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Ok.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 01:10 AM
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Well I’m unlikely to do a legal marriage. More like a commitment ceremony in front of close friends and family. So if he did do a 180 I would simply un-commit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 12:32 AM
23

I’m waiting until marriage for non religious reasons. A no PIV orgasm would be great practice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 12:30 AM
136

Right? I just don’t believe anyone out there is this crazy 😂🤣😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 07:51 PM
42

I really hope these are jokes… I just can’t imagine anyone willingly being a part of anything so ridiculous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 07:50 PM
53

Exactly this. A woman should definitely define this for herself because it’s an important question but never feel compelled to give any explanation at all. And if someone/the mainstream becomes offended - oh well - that’s a them problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 07:45 PM
17

These fair weather husbands.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 02:46 PM
8

This post is amazing. I want to send it to a friend currently waking up from pickmeism. And what is with the negativity around living alone? I’ve lived with men and I much prefer living with just me and my daughter. I’d rather focus on my actual kid than a grown man behaving like one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 01:07 PM
9

Somebody. Please help her. Splitting rent. Worrying about his child support payments. Him spending his money on him while she spends on them. Jealousy issues. Porn problems… Where does she really see this going? Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 12:21 PM
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Wait. She’s working 2 jobs to make ends meet. Taking care of 2 kids (1 part time) and multiple dogs. And he’s spending every evening ‘in the bathroom’ while she cooks, cleans, and takes care of dogs?? I mean I know he groomed her when she was 21 and he was 28 but how do these glaring imbalances in workload not compel these women to say anything? Why can’t he wank in the bathroom while no one is home and he’s not working?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 02:42 PM
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Trifling. That’s all I can say tri👏🏾fl 👏🏾ING👏🏾 This is so gross. My daughter is going to be 19 in 2 months. Where is she? Home. Lol. Working on her dreams. Ignoring bums. She claims she doesn’t have space for her but has the mental space to backstab her? Pickme mothers of girls have got to be the worst. Bet she’ll next wonder why her daughter doesn’t talk to her. She’ll be completely befuddled.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 01:09 PM
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I didn’t know she had left him. Wow. Another FDS warning - cut off all the LVM/NVM/ZVM’s access to you once you leave. They will try to harm you one way or another.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 08:40 PM
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I don’t know how but doing this (procreating with NVM) has occurred to me exactly twice in my pick me life. Once because I liked the guy but he was a raging alcoholic and I thought he’d pull it together for a kid. And another because I was getting scared of time running out. Thankfully- I fell for neither of those self-laid traps. The first guy I’m pretty sure is currently homeless (saw him picking up mail from a UPS store with a backpack stuffed to capacity on his back and his skin tanned like …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 05:11 PM
123

Some things money can’t fix…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 07:05 PM
46

What downvotes? 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 07:04 PM
75

IMO the answer is one word - control. I had a guy move to a state after I moved there after we had broken up. Then kept showing up at my house uninvited. I let him knock until he left. I even replied to his texts from inside my house letting him know he was not invited and I was busy. He was mad but got the point. Let ‘em knock.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 03:45 PM
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What I’ve noticed, like others have said, it will always be the ones with the least to offer that will have the most audacity. It’s just the way it is. Put yourself in their shoes. You know you have nothing to offer. You know it’s a turn off. You don’t plan on changing that. So how do you get women? By having nothing but audacity. A lot of men have been trained since young that they can bravado away any insecurities or shortcomings. No self reflection. No self improvement. That’s for women. They…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 02:42 PM
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It’s sick. I feel really bad for her and her future. If that’s all my husband had to contribute I’d shut down my TikTok and get my life sorted 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 01:33 PM
19

That was my question - is 52 his age?? What is he really doing?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 01:16 PM
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I saw his contribution to a serious topic on her account (re-entering the workforce after being a SAHW) - a sexual comment. That’s it, I’ve seen all I needed to see. That + the following 18 yo thirst trap accounts + me not seeing where he even said he was retiring her - we all know how it’s going to go for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 01:05 PM
184

Go. Little. Rockstar!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 05:54 PM
307

Still early enough to get that abortion. Jake isn’t it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 05:52 PM
20

