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MALE DEPRAVITYhighoncatnipbrownies/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 08:11 PM
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highoncatnipbrownies/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 07:54 PM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYhighoncatnipbrownies/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 04:50 PM
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#JustLVMThingshighoncatnipbrownies/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 04:47 PM
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SCROTES MADhighoncatnipbrownies/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 01:01 AM
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#JustLVMThingshighoncatnipbrownies/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 12:41 PM
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FDS MOVIES & TVhighoncatnipbrownies/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 07:39 PM
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ADVICEhighoncatnipbrownies/r/RedPillWomen23/11/18 10:46 PM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYhighoncatnipbrownies/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 09:39 AM
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highoncatnipbrownies/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 02:11 AM
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LVM LOGIChighoncatnipbrownies/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 02:17 PM
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SCROTES MADhighoncatnipbrownies/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 12:54 AM
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THE AUDACITY OF SCROTEShighoncatnipbrownies/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 05:31 PM
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FDS ANTHEM 🎶highoncatnipbrownies/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 03:39 AM
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I am so beeping tired of hearing 'my love language is touch'... So you must do sex on command or I'm neglected...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/23 09:46 PM
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She's 13. What did you expect? A grown man was trying to bully a little girl and got himself thrown in jail.
/r/ExRedPill13/02/23 01:22 PM
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Step #1. Get publicly owned by a teenager...
/r/ExRedPill13/02/23 04:15 AM
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Thank you for your honesty.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 01:33 PM
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Here's one from Harvard https://www.health.harvard.edu/mens-health/marriage-and-mens-health "Men who have marital partners also live longer than men without spouses; men who marry after age 25 get more protection than those who tie the knot at a younger age, and the longer a man stays married, the greater his survival advantage over his unmarried peers."
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 01:27 PM
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You prove my point perfectly thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 01:15 PM
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For a man it is better to be in basically any relationship at all vs being alone. In a relationship they have someone else's resources to command and it's a know fact that married men live longer. On the flip side married women now have to maintain a household for two people forever. Men who work get to retire. Women are homemakers until the day they die. https://heragenda.com/p/this-is-why-men-benefit-from-marriage-more-than-women And all of the commenters talking about how easy housework and c…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 12:29 PM
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I would rather never have sex again and die single than be in another crappy relationship.v
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 02:33 AM
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Humans have to talk to each other. That's not being needy. It's just part of being the same species.
/r/seduction15/09/22 07:11 PM
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I'm open to living in an Amazonian society.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 02:45 AM
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That the people who complain and shame the loudest have the weirdest kinks.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 11:11 AM
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The best way to tell if someone is using you is to become "useless" to them. This is the best way to get toxic people to leave you alone. Don't provide them with what they're looking for. Become a useless grey rock of boardom. And don't respond when they send a message out of the blue in 3-6 months. Remain uninteresting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/22 12:52 PM
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Holy cow your last sentence gave me the chills. I've seen both men and women do this. Tell them a trauma and they keep bringing it up and obsessing over it. What's that? You're angry at me?? Well it must be because of this!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 01:08 PM
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I'm always just happy when they insult me in app before getting my number or heaven forbid I meet them on a date.. block is easier the earliest it can happen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 02:05 PM
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I wonder if the devil remodels every few centuries to keep torture current. Like, there's a new level where you just keep going on bad OLD dates over and over again. The only texts you receive are 🍆 pics and negs. You can call a friend or family member, but they always tell you to "just give him a chance!!" And the wifi in Hell has a 18 character password that is randomly regenerated every 15 minutes. You need to check the back of the Hell router and re enter it on all devices each time. Also at…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 02:04 PM
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I want to reinforce that it's weird for him to do that. It's weird that your friend asked for a picture. They all seem, weirdly emeshed. It's always worrying when someone (anyone) is all over your social media and then starts liking and following things you're also interacting with. I keep getting friends (aka frienemies) who like and comment on EVERYTHING. They're the first one to like every post and lol emoji on my every comment.... Ugg clingers..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 01:54 PM
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Sounds like you've met my ex husband.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/22 05:04 PM
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Please please PLEASE ladies get a legal lease from a lawyer so that you can demand rent and kick them out in a reasonable amount of time. Most states have rental associations where they give you lawyer approved leases for a small membership fee. Never let anyone move in without paperwork!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 02:31 PM
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Everyday sadist Wow there's a label of truth. I can describe multiple people I've met (ad distanced from) exactly like that. The constant jabs because their self esteem is in the grave and treating me like trash is the only way they can distract themselves from their garbage selves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 05:03 PM
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Can I just say that single Valentines Days are the absolute BEST. I don't have to cook for an ungrateful mooch who grabbed grocery store flowers at the last minute and laughs about how hims just so badz at gifding lolz. I cook myself an elaborate meal (or order one). I pick the drinks, I pick the entertainment, I buy myself the best flowers and I treat myself to some things that I don't normally purchase. This year I got a vintage Coach purse of eBay that is just so beeping cute, I love it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 06:50 PM
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If you have all these deep dark secrets about this guy why don't you put that into a post instead of providing Missing Information every time someone comments?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 06:38 PM
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Thank you for putting the whole article right there! I keep hitting pay walls this morning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 01:28 PM
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This is gold 🥇 Looking back I can see red flags in several interviews that really were a sign I should declined right then and there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 01:27 PM
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zips up vagina and flies away on broomstick I like your style!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 01:08 PM
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I vote Mantrum as a tag for this reddit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 12:55 PM
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Cheated by his """"""crazy ex"""""". He doesn't know why she just went crazy ¯_(ツ)_/¯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 12:54 PM
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I cannot stand watching someone make the same mistake repeatedly. A couple of times, OK sure you weren't positive but by round 3 you realize what's going on, right? But when its a scheduled repeat of self perpetuated drama as you invite in the same guy, the same situation, the same self deprecating habits... NO.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 06:33 PM
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This is real. It's the story of my first marriage and it was awful. Well awful for me, the ex loved it. I'm happily uncool now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 01:42 PM
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I think the concept is a bunch of bull-honkey put out by Disney and Hallmark. The only time a guy has mentioned being soulmates is when they already screwed up and I was trying to leave. "But but you CAN'T leave (my unemployed @$$) because you're my soulmate and God (destiny, fate, my mother, the Easter bunny..) wants us to be together..." Queue the fake tears.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 12:01 PM
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They need a participation award for not sticking their d**k in something now... Did you make it through breakfast without ***king a bagel? Atta boy!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 01:43 PM
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I don't think this is a new phenomenon. Many of my highschool peers did this. Except for the batch that went into the military and did the wedding and kids promptly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/22 12:32 PM
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Men are a cross that we choose to bear If it was a choice I'd be a lesbian.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 04:54 AM
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Wow some of the stuff coming through here lately has been just horrifying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 03:02 AM
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I know guys like this... if he leaves the house alone there's sure to at least a dozen calls...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 04:13 PM
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All he has to offer is the audacity. That is hilarious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 12:12 PM
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I don't bring it up for a while because, like you, there were no children or property in my marriage so it makes zero difference on my current life. Also I've found that guys obsess with how long it's been since I've slept with someone else... I put some real space in between dating and it turns into this return to virginity holy grail.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 09:41 AM
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I feel like this is a reflex thing. Like you have to build muscle memory for saying no. If you can get comfortable doing this when there are NO STAKES, it will be easier to do it when you are emotionally invested. I couldn't agree with you more. Things are always hard when we've never done them before. This is where the advice to get out of your comfort zone comes from. If you can negotiate the price of a used car with a salesman think of how much more comfortable you will be negotiating a salar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 05:00 PM
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Ya as a child I was either yelled at, laughed at, or completely ignored when I was angry. I can't think of one time I was honestly herd before being a teenager.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 02:07 PM
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I really notice this in language too. I think I've really honed in on it from my time here. Women talk about how men make them feel, "I just love him so much. He's my soulmate. I would do anything for him..." Men talk about what the women does for him, "She makes me a better person. She's my better half. She takes care of me."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 02:00 PM
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This exactly. Everyone I've tried to bring into a hobby of mine has basically ruined it the whole time. I don't want to facilitate my hobby for your enjoyment. I want to do it myself. If you want to do it to, do it yourself! Then maybe we can do it together, but I'm not setting up an adult daycare situation with all of my materials or time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 01:44 PM
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Your comment just gave me a realization about myself. Not caring about where to go isn't low maintenance, it's pushing off the labor of the decision.... I think I do this in the "cool girl" "easy going" personality BS... I'm not sure how to fix that just yet but thank you for saying just the right thing to make it personal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 01:22 PM
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With you standing there waiting, he wont become that person. That's what enabling does. So make him better by dumping his lazy @$$ today!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 07:30 PM
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The dog ate his gift, then ate his tire! It's a dog conspiracy I tell you!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 10:58 AM
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My guess was Ares.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 12:22 AM
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Make your own plans ladies. He's not going to make it a romantic holiday? Oh, whatever. Use it to as a self care holiday and romance yourself. Buy your own gift, put on your favorite outfit and take yourself to dinner. Sit at the bar and flirt with the bartender. Have an extra drink with dessert and take an Uber back to your Airbnb.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 01:26 PM
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That chart is fabulous 😂 Also I bet the cliff after winter holidays are the breakups caused by being thrust together with in-laws.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 01:20 PM
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I bought myself a new purse, some makeup, a couple of silver chains, bath bombs and Oreos. I buy myself the best givs for Valentine's Day :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 01:19 PM
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I doubt she got blackout drunk on her own. The couple of times Ive over drank were when someone else was refilling my drink and wouldn't just let it be empty. I would bet this guy kept putting a new drink in her hand and that's how she "let herself" (even typing that in sarcasm p!$$3$ me off) get too drunk... What you REALLY want to find out is was it just this one guy? Or did all the guys in the office "help" her over drink. I would go talk to the bartender and find out who was supplying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 01:14 PM
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The dating pool needs some bleach.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 01:07 PM
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Don't listen to his teenage war thunder. His mom will call him for dinner and he will log off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 01:02 PM
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You mention that you're on contraception. Are you sure it wasn't tampered with? This guy seems to be really upset you're not doing what he wants.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 12:49 PM
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Secure your apartment before you do it. Maybe order a camera for your door. Someone who punches themselves in the head doesn't just go away when told to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 12:47 PM
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OP I would strongly recommend a ring doorbell camera and to keep your doors locked as soon as you come inside. Just as good safety practices.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 12:52 AM
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We are parasitically attached to our feet? I don't remember that part of anatomy class.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 06:49 PM
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My no value ex was like this. I would be talking to someone and mention that I would like one child and he would basically talk over me that he wanted three and then laugh like it was just so funny. But yet he's now pushing 45 and has made no move towards starting a family yet. Glad I got out of there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 05:14 PM
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Brilliant??? That's a strong word for this guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 12:32 PM
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You would think so but I have found men to get VERY offended (and toxic and scary..) if I don't want to get more involved. It's like saying "I want to remain single and just casually date" is seen like a boundary to challenge and they must attack. But yet these guys don't actually want a relationship.... Just to do the thing you said you don't want to do. It makes me wonder if I start coffee dates with a speech about how I never want to be given expensive jewelry, will they try to force that on …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 12:07 PM
