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What a weird thing to say. I marched for the BLM movement and I’m proud of it. There are women who have killed other women, therefore you wouldn’t show up or demand justice for female victims? That’s what you basically just wrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 01:25 PM
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Heartbreaking. May she Rest In Peace. I hope he fries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 01:19 PM
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This! This is why I’ve never liked men who had to be the belle of the ball, center of attention and star of the show.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 01:17 PM
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Um… it’s just not giving me authentic??? 🤷🏾‍♀️ But I could be wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 05:59 AM
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LOVE this! Using your power for good! “Tradition” isn’t a free pass to abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 07:05 PM
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Lmfao oh my god 🤣 I just choked!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 07:01 PM
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Lmao I read that and said “boy byeee”. I guess it means he’s back chasing blonde actresses half his age but hits Grimes up when none of them take the bait?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 08:34 PM
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Spot on. My LVX (who I believe is a narc, still figuring that out) called me a liar and manipulator because I got annoyed and mad with him when he would always cancel our plans to talk/FaceTime at night when I was out of town. He said “you told me no big deal if I can’t”. I did. But it wasn’t that he couldn’t it’s that he didn’t want to, and that disappointed me. I was like “I’m not allowed to be disappointed by you continuously rebuffing me when you have no other conflicts keeping you from talk…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 01:33 PM
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I have to ask, I dated a man from West Virginia for about a year and some change about 5/6 years ago and whenever I would visit him men would be wearing camo clothing EVERYWHERE. I was like "_BF_, this is just getting ridiculous now. Why do they need camo in a hibachi grill?" I couldn't get over it, lmao. Is that still a thing?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 01:30 PM
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My dad (an emotionally and verbally abusive narcissist) literally said to me once “I never intend to hurt people. So if it’s not my intention, I will not apologize. Therefore I will never apologize.” My mom (who is a codependent pickme who usually justifies all of his actions and behaviors) was even speechless. He is messed up in the brain and sadly I don’t think he will ever change.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 01:03 PM
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Horrific the number of men in my life that resemble this: my father, brother and a few exes. Not all of them check all of the boxes but all of the boxes have been checked between them all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 01:01 PM
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I made a joke on another subreddit about Nazis getting botched hangings at Nuremberg and some scrote was like “they were human beings following orders” I’m sorry…. what!? But let’s joke about innocent women being murdered by their partners 🤷🏾‍♀️ Then it’s all “HuMoR hElPs uS HeAl”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 12:57 PM
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Damn he sounds like a serial killer in the making 👀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 02:32 PM
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Lmao a dog (typically) will never challenge them or make them question their manhood and the second they do they punish it however they see fit. Unfortunately for them they can’t do that with women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 02:28 PM
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I guarantee you he gives off an angry, violent, and confrontational energy just by reading his post. It’s funny how that’s the last thing they consider “maybe I’m a weird, anti-social asshole”?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 12:36 AM
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The only man who was able to keep it up for hours with me was the one who didn’t watch porn (at all) or masturbate daily, and he was older than me by a decade. The young ones are absolutely pathetic with their semi-chubs and five minute performances. But the addiction starts in the teenaged years and I feel like no one (mainstream at least) is taking it seriously. You have to show ID to literally get or do anything that requires you to be 18/21+ but for porn you just click a fucking button. Neve…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 12:02 AM
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It’s all the stuff they wish they could do to you but know they can’t basically. And can’t afford a sex worker to pay them to do it. Pretty disturbing/disgusting stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 11:55 PM
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Ikr?? I’m so disappointed, sis. There was always like one or two like this and they got shut down pretty quick by the other commenters but now I see they’re being rewarded and encouraged.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 11:36 PM
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I’ve been watching one of my favorite WOC activists get torn apart on social media for even suggesting the above while her white counterparts are praised for their insight into the issue. What bothers me is we always get hit with the “it’s not the right time” Ok so when tf is it ever the right time?? Inconvenient truths never have a right time or place to be discussed. That’s why they’re inconvenient.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 04:48 PM
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You know me typing that was the first time I really summed up what I had experienced time and time again with these types haha! All of the things required to make a relationship work: intimacy, availability, consistency, honesty, vulnerability- they don’t like or are unable to provide. So they act disrespectful towards relationships: canceling dates, withholding sex, silent treatment/weird attitude but not telling the partner why, making excuses to not speak to their partner or respond to their …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 04:22 PM
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“Hope you’re good at what you do then”???? Negging from the start I see 🧐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 03:23 PM
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I love how they like to get all “sentimental tortured artist” when it comes to them being cheating asshats in their mid-life crises. Suddenly they’re all Hemingway or Picasso 🤣 gtfoh Greg, go pick your kids up from soccer practice
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 08:01 PM
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I totally agree about not being your partner’s therapist!! l don’t buy the “oh well if you’re secure you can be in a relationship with an avoidant”. Avoidants do not respect relationships, it’s that simple. Is it their fault they are the way they are? Probably not. But it doesn’t change the fact that they don’t respect relationships and due to that are not good partners - regardless of what your attachment style may be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 07:49 PM
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She’s seriously going to let some random man fuck her and ejaculate inside of her? Lmao a man from Tinder no less!? Setting that kid up for failure big time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 04:51 AM
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So then I have to ask what’s his point lol. If we’re 39 (his age) and have no kids we’re gross, unfuckable cat-lady spinsters. If we’re 39 and have kids we’re gold digging whores who want to cuckold them into raising another man’s seed. Guys like this just hate women basically. Which leads me to ask if he hates women so much as to put that much effort into a snarky/sarcastic bio sneak-dissing us, why is he on a dating app to begin with?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 04:47 AM
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Damn I usually see most body language readings as b.s. but I liked his channel. I had no idea he did that, extremely disappointing. I’m unsubscribing immediately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 01:13 AM
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Pretty lady, so sad that she doesn’t realize she deserves better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 08:41 PM
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And racism. And religious persecution. Honestly systems of oppression mirror each other because they’re all rooted in the same belief: “I’m more human than you”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 06:36 PM
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I remember reading a story like this. Guy pressured his GF into watching porn with him when she didn‘t like it. She ended up agreeing but only if she got to choose the videos. Then she went straight for the big dick section. Guess who suddenly didn‘t like the whole watching porn together idea. This story may or may not have been about me and my ex in my pickme days 🌚 (lmao obviously not but a similar incident did happen. It was so funny how quickly he went from excited to downtrodden 🤣)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 02:19 PM
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My LVX’s eyes literally bulged out of his head the first and last time we argued in person. I will never forget that image because the only other person I’ve seen do this was my narcissist father. It was at that point I knew we wouldn’t last.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 02:11 PM
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Oh but I thought it was only women who were nasty and jealous towards each other?? 😏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 01:40 PM
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This is gonna be a long response so sorry in advance haha, but I have thought about this a lot myself! I don’t think HVM are turned off by women with LV fathers, unless of course there is some severe acting out/attachment issues going on. I don’t think any man worth his salt would say “oh ew, she was born to abusive/toxic people (even though she had no choice in that matter) and suffered emotional neglect and manipulation. No way am I interested in pursuing this!” I think a true HVM would see yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 03:10 AM
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Literally they are so tacky and insecure. They feel some sort of power being like “hehehe I’m in control now! I get to pick and choose! I get to do the rejecting!” Ok but you’re still broke and ugly at the end of the day sooo there are no winners here 😂 As I’m older and I begin to notice these things happening I remove myself and let him give his undivided attention to the woman he’s into. I don’t need to be polite or “cool” and sit through his little power trip. I’ve literally walked off mid co…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 06:58 PM
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I’ve been not so cute and I’ve been “hot”/attractive (though I think being a black woman adds some interesting, different dynamics into the mix. I don’t know if we are ever really considered “conventionally” attractive). Basically both before and after my experience with men has been a trash heap lmao. I will say though when I was less attractive people actually attempted to talk to me. Now if I catch someone looking at me they buck their eyes and turn away like I caught them stealing or somethi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 12:36 AM
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I've legitimately asked those types "does your husband have a name?" on a few separate occasions 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 04:55 PM
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Yesss! There is absolutely no shame in my game. If FDS causes such a vitriolic reaction in a person, that's not someone whose opinion I would care about anyways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 04:51 PM
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The youtube comment section is the worst. In any couple video as long as the woman is silent, dutifully mothering, or laughing at her partner's idiotic jokes or pranks she's "wifey material". It is really eye-opening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 04:47 PM
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Disgusting. The scary thing is, whatever depraved and perverted shit men let out of their mouths, it is almost always 10x worse in their head. I am sure you don’t need me to tell you this but if your daughter is on social media, please make sure there is no way he can find her, friend her, or see her posts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 04:40 PM
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But there was a binary- either pretend not to notice entirely and not say a word, like it never happened OR be labeled cRaZy and “overinvested” I actually just left a job because of this. One woman was hellbent on antagonizing me and a few others were lying about me and my performance. As I quit I told my boss this exact thing, either I have to consistently be confronting my coworkers thus becoming the “negative presence” or I just let them walk all over me. I couldn’t do either and I wasn’t eve…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 02:47 PM
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Shit the amount of times I have heard this statement verbatim out of scrotes mouths!!! Btw I find it adorable, sexy and charming when a guy asks if he can kiss me. Huge turn on. Way more sexy and masculine than just randomly attacking my face like a nervous 8th grader at the spring dance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 01:09 PM
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Thank you!! 🥲
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 01:06 PM
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I think about how I had to get myself drunk the first time before I slept with my LVX because I found him that unattractive. I literally had to ask him for alcohol!!! Then I ended up dating him!? 🤡 I’m so embarrassed and sad for myself looking back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 03:02 AM
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“well, I think I’ll head out” Lmaoo you were like SpongeBob “aight, imma head out” 😂 In complete honesty I was this close to doing that and I should have!! I confronted him, asked if he normally was so silent on first dates? He had some b.s. answer saying no, but he usually doesn’t ask women on dates quickly (it was like a two day turn around) 🙄 after that he started making a bit more of an effort to talk, but even then it was just about TV shows and movies… I stayed until the end,then he offere…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 04:32 AM
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I know many people can relate to having to walk on absolute eggshells as small children because “your dad’s sleeping” in the middle of the day and if we woke him up here comes the shouting and bellowing (at little kids… on the weekend…who have energy to expend…). But a woman lets her husband know (CoMmUniCAteS, I thought scrotes loved that?) that she is disappointed and annoyed at him being careless and waking her and their infant up before sunrise and it’s a federal case. I’m so sick of these d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 02:57 AM
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Agreed! And even if he offers a dinner date you need to vet his intentions/personality. I accepted a brunch date a couple weeks ago and I couldn’t help but feel he just wanted to have brunch at a specific restaurant near where I lived and hey, wouldn’t hurt having a pretty lady with him while he did it. He rarely asked me about myself and if he did it was relation to the city (“have you been here? Have you seen this?”). He asked no personal questions, even when I would ask him (“do you have sibl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 02:51 AM
