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3

I know guys who've tried the cold approach method and never got anywhere with it. I also know guys who have done cold approach exclusively and have created a lifetime of memories with women. It all comes down to what works for you. That's really all it is. I won't knock either side.
/r/seduction26/09/22 03:04 PM
3

I appreciate this post. I gotta step all the way up.
/r/seduction12/09/22 05:32 AM
1

Sir, you're supposed to be a Proud Warrior Prince That should mean something to you. Not being in a position to "use a dumb bimbo". That's how the low-class thinks.
/r/seduction06/09/22 02:15 PM
13

You're looking for the perfect answer. It doesn't exist. What's the alternative? Not working on yourself? It doesn't matter that they have sex with guys who don't do it. You're not them, so how does that thought benefit you in any way? Literally pointless.
/r/seduction06/09/22 12:56 AM
6

Not your fault. She presented herself as a single woman and got treated like one. A lot of people are great at living double lives. It's all good.
/r/TheRedPill01/06/22 11:59 AM
1

That legit sounds like a nightmare.
/r/seduction20/03/22 11:03 PM
1

This does not sound like a good situation to be in. You shouldn't be even thinking about pursuing this girl, but your friend sounds like a control freak. Tell him he can't dictate shyt you're doing and also leave this messy ass situation alone. It's not worth it.
/r/seduction22/02/22 07:05 PM
1

Right. I've seen enough short dudes get laid in my time to know that this is a regular thing. It's only unusual to keyboard warriors who read theory and do nothing else. It's sad.
/r/seduction09/01/22 07:35 PM
6

Pretty good seductive report. But a lot of dudes are just gonna call BS and stay in their bubble. As we can see with the comments.
/r/seduction09/01/22 04:07 PM
13

That's awesome. Sometimes all you need is that one occurrence to get the ball rolling. Thanks for sharing.
/r/seduction24/12/18 08:13 AM
3

This was a good read.
/r/seduction03/11/18 06:01 PM
1

I love your blog. Makes me want to take action as well because I'm tired of the same exact things. Keep it up.
/r/seduction01/11/18 12:30 PM
1

Good post.
/r/seduction28/10/18 06:02 AM
1

I wish I would've went for those rejections earlier. I guess I need to start somewhere. The logical side of me understands that rejection is inevitable, yet I try so hard to avoid it. So annoying.
/r/seduction25/10/18 11:24 PM
2

Dude, wtf is with you and these topics? I'm barely on this sub anymore and know for a fact you've been asking this same question since 2017. We're nearly in 2019 and you're still doing the SAME exact thing.
/r/seduction25/10/18 01:25 AM
1

Just act normally and don't try to pursue her anymore. It's pointless.
/r/seduction24/10/18 01:32 AM
2

Then why bother posting? You have your mind made up. You've had your mind made up for awhile now. Do you just want people to reinforce the fact that you suck with women or something? I honestly don't understand you.
/r/seduction22/10/18 05:04 AM
3

You've been posting this way for yrs now and it's honestly tiresome. I'm not saying that to come down on you. I just think you need to get out of the self-loathing circlejerk you're stuck in. It's almost as if you're addicted to negative emotions and want it to stay that way. You have to start doing shit differently. Your way of thinking has never worked for you.
/r/seduction21/10/18 01:27 PM
4

You should ask her for some tutoring. Any excuse to get her to hangout, basically.
/r/seduction12/10/18 11:31 AM
1

I feel like this question comes up every week. They matter. Maximize yourself to the best of your abilities and go from there. That's really all there is to it.
/r/seduction12/10/18 11:29 AM
1

In that case, yeah, it isn't a big deal.
/r/seduction07/10/18 12:49 PM
2

You should probably not be asking for nudes. It might have worked in the past, but that doesn't mean you should keep doing it.
/r/seduction07/10/18 10:50 AM
3

Most likely because you're overthinking. I've been there.
/r/seduction07/10/18 12:46 AM
2

I want to do this so bad but don't want it to blow up in my face. Then again, "I'm not ready yet" has gotten old....yrs ago. That's the main excuse I feed myself and it makes no sense. I think I might join this.
/r/seduction04/10/18 12:01 PM
1

Thanks man. I just feel so empty avoiding rejection for so many yrs. I really wanna change it before it's too late. Gonna check out that post.
/r/seduction02/10/18 11:40 PM
4

So simple...and yet so effective. I never put myself out there, which I believe is actually worse than not being rejected. What am I protecting? My ego? I don't get it.
/r/seduction02/10/18 09:16 PM
1

Love your vids and reports. Man, I need to really adhere to this because worrying about what others think has seriously turned me into a paranoid bitch. I hate it.
/r/seduction30/09/18 06:10 PM
40

My eye contact is trash, but whenever it's on point, there's such a strong feeling that comes with it. I really need to get this down.
/r/seduction30/09/18 01:52 PM
1

I find it hard to believe you're getting no attention irl. No girls are making eye contact with you at all? It's possible that you just aren't seeing it. How often are you approaching?
/r/seduction25/09/18 07:01 PM
2

