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This woman is trying so hard to convince herself that this is ok. She mentioned he takes trips to Vegas, sounds to me like he is seeing prostitutes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/22 07:33 PM
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My mom is in her 60's. One time we went to a coffee shop together and this man tried to proposition her right in front of me while she was wearing her huge wedding ring. The wall is a lie. My 48 year old friend regularly pulls guys in their 30's. Male attention is like grains of sand in the Sahara desert - no matter what your age is. Breaking down the idea of "the wall" for women you realize two things: It's a form of manipulation to scare women into settling for a scrote. They want you to think…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 09:32 PM
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LMAOOOO thanks for the laugh "This only benefits you and is menacing to me And everyone else" This song is so accurate 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 09:20 PM
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The story about the toastmasters perfectly sums up how opportunistic men can be. The one guy I knew who proudly proclaimed to be a male feminist was married with kids. He (supposedly) had an open relationship with his wife and told me I would "be perfect" as one of his FWB's. He was 10 years older than me and about 5'6. When I told him no he proceeded to BEG ME. I must of said no about 10 times before he shut up about it. Goes without saying I don't talk to him anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/22 10:15 PM
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This doesn't really surprise me. These guys entitlement is thru the roof. They will get (rightfully) dumped by their girlfriend, and feel that their human rights have been violated. They will then go whine on incel forums that women don't want him and lick his wounds while reading about how women are all evil shallow bitches. They will have a long term girlfriends and try to flirt with their 'dream girl' to try to cheat, and when dream girl rejects him he's back on the incel forums. These forums…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 08:55 PM
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Men complain about everything they created So accurate lol. Men created dating apps to harvest personal data and photos and sell it to advertising companies for a profit. Scrotes are too stupid to realize this. They think that because they took 90 seconds out of their day to sign up for a dating app that they are entitled to a hot 20 year old match whose eager to drive herself to his house and sleep with him. Scrotes delusion and entitlement is through the roof. Most put little to no effort in t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/22 06:56 PM
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I know exactly how you feel. I never thought that I would reach a point where I would feel satisfied with staying single forever, but here I am. I started realizing many years before FDS that men were just not all that great. They really seemed to be parasitic and they had a habit of trying to tear me down emotionally that was repeated in almost every relationship I've ever had. Even the ones who seemed like "good guys" from the outside were misogynist deep down. When I found FDS I felt so valid…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/22 06:52 PM
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Nothing feels better than refusing to engage with toxic losers. I have had so many ex boyfriends desperately try to reach out to me after I dumped them and it makes me feel so satisfied knowing that I won't ever waste another second of my life communicating with them ever again. They are so below me they aren't even worth sending a text for. Same goes for any other LVM's, male coworkers, acquaintances. I will never again allow a man to raise my blood pressure. Leave these guys alone. Also, recog…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 08:53 PM
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Beauty and the Beast fucked me up the most. I identified with Belle as a kid because she was a brunette like me. Why did Disney have to make the brunette princess a kidnapping victim with an ugly prince??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 09:39 PM
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This is so inspiring! This is why I come to FDS. Posts like these warm my icy heart. I love to see women putting themselves first and succeeding. Kicking scrotes to the curb, holding firm boundaries, making lots of money, what more could a woman ask for? Happy for you 🥂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 12:21 AM
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Single ladies with children need to be aware of the prevalence of sexual abuse by step fathers/boyfriends. Any man that has a “kink” for pretending to have sex with little girls is HIGHLY likely to rape a girl if he can get away with it. Ask yourself why else would a grown man get turned on by pretending to fuck a child? Why would that turn him on unless that’s what he wants? “Daddy/little girl” aka “ddlg” aka “ageplay” kink is filled with depraved men who are pedophiles and men who get off on t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 12:04 AM
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If this gets approved you will hear a cascade of whiny scrote voices in every bedroom... "B-but I'm on birth control you can't get pregnant!!" All I see is one more excuse for scrotes to not wear a condom and one more way for them to baby trap women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 03:08 AM
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Hi Viking lady, The short answer is misogyny. The long answer is that males are told that they are superior to us and they are stupid enough to believe it. They actually think they are smarter than us. Therefore, when they see a woman who appears to be doing better in life than they are, instead of admiring her and seeking out advice, their first instinct is to resent her. They resent this women because how dare she rub her accomplishments in men's faces and make them feel emasculated? Asking fo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/22 01:54 AM
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lmaooo these scrotes have no hobbies except for obsessing over women who don't give a shit about them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 03:31 AM
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I thought of that post too when I read this one! I saved it as inspiration, its such a classic! https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/p01xdn/theres_absolutely_nothing_wrong_with_using_a_man/ Women need to take their "moral high ground" and throw it off a cliff. If you are going to engage with men. do so from a purely selfish angle just like they do to us. Approach them with an attitude of royal superiority and selfishness. Get what you can and then drop them when they start acti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 03:19 AM
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Thanks for sharing this story. Its so true... sad but true. We can't change men; no matter how "good" of a woman we try to be. The rotten cores of their personalities were rotted from the very beginning. They have always been that way. Patriarchy knows this, that's why we all grew up on romantic fantasies and ideas of men that weren't even true. These fantasies keep us chained to them. We turn the locks and throw away the keys ourselves when we choose not to see men for who they really are and e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 03:05 AM
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This is so true. men are obsessed with women in a way that women will never be obsessed with men. Women really do hold all the cards in the dating game, because we are way more desired than they are. The best way to make a man absolutely miserable is to ignore him lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 08:33 PM
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It's true. The best way to get revenge on a man is to ignore him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 08:30 PM
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*Switches to my evil movie villain voice* Yesss dear queen... let the anger flow through you... Mwahahaha!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 05:44 AM
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That's what I was thinking. How could a 20 year old (or even a 30, 40 or 50 year old) want to even get close to a 70 year old man, let alone kiss or HAVE SEX with him??? Just the thought makes me want to die. It's so repulsive. I hope it's just reddit scrote fiction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 12:35 AM
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Is this even real? I just find it so hard to believe. If it's real then ewwwwwwwww 🤮🤮🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 11:52 PM
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Love the video and your username!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 08:31 PM
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Queen!!!!!! I'm so proud of you that you dumped him. Imagine if you had stayed, you'd be dealing with a sad limp dick every time you wanted to have sex. No woman deserves that! Leave him and his floppy pp alone. Dude literally jerked his dick until it broke. FDS queens deserve way better than that 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 10:15 PM
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They ALWAYS tell on themselves. Most males talk way too much and will incriminate themselves if they think they have the unwavering attention of a woman. All women need to do is sit back and listen. The second he says something that seems a little off or makes you go, "huh?", drop him. The problem is that so many women ignore their intuition and brush things under the rug. I have a similar experience to you OP where when I tell guys I'm not on dating apps they are like "B-b-but how will you meet…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 05:43 PM
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Exactly. Most males are parasites to women. They can drain us of energy, time, money, youth and happiness. They also love projecting their bad qualities onto women. The lie that women are gold diggers only benefits males. The truth is that women who only date financially stable guys are intelligent. It's SMART to want a financially stable husband. Broke, struggling males have nothing to offer women. And these days, there are many guys, even older ones who struggle financially and work menial job…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 06:26 PM
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I feel so so bad for the younger generation of women/girls. Most grown men are already drooling coomer morons who have no idea what good sex actually is or how women's bodies work. It's only going to get worse from here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 04:12 PM
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I tried speed dating once. Would not recommend. There were 10 men and 10 women, and we were given 8 minutes to converse with each other before rotating to the next. All 10 men were ugly. No joke. I was disappointed before the conversations even began. Balding, out of shape, badly dressed. Not to mention the age range was "20's to 30's" and there were a few guys who looked like they were well into their 40's. One guy decided to use the majority of his 8 minutes to tell me a story about being stun…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 03:21 AM
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Once had a man approach me on the college campus asking me if I would like to do modeling. I could tell something was up because he was way too old to be on a college campus (mid 30's) and he stuck out like a sore thumb, he just looked shady. I told him no thanks and he was like 'are you sure? I think you'd be really good.' Again I said no thanks and gave him a nasty look. His expression changed from friendly to annoyed and he said bye and walked away. I'm so glad I trusted my gut. Ladies, stay …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 03:33 AM
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Exactly... In an "idyllic" and "sex positive" world, Bill Cosby still gets to drug and rape women, except it's consensual. See how she places male sexual desires above all else? Sex positivity just means making sure that predators can act out all their depraved kinks. Maybe... just maybe... male sexual desires are part of the problem. But no, don't want to hurt poor men's fragile little feelings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 01:18 AM
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How lucky you are to have such an upstanding queen for a friend. I absolutely delight in dumping a scrote and watching the frantic desperation as he realizes there are actually consequences to his actions 💕👌 Female friendships are so valuable, cherish it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 01:08 AM
