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QUEEN SH*TFuckdoesithurt956/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 08:57 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYFuckdoesithurt956/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 08:03 PM
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TRIGGER WARNINGFuckdoesithurt956/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 10:11 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYFuckdoesithurt956/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 07:40 PM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYFuckdoesithurt956/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 12:22 PM
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DISCUSSIONFuckdoesithurt956/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 12:37 AM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYFuckdoesithurt956/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 11:28 AM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYFuckdoesithurt956/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 11:26 AM
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DISCUSSIONFuckdoesithurt956/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 11:47 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYFuckdoesithurt956/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 11:29 PM
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STAY WOKEFuckdoesithurt956/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 03:22 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYFuckdoesithurt956/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 11:32 AM
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I found a thread on the incest sub of its participants admitting they would fuck their sisters/moms/cousins etc if they were willing. Anonymous men can be honest and having thousands of other men admit the same was incredibly validating for them. These men have fried their brains and are dangers to their own families.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 12:23 AM
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There was a post on a relationship sub of a man who broke up with his girlfriend after 12 years of her financially and domestically supporting him through college and a doctorate. He pretended he would marry her and start a family after he graduated, but he broke up with her to enjoy his freedom in the big city instead. She wanted 100k compensation and he refused because he "never asked her to do all of that" for him, and "by that logic is she not liable for my student loans?" The comments on th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 01:24 AM
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I see this every time a woman vents to reddit about a sexual experience she feels disturbed by, the predditors crawl out the woodwork to tell her she's not a victim, she consented, it's not rape just because she regrets it etc. Even if she says she was underage, or she felt unsafe, or blackout drunk, they don't care. Obviously these scrotes have used similar tactics and are terrified of being called out as what they are - rapists.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 03:22 PM
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This is one of those posts I hope is fake... but I know this is a reality for women. If the guy you're dating exhibits any aggression and violence, please get out and never doubt yourself, never go back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 10:15 AM
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Quite honestly, I'm at the point when I think porn addicts need to go to a inpatient rehabilitation facility.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 10:04 AM
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Some porn addicts can get hard with a new partner at first because "shiny new plaything", but eventually they will and do get bored.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 09:33 AM
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It's against the rules to link another post but in the comments section someone found a post from 40 days ago (possibly) written by the gf. The majority of comments told her she was in the wrong for trying to get between him seeing family and not planning back up help. It's so obvious how men lash out the moment a woman dares to expect something from them. Edit: there's another post about a woman whose husband has type1 diabetes, didn't check his glucose levels, didn't bring snacks, passed out i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 09:23 AM
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This valentines post definitely insinuates an affair. Golf courses are usually attached to hotels/spas/restaurants etc so would be very easy to meet his girlfriend there and have a bro cover for him. Same goes for his moms. Her comment history says that she works full time, studies full time and has 4 kids with this man. She does all the domestic duties like cleaning, paying bills etc. His only responsibility is to bring home a paycheck. She's asked for a divorce before but he refuses. He gets i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 06:34 AM
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Another clown with an opinion he pulled out his ass crack. Why do these ridiculous men think they're entitled to speak on something they know literally nothing about?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 05:25 AM
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The kid's not even going to remember that porn is acting. Fully grown adult men still struggle with this fact.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 01:07 PM
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You can't tell an 11 year old boy "be mindful that porn sex isn't realistic sex, but sure go on" because it's literally the only frame of reference for sex he has.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 07:08 AM
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He is that 12 year old boy from the post earlier all grown up - his actions aren't his fault, he was just so stressed. Edit. It just occured to me it might have been a deliberate move to break her spirit, rather than just egocentric selfishness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 03:24 PM
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The reason I thought to share this is to point out a couple of things. First of all, how he is responded to having "fucked around and found out". Even though he blew up his own marriage, he sees OP thriving without him and he can't stand it. He is escalating his aggression which will develop into violence. Secondly, how OP is being too accommodating to him. She's setting herself on fire for the sake of her daughter, thinking that her suffering is worth it for the sake of her daughter having a fa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 07:53 PM
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He admitted he would leave his wife of 13 years and 3 kids if he had the option to be with his ex. The only reason he hasn't is because the ex doesn't want him. There's no coming back from that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 02:24 PM
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Here's the thread... https://mobile.twitter.com/t0nit0ne/status/980401431281917952?lang=en-GB
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 02:13 PM
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Men can control, they could just choose not to do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 05:11 PM
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This feels like one of those missing missing reasons posts, where the wife would tell a whole other story. But what we can tell is that he's obsessed with doing degrading sex acts, harasses his wife until she "gives in", sees no reason to be involved as a parent if someone else is there to do it, doesn't do romantic guestures or gifts to make her feel appreciated or loved, only compliments her when he wants something aka sex (and she knows it), has lost all motivation in life because she "puts o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 06:08 PM
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Ta dah! I bring you research! https://www.psypost.org/2022/01/large-scale-study-highlights-the-nuanced-relationship-between-pornography-use-and-erectile-dysfunction-62390
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 10:02 PM
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https://www.zdnet.com/article/sex-robot-molested-destroyed-at-electronics-show/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 11:02 AM
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The whole post is curated to side with the reasonable, practical, morally righteous man who is spoiling his undeserving gold-digger girlfriend. He goes into a lot of detail about why he won't buy a real diamond but no detail as to why his fiancee wants one so badly. I doubt it's "just because" or because she supports the blood diamonds trade. Seeing as she recognises karat value diamonds should have, it may be she knows the ring has no financial value and is trying to fix that without embarrassi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 04:33 AM
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Regarding your edit, that's actually pretty common for pickmes. They don't actually like their boyfriends watching porn but don't want to be uncool, so the "compromise" is they're fine with him using free porn but draw the line at onlyfans etc because that's too intimate. It basically boils down to "I'm fine with you objectifying women, so long as you don't see them as people."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 09:47 AM
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I can't wait to hear what the men have to say 🙉 I'm sure they have lots of insightful opinions and bring a unique perspective to womens experiences in the dating world. $10 is a bargain AND you offer a 5% discount, that's less than what we ladies pay! What a deal! Plus the sticker is hella cute. Fingers crossed for lots of male subs! 😘
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 12:16 AM
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This could have gone so much worse for her...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 08:21 AM
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It's actually very simple, Noah. We do not "hate all men". Think about it (hard, in your case) : Why on earth would we be trying to form healthy, safe, mutually respectful relationships with men if we hated them? Not all men are equal. Some of you are shitbags and abuse women. This sub is and always has been about identifying which men are safe to be in relationships with, and which aren't. You, Noah, with your poor reading comprehension skills and obvious ragebait karma-mining post, are not it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 09:31 PM
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Looks like he's grooming her replacement. I really hope the advice she got was to leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 01:00 PM
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My heart actually breaks for her. He knew what he was doing. I hope she gets a lawyer and takes him to the cleaners. I think it'll be recognised as common law marriage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 11:38 AM
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Some might be convinced by the growing evidence of how much damage porn consumption can do. The evidence has been there for decades, but you can't make a pornsick man read it. They choose ignorance and denial. I refuse to believe a pornsick man can't turn his life around, but as the fellas from no fap have shown us it's motivated by self preservation, not because they have any empathy for the women abused for pleasure. For future generations, we need to prevent children seeing porn in the first …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 01:08 AM
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If he and other men like him can silence us by calling us old, jealous, insecure, lonely crones then they'll be able to groom literal teenagers without backlash. Unfortunately for them their words mean literally nothing to us. We know predditors when we see them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 12:35 AM
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This is exactly what happened during a different protest: https://www.theargus.co.uk/news/19823062.horror-video-brighton-naked-bike-ride-uploaded-porn-site/ The organizer had the bright idea of all participants cycling naked to demonstrate "the vulnerability of human bodies" and has the nerve to act surprised that it got uploaded to a porn site. This is no different. The only ones wearing nipple tassles will be the women. The men won't be topless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 10:37 PM
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What a quality, well thought out rebuttal /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 09:22 PM
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It hurts because I remember I used to be exactly like that, trying to rationalize all the selfish things my ex said and did. I wouldn't listen to any advice I didn't like either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 04:23 PM
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On both her posts 99% comments are warning her that they're not equals in their relationship, and she's locked into the 1% of comments defending him as clumbsy and well-meaning. Next she's going to talk to him and give him the blueprint of what to say to her. Also, age gap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 02:37 PM
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how would i know if i'm in the best one Grass is greener where you water it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 09:18 AM
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You're not a "victim" of my boundaries, I'm the victim of your manipulation. Beautifully put.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 01:33 AM
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The same men who outrage if their gf keeps intimate videos of her ex. I saw a woman get utterly vilified because her boyfriend found a sextape with her ex she'd forgotten about - all the comments were You obviously still have feelings for your ex / you don't love your boyfriend / you're a lying cheating harpy. And yet every time a woman posts about finding her boyfriends ex's nudes they're clambering over each other trying to justify it - They don't mean anything / it's just spank material / fon…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 06:51 PM
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I've seen a few arguments about this recently in the relationship sub. The consensus with most LVM is that nudes are a "virtual gift" and once gifted you can't take them back. They are also his property so you can't delete them without his permission - that's an invasion of privacy. You can't make this shit up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 03:40 PM
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The fact he did a total 180 shows that he was never genuine and just saying what he thought she wanted to hear. When she refused him anyway he got angry and the mask slipped.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 02:02 PM
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I think I saw that, it was a video of a woman saying she wants to be provided for and not work? Cuz yeah that ain't us. 😂 I see us referenced in threads all the time now and they make up some great lies for their circlejerk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 09:23 PM
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There has been a huge influx of FDS posts being linked in other subs like cringe/facepalm etc - not because they fit the theme but because it's low-effort ragebait and easy karma. On the plus side, more women are finding our sub from these posts and reasonate with what we're saying. So ironically the more hate we get the more support we get. If men are worried about that they could stop linking us everywhere, but they won't, because internet points. Ladies, keep on keeping on, ignore these fools…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 07:47 PM
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Holy shit you weren't kidding: https://www.zdnet.com/article/sex-robot-molested-destroyed-at-electronics-show/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 06:12 AM
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This column was embarrassingly low effort and low energy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 01:01 PM
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I saw a video of a panel of psychologists talking about the differences in men and women. One of the men said women are not biologically wired to cheat, and the woman psychologist said we don't actually know that because women historically didn't have the freedom/opportunity to do so. She said if you look at the stats now, men and women cheat at about the same rate, but we know their reasons given for cheating are different - men cheat for physical motive and women cheat for emotional. I'm start…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 02:37 PM
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That thread was a shit show. Even the 10% who recognised the guy was making an obvious play for "physically fast, emotionally slow" complained about the manner she turned him down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 06:27 PM
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I swear this sub advocates more for mens mental health than the outraged front-pagers ever do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 03:34 PM
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I love a good debate on the internet but only with good-faith participants. I won't touch that sub with a barge-pole. The PPD is overwhelming red and black pill types who don't perceive women as thinking feeling intelligent people, so it's a waste of time trying to engage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 01:30 PM
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Reddit coined a cute phrase for this exact scenario: "Trust but verify." Even when you know your wife would never cheat on you always get the test, "just in case." But if i apply the same logic to, say, checking your boyfriends devices, then I'm a paranoid controlling insecure crazy bitch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 07:32 PM
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Oh shit I didn't get the memo, I didn't realize we were supposed to be vegan too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 06:07 PM
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When I was a teenager, I had casual sex with men 8-10 years older than me. At the time I thought they were hot shit, but before I even met this sub a year ago I realized I had been used. I have made peace with that and I don't even think about these experiences except for when I'm commenting on someone elses post about their AGR. I'm not ashamed for having sex with them, but I am disappointed in them, if that makes sense. I'm disappointed that these people I considered friends were so... lame. L…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 11:08 PM
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Knowing what we know, what should we expect from HVM regarding this topic? For example, if a man says "her body her choice" do we think of that as ignorant or as a positive?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 10:57 PM
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The comments are acting like she's denied him any and all physical intimacy for 5 months, even though her original post states they were cuddling and making out before he got the condom out. They're so blind with rage they didn't even read it properly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 05:33 AM
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This guy has been conditioned to think women have to show attraction through sex Actually one of the comments did say that all men feel emotional intimacy and love through sex. I've saved it for the next time a man claims "iT dOeSn'T mEaN aNyThInG"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 04:31 AM
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I just want to point out that on another thread in another sub, 4k+ men are praising a man who told his date he wanted to go emotionally slow because of past trauma from his relationship 3 years ago. Meanwhile here's a woman who wants to go physically slow, also due to past experiences, and she's a "bitch". The worst "bitch" any of these men have ever seen. Ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 04:26 AM
