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I know a lot of people say that you shouldn't initiate at night That's true but you should initiate whenever you want to, not "when you're supposed to." Your speech, actions, and attitude should be sexual if you're horny. Assuming you are attractive (or when you become attractive), she will respond. Be careful that your initiations are not about about seeking validation.
/r/askMRP18/07/19 06:23 PM
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Yeah, some guys just talk too much, she doesn't want to know your every thought. It's her job to bla bla bla about whatever comes in her head at the time. It's your job to be the cocky, in control, funny, driving the bus kinda man who doesn't have to explain himself.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/19 11:33 AM
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Of course you are right especially for the new guy. But I don't like the idea of any kind of litmus test for validation of one's frame. "If (fill in the blank, maybe LTR or wife) does (fill in the blank, maybe sex on demand), my frame is on point"--this line of thinking seeks something external. Frame comes from within and doesn't depend on what someone else does or doesn't do. Again, maybe it's a nuance or splitting hairs, doesn't matter really.
/r/askMRP25/06/19 05:04 PM
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I personally feel that the canary in the coalmine is if at any time you can unzip your pants and your girl will drop to her knees and blow you - then the basics are in place, the guy is an attractive alpha and she feels it. I agree with what you say, but what if you don't have sex on demand by your girl? It may be a nuance, but I think what ReddJive is saying is more that a man with frame can unzip his pants at any time and get a blow job by A girl if that's what he wants. His frame and happines…
/r/askMRP25/06/19 11:44 AM
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I've been slammed at work and haven't had much time for chasing pussy this week but I have done a lot of self assessment. 1.) This post by Reach180 really got me in the gut and I've been thinking about it all week. Here's a guy whose wife pretty much gives it up on demand but he's not happy because she's not wanting to give IT ALL TO HIM BY HER OWN CHOICE. I get that and struggle with the same thing. I want to feel desired by my woman. Desire = hot passionate sex with emotion= fireworks, instead…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/19 11:53 AM
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I'm so close to burning it down with wife. Keep working on yourself, care less about her and everyone else.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/19 01:38 AM
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I'm enjoying living the life I want to live and learn new things each day about myself. I'll relate some of this in OYS. 1.) I saw a plate over the weekend and I consciously thought beforehand, I'm going to fuck her with no inhibitions and do whatever the fuck I want to her. She was a new rando so I didn't care if we ever meet again. So I talked dirty to her and slapped her ass and pulled her hair. I spread her ass open and put my fingers in her holes. I didn't give a shit as I threw her over my…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/19 01:34 AM
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Like others said, you are way overthinking things. Try to ignore all of the outside bullshit noise and hear your inner masculine voice. Become a bit more selfish and follow the direction YOU choose and get out of life what's important TO YOU. Rian Stone has some great stuff on this concept. Also, don't beat yourself up for failing sometimes, we all have that shit but what separates winners from losers is that winners keep going, keep moving, and don't give up. You're waking the fuck up, good on …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/19 01:50 AM
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it's all negotiating attraction and therefore fools errand I never really understood how upper dread levels were not negotiated attraction. After my most recent "talk" I couldn't help but feel afterwards like it was one big fucked up negotiation. I should stop saying that she is broken sexually, that's just making excuses for her and not productive to my cause. Maybe I'm just protecting my ego by saying she is not capable of letting her inner slut out. The point is that it's not out for the best…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/19 03:58 PM
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interesting- thanks for the correction.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/19 01:39 PM
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Every woman will have dirty sex for the right guy. I don't disagree with you at all but keep in mind that mine is 45 years old, not in her 20's. The mental models and behavior patterns were in place with a beta husband for a long time. Has the cement set or can it be reshaped? I don't know, but I'm taking a hammer to it trying.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/19 01:05 PM
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I posted a 2 year progress report and this OYS will focus on that. I wasn't looking for any attaboy's and don't care what random internet retards think but some comments were very insightful and found weaknesses that I have yet to fix. Some members consistently see through the bullshit and I am grateful for that. 1.) I did skip some dread levels and didn't "follow the plan step wise", but hell, I needed to take some kind of action for myself and do something to rattle the cage and move the chain…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/19 12:05 PM
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After last weeks OYS I was called out on whether I in fact I had a plate. I can say this week that I have a plate since 2 holes were filled. There's alot going on internally that I'm still unpacking. Some initial thoughts on this: -I am sorting out the morality of maintaining a plate. I don't care what others think, it's what's in my head that matters and I'm reconciling years of beta conditioning and sex denial by a harpy. -I find myself being pulled into a tendency of pursuing sex as my missio…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 07:38 PM
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Can't argue with that, I guess it should be rephrased as pursuing plates until that criteria is met.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/19 12:16 PM
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Okay, it's been awhile since my last OYS. I've been busy with a new phase in life- pursuing plates. First, op sec had to be worked out- got a burner phone, vanilla Visa cards for payments, took photos of myself and signed up with a dating site. It's been quite an experience. I went on a coffee meeting with the first girl and quickly figured out that it wasn't a match. I then went on a dinner date- she was bigger than the photos showed, then I had a meet up for drinks with a different girl. We we…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/19 04:07 PM
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Ever hear of a band called Smashing Pumpkins? Song called Zero. Check it out.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/19 02:10 PM
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I don't do these, but my understanding is that the in office systems (Zoom, others) are done in 1-2 hours and can help. They use more aggressive so post-tx sensitivity is more likely, and I have heard that the effect can fade more quickly over time. I like the take home trays because you have more control over the treatment, use it longer or shorter depending on how the effects/side effects progress. You can also do a touch up later on if needed you just need the gel.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/19 02:09 PM
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I don't know the exact details because I do whitening, I do know that the gel is an acid, think it ranges from 15-25%, and it should be held in place by a custom made plastic tray that fits over the teeth, the tray keeps the acid off the gums so they don't get a chemical burn. That's why it's better to get if from your dentist. I don't know how it would work otherwise, but maybe there's something out there that I haven't seen. If you have trays from a prior treatment in a dental office, just use…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/19 04:45 PM
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I would agree but keep in mind that they are less effective on crowded teeth because of poor adaptation of the strips.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/19 12:11 PM
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Good addition, also tonsillar stones will cause bad breath.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/19 12:10 PM
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I don't know alot about it because its new and kind of "trendy" in social media. I'm skeptical and it concerns me putting this black colored stuff on your teeth, seems gross.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/19 12:09 PM
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There was some bogus "documentary" on Netflix (call Root Cause I think) about the supposed dangers of root canals. Netflix took it off because its basically a fringe idea with no real science behind it and stokes unfounded fears. It's dangerous because the gullible lay person doesn't have the knowledge to understand just how wrong it is. To your question, it depends on the specific situation. I'm of the camp that you should go with the easiest solution to the problem that will hold up over time.…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/19 12:07 PM
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I needed to hear/read all of this, appreciated.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/19 05:27 PM
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There's alot for me to unpack internally about this. It feels like I crossed a line by signing up for the site (seeking.com) but I haven't crossed the line of no return (I haven't fucked strange). I asked about the percentage because in my mind it feels like failure to cross the line of no return to get what I want. Why haven't I been able to create my slut? Am I not working hard enough to improve myself? Maybe I'm just not attractive enough to her to get what I want (from her)? Is this pursuit …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/19 02:18 PM
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I have made great progress in not seeking validation through sex with my wife since my last post. Mentally I'm at a much better point. At the moment, I don't feel "bad" when rejected, but I still need sex, and I'm coming around to the idea that it's just not going to come from her. I wonder how many guys here have concluded that they are not going to get the sex they want with their wife and do what they need to do in order to have their needs met. What percentage? I'm going into new territory h…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/19 05:52 PM
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Okay. Confirmed and good to go.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/19 11:16 AM
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the fact is she might not want to fuck for a whole lot of reasons, the vast majority of which have nothing to do with you. Good point. Someone (maybe you) told me this in the past but maybe I wasn't ready to internalize it yet. not being grey as to whether you fuck or not grey? you mean angry? No, I don't get angry when denied sex, I'm just more cheerful and talkative with her after sex, like I'm in a good mood. My point was more that I should be in a good mood all the time, not just after sex. …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/19 02:01 PM
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This past week has been all about frame building. I was digging deep in my psychology trying to self assess. I acted as my own shrink trying to find out deep routed influences of my actions. In the past, I really thought I was strong and didn't care what anyone thought about me. For example, I keep my username owning it as a testament to how weak I was in the past and how much I have improved. Another example, I went completely bald about 6 months ago as the result of a benign autoimmune disorde…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/19 07:53 PM
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Totally spot on. I have long thought that a post was due fleshing out the idea that a man may have a disadvantage that he cannot change (op describes one as being Asian or Indian race). Instead of just giving up and going MGTOW, it's incumbent on him to work harder in the areas that he can actually improve to effectively compete in the sexual market place. An extreme example might be Hervé Villechaize who had alot of success despite his short stature..
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/19 06:21 PM
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I read this post again and it does apply. thanks for this. I have a lengthy reply to MitW above with more details.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/19 03:31 PM
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Thanks for the input. You seem to have a deep understanding of this kind of woman. Warning- wall of text to follow. This is likely just her anti-slut defense (ASD) justification to herself. It's about her, not about you. That's what my gut feeling was. Totally true. Thanks for the confirmation. Translation: "I want you to have your way with me hard and fast. Take me; dominate me; I want to feel your passion for me (while telling myself I'm just a good girl doing her duty to her husband)." I coul…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/19 03:29 PM
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Fox- few thoughts as someone who had a shitty boss but I've been my own boss for 5 years now. 1.) You didn't give enough context. How much time would you realistically add with this new responsibility? Do you handle by phone, remote computer login, or in person? Are you on salary or wages? Make a calculation of what you think the additional time would be, add 50% premium because it's off hours (kind of like overtime), multiply by your approximate current pay per hour (if paid wages divide pay by…
/r/askMRP01/03/19 12:56 PM
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Working on making money, working out, trying to learn some game, continuing to improve. These are all relating to SELF improvement. Right answer. I meant how far are you willing to go to work on yourself, not how far are you willing to go out of the boundaries you've set for yourself. I also sometimes consider an affair but don't allow myself to pursue it yet. I believe that it would work like this- me telling my wife someday "hey I'm getting a girlfriend" and letting her stay or leave, instead …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/19 06:44 PM
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I read the thread- great stuff MitW wrote. Thanks. My wife also had a strict religious upbringing but she is much more reserved, and would never have the conversation that your wife did. I stuck my dick between her cheeks in the shower recently and she said "you know you'll never go there" I replied that she's so anal retentive that i could put a piece of coal there and make a diamond. We both laughed. That's about as much as my wife talks about what she wants in bed, so keep working to assert y…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 11:42 PM
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For some women, announcing "I feel tingly" is as much of an initiation as you're going to get. Wanting the other person to initiate is the feminine role. "I feel tingly" is her saying fuck me now, it's a hard initiation from her, I understand that. Maybe it's different with other chicks but she almost never initiates-I don't care, that's my job as a man. When she says "you have 3 minutes" it makes me think that she just wants to check that off her list of chores to do, or she wants to feel like …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 11:21 PM
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"We are having sex the way my wife wants to have sex." A question is "do you accept this?", and if not, "how far would you go to get sex the way you want to have sex?"
