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CULTURAL MISOGYNYc_a_t_lady/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 11:33 AM
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I felt really disappointed when I heard about what he was actually like. I used to follow his content and seeing it kept up my hope for "there are some good men out there", and this was a big letdown. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying there aren't any HVM. But often when I have felt like someone could be an HVM, they've disappointed me, which makes me lose all my faith in them and strengthens the "illusion" of there being no hope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/22 05:13 PM
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I'm sorry that happened to you, and I think that's an understandable reaction to it. I always feel a bit uneasy in a certain neighbourhood, where a while ago I had an uncomfortable encounter with a man who seemed threatening and was possibly a bit intoxicated. Not to go into the specifics of the situation, but it was pretty late (around 8 pm), there weren't really people around and I felt genuinely scared and thought he could hurt me. I have to be in the area quite often, but always when I am th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/22 10:58 AM
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Oh no! That sounds so frustrating. 😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/22 05:41 AM
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The expectation definitely plays a big part! When I was growing up, I wasn't expected or let to do basically any chores at all or to do things on my own. And you can see that from my abilities since I had a harder time starting to learn them later on when I finally got the opportunity to do something. However, something I learned despite never facing any pressure was a certain type of politeness when visiting people. Such as offering to help with setting the table and cleaning afterwards when I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 06:46 PM
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That sounds about right! I'm not a native English speaker, so I'm actually not sure if I have even come across it. Maybe once or twice? It just sounded like a term from "the white wokeness -dictionary" in this context.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 05:29 PM
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I think she would mean "men from racial minorities" or such, in which case she should just use "racial/ethnic minorities" or "men who face racism" if she wants to sound less descriptive. I'm not saying "racialized" is incorrect, or not preferred by racial minorities, because I can't speak for them. But it quite frankly sounds like someone who was "turned into another race" with some hocus-pocus. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 02:55 PM
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Congratulations! 🎉💍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 02:45 PM
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"Hey! How are you?" "Pretty delusional, cocky, cheap and condescending. Hbu?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 10:01 AM
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"I behaved with basic decency without you even asking. Where's my gratitude cookie?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/22 10:12 AM
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Great advice! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 If you need to wonder about someone's approval, maybe ask: "what would my future self think about this?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 11:34 AM
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I think it can be a little bit of both! 🤔 I have come across women saying that they engage in casual sex because it makes them feel desirable and wanted. Women often have an easy time finding a casual sex partner, and if that's the only time she feels good about herself, it can feel like a simple quick cure. Others might do it because liberal feminism has made it seem like it's "empowering". Or it can feel like a rebellious statement "men slut-shame women so I'm going to stick it to them and not…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 02:59 PM
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Happy birthday, lady! 💕👸
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/22 07:29 PM
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Men who love and look up to Barney from How I Met Your Mother 🚩, while usually at the same time hate Robin and Lily (I'm not saying they weren't problematic at all, but Barney was way way way worse). 🚩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/22 10:04 AM
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Please do, ladies! 💕 And also get them to your lady friends or relatives, if you feel like it! I bought some for my sister because I don't think her boyfriend really does that. 💐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/22 08:11 AM
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It was behind a paywall, but I bet that's a good discussion! And something about consent to clarify is that simply agreeing to something shouldn't be enough. There needs to be informed and enthusiastic consent. For example, if somebody does it because of a lie they were told, that's not valid consent. Or if they do it because they feel pressured or scared. "Yes" isn't consent if "no" isn't an option.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 04:43 PM
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Honestly, if you find yourself wondering and questioning whether or not that was a neg, often that's an indicator it's a neg. Of course, there are exceptions. But if something "random" he says makes you feel self-conscious, then it might be a neg. Such as bringing up a small feature of you as a joke, that you could feel insecure about (like an unusual facial feature or your body type, "a big nose like that must make wearing glasses easier, they could never fall off") or saying a compliment but a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 04:37 PM
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Yes! It's so weird to think. I'm 19, and I still couldn't date a 16-year-old. It simply still feels too young for me. Then how I determine what's too old for me, is that I ask: "If I was as old as they are, would I date someone of my age?" And if the answer is no, then they're too old. So for example, I wouldn't date a 25-year-old, because if I was 25, I wouldn't date a 19-year-old. For them it seems to be the opposite: "If I was her age, would I date a woman who's as old as I'm right now? If th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 04:19 PM
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Ugh, yes. 🤢 Pedophilia all around. This reminds me of how some older men (30-60) date or try to date 18-20-year-old girls (I've been hit on even by over 50-year-old men who knew a big age difference was an issue for me, and they came to ask if "our age difference was too big for me". What did they except? That what I meant I only wouldn't date over 80-year-olds? 🤨) and then say it's not creepy or problematic because she's legally an adult. However, you just know that if the legally required age …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 03:54 PM
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I agree. The last sentence sounds like something you'd say when you try to make the other person believe you're clueless. But if it was actually the case, I feel like he wouldn't mention it that way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 06:56 PM
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"If you aren't ready to let a guy put his fist in you, then you're too limited and stuck up. No wonder you'll stay single." Yeah, I bet that would be her loss. /s Why are all these guys saying how "if you don't do X and Y and let him treat you poorly, you'll be single" as if being single is worse than a sucky relationship? "You'll always be single with those standards." If nobody I could date can meet my standards, then good if I stay single.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 04:50 PM
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Yikes. Not a fair comparison. I came across this post on Instagram a while ago, in the comments a few ladies were pointing out how that wasn't equal at all, and some men complained to those women about saying that. Basically about how good women make sacrifices when they love a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 08:45 AM
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There are a lot of red flags in your story. I understand that after a long time of being together it can feel harder to "throw it out", but it sounds like that would still be the best decision. He doesn't seem to be the one for you. And all the time you use in an unhappy or uncertain situation is time "thrown away" from focusing more on you or finding someone who deserves you. Good luck, I hope deep down you know what's for the best. 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/22 07:25 PM
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This was overall horrible to read. It just screams how he doesn't consider women as humans but as objects (not that that's rare), the text, and how he talks about us "females", dating and sex, just shows his lack of respect for women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 02:51 PM
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I love the show and have seen seasons from 1 to 7 several times, I also majorly like the characters. Moreover, I agree that Terry seems to be one of the most HVM characters in the show. That said, I agree with your commentary. That wasn't the greatest relationship and watching shows through FDS lenses makes me more critical of them and the characters, even though B99 has created the main characters in a way that it's hard for me to simply dislike them. Some characters might do questionable or "L…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 06:12 AM
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Yikes! Time to cut him out of your life, sis. It can be so disappointing to find out your friend is a LVM, I'm sorry that happened.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 09:24 AM
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Sadly them telling themselves that doesn't make it even nearly true. It would take a book to go through why this is more than wrong. But to start with, nowadays women rarely get any of the "exclusive" benefits, and the "common benefits" often aren't actual benefits for women. Any relationship doesn't positively affect a woman's status and sadly the sex is usually disappointing for her, being beaten in bed or having 5 minutes of sex that stops when he comes isn't a benefit. And since when has it …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 03:09 PM
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I think with writing or reading erotica the question is more about what type of erotica it is. How it plays out, what's dynamic, is it SA etc. I could almost see myself writing romantic "light" erotica. If the writing is weird fanfiction or sexual assault, then that's a red flag. But if it's "regular erotic writing", then I suppose I don't see anything and with it, even though I'm open to reconsidering my view. I'm quite interested what are others' feelings on this because it's something I've th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 07:39 PM
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She said she "knows she's going to die alone", and not bitterly. Unlike the bitter men with high standards who complain about how virgin supermodels that will offer you a BJ 3 times a day and don't have any expectations whatsoever won't date them, she just said what she wants and clearly would be okay with being okay. She's not complaining, being bitter or trying to force anyone to date her. She just simply stated what she wants. I've never understood why in the world do people care so much abou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 06:22 PM
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That sounds like such a hard situation. I'm sorry you have to go through that, and I hope you'll feel better. ❤️‍🩹 What he did was extremely shitty and you deserve better than that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 01:48 PM
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For real. What did he order for them? A cup of water and an apple to split?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 04:01 AM
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After a year women would be asking men to fuck them? Yes, of course. Because as we all know, throughout history, most sex strikes were held by men. Most men would simply give up before most women would.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 06:47 PM
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He sounds despicable, but at least he's great for field research!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 02:41 PM
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I see where you got confused, sis! Just because he treats you like his servant doesn't mean you should treat him like your king. But for real though, many women "treat him like a king" and still get nothing. You can't change an LVM with your treatment, because they already got exactly what they wanted without having to give you anything. So you won't see any extra effort and you surely won't "be treated like a queen" because to an LVM you're basically a servant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 05:41 AM
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Oh yes, definitely! Almost all men that I've encountered being critical of women lifting are either toxic and misogynist "gym bros" or men who don't lift at all (like some middle-aged men with beer bellies and a hairline which is so far away that it just entered Narnia). Real HVM-lifters support and encourage their partner's lifting. 🏋️‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 02:58 PM
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That's a great strategy! I lift, and LVM's reactions could indeed be a good indicator. For example, if somebody's reaction to my gym enthusiasm is something like "Just don't get too bulky", "You shouldn't, men don't like muscular women", "I don't think lifting is for women/maybe you should stick to cardio", or "oh really? It doesn't look like it" then it's a 🚩. Also, men who make comments about women only training their butt or are making it sexual are a red flag. Edit: Forgot to mention the men…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 02:28 PM
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I grew up fat as well and ended up losing a lot of weight later on (from 16 to 18), and while I didn't pay attention to what type of people treated me poorly, I definitely noticed the biggest treatment change from men. I'd say people generally started to treat me better when I became "normal weight" (which is quite common), but there was more change in the behaviour of men. Now I am thin and suddenly they act all sickly sweet and greasy smile trying to neg me into giving them a chance. I ain't g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 03:00 PM
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My cat was good company as well! 🐈
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 02:51 PM
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It's always better to be single than to date someone who doesn't meet your standards and satisfy you! And we can buy ourselves a gift. It would be better than the one some LVM would've bought for you anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 02:15 PM
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It's sad to see. I feel bad for the women, including many ladies that are close to me, who don't get appreciated enough in relationships. 🙁 For me, however, my Valentine shall be my school books! 📚
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 02:12 PM
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Oh, definitely! 😂 It seems like a lot of us discovered it through somebody hating on it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 02:06 PM
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That's wholesome, good for them! 💕 It's refreshing for once to see teenage boys treating women (or girls) nicely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 12:48 PM
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I found it in either the "nice guys" -sub or something similar (where they make fun of a certain group), where somebody in the comments mentioned FDS and said how toxic and delusional it was. One of the main reasons I went to Reddit was to see these "messed up" groups (out of curiosity), so I obviously went to check it out. At first, I just was a bit dissapointed, because the descriptions that people made in the comments had me expecting this to be an absolutely absurd and shocking sub, but I ju…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 07:34 AM
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I sincerely hope there's never a point in my life that I'd skip work to suck 🍆 or have sex otherwise (particularly if the work doesn't completely suck). 😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 05:58 PM
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While I can't tell you what to do, but I recommend you trust your instinct. It sounds like you feel unsure about it. If you need to question it too much, not just to consider it, then that could indicate you don't deep down want to do it. If the feeling based approach isn't for you, then you can try to consider the pros and cons of the situation. What would a certain decision mean from a practical perspective and how could it affect your future? And would you be too attached to the situation (wo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 06:51 AM
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Happy Galentine's day everyone! 👸🎉 Don't forget your friends and yourself on Valentine's day, even though it's obviously such a romance focused time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 06:02 AM
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Luckily it's most important that you ended up leaving the circus, not whether or not you were part of it! ☺
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 05:57 AM
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Such an informative post, thank you. 💕 Nordic countries are generally considered "progressive" and "equal" even though there are still so many equality issues. Several people claim that in these countries they have established equality already and that "misogyny isn't an issue in this place anymore". 😬 Even though actually there's not a single country where true equality has been established, it's still easy to say that certain countries are "progressive", because, as scary as it is, compared to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 04:41 AM
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"Do you want to watch IT?" "I couldn't. I'm so afraid of clowns!" "Wait really? I had no idea! I always thought you liked clowns since you're dating one."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 04:20 AM
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Fellow 19-year-old, who found FDS at 18, here. I'm also thankful for FDS because I believe it will help me avoid some terrible experiences I likely would've faced with my past pick-me attitudes. I'm genuinely so glad if you're doing better now! 💕 Best of luck with your future. ☺
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 03:16 AM
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Sir, I feel like there might be another reason why women don't want you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 02:08 PM
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Those two titles go well together! "I tried to suck my own junk today." "Yeah... I think now I might be less obsessed with finding the one."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 02:06 PM
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Yes, exactly!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 03:13 PM
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Oh, yes! Put on your power suit and be a badass! 👸
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 07:17 PM
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I agree! It's definitely more "woman negative". I'd say the culture is sex-negative/positive depending on which one benefits men the most. It's sex-negative in a way that women embracing their sexuality (through being an active participant and wanting to experience pleasure) and having a sexual history is seen as "slutty" and disgusting. But sex-"positive" in a way that refusing to be a sexual object to a man, something sex is done to rather than someone it's done with, makes you "a prude" or it…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 07:12 PM
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It seems like Valentine's day has become strongly about pushing romance and the need for a relationship to single women, to make them feel desperate and lower their standards, while pushing sex and porn filtered stuff to taken women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 06:04 PM
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Also, something to look out for, is that some guys will try to use valentines day to get women with low effort or who's clearly out of their league. Wishing that single women would feel more desperate around that time (because sadly many do) and lower their standards. During valentines day there's even more romance stuff everywhere. Even though it can feel like a hard or annoying time, don't lower your standards. That never pays off. And after all, it's just like any other day and the possible d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 04:09 PM
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I could only laugh at him! 😂 My first thought was that this would be a satire about (especially TRP and MRA) men's bizarre expectations. However, I've seen people make similar absurd lists, so sadly he might be serious. Even if he is completely serious, I still find this so terrible that it's hilarious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 03:33 PM
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Again them with their biphobia and misogyny. 🤦🏻‍♀️ He's absolutely ridiculous. I've previously gotten bizarre biphobic (and misogynist) messages and they all just show that these people have no idea of what bisexuality even is. Being bisexual isn't being "half gay", it's being bisexual. There are different types of bisexuality and the attraction towards genders can also be different. Additionally, a big problem in wlw relationships is the homophobia and sexualisation they face simply because of …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 07:25 AM
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Not really clever, but: "There's a low quantity of women who date women and low quality amongst men options." "I have standards." "I'm not looking for a relationship. If I encounter someone who meets my standards, then I'd be open to that possibility, but it's not my goal or intention." (Ironically said) "Based on my calculations I estimate that the possibility of me finding a suitable partner who'd also be interested in me is under 1%, so based on these probabilities it's unlikely I'd ever find…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 06:27 PM
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I say yes, and nowadays I also often clarify that I'm not a liberal feminist though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 06:19 PM
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An HV person should be able to take accountability for their actions and this includes admitting if they are wrong. This goes even for "small arguments". For example, let's say that you are talking about a movie, and you think it came out in 2002 while he thinks it came out in 2006. If it turns out that your guess was correct, an HVM could be able to admit "you were right/I was wrong" where an LVM would possibly get a bit hostile, defensive or say something among the lines of "whatever, it doesn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 06:45 AM
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But hey hey, it's okay for men to do whatever they want, as long as it's his kink! It's completely harmless because it's just a kink. 🥺 Let's not be prudes here. /s And we should remember that the approval doesn't apply to women and their desires. Women's sexuality is just supposed to conform with the man's wishes, and the acceptable kink for a woman is the one that works out with the man's kink, which for the woman means most of the time being submissive and degraded.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 10:27 AM
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I'd choose boring over an arrogant asshole who's offending me, every day of the week. 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 01:53 PM
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I used to have low self-esteem and low standards. I lost around 65 lbs, and a bit after losing weight I found FDS so my standards a lot got higher. 🎉 I guess that during the process of losing weight my standards got maybe a tiny bit higher, but not significantly, sadly. Mainly because my self-esteem and sense of self-worth were still low which is something FDS helped me with! Now that I've started to recognize my self-worth and while I'm still going towards my new fitness goals, "improvement" do…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 07:57 AM
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Yesss, go get it. You deserve it, Queen! 🎉 More women should get to have the type of incredible sex they desire (if they want it).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 06:15 PM
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Your feeling hurt is understandable, and it's surely rough emotionally. I recognise that you have a bond with him, but that doesn't mean he's right for you. It might not be easy, but you should leave him. Just because it hurts, doesn't mean it's the wrong choice. Additionally, you'll hurt more in the long run if you stay in this relationship. The things you mentioned alone are more than enough of a reason to break up. He isn't going to change, he'll just become a better liar. You deserve better …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 06:06 PM
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Yes! 🎉 Love the fact, not the fiction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 12:02 PM
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Yeah, that's pretty much it! 😊 Society and other people can shape our motivations, and make us feel like we want to do something, even though actually we wouldn't consider doing it if the societal messaging was different. For example, a person who isn't ready to have sex might do it anyway. And then tell themselves that they're ready because their friends are sexually active and because they've come across so much sex-positive material. Or there have been situations where someone I know has want…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 01:54 PM
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I get what you mean! That's insightful. And just to clarify, I wasn't talking about false consciousness. Sorry if I phrased it unclearly. 😊 What I meant was more about how the culture and our norms form our ideas of what's considered something we should want to do. For example, pre-FDS I got curious about sex work (didn't do anything luckily though, partly because of my slight fear of touching) and considered about trying to become a dominatrix. Even though I felt a bit uncomfortable with the id…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 01:21 PM
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We also need to ask what caused a person to make a certain choice. Did they actually willingly want to do that, or had the culture made them believe they want to do it? Was it really their choice or do they just feel like it was their choice? What causes a person to choose something could be a 200-page long book. But what I mean is that the romanticisation of sex work and casual sex can make people feel like that's something they should want to do, which can cause them to think they actually wan…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 11:39 AM
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I felt a bit upset as well and I didn't listen to the whole episode this time (I've listened to her podcast before). I've been aware that I disagree with them on some values (like sex work), but I've generally liked at least some of their content (and I suppose I likely will continue to follow them). And I'm often okay with viewing content from people I disagree with to some extent. But I felt like they went into the episode with "biases". By that I mean they weren't familiar with the sub, but t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 11:32 AM
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If I remember correctly, some articles, memes etc. Might get removed if they've been posted already.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 11:20 AM
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I'm so glad if my generation is starting to have resistance to the overly sex-positive movement! 🎉 Even though it seems like they are regardless trying to keep the movement going and I still come across a lot of normalisation of violent and casual sex. Also, BDSM and porn use appears to still be extremely common.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 10:05 AM
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That goes for you as well! ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 01:10 PM
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The idea of women's value decreasing is disgusting and also so harmful. Women don't "hit the wall", society just puts more emphasis on women's youth and wants women to fear running out of time, so they'd settle for less than they deserve out of concern of missing out and that it is too late soon. I'm 19 and pre-FDS I used to have a feeling that I didn't want to live past 30. I'm suicidal regardless, but I held this strong belief that for some reason especially after 30 my life wouldn't be worth …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 12:15 PM
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That's such a wonderful plan. Have fun! 💕 I'm not sure yet what I'll do on Valentine's day, but what I do know is that I'll focus on myself or my friends and family (and at least I'll study for a while).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 07:56 PM
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Basically, each of them expects women to withhold having sex with anyone but them, and then to be ready to do it with them right away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 07:50 PM
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The pre-owned car and other object metaphors are so ridiculous. I've come across people saying stuff like "I bet dating a virgin woman feels like finally getting a new car instead of driving a pre-owned one", "men want virgins because would you rather to have a pre-owned car/used shoe/already chewed gum or a new car/a new shoe/gum others haven't chewed?" And "as a response to when someone says virginity doesn't matter* If you buy a new pair of shoes and wear them they lose value". Maybe we just …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 08:24 AM
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Well, I suppose that's a way to say "I don't support sex toys, because then women might notice what pleasure can feel like, and they won't just settle for unsatisfying sex".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 06:18 PM
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I dislike this as well because I feel like women rarely get genuine compliments, at least not from men. Always when I get compliments from men, I feel like there's some ulterior motive, so they don't feel good or uplifting. The only compliments I've gotten from men that have felt authentic have been from my relatives or a professional of some kind (like a teacher, a psychologist etc). Additionally, a lot of "emotional support" from men would also contain ulterior motives. If they support you in …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 01:18 PM
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So ABCDEFU is a woman telling a man he sucks and that she doesn't want to see him ever again, but a male version is a man basically telling a woman he hopes she'd die ("take the breaks off your car")? Sounds about right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 08:45 AM
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Here's to voluntary celibacy, Queens! 👑 🥂 I'm 19, a virgin and bi myself, and not really interested in casual sex either. With men because of the several downsides and with women mainly because I think I'm the type of person who would develop feelings and end up heartbroken if she didn't feel the same, so in both cases, there would likely be at least an emotional cost. I'll stay voluntarily celibate until I come across a person with who I want to have a relationship (and they want to be with me …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 07:41 PM
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Agreed. Disliking cats is a bit of a red flag for me. Preferring dogs over a cat or being allergic isn't a red flag, but just incompatible, as you mentioned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 08:40 PM
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Definitely! I, in general, dislike ableist or discriminative language. But I'm also on the spectrum and that type of usage of the word indicates some, more or less subtle, biases they hold and I don't want to date someone like that (or other discriminatory people either).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 08:33 PM
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I'm not sure whether these are that weird, but just some random deal breakers for me personally. • Similarly, refuses to eat fruits or vegetables. • Uses "autistic" as an insult, or otherwise uses slightly ableist language. • Doesn't want cats (because I want to have cats in the future. Somebody preferring dogs, for example, doesn't say anything bad about them as a person). • Hates some female singers, but can't tell why. • Comments other people's eating (not talking about giving health advice o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 07:18 PM
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I think I might hate him too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 06:24 PM
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I would rather die alone than settle for a man that I’m not attracted to. This! ❣ And in general, I would rather never have a relationship, have sex, kiss anyone, cuddle, go on dates or whatever than settle for something that doesn't increase the quality of my life and is barely mediocre. A relationship isn't a value on its own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 06:33 PM
5

