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MALE DEPRAVITYDiosaCordilia/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 09:25 PM
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LESSON LEARNEDDiosaCordilia/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 01:49 PM
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LIES MEN TELLDiosaCordilia/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 12:27 AM
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RANTDiosaCordilia/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 03:26 PM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYDiosaCordilia/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 10:16 PM
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FDS HUMORDiosaCordilia/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 10:38 AM
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DiosaCordilia/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 11:09 AM
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DISCUSSIONDiosaCordilia/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 11:57 AM
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DiosaCordilia/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 11:03 AM
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LEVEL UPDiosaCordilia/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 11:50 AM
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REMINDER 👑DiosaCordilia/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 11:03 PM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYDiosaCordilia/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 11:18 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYDiosaCordilia/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 06:59 PM
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FDS SUCCESS!DiosaCordilia/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 11:44 AM
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QUEEN SH*TDiosaCordilia/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 12:58 PM
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DiosaCordilia/r/askFDS21/12/21 02:39 PM
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How-To High ValueDiosaCordilia/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 05:39 PM
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DiosaCordilia/r/askFDS29/12/21 04:12 PM
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FDS HUMORDiosaCordilia/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 09:06 AM
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DiosaCordilia/r/askFDS20/01/21 01:36 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYDiosaCordilia/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 09:44 AM
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DiosaCordilia/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 05:24 PM
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DiosaCordilia/r/askFDS16/12/21 05:34 PM
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DISCUSSIONDiosaCordilia/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 12:46 PM
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LEVEL UPDiosaCordilia/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 02:47 PM
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DISCUSSIONDiosaCordilia/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 11:52 AM
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Exactly!! You can't go back anymore to being ignorant, because YOU KNOW. You just know! It's wonderful. Also what you said about the boundaries reminds me of this video lol; https://www.instagram.com/reel/CbsxyyuDwoz/?igshid=MDJmNzVkMjY=
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/22 12:05 PM
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I know, it never felt right but I was a people-pleaser/overly-empathic person back then, perfect target for narcs/sociopaths etc. Not anymore so, glad that's in the past!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/22 10:26 AM
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I know right 🙃 it was fucking bullshit but they manipulated me into thinking I was this bad person so I basically stepped up my game to almost forcefully proof myself to them. Luckily that's in the past.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/22 10:25 AM
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Alright! Thank you😁😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/22 10:21 AM
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Oh that's what it's called thanks, yeah I already have 2 factor authentication on basically everything that is important to me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/22 10:19 AM
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Thank you! This is why I never use my full real name anywhere. However; is the last thing you suggested really needed? As in; I took a photo for example.. Put it on Instagram.. Would it be smarter to firstly get rid of the Metadata in it or is it already removed? Never heard from it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/22 10:09 PM
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What is 2FA?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/22 09:57 PM
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Yup! Definitely. Also people who are not genuine that say they give anything and never expect anything back can be people to look out for. I've had a situation with my NVM ex and ex mil, she always wanted to give me presents and pressured me into receiving them whilest I said I didn't wanted it and that I felt uncomfortable (probably my intuition warning me). Always pressured me into eating there so she could made me diner. And in the end they said to me that I took advantage of it all and never…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/22 09:41 PM
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😭😭😭😭😆😆😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 02:08 PM
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I heard this comment😭😭😭🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/22 11:16 AM
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It's the same as always. Both are guilty but the woman gets more torture from it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/22 11:15 AM
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What is NSA sex? I'm sorry you feel this way.. I really hope you find that spark again in yourself 💖 The comment above I agree with in terms of self care
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/22 08:15 PM
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Yup! I guess it's even proved that when your ovulating you seem to match with the "wrong" men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/22 08:10 PM
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HAHAH SAME!😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/22 08:01 PM
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Finally😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/22 07:38 PM
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Thanks for the questions. To be honest, I want to say what I want in the way that I want whilest being respectful, I want to tell him how I feel and that is not up for discussion. I want to get over my fear for confrontation and I feel this is a big lesson for me. The tactic of withdrawing, I would totally do that if I wasn't an active conflict avoided person, because for me it is the easy way yes but the fear for another confrontation will only get bigger and bigger if I never actually stand up…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 11:57 PM
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What would you preferred to do then?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 11:21 PM
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That's horrible. Good you blocked her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 10:56 PM
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I find it hard to make a decision right now because I don't know the reaction. So I guess yes it's the first thing, because I do expect change however I've had conversations with him before, last summer for example but never this well "harsh" and honest from my side, so I'm wondering how he is going to handle it. My expectations for his reactions are: he denies and gaslight it or become very defensive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 10:29 PM
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Thank God! Yup, I think it's good for me to take the risk for the confrontation actually. I really tend to avoid conflict because it makes me so anxious to the point of being physical in pain, however this made me basically into a doormat whilest I know I have a strong personality. I actually wrote 4 points to say that are not going to be discussed. I want to say this and see his reaction. If he starts to gaslight me or anything else I'm out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 09:36 PM
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Oh God. Good for you you cut her out. And did you ever saw her again as in somewhere? Yes, 1000% sure, 3000% actually 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 08:26 PM
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What was the reason if I may ask? And also; did she reached out again or tried to come over or anything? I'm not feeling very safe to this actually in this particular situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 06:34 PM
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🤣🙌 Love this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 06:27 PM
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In what way do they do that? I feel this too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 06:24 PM
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Omg girl.. Same. In narcistic theory these people who defend for example the narcist are called flying monkeys. I feel this suits your situation as well as mine. I also wanted to confirm my feelings but the only thing I got back as that they "didn't feel the same at all" whilest they also had a problem with their behavior in the first place 🥱 Only when it's convenient for then they'll have your back. Yup! Great lesson, sucks to go through but the lesson is good. Well said, thanks, that also insp…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 06:17 PM
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Thanks for your reply, could've write this myself. If you feel these shady vibes, you can actually feel this in your body, trust it, I used and sometimes still doubt them, now I know, we as women have amazing intuition and we need to honor it and never settle for disrespect. 🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 12:40 PM
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Male absence 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 04:45 PM
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Oh no.. This sounds so sad. Sending you lots of love. Stay strong and don't fucking bow down to him. He thinks your defensive because you have boundaries and he wants you to become HIS doormat. Fuck him, not literally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 04:27 PM
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For real. They're all about their kids online because they want to look good for the family and also as a pickme/tradwife for them boyZzz
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 02:03 PM
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I guess it was Wondering Womb but I'm not sure anymore or Lisa Michele on YouTube
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 02:01 PM