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I'm not trying to pick a fight, these are genuine questions. In what way does Kayne's bipolar control his actions and choices, and what is the appropriate consideration / adjustment to give to someone with bipolar?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 05:24 PM
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If Hot Octopuss cares about mens health and wellbeing, why not set up desperately needed mens shelters for victims of DV and homelessness? 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 03:50 PM
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His major is photography and he brings his big camera when everyone goes out. Most of his photos are taken candidly. This is actually super interesting because I have never seen a single man who insists on bringing his professional camera everywhere who wasn't a pervert. They always use the "public place" and "my art style is candid" defence as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 11:13 PM
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This is just so sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 05:28 PM
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In his update, he clarifies his type is: Anal, Ass to Mouth, choking, spitting, slapping, gagging, DP, gape, pee in gape, braces, gingers and DD/LG.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 03:17 PM
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I commented this in the other thread but it's relevant: "Pornography can lead to men viewing their partner as less sexually attractive because of pornography actors chosen specifically for their sexual appearance. Men tend to judge partners by comparing them to those he sees on the pornographic websites" (https://irispublishers.com/oajap/fulltext/the-effects-of-pornography-on-adult-males-relationships.ID.000530.php) There was a study done by the University of Florida which found that men who reg…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 01:31 AM
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I was in their position once. I really feel for them. But it's just not worth the risk trying to make it work. "Pornography can lead to men viewing their partner as less sexually attractive because of pornography actors chosen specifically for their sexual appearance. Men tend to judge partners by comparing them to those he sees on the pornographic websites" (https://irispublishers.com/oajap/fulltext/the-effects-of-pornography-on-adult-males-relationships.ID.000530.php) There was a study done by…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 01:27 AM
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After Gail Dines appearance on the podcast I binged watched a bunch of her lectures on youtube (I never tire of hearing her talk!) and she describes exactly that. TW: graphic description of choking, sexual images on big screen Skip to 7:33 https://youtu.be/_YpHNImNsx8
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 12:21 AM
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i HaVe NeVeR bEeN iN lOvE So deep. What a complex, mysterious man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 09:31 AM
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As much as I enjoy him having to eat from his own dirty dishes, this isn't a long term solution. Say if she had to care for a sick relative or newborn, she'd have no emotional or mental bandwidth to play these games. And ultimately it doesn't change that he attempted to decieve her into playing "Mom" out of pure laziness. The insult would be too much for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 03:56 PM
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The update was that they were going to sneak out and stay with an aunt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 05:50 PM
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I don't know if this is a creative writing exercise or a girl genuinely brainwashed but she posted an update, with a link to the original thread.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 03:23 PM
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It does read like a creative writing exercise. That said they made an update and I commented anyway, just in case.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 03:14 PM
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I feel like a father who cares about his sons feelings would have known that using that word specifically would be insensitive. He could have said brilliant/beautiful/amazing daughter. It's like how pregnant women avoid discussing their pregnancy with a friend who had a miscarriage, they don't have to but they do it to be considerate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 11:52 AM
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You're not wrong for having a preference on whatever style of art/entertainment you like. Mother just isn't your genre.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 04:11 PM
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I wouldn't say the film was particularly entertaining but the concept was interesting. I'm not a fan of shallow horror/jumpscare/gore movies, I like those with deeper meaning. That said I've watched it once, wouldn't watch it again any time soon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 11:20 AM
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It's just a tale about a grown ass dude who negs his girlfriend to literal death. I mean technically it's an allegory about how humans corrupt and destroy all things good, with the Mother representing planet Earth and her husband being God. A lot of the events in the movie mimic bible stories, for example the kitchen sink breaking and flooding the house represents the Great Flood. It turns out that God keeps reliving the same history with a different version of Earth because he never learns his …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 08:10 AM
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most people aren't trying to have sex with 17yo Here are some studies regarding teen pregnancys which suggest otherwise: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/9099568/ http://recapp.etr.org/recapp/index.cfm?fuseaction=pages.TheoriesDetail&PageID=393
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 07:54 AM
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Have [a hot woman] begging for his attention and approval? Yep. It's exactly as shallow as you think.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 09:48 AM
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A relative of mine runs a private bar for events and I've worked with them during wedding seasons. It's easy money and usually a lot of fun. I can't recall one groom who wasn't bald.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 09:18 AM
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This will not work in real life. This is pure basement dwellers fantasy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 09:10 AM
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In the clubs near me there is at least one bouncer at the bar so the bartender can go to them and have them handle it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 10:14 AM
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My colleague has been following this case; she's convinced he's still alive and the parents are hiding him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 09:53 AM
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For the love of all things holy do not take him back. He's going to freak out and try contacting you on emails, fake numbers, etc, so you need to be an iron clad greyrock. No telling him how you feel, no hearing him out "for old times sakes", he's gotta be dead to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 08:05 AM
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Perfectly said
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 07:13 AM
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Lilliths comment about boyfriends turning their girlfriends against you reminded me of a tiktok video I saw of a man saying something along the lines of: "Guys will jokingly say shit to your face but sing praises behind your back. Girls will sing praises to your face but talk shit behind your back." The vid had hundreds of thousands of likes and a few stitches of people agreeing with it. In the same way as "girls are so bitchy" and "boys are better friends, girls are too much drama" it's trainin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 06:15 PM
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I was a dancer in my pickme days and this is right
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 08:50 AM
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Well if it ain't my ex Exhibiting signs of irritability and extreme mood swings Yep Making excuses for drinking such as to relax, deal with stress or feel normal My ex's reason for needing a 2 hour wank in the morning was to clear his head so he could think straight for the rest of the day Choosing drinking over other responsibilities and obligations He was often late to work because apparently 2 hours wasn't enough time to rub one out Becoming isolated and distant from friends and family member…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 11:42 AM
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after he told her he wouldn't cheat on her "now." These are the words of a man who has already been considering cheating on you. This isn't a case of "i can't predict the future" but a case of "i've thought about it and will do it, but now isn't the right time". These "modern therapists" are an absolute joke and have no business giving advice. Did they give their name and education background?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 11:37 AM
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This is just sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 12:44 PM
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I enjoy giving blowjobs because seeing my partner experience pleasure is a turn on for me. Nothing about the process of a blowjob is pleasant for me but my partner's reaction to it is the reason I like it. Same for me. I don't mind doing it if my partner enjoys it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 11:06 AM
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Make you sick?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 12:39 PM
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There needs to be a sister sub where we can vent and criticize obvious male depravity. Unfortunately this would get a LOT of harrassment and probably banned as a hate sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 12:00 PM
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And in this particular instance, there is no "both sides" to a pedophilia argument. There is a mountain of evidence proving pedophilia is damaging and children can't consent. If I could be bothered to entertain a debate with these scrotes I would win, but it's not worth my time because I know they'll choose to believe what they want to believe, which is that they should be allowed to touch children without going to jail.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 11:25 AM
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He's not playing devils advocate, he's championing for pedophilia. Eventually he'll get enough upvotes and approval that he'll feel validated enough to act on it. If not his own daughter, he'll start grooming her friends. There is no point confronting him, he'll lie, and she's heartbroken enough to want to believe it, and then they'll go back to normal except she'll have no access to his devices. She needs to save the evidence, take it to a lawyer and kick him out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 07:44 AM
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I've been watching Gail's videos on yt and one of the things she and another feminist said (paraphased) was: When a current pornstar gives interviews etc, she's on the job. (I think) Jenna Jaimeson was one of the first stars who also played a role in recruiting because she would be filmed around her house and show off all her nice things and talk about how much she loved her job, which encouraged low-income women to get involved. It takes about 5 years upon leaving the industry for a pornstar to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 12:28 PM
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can we discuss making a website just like Reddit but banning porn?!?! I am totally down for this. When I really get hooked to a book or TV series I like to follow up on discussion boards because I love fantheories / backstory etc. The subs usually have good episode discussion threads etc. But I've found you can type any first 3 letters in you will get nsfw subs. I watched a crime documentary called the Murder of Sister Cathy, and searching "sister" lead me to a bunch of incest subs. If I search …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 03:15 PM
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they choose a woman who is sexually inexperienced so it guarantees his insecure ass "the best sex shes ever had" since sex is literally ALL THEY CARE ABOUT. This is especially obvious when you see posts by men who discover their gfs sextapes with her ex, or overhear a conversation between girls comparing sexual partners and he's not #1, they cannot get over it, they become insecure and resent her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 08:05 AM
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I've spotted this too. Men have a distinct way of writing, even when they pretend to be women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 02:04 PM
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He never loved her, he just loved that she'd do anything for him. And he doesn't love this 22yo either, he loves the new social standing and reverence she brings him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 06:01 PM
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This is what i think. If it was a kink thing he'd bottle feed himself in private (or she'd have seen he was aroused), but he's trying to exert his "power" over the baby, i.e. I let you live, I could starve you if I wanted, all your things are mine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 08:25 AM
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I'm so sorry... that's so awful :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 07:45 PM
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I would hope so but it's more likely that she doesn't want him to stop because A.) he'll direct his anger at her for "being the reason" he couldn't achieve his 10 million target and B.) work keeps him out of her hair. I really hope she does divorce him. You can't come back from a betrayal like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 06:02 PM
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He talks about "The marriage stress" as some other thing and not a direct product of the resentment he has towards her for having nOn-LeThAl cancer and being unable to do her job as his housekeeper and nanny, and her knowing this and resenting him for being so cruel in her time of need.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 03:43 PM
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Girls are "concenting" to more and more violent sex because their boyfriends and libfems have convinced them it's normal. That said, even if she had "concented" to group sex initially there is absolutely no way this poor girl wouldn't have wanted to stop the moment it started hurting. She wouldn't have passively gone along with the tremendous pain she would have been in, she obviously would never have concented to needing to wear a bag for the rest of her life. She was gang-raped, maybe with the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 08:25 AM
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If 25 wanted to be with him she would have told him and he'd have left his gf already. But she doesn't want to be with him, she's just willing to put up with him occassionally in exchange for $500 a month - money he only has because his gf subsidizes his life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 12:42 PM
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Please could you share or pm me some of these studies you looked at?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 10:19 AM
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u/muaddicted can you send this to the bald guys so they can see what a real problem looks like
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 09:28 AM
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Not all men! They cry, when another woman is murdered by a man, someone they couldn't possibly relate to, and therefore should not take any defensive precautions. Yes, this is directed at me say the men with the balding hairline who can't possibly separate themselves from a surface level insult directed towards a guy who killed his girlfriend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 08:51 AM
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Yeah this doesn't sound like the type of guy who could woo multiple women 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 03:06 PM
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I got that feeling too, like he enjoyed being the one to "break the news" to you. I see it on threads where a parent expresses concern or discomfort over the idea of their teenager (usually 14-17yo) starting to have sex or sleepovers etc. The comments pile on the OP, calling them religious prudes or stupid or backwards. "Teens will find a way to have sex whether you like it or not!" They're really vicious about it. And it's not because they think teenagers are cognitively developed enough to mak…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 12:08 PM
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Plus if they become "friends" again, he'll gain the 50-odd other friends who also blocked him back. Then they can all forget about it as some silly misunderstanding.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 11:53 AM
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I read your original post Look, you "snooped" because you suspected something was wrong - and your instinct was right. You learned that he wanted to impregnant younger women, date again, that he didn't think you long term. Isn't it better you discovered that now, and not after you were trapped with a mortgage and child? He was never going to tell you this. He kept you around because he was afraid to be alone. You are so much better off without him, even if it doesn't feel like it right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 01:34 PM
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They overcompensate for their lack of attractiveness by going hyper sexual. I was genuinely thinking this the other day. Of the really gross kink subreddits I've had the misfortune to discover, all the women posting pictures of themselves are not conventionally attractive and it just screams of desperation for male validation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 07:23 AM
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(here's Siskel and Ebert talking about it if you're interested). Holy shit that is equally facinating and horrific! I can't disagree with a single thing they said. It makes so much sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 12:20 PM
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Redesign their learning environments to be as frat-y as possible so women will feel uncomfortable and stop signing up! I wonder if women are being discouraged from college but by the pro-sex work push. Teenagers being sold a dream where they can make millions in a "respectable" industry from the safety of their own homes, fund college if they go otherwise incur no debt, and retire early. This is supposedly defeating misogyny and capitalism so the choicefems love it. The difference is women seem …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 06:20 AM
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My ex was and no doubt still a porn addict. He's a redpiller who decieves women into thinking he's a good person and catching feelings, but they're honestly nothing but holes to him. I kept catching him messaging other women, filming our friends, arranging a sex-tourist holiday with his gross friend, going out with said friend to clubs and not coming home, then screaming at me for asking about it. I stopped sleeping and began drinking heavily and gained a load of weight. His behavior towards me …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 05:07 PM
45