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 06:14 PM
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It's been a few weeks since posting. I have some days better than others but the trajectory is up. Physical- Good. My wife routinely refers to me as being fit, my muscles as "not natural", and says things like, "that shirt or pants show off your muscles." Making progress. Work- Good. I should write up a field report on the hypergamy on display with my female employees. Relationship/Sex: Definitely improved by not where I want it to be. It's mostly duty sex every 7-10 days. Recently the scenario …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 06:06 PM
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I'd be happy to contribute to the hygiene section. I had a long comment last year that seemed well received on the topic of "fixing your grill".
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/19 05:54 PM
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You sound like the patient who hasn't put a toothbrush on his teeth since last September and says, "Yeah I'll start brushing tomorrow". Just start doing stuff, stop talking, stop whining. Report back next week with you you actually did.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/19 08:04 PM
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Why do you care so much about her psych? Take off the girlfriend goggles, take her off the pedestal, and see her for what she really is/does. Look at her actions, not her words. It's not so much what happened to her growing up, it's what quality of man you are that matters.
/r/askMRP19/02/19 12:13 AM
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NEW MISSION ADDED\ - Be a man that other men look up to. Stop looking for validation from others (men or women). Be the kind of man YOU want to be, who cares what others think. As you enjoy the uptick in submissiveness and sex, don't get caught up in the emotion of the moment. Keep the pussy off the pedestal and follow your mission to the fullest, regardless of what she does or doesn't do over time.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/19 03:36 PM
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It's been a couple weeks since my last OYS and I thought alot about the comment by BobbyPeru saying that my "conversation" was essentially negotiating desire and weak. He was right, but that's okay, at least I did something to rock the boat and now I can calibrate. As expected the sex has decreased since the "I need sex to have a relationship and don't give me a reason to have an affair" conversation. There was an uptick and now it's trending down but I'm still pressing forward with what I want.…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/19 12:36 PM
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First thing I would do- go for the anal she threw out recently. Pull her hair, slap her ass and treat her like the whore she is. Give her a hate fuck. It looks like you have been following your MAP in hopes of saving the marriage- that's not how it works, you do it to save yourself. Work on saving yourself and stop caring about what she thinks. Confront your wife on YOUR terms with YOUR plan/goals in mind. Don't let her pull you into talking about it until you want to. If she tries to talk about…
/r/askMRP24/01/19 06:11 PM
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What should I see? Have three days, two nights. Staying by the airport. There's nothing worth seeing by the airport. Some thoughts- 1.) Harvard Square in Cambridge is fun to walk around, lots of college students, bars and places to eat, shops 2.) Seaport District is the more recently developed area, kind of expensive, good places to eat/bars (new hot spot is Trillium beer garden) 3.) historic places can be seen by walking the Freedom Trail in downtown Boston, 4.) Newbury Street in Back Bay has l…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/19 01:03 PM
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does the company have a right to claim any IP Not a lawyer (username checks out) but I have some experience with non-compete issues. Read your employment contract carefully and anything else you signed when starting your employment relationship. Non-solicitation of clients, non-competition against the company, and interest in IP developed during you employment could be potentially a problem. It will likey vary state to state.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/19 12:51 PM
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Basically, you just have to stop doing everything. You have to find a quiet place, sit down, and try not to think. Thinking nothing may silence the noise but it doesn't propel you forward. Rather than not thinking I would say that you have to replace poor thinking with good thinking. Stop "thinking" based on feelz or what other people want you to think. Start thinking thoughts that put your own self interests first and further focuses the pursuit of your mission.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/19 06:43 PM
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It’s been a few weeks since my last OYS and a lot has happened- I don’t have enough time to unpack everything but I’ll hit the main points. A few weeks back I become increasingly overt in what I need in the relationship for it to continue. I have progressed through the dread levels over more than 1.5 years and I gave less fucks about saving it and more about what I need. I figured the possible paths are: more sex within the marriage vs. sex outside the marriage to fill in the gaps. I understood …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/19 04:57 PM
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Red- I like your full of piss and vinegar and gravel in the belly attitude, but I think you're missing a blind spot. You give too many fucks about your lifts. There's too much ego investment. Are you defined by how many plates you can push or are you more than that? SteelTSK laid out how much risk you're taking by taking gear during this shitstorm. Are you taking this risk because of ego or because you really don't care about the possible bad outcomes? Say I'm full of shit, maybe I am. You've ad…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/19 12:11 PM
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strong enough to repress their emotions, but too weak to handle "vulnerability" I don't mean emotional indifference, I mean indifference in the sense that I can move on by firing her and interviewing other applicants for the job. I get what you mean though and the point is well taken- vulnerability is attractive and genuine, repressed emotion is not. You're fantasizing about an easy shortcut; this is analogous to watching porn. I'm want to be sure I understand this- You are saying that my thinki…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/18 12:45 PM
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Great link, thanks. My words and actions have to be completely congruent for any affect, and that's what I'm working on. When they are completely congruent, I won't care at all whether she does in fact comes to Jesus. I think part of that congruence is my indifference to her response. Lately my inner monologue has turned to what I would say in a FMOFY conversation and if I have done enough work for it to be 100% genuine. There are a few things I have identified to work on, but I appreciate the r…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/18 12:50 PM
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My narrative is that frequent good sex is a requirement for my marriage, otherwise there really is no marriage, we are just friends. My vision is that she gets on board or will get thrown off the ship. I have been communicating my narrative by actions, not words, I can't talk her into buying into this, that's a fools errand. But as time goes on, words will be used, but not in negotiation, just stating facts, it will lead to a FMOFY conversation, and then either we have a marriage or not. She wil…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/18 04:08 PM
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First OYS post in a while. I have been lurking but less focused on reading stuff on the internet, instead I’m doing stuff. It’s been over 1.5 years since becoming red pill aware and starting to improve myself and great progress has been made. 47 years old, married to 44 year old with no kids. My major concern is bedroom on life support, mainly starfish about every 2 weeks. Physical: Nothing gets between me and the iron temple 3-4/week even during the holiday season. I just finished Practical Fem…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/18 12:55 PM
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Yeah...I kinda see how there could be something there but it sounds more like a power struggle to me. In the end she has no power over him if he doesn't really care whether SHE fucks him or not. He is trying to short circuit her power by not initiating, but that has very limited effect on this harpy. He should care less what's in her head from moment to moment and just do what he wants. Maybe my harpy has done this shit before, it wouldn't surprise me, but I'm not certain. I just really don't ca…
/r/askMRP01/12/18 08:02 PM
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My cat doesn’t give a shit about anybody but me, and that’s only in a provisioning way to get his daily bowl of kibble.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/18 07:04 PM
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Give me her sister's number, I'll send you some pics of me fucking her in the ass. After that, read the sidebar and work on yourself. It'll do you some good.
/r/askMRP15/10/18 09:39 PM
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It all depends on how its done. My doc did a minimally invasive surgery, small incision, IV sedation in a hospital, with implanted mesh. It's been exactly 1 week now and I feel good. I went back to work 3 days ago. Make sure you have a good doctor (a cute PA is icing on the cake though). My doctor said light workouts after 2 weeks but it will be alot longer until I'm at it 100%.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/18 10:02 PM
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Jeff Cavaliere/AthleanX Yeah, I have watched alot of his stuff on Youtube and I like his approach, good stuff.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/18 09:54 PM
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Bla bla bla. I hear this type of thing all the time and it's such BS. Some women just insist on having a victim mentality and making excuses for their failures while others shut up and do the work. The ones doing the work usually don't say things like that because they don't see it that way. There's a difference between mandating equal opportunity vs. mandating equal outcome. Western society is moving more towards mandating equal outcome.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/18 09:51 PM
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Some guy who looked like the janitor came up right before they took me to the OR and shaved it straight down the middle. Kind of felt like this guy until I short cut the other side so they kind of match.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/18 05:40 PM
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Roger that.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/18 05:28 PM
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It's been awhile since posting OYS. Last week I had minor surgery to repair an inguinal hernia- things went well but I'm still recovering. Notable observations: -I didn't complain of pain, fear, or otherwise act like a bitch in this respect. She's not my mother. -I made sure to do as many things for myself as possible and didn't ask her to do anything unless really necessary. I had to be assertive in this respect but not get angry. -I gamed my wife even though the doctor said no sex for 2 weeks.…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/18 11:51 AM
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Stop saying your wife is sick- simply put- it's an excuse by both of you. Even if she were sick physically, she could still fuck/suck/use her hands. Stop making excuses. My guess is that she is "sick" mentally in some way but that is not something for you to fix, it's up to her, and she has chosen not to. Don't pass this "sickness" on to your kids. Make a real plan with goals and a timeline to prepare and execute a divorce and be a able to compete in the sexual market place afterwards. Focus on …
/r/askMRP09/09/18 11:57 AM
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Some good thoughts...but I really don't think my wife gets herself off. There's little opportunity or desire. She works as many hours as I do and isn't alone except when I withdraw attention. I think she is kind of trying to "retire" sexually (at age 44). This past week she had a mammogram and they found something that needs biopsied. She said several times "just take them off, what do I need them for?". It's like she's looking to excise the sexuality from herself. She doesn't have cancer. I tol…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/18 02:02 PM
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Most of your posts are just moping about not getting the right kind of sex. I'm sure that shines through your personality. Agreed, this is a weakness in my frame. My attractiveness could definitely improve because I have reached a plateau on this as well. I work out consistently 3-4 times/week lifting as heavy as I am able to safely and I don't fuck around in the gym. I don't talk to people, I don't take 10 mins between sets finger fucking my phone. I changed from SL 5x5 to Vince DelMonte's work…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/18 05:56 PM
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I know what you mean...I'll need to dig deep get the an accurate answer to this.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/18 03:59 PM
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I haven't posted OYS for awhile because not much has been happening, it's like I've been treading water. I posted in AskMRP about how you know whether its as good as it gets with a particular woman. That's how I felt at the time and there were many great comments to digest and I've come to realize a few things. 1.) Frame is everything. It includes OI, abundance, DGAF, gaming your wife, Kino, leading, etc. My frame is strong but of course there is room for improvement. And of course my wife can d…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/18 01:49 PM
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Put your big boy pants on and move forward. Nobody in this life is going to make it happen for you.
/r/askMRP30/07/18 10:37 PM
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Nice field report, what dread level level are you at? 7 or 8? Thanks for posting. My kids, co-workers, strangers on the street or elevators all seem to treat me differently. ...because you are different (improved).
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/18 10:14 AM
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Funny you bring this up. I have thought of this sort of thing and how would I feel about strange cock in her and would she go all feral slut on a new guy. It's like the girl that I dated and hated that she smoked cigarettes- of course she quit after we broke up. Do you think this a barometer of whether you are ready to leave her, if you don't care that she will get strange cock and go all in slut with a new guy? Just a theory of mine that if you really don't care, you are ready to leave (because…
/r/askMRP25/07/18 11:19 PM
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Yeah, you love her long time, then clean up when done.