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You are seriously doing a great service. We as women have been told our entire lives to just chalk up abuse, neglect, manipulation, and general mistreatment to the game. Dating as women is literally just sanctioned emotional (sometimes even physical and sexual) abuse and we’re just supposed to brush our shoulders off and jump back in for more. Thank you for reaching out to other women and letting them know it doesn’t have to be this way. I wish someone had told me earlier!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 03:21 PM
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Lmfao I love your entire post, but I just have to say it brought back a memory I thought had left me - it’s so relevant to what you’re saying I have to share! When I was on Hinge a few years ago I went on one date with a guy. He was ok, nothing to write home about and we had zero chemistry. So I didn’t reach out to him again. Tell me why a week - an entire 7 days - after our date he messages me saying “Hi Indigo, I just wanted to let you know I’m not interested in pursuing anything further” 😂🤣😂🤣…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 05:10 PM
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I love going to the movies by myself. There’s something about being in a dark, quiet space. Everybody’s focused on one thing and it isn’t each other. I can have popcorn and soda and not have to share 😝 It’s almost therapeutic. Like 90 minutes of being totally comfortable. Close second is going out to eat, especially breakfast and brunch. Touristy things are also fun for me to do alone and it’s great because when family and friends come to visit me I already know where to take them and where to a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 04:53 PM
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I don’t like it. You literally never contacted me before, now you’re in my city and you want to meet up like we’re friends?? Nah. It screams self-serving/wanting something. Like the mlm boss babes in your DMs from high school “hEy HuN!!” 😂 Glad you blocked him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 02:12 AM
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💯💯💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 04:56 PM
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My LVX was actually trained in psychology at a graduate level but refused to go to therapy. This is the same man who would often cancel plans because his mood swung so much from day to day and he was always in “a weird place”. A man who couldn’t function through a day without smoking at least 3-4 joints - even when he was working. A man whose eyes would bulge out of his head and his voice would raise at the slightest pushback. A man who (I believe) disassociated before my eyes stepping out in pu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 03:05 PM
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If a woman randomly bit their dick during oral would they suggest their fellow bros “talk it out” with her?? Exactly. They are so full of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 02:46 PM
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Honestly the amount of traveling, learning, shopping, eating, dancing, exploring and just general fun and badassery my older female relatives partake in is enviable!! I always joke I can’t wait to be retired haha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 12:48 AM
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Part of the fun is feeling like they’re tricking or degrading “decent” women. Pathological shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 03:20 AM
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This is so gross and disappointing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 03:17 AM
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Not to generalize, but when I was on OLD I didn’t even like their profiles. They read like “I’m a hot mess but I have a English accent so match with me”. Like that was their only personality trait lmfao. No thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 08:45 PM
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Oh no worries, I love the list! I honestly will probably save it to my notes app haha! Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 01:33 AM
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I would add communicates with you and responds to your communications on a consistent and regular basis. It’s sad but a lot of women seem glad if they hear back from a guy a week from when they last spoke. That’s unacceptable. Not a man in this world is so busy unless he is in a position that requires him to be off the grid for weeks at a time (which is probably 0.8% of the population).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 12:15 AM
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That's exactly what it is. And that a lot of these women are desperate to leave their circumstances (understandably so) and if that means pretending to swoon over a boorish misogynist who can take them to some place they believe is at least slightly better than their current circumstances, why not do it. It may be better than the alternative. I understand that thought process 100%. But the fact that men know this but still take advantage of it in the most disgusting way... smh. Instead of acts o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 01:13 PM
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I often wonder about this, not even with just Asian women but these guys who “fall in love” with women they can’t even communicate with and there is a huge power imbalance (i.e. women from developing countries who met an American soldier during or after wars). It’s so sick and predatory to me but a lot of people find it acceptable. “You don’t need to speak to know you’re in love”…. Huh!? eta: Lmfao oh Jesus as expected I get an 8 part message from a scrote saying love is a feeling and goes beyon…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 12:06 PM
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Yeahhh, great actress but she gives me strong Pick-Me vibes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 12:00 PM
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This is true! I went on a first date yesterday (first date post-discovering FDS) and when the check came I didn’t even flinch for my bag. I continued talking and he looked at the bill quickly, put his credit card down and made zero percent of a deal out of it. It was really refreshing after dealing with annoying scrotes who would huff and puff and act awkward when the check came.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 09:42 PM
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REEEE!!!! BiOLoGy!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 09:36 PM
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My whole life I have noticed that I attract mostly creeps. Men who have a preference for petite women are disgusting. So as someone sort of on average-to-tall side (5’8) and an athletic build, I agree with you. I can sense that men who are skinny/petite chasers are legitimately scared of me and it’s so unattractive, creepy, and gross. It’s almost like they go out of their way to show how terrified/repulsed they are by me and it’s so sad that it’s funny. It is so attractive to me when a man sees …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 09:33 PM
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So I've actually never had an ex come back (or I mean in complete honesty if they did I wouldn't know because chances are I blocked them lmfaoooo, but lets just say if they did- they never made an attempt beyond texting/calling) but this is one piece of advice I fully intended on following and not having to learn the hard way. I have heard it so many times from so many different kinds of women, it has to be true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 03:42 AM
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Damn. Cold but so true!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 03:25 AM
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Living in a big city I literally have an automatic scowl on my face when I see a man look in my direction. Am I "scaring off" potential HVM? Maybe, but I don't give af. If they're high value, they'll understand. Today I literally had a scrote stare at me, grinning, like I was a zoo animal when all I was trying to do was eat outside in peace. I'm sure the only reason he didn't approach was because I was steadfastly ignoring his existence. I hate that they feel so comfortable behaving this way. Th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 03:12 AM
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When I was a young, young woman I started to realize all of the dating advice videos and ads on the internet were tailored to what women were doing wrong. It was always “stop doing this if you want him to stay” or “never say these words if you don’t want to scare him off”. Never once was it telling men how to overcome their aversion to commitment or cut down their insufferable egos. I think because men realize there really will always be a pick-me who will put up with their worst traits, so why …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 07:28 PM
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Yeah what the fuck is with that? They offer their opinion/preference when you never once ask. I responded once with “and I prefer men who can grow a beard 🤷🏾‍♀️ “. Ofc butthurtedness ensued.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 07:21 PM
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“You’re ugly anyways” lmfaooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 01:16 AM
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Yeeps sounds like my narc dad!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 01:16 AM
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Lmao I love your response!!!! I definitely have to use that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 01:11 AM
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As others have said they a.) see themselves as attractive enough to “rank” another human being when there’s a 98% chance they are not and b.) don’t think it matters if they personally are not attractive, women are there to be pretty and if they aren’t they deserve to be ridiculed and if they are they deserve to be celebrated. I used to really like that subreddit but it’s been overrun by a bunch of horny incel scrotes non-stop with this behavior. I think the mods need to crack down over there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 01:10 AM
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Ewww!! 😷
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 12:59 PM
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Yes! This is a common one to look out for! My first serious bf said this and when he realized I was going to stay he began negging me and triangulating me with his ex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 12:56 PM
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Ugh. This goes for the guys who brag about being “sarcastic” too. That is not a positive/endearing quality. Idk who told them it was!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 12:52 PM
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Embarrassing and pathetic is right. And watch the moment he “got” Genny he would find some 18 year old a year later and “fall in love” with her. This is a tactic men use to avoid being good partners/having to be fully present. “I’m still in love with her, and I can’t help my FEeLiNGsss!!!!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 07:08 PM
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Trust, Anna will be looking back at this with a deep sigh of relief when these two chuckleheads are back in the news in the not so distant future fighting over custody and spilling each other’s tea and secrets. To have a life of peace is the prize. She is the winner!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 06:57 PM
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Um fuck all this noise about the music ….That age gap is fully illegal boo!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 04:06 AM
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The specificity of it being Alfredo took me out 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 03:58 AM
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That is the ultimate gag of the whole think. Everything is for other men!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 01:37 AM
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Lmfao yes sis 👏🏾 I love doing this to them! “So you thought jumping into dating is a smart idea?” They don’t know what to say. Why aren’t we coddling them? Why aren’t we “aww poor baby”-ing them? Haha! fuck that! When I was very young I used to try to act understanding but even before FDS, I got fed up with me breaking up with these guys and them ending up with their exes a week later. I started telling guys if you have an ex you aren’t over or still in communication with, this isn’t going to wo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 08:45 PM
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lmao I know this is not necessarily supposed to be humorous but I literally guffawed 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 08:25 PM
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I always say this!!! If I was a man I would think I was an amazing catch. Beautiful, smart, funny, hardworking, supportive. But most of these men don’t even love themselves, so how could they love me?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 07:56 PM
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“Let’s see where it goes” is an instant block and delete!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 04:38 AM
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💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 04:25 AM
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I was literally about to comment the same thing! My narc LVX would drop fat sweat beads right in my eyeballs and on my mouth when he was on top of me it was so gross and off putting. He wouldn’t even bother to wipe my face for me, just pushed his hair back and kept going! Then hand me a towel as soon as he was done 🤢. Never a-fucking-gain!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 04:16 AM
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This is a whole word!!! This is why FWB/NSA to relationship pipeline is doomed. Low effort for maximum reward drilled into their heads.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 04:07 PM
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Lmao! My first boyfriend! I was like nah dawg, I’m just not happy 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 03:20 PM
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First of all let me say sorry, as I know how jarring that can be. He is a typical dismissive avoidant (attachment theory). Sounds almost exactly like my LVX, particularly the “changing the narrative so that he’s never in the wrong” part. Ultimately you dodged a bullet. They don’t make good partners and they rarely change. They leave pregnant women, sick women, wives of 20+ years- all at the flip of a switch. They rarely feel remorse because, as you say, they always find a way to make it the wome…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 02:15 PM
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Some of the more obvious ones have already been mentioned. But I'll add a few more. It's going to be a no from me if they: +Show an unhealthy fascination with my hair. This one guy kept talking about how much he looooooved afro hair. Ok, would you go on and on to a white woman about how much you love straight hair? It's creepy, stop it. +Ask or assume I am afro-latina, biracial, etc and then seem disappointed when I say I'm not. I guess Black-American is not exotic enough haha. Also if I get vib…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 12:16 AM
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Lmao I noticed this when I was in high school and it doesn't change the older I get. The look they always shoot their lov- sorry -bro when they say something they hope is funny or edgy and want their approval. Texting their lover- omg my bad- bros play by plays of how they manipulated or fucked over an unsuspecting woman and wanting their validation so badly. Even the women they choose to date/sleep with need to be pre-approved by their lovers- jeeze, whats wrong with me! - their broooosss.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 11:40 PM
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My dad will get really pouty and awkward lmao. Especially when its a stranger or someone relatively new to our social circle that hasn't kowtowed to him. He especially uses the pouty/silent treatment tactic when we're in public. Or he'll claim they're "full of shit" (never quite understood exactly what that meant in those contexts, but basically just a catch-all term for someone who doesnt fall in line).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 11:26 PM
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Congrats, I imagine that is a huge weight off of your shoulders. Best wishes for the future! 🍾
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 11:11 PM
6