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I don't find this political incorrect. You just explained what horrible nature men have. Just like they're naturally designed to rape. Does it sound nice? No. Is it biology? Yes. Does a fact care about your feeling? No.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 01:51 PM
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My blood boils when I hear shit like this. It sounds desperate and plain dumb. She's basically saying that without a man, she doesn't have a life and her kids aren't worthy enough. People like that are not able to raise children, they put them in danger because of themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 01:49 PM
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This is horrible
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 01:45 PM
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Thanks for the recommendations!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 01:44 PM
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Girl. Same. I'm very enthusiastic, empathic and funny, that's my nature and also my face reveals everything. People see exactly what's up when they see my face and actually, good for them and good for me. Also; people that are thinking that your facial expression is the only thing you gotta say, without giving you a chance to explain yourself, are imo bad at communicating and listening after all. Don't try to change this about yourself, because it won't feel natural to you. You only wear emotion…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 10:52 PM
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This is fucking crazy lol. The audacity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 10:37 PM
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How did you deal with this? I can relate to your story.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 10:35 PM
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What is ethical non monogamy in the first place? Lol. You must look into OkCupid, just for fun, your eyes will fall out what you see there for real.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 10:06 PM
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She should dump him immediatly. He probably masturbates on her female friends also.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 10:00 PM
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It's OK! See this now too as I took a little break from Reddit. Thankyou 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 09:54 PM
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At least you're both interested in visual arts, yay !!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 09:44 PM
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Reddit hates women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 09:43 PM
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He then shocked me by saying this he thinks we’re not compatible. He doesn’t think he could wait that long for sex and that he wanted someone (his words) “to find him irresistible and would always be excited to have sex with him anytime.” Dying. He explained how he just didn’t want to be used and how I really hurt his feelings by shooting him down for sex after he had been “so nice” to me. He realized that he’s completely wrong about me. Dying again. I walked back in my house and I could hear hi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 09:42 PM
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Indeed. I'm proud of myself though. Firstly I wanted to get salty because I could find literally so much shit to make a "diss track" back. But then I was like; queen, why would you even consider wasting your precious time on this? Block, report, delete and continue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 10:24 AM
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Hahaha yeah we should make an FDS rap group🤣 Maybe I should write a poem about it lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 08:55 AM
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Congratulations on dodging a massive scrote bullet What a imbecile 🤣 I can smell his insecurities
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 10:33 PM
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So funny when it's happening to them they all cry and it's like the world is ending but they're more then happy to use women and don't give a fuck about it OR don't even dare to speak up to their "bro's" when they use and treat women like shit. In my pickme time I wanted to leave after having sex with a crazy man (this is a story lol), after I said that I wanted to leave, he started to literally cry and said: 'So you're going to leave me behind? You're used me! Do you need 50 dollars for it???' …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 10:59 AM
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🤣🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 08:18 AM
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I hope so too! I wanted to read your dm but I can't anymore. Can you sent it again?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 04:59 PM
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'I didn't cheat on you, I was just talking to a girl about getting a massage, I didn't actually do it' 'I am just a flirt, it's my personality' 'You don't give me enough sex, so therefore I need and want a fuckbuddy' After a party in his house he didn't invite me to, I saw our picture together turned around in a corner. When I asked why it was laying there he said that the picture "fell off the plank" whilest that couldn't be true, due.. well gravity and the way it was basically muffled into a c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 12:13 AM
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HAHA WHAT🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 12:10 AM
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Thought I would play this game myself. And yay me! I'm toxic for having boundaries and respecting myself. This voice over is 🤢 this girl here 'uhmmmm.. yes' honey, NO. No because: straight women and straight men can't be friends, it's nearly impossible. Most men are waiting for the moment, to be able to flirt with the women especially in their weakest moments. Most women with a lot of actual male friends are pickmes, 'not like other girls' and will stab you in the back and in your front. No beca…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 11:57 PM
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Broke boys don't deserve no pussy I know that's right 🤣 Rather be alone then feeling alone with a scrote hanging on you like a bag of stones. I would rather binge watch the Hunger games 300 times on my own then breathing the same air as you. And I despise the Hunger games. 'What do you bring to the table?' I make the table, what's your point? 'If you leave I'm going to die' Please don't threaten me with a good time. To him, I was an ego stroke. To me, he was a stroke itself. Too high maintenance…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 11:39 PM
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He already knows the answer. He just wants people to 1: say it to him that he is in fact a creep and the fact that other people affirm that, makes him excited. Or 2: he really wants people to defend him by saying it's normal. I can tell you it is 1. This man knows exactly what he's doing and this is just for attention and his own pleasure 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 11:25 PM
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Thank you, this is very clear advice 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 02:45 PM
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When men speak out: 'I would leave you if the situation would be reversed'. It can also means that actually he wants you to leave and break up with him whilest actually HE wants to break up with YOU but doesn't dare to say this in your face. So he can be the sadboii that got dumped. It's a common manipulative tactic and can be used as a guilt trip even.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 01:04 PM
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That's really good advice, thanks for the example. I had a habit of lowkey agreeing with them and with that mocking myself. Now I know this is not a good strategy because I then make a fool of myself. The only thing I'm worried and anxious about when it comes to changing this habit; people might judge me for being 'offended' or my favorite: 'I didn't meant it' 'Can't you take a joke?' 'You're overreacting' I heard phrases like this all my life and I get so triggered that it puts in a dissociativ…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 12:41 PM
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Oh wow, I didn't know that, that's really messed up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 12:26 PM
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How can you reply to someone that say things like this? I find myself feeling uncomfortable but I don't really know what to say
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 11:49 AM
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If I hear one more time another women being called Karen. I might commit violence. No not literally for the scrotes that are lurking. It makes me so fucking mad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 11:20 AM
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Thank you so much, you have no idea how much this means to me. I heard this all my life and still. It made me think there's something fundamentally wrong with me and I'm still in the proces of changing that and accepting myself the way I am. Do you think this "compliment" can also be applied as a neg when it's said by coworkers/friends/family for example?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 11:05 AM
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All women that stand up for themselves in what way whatsoever are being called autistic in males eyes. It's ableism and misogynistic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 10:54 AM
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You can be liberal and not comfortable with porn! It's not conservative to be against it, that's how the porn industry got everyone brainwashed. You can be against porn, period! I'm sorry you went through that in your marriage, luckily you're out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 09:17 AM
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The fact that MRA's compare a real life war with CoD, a computer game, says a lot of the amount of braincells they have. None, to be exact.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 09:15 AM
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We all have to thank this to 50 shades of Grey (50 shades of fucked up) and the bdsm community that comes with it, liberal feminism with their sex "positive" movement but the real "winner" here is porn and the normalization of it. Also the pickmes that shame other women by saying 'do x,y,z or your man will find another' for example. Sex is an intimate act, sex is something you want to do both, it's not something you owe to someone. Sex is real intimacy and love. And if you find a man, that's wil…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 11:22 PM
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So when you're in a bedroom it's suddenly not real life anymore? The world is going fucking mad. This mother just gave a free-kinkme pass to her daughter, for being so oPeN-MiNdEd. This is ridiculous. This can not be true. I can't believe a mother who has a daughter so young, can be 'oh you want to get abused in the bedroom? That's fine and totally okay, I'm open-minded like that' This can not be true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 10:51 PM