Happy NYE everyone! 🥳 I don't really celebrate NYE myself. But I went to the gym and for a walk earlier. After that, I studied a bit and now I'll probably spend the rest of the evening studying for a couple of hours more, then maybe eventually reading for a while and watching some Netflix, because it's fine to chill a bit too! ☺
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 02:19 PM
26

How does it feel to be a f3m c3l? 🤖 The website doesn't recognise the term. Did you mean "volcel" or "I won't sleep with anyone who I'm not sure I'd enjoy having sex with because I prefer to not have sex at all than to have bad or mediocre sex"? 🤖 How does it feel to be single and alone with your sTaNdArDs? It feels quite nice, thank you. 😊 After all, I prefer to never have a relationship over having a relationship that doesn't make me happy and add value to my life. A relationship isn't a goal …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 02:26 AM
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Honestly, I'm almost convinced that a big portion of the positive posts made by "sex workers" are actually written by men who try to make SW seem more appealing and therefore keep up "the good" reputation of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 03:17 PM
14

What? 😟 You're saying I won't end up being some man's servant and a sex doll? Oh no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 05:57 AM
28

They look wonderful. Thank you! 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 12:05 PM
10

I'm loving these. Your sketches are wonderful! 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 04:17 PM
3

The thing is that most of the people I've seen posting about that (I'd say 90-95%) have been women. And if there has been criticising in the comments (such as under a post talking about how it's okay for men to be vulnerable and cry), it has mainly come from men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 04:11 PM
94

Sweet home Alabama, I suppose!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 07:18 PM
3

I'm quite young and I'd say I'm currently still a bit naive, but I definitely was a lot more naive pre-FDS. I had (sometimes still have) a really hard time noticing if someone was lying to me or even being manipulative. Thinking about the stuff now later on (in "friendships" or such), I've believed so many obvious lies. This makes me feel so glad about finding FDS before having any dating experience because I could've ended up in such a toxic and manipulative relationship. And I agree that findi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/21 01:24 PM
21

Personally, I'm not sure how big of an age gap I'd be okay with. I've never felt that comfortable with an idea of a big age gap. On top of that, I'm 19, and I feel like especially at this point age is more significant, because the development of the person (mainly talking about the brain) is crucially in progress and a few years difference in age can have big developmental distinctions (for example I was way different three years ago, than I'm now, and I'll likely be different in a couple of yea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 01:42 PM
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He should just communicate better! Also, hasn't he heard that sex can be just as great without orgasms?? /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 01:26 PM
403

I wonder why it is always women who have to "work on their insecurities" and not men who need to work on their porn use. Okay, just kidding. I know it's because every issue is a problem that the woman is expected to solve and because "porn is healthy and good for you".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 05:12 PM
11

the cost of $5 (assuming they pay for your coffee) Based on what I've heard, they don't. 🤭 Even pre-FDS I wouldn't have been able to see a coffee/a drink "date" as an actual date. I've some sort of strong association with getting a cup of coffee to platonic relationships, probably because that was a common activity for me and my friends (or family members) to always do growing up. So if somebody would've asked me out for a cup of coffee (I only got to a legal drinking age around the time I found…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 11:37 AM
27

Can you imagine using your job for invasion of other people's privacy for your sexual desires, especially if they're towards children, and not getting fired?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 07:01 AM
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(My apologies if the explanation sounds strange, the forum discussion wasn't in English, so I'm just trying to translate the basic concept.) I once came across a discussion online where someone asked if maintenance men etc look into the laundry baskets or drawers (to find sex toys) if they know the place belongs to a woman. There were quite a lot of men who were saying they do and almost acted like it was an obvious thing. Some people weren't maintenance workers who said that they would if they …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 02:06 PM
1

I agree. It's surely a difficult topic and there are definitely several other factors that make it harmful. My comment was rather just a really simplified version of an extremely complex issue!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 06:21 AM
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I used to have a hard time seeing why prostitution was a bad thing. But then I kinda recognised the difference between prostitution and "basic" jobs. In basic jobs, the person is getting paid for their labour, but in prostitution, they're being paid for their body.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 05:12 PM
10