My dad would do this to my mom growing up. It used to annoy me so badly. He would make judgemental comments like "people with small minds talk about people" or whatever that fucking quote is, when we just wanted to watch RHOA. He would use it as an opportunity to brag about how much more erudite and enlightened he is than everyon else on earth (he's a narc, ofc).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 11:10 PM
5

That's a disgusting way to react to any boundary, to make it about himself. I wear a bunch of different types of protective styles (wigs, weaves, crochet braids, etc.), and when I was doing NSA/FWB clown-girl tings in my younger years, I would tell men "just dont touch my hair and my head" because I didn't want them to fuck it up. They may have thought I was joking or that it was sort of funny or goofy but they respected it and it never stopped them from wanting to fuck me (they were still LV/NV…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 11:03 PM
9

Yep that’s typically how it goes down. They don’t stop and think “wow how lucky am I that I got this amazing/beautiful woman” but it becomes “well so obviously I’m the shit if she’s interested me, and there’s more where she came from… or maybe even better!” It’s so sad and delusional. They spend the rest of their decent years chasing after that “better” and end up alone and miserable or with a woman they resent and miserable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 06:20 PM
5

Big city unfortunately lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 03:41 AM
17

I only agree with the “think less about what he feels about me and more about what I feel about him” part. In my pick me days my exes would be obnoxious and totally bogart conversations, not respond to certain messages, steer conversation back to themselves, etc… but if he text me it meant he CaREs, right? Yeah no, not really. I should have been asking myself, do I like the way he talks to me and holds conversations? But my 🤡 ass was just happy to be getting texts. No longer with that mindset! E…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 02:21 AM
4

Yeah she’s doin way too much
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 02:06 AM
26

Lmaoo love it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 09:55 PM
117

This makes me so angry. We’re not humans, just sex objects to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 09:53 PM
61

I’m an eye for an eye type person in these scenarios too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 03:47 PM
29

Telling on themselvessss!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 11:50 PM
59

Omg this wasn’t satire!? 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 08:47 PM
9

Lmao oh shit, we got a real Moriarty over here folks 🤣🤡 be careful ladies hahaha!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 10:14 AM
16

Yes!! I realized recently before joining FDS that my thirst would increase when I felt like I couldn’t pursue my dreams. Finding a man became like a proxy for following my dreams. And when I got one of course they were LV and didn’t live up to my expectations. Now I am following my dreams no matter what. And when I start to do that I honestly stop thinking about men altogether.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 02:30 AM
98

Just… no. To me, IG model addiction is on par with porn, drug, alcohol, gambling and any other addiction. It’s a dealbreaker. As soon as you see that on his following list and his feed, it’s time to dip out. It doesn’t get better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 02:00 AM
75

Sending unsolicited dick pics is digital flashing and what do we call that: sexual assault. I sincerely think it should be illegal and taken just as seriously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 01:44 AM
96

Omg that reminds me of a video I saw on YouTube, this pick-me girl pushed her friend off of a LITERAL BRIDGE because the boys there said it would be funny. The victim was able to make a full recovery but honestly it was not looking good. Punctured lung, multiple broken bones, etc. Thank god the victim pressed charges and the PickMe only got like a year or probation, but still it sets an example.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 02:31 PM
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Yo I have always said this and people look at me like I’m crazy. Not a chance in hell I’m roping myself in with a LV scrote for 18+ years. NOPE. If I decide to keep the child it’s silencio from my end. I’d rather go it alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 05:16 AM
153

Not first a first date. Second/third date and beyond maybe. I agree with others it’s too many moving parts when you’re trying to get a read on someone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 12:37 AM
127

Oooh so he’s 210% a piece of garbage, gotcha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 12:16 AM
353

This p.o.s. should be ashamed of himself. And I just saw he works with children on the spectrum. He shouldn’t be allowed anywhere near them. Anyone who uses a tragedy to further their own hateful agenda is a piece of trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 11:45 PM
39