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This makes me sick to my stomach
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 10:48 PM
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💖💖💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 05:54 PM
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Happy birthday and good for you queen🎉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 03:42 PM
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So proud of you queen💫🎉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 11:50 AM
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I completely agree with you. However it is also sad that this is even a thing, it says a lot about the mental health status in people in general.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 10:43 AM
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Well, comparing a 'professional cuddler' with a 'sex worker' is just funny. She really needs therapy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 09:18 AM
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Sorry you went through that and proud you're on a better path now 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 09:02 AM
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Im capable of adjusting them but when it comes to your boyfriend/husband/whatever I truly believe we should have those high expectations. True! I feel sad or angry (mostly) when I evaluate a particular situation and think “I wouldn’t do this do you”. Then BAM I think and think about this for hours or days. Then I either speak up or don’t but I have had a couple of moments like this with him. This sounds actually like a lot of red flags. I'm highly sensitive too but really I don't give a fuck if …
/r/askFDS03/01/22 12:42 AM
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How can I weed this out earlier? I seem to be missing all the red flags. What makes you available to emotional avoidant men? Don't be intimate with a man when you're not sure if he wants to even be exclusive and have a relationship with you. Be clear with your intentions and make him say what his intentions are first, from the beginning. Did you read the handbook?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 12:03 AM
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She doesn't dare to say to you she's dating with him (if you heard it from someone else?) And he lied about his kids. He's lying about basically anything and everything. Block, delete, run.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 12:00 AM
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Long story short; Reddit hates women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/22 11:57 PM
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It depends on the situation. If you feel this hatred towards every single thing someone does wrong in your eyes, it can be that your expectations are so damn high for yourself that you also hold others to these high expectations and project your anger onto them eventually. However, if there are situations in your life happening when people do the dumbest shit (what you think is dumb or ignorant or anything) and it doesn't go along with your morals or values. It's time to think where do you want …
/r/askFDS02/01/22 11:54 PM
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Sorry that happened to you, sounds awful. You did a good job blocking her, you don't need a pickme who doesn't give a shit about how others treat you, let alone a fucking man. 45 and 28.. I just.. well sips tea
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/22 11:06 AM
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Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 05:12 PM
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Whilest we still getting paid less and dealing with sexism, misogyny etc.etc.etc. every day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 03:57 PM
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Can you tell me the names of these apps? Or better; dm me it, if you're comfortable with that. For the lurkers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 02:52 PM
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For fuck sake. Men: does something after 41 years of having the chance to put his fucking wife as a priority, not even talking about THEIR and so also HIS children People: 'OH MY GOD YOURE AMAZING YOURE A GOD WHAT AMAZING YOURE WONDERFUL YOU ARE THE BEST THING THAT HAPPENED ON THIS EARTH. Women: does something People: 'Why she needs praise for that? She's expected to raise her children and since it's all feminist, it's her choice to work.' Why can't men, do nice and compassionate stuff for their…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 01:55 PM
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Can't say it any better!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 11:54 AM
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IME There are a lot. It's already hard to vet a guy that doesn't even live in the same town. The risks are too high.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 10:54 AM
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It's very sad indeed. Can you show me the link to the talk?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 10:27 AM
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Fucking weird isn't? Like I'm very busy with standing my ground and my boundaries right now and it's like everyone notices it and tries to run me over. Or, it can be, that now I see it clearly and they did it all along. I guess it's the second thing. She did have not one good argument, which is logical because if you really know me, you know that I'm super sensitive and I was basically a doormat half my life. Thank you 💖 I luckily find another safe place to celebrate, so I will have fun. It's di…
/r/askFDS29/12/21 05:59 PM
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Yeah wtf I just entered and opened a box full of snakes (I stated here above in another comment) this is what always happens in their group, no one dares to speak up but continues to whine about it. Fuck right off, for real. I'm very straight forward and shit like this pisses me off because it's drama for the sake of what? Everyone's afraid of speaking up and now I am the center of it, because my "friend" doesn't even dare to speak up like this is indeed very middle school like.
/r/askFDS29/12/21 05:33 PM
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Nope. She just went on whining about hOw thErEs aLwAyS dRaMa in their group and how tired she is about it. Didn't even asked how I felt about it, if I have other plans or anything. Nothing 🤡 Also important to mention is that she said a couple days earlier how she thinks I don't have as much empathy as her, whilest she knows me for literally 10 years. When I said how dare she could state this, she asked me why I felt the need to defend myself if I knew I was that empathic, then went into victim m…
/r/askFDS29/12/21 05:29 PM
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Thats horrible. It happens a lot, here in Holland I see a lot of women fantasize about foreign men because they think they treat them more well then Dutch men, because in Holland, women are expected to baby their man if you ask me. Also there are A LOT of liberal feminists here claiming they want to be with black men but I feel like they're fetishizing the fact of being with black men, not for the sake of a relationship but for the validation of the BLM-movement and as what they say "their dick …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 11:55 AM
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Yaaay. Wat goeeeeed🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 10:44 AM
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Becky🤣🤣🤣 why do I see a chihuahua in my head
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 12:46 AM
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I heard a podcast about this topic and I want to quote some things I've heard and what was really making sense to me; When you do this; showing sexy body pics etc, you throw other women under the bus. It makes you want to be looked like a consumption, an object. This can make other women feel like that what you're doing is "empowering" , mostly these women profile themselves as being "empowering", they feel like it's normal and natural to perpetuate that they're objects. This is true liberal fem…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 11:22 PM
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Yup, this is highly pickme-behavior along with major naivety and no boundaries at all. I hope she got of the dating apps immediately, she's not ready.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 11:11 PM
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I'm on my money actually. You have to have a very good reason, be very close to me and trustworthy for me to even thinking about sending you money actually. This situation was already doomed to fail to begin with so I can't even compare myself to this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 11:08 PM
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How do you mean 'this might not be for everyone'? Also where is the comment?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 12:23 AM
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Literally! Starfish queen 👸
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 12:18 AM
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If you already feel the need to look for someone to "boost your self-esteem".. Dating is a no go!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 11:39 PM
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This is just laughable, c'mon now. Asking for YOUR OWN MONEY ?! What a complete shit show stop😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 10:48 PM
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This man. Classic narc. The way he sat there, stared at her and the insults as a result of her standing her ground which was fantastic to see. Ultimate trash 🗑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 10:46 PM
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Yes! Or your hobbies.. or a spa day.. or getting a dog.. or have time with your family So many choices!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 10:35 PM
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Tried that strategy not too long ago. Definitely would not recommend it. Waste of time. Waste of energy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 10:28 PM
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The whole term 'starfish' is misogynistic itself if you ask me. Because of the amount of porn, you're expected to act as if you're filming a porno that's 1 and 2 how ironic, since the #1 argument when it comes to porn is: 'But.. But.. ThE wOmEn oN tHeRe ArE AcTrEsSes' well I ain't an actress am I?🤡 Sorry Michael that I don't spin myself into a three double hula-hoop Twister cornbread to make you and only you cum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 10:25 PM
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I am so sorry for you that you went through this. I know how you feel, I've been through the same, I made a post about this horrible community a couple weeks ago that may inspire you or at least to let you know that you are not alone: https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/rajbzf/disgusted_by_bdsm_community/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share A few questions to ask yourself: Why do you think you're still holding on to BDSM besides the trauma? Why do you feel this is not what…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/21 12:03 AM
2