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I know someone like this and it boggles my mind. They're literally sitting on the same cushion to for 24 hours straight. I mean I'm not being very outgoing with social distancing. But I at least use different rooms in my house for different activities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 11:42 AM
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All guys seem to do the 'almost but not quite move in' these days. They show up all the time, uninvited, suspiciously right around dinner time. Then they need a shower, and then they're all relaxed, guess they better stay the night.... Ohh guess they get breakfast too.. And it happens over and over... But of course they're not really "living" there (ignore the pile of they're stuff that they keep "forgetting") so they don't contribute. Plus once they start dropping by whenever they want, then th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 10:48 AM
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And friends. Friends can try to pull you into a toxic relationship too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 03:06 PM
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What's the Daily Wisdom part? I've read the book Why Does He Do That? Is there a companion book?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 03:04 PM
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That coffee is 50/50 for the first 6 months until you pass the probationary period. Then it will cost you 100% plus emotional labor. Entry level position. 15 years experience minimum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 06:16 AM
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Linked in dating. Where the recruiters hit you up for the wrong job skill and then try to take you on a coffee date instead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 05:55 AM
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I want to cross stitch this and hang it on my wall. How many boyfriends have I not been able to say a simple "No that doesn't work for me" to without an absolute battle. No I don't want to have dinner with your parents for my birthday. No I don't want want to pay all of the bills while you find yourself in league of legends. No I don't want to do 100% of the emotional labor and then be an on demand sex toy... On top of that how many friends have freaked out over me having a different opinion! We…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 01:08 PM
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What all the good ones are taken? Well I guess there's no point trying. I'll just take all this money I'm not spending on a couch creature and plan a vacation with my dog. 😃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 02:53 AM
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What's the old saying, don't mess with people who cook your food?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 02:37 PM
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Don't be ridiculous. His mother keeps him in top of the line kitchen gear while she delivers his meals and cleans his apartment! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 02:46 PM
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I don't think this is real. I use insoles in my shoes to support my arch (horse stepped on foot) and they're some of the thickest insoles I can get my hands on. They're solid and lift my foot a good half an inch. I have to be careful what shoes I use them in because shoes don't have that much height inside them. If I put 2 inch insoles in shoes my foot wouldnt fit in the shoe. Maybe in sneakers where I could adjust the laces a bit more, but the shoe is going to look odd with 2 inch platforms on …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 02:32 PM
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When I first found out I had a food allergy I really felt like I had to provide two versions of all foods. One for me, and a "normal" one for everyone else. I felt uncomfortable telling people that I needed to review a restaurant menu before going, god forbid every dish on the menu was no go.... and I really had a hard time even mentioning it to a new person before a date because I didn't want to appear "complicated". It honestly felt like my food allergy (that had sent me to the ER several time…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 05:41 PM
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He had it all and he tossed it out for younger *****.... There are no words for the level of stupidity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 01:31 AM
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It's all in the physical energy behind it. You can throw darts at a dart board and have the stick firmly, or you can throw darts at a board and have them expload into pieces with the force of impact. Max strength belongs in the gym not the home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 02:02 PM
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Is this the same thing as guys insisting "you can't go to bed angry" as a way to keep the discussion going and going even when you want to walk away?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 01:53 PM
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I don't understand why a guy would lie saying he's shorter.. don't men want to be as tall as possible? Also, I wonder if that is the default height that the app supplies. Ive noticed that many fitness apps and games provide the 'average' heights for genders when filling out forms.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 01:25 PM
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I thought the crayon thing was a neg to call her childish or put down her hobby. If an adult says to me they love to draw, I assume they mean pencils, ink, charcoal, pastels etc. Not a childish craola box of 8 crayons. Asking about a crayon seems similar to asking a photographer whats there favorite Instagram filter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 01:36 PM
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Assuming they haven't started playing a game on their phone and told us to let them know when they need to do something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 01:31 PM
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OMGosh I would hide that as the deepest darkest secret when dating. I bet you could fill a post character limit with stories about guys who are just so sooooore and aaaaaachy all over from working allllllll daaaaayyy. #sad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 01:24 PM
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I mentally blocked him at "came into. 😃😃😃"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 01:18 PM
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Yes!!! Everyone needs a sonic toothbrush.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 01:36 PM
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I wish I could come to dinner and LOL at all these stories from your mom. 😂🤣 I'd bring a lovely hostist gift.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 01:19 PM
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They usually backpedal when you agree to breakup lol. It's such a tatic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 12:47 AM
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Danger! Danger Will Robinson. This guy is NOT a safe roommate. Can you get out of there?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 04:03 PM
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THIS. My ex husband would gawk at me with this disgusting little smirk when I got dressed for work in the morning. He wouldn't say anything, just the smirk, stare, the leave and it made me feel gross. So I stopped walking around partially dressed as I got ready, so he started following me into the bedroom to watch. Then I moved into the walk in closet, he would come in there too. Then I shut the door on the closet, he opened it, gawk smirk close. I finally just flipped out on him yelling about h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 04:51 PM
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I personally think letting anyone see a list is a horrible idea. Because think about it, if this person was healthy, you wouldn't have a whole list of issues with them. And an unhealthy person will see and fixate on that list like a drug addict. They want a copy of that list! Must have it! Now that they have it, well this is wrong, that never happened, you took that the wrong way, you obviously have problems, look at how neurotic you are to keep a whole list lol lol lol, and you misspelled this …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 02:36 PM
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I would love to read an article for that number.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 02:26 PM
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My ex husband is the perfect example of not being able to read a room. He's notorious for seeing multiple women and then complaining or being sadz at one over the other... Like going to see Ann and crying all night because Kelly walked buy him in the grocery store and hurt his fee fees. All that to say he's not neurodivergent at all. His father ("normal" as well) is known for brining up the most uncomfortable subject humanly possible including asking a pregnant woman how much weight she gained i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 02:20 PM
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If he life about something that big he's lying about other things..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/22 08:55 PM
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Ok the passivity is probably going to turn into a problem in the future when he won't take initiative in any aspect of his life, for example in forwarding himself professionally. However... He has 8 years on you? 🚩🚩🚩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 04:52 AM
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Explaining yourself further will not make him understand, or care. And if the words "I'm sorry" slips from your lips he will take it as confirmation that you're just a crazy emotional woman and he did nothing wrong. You could literally say "I'm sorry for yelling but you are literally an evil entity trying to open a portal to the netherworld" and all he will here is "I'm sorry I went crazy I can't help it Im a women."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 12:10 PM
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And this is exactly why men do not respect women who make the first move. Sure they may go along and try to get their d*** in but they just think you're a joke in the end.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 12:00 PM
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I hate VENMO. No one needs to look at a history of my cash transfers...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 12:35 PM
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Wait... You mean some of them actually know how to clean up after themselves? Lies!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 04:54 PM
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He can't text you if you block him :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 04:00 PM
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Congratulations on losing that first 200lbs. The last 20 will be a breeze.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 11:12 PM
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Never ever give out your number. If you feel you have to (like they will call you right there) get yourself a Google voice number or one of the temporary texting apps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 12:21 PM
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Wow that first paragraph. 🏆🥇🪙🏅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 12:18 PM
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I love that show (and Charlie Hunnam) but Tara should have called child protection services and moved to a different state the first time she got punched in the face by her boyfriends mother's.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 12:16 PM
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That's not true. Theres a sad saggy pair of testicles swinging around too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 12:12 PM
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Does anyone have better luck on paid dating sites? Tinder is certainly a wide sampling of society being free. Does a pay wall help at all? I was in a less populated city and kept swiping through all the matches. Tinder would show me profiles from further away and I also seemed to get more ladies even though I'm set to meet men. Not sure if that was Tinder or if it was more common for women to mark themselves as guys (if that's what was happening, I'm just guessing). I moved to a larger city and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 12:04 PM
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Hey, there's a logo on this post. I've never seen that before. Neat!! Also the title of this makes me want to weep... Young girls need to be taught this young. TV characters like Homer Simpson and Petter Griffin are doing a huge disservice by normalizing the bumbler.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 11:55 AM
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Well of course. You pour in the protection and common decency and out pops sex. Isn't that how women work?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 11:43 AM
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That is why that FDS rule is so hard for me to follow... How does one fine two men worth talking too at the same time? I try to spin a couple plates (/s) but they eliminate themselves so quickly it's like an earthquake in a china shop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 11:38 AM
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I can actually hear the little scurrying noise a grey squirrels claws make as they panic run up the tree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 11:35 AM
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So divorce him. Seems straight forward. Don't worry, they come back when they're hungry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 11:28 AM
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And the word message means lay still while I grope you untill I feel like sex.. which you will give because I was nice enough to grope I mean message you!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 08:28 PM
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I googled it and the pictures look delicious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 07:27 PM
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That's right, praise him for doing chores. He deserves a participation trophy for occasionally doing the absolute bare minimum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 07:15 PM
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Oh it's a recipe for a rice dish with raisins in it. Ok I understand now. At first I thought is was plain rice with raisins which I have never heard of.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 07:00 PM
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If I refused, he stood by the end of the bed and just whined - made whining noises, no words - until I relented. Is your ex a dog? I would start scolding him like he was one. "No! Bad boyfriend. Out! Go sleep in the living room!!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 06:53 PM
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The silver is for If they liked sex they'd be good at it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 06:50 PM
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Are there statistics for the percentage of adult males who have this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 04:51 PM
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Raisins? In rice?? Wut???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 04:50 PM
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Please do not hand me your wallet, do not make me an authorized user on your credit card and whatever you do don't come home with Tiffany's bags, that blue color scares the **** it of me...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 04:49 PM
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It always ramps up when you can't leave. Always.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 04:46 PM
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I like you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 01:44 PM
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It is not normal in America to be paid 100k. That's a high salary here. There is a huge wealth disparity in this country. If you move to a big city like New York, Miami, San Francisco etc you will get that 100k but the cost of living will eat your soul. Step outside those big cities to middle density cities, suburbs or the small towns that cover most of the USA and you will not make six figures. Salary is really dependent on location (or being able to work remotely). But location is really depen…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 02:06 PM
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I agree. I would never officially date a guy who didn't tell me why he did for a living. At a certain point we have to give them the information and cut them off if they use it poorly. That's vetting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 01:37 PM
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Same here. STEM is a very intellectual field. I watch the light go out of people's eyes when I tell them Im a women in STEM. Many are immediately intimidated and most just ask me to build them a website/app/fix their phone. If I say I'm a programmer their purples turn into dollar signs and we talk about how I must be rich from some startup out of my garage. Now I tell people I'm a graphic designer. That explains the computers and they don't ask me for free work (just kidding, they still want s**…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 01:35 PM
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Oh the our money thing gets me really mad. I've had a lot of people do this, from boyfriends, family and friends who think they have a say for some reason. I keep guys out of my house for as long as possible or they seem to start marking territory.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 01:25 PM
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THIS! I had a guy try this tatic on me. Any time we would go anywhere somehow an errand had to be tacked on. The last couple of times I saw him I took my own car and after the date I watched him visibly deflate when he realized I got to decide when I left with my own transportation. I noped the heck out of that one as fast as I could (though still not fast enough).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 10:49 PM
126