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Since being single I rediscovered the simple fact that I can do whatever the fuck I want to do and anyone who has a problem with that can keep moving.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 02:17 AM
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Love this, thanks for sharing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 08:15 PM
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Lmao scrotes always stay hung up on the women they dated when they were in their late teens/early 20's (aka barely adults). It says a lot about their emotional maturity level... barely adult lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 07:52 PM
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Absolutely!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 04:05 AM
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Your anger is never irrational, it's a survival mechanism, it let's you know that you're facing abuse and manipulation tactics. SO true! Years ago, I rage dumped a guy I had been dating for 8 months after I listened to a verbally abusive voicemail he left on my phone. I texted him in a BLIND RAGE that it was over and not to ever contact me again and then threw my phone across the room lol. To this day, that was one of my best breakups. He went from boyfriend to pathetic scrote in under 2 seconds…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 11:00 PM
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I've always said that the best way to get revenge on a man is to ignore him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 10:47 PM
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I always advocate for blocking scrotes. Just like you say OP, protect your peace! I liken block/delete to a woman reasserting her power. To block a man is to deny him access to you. All men really want is our attention, they are desperate for it. When he texts you, he’s looking for a response... ANY response. He wants access to you. He feels entitled to access you. Don’t give it to him. Block him. I recently read a brilliant essay by feminist scholar Marilyn Frye called “Some Reflections on Sepa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 10:43 PM
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So true. Most guys that have hit on me throughout my life were either ugly, old, creepy or some combination of all three. I think for most women it's rare that an actual attractive, desirable man hits on her. But that's because most men are not desirable. And most guys are delusional enough to think that they ARE desirable lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 11:34 PM
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So many marriage age males are broke and barely make any money. It's in their favor to convince women that they don't really need an expensive ring or a lavish wedding since they can't afford it anyway. Instead of males striving to do better and make more money, they try to convince women that their expectations are too high, thus lowering the bar even more and alleviating themselves of the burden of trying to improve. Don't fall for it, ladies. Every woman deserves a proper wedding ring and wed…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 11:13 PM
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Lmao an antibacterial ring. I can guarantee you this guy doesn't wash his hands.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 11:05 PM
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He's telling you without telling you that HE doesn't think you deserve what you really want. Scrotes love trying to lower their girlfriends expectations so that she is satisfied with the bare minimum and he doesn't have to put in any effort. Some women will fall for it and will be grateful for scraps but I'm glad you didn't!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 11:01 PM
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Back when I was on dating apps I went out on a date with a guy who said he was 31. I was 26 at the time. He looked his age in his pics. I walk into the restaurant and he called my name. I didn't even recognize him because he looked 10 years older. I swear, he was at least 38, possibly mid 40's. Old, face starting to sag, wrinkles around his eyes. I was so appalled when I saw him. I let the old loser buy me dinner and drinks then I ghosted him afterwards. Men ARE delusional, did he seriously thin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 10:56 PM
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Guys have dad bods when they aren't even dads! It's so sad. Where I live it's rare to find guys over 30 who are still fit and trim. So many young men have these soft, pear shaped bodies. It's such a turn off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 11:15 PM
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The scrote ponders life: My house is filth, my dick limp Why did she block me?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 11:08 PM
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Since I started reading FDS a few months ago I have had three ex boyfriends reach out to me. I blocked and deleted all three, I didn't even consider responding. It was as easy as swatting a fly away because I knew these guys had nothing to offer me. This is the ruthlessness I learned from FDS. It's really the only place teaching women to prioritize themselves always and not to waste energy on LVM. FDS is a treasure!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 05:30 AM
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When I was 25 this ugly bald mid forties scrote that I worked with tried to ask me out on a date. I turned him down and proceeded to laugh about it with all my friends at work. This guy was absolutely delusional thinking an attractive 25 year old would want his ugly, wrinkly faced self. He was so delusional he actually asked me out a second time, about 3 weeks after the first. Maybe he thought I would change my mind lmaooo. At least I got the pleasure of rejecting him twice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 05:19 AM
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The guy I knew who was a gamer was such a scrote lol. He lived in a filthy apartment, and was pasty because he barely ever left the house. He was obese, probably near 300 lbs. He acted like a child in a grown mans body. He refused to work and lived off of his mother and his girlfriend. I hope his girlfriend has since left him, he was such a leech and had her buying his groceries and paying for all of their dates. His living room had a literal pile of trash right in the middle. A PILE OF TRASH. A…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 09:01 PM
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Yes Gabba say it louder!! A lot of media likes to paint women as desperate - “boy crazy”, “single cat lady”. The reality is that like so many other stereotypes associated with women, all of this stuff is 100% projection from males. The reality is that males are absolutely desperate for women. Males go on murder sprees because they can’t find a girlfriend. They spend money in order to have access to us. The spend money to look at us. They create entire movements to share tips on how to manipulate…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 08:44 PM
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Uuugh I hate this. Why is it the 'feminine' urge? Femininity to me, means being pampered, being cared for and being GIVEN gifts. Not the other way around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 01:00 AM
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Imagine being so desperate and porn sick you spend $2000 on nude pics and videos when there are tons of these available for free online. Men truly are pathetic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 05:59 PM
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Someone needs to tell this person that the standard work week is 40 hours. If you have a good paying job, 40 hours is usually all that's needed. I am an engineer, I get paid very well and I only work 40 hours. That leaves me plenty of time for other activities outside of work. But of course men like to pretend that everything they do is so manly and difficult and he's so tired all the time mommy come change my diaper!! 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 05:42 PM
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I really enjoy your art!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 05:33 PM
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Lol this scrote is outing himself as pornsick. Porn is why most men are terrible at sex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 05:15 PM
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So tragic! It pains me how many women think that they just have to accept whatever degenerate behavoiur their husband is up to. It's like they don't realize they can choose to raise their standards and leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 06:25 PM
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I once had to stop seeing a guy because his dick didn't work. He was 28 and had trouble staying hard DURING sex. It was the saddest thing ever to watch him pull out and frantically jerk his dick to try to get it hard again. After failing in the bedroom a few times I just gave up on him and ghosted. I suspect pornsick because when I asked him what the problem was, he couldn't give me any medical reason. It's crazy because these guys are still out here dating like nothing is wrong. Do they think w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 02:33 AM
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"I felt like the Grinch... It was exhilarating" 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 02:22 AM
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Good for you, OP! When guys say stuff like "you must not be interested" after you don't respond it's just a pathetic pity play to try to get YOU to feel sorry for HIM because YOU didn't want to engage in conversation. Imagine the entitlement a guy must have to think that a woman should feel bad for not giving him attention. And then even more entitlement thinking they can just sit back and women will put all the effort for them. Any woman knows that men are the ones who pursue. When a guy truly …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 05:58 PM
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Great post, OP! That was a very interesting article. I love when people post well researched articles. I wanted to quote this particular excerpt in the comments because it made me laugh: "Many men in their mid-twenties who were getting bald said they weren’t as interested in the singles scene as their buddies, and they were ready for a more serious relationship. A 24-year-old man who was almost completely bald explained that he had felt uncomfortable in the singles scene after he had approached …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 11:51 PM
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Ewwwwwww
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 11:16 PM
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I remember your post and I am so proud of you. I know it's hard to end a long relationship, but once the fog clears you are gonna look back and be so glad he's not in your life anymore. He's in the trash where he belongs! You did it! Go pour yourself a glass of champagne and toast to your new freedom 🥂👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 08:59 PM
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Males are threatened by women who don't need them. One of my LVM ex boyfriends once said to me (in a whiny scrote voice) "But I want you to neeeeeed me 😭" when i told him i enjoyed living alone and didn't want to move in with him. Loser males are angry that most women are no longer economically dependent on them and that we actually have choices, including the choice to dump him or remain single. Also, Cher is a queen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 08:16 PM
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Now that you've found FDS I'm sure you will dump many more guys in your future! Cheers to your first! 😂🥂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 08:15 PM
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I've had something even worse than "do you want to hang out?" I had a scrote at my job approach me and say, "If you ever want to hang out sometime let me know." This is what men do when they are terrified of rejection. Notice how he wasn't even asking me a question that I could say yes or no to, he was literally just making a statement. He put the ball in my court but since he didn't even ask me anything, I really didn't even need to make a move. All I did was say "ok" with a shrug. Then he walk…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 08:11 PM
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Totally agree!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 01:54 AM
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A man with money who is cheap and won't spend anything on you is just as useless as a broke man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 12:01 AM
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I once dated a guy who would eat me out when I was on my period too. He really didn't mind the blood. I also never went down on him but he would go down on me. Guys like this exist!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 11:37 PM