/r/askMRP25/07/18 10:07 PM
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...but it's not at all obvious when that point has been reached, especially to you..... You make good points here all around- I'm not done with the program looking for excuses to leave, I'm just pausing to take stock in where I'm at. Maybe I'm looking for excuses to justify staying longer, not sure. Either way I will own the outcome of my decisions. Don't be afraid; she won't really cut your dick off. I'm not afraid of her but I did secure all the firearms in the safe some months ago as a precau…
/r/askMRP25/07/18 10:03 PM
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Your points are well taken. The mantra early on is that you have to unfuck your fat ass and become attractive. You go to the gym and get in shape, you exercise your mind with the sidebar and build frame. At some point in your MRP journey its time to take stock in your life and look around. Maybe she doesn't find you attractive enough to drop her panties and be down for every kink, but it doesn't mean another woman wouldn't. You should blame yourself in the beginning for not getting the sex you w…
/r/askMRP25/07/18 06:30 PM
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Are you thinking that another female will be able to do everything better? No, just more frequent better quality sex with another female. Everybody has different strengths and weaknesses. Getting strange would help at that time, but where would it lead to? Would I get strange on a regular basis to get my needs met? We all know how this ends. so why prolong the inevitable. My point of with her is exactly that, there is better available elsewhere but how do I know I've gotten the best wine I can o…
/r/askMRP25/07/18 02:42 PM
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I have employees and understand that each one has different strengths/weaknesses and greater or less potential for meeting my needs (as an employer). I provide feedback to improve their performance and give them a chance to do better over time, but I understand at some point that some people are just never going to be good at __. They usually have other skills but just not _. It could be a deal breaker where they have to go or maybe not. If it gets to the point where I have to say "do ___" or yo…
/r/askMRP25/07/18 02:19 PM
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Good progress overall but you need a stronger frame. Too many words I didn't read them all. I did let her know that I was no longer going to be a passive participant in my own life Don't say this, live it. She will see the way you live and understand in time. She may not accept it but who cares. You are way in her frame if you are bothered by the ring coming off. Next time make a joke out if it and tell her it's a fake diamond anyway, should you get her a real one someday? Don't let it upset you…
/r/askMRP24/07/18 10:51 PM
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He's dead now so he won't be lifting anything or fucking. RIP SH.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/18 01:25 AM
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Asian girls are the best for more reasons than I can count Agreed. I'd like me some asian right now...
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/18 02:05 PM
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how she thought I didn’t care about her anymore and thought I was going to find someone else. RianStone gave this gem to me- you say back to her in a confused smartass tone "now why would I need to go and have an affair?" That's how you keep the dread coming.
/r/askMRP07/07/18 08:47 PM
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Ive always had a dominant relationship with my dogs. Dogs (and some cats) understand the natural order, or pecking order. You have to be dominant to be at the top. My cat know's who's boss and understands the pecking order. I'm the top alpha, then him, then my wife. He puts her back in her place sometimes.
/r/askMRP06/07/18 07:39 PM
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I find it really difficult to be that fun flirty attractive guy with simmering anger in the background. The anger swells as I become more attractive and aware of my increasing sexual market value and how that doesn't jibe with her behavior. The anger diminishes as I care less about her as the source of my sex and I feel less angry hamstering away that it's not her fault that she's not attracted to me enough to reciprocate my desire for sexual intimacy. I also just sometimes let go of the anger s…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/18 09:08 PM
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My first read through I really didn't get it. The second time, along with self reflection and more RP experience, was pure gold. It's up to you to pursue and take possession of the gold in your life.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/18 03:47 PM
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At least this time I actually said, "Look, do you want to leave or not?" No real answer from her. You are still balls deep in her frame as this response indicates. It says that you are worried about whether she is leaving and you need to know her intention now to alleviate that stress. A better approach is to NGAF and say, "Leave if you want to." without any indication being a supplicating bitch. Whatever happens will happen and you will deal with it successfully (have you read all of NMMNG?)
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/18 01:57 PM
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OYS Physical: My expensive scale says I weight 149lbs and bodyfat 7%. I don’t feel like I’m 7% bodyfat but who knows, I lost a little weight over the last month or two despite consciously eating more and increasing protein intake. I get gassy with whey or vegetable protein, GI issues are not attractive, now I’m eating more chicken and protein bars. I like my defined arms and vascularity but I’m still calibrating my diet to get more calories that agree with my GI system. Relationship: It was our …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/18 01:27 PM
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Nice post, I'll ask my wife first before I act though, just to make sure it's okay with her. Don't want to get her upset.
/r/askMRP03/07/18 01:02 AM
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Good on you for getting off the Xanax. I have seen people close to me that got too close to the flame and were consumed in the fire. I have not cycled and have no judgement one way or the other. Just ask yourself whether it helps you pursue your mission or not.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/18 05:00 PM
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No propaganda intended, just a reality check for op to self examine potential areas of frame weakness. I have no position on gear except whether it helps or hurts his mission. Only he knows the answer to that.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/18 04:38 PM
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Gotta put this out there op- So much time with the iron...are you on roids? Anything else besides Xanax? Cause that can fuck up your mind and ability to maintain frame. Be honest with yourself because we don't really give a shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/18 03:15 PM
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Man.....you fucked up a shit ton. You can't talk to her like you would a man and expect it to go well. You might as well have talked to her about dick infections to get the same result. Women can't look at sex and relationships like we do- they're incapable (sidebar stuff needs another read through so you can comprehend it better this time). You can improve your situation if you believe in yourself and get back to doing the work. So what is it going to be? Will you have yourself a pity party or …
/r/askMRP29/06/18 05:58 PM
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This line of thinking is counterproductive and works against your mission. You understand this so good on you, you're on your way.
/r/askMRP24/06/18 10:04 PM
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I have been thinking recently about the need for sex, mostly due to my personal lack of fulfillment. Sometimes I entertain the line of thinking like you, in a stoic way "if I could diminish my need for sex, things will be better". Like conquering anger or fear in your head, what if you could conquer the need for sex. Is this similar to how you are thinking? This line of thinking is flawed and if pursued will just result in unhappiness. The need for sex comes from our DNA and is hardwired so deep…
/r/askMRP24/06/18 11:04 AM
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Good post- thanks, but for most women, smoking is not consistent with the idea of "be attractive, don't be unattractive." Maybe because your wife is a former smoker and you have improved enough, it works for you, but for some women it would be seen as low value omega (like burping or farting) and an immediate deal breaker. I think this is what Simbarlion and Senor_Martillo were alluding to. I couldn't LTR a smoker, but I could fuck the shit out of one if she was hot enough...so I guess I could h…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/18 10:33 AM
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Politics is equivalent to religion in the ability to stimulate strong feelings and never see eye to eye with the other person. It can be deeply personal. Use it to give her strong feelz (both good and bad) and then fuck the shit out of her. If you get bored of listening to her liberal speak droning on and on, plate her.
/r/askMRP19/06/18 09:29 PM
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You are asking the wrong question. It's not about whether or not you are a shitty husband. Are you living the life you want to live and are you fucking? I'm guessing you didn't get laid on your anniversary?
/r/askMRP13/06/18 09:18 PM
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I might not...but hard to say...I'll try to find out by real experience rather than guessing.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/18 05:52 PM
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Things were good this week. I enjoyed reading Bogeyd6 3 year field report. I was together about 15 years too...just under 2 years to go on his pace. Physical: I have been sore for about 2 days or so after workouts so I only do 3/week (Sat. Tues, Thurs) on my new routine. I've come to realize that I need longer rest at age 47 than I did in my 20's. Sex was off tap this past week (shark week), we're both not into red sex. I continued to game her anyway and would then go do something on my own with…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/18 05:40 PM
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Dude, you do you, but I wonder if on some level you are comparing your experience with your wife to your new business venture. In business, you take a risk and put some cash/time/labor into something and expect it to grow. You're pissed if you don't get more out of the venture than you put into it, and really pissed if you get no value from it at all. Either way, you own the outcome and move on to bigger/better things. Maybe you have anger because you see Mrs. Red-sfpplus as an investment that h…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/18 09:08 PM
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You talked too much about yourself. Dude, talk about her, ask her stupid questions about herself. Talk about funny things, awesome adventures you've had. Talk about your kids and wife if you want to self sabotage and provide a reason for not fucking.
/r/askMRP05/06/18 06:04 PM
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my shoulder pain to close-grip bench press Dude, you are 51 that's right? Good job. Keep lowering your body fat down see how you look more ripped- its fun. Be careful with every upper body exercise to retract your scapulae during the movement to avoid shoulder injury. Example- for chin ups, the initial movement should be bringing your shoulder blades together, then engage your lats and arms to pull your body up. Sitting rows, first bring your shoulder blades together, then "pull with your elbows…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/18 01:42 PM
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I took a break from this Reddit for a few weeks, mostly because of going on vacation and being busy getting shit done. Not a break from the pedal on the gas, just a break from spending so much time on Reddit. I remember Rian Stone's post awhile back describing how some people spend so much effort thinking "what is the red pill way to do this, or what would an alpha response be?" instead of just living your live on red pill hard mode. I'm that guy sometimes, overthinking, micromanaging what's red…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/18 12:02 PM
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Got it- good insight. Appreciate your effort to clarify things.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/18 01:34 AM
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Mark Manson Models: A comprehensive guide to attracting women. Great book. Read it.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/18 01:29 AM
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Sorry man, I don't understand- You mean she keeps the dominant frame by essentially saying to me "Can't help it. You have to love me for who I am." That is more or less my approach to her as well. If we both maintain that, isn't it a stalemate until one taps out? Cuz that's how it feels to me right now.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/18 06:24 PM
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You mean that I'm actually showing attention/affection by caring whether or not she's creeped out? And this kind of attention/affection is actually warranted because being creepy is unattractive? I guess the upshot is to not be creepy in the first place. That what you mean?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/18 05:38 PM
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You're thinking about preparing the content of nuking her, for her. I recommend that you stop that. Because if it's time to nuke and you're ready you won't even be apportioning blame or give a shit about her understanding of 'why'. You're right about that. I'll turn my efforts to more productive thinking, refocus on my mission.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/18 05:23 PM
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Context is everything of course. I always own being a pervert and joke with all kinds of innuendos and making things sexual in a fun way. Example- the hockey player announcer says he scores "from around the back" and I joke that I'm going to score with her from around her backside. I will smack ass when she passes in front of me and say I like the view. She responds fine to all of this and its not creepy. Things don't go as well when I escalate. I did all this leading up to the blouse pull and h…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/18 04:51 PM
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It was not a well thought out plan, more or less just happened that way over time. Kind of the same reasons we don't have a dog, nobody to take care of it, but we love dogs...and kids. Logistics were not good- no family around to help out, we both work too many hours, and wouldn't want kids raised by strangers. Neither of us wanted to go part time to accommodate and make the time needed to raise kids. We are both selfish that way, we like our freedom from responsibility and our current lifestyle…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/18 04:06 PM
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You have made alot of progress, still more to go. You are doing better passing shit tests and not caring so much if she is upset. Be attractive and keep working on your game.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/18 03:41 PM
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Maybe I didn't say it well. I'm more apathetic, not really butthurt. I know full well that bringing it into the open kills attraction. It's more something to tell her when nuking the relationship. She realizes it's true, nothing can change it, and we part ways. Done. Maybe it's my way of killing the puppy? Not sure. I'm not there yet though. I know I still have work to do so I'll focus on that instead of this line of thinking.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/18 02:56 PM
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I realized this past week that most of my clothes don’t fit properly- thanks 60 DOD and Models. I have been wearing clothes my whole life that are too big. I will see great dividends with an easy course correction on this. I signed up for Stich Fix- they send me clothes every few weeks. Got the first shipment this week and they fit/look great. My wife was really excited for me to try everything on, she grabbed my ass when I put on new jeans and said “You look cute in them”. More on this later. I…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/18 11:33 AM
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I'll keep it for now...kind of a reminder of where I came from and to keep going forward. Reminds me of this classic from Johnny Cash.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/18 09:20 PM
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This was a very good week. I posted a one year progress report and received great comments, even though some were hard to read (because they are true). It was well worth checking my ego and putting my thoughts out there for criticism. I have been struggling with the idea that my wife is different and not quite AWALT, and that has been a major problem holding me back from making progress. I understand now the flaws in my thought process, now I can move past it. I will list some of the things I le…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/18 03:40 PM
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I appreciate the reply (and all the comments here really) and see what you are saying. But every once in a while things would seep through that would tell me otherwise. I think back- she read the 50 Shades of Grey books and the Twilight books, (she was turned on by Edward- why do I even know this!). That's about it, but we don't talk about sex as prescribed by the bluepill thinking that talking will make it all better. Over time (especially with the help of MRP) I came to realize that she (and a…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/18 05:51 PM
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I am of the opinion every person is capable of mind blowing sex, if they are willing to take the final step. Our challenge is finding the combination of tools to unlock that last door. Agreed. Maybe I didn't express it well but I am looking for the optimal combination (dread, comfort, attractiveness) to bust open the door fully. I'm not looking for a cheat code, I just wonder if there's something for me to improve on. For example, maybe she needs more comfort around sexual activity, or both more…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/18 05:15 PM
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Or that perhaps she has never been with someone she felt the level of attraction to that made her a very sexual person? If you truly wanted that from her, you'd make the full effort. You said it better than I could. I am making a full effort in order to find out whether: 1.) she just isn't sexual 2.) she just isn't sexual with me. I recognize that I can do more and am calibrating accordingly, but at some point it's time to move on and find someone on the side or nuke the relationship. I have not…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/18 03:32 PM
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Agreed. To be honest, I'm still internalizing her as my sparring partner and trying to kill the last vestiges of oneitis. I have a lot of work to do and am not going to do a "SteveMcQueen".