I am so sick of guys using "dad bod" as a term of endearment... No one talks about "mom bod" and women would be ripped apart if we did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 10:05 PM
10

What is it with people not learning to drive? I've known several adults who went a decade without a license for absolutely no reason. And they get so but hurt when you don't want to be their main transportation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 10:09 AM
109

Eventually? Not immediately?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 04:17 PM
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This is NOT true! We also consider height when rating men. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 03:12 PM
30

Never get into a car with a man (or anyone) you just met. Once you're in the car you're along for the ride. And if you do decide to cut it short you have to find a way back to your car or home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 02:51 AM
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When he comes back begging for you to get back together (he will) don't do it!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 10:12 PM
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Holy cow... that neg makes me want to cry..... It takes real vision to lack that much foresight. You should probably turn the other cheek and kiss him goodbye. Hopefully he sees the gaps in his manors before he becomes salty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 07:56 PM
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Any talk about animals that doesn't align with my personal beliefs is a deal breaker. If they hunt it better be ethical and legal (plus gun safety to the thousandth degree). I don't deal with the "animals belong outside" BS because I am not living on a farm. My house cat is a house cat and will not be reassigned by a boyfriend. Boy can sleep in the barn, cat gets the bed. Calling your animals names is a big red flag and tends to escalate. I've had multiple guys start with dumb car, stupid cat, f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 12:55 PM
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When your friends bring it up just reply, "That is so sad. Would you like to get lunch I hear Taco Dan's is having a Tuesday special!" It's called bean dip on the internet. Where you bearly acknowledge what the person said and change the subject (aka offer them some bean dip as a distraction). It's almost like grey rock.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 12:39 PM
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Why can't I ever get a dish washing lovebomb phase...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 06:51 PM
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That's infuriating. I had a guy who was like a cousin of a friend of mine on Facebook. He started talking to me on a post of someone else and we were chatting a bit for a few days. I agreed to a date but no plans were set. Then his personality turned it up to 11 and started to get clingy. Like for real "teach me to be a good boyfriend"... Um what? We are full adults btw not high schoolers. I was like nope never mind. Then the begging started of please please give me a chance.... First I had to b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 09:26 PM
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You got it. If he's sitting at the table and his parents are disrespecting you he's either dissing you with them or sitting silently in agreement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 06:57 PM
58

Never accept common pet names. He calls you Babe so he doesn't screw up names between the 4 girls he's spinning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 05:41 PM
60

I have had multiple exes leave notes and flowers on my car and I hate that. It shows that they know you want to be left alone, but they're telling you they know where to find you anyway. Its a predatory move.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 05:35 PM
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But don't worry, this guy has zero problem setting boundaries with you and expects you to lay on the floor like a bear skin rug and be walked over by his family and friends. Is he going to do that for you? Not a snowballs chance in hell. Take my free award for today because that's so spot on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 05:32 PM
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Never ever use the label "bisexual" with a guy, it directly translates to "guaranteed to have threesome" in mansplaining.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 12:30 AM
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This is so well put. Please take my poor rediter awards. 🥇🪙🏆 There is no such thing as High Value or Low Value people. Only high and low value actions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 03:30 PM
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I've done background checks before and they miss a lot. Theres a large population that are constantly in low levels of trouble but never have anything big enough stick to show up on paper. Just because no landlord has gone through the grueling eviction process doesn't mean that this person pays his fair share of the bills on time. Just because he has no convictions doesn't mean he hasn't been arrested a dozen times or gets traffic tickets every week. Only major things show up on a background che…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 10:52 PM
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I'm not close with most of my family for unpleasant reasons. However I don't let the person I'm dating know that. I talk up any connections I do have and make it sound like they're more of a support system than they really are. Predator's are looking for women with few friends and family connections so they can insert themselves and isolate. I let them know early that I talk to lots of people and am in regular contact with my inner circle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 03:45 AM
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I also refused to do my ex husband's laundry. He never ran out of clean clothes for work. It's amazing how if he wanted clean pants he washed them, no big deal. I would iron for him on occasion but he also ironed his own shirt in the morning (business casual where he worked at the time). This only offloaded HIS clothes though. He never once washed a towel or pillowcase. He never changed the sheets either. So it only worked because it was something HE needed. If it could be ignored it would be. M…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 01:29 PM
8

I like your style.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 12:38 PM
15

Ive found that negging about crafts is a big red flag that they will belittle your hobbies at every turn. Meanwhile they're playing with their "action figures" in the game room...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 12:25 PM
23

It's LVM whack a mole. You just have to hit them with a mallot and they disappear again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 12:00 PM
22

