they should be allowed to entirely abandon that responsibility. Especially those who are anti-birth control. It doesn't make an ounce of sense. Why do they think it's okay to keep shoving their dicks in women, knowing the consequences, but believing they should take zero responsibility? Tired horseshit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 01:15 AM
5

I have a genuine question for you: do you think that it's possible for it to not be about wanting male validation, but to literally yearn for a life partner who can provide you with the physical needs you have which you don't desire to have with anyone else?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 12:56 AM
3

I know. I just really wish I had gotten violent with the guy. Because I could have. It makes me so angry to know I tolerated that as an adult. Sigh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 11:22 PM
17

How do these guys just fall into some women's laps? That sounds lucky.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 07:28 PM
15

I have developed this realization that you can never really know who anyone is. It makes me not want to trust anyone. Because you can't actually know for certain whether someone is telling you the truth, or what they do when you're not with them. You have to risk that if you want to be in a relationship. The not knowing makes me crazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 07:25 PM
3

I thought that's what he was referring to at first, too. I got nauseous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 07:23 PM
11

"Apolitical"? Lmfao. That's just code for "conservative." Every time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 07:21 PM
6

If there's anything I've learned, it's that I don't want to deal with that. I'm simply not the sort of person who takes interest in more than one guy at a time. So, if a guy can't decide who he wants to pursue and is entertaining multiple women at the same time, I just don't want to be one of those women. You either want me or you don't. Maybe that sounds stuck up, but I'm just not interested in being someone's back up in case things don't work with someone else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 07:18 PM
20

The last sentence is very true as well. It's terrifying. I've heard of "honor killings" and I just don't understand, no matter a person's religion, how they can murder their own sister/niece/daughter/wife.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 07:09 PM
3

That is good to hear. I will always hate myself for staying with my ex when I was 25. I told that bastard not to do something to me sexually that I don't like. He pretended that he didn't understand what I was saying (he was Turkish, I'm American), but I know he understood what "stop" means. I wish I had simply gotten up and walked out the door. I don't know how I accepted that at 25.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 07:07 PM
41

I am not entirely sure, but it seems like I have seen this stuff happening disproportionately to black women. Why is that? This year alone, I have run into so many stories about black women dying at the hands of their boyfriends. I remember family members pretty much warning me not to date outside of my race, and I have always thought that was such bullshit. I don't know that it's really about that. It's awful that it happens to any women, period. Does this happen to women of colour at a higher …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 06:54 PM
5

I was never allowed to sleep over at friend's houses as a kid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 06:47 PM
2

What the actual fuck? What is with some men and not having hygiene? Turning underwear inside out? ...How can you be like this and then wonder why a woman doesn't want to touch you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 06:47 PM
29

I understand this. It still sucks, though. I can count on one hand the men who have positively impacted my life. It's too bad that hasn't been my experience all the way around. ​ I realized that I still need to figure out why I want a man so much. For me, I don't think it's as simple as socialization to want that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 06:41 PM
4

This is utterly disturbing and why I can't use dating sites.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 05:50 PM
15

I'm fucking sick of that excuse. It's deplorable. If you love someone, why not go and masturbate instead? I'll never understand this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 05:49 PM
1

I can't say what I want to say about this without it resulting in a ban.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 05:47 PM
2

I'll never get how a person doesn't understand why that might make a woman uncomfortable. Do they even think about the reasons why? Maybe she thought you were fucking stalking her. Maybe something similar happened to her before and that man actually did something to her. Maybe she simply doesn't want that kind of attention from strangers. Imagine if we constantly did things like that to men. Especially if they found the women doing it to be creepy. It's awful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 05:46 PM
6

These women are amazing. 84?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 05:43 PM
10

That had me smiling. She definitely proves that age doesn't have to limit you. She's healthy. I have seen people in their 20s and 30s who are already deteriorating. It goes to show you that if you take care of yourself, you can really be happy and live a long and productive life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 05:39 PM
8

Yup
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 05:35 PM
39

This makes a great deal of sense. I wonder why some people don't ever realize just how hypocritical they are. If men are supposed to be the primary breadwinners but then they don't even want to take care of the children they helped create, that's a goddamn cop out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 05:34 PM
3

Chances are if you scare him away because you want to know what he wants and his intent, his intentions were likely very bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 02:03 AM
1