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/18 11:58 AM
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Good read. You might say I'm still getting my eyes acclimated.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/18 11:49 AM
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Cut the Shit details added to the post. See my reply to Nec_sorte_Nec_fato above. I have these competing ideas that: 1.) she is broken 2.) I just haven't done enough to increase my SMV. In the end maybe it doesn't even matter because the bottom line is that my current level of attractiveness is not enough to fix whatever level of brokedness (is that even a word?) she in fact does have (whether it is a little or alot). My path forward is the same regardless so I should just put this whole rabbit …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/18 08:44 PM
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Your point is well taken but I am not "bound and determined" to reform her. I am stubborn to a fault to go through the process and fix myself before nuking this relationship. I have some cognitive dissonance in that I know her sexual repression is not normal but I've lived with it for so long it seems normal to me. I'm trying to wrap my head around this. I ask myself "are you just ego protecting by trying to blame her for your lack of attractiveness" and seeds of doubt are sown. Maybe she is oka…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/18 08:06 PM
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Few thoughts on this: 1.) I think going through "the 12 levels of Hell" by your time with Her has made you a stronger person in the end, but at some point the value of staying is just in indecision and procrastination. You only have so many years left, make the most of them. Your religious upbringing may have you subconsciously thinking that there is value in the suffering of staying and avoiding the stigma of divorce. 2.) Be prepared from various angles for the shitstorm that will happen when s…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/18 10:45 AM
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Get the assholes out of your life You'll feel better Over all though hate is a worthless thing to bother with. Hate is an emotion for directing women's actions. Purpose and mission are for directing men's actions.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/18 01:49 PM
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It's been about 1 year since finding MRP and this past week I've been taking stock on my progress. I went back and read all of my previous posts...cringeworthy... I considered how my frame and body have improved I and feel great about it. MRP is not a self-help program, it's a sexual strategy, but it has the side effect of making me a better man and able to live a more fulfilling life. I am grateful for this. This weekend I went on a reading frenzy of Jacktenofhearts comments and was fascinated …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/18 12:17 PM
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I hope you diluted that down alot. Hydrogen peroxide kill bacteria that contribute to bad breath, but it also kills the cells in your mouth. I have seen people putting things like this or an aspirin directly on an area in the mouth and causing a chemical burn. Some people think that it may contribute to causing cancer because it produces free radicals. Botton Line--It's strong shit- use regular non-alcohol mouthwash (ProHealth or Listerine Zero are examples) and a tongue scraper for better, safe…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/18 10:00 PM
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Next time use this. It's really fucking alpha and will get her pussy wet.
/r/askMRP21/04/18 10:29 AM
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Thanks for sharing this field report. Although there's enough to criticize in there, I found value in it. Do you think your wife is capable of improving enough to meet your sexual needs if she's this broken? After one year, what are your thoughts? I think a good part is down to extreme prudishness. Amazing similarity to my wife...she doesn't do open mouth kissing either, unless really enthusiastic sex at hand...which is rare. My wife is open to oral, she doesn't like hearing sounds when receivin…
/r/askMRP19/04/18 10:17 PM
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This one worked for me.
/r/askMRP19/04/18 08:34 PM
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Gotta ask- do you mean no kissing or no kissing with tongue during sex? Do you attribute that to lack of attraction or that she feels its icky in a germ-o-phobic way. If she doesn't do oral (either way) she may just not like the idea of swapping saliva or genital fluids, regardless of attraction. Some prudish women are just like that, for example, my wife. She gets two straws if we are drinking from the same cup....WTF.
/r/askMRP19/04/18 08:19 PM
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Why do you have to say anything, just do what you do to pursue your mission and goals and don't care so much about whether it requires a yes or no.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/18 03:35 PM
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Flossing might not be that useful. Yeah, showering might not be that useful for getting laid because there's no scientific study proving it...so lets just be lazy. Reminds me of the guy who gets his teeth cleaned and the dentist asks him "how often are your teeth flossed" and the guy replies "every 6 months...when I see you."
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/18 10:47 PM
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if we didn't make the life of ignoble ease I would say that the development of soft lives and even softer minds allowed the insidious rise of feminism in Western society. Feminism gets credit for misappropriation and confusion and ultimately misery. It aligns with the idea that gender is just a choice and not a defined genetic absolute.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/18 02:50 PM
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The thing is, feminism has blurred EVERYTHING in modern society in a drift away from what worked from an evolutionary standpoint. In the days before writing a man would use violence again other men or women to get what he wanted- sex and food. Now, weapons are a force equalizer between men and women. A woman can even shoot her "abusive" husband with excess force and get away with it. Unlike even 50 years ago men and women can now get "sex" from machines (computer, toys, etc) despite their progra…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/18 01:54 PM
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Most of what you see is marketing. Use a soft toothbrush with fluoride containing toothpaste, the rest is personal preference. Yes there are differences, but at the end of the day, it's more how the brush is used, than which brush is used. Electric brushes oftentimes have a timer which is helpful to brush longer. They are great, but not needed if you can brush well with a manual brush. If you are not doing a good job, you could try an electric and see how it goes. I recommend proxybrushes or sof…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/18 05:59 PM
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The friends said "no comment, I'm not going to touch that third rail," in an awkward way and went silent uncomfortably. My point was that it seemed to get my wife's hamster going. Dread/no dread, I can't read anyone's mind, but I do know that she didn't jump on my dick when we got home, so there's still more to do. <stop tracking anything. Thanks for confirming my gut feeling about this. I doesn't help me pursue my mission.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/18 05:39 PM
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Good advice. Where I live custom whitening trays with the gel would be closer to $500-$600.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/18 11:51 AM
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This week was good overall. I started upper body work outs with improved form and felt good. My physical therapist is working with me to properly retract my scapula on pull-ups and bench press. There was still minor discomfort but I worked through it. I did something new this week to break rapport. After work I went out alone and sat at the bar for a beer. The wife called and said what’s up for dinner and I told her to meet me at the bar. She was immediately upset wanting to know why I went alre…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/18 11:48 AM
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My analogy is that mouthwash is like rinsing the dishes,-you really need to use a sponge and soap (toothbrush and toothpaste) to do a good job. It is an okay adjunct to brushing/flossing, but is not really essential. Your dentist recommended one with fluoride which is good for preventing cavities. I think a better use of time/money would be a tongue scraper as recommended by resolutions316 and/or interproximal brushes to clean between the teeth. Bad breath mostly comes from bacteria on the base …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/18 01:56 AM
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Yes, there is a correlation between gum disease and heart disease. But correlation does not equal causation. It is not settled whether gum disease does in fact contribute to the development of heart disease. Edit: re-phrased easier to understand
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/18 11:53 PM
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First off, start with the basics. I believe in what works, not philosophy or bullshit ideas with no scientific basis. Do not have treatment by a “holistic” dentist that tells you fluoride is poison and silver fillings will kill you. They want your money to send their kid to Harvard by changing all your silver fillings out that have lasted for years but are now somehow harmful. The fact is that drilling out silver fillings releases more mercury into your body than just leaving them in place ever …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/18 11:51 PM
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Tooth decay (dental caries) is the most widespread chronic disease worldwide. Tooth decay and gum disease cause bad breath, tooth loss, and dental disfigurement. Once your tooth is diseased, it will never be the same, it does not grow back, and it has a life cycle (small cavity, larger cavity, crown, root canal, fracture, tooth loss, replacement). Don't take your teeth for granted. Unless you are a bad-ass hockey player, no hottie is going to want to fuck a dude with a jack-o-latern smile. I see…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/18 05:58 PM
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You're living the awesome life you want to live- good. You just have a sex-hangover, or maybe some saddle sores. Calibrate the frequency and live an even more awesome life.
/r/askMRP15/04/18 04:10 PM
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Why do you have to have that much sex? She begs to swallow my cum... Does it feed your ego when you know she wants you sexually? Why does she want you so much? Is it for her own pleasure or to keep your sex from wandering elsewhere (too much dread)? Not saying anything, just something to think about. Sex/climax releases dopamine in the brain similar to eating pizza- your pleasure center is stimulated.. Too much of a good thing is always bad because it makes you soft, you loose your drive and edg…
/r/askMRP15/04/18 12:34 PM
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Sounds to me more like you want to go out drinking/partying and she doesn't want to follow. Is that the only way for you to be fun and interesting? You have kids. Grow up. Do you have a mission? Goals? Is this a real question or a troll?