When you cook a whole meal and they pick it apart... I just wonder why they expect me to feed them at that point. They need to be food self sufficient if they won't touch a vegetable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 09:11 PM
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Just reading the title to this post sent my blood pressure right up. Picky eaters (expecially those who try to make it your problem) are a huge pet-peve. I take it as a sign of immaturity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 08:22 PM
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My experience with therapists has been that they encourage relationships over everything else. I was being emotionally abused by an ex but the therapist discouraged boundaries and actually suggest lying or fabricating situations to have space instead of just demanding it. Any idea that the relationship wasn't good for me was squashed...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 03:42 PM
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Oh ok I understand. I only play chess a little so I didn't realize one color was supposed to go first. We just ask who wants to go and then winner gets to choose.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 12:32 PM
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Ok but why does she have to use white? That's the part that I don't get.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 12:11 PM
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Is there actually red 💊 advice to not date horse women? I would love to read that post. I've been into horses since I knew what a unicorn was :) Grandma was a horse woman and passed it down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 12:38 PM
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"I guess none of that matters now." Oh wow now that you've said this I can see the extreme sorry and retrospection in your deeply expressed emotions. I am overwhelmed with pity for your bleeding soul. Guess I have to stay and mother you now. Nothing else could possibly happen... Seriously what do the expect you to say when they pull out, "I've ruined everything, I am such bad person, you must hate me now, I deserve fire and brimstone.." Well actually yes, you are correct. Bye now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 02:41 PM
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Her father actually took her door off the hinges as punishment so she had absolutely no privacy anymore. My alcoholic father and horrendously abusive step mother would regularly take the door off the hinges as a punishment. For the last year or two of high school, the door had been kicked in at least twice when locked (I was always changing on the other side) and removed from the hinges for most of the time I was there. It turned into the standard punishment for everything along with my step mot…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 09:39 PM
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I'm so sorry that happened to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 02:31 PM
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My cat is welcome in the bathroom any time but she respects my privacy. Plus her little paws are too fuzzy to turn doorknobs...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 12:03 PM
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I never lock it in my own home. Unless maybe I had a guest with a child or something. To me if the door is closed, someone's in there. If it was empty the door would be open. Why are we trying the door? That's what really freaks me out, why is anyone touching the doorknob on a closed bathroom door? But I'm not a boundary pusher so maybe that's why the idea of opening a bathroom door is just foreign to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 11:59 AM
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If anyone feels ambitious, I feel like this comment could be expanded into its own post. What benefit is a marriage for a self-sufficient women? (From the woman's perspective if that sentence isn't clear.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 03:18 PM
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I can 9000% understand. I was a Barbra the Builder in my first marriage. DONT DO IT LADIES!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 03:10 PM
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I'm not sure what your financial league is but Information Technology is a very lucrative career once established. Expecially now that many jobs have moved to remote. I am a Software Engineer myself and I would really like to transition to something less stressful, however I can't find anything that makes this much money. I'm an easy 6 figure earner. To make that same money I would need to work as a lawyer, or doctor, or high level executive of some sort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 03:03 PM
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This is golden! Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 02:49 PM
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Copied from the article: https://www.goodrx.com/blog/dissociation-during-sex/ Key takeaways: Dissociation is a term for feeling disconnected from your thoughts, emotions, sensations, sense of self, or your surroundings. Dissociation during sex is not unusual and may be caused by anything from everyday stress to fear of intimacy, insecurity, or trauma. Mindfulness and meditation can be a helpful way to manage dissociation during sex, and you may want to seek out professional help. --- If you some…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 01:55 PM
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I added a copy to the top layer of comments for you :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 01:54 PM
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This makes me wonder. If you get into a car, say a dates car who is driving you to dinner or something. How can you tell if that car is leased? Do lease companies put a sticker somewhere?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 01:45 PM
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How do you dodge the "Do you live alone?" and "Do you have a car?" Questions - Because yes I live alone and pay for my own apartment. But guy does not need to come over to my house or even think of spending the night for a long while. And yes I own my own car flat out, but that doesn't mean guy will be using it and I'm not driving my ass to guys house every weekend at his beck and call. I've had issues with both. Them showing up at my house constantly expecting 5 star accommodations whenever the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 01:40 PM
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"It normalizes the idea that single men are predatory, or worse, suggests that such men are meant to be predatory in situations where they can get away with it." ding ding ding, we have a winner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 04:36 PM
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This needed a trigger warning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 12:56 PM
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And here in the USA of you even hint to an adult male that the games he spends 40 hours a week playing "in his spare time" might be addictive..... Woa nerd rage... You're lucky if he doesn't Hulk out and break something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 12:39 PM
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Beautiful ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 05:14 PM
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I mention being divorced early as well. I figure if they have a problem with that then they don't need to waste my time. What I don't do is say anything negative about the marriage or my ex. "It was a short and we realized our goals weren't the same. He lives in a country town now and I'm in the middle of a city. We were able to file amicably together." [Then ask the guy a question to get the subject off me.] They don't need any more detail than that and if they really start to pry I return the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 03:31 PM
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I'm sorry you experienced ***ty behavior at work. I was harassed by a coworker and it's so endlessly frustrating. In the end I wanted to scream, 'just leave me alone I'm only hear to make rent!' Hope it resolved itself for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 12:39 PM
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Anytime I have experienced "instant attraction" it has turned out to be a highly manipulative guy. I'm not 100% sure why, possibly they were mirroring me and I didn't catch it, or maybe they made the moment through some actual skill with PUA technique's. But generally that explosive hit it off thing tends to be false for me. Anyone else experience that as a red flag or something similar?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 12:32 PM
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Please show the court where the bread stick touched you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 02:00 PM
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I keep finding these women who seem like they're "living their best life" at first. They seem put together, like they have a system that works and they're doing it. But then they grab ahold of me (or try), they want more of my time than I want to give up, or another one is that they want to do XYZ activity, which sounds great, but they want to go in a couple of hours, as in get ready NOW! And then they get put off that I say no to sudden plans. I'm kind of a slower moving, plan out plans, type o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 12:18 PM
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Demonic toddler's My biggest regret today is that I do not have gold to give you for that statement. Please take my upvote and some reddit fool's gold 🥇🏆👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 01:09 PM
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I read this post and it made me wonder if this was a first step in recognizing the issue, but it left a bad taste for some reason. After reading the OPs comments.. yep that's it, it's men talking to other men about how they used to feel bad for these poor little female mice... It's better than nothing that he noticed this but still part of a greater probablem. Also... What is this guy doing that women run and cover up everywhere? This is suspicious to me. Maybe he's being unfairly profiled becau…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 02:44 PM
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4.5%... the pick me is weak. 😋
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 04:51 AM
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Amen sister! I could never understand how during a conversation/(I'm tired of this BS and have asked nicely 59247312 times and now I am ****ed)Stern discussion these guys always agree to everything I say. Yes yes, you are so right, ok, absolutely, I will do that, I couldn't agree more, thank you for telling me I just didn't know..... please don't break up with me. And maybe that behavior would stick once or twice (three times if they really think I'm ready to leave) annnnnnd then we're back to b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 07:43 PM
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I have asked this exact question on a reddit post before and received overwhelming reassurance that babies just happen. It makes me honestly wonder how many women really have access to birth control.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 10:02 PM
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I like the idea of a safety tips flair.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 10:04 PM
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Lets call him Shredder because he tears apart the women he traps and he's more related to a Foot than some very honorable tween turtles.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 10:40 PM
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When they ask this I throw out tickling (actually I beat around the question, try to get them to answer it first). The reason I do this is that I do HATE being tickled. So if someone does it to me, even subtly, I notice and there is no cognitive dissonance of "well maybe he was just having a bad day". If someone never ever tickles you. Then you say you hate being tickled, and suddenly they do it....... boom caught your mask slip. Gone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 06:22 PM
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I shall now be replacing all instances of the 🍆 icon with a 🍤 icon. This is the way!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 01:45 PM
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This is scary. I can't wait to get out meet some new girlfriends. I don't think I'll be looking for any boys in 2021.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 12:04 AM
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The paid apps also provide an interesting feature. I'm not sure about Bumble, but I know with Tinder paying for the app lets you match with people in different locations. So let's say you were a businessman and you travel a lot, the paid service would let you shop for potential meetups where you're going. I can't express how many messages I've gotten from guys who will be in my city for one weekend and want a date while they're there. At this point I just block them as I assume they already have…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 02:29 PM
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Wait... can you please provide more info (if you're comfortable)? I was under a lot of stress and suddenly started going into anaphylaxis over a wheat and gluten allergy at 31. I ate wheat my whole life and suddenly *BAM* hit by the anaphylaxis bus...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 01:04 AM
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It's like one of my exes tried to push me into becoming a blonde. I bet he wanted you to pay for those $200+ salon visits too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 02:24 PM
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This... is...... GOLD!!!!!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 07:49 PM
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It depends on my location and the time of day. In a store/restaurant/public place during the day I only tend to pay attention to someone if they're paying attention to me, I do notice pretty quickly if someone is looking at me or in my proximity. If I'm just walking down the street in broad daylight I take note of the men around me. If I'm walking down the street at night I am scanning everyone who else is out on the street period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 11:06 PM
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I have saved tons of money towards retirement and looking to buy my next $$$ sport horse and remodeling my house in a couple years as well. I could never understand it but I have more money when I'm single. My rent is actually $400+ more and I STILL put more into my savings each month. My ex husband didn't do very much to spend money, he didn't go out and buy things per say. He was a couch creature and a really easy keeper if you like inanimate objects that make video game noises. But it was a s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 03:46 PM
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Congratulations! As you will find out this is where all of the "crazy, "high maintenance", women with "ridiculous standards" are. Not goanna lie, its pretty awesome ;)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 03:37 PM
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Also, the mods deleted my first post of this because I did not format it correctly. My bad. Thank you mods for doing a hard job!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 01:21 AM
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He have to have their genitals mutilated because he isn't capable of cleaning it properly??? I thought the argument was that parents couldn't clean baby boys properly.... I didn't realize it was the actual guy.. omg..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 02:44 AM
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Of course not, men are just innocent babes, victims of their own nature... But those evil women with their devil vagina magic...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 01:17 AM
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Thanks for the award! You gals are awesome!! Another sub (that cannot be name) just deleted a comment for "failing to be civil." I guess not everyone agrees.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 06:36 PM
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Men need to start blaming men for this. I cant tell you how many teenage girls in high school I knew with 30+ year old boyfriends. Want to know why you cant get a date to prom little boy? Because your DAD is sleeping with the babysitter because she's "so mature" and college guys are going "steady" with the cheerleaders because they're still so fun to be around (not like girls there age). Rinse and repeat. Place blame where it belongs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 04:50 PM
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Wooooooooooowwwwwww I have had a similar incident where the guy would just show up, take off his shoes, get comfy on the couch and ask about a drink or food or something. It was insane that he just started coming around like he lived there. I couldn't get him to take his stuff. He would leave cloths and ask me to wash XYZ. I would have it in a bag ready to go when he left the next time and ohhh wouldn't you look at that he forgot his stuff AGAIN.... I had to move to get that guy to stop showing …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 04:46 PM
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My goal for today is to somehow work "fuck X with a cactus dick" into a conversation. I blame disney for a lot of the "love is sacrifice" bull shit. Every single movie starts with sad lonely girl, great intense sacrifice, then poof bountiful reward of unconditional love from prince charming. The key to this story is that were pushed to do everything, go to great extreme, to SACRIFICE... And only then will we be rewarded with love. How many times have young girls given everything thinking it was …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 11:54 AM
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Yes I have noticed there's a few boards that won't let me comment now. I don't really care though lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 11:42 AM
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Black market?? Heck no. They're giving that crap out for free everywhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 01:52 AM
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I'm with you. I wear corsets and it makes me feel poised and graceful. I don't have to reject every beauty standard to be liberated.. out right rejecting everything viewed as conventionally sexy isn't a requirement. I'm a hard rocking leather wearing corset chick with thick eyeliner and pockets in my skirt. I ride horses in full length petticoats and sidesaddle is an amazing seat going over jumps. Also high heels used to be reserved for men only because the heal was used for riding horses (it ca…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 09:43 PM
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Ok yes, if no one on earth existed and it was just me - no I probably wouldn't put on makeup... but then again, I might hit a point where I do. I like the way I look with makeup, I'm really good at it. I've spent a lot of time working on technique and figuring out what colors actually work on my face. So if you mean not many people are left on earth, then I'm goanna go Mad Max and up my makeup times ten. And then if I was trapped alone on an island for the rest of my life.... ya... I would look …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 09:15 PM
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Congratulations on this achievement. I hope others will come to know you as high maintenance so the trash can take themselves out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 09:07 PM
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They always want praise for their half assed jobs... "look look look look. I did the dishes! PRAISE ME!!!!!!" Meanwhile there's still pans on the dirty stove, nasty counter, pool of water on the floor, sponge left wet in bottom of the sink and glasses left on every table in every room....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 07:19 PM
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I didn't know venue switching was a PUA tatic... I've had it happen once and decided to nix it on future dates because I was done with the date before the date was done at that point. Good to know its a thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 06:19 PM
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skid mark Kyle OMG... I'm dying... you win at the internet today. Also I so completely agree with you about never getting trapped with the guy as transportation. I had an ex pick me up to stay over at his house for the night. We had wine and THEN he started an argument. Because he had drank he sure wasn't going to take me home and it was way too rural of a place to get an uber at midnight. I got trapped there overnight having to deal with him keeping me awake and continuing to argue for hours. N…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 06:15 PM
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Noooo they cant use that... it would magically make them Gay! *collective gasp*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 06:06 PM
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Elmer Fudd.... omg I'm dying...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 03:58 PM
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Did you see his mugshot? You cant tell me hes not smiling...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 03:54 PM
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The ability to Google s**t before crying "I dun't know hoooooow." Also as a follow up, refusing to hire something fixed when they actually cant fix it - AKA just letting the list of projects hang indefinitely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 03:37 PM
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This is why we need more women in STEM! Girls need to be scientists and programmers. If we don't have women in technology we will never get a functioning sex doll for women!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 09:53 PM
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boy is obsessed with women’s bodies, especially maternal parts. Boy even fetishizes you being pregnant (usually only in theory; he’ll envy the child if you’ll have one. He is your child). Annnnnnnd the little hamsters that powers my brain just tripped and spun around and around the little wheel running my head... I need to go pour some Listerine in my ears to clean that thought from my mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 09:40 PM
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He agreed to get some professional assistance, his only reserve was that it makes him feel uncomfortable and like a “mental patient” but he wants the help and is willing to do so. We both know we need to get professionals involved to resolve the underlying issues of why we keep falling back in the same cycles and to make the changes stick. So basically... she took half the blame and nothing is going to change. K.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 12:19 AM
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But yet men aren't detail oriented, and just don't notice things the way women do...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 01:54 AM
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Dont forget deadbeat gamers. We have to polish their crown while they lay on the couch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 12:12 AM
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If a man prefers to message on Facebook messenger or WhatsAp or any kind of communication in which you can see if a person has read your message, he's more than likely a manipulative, controlling scrote. I agree with this one whole heartedly. My worst and most controlling ex would constantly maneuver where conversations were happening based on how he wanted to control the flow. For example, choose the messenger with the read receipts. Or more specifically move to a limited memory chat app like K…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 10:31 PM
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What I'm asking though is - how do you vet that without waiting 6-9 months for the next holiday to come around?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 05:08 PM
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Question - How do you tell guys that real holiday gifts are a requirement? My ex-husband was the worlds worst gifted and anytime (the hundreds of times) I brought up how hurt I was that I got him a gift and he got me.... nothing or ran out the day of and bought the first stupid thing he saw - he would always say "Well gifts just aren't important to ME" or "IIIII don't really like flowers" so I got you NOTHING now get back in that kitchen and make me dinner (the last part was silent of course). W…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 04:27 PM
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Foreplay is everything that happens before sex. Want me wet and ready? Clean the house, make dinner, pay the bills, put away laundry, change the oil in the car. Now I'm turned on!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 08:43 PM
5