She better than me. I would’ve never even put in writing I had it in the first place. He’d have never known. And IF he ever got it back it’d be because I happened to bump into him while I had it with me. He wants to be a clown then have her drive TO HIM. Crazyyyy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 08:57 PM
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Dang! I feel so bad for her. Such an extreme case. But not the only one. LV dudes have literally pushed their wives off cliffs. Like what goes through their minds knowing they’re likely going to die? Like this lady here. I’m so glad she fought for her life. Bad partners, married or not, can truly be life sentences.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 02:59 PM
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Just want to give a shot out to the mods. Y’all are rocking keeping these trolls out of here!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 02:06 PM
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Low value man. That’s a critical part of the formula. Yes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 01:45 PM
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Clarifying the ‘later’ part. They were married for many years before he tried to murder her. Point remains the same - he was likely a LV man from the start. From meeting him through a newspaper ad friends and family took out where they tried to clean it up but let it be known she was uncomfortable with her body/weight; to a first date ‘feeding ducks’; to a note about him needing to ‘get away’ and a crazy person waiting in her room with a hammer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 01:44 PM
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I thought once you’ve commingled that was it? You can not un-commingle? I completely disregarded the not being liable for his debts part. He has all her pertinent information as her husband and he’s a gambling addict… What does she think is going to happen? I feel like this is inherentes money she has because…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 03:44 AM
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Right? A total mess. You wanna stop him from stealing all your money but you won’t divorce him?? 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 03:25 AM
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They need therapy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 01:56 AM
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Everyone laughs but I’m usually fast asleep by 930pm and my life is drama free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 11:13 PM
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Who hates men? I don’t. I don’t even hate the low value ones. I’m just never getting involved with them again 😂. They really got folks out here believing they have a right to women’s time and energy no matter how they present theirselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 11:10 PM
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I’d rather f myself (literally) than use my body to provide randos ‘joy’. Da fuq? If you care about them and they need support ummm Ionno maybe spend some time chatting with them or go for a walk as a FRIEND. Why is your body the only thing you can provide for ‘joy’? These folks r truly lost.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 01:02 PM
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Next year? What next year? He’s bold. He could’ve just as easily taken the time to thoughtfully create and mail a car package of items he knows you eat so you could have them while you were working. But he chose to take the lazy way out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 12:42 PM
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🤢🤢🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 02:23 PM
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Shameless. Hopefully she left him on read + block and delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 08:03 PM
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Seems about right but for the scrotes I know. But they’d need a home of their own first and to find all those piles of money in the first place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 07:59 PM
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Is the febreeze meant to signify that they don’t have to actually clean?? 😂🤣😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 07:57 PM
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Never knew there were men cheap enough to do this. Had a dude distance in October around my bday (after talking for 3 months). Reappear in time for his birthday in December. Then distance again in February - suspiciously close to V day lol. Needless to say I cut that fool loose. He had many, MANY other LV traits this was just one of many and not even the worst. He actually complained one day that he was frustrated that it was taking him so long to get married when he had several chances to do so…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 04:13 PM
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Good on mum!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 11:54 AM
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I want to take a chance to explain how I KNOW the commenter is a pickme. I used to not orgasm during intercourse as well. Guess why, because I was a pickme and was having sex with men I wasn’t deeply attracted to because I was just focused on convincing them to ‘pick me’. Guess what happened when I stopped that even just partially? Orgasms. Lol. That’s either not a female at all or it’s a hardcore, crazy lost in the sauce pickme.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 09:38 PM
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As a former pickme who had several ‘friends’ thst really didn’t say anything and just distanced? Guess what? I woke up and that distance will stay there forever because at my worst I wasn’t worth fighting for to them. With that experience in mind, my rationale is this - if I ever find out a friend is a pickme - I’m telling her. Periodt. Come what may. I see 3 outcomes- she curses me and never talks to me again; she doesn’t say much but creates distance; or she says you’re right - thanks for bein…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 06:21 PM
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This is what I don’t get. Why didn’t he ask the plan before getting in the checkout line??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 02:08 PM
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I don’t even know why she was trying to 50/50 anything at all. Like. Anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 02:04 PM
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This. Why? Why would I shack up with a boyfriend? I’d rather live with my parents 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 02:02 PM
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You don’t know how hard I’m praying to the universe that he was just giving her a ride! But I know in my deepest of souls that’s probably exactly what happened but she’s ALSO having casual sex with him and he also probably comes over to her house and eats half that food when he’s hungry and no one else is available.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 05:57 PM