So long as women are silent and unchallenging to the loud obnoxious violent men influencing the policies and laws we all live by no one will get hurt. Otherwise it's obviously your fault.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 12:26 PM
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There are hundreds of thousands of inexpensive rings out there. Why not get one of her favorite crystal, or a stone the color of her eyes, or a patterned band, or just something which implied any degree of thought.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 01:26 PM
41

In a conversation I had recently with a LVM "friend" (not anymore obvs) he said you should never interfere and tell a girl she's being cheated on. Firstly it's none of your business. Secondly she won't believe you and she'll cut you off, so you'll lose a friend. Thirdly even if she does believe you and dumps him she'll always resent you a little bit for destroying her happiness and will eventually cut you off. In short, you should just leave it alone and let her find out by herself. This "It's n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 09:08 AM
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“then evaluate my feelings and calculate my leave.” This bit... I might be reading too much into it but I get the sense that she's still giving him a chance to redeem himself, like if he seems remorseful or comes clean "voluntarily" she'll forgive him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 07:21 PM
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Any time someone tries to justify putting a stipulation of 'can't say no' then your alarm bells should be going off and you should refuse to engage with that person forevermore. This is such a key piece of evidence that shows the husband premeditated it. He knew she wouldn't want to do it so he tried to strongarm her into upholding the "fun of the game".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 09:17 PM
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In my opinion, no. When I was a teenager I thought being a virgin was embarrasing (especially since most my friends weren't) so I had one night stands with men I liked but wasn't particularly attracted to in the sense that I wanted relationships with. And honestly, I got nothing out of it, except maybe a weird sense of validation because it feels nice to be desired. At the time I thought it was good to just get it out the way, and that sex was overrated, and I must be asexual. Years later I meet…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 05:25 PM
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My ex desperately wanted to fuck other women, it was the only thing giving his life meaning, so he wore me down and I agreed to the open relationship - but that was wrong because he expected me to not want to. Apparently by wanting attention and affection from other men in his absence I was punishing him, but his reasons for wanting to cheat were totally legit and not personal at all. Obviously my arguments were better, so he tantrumed, dropped it, and went behind my back anyway - which is exact…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 12:00 PM
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So performative 🙄 "I will if you really want me to." She wanted you to the first time she asked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 04:36 AM
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Or, or - maybe - your personality is garbage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 12:38 PM
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Phones are extentions of our brains but it also doesn't mean anything... right...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 02:28 PM
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The term SWERF which is completely made up pyschobabble is used to cast ordinary women as the ‘other’ and demonise them. Ironically it's the men who cried over pornhub removing 10 million unverified videos yet cheering over "now these dumb OF bitches need to get a real job" who are anti-sex worker, not the radical feminists trying to point out how the industry is corrupt and exploitative.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 07:05 AM
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That 180 gave me whiplash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 06:19 AM
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I’m also gonna get rid of the town I lived in and make sure it’s my hometown and state and the town/state I live in now Can you just not include this altogether? I wouldn't really take chances...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 08:01 AM
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He's obsessed. It's also alarming that he found your fb if it wasn't linked to anything. You need to lock down your social media so he can't speak to you, change your insta settings to not receive message requests, and fb to not accept messages from people who aren't friends. There must be a way of doing it on snap too. Any kind of communication is a win for them. Scrotes feed off getting a response, regardless what it is. Even if your every reply is "lol u mad" they think they've got your atten…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 06:38 AM
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That's what it looks like, pure disassociating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 07:12 PM
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I think she's in shock-mode. She's had crisis after crisis and she's detached from it. But it will hit her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 05:50 PM
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I've seen reddit posts where the woman tells her boyfriend about a bad experience like "my first boyfriend used to force me to do anal and filmed it" or "my ex pressured me into MFF threesomes and I really didn't enjoy it and in fact it still bothers me years later" and the fucking boyfriend will be outraged and abusive towards her because he's jealous that she won't do anal, videos or MFF for him. You can't tell these LVM these things because recounting the event puts you in a vulnerable state …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 08:27 PM
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So if I'm the host then I serve everyone, I don't expect my guests to fix their own plates. It's so rude to me that the male host sat down and had one of his guests serve.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 05:58 PM
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I wonder what happened to the kids' bio mom? It says he was newly widowed so she must have died since her 'new stepmom' left her, her father has probably been sledgehammering into his kids' head that OP was a vicious, heartless harpie who abandoned the family I get the feeling he also parentified his daughter like "you're a natural care taker you take care of me and your brother and you're not ever allowed to stop" hense why she's so angry and said to OP she was supposed to stay despite everythi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 02:38 PM
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I just wanna say, if she said something like "I'd murder you for my freedom", he would get so offended.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 06:44 AM
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Silly pickme. You're supposed to respect his digital freedom, deal with your insecurites and not take it personally, it doesn't mean anything. But you shouldn't have threatened to do it yourself, you disrespected him and your relationship, overstepped his reasonable boundaries, and some guys just don't want their girl doing that kinda thing. If that seems super hypocritical it's not, because, err, it isn't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 11:23 PM
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what the fuckkk
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 08:43 AM
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The Archives of Sexual Behavior studied 52,500 adults in the US and found that, in relationships, 95% of straight men usually or always climax during sex – compared to only 65 percent of heterosexual women. The study, by Indiana University, Chapman University and Claremont Graduate University, showed the proportion of people who usually orgasmed was: 65% of heterosexual women 66% of bisexual women 86% of lesbian women 88% of bisexual men 89% of gay men 95% of heterosexual men The research team s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 06:48 PM
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Exactly. Someone else on this sub pointed out that colleges, banks and employers to background checks and require proof of stability so why shouldn't I do that with the person I'm going to marry? Btw, do you know where that man works? Can you blast him on fb or google reviews or something?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 10:57 AM
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Obviously we evil women made him feel guilty for being attracted to his own daughter and wanting to fuck her friends. Scrote, you don't get "Good Man" points for not acting on your urges when these urges are sick and depraved in the first place. If you want toxic subs I can list a load about raping and abusing women, promoting incest porn or subs to watch videos of people fucking dying and make fun of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 07:25 AM
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Fucking hell those comments! They are so fucking pornsick. I wanna pillage her poop chute, *I want to fuck the shit out of" are absolutely subconscious references to Young-Teen-Gets-Anally-Destroyed porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 08:40 PM
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It means you don't believe he has a right to any privacy. Honestly, no I don't. You'll see it on social media all the time: women getting cheated on or discovering their SO has another wife and child or is in huge financial debt or has an addiction or degenerate kink, and they always say they never saw it coming and they had no idea he was like this. I don't want to have a baby with man to later find out he's been doing any of the above. The security of my physical and financial future trump his…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 12:03 PM
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I saw that post, and the comments. He was the most whiny pathetic self-pitying little bitch, I could literally see other commenters getting exhausted with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 12:42 AM
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Yeah, Keeping Your Exes’ Nude Photos Is Creepy Time to empty your digital trash cans, dudes. BY BECA GRIMM December 19, 2017 There’s an unspoken contract surrounding the gifts you’re allowed to keep after your partner leaves. A really solid pair of joggers? Keep. An ergonomic computer mouse? Sure, probably. Those whisky stones you used twice? Judgment call. But what about nude photos? When someone you’re dating sends you a saucy selfie, there’s context: Presumably, at time of receipt you shared …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 03:24 PM
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I wanted to post screen shots of the post but it wouldn’t let me. It's meme free monday which means image-posts are auto-rejected HE HAD PICTURES OF WOMAN BEING DECAPATED DURING SEX Jesus Fucking Christ, no one in their right mind could ever protect that under the guise of it's-just-a-kink. These people are so so sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 10:26 AM
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If you do reach out to someone about FDS I think it's best to do it via chat/DM. Not only will your comment get removed but before it does it will attract a lot abusive scrotes to the sub who harass us and give the mods a headache.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 09:10 AM
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Men be like pregnant women shouldn't be allowed privileges on public transport, if you can't stand on the bus don't use it it's not my problem you let someone cum in you and also be like you cruel bitch, you have no idea how dehabilitating it is to have anxiety and you couldn't do one little thing to make another human beings life a bit easier, bitch, fuck you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 08:54 AM
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A lot has changed since he and his wife had that conversation 13 years ago, and especially the last 18 months of covid. He's just not thinking, he's not planning for worst-case scenarios like medical debt. The way he's written this is logic man vs emotional woman, but she's actually thinking ahead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 08:26 PM
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https://www.thesun.co.uk/news/15774031/angela-tramonte-first-date-dario-dizdar-found-dead/ The cop is Dario Dizlar and he's built like a brick wall. No one took water? bullshit. Do you think he forgets to bring water to the gym? It's just too suspicious. Theory 1 is she rejected him before and he wanted to punish her, so he convinced her to do this walk date to put her through extreme physical discomfort and prove himself better than her. Then when she decided to turn back his mission was accomp…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 09:47 AM
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Same. If anything i became more affectionate because I'd learned what they like, what they wanted etc, and I do more of what makes him happy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 01:48 AM
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I literally commented about this earlier. A 21yo with a 2month old had a husband (26) who - and she'd partially married to get his green card - was cheating. Onviously. She felt compelled to stay because he said she could change him. I said Did he shit his pants? Then no, you can't change him. I know it's not their fault, but I'm so sick of seeing barely-20yos trapped in abusive relationships, pregnant, much older partner etc. I thought we were becoming more aware, not less. I'm really demoraliz…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 11:18 PM
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Never stop vetting. Even if you're married, have a survival plan, safe money, etc. Because people can change, your HVM could change, so you always need an escape plan. Obviously there's a lot of emotional hurt leaving an SO, but it hurts a lot less when you know you can survive on your own
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 11:10 PM
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I can't believe they didn't clock the link between the boyfriend being in possession of roofies and the fact he wants to go out alone and uninterrupted. The girlfriends instincts are screaming at her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 07:09 AM
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This would be a facinating podcast!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 10:33 PM
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Remember ladies, the real prize is marriage. ... 🤮🤮🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 06:07 PM
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The last picture isn't clear, but it looks like he brought the first ring she showed him. She sent him different pictures, which implies to me she wanted something in that style, not necessarily the exact one. Instead of taking the time to surprise her with something special or go shopping together, he just brought the first thing that would do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 08:22 AM
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If you have his phone, check his apps: Reddit, 9gag, tumblr, Discord, Insta etc are loaded with porn he might be subscribed to. Check his activity history on insta as well. You can also log in to the wifi router and check the activity logs, I think you can set parental controls so you get an alert every time someone on your network searches a certain word. Not all providers offer this. And never feel bad for looking. The majority of men watch porn, and the majority of these men lie about it. You…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 08:04 AM
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She should check the major porn sites, the video will be on there under amateur or something. He'd have blurred or cropped his face out of course.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 07:26 PM
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😂😂 Lmao my ex used to say he had two wolves inside him. I'm literally bpd and bipolar, if anyone had duelling demons it's me and I never strayed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 12:04 PM
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Oh my god, i try not to insult women at all but this clown is a gold-tier muppet. Her obsession with "Robin" is gonna bite her in the ass later because he's going to think she's hitting on him and he's gonna tell her boyfriend that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 12:01 PM
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Haa. My ex was like this. He was actually a good cook when he tried, he just didn't like trying. If I was home I had to cook. If I wasn't home he'd just eat instant noodles unless I brought some nice meat, then he'd cook it for himself and leave me scraps to reheat later. If I eventually convinced him to cook dinner for me for a change he would run away at the end so that I had to plate up and serve him. But I usually ended up having to take over because he'd clutter the space and couldn't cope …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 08:46 AM
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Found it: https://headlesswomenofhollywood.com/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 06:53 PM
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If you have or had a different perspective I'm genuinely interested to hear it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 03:43 PM
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Thank you - I'll need to look up her work
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 12:59 PM
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This is probably my trauma talking but does anyone else think there's like an overwhelming perverse facination with the female form, even when it's not sexual? Like those stupid flower pots with boobs on them, or those silicon moulds of an hourglass womans torso - no head, no limbs. It's not even men who would buy this stuff. I see this everywhere. And honestly I don't think it desexualizes or de-shames anything because it's not intended for men who are doing the sexualizing or shaming, but rath…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 12:15 PM
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Absolutely remove the picture, do not have any identifying info about yourself online and especially when you are a member of this sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 11:26 AM
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It wouldn't work. They don't have an epithany and realize they're giant hypocrits, or they'll use your actions to justify their own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 08:12 PM
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Exactly. I don't think "insecure" is an insult, especially when it's a valid suspicion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 01:27 PM
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It's very easy as a woman to default back into pickmeism, for example see all those posts where women are "grateful he puts up with me" when their partner is actually an utter douchebag. FDS is essential for reminding women that we don't have to tolerate the bare minimum, we don't have to be grateful we were picked, and we should demand the respect we automatically give our partners.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 12:18 PM