Thank you for sharing and yes story 2 sounds really like bullying that was disgusting. 💖
/r/askFDS24/12/21 12:21 AM
2

That's good advice! Thank you!
/r/askFDS24/12/21 12:20 AM
10

🙏🙏🙏🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 09:03 PM
20

She is totally brainwashed. No high value woman wants to be treated like this and chooses for this because she will know this is abuse. No high value man would treat any woman/his partner like this. I feel sorry for her, it's just sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 04:12 AM
143

raises my tea glass PREACH SIS! LOUDER AND LOUDER FOR THE SCROTES IN THE BACK! DIE MAD 😈
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 07:55 PM
47

I find it also disturbing that the people who filmed this actually thought this was a good idea. They're just participating and validating this abusive behavior, absurd.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 07:54 PM
61

I turned it off after 1 minute, I can't stand this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 07:33 PM
218

These articles exist for men to adapt this identity for his OLD profile and to make you think he is like this. Women that make articles like this, are the mommy/caretaker-bangmaids of fully grown man-childs, imo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 05:58 PM
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That this is a trend says an awful lot
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 05:51 PM
3

Alright. Do you mean that you more loosen up whilest you continue in a exclusive relationship? And with that I mean still indeed not showing all of your cards but are a bit more loose then non-exclusive or? Well, those are topics I'm also highly sensitive for too and those are the usual jokes around me. I myself participated in these kind of "jokes" and also really dark humor, whilest now I know that wasn't who I am, that was me playing a "cool-girl" that got me trapped in the "sexposi-movement"…
/r/askFDS21/12/21 05:38 PM
4

Bumble BFF.. the name already makes me want to vomit actually. I'm not interested to be best friends with a catfish (for real, lots of catfishes), a pickme or whatever in that category. DECLINED
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 04:32 PM
3

Yup, there are studies that it only takes 30 seconds for someone to know if they like you or not/are attracted to you or not. L i t t e r a l y, the old shy-sadboiii facade. In the trash 🗑 ⛔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 04:28 PM
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I find the line between a roast-joke and an insult very thin, I have difficulties with understanding the meaning of it. I noticed that this comes to the surface more and more now I leveled up my standards and boundaries. However, I do like to joke around and am a woman with humor, I find it hard to find the balance in this. The way you and your family joke around sounds healthy, there is space to call out on people if they cross the line so that's good. How do you make it clear to your SO upfron…
/r/askFDS21/12/21 04:24 PM
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The platforms are definitely designed for just that. That's why I called it a pickme-catalogue, because it is. It can be tempting to go on these apps, due what I also mentioned here dopamine hits, loneliness, lack of meeting people offline but the consequences and what is all behind these apps are just not worth it. It's definitely worth the wait!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 04:19 PM
5

YES! This book is very recommendable! I've read it and it's so insightful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 12:43 PM
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I don’t disagree with the warnings you’re giving, but I also don’t think that anyone who has seriously processed the handbook thinks that OLD is a magical fairyland of HV behaviors. Agreed. I see a lot of posts and comments about OLD, that was another reason to make this post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 12:14 PM
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Definitely an easy tail, definitely a sign of disrespect. I have this tactic for many years now that if we are 'following' each other, or you follow me on any social media platform and you see me in public and won't say 'hi' or anything after you saw me and looked me straight in the eyes. I just block and delete you. Why do you want to sneak up my socials but don't say anything IRL? Wtf is that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 12:11 PM
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Lol at that, these apps really go out of their way to defend themselves. Tinder gaslights people into thinking that people using it for platonic friendships, yeah can be, the 0,01% maybe. And Bumble wants you to know that they are not a hook-up app \stomps feet** If it was all so wonderful, why do these billionaires need to defend themselves aka their money aka their businesses so hard?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 12:03 PM
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Also I would go through periods of being on hinge for a few days and getting tons of messages and then feeling overwhelmed and bored and empty and end up deleting it. Then I’d feel lonely and get it again - rinse and repeat. This is the definition of a dopamine hit. You receive matches, messages and likes then your brain scans it as "rewards". You delete the apps, your brain "loses" its reward system and wants to have it again (the dopamine hit). This is very eye-opening and says a lot about the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 11:46 AM
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When they know you in person and never pursued you offline but will pursue you online then yes I think they're afraid of rejection. And yes I think OLD broke IRL dating in some way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 12:26 AM
18

That laugh at the end 🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 11:43 PM
58

I want to carve my eyes out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 11:41 PM
25

I love that 'quality time' actually. I think that kind of relationship (if I'm actively dating again) would be fitting for me too. Wanted to make a post about that actually. Anyway; poly is indeed a scam. Laughable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 11:41 PM
16

That's so cool! Congrats!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 11:39 PM
10

Legit🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 11:36 PM
27

Nice shirt of his twin brothers. I can smell this photo🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 11:34 PM
307

'I recently saved up 500$ for him to spend on bourbon' He has the audacity to state she can't drink from it because she hasn't contribute on it, whilest she did. I find her reaction really disturbing and I get high abuse vibes. She agrees to say she did not contribute it and that she's not going to drink it but he keeps pushing her to the edge. That scrote is a total narc. Poor woman 😣 I hope she leaves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 11:33 PM
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If you're feeling that you need to get through his texts and DM's, you already know something is up. The fact that he saved these photos is creepy to me and a red flag. Why would you save them, with name and all in the first place and why does he still has them? That he hasn't act sexual to you, doesn't say much at this point. Also it is hard to believe that people have a side you don't know, if they always act in a certain loving way. Men are good at hiding that side but your intuition picked i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 11:27 PM
1

This is really insightful to read. Thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 01:55 PM
1

I LOVE this one 🥺😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/21 03:20 PM
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Absolutely not You can't can not understand it, without a will to pay attention. You just don't care so in fact you don't care about me (a woman) and women in general. Bye.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/21 02:02 PM
1

