A warning against having children with NVM. Can’t even join a pregnancy sub without seeing this shit. Oh but it’s okay because she can work on her “insecurities” and of course ComMunICaTe! 🙄

queenofswordsxxx · 2021-11-23T16:23:34+00:00

Imagine if we played on loop ‘fifty shades of grey’ but exclusively the scenes of the rich guy impressing the gal with his hot bod, expensive vacations and gifts - these men would have a field day about how this makes them ‘self conscious’ and we’d tell them ‘hey don’t feel bad about being a massive mediocre loser, I love you as you’ 🙃

c_a_t_lady · 2021-11-23T17:12:53+00:00

I wonder why it is always women who have to "work on their insecurities" and not men who need to work on their porn use.

Okay, just kidding. I know it's because every issue is a problem that the woman is expected to solve and because "porn is healthy and good for you".

driftinglochawe · 2021-11-23T17:16:12+00:00

Those replies are tragic. Hold on whilst I just bury my head in the sand and occasionally scream into pillow whilst I’m putting my body through hell to bear your child.

RussianAsshole · 2021-11-23T17:34:14+00:00

Before you decide to tolerate something, think: would a man tolerate and happily stay with a woman if she did the same thing to him? Would I get told that I “belong to the streets” if I did the same thing to him?

TikiTikiTata-chalala · 2021-11-23T16:20:20+00:00

That last comment!!

'JUST HAVE LOTS OF TEARFUL DISCUSSUONS W HUBBY' So he'll learn to keep it under better wrapps bc it's not that he watches porn, but that I saw him watching porn. Can you tell I've been going to the gym? Bc my mental gymnastics routine is Olympic /s

'your feelings are 100% valid and you can get past them!'

So which is it? Are they valid and actionable or are they character flaws to overcome? Something can't be valid if it's worth disregarding

God, if you're pregnant and he's straying, stray to the lawyers office and slap him w a divorce. He's gonna be deadweight all through the child's infancy- when you need the most help

sadeintyo · 2021-11-23T16:51:38+00:00

Lol men can’t take what they dish out. My ex would always cover my eyes when a hot guy with abs appeared on TV. These men have low self esteem, and we need to start bringing it up and triggering it as much as they trigger us!

Let a guy post how his wife doesn’t touch him cause he’s gained weight. The replies would be tearing her to shreds! We carry babies for months with aching tits and nausea only to get fed this!!! SMH.

If women can go thru multiple phases of hormones ESPECIALLY ovulation without cheating, they can go without porn with their simple ass hormones. They just don’t WANT to because they’re NEVER held accountable.

Men are not complicated creatures… they’re just .. MEN. like christ, these women act like they’re fragile and need to be babied and need all these desires to be kept in a marriage/relationship. Let them grow the hell up!

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Serious_Papaya8615 · 2021-11-23T17:10:45+00:00

I find the comment in the second picture both infuriating and sad at the same time. A lot of women literally delude themselves into feeling better because of how shitty their LV boyfriends/husbands are. “I know he loves me”, “I know he finds me attractive” do you??? Is that what his actions are telling you? Is that what him jerking off to other naked women is showing you? Come on. That’s some pretty bad mental gymnastics you’re doing to self-soothe yourself. Stop putting trash men first. Put YOURSELF first. Because that’s all you have at the end of the day. This is why we fucking need to have high standards.

misandryisnotreal · 2021-11-23T17:44:34+00:00

Just throw the whole man away. Gross.

thinktwiceorelse · 2021-11-23T17:51:25+00:00

The last comment. She hasn't solved the problem. I bet she thinks about the girl every single day.

DiosaCordilia · 2021-11-23T18:38:48+00:00

'ThEyRe SiMplY CrEaTuReS iN ThAt WaY Lolololol'
Lol the fuck out of your marriage instead of communicate girl.

The conclusion is basically:
'If your husband is watching porn or watching other women whilest having sex with you, is making you insecure, crushes your soul and wrecks your self esteem, talk about it, he will first finds a better spot to hide it (LOVELY!) and will gaslight you into thinking it is all about you, because you are the one thats insecure after all :))! I mean men.. are.. men!! they need porn!! :))) and thats how you save your marriage, I'm so happy now!! <3'

Otherwise_Section806 · 2021-11-23T20:02:25+00:00

“He needed a photo of a naked woman in order to get hard enough to fuck me” and “but our sex life is healthy and normal”

Girl I look at my fiancé and get his dick hard. Wtf is this??

alphinaudsboots · 2021-11-23T16:34:13+00:00

That last comment…so he was looking at porn while he was having sex with his wife, and it’s ok because he doesn’t do it all the time and then later they cOmMuNIcatED? FUCK THAT

Men are such trash. You are literally growing another human being (female body is amazing btw) and all he’s worried about is how his pp feels. Like don’t mind me, I’m literally just creating life from scratch over here and now I have to feel insecure about the stretch marks that come from the process? Men don’t deserve us.