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When people say "don't give up so easily!" Not giving up should be reserved for achieving your goals, like finishing school or practicing for a competition. You don't give up so that you can reap the reward at the end. But it's perfectly fine to give up on your relationships with men. "Giving up" implies that you are losing something by walking away. It's said with the assumption that by leaving your boyfriend/husband you are somehow doing a disservice to yourself. This assumption is 100% wrong …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 11:28 PM
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I liked when she explained that criticizing someone for having high standards is a way of keeping them in their place. Like, ‘who do you think YOU are, setting boundaries and keeping your standards high?” ...as if you don’t have the right to do that. She also says that most people do not have high enough standards for their relationships, and second guess their standards to avoid being forever alone. This second guessing and ignoring red flags is what leads to women wasting years of their lives …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 07:57 PM
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So he's basically admitting to being a gold digger. He married his wife for her money. Women need to understand how common this is. Watch out for gold digging leech men. They are everywhere and high earning women/women from well off famlies need to be extra careful when vetting to make sure he isn't after your money. This is why women shouldn't date down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 07:04 PM
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"They all still cooked, cleaned, and worshiped my dick" said the scrote to himself, in a low and satisfactory voice. Pleased with his latest creation, he hunches his overweight, pear shaped body forward in his gaming chair. His mothers dark basement is alive with ingenuity as he begins to furiously type his reddit post from his Dorito and sperm encrusted keyboard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 03:16 AM
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I have a friend in her late 40's. She prefers younger guys (mid-late 30's) because she finds them more attractive and she is very active for her age and needs someone who can keep up. She told me that when she goes out with them, men will always make sarcastic comments asking her boyfriend if she's his 'sugar momma'. It's funny how they tell on themselves! Most men would love to have a wealthy older woman they can leech off of financially. But my friend is smart and makes sure her boyfriends pay…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 02:59 AM
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Men are delusional and will mistake a female employee's kindness as attraction. They actually convince themselves that the woman at the checkout counter is nice to him because she likes him rather than its just her job to be nice. When I was around 22, I had an ugly man who was probably in his 30's give me his number while I was a cashier at a store. He looked so proud of himself and confident lol, he even used my pen to write his number down. Absolutely delusional. After he left I immediately t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 02:27 AM
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I love this podcast! It's very validating and inspiring. She dismantles all the nonsense around being single and presents being single as a positive thing filled with potential. This one and the FDS podcast are the only ones I listen to regularly!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 02:18 AM
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Please get rid of this guy. Can you see that he's manipulating you? It seems to be working... When you confronted him about porn (which by the way is a very reasonable concern), he decides to turn it on you to make it seem like YOU are the one who's insecure. Then he proceeds to talk down to you and make you feel less desirable. "oh well, other girls are pretty, I can't talk to you about it because you are insecure and think you are the only pretty girl in the world. Did you really think you wer…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/21 09:00 PM
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😂😂😂 Even the emoji ring in the caption looks more expensive
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 11:12 PM
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Yes!! They keep you around because they want something from you. When a guy says he wants to "stay friends" after a breakup, he is lying to your face. He doesn't really want to be friends, he wants to pretend to be your friend so he can slowly pull you back in and attempt to use you for sex or coerce you into getting back together with him. "staying friends" = "I want something from you that you told me you wouldn't give to me anymore"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 07:48 PM
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LOL It's always the uglies that have the most to say about how a woman looks 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 07:44 PM
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I think this is a good idea. Some friends might get resentful but if she is exposed to a peer saying she has higher standards than her, it might actually get her to start thinking about raising her own standards. It's important to not present your high standards in a way that could come across as snotty or judgemental of her standards. I try to voice my standards to my friends in a more neutral way where I'm not comparing my standards to hers. Ultimately my goal isn't to make her feel bad, it's …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 07:37 PM
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I have had guys desperately try to pursue me after talking to me for 2 minutes about the weather. They fall for women much faster that we fall for them, but the way they fall is different. It's all about looks and demeanor. If a woman is attractive and smiles at them, they latch on like a leech
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 08:19 PM
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Ewwwww... why would a woman do this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 08:14 PM
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I know, that was painful to read. She sounds so hopeful but yet so incredibly naive. Women like this are such easy prey on online dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 08:57 PM
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Queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 06:06 PM
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They really can't... Unfortunately there are a lot of insecure men in engineering
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 03:28 AM
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Men who neg aren't very smart. They follow these redpill scripts that are like...man says this... then woman says this...etc. And when the script doesn't go as planned they get all flustered and it's funny to watch. I had a coworker once neg me at my job. This was the first time I had ever met him. I introduced myself, explained my role with the company (I am an engineer). He replied with "I bet I'm better at math than you are" . An obvious neg towards my intelligence. I was kinda surprised by h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 01:41 AM
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I'm happy for you, sis! He sounds like he adds a lot of value to your life. I love guys who selflessly do nice things for you without having to be asked. Love to hear it 🥂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 08:19 PM
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I approach romantic relationships from a place high self esteem and of superiority. I consider myself superior to any man until he has proven himself to be on my level. Obviously when I interact with men, I am always my normal sweet and fun self. But underneath that I maintain a deep sense of self confidence. This way, if the guy messes up, it's a lot easier for me to kick him to the curb. I am not concerned about hurting men's feelings. My main concern always will be with myself and my own happ…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 08:12 PM
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I think in general men seem to have a much harder time getting over their exes. One time I got a random phone call from my high school boyfriend. I dumped this guy almost a decade ago. I never really kept in touch after i dumped him, so it was very strange for him to call me out of the blue. He sounded a little too happy to be talking to me. He alluded to getting back together and said he wanted to wait until he was 'doing better' to reach out. Not sure why he thought he was doing better, he was…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 08:29 PM
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I'm right there with you. There are men who use the word 'bitch' interchangeably with 'women'. And they say it in front of other women too. So embarrassing. And don't get me started on the women who do it too. Especially when they do it in front of men. So cringe. And isn't it interesting that the only gendered slurs that become normalized in our language are ones that are directed towards women!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 07:44 PM
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Yes this post is awesome and I love hearing this perspective! WE are the choosers. Women need to realize that men want us more than we want them. This is the way it has always been. This is why men legislated into law women's dependence on them, thus forcing women into marrying men. Men created actual laws to make sure that all men would get wives. Think about that! Our power over men lies in denying them access to us. Have you ever dumped or rejected a guy and he acted crazy afterwards? Cried, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 07:28 PM
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I think we will see marriage rates fall as women struggle to find men who are husband material. There will be a lot more sad, resentful single men who live alone in filthy apartments and in their mom's basements. The bar for men has already been lowered underground, and I think a lot of women have woken up to that. The question is how many women will choose to accept lower standards vs. how many remain single? The surge in popularity of FDS is an indication that women are sick of low value males…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 05:26 PM
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Threatening women with the horrors of being single is the most common neg used by men because that is their worst fear. It's all pure projection. LVM know that if they don't find some desperate woman to be with him, he will live a life of sadness and filth. He needs a bang-maid to service him sexually, clean his house, split the bills and be his emotional punching bag. Without a woman he will literally die sooner. Men need us way more than we need them, and deep down they know it. That's why the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 03:33 PM
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This is such a depressing story, who knows how many women this guy traumatized! A lesson to be learned from this story is that when a guy talks very badly of his ex, RUN. He will usually start with some sob story about how she cheated, she's horrible, she was abusive, blah blah blah. And he will usually overshare about his "evil" ex very early on in your relationship with the intention of getting you to hate her too. It's an attempt to manipulate you into seeing him as a poor victim and feel sor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 03:00 PM
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Any unprompted criticism of feminism or feminists Refers to women as "bitches" frequently Refers to intelligent women as if they are the exception ("She's actually really smart") Talks badly of all his exes. Speaks of her with disdain, as if he hates her. Seething resentment when talking about women in general or dating Belittles women who are more successful/have more money than him. Sadly, the majority of men are sexist. The silver lining is that men love to tell on themselves, so all you need…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 02:42 PM
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So true. My block list is a mile long and it's all men. I've never had issues with a woman where I felt the need to block her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 02:32 AM
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When I dump guys over text, I am short and to the point. When it's a situation of a guy being decent but I just was not feeling the connection, I just say so and leave it at that. Any response from him is irrelevant because I have already made my decision. It truly does not matter what he says. We are no longer together and that's that. If a guy did something disrespectful to cause the breakup, I won't even send a breakup text, I just block and delete. He knows what he did so I don't really care…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 12:12 AM