Maybe a bit off the topic, my apologies. I haven't had sex yet, but I feel like if I happened to end up in a straight relationship I'd want to follow the "she comes first" -policy (or she comes first and then comes, comes and comes again). Because, from what I've heard, after coming, many men don't have so much interest for the sex to continue/to make their partner come anymore (which many don't have interest for to start with). I however know that I wouldn't lose my interest in sex after coming…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 06:41 AM
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Lately, I've talked to my dad a lot about the sexual harassment and attitudes women face, even though personally I haven't faced "severe" sexual harassment (mainly messages, some 🍆 pictures and a few comments on the street). I've talked about the harassment and attitudes women face more in general terms. While he doesn't fully understand, it seems like he's at least trying to listen and learn to understand. He has even admitted that he doesn't have that much awareness of these topics, but that h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 04:12 PM
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I usually give people the benefit of the doubt over mistakes like that. It helps that I don't give a fuck when people make a mistake. Same! I used to be the type of person who often believed the best in people or assumed that their "weird" actions had a reasonable explanation. FDS surely helped me to be more aware and critical, but when it comes to things like this, I'd probably assume it was a genuine mistake. Also, I agree with your later point! It sounds like such a strange strategy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 08:27 PM
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If somebody calls me "Lisa" I'd just assume they mistook me for someone else and keep living my life. Maybe I'd think for a second: "That was odd. Would it be my moral obligation to correct them so they don't think their acquaintance was being cold to them?" But most likely I'd just continue my ordinary life without sudden developing feelings for this guy. Though from now on, I perhaps have a tiny consideration in the back of my head that they might be trying some weird manipulation scheme on me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 05:53 PM
14

"Kiss my (uh oh)" is also pretty good!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 05:18 PM
14

I think I really needed to hear this today, so thank you! 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 12:55 PM
4

It's horrible that it's so hard for women (and other SA victims) to find safe spaces to talk about those horrible experiences. I suppose there are some support groups in real life where people can talk about their experiences, but understandably for some, it's impossible to actually talk about it, which is why the possibility to anonymously write about it would be great. It sucks that some people are ruining that opportunity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 07:15 AM
6

While I've never wanted to be dominated myself (pre-fds I used to be into femdom though), I can't believe I used to be so supporting and approving of BDSM before FDS opened my eyes. How did I think this can be part of healthy sexuality?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 02:03 PM
19

"Modern women are ruined!! They should be submissive traditional housewives like back in the day, instead of focusing on their careers like how all these feminists do!" "I want to be a traditional housewife!" "Fuck off, lazy golddigger!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 07:05 PM
298

I came across a quote once saying "Men don't age better than women, they're just allowed to".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 08:53 AM
11

Same. I guess he's trying to say he likes smaller boobs?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 08:50 AM
75

It's wonderful to hear that you were able to take that hard step. I'm so proud of you! ❣ (I was gonna say 'demon', but that would be offensive to demons) Even demons would roll their eyes at his presence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 12:11 PM
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Checking out other women isn't the same as "window shopping" because women aren't products. If you buy a new pair of shoes, you aren't cheating on your other shoes and they won't cry if you have several pairs. Because objects can't feel bad about someone having multiple of them, looking at other products or liking one item more than the others, since they're incapable of having emotions. Women, on the other hand, are not. Cheating or checking out other people is morally wrong because it's violat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 04:00 AM
17

That's wonderful and I'm happy for you! 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 05:34 PM
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That's problematic and toxic. While them sharing those tactics is generally horrible (because more people can learn and try to use them), the bright side is that when we come across the tips online, we can become more aware of those moves. It's hard to manipulate someone who recognises your manipulation strategies! That's why I've read about the basic tricks these people use, so I could more easily notice if somebody tried to use them on me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 01:00 PM
52

Being 40 and alone is better than being 40 and having an unsatisfying relationship, which still makes you feel like you're alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 07:06 PM
18

Great post. 💕 This is important! Having your needs met is crucial when you want someone to add value to your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 04:56 PM
14

While I've never had sex (so I don't have experience with giving a BJ), I think I could give a blowjob because I'd enjoy my partners enjoyment, but maybe not so much the act itself. However, I wouldn't be down for giving blowjobs to someone and never receiving anything back. Because as said, I assume the act itself wouldn't be the enjoyable part, since I haven't been sucking on my sex toys for the sake of giving a BJ. If I have a partner who cares about my enjoyment and wants to give me pleasure…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 11:02 AM
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I agree with you on many of your points! ☺ The constant negativity had an unpleasant effect on my view of possibly dating, and I honestly felt like dating (A guy especially, since as a bisexual I could date other people as well) would always be a dreadful decision and make me unhappy. And I admit to possibly contributing to the negativity as well! To be clear, I'm not criticising anyone, especially not the sub itself or the moderators, by saying that. I also take responsibility for my emotions m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 06:18 PM
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Welcome, Elle! She seemed lovely! 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 11:42 AM
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I'm glad if our dads aren't getting off by the thought of somebody assuming we were dating them, haha. 😅 My dad tends to introduce me as his daughter as well or refer to himself as my dad, though at that point we hadn't really talked with the waiter. For example, if we're going to buy me a dress, he might say "My daughter would like to get a dress for X" or I might start with some version of "I'm looking for a dress for X" and he adds "how about dad just waits here, if I'm just paying?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 02:56 AM
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If I remember correctly, the situation was more that the server didn't refer to me as his daughter but rather (I'm trying to translate it as correctly/clearly as possible) with a term of "a companion" that's most often used when talking about a person on a date, which can also mean other companions but is more often used of a non-platonic one. 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 02:48 AM
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A couple of years ago I (19, then I was ~16) was out on dinner with my dad, and the waiter slightly insinuated that we could be dating. While I wouldn't call my dad an HVM, he got quite frustrated and later when I asked him about why he seemed irritated (I didn't realise what the waiter had implied), he told me how he thinks it's unbelievable and outrageous that anybody could assume we are anything else than a father and a daughter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 04:57 PM
6

I agree with you. For sure there are some struggles and hard times, but it shouldn't feel like an enormous burden.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 05:45 PM
305

"You will never find love if your first choice is to end it." You will never find love if you keep waiting for it in a relationship that couldn't have it in the first place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 07:26 PM
6

That's wonderful! Keep going! 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 02:46 AM
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I agree with you! Physical touch as a "love language" isn't only about sex, and especially it's not an excuse to push your partner into having sex when they don't want to. I'm not claiming that for people who prioritise touch, sex couldn't maybe feel more important, but it's not the only way this should show. And it's never a reason to pressure someone into sex. If the importance of physical touch doesn't get expressed in other ways than wanting to have your meat touched, then just say your "lov…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 02:44 AM
41

Sir, it's okay! You can tell us the truth. Closets are for clothes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 03:03 PM
19

Agreed! How is basically saying "I chose you because I didn't have other options" cute? 😳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 06:17 AM
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Research has found that most wives are very well satisfied with the amount of sex in their marriage, Oh, that's ironic! Since research has found that women in straight relationships/marriages are the least satisfied with their sex lives. 🤷🏻‍♀️ I guess quantity doesn't equal quality! Also, could it, in some shocking way, be possible that one of the reasons men often face the problem of "a dead bedroom" with their wives, is the lack of quality? Just wondering!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 01:50 PM
16

A man goes and murders people. "Oh, this must be women's fault!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 11:30 AM
10

Wonderful! 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 05:56 PM
76

Congratulations! 💕 What is "too high" for someone, is reasonable for another. It's always better to patiently wait for the right person who meets your standards (or to even be alone) than to settle for someone who doesn't make you fully satisfied and happy. 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 03:27 PM
69

Exactly my thoughts! He is basically saying that men are predators who can't control their urges. We don't let lions just casually walk around on the streets or be CEOs of companies. 🦁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 10:12 AM
17

You're right! 😊 And as the other person said, I as well use the theory as a tool of self-reflection. How I express love, how I want someone to express love to me. I tend to express my love through giving gifts or actions. For example, if I'm meeting up with someone and I see a specific snack I know they love at the store, I might buy it for them. Then when it comes to someone expressing love to me I find, for example, "words of affirmation" important. By this, I mean that I want the other person…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 07:24 AM
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Also, the idea of physical touch as a "love language" isn't just about sex. It means someone's way of expressing is about different types of touches and closeness. For example sex, but also hugging, kissing, holding hands, cuddling, being physically close... Touch "is your love language", but it only shows by you expecting a lot of sex? Perhaps touch isn't your "love language". Regardless, it's not an excuse to expect physical contact from your partner when they don't want it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 02:58 AM
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Definitely! I'm soon 19 myself, and it's hard to find women from who I could get some actually helpful honest advice from. Quite frankly, I've never gotten as much information and useful suggestions about these topics as I've after joining FDS! 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 06:59 AM
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That sounds like a great idea! Age can have a significant effect on current life situation and experiences. I bet a lot of us "younger sisters" would be happy to get some advice from "older sisters". ☺
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 06:05 AM
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Really fascinating! ☺ I love psychology just like scientific information in general and I enjoy doing a lot of research on topics I'm interested in. So science-based posts are wonderful! Something you can learn, and then base your decisions on objective factual evidence. 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 09:24 AM
10

Well, of course. Why else would she put her number on the collar? In case if her dog got lost and somebody found them, they could call her? That's ridiculous! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 08:11 AM
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Same for me. 😯 The idea of having a big age gap in a romantic relationship has always made me feel uncomfortable. And growing I thought that my feelings were unnatural because I came across this setting of younger women dating older men, constantly. I determined my dating range (about 18-22. I'm 18, soon 19, myself) based on the idea, that "if I was as old as them, would I date someone as young as me?". If I was 30, I wouldn't feel comfortable dating an 18/19-year-old. So I won't date a 30-year-…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 08:05 AM
53

Agreed! I would so much more rather never date anyone than settle. I'm better off improving my life and becoming happier, than being unhappy with someone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 11:02 AM
3

Definitely, I agree!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 05:52 AM
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I'm not actively dating, and I've never tried it. I'm 18, and not sure whether I'd be ready for romance yet. (Which I think is okay. We're all ready at different times.) I'm not completely opposed to the idea of having a relationship someday, though. But I am just not actually looking for it. The men who have hit on me, have not been what I'd consider as a possible partner (e.g too old, looking for a more casual thing, clearly wouldn't care about women's pleasure during sex, red flags...). I'm i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 05:18 PM
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And apparently, a lot of people were calling her a leech. 🤦🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 10:15 AM
7

Nice to hear from a fellow ASD lady! 🥰 I've seen improvement in my communication in the last 3 years because I got new friends (e.g understanding metaphors and sarcasm better, practising different tones of voice and facial expressions). I'm bi, and even though I'm not experienced, I've understood that flirting with women and men is a bit different. So that means there are two slightly different communication manners I need to try to understand. 😅 But you’re so right, the right partner for you wo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 11:45 AM
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Awesome that you found FDS. 😊 I'm thankful for discovering this subreddit as well. I'm still young, and I know I could've gone down an uncomfortable pick-me path without this community. So I'm appreciative of FDS and all the work the mods do. 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 12:23 PM
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This was an interesting episode! ☺ As a lady with ASD, I struggle with nonverbal communication. As a part of levelling up (and even a bit pre-FDS), I've tried to improve my communication skills. 😄 I think it could be a good idea for me to try to study and practise it before I consider whether I'm ready to start dating. (To clarify, I'm talking about actually learning some strategies/skills, not becoming better at masking. Because having to mask a lot around a partner would get too exhausting.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 10:45 AM
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Absolutely! If they are selfish and inconsiderate outside the bedroom, why would they suddenly become caring and thoughtful when you step into the bedroom?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 05:32 AM
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Well done on your part! 🥳👑 Emojis added throughout to enrage any scrotey-mcscrotes lurking behind the scenes. 🥰😘 🍾👸🏻👸🏼👸🏽👸🏾👸🏿🎉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 01:24 PM
22

"What am I supposed to do about this?" Step one, realize you deserve better. Step two, leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 02:26 PM
90

"men age like fine wine". What type of cheap grape juice do these people consider to be fine wine? 🤭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 02:24 PM
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Agreed! I've never heard a man, who seemed to be HV or even close to that, question "what women bring to the table". The only men I've heard stating stuff related to that have been the type, that can't even meet the bare minimum or get a date with any woman who has even a tiny bit of self-respect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 02:23 PM
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You're right, that's definitely important! 😊 I don't really want kids, but if I was going to get a child (who was biologically mine), I'd make it clear to my partner that it's quite likely they would be a special needs person. Because there have been many special needs people in my family, though most of the special needs tend to be "less severe" (I'm on the autism spectrum for example). Regardless, even if I would never have kids, that would still be something I'd look out for. Because it could…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 05:40 AM
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Agreed! I don't think they realize ending up as a cat lady isn't some awful future I want to desperately avoid, so I must be ready to settle at some point. 🐈 • • • • • • Also, all the best OP! ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 03:22 AM
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Oh my- 😳 I had honestly no clue some people said such things or claimed that "post nut clarity" causes that. That's just bizarre. I'd wish that the moment after sex is sweet. You'd feel more closer to them, you did something intimate together. Sure I think you gotta clean up or something (right?) which maybe isn't romantic, but the atmosphere and the stuff after cleaning should be lovely, shouldn't it? You wanna punch a person you just had sex with because they smiled? Do you want my therapist's…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 02:29 PM
7