So basically men who spout "Not all men" = LVM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 07:28 PM
2

OK folks, it seems that a bot can be programmed to filter through a particular reddit community. https://hackernoon.com/build-a-serverless-reddit-bot-in-3-steps-with-node-js-and-stdlib-sourcecode-e5296b78fc64 That's pretty limiting as we want a "Not all men" bot to scan all of the comments on reddit. Any programmers have a solution? I see that it can be made in NodeJS, I have that. But it needs to be served from somewhere. Any further takers?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 01:51 AM
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I had the programming skills, I'd love to make a not-all-men-bot that tracks the number of times this is said on reddit in a day and posts the not-all-men comment count per subreddit per day in one place I'm a programmer. Can you just submit bots to Reddit? I thought bots we're part of a reddit community. Please tell me I can just unleash bots on Reddit?!?!?!?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 03:48 PM
9

I feel like the attitude is testing to see how.much u will tolerate or just disrespect. You're right. All of this behavior starts as little s**t tests to see how much we will tolerate from them. They want to keep pushing the bar lower and make you expect less of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 06:33 PM
44

Yeah, you cant compete with the fantasy and perfection of the new howorker/ affair partner and this is how devaluation and discard are justified in a cheater/narcassist mind. This this this. So much this! My ex husband would start tearing everything I did apart as soon as he met some new coworker he was infatuated with... then they would lose interest (with a much older married man child) and would ignore him, then suddenly I was so wonderful and better than anyone else. Then a few months later …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 05:08 PM
4

Sounds like he had you effectively blocked everywhere and is now mad you didn't drive while actively in labor to his office, walk through the building, ask several co workers for directions, stand calmly in the waiting room for 20 minutes, finally get him to make time for you, all while you have fluids actively dripping from your contracting vagina. Ya seems very logical. I bet he would be telling you how embarrassed he was if you actually did that. Kind of like you were set up to be wrong no ma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 01:42 PM
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These lame @$$ sex obsessed men cant even fake some romance on the day they're almost guaranteed to get some. I cant decide if its entitlement, laziness, or just plain old stupidity. It does seem to be a common problem though. FYI ladies, divorced V day kicks ass. Its all about spoiling me. Granted I started buying myself a valentines day gift while still married but its ramped up after I was cured of that ailment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 10:33 AM
4

Its a very reliable car. I had a Maxima before and it was also a great little car. Nissans are cheap but they're well made and inexpensive to get parts for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 03:07 PM
14

Don't feel bad for sparking discussion. That's why were here, to discuss. :) And I agree with not liking money to be flaunted on dates. Usually the guys who do that are the first ones to throw it in your face that they paid for something so you owe them...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 03:05 PM
4

I do however judge men on HOW they take care of their car. I take disgusting cars as a red flag that they will handle the rest of their life as carelessly as their vehicle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 03:00 PM
9

I guess that's fair. I'm in my 30s but divorce set me back financially. What's important in my career? Well continuing building skills, certifications, diversity in projects etc. I think I'm doing well there. I'm mostly contract or project based and I tend to earn more money each new job I take on. I mean I'm putting $2000 in my savings every month trying to get that golden 20% for a down payment on a house, so I could easily pay on a newer car - but honestly I want a house more than a new car. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 02:58 PM
9

I love my Nissan, I get 31 miles to the gallon. Its a great little car in everything except heavy snow. I will be upgrading, but probably not this year, because I don't want to do anything to my credit score right before trying to get a house loan. As for the guy that COULD be driving a Mercedes, ya most of us COULD be driving one. Its called leasing and they're happy to give you a nice car as long as you pay every month. lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 02:53 PM
21

This comment makes me wonder about my own car. Could I get some cold hard opinion ladies? I drive a 2010 Nissan Sentra. Its in excellent condition, I keep it well maintained, and very clean (except right now because snow). I paid the 5 year loan off at 3.5 years. I own it outright now. Is this not a nice car? Im not going to run out and upgrade or anything as Im saving for a house right now. But I would like to know if my vehicle says something about my status that I don't realize.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 02:32 PM
27

I just laugh snorted my coffee...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 02:02 PM
24