Pretty interesting story. Thanks for sharing.
/r/seduction24/09/18 12:52 PM
2

I'm a guy and I completely understand your stance. Don't really understand the negative feedback you're getting. I'm all about making sure the girl knows I'm a not a threat to her. Thanks for the insight.
/r/seduction22/09/18 10:05 PM
7

I need to just turn my brain off and engage with the outside world. Like you said, it's easy to turn into a keyboard jockey and just waste your life away. I have to just start going out more. Thanks.
/r/seduction17/09/18 04:58 PM
1

No idea why you got downvoted. That's pretty cool.
/r/seduction17/09/18 11:43 AM
1

Pretty much. I always told myself I would rather stay in my bubble than venture into the unknown. That's all it comes down to. At the end of the day, sex is natural. You just gotta embrace it and understand that you'll still be you at the end of the day. Trust me, you don't want to look back and think of all of the times you squandered because of your fears. That's not a good feeling.
/r/seduction16/09/18 01:14 PM
1

Yes, it seems like she really is into you. Get her # next time.
/r/seduction16/09/18 05:10 AM
1

You have to just let go and dive in. Don't overthink it too much. I know where you're coming from, though.
/r/seduction16/09/18 04:18 AM
1

It honestly doesn't sound like the bad "nice". I think those are traits that they actually find attractive in you. Just embrace it.
/r/seduction15/09/18 03:40 PM
2

You got hit with the fake #. Don't sweat it. Many of us know how it feels. Laugh it off and keep moving up.
/r/seduction29/08/18 12:10 AM
2

Yes. I'm well aware I'm at a disadvantage compared to my taller counterparts (I'm 5'9). That's fine. I was obsessed with the height stuff a good while back, but I don't care anymore. Girls always seemed to be into me regardless, so.
/r/seduction28/08/18 07:13 PM
1

Nice. Looking forward to hearing about the date.
/r/seduction27/07/18 05:27 PM
26

I'm guilty of this. Even when girls say I look cute, I think it's a lie. Sometimes.
/r/seduction25/07/18 01:35 PM
1

I read all of your posts, man. Makes me want to step-up and do something worthwhile with myself. Keep it up.
/r/seduction12/07/18 01:41 AM
9

You gotta stop actively searching for eye contact in hopes of being checked out. The main reason why I say that is because you can end up making yourself feel bad if you don't receive it. Just relax and make eye contact with woman naturally. If your eyes connect, smile and say hi if she's in your vicinity.
/r/seduction08/07/18 04:59 PM
5

Well detailed topic. I love posts like this. I honestly want to approach women, but putting myself out there is one of the hardest things ever. I know it's something that has to be done, though.
/r/seduction25/06/18 08:42 PM
2

It's something I don't think about too much anymore. I know I don't like everyone, so it doesn't seem sensible for me to expect the same in return. Based on your post, it seems like you've put way too much emphasis on something that truly doesn't matter. You said yourself that every guy you've been into reciprocated, so take solace in that. A lot of people go most of their lives being attracted to others and never having the feeling returned. A lot of those "universal beauties" also get a lot of…
/r/seduction27/05/18 09:15 PM
1

You right. I just thought...maybe I should just be real about my situation in order to advance forward. Now that I think about it, it really is an unnecessary approach to take. Thanks man.
/r/seduction22/05/18 07:15 PM
5

Good shit, homie. You'll find something deeper, I'm sure. I don't get any pussy, but 100% of that is all my fault because I'm a bitch.
/r/seduction21/05/18 05:01 PM
2

That's cool. A lot of guys would've went raw if there was no other alternative. Just read your update, so everything's good.
/r/seduction25/02/18 04:51 PM
15

Smashed raw right off the jump, eh? Either way, good shit.
/r/seduction25/02/18 10:24 AM
2

Dude, you've asked this same question countless times. What answer are you looking for? Your looks don't seem to be a reason for it. My guess is you're not socializing or approaching women in any kind of way.
/r/seduction07/01/18 12:47 AM
54

Yeah, this is one of my biggest issues. I always think I ain't worthy, but a lot of it comes down to me overthinking.
/r/seduction06/01/18 03:30 AM
1

Good stuff. I agree.
/r/seduction02/01/18 09:16 PM
1

This topic sucks.
/r/seduction02/01/18 07:32 AM
27

Most guys here have never demonstrated an attitude suggesting otherwise. I get what you're going for in the post, so it's all good.
/r/seduction29/12/17 11:23 PM
1

No problem. Be sure to post an update on things.
/r/seduction28/11/17 07:22 AM
6

Dude, unless you're good going in raw, bring a condom. The fact that she's inviting you to her place already means there's a great chance at something going down. Just go with the flow once you get there. When she's showing you her book or whatever, touch her. Seriously, it sounds like all of the signs are there. You just need to not overthink.
/r/seduction27/11/17 09:09 AM
3

People like you are sick. Shut the fuck up.
/r/seduction24/11/17 06:53 AM
3

I was never grossed out when a girl I wasn't attracted to was into me. If anything, it feels good.
/r/seduction22/11/17 03:19 PM
3

