I’ve been reading a lot of Gail Dines recently. I don’t want to get too graphic but she describes really abusive bdsm that is considered mainstream. (Ie, forced anal, forced blow jobs, anal prolapse, vomiting etc). That there are no indications of arousal by either party. It’s about taking the prettiest “barely legal” teens and reducing them to a “gross stinking whore”(quote from one of the pornos she detailed). That it’s all about seeing a girl who looks like a girl who rejected you in high school, then watching her be abused, degraded, and injured.

Another example of this is Marilyn Manson. Marilyn Manson is currently being sued by four separate women for; rape, abuse, torture and human trafficking. After reading “The Long Hard Road Out of Hell”, I can tell you that he did all of those things. In this book, he speaks very poorly of women. He even admits that his entire motive to becoming a rockstar was so that the woman who rejected him and had another mans child, could watch him become rich and famous while being a struggling single mom.

You will notice in the BDSM community, submissives are often very young women. This is no coincidence, either. It is exactly what it looks like. Men will see rejection in adolescence as “traumatic”, develop a resentment for women, and proceed to seek retribution in other women. Meanwhile, womans’ trauma is sexual assault and rape.

Women get rejected too, we just don’t develop whole complexes around it. And boys who reject you in high school, are mean. At least girls are taught to be nice and coddle boys fee fees. At least you have that going for you. Boys will reject you, tell you why he rejected you, then get with his friends and make fun of you forever. I legitimately got rejected for having dark hair and olive skin. Like he said those words with his mouth. Just say “thank you, I’m not interested”, dude. But I moved on. I didn’t develop a fetish for torturing dudes on the lacrosse team. I 👏 just 👏 moved 👏 on 👏