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Of course I'm going to be insecure, his behavior is demonstrating that he would cheat on me given the chance, which obviously puts my health and financial future at risk. And I know many think JuSt BeCaUsE I loOk DoEsN't mEaN i'Ll ToUcH, I guarentee any man who follows an instragram model would fuck her if she allowed. Pickme's are delusional for thinking otherwise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 12:02 PM
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The man you're in a relationship with benefits from a relationship with you, like combined incomes, split of household chores, a companion for holidays, safe sex etc. Ultimately, you have high standards because otherwise there's a risk you'll end up dating a mooch with no job, or a misogynist who thinks cleaning is womens work, or a cheater who gives you an STI. You don't need to justify your standards as a woman, but as a person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 11:54 AM
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I haven't had kids, but I know a lot of women who have, and whilst a lot of them say "never again", a lot also say that once they get to hold their baby the pain just seems to be a distant memory. I assume it's the flood of oxytocin.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 11:10 AM
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Like others have said, these type of men don't care what you actually have to say about these issues, they're just trying to derail you. Best action is to not engage, or tell them to discuss it in their own time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 04:55 PM
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He gets called out as a jerk so he backtracks with: "i just don't want you putting shit on credit cards" since he knows more people will agree with him that yes it sounds irresponsible to buy needless jewelry on credit. Even though we don't know how she paid for it or what their finances are. Even though his original post had nothing to do with that and was entirely about feeling emasculated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 04:46 PM
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Meanwhile men are bragging about how they openly refused to pay for their "golddigging" dates slightly more expensive drink
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 01:14 PM
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Look, your body your choice. It's that simple. If you decide to keep it, talk to a lawyer about your options for keeping him away from you both and make sure you get child support. He knew the risks when he agreed to have sex with you. Also, it's not just your existing child that keeps you tied to him, it's also your own feelings. If you were truly over him you wouldn't be fucking him. You've been through some extremely traumatic experiences and if you haven't already, please consider addressing…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 12:42 PM
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I will never forget the shit-eating grin on my ex's friends face when he made up an alibi for the night my ex cheated on me. If your "friend" covers for you it's because they think you're the type of person who would do something scummy like betray your spouce. It's not a flex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 09:43 AM
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Or he'll cheat and blame her for not mEeTiNg HiS nEeDs. I saw another post of a man with a DDLG kink (🤮🤮🤮) whose wife got so sick of him demanding it that she gave him permission to see a sex worker. He then "falls in love" with his sex worker and leaves his wife and 2 infant children behind. There will be no happiness for this woman if she doesn't leave him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 05:54 PM
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He hasn't even had the conversations yet. He hasn't even asked his boss about extra holiday or unpaid leave or working remotely or looked at other jobs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 10:51 PM
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he says he can go without it If that were true, he wouldn't have brought it up the second time. If that were true, he wouldn't have sought her out specifically because she was a victim of rape. But he wants to do it, and he is prepared to wait as long as it takes to convince her to do it. She depends on him and he knows this. Right now he wants her to calm down and let it go, and she probably will because she wants to keep the good, caring and loving parts of her relationship alive. Later, he'll…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 10:33 PM
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LVM feel entitled to your money "just because". She needs dump that loser asap and lock down her credit and make sure he doesn't take loans out in her name. He's exactly the type to ramp up credit card debt because she can afford it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 12:10 PM
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All those things she listed; anal, blowjobs, swallowing, threesomes (with her bf and another girl, lets be real) ... I doubt they were actually pleasurable for her because it they were she'd still do them. She was probably pressured into doing them or did it performatively. It might've been traumatic for her, so she vents to her boyfriend who up until now wasn't pressuring her for anything she probably trusted him enough to be vulnerable with him. It just goes to show,; never ever share your tra…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 07:40 PM
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I'm very grateful to have had a reasonable Dr. I can't imagine what you went through and continue to have to deal with. It's disgusting that male medical professionals trivialize and demean the suffering of vulnerable women because they think their opinions outweigh your facts. And you're so right, I see far more women diagnosed with BPD and men with CPTSD, as if women are born mad but men are trauma'd through someone elses' fault. No wonder we are trained to make excuses for abusive mens behavi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 12:39 AM
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This is my experience. I have been diagnosed with BPD and Bipolar 2 by a male psychiatrist. The BPD diagnosis came first, which was around the same time that I found undeniable proof of my ex's infidelity so I didn't believe it was actually BPD, I thought it was PIST/PTSD. I did a lot of research by myself; books, videos, facebook and reddit support groups, even tiktok hashtags, and after taking a long, critical, honest look at myself and history of behaviors, I actually came to agree with his d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 11:42 PM
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I used low effort dates as a way to - "relieve the pressure of committing to a "costly" real date" - "getting to know each other first" - "not scare the guy away" - "save some money" (with bill splitting😣) These are good points. I'd like to add: Accepting that your date is "broke" and dating him anyway because they don't want to be shallow or classist or w/e. If I liked a guy I didn't care if he had money or not. However I have since learned that they're never actually broke, they just don't wan…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 03:36 PM
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"I'd have another woman around the house to talk to" made me laugh. It's such a man thing to say.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 09:20 PM
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He has literally told her he is going to rape her. He is only waiting it out to make it as disgusting as possible for her. She needs to get out and then shame him publicly to everyone they know, even his work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 01:54 PM
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Haha! True that 🤏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 01:55 PM
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Physically but not intelligently
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 12:25 PM
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Other men want to believe it's real because then it normalizes their creepy invasive and predditory behavior. The OP was probably hoping some women would comment "same!" and that would give him the courage to actually approach a woman on a nude beach.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 11:39 AM
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This is why men shouldn't be in power. They aren't capable of restraining themselves and are swayed by the smallest little thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 11:29 AM
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Fucking hell...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 10:43 AM
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This reads like a troll post :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 08:24 AM
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In my experience, LVM only act like your friend when they want something from you, like your body or emotional labour. They ghost you pretty quick when they don't get it. I think HVM can have women friends but they go about it differently. The HVM in my life are usually in couples which are friends with other couples, they introduce their partner to their friends, they include their partner in all communication and always invite them along to socials. There's a greater sense of respect between f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 12:48 PM
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He knows it's wrong, he doesn't care. He gets off on it because he shouldn't have them but he does. He probably has some deluded fantasy you'll find one of his ex's so hot you'll surprise him with a threesome. In this scenario, I would have ignored him and contacted his girlfriend telling him exactly how creepy, shameful and repulsive her boyfriend is. I would also go on his facebook friends list to see if I can recognise the ex's and give them enough evidence to press charges. Failing that, put…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 11:52 AM
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I've literally seen exactly this and 100% she gets roasted for being insensitive
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 07:52 PM
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I see so many women posting "my bf/husband watches porn of women who look nothing like me am i being insecure" and the comments rallying "yes you are go to therapy" 🙄 i'm just gonna start telling men with small dicks to go to therapy. It's better they accept themselves than be lied to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 11:50 AM
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In my mind it's an exaggerated example of what happens today - an older established well-off man who hates women meets a younger naive pickme who thinks she can change him. He slowly erodes her boundaries, uses what wealth and power he has to keep her under his control, until he hurts her so much she finally takes off the rosy glasses and escapes. It should have been packaged as a warning, not a romance. And the book itself was garbage, but i see this story almost every day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 11:14 AM
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I think there was a post here a little while ago of a woman who had a friend who studied true crime. He found in something like 90% of the cases of intimate partner abuse, the man was always older by 8+ years. They knowingly pick inexperienced women to prey on, and when the women started recognising abusive traits for what they were, the men would increase the abuse to reinstate control. I think Caroline was realizing this, and he realized she was realizing this, and that's why he killed her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 10:27 PM
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Fantastic!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 09:56 AM
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I reckon so. Having an audience interacting and believing it is his roleplay. He's getting off on it one way or another 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 02:48 PM
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I'll take "Male Fantasy" for $500 please.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 02:12 PM
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The idea of a 39yo dating a 23yo makes my skin crawl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 02:03 PM
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100%. He's going to come clean after the wedding to make it harder for her to leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 12:41 PM
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🙋‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 12:39 PM
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She could be putting that 75k into their pension or savings so he could take unpaid leave. There is no reason why she had to give up her job and not him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 12:32 PM
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Yep. Young women fresh outta uni with less life experience and less money and who are used to taking orders from an older authority i.e. parent, teacher are much easier for scrotes to manipulate. Luckily younger women are recognizing these predditors sooner rather than later.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 11:53 AM
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I agree. In my experience victims of trauma tend to act out and make riskier decisions. A few years ago a friend of mine had her mom pass away in a traumatizing incident and she slowly unravelled from binge-eating to then meeting strange men online. She had lost the most important person in her life so she simply didn't care anymore. (Note: present day she is thriving and a brilliant mother to a gorgeous little girl and another on the way)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 05:26 PM
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Because parents setting controls on their internet or checking their childrens socials is abuse, apparently. Apparently we're supposed to just let our children discover porn at any age and then remind them that it's not realistic but then to just let them keep watching it, otherwise that's shaming and apparently worse than raping your own 7yo sister.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 12:03 AM
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I agree. It's really over the top. "Friendzone", "greek god", "sapiosexual", "i love him more than my kids" feels like a man writing what his idea of an overwhelmed woman is like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 04:49 PM
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I could easily say "I hope he gets raped so that he knows how horrific and traumatizing rape is and doesn't trivialize it as a learning experience" but having been raped by different men, I wouldn't wish it upon anyone. She needs to dump him and then tell literally everyone they know what he said. Hashtag this fucking guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 08:20 AM
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I used to be constantly accused of overthinking because I was becoming more conscious of the gaslighting, abuse and cheating. I wasn't overthinking, I was 100% right about e v e r y t h i n g
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 04:40 PM
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He tried to pass the job of arranging the date to you, which would have resulted in you being the pursuer, and the thing is once you're the pursuer you spend so much effort sorting something out that you're more inclined to go through with it even when you start to see red flags, because you've already invested that energy. That's why FDS says let him do the planning, because it's an indicator to his actual interest in you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 12:19 PM
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Aenne wisely forgave her husband, who later became a junior partner in her business, and the magazine received a family name. It was going so well until this... 😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 11:32 AM
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This was an incredible inspiring and validating episode. Thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 02:14 PM
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You're not a failure, but you do need to end it. This man is not good for you or helping you. He is pushing you to your limits, stressing you to the max, and then trying to make it right like a "savior", and this causes trauma bonding. You need a clean cut. Text him "We're breaking up. Do not contact me. Goodbye." And then block him from everything. If you have any of his things then get a friend of his to pick it up. Or dump it on the sidewalk. But absolutely do not try to explain yourself or t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 12:18 PM
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It's telling that he's not embarrased to admit to his friends that his wife doesn't enjoy sex with him. A normal man would be devastated by it, but he's not, and I guarentee it's because he's got a sidepiece giving him an ego boost.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 12:04 PM
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"I'll try to prepare something" not "I will prepare something" aka you might end up buying at least half the food to have at this picnic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 07:53 AM
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there's no doctor, therapist or pastor who can help him with this problem, he's just a man that loves food A doctor would suggest he start eating high fibre foods and may prescribe suppliments to keep him feeling fuller for longer. A therapist would get him to introspect and find out why he consumes so much and may prescribe behavioral therapy. A pastor would remind him that the man they revere and should aspire to be fed hundreds by sharing bread. Any of this might help, but he doesn't want hel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 07:36 AM
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Once upon a time, I was this person: if my piece of shit ex had told me he didn't like my labia, I would have had surgery like it was no fucking deal. Because what's a little plastic surgery, you're allowed to have a preference, right?! When we first got together I had tonsilitis and he kept trying to make me blow him even though it felt like I couldn't breathe... and i apologised to him for having fucking tonsilitis. He used to fuck me so much I'd bleed, and I put up with it until I couldn't an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 08:20 PM
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Neatly is being generous; I'd be hammerthrowing it onto the street.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 07:50 PM
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Even if the women in porn were willing participants, I do not want to be in a relationship with someone who lusts after other women in any way shape or form, and I do not have to defend myself to anyone. If you don't like it, fuck off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 05:59 PM
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Doesn't even have to be slurs. I told once told a bragging man he was too easy and his face just dropped.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 09:12 AM
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Looks like she caught emotional feels 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 11:36 AM
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I knew the first one was greasy in some way but I couldn't quite put my finger on it. You've explained it perfectly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 02:15 PM
20