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I was really disappointed when I saw that. I was like what? Some people REALLY think sex work is empowering.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 03:27 PM
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I did this in my deep pickme days. I thought I was being ‘smart’ by ‘never shitting where I sleep’. Smart would’ve been to run away from those men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 03:12 PM
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Sooo a woman is the president of a men’s rights group? And she’s saying men won’t marry if they’re not allowed to rape their wives?? Pickme level 100.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 02:03 PM
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Why do we have 4 paragraphs on lack of ‘harm’? Reminds me of serial killers starting with defenseless animals. They’re likely to progress their abuse to humans eventually. It’s just practice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 01:50 PM
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Me - I’d have kept the child and got rid of the man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 01:10 PM
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My thought too. Boink him. Let the authorities deal with his nastiness. The girl needs to be protected, taught, something. Like is she being sex trafficked? What’s going on?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 12:28 PM
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This. I had to rewind the videos a few times to understand what he was saying. It’s almost like he has too many teeth in his mouth??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 05:42 PM
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I’m still confused about the ‘clout’ part? Clout from where? From who?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 05:40 PM
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I’ll just say this - assuming you’re an ally of the black community AND of black women particularly - hear us. We can no longer afford to mollycoddle BM - it’s literally costing us our lives. BM are not keeping up on literally any socioeconomic metric. Which leads to more antisocial behavior from them which majority fall on black women and children as they ‘punch down’. We all know the roadblocks set up for them to fail in many western nations. They have to persevere. They have to actively and h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 07:31 PM
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Agreed. Didn’t hear any casual racism. I heard facts. Facts that black men, certain black women, and quite a few white female allies are not ready to hear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 07:15 PM
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😭😭😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 01:26 PM
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This. I have an Eastern European friend and yeah - she’s having none of that 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 01:24 PM
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I can understand that. Lots of good families (particularly religious ones) created some really damaging roles for their girls, particularly the older ones. I’m actually going through this now. I have some close family members (think siblings) who cannot see me any other way than their mule. So I’m going through the emotional work to distance from them . It’s not easy but I’m sure I’ll be better for it. Note I’m not saying cut them off. I’ll never do that to my family I just can’t. But I can keep…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 05:07 PM
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One thing I’ve learned about family is this - how they see you grow up is the role they will always revert you to. So if you grew up a pickme mule in and for your family it’ll be an uphill battle for them to see you any other way. And sometimes that battle isn’t worth fighting. I’d much rather re-raise myself and make sure going forward I never revert to that role again. I’ve given up that fight with my family. Not my family, but the fight to make them understand I’ll never be their pickme mule …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 04:52 PM
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These types definitely target high earners with low self esteem then resent their success. Has happened to me twice - I’ve learned my lesson 😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 12:20 PM
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Come on in. Stay a while. Life can be beautiful on the FDS side.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 11:24 PM
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I’m really sorry to hear this happened to you. I’ve ran into 2 pickme doctors in my lifetime. It was horrible both times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 10:14 AM
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Pickme female doctors are a scourge.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 08:12 PM
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That is crazy! So he can try to use psycho-emotional manipulation on women but you telling him plainly why it wouldn’t work is bullying? Well we know tech bros so we know who’s making these moderator decisions. Exactly why I don’t use Facebook 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 06:55 PM
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Link: https://www.aidsmap.com/news/oct-2007/stigma-surrounding-genital-herpes-major-barrier-disclosure-uk-study-finds
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 05:21 PM
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It was damn hard. Lol. Luckily her dad wasn’t a total a$$, just not as motivated to get us out of poverty as I was. But the dudes after him who thought because I had a young child I’d put with their $hit. 😂🤣😂 Joke’s on them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 05:18 PM
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I tell my 18 yo daughter at least twice a week… 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 12:49 PM
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I’m over here snickering because I’m 38. My daughters 18. Guess who’s NOT raising a pickme?? Spread the word y’all. Lots of young mothers of daughters out there need a word. Soon their underaged supply will be looking at them exactly the way we do 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 12:46 PM
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I like this comparison and explanation. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 12:33 PM
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He needs to joke less. So he doesn’t have to repeat classes. He sounds lame and she sounds like she can do way better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 12:11 PM
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FB messenger? Ish- I’d snail mail her. You might get an angry call from her leech if he reads her mail tho. Which sounds like he would lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 07:11 PM
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I’d just tell her and be ready for the backlash. As long as I knew it was coming from a good place she could say whatever she wants. Personally, I express myself better in writing. I’d send her an email with links to the most appropriate posts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 06:58 PM
11