Lowkey fangirling rn 🥺 I really appreciate your posts and your shared knowledge 🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 06:30 PM
2

Are you radfemblack from instagram and also YouTube?🥺
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 04:20 PM
33

The audacity really. Block and delete
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 12:43 PM
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I'm getting alarmed by this 🚨 Nope. This is a male libfeminist tactic or a redpill tactic in a sneaky way. That's what my intuition is saying. He wants to come off as the good guy immediately, wants you to be shocked that he's doing this different approach and by the shock your mind can be put in fight or flight which may can cause you to think foggy about it and ignore signals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 10:12 PM
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You don't have to say sorry, you're right! I'm launching this to AskFDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 05:32 PM
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🥺💞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 05:00 PM
34

I had a date with a guy and I was sitting in front of him. He was looking a bit down with his head and I could see the reducing hairline like x 100. The longer I stared the worse it got and I remember staring at him and thinking 'what in the actually fuck, you ugly as hell actually' 😭😭😭 it made me giggle but also nervous at the same time😭🤣 Also a guy (this is years ago) picked me up at my house, first off this guy was a idiot who thought he was funny. Well my mom literally stood behind me, HE GR…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 12:49 AM
35

HAHAWHAT
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 12:39 AM
16

It's always this way. The men leaning back laughing their ass off whilest letting their desperate pickmes do these horrible acts of well, as you can see here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 12:39 AM
3

So true and you're so welcome Queen 💞 I'm proud of you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 11:44 PM
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10000x yes. I always thought that being sexual desired was a man respecting me and if I got attention due to me presenting myself as such it would mean they're interested in me. Newsflash NO. Silly old pickme
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 08:52 PM
12

But srs. The couples on there... Like are you fucking lost😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 05:19 PM
34

I used to have Bumble again for a few weeks but the amount of low value men is astounding. You can add on there what you're looking for but they'll still don't know if they want what they're looking for or they flat out lie. They can't pronounce the words: relationship, girlfriend or wife, last time I matched with this air-head, he said that he was looking for a +1, totally aware of what he meant, I said: you mean girlfriend? Then he got annoyed so I deleted him immediately 🥴 On Bumble there's t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 05:16 PM
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HER Is full of catfishes too, at least in my area. Never felt safe anyway using a bisexual/lesbian app because there are a lot of male catfishers there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 05:04 PM
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Yup and she calls everything related to the pregnancy 'breeding' 'breeder' etc 😖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 03:49 PM
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It's very worth mentioning. Thank you for doing so. Women in their 20s (me as well being in my 20s) are the target. And the woman you see here is the outcome. I mean if you look at her instagram and her TikTok page in general, it's so misogynistic, I almost vomited. I cringe hard at women who are past well 30+ doing these highly sexual dances that CHILDREN are seeing, for the sake of what? Desperation at its finest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 02:47 PM
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Well she's brainwashed in this poly culture and everyone is applauding it because it's so LiBerAtiNg and don't you dare say otherwise because then you are the one thats insecure and jealouse
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 02:45 PM
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So powerful. Yes you are the one that is responsible for your actions after all, I love the introspection. However you must remember that the way you've been conditioned as a woman in this patriarchal world, was not your fault. The choices you've made came from you because you didn't know better. The choice you've made came also (subconciously/consciously) due society. What the patriarchy has fed us women to put up with. This is also great to acknowledge, that yes you are so powerful to see that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 01:11 PM
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Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 01:02 PM
3

Loved to have a D&D women's group 🤔 I played it one time and I found it fucking fantastic. It's not so popular in my country and there are a lot of male predators in the "nerd"-community I see around me You're absolutely right, thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 01:02 PM
1

Great decision 💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 01:00 PM
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It is, I found it pretty weird too. I talked about it with a family member and they were getting frustrated with the fact that people like that call someone like me boring because my actions are not as extreme
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 01:00 PM
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Thank you! It's good that you learned the lesson anyway💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 12:59 PM
3

Yup most of them will be having this lifestyle forever and then wonder why they're so unhappy after all It is all empty, because it's not real when you're intoxicated and just doing things for the sake of a so called status. It's fake
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 12:59 PM
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Thank you 💜💫🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 12:58 PM
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It doesn't sound arrogant, this is how I feel too. I'm always leveling up and looking for ways to mentally and physically develop myself in a way that's healthy for me and the people around me too actually. I also think that cause of that people will find me or annoying, will be triggered and jealouse because I challenge their reality or they find me inspiring. I think it's a good quality to have. I'm sorry you went through bullying, I too went through that as well and I think it also has to to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 12:57 PM
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That's awesome that you found a group like that! I love that for you. Which book series is it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 12:54 PM
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Thanks for your comment 💜 It doesn't indeed, I've made my choice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 12:53 PM
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Yup, I'm not even trying to say this anymore since I'll always get; 'It's just a phase, I won't won't forever' (meanwhile this is going on for the last 4 years) and 'Smoking weed makes you connected to your emotions' which is utter bullshit. The discussion is useless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 12:52 PM
3

Thanks for your reaction💜 Did you find people who are more compatible with you now?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 12:51 PM
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I always have my headphones on and don't make eye contact 9 out of 10 times so I'm not approachable, I don't look approachable either because; why? For real. I'm going somewhere and I don't want to get picked up at a fucking busstop or anything 🥴 If someone reaches out to me, I look them dead in the eyes and say: 'No interest'. If I feel unsafe, I just say that I have a boyfriend. I would likely to keep up with the 'no interest' part, especially if it's in a public space. If he asks you why, you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 11:28 PM
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I hope🙏 Yes same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 11:15 PM
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She's very young thats why it's messed up the industry already used and profiled her as a product and object. She works in a really sexist and misogynist industry so to speak up about this whilest in a pro-porn everything culture is very brave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 11:15 PM
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This is a red flag topic. Let's make that clear. Is he blind and deaf? Otherwise I would not know how someone can go around a person for 3 years and don't know what to buy for their birthday if they really care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 09:17 PM
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This would be awesome if she would advocate for anti-porn companies. What I find a bit contradictory is that she also advocates for libfem shit if I say this right.. 🤔 And we all know that libfems thrive on porn and are pro sex-"work" since it's so LiBerAtiNg aNd EmPoWeRinG Good step in the right direction anyway to make this statement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 09:14 PM
4

'I think about hurting everyone. All the time' Welp, time to get some therapy bud.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 04:19 PM
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She's making a fool out of herself. Cmon now. Throw him out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 11:14 AM
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HAHAHA. The audacity. NOT ON MY WATCH
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 11:13 AM
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Don't you sometimes feel like, why are you so mean? Like for real. I literally have to detach sometimes in these groups because I feel actual sadness when they bully someone like that. It's just plain bullying. Oh yessss, yes! I see. Same. Plus, it's a good strategy to notice what they're saying and also you know almost right away that they will talk behind your back as well so 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 11:37 PM
2