That’s the funniest part to me lmfaooo they really think they’re doing something 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 08:09 PM
68

The funny thing is I have seen men be so so generous with their male buddies. But then again they see their male buddies as actual humans, silly me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 05:29 PM
7

This is soooo accurate. My most recent LVX, every time I raised a slight concern it was “well maybe we just aren’t meant to be together”. Like damn dude talk about 0 to 100. The topic of his parents acrimonious divorce was a mainstay in our conversations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 03:39 PM
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Lmfaooo. In T minus 12 months nobody will want your defective sperm, sir. They talk about women and the wall but there are copious studies that show it is the males age at conception that has harmful effects on embryos/infants, not the mother’s. But of course male ego trumps science.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 06:23 PM
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My stomach is churning. Leave these girls alone, short eyes! Spoken as a once preteen (yep 12 is when it started) and teen girl who was ogled by her friends’ dads and male family friends we absolutely know and can sense that you all are perverts and you do a shit job at hiding it. I didn’t even want to go to pool parties after a certain point, my mother can vouch. Thanks for taking much of the fun out of my childhood, you creepy fucks. And I like how they are always like “WeLp HuMaN nAtURe! 🤷🏻‍♂…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 06:11 PM
45

What don’t these numbnuts get about this… If you have to put “technically” before consensual, it’s not consensual. I’m so grossed out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 06:29 AM
128

“iF a GiRL aPpROaCHeD mE FiRsT I’d bE So TUrNeD oN” 😂🤣😂 🤡🤡🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 05:59 PM
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I was gonna comment sounds like he’s cheating as soon as I finished reading. You’re absolutely right, men don’t bring up stuff like that unless they’re cheating or about to start.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 02:48 PM
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Honestly I think as a knee jerk reaction I would ask the guy “um are you not going to walk me to my car??” But I absolutely should not have to! And if I do there’s not going to be a second date. My lady friends and I walk each other home, wait with each other for Ubers, text each other to make sure we both got home safe, etc. And these scrotes can’t even be assed to do it for a woman they want to potentially have sex with?? There is no logic, and it’s evidence of just the sheer entitlement they …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 01:02 PM
80

I have a friend who always wants “closure for herself” and has been closing for 3+ years with the same scrote 🥲
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 01:53 AM
129

Damn no lies detected at all. So many men love playing “savior”. When I was in high school (much younger and dumber) I used to get sort of envious of those girls who were constantly crying and sympathy-baiting in school and on social media because it seemed like boys flocked to them. Now that I’m older and wiser, I see why. And I’m glad I was spared that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 01:45 AM
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Yup. I had to dump a male acquaintance who was “leftist” but also a raging misogynist who patronized and spoke down on every woman in his circle. Also one of those “sex work is empowering” clowns 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 11:09 PM
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Wow the accuracy, even down to the timeline lmao! I love when men spill their brethren’s tea like this 🤣 I’m sure there’s some angry scrote fuming about him not following bro code.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 02:12 AM
16

Omg, that is so depressing 😫 In fact my LVX had a child too. Not even a family depending on them brings out the provider instinct.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 02:32 PM
29

Sounds like my 42 LVX who was in “no rush” to get into a PhD program or get licensed so he could actually practice psychology. Instead he preferred to string together random minimum wage jobs and an adjunct role at a shitty for-profit college that paid less than some manager positions at a fast food joint and had zero benefits. No insurance. No savings. There would be days/weekends where he had $0 in his bank account. It was really pathetic and embarrassing. It was after him that I swore off str…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 01:37 PM
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This is so true. I’ve had guys (usually acquaintances from social groups) act like stalker PI’s following me around bars and staring at me from corners but never ask for my numbers or ask me out. If they get drunk enough at some point they’ll admit “oH i ThOuGhT u DiDN’t LiKe Me” I don’t now! There’s nothing less attractive than a coward.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 01:20 PM
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I just know there’s a “Live, Laugh, Love” print on the wall right outside of frame. Anyways, nah. You don’t need to justify everything your partner does. You can choose to stay with them ( 🤡) but doesn’t mean you have to make excuses lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 11:19 PM
24

I can tell they smell bad just reading their comments 😷
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 01:45 PM
21

But the use of the obvious filter is killing me. I’m sure he would have an issue if a woman used one for her video tho!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 07:15 PM
21

Thank you for this! I have been having to remind myself of this recently. Boundaries and letting go I have found to be a huge part of it. When you approach with a scarcity mindset, you allow your boundaries to be bent until they break, because you are trying everything to keep someone around. And that is when your heart gets broken. And learning to let go, understanding your world is not going to end this person is no longer in your life, you aren’t missing out on some glorious alternate timelin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 06:06 PM
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I won’t go into too much detail but I was one of those very young women. One time I went to a “party” with him and there was a girl there younger than me (mind you I was probably 21/22), about 5’0 even, very juvenile appearance (youthful face,ponytail, plaid “schoolgirl” skirt, etc.) The guy I was with kept gawking at her and I poked him like “what are you looking at” and he (44M) said some shit about how cute and sexy she was and I retorted “oh I didn’t know you liked barely legals” and he dead…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 05:53 PM
5

As it should be!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 02:47 PM
20

I get where you’re coming from. But honestly as I get older I realize being single is so much better than the type of relationship you may get into if you pursue a guy like this. It’s true what they say, the type of loneliness you feel while you’re actually IN a relationship is worse than any kind of loneliness you feel when you’re alone. At least in my case.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 02:32 AM
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Every “moderate” white boy I’ve ever met.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 03:28 PM
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💯!! Men are like “we say what we mean, we’re straight forward, we aren’t complicated” and then you ask them where you stand in a relationship and it’s “…um so like I think I know that I really like you but I sort of don’t know if I want to commit but I do know I don’t really want to date anyone else” lmfao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 03:27 PM
11

Honestly my philosophy is do what you want as long as it’s not for a man. Or a woman. Or anyone else for that matter. As long as it’s for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 03:15 PM
16

Ha!! These scrotes are such weirdos. My first bf said something so similar but switch “freckles” with “a little tummy fat” 🤦🏾‍♀️ No other man since has ever complained about “tummy fat”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 01:44 PM
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Hiking dates always sounded terrifying to me. From an introvert perspective like I’m literally a captive audience. When I want to be done with the date - what? I run all the way back to the parking lot? I feel like creepy guys, not even murderous creepy, would use that as an opportunity to make women uncomfortable or push boundaries because they know the woman is stuck with them until the end of the trail. No thanks. I reserve hiking for my family and really good friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 01:39 PM
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Yes! This is one of the earliest dating lessons I learned! And even if he does reach out like an hour before, you do not accept! You have other plans (even if you don’t) and are surprised to hear from them because you thought for sure it was off (even if you didn’t). And then block. Men make dating seem like some Herculean task that’s just soooo difficult and complicated to navigate but they can figure out three bus transfers and a ticketing system to attend comic-con or a sports game. NO MORE E…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 05:58 PM
13

😬😬😬 I audibly gasped reading the poem
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 05:48 PM
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Men have also always been more interested in my looks than getting to know me as a person This has been my experience as well. Men just want to have sex with me and try their luck or purposely avoid me because I’m “hot” so I must be a stuck- up, gold digging bitch with no personality, right? It’s really too much to ask to be treated like a human being.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 05:46 PM
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I agree with @AyemHerself up thread. It sounds like the young lady romanticized the man and the entire situation. Most people who are more mature/on the secure attachment side realize this person is still a stranger, you don’t know them and hence should have no strong emotional attachment. The person posting sounds like she hadn’t reached that stage yet. She probably thought they had a ✨connection✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 08:45 PM
32

Wowwww. A disgusting rat 🐀 who raising these scrotes!?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 04:24 PM
237

I’m like clench-fisted Arthur right now. I wish I could smack the mess out of this dude and anyone saying he’s in the right. The coffee and tea thing was enough to piss me off. Literally telling your partner you see them as less than you. And then to be ok watching your disabled gf in discomfort sitting and eating on the floor like a barnyard animal. Let’s just call it what it is, abuse. I hope she finds a way to leave this situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 12:26 PM
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I broke up with my first serious bf this way and looking back I am so proud of my young self. I am thankful I started it early because I have been extricating myself from bad relationships early on ever since!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 07:49 PM
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Lmao I’m dying 😂 I didn’t realize this was a thing, most of my exes used dark colored sheets… realizing now maybe that’s for a reason?! Sounds like something from a young adult fantasy novel - like the mark of a vampire 🧛
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 04:17 PM
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I totally agree with you OP, men who really want to speak to me find a way to do so. Even if it’s something as silly as asking where the bathroom is or if someone is sitting next to me (a clearly empty seat). I also have to say I hate feeling like a fucking cow in a meat market with these guys obviously staring at me but never speaking. Sometimes they even do it in groups 🤢. It is really gross and dehumanizing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 04:07 PM
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Amen! 👏🏾👏🏾 I refuse to apologize for asking for my basic emotional needs to be met and I also refuse to keep entertaining men who can’t meet them!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 05:20 AM
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My LVX was a baby daddy and he said the same thing. “I’m not ever gonna rush into marriage” oh but you rushed into having unprotected sex and knocking a woman up. Gtfoh! A child is (God willing) a lifetime commitment. A marriage can be ended.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 12:04 AM
21