Understandable! It's a good idea to be really cautious with who's going to be your first (or your partner in general).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 12:36 PM
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I’m no doctor but you’re not supposed to take that many viagras in such a short time I also think you're not supposed to take as many pills or classes of wine daily as she would need to so she could get through that much disappointing sex. 🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 11:45 AM
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Maybe he should as himself, that if most young women truly want 40-year-old men, why would the marriage have to be "arranged"?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 10:54 AM
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The way culture still values woman's virginity is insane and disgusting. 🤢 The purity culture builds so much anxiety around women's (especially) first times. Which I think might be the reason some women just "want to get it over with" so they can get rid of the glorification of so-called purity, while others are too scared to do it even if they want to, because they're afraid of being "ruined" and judged. I'm still a virgin simply because I haven't been ready yet, not because I am "trying to be …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 07:19 AM
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The fact that "virgin" and "popular" get you more points than e.g friendly, honest, easy to talk to and cares for the world is just disturbing. Not to even mention what the girls were taught meanwhile! Boys: This is what a girl you date should be like. Girls: This is what you as a girl should be like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 04:36 AM
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It's disgusting how some share or show the nudes someone sends them. I also think it's not okay to keep nudes of your ex's after a breakup because, as said in the picture, it kinda revokes the consent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 09:06 AM
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I find myself being on guard constantly as well. I can never really ease up and it's quite exhausting. Those are understandable fears to have, even though they can be disturbing. 💔 • • • Of course! We're here to support each other. 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 05:19 AM
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I can relate to you. 💔 I often feel unsafe and uncomfortable around them and I've talked about it in therapy. Likely the reason for me is feeling vulnerable, being afraid of being taken advantages of or being harmed in general. I'm also slightly disabled, which makes me feel even more helpless. On top of that, sometimes feeling objectified and sexualised makes me feel anxious. Do you think that you might be afraid because you're afraid of the possible violence you could face? Or maybe you feel s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 12:50 PM
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my expectations are too high, so we can continue seeing each other if I lower my standards "Okay, farewell. 👋🏻"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 08:09 AM
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I am glad to hear that! feel free to chat, if you need someone to talk to. 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 04:04 AM
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Agreed! My mum has cats (and I grew up with them), and she puts a lot of effort into taking care of them. Takes them to the vet regularly (and the other one more often, because he's sick), gives the other one his meds always on time even though that often means she has to skip some events and leave her friend's house early, buys them high-quality food and plays with them. If she has to leave somewhere she either gets a cat-sitter or takes them to a cat hotel (that's the name of the place), which…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 04:03 AM
58