Praying that prenup is iron clad!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 02:53 PM
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Gamblers, alcoholics, and men who don’t understand the value of being gainfully employed. Send these ones back… You do NOT want that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 02:49 PM
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What I came here to say - why do they think they NEED to sign? Things will just move on without you. You can’t hold a person hostage. It is not 1882 😂🤣😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 12:35 PM
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Alternate POV - he’s working HARD at manifesting you back into his life…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 07:14 PM
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Facts. She didn’t help him cuz seggs was lame. She was just in an abandoned parking lot at midnight and didn’t want to tell him that for her own safety. Dollars to doughnuts she never even said that. He was just adding sauce to the story to make himself look better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 04:19 PM
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My last relationship in haiku 😂🤣🤣😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 03:51 PM
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Red flags 🚩 everywhere, on both sides. Plus he likely groomed his victim. She was 35 and he was 56, that’s a 21 year age difference! 🚩A 7 year relationship puts her at 28 and him at 49 when they started🚩 The power imbalance here is absurd. Also, he’s shady af with his wife 🚩. Glad she made it out alive. This is an apex predator and I’m glad he’s in jail for life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 07:15 PM
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If that’s it… Good grief.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 06:46 PM
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What is there to rationalize? Your boyfriend doesn’t care for you like you care for him. And you’re putting yourself at risk for that imbalance of affections. With constant UTIs. Chileee. The world needs FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 01:53 PM
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She made a statement in some article about never financially benefiting from her rich boyfriend. But now she’s a single mom. It doesn’t matter how rich her baby daddy is, particularly since it’s rumored he doesn’t pay child support. So he essentially used her as a free surrogate and left her. Come on now. Hopefully there’s a quiet deal in there because this makes no sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 11:42 AM
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My advice: 1. Tell him you’re not interested in remaining ‘friends’ with a failed lover. You don’t have ‘friends’ like that. 2. Block him everywhere including text. 3. Save all your communications including this post (I think this is considered a reach out) so you can document his violent behavior 4. Get a home alarm system, a dog, whatever you feel protected with 5. Be ready. Ready to call 911 and get a restraining order for stalking if you a) see him around your neighborhood b) he shows up at …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 01:29 PM
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He’d be doing her a favor by skating. This is the beginning of resentment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 01:13 PM
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This is HIGHLY unlikely to be the case. He said he was average looking…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 01:12 PM
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That’s craazzzyy! But good on you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 02:46 AM
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Tell her to leave and don’t look back. A man who can be dishonest about his own child/children can and will be dishonest about everything. Back in my pickme days I was in a situationship with a LVM for 6 years. He lied about (by never mentioning) his daughter for 4 of those years. The next year he tried to use serious emotional manipulation to get me to commit a felony for him. 🤡 Please impress upon her these type of men are very dangerous. This is just the start.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 01:13 AM
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No. They’re all blocked. And as they get new numbers to ‘check my temp’ from I block those too. Lol. One excruciatingly low value ex tried sending me a sexy pic I sent him a long time ago saying something sexual. I replied to him saying I was the mother of the 12 year old he just texted and this was considered distributing porn to a child. I have since had the exceedingly good fortune to never be bothered by that human trash again. Edit: Thanks for the award!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/22 04:19 PM
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Gross. The number of women who do not support women is shocking to me. I just can’t understand it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/22 04:13 PM
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Gosh I’m sorry you had to live through that. Specifically as a WOC forced to participate in that disgusting conversation on prostitution. I’m also sorry you had to cut off your friend. I personally would have made it clear to her why she was cut off for her edification and urged her to stop entertaining that loser. My blood boiled reading this. I couldn’t have finished the night. I’d have left at the first disrespect. Edit: a word
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/22 03:43 PM
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I will never move a man into my home (again). NEVER. It has to be the other way around. I don’t care if I have $80 million and he has $80.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 03:34 AM
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Periodt
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 02:31 AM
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Interesting. I’ve been wondering why my intuition has been avoiding them. People keep saying it’ll be great. Everyone needs one. My inner voice has been like nahhh. I think this may be why 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 02:32 PM
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This. I say this to single friends sometimes and it’s almost like it’s the first time they’ve considered it. If a man can not give me something I do not already have, something of value to me that I want and improves my life what is the point of him? And I’ve given myself and my daughter (18) all the basics and more so the bar is quite high. And I’m ok with that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 01:52 PM
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That ‘us’ really sent me. Lol. I automatically replaced it with me (him).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 07:47 AM
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😂🤣😂 Still likes the P. So you’re just trying to get the P to lower its standards then? This guy is delusional and salty AF. He can keep ranting into the void and waiting for ‘the sex bots’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 09:58 PM
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I’m paying for no dates. Only presents for something special for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 03:47 PM
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Please post! Some of us desperately want to get into climbing but do NOT want to do it with men. Please post about how to start climbing as a female without involving men at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 04:41 AM
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This is actually my new standard. No PIV sex unless you can make me orgasm without it. Because if you can’t using foreplay and other tools adding your P in my V won’t accomplish it. Excellent filtering mechanism.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 03:28 AM
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I’d rather constantly drink alcohol- at least I’d be happy lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 04:28 PM
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Right? This math isn’t mathing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 03:19 AM
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Well he sucked up close to 40 years of her life while he pursued his acting career. That’s the price. But I got a question- he seems unbothered. Why are all these broke men counting his coins for him instead of getting their own? I don’t understand it at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 02:20 AM
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Short answer: I don’t. I smile, never say a word, and walk off to mind the business that pays me. Life’s too short to spend it sparring with non-useful idiots.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 04:08 PM
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Well. This is good to know. Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 04:10 PM
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I can barely believe female friends are out here behaving like this! I’ve only had men scheme on my finances lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 01:40 PM
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I’m doing this. I had sworn off OLD because I don’t even want see/scan/read any low effort messages. But this may just work in weeding out the low quality would be messages.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 06:18 PM
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I didn’t read any bitchiness either. Only the silly and fragile would be offended.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 06:16 PM
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Usually to see if there’s space in your place for them to live rent/responsibility free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 07:57 PM
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I was asked this. He pretended it was to check if I was single or not 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 01:20 AM
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The only truth in this entire screed is that he will be sending her to rehab…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 06:18 PM
7