I have tried to see what is out there on the dating part of Facebook (not because I want to date or am ready to do that. I just was hoping that somehow I might actually enjoy talking to someone/take my mind off of being disappointed). The first day I took a look at that thing, I almost threw my fucking phone. I don't like anyone. I don't know why. I don't know what it takes for me to like somebody, but I just am not attracted to anyone 99% of the time. I'm not even talking about physically alone…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 11:06 PM
4

I don't know how to say this without risking sounding like a complete asshole (I definitely don't mean it that way) but you have to get over that. Believe me when I tell you that you would rather know sooner rather than later what this person wants and what their intentions are with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 10:52 PM
25

Wanting to not go public means he wants to look available.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 09:01 AM
28

I have learned the hard way from long distance that you will simply be hurt if the other person isn't sure what they can and can't handle. I have heard success stories, but I think they're few and far between. Ask what he wants up front and if he can't honestly tell you, decide whether you just want to have fun or risk getting torn apart.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 08:59 AM
2

I flat out say what I won't tolerate anymore. You can't stay afraid of losing someone. It's true what they say: you teach people how to treat you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 08:55 AM
8

I can't stop seeing NPD in everything I read in here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 08:54 AM
1

💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 08:44 AM
4

If you have ever heard of NPD, that's what this sounds like to me. The dude is probably a covert narcissist. You responded accordingly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 08:43 AM
24

A lot of them never stop shopping. I just don't trust anyone anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 08:41 AM
4

Same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 08:39 AM
6

Truth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 08:35 AM
6

Sick. Absolutely sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 02:32 AM
16

It's always the same story.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 02:31 AM
5

I am utterly fucking disgusted that men like that exist. I can't imagine being this huge of a piece of fatherfucking shit. This stuff just gives me no faith in men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 02:31 AM
220

he wanted all the wife perks without the commitment. We tried couples counseling and he bailed on it because they therapist was “mean” and called him abusive. He insulted me in front of his mother. Wow, he had zero insight. At least you're happy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 01:09 AM
53

I figured I might as well start saving up to do this. Might take a couple of years because I still haven't gotten my career going just yet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 01:03 AM
5

I'm not even sure why I look in this sub...maybe to remind myself that I'm not the only woman who has such trouble. I'm just very angry and I feel that my heart is irreparably broken. I don't think it's going to be possible for me to want to date ever again. I haven't in years. I just always end up hurt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 12:31 AM
4

I live in a major city and there just isn't anything here. And I don't have unreasonable standards at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 11:50 PM
2

If I have to beg for attention and feel the need to compete with other women, it's not even fucking worth it. I'm quite sure these days that I will never date ever a-fucking-gain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 11:48 PM
4

I've learned to be apprehensive of compliments altogether. I don't know what their motive is and I won't trust it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 11:46 PM
4

I feel that this was the same in my last relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 11:44 PM
25

I'm disgusted by that, people playing that kind of game. There's nothing respectful about it. Why be in a relationship if you want everyone else to think you are single?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 11:42 PM
20

I really don't understand that entire thing. I have never wanted a romantic interest to be younger than me, especially not significantly. I can't imagine being attracted to teen males. Even men my age (28) often look too young to me. It's just weird.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 11:40 PM
2

Me fucking too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 08:18 PM
2

There's too many shitheads out there. Get the fuck out of relationships if you don't want to be in them. What the fuck!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 08:18 PM
4

I've met too many men that need to hear this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 08:17 PM
22

This makes my blood boil. I'm never actually going to date or fuck anyone ever again. This is just inevitable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 08:15 PM
3

I agree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 08:13 PM
1

Sigh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 08:13 PM
3

The best way to handle that is to literally not acknowledge it. He sounds like a covert narcissist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 08:10 PM
6

How the fuck did he think saying that would make her feel? I literally swear, and I'm not just coming from a place of hurt or anger: most men have absolutely NO fucking emotional intelligence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 08:06 PM
10

Where the fuck does your sister find that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 08:04 PM
2

I believe that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 08:03 PM
2

I hope she leaves him. What indirect ways does he try to get your attention? Liking photos?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 08:00 PM
1

What if you constantly attract LVM, regardless of whether you're trying to or not? Does that genuinely mean that you just suck, or is it that "opposites attract" idea?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 07:55 PM
23

I personally want to be proposed to, but it doesn't have to be in public. But if it was, and I didn't want that, I would just say no. Regardless of who's watching. If a person chooses to propose in public, they have to accept that they're doing it that way. They shouldn't even do it if they truly think she might say no. Unfortunately, there are women who buy into this and say yes only to say no in private. Just be yourselves, ladies. Don't give into something you don't want, even if people are w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 07:52 PM
7