A big brain. 🧠 (Metaphorically, because the correlation between brain size and intelligence is somewhat trivial.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 01:00 PM
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While I would prefer to date "a cat person" because I want cats in the future, there's still definitely many LV cat owners. 🐱 How one talks about their pets and treats them can tell a lot about a person. And whether they're "a cat person" or low effort pet owner. Saying thing like "if you want something easy, get a cat", "oh, it's just a cat (when asked whether they do a certain thing, like take the pet to a vet)" and "I love cats because they don't require much work" are bad signs. You should t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 03:45 AM
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Omg guys it finally happened 🥰🥰🥰 I've been on FDS for 5 days and I haven't read the handbook but I'll get to that eventually. Oh, honey... 😟🥺 S/ Sorry just in a silly mood, a bit of Sunday humor for you Queens Oh, honey! 👏🏻😂 I'm relieved. I didn't notice the humour flag at first. 🤭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 02:23 AM
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I am right there with you. 💕 I am a young neurodivergent person as well, and I've started to feel like HVMs wouldn't exist. (I'm bi, so it wouldn't be the end of the dating world for me, as I can also date women and I even prefer women a bit.) However, I recognise that's mostly a feeling, not a rational fact. At least I hope so. I can relate to the part about the brain being black and white. Mine works that way too. It has been hard trying to convince myself that even though there's a lot of bad…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 03:38 AM
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That's extremely gross. 🤢 He's also talking about it like it was the 1800s and girls were their father's property which "he shall try to keep as pure so, when the time arrives, an eligible suitor may want to take her to be his prope- I mean beloved wife". But to be honest, a big portion of men still talk about it in that manner. However besides that, at the start, he says that women decide what a good partner is (for example) by the dark triad traits. Is he actually claiming that women like men …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 01:53 PM
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This is a good idea! Objective data like this would suit someone like me. 😄 Another thing I've heard similar to this is "break up letters" (/lists). If you end up breaking up or not continuing dating someone, write yourself a letter about (or a list of the reasons) why you didn't continue. And then if you crave going back to them, you can read it to remind yourself why not to go back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 01:35 PM
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I actually thought about this a lot today after reading this post a few hours ago. 🤔 I've always told myself that it doesn't matter, because in general, I dislike slut-shaming. However slut-shaming is basically always hypocritical. A guy who thinks that it's okay for men to fuck a lot, but that women who do are dirty. Or a guy who has had a lot of sex, but wants a virgin wife. I think that a person who's a virgin/hasn't had many partners is allowed to want a partner in a similar situation. I don…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 10:53 AM
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In the end, I do like Stephen King's work. So wouldn't it just be logical of me to want to fuck people who remind me of the characters? But then again, women are irrational.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 09:58 AM
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If I don't feel terrified and humiliated, what's even the point? /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 11:49 AM
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I'll write it down after I've aced my exam :) No hurry! 😊 Spoiler: You settle for the bare minimum. Ah, right! My wording might have been a bit confusing. 😅 I mentioned about this in a response to another user.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 04:22 AM
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Agreed! 😊 And screening out the ones with the most obvious red flags is definitely a nice skill to have 😉 For sure. I've purposefully gotten familiar with some TRP/PUA tactics to avoid men like that. There isn't so much that type of behaviour among wlw people, but I would try to keep my eyes open in "that scene" too. 👀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 05:56 PM
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Thank you, those are some good points and I do agree! 😊 But it's equally important to learn the qualities that you look for in a good partner -- many of which might be specific to you. I've been attempting to do this too! I think my wording earlier might have been a bit confusing. 😅 I mainly meant that I am not that actively looking for a partner ("trying to find a good partner"), but I am trying to avoid giving chances to unsuitable people, if that makes sense. If I do encounter someone, I'll b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 05:35 PM
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Yeah, I agree. Above all, I see the majority of pickme's as victims of societal conditioning. I still have some of those principles stuck in me, however, I recognise them and I am actively trying to work with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 04:14 PM
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I am glad you brought it up! 😊 I definitely have a lot to learn of these things as a young woman on the autism spectrum. I've come far and been learning a lot during my FDS times, but I know I still have a lot of work to do. I think making that post is a great idea. 😄 Could you explain why that can cause one to end up in a bad relationship?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 01:09 PM
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Great post! I've participated in both WGTOW and FDS, but more actively here. I've never tried dating in my life (I am 18, bi) and I am not completely sure whether I'm ready for it or if I could date a man. I am not completely opposed to dating in general though. I could definitely date a woman if I came across one that I got along with well. ❣ Overall FDS has been enlightening and really view changing to me. It has helped me understand and see things in different lights, and I surely avoided som…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 11:17 AM
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Yeah. I wouldn't date a person who has recently left one of those toxic movements. Maybe if it had been years and they had done a lot of mental work for their recovery. That's not a possible scenario right now though, because I am 18, and I wouldn't date a person who's significantly older than mem so if they hadn't left the community at like 14 (🤭), it wouldn't be for me. • • • Maybe a bit out of the topic: Those people likely couldn't date me either though. Because my expectations for treatment…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 04:28 AM
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Great post! 😊 "Struggle is part of the journey." In relationships, there are rough parts and difficult things, but if there's more struggle than happiness, leave. If the other person has a lot of red flags and they're treating you poorly, it's not "part of the journey" it's part of the reason to get out. 👋 "Struggles/difficulties make you/it stronger." This can be usually said in a situation where the guy cheats and she's made to believe that "surviving cheating is going to make our love stronge…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 04:41 AM
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Exactly. I've also come across awesome and gorgeous women who dated not-so-great men. Luckily I've noticed a significant increase in my friend's standards. 😎 The need for male validation for many is so deep, that honestly, I think it would be impossible to make people "sacrifice" getting it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 03:49 PM
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Buuut I bet he was a nice guy. 🥺 You should have given him a chance! /s No, but really, that sounds like super annoying behaviour.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 02:17 PM
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Totally! I am a "hardcore communicator" and I always want to talk everything through, which I likely would also be in the case relationship (with a person regardless of their gender). 😄 If I don't talk things through, they start to bother me. I also know some issues can be solved with GOOD communication. However, I am sick of it when a woman complains about her partner's behaviour (especially being selfish in bed) and people's response is to "just communicate". In many cases, she has communicate…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 02:14 PM
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I agree. If all/most women wanted the same change and stuck together to consistently and patiently work towards that goal, we would likely reach it. (I am talking about the women who have the possibility to do so! I know in some places the oppression is so bad that women don't literally have an option to work for common goals.) First, two problems that come to my mind are: Women could have a hard time agreeing on what type of change we all/most of us want. There are still women who don't believe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 07:29 AM
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Bravo! I am glad you realized you needed to stop talking with him. Well done, sis! 🥳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 06:59 AM
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Definitely. I am bi, and if I somehow got the courage to ask someone out and they rejected me, regardless of their sexuality or the reasoning behind saying "no", I couldn't even imagine starting to argue about it and trying to persuade them to change their mind. It wouldn't matter how much I liked them, or if I thought they had "send me signals". Or if I believed I would be a great girlfriend to them or treat them well. If they say "no", then that's the response I got and I'll respect that. If I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 06:01 PM
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Sadly, same. Not a single day goes by without me seeing (and sometimes witnessing/hearing) something misogynist and disgusting. 🙁 After starting to use Reddit actively, I come across hateful stuff maybe like ×5 more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 05:50 PM
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I was going to say this is the most horrific thing I read today, but sadly I come across several disgusting and misogynist stories/claims/texts/comments daily, so I am not even sure can I say so. It's absolutely despicable either way! 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 05:37 PM
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I am really glad to hear my comment cleared some things for you! 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 12:50 PM
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"They hate us so bad", the one's like you, maybe. If you think that women won't date you because "they hate men" ask yourself: "Do they actually hate men or am I just not as good of a guy as I claim to be?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 11:56 AM
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Well said! As a bi individual with zero sexual experience, these are things I think occasionally. The idea of having sex with a woman feels like an experience I'm excited and willing to possibly share in the future with someone I trust and have a bond with.❣ However, the thought of having sex with a man has started to feel rather scary and uncomfortable. Perhaps it's being afraid of disappointment, being used as a sex toy, just being seen as a trophy, being tricked into it, finding out he wasn't…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 12:04 AM
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That really sucks to hear. I don't have any dating experience yet, but I decided to primarily date women in hopes of avoiding misogyny, PUA- and TRP people, bad sex, being used etc. I still assume that there are more lovely woman partners, even though there's some toxic one's. 😯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 06:57 AM
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Wops, I used the word "desire" way too many times. Sorry for the long comment. It's good if you're desired by your partner and you desire your partner, sure. I can understand the need to be desired, but this post wasn't phrased well and it came off a bit arrogant. 😬 First of all the part about "men need to be desired just as much, if not more, than women-". No, not more. Why do men need to be desired more during sex? Straight sex already sucks for women and is dissatisfying for us. Why not "men …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 03:28 PM
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When I had just discovered FDS, I was wondering about this too. To my understatement, FDS is against BDSM in general. I think they've talked about this in the podcast if I remember correctly. Pre-FDS I was actually interested in being a dominatrix/mistress. I even considered myself a dom and bought some tools for that and almost started a "mistress-relationship" with one guy who seemed nice. However, I noticed few red flags and we had a different idea of the seriousness of the situationship, and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 09:16 AM
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Treat it like a Christmas gift to a person you love: Make sure they'll enjoy it and wrap it up. 🎁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 06:45 AM
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I am still young and occasionally struggle with that fear. It has been getting better though, it's a huge and hard change! We've been so strongly conditioned to feel that way, so there's a lot of unlearning. It's a big process! Try to remain patient and continue on your self-improvement journey. 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 06:13 PM
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I definitely appreciate the wisdom many older women have. You learn a lot about yourself and often become more satisfied with your body. I am glad you're more comfortable with yourself! 😊 I while ago I was constantly worrying about my looks and I was insecure about things I shouldn't have been, like having b-cups. But I am a lot more confident nowadays and getting happier with myself. I am also more than happy with my b-cup girls. 🥰 I still care about my appearance, I won't lie. I go to the gym …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 04:41 PM
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I relate to this so much! I am glad you've got rid of those internalized misogynist scare-tactics
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 04:13 PM
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Hehe, yeah! I was joking. 🤭 It sucks that some might turn into violence for a sarcastic response. I likely wouldn't bother with witty comebacks. Breakup is enough of a comeback.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 04:11 PM
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I hope I will have a blast too! 😊 Also, I've realised at that point my career is likely (and hopefully) doing well and improving.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 02:56 PM
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If you notice, women who are divorcees (with or without kids) always have a glow up right after. It's common sense, men just don't want to acknowlege it lmao. Agreed! My mum recently got divorced from my ex-stepdad and she has become so much less submissive and more open. Now we can talk almost freely about sexuality, and it's not a tabu anymore which is awesome. She's also become more feminist, some things she says even sound a tiny bit FDS. 😼 Not completely though, there's still a bit of defen…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 02:54 PM
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"Looks won't last." Sorry, I didn't quite hear you. Did you say "looks" or "my hairline"?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 02:43 PM
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I used to find the thought of ageing terrifying to the point of contemplating suicide. To be honest, I have a similar experience. I thought that I would take my life around 30-40 years old because I imagined my life would just become so worthless. It's horrible how I used to think that! 💔 Also, I am sick with those lines too. Furthermore, the idea that you should try to go and get a man "when you're still young" is annoying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 12:54 PM
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Absolutely! It's not the end of the world. I am glad you're taking care of yourself, it's a good idea. 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 12:24 PM
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I hope you'll enjoy your 30s! Make the best of it! 💕👑 I started fearing ageing already when I was around 14. Now I am 18 and before FDS (only a few months ago) I thought my life would become worthless after 30. Now I realized it was because I was conditioned to believe that woman's worth decreases and I'd hit "the wall". I was filled with internalized misogyny, basically. And I am slowly getting over those beliefs for example by realizing they were built for men's benefit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 12:23 PM
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You are not a failure! We're all a work in progress. 💕 You've certainly been through a lot, which can make the current relationship situation harder. I am sorry those horrible things happened to you! 💔 It sounds like you should break up, but it can still be hard! Don't consider yourself a failure for having emotions, you can't force them to go away, even if you should leave the situation. Leaving is gonna be hard at first, however, it will get better. That's a cliche, but something you should tr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 12:15 PM
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I agree. That would be interesting! 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 12:07 PM
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I have several toys that I've experienced with, but I mainly use Princess Athena from Luvify, which is a clitoris sucking vibrator. 👑 G spot- or dildo vibrators or other things that go inside aren't really my thing. I am glad I figured that out on my own, instead of having high expectations, if I would be with a guy, and then feeling disappointed. Usually, I come 2-4 times, sometimes more and sometimes less. I've noticed that for me the 3rd one has usually been the best one and 2nd one "the wors…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 04:42 AM
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And sighing and rolling her eyes three times isn't either. 🤭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 07:20 PM
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At least I personally, would prefer to get no attention at all than to get unwanted attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 04:42 PM
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I agree! 😊 And I guess I understand that some people like taking them and getting your nudes leaked is never the victim's fault. Absolutely not! But I just don't want to take the risk, because I feel shame, as an emotion, really strongly and it could affect my future career. With pictures that I sent to people I have a rule, that I ask myself: "If this got leaked, could it negatively affect my future career?" And if the answer is yes, I won't send that kind of picture.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 11:47 AM
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Sounds like an annoying situation! 😬 I don't know is this directly on the topic of the post: I've noticed when I talk with some acquaintances I am not in contacts with often, one of the first things they ask is whether I've "found someone". And often when in any conversation it comes up that I am single, people say things like: "I would've thought there would be a lot of takers for a girl as pretty as you", (idk how to translate next one correctly, sorry, non-native speaker.) "Isn't there so man…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 11:34 AM
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I hope she got professional help because sounds like she would've really needed it! 😐 And support from people, instead of a boyfriend who laughs it off and stays with her for sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 11:16 AM
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I never take nudes (even only for myself) or undress in front of a camera, because getting nude pictures of myself leaked/spread is a huge fear of mine. Even just the thought of filming a sexual act in which I participate in or taking and sending nudes makes me feel incredibly uncomfortable and anxious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 11:14 AM
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Okay! I've never seen it, so I didn't catch that. 😄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 07:08 AM
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I actually don't know who/what McDreamy is. 😅 I think for me it's because I associate it with intelligence and I am really interested in psychology and I plan to study it in the future, so talking about (at least neuropsychology) it with a neurosurgeon would probably be thrilling because they would have information on the topic. If that makes sense. And I also kinda would've wanted to become a neurosurgeon, but I have certain health issues that, to my understanding, stop it from being an option.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 01:43 AM
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Neuro: spine surgeons are the biggest pricks you’ll ever meet. High probability that he’s a psychopath. Guys who do cranis all day are usually super nerdy with a god complex, but less obnoxious than their spine counterparts. I was a bit disappointed, but not that surprised, to see a surgeon on the list. It's a shame though, I always used to see a neurosurgeon as "an attractive career". 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 01:00 AM
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That's a fair point, I hadn't too strongly considered it before. Good that you brought it up. 😊 I've generally enjoyed the message in his videos, however, it's possible that you're right about it! It sucks to think that even the men who seem to support women might just do it for the profit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 05:51 AM
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Absolutely! I think that if people decide to take plastic surgery or such they should do it for themselves. I feel so bad when I've come across people online asking for advice on how to get their partner to get breast implants, liposuction etc. Or some saying they got surgery because their partner wanted that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 11:57 AM
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I love his videos.❣ I am glad to see a man doctor who puts the woman's choice first and speaks up. 👨🏻‍⚕️ Since there's those "I'll give her an extra stitch for you ;)" -type of docs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 11:11 AM
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Congratulations, I am happy for you. 😊 A relationship with a woman sounds better to me taking into account different aspects. The orgasm gap, for sure, is one of them. So, I (bi) would prefer to have a girlfriend as well. 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 04:22 AM