Come thru!!! 👏🏾
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 10:46 PM
61

The fact that seemingly “full package” men now aspire to be hobosexual dirty dick bums… like isn’t that the life an adult would want to grow out of? This is all so bizarre to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 10:37 PM
39

💯💯💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 10:34 PM
39

I made the decision last night to remove myself from a similar social group set up. A scrote who I thought was a nice person decided to start triangulating me with a woman who threw herself on him the instant she met him (nvm I knew him/he knew me for almost a year before she did). She did this after my other male acquaintance shut her down romantically. Not trying to trash just her but I see the behavior you’re talking about and I want no parts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 04:50 PM
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And while it’s a disgusting way to treat your wife at any point, what makes it even more egregious is that she is carrying your child!!! I literally weep for this generation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 04:36 PM
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A few things crossed my mind: To have been dating for 18 years, I figured he must have started dating her when she was very young. I was correct her coach started dating her when she was 18 🚩 Things happen but I’ve always found coach/athlete relationships to be shady. Particularly when they have been working with the athlete from such a young age. Seems like prime grooming opportunity 🚩 The whole thing seems gross. As others have said from the hand written note on scratch paper to distracting wo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 12:51 PM
30

My favorite “I’d rather spend a nice night at home with pizza and a movie than go out to the club or bars”. Um who says those are the only two options? Screams cheap and lazy 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 02:35 AM
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Absolutely fuck him forever, we don’t play that shit. He will reach out to you like nothing happened, do yourself a favor and block him so you never have to waste another minute on him and he can stew in how much of a fuck up he is when you never respond. I detest “men” like this. I don’t want to beat a dead horse but were there any 🚩 before this incident? Even if it just seemed really small but annoyed you or rubbed you the wrong way anyways? Being able to spot those and shut a dude down early …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 10:37 PM
9

Lmao in the words of an immortal poet, he is really really ridiculously good looking
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 04:39 PM
19

Damn sis you need to do a dissertation on this! So accurate and tragically fascinating!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 04:34 PM
19

That’s what my dad did. Or let the house turn into a pig sty smh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 04:31 PM
23

Yesss! Literally the only time men list their height/weight like that is when they’re trying to impress someone!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 04:27 PM
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⁠He seems to only be engaging with other men in the comments. Why do men think talking amongst themselves about a problem they cause and don't experience is the way to move forward? It goes back to point #1. Vibes of "White Man's Burden." This is so astute! I have noticed this in so many Reddit, YouTube, FB/Twitter comment sections. It really tells you whose opinion someone values and it’s not always the group they are trying to virtue signal to 😏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 04:24 PM
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Hmmm ‘tis sus. Seems like a virtue signaling fishing expedition. He’s probably expecting his DMs to be flooding lmao. *lmaooooo I’m just realizing how he ~casually~ mentioned his height/size and that he exercises regularly. Sir please have several seats 💺 😂!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 04:21 PM
18

Hey! Stop describing my ex bf! 🤣😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 11:31 PM
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No worries! Let’s just say I usually prefer a spin in a top speed Ferrari vs. a leisurely Sunday drive in an Escalade lmao. I don’t like hitting, biting, weapons, degradation or anything like that. I just don’t always want to have the Harlequin romance novel style, slow and sensual thing. I hope that makes sense I didn’t want to be too graphic lmaooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 01:51 AM
39

Excellent point. We know why!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 08:29 PM
48

Yes!!! This is my brother!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 01:50 PM
124

Omg sounds like my brother who makes NO tangible steps towards getting custody of his daughter but yet has weekly meltdowns about his baby mother “keeping his daughter away” from him 🙄🙄🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 01:49 PM
52

God I have noticed this too, it is infuriating. Or worse when the woman adds a comment or a thought and he has that blank look, blinks a couple of times and goes “yeah anyway” or just keeps blabbering on like she didn’t say anything. I have seen that play out so many times I wish I could smack the next scrote I see doing that shit. So disrespectful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 01:47 PM
28

Sexist due to “inexperience”??? The excuses men are constantly given, I swear. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 01:38 PM
42

I - Let me start by saying that I am sort of an outlier on FDS as I am not opposed to a little kinky sex but there is nothing romantic at all about a man grabbing my hair and pile driving my face, are you kidding me!! I detest hair pulling and grabbing anyways, I think it is extremely animalistic/barbaric.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 01:36 PM
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Lol I like Grimes but she is… odd. She has consistently said Elon is cheap and doesn’t help her out, this is when they first started dating and when she got pregnant too. It seems like the arrangement is she can live with him and go wherever he goes (vacations, events, etc) but everything else is on her (which is sort of creepy imho, a little controlling).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 01:15 PM
9

Accurate! And I actually like ancient aliens Lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 02:53 PM
8

My LVX to a T. Extremely self-absorbed but “spiritual” and a “nice guy” 🙄 He would do the same thing about making statements or doing things and not even considering my feedback. Once it was about what “women don’t like” (giving them flowers and being romantic - strong incel vibes now that I think of it) and I said to him once “you’ve said this multiple times but you’ve never stopped to turn to me, your girlfriend and a woman, and ask if I would like it?” He would always brag about how he was li…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 02:43 PM
5

Lmaooo same sis!!! 🤛🏾
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 03:31 AM
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Wow you read a few of my LVXs’ life stories here. I realized if a person hasn’t attempted therapy or counseling to work through their childhood traumas and wounds, I can’t be with them. I don’t begrudge anyone the situation they were born into but I refuse to date men from toxic or broken families who have not made any steps to heal themselves with the help of an objective third party.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 03:27 AM
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Where did this “men become more desirable” shit come from? I literally only started hearing this this year. Peterson or Rogan came up with this or something? When I was growing up, the prevalent idea was that men got fat, bald, and hairy in all the wrong places as they aged 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 04:40 PM
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Yeah, I think we should be very careful what/how much information you give to men you don’t know. He didn’t need to know that info. But totally agree, him telling his friend really showed how immature and childish he is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 04:37 PM
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To them a woman having preferences and standards that they do not fit is akin to a full scale assault. That’s how we end up “evil” and “shallow whores” in their minds. They believe they are born deserving of any woman they want and rejecting them is a karmic injustice. So sick and twisted and these raging porn addictions dont help (if you’ve ever had the misfortune of seeing the hideous scrotes these adult film actresses have to “perform” with 🤮, I see why these men feel so entitled).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 07:02 AM
82

You are absolutely correct, I didn’t even think about it until you said it but it’s so true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 06:50 AM
52

I saw my narc dad do this to my codependent mom all the time growing up. Though sometimes the mask did slip. It was highly confusing as a child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 06:44 AM
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Wow I have had this experience a few times as well. My last LVX stayed for years with “narcissistic, lying and cheating, crazy” women but couldn’t stick it out 3 months (of official dating, had known each other much longer) with me. He got back on the apps quickly afterwards and I’m sure instead of doing some soul-searching he is looking for “the one” (yeah, the one who doesn’t make him practice introspection). I also notice in guys’ like these stories I become a non-entity. If I run into a girl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 05:14 PM
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hvm would give a woman head up they will be “cooking” or working Thank youuu!!! This is one of my vetting strategies too. If a guy disappears for a significant amount of time and I have to ask what happened or where he went, it’s a no go. It really costs you nothing to let someone know you will be out of communication for the next few hours or the rest of the day and why. Especially if you have been communicating consistently up until that point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 04:52 PM
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Gross. He sounds like a porn addict and I’m wondering if she knows that, but conveniently left that out. She needs to say something. And if he has a problem with it, he isn’t the one. If this continues on, he’ll be cheating on her, physically/emotionally or both, soon enough. I used to think this behavior was normal too and I was “insecure” for being uncomfortable about men I was seeing going on and on about how hot and attractive they found other women (I never dealt with a starer, thank god). …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 04:35 PM
4