That's great advice, I must say that's how I handle it nowadays too but sometimes it frustrates me. What do you mean with 'that you don't repeat things that are said to you'?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 09:02 PM
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"Allies" Sure. 🙂 They'll be allies if they can buy your OF, that's for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 06:42 PM
6

How did you try to distance yourself from gossip and the 'mean girls cliques' at work? I struggle with that sometimes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 11:18 AM
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This is true. When you're a woman and hate other women, for no reason. You know you fell in the trap of the patriarchy like lots of women sadly. I was with my colleague the other day, she's an ultimate pickme and was constantly bashing another woman-colleague that there was nothing feminine about her, that she wonders what she talks about at home because she talks so much and so much more. While she is a bang-housemaid to a NVM narcistic abusive alcoholic. Telling all proudly how their children …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 11:05 AM
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That shows the empathy of the regular man. There is none.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 10:46 AM
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🤣🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 10:29 PM
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Yup. I would rather cuddle most of the time but I always felt pressure and got pressured into sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 06:29 PM
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HAHAHA Oh well ok. The narcistic god complex🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 04:14 PM
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Come join my community. We do weekly gangbangs aka tantric connections, are poly and don't want you to feel any resentment towards it because then you don't let other people free and you're insecure. Also we don't vaccinate because our immune system is basically GODLIKE, we don't need that here. Should I continue?😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 11:51 AM
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The plant medicine bs is growing and growing especially since COVID and the amount of conspiracies. That's why I left the spiritual community. Also 9 ouf of 10 male "shamans" (aka white crypto jobless weed addicts) are predatory men as you can see here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 12:25 AM
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Cats are so wise and intuitive, sadly I'm a bit allergic to the fur (thats why I want a sphynx 🥺) but I would go as far to take anti-allergic (? Idk if I say this right lol) medication to have a cat anyway. Not only cats, pets in general are so intuitive, most pets are so generous 🥺🥺🙏🙏 Also dogs, God I want 40 dogs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 10:04 PM
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This is literally a murder attempt. I'm sorry you had to go through this. NVM/LVM want to test you, till the bitter end, just to provoke a reaction out of you. So that they can turn it around and gaslight you and say 'Why are you mad?' 'You're so sensitive' blablabla. I had encounters with NVM when I would say that I'm really afraid of snails and worms, I really hate them and they make me panic. Next minute; received a lot of photos of exactly that because they thought it was funny. I find it re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 10:00 PM
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The 'Yes mommy' cringed me fucking hard 🤣 Loving the energy though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 12:00 PM
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My life is a lie
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 11:57 AM
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She also talks about surrogacy in one of her videos I think. Indeed.. It's awful 😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 11:12 PM
8

Thanks for the recommendation, will definitely check😄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 09:01 PM
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Damn. But for real tho that one hitted me😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 06:31 PM
9

Her vibe is so awesome right!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 06:00 PM
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She is right! I don't know if she would like to be on the podcast, she's a separatist so she's not dating/engaging in male contact if I'm right. But maybe she can talk about other subjects indeed 😄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 04:29 PM
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You're so welcome! I do too, listened to this whilest cleaning the house
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 03:44 PM
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That's the funniest thing ever. You can't be anti-capatalist ánd pro-porn/sex-"work", it's not possible 🤣 Fairytale life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 02:18 PM
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I love her vlogmas too 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 01:03 PM
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I wanted to give a longer response but this really sucked the energy out of me lol🤣 Secondhand shame. What a loser
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 10:52 PM
3

😍🥰😍🥰😍🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 10:46 PM
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Oh boy.. The so called "savior", at least thats what these men want to be seen as. While in fact they thrive on you being depressed, so they look better. They get the compliments of "staying" and "helping". It's good for his ego etc. It's literal emotional abuse if you ask me and you are a total fucking monster and a sadist if you're getting off by people that are depressed. Unbelievable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 10:45 PM
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Guilty 🤣 I have my type in my profile because it resonates with me However I saw something about Myers-Brigg being pseudoscience elsewhere indeed and I'm wondering if you have maybe a studie or something to share?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 03:25 PM
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I'm wondering if you've read my story. You're not seeing me telling a "kink" since I don't have "kinks". FDS is anti-bdsm, anti-porn etc. "Kink-shaming" doesn't exist here. (At least for me it doesn't) Everyone got there preferences but that's not what BDSM and "kinks" are about. There's a difference between telling that someone that wants to be choked to near death and gets beaten and bruised, is in a abusive environment and is abuse in itself. That's not "kink-shaming". That's telling how it i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 03:10 PM
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Love this Istfg💁‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 03:03 PM
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What does 'lstfg' mean? Or just random letters? Thinking it is a nice abbreviation 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 02:52 PM
12

I'm vomiting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 02:48 PM
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I see not at all a sign of rudeness or anything. Just a woman sick of wasting time and knowing what she wants. It's definitely luck though, good for her😁👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 02:45 PM
2

It is exactly that Proud and glad you came out of it 💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 07:18 AM
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Wonderful comment, thank you 💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 04:12 PM
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I'm so sorry you also had to go through this. It really sounds like you were the perfect target, just like me and sadly lots of other young women. I'm glad you came out of it💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 04:12 PM
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It's not victim blaming anymore if you give advice time and times again and they'll still repeat their patterns because they don't believe you and they think they know better and then come back and complain again, that's dumb and a waste of your time to play along in their cycle
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 04:10 PM
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Yup. That's why the majority of women who've been traumatized in the past are most likely to do sex-"work"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 04:07 PM
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For real though. As if psychologists have a subject 'bdsm as solution' in their studies lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 04:06 PM
3

Google 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 11:10 AM
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💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 11:09 AM
8

The link doesn't work properly but I can see the title
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 10:33 PM
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Thanks, I will definitely look into that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 10:28 PM
3