/r/askMRP13/04/18 05:42 PM
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Great points. I guess there's a sweet spot to hit between pushing too much or too little, and something to be said for testing your limits and learning from how it goes.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/18 10:29 PM
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Her gums...as she gobbles my dick....with her teeth on the nightstand
/r/askMRP10/04/18 10:05 PM
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As I've truly accepted this - and felt a true, deep sense of inner conviction and confidence - my desperate drive for sex has actually decreased. I still want it, but it isn't like before...where it was all I could think about, and I was freaking out all the time. She can smell your desperation and obsession a mile away. The more needy you are, the less attractive you become and the less likely she is to fulfill your needs. Catch yourself falling into this and correct course as needed. Be carefu…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/18 05:34 PM
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You seem overly proud that you DNGAF. Good find...you're right.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/18 02:03 PM
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OYS It was a good week with some challenges. First the fun stuff. It was her birthday weekend and one of my favorite bands was in town. The wife is not much of a fan, so I bought tickets anyway and told her to come or not. She reluctantly came-shit, we both had a great time. They played for about 2.5 hours and played all the great songs. I did what I wanted and she thanked me for taking her along. Now the difficult stuff. I realize that my lifting form is bad and causing injury. I have shoulder …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/18 11:46 AM
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I think you’ll find that even if you had her as a “best friend”, she wouldn’t be that good of a friend anyway. So true. She's incapable.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/18 07:56 PM
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There's alot of reflection in this post that hits home with me. In my work I have seen many people go through phases of their life, aging, getting closer to the end, changing mentally and physically, as I get older myself with them. Some retiring, some getting cancer, some having children die...I wonder what regrets they may have when they're older...I'd bet money that the men regret not fucking more. Nobody wishes they worked more or gives a shit about small stuff. The best thing that happened …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/18 01:07 AM
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I'm almost your age. I made a major career move at age 42 pursuing what I really wanted rather than a nice stable income. Now I work more than ever before but am happier than ever. You have made such an enormously positive impact on so many men's lives. Do what will make you happy and pursue your real life mission. For the record, TurdDoctor is not my real name.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/18 04:30 PM
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But is she comfortable with your sexuality? I'm not sure I understand the question. I'm totally comfortable with my sexuality. I initiate which makes her not comfortable because she has to face her own sexuality in response to mine. Just this morning she came out of the shower and I came close, looked her over, and said with an approving smile that she's got some good things going on. I rubbed my dick on her clit (we were standing naked close to each other). She said, "we've got things to do" me…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/18 12:07 PM
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No PIV but offering BJ's is a good sign she wants to please you. Yeah, that's what's making me think- she makes an occasional effort to please me with something she get's nothing from (a BJ). Why not PIV where she gets something for the effort? I tried pulling her shirt off and unsnapped her bra but her boobs were to big too get it off without hurting her and by then she was balls deep so I stopped. And that's it- if I did understand what's going on I could lead her, but there is contradiction i…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/18 08:15 PM
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All initiations in the last few weeks were met with hard no’s. And by that I mean, complete shut down… “I don’t want this”, “I don’t want you touching me or kissing me”. As your SMV increases and you get un-fucked you will calibrate your response accordingly. First could be "that's a shame for our relationship", or "that's a shame for you" then later it could become "I'll find someone who does" or "I'll see you later" and you leave the house. Take it very slow and build your frame before calibra…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/18 06:10 PM
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there are few guys truly getting this; but i think it's an unrealistic goal. it's in direct conflict of Rian's rule "right now" (i.e. add "right now" to anything a woman says or feels). "right now" i don't want your dick, but 30 minutes from now who the fuck knows (or cares) Sometimes I think back on a particular old girlfriend and remember how happy I was even though she didn't really have her shit together, she was lazy, not very smart, little direction in life, and we didn't have alot in comm…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/18 05:51 PM
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I started Mark Manson’s Models book this week. The upshot is that the lack of neediness creates attraction- no surprise- but he explains that in order for me to really get rid of neediness I have to change my internal thought process. I have been working to understand what really motivates my thoughts/desires so that it can be changed. He also explains redpill ideas using different words in a very understandable way. I have come to realize that I have deep rooted motivations that come out in the…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/18 12:29 PM
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Congrats on your progress- can you tell us how the sex changed over the year, quality/quantity?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/18 11:37 AM
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since TRP has been outstanding for my lifestyle Uh...what are you referring to? TRP is a sexual strategy. There's lots of "masculinity" books/websites out there you could send him to. Try one of those instead.
/r/askMRP01/04/18 10:50 AM
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My view on the red pill is that it is fairly simple in the context of a relationship, you simply are not scared to lose her. Bingo. I think a difference between a new guy and one that's further along is that the new guy tells himself this in the anger phase but obviously is still scared to lose her. The guy that's further along calmly, confidently, truly cares 2 fucks if she leaves or what she says.
/r/askMRP01/04/18 10:44 AM
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English Red Pill
/r/askMRP31/03/18 05:49 PM
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"What happened to all that stuff about you becoming a man and leading the family? I knew it was all just you trying to get more sex, you don't really care about being a better person. This. You know it will happen and you cannot have a conversation with her to explain your way out of it. Your only option is to become THAT man and not be affected in any way by whatever she says or does (or doesn't say or do)- that's called maintaining your frame. While you are reading books, I'll recommend Models…
/r/askMRP31/03/18 05:37 PM
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What's your BF % I didn't understand how often you're lifting but I recommend no more than 4/week at your age with no lifting on the rest days. You need time to recover. In my opinion, you'd increase SMV the most by getting to 12% BF vs. lifting more pounds and risking injury. So focus on diet to decrease BF%.
/r/askMRP30/03/18 03:17 PM
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I like where you're going with this, I'm DTF 24/7 doesn't make any difference to me when. Maybe I read it somewhere (maybe not) but arousal may be easier in a sleep state. Inhibitions are down and the mind is more open to suggestion. That's the whole basis of hypnosis or trying to fuck after she's had a few drinks. Having said that, I have tried in the middle of the night in the past and it never resulted in sex. Before finding MRP, there were occasions between fucks (I was on the once every 6-8…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/18 09:41 PM
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Our time together is filled with getting ready for work, then getting ready for bed, maybe more like 2-3 hours depending on when I get home. My point was more that it's hard to build sexual tension/use seduction throughout the day to get her primed for the D in the evening. I've tried text game during the day a few times and it failed miserably. I have tried initiating when the alarm goes off and I have morning wood but get the "we have to get ready, can't be late for work" response. She won't k…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/18 03:12 PM
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I was thinking all week about DoneDreadPirate’s comment on being a better plowhorse vs. actually living an awesome life. Am I that better plowhorse? Maybe. How did I get there and how do I get out? Since finding MRP I am a better man, I pull more weight around the house, don’t complain, am not passive aggressive, I’m more fun taking her places and not being boring, I am more attractive dressing/grooming better, I’m in the best shape of my life, I’m horny and not ashamed of my sexuality, it’s out…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/18 01:04 PM
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Even though you swallowed the pill your wife remembers the old you. It will take her time to forget the old you and trust the new you is here to stay, the you that deserves respect. It takes on average 66 days of doing something to form a habit (but it can range from 18-254 days). Keep working and your STFU instead of DEER will stick. I used to forget my wallet alot when going out of the house. I haven't forgotten it for about 9 months. She still says when we are leaving, "have your wallet, phon…
/r/askMRP26/03/18 11:33 AM
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Slow down Rambo-in-the-making. Read sidebar. Pay attention to seduction/game. You’ve got a lot of work to do.
/r/askMRP25/03/18 01:49 PM
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You said the sexual improvement plateaued to where the frequency was baseline (before marriage). Do you attribute this to: 1.) that's all she is capable of? or 2.) is it on you? You haven't upped the dread level enough to push the issue? Thanks for the post.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/18 05:59 PM
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Dude, there's almost nothing that will make your wife's vagina drier that the odor and mental image of you taking a shit. Do you want a blowjob or a game of hide the sausage? She's not going near your dick after brushing her teeth in that shit cloud. This is not manners, it's sexual strategy. Keep your bodily functions under the radar. BTW I'm uniquely qualified to respond to this (see username).
/r/askMRP23/03/18 05:34 PM
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So you want to make more money but not work more hours or increase your skills/value to your employer? Lazy faggot. What makes you deserve more than your "dead end" job? Inflated self worth. Typical millenial snowflake- put the work in and prove me wrong. Who cares about what your LTR thinks. She will follow or not.
/r/askMRP22/03/18 01:34 PM
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Introspection and growth may result in some "boundaries" changing but the core boundaries of your SO should remain the same. You have to be a man worthy of those expectations though. As you become a more high value man what she says and does matters less and less. You become indifferent to her. Op came off as butt hurt and over reacting to protect his ego (may or may not be true). It reminded me of a scene form a poorly dubbed kung fu movie where someone says "You, dishonor my family" and then s…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/18 07:40 PM
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Alot of comments on the negative...anyone care to comment specifically on how they would have done things differently so some of us can learn from this guy's experience. Some initial thoughts of mine: -why do you care so much about what she says, your reaction to what she says is more relevant than the words she chooses -did you follow the levels of dread stepwise, or just go from level 5 to 10+? -did you have any abundance or true outcome independence? -do you think your next LTR will be differ…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/18 02:24 PM
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Yeah, people were booing yelling for them to get off the stage. Smashing Pumpkins were unknown and opening for Red Hot Chili Peppers. Their sound was so different nobody got it. Billy Corgan was taunting the audience with a vulgar tirade saying he was going to fuck all our girlfriends backstage after the show- people were pissed. I laughed my ass off, fun times.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/18 10:20 PM
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Tomorrow, I’ll set my eyes on your wife. And while she’s swallowing my dick, It reminded me of around 1991- I saw Smashing Pumpkins and Billy Corgan kept telling the crowd, "fuck off, I'm gonna take your girlfriends backstage and fuck their brains out tonight."
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/18 05:03 PM
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OYS This week was good overall and I felt some things coming together and see other things still needing improvement. I was a more positive this week despite whatever things happened around me. I was more friendly to people and chatty. I talked to another girl at a bar in front of my wife. Physical: The scale said 158lbs and 12% BF, 5’10.5”. I try to weigh myself the same time/day each week but there is still some variability. I did some meal prep to eat more (chicken and tuna fish) to add onto …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/18 11:41 AM
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'view of self superiority' Arrogance has a negative connotation. It implies that one's view of being superior is based on entitlement or self-opinion, that you are inherently a superior person just because of being you. I think irrational confidence is better than arrogance for MRP. Call it semantics if you like but irrational confidence can be based on lifting, sidebar, abundance, OI, and the experience of applying our sexual strategies in the real world.
/r/askMRP15/03/18 01:31 AM
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3 liters IV fluids, pain meds, it passed a few hours later and it was like the knife was pulled out, never felt better. Good luck bro
/r/askMRP15/03/18 01:05 AM
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Agree- make sure you are not dehydrated, drink lots of water, especially if the pain is constant, intense on your back/flank, one side only, not radiating down your leg. I had a kidney stone before. It felt like a red-hot knife in my side/back. I was in so much pain I let my wife drive to the hospital.
/r/askMRP14/03/18 04:02 PM
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The divorce will be a small bump on the road for her, but she has her plan clear already so she will not be too affected. Who cares? You should not be concerned about how it will affect her- that's her problem. Be concerned about fixing you. What is most urgent for me to solve is place to live. Don't leave YOUR house. Let her fucking leave. Focus on yourself and your needs first.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/18 01:49 PM
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Fuck. Right. Second go around. Physical: I ate more this week, cleaning my plate and having a second helping. Ate chicken fish peanut butter... not worrying so much what it was. I ignored my fear of getting fat. Spiritual: I was positive this week and didn't let work or what my wife said/did get me down. I as the source of my happiness and confidence as a man. Sex: I realized some under the radar covert contract that my wife will have sex with me if I do MRP right. I am doing my MAP for me now 1…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/18 01:38 PM
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Money is better than bitches in every possible way. Money is a reflection of you and your value, so yes its better than bitches. But it is also replaceable just like bitches.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/18 01:19 PM
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I received many good comments last week to mediate on and internalize. Physical: I am skinny and have not been eating enough. This week I really ate more and gained 3 lbs., the scale showed 158lbs, 9.8% BF, 5’10.5”. There are different ideas on eating and lifting but the bottom line is that I need to keep eating more to reach the gains I want. On some level I am afraid of my pot belly coming back but men don’t let fear stand in their path. To own my shit on lifting a shirtless pic is posted. Spi…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/18 01:13 PM
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Gotta agree here. Your worrying about how to run a marathon before you can walk. You have a shit ton of stuff to do right now so prioritizing helps. Read the sidebar. Gains come more from CONSISTENCY of lifting when you just started 3 weeks ago.