I recently started working in a public facing profession and my god the number of married men who linger at the desk smiling stupidly and trying to make small talk/flirt with me while their wife and kids are already halfway out the door is pathetic. I honestly don’t see it as a compliment or a validation of my attractiveness - but rather just an extension of most men thinking women are there just for them. Particularly when we are trying to work our jobs (server, flight attendant, receptionist, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 04:28 PM
10

Ewww my LVX would do the announcing he had no money and not getting anything thing. Thankfully just when it was the two of us out and about. Still, I think that’s so self-emasculating (is that a thing? Lmao) and gross. At that point, don’t go out 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 12:05 AM
5

The absolute WORST!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 12:00 AM
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I agree. It is sooo common and I think it’s a denial/defense mechanism we tell ourselves as a society that pedos are the “rare” weirdos. Not at all. Ask yourself how probably 7/10 women in a room have been s*xually harassed or assaulted before age 18 if it was not common? I made that figure up but I wouldn’t be surprised if it was close to the truth. That’s why vetting is so important. See the type of women the guy mentions he finds attractive, see how he reacts to you having natural body hair, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 11:54 PM
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That’s disgusting I wouldn’t treat a friend/acquaintance that way, hell I wouldn’t even treat a stranger that way, much less someone I’m trying to date. These scrotes hate women but get pussy starved just enough to do the bare minimum to try to achieve it. And even then they bungle it by being assholes. Honestly I haven’t said this in awhile but I’m happy to be single and not dating!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 04:30 PM
2

Ick! I hate when men list out their life circumstances like they’re at a therapy appointment or interview. It’s called having a conversation my dude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 06:27 PM
10