I am so beeping tired of men going on about how their love language is "pHySiCaL tOuCh" which just translates to "a woman can never deny me sex if were in a relationship". We dam well know thes guys have never read the book or thought introspectively about their own emotional needs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 12:29 PM
12

THIS!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 10:43 PM
3

Wait... From the doctor?? I hope it wasnt a pap smear..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 11:22 AM
13

To add to your car care, make sure you have your car emergency kit in order. You need good set of jumper cable's. Cheap cables with bad connectors or poor quality wire can make the experience much harder or not work. Then check your jack and spare tire.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 02:14 AM
55

I suggest all ladies get a reasonable tool kit for house projects. A good drill with some extra bits, a hammer, tape measure, level, a set of various pliers and a couple of screwdrivers. Instructions on how to DIY almost anything is on youtube. Not having to ask for help with things I want done around the house has been liberating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 01:30 AM
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I came here to cross post this too. This poor woman is going to be murdered. Notice that he started doing this right after ashe accidently fell down the stairs. He saw an opportunity and is now toying with the idea. In the heat of an argment hes just going to throw her down. The abuser even does this in public..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 02:40 PM
4

Queen shit!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 03:29 AM
42

But men are more ViSuAl than women!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 01:25 AM
44

What an insecure little man child that cant sit in a room with another male.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 10:37 PM
15

Idk but I've got this crazy condition where I uncontrollably kick men with sexsomnia in the nuts when their condition acts up. I just can't help it! 🤷‍♀️ I like you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 06:01 PM
47

never date someone at any job you have in the future ever. So many upvotes! Never date a guy that you cant get away from period. Don't date at work. Don't date neighbors. Don't date guys in your friends group that wont go away if you decide to stop dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 05:59 PM
25

And why do these LVMs repeat their stories so much?? It's so boring to listen to the same stories over and over again, about people you've never met! YES! I knew a narcissist who would repeat the same set of stories at every big gathering. Heaven forbid you say, "You've told us this before" and he would do the "Oh have I?" give a weird look, say "oh have I said this before?" multiple times, laugh about it, and still tell the same story. I wanted to run screaming but I'm too polite. Now I just av…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 01:36 AM
8

LOL I'm with the green chick. Been doing that for days, he's gotta go now LOL. Guess I'm a CITY GIRL!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 12:57 AM
33

Ding ding We have a winner here ladies!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 05:16 PM
12

like he’s completely impotent to do anything Right there's your answer. Men have been taught to be emotionally blind. They are so useless when it comes to others feelings that they are just helpless victims themselves. If the bumble along enough someone else will do the work for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 04:55 PM
20

The thin black velvet chocker was originally a sign that a woman was a prostitute. Its something taught in Art History relating to Degas' ballerinas and Manets Olympia. https://www.goldenagebeads.com/blog/the-fascinating-history-of-choker-necklaces.html P.S. That doesn't mean men in this day and age are in any way cultured enough to know that. Also they should dam well know that fashion is fashion and the symbol of prostitution is from a long gone time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 10:58 PM
7

The amount of r/JustNoSO and r/AmItheAsshole posts related to men with PS5's is astounding. I am so glad to be single during a console launch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 09:29 PM
14

The mother was the only one who made any sense in the clip. Her advice to "Just break up" is spot on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 10:43 PM
24

Role a perception check boys because no one believes the **** your saying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 02:59 PM
3

Ya, I'm really disenchanted with how the legal system didn't apply here. I felt the officers I spoke to were understanding but it just boiled down to 'there's nothing we can do'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 06:39 PM
81

THIS the hell out of THIS!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 06:35 PM
112

Take the laminated drawing of the PS5. Puch a hole in it, and tie a lego to a piece of dental floss. BOOM Controller! He only needs one controller because no one will be playing with him in his newly single life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 06:33 PM
73

I just knew that post was going to be cross-posted here. That poor woman should take some money out of their joint account and treat herself. She should also change her paycheck deposit to her own account, start lining up her ducks, and dump the LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 06:31 PM
9

I understand. At least you can be strong and show these guys that not all women buy into their "boy's will be boy's" mentality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 06:29 PM
19

OMG I dealt with this, this morning! ​ [Just FYI readers - I've already gone to the town police, the state police, and an organization called Women's Services that is for domestic issues. I'm on it!] ​ So I dated this guy for a bit. His job was that he owned and rented houses. He worked for himself, made his own schedule etc. He offered me one of his newly vacant apartments. I paid full rent, but it was still much less than I was paying in the 'big city' so, unfortunately, I moved in. It was lik…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 06:24 PM
19

These guys are at my job doing professional work and this is how they act? It was really hard not to make a scene. Report them. That is so unprofesional.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 05:55 PM
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I agree. Most people can have the casual mention of 'I dont care for this thing in particular' or just address it if it comes up, no bigy. People who are into more extreme things need official serious discussions about boundaries and limits. Which if thats the case fine, to each their own. But dont whine about it on Reddit because you look like a douche canoe to normal people. The woman seemed very nice about it too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 12:21 AM
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I don't know... I usually have a goal :) But more seriously. From what he said "desires, preferences, goals, boundaries" it sounds like the `are you into my kink` talk...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 12:04 AM
14

She should have responded with "Not much. So hows it hanging tiny d**k?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 07:13 PM
30

THIS IS FAKE! You can tell because there's not enough trash and no dirty underwear on the mantle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 08:25 PM
5

Drop him in head first and put the whole bin on the curb.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 07:53 PM
39

Were you gassed?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 05:35 PM
47

OMG that sounds like hell. I am sorry for you and for the dog.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 04:53 PM
9

So now guys are ok with pimping out their girlfriends as long as they get to keep her money. Somehow I'm not even slightly surprised.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 06:21 PM
40

You would be banned if you said that though. Most of the relationship boards promote c0mMuNiCaTi0n until the very end.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 06:13 PM
5

Queen move! Dam right being an asshole is a choice and the'll keep pushing and pushing just to see how low they can push you down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 02:35 PM
31

We need to teach young girls that babies trap women. Marriage can be severed but a kid is 18 years minimum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 01:46 PM
13

Men just have a way of pulling the most fucked up shit out of their asses for their wives OK I don't mean to follow you around and comment on all of your comments but that was terrible and you should be ashamed of yourself. Also, take my upvote! TAKE IT!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 10:44 PM
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This is reaching new levels of ridiculousness. OF COURSE, he doesn't want to be feminized when it comes to "domestic responsibilities". Those are work. He wants a mommy with a strap on where he can sit back and be the "little boy" who takes it in the pooper and does absolutely nothing to benefit his partner in return. The reason he is not in a gay relationship is that a man would not put up with this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 10:38 PM
3

I cant read the JN SO thread. It triggers my CPTSD theres so much abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 07:17 PM
32

Well thats so nice of him to be flexible in payment options. \s Im glad hes an ex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 07:11 PM
35

Your comment makes me stabby. Feels too much like one of my ex's.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 06:44 PM
10

Right! You haven't seen mad until you watch a knitter try to frog half of a project and getting a big knot in the middle. Screw throwing the remote. Now we're throwing mini spears in the form of knitting needles.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 02:59 PM
3

I want to see Dave's response to her where he says she needs to be more understanding of the hardships men go through and perhaps if she just communicated more....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 01:43 PM
34

Heck no. Id go on exotic vacations with my young and handsome personal assistant Manwell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 02:53 PM
25

Ouch. Guilty... never again will I put up with bull shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 05:34 PM
14

Me too! No way could I raise a child and a husband at the same time. I mean the kid will eventually start to become independent and learn new skills but that husband is going to be dependent forever...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 01:10 AM
10

This is the most romantic self-care story. I'm glad you realized you had someone special to spoil all along. I think I'll make a fancy lunch tomorrow for myself too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 10:40 PM
96

Divorce is the nicest gift I've ever bought myself. ♕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 12:26 AM
11

You really are just... The absolute lowest quality ameba in the primordial ooze at the bottom of a dumpster that is on fire. But he doesn't even deserve that many words. Block him Queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 11:21 PM
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Its because they have no idea how to actually offer support or comfort to someone. My ex literally translated the word "support" to mean sex. He would follow me around complaining that I don't support him, not enough support, bla bla bla support support support. I tried for months if not years to help him do everything that he did. You need your work clothes ironed so mornings are easier? Done. Here let me help you with your resume. No problem. Did you get fired? That's OK I'll help you find the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 11:14 PM
118

It's a standard happy face family emergency. The kind of family emergency where last night's tinder date hasn't left yet so he won't be on time for today's tinder date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 11:03 PM
25

Good point that she didn't apologize. Women are trained (or at least I was) to say sorry for EVERYTHING. It gives guys a "way out" of feeling guilty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 11:01 PM
31

That lunch looks to be much higher quality than the man. I think you made the right choice. Hope you had a cute waiter!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 11:00 PM
5

I'm marking my calendar now. All-day events, show me as busy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 10:10 PM
8

That is awesome! OK I had to find the actual tik tok for this. Here it is! https://www.tiktok.com/@heidi_w7/video/6872743683217788166?lang=en
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 07:41 PM
8

Oh yes, my ex carefully chose women with issues that made them unsteady to begin with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 08:37 PM
27

I used to give guys the benefit of the doubt but NOOOOPE no more of that. Ex's are always crazy because the guy did so many lies and deceit that they had to flip out to get away from him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 06:05 PM
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If his all of his exes are "crazy", he will make you crazy too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 01:36 PM
16