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This is good advice, I absolutely agree! 😊 You should get to know yourself sexually! My experiences with different kinds of sex toys have taught me that clitoris stimulation is basically the only thing I enjoy. It has certainly decreased a lot of the thoughts I had about even wanting straight sex because it tends to be penetration focused, which I now know I wouldn't enjoy. I am glad I found that out myself, instead of having a sexual experience that would leave me feeling dissatisfied and disap…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 10:17 AM
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I've gotten some messages telling me, that the reason I have to be afraid is that I don't have a man and if I "meet his standards", he'll date me and send me few dick picks. 😂 They certainly care a lot for people who claim not to care about "femcels" like us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 05:36 AM
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"How dare you have a salad instead of my meat?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 04:11 AM
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What does that even mean? Oops I forgot you weren’t an actual object. Oops, I forgot to control my ordinary urges to hit you, my bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 01:18 PM
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I don't think I want to. 🥺 /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 09:54 AM
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Haha, good one! 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 06:05 AM
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I've come across more and more "strong independent woman" -songs and music about the existence of sexual harassment etc. And I love that these topics are used more in songs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 06:04 PM
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Exactly! The size seems to just be a status or a power thing for many. Having a big dick is a brag, but being able to find a clitoris and making your partner cum doesn't seem to be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 12:34 PM
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Thank you for writing this, it's helpful! 💕 I try to learn and be aware of the existing RP and PUA tactics to notice them sooner so I won't fall for the traps. One of the worst dating scenarios I can imagine is starting to date someone and then finding out they're part of TRP or such. 😬 I'd feel horrible and degraded.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 12:29 PM
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Hold on... You don't want to date EVERY guy? You have standards? Clearly a lesbian. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 11:12 AM
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Why would I want to be with people who don't make me happy? This! "You'll never find anyone if you have standards that high." Why would I prefer being with someone who doesn't make me happy and satisfy my needs, instead of being alone? Is being alone that bad?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 09:08 AM
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I'd say it has! I listen to more women empowerment music and after joining FDS I made a playlist for this kind of songs. 👑 I also have noticed how a lot of music has unsettling, degrading lyrics and that rubs me the wrong way. I didn't really like songs that degraded women before either, but now even less.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 02:10 PM
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He wants a woman to fuck him like a professional, meanwhile, he doesn't care if she cums.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 04:55 PM
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Just to get it out of the way; yes "the wall" is misogynistic b.s. just like "women can't drive" or "women's brains are interior". It's not worth breaking down because it's pointless to debate propaganda. We know healthy normal men and women don't buy into it. We all live in reality. It's definitely just misogynist bs made to force women into lowering their standards and to get married young. A guy believing in it tells me more than enough about his values. 🚩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 05:10 AM
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I loved this episode. ☺ I am on the autism spectrum, and FDS has been awesome and helpful. The handbook and tips are clear, like rules that give directions, which has helped me to understand dating in a different light. I've kinda got an understanding of the structure of misogyny and manipulation towards women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 09:46 AM
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technique to use in relationships where you make a girl worried that something is wrong or that you may leave her for another woman. If I constantly have to feel anxious, unsure and worried, the relationship/connection has come to its end. I've gotten familiar with the basics of TRP and PUA, and if a dude shows signs of being a member of either one of those, I'll break up imminently. Ending up dating some red-pilled brick has been one of my biggest "dating fears" ever since I came across TRP, wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 12:52 AM
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I've only gotten a few DM's relating to FDS, and I have just ignored them all. One even generously offered to date me if I meet his standards because he "doesn't date ugly women" and can you believe it, he kindly said that he would even send me few dick pics if I was in. Oh, how hard an offer like that was to ignore! 🤤😍 /s Ignoring messages is something new FDS taught me. ☺ I used to make myself reply to every message I got (politely), even if they were harassing or rude. I could see myself repl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 12:41 AM
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Absolutely! And you can find something, or someone, else to make your life less boring! 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 01:30 AM
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Good luck with everything! 💕 I am glad you're getting out of the situation, it can be really rough. He sounds awful, you deserve so much better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 04:16 PM
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I love the idea of being surprised with something romantic, beautiful, and low-key in the sense that third-parties aren't really involved. I agree! I wouldn't need it to be a big spectacle, as long as it shows that they put thought into it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 01:50 PM
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I don't know if marriage or rings are my deal, because of the history connected to them, but I have thought of some light ideas. These are also (at least) the standards I would hold myself to if I was proposing to a woman I loved. (I am bi) If I was proposing, all of this would depend a lot on the person I was proposing to, and what they would like. 💍: I think for me the main thing would be, that it in a way shows they know me and that they put thought into it. ☺ Like "it would be my style" / "l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 01:47 PM
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This is great advice. 😊 Personality and culture play a big role in this decision! For some 10 months is way too early, for others it's not. Generally, I'd advise people to wait for at least a year, but there can be exceptions. And as you said: It's good to understand the legal and financial implications to you. That's important.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 10:00 AM
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"promotes lesbianism" This should be considered positive feedback. 👀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 05:36 PM
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Yeah! Her story in Sex Education was sad. I loved to see how the other women ended up supporting her, it was such a touching moment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 02:15 PM
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It's heartbreaking. 💔 This is another edit of the same song, that I came across which almost made me tear up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 02:05 PM
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Thank you! 🍰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 03:28 PM
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Yes, I agree! I feel like the community has been more than beneficial to me and I've been listening to the podcast more in the past few days, and I love it. 😊 It's funny and feels comforting or such. I haven't wanted to be involved with dating yet, so I don't luckily have any bad experiences yet. If I had started dating during my pick-me days (literally a few months ago 😂), I would've probably taken so much bad treatment. Honestly, I used to have a mindset, that loyalty and not being straight up…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 12:17 PM
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🎶 This song is catchy and heartbreaking at the same time. 🎶 My friend sent it to me a while ago, and I love it.❣ I like other songs by her as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 03:35 AM
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That's awesome, sister! ❣ So happy for you! 🥳 I am 18, and I am glad I found FDS this young. I came across FDS a few months ago, and it has completely changed the way I see things, think, view myself and imagine my ideal life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 05:18 PM
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If a guy appears to believe in "the wall", for me it's a huge red flag and an immediate "oh nope. Bye!". 👋🏻 At the same time, a guy being against "The wall" -theory and understanding how misogynist it is, is a pretty green flag for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 01:43 PM
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A Scandinavian woman would laugh in this guy’s face Yup, we would indeed. 😎
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 05:52 AM
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edit: title should say "dread" not "dream" sorry! I was so confused about the title at first. 😂 Like did FDS turn into a kink sub? 😆 But to the actual question, it depends on a person. If they don't act creepily or have "a creepy vibe", I likely don't pay too much attention to them. But if they're acting rudely, creepily or are openly checking me out or even hitting on me, I usually get uncomfortable and maybe a bit disgusted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 05:49 AM
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All the best, and good luck! 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 04:48 PM
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That sounds terrifying! I can imagine how scared and bad you must have been feeling. I am so sorry you had to go through that. 💔 We can't even walk on the streets peacefully, without being mistreated. If there's a way you could report this douche to the authorities (if there were cameras around the area etc), that could be a reasonable idea, if you feel like you want to do so. Undoubtedly often authorities overlook these things, but it can be worth trying if you feel like that could be a good id…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 02:44 PM
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If I'd end up dating a man, then sure, I could! 😊 I am bisexual as well. 💗💜💙
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 01:34 AM
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It's supposed to make you want them more or assure them that you want them. 🙄😂 Women want what they can't have. If I CAN'T have something or having it would be an irrational choice, I won't try to have it anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 05:17 AM
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"Practising wlw behaviour" and wlw couple as a hot idea or sexual fantasy is entertainment for them. But a lesbian, as a person, is a threat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 04:43 PM
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"Who would find this attractive"? It's not a pickup line or dirty talk. It's about values. Also, I find people having similar values to mine attractive. I also like it when people (sophisticatedly and intelligently) challenge me and my views.* Maybe ask yourself why you find it rather unattractive? Would actually thinking about it make you doubt whether you're as liberal as you want to believe? *By challenging my views, I don't mean stuff like "are women human or not", "do women deserve rights" …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 07:22 PM
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Only like 6 months ago (which was before FDS) I was scared of getting older, but I never knew why that was. For some reason, I just didn't want to live past 30. I thought that now (at 18) I would be at my "best years". I was even a bit worried I was wasting them by not being involved in the dating world or having casual stuff, but rather being invested in my current studies and working out. And that was such an inaccurate mindset! Now I am not afraid of that anymore, not in the slightest. 🥰 Firs…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 06:58 PM
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Yeah! I didn't believe for a second that he would've settled for just "hanging out". I can only imagine what would've happened if I had said yes. 😓 I am glad I've learned some social skills, I used to be so incredibly naive only a few years ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 04:46 PM
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Same! 😬 I recently told a guy (about 30 years old) who tried to hit on me (And even offered to give me money/buy me stuff even for just hanging out with him.) that I was 18 and didn't want that big of an age difference in a relationship. He said that "it's not a problem to me", "it's not even that big of an age difference", " I look really young for my age", "but I just like you so much! You're so kind and interesting and I feel such a connection with you" and stuff like that. He just couldn't u…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 03:12 PM
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"You are being too dramatic/emotional/irrational." "Why are you so mad? Are you on your period?" "Well, somebody has an attitude." "Calm down, men don't like arrogant women." "It's not that serious." "Oh geez, what a know-it-all!" "Good luck finding a husband with an attitude like that."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 04:02 AM
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A few years back, when I was around 13-14 some adult guy (said he was 20 or something, but he looked like at least 30-year old) came to talk to me online. I was maybe a little behind in social development and I was really naive, so I kept talking with him for few days (until he turned super rude and insulted me) because he basically threatened to kill himself because he was so lonely. However, he once sent me some pictures of a woman, taken from behind, working out at the gym, calling her a cuti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 10:27 AM
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I agree. Even though statistically wlw sex is better for women, I wouldn't say that I couldn't even consider having sex with a man (or a person with male anatomy), but it should be a certain type of man. 🥰 Personality and action way, ofc. But in this context, I mean sexual chemistry and that he shouldn't be too penetration focused or selfish in bed. And besides that, he wouldn't have toxic ideas of sex (slut-shaming). Open communication about the subject would be crucial as well! I'd like to hav…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 12:09 PM
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And it’s not because I can’t feel it or because my vagina’s loose - nope, I feel it, and men have called me tight (read: non-aroused) many times as a compliment 🤢 I feel it and it’s not a good feeling. Dick literally feels uncomfortable. I don’t get any form of pleasure at all from dick or anything for that matter in my vagina, to the point where I don’t even touch my vagina when I’m masturbating. I relate to this! Nothing "real" has ever been down there, but the toys just... don't feel like any…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 08:34 AM
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Oh, "you can't make a wife out of a hoe"? How about "you can't make a spouse out of an immoral and disrespectful prick"?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 10:07 AM
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I am glad if it helped! 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 04:06 AM
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In some ways, I struggle with this too. Let the thought come and don't try to force them away. 😊 That won't get rid of them. The opposite likely. You can try to start to change the daydream little by little, or try creating other ones. 😄 It can be tough because the dreams can be strong! Personally, I daydream a lot. I always have. I don't see anything wrong with daydreaming if it won't affect real-life actions negatively. The daydreams I have, have gotten a lot less pick-me after discovering FDS…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 10:32 AM
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I feel similarly, but maybe not for the same reasons! 😊 I wouldn't want a date that contains eating out, because I don't like to eat around people and on top of that my diet is pretty strict and specific. 😅 So I likely couldn't find anything at the restaurant that would fit the diet I follow. Edit: I do understand the message behind this though. Yeah, same! 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 05:19 AM
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In that case, I hope you will get out of there! 😄 And perhaps find a nice gal or another partner, if you want to. 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 06:15 PM
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Cats are so lovely! 🐱❣ It's supposed to be an insult telling a lady she'll end up single with cats, but I don't know how I could see it as such! 🐱 It should be seen as a "scary" and "undesirable" future. Like: "Oh no! I can't end up like that, better go and find a man as quickly as I can!" But to me, it doesn't sound like an unpleasant future! 😄 If I am single and living with cats and I have a good career when I am 30 in a bit over 10 years, then I doubt I'd be disappointed. 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 05:06 PM
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I can totally understand that! ❣ I have a relatively similar experience with my emotions changing after being here and also after starting to read studies done on the topic. I considered identifying as homoflexible, but I think still bisexual is a better description. 💖💜💙 I sort of like women objectively and men subjectively. Meaning that I like women" just like a (typical) lesbian would. 😊 But I don't like *men like a (typical) straight woman would, but I could like (and have liked a couple of t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 04:49 PM
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I live in a small place too! There isn't even really a gay bar in my city. 😕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 04:39 PM
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Pretty much the same for me actually! My sexual and romantic attraction towards them has almost completely died. It started dying soon after finding this sub. But luckily I am bisexual! 💖💜💙 Even though, I've read experiences that it's a bit difficult finding a girlfriend as a bisexual gal. 🙁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 04:21 AM
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🌷🐱They🐱might🐱hate🐱them, 🐱but🐱I🐱love🐱them.🐱🌷
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 06:04 PM
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Yeah! It's demoting a woman to just being a pussy. It sounds like they don't see a person there at all, just a hole they want to use/have used. 🙁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 05:46 PM
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Aw, thank you gorgeous. 🥰 The same to you as well! ❣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 09:11 AM
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I don't like it when people use the word "pussy" when talking about having sex with a woman. For example: "I got some pussy" "I want some pussy" (I also typically don't like the word "dick" used ironically when talking about having sex with men. "I got some dick last night" "she need some dick" etc.) Or instead of saying "I had sex with her" saying "I got some pussy from her/she let me have some pussy/she let me put it in her pussy/I got to try her pussy/..." 🤢 Then calling underage girls "young…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 07:40 AM
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It's for sure isn't a light decision. 😊 If you choose to try to have kids, I wish you the best of luck! 🥰 I always have been connecting having kids to being married/in LTR to a man. That's what my relatives and society implied. I recently realized that habit and realized I could have a kid with a woman too. And while I could likely be in a relationship with a guy, I don't want kids with one. If I were to have kids, it would be with a woman. But right now, cats sound better to me. 🐈❣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 05:19 AM
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Agreed! 😊 While kids can give a feeling of fulfilment for some, to others it doesn't make their life feel more purposeful. Having or not having kids should be the couple's personal choice, not really a moral obligation. 👩‍👩‍👧‍👦 👨‍👨‍👧‍👦 👪 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 04:45 AM
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As if the only valuable thing we can do with our life is to have kids. 😐 Some people simply don't want kids. Some don't want marriage/relationship. And that's fine! 😊 The life that somebody tries to insist on to be intended and purposeful for all, can make someone unhappy. It would likely make me miserable. 😕 And what's the point of a person's existence? Whatever they want it to be!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 04:14 AM
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Emojis, the biggest crime of them all. After all, they can illustrate feelings and that's too feminine. 🌷 Sure, many don't mind or think a lot about it. But some can start taking a person less seriously. 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 04:27 PM
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Agreed! I worry I may annoy some with it, since some find it irritating, but I am just a big emoji user. 😄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 04:03 PM
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Oh and for some reason they really hate when we use emojis? Oh no! anyways... 😈 I really do use a ton of emojis in my comments. 🤭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 03:33 PM
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Anti-advertisement at its finest! A video like that is a huge 🚩. It seems like many still just get a huge ego boost for having that sex (Suddenly they're "the man" and "got game" when women become "sluts"). I bet also for making a woman come could give them one, but to me, it often seems like they don't care that much. That it's just something extra. 🤔 Or at least I've come across so many comments implying that the woman's orgasm doesn't matter to them or isn't "his responsibility". (It's should…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 03:29 PM
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They really think it's funny when a woman doesn't enjoy sex or come. 🙄 At this point, I don't think I ever even want to try being with a man. 😕 Knowing there's a high possibility it would just be an unsatisfying disappointment which would just work as an ego boost for him, is a huge turn-off. 😬 It would need a lot for me to even consider trying it. All the haters saying how we "just need to get some dick" and can't get it: Yikes, no thanks! 😳 Besides, sex with a woman is statistically simply mor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 01:07 PM