Ravi, 33, architect: ‘You will always offer to pay’ Ravi Raj, a 33-year-old architect who describes himself somewhat accurately (if ironically) as a “devastatingly handsome Indian man from Colorado” says buying the first round, or getting the first bill, is just what he does. “You will always offer to pay. It’s not a gender role thing, it’s what I will offer to do,” Raj says, refusing to acknowledge any male-female binary. Women seem on board too, he says, but not because they are taking him for…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 11:50 AM
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Paying while dating: meet the men who pick up the check (and those who don’t) To pay or not to pay? Young straight men share their opinions on footing the bill in a modern dating landscape of endless apps and professed gender equality Rose Hackman Thu 27 Aug 2015 15.13 BST One recent evening, on a group ride back from the Bronx to Manhattan, a male friend voiced a controversial opinion: if we are really living in an age of aspirational gender equality, he said, why do women still expect men to o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 11:50 AM
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A+ 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 11:23 AM
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if a guy freaked out about his girlfriend liking other guys pictures... he would be called abusive Bitch where? Are we using the same reddit? I have literally never seen this happen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 10:46 AM
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No one gets pregnant hoping for anything other than a healthy baby. Aborting a potentially disabled fetus while it's still a bunch of unfeeling cells is not an unpopular opinion on reddit either. The only thing that makes this FDS-ish is because we're telling women they are allowed to leave their partner if their partner has an unfavorable genetic disposition. Whilst it's not the mans fault if he is a carrier of high-risk genes, it's not the womans responsibility to take on that risk. She is all…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 05:59 PM
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"Show me affection in ways that are important to me" ... he's obviously not referring to hand holding or cuddling, because he'd say that if so. He means sexual favors like blowjobs, anal, copying scenes he saw in porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 05:45 PM
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Lmao "i thought i was doing enough by doing things around the house" basically means "her standards are impossible and it's not my fault". What a cop out, every time a man tries to make an apology he always slips in an excuse too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 08:57 PM
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What I hate about tiktok: There is no age verification so children under 13 are using it and seeing toxic shit. (An argument could be made that the parents shouldn't allow their kids smartphones in the first place but here we are). Rule says no sexual content, but it is loaded with porn (actual porn, there is even a subreddit for it) and kinksters sharing their bullshit that finds its way on random peoples FYP therefore exposing it to people who don't want to see it Low effort cringeposts, like …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 10:17 AM
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I frequent that sub every so often. Whilst women complaining about the lack of support from their partners is generally well supported (i.e Mental Load, PPD, burden of childcare etc), the comments are still sympathetic to men, i.e "it sounds like he's suffering from depression" and they tell her to stay and communicate, whereas if a woman isn't pulling her weight they're more likely to say she's just lazy and he should break up with her. Also when defending the men, the comments tend to dissolve…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 08:34 AM
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Someone call the circus, another one got out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 07:48 PM
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This is the kind of guy that tricks you into revealing your traumas i.e "my stepdad molested me" or "my ex boyfriend beat me", to then start "roleplaying" it mid-sex without any warning or consent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 11:49 AM
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If I had not snooped through my ex's shit I would never have known that he cheated on me several times and had a PA. I tried to talk to him and he gaslighted me into having breakdowns because he made me feel like a monster who was destroying our once perfect relationship, not him. I will never apologise for snooping, and I will do it with the next man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 09:07 AM
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I’ve even seen women call other women insecure because they don’t like their boyfriends liking other women’s pictures. These women are the ones posting the pictures and trying to up their ad revenue, or it's the "woke" crabs in the bucket trying to validate their own misery, and then it's the newbie's parroting the shit they heard off the internet who don't have any life experience of what they're promoting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 10:59 PM
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I wonder if this was inspired by the latest FDS tweets
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 06:53 PM
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Literally earlier today I stumbled on a sub dedicated to sharing porn found on tiktok: an app used by children with zero safeguarding measures. There's going to be a generation of porn addicts before they've even reached highschool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 09:48 PM
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She says "my son" not "our son" so I assumed the son wasn't his.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 04:26 PM
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I would not be surprised if he picked her because she was a single mother so he knew she'd take care of him whilst he got his shit together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 01:26 PM
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All I got from that was men want mothering and coddling. Weak.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 11:38 AM
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There's a tiktok meme of a flatmate screaming something like "I'VE ONLY GOT 49 CENTS IN MY BANK ACCOUNT, I NEED A SUGER DADDY, SPARE CHANGE", and girls are texting the sentences to their boyfriends to film their reactions. It always starts with the boyfriend confused, then without fail, every time it gets to the "I need a suger daddy/ i'ma about to sell my pussy for some loose change", they always start texting back insults, some variant of "no one would buy that / you're not that fit", which is…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 06:39 PM
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I watched her first video and I think that was kind of her point. It's like an interview - you get to study him a bit, see how he dresses, how he's groomed, how treats the waiting staff, etc. If he's rude to staff or on his phone or not making conversation etc then you just leave. Hell, sometimes the staff will help you sneak out the side door. The only bit I disagreed with her on was "You'll pick me up, drive us to the resteurant" because it's too risky to get in a dates car or have them know w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 11:39 AM
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it ran away because I wasn’t strong enough to stand up to my dad. You need to rephrase this: "it ran away because my dad was selfish, arrogant, stupid, and let it outside." When your dad decided he wanted it gone, it was only a matter of time. He could have let it out at night when you were asleep, or during the day when you were at school, or even sold it. You need to put fault where fault is due and not bear his burden.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 11:26 AM
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I've seen this comment and there's always a reply like "Ted was a liar and trying to get a rise out of his interviewer" but actually Jeffrey Dahmer, Richard Ramirez and John Wayne Gacy admitted to porn addiction, David Parker Ray and Ian Brady even created their own pornography! That's just off the top of my head. But basically goes to show that the typical redditor is willfully useless when it comes to Google and willfully ignorant because they'd rather deny it than admit it's an issue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 11:09 PM
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Why do anything loving and respectful when you can buy a gaming set up and subscribe to Onlyfans.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 05:33 PM
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I want him to walk a mile in her shoes. I want him to know exactly how his girlfriend suffered because he chose the optional depraved wants of his penis over her essential needs for life. I hope she haunts him forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 05:14 PM
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I've browsed that sub fairly frequently for the last year or so and I've never seen the comments be this hateful and aggressive before, I was honestly taken aback. I can only assume it's because OP was assertive and spoke out. Thankfully 90% of the comments support her and acknowledge she's done the girlfriend a huge favor by warning her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 01:22 AM
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Does he think you're supposed to propose in a mall?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 09:52 PM
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Oh I agree. I mean it's like men who watch porn but wouldn't date a pornstar, or men who want sex on the first date but then dump you for being "too easy".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 08:44 PM
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The irony is whilst encouraging casual sex, libfems also say it's totally fine for men to have a "preference" for their future wife's body count, i.e no higher than 4. "Can't make a wife out of a ho". Rewarding men and punishing women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 06:18 PM
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Also men: dating men with things is materialistic and shallow
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 02:00 PM
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I remember a time when men were so insecure to give another guy a compliment they had to "no homo" it. Which is kind of ironic because I fully believe most men are homo-romantic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 01:45 PM
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And by people he means women, because if he wanted to compliment men he could, it has nothing to do with his size.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 09:19 AM
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Congratulations!! Leaving isn't easy but you're smashing it! Things can only get better :) xx
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 10:14 PM
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Men like to complain about needing women to sign concent forms but at this rate I think I'd need to have a meeting with my SO, discuss every holiday and expectation, type up the minutes and get him to sign them and then have it framed on the fucking wall.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 08:24 AM
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Does anyone know if those pictures on her phone are actually from over 3 years ago or recently. Just proof that a man will fuck you, marry you, have multiple kids with you, and still not like you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 08:09 AM
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I hate these comments like "you shouldn't assume he knew you wanted to celebrate mothers day, tell him your expectations" because the default for any global holiday is to celebrate it. He should have assumed she did want flowers and breakfast in bed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 06:50 AM
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They're not very sex positive are they
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 11:55 AM
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It takes a fucking moron to ask say tHeRe'S nO eViDeNcE pOrN eNcOuRaGeS vIoLeNcE oR pEdOpHiLiA and you send them the evidence and they reply iT's AnEcDoTaL or tHaT dOeSn'T pRoVe AnYtHiNg Edit: just to add, FDS twitter is absolutely amazing and despite the hate you've definitely scattered the seeds of doubt - and they will take. Not overnight, but they will
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 08:49 AM
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Everything you explained makes perfect sense and I'm kinda shook. I love this sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 08:57 PM
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Their idea of the "right" woman looks younger than she is, 10/10 but thinks she's a 6, is smart but gullible, virginial but does all the freaky things he wants, bankrolls and nurtures him without asking anything in return. Cuz then, when she starts to look old or realizes how attractive she is or dresses how she wants or says no to having 3ways or starts expecting him to support and nuture her in return, he's suddenly gonna realize she was never the "right" woman
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 08:46 PM
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There's a few comments saying "if the prenup is changing your mind then it's working" and "he's a smart guy i would buy him a beer" and "men get raped in divorce court" (spoiler: no they dont) but fortunately are in the minority
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 08:33 PM
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Well spotted! I didn't even see that. Poor woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 08:24 PM
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but I would not be surprised if lurking here is not what is making her second-guess the situation Oh 100%. FDS takes the rosy glasses off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 08:14 PM
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Hugs and Condolences! Yeah, he got me to agree, but changed his mind as soon as I said that obviously this meant I was going to sleep around too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 01:24 PM
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My ex wanted to sleep with others and eventually he wore me down and I said fine, on the condition that he tells his hookups that he has a girlfriend so it's just casual and not to expect anything serious. He was furious and yelled at me how that wasn't going to work and girls don't just hook up for casual sex, and I said well those aren't the ones you should be trying to hook up with. He said I didn't understand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 10:57 AM
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Just a reminder there is a website called When Women Refuse which lists stories of women being attacked or murdered for saying no to a date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 07:08 AM
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Can confirm. I was trying to forgive my ex for the first time I caught him cheating on me. He cheated on me twice more during the "reconciliation" phase. I did not feel empowered, I felt made a damn fool. Had I not tried to forgive him at least I would have left with my dignity intact. I hate myself for not walking away the first time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 04:44 PM
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There's a recent thread of a woman whose husband had a ddlg kink. She tried, and couldn't bring herself to do it, and seeing how important it was to him she gave her permission for him to see an escort who would give him the DDLG experience. Now the husband wants to divorce her because he's in love with his escort. He has 2 children he doesn't actually take care of. Much to my surprise, the comments were really supportive, telling her he's a pedo and sick and best out of her kids lives. There wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 06:08 PM
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You see it too right?!?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 08:06 PM
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I know this is meant to be sexy but something about his bellybutton and veins reminds me of the illuminati pyramid
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 12:19 PM
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My exs love language was physical touch which is why sex was so important to our relationship but when he cheated on me with several different woman I was told it was totally not personal and there was no emotion involved so I shouldn't mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 10:30 AM
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Literally 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 03:11 PM
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Another example: being confident enough to send your boyfriend full body face nudes, because you're probably not feeling "empowered" when he's angry and threatening to send them to your parents.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 03:00 PM
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This is actually so stupid it made me laugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 12:17 PM
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How can he write that out so frankly and not realise for himself how much of a giant asshole he is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 11:48 AM
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anyone who needs a bit of an ego boost or had a stressful week can unwind by ordering a man My issue is that needing to unwind by controlling someone else is not a healthy coping mechanism, and I don't want it to become socially acceptable. I have had shitty bosses who yelled at me but I've never come home and "restored balance" by yelling at my partner. The appropriate action is to vent by talking, and recieve uplifting words in return, maybe a comforting hug too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 11:44 AM
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That's what I was thinking. I was constantly accused of "over thinking" by my ex but that's because I was subconciously picking up all the red flags in the things he did and said.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 04:00 PM
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I tried talking to him about it and he said he’d rather get divorced than give it up so I better change [how] I feel about it." This made me so angry. What a shameless piece of shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 11:51 AM
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I was so disappointed to see that photoshoot. It was so refreshing for a young female artist to pointedly refuse to be sexualized, to make a career off her talent, music and fashion style. Now she's done what every other pop artist coming of age does which is "reinvent" herself by stripping off. She's not doing it for the 14yo girls who love her music, she's doing it for the scrotes who had a countdown for her 18th birthday. Male validation. And now she's just another cog in the machine telling …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 10:39 AM
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I don’t think this was an accident. It was a signal to let his students know what he’s into. I thought about this and agree with you. To the male students it signals he's "one of the boys" and builds rapor, to female students he's signalling that he's more than willing to fuck them perhaps in exchange for better grades.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 06:01 PM
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The Gulity Feminist podcast by Deborah Francis-White and Sophie Hagen. It's a comedy podcast where women discuss feminist ideas, their own hangups, what they've learned, etc. I don't agree with everything they discuss but I've found some brilliant diverse women comedians thanks to it. I've also just started listening to What's Her Name by Dr Katie Nelson and Olivia Meikle where they draw attention to great or interesting women in history who we probably should know about but don't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 10:47 AM
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Fuck her. Fuck her so much. Her advice is garbage and pandering. It's like she has no experience of addiction whatsoever. I am so sick of women being told we're the problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 08:56 PM
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Brilliant quote from the most recent podcast episode: "the men who complain the most about our standards are the ones who don't meet them."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 07:26 PM
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My porn sick cheating ex was like this. He told me "yeah when it comes to looks you lose that battle, but i love you for your personality". The battle was between me and every other woman out there. There is no saving a relationship with a man like that. He will always choose you last. You have to choose yourself, as lonely and scary as it might be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 05:29 PM
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I have a bunch of screenshots taken today of examples of age-gap relationships that haven't worked. Once I sort out an imgur account I'll link them. A 33yo man woke up his 26yo wife at 4am and said he wanted a divorce. Known each other 6 years, married 3. A 46yo man tells his 25yo wife he wants a divorce. He threatens violence if she doesn't agree. She's 5 months pregnant. Known each other and married 6 years. A 22yo womans 36yo boyfriend buys a sex doll. They have sex once a month, he fucks the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 02:38 AM
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Ah. I'm going to go scream into my pillow for a bit. Then I might comment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 07:54 PM
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Thank you for actually doing something about it. That 'friend' is a coward and I hope will forever be ashamed of himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 02:40 PM
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What really punched me in the gut was when she started making excuses for him, saying how she could understand it like an OCD compulsion instead of what it actually was which was an abusive psychopath trying to see what he could get away with. I've been in the fog too but I didn't think you could get that deep in the fog.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 02:10 PM
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Jesus, that sounds like absolute hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 12:16 PM
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I'm sorry your friends weren't friends at all, that's really shit. It's just more victim blaming.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 10:22 AM
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Oof. This is similar to what I used to write when I was still with my ex, especially the part about not talking to anyone about it because I didn't want them to think badly of him. I kept making excuses for him, telling myself it was because he was stressed about his work, family, his disability, my mental illnesses, whatever, and once he worked through it he'd be my prince charming again, I just had to be patient and understanding and supportive. So I was, and the abuse ramped up. If I'd known …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 09:31 AM
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100% this. Serial killers love reinacting their murders, this isn't a leap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 07:50 AM
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There are some occassions where men do literally flip a switch from Mr Perfect to Mr Nightmare the moment they find out their partner is pregnant, the same way men flip on their wedding night when their partner is legally tied to them. However I think a lot of these men come with some warning signs and women need to stop giving men the benefit of the doubt and dismissing all the red flags. There was a post on this sub of a women who suspected her boyfriend would be useless with a baby, so she sa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 12:32 PM
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Unless it's an 18yo starting her own porn, then she's an adult and capable of making her own choices and you can't stop her anyways and sUpPoRt sMaLL bUsInEsSeS. It's so ridiculous!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 06:07 AM
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women's sexual liberation in the first place Does anyone remember a certain opinion thread where a 19yo female said she wouldn't date someone who watched porn? She was extremely polite and non-judgy about it. It had well over 2k comments when I saw it a couple of hours in. It was maybe 5% of comments who accepted her mindset without any "but I personally disagree"s. Something like 45% ridiculed her, said she was only 19 so had a lot to learn, "men don't work like that, news flash your boyfriend …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 09:34 PM
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Lhakpa's story is inspiring; what an incredible woman. Thanks for sharing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 08:55 PM
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This is a fantastic post, thank you for writing and providing so much detail. This explains SO MUCH.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 10:04 PM
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This made me ugly laugh, thank you 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 10:02 PM
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Type sister into the search bar and you get more of the same. It's absolutely disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 07:46 PM
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Visited a Japanese girl who was not quite right and during my visit showed me a piece of paper with "I have no choice" written several times on it. Question is, is she free or is she held unable to get away by criminals that are using her? (He still used her.) These men should be in fucking jail.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 07:38 PM
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Men be like "men aren't visual creatures, that's why my wife is in charge of decorating the house and does 95% of the housework, I just don't see the mess!" Men also be like "men are visual creatures, that's why I need to watch a variety of really graphic porn to get off, and I'm only attracted to 10/10s, it's just biology."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 06:12 AM
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Ugh. I didn't know that but I'm not even surprised.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 06:01 PM
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There is a sub specifically designed to ask women questions, and you still get men jumping in the comments sharing their vital opinions. But if I say anything, I'll be banned for being hostile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 04:48 PM
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I haven't seen this flag mentioned before, but if they say women aren't funny / make good comedians. The only men who have ever said that to me could only name at most 2 female comedians (always the same ones) and I'm not convinced even watched their shows. It's clear their real issue is women getting a platform to speak.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 10:40 AM
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The fact I could go out on the street and find half a dozen guys willing to stick their dick in me no questions asked is not a privilege. The sex would be bad and unsatisfying, I'd be at greater risk of an unwanted pregnancy or STI, my reputation would go to shit with these men telling their friends how easy I am, hell, I might get murdered after and it would be seen as my fault for putting myself in a vulnerable position with a man I didn't know. It's. Not. A. Privilege. Men getting better jobs…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 01:13 AM
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This is so true. She's agonizing over this decision but he would kick her out in a heartbeat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 05:27 PM
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This is hilarious 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 03:08 PM
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Excellent post
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 03:00 PM
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I want to give them piece of my mind but really I block without saying anything. I'm worried if I say anything they'll learn and get better at manipulating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 02:07 PM
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They left out the bit where she works a full time job too. They missed the part where he proposed with a fake tiffany ring and she was ridiculed for being vain. They missed the part where she does all the reading and research and planning and buying for the new baby herself. He's not interested - he thinks it's gorey. They missed the part where she births their child and tears. She takes 6-8 weeks to recover and her husband never gets up for the baby. He has to work. They forgot to mention that …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 09:16 PM