This is true. You can give and give, and give even more to someone who isn't going to do anything but take and not reciprocate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 07:49 PM
4

I agree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 07:48 PM
3

Same!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 07:45 PM
16

I haven't seen this one before, but I like it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 07:42 PM
47

These broke assholes don't even have gold to dig. This line made my day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 07:39 PM
1

Don't waste your time. This sort of thing goes on even for years. He will keep doing this if you let him. You have to realize that if you're not getting the whole 9 yards, he doesn't respect you enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 07:38 PM
1

Has he tried to contact you since cutting him off?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 07:36 PM
9

This is something that I really hate a lot. I don't want anything to do with that. You either want to be in a relationship and be exclusive or you DON'T. Every time you breadcrumb some random other person who is not your significant other, this is effectively what you're doing. I seriously cannot fathom being this kind of asshole. If I DON'T like a guy and I DON'T ever see myself getting romantic with him in any way, shape, or form, I'm not going to sit there drooling all over him. That's fuckin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 07:31 PM
30

I see nothing wrong with this. It only makes sense. If a guy manipulates women so that he can get them in bed, then he can shut the fuck up about them manipulating him to get his money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 07:27 PM
3

I need to be with somebody who TALKS. If you have a problem with something, just fucking TALK. SAY IT. Don't blow up out of control at me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 07:26 PM
5

I'm simply disappointed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 07:13 PM
8

I have simply learned not to trust, and not to expect anything. Pay attention to a person's patterns. Pay attention to the things that men do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 07:13 PM
5

Wtf is wrong with men? I'm constantly fucking wondering.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 09:07 AM
3

I want to be with a guy like that. Sigh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 08:44 AM
8

I have to just get used to dating myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 08:42 AM
3

I saw that and it made me extremely angry. Sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 10:11 PM
9

That's amazing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 10:10 PM
7

I remember a hygienist telling me that that kind of bacteria is actually transmissible via kissing. It scared me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 04:33 AM
3

At 37? My god. How do people like this exist? That's just awfully sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 04:29 AM
5

I'll just buy my own ring one day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 04:15 AM
12

I think I'd have left. That's just ridiculous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 04:10 AM
13

Something I don't understand about some men is that. Having a health issue and having money to fix it...but not fixing it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 04:09 AM
24

Never try to change anyone. It's not your job as a woman. A man has to decide who he's going to be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 04:05 AM
3

Very much agree. Respect shouldn't be limited to "only if I find someone attractive."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 04:01 AM
6

A guy has only ever bought me flowers once. I have bought them for myself ever since.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 03:34 AM
6

I wouldn't touch my ex with a 10-foot pole. Not long after the break up, I had no desire to so much as even remember his name. I don't understand people who keep running back to exes. Usually, I think second tries may be worth it, although are very circumstantially dependent. But, if someone is an ex, they're usually an ex for a reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 03:30 AM
2

My cousin moved to Sweden to find her now husband. It's been almost 11 years and she still seems happy. It's crazy to me that people who are compatible rarely live in the same place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 05:20 AM
1

Reading these comments makes me want to go to a women only gym. I swear to god the number of old fucking men that literally stop and watch me lift. It's infuriating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 05:18 AM
1

I love that. Lmfao. Axe 6-in-1! Hahahaha. A real face wash can actually do wonders for a guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 05:09 AM
1

Anyone who lies about being on birth control is deceitful and wrong. Just as wrong as men who willy nilly believe every woman they sleep with and make their own conscious choice not to use condoms.
/r/MensRights15/04/19 06:32 PM
1

That does make a lot of sense when you think about it. People don't want to turn into their parents. I certainly don't want to copy my father's cheating behaviours, or my mother's acceptance of poor treatment.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/18 02:12 AM
1

Have you tried r/deadbedrooms?
/r/MGTOW12/04/18 05:29 AM
1

My opinion, seeing as I am currently witnessing a divorce happening to someone I care about very deeply, is that the law is bullshit. If someone cohabitated with you for years but literally never paid anything regarding the bills/rent/mortgage, they should not receive one piece of that asset. I wish that the laws agreed with me, but I realise that they don't, because in the situation I'm witnessing, the husband has over $2,000,000 that he stashed away in various places and withheld from the hous…
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/18 11:54 PM
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