/r/askMRP12/03/18 07:46 PM
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Fucking sniper accuracy on the analysis. Something has to change, either the bare minimum, or the amount you're around. I woke up in the middle of last night and was thinking along the same lines- something has to change. I was turned down twice this week and went downstairs until I was ready to return and sleep. As I was leaving one of the nights she said to the cat "he's not happy with me" and I realized that she understands exactly what I'm doing and has settled into being comfortable with th…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/18 06:26 PM
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thanks for the analysis
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/18 01:52 AM
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Is there any way to stand up and don't tolerate her treatment that doesn't mean immediate divorce Divorce is not really the issue, the issue is that you need to not tolerate behavior that is abusive to you, by anyone, regardless of the consequences. It is addressed in NMMNG very clearly. Would you tolerate a boss that called you a faggot, told you to dress in a monkey suit and make an internet video promoting gay porn, and then didn't pay you for your hours worked? No. You would say fuck you and…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/18 01:51 AM
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I'm trying to help you here and spell it out plainly- the bottom line is that you need to grow some balls and stand up for yourself. Don't tolerate the way she treats you. Read NMMNG again.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/18 02:42 AM
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When you're not get plenty it's a definite priority. That's for sure. I'm not getting plenty myself but I understand that there is happiness in my mission as a man because I accomplish other things that are important to me.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/18 02:33 AM
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I see what you're getting at now. Good opportunity for me to self-reflect on how my actions (or words) affect how I'm perceived by others. Negativity is not attractive, whether its towards self or others. I am too negative sometimes and need to keep this in check because it doesn't help my mission.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 11:28 PM
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Wife is DTF about every other day, and she's finally relaxed and able to get off too. She's not confident about her blowjob abilities so I'm encouraging her to practice. Practice makes perfect they say. Be careful not to measure your progress too much on her willingness to have sex. It's only sex. There's more to men than that- what else do you want out of life, what's your mission and purpose?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 08:58 PM
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Yeah, but I do work with a bunch of assholes.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 08:51 PM
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I don't want to sound attractive to guys comparing notes in the locker room. What matters is whether women find me attractive and the only way to find that out is for me to quit making excuses and get out into the sexual market place- game other women. Lifting and irrational confidence help of course.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 07:35 PM
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No, I'm a dental specialist. I was being a smartass with the username, and it can't changed per Reddit rules. I've already tried. Now I'm stuck with this as a reminder that bad choices may have consequences that can't be fixed later on. Call me TD if you want.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 06:47 PM
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And I would say especially in your own backyard if you want to activate some of the higher dread levels from your wife. Great point. Fuck the excuses, time to create opportunities to practice game. I have made alot of progress, no doubt, but I still feel like the guy who climbed half way up the mountain. There's still half a mountain to go and nobody brags about getting halfway up, they brag about getting to the top.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 06:23 PM
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List of what I ate yesterday: coffee with 1 tablespoon half and half GoLean Berry Cereal with 1% milk (12 grams protein cereal) 1 Yoplait high protein yogurt 1 Chobani yogurt 1 orange 1 protein shake 1 sandwich with 3 slices turkey (rye bread no condiments) 1 apple with 3 tablespoons peanut butter chicken with bok choy and rice for dinner handfull of pop chips (corn chip things) 1/2 cup ice cream, 1 chocolate square 1 glass of wine Before I was trying to gain weight I ate kind of similar but sub…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 04:19 PM
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Maybe the reason she needs the checklist is because she constantly sees your failure to execute - which is all I see in this entire post. Bullshit excuses everywhere. Can't argue with that- it reflects how I was before MRP. The list is for her things for her to do, like, groceries, laundry, call mom, stuff in the office- it's not shit for me to do. She's just like that. I'm 5'10.5" 155lbs, 10% BF. Squat 175, DL 185, bench 155... These weights are low but it's progress. I'm not fat, I'm trying to…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 03:02 PM
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"So it's divorce then" is her final statement before she goes off to work. You have to stop putting up with this shit. Get papers ready and hand them to her when she gets home. Have her bags packed.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 01:36 PM
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It hit me recently that I’m getting close to my one year mark with MRP. I have improved so much but there are so many things that aren’t there yet. My frame gets broken and then rebuilt stronger and the cycle continues and I know it’s not as strong as it needs to be. “I’m working on it” is not good enough. I was thinking a lot this week about a comment by RianStone saying essentially- there is no participation trophy in the sexual market place. There are winners and losers, it’s cut throat compe…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 12:50 PM
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She is never getting the code to the gun safe thou. LMAO. I wouldn't trust her to clean my guns either.
/r/askMRP05/03/18 10:17 PM
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Don't engage in verbal intercourse, it's a losers game. Don't take what she says seriously, look at her actions. Get to work on yourself as others have stated.
/r/askMRP02/03/18 01:53 PM
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I could have communicated emotion better at that time but I was focusing on dominance D during the transition. It was not a negotiation of what to do, I just did it. There was E, just not at that transition moment. I think she didn't like what happened because she was not in control. Foreplay gives her the chance to change/negotiate whats going to happen. You may not agree and you may be right, but that's what I think after replaying what happened in my mind.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/18 11:16 PM
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I think I see your point, the former is focused on her but latter is focused on me. The latter is being the bull taking what he wants, not asking for permission or how she feels. I think she still sees sex as a currency of exchange and means of power that's slipping as I make progress in my MAP. She complained about foreplay and taking her cloths off because she was not in control and wielding power. The dynamic was different than usual. you weren't funny, you were sabotaging yourself. You're ri…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/18 10:04 PM
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Work was tough this last week but I stayed on point mostly doing what’s needed and following my mission. I still killing the parts of me that don’t help my mission and its an ongoing process of ups and downs. Physical- I’m still 155 and about 10% body fat. I’m making slow gains and eat clean and more than ever. Time is really limited but maybe I should suck it up and just tract everything I eat and know for certain what’s what. I had 2 doctors appointments recently- 1.) shoulder/orthopedic surge…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/18 01:40 PM
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Okay... it's low quality. I thought some would benefit but I was wrong. I'm was trying to point out that we are our own point of comparison. There will always be better, so soldier on and don't use others as your barometer of success. Maybe too basic and not of value, maybe poorly expressed thoughts.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/18 12:42 AM
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Comments from last week were good. The upshot was that I’m still operating in her frame and have a "dancing monkey MAP", so that’s why things haven’t changed. I read the sidebar, workout, captain the household better, but the sex doesn’t improve. Why? I need to rock to boat, I don’t stand up for myself and demand that it improve or get it with another woman. This could be going Rambo, but not if I rock the boat in the context of a strong frame. A comment said to OMS regarding sexuality, not be s…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/18 06:04 PM
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Do some choreplay and then get a tattoo of her face in the middle of a heart surrounded by unicorns. DEER for a few hours, tell her she’s the prize.
/r/askMRP19/02/18 12:47 PM
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I am working towards where you are at, but if I'm honest with myself, I'm not fully there yet. I am on my way to apathy. I also realize that it is good to move out of the comfort zone and push past the status quo or stalemate that exists in a relationship.
/r/askMRP16/02/18 02:22 PM
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That's just it. I've been at this long enough to know my limits and whether my frame was strong enough to hold up to the consequences. I did fine, but I would have caved like a pussy 6 months ago and DEERed, appologized, etc. I have been withdrawing time/attention for many months and this was an escalation of that into uncharted territory. It was good for me to push the limits of my frame and build confidence that I can handle it and can push even further. My goal was to rock the boat, and see w…
/r/askMRP16/02/18 01:39 PM
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thanks- you and man_in_the_world, I needed that kick in the ass.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/18 01:09 PM
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OYS #5 Background: 46 years old, married 15 years to 43 year old, no kids, generally receive respect and value from her but sex has never been satisfactory in frequency or quality- it’s my fault. See previous posts for more details. A comment from last week was, “what is your plan to improve your situation.” I thought about this during the week. I accepted a marriage with a dead bedroom for 15 years so why would she renegotiate this arrangement if she’s happy with it? Maybe if I was physically m…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/18 01:08 PM
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“except the hope that if ‘I blow this guy in the bathroom’ maybe he’ll buy me something shiny” — another direct quote Yeah, it's all good until one of those female medical assistants or nurses files a sexual harassment claim and his career is over. I've seen it happen.
/r/askMRP12/02/18 06:29 PM
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Man...where to start. First, you need to do the work before anything good happens. Sidebar, lift, STFU. Have you done this or are you just looking for a quick hook-up? Don't confuse irrational confidence with arrogance. The former is good for game, the latter is bad and doesn't serve your purpose. You come off as an arrogant dick. You may not be, but be careful. I got to know tons of guys during my training who were highly successful doctors but didn't know shit about getting laid. One guy was s…
/r/askMRP12/02/18 06:19 PM
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Why do you need HRT? What do you hope it to fix for you? Are you even lifting as heavy as you can? If you are doing the work and still have legit medical issues, see a real doctor and then a specialist if your medical issue isn’t resolved. As for insurance, like most things in life, there’s no free lunch, you get what you pay for. Why do you expect great treatment for free? Take responsibility for yourself.
/r/askMRP11/02/18 07:58 PM
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Yes, I’ve learned so much from both of them. Swapping notes from different angles but the same destination, that’s what I love about MRP.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/18 12:57 PM
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I want to hear /u/weakandsensitive's version of what really happened.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/18 11:43 AM
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OYS #4 Background: 46 years old, married 15 years to 43 year old, no kids, generally receive respect and value from her but sex has always had deficient because I allowed it. See previous posts for more details. Lifting/nutrition: I got out of my regular schedule last week but I am now back on track. I have improved a lot but am still not where I want to be, working to gain size. I started doing overhead presses again and added pull ups and there was no shoulder pain (I injured my AC joint awhil…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/18 11:05 AM
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Pay off your student loan debt. Think of it this way, if the interest rate on your student loan is 4%, it translates into a 4% return on the extra payment you made that month. When you are out of debt, you will have better cash flow to save for and buy a duplex or condo, maybe in a market that's not so hot like it is now in so many areas.
/r/askMRP05/02/18 10:31 PM
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Assets split 50/50 after 6 years married in my state, good for whoever had less (male or female)
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/18 02:48 PM
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I have seen more women seeking highly paid professions that require many years of education and marriage is delayed for years. Their professional success reinforces the mindset of power in the relationship because they don't need provisioning and the feminine imperative says "you go girl, you don't need a man". There is a tendency for them to marry men at a similar level of education/professional status, they marry later, oftentimes don't have children, and feel unfulfilled because of it. They d…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/18 11:36 AM
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Buy two tickets to an event YOU like (concert, comedy, whatever) and invite her to come along. If she is bitchy about it, take someone else and have a good time.