This is a good one. Just walk away ladies. Stop watching the LVM show, its all a bad joke anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 07:49 PM
72

And the mom be rushing to untag herself lmao Nope, they lap it up. "That's my baby boy! Come here and mama will do your laundry and feed you your favorite foods then do all the cleanup! You'll always be my Lil man." And the 43-year-old "little man" happily complies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 04:13 PM
19

Queen move. I hope she joins us. If she did, Welcome!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 08:04 PM
1

That looks like romance! AND you don't have to compromise on the movie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 01:44 PM
16

Whatever shall you do with your life of unfunness? I bet they'll put that on your tombstone, "Here lies MagicalMe, she was totally not fun."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 02:50 AM
10

Taking an abuser to therapy only teaches them how to abuse you more covertly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 12:18 AM
3

I am so glad he is an ex. Congratulations on all of your hard work and graduating! May you go on to do all the things that make you happy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 12:39 AM
7

To the guy (I assume) who responded that you cant have a plant in a basement... well actually you can. Pothos, spider plants, and some philodendrons will be OK in low light. They won't grow and get huge but they would happily survive in that window for a year lease if that's where they are. Plus if I came to this room and saw a little grow light on a plant it would show me that the owner CARES, and TRIES TO IMPROVE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 06:16 PM
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This would be a dealbreaker for me. My ex husband ( a no value man) was terrible at gifts and repeatedly used the "I didnt think we were buying each other gifts" line which was bullshit because I had been excitedly saying "I ordered your gift its amazing" for months. It was hurt feelings for me every single holiday and anniversary. That's no way to live.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 12:47 PM
21

This just made my brain scream.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 06:36 PM
3

Does reading that gives anyone else anxiety? I enjoy pampering my partner but I want a PARTNER, not a dependent. I'd rather be single.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 06:34 PM
7

This just brought me to tears. My ex-husband never came to anything I did and I give talks and lectures like this. I've had other boyfriends who would do this if there was opportunity so I guess there's hope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 01:47 PM
20

Whoops I did. Sorry. Spelling before coffee this morning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 01:19 PM
85

I have to say after my divorce I was excited to get back to dating, meet some interesting people, hopefully make some friends and just have fun being alive. Morgan Freeman voice: But she did not find fun or friends in the rhelm of online dating. Though one could argue she met some interesting people. Ya so after dating for a while and screening so so many messages I am really starting to feel ok being single forever. I know that sounds a little dramatic but I'm really losing hope on finding some…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 01:04 PM
42

Lol you're a martyr for the cause.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 12:53 PM
9

Also either hide or just cut in half all of the cables for him to directly plug in the computer. They're very cheap to replace.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 03:02 PM
38

Change the wifi password. I'm sure you pay for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 01:31 PM
22

Basically there is a shortage of high-value men That is the gold statement right there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 12:22 AM
7

Right! Even in my most miserable moment while single, it's still so much easier.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 09:18 PM
6

This BS makes me so angry. It's a common belief NOW that men are evaluated based on finances? Umm, excuse me. But the king is not selecting some broke ass prince with video game aspirations to marry his daughter! It has ALWAYS been about the man's ability to pay. And previously in more "romantic" times where these incels could M'lady it up and actually be considered normal, it was WAY more about their finances. These guys do not know what they're talking about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 09:06 PM
9

This is so awful. These women have to embrace the dead-beat behaviour and actually incorporate it into their wedding to get their LVM to even pay attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 01:51 PM
7

I also had a Jewish lay about. He "didn't like to work for other people" and often ended up in workplaces that were a bit anti-semetic. It was always a great reason to quit the job...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 06:29 PM
1

Because it's not at all about infidelity. First, it's about virginal women being more highly valued. And second, women have an extreme advantage in the dating world. Just make a tinder account with a photo of a marginally attractive woman and BOOM your inbox is full. Women with high n counts know that they have other options available. So if this boyfriend doesn't treat her that way she wants to be treated then the high n count woman presumably knows she can replace him with a better quality sui…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/20 12:29 PM
3

Nice lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 04:18 PM
35

This hit me so hard. At the end of my marriage it got so bad that I couldnt come into physical contact with my wasband without it "consenting" to sex in his mind. If I wore a nightgown to bed he would do the snuggle up next to me thing with the throbbing erection. Like if you poke me with it enough I'm going to suddenly want it. If I ignored that he would do this thing where he pushed on my hip over and over. Like we would be falling asleep (I'm a side sleeper) and he would have his hand on my h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 10:49 AM
6

No. This is normalized behavior in the heterosexual dating universe. The original poster is being positioned by her boyfriend and his mommy to be a bangmaid which is the ultimate quest reward for LVMs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 12:13 PM
18

Behind every shitty man are shitty parents.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 12:01 PM
4

Yes I saw this and was just about shaking with rage for the poster. I hope she dropped him like a hot turd on the sidewalk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 12:00 PM
4

This is amazing, I did need this. My arms are my least favorite feature. I'm going to start a push-up challenge or something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 12:26 PM
10

This is dead-on. You just summarized my longest relationship with chilling accuracy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 12:19 PM
6

Is this in the handbook? Can we add it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 11:48 AM
35

Men don't take women out on dates to talk to them, or spend time with them, or make them laugh. They take women out on dates because they know that dates lead to sex. The sex is the point. That's the answer right there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 07:41 PM
1

Oh, shoot... I'm super proud of my divorce from a dead beat cheater... are we not supposed to be? Is it Wednesday, do we wear pink?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 10:54 PM
10

This is true. An ex of mine had a king size bed he kept on the floor. It was well made in a nice bedroom with wood floors so not a LVM-nest-bed. Once the season became cold we discovered condensation forming on the box spring and had to set up a bed frame in a rush to prevent mold. Luckily he had a frame in his garage, he just liked the look and feel of the floor bed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 11:27 AM
47

He slept on the yoga mat? Didnt he have hips or bones in general?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 11:19 AM
1

In no particular order: Polite and well mannered. Good sense of humor and fun to be with. Animal lover. Sexually compatible. Communication style compatible. Can cook several meals. Does household chores. Takes initiative and plans dates for us. Enjoys celebrating holidays. Surprises me. Constantly improving themselves in some way. Likes to learn. Has a similar hobby or interest. Also has their own hobbies and interests without me. Driven to try new things and have new experiences. Happily employ…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/20 03:25 AM
3

Congratulations on making that one an ex!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 07:26 PM
2

Its your cake day! That means its the anniversary of you making this reddit account. If you look at your name it has a piece of cake next to it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 03:36 PM
2

Happy cake day!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 02:14 PM
11

I'm a woman and I would vote for in hospital DNA testing at birth. It's too easy to fill in a name on a birth certificate. I wish we could magically require two Yes's from the parents before conception but my magic wand isn't that strong.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/20 02:12 PM
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Did anyone get really pissed off at The Devil Wears Prada that she went back to the friends who stole her phone and teased her and the guy who was totally unsupportive unless it was a grilled cheese sandwich? I mean her boss was the boss devil sure, but I don't feel like anyone treated her very well except Nigel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 10:35 PM
1

OMG! A Redditor made a Soup Tube website to launch the brand! https://souptube.online/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 07:02 PM
11

Yes and also he will call his opinions "facts" and no matter what you do, you will be the "emotional" one lol. Him: Lie Lie Lie Lie Her: I do not agree. Him: Dam why do you have to be so crazy, are you bipolar? What a *****! Her: *shocked Pikachu face*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 06:49 PM
4

OMG it just keeps getting worse LOL I hope they zoomed in on the doctor putting on his rubber gloves with a menacing grin.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 05:52 PM
10

erection-enhancing lasers (the demo video, which featured a middle-aged male volunteer, was NOT appealing) I will pay someone for you to redo this video with porn music and the laser beam sounds from start wars. "Nurse Judy! Set your penis enhancing lasers to...... *bow chicka wow wow* ....stun!" *pew pew pew*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 05:34 PM
2

Mold is a sane thought. The insane thought is what would happen to a food tube with openings to households all over the city in the time of covid... I'm way more open to the gogurt style soup packaging, especially if its environmental packaging.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 04:09 PM
28

Ok, you can NOT leave us hanging like that... We're all standing around eating soup and wondering what your ex wanted to do. Was it essential oils? Door to door encyclopedia sales? Timeshares?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 02:37 PM
13

You're right he does sound like a therapist would help him, even if he's just trying to hard to be an entrepreneur and has lost grasp on the reality of his idea. I guess where I get the LVM from is that I've been reading "How to Spot a Dangerous Man Before You Get Involved" by Sandra L. Brown MA (I highly recommend) and she classifies her different types of dangerous men and she points to disordered guys as dangerous. It may not be that they are malicious, but they are still dangerous to their p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 02:35 PM
30

Is it because they're not used to hearing no or is it that women just aren't allowed to say no?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 09:40 AM
82

Yep. My ex-husband pushed every button he possibly could. He cheated, he spent my money, he put his parents every whim above mine and then told me how I just wasn't good enough and he wanted a divorce. The very moment I switched from let's work on our marriage too, you know what - fine, I'm done, lets divorce. Suddenly he saw the light and oh he so sorry and let's do all the counseling and everything I said miraculously makes sense, please stay my bangmaid. Divorce is the nicest gift I've ever g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 10:15 PM
19

If anyone is interested I found her full "Boyfriend vs Husband Benefits" video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xu0N5ZaBwxg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 01:16 AM
11