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the virgin... "see if any girls would like to volunteer to help me with this issue" lmaooo 😂😂💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 07:03 AM
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This post has a really useful list of red flag manosphere media and books: https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/ngoaku/take_note_of_the_media_a_man_consumes_a_list_of/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 06:52 AM
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DO IT GIRL DUMP HIS ASS!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 03:04 AM
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Thanks for sharing your story. This is the reality of what happens when you settle for the guy who doesn't have a bed! The best time to leave is right now. You've already had 10 years go by, imagine 10 more years- do you still want to be stuck with him? You said it yourself, you're wilting from the inside. There's no need to let this continue. You know what to do. Do it for yourself and your kids. Kiddos don't deserve a wilted mama! Go see a lawyer and make plans to leave him. Lean on support fr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 03:01 AM
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A HVM would never put a woman in a position where she feels like she needs to compete for him. They won't make you feel confused or insecure, or pit you up against other women. This is a tactic that only LVM use in order to make the women work harder and fluff up their own ego. It also distracts from their bad behavior and puts the focus on the other woman so that she becomes the source of the problems, and not him. The guys who want you to jump through hoops for them are never worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 07:50 PM
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There is no upside to marrying a man who has no savings. Only get with men who are on your level or higher, never date down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 08:39 AM
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His way of swiping is so... aggressive? Desperate? I don't know but i find it disturbing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 12:33 AM
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This reminds me of the time I dumped my NVX via text for being verbally abusive while he was drunk the night before. Me: We are done. Don't ever contact me again Him: You're a slut Um.... okaayyyyy?? Byeeeeeee 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 11:01 PM
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This is financial abuse, plain and simple. He is stealing from her. I can't believe this woman has convinced herself to go along with her husbands insane controlling behavior. I wonder what else he is controlling about besides money. Plus the 15 year age gap 🚩 I hope this is a troll too, if it's real I feel so sad for this woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 10:56 PM
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Ewwwwwww.... Why would a grown man drink baby formula???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 03:33 AM
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I tried speed dating once. It was sooo lame and a waste of $30! There were 10 men and 10 women, and we were given 8 minutes to converse with each other before rotating to the next. All 10 men were ugly. No joke. I was disappointed before the conversations even began. Balding, out of shape, badly dressed. Not to mention the age range was "20's to 30's" and there were a few guys who looked like they were well into their 40's. One guy decided to use the majority of his 8 minutes to tell me a story …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 04:48 PM
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Never offer to pay. When the bill comes, do nothing. Don't even look at it. 95% of the time he will pay because he's too embarrassed to ask to split it. Even if you feel that the date is not going well and you don't want to see him again, it's best that he pays so at least you got something out of it. The only reason a woman should pay on the first date is if you feel unsafe/uncomfortable and just want to leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 12:14 AM
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BDSM is not therapy, it's abuse. This woman was raped and then met an older man who took advantage of her trauma to coerce her into a BDSM relationship. “I was going through severe panic attacks, and started to undergo PTSD treatment. I literally went into BDSM — bondage, domination, sadomasochism — because I couldn’t feel anything,” McCord told Sullivan. She also said that they are not together anymore but he still lives in her house. So many red flags.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 07:44 PM
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I've been reading all your posts and can say with certainty that your ex is trash. Keep him in the dumpster where he belongs. Stay strong and focus on what's ahead of you. I'm rooting for you sis! Also, you have beautiful penmanship!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 06:41 PM
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🚩He twerked down the aisle 🚩Said "hell mother fucking yeah" instead of "I do" 🚩Took his shirt off during the reception (???) 🚩Every speech was about him fighting someone Sounds like she's marrying an overgrown frat boy. How embarrassing for her. Hopefully she levels up and divorces him before she has kids with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 08:22 PM
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Don't worry about it sis, he was definitely lying. This is how some males will react when they sense they have lost you or are about to lose you. They start with the belittling comments, triangulation, or trying to make you jealous. It's all an attempt to make you feel so small that he seems bigger in comparison so that you run back to him. Pathetic male manipulation tactic. I once had a LVX tell me that he had "plenty of b*tches who would suck his dick" as an attempt to make me jealous so I wou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 08:05 PM
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I was going to down vote this, but then I remembered where I was
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 10:20 PM
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I fell for it once too, sis. And just like you I had a really uneasy feeling the next few days. I knew it was suspicious but I didn't listen to my gut. The next time he tried to cry to get his way, I gave him no sympathy and dumped him. If a guy ever tries to cry to manipulate us again, how about we just laugh in their faces and walk away 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 11:02 PM
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Your dad sounds reeeeeaaaally bitter and resentful lol. Any time a man trash talks one of his exes is a huge red flag for me. Watch out for the disdain: lips curled, mean facial expressions, change of demeanor, portraying himself as a helpless victim, calling her rude names. If you see signs in his behavior that he hates his ex, chances are he hates all women and he'll end up hating you too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 09:41 PM
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to which he then profusely tried to revert his statement, even crying a little bit in the process, saying he will "Try and get better" Watch out for this ladies - some men will cry in order to manipulate and guilt trip women. If a man cries after you stand up for yourself, after you reject him (like OP), after you assert a boundary or after he disrespects you, RUN. When men are genuinely crying, its because something truly terrible happened. We all know men don't cry that easily. Genuine male te…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 09:16 PM
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I think it's a form of triangulation. He's secretly hoping you and your coworker would go full pick-me and try to compete with each other for his attention, lol. It's funny how scrotes will project their desperation onto women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 09:04 PM
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The audacity of a scrote to think that women would be ok with him hiding that he has a child. And the fact that he doesn't even take care of the kid... who would still want him after that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 08:35 PM
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When you are having conflict in a relationship, take everything he says with a grain of salt. Most men know what we want to hear ("sorry", "i still love you" "It was a mistake" etc.). They know how they should have acted and will use their words to somehow portray that. Don't fall for it. If a mans actions made you feel disrespected, hurt, belittled or ignored - it's time to block and delete. When you have a talk with him about it and give him a chance to explain, he will take it as an opportuni…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 08:26 PM
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They can never take what they dish out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 08:13 PM
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I'm so happy to hear that FDS has improved your life sis! I can relate to a lot of what you wrote. Once you realize that you are truly a queen, your perception of men changes and you start to really see what their value is to you. You start to realize that most don't really have any value. I've definitely looked back on the guys I used to date and cringed hard. I'm so proud of how much I've grown and you should be too. I hope you continue to prioritize yourself and have happiness and prosperity …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 02:56 AM
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When I first started dating as a teenager I was so scared to dump my first boyfriend. I ignored about a million red flags before I finally worked up the courage to do it. I remember when I dumped him he cried like a baby and I was MORTIFIED. Immediately afterwards I felt so relieved, like a weight was lifted off of my shoulders. I went on to flourish without him. Since then, My perception of dumping dudes has slowly transformed from something that's scary... scared of how he'll react or if I hur…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 12:01 AM
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He was lol. He cried when I dumped him too ✌️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 09:07 PM
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When he started crying because I refused to lend him $20 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 05:14 PM
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I'm so happy for you, sis. I love posts like these because it proves that FDS really does help women to lead better lives. I hope in the future you continue to put yourself first and have happiness and prosperity! I second reading Why Does He Do That. It's one of the most useful books I have ever read. I encourage every woman to read it, whether you have been in an abusive relationship or not, you will learn so much from it. Here's a free PDF!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 03:54 PM
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A class action lawsuit had accused Bumble of discriminating against male app users who identified as being interested in women because the Bumble app only allows women to send messages first. Wait... what? Wasn't this the whole point of Bumble?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 01:02 AM
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In my experience, if you ignore the bill when it comes the man will pay. Most will not have the audacity or will be to embarrassed to ask to split, even if he wants to. The first and only time a man asked me to split the bill, I was SHOCKED, lol. Most guys will pay if you do nothing when the bill comes. These redpill losers don't realize how bad they look compared to most men when they ask women to split the bill.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 09:04 PM
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I absolutely hate this! Why do they think that just because a woman is petite that it's okay to pick her up? It's an intentional violation of a woman's personal space.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 06:39 PM
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I am very petite, short and have always been under 100 lbs. My whole life I have noticed that I attract mostly creeps. Men who have a preference for petite women are disgusting. They hate fat women. They will point out fat women to me and say how gross she is, expecting me to agree. But of course make no mention of the even fatter man she is with. They often view women as sex objects to be used solely for their pleasure. I call these men 'skinny chasers'. They are the worst. To my petite ladies,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 06:12 PM
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Ewwww... It's always the old guys who are the most delusional
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 05:16 PM