/r/askMRP31/01/18 05:43 PM
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Why do you think your wife feels inadequate to fulfill your sexual needs? Low self esteem? Or is it her hamster justifying her low effort? Or is it something about you? It appears that she wants to fulfill your needs, lead her there through the fog like a good captain. She may be more receptive to initiation during ovulation, but women on oral contraceptives do not ovulate. I have been trying to get my wife off the pill to see if there is a change in sex drive but she won’t stop due to keeping h…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/18 06:54 PM
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Background: 46 years old, married 15 years to 43 year old, no kids, generally receive respect and value from her but working through deficient sex. See previous OYS posts for more details. Lifting/nutrition: I started lifting 9 months ago using 5x5 SL with added isolation exercises. I lift 4 times each week like clockwork, have made a lot of progress, but am not where I need to be. Weigh 155 and 12% body fat, 5’10.5”. Most recent squat increased to 175 but my bench weight is growing very slowing…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/18 06:55 PM
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The current understanding in your relationship is that its okay for her to not have sex and you will not do shit, except talk. Your actions say this, your behavior/attitude is that you agree to stay in the relationship in the current state, and its been going on for years. If you want to renegotiate your marriage contract, you have to fully embrace a new attitude and set of behaviors. Until you internalize the idea that you are willing to burn your life to the ground and rebuild, she knows you w…
/r/askMRP17/01/18 03:05 AM
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Lean proteins cause slight gas, whey causes major gas. The vegetable based protein seems okay so far.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/18 08:22 PM
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Background: 46 years old, married 15 years to 43 year old, no kids, generally receive respect and value from her but working through deficient sex. See last OYS post for more details. Sidebar: I read all the beginning material and am now reading the intermediate levels. Lifting/nutrition: I started lifting 9 months ago using 5x5 SL with added isolation exercises. I lift 4 times each week like clockwork but am not where I need to be. Weigh 155 and 12% body fat. Muscular but still small. I’m eatin…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/18 12:47 PM
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lame excuse. your autistic because of some inclination or trauma and you have not done anything (yet) to get over it. Good pickup. That is a lame excuse, I need to take ownership of this flaw with action to correct it and not be a pussy. you're welcome I think I remember reading this from one of your posts a few weeks ago- I only steal good stuff (thanks). unless you and your wife just love your work to death, at some point you will start to lead your lives into something more dynamic. You hit o…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/18 11:00 PM
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Background: 46 years old, married 15 years to 43 year old, no kids, generally receive respect and value from her but working through sex issues. She was raised strict Catholic “nice girl” (if there is a female nice guy syndrome). I was raised Protestant with fundamentalist bent as a “nice guy”. We both focused on our education working hard and sacrificing many things in life for our career ambitions. I am autistic at times due to over-education. I had good beta game in my 12 years of college wit…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/18 01:52 PM
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I agree with others, a so called passive investment strategy would be your best bet. Read the Bogleheads Guide to Investing to get started. I read the Millionaire Mind a long time ago- good general knowledge book on money.
/r/askMRP05/01/18 10:38 PM
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So basically OP was a pussy because he laid out in the open his strategy instead of CARRYING OUT his strategy. He talked tough but has not taken the actions to back it up? Before talking divorce, he should have had the papers prepared and be fully willing to burn his life to the ground? OP still gives too many fucks and is lazy in his preparation, I think I get it. So the "fuck me or fuck you" talk is not trying to negotiate desire, only if you are genuinely ready to move on from her (not just w…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/17 09:41 PM
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What I needed to hear. Time to stop being a pussy and lead.
/r/askMRP06/12/17 11:28 PM
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Maybe it is just a big ass covert contract- If I self improve, some girl is going to jump on my dick. I'd prefer my wife (simpler that way) but I'll go to plan B or C at some point. Isn't MRP just a sexual strategy and that's what its all about?
/r/askMRP05/12/17 11:56 PM
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Yep, I need to kill my ego, The body was easy to fix, the mind is hard. The more progress I make, the more I realize how awesome life can be (either with her or without her) if the right effort is put in. I am building a great life all around but there is still a dysfunctional sex life. I don't have oneitis so much anymore and understand that she is not the only source of sex. Don't misunderstand, I'm doing MRP for me, not her. I just sometimes wonder if she's worth the effort. There are only 5 …
/r/askMRP05/12/17 11:48 PM
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Do you fuck your wife for her, or for you? Why do you care if she has an orgasm? Don’t be a pussy, it’s her job to get an orgasm during sex, not your job. Kill your ego and stop looking for validation by her orgasm. Be attractive, game her all times of her cycle.
/r/askMRP05/12/17 06:34 PM
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Improving your smile can pay great dividends in SMV. Go to an orthodontist (not a general dentist), you wouldn't go to your regular MD for a heart procedure would you? Understand that Invisilign can only do so much, regular braces are for more involved situations and may be faster. Don't do it if you have gum disease or high rate of getting cavities. There are other "brands" of this type of treatment that could work also but what you are really getting with treatment is the expertise of the doct…
/r/askMRP23/11/17 02:56 PM
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Flash forward to today, and she is everything I need at the moment and I look elsewhere/inwhere to get the rest. Can you expand on this? Are you saying you are not sexually satisfied, not emotionally satisfied, or not reaching your goals? Why do you need to 'get the rest'? Is it a defect in her, or in you, or in your efforts? I struggle with this myself and don't have answers. As men are we ever satisfied or do we climb one maintain only to see the next, climb that one, only to see the next one,…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/17 01:01 PM
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Kill the puppy. Read the sidebar. Lift.
/r/askMRP18/10/17 01:13 PM
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I'm going out on a limb here a bit...Feel free to call bullshit but I am in the medical field...As GargantuaBlarg29 alluded to above, your mind is influenced so much by the hormones/chemicals in your body. Lifting heavy weights stimulates testosterone production (which increases sex drive) and increased muscle growth. I think it was Athol Kay who said more sex (orgasm whether it is by fap or wife) also increases testosterone production, so it is a good thing. Orgasm also releases various hormone…
/r/askMRP18/10/17 01:06 PM
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Good point. Don't set a boundary that can't be enforced. A boundary could be for the relationship to include sex quantity/quality as you see fit. But you can't enforce this if you don't have the mindset that you are the prize or strong enough frame. That's why setting this boundary right away is not a good idea for new MRP guys.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/17 12:36 PM
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I think I get where you are going with this but your post lacks specifics. What’s most important is what you think of yourself and where you choose to take your future, second place is how you interact with your wife regarding your future (don’t bitch about the past to her). Last place is what you say to others, who cares what people think at a cocktail party. Tell them an interesting story like you went a certain way because you were in the witness protection program, or you were following your…
/r/askMRP04/10/17 08:27 PM
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Thanks for posting this- what I needed today.
/r/askMRP23/09/17 10:44 AM
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I was raised fundamentalist and strict Baptist, I even threw out my "evil rock and roll records" after seeing the light. Funny thinking back on that. I read the Bible cover to cover several times...need to go back to Song of Solomon and share it with my wife. Thanks for the info. I blame people, not religion, for problems despite how it may appear to have affected my sex life.
/r/askMRP20/09/17 11:34 PM
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Yeah, I'm reading the Professor's book for the second time, this time also readying the recommended books along the way. 4 months is short time frame and there's a long way to go. No kids, married 15 years. I just needed a few words of encouragement, now I'll get back to work on the program and shut up.
/r/askMRP19/09/17 12:06 PM
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OP- This comment tells you very clearly what you need to know. Too bad you probably have your head too far up your ass to really understand. I am living about exactly what Red-Curious described and now I hang out with strangers on the internet to improve my sex life. It's everything I ever dreamed about in marriage.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/17 11:09 AM
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You care too much what your wife thinks and you give yourself too much credit to think this hot young thing would be interested in you. Your only measure should be what value that employee brings to her employer. If that checks out, you go with it. You tell your wife "that's how money is made" by hiring employees that make your business successful.
/r/askMRP11/09/17 09:11 PM
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AWALT or not exactly AWALT? Some of us have questioned this along our MRP journey as we consider our special SO. Maybe the answer is not exactly AWALT but the mission is still the same. We work on our self improvement and see where it goes.
/r/askMRP11/09/17 07:36 PM
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I was mad after understanding that my commitment is the currency for access to her sex and how easily I gave up this currency. I was at a disadvantage by giving it up so easily which gave her control. Once I stopped caring so much about her sex, focusing on me, and started withdrawing my commitment (time and attention at this stage) the more the anger went away. The less I give a shit about her sex, the less power she has in the relationship. I'm still angry I gave her this power for so many yea…
/r/askMRP05/09/17 02:00 AM
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It really is a great book, I'm reading it for the second time now and am also reading the books it suggests for each dread level. As my previous post described, make sure you and your SO have separate e-reader accounts if you buy it electronically. Cheers.
/r/askMRP03/09/17 11:29 AM
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Answers to your questions: 1.) Don't believe a marriage counselor's opinion on hormones. In fact disregard 99% of what a marriage counselor says-it's crap. Either verify her hormone levels by medical testing, or disregard it as a convenient excuse. Read this book and give it to your wife. 2.) Read and internalize the sidebar, lift weights. Don't over think this. Lots of people are busy. 3.) I don't know anything about this, don't try to make some kind of hybrid of MRP and something else. Underst…
/r/askMRP02/09/17 08:28 PM
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Never posted her before but been MRP for about 5 months and making progress in some areas, others not so much. Leading: need to improve by making decisions decisively, not deferring to her Initiating: need to be more masculine and let her know I want sex, not be so timid, need to NGAF if turned down and be outcome independent Frame: need to work on stronger frame, it is improving but still needs work. I'm good at not reacting to her shit storm. She broke down crying during the week about her fam…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/17 02:40 PM
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When you "rubbed cheeks" why not grab her ass with your free hand, then give her a real kiss when you're done. Don't feel that you need validation by HER initiating affection- you give it to her because you want to, and you can make it sexual because you feel that way. You imply that her she uses affection as power over you, either in not initiating or not reciprocating. Don't give her this power. Following your MAP and increasing attractiveness, then elevated levels of dread, takes this power a…
/r/askMRP01/09/17 02:02 PM
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Alphaness and dread levels are not enough for her to have sex without making an excuse to try to get out of it. Let this incident go. OYS with regard to birth control (get a vasectomy if you are done with kids).
/r/askMRP01/09/17 01:36 PM
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Agreed. Rock the boat. If the boat sinks, you have a life preserver on (MRP) and will get a better boat (relationship).
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/17 08:28 PM
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I would be looking for someone in the 18 to 23 range. Yeah, a 33 year old dude with 3 kids will be really attractive to a hottie in this age range (who also happens to be a virgin.) You must be some fucking catch. You gotta check your ego, cause it's getting the best of you and it won't end well. MRP is about improving the man, not strategy to stroke your ego. Who fucking cares if a girl has had cock in her before you if she treats your cock like the one and only king? This issue is all in your …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/17 12:42 AM
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OP- How can you post this and not state WHY do you want to marry a virgin? Are you a troll? However, I am coming to the conclusion that I would only be willing to do this with a woman that was still 100% a virgin. I have tried doing all kinds of mental gymnastics to get past it (I will never find one, its just my insecurities, n-count doesn't really matter) You are a pussy and need to read the sidebar. Maybe you are just afraid that she will be thinking of prior Chad's dick instead of yours? I m…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/17 05:51 PM
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It's helped me recently to think of my wife as the most responsible teenage in the house. It's not what she says to me that matters, it's how I respond to what she says to me that really matters. Would you take a teenager's SM posts seriously or just ignore? Would you look for validation from a teenager about anything in your life? Think of your wife as this teenager.