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For sure! ☺ It can have many benefits. For example, giving it a label can help you view the thing in a different, more realistic and clear, light. And it can help you understand and accept it better. 😊 Good luck to you too! 🌸
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 04:10 AM
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I am glad if it helped! 😊 Working with your emotions and improving your emotional skills is important. If you feel like it's still necessary, you can try to ask yourself why the thing you heard made you so upset. Feeling upset is normal and human. Accepting the feeling, working through it and maybe putting the comment into a perspective could help. 😄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 09:58 PM
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I recommend you google different tips on how to control your emotions. 😄 One that I would give is to recognise, name and understand your emotions. By this I mean, that when you start to spiral out of control or when you're experiencing strong emotions, at first try to identify that emotion and what it is. Anger? Sadness? Embarrassment? After that try to really understand the emotion. What might have caused that emotion right now, at this moment? Was it perhaps something you heard or saw? Why did…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 04:41 PM
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This is a bit of an old comment, but I chose to answer anyways! I personally think there's nothing wrong with that if it feels the best for you! 😊 If somebody is ready earlier, feels a connection with the person and doesn't feel pressured, they should have the right to do so. We're all different and therefore different things work for us. If it makes you happy and doesn't cause any harm, then awesome! 😄 Also, we all just have different sexual needs! Somebody could have a high libido which would …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/21 04:10 PM
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It absolutely wasn't your fault. 💕 Most women cannot come from penetration alone! Society has drawn penetration as something so hyper magical, that gives women "real orgasm". 😐 It quilt trips us into thinking that there's something wrong with us, when penetration doesn't stimulate us, hurts us or just doesn't make us come. penetration alone doesn’t stimulate me Based on my experiments with toys, it doesn't stimulate me either. It annoys me to see people claim how women should be able to come thr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 03:26 PM
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I am glad you found the courage and patience to do so if that's something you want and it works for you! 🥰 From what I've heard, dating can be mentally exhausting. Now you have more time for yourself, your career, your health and you don't need to give your resources to a person that's not the right fit. Well done, keep up that strength. 💖🎉 Furthermore, remember to occasionally spoil/treat yourself! 💐🛍🎁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 08:42 AM
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I am sorry about that! 😟💔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 06:13 AM
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A bunch of stuff started to pop up in my mind when I started thinking about it, but I'll write down a few. ☺ I don't know are all of these that weird 😅, but: • Referring to women as "females" while referring to men as "men". • Using the phrase "good dick" while suggesting that a woman doesn't get enough sex, or just had sex with them. (Like "she should get some good dick", "she just needs some good dick" or "she just got some good dick".) • Always when a woman criticises men/a man, implying that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 05:48 PM
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I totally agree with you! 🥰 I tend to naturally take a role of "a therapist" with people I care about, which isn't a burden for me. I don't usually get too affected and bothered by others problems. Often I find it rather "interesting", perhaps because I am interested in psychology and will study it in the future. Of course, I am not anybody's free therapist who's available 24/7. 😆 Luckily I haven't usually been taken advantage of in that way. But if that for a woman is a burden or such, she's no…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 09:08 AM
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I agree that it was a bit strange! 😅 I meant that it would've been alright in general, if we had known each other. But as said, I didn't even know his name. 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 06:39 AM
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Only times when women have approached me have been: Two older religious ladies asked if I needed a bag of food. (Their church had a charity, where they gave out free food around Christmas in case that someone was poor and couldn't afford food.) I politely turned it down, because I didn't need it. At the gym once a woman has politely asked me how much I have left in a machine I was using. Also at the gym, a lady was going to use a machine and I was walking in the same direction, so she took a ste…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 05:30 AM
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We should, indeed. 💐 I've heard that many of us have found this from a hate comment because they came to see how "radical" and "insane" it is. 🤫 Even though sending a bouquet might leave them confused, it's not like they would understand why anybody would send someone flowers. 🤭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 05:15 AM
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I've come across some articles that teach some basic tips. For example this Healthline article. These kinds of tips can be found with googling things like: "self-defence tips", "self-defence for beginners" or such. 😄 Also, I've understood that some fighting technique organizations have self-defence classes (even specifically to women), for things such as Krav Maga. With quick google research, I came across a site that seems to offer self-defence classes for women: kravmaga.com I can't guarantee …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 11:54 PM
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I agree. 😊 I got a bit lucky that I happened to come across an FDS hate comment one day, which brought me to check this sub out. 🍀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 10:55 PM
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Welcome! 🥰🌷
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 04:46 PM
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Yikes. 🙁 Some sub criticizer seem to love calling us "femcels" who can't get a man, but to me, it seems like a lot of ladies here have experience with sex with men, and more than often these experienced have been disappointing. 😅 I don't have any yet, but I am glad I found FDS around the time I turned 18 because thanks to this I've turned down a bunch of LVM's, that I probably would've given a chance in the past. 😳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 04:43 PM
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And being attractive doesn't mean being good in bed, because that's highly related to things such as knowledge (about anatomy and sexuality), connection, communication, selflessness, caring etc. 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 03:57 PM
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Unbelievably handsome young men may know everything about sex No, they do not. I don't understand how anybody thinks this way. I don't know should I laugh or be mad. Knowing about different positions, that are learned from porn, isn't the same as knowing everything about sex. Those men might know a lot about sex that's all about their pleasure (for example penetrative sex and blow jobs), but they primarily don't know a thing about women's anatomy and pleasure. Women who have sex with men still c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 11:23 AM
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Me. 🙋🏻‍♀️💖💜💙 I live in a nordic country, and the situation for LGBT+ people isn't the worst, even though there's still some inequality and discrimination. Before FDS I was kinda "equal about it", thinking I could date a person regardless of their gender. But now I am not sure if I could or want to date a guy. 😕 And every time I come across a misogynist comment or a study/article about statistics related to straight relationships being unequal for women, I want it a bit less. 🤨 for example Lesbia…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 06:14 AM
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I understand where you're coming from, and can see your point of view on the matter. 😊 Absolutely do what feels best for you! ❣ You are just a body to them. I've understood that sadly this is often the case, even though I don't have personal experience. 😕 Hearing the experiences makes me sceptical to even try dating a man. I still myself would tell him about it and (try to) have an open and informative conversation about protection and safe and pleasurable sex beforehand. 😄 A clear plan, trust a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 05:55 AM
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If you’re with someone new,don’t tell him you’re on birth control, ask him to wear a condom. This is good advice, and I do in general encourage people to follow it! 😄 However, if I had a man as a partner (I've never been with anyone yet), I'd tell them I am on birth control, but would still ask them to wear a condom. Because if then they would try to negotiate about that, to me it would be a red flag which I'd want to notice as soon a possible. 🚩 Because I wouldn't want to date a person who didn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 05:56 PM
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I agree that could be a good idea! 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 05:19 PM
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Some people don't like super "active sex", and that's fine I suppose. 🤷🏻‍♀️ But if a girl "feeling too alive" is a turn-off and he even tells her to pretend she's dead, then it kinda sounds like he wants to date a doll or a dead woman. 😰 In which case he should look for some kind of sexual counselling/therapy or she should look for a new partner...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 08:39 AM
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I agree. It's talked about a bit too lightly, people should be informed about the risks better. In general, I support people who want to get surgeries. But when I hear about a husband pressuring his wife to get implants for his satisfaction, I think that's just horrible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 04:24 PM
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Damn, I am sorry for that. 😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 02:19 PM
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I personally don't care that much about the dick size, because for me, if I was dating a person with a dick, the penetration would never be the main event. I appear to only have little sensation down there (based on the experiments I've had with toys), so I wouldn't build the event around it. It could be a part of it, but ideally not really that significant. But I absolutely do get why some people care about it, especially if they can enjoy penetration and want it to be the main event. And regar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 02:13 PM
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I totally get that! I love helping and listening to people regardless of their gender. 💕 Yet if it starts to seem like they are just using me, and don't really ever care what I have to say or what I am feeling, it starts to become not okay. 😕 I am happy to help and I feel great after seeing someone feeling better after it or such. But if I don't feel appreciated, connected to them or if the person is never willing to listen to me, then it would become rather uncomfortable and even annoying. 😓 Ho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 01:45 PM
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To me it seems like generally, men have a hard time finding the middle ground with talking and opening up. 🤔 Either they can't speak about their emotions at all, even if they needed to, or they use you as their free 24/7 therapist and won't listen to you for over 5 minutes straight. I don't know if it's a cultural thing, but most men I've come across won't talk about their feelings at all. However, then I hear many (mainly) American women tell about how they've encountered men that push their pr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 09:54 AM
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The idea that bisexuals have higher sex drives and are down for everything is just biphobic. And so is it when a person says something like that they are okay with their girlfriend being a bisexual because then they could have a threesome/more sex/more "adventurous" sex. When someone says something like that, all I can hear is: "I accept your sexuality, because it benefits me and my sexual desires." 👨: "You are bisexual? Would you be down for a threesome with me and my bisexual girlfriend?" 😏 👩🏻…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 11:49 AM
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I am bi too and have relatively the same experience. It has always for me been kinda like, I just feel attraction to women objectively. To all different kinds of women, even without knowing them. 😊 But I only feel attraction towards men with certain personality features. Basically, I need a reason to not feel attracted to a woman, while I need a reason to be attracted to a man. 😄 After discovering FDS feeling attraction towards men has become even rarer. It wasn't a purposeful change, and it has…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 11:51 AM
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Yeah! I've been to a cat café a few times and I loved it! 😊 If someone requested it for me, I'd also see it as a thoughtful idea, because I love cats. 🐱 I struggle to follow conversation with background noise. Me too! 😕 And if a person took the time to find a cafe that doesn't have that much over stimulation (loud noises, bright lights etc.) so I could be comfortable there, I'd see that as a sweet high effort date plan. ☺ Of course, that can be a hard thing to know in advance. But for example, i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 08:06 AM
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I am glad you've found guys like that, Protoetype. 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 05:34 AM
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High efforts isn't so much about spending cash as it is about making an effort to make a good impression Yup, I absolutely agree. 😊 I think a date can be high effort and lovely without the person spending that much. 😄 The expensive restaurant was just the first high effort "cliche" that popped into my mind. 😅 I know what you mean, this one can be tricky for neuroatypical because common high value dates may be not be compatible with our particular dispositions For sure! It would be a rather diffi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 05:31 AM
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A person on the autism spectrum here. 😊 For us there are certain tradition date settings that can be uncomfortable and feel overstimulating (noise at restaurants, being hyper aware while sitting in front of someone while having to stare at them in the eye etc) but it should not be a reason to settle for low effort and cheap dates, like boring walk dates. What's the point of boring dates when we can date plenty entertained and stimulated through our quirky interests on our own? This is one FDS pr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 07:18 PM
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Lovely if he treats you well! 🥰 That's wonderful to hear. 💕 Looking attractive means absolutely nothing, if they treat you poorly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 05:00 PM
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Definitely! Respectfulness, kindness and intelligence look good to my eyes. ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 08:30 AM
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I agree with you, Angryclarinetist. 😊 I am not saying it applies to everyone's preferences, but it does to mine! 😃 I could find pretty much any man, who's around my age, attractive based on the genetic features they have (such as height, facial features etc.). ☺ Things like style, hygiene, intelligence, personality, the way they treat me and others, their values and things like that have a major effect on my attraction. They could make a person who's socially seen as "not so attractive" look des…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 06:27 AM
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Oh my god... The worst and most disgusting thing I've read today. "Don't let a woman recover from her eating disorder, instead make her life worse! Because it apparently benefits you!" (It does not) There are so many things wrong with that! It would be a novel if I wrote them all. First of all, the writer fails to recognise that not all eating disorders cause obsession over the person's body. Secondly, they (or we, because I am recovering/have recovered from B.E.D, but then again, he clearly isn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 06:13 PM
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I used to feel that way too. I thought my life would be over at 30 because that's what I had been made to believe. I don't feel that way anymore though! I realized that the belief was irrational and internalized misogyny after discovering FDS. And I am thankful for that. 🥰 I am 18 and definitely not afraid to grow older. I am now at the age when a bunch of creepy older dudes want to fuck me because of my age. Why would I want that? I don't want to be attractive to the people, who pretty much fet…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 01:36 PM
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Totally, 100%. ☺ I came across FDS during the pandemic, maybe a couple of months ago. I moved to my own apartment a few months before the pandemic originally started. 😅 And lately, I haven't been meeting up with people a lot, so I've had a bunch of time to focus on myself. 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 07:27 AM
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Hello, fellow bisexual. 💖💜💙 And yes, exactly. 😊 I don't have any experience with sex yet, with people of any gender. However, based on the knowledge I've gotten by myself, I wouldn't enjoy penetration that much, as it doesn't give me much sensation. 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 01:37 AM
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Yes! It's a huge, bright red flag. I think most "foreplay" is just a part of sex, not a separate thing. I don't like the penetration focused idea of sex. But skipping that part and having mainly penetration (even if the woman would want more), is a massive 🚩.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 01:51 PM
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I've sometimes heard some men talk about the consent part, but more rarely. However, I've sometimes heard a point, that you shouldn't have sex while the woman (or both) are drunk, because having sex with drunk people is messier/harder/not so enjoyable. Because drunk people act differently, can have motoric troubles and can often be, shall I say, annoying. So basically, "Don't sleep with drunk people, because that's not fun".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 01:12 PM
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I've been using pills since I was like 12 or 13 because my body's reaction to periods was intense. I couldn't eat anything during my period without throwing up. 😥 However, if I would have sex with a man or a person, who can use a condom, at some point in my life (Specifically sex that would include penetration, which I likely wouldn't enjoy so much and would rather go without, but anyhow.) I'd still insist on using a condom. If they don't want to use a condom, then alright. We don't need to have…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 06:05 AM
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Hello! 👋🏻🥰 💖💜💙
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 05:13 AM
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I am sorry you are being treated that way! It's totally understandable to be sick of that kind of treatment. 😕 It sounds uncomfortable and scary. It sucks that the world is like that, a big dog doesn't sound like a bad idea. 🐕 Oh also, I am bisexual and 18 too, by the way. 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 06:13 AM
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I saw that post a bit after it was published. Sad, scary or disgusting? Can't pick. 😰 Anyhow, their subreddit and the anxiety, discomfort and fear it made me feel is one of the reasons why I joined FDS in the first place. So thank you, I guess? 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 11:10 AM
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If you want to date a doll, just say so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 11:55 AM
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To get it out of the way: They clearly don't know anything about women's anatomy. That's not how 🐱 works. Also, people like that (and misogynists in general) annoy me, which people quite rarely do. A person's value isn't related to their sexual life. (Assuming that sexual life doesn't hurt others.) And why should men be celebrated for having sex while women should be shamed? I could rant about this for a novel worth, and I was about to write an extremely long comment. But I feel like my thoughts…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 05:02 PM
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If somebody truly wants to be "a traditional wife", and they are in a situation where they can do so, then by all mean they are allowed to be "a tradwife"! If that's what makes them happy, then that's completely fine. ☺ I am all for people aiming to have the kind of lives they want if it doesn't hurt someone else. 💕 But shaming others for wanting different things, not supporting gender equality, being racist and homophobic and trying to talk others into following the same lifestyle isn't fine. 😐…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 01:42 PM
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Having emotions, even strong and fastly changing ones, isn't bad as long as it doesn't cause actions that hurt others. (Verbal abuse, violence etc.) People, regardless of their gender, should be taught and encouraged to express and communicate their feelings in nonviolent ways from a young age. 🥰 It's an important emotional skill. ☺ Having emotions and showing them in a non-hurtful way is normal and acceptable! 😊 And people shouldn't be encouraged to suppress their emotions because they might co…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 04:36 PM
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Another one here! 💖💜💙
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 03:12 AM
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And I am glad you did, gorgeous! 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 05:27 PM
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I can understand your view! ☺ And it sucks that many men don't see "boyfriend" as a strong boundary. I am not dating, and often when I talk about my possible future s/o, I use the term partner. "I would want my future partner to...", "If I ever get a partner..." And so on. That's because it's gender-neutral, and my partner could be of any gender. ❣ Probably that use has turned it into such a neutral term for me! 😃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 04:50 PM
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Thank you! 😊 When it comes to dating, some terms can be viewed differently, which is totally alright! 😄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 10:05 AM