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He mentioned that he regularly goes to strip clubs and watches porn on the first date, then he has the audacity to ask why you didn't vibe? 😂😂😂 The stupidity is both sad and hilarious
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 02:18 AM
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Thanks for sharing the link again!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 02:07 AM
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This article just proves what FDS has been saying, that the majority of males are LVM. They can't think about long term consequences, can't understand the concept of working hard now for a reward in the future, are lazy, coddled and unintelligent. Plus overuse of porn and video games have turned their brains to mush. This article acts as if there is no help for men who can't succeed in school, but then goes on to state that the majority of colleges are run by men. Ridiculous. The article is fill…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 12:20 AM
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Someone posted a study on here a few months ago where they determined that men are more likely than women to want to move in together for financial reasons. Women were more likely to state that their reason for moving in together was for love. Men like to play dumb but they know when they are taking advantage of a woman. Moving in with a man before marriage can be very risky because often it mainly benefits him. It can also be a lot more complicated to break up when you are living together, depe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 09:57 PM
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Every single one of my exes has come back. Whether I dumped them or they dumped me, it doesn't matter. They all come back. Men do this to all of their exes. Some do it because they aren't having any luck dating and are desperate to get female attention for as little effort possible, some do it because they are in a relationship and are bored and looking to cheat. Regardless, this is why it's important to block and delete guys after you break up. Never get back together with an ex (he's an ex for…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 09:49 PM
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Agree. They use fancy PC terms to hide the fact that many of their fetishes are depraved and immoral. Here are some popular BDSM terms: "Age Play" = Men who want to fuck children, but since they can't do that legally they coerce women into pretending like they are little girls during sex (think pig tails, baby talk and diapers 🤮) "Race Play" = Racist whites who get boners from treating blacks like actual slaves "Consensual Non-Consent" = Men who get off on raping women "Ethical Non-monogamy" = P…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 04:29 PM
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In his world slaves pay for the privilege of being enslaved 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 11:12 PM
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Typical male manipulation tactic... And he said it while crying too. He was just trying to manipulate her into seeing HIM as the real victim so she coddles him and forgets about his lies. When a man tells you that you deserve more, believe him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 11:10 PM
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I love reductress!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 02:49 AM
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"Let me create that fear" This send chills down my spine lol. I like this lady
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 06:31 PM
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Me too. More women should have this attitude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 05:30 PM
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Veale said that the study was particularly relevant for men experiencing penile shortening due to health conditions. OMG ok when i read this sentence I was like are guys jacking off so hard that they are disintegrating their penises??? Obesity makes more sense. I have a friend who briefly dated a guy who was OBESE. His body was shaped like a sphere. She told me that when they had sex she couldn't even feel it because of all the fat in the way 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 04:55 PM
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I have always been ambivalent about marriage. I would do it if I met a HVM, but if I don't then I am happy with being single rather than settling. I see marriage as icing on the cake, and men as accessories. Nice to have, but not necessary for a fulfilling life. When people hear me articulate this, it's interesting the responses I get from men vs. women. Women are usually supporting and understanding. At worst they are surprised. (asking me "why not??" in a bemused sort of way) Men are the ones …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 04:40 PM
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It's like that saying: "never meet your heroes". It implies that just because someone is talented at music/art/sports/whatever does not also mean that they are a good person. The Me Too movement proved this. All of these talented famous men were exposed as predators. I think celebrity culture has a way of filling in the gaps of a mans personality when he is famous. We assume that the actor who plays a loving, kind father on TV is also that person in real life. We assume that the famous singer wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 04:22 PM
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This is so true. When it comes to dating and relationships, the moments I have felt the most powerful are when I was standing up for myself. Asserting a boundary, dumping a guy, choosing not to respond when a man is trying to get my attention. This is where our power lies as women. And it's not just empowerment, it's actual power. POWER is what gives you leverage over others. It's what aids you in walking your own path and fulfilling your own desires. FDS is the only place that encourages women …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 06:34 PM
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There is a difference between feeling empowered and actually having power. In our society, money = power, so the reality is that it's the men who hold the power, because they are the ones in control of the money. Even with porn and only fans, the people making the most money off it are the men at the top of the companies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 05:55 PM
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Here is the link to the free PDF: https://ia800108.us.archive.org/30/items/LundyWhyDoesHeDoThat/Lundy_Why-does-he-do-that.pdf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 05:33 PM
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The guy in the comment is outing himself as broke 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 05:47 PM
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All hail the blocking queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 05:45 PM
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I have 26 blocked in total from my phone and social media. All men. I've never had to block a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 05:44 PM
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My ex boyfriend meets all these criteria. I really don't think it's that hard to find a guy who meets these basic criteria. The hard part is finding one who is high value. Looks like another desperate attempt to convince women to lower our standards. No thanks, scrotes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 01:37 AM
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Thank you for this post. This is a message so many women need to hear. If a man wants to buy you a gift, pay for your meal/vacation/anything, or help you in any way, just accept it. Do not ever feel guilty accepting gifts from men. There used to be a man I knew who would purchase me gifts, trying to woo me. I accepted the gifts but ultimately turned him down. I didn't feel bad at all because he chose to spend his money on me. One of my exes helped me get a job after college. Another bought me so…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 03:39 AM
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I'm pleased to see it! Looking forward to many new members 🥂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 03:26 AM
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A lot of men have low emotional intelligence and have not learned how to develop resilience. When they get rejected, instead of gathering their feelings and moving on, they get angry at the woman (because how dare she have standards) and project that anger onto all women. It's such an unhealthy way of dealing with rejection but it's very common among men Then it turns into this self fulfilling prophecy where they have a hatred for women due to being rejected, and now they are getting rejected be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 04:29 PM
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Good for you for standing up for yourself and blocking him. This story is disturbing 😩 too many scrotes out here. I'm glad you are ok!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 10:40 PM
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Lick his BUTTHOLE 💀 I hope you laughed in his face
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 08:47 PM
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I love everything about this! This reminds me of a similar story... I was briefly seeing guy who I decided to end it with because his behavior became narcissistic and crazy. I informed him via text that I was done. He texts me: "So you really want to throw this all away????" while sending me a pic of us together and smiling I reply: "yes" Then I blocked him 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 06:07 PM
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I was in a relationship with a guy for 7 months. One night he gets drunk and decides to call me at 2am. I can tell he's wasted because he's slurring his words so I tell him I'll call him tomorrow and hang up so I can go back to sleep. He calls again, and I tell him the same thing and hang up again. He calls AGAIN. And AGAIN. He's alternating between calling the house phone and my cell and waking up not just me but also my parents and brother. So I put both ringers on silent and go to sleep. I wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 09:25 PM
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Agree. I had this exact thing happen to me once when I was online dating. I was annoyed but didn't cry about it. Why cry over it when you have never even met the guy? And when he texted me a few days later to reschedule, I ghosted him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 08:05 PM
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Wow... That was painful to watch
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 12:58 AM
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One thing I have noticed is that a lot of men are incredibly delusional and will assume that everything a woman does is about him or some other man. They don't see us a full people with opinions and autonomy and just assume that everything we do revolves around men, because what else would a woman possibly need in her life besides a man??? A woman who usually goes bare face wears some makeup: "She must have a hot date tonight!!" (true story, spoken by my male coworker at 7 in the morning) A woma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 11:38 PM
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I love blocking guys! It feels so freeing. I imagine myself walking on a path towards my goals, and these past LVM's are lurking in the bushes beside the walkway. Every now and then one of them will stick his hands out of a bush and try to grab my ankle. The block button eliminates these guys completely so I don't have to waste any mental energy shaking them off of me. I can continue on my path, happy, free and clear headed. Ex boyfriends who disrespected me, attempted to belittle me, were jealo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 09:28 PM
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I have blocked and deleted most of my exes at this point and have never regretted it. It feels freeing to take back the control and deny them access to you. Good for you, OP!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 04:03 PM
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So happy for you! I love stories like these. You realized you weren't being treated well and you dumped his ass like a queen 👑🥂 I was in a similar relationship years ago and trust me, once you dump these losers and leave them in the dust your life will ONLY get better and more beautiful!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 12:25 AM
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Upvote for "gollum style depravity"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 12:18 AM