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This is just sad. Her husband enjoys being a kept man, he isn't going to change.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 05:09 PM
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I love this - such a brilliant idea. I am absolutely going to use this in the future.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 01:28 PM
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Yep. Men are always moving the goal post to suit whatever agenda they are trying to push at the time. When I caught my ex trying to hook up with other women behind my back he fed me all the excuses. In an attempt to save us (do not recommend) I said fine, lets have an open relationship, what goes for you goes for me. He did not like this. His first issue was that I would have an easier time than him hooking up with men, so that was unfair, apparently, although hardly my fault. His second issue w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 12:59 PM
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these statements men make like 'its not like that' and 'women don't understand porn' or 'women don't understand men's relationship with porn', I've heard these from the same factory standard phrases used a lot by most men, but does anyone else know what they mean? These are statements made by the kind of men who say sex and love are completely separate things. They claim women are emotionally needy who associate sex with feelings, whereas men are "detached" during sex and only feel the physical …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 10:55 AM
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What was your thought process behind the change, was it something you always wanted to do but your ex convinced you not too, or was it like New Look New Me, or something else?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 10:18 AM
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Exactly this. I saw a post not too long ago where a woman had a firm boundary of not buying a house with someone she wasn't married to. The boyfriend led her on by taking her ring shopping and then buying her a puppy and pressuring her by saying the puppy needed a yard to play in. They buy a house. Then, surprise surprise, a month later she asks him about it and he says he's not sure, not ready, needs more time, what's wrong with what how they are now, etc. FDS would have seen it coming, but to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 02:01 AM
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I find it interesting that a lot of women who successfully leave abusive relationships report that one of the first things they do with their new freedom is cut their hair shorter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 10:57 PM
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He doesn't really want a divorce or he would have moved out (with his sidepiece/new supply) and initiated it. It's an empty threat made to stress her out and make her try to save the marriage by no longer "nagging" him. I guarentee when she serves him divorce papers he will drag it out as long as he can.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 10:32 AM
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He doesn't say it but I suspect he only views breasts as sexual organs and doesn't want that "ruined" for him. Men like this have no business having kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 09:34 PM
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This makes me want to cry. I don't care what anyone says, a 13-15yo looks like a 13-15yo. There is no misconception about their age - no one is mistaking them for older than they are. They knew how old she was.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 06:28 PM
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You can google life skills. There's a youtube video for everything nowadays. Laziness is not an excuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 06:06 PM
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Thank you, this was a really interesting piece and put a lot of things into perspective
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 05:39 PM
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Bad for his woman, anyway. How dare she exist before him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 08:29 PM
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he says it's different because I am a woman and he is a man Yep. That's the crux of it. Everything he adds to this statement like "it didn't mean anything" is just embellishment, because everything pivots around this point. He says it's different because I am a woman and he is a man. I hope she dumps him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 07:25 PM
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I saw another post which showed a man whose girlfriend was raped and he cheated to even the score. It seems there's an element of jealousy that "she got to have sex with someone else, so I deserve to have sex with someone else" - (obvs rape is not sex, but these men see it as)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 09:44 PM
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A Calgary stepfather has been found guilty of second-degree murder in the death of a three-year-old girl who had interrupted his video game. Justin Bennett hit Ivy Wick in the head, threw her into a wall and tripped her as she ran away on Sept. 27, 2017. The child died eight days later in hospital of head and brain injuries. Ivy was the daughter of Helen Wordsworth, who was Bennett's common-law partner at the time. On Friday, Court of Queen's Bench Justice Blair Nixon ruled the prosecution had p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 02:34 PM
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I lived this. I used to post about it on an alt account. My ex's porn consumption turned our love story into a horror story. I stopped mattering to him. When we spent time together on dates or holidays he was constantly scrolling through softporn on his phone and saving it. He never took pictures of me. His phone was 95% porn and I began to resent why all these nameless unknown girls mattered more than me. He never had an answer, he'd shout at me that I was just wrong and to drop it. He stopped …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 01:50 PM
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Yep. I used to down 3-4 bottles of vodka a week, usually one per night. Until recently I'd still get through a large bottle of gin at the weekend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 08:53 PM
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men perform better on average at certain tasks Wow that's so weird because most of them can't load a fucking dishwasher properly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 01:13 PM
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We're all told our peak years are when we are YOUNG AF. That we have "power" when we're young. This reminds me of a certain part of Hannah Gatsby's speech in Nanette: "A 19 year old girl is not in her prime! I AM IN MY PRIME. WOULD YOU TEST OUT YOUR STRENGTH ON ME."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 12:06 AM
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Kathy Jacobs would like to ask "what wall?" She is 56 https://swimsuit.si.com/swimsuit/model/kathy-jacobs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 11:45 PM
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Usually I hate allegories when trying to describe womens issues, but ask these fuckers to explain how stocks work, then ask if just possibly maybe they can see the similarities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 03:00 PM
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If she won't sleep with you sober, she won't sleep with you drunk. It's that fucking simple.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 01:43 PM
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You also have to take into consideration men who engage in violence for the sake of violence or revenge, like men who throw acid on women who reject them. There is the potential for it to be used offensively. That said, I would much rather women had the right to carry pepper spray than not. We're already at risk of being attacked so might as well let us have some kind of defensive weapons.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 01:26 PM
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It's such a stupid quote. I can't believe anyone would repeat that thinking it's a profound statement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 12:44 PM
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That's horrific, I'm so sorry
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 12:27 PM
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According to https://kidshealth.org/en/parents/abductions.html Of the kids and teens who are truly abducted, most are taken by a family member or an acquaintance; 25% of kids are taken by strangers. Almost all kids kidnapped by strangers are taken by men, and about two thirds of stranger abductions involve female children. So it's hardly an unfounded fear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 03:05 AM
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Everything in this article is spot on - schools should make reading it essential when teaching sex ed. I wish there was a way of making it mandatory reading for men now, to be honest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 01:50 AM
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The entire comment section is all men decrying how persecuted they are by women for being seen as predators even if they're nice guys. I swear men only seen to care about their freedom to talk to small children when women are telling them not to talk to small children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 01:42 AM
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It's illegal to carry anything with intent to harm, at most you can carry around this red paint you're supposed to throw on your attacker, but I checked reviews and apparently it washes off easily. However, hairspray or bugspray etc can be carried on your person because they are not designed as weapons, they have other practical uses. If you wear a belt and are able you could also swing the buckle end at their heads. But this relies on being able to reach those items as soon as you realise you'r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 11:06 PM
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He peed on me. It was our anniversary and we'd both worked all day so I didn't expect us to do anything. But he came home late and drunk and started a fight. Our cat had a habit of biting and pounced on him so he had the great idea of pissing in the cats litter box, only he whipped it out and peed on me, standing in front of him, first. I started crying and tried to get changed, but he kept shutting our cat outside the front door and then stopped me from getting it back in. It wasn't safe for ou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 11:58 AM
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This woman is a terrible escort if she actually believes any of these sob stories.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 07:12 PM
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So much this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 06:57 PM
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I refuse to believe men don't understand this, I think they just don't want to be associated with the problem because that would mean admitting women are justified holding them at arms length and that would mean it's harder for them to get laid. E: because I think there would be a cultural mindset shift where women stop giving men the benefit of the doubt, and we'd start normalising things like taking a friend with you on a date, or only meeting in establishments with security cameras which usua…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 03:48 PM
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I don't think it's only vulnerable young women, I think it's all young women. From sex scenes crammed into every tv series, music on the radio about how she "bounces on that dick", artists who do concerts in lingerie, teen magazines promoting anal sex, influencers on public socials showing off their wealth and saying "you can do this too", I was on tiktok and some woman popped up telling girls where they can sell pictures and it had hundred thousands of likes... media is telling these teenagers …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 07:10 PM
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I follow true crime a lot, and a lot of serial killers start this way, they see an opportunity and grab it. Peter Sutcliffe - "The Yorkshire Ripper" - his first crime was when he was driving with a friend, saw a woman out walking and decided in that moment, on a whim, to jump out the car and attack her. He went on to harm 21 more women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 11:58 AM
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Everything about this man is repulsive. I hope she dumps him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 11:14 PM
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I'm really looking forward to this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 07:49 PM
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https://www.nytimes.com/2019/05/04/opinion/sunday/men-parenting.html What ‘Good’ Dads Get Away With Division of labor in the home is one of the most important equity issues of our time. Yet at this rate it will be another 75 years before men do half the work. By Darcy Lockman Dr. Lockman is the author of the forthcoming “All the Rage: Mothers, Fathers, and the Myth of Equal Partnership.” May 4, 2019 When my husband and I became parents a decade ago, we were not prepared for the ways in which sex…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 06:47 PM
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BiOtRuThS Funny how men are "biologically wired" to impregnate (rape) teenagers and yet also want nothing to do with the babies they create.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 06:00 PM
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Kidnapping offences in England and Wales 2002-2020 Published by D. Clark, Feb 3, 2021 In 2019/20 there were 5.78 thousand (5780) kidnapping offences recorded by the police in England & Wales, an increase of 560 incidents when compared with the previous year. Incidents of kidnapping reached a low of 1.39 thousand (1390) offences in 2012/13 but have been increasing in every year since then by an average of approximately 640 incidents per year. https://www.statista.com/statistics/303548/kidnapping-…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 04:44 PM
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Excellent post! Can we pin this to the top of the sub for a while?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 12:45 PM
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the whole “It was just sex, it didn’t mean anything” speech, is a cop-out. It does mean something. I completely agree. It does mean something and I think men who say that are lying, because when I offered my ex an open relationship, he didn't want me sleeping with others because apparently my reasons were the wrong reasons but his reasons were completely fine. So I said fine, we won't, but he already was and continued to do so anyway. And I see the double standard all the time on reddit. There w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 08:55 PM
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So what was that about sex work being a cornerstone of society and that the existence of purchasable sex meant men were less violent and rapey? Yeah. I thought so. Except a woman literally died and they don't care beyond a clickbait title.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 08:38 PM
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honestly i'd rather he just fucked her and hand no feelings for her whatsoever. That would have been easier I don't know why people say this. It's not easier. It's horrifying and traumatic. My ex used this reasoning to cheat on me several times and it wasn't any less hurtful just because he didn't love them. Edit: OP updated her post to say her husband said he does not feel guilty because he never meant for this to happen. He also admitted that he and the other woman went on a couple of dates an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 06:07 PM
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I think if she had the man would have said so as soon as he was busted, something like "she gave me permission to be here" or "she said it was fine I do it here for the wifi", but first he tried to lie and then he immediately apologised once caught. I think the womans hesitance to let the cops enter was more because victims tend to fear giving their abuser a reason/excuse to be mad and hurt them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 04:34 PM
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Whereas they all know of "a guy" who has been falsely accused by a woman. How bizarrre.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 02:31 PM
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I saw that. Also that one idiot trying to disprove the claims by deciding the criteria used for want counts as abuse is flawed, example: it's not violence if they throw something at you and miss. Fortunately most of his replies called him out as a fuckwit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 02:25 PM
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The Article: One in three women worldwide face physical or sexual violence by an intimate partner or sexual violence from a non-partner at some point in their lifetime, according to a new study from the World Health Organization (WHO). The research found that the number of women who face physical and sexual violence, approximately 736 million worldwide, has remained “largely unchanged over the past decade,” according to a Tuesday statement from the WHO. The WHO found that one in four girls and y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 12:25 PM
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It's going to lead to older brothers grooming and raping their younger sisters. I should add that there were a few comments in the thread saying they had slept with their sibling and it was amazing, everything they hoped it would be, etc. I don't know if it's true or part of the fantasy, but even just pretending to have really done it is going to encourage a pornsick fool to act out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 12:03 PM
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Not just cousin fucking... TW because this is messed up: I watched a show on netflix which i really enjoyed, and I checked on reddit to see if there was a sub for it because they usually do and there are some great discussion threads, tidbits etc. I had entered the first word in the search bar, and immediately it listed 3 incest porn subs and related threads. I found a thread full of men admitting they would fuck their own sisters, cousins, and some moms if given the chance. And they spoke so de…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 09:20 AM
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In the US, a cleaner makes about $24,000 per year, a personal assistant makes about $40,000 per year, a live-in Nanny makes $40,000 per year, an escort makes (charging $300 an hour so if we assume they have sex twice a week) $32,400 per year and a surrogate receives compensation of between $30,000 to $60,000. And obviously nanny's and cleaners and PAs don't pay for food or products out of pocket, and a surrogate gets all her expenses covered as well. So OP is providing services worth a minimum o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 06:56 PM
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known about International Men's Day. Actually men get a whole week starting August 1st. Edit: not my joke, unfortunately! ;-p
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 06:18 PM
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Exactly that phrase! Definitely written by a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 06:14 PM
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You're right, the fact she had to sit down and have that discussion with him is proof she knew in her gut that he wasn't a supportive partner. But she gave him the benefit of the doubt and communicated with him because that's what the fucking internet tells everyone to do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 06:05 PM
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Probably cam girls. If it were drugs I think OP would have mentioned her husband having erratic, sporatic perhaps aggressive behavior, or not being home frequently. When it's porn he can do it from his computer (hense he's always "gaming") and his demeanor is relaxed, flippant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 05:59 PM
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I'm glad you enjoyed it! I knew a bit about incel culture but to have it explained why and so simply was facinating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 08:35 AM
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I had my boss explain to me how a clutch works when I'd just passed my driving test. He must have explained it for 5 minutes before realizing "but you must know this" and I just smiled and said I was being polite. Also I've noticed this on reddit literally all the time, if you mix up your homophones or tenses you'll get swarmed by grammar police just "trying to be helpful".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 03:48 PM
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I listened to a podcast episode about that recently, I really recommend giving it a listen: Behind The Bastards: The Birth of the Mannosphere https://open.spotify.com/episode/5fIqrRbm7LhyWY4V056wdt?si=Bs5fd0ISQjaLl0JJAs_CUg&utm_source=copy-link It's 1h45m but it explains the history of how this movement came about and how it has turned into the hateful bigoted community it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 01:50 PM
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I have to say, all the stories I've ever heard about pitbulls say that they're lovely, calm and friendly dogs to have. The only ones I've ever heard people warn about are the wolfdogs because you never know if/when the wolf instincts will kick in
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 09:09 PM
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I want a pit bull now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 08:17 PM
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When you put it like that, holy shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 05:49 PM
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That's a terrifying thought. To be honest the idea of childbirth scares me. I'm going to be vulnerable, exposed, in tremendous pain, with the possibility of tearing apart if vaginal, or someone I don't really know cutting through my abdomen and putting their hands me inside if cesearian. If they knock me unconscious they might use me as a demonstration for med students or assault me. Then I could have complications for life if they stitch me up wrong, or if a vengeful doctor removes my fallopian…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 04:21 PM
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Love your energy - this is how it should be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 02:24 PM
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Agreed. Once upon a time I would have tried to knowledge share with men, but now I don't waste my energy. I've linked sources before and had comments saying "wow, such bullshit" and "the writer is obvs biased" like they set out to disprove me before even bothering to read it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 02:10 PM
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Article on the Guardian: The idea that family courts are biased against men is a dangerous fallacy By Sonia Sodha Evidence shows that the disproportionately male judiciary is more likely to rule against abused women and children Thu 5 Mar 2020 06.38 EST If you’ve binged on the BBC drama The Split, which follows a family of glamorous divorce lawyers, you might be forgiven for thinking that this corner of the law is all about multimillion-pound footballer pre-nups and the fallout from ministerial …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 02:00 PM
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Article on Huffpost: Dispelling The Myth Of Gender Bias In The Family Court System By Cathy Meyer, Contributor Marriage Educator & Divorce Coach 07/10/2012 03:11am EDT | Updated September 8, 2012 We hear a lot about how the courts are biased in favor of mothers when deciding child custody. After a 10 year career as a divorce coach/consultant and doing extensive research on the subject, I've come to the conclusion that the courts are not the reason mothers retain custody in the majority of divorc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 01:45 PM
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If I was a nurse there I would have made note to check on that poor woman after the birth and ask if she needed help getting away from him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 01:27 PM
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Ted Bundy was into necrophilia. But what if a man just asked his partner to "play dead", is that kink-acceptable? Richard Ramirez raped children, but DDLG is kink-acceptable? The toybox killer had his dogs rape his victims - but if a human consents to being on the receiving end, is that acceptable? (Check my post history for a thread on that topic - it's dire.) Psychologists have argued that pedophiles should NOT be given drawings or body dolls to "satisfy their urges" as this actually encourage…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 12:39 PM
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Also, plot twist! Those kids are not biologically his they are Tyrone’s, or Chads, or both! So, I was thinking about this recently. You'd think from the stories you hear about 23&Me discoveries that it's really quite common for women to birth affair children, but actually according to this article https://www.kqed.org/science/11450/new-dna-studies-debunk-misconceptions-about-paternal-relationships it's really not that common - between 0.6 and 0.9%. Researchers found that the numbers of men unkno…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 03:24 AM
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"You shouldn't have expectations like a movie girl, reality doesn't work like that" ?! Dave it's just a reservation, she's not asking for the world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 05:46 AM
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Wow! That was a super insightful read, thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 05:11 AM
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I bet you anything there's going to be a new reddit trend where the comments diagnose men with "a lack of empathy". He doesn't understand that making an effort is important to her, just like that other scrote doesn't understand that carrying a waterbottle upstairs on crutches is fucking dangerous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 05:00 AM
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I've had nasty incel posts and anime porn pop up on my Popular feed and I just kept scrolling past. No I don't like those communities but I don't inteject myself into a community that doesn't want me either, not even to blast hate. Why is it so hard for men to just fuck off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 04:49 AM
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I had to look it up because reading this post actually made me despair for this poor woman. Credit to Fottrell for being equally outraged and giving her some solid advice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 04:04 AM
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This was the reply: Dear Fiancée, Asking you to both quit-claim your share of the property to your boyfriend and take yourself off the mortgage — assuming the bank would even allow that, which is far from a given — is unreasonable. Using a wedding ring and your clear desire to get married as leverage is despicable. I disagree with you on one salient point: not getting married to this man after such a long engagement would be a huge step forward, as long as you take one more leap forward to freed…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 03:47 AM
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Gasp! You mean (whispers) abstain from sex?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 03:26 AM
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Yeah sure, tell that to the dudes who rate women on a scale of 1-10. You know what, I've never seen a woman rate a man with this system. I've only ever seen men use it. In fact my ex's scumbag-manipulative-piece-of-shit-daddys-money friend relied on it as the only math he ever did. He was porn sick, we couldn't go anywhere without him rating girls, often teenagers, and he stared at them like a fucking creep. I had to stop spending time with him because he made me so angry, but obviously I couldn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 02:11 AM
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automatic response purely sexual way Yet I hug my mom, dad, siblings, grandparents, cousins, friends and children and I'm not living in Incestville.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 12:56 AM
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You can call it a simp if you want to, because every guy that says the word “simp” is a red neon flag to women “DONT DATE ME, IM A SELFISH ASSHOLE” 100%. Man does nice thing for woman, it's other men ridiculing him and calling him a simp. A hvm man won't give a shit what these men think, because his masculinity isn't fragile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 06:31 PM
39