It is so validating when I read posts on here from women who have experienced the same feelings I have had. Sometimes it's so difficult to put into words what is going on. Thank you for describing this tactic. Like he just gave me a weird sidewaise look and why do I feel so insecure suddenly? Well because it was a stern "there she goes again being a crazy woman" look meant to quite you down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 08:44 PM
5

Yep. I got out of a relationship with a guy who described all of his exs as "crazy" and "treated him so badly". It was always hard to for him to say exactly what made them crazy but anything he described sounded like drastic gtfo energy from the women. And true to form anytime I was upset or tried to set a boundary he brought up the "unrealistic anxiety" that I seem to be having. When I said I was done he asked if i was seeking therapy for this and that i should try antidepressants..... I'm stil…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 11:48 AM
11

I'm not shaming anyone for being feminine (omg those heels 💜) but I am shaming the designer who put a fuzzy white bench in the bathroom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 10:42 AM
6

Oh that's because it's the UNpopular opinion thread. You need the true facts or science subreddits.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 01:01 PM
103

Women are always "crazy" when we dont go along with their opinion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 12:57 PM
25

Thank you for creating a new venue to keep this discussion going. You're moving at break neck speeds to save this content. Awesome job mods! And for everyone else: Dont forget to download the PDF version of the handbook. https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/hib5h6/handbook_to_download_protect_your_knowledge/ u/Moira_Spice did an AMAZING thing by virtually binding all of the Handbook content into a neat PDF. Thank you to Moria!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 01:01 PM
4

OMG Thank you so much! Downloaded.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 03:20 AM
48

Thank you for the link. I wonder how this will play out with the current pandemic situation. I've already heard that countries who have ended lockdown have experienced a spike in divorce filings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 09:52 PM
9

The blue commenter deserves all of the reddit silver!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 12:32 PM
42

What the absolute F***????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 02:20 PM
44

I saw this. I was horrified. What the hell is wrong with these guys? He intentionally deceived his partner about his desired lifestyle until he felt she was too invested to leave him. Translation - he thought he had her trapped so he started really being himself. It is so hard to weed out the LVM like this. Poor girl. I really hope she updates that she left.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 01:44 PM
2

LOL Im not really feeling the upvote shallot from this comment. This is more the downvote shallot which is a actually a picture of a carrot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 10:06 PM
37

I absolutely love how shallots seem to haunt this sub. I feel like every post comments section has at least on person yelling "Dump his *** he cant even buy shallots at the grocery story without ****ing it up!" Can we make the up and down vote buttons on the subreddit theme shallots?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 03:02 PM
18

This is the only real solution to all of this. Women need to stand together and build each other up so that there is a consistent minimal standard for partners in our relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 02:56 PM
25

Kick that loser out, and never marry a loser like that in the first place. Here's the real advice! Never marry someone who swears off an entire food group of house work. I had an ex that wouldn't clean bathrooms. The only time he ever did it was after I sliced my hand with a knife cooking but we had guests on the way. You can imagine how much resentment builds up when I have to be physically bleeding to get some help. P.S. He and his whole family thought it was funny (so cute and enduring though…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 02:44 PM
73

He probably sits at home in his tighty whities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 06:56 PM
56

You should be Yes I am, truly, deeply sorry, way down in the bottom of my heart, that I spent this much time texting the giant hemorrhoid that is you. *block*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 06:55 PM
-5

But all sex is in porn. Kissing, cuddling missionary. It's all there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 07:25 PM
46

Ok first of all, OP's friends are slut shaming and F them for that. However... the thing that really stops me dead in my tracks is this paragraph from OP: I like being that girl who will fulfill his fantasies. It feels really good to do things that he enjoys so much. Its allllll about HIM. Where is her pleasure in this? And who is in control of what the next thing they try is? Does she get to say "hey babe Id like to try the upside down ninja position tonight"? OR is it all the guy going, "hey b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 02:47 PM
69

She doesnt know yet. But she will...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 12:08 PM
2

I thought it reacted weird when she grabbed it. Most snakes curl around the thing that grabs them. Thanks for the confirmation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 11:16 AM
106

That is the most horrifying thing Ive seen all day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 03:45 PM
91

When you do kink acts in public none of the people around get to consent to being a part of your scene. You are forcing strangers to be apart of your sex act. Creepy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 01:43 PM
10

Wooooooow... F that guy. Glad he's an ex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 11:43 AM
11

I complete agree with you. I'm only using OLD now because of the current health issues. Approaching during social distancing is hard and awkward for everyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 11:37 AM
14

“i feel like im going to put effort into this and get ignored or blocked. maybe im just overthinking. i should go to bed. im sorry” Ok thats a pity party to attempt to trigger your maternal instincts. Translation: "I'm so hurt and wounded like a little baby bird. *sniff sniff* You're probably just like other women who will hurt my tender little fee fees too *sniff* There's just nothing I can do to stop the abuse I receive. *deep sigh* I guess Ill just go to bed at 7pm so I won't have to feel the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 01:52 PM
4

She says she doesn't want kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 01:34 PM
18

I'm a female software developer. I can attest that MANY people in this field have almost no social skills. I get job offers like crazy because I can sit down and talk to a client about their software.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 01:32 PM
25

Where do the HVM shop? Its not Reddit. Its not tinder. Where do they go for dates?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 01:30 PM
2

Don't forget Family Guy. I long for the day that Lois snaps and buries Peter in the basement...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 01:59 PM
171

His cheating was a blessing from god hua? I bet he had his hand in the air while he was going at it "Thank you lord for this bounty which I receive.." I ducking hate people who pretend to be religious as a way to avoid repercussions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 01:31 PM
9

"I'm going to upgrade my car. My mommy is buying me new glasses." Men are very logical.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 11:48 AM
10

If they were more visual than us then they would SEE the housework that needs to be done, they would see what makes a thoughtful gift, they would see when we make extra effort to shine up our appearance, and they would see why they are LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 11:25 AM
3

This!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 11:10 AM
3

How awful. I hope you kept them to yourself. I love art supplies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 11:09 AM
5

That's the truth. These are the eye opening events I listed. I'm now very strict about living alone and not letting people have access to my space.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 11:08 AM
3

With roommates it always makes me wonder if they cant figure something like this out. Or if they just dont care to..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 11:06 AM
3

I only lend it if I can replace it anymore. And I do not think I can remember even one single person who read a book that they borrowed. Its like they just want to keep it on their shelf... lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 01:57 AM
11

Right! And then Im like... am I crazy for being annoyed by white strips? Have we really hit this low here? But its the lack of manners that burn me really, not the object. Like I was kind to share. Do you really need to pocket extra things? It made me realize that no, others do not necessarily think the way I do. As in I would NEVER do that to someone else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 01:56 AM
23

There are lots of gold-digging men out there who want to leach off women. This is where not paying for dates and expecting a certain level of generosity comes into play.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 07:20 PM
142

I have noticed throughout my life that people just take my stuff and it is a constant battle to either get it back or stop them from helping themselves. I can't prove this is because I am a woman but it sure feels that way. - My step mother would go through my stuff while I was at school and literally help herself to anything she wanted or get rid of things she didn't like. She would also lone out my clothes to my cousin and then they were just gone. - People who "borrowed" my things would then …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 02:04 PM
17

It's because all the of poor women are trapped at home with their LV boyfriends and their eyes are opening to the burden they are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 01:58 PM
2

Thank you for the subreddits.
/r/askFDS09/06/20 01:03 PM
2

Thank you! I just used my audible credits for the month on selections from your list.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 01:16 AM
2

This photo is AMAZING! I want to frame it and hang it in my bedroom. Congrats on that garbage vacating your space. Also for getting his stuff out LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 05:57 PM
5

I don't actually ask any questions on dates. I have a different strategy that prioritizes experiences and actions over words. But thats another topic. I would love to read a post on that topic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 03:29 PM
1

I just choke snorted on my coffee. I thank you but my keyboard does not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 12:55 PM
2

You should have replied to this meme with, "is that how your mother kept you at home?" Boom. Mic drop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 07:29 AM
8

I feel the same way and have often been proven right. Especially in dating, potential partners tend to do a slow push to see what they can get away with. And once you let something slide it becomes the new normal.. or at least that has been my experience thus far.
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/18 11:34 AM
9

Wow... your comment just blew my mind. Thank you for the thought you put into this response.
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/18 05:03 PM
2

This answer helped. I sent him a 'sorry I wasn't there when you needed help' text and he ghosted me for 24 hours. That made it pretty clear...
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/18 06:21 PM
-17

Because he's at work all weekend, if I want to see him I have to go with him.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/18 11:08 PM
10

I assume (because that's all I can do here, this is my opinion) that hes looking at it as a its "for the team" mentality and that he really did need help and I told him no... I'm really having a hard time understanding when the helping him at work is me being selfless for someone I care about, and when its being taken too far (if it is).
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/18 11:04 PM
1

I think its pretty obvious whats going on here. The pool table at your apartment isn't up to standards. Try inviting the next chick to a billiards hall or possibly go straight to the Mario Cart phase of the date. See if this change in tactics improves results.
/r/seduction15/11/18 06:39 PM
3

But there's one more thing that might happen with lower value guys, they will artificially inflate their worth. They will start playing you. They will make you insecure and give you the feeling you need them more than they need you. You just described my Ex Husband to the letter....... OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I married down... That's what happened, I married down, he immediately started playing which threw my anxious attachment self into a panic and he kept me there until he found a better option T…
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/18 12:34 PM
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