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Being angry, and displaying that anger always feels good to me. I have never said or done anything in anger that I regretted. If you have a healthy relationship with anger, and you use it to propel yourself forward and stand up for yourself rather than to intimidate others, you should embrace it. Great post OP, this is something that isn't discussed much among women because i think there can be a lot of negative stigmas about "angry women" that are mixed with ideas of femininity, race, power etc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 10:47 PM
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Even in my pre FDS pick-me days I rejected guys who exhibited these behaviors. I've been negged and felt very annoyed afterwards. It made me feel more like 'wtf this guy is rude' than 'wow what a great guy'. There was also a guy who cancelled a date last minute. A week later he tried to ask me out again and I ghosted him, lol. I can't believe that's actually being sold to men as a pick up artist tactic... like, have they ever tried just being kind and genuine??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 12:31 AM
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Is fine AF Fridays dead? I noticed there were no posts today. Say it aint so!! 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 06:45 AM
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LOL! They are 100% lying. Trying to make themselves seem like they are some unobtainable prize.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 11:57 PM
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The women in porn look like blow up dolls but can we talk about the men...??? Most of them are so ugly! Their faces look like they got hit by a truck and most of them have unattractive bodies, like beer bellies, no muscle definition. Not to mention some of these guys are 35+ years old! But of course they all have 10" dicks. Big dicks are nice but that's not the only criteria for being hot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 11:37 PM
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Happy for you! I believe that every time we stand up for ourselves and assert our boundaries, we become stronger. Every rejection, every block and delete, every time we say no, it leads us on a path to becoming high value. I love hearing stories like this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 10:44 PM
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What girls SHOULD DO is waste their time, energy & attention on me so that I can get a mommy bang-maid for life without having to put in any actual effort. Were not made of stone: if I met a women with low enough self esteem I'd get her pregnant so my inferior genes can live on & she can raise them for me w/o any help. But the only choice for a modern man is to be a useless LVM or be a whiny incel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 10:35 PM
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This is a great perspective OP! I can relate although I am not from the same culture as you. When I lived with my parents they took care of everything around the house and made sure that when I finally moved out I had never cooked a meal (both mom, dad and brother would cook for me), never cleaned anything (except making my bed), never did a load of laundry, never used an iron, etc. In my life I have never cooked, cleaned or done an ounce of domestic labor for a man. And I never will. I have had…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 06:34 PM
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Can confirm. I briefly dated a nightclub bouncer until I found out that he and all his coworkers were full fledged alcoholics. The entire nightclub staff would get drunk on the job. Even the owner of the club would be staggering around slurring his words at the end of the night.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 06:11 PM
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There was a guy at my workplace that would mate guard me. Funny thing is that I didn't even like him. I started to notice he was following me around, and would memorize my schedule to purposely try to cross paths with me. Once i realized what was going on I was so creeped out. He was obviously crushing on me and would hang around me like a fan boy. One time they hired a new guy to work in our area. He was younger and more attractive than the creepy scrote, and the scrote started hanging around m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 05:27 PM
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"You can't fire me, I quit!!" Hahaha, good riddance!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 11:07 PM
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His comments probably had to do with whatever was going on in your relationship. You said you guys were starting to fall apart... a lot of times when guys sense that their girlfriend is losing interest they will lash out and start randomly insulting things about her that they never mentioned before. I've had the same thing happen to me... I think its just their last pathetic attempt to assert some sort of dominance before they get dumped lol. Kinda like a last ditch effort neg, one last attempt …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 10:44 PM
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Not OP but when I feel I'm in a situation where I feel flustered or uncomfortable, or I feel the need to take back some control, I remind myself that I don't have to do or experience anything I don't want to. Ever. For any reason. I am the one in charge. I kind of repeat that to myself internally and it helps me to stand up for myself and be more assertive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 03:30 AM
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When they say they want a feminine and traditional woman, what that really means is that they want a bang-maid who keeps her opinions to herself, never stands her ground, and accepts her place as #2 in the relationship while still looking up to him as if he were a god, even though he provides her with nothing but crumbs and dust. They don't want an equal, they want someone whom they can easily control. The problem is that nowadays Women aren't as easy to control as we used to be. We can get jobs…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 02:01 AM
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Ripping up a letter from a LVM is like FDS for medieval times. It's the analog version of block and delete!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 01:43 AM
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Absolutely women need to be more selfish! Selfish is seen as a dirty word sometimes but I think part of being ruthless is being selfish. Putting yourself first always. You are your own best advocate. No one will look out for you more than YOU. A healthy relationship with a HVM should never require concessions. Healthy relationships are about working together, not one partner repeatedly making sacrifices for the other. The moment your partner asks or expects you to make some concession for him, a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 05:19 AM
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When people comment on you being single, it's pure projection. It's because they can't feel happy without a boyfriend so they can't imagine that someone else would willingly be single. When people challenge me on being single I will lightheartedly say that most men aren't good enough for me. Most women will laugh at this, but if they continue to insist I just shrug and change the subject. My dating life isn't up for debate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 09:16 PM
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As women we have so much untapped power. We have the ability to stand up for ourselves, walk away when we aren’t treated right, to block, ignore, dump, cut off, divorce and refuse to procreate with LVM. We have our own intuition. I see FDS as awakening the power that’s inside all of us. I can go back to my worst relationships and realize that I had the power to prevent all the nonsense all along, I just didn’t use it. I own that it’s all my fault… but at least now I know that I will never entert…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 08:49 PM
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Oh my. Rugby players are the hottest! And their thighs.... yum. I love how their outfits are tight and show off their bodies. Rugby is the sexiest sport imo 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 12:20 AM
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Every single one of my exes has tried to re establish contact with me at some point. No matter if I dumped them or they dumped me. No matter if the breakup was amicable or terrible. Even the ones I told never to contact me again still tried to reconnect lol. Some try to contact me two weeks after the breakup, two months, several years. Many have tried to contact me several times over years. Some give up after a few months. I have been ignoring all my exes since I started dating, even pre FDS. Pr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 09:24 PM
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This was painful to read. Ladies - never support a man financially. If a man is expecting you to support him you need to RUN. And for the love of god stop feeling bad when your boyfriend makes less money than you! Instead of pitying him and opening your wallet, you should just encourage him to be better. Or dump him. "I sometimes feel a lot of resentment for having to pay for almost everything. On the flip side, I then feel guilty about spending money on buying clothes or beauty products for mys…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 07:29 PM
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Wow... That's some aggressive racism. Sorry that happened to you. It sounds like the trash took itself out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 07:09 PM
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I have ghosted many men and have never not once regretted it. If you think you want to ghost, just do it. When I am deciding whether or not to ghost, I am really weighing his feelings vs. my feelings. Why would I put a mans feeling above mine when I barely know him? Always prioritize yourself. Ghost, block, delete. Do what you need to do and don't feel guilty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 05:08 PM
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I was at yoga today and I started cringing about what a pickme I used to be during shavasana. Sorry OP can't help you 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 02:48 AM
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So true. I cringe when I think of all the LVM I dated from my early twenties. Had I met them now, none would have made it past the first few dates. I'm grateful that I ended my twenties with no babies and no husband. Also grateful that I still had enough sense to prioritize university and graduate with a good paying job. That has brought me far more benefit than any man ever could.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 03:08 AM
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Internet rule #1: Don't feed the troll
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 09:52 PM
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Pick-me's are created by the patriarchy, and they are used as tools to further male privilege. It's sad because they don't have bad intentions. But when they let males get away with the bare minimum and disrespect, they are doing a disservice to all women. Someone posted a quote here a few weeks ago, it said something like "every time a woman stands up for herself, she unknowingly stands up for all women"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 09:46 PM
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Male Uber drivers can be so creepy. I notice they ALWAYS try to start a convo with me. Don't engage in a conversation if you don't want to. Some of them will insist on me sitting in the front seat, but only when I'm alone. One of them actually reached over and opened the front passenger door and told me to just get in the front. I walked up to the door and closed it, and got in the back. I have a male friend who told me he was sitting in the front passenger seat and the driver told him he was cu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 09:38 PM
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I know how you feel as I've had to do this MANY times lol... trust me... two months from now, you are going to look back and wish you had done it sooner! You're single and free from that loser who was dragging you down. You do not deserve to be mistreated by anyone, ever. Take time to feel your feelings, then rejoice! 🥂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 08:15 PM
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I can relate to this so much. I once dated a guy who looked great on paper - attractive, (seemingly) smart, getting his PhD and still making good income while being a student. Everything was great until I graduated with my bachelors and got a job making more money than him. Then all the sudden he turns into this pathetic insecure jealous little boy who's lil feelings are hurt by the fact that his girlfriend is pulling more $$$ than him. He started to belittle me whenever I would buy myself somet…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 05:05 PM
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So happy for you!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 10:47 PM