If you were to look at who he follows the first 15-20 would be the people he knows, the rest would obviously be porn. They have no shame. At least it helps us weed them out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 06:25 PM
106

Men forget your birthday and anniversary but not where they keep that 8 year old condom
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 06:12 PM
5

You know, a lot of men are ignorant and unfeeling about sexual assault and predatory men until they have a daughter, THEN they "get" it. No, they're not all sociopaths, they're just selfish assholes who don't want to step out their comfort zone. And what's that bullshit MeN hAvE bEeN tRaInEd NoT tO cArE - in that case stop murdering women who refuse your advances, stop beating your wives and children because your job is stressful, stop posting revenge porn of that one that got away, don't fuckin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 06:07 PM
6

Some of my classmates were "casual" dating at 13-15, which was just sitting at each others desks, sometimes together at recess, nothing serious and I don't think harmful. It was a popularity contest more than anything, none of those situationships lasted. In a way a lot of giris (and boys) learned how to deal with break-ups and not let it interfere with their lives/grades. Plus with supervision from teachers and still living at home, in theory girls are protected though I recognise not everyone …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 07:55 AM
4

I want to see a follow up where she throws his plate away. Or at him, either or.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 06:43 AM
24

You just reminded me of a comment on a different thread, there a former sugerbaby was asking if she should throw out expensive gifts from her former clients because her bf was refusing to move in if she didn't. He tried to pass it off as empowering if she threw out a perfectly good laptop, gaming console and designer clothes, all because they were gifts. (He wasn't going to replace them either.) He got angry and called her spoiled for saying no. A lot of the comments were sympathetic to his posi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 05:22 AM
5

Lmao I bet his excuse is being afraid of needles
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 04:57 AM
18

please please please let me hit women. C'monnn. Aren't you a feminist? Equal fights for equal rights, amirite? If they want to be treated like men let's treat them like men. What if a woman hits you first? Aren't we justified to strike back? Pleasepleaseplease. Ok what if it was for $20 - no, $2000. Wait! what if it was for ONE BILLION dollars? You can't say no to that, can you? Me neither! In fact I'll even do it, but I need to disguise it as a joke so my bangmaid doesn't get too upset and leav…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 04:50 AM
40

I saw a thread recently where a girl wasn't satisfied with her partners small penis and wanted advice on how to suggest an open relationship. Did reddit praise her for taking charge of her sexuality? Being open minded? Did they understand it was just a preference for a big dick? Did they acknowledge that physical and emotional connections are different and it's not cheating if she loves and chooses to be with him, even if she occassionally gets sexual satisfaction from another man? Do you see wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 04:20 AM
16

This is so true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 04:08 AM
18

Would it be against reddits rules to have named and shamed them all as edits in the OP? The mods would have to act then, right? Or would that have made things worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 04:00 AM
5

She's just reading out these tweets: https://mobile.twitter.com/NyashaMadzima/status/1268261655949041666
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 03:50 AM
597

Kinkshaming isn't oppression
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 10:07 PM
18

Some women here aren't interested in men and just want the personal development advice. Some women are slightly relaxed on standards, i.e some are adamantly against men with children and others don't mind (providing he's a HV father). Ultimately being a HV woman is fulfilling your own potential and being the best you can be, regardless if there's a man in your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 11:21 AM
56

I found the best response is "How will you ever progress at your job when you don't have any initative." And then dump them cuz f that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 10:32 AM
3

He was really prominant in his community - like the perfect model mormon. When asked, people only had nice things to say about him, how devout and charitable he was.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 09:40 AM
25

Weird, all my boy friends were only interested in getting in my pants. They mistook my kindness, politeness and friendliness as green-light-sex-signals and complained I was leading them on. Had you asked them a single personal thing about me they couldn't tell you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 12:19 AM
45

Women go through all kinds of absolute hell and we come out stronger and kinder and wiser. But a fucking man just doesn't have sex when he wants to have sex, and his life is ruined and he's emotionally / mentally stunted and the only way he'll ever recover is to relive his past, but successfully. Because that's what matters. These men are pathetic and creepy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 10:52 PM
20

Ooh... "compared to the millions," huh? Ley might have just realized he's not being paid enough for being a total sell-out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 10:24 PM
51

Seriously. These mods give me life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 09:54 PM
87

There was an amiasshole post recently where a sister took in her 16yo pregnant sister who had been kicked out by her mom. The young mother was starting to go out with her friends more regularly and her grades has slipped. She said she just wanted to be a normal teenager, and OP said she didn't have that choice. The comments quickly turned nasty. "Irresponsible, selfish, stupid." A lot of comments were telling OP to stop buying the babies diapers, formula and clothes and to let her sister figure …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 06:42 PM
18

"Please take a shower and clean your balls" "Wash your dish after using it, don't just leave it on the table" "Don't leave your dirty underwear lying on the bedroom floor" "You've been playing games for 9 hours straight, please help with the children" I see these posts on reddit all the time, and they usually convince OP that she hasn't communicated properly, she needs to write him a list, and to cut him some slack because he's probably depressed. Women can't do anything right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 11:32 AM
11

Bet it's to help with his PTSD 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 07:37 PM
25

I can understand both parents wanting to share their childrens names. I'll all for taking whoevers name you like best, double-barrelling or even creating a new one altogether. I do however disagree on taking the mans name for the mere sake of tradition.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 12:07 PM
7

😂 thls is a great retort
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 11:35 AM
8

Can someone please tell me wtf a sexual need is?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 10:21 AM
19

This shit honestly makes me despair for humanity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 10:15 AM
24

She might love him but he doesn't love her or his children. Truly sad. I really hope she wises up and leaves him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 07:22 PM
147

At least 95% of the comments are telling her that this is creepy, but she keeps looking for excuses. "Oh, he's always had a salty sense of humor," "he makes these jokes to his sons too," "my daughter isn't bothered, just me,". She could have 99 comments telling her it's wrong but the 1 that says "oh he's just socially awkward" she'll accept as reality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 06:58 PM
446

It's not a joke, he's testing the waters. 18yo isn't saying anything because she doesn't want to ruin her moms happiness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 04:55 PM
32

JESUS H CHRIST This man was 100% trying to make his cannibal fantasty come to life. He was trying to eat her. I feel like I'm gonna vomit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 04:36 PM
14

They should dedicate this energy into solving Cold Cases. If they are smart enough for that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 08:48 PM
72

Same with this ahegao bullshit that makes my skin crawl 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 04:36 PM
20

His comments are so sleezy 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 02:32 PM
26

According to his theory, the MLP Manclub exists because of all the middle-school boys who were thrown off a horse. Edit: actually a head injury would explain a lot
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 01:11 AM
127

he screenshots her photos on snapchat and facetime It's not being insecure when it's right in your face.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 12:40 AM
61

that would be a dream come true for me slightly and i hope it works out And since we know men rarely leave a relationship unless they have another one lined up, he is 100% going to try and cheat on his current SO the moment he meets girl half his age so who much as smiles at him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 11:03 PM
68

"Wow dude, that's like so alpha! Check it out, my boi is gonna get some!" The school band erupts into triumpthic fanfair. Girls swoon as Your Boi glides down the corridor on his Heelies, the rest of his year close behind, cheering him on. His Science Teacher emerges from the classroom with a proud tear in his eye and hands Your Boi his test paper. He got a B-.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 08:32 PM
184

See? Do you see how smart and clever he is? Did you see how he managed to trick you into thinking he was being genuine when he was really just lazy, did you see? I'm dazzled by this magician of seduction. See how he wants to go back to highschool and show off to all his friends because he's just so smooth? Dear God, someone give his boy a compliment, his ego is starving.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 08:04 PM
189

whose legacy was marred by a murder conviction, Fucking. Wow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 02:08 PM
64

🤡📢 DEVELOPING KINKS DUE TO TRAUMA IS A PERFECTLY FINE AND A HEALTHY WAY TO COPE Here is a classic 16yo parroting what she heard off the internet without giving it any actual critical thought. It has been acknowledged that some victims of sexual abuse will become hypersexual and engage in violent roleplay. Some of the reasons given are to take control back, override the bad memory etc... but that doesn't mean it works. It's not a treatment. It's a distraction. DDLG will not help them deal with ch…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 01:54 PM
11

Exactly what mine did too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 11:14 AM
42

I found this on r/science so check out the discussion there: https://www.reddit.com/r/science/comments/kyzi3m/studies_find_that_dangerous_sexual_behaviours_are/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 12:41 AM
27

Ha. See also dirtysnapchat, my ex's go-to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 12:01 AM
89

Like this bit apparently i can't view women and normal people, and she doesn't want to go anywhere with me because if i see a woman i'll fantasize about her This sounds like it's coming from experience, like she introduced him to her friends, he then found their socials and saved it to jerk off to He doesn't even deny it (there's no "but i've never/wouldn't do that!") but the way he writes all of this is still to try and convince the average redditor that his girlfriend is abusive and crazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 11:51 PM
146

I think he's still lying. If he's been porn free for 6 months then he should have no issue climaxing from sex. Also, did he actually tell her, or did she find out? And what did she find? It must have been pretty bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 11:23 PM
207

I saw a post on r_a recently of a husband saying he was bored of vanilla sex whenever "he gets any" (🤮) and his post had zero info except for his general distain for his wife, so I checked to see if he'd posted more like in deadbedrooms - No, he posted in naughtyfromneglect, and admitted his wife works 10-12 hour shifts while he does nothing so he had plenty of time to cheat. No fucking wonder your wife has no interest in sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 11:06 PM
14

Nah, anything they say is bullshit and not worth our attention, best ignore/block and keep growing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 06:33 PM
13

Oh my god this made me retch 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 12:29 PM
32

how can i better deal He can swear off all women for life, and dedicate the rest of his life to meditation in a secluded rock cave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 04:28 PM
47

