My sister is dating a guy who lied about having kids, thoughts?

Platipus6 · 2022-01-02T22:22:20+00:00

It means he's ok denying the existence of humans he created, he's a giant piece of shit.

She's "ok" with it because she

has no standards
doesn't know how to set or enforce a boundary (no liars)
settled for some other reason - this is the best she can get

and now that he knows she'll eat shit, he'll feed her more shit. Men have zero respect for women who fall for their lies (even though they lie specifically to get a woman to fall for it 😩)

TAALLY · 2022-01-02T20:56:58+00:00

Lied about being responsible for a whole human being?? Multiple human beings im guessing from your use of "KIDS." What else is he lying about? She should've dumped him immediately.

rainbowshummingbird · 2022-01-02T21:11:05+00:00

Lying about having kids merits disqualification.

katiekat0214 · 2022-01-02T21:28:28+00:00

He lied and can't be trusted with anything. Run.

VaselineB · 2022-01-02T21:24:12+00:00

For now, she is blinded by love, but soon she will be slapped back to reality.

herbivorouscarnivore · 2022-01-02T20:55:49+00:00

What else is he lying about.

dating-adventures · 2022-01-02T21:12:19+00:00

That’s a major thing for him to lie about

Thereismorethanthis · 2022-01-02T22:03:45+00:00

oh my god. what else is he lying about 😐

I also get “he’ll trap her with babies” vibes. I hope she is very careful with her birth control. keeps it away from him. he sounds like he would poke holes in condoms.

DuchessDurag · 2022-01-02T21:47:01+00:00

Tell your sister to run!

A lot of single dads lie to single women all the time about their kids. They know a lot of women won’t accept their baggage and choose to lie.

He’s already demonstrated he’s not trustworthy and he has manipulated your sister. Its possible he could still be sleeping with the mother of his children too.

WandernWondern · 2022-01-03T01:13:57+00:00

Tell her to leave and don’t look back. A man who can be dishonest about his own child/children can and will be dishonest about everything.

Back in my pickme days I was in a situationship with a LVM for 6 years. He lied about (by never mentioning) his daughter for 4 of those years. The next year he tried to use serious emotional manipulation to get me to commit a felony for him. 🤡 Please impress upon her these type of men are very dangerous. This is just the start.

extraodi · 2022-01-02T22:22:05+00:00

I’ve learned if someone lies from the very beginning they’re not worth the trouble.

Junior-Lion7893 · 2022-01-02T22:25:04+00:00

This happened to my friend. She found out she was pregnant with his son when she was only 17. He was WAAAAY older (he was in his 20’s when they met) and had multiple baby mamas who he never sees once they become pregnant. He has never met any of his babies. He just moves on to be with another child-free woman and leaves them when they get pregnant. That is his game.

The really sad part of it all is that, every year and holiday, his son writes letters and pictures to his father asking the mother to give it to his father and she doesn’t know what to do. Sometimes, when we meet up, she shows us his drawings/letters, and our group ends buying him candy and toys telling him that it’s from us to try and distract him.

melympia · 2022-01-03T02:12:37+00:00

He wants a free nanny. And he needed to lie to get her hooked because "she wouldn't have given him a chance" if he had been upfront.

highoncatnipbrownies · 2022-01-02T20:55:26+00:00

If he life about something that big he's lying about other things..

Jinxhourglass · 2022-01-02T20:50:54+00:00

It means she’s a pickme

SearchLightsInc · 2022-01-02T23:33:53+00:00

Run.

DiosaCordilia · 2022-01-03T00:00:06+00:00

She doesn't dare to say to you she's dating with him (if you heard it from someone else?) And he lied about his kids. He's lying about basically anything and everything. Block, delete, run.

Keepers12345 · 2022-01-03T04:32:52+00:00

How happy can you really be with someone after he lies to you about having children?

I mean, I'm unsure if there are any acceptable lies to start off with, but if so, there is still no way that lying about having children is unacceptable.

Hoping that you're sharing this thread with her, because I doubt that there is not a seed of doubt about this guy in the back of her mind.

Of course, there is a reason why fellow FDS members are asking, "What else is he lying about?" We know that this guy is not a person of integrity. He's lying about whatever he needs to, in order to keep up his image (narcissistic behavior).

Your sister must also know that he's likely hiding more from her (and will continue to do so), because that's just the type of person that he is.

She's lucky that she found out about his lie from the get-go.

No one can tell her what to do with her life, but at least you know that you did what you can.

Now it's up to her to realize that she deserves better.

Unfortunately, sometimes women (myself included) learned the hard way that we shouldn't ignore red flags.

fireforestfairy · 2022-01-03T13:04:55+00:00

Nope. Lying about something so important is a HUGE red flag.

lolmemberberries · 2022-01-03T15:36:27+00:00

That's a giant red flag. If he's lying about his own children, what else is he capable of keeping from her? She should dump him, stat.

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LetsGetin_Formation · 2022-01-02T21:15:04+00:00

To be fair he utterly manipulated her. The honeymoon phase with someone you think is a good person is an incredibly binding experience.
This bait and switch of his was very devious, especially considering she’s child free as you mentioned in another post.

Men do this intentionally when you’re emotionally invested. Imagine you’re genuinely falling in love with someone and you learn he’s a liar. It’s hard to just quit cold turkey, and if she’s not on FDS it’s even harder to not ignore the crimson flags and leave. Because that means being alone and possibly sad again.

He will hurt her even more in the future but rest assured he is a manipulator. Men who do this are selfish and love the attention they’re getting from the girl they’re lying to more than the girl themselves.

Title	My sister is dating a guy who lied about having kids, thoughts?
Author	europoor24
Upvotes	248
Comments	49
Date	January 2, 2022 8:48 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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