UHM. YES!!! 😍💜👸 Love this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 05:52 PM
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Another perfect example of; if he wanted to he would. Also the comments I read about the description of him. Girl, he sounds sketchy as fuck. You made the right choice!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 05:19 PM
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I'm sorry for you that must feel terrible especially when you already have a hard time or struggle with your income perhaps due the fact you can't hold down a job. To come here and say this is already a step towards being the hv queen that's inside you. When you're in a vulnerable position, you're more likely to slip up but what I said; the fact that you come here and feel there is something off, is growth 💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 09:23 AM
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Spot on. Reminded me of a situation I was in when I was a young pickme. NEVER move in yourself too. I did it out of desperation one time myself within 3 months, because of my situation in that time (unstable) plus I didn't trust him and I wanted to prove my intuition wrong (well I didn't, found out he was still addicted to cocaine and alcohol, plus cheated on me 🤡) Became his full household bangmaid, became so depressed and nearly psychotic because of the way he gaslit me and emotional abused me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 12:03 AM
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2 questions though, for my own perspective on the 'sex' part and to maybe further advice you; Did you date this guy? Was it a one night stand? Considering your step-dad, it is totally unacceptable that he victim blames you in the first place, basically saying 'Well he is right' with an absurd argument that 'women make a lot of money on OnlyFans', how does he know? How many subscriptions does he have? 🤢 Never talk about this or anything related with your step-dad ever again and make your boundari…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 11:54 PM
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Thank you! What I also see a lot is that single dads using their own child for female validation and/or to get a girlfriend. On social media for example; 'Look at what kind of amazing dad I am' whilest posting everytime they're at a playground or something, I mean.. Maybe it's good to focus on your child instead of proofing yourself 🙃 sounds like compensation to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 04:36 PM
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I'm in my mid 20s so definitely not now any of this. Maybe when I'm older but I'm not planning to 1 have kids and 2 to be a "mom" for someone else's kid. Doesn't feel right to me. Also most men assume you just take care of their child whilest they're doing the bare minimum if not less so ☠ Divorced.. Depends on the situation. Depends on why, how etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 04:24 PM
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👈🏃‍♀️ Sadboiiii problems 🚩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 01:38 AM
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THRIVES ON NEGLECT. STOP IT🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 01:37 PM
2

Still bravo 👏 I even let my fake plants die 🤡 What kind of plant is it?🥺
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/21 09:21 PM
38

Its the houseplant for me 🤣🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/21 12:04 PM
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Oh no sis, they're really not. I thought so too but that's a shit hole basically, at least from what I'm seeing and look into now. It is too early to identify myself as a radical feminist but the work I look into when it comes to radfem really sums up a lot of my experiences (and sadly I guess every woman) and it really makes sense to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 05:39 PM
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I was naive, brainwashed and conditioned. Due many circumstances but most of all patriarchy and liberal feminism (something I found out not long ago, the last one). I can honestly say that I'm so grateful for this sub. I learned so much already and still am learning and basically deprogramming myself from my pickme behavior. The advice I got here eventually led me to ditching a LVM way sooner then ever before and it's just really nice to surround myself in a community like this since I'm not sur…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 05:29 PM
4

You're welcome 💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 11:18 PM
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^ Yup! Like how sick is he? Does he have covid? Is he vaccinated? Also good questions to vet for if you ask me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 11:17 PM
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👈👈👈🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️ You know what to do!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 11:16 PM
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How special does he think he is that other woman wants compliments from him? I would feel very uncomfortable if a man complimented me when a woman walked next to him. Plus as the woman next to him I would find it utterly disrespectful. It's good that he doesn't do it now. He just doesn't do it now, when you're with him, that's my feeling. How his friends are treating women and the "close friendships" with pickmes are a red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 11:08 PM
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I find it respectful if I am at my friends house for example and they offer me coffee or anything, to take the mug(s) with me when I'm leaving and put it in the sink/ask them if they need help with the dishes or the dishwasher. I value this in people too if they're at my place. When it comes to dating: When I was in a relationship with NVM/LVM, I used to help with the cleaning. I even helped a scrote cleaning the whole damn house once his parents where on vacation and he waited till the day they…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 08:55 PM
2

'The story of O' is a "bDsM rOmAn" and Dworkin has written about it in 'Womanhating'. How I've read it was critiscm towards the men. For me it was triggering as hell, because I've seen a lot of this in real life because I was "part" of that horrible community and entered that community at a very young age (due a lot of circumstances). I'm now going through that part in therapy and I'm so happy I'm now disgusted by it actually. Still find it very hard that nowadays this shit seems "normal" at lea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 05:33 PM
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And that got you banned 🤣 ffs well The bar is in hell
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 02:29 PM
69

What did you say?🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 02:19 PM
52

It's a bit sadistic if that's the case. It did made me giggle hehe 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 02:17 PM
137

This is literally a manchild. 'stamping feet cmon guys I gave her 2 (!!!!) orgasms* now it's my time🥺😡 or else imma break up' *probably the max he can get, poor woman. DIE MAD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 02:16 PM
1

Thanks so much!! 💜💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 10:38 AM
6

So true 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 09:57 AM
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I'm so sorry you feel that you think that this is the best that you can get. In this alone I find so many excuses for his clearly LVM behavior (I don't know anything yet and I can assume this is a manchild). This is a two way fight that I also see: You, being conditioned (which is sadly normal due patriarchy) and thinking that if a man says you're beautiful, holds your car door open, given you a jacket when you're cold is what makes a man suitable and means he's doing it best. What you need to k…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 04:32 AM
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Yes, that's why I take some breaks in between now (would recommend that if you arent doing this already) because I notice it's really triggering and things starting making so much sense Do you have that too?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 04:04 AM
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Oh God that story of O.. I read that in 'Womanhating' and my God.. Speechless, triggering and insightful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 10:34 PM
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Yup since my last interaction with a NVM I'm looking more and more into feminism and mostly radfem too, it's such an eye opener and shocking but really insightful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 10:24 PM
10

Great advice, I always do the fake kindness and extreme sarcasm Once some scrote negged me because he thought he was 'fUnNy' so I basically said in a very exaggerated way: 'You are... the funniest man.. I've EVER met' and I just stared at him. The expression on his face was priceless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 06:48 PM
7

HAHAHA
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 06:43 PM
55

'your feelings are 100% valid and you can get past them!' This one got me real bad XD Like.. What is it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 06:40 PM
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'ThEyRe SiMplY CrEaTuReS iN ThAt WaY Lolololol' Lol the fuck out of your marriage instead of communicate girl. The conclusion is basically: 'If your husband is watching porn or watching other women whilest having sex with you, is making you insecure, crushes your soul and wrecks your self esteem, talk about it, he will first finds a better spot to hide it (LOVELY!) and will gaslight you into thinking it is all about you, because you are the one thats insecure after all :))! I mean men.. are.. me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 06:38 PM
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So true 🙄 but not even with NVM/LVM but people in general. If you are interested in my interests/hobbies or whatever, I assume that you are sincere about your interest not because YOU can JUDGE me. Fuck off
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 05:54 PM
2

I'm sorry you had to get through that 🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 10:46 AM
1

I also can see the celebration in it, so that's a good thing. Thanks for your comment 😊🥳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 10:45 AM
1

Thank you🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 10:45 AM
2

Great way to describe anger. Anger is a great expression to feel and know what your boundaries are and what you really don't want or are passionate about. I don't think anger inherently bad in itself but it needs to be channeled indeed otherwise it can turn out to be bad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 10:44 AM
1

Thanks for this comment 🙏 Really insightful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 10:42 AM
1