FuckSakez · 2021-11-23T17:04:54+00:00

”Porn isn’t that deep to men, they’re simple creatures.” Simply depraved more like!

Getting aroused by violence and degradation. Porn is so exploitative. Most men literally do not care. Don’t have long conversations with him. He will justify his problem until it becomes a ‘you’ problem. You’re not insecure. He’s an asshole.

GabbaG0ul · 2021-11-23T20:09:09+00:00

Do men not understand that we do not need to carry THEIR INDIVIDUAL set of genes to have children? Do they not understand how big of a deal it is that someone chooses to have your children?!?! We can just go to sperm banks and pick out the ideal genes we want. We don’t need a second party to have children. I know this is going to get some people heated. If a spouse disrespected me like that, I would leave and depending on how far along I was, I’m not sure I would continue with the pregnancy. 🤷🏻‍♀️ It isn’t getting better after you have children to take care of, that’s for sure!

corkymuu · 2021-11-23T16:21:18+00:00

If a man actually gave a shit about his wife, he would not be indulging in any of that filth.

Averyhvw · 2021-11-23T16:29:58+00:00

But why stay blind to men’s porn watching? All these women were aware their men watch porn. You don’t have the confidence to snoop until you’re locked into the marriage and you were just hoping he only masturbates to women who aren’t attractive? Whether the women in the porn look like your dolled up twin or total opposite, it’s going to hurt.

And YES! The OP is correct. It makes us feel like every attractive woman is a threat, because men are so easily distracted. It is not fair that every woman in a relationship has the specter of insta/TikTok/OF girls hanging over her head. If a man truly were interested in having a healthy marriage, he would not be watching porn, soft core or not.

Weeeeezh · 2021-11-23T19:06:20+00:00

'I know he loves me' They really tell themselves the darnest things.

LetsGetin_Formation · 2021-11-23T19:06:22+00:00

Guys will do this without guilt but let her bring up or even THINK about her ex with the bigger, thicker, meatier dick than his and all the sudden all hell will break loose 🙄🥱

solstice100 · 2021-11-23T21:23:13+00:00

Yeha idk how I’d ever be able to have sex without my pussy drying up and zipping itself shut after finding out the dude I was with had to look at other women to get turned on enough to have sex with me.

Idk nearly every male I’ve been with got hard by merely anticipating sex with me. Like I wouldn’t even have to touch them. The only one who didn’t was pornsick. So I think it’s safe to say that this isn’t normal, healthy male sexuality despite all the propaganda that tells women it is

Platipus6 · 2021-11-23T20:50:26+00:00

Men are simple, it's not that deep? Ok. But women are deep. This shit affects us. Men need to get on board with not psychologically abusing us. We're not going to become shallow like men and turn into depraved chimps. That's how society got to the shitstate it's in.

highmaitenancebitch · 2021-11-23T16:10:42+00:00

The last one... JuSt coMmuNicAtE 🤥 yeah cause it clearly doesn't bother you anymore right? 🤡

aquietsword · 2021-11-23T20:57:40+00:00

Scrotes essentially marry whichever woman is willing to settle for them simply so they have access to sex. A great sex life doesn't mean anything if porn is prioritized over your feelings.

pygmymetal · 2021-11-23T22:13:00+00:00

I couldn’t even finish reading that third one. The bar is so low for men

xfelugirlx · 2021-11-23T17:20:37+00:00

Lol the last picture with the pick me. These men don’t changeeeee, they will keep doing it and you just had their children and do this?? Think seriously woman, they don’t care and are scrotes. I used to talk ny heart out just to find out they will keep doing it in other ways, that’s sick. Stop giving absurd advice to women just to be unhappy

Fuckdoesithurt956 · 2021-11-24T01:27:58+00:00

I was in their position once. I really feel for them. But it's just not worth the risk trying to make it work.

"Pornography can lead to men viewing their partner as less sexually attractive because of pornography actors chosen specifically for their sexual appearance. Men tend to judge partners by comparing them to those he sees on the pornographic websites" (https://irispublishers.com/oajap/fulltext/the-effects-of-pornography-on-adult-males-relationships.ID.000530.php)

There was a study done by the University of Florida which found that men who regularly used pornography were more likely to cheat on their partners. https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/1948550613480821

And it increases the likelihood of divorce: https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2016/08/160822083354.htm

shoesfromparis135 · 2021-11-24T05:27:11+00:00

Why are these conversations always described as “numerous, honest and tearful?” I always see this phrase used. Are you really having honest conversations or are you just crying while he’s nodding his head pretending to listen?

cutiebranch · 2021-11-24T13:51:12+00:00

Pregnancy subs and boards are depressing as shit. Time and time again I’m just like “why you having a baby with a man who’s a baby”

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