Nothing more attractive than watching a man disrespect and dismiss my mother for an hour. These scrotes are literally brainless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 02:20 PM
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I really think in some of these guys minds if you have the “audacity” to be single and/or a woman living alone, you’re just craving male presence and attention. I dread having to let men into my apartment
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 02:15 PM
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I agree with this! I was raised wanting for nothing pretty much and I am super appreciative. But at the same time, I wish my parents had taught me emotional generosity and what that feels and looks like as well. I know about nice material things, but I haven’t known what unconditional love or emotional availability look like until recently - having to teach myself. I believe that’s why so many of my relationships were toxic and doomed from the start! Sorry didn’t want to dampen the mood just a d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 02:06 PM
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This shows you how men’s minds work. As an almost 30 year old man what do you have in common with a teenager? Right. It’s not the girl it’s the position of power. When I was in my very early 20s, my LVX (50) went after another young girl shortly after me. So she was “special, mature, different than the others” too I guess? Pfft. eta: the amount of butthurt men in my replies is a whole kiiii 😂 and they’re getting blockt with the quickness too. Thanks mods! I said wtf I said!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 02:01 PM
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I have had R.B.F. since I was a kid and people will always tell me “oh wow, I thought you would be mean, but you’re so nice”. Lmao. My whole family has it, so I never really thought about it. I actually went to a bar last night to see some acquaintances play and brought a book to read (sort of more like a jam session so I wasn’t being too rude lmao). I noticed the bartender was chatting and making small talk with everyone but me but it wasn’t until I closed out that he started chatting. I could …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 01:55 PM
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Omg I do the same thing with edgelords and ask them to explain to me what makes the n-word funny. Typically first response is “it’s just a word”. I’m like I understand that but what makes said word so funny/humorous? They can never explain. They just enjoy being hateful and inflammatory but if they said that, they’d hear just how stupid and slow they sound.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 01:37 PM
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Lmaoo damn I thought I was the only one! It’s like they get some weird jollies off of being like “yah this chick was into me”, sometimes they show off to their friends (I’ve seen guys do it with other women). So childish and gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 11:37 PM
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Ugghhh fuck that clown!!! 🤡🖕I hope you are doing well and in a happy and healthy place!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 03:50 PM
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My first serious bf was the exact same. Extremely thin he actually would comment on it at times, how it made him self-conscious. But then he would make little comments about my dress size, liking how I looked “with clothes on”, my tummy, my butt not being big enough, etc. I have always been tall and thicc (and I vacillated between average weight and overweight in the past), but at that time I was nowhere near fat. Looking back it was really disgusting, but I think he got away with it because he …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 03:04 PM
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I remember when I first heard men hated Skylar. I was shocked! I absolutely loved her and found her to be a realistic portrayal of a woman taken to the edge by her reckless and selfish husband!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 02:52 PM
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Absolutely disgusting. Instead of, idk, going to therapy and seeing why you have these urges and finding ways to work through them you actively seek out victims of fucking adult and childhood sexual assault and INCEST!? Are you kidding me!? He gets off on imagining his partner being violated as a child by their family…. That is serial killer/r*pist shit right there. I would venture to say neither women nor children are safe around him. She needs to make an escape plan immediately. Imagine (god f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 02:44 PM
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In complete honesty I’m not even that successful (yet) but I’ve been thinking the same thing. There’s a lot to lose! It’s a bit confusing tho, because I know marriage is an indicator of commitment to a lot of HVM but I get nervous of being duped. I guess that’s why vetting is so important.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 02:35 PM
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“I can’t promise you those feelings will materialize” Omfgggg 🙄 typical avoidant/narc male psycho-babble bullshit. You absolutely dodged a bullet, my good sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 02:01 PM
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Damn…. Smh. I almost feel bad for them because how tortured, pathetic, and sad a state of mind you have to be in to behave in such a way. But then I remember they are grown men more than able to take accountability they just choose not to 🤷🏾‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 02:23 PM
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Ooh good point! Definitely not fail proof.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 02:21 PM
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I think my LVX will end up doing this. And I just am in awe, you can choose to step up and be a better man or literally entrap yourself in a loveless marriage in order to avoid any accountability and growth. Like how sick of a mindset is that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 01:08 PM
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Again, you ladies at FDS are giving me hard facts and validation on things I have always had an inkling to be true based on my own experience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 01:06 PM
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Wow. What a hideous person one has to be to violate someone then try to make it about themselves. And to refer to it as “disrespect” as if he just called you a few bad names, when he fucking assaulted you. I am so sorry. Please throw him in the trash where he belongs!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 12:46 PM
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Oh I wonder how the dog responds to him?? That is often a good indicator as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 12:17 PM
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Amazing!! 👏🏾 To have the presence of mind to do that, honestly I applaud you! I bet he never did that again or if he did he thought thrice!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 05:28 PM
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My ex did this all the time lmfao 🤣 he would get so quiet and awkward if I called a man attractive, but he could tell me every woman he found “hot” right? Loool
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 05:27 PM
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Lmfaooooo 😂 the scrotedacity!!!! Send that gif of Nic Cage laughing and block.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 02:20 PM
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It’s true!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 03:22 PM
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I love this! Up until recently I always got stuck on the “why did they start pulling away” thing, even when I broke up with them. But after breaking it off with my LVX, I realize they will never tell you or they will lie I think because in most cases it is wounded ego. They can’t say “I felt ugly and unattractive because you didn’t let me hit on the first date” or “I felt like a scolded little boy because I don’t have the maturity to take constructive feedback”. It always has to be weird and amb…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 12:56 AM
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I love how they blatantly ignore society’s double standards. I remember in middle school a boy used to always call me ugly and I turned around one day and said “um but you’re ugly too” and the other kids were like “doesn’t matter, he’s a boy”. Literally said those words. I will never forget it as long as I live.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 12:46 AM
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I remember this happening when I was younger too. Like goddamn why is it so hard for them to mind their business. I agree with headphones or even being like “yeah I know I’ve been doing this for awhile”. They don’t like being put in their place and word may spread to leave you alone or that you’re “a bitch” (best thing you can be lol). Also you are well within your rights to complain to management about the trainer. Chances are if he’s doing it to you he’s doing it to other women and you could h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 12:43 AM
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“Unhappy zoo animals” lmfaoooo 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 02:12 PM
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Whew a whole wordddd!! 👏🏾 I have nothing to add, this is perfection OP!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 02:20 AM
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Omg the “I’m a spiritual person” types are the worst! I have endured more emotional and mental abuse from those types than any others.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 11:08 PM
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Lmfao my NVX claiming I was “hurting” him when I told him how disappointed I was in him always cancelling on me. It struck me as weird when he first said it but now with hindsight I see how ridiculous that really sounds!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 12:33 PM
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Thank you, sis! 🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 12:29 PM
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Wow felt like I was reading my own life story! I have zero regrets from pursuing therapy (even though my narc father tries to talk me out of it all of the time, go figure). I too have noticed the pattern of men in my life that are just like my father. Unable to take accountability, selfish and self-centered, gaslighting, manipulative assholes. You may not stop running into them, but you will spot them earlier and not give them any chances. Congratulations on law school and best wishes on your jo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 03:55 AM
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I watched a man run over a beautiful roadrunner bird and smile maniacally afterwards in my rear view mirror after I had swerved to avoid it. I will never shake that image. The desperation to be with someone that low vibrational and vile… humans can be so depraved.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 03:48 AM
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Not so much questions as making shady statements like “wow you have a lot of female friends”! And see how he responds. Sometimes they get super defensive and will start insinuating you’re jealous or clingy without you saying anything more than that. A favorite is “I can’t be with a woman who can’t accept I have female friends” 😂 I clearly said nothing about accepting it, was literally just a harmless observation. But they tell on themselves. I tend to do it in a light hearted way like I’m almost…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 03:30 AM
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Amen!! You don’t have to forgive. I don’t even tell people to do that anymore because a.) it’s not my place and b.) contrary to what people may say, forgiveness isn’t necessary. You can move on w/o it. I often say I don’t wish ill on my exes but I don’t care enough about them to wish them well. I don’t care what happens to most of them honestly. And I don’t feel bad about it 🤷🏾‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 03:17 AM
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You don’t owe anyone an explanation. Some of the same scrotes in your inbox have probably ghosted a girl cause they thought her pinky toe was a mm too long or she asked to go for sushi instead of burgers or some doofy shit. The double standards never cease to amaze me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 03:15 AM
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My cheap NVX hated his “bitch” of a baby mother but guess who I saw sharing his Hulu account when he would force me to go across town to his place to watch Disney+ shows 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 03:11 AM
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The fact that you can be so blatantly honest with yourself, even if it’s not the most flattering, is a great sign. That means you can hold yourself accountable and make changes because you see what needs to be changed. Be proud and enjoy the journey!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 03:04 AM
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The disrespect I have been seeing, reading and hearing about…. I would rather be alone!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 08:20 PM
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They think this shit is so cute. So gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 10:20 PM
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“Our baby shower” I cringed!!!! 😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 10:20 PM
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I peeped this. “Minority Mindset” is the name of the page. um sir speak for yourself!!! Certainly not my (black woman) mindset!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 10:16 PM
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Oh wow. Are you able to share link? I’ve always believed this in my heart of hearts but no man would ever admit it to me lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 03:19 AM
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Typical! Men like that are so disgusting to me. I was watching a guy do this in a bar last night. The one girl was just eating it all up and her friend was sitting awkwardly on her phone or staring up at the ceiling. This went on for at least 30 minutes… can you imagine? And you are expected to go along with it or else you’re JeALoUs or InSEcUre. Pffft. If I get the sense that a man is ignoring my friend or being rude to them I cut the conversation short. I am not that starved for male attention…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 01:56 AM
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Kaley Cuoco is notoriously bad at picking men. She has been dogged out and mistreated so many times! I’m not surprised this is coming from her!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 01:46 AM
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I agree! I normally schedule the date before another event but I also see your point about after! I will start incorporating that as well!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 01:43 AM
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AMEN!! It’s always something the woman did or didn’t do. Never ask the men why they aren’t “compatible” with a nice, responsible, beautiful, strong woman? What’s there not to be compatible with? Her standards?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 07:13 PM
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Ugh 😷 what a pathetic existence!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 07:11 PM
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So true!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 06:36 PM
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Omg she pays for the entire date!? I mean Dutch is bad but she’s paying the whole thing. I need any man I go out with to be embarrassed to even imagine something like that. And please for the love of all that’s holy stop flirting with strange dusties on the internet!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 06:10 PM
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Thank you! I loatheeeee the “better offer” language a lot of women use with each other. It’s not about better/worse it’s about easier. That’s what it boils down to. LVM want the easiest thing. It might not even be easiest to get sex from it could be easiest to talk to (someone who doesn’t require them to have adult level conversational skills) or easiest to impress (someone who thinks going on a walk and sharing a pack of white claws is a romantic first date). They don’t like inconvenience of an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 06:08 PM
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Fucking weirdos, man….
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 01:06 AM
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Yep I have experienced this. LVMs can be extremely resentful and jealous if you have more/do better than them. Why would he be mad life is easy for the woman he loves? He wants to see her struggle? Very sick mindset but one I am all too used to!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 09:42 PM
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I’m flummoxed… this sounds so entirely tedious and unpleasant I’m not seeing the “sweet” part of the bittersweetness they are all talking about. Adults who need “angst” to feel alive are stunted, but she basically admitted that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 06:42 PM
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they also act like they’re somehow doing me a favor by dating me. I have heard this a lot! And sadly as someone in my late 20s I’m noticing men in my age group up until their early 40s acting the same way. They could be with the most beautiful, kind, successful woman but they “know” (read: think) the one thing they have as a (low value) man, the one “power” is withholding partnership/a relationship. They get off on it. It is such a pathetic and miserable existence I imagine. And little do they k…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 04:09 AM
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Omg the scrotes in the comments 🤮 video is sadly accurate though. My LVX always talked about how he was never going to “rush” into having a wife and more kids and I’m like dude you’re almost half a century old I don’t think “rush” should be a part of your vocabulary. If I had told him he was closer to 60 than he was graduating high school he would probably shit himself 😂 They are so delusional.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 03:44 AM
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That’s gonna be a no from me dawg. When will women understand men are going to be trash 8/10 times whether you approach them or they approach you, so you might as well save yourself the energy and humiliation and let them approach you lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 03:27 AM
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Wait that’s not a thing!? I love when I look good lmao. Sometimes I’ll glam up and sit in my apartment and watch Netflix or take selfies and dance to 00s R&B 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 03:25 AM
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He can’t bring up a woman without commenting on her appearance. If every time he mentions a woman you anticipate him following it up with how “hot” or “cute” she is, he objectifies women and is gross. You may notice he rarely comments on your appearance but has all the comments for every other woman. I don’t care what anyone says there is no need to consistently comment on the looks of other people when you are with your partner. It’s not about insecurity, it’s about appropriateness. And often t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 03:19 AM
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Soooo true. I warn people of getting with men AND women who are so chummy with all of their “exes”. I can see if you are colleagues or co-parents but even then there are boundaries and they shouldn’t be in your life any more than they need to be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 03:15 AM
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My father does this to my mother. He is a narcissistic abuser. Been married 35 years she refuses to ever leave! I doubt she’s ever even thought about it. I just know my dad’s personality makes up my entire “Avoid/red flag” list.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 03:09 AM
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The narcissist manifesto!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 03:04 AM
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The Honeymoon/crush phase is natural and can be cute and fun. But I absolutely agree with you OP, I think it’s dangerous when daydreaming and future planning starts to happen. That was one of my major issues I just discovered about myself. Even though I have learned to be extremely reserved and take things slow, up until recently if I liked a guy I would be planning vacations in my head, imagining us goofing off in the car on road trips, holding hands walking down the street, etc. And all that e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 12:25 AM
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LVX literally walked away when it came time for me to pay for a smoothie on one of our first dates (couldn’t have been more than $7) but dropped at least $300-$500 a month on Marvel memorabilia/paraphernalia. When I confronted him, he claimed it was because he had no money in his bank account. Maybe because you’re spending hundreds of dollars on a fucking replica Captain America shield. I’m so embarrassed looking back!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 12:10 AM
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Yep my narc dad has used the “it’s your therapist fault you never complained about me before” line a lot. Nothing can ever be because they are assholes. It’s always someone else’s fault.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 12:24 PM
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You raise really excellent points. Men nowadays almost seem to be experience averse. Even when they go on vacation or a trip many of them just stay in their friends apartment and smoke weed and watch tv all day, perhaps drive out to pick up some hot dogs and fries from the popular local joint in the city. Getting them to a bar is stretching it. I was talking with an older male acquaintance and he noticed this as well, he said it seems like guys this generation don’t even like to leave their hous…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 12:19 PM
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I’m glad at least it sounds like she’s not budging even though people (men) are trying to bully her into paying for someone else’s house. I can’t believe these are the times we’re living in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 07:36 PM
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Damn me and my NVX to a tee…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 10:53 PM
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Thanks, Sis! 🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 09:14 PM
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Lmao exactly that part!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 09:13 PM
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Treat the men you’re interested in the same way you would guys you would see as strictly friends. I know that seems like an easier said than done thing but something that helped me was telling myself “I really don’t even know this guy enough to know if he’s worth me sweating over” if that makes sense? When you sort of minimize them and their importance you feel more comfortable. Basically don’t build a guy up in your head just because you may have a crush on him and things will feel a lot more n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 02:01 PM
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I have alwaysssss used the “eyes gauge”. My friends will show me a picture of a guy and I’ll be like “he looks fucking crazy dude” and they ask how I know and I’ll tell them it’s in the eyes. There’s always a quality to them that is off putting/unsettling. The guy from Dirty John, Armie Hammer, etc. One thing they can’t hide.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 12:30 AM
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I loved partner dancing back in the city where I went to undergrad! I met a lot of nice people and made a lot of new acquaintances and even friends. I never ended up dating anyone but met a couple of cool guys. I will say a lot of them are highly flirtatious and are there for female attention but the guys that get brought along by friends or in a friend group and aren’t “regulars” can be somewhat cool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 07:43 PM
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I am so tired of pretending I don’t want to be with someone who can provide for me. I know I am a good person in my heart of hearts and have never had an issue supporting myself without a man. I am not a user or a “gold digger” but I see what men spend money on and so to be shown/told I’m not worth it in various ways (but a fucking Captain America replica shield is - wish I was joking 🙃) is unacceptable. I don’t reach for my wallet or offer to pay on dates any more. I don’t make mention of place…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 10:52 PM
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Wow thank you for this! Going through a similar situation. A friend got us each other’s information and he text me a few nights ago I responded and- … nothing. I found myself saying “oh he’s just shy maybe I should reach out again” but figuratively smacked my hand and was like “No!” He is not stupid. He knows I wanted his information for a reason and he reached out to me for a reason. If he can’t nut up and ask me out at this point then it’s emblematic of a deeper issue on his end.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 10:43 PM
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Wow. I’m sorry you had to waste even a second of your time with this racist but thank God the trash took itself out in the end 🚮 🗑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 09:27 PM
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Because they know how low women’s standards are and if he could bag a woman like me, there must be a “better” women out there that will deal with his shit. Abso-fucking-lutely. I learned this too. Scrotes don’t see it from the perspective of “wow I got lucky with this one let me get my shit together and make it work” but “oh shit if I can get a girl this hot and cool, surely Olivia Munn and Lori Harvey are to follow” 😂 they are so ridiculous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 04:52 PM
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ITA. My mind felt so much freer when I realized who was a friend and who was an acquaintance at most and how to vet and decide. People will do things to show you they are friend material (just like a HVM will do things to show you they are partner material) and if they don’t, believe them the first time. There is a lot of fear in not having what society claims so heavily we should have: close family, friends, partners, children etc. but I find once you care less about appearing normal or living …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 02:53 PM
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If a guy approached me and ignored my friends or were rude to them on a night out I would tell him to get lost. If he didn’t offer to buy us all drinks I would tell him to get lost. I don’t find it flattering when a man is “nice” to me at the expense of women I care about. It’s sickening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 02:40 PM
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Fuckkkk them. I was “ugly” (I really wasn’t though, I just wasn’t white and skinny) as a teenager and I look 1,000x better than those ugly, balding dad-bod scrotes who would do the same thing to me at your age, now at nearly age 30 (I also looked better than them then too but that’s another story). If you look at them most of the ones talking trash are hideous anyways and I guarantee there is a confidence you have that angers and frustrates them. Do not take that shit personally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 02:37 PM
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I’m in the same boat but really as OP said, his pulling away is a good sign. It is a sign that you are a HVW. I think of it like exams. If I state a completely reasonable and healthy boundary or expectation and the man’s response is to pull away, I pass the test and he fails. If I do the same and he steps up and gets with the program we both pass the test. In no situation are you failing or losing. Only when you jeopardize your standards do you “fail”, but even then you can get back on track and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 02:00 PM
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Extremely bizarre and dare I say rude. You are a human not one of his classes. If he was genuinely there for connection and interest he would listen at full attention and ask you to remind of things he forgot. Guys think they can make excuses for literally everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 01:45 PM
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Disgusting. Really how self-centered and brutish can one be. And then scrotes have the audacity to act like they are doing YOU a favor sleeping with you lmao. 🐷
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 12:07 AM
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Dude I hit my head (really hard) on the window pane/wall area whatever it’s called at a NVM FWB’s house during my dumb days and he never checked on me the next day or after. He text me asking to meet up and I was like “wtf is wrong with you my head hurt for almost a week”. He acted like he was so embarrassed and ashamed of himself but that means nothing. Easy to pretend like you care after the fact. Just one example of his selfishness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 12:05 AM
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And the gag is now, thinking back, with his bros or his dad he magically understood this. He would actually say things like “yeah it’s not my place to share…” like are you serious!? Clearly no respect for women at all. Can’t believe I didn’t notice earlier.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 04:12 AM
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Omfg yes! My 40 y.o. LVX would still brag almost about getting into bars underage and getting drunk and smoking pot on field trips as a teenager. Or having his own apartment (it wasn’t- he was staying with his older sister) so he was popular for a year but it “didn’t really matter to him” (so why have you told me the same thing 8 times). I cringed like that little boy in the memes (forgetting his name, I think it’s Elliot lmao). One time he almost was like challenging me “what cool edgy stuff di…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 03:42 AM
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Wow my ex was just like this. “You never explicitly told me you wanted me to hold your hand”, “you never explicitly told me you wanted me to call you that night”, “you never explicitly told me you wanted me to talk to you”. Then if I did he would respond “Nah, I don’t think I want to do that.” 🙄🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 03:24 AM
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I always say this. I hope my male friends/acquaintances reduce time talking to/seeing me when they get in relationships. It is a good sign and show a of respect for their partner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 03:04 AM
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Omfg I hate when guys do that shit. Or when you respond “what about you”? Or ask a question back and they just straight up try to ignore it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 02:28 AM
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I - just the blatant selfishness of these scrotes is mind boggling to me. “I know you have a highly valuable PhD and a great job that pays extremely well, but I don’t want to work nights and weekends soooo…”. Honestly at that point he could get fucked, I would lose all attraction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 01:47 PM
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So true. Talking to my mom about my recent dating experiences I don’t think people realize how incredibly hard it is to find a man who sees/treats/respects you like a person. I went on a date this Friday and at the beginning it was great and we were chatting about life and our shared interests and work. Then as it was time to leave we stood and talked for a bit and he started getting weird and quiet. He tried to put his hand on my waist and I was like “what’s up?” And he was like “oh trying to b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 09:58 PM
54