True. It isn't helpful at all to berate myself indeed and I'm in the process of dealing with 'that voice'. That's a good option, especially if it causes you more stress then any good. I feel that now I need to take a huge break from dating anyway to work on myself and heal. Not even considering dating now again so, who knows for how long I feel about this. But indeed this is a great option!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 10:39 AM
5

Aaah thank you for the self care tips. Really helpful!!💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 10:28 AM
4

Thank you!🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 10:28 AM
1

You're so welcome 💜🙏
/r/askFDS23/11/21 10:23 AM
2

Alright! I get it Thanks for your explanation 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 09:20 AM
0

Can you explain why the positive neg is a neg?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 03:35 PM
3

I noticed that I did this to get control. Just out of anxiety that they wouldn't text me. (Total pickme behavior so to say) The last LVM date really opened my eyes, he didn't wait until I was gone (I got there by public transport), he straight up left immediately, the minute I walked to my bus and never said to me: 'text me when you're home' or anything like that. But I still texted him that I gOt hOmE sAfE because I felt to uncomfortable "waiting" 🤣 and well overall it was just pickme at its fi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 11:14 AM
2

🥺💜💜💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 11:02 AM
2

I got really happy when I saw the other words other then 'pretty' Witchy. Raw. Earthy. That sums up my expression of myself to be honest😍 Great post💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 07:19 PM
1

I can't see the video when I click on it. Can you let me know what's the title and the maker is? I'm very curious🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 07:10 PM
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Oh dear, first I'm so sorry this happened to you 😔 You can report him to the police since this is sexual abuse/rape. You may feel the same way as I did and that is that you're afraid they not taking it seriously or "it's not that serious" but he violated your body. He did this full consciously on purpose, so there's a consequence to it. (Fucking pig that he is). About the friend group, this is a tough one since this can also be a 'Would they believe me?' thing. Fuck that, you're not making this …
/r/askFDS20/11/21 10:37 AM
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FeEdiNg tHe dUcKiEs ☺☺☺☺ 🤢 run
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 10:20 AM
1

Omggggg.. I recognize this so muchI work in healthcare too and the stories I hear from (pickme) coworkers are just.. Mind BOGGLING. I hear constant 'Barb the Builder' stories from 'I managed to get my now husband to this country and I did everything for him' to 'My husband is an alcoholic and I want to go home earlier so I can check out if he's drinking' That last thing was when she worked with me and she was constantly sighing and didn't even dared (oh well) to ask me directly if I wanted to sw…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 04:00 PM
1

What do you mean with "fish"? I don't know that one Agree though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 12:59 PM
1

Speechless honestly, I hope she now sees now due what he said how toxic he really is cause I can't believe this man is good to her in the relationship itself, It can't be But indeed.... Everything FDS teaches she has not done it, ASKED HIM to be HER boyfriend, ffs I would rather sell all my organs then doing that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 07:11 PM
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I would vomit actually. This is way too much 😆 Waaaay too much. I get for real creepy vibes with this. I do not see why this is cUtE or fUnNy anything like it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 06:40 PM
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giggle 🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 09:26 PM
14

Hm yes I agree with most of the things you said What I also see is that a lot of women including myself are still in somewhat recovery from being a pickmeisha and it can be hard to change patterns related to that, however there must be action. I agree that you can't just be on here complain and never do anything about it and repeat the cycles again and again because that's a waste for everyone's time What I also think is OLD is sometimes the "only option", especially in the pandemic we're in rig…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 05:02 AM
1

Thank you!!💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 04:50 AM
1

Needed this right now! 💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 10:38 PM
2

Thousand times yes girl 💜 thank you!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 08:00 PM
3

Done that!! Thanks queen💜🧚‍♀️🧚‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 06:46 PM
4

Yes I love her videos!! Thanksss
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 06:46 PM
1

💜💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 06:46 PM
2

Seriously noted that yes ✅!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 06:46 PM
2

💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 06:45 PM
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Train wreck is the right description indeed Thank you queen 💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 06:45 PM
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👈🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️ yupp buhbyeeee
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 06:44 PM
2

Thank you!!🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 06:44 PM
7

Hahaha well yes. So right 🤣 It will cost me more energy to also analyze his behavior too. I'll still be busy with his shit instead of my own. So yeah, thanks And also thanks to the other people commented on this comment ☺💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 06:43 PM
13

They literally SAY who they are indeed, they might as well can be dressed in a red flag 🤣 but oh well saves the work/energy/time for us
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 06:41 PM
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Yup now I understand even more why you need a certain amount of time to for example sleep with them etc. Emotional investment is a high way to hell when you've catched a LVM like this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 06:39 PM
21

Yup, the need to overcompensate is real
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 11:03 PM
1

Thank you so much!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 06:01 PM
1

You can already stop reading and RUN after seeing the name: Donovan Sharpe. He's so disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 09:40 AM
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Thank you💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 04:30 PM
3

Thanks for your advice and good questions would rather not answer these so publicly but it gives me a lot of insight already Thanks again 💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 01:49 PM
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Uhu! Been there done that to be honest. Not proud of it but I also cheated on a man because he was emotional unavailable and didn't met my needs, not an excuse but wasn't in a place of just leaving. Now I am. And what you say indeed, I won't spend months/years on him, I just give it a couple of weeks from now on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 01:45 PM
5

Yes I am haha You too?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 04:30 AM
9

I absolutely agree that's why I said 99% because you never know!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 03:44 PM
12

I do get this feeling often with new relationships if I feel attracted to them, due to trauma my system is always on danger mode when it comes to this. So that's why it's hard for me to feel if it's anxiety or intuition. It's not as black and white for me Sometimes these feelings were intuition and sometimes they weren't Yup, I noticed that he is trying to put more effort into for example texting and to be more open with me. And it's consistent it's not that he tried it for one day, he is active…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 03:42 PM
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Hm.. Thanks this is insightful💜 Sorry you had to go through this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 03:20 PM
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Thank you !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 01:22 PM
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Thank you, I do feel its hard for me to break it off already, so thats already showing I'm too emotional invested. Why is my brain getting clouded a red flag?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 01:22 PM
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He’s emotionally available. These type of people can do enough to keep the focus on you when they’re there (and even when they’re not) but there is no depth to it. You don’t realize it until you feel empty later. The emptiness comes from not feeling emotionally filled and so it causes you to question things you wouldn’t have to if he was filling those areas in your life. Is this something that will come eventually as in should I give him a chance to explore this more?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 01:20 PM
8

Hmmm.. thank you 💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 12:16 PM
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That could be it but then I ask myself why do I still have doubts and everything after it, I don't think that that is a signal coming from a lack of endorphins
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 12:06 PM
1

HAHAHAH YES
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 11:43 AM
2

A canary in the mine, oh I'm going to save that saying forever in my head 🤣 Anyway totally agree
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 11:47 AM
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🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 07:25 PM
12

What the actual fck is this 😭🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 07:19 PM
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