They definitely do. I just saw a TikTok where a guy was advising would be hobosexuals how to use sex to stay in a woman’s place indefinitely…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 06:00 PM
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😂🤣😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 03:36 PM
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I never understood trying to date while being unemployed or underemployed. Doesn’t make sense to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 03:30 PM
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Before the due date 😂🤣😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 03:28 PM
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I’m sorry you interpreted my post to mean you won’t meet the right one some day - I meant the complete opposite. But I realize I did not spell that out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 02:17 AM
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Agreed. Single moms are usually way more useful and adjusted than single dads. And small kids are way more work. If I don’t have a small kid why would I date anyone with one? Unless he is of VERY high value. That’s the only way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 10:19 PM
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That man’s crazy. Glad you got away. I hope you’re able to minimize contact with him as much as possible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 06:07 PM
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Right? A lot of people assume if you’re a single mom you’re going to date a single dad. Unlikely. A lot of them have a lot of drama and negativity, usually of their own creation. Now, if I meet an evolved single dad who has a stable peaceful and organized life with ONE respectful child - I may try it. But if you have 4 kids running around with multiple mothers. Child support payments and other bills you can’t handle. Hard pass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 03:49 PM
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You’re the last thing he wants to see… I mean did someone have a gun to his head?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 01:09 PM
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😂🤣😭😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 05:37 PM
74