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I didn't see your post as hateful! 😊 And I understand where you are coming from. I suppose people view the word "partner" differently. For me, it might be a bit more neutral word than it appears to be for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 08:46 AM
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I can empathise with a lot of those feelings. I am on the spectrum as well, and I am often afraid that I come off as annoying, embarrassing or such. I still have the habit of apologizing a lot for basically simply existing and telling people to say if I am being annoying. I think it's a long process to get over these feelings! It can take a lot of conscious thinking. Like reminding yourself that you aren't annoying and maybe asking would you be annoyed if someone acted the way you are acting. It…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 08:43 AM
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Never saw it from that point of view. It's great to hear different perspectives! I haven't dated yet, but I think I'd call a person I am officially dating "partner" regardless of their gender or the time we've been dating for. It just feels natural for me. ☺ However, I can understand why that would sound annoying or "too much" to some people. I wouldn't use terms like "life partner", "future wife/husband", " love of my life" or such right away though!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 08:34 AM
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Yes! 😍 Treat yourself well, even if nobody else will. ❣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 07:24 AM
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Penetration doesn't give pleasure or much sensation for a relatively big part of women, and though I am a virgin, I know I am part of that group. (Based on toy experiments) 😕 And because straight sex to my understanding is so penetration focused, I likely wouldn't enjoy it. So I don't crave "basic straight sex" at all anymore. In a fact I am bisexual, and I see it as more likely that I'll end up dating a woman. However, I don't completely cut out the thought of potentially dating a man if I find…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 06:38 AM
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Absolutely agreed! 😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 02:38 PM
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I've heard it several times! Maybe it's like women are like... Arrogant, egoistic, elegant etc? I probably would hate the comparison but... I do love cats. I can't bear to stay offended for long if somebody compares me to a cat. 🐱💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 06:02 PM
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I hope the surgery will go well! Good luck with that and the recovery. 💖 I am glad to hear that you have such a good support system! ☺ It's always a good thing especially in a situation like yours!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 04:55 AM
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I would stay away from a person who hates cats. Because I personally love cats and want to have some in the future, so it would likely become an issue. 😿 It would just be related to compatibility! Of course, if they were otherwise perfect, not having cats could be something I reconsider. But if they actually HATE (I am not talking about a fear) some animal, that would be a bit of a red flag. 🤨 On the other hand, if a person likes cats (and maybe even has cats), I see that as a bonus. 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 04:35 AM
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I agree. Personally, I think my standards are at least relatively normal. They aren't just "I'll take anything". ☺ I don't really even have big standards for looks. I do find some styles more attractive than others, but there isn't a certain style that's a must. Having good hygiene is important tough if you can call that a looks related standard. (Even though having those standards aren't bad imo.) I supposed, to sum up, my standards (for a person of any gender), but it got longer than I thought…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 04:26 AM
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The joke about men losing their freedom for marriage is absurd. Like how he's basically getting a life sentence, is now stuck with having to listen to the nagging and oh no, she really caught you! Batchelor party is seen as "the last day of freedom" and in some wedding cakes, the groom is even wearing a ball and chain. As if he wasn't the one who proposed. Sir, who forced you to get married? Did someone threaten you? You can tell me. 😟
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 02:48 AM
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The moment somebody begins to manipulate me like this or for any reason starts saying unnecessarily rude comments, is the moment we will break up and I cut them out of my life. 🤨 I am not desperate for anyone's approval. If it appears that a partner of mine doesn't love me or that I am not their type, it's time to separate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 03:37 AM
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Their ideology is literally like: "I want women to have sex with me easily and I want to bang multiple women. But I don't want women to have sex with men easily, because that makes them sluts." And "Why can't women just have sex with me? How is it a big deal anyway? Also, why women are such sluts nowadays having sex with everyone?" And "I am going to have sex with a bunch of women, but when I want to settle down I want my girlfriend to be a virgin." Make a choice. Do you want women to have sex w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 03:46 PM
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Relationship status: ☑ Single ☑ Taken ☑ It's complicated ✅ Intentionally single
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 11:56 AM
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Exactly! "You should lower your standards or you'll end up being alone" I would prefer to die as a virgin and be single for the rest of my life rather than to be in an unsatisfying relationship with a person I don't even like, who doesn't respect me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 07:18 AM
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I don't think women getting a lot of dates is saying anything about it being easier for us. More risks and disappointing sex presumably. I suppose in some ways dating is hard for everyone. Quantity doesn't replace quality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 03:12 PM
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Yeah! I often see stuff like that, - "He should get a hotter gf" "Why would he cry after a girl when he could just bang a hotter one?" and it's really sad how those people seem to forget that a person could form an emotional bond and see the other person as something more than an object. 🙁 If I had a partner that I loved deeply and someone would even suggest that I'd get "a hotter one", I'd be pretty frustrated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 07:09 PM
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(She's an absolutely gorgeous lady, don't take my comment as I was saying otherwise. 💕 This is related to the view of the poster.) Did it ever occur to him that perhaps Russell loves her and that's why it's his biggest fear? Maybe you don't want to just replace someone you love with someone who "looks better" or whatever. She is not like a car, that you buy a new one when you can afford a better and cooler model. He can get emotionally attached to her and see more than what others see!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 03:54 PM
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Oh gosh. "Happy Valentine's Day" -text message would be a better gift than that. 😨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 09:19 AM
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I can't remember. I am not sure, I don't keep a count. Older than I've even been before. Sorry, but that's a secret. Do you need someone to buy you some alcohol? I'm almost dead, how about you? I do answer the "how old are you" question and generally ask it back too. Because I am 18 and at this age, age really does matter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 10:15 AM
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Oh yes! Absolutely, I agree with you. I do not emphasise misogyny or horrendous manipulation tactics! 😳🤢 And I have on purpose "studied" about some tactics just so I can spot them soon as possible and avoid the extra suffering, humiliation and regret. 😬 (Not saying that the victim of manipulation should feel any of that! But I just know I would. 😣)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 06:17 PM
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Thank you! 💕 And yes, these are scary times indeed! I guess they have always kinda been... My mind pretty much always starts fro wonder and figure out other people's motives. 🤭 I suppose it's a mix of curiosity, empathy and interest in psychology. However, sometimes with extremely annoying and disgusting posts I just try to cut it out and tell myself that I shouldn't try to figure out there that mindset came from. 😳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 03:07 PM
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That's wonderful. ☺ I have noticed that many people turn out to like themselves more when they grow up, which is great.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 02:11 PM
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Well, thank you! 🌸☺ Many Reddit communities are indeed horrible and misogynist. Scrolling through some of them makes me feel disgusted, increase the distrust and caution towards men (even if that wasn't my intention) and honestly, many of those writings just make me scared. 😥 And also worried that what if I started dating (I have not "joined the game" yet during my early years.) and later on I find out that they are part of severely misogynist, perhaps quarantined, group. Luckily I have been lea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 02:08 PM
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Oh wow, almost choked on my drink while reading that. Poor girl, I hope she'd get flowers or a nice gesture or something. 🙁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 10:51 AM
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What a cutie! 🐶💕 Happy Valentine's day to you both. 😺
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 10:49 AM
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Oh god, sorry this turned into such a long message! 🤭😳 I hope I get my point across well enough. I occasionally go to check out a few of those subs and I think that a lot of people there have misunderstood a lot of us. At least I don't personally recognise myself from their comments about wanting a hot man to be my bank while I don't put any effort into myself or the relationship. To me, FDS has mainly been about recognising and finding my sense of self-worth. Acknowledging that I shouldn't have…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 10:25 AM
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Ladies. 🥰😍 Sadly I have a hard time finding women who like women. (At least in my area, it's pretty hard.) Being single is okay for me too, though! I suppose I still could date a man, even though I have a preference for women. But it should be a really particular and special man who would be on the same line with me about the relationship and future.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 05:53 AM
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I am an 18-year-old bisexual myself, and I honestly find women from many different age groups attractive! 🥰 Mainly between the ages of 17-55. I mean, I wouldn't date a 55-year-old anyhow, because I am so young myself and I don't want to have a big age gab! But I can objectively still find them attractive. 😄 If in 5-10 years men still don't find 30+ women attractive, then alright, your loss dudes. More for us I suppose! 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 05:18 AM
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My thoughts exactly! There wasn't "she is the prettiest and most incredible woman I've ever met", "she's such a wonderful lady and her smile brightens up my day", "I am so thankful to have such a loving and caring partner in my life" or like... any sweet adjectives. 😕 He basically just said, "My partner is actually just my mommy-maid and I wish that never changes."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 02:20 AM
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Looking stunning and strong! 💕💪🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 08:12 PM
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Happy Valentine's to you as well! 💝
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 08:10 PM
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Thank you for clarifying!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 07:58 PM
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That sounds horrible, I am sorry you had to go through that! I can just imagine the pain you are in. I truly hope things start to look up for you. 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 03:33 PM
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I was mainly just wondering why it says "most good men and most good black men"? Why did he separate those two? Aren't good black men just good men? 🤔 Pardon me, I may be missing something there. To me, it just sounded like those two are somehow different in his opinion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 03:26 PM
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Some women seemingly just want a man, not a person/man/woman with a nice personality. Or perhaps they have sadly been told that they don't deserve better and consider themselves lucky that somebody wants them. 😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 01:39 PM
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Absolutely! 😲 I always see women being mad at "the other woman" even more than their man. And in general, seeing other women as a threat who "might steal their man". I understand being mad at the woman too if she knew he was taken or after finding out tries to "steal her man". But more than often they have had no clue or any nasty intentions, and yet she's still faced with so much anger. Imagine finding out your partner was already taken, and besides the possible guilt, embarrassment and sadness…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 09:44 AM
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"Who gives af" Perhaps... Good parents? People, who love their kids? People who have or want to have a bond with their child? People who actually wanted to have the kid in the first place? Idk, just guessing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 02:01 PM
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I have some kind of "Haphephobia", so absolutely not! 😳 If somebody touches me without permission or a warning (sometimes even with permission or a warning), I'll be tensed, disturbed and anxious for a good while.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 07:57 AM
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That would be a better way to help their daughters. To show them what type of treatment they deserve and should expect! Instead of just trying to stop their daughter from dating and wearing "revealing clothes".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 05:25 PM
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I really don't understand the joke about men not wanting daughters because "she will be a hoe" and "she will be a pornstar" while they don't fear that their son would "be a fuck boy or even a sexual assaulter" or "he would be an excessive porn user". 🤷🏻‍♀️ And in general, the "fathers are overprotective of their daughters" is just a misogynist idea in my opinion. Why? Because she is your property? Or perhaps she needs to be kept pure because women lose their purity through sexual acts? 🤢🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 03:13 PM
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I'll probably go to the gym to work on myself. 🏋🏻‍♀️☺
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 07:58 AM
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I think you are right. One of the possible reasons for me could be feeling safer around women. And in a lesbian relationship, the chores tend to be divided more equally and the sex is better. 😉 And maybe, in general, being able to trust them more sexually. Because for example in my experience women don't have (at least not so much) that objectifying, sexist and bragging "locker room -talk". 🤢 Sure women talk about their sexual experiences too, but from what I've come across, it's way different.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 07:18 AM
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I have similar feelings! I've never "been in love" or had a relationship, and since finding FDS I've started to feel like I may not want to date a man or I might not even be able to be interested in one romantically. Or even if I was interested in one, I feel like I couldn't maybe be in a relationship and trust them. Which itself is maybe a bit sad? I don't know whether I should overall see this as a bad or a good thing though. Neutral or impartial perhaps? 🤔 I don't precisely know what caused t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 06:52 PM
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Why those were pretty much my thoughts too? 🤭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 07:07 PM
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Haha! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 06:34 AM
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Exactly! I hate when people call men "simp" when they are just doing something nice or even just a decent thing. A man could make his girlfriend breakfast and get called "simp" for that. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 05:55 AM
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Another bisexual here. 🤝 And agreed. We need to be careful while picking a partner regardless of their gender.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 04:12 AM
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Keep it up! Just don't go back to him, you deserve so much better. 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 04:36 PM
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Hehe, you are right! Two cat ladies leveling up! 😸💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 04:30 PM
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I don't think there's much wrong with it if somebody actually enjoys it. ☺ Personally, I realized that the main reasons why I thought about trying it weren't so adequate. Kinda like "Well, everybody is doing it so it can't be that bad." And to get "love", compliments and attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 04:17 PM
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Congratulations! 🎉 I am happy for you, queen. 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 12:38 PM
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Before finding FDS I used to thought that I would be open to casual sex with someone. Mainly because other people of my age were open to the idea too. Now I know that it's not really my thing, except maybe if my partner was a woman (I am bisexual). Since lesbian sex has fewer risks and is generally more enjoyable to the participants. I would maybe prefer to wait a while with a woman partner too, but perhaps a shorter time than with a guy. I am thankful that FDS opened my eyes before I tried some…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 12:37 PM
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I believe in you, you are better off without him. 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 12:29 PM
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I think one way to get rid of the feels would be to write a list about all the reasons you broke up or all the features that make him LVM etc!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 09:04 AM
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Sounds like he saw you as a threat. To me, it just shows that you are doing at least relatively well in some or multiple parts of your life. ☺ So I suppose the only thing left to say is: Enjoy your career and salary, queen. 🥰🎉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 03:05 PM
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Yes, I absolutely agree that it's RARELY, pretty much never, an accident. That's why I used quotation marks. ☺ It's really just avoiding facing the responsibility and trying to push the problem to the side. 😞 And for sure, once again porn has its part on the situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 02:58 PM
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The part about anal and slipping it to the wrong hole is terrible and even kinda sad. 😰 If two adults enthusiastically consent to anal, it's absolutely okay to have it. However, "accidentally" slipping it to the wrong hole isn't okay. It can be unhygienic, painful and even dangerous. 🤢😟 I don't have experience with sex, but I've understood that especially with anal sex doing it too fast or incorrectly can hurt like hell or even cause permanent damage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 12:05 PM
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I can't believe I used to LOVE watching videos like that. And only to be prepared if I happen to "find a guy I like". 🤢😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 06:04 AM
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"Trained well"? What is she? A dog? 🐕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 05:54 AM
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I was raised in quite a conservative household and I thought that I HAVE to marry a man when I am an adult till I was like 12. Now I am 18, and I don't even want to get married. It's not part of my future plans. And after finding FDS I have started to come to terms with the fact that maybe a relationship isn't really a part of my future plans.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 10:10 AM
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If I was named that or something similar in someone's phone, I would legitimately cry. Honestly, I'd feel so bad and humiliated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 09:59 AM
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"Morally very strongly against safe sex"? Sounds like he morally very strongly wants everyone to have STD's.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 09:49 AM
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I might remember incorrectly, but I think she said: "Men are like dessert. I love dessert, but I don't really need it." But I might be wrong though!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 10:58 AM
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Congratulations, good for you! 🎉 I can imagine that was a tough thing to do, but I am glad you had the strength to do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 05:47 PM
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I personally don't send nudes at all. Mainly because of the risk of them getting leaked (accidentally or on purpose) or just shown to others. I am just really afraid of the risks. For me, the cons outweigh the pros.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 07:47 AM
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Sorry for a long comment! I took a few picks from the article. Women are so under-diagnosed in many disorders like ADHD, ADD and autism. https://www.google.com/amp/s/woodruffmedical.edu/four-conditions-underdiagnosed-in-women/amp/ "Boys are typically diagnosed with the disorder at age 7. However, most girls have to wait until age 12 to receive a proper diagnosis and treatment, and many girls will never receive a diagnosis. In fact, recent studies estimate that only 25 percent of women with ADD o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 11:07 AM
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I am honestly so proud of you for ending that relationship! 💕 Your value is much higher than what he may have made you believe. I bet it was a hard choice, but it definitely was the right one. 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 07:43 AM
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