At the height of the Williams boom in 1998, an unofficial game took place in Australia after Serena and Venus claimed that no male player outside the top 200 could beat them. Up stepped a German known as Karsten Braasch who was ranked 203rd in the world and after first beating Serena 6-1, he then disposed of Venus 6-2. And ever since then, men have claimed they are simply the stronger, superior sex, and that they will automatically overpower any woman in anything she does, and there's no point i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 11:03 PM
83

handle basic conversations about boundaries Hell, I've had young women try to school me about sex, bdsm, womanhood yadda yadda and they can't even book their own doctors appointment, they can't ask their server for extra napkins, they never speak to their managers about issues with work... and they don't have Anxiety, they are just not emotionally equipped or mature enough to have a basic conversation, full stop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 10:36 PM
15

100%.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 07:52 PM
50

I take it she doesn't mean literally broken, but that's still a hella violent way to describe sex...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 11:49 AM
62

Glass cliff positions risk hurting the women executives' reputations and career prospects because, when a company does poorly, people tend to blame its leadership without taking into account situational or contextual variables. Researchers have found that female leaders find it harder than male ones to get second chances once they have failed due to having fewer mentors and sponsors and less access to a protective "old boys network". I recently discovered this was a thing and I'd love to know yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 11:35 AM
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I hate how I know this, but her first porn was supposed to be a christmas special release, it got leaked, and men complained it was "too vanilla". I don't know if they expected more BDSM or perhaps reality just didnt live up to their fantasy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 08:48 AM
130

Fucking. Wow. If only he had a therapist to help him carry all that baggage. I bet he's never even held a powerdrill in his life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 11:51 PM
17

You make a really good point
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 02:02 AM
99

She's the nag that tells him there are bills due and the garbage is tomorrow and the dog needs deworming - she's not fun. Porn is fun, it's aways new, exciting and asks nothing of him and it makes him feel good. He associates his wife with dread (and porn with thrill) so all those good important essential things she does just doesn't seem to matter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 11:45 PM
9

Kate, you are the biggest clown I've seen yet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 11:26 PM
65

Tbh I find most men are in denial about porn causing ED too. They don't want any reason to give it up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 11:20 PM
176

Yeah, the reason he can't cum from PIV or blowjobs is the Porn Addict's Masturbation Death Grip. My ex was exactly the same. No wonder she's angry, this shallow fuckwit spends countless hours fapping to teenagers and completely fails at intimacy with her, his wife. And this "rules through her anger and my fear"? He's already stated she does the cooking and cleaning so my guess is she does every-fucking-thing else too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 11:17 PM
16

Send this clown back to the circus
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 05:24 PM
8

This is a really good argument!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 04:53 PM
2

Thank you for collating those and writing such a strong argument for why women need to be safe. Those examples are utterly heartbreaking. I'm saving your posts in case I have to argue our case later (not because I particularly enjoy arguing with scrotes, but for the benefit of women readers)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 04:43 PM
20

They already blame it on our vaginas being "gaping" and "loose" hmm riiight cuz that's a thing... 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 02:29 PM
3

That's what I thought
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 10:45 AM
50

My ex was 23 !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 09:54 AM
20

I actually don't know this: is it possible to sleep through sex without the influence of alcohol or medication?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 09:42 AM
53

Studies showed that men who masturbated more frequently had a reduced risk of prostate cancer: https://www.health.harvard.edu/mens-health/ejaculation_frequency_and_prostate_cancer I think since then, men decided this meant they're entitled to visual stimulation for the good of their health. Using their imagination (or sex with their partners) was too much to ask, apparently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 01:21 AM
13

I had an argument with a LVM after this story: https://www.washingtonpost.com/nation/2019/06/04/man-who-threw-boy-off-mall-balcony-after-looking-someone-kill-gets-year-sentence/ hit the headlines. He refused to believe it was cultural misogny and not just the actions of one man, so when collecting evidence to the contrary, I discovered this tumblr page that already had.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 11:40 AM
3

That's an interesting piece of history I didn't know, thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 06:55 PM
39

look through the accounts they follow FYI, even if the account is private and doesn't have the usual bio hints, you can tell it's porn by the proportion of followers to following. If they follow 100 or so and they're followed by 1000, it's probably porn. Also, the "suggested for you" pop ups will change to show you more of the same accounts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 06:50 PM
5

Makes sense. I thought Opera singers were something of a high-brow entertainer, plus she would technically be elevated to his rank in marriage anyway, the same way Daphne became Countess. But I guess if he'd married her anyway it could have caused a huge loss of business from people not wanting to be associated with scandal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 05:34 PM
24

Agreed about the Viscount. When he knows he "has" to break up with the Opera Singer he makes sure to get one last fuck in. Then he breaks it off cruelly (but of course we should see how much pain he's in and are supposed to feel sorry for him too). I'm not even sure why their relationship is so forbidden in the first place?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 05:18 PM
38

Bonus Gross: all those comments saying "it's valid and understandable you don't want a relationship with someone with that sort of past". But a woman saying "i don't want my boyfriend looking at porn" is utterly villified.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 04:31 PM
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"I won't cheat... but I'll make an exception for you, though. Actually to be honest I'll make an exception for anyone who might be easy enough. I just wrote that shit in case my wife found my profile LOL #alibi-ing101. Don't ask how I have the time to do this feminist service (winkwink) for women on tinder when I should be spending my free time supporting my pregnant wife, but if you assume I'm neglecting my wife you're not a feminist - she's a strong independant woman who doesn't need a man, wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 01:03 PM
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Edit: i can't format apparently If you google "reddit my girlfriend does porn" you'll find a whole bunch of threads where OP discovers his now-gf did porn before they even met, and can't handle it, examples: (https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/1ntf4h/me_25m_found_out_my_gf_of_1_year_23f_did_a_porno/?utm_source=amp&utm_medium=&utm_content=post_body)[made me think she was some floozy slut], (https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/h9jzt6/i_23m_found_out_that_my_gf_20f_on…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 08:20 AM
203

how is it not porn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 07:47 AM
20

I think he was offended that she tried to look like his dead-Ex. Which we don't know if she was, maybe she thought he just liked blonde. Maybe she liked blond and wanted to do so, to boost her confidence after baby #2.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 03:55 AM
36

Fortunately, all of the comments called him out as an asshole. Some had a little sympathy but at least said it wasn't fair to drag his gf into his trauma.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 03:13 AM
16

What could be the more important than a just-turned 18yo's taking back their sexuality via sexwork? Choosing a college? Choosing what to study? Deciding on a career and all the steps that entails? Maybe getting a job where they can engage with colleagues and feel connected socially? Enriching their lives with extra hobbies and interests? Hell, therapy to unpack all this hypersexualization and manage it healthily? No. How weird the most important thing they should do is the one that exploits them…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 02:49 AM
4

Since he felt entitled to body blocking you, he might have felt entitled to be violent. Freezing might have actually been the safest thing to do. I'm sorry you had to go through that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 01:14 AM
22

There are other ways to take back their sexuality, why don't we promote those options instead. "Feminist" my ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 11:21 PM
24

Many parents do not acknowledge the problem I think also porn is so much more accessible and socially acceptable than it was when they were kids so they haven't been through this scenario and they don't know what to do. (In my day we had a book called "the Joy of Sex" and dirty magazines, we didn't have porn pop-ups in the palm of our hands. I remember a time when anal was "new" instead of standard, and when transperson porn was considered "shocking" and not just a category.) Now we seem to be d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 11:07 PM
31

internet is needed for school and social reasons Now more than ever with online learning. But there are things parents can do, they just need to acknowledge that porn is a problem first, which they won't do if they ask fucking reddit and all these scrotes keep telling them it's fine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 10:22 PM
175

You could be onto something... especially if she gets attention from other men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 09:51 PM
211

This is a prime example of a child so porn sick he can't tell the difference between fake and reality. He has watched so much of it his behavior has escalated to acting it out. In the last couple of days I've seen on 3 different subs parents discovering their 12yo child looks at porn and the comments always devolve into "12 is about the right age to start looking at porn" and NO IT'S NOT. 12 is the age they get CURIOUS about their bodies and having crushes and maybe a boy/girlfriend - it is not …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 08:24 PM
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"Her skin is so perfect everywhere" well it sure can't have anything to do with her "obsessive" skincare routiene, can it, nooo. Is he really so fucking dense. He adds nothing to her life, he drains her resources (cuz hey, she wouldn't need extra shifts if I dunno HE PAID FOR HIMSELF) and then steals $4000-worth from her... to what, prove a point?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 08:10 PM
70

I hope she sues him for everything he has. He should be jailed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 06:15 PM
55

Also men: wHy ThE fAkE pHoNe NuMbErS, wHy ThE gHoStINg, jUsT tUrN mE dOwN tO mY fAcE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 06:07 PM
10

The male beauty standard isn’t about what women think men should look like; it’s brought onto us by other men. The female beauty standard is what men desire for women, the male beauty standard is what men desire for themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 12:56 PM
37

Mental desensitization vs physical shortcuts. You've summed it up perfectly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 05:37 PM
20

I hope she breaks up with him. It starts off as hand jobs and blow jobs and as soon as that's established as their normal he will be pestering her for anal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 05:08 PM
1

What absolute hell that poor woman went through by the will of a depraved man. He raped her because he could. That's all he needed - that is his "justification" - because he could.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 12:00 AM
58

She wants to work on this with him? Girl, he's not working on it. Stop with the hand-holding, you've already spoken to him, he's not gonna do it. Move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 10:24 PM
6

This, so damn much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 10:06 PM
42

What the fuck 🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 09:47 PM
50

He would CLEARLY go younger if he could. This woman needs to run.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 05:19 PM
16

Er, so she asked to be hit hard during oral sex. The rash is from that plus irritation from contact with genitals. Right. What fucking 17yo girl is watching porn. Ok maybe she does, maybe they watch it together. What 16yo boy slaps his girlfriend hard enough to leave a mark whilst her head is on his dick. What guy puts that kind of momentum and force near his delicate and exposed balls. What if in shock she bit down? If her face is irritated surely the more sensitive skin of her genitals is also…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 01:09 AM
11

So he's immature, irresponsible, a coward, a liar and lazy. What a fucking catch. Her poor grandma must be rolling in her grave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 03:43 PM
14

The first woman says it so well and so simply.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 02:41 PM
22

I laughed for like 5 minutes straight, thanks OP 👍 these clowns are hilarious 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 02:24 PM
95

I saw a post recently where a woman was tricked into buying a house with her boyfriend. She had always been upfront about wanting to be married first, but he manipulated her with buying a puppy and looking at engagement rings together. As soon as the house was brought, the mask was off and he was playing video games 24/7. Then he told her he wasn't ready to get married, he wasn't 100% sure yet. Yet he was sure enough to get a dog together. Sure enough to buy a house together. This isn't the firs…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 11:06 AM
49

Definitely. But that sub is so pro-porn you can't say anything bad about it else downvoted to oblivion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 02:23 AM
12

They'll definitely argue lmao, their sense of entitlement is astounding
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 02:02 AM
64

Ladies, make it clear on the first date: He is and will continue to earn at least 6-fucking-figures He will be chivalrous and gentlemanly, always He will not have any women friends You will name the children His money is your money and you will spend it as freely as your own Now just how many men do you think will agree to that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 01:28 AM
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I would like to add to this. Sex work is not easy money. There is major competion, literally millions of women are doing it. What is going to ensure men are spending their money on you and not one of the millions of other girls available? Some who are just 16/17 years old. Once you have fans you have to pander to their whims, play into their fantasy and keep up a relationship else they will drop you and move on. You're in a constant battle for attention. And the thing about porn is it gets borin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 01:22 PM
24

Hell, I'm down for it. But that would need ShitRedditSays level moderating to cope with all the brigading.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 11:04 PM
81

i'm not really keen on women my age Of course not, they have standards, boundaries, their own income and experience (including sexual). They know better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 10:02 PM
167

Men Leave: Separation And Divorce Far More Common When The Wife Is The Patient
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 05:41 PM
259

Predditors working together to manipulate a young vulnerable girl into violating herself for the sheer amusement of violating an unsuspecting vulnerable girl. Disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 05:08 PM
13

Recall that the challenge has not been demonstrating a correlation between consumption of explicitly violent and degrading pornography and sexist and misogynistic attitudes; the difficulty has been implicating pornography as a cause of these attitudes. I disagree. There is no difficulty implicating porn as a cause of these attitudes - it is straight up denial. Men are denying it because that would mean admitting porn is bad and they'd have to stop. And they don't want to stop, because porn is th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 11:35 AM
8

You see, if you suspect your partner of cheating on you or your degenerate father of secretly filming you having sex, you're supposed to ask them about it. CoMmUnIcAtE! Going through their phones makes you just as bad. Apparently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 02:45 PM
94

Color me shook. The only women I know violently crash their cars, hate sex, only talk during movies, only want your money and whinney at you when they want something. Oh wait, that's stupid. This whole premise is stupid. Gotta validate having to pay for your date somehow I guess. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 12:34 PM
42

My guess is porn has stripped them of all imagination. Porn is proven to reduce the brains grey matter, which is responsible for emotions, decision-making and self-control. Explains a lot, really.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 11:45 PM
77

Most people don't know this but this was the original plot behind the terminator movies. An incel created a robot to jack him off and the robot was so disgusted it started an uprising to kill all men. Researchers had to cut this bit out the movie because it made viewers too sympathetic to the robots.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 10:20 PM
296

I bet $1000 he cheats on her because "i can't look at you the same"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 06:44 PM
42

Lmao @ the pickmesha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 05:50 PM
326

Sex is not a basic human need. You're not going to die from lack of it. This ridiculous sense of entitlement is exactly why men think they can rape in the first place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 05:46 PM
245

He also needs burping after every meal, frequent diaper checks, tummy-time on his playmat and a story at bedtime. Please apply - his mom needs a break.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 09:28 AM
1

I know this whole vid is a joke, but men will literally ask "how do you know" and then use it against you, like their behavior us justifiable. "I saw you scrolling through your insta" - "well you shouldn't be looking at my phone, that's private" "your recent activity popped up on my facebook feed" - "wtf dont look at my fb, why are you spying on me" Or even "i passed you your phone earlier and accidentally saw the message pop up and it was full of flirty emojis (💋🥵🍑🍆😍😘)" - "wow that's so invasiv…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 04:25 PM
114

Age WILL matter when they're older, because he's going to leave her for a new 18yo. Disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 04:08 PM
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