I did note the ‘but don’t let her move in’ piece. LV but willing to do the most, outside of become HV ofc 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 05:21 PM
11

I feel this is more than social conditioning. It’s energy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 05:14 PM
12

I can’t believe some of them are doing it AGAIN 👀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 05:12 PM
79

‘If it were up to me I’d leave…’ Well isn’t it up to you, sir? I’ll say it again, life with a porn sick, limp d!ck child trapped in a man’s body is an absolute hellscape. He’s going to remove about a year off her life with this stress.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 04:38 PM
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Meh. I’ll be 40 in a few years and I’m not concerned. I completely stopped dealing with LV males about 2 years ago. I methodically released every last one from my life even LV exes claiming to be ‘friends’. I redirected all the energy I used to waste on LVMs to my daughter and myself. The difference is like night and day. I LOVE my life now. I spend all my post savings disposable income on me and my daughter. We take overseas trips. We schedule shopping and foodie trips. I buy myself whatever I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 03:19 PM
21

Men don’t respect the builder chick. They usually grab anyone willing to take them; rely on them heavily; and when he’s making more and has more options he leaves the builder person for who he truly wanted all along. The issue here is empire building is a masculine energy (btw I’m not saying women can’t empire build just characterizing the energy). So the type of man who would do this is going to think he is responsible for everything that is built. You might get an enlightened guy who will see …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 01:45 PM
3

This is where the competence barrier comes in. First off he started dating her when she was 18 and he was 22? 🚩 Secondly, whether he drives or not he still needs to know HOW. It’s a necessary life skill if he’s in the US and a good thing to know anywhere. Basic life skill. Then he’s ‘tagging along’ where she goes. Which is nonsense he’s a barnacle. He’s getting free rides and deciding to go places after she goes to avoid learning to drive. How can you even consider building a life with someone w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 10:54 AM
87

Tell me about it! This country’s whole vibe has made me 110% celibate. My insurance is screwing around with my birth control because I lost a few and needed an early refill. I was thinking about the Roe challenge and starting to get upset then I remembered - I’m celibate lol. My only worries are cystic acne from messed up hormones without the bc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 11:44 PM
12

Just. No. They both need an email/letter/conversation because this is nasty. 1. Who’s giving fellatio without showers?? He’s been urinating all day PLUS sleeping with other women? Also, what is a 9 year fiancé?? That’s not a terminal status. It’s getting wild out there…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 07:23 PM
54

Imagine asking a lady to drive 2 hours RT to have coffee with you? The audacity 😂🤣😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 02:24 PM
6

Buy? With whose money?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 12:30 PM
21

Who added penis size to HV? I’m here to testify- lots of more endowed men are LV scrotes for that very reason. Actually- come to think of it - the ones on the larger side of things were HUGE douches. Like 2 of the 4 endowed ‘situationships’ I’ve had literally mentioned it. One even said he had ‘d!ck d!ck’. He also had 4 kids with 3 different women. It’d have been with 4 different women but the last two were twins 🤡 Another said he didn’t worry about something relationship related because he had …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 06:42 PM
3

Specific hair towels are VERY common. To avoid breakage. He needs some more important things to focus. I can’t imagine if a dude told me he thought someone was going to make fun of me and his solution was to change me… 😂🤣😂👋🏾
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 03:04 PM
10

FACTS. No lies detected.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 05:12 PM
31

That’s why when my daughter asked if I wanted to see it it was a round No…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 01:12 AM
39

He should - but we see how his mental framework processed that information lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 07:58 PM
10

To your last paragraph - this is exactly what I have decided to do. The time and focus I now have for myself and my loved ones is staggering. It makes me really wish I had done this earlier. Also, I can see how, although slightly counterintuitive, being picky with who and how you spend your dating time can lead to a better outcome. Endlessly scrolling through OLD sites is not going to lead to the HVM I’m looking for. I already know that. The guy I’m looking for will be out doing things, being a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 06:55 PM
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Only red flag I see is him comparing having to pay to her having a Lexus. He’s supposed to pay, why should she even pretend to reach for her wallet? She should have been on time though, it’s a respect thing. Unless she knew in advance he’d post something like this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 04:22 PM
30

Dude. I dated (it was an experiment really) this older, religious guy. He kept using that help-meet crap. It was a train wreck. There was no helping him. I would’ve drowned myself if I tried. First of all he drank heavily and watched (I’m guessing quite a bit of) porn previous to us meeting. He needed viagra and was pretty overweight (liquor belly). He was always broke because he didn’t make much money in the first place but was also bad with money (it all went to eating out because he wouldn’t …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 12:31 PM
30

Ditto. I have 2 preachers for parents and I want absolutely nothing to do with it. It’s just so creepy, manipulative and abusive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 12:18 PM
19