/r/askMRP21/08/17 05:08 PM
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When turned down, I think of the positive changes I've made since finding MRP and feel good about that- about the better man she's married to. I know intellectually that it's her loss but emotionally it weighs sometimes and I feel distanced from her. I'm good at controlling emotion but honestly it makes me question if the relationship will survive. I'm 100% committed to one month of working on me per year of marriage, with no Rambo fuckups. But as I see myself improve her pussy comes down from t…
/r/askMRP20/08/17 11:28 PM
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That's exactly what I was thinking, do whatever I want to do and still be that fun guy. But if she joins me and has a good time, isn't that a reward? Maybe not really if there is outcome independence and an abundance mentality. That's what is difficult- truly internalizing OI and AM so it comes from within and is not a "forced effort". I have progress to make on this.
/r/askMRP18/08/17 12:00 PM
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Yeah, there may be some similarity but definite differences. If you read my previous post https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/6ok3a2/my_special_snowflake/ you will see more info. We met in professional school, we are both high earners. She was very Catholic, me not so much. She didn't have sex before being with me, I had my fair share of women over the years. She was hinting at "we get married or I move on" for a while, then 9/11 happened and we were all in high emotion. I thought, "screw i…
/r/askMRP11/08/17 02:40 PM
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Point taken, no damage was done.
/r/askMRP08/08/17 01:28 AM
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Don't marry her just because she is a good girl and you took her virginity. That's about exactly what I did and it didn't work out as well as I had hoped, I'm here after all. Do what YOU want, not what She wants you to do dude. Don't be manipulated into marriage by guilt trips.
/r/askMRP08/08/17 01:01 AM
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That was back in June and nothing came of it. I said "yeah I bought those books, I don't know why they went to your Kindle." That was the extent of the conversation. Never a word again, I think its because she doesn't want to have THAT conversation. I like your reply better though. A few weeks before that happened I bought her a printed copy of "First Kill all the Marriage Counselors" and gave it to her saying that she might like it. I don't think she read it, maybe that was a pussy move. I woul…
/r/askMRP08/08/17 12:49 AM
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Yup, my primary care said that I could live with it as long as it doesn't bother me. I lift as heavy as I can but usually feel the hernia a little afterwards. I have to ask a surgeon what is involved in repair, I don't want to stop lifting to heal though.
/r/askMRP07/08/17 10:00 PM
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I think your wife increased her masculine essence to fill the void from you lack of masculine essesnce. She may have personality traits that make her more likely to lead compared to other women (which is good for success at work). But as you start leading, or competing with her to lead, be persistent and eventually she will back off with trust that you will take care of things. Personal Example: I read in the sidebar to walk slightly ahead of your wife and lead her along. Well, my wife always wa…
/r/askMRP03/08/17 05:46 PM
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Nice post. I'm sure the FemiNazis at most universities see things differently but the truth is evident.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/17 05:22 PM
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I'd advise against this. A difference btw PUA and MRP is that we are not just trying to get laid- we have to live with our wives and they will see through any bullshit (especially a "strong woman" as you have said before). The truth of you becoming a more attractive man will be more powerful than any contrived thing to fuck with her mind. I kinda sorta see your point you talk about but you have no credibility if the reasons for dread are not genuine. And the focus of your efforts should be to be…
/r/askMRP26/07/17 02:11 PM
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After some level of progress you should feel like your SMV is greater than hers which helps an abundance mentality. You need to see gains in the gym and have knowledge from study (including SGM) that leads to having greater confidence. At some point it should feel like its her loss and then it doesn't cut so deep. I'm still working on butthurt myself but feel like I've made some progress.
/r/askMRP22/07/17 04:48 PM
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I wish I could change my MRP name- but I'd rather not lose my post history for those that may look back on it. Sometimes I feel like I have alot of shit thrown my way, have to diagnose and treat it, hence the name, and I am an actual doctor of sorts. But the name is totally immature and not helpful to my cause. I am re-reading the professor's book and slowing things down with the understanding that I should give it one month/year marriage. I've come to realize that she also has serious work stre…
/r/askMRP22/07/17 03:16 PM
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Yeah, I know it sounds like a unicorn myth, but there's no way she had sex before me. 100% sure, In fact, I suspect it could be genetic in some way (is that even possible? or is it environment?) due to knowing her family. But it doesn't matter anyway- the point was that if she could be a sex camel until that age, maybe I'm up against something that will be a challenge to make bedroom progress.
/r/askMRP21/07/17 02:41 PM
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No.No.No. You don't tell her about MRP. Don't tell her everything that's going on in your life. Did you tell her about your last bowel movement?
/r/askMRP21/07/17 02:04 PM
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We met in college and went out over sever months, then she dropped her long distance relationship and I let my plates fall. We would make out at her place some nights, things would get hot. One night my dick fell into her and she told me that she just lost her virginity. It was not pressured in any way and she seemed to enjoy it. I think she had very few boyfriends before me but not for lack of interest. Shortly after that time there was some long term health issues in her family, a death, and I…
/r/askMRP21/07/17 01:39 PM
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I was considering a vasectomy but hesitate because I don't want my junk messed with, but the wife claims oral contraceptives decrease her libido. I think its her hamster at work but who knows. She's been on them over 15 years, it can't be healthy. I will say that her boobs get bigger towards the end of her cycle, not sure if it is the pills or just how the woman cycle works.
/r/askMRP11/07/17 10:53 PM
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I ignored that part in NMMNG suggesting a sex moratorium because I knew it wouldn't work for me. I get insomnia and am more moody if I haven't had sexual release for a few days. You have to ask what your REAL motivation is. Are you trying to send the wife a message or somehow get back at your wife or some kind of covert contract? It won't work, women are fucking camels. I've made that mistake before. Get over the but hurt from last rejection, you aren't attractive enough so work on being attract…
/r/askMRP22/06/17 09:59 AM
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Dude, we've all been there, relax, don't post anything for awhile. Read the sidebar and internalize it. Don't talk/write... just read/learn and work on yourself for now. Fuck...
/r/askMRP20/06/17 08:41 PM
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I'm fairly new at this but will try to give you some helpful advice- read, workout, REALLY work at controlling your emotions. Try to not get angry, depressed, or otherwise have a shitty outlook. Stay positive, don't care so much about her and understand that MRP is really about you. Things happen slowly, a little forward, a little back, and then forward. Just keep the trend forward, there's alot of work to do ON YOU, you can't negotiate desire but you can change you for the better and have a bet…
/r/askMRP20/06/17 07:02 PM
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Mostly beta for 15 years of marriage, not a good leader, dead bedroom...found MRP about 3 months ago, quit porn, reading MMSLP, NMMNG, BP Prof book, Pook, Sex God Method...joined gym, lift for muscle, use elliptical to cut belly fat, trying to get 6 pack, always been thin but not muscular. I changed my diet to cut out 90% alcohol, sweets, junk. I eat fruit and maximize protein. I start wearing cologne and dressing better. Wife notices and thinks I'm going through a midlife crisis. I initiate 100…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/17 05:59 PM
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My wife did something like this yesterday. I grabbed her tits and said "this dress is made from great material, is it cotton?" Then I hiked it up to her upper thighs and said, "But.. you need to get it shorted like a miniskirt". Make it an opportunity to be playful, sexy, and see what happens. If she gets pissed, just smile and walk away and go back to what you were doing.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/17 03:00 PM
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I feel your pain...I'm further along than you are and struggle with this too. When you get in a bad mood because of no sex, go read the Bluepill Professors book Saving a Low Sex Marriage. I did this over the last 2 weeks and it helped me feel better about myself, more in control, and more confident. It's hard to not give a fuck when denied. Be OI and work to change your mindset. Be encouraged, knowledge is power, decide to have a better attitude, improve your mind, improve your body. Don't feel …
/r/askMRP30/05/17 09:10 PM
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Good post, I appreciate you telling it how it is. I'm a newbie to MRP and have alot to learn, but I'm tired of these posts bragging about how good they gave it to their wife last night or their body fat % or whatever. That stuff doesn't help us become better men. As a newbie I came to realize a few things recently that your post really hit home with: 1.) It's not about how much sex I get from my girl, it about what kind of man I am. And the kind of man I am is changing for the better only becaus…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/17 01:01 AM
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Thanks man- that's gold.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/17 04:59 PM
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Not to sound like an old guy... but this is typical Millennial generation, snowflake crap. In the worst sense, it's all about them and getting instant gratification, they have an inflated idea of ability and performance, and they can't deal with the conflict of reality and what they think reality should be. Read the sidebar and dedicate to following RP for the duration. I think its your chance to get your life straight. Your problems are bigger than just the relationship with your fiance. Good l…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/17 03:49 PM
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Challenge Taken. Thanks man.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/17 11:42 AM
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Well said. I have alot to learn.
/r/askMRP19/05/17 03:13 PM
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Thanks- What I meant to say in the post is that she is not attracted to me- no tingles. I don't think its about spending more time with her, its about working on a better me, taking charge, working on game, kino, etc. I'm sure someone else got this kind of thing from their wife and I wanted to be sure I'm seeing things straight.
/r/askMRP19/05/17 02:05 PM
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My wife makes about twice what I make, and I do pretty well. We both run our own business. She handles her business account and I run my business account and all personal finances. It's more work for me but I like the leadership and it just makes more sense that way. How can you plan for retirement separately? I handle all the taxes and it would be so much harder if she had her own personal account. She can buy whatever she wants so maybe she doesn't feel threatened by me handling everything per…
/r/askMRP19/05/17 11:38 AM
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I can relate to your issue, my situation is a bit different though. You bought into the Disney romance ONEitis shit that we were force fed as young people because you didn't know any better, and later find out its bullshit. Then you re-examine your relationship/marriage through the red pill lens and big doubts come up. What others said is true- MRP only fixes the man, and then whatever happens will happen, but you will be better off for taking the pill. Read Rollo and Saving a Low sex Marriage a…
/r/askMRP19/05/17 02:27 AM
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My free advice- tell her you are going to fuck that other dudes wife before you talk to her ever again. Your wife did something terrible and she's tried to explain it as your fault?? Wow, she's good- don't buy into this. It sucks what your going through, but I don't see any way of this working out well for you if you get back together.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/17 03:11 PM
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I agree. What if she works and doesn't need the meal ticket? There's still the embarrassment. She'd rather fuck than explain what happened to all of her friends (at least for now).
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/17 05:34 PM
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Right on. I didn't think bargaining for sex was the way to go since it goes against the mindset of me being the prize and puts her in a position of power. Funny thing is that she doesn't need me to buy her stuff (she makes enough money). I think it was more about me spending time with her and maybe her exerting control over the situation, or maybe it was her hamster at work justifying her giving me a BJ somehow. I don't know, but the next morning I showed wood and told her she needed salt water,…
/r/askMRP15/05/17 05:39 PM
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Thanks for the advice everybody- good stuff. I have alot to learn...
/r/askMRP14/05/17 02:32 PM
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Great post. Spot on. thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/17 02:38 PM
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Don't listen to this guy redpilldick. Hopefully you will learn how alpha it is to make 6 figures and be your own boss. Just be careful not to get involved with ANY female patients EVER because they will come on to you at some point. Be professional and in control at all times- that's an alpha dentist.
/r/TheRedPill09/05/17 05:58 PM
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Nice to hear this story. I finished dental school many years ago and struggled all through it because my beta dumbass didn't know any better. I had a friend that was very alpha and had great success with women. Sometimes he would try to teach me but my mind wasn't ready (too much nice guy in there to see the truth). Since discovering TRP a couple months ago it all makes sense what he was trying to teach me. I'm a work in progress and wish I had found TRP sooner, before marriage and before some c…
/r/TheRedPill07/05/17 11:52 AM
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