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I'm so sorry for what you've been thru. Just wanted to send you some hugs and support. The legal system may not be on your side, but remember that everyone here at FDS is 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 10:34 PM
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Recently my ex (who was blocked on everything) texted me with a new number and said to not block him because he spent money on that burner phone app 💀 GIRL... I literally just choked on my tea. This is too damn funny
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 10:27 PM
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I'm tired of this too. At my old job I had 6 men ask me out on a date and/or sex within the first year I worked there. The oldest was 45 🤮🤮🤮. All of them were ugly. I turned all 6 down. This was in a professional office job. These morons mistook my "niceness" as an invitation. But the thing is... I'm at work! I'm generically "nice" to all of my coworkers! Just because I say hello to a male coworker as he walks by does not mean I am romantically interested! At my next job I'm gonna have to learn …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 10:17 PM
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When I was 25 I met a woman who was 19 that had a 45 year old boyfriend. He was old, fat and gross. I was actually worried about her because he was addicted to pain pills and they lived in a really bad neighborhood since her boyfriend was a registered sex offender (they started dating when she was 16!!). She was going to enroll in college but then she got pregnant :( In lost touch with her but i still think about her sometimes. I hope she is ok. These old guys just take advantage of young women …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 12:44 AM
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I used to work at a jewelry store. Whenever someone returned diamond jewelry we were required to check it with a diamond tester to make sure they didn't swap it with cubic zirconia. Almost every time a woman saw me test the diamond, she would get all curious and ask me to check her wedding ring lol. Thankfully I never found a fake one!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 08:41 PM
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I read your post history and I am so sorry for what you went through. This guy is a total piece of shit ! Please be careful when you leave. Don't break up with him in person. Don't tell him where you are. Block his phone number and social media so he can't reach out to you. Because I guarantee he will try. I hope you have a plan and can stay safe. Other posters have given some good advice. You are a QUEEN and you deserve so much better than some entitled abusive scrote. Imagine yourself, six mon…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 08:09 PM
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FDS is the only place that actually gives women a solution to their problems, instead of just acknowledging it's a problem then moving on. FDS completes the circle for me. It's the only place that encourages ruthlessness
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 08:00 PM
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This has happened to me too! Older male coworkers complaining about their wives to me. Its so off putting. Don't they realize that they sound like a total d*ck? This woman is raising your children and you sit here and talk trash about her?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 07:34 PM
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I used to think dating was fun, until I tried online dating 🙄. What a cesspool. Deleted all my apps 3 years ago and never looked back ✌️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 07:23 PM
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I used to be like this. Basically every relationship I've ever had I knew I would never marry the guy. I was just dating them because I was bored, to be totally honest. I didn't realize it at the time but what i really needed was more hobbies, not a boyfriend. Dating out of boredom lead me to cycle thru a lot of boyfriends, all of whom were inadequate in some way. It also lead me to lower my standards because since I wasn't looking for a future husband, I figured, why does it matter if he's not …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 06:34 AM
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This is hilariously sad... like... why? Lol... scrotes gonna scrote i guess. I absolutely love this sub, it really has been a positive influence in my life. Glad these guys are helping to spread the good word!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 03:11 AM
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I thoroughly enjoyed watching this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 06:05 PM
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Nancy Jo Sales was recently the guest on A Single Serving podcast. Her interview was really interesting, she talked about her research into the misogyny of dating apps and how the dating app companies try to get you to keep swiping. I think FDS ladies might enjoy it, especially if you feel conflicted about dating apps. I'll be reading her new book!! and here is a link to her interview: https://www.shanisilver.com/home/nancy-jo-sales
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 04:38 PM
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A lot of the dating advice directed towards women centers on improving yourself for the benefit of men. As if the reason all single women are single is because there is something wrong with them. It's rare that dating advice tells women to really sit back and think about what we want, and to constantly be using that as a template to vet men. FDS was the first place I have ever heard the idea of "never stop vetting". Why is that? It seems so obvious but I've only heard it here. I think it's becau…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 09:25 PM
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This is great advice and I'm glad you kept yourself safe OP! I would also recommend that if you don't live with your boyfriend, do not let him have the keys to your place. Its too much of a liability and could be a safety issue if things do not work out. Instead give your extra set of keys to a good female friend or family member for safekeeping
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 09:37 PM
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One of my exes broke up with me because I wouldn't give him a blowjob. I was young and just didn't feel comfortable doing it. He was very entitled and rapey and when he saw I wouldn't be his human sex doll he breaks it off. Afterwards he goes on facebook and made this long sad post about how "the closest relationship he's ever had was with his cat" and how he's "traveled the world so no one can truly understand his experience or relate to him". The post had a very 'woe is me' type of tone. Maybe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 11:02 PM
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This is what FDS is all about. Women supporting other women to help them live their best lives and avoid these abusive male losers! I'm so sorry you had to go thru all that. This scrote seemed hell bent on tearing you down. It blows my mind that some men are really this pathetic. Happy for you, sis. You're leveling up, single and happy! I love posts like these
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 05:14 PM
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I had an ex LVM hit me up three weeks ago. I saw the text, felt very annoyed and proceeded to block and delete once and for all. I told my friend about it and she said "good for you". A good friend won't question your judgement when you decide to cut a man off. She will celebrate with you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 08:47 PM
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I love Baroness Von Sketch show!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 08:02 PM
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It actually makes me laugh men attempt to make you jealous by mentioning an ex. You’re the one who’s not blocking them bro. Clearly need that crumb of attention. I’m not feeding my ex’s crumbs because I don’t need their attention So true! They secretly love the validation they get from their ex's attention. These types of guys are just attention seeking drama queens
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 07:27 PM
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I remember learning about Freud in highschool and thinking he was a quack. He coined the term 'penis envy'; the idea that girls are jealous of their dad because he has a penis and she doesn't. Lol what? Only a man would come up with such nonsense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 07:18 PM
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I have been called a 'slut' by men exactly two times. In both instances it was immediately after I broke up with them. Both these guys were very controlling which is why I dumped them. So I'm only a slut after I decide that I will never have sex with them again. How ironic 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 06:51 PM
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Good for you for reporting him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 05:48 PM
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100% the truth! I am an engineer. Once at work I introduced myself to a new male coworker. He said to me, "I bet I'm better at math than you are". I just looked at him. I said nothing. It was so strange, at the time I didn't know about negging or whatever but his comment came across as rude and unprofessional. He had a look on his face like he was expecting a response, and once he saw he wasn't going to get it, he awkwardly changed the subject. This scrote tried to ask me out twice in the time t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 10:54 PM
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You are correct that dating apps don't really want us getting off the app. They want us endlessly swiping into the void. The more time we waste on the app, the more money they make. I am a big advocate for deleting your dating apps! When I was on them they brought me nothing but disrespect and scrotes. I would get 100 messages and not find a single profile that I actually wanted to message back. And the few dates I did go on were so disappointing. The most high effort dates I had gone on were on…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 09:51 PM
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He's trying to play the victim to manipulate you into pitying him, hes 'broken' and 'insecure'. So of course he would rape someone then say she is falsely accusing HIM. Because in his head, he is always the victim. People like this love to disrespect and abuse others, then try to turn things around so that they are the real victims. Please for your own safety block him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 07:52 PM
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All of that after only 3 dates? You dodged a bullet OP damn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 06:51 PM
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I am also mixed (black/white). My white ex boyfriend and I ran into one of my other ex's mom at the mall (my other ex was black). He asked me who she was and I told him. He said "your ex boyfriend was black????" but the way he said it almost sounded accusatory, as if he just found out I was an ex con or something. Why would he be so shocked that I dated a black guy when I am black too? Then he asks me if my ex's dick was bigger than his 😂 These white guys obsess over other guys dicks. It's all j…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 06:47 PM
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I feel sorry for these traditional women. I think they are just naively buying into the narrative of happy homemaker/wife without really thinking about the fact that they would need a high value man to complete the picture. Sadly, these 'traditional' guys are all LVM because their idea of tradition is full ownership of a woman as if she were his property.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 06:05 PM
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Exactly! And they always out themselves. These type of guys get so excited when a topic comes up that allows them to demonstrate how much of an 'alpha male' they are lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 06:39 AM
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Thank you for putting this together. This is immensely helpful!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 04:44 AM
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You left that loser in the dust! I love stories like these. I'm so happy for you, OP. You're a true queen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 09:59 PM
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I agree. I think a lot of it has to do with the fact that these women KNOW that their boyfriend doesn't have the money or motivation to buy them the nice ring or the lovely wedding. They know it's never gonna happen so they just shrug their shoulders and resign themselves to a lower standard because in their mind that's all they're ever gonna get. Then they compensate by pretending that they didn't want the fancy wedding anyway because that's a waste of money and we love each other so it shouldn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 09:59 PM