You don’t have to throw Islam away because some people have perverted it. If Islam, as you define it, is for you, let it be for you. Follow it the way you understand it. Don’t look for any outside validation. You don’t need it. Study, have faith in your own understanding, and grow closer to your god in peace and happiness. Scrotes gonna scrote, don’t let them take your beliefs from you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 12:14 PM
36

His next wife is that age now…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 08:50 PM
62

Thanks for the clarification- I was worried.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 08:49 PM
3

Thank you for sharing this. Provides a LOT of clarity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 06:14 PM
22

I don’t know about what she deserves but we all have to learn someday. As my grandmama used to say - you lie down with dogs, you wake up with fleas. Ignorance and arrogance can be expensive. Hopefully next time she’ll avoid the triangulation trap. I truly hope she levels all the way up mentally and emotionally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 03:15 AM
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I won’t go into the religious aspect because I think it’s irrelevant but what I will say is what is NOT a chicken and egg mystery is that HVM breed HVM. And that’s regardless of religious beliefs or social standing. And an impoverished, lacking mindset is infectious. I’ll also note being born impoverished does not guarantee an impoverished mindset but it does predispose you to one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 06:44 PM
21

I believe this is true - 100% Signed, a successful former pick-me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 05:27 PM
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I don’t think he did. I think he’s still ‘fighting’ the decision to be suspended without pay. I mean how bad do you have to f up to be suspended without pay as a cop in some of the most unionized states in the union?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 05:26 PM
6

I count at least 10. That’s being kind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 05:04 PM
80

I just ignore them and make sure my life is as happy and peaceful as possible. Without any crazy people in it - of any color.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 01:26 PM
74

This is the way I see it. I’m not sure why but for some reason the WM/BW combo ends up healthier than the other way around. And while I’m sorry to have to say it - I will say it - it’s because of the dysfunction a lot of black men bring to the BM/WW combo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 01:25 PM
75

This literally makes me want to vomit 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 01:18 PM
12

‘Forever person’ I had that phrase used on me by an extreme manipulator. The context was after I decided I would not commit a felony to benefit him he said once he found his forever person he’d be sure to let me know. Lol. That was after 6 years of relationship fishing me for sex and attention (on his time table of course)…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 02:53 PM
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Silence speaks volumes Insulting someone and they keep talking to you easily identifies those who have low self esteem and no/soft boundaries. It’s a tactic. If you get away with that you can get away with more. If you can’t and never hear from them again - you can’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 03:52 PM
48

Advice: Never marry broke.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 11:37 AM
19

I used to know a guy like this. Broke down crying when he thought I was cheating (I wasn’t, I was trying to graduate college by doing my homework with my classmates) all the while he was cheating with everyone he could.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 02:45 PM
1

These type of men will cheap out on anyone who allows them to - regardless of race, skin color, or creed lol. If someone’s on sale they’re taking it - simple.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 03:53 AM
52

This. There was a YT vlogger that shared a while back that she went in a date with a guy that told her since Jay cheated on B all men could. 👀👀👀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 04:52 AM
25

Scrotes gonna scrote. #Ignore
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 07:39 PM
25

I know that the regular one is but there’s a super gonorrhea strain making it’s way around and I’m not sure what the status is on that one. There’s also permanent damage that can be done to your reproductive system if left untreated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 03:46 PM
11

I didn’t know gonorrhea could become permanent
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 02:20 PM
115

I’m sorry that happened. What a shit human being.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 12:55 PM
60

This describes one of my exes to a T! Just add in a raging alcohol dependency problem. Hot mess created by his family - which is right where I dropped him off to get him away from my house. Last I saw him he was walking around collecting mail from the UPS store with a huge backpack on his back. Like his whole life was in it. He was homeless. SMDH. RIP to my former pickme self that tried to rehabilitate that mess. Edit: typo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 01:39 AM
4

Who cares if it’s real or not? When did making unvetted, unproven men feel better become your job? This guy already sounds like too much. When you start a relationship with depressing shit - you need to take a break from the game and get your life together. I concur it sounds like he’s looking for some sort of assistance with his life. A mommy? A therapist? A free nurse/doctor? Who knows but it’s definitely not your job to figure it out for him…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 05:37 PM
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