Yes! And I feel like this is most OLD nowadays. I started about a decade ago (late teens) and it was never this bad. I went back on recently after a break up and I have to say 85% if not 90% of the men I matched with simply did not message. The rest would send a lazy “hey”. Back in the day I would say that figure would be closer to 50% or even 40%. (it could be also that according to scrotes I’m “aging out” of my peak attractiveness lmfao). I don’t message men first and I make that clear on my p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 02:46 AM
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I’m in a major metropolitan city and I notice this. But what chaps my ass even more is when it’s just them and their kids and they leave their 4 year old on a tricycle like 100 ft (bit of an exaggeration but still) behind them, totally clueless or focused on the older child. It really angers me, their child could get hurt or snatched up in a second and it’s like they sincerely don’t care. I’ve seen dads not turn around for MINUTES to check on their small child. I always keep an eye on them just …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 02:34 AM
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Y’all are writing my life story here. My narc dad destroyed my brother’s and my mental health psyche. Almost 30 and I am just now starting to feel somewhat healthy and secure. But he’s the victim when I bring this up, he’s even gotten threatening and aggressive with me. My life mantra with men used to be “as long as he’s nothing like my dad”. But as you say, that still leaves a lot of room for LVMs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 02:31 AM
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I swear single dads will fart and expect people to clap cause they're so strong for being single dads. Omg my ex had an oopsie baby he decided to help raise (probably because he was a 36 year old bum with no intentions of marriage, no stable adult career, and no other meaning to his life, so he lucked into one). He would always talk about how he would “never abandon” his son like it was so noble and honorable and I would always respond “as you shouldn’t - you created him”. He got so annoyed one …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 12:54 PM
7

This has been my experience too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 10:03 PM
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Men don’t think or talk about a woman that much and that deeply unless they want to fuck her or be with her. The wife seems clueless tho.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 12:18 AM
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The most recent (and LAST) LVM I dealt with, he talked about them both like they were stupid and needed him to survive (even though he lived 300+ miles away from them both). Then of course started talking to me like I was stupid and that was a wrap. The highest value man I have dated respected - almost feared -his mom deeply and I loved it lmao. He treated me very well in certain areas.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 09:36 PM
5

This is how my mom and dad operated. Granted they were toxic in a variety of other ways lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 09:32 PM
4

Wow just broke up with a dude who always said this. Whenever I raised a concern or got frustrated after being ignored and dismissed for the fifth time that week, it was “a relationship shouldn’t feel like this, we probably don’t belong together”. So gross and manipulative. He wanted me to beg but I would rather die, on God.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 09:10 PM
1

Thank God!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 12:04 AM
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So true, I know a few female professors married to their much older advisors 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 12:04 AM
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