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If a guys cries (1) After disrespecting you (2) After he doesn't get his way (3) After you assert a boundary He is 100% just trying to manipulate you and play the victim
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 09:46 PM
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Yup... My dating experiences were all around disappointment. I guess when I was younger I was just naive. I try not to be ashamed because I think we all go through things when we're younger, it's not our fault for not being wise from birth. But i'm in the same boat as you, 31 and loving my own company. FDS was the final push for me to completely just focus on myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 09:17 PM
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A guy I used to work with (lefty bearded dudebro) had an "open relationship" with his wife. He told me he threatened to leave her if she didn't let him sleep with other women, so he basically coerced her into it. When I ask him if his wife had a boyfriend he got all offended and said 'no way!!!'. He told me that I would "be perfect" as one of his hookup buddies 🤮🤮🤮. He was 7 years older, married with kids lol why would he think I would want his wife's sloppy seconds??? This guy would constantly …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 07:30 PM
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I think that most importantly you need to make sure you have good friends who you can rely on. Women who you can go on trips with, who can enjoy each others company and support each other. How to make these friends is a different story, I made friends thru travel, my yoga classes and at my job. In the same vein, have the courage to end relationships that aren't truly serving you. Secondly you need to have your finances secure. I chose engineering as my profession and it pays well which I am so g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 06:53 PM
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I used to date around a lot a few years back. When I reflect on those times and ask myself 'why?' The honest answer was that I was just bored. I used guys as entertainment to alleviate my boredom. I haven't dated in over 3 years and have no desire to because now I have hobbies, plenty of money, and more friends than ever. I'm anything but bored. Once you become a well rounded woman (finances, hobbies, friends...) you realize that most men aren't really adding anything to your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 01:33 AM
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This question sounds so.... aggressive? Even in my pick me days I would have been really put off if a guy asked me this on a date. Men sure do love giving each other terrible dating advice, eh?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 05:53 PM
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I was talking to a male friend and he was saying how "unfair" it is that men can't make as much money as women on only fans. I said it's because women don't need to pay for males nudes, and I could just ask guys for nudes and they would give them to me for free, so why would i pay? So he starts whining about how women are "so lucky" to get "all the dic pics they want for free." They just don't get it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 06:36 AM
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that body..... *chef's kiss*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 06:19 AM
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GIRL... You are healthier, wealthier, happier and free! I love seeing women leaving their LVM exes in the dust. You are an inspiration. Posts like these are why I love FDS!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 09:36 PM
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I love this. She turned something negative from men into a huge positive, not just for herself but for other women too! A true queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 09:18 PM
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This made my day! Thanks for the post
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 09:02 PM
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An empathetic person would naturally want to lend a hand and help those she cares about, but feel like you should help him, ask yourself What would I be sacrificing to help him? Is it worth it? Would he do the same for me? Would me helping him solve the root cause of the problem? Reflecting on these questions will lead you to the conclusion that it's usually a waste of your resources to help. Like OP said, the easiest thing to do is nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 12:13 AM
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Once when I was about 22, I was sitting at a bar alone waiting for my friend. I was drinking my drink, minding my own business and this much older man moves closer to me and starts talking to me. The convo was pretty basic, I don't remember the details. At one point he asks, "Can I get your number" and I ask, "Why"? and he says so he can take me out. So I say "On a date???" and he's like yes. Ladies, this man looked my dads age, he was old and saggy looking. I ask him how old he is and he says 5…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 11:54 PM
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I would love to read this post!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 08:54 PM
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Happy for you! One of my exes randomly texted me over the weekend. I used it as an opportunity to block him once and for all. It felt good. Something about ignoring men is so satisfying!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 08:48 PM
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I love posts like these! Good for you for noticing red flags and taking action when you felt uncomfortable
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 03:49 AM
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It's all just so creepy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 03:42 AM
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"He says it's the same as me owning a dildo"..... Ok but dildos don't have faces????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 03:40 AM
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Wow this is just sad. I want to give this woman a hug
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 08:35 PM
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THIS. Any non asian guy who watches anime AND has an asian fetish is bad news. I knew two guys like this and they were both gross, entitled losers. One of them was 30 years old and had a poster of a scantily clad anime character hanging above his bed and actually compared my body to hers. Compared me to a literal cartoon 🤮🤮🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 08:21 PM
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Isn't this from "Why Does He Do That"? This is a great book that everyone should read! There is a free PDF of this book online https://ia800108.us.archive.org/30/items/LundyWhyDoesHeDoThat/Lundy_Why-does-he-do-that.pdf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 11:29 PM
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This is just so... disturbing. I could not even begin to fathom being turned on by someone crying. It's safe to say he had no empathy. I'm sorry you went through this OP, glad you dumped his ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 09:20 PM
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I don't see the issue either. The world isn't going to run out of humans
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 09:15 PM
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A lot of men are secretly jealous of women. When they are dating a woman who is ahead of them in her career, finances or education, (or on the path to getting ahead), they get triggered and resort to belittling her or shaming her for it. They do this because they were told their whole life that the worst thing that can happen to them is to be beat by a girl. It's honestly pathetic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 11:08 PM
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A "cooling off period" sounds like a discipline for a toddler. The Chinese government is treating married women like children with this ridiculous rule.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 10:47 PM
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I felt the same way about ‘Why Does He Do That?’. I figured that I'd never been in an abusive (violent) relationship so it didn't apply to me. But after reading it, I am realizing that abuse is so much more than violence and that its more prevalent in relationships than we all realize. I recommend everyone read this book as it gives a great insight into men's entitled attitudes and how you can identify abuse and manipulation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 01:07 AM
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This is so important! To an abusive or narc partner, their actions towards you are justified, no matter how awful they are to you. Couples therapy will only provide them with more excuses for their behaviour. Never take an abusive, narcissist or manipulative partner to therapy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 08:46 PM
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A guy may say he's sorry, but remember that he still did what he did. Him saying sorry does not change the underlying thought process that he used to decide to do something disrespectful to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 07:57 PM
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Proud of you! Remember that the FDS principles of vetting, block and delete, leave at the first sign of disrespect etc are difficult to apply at first, but they get easier and easier the more you do it. Eventually you get to a point where after you cut him off you feel a great uplifting feeling - its the feeling of taking complete control of your life! Bask in its glory and remember that your life is about YOU, and no one else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 11:19 PM
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"I also don't want sex"...... Yes he does "I just want someone I can vibe w and go on last minute dates"..... He wants you to be ready for him at HIS convenience
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 10:51 PM
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Congrats!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 10:59 PM
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I am loving not having to go to the office everyday and be around all those gross middle aged male coworkers who would look me up and down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 08:19 PM
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Plus the burden of trying to find a man who would not only be a good husband but also a good father?? No thanks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 08:14 PM
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Happy for you! Going through breakups can be tough, but when you look back on all of this you will be beaming with pride that you had the strength to block, delete and move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 07:53 PM
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“Can we normalize this?” Asks the scrote. He runs his Cheeto dusted fingers across his neckbeard, then rests his hands upon his ever growing beer belly. He leans back in his gaming chair, the excessive weight of his body creating a creaking sound in the chairs frame. “If only we could normalize this”, he sighs, staring out of the tiny window of his mother’s basement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 07:34 PM
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I had a long distance ex-boyfriend (pre FDS) once tell me to drop out of college to come live with him in his crappy 1 bedroom apt. This guy was 10 years older than me (I know…), porn addicted and had a receding hairline. Looking back I am SO glad that relationship ended and I didn’t stop going to school. A few years later I graduated with my engineering degree. These days I’m single, got money in the bank, and living my best life!!💋 A HVM would support you in your academic or professional endea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 06:58 PM
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This is SO true I had gotten a new job while I was with my ex a while back. The job paid significantly more than my old job, and a little bit more than my ex’s job. He asked me what my new salary was and when I told him his FIRST reaction was to say (angrily) “Oh, so now you make more than me?????” I didn’t even get a congratulations from him!! He then started making all these super bitchy comments whenever I would buy myself something nice. I was now doing better than him financially and had a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 05:20 AM
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