If every guy thought like you, they'd get nowhere in life. You've been posting the same stuff forever. I already realize it's pointless to even try to create a sensible reply. Since you believe the journey means nothing, why are you even here? To deter others from trying? Come on now.
/r/seduction18/11/17 05:47 AM
3

Because you're simply not willing to do what it takes to get it. You may have a desire to experience these things, but desire alone isn't enough. Action is the main requirement.
/r/seduction18/11/17 12:31 AM
2

Imo, this sounds like a waste of time.
/r/seduction16/11/17 04:57 AM
1

If she's down to hang out again, go for it. As long as you're not trying to make her your girlfriend you're good.
/r/seduction14/11/17 02:32 AM
3

Lol, definitely a shit test. Her words differ from her actions significantly. I'm pretty sure you could fuck this girl as many times as you'd like. Sure, I don't doubt she feels guilty about it, but the urge to get fucked by you greatly exceeds her guilt.
/r/seduction14/11/17 01:57 AM
2

Since you have no attachment, keeping her as a fuck buddy wouldn't be much of an issue. It really comes down to if you're okay with constantly screwing her despite her having a bf.
/r/seduction13/11/17 11:43 PM
1

If she sucked you off twice, there's no reason why you shouldn't be able to fuck her. Play with her pussy.
/r/seduction03/11/17 09:41 AM
7

Good shit.
/r/seduction31/10/17 09:38 PM
3

Makes sense. Hard to actually put into play.
/r/seduction28/10/17 10:42 PM
1

Thanks for posting this.
/r/seduction25/10/17 06:09 PM
4

Nice insight on the outing. Thanks for sharing. I think it'd be nice if you told him that he was coming off as a creepy dude. Sometimes people need to hear stuff like this in order to improve. He'll ever be in denial about it or he'll understand.
/r/seduction22/10/17 10:18 PM
2

Thanks for reposting.
/r/seduction15/10/17 09:40 PM
5

You just have to do it, man. No amount of motivational quotes will be enough if you can't be your own inspiration. Some dudes go their entire lives not talking to women outta fear. Imagine your life 10 yrs from now following the same pattern. Scary, right? You can avoid that by acting now. Just talk to them. You'll feel a lot better doing that than continuing to get swallowed up in your little comfort zone.
/r/seduction14/10/17 09:50 AM
1

Reading this just makes me feel bad because it helps me realize how many windows I missed. And it sucks.
/r/seduction13/10/17 03:21 AM
2

I needed this post. Thank you.
/r/seduction09/10/17 09:06 PM
5

Because that's not how life works. Just because you're higher on the attractive scale doesn't automatically mean you'll be the lesser's cup of tea for that reason alone. Asking her that was random as fuck.
/r/seduction02/10/17 11:23 PM
2

When you try extra hard to look for attention, it often isn't replicated. Did you actually go to the club to have fun? Because if you just went in the hopes of garnering attention, that's your issue.
/r/seduction01/10/17 05:21 PM
1

You'd be better off not winging with him anymore.
/r/seduction25/09/17 01:48 AM
3

This is stupid. You're supposed to work on both simultaneously, not put one off until you're at the pinnacle of your looks. This is ass backwards and have guys waiting until they become a pseudo Dicaprio before they bother to work on their social skills.
/r/seduction23/09/17 04:32 PM
1

Keep us updated.
/r/seduction21/09/17 07:23 PM
2

Then you have nothing to lose. Just suggest hanging out. I'm telling you, if you overthink too much you're going to end up doing nothing. You'll really be kicking yourself if you don't do anything.
/r/seduction21/09/17 07:20 PM
1

If she's into you like you think, now would be better than later. Don't wait to do something like this.
/r/seduction21/09/17 07:00 PM
5

Just go into the situation without overthinking so much. This is exactly what most guys struggle with. Be natural and talk to her normally.
/r/seduction21/09/17 06:48 PM
1

Thanks breh. I can understand your perspective much better when looking at it from that standpoint. Looking at it that way definitely makes the idea of fearing rejection minuscule in comparison.
/r/seduction19/09/17 06:08 AM
2

Basically, how did you continue to push past the rejection? Some guys get a few rejections and quit immediately. What made you decide to accept them for what they were and keep at it?
/r/seduction19/09/17 05:30 AM
3

Could you go over the process of the rejections before things went well? You would really be helping a lot of people by doing this.
/r/seduction18/09/17 11:38 PM
1

Don't become a victim to paralysis of analysis. Sometimes you just have to take the plunge off the cliff in order to get to the next stop. No amount of reading motivational messages will change anything.
/r/seduction16/09/17 06:38 AM
6

Be glad you've at least had a taste of casual sex in college. A lot of guys missed out on those experiences.
/r/seduction15/09/17 11:22 PM
1

It ain't that bad. It'll become an issue if you continue doing nothing.
/r/seduction10/09/17 06:12 AM
9

You know what you need to do now. Make those moves. Don't be scared. She wants you.
/r/seduction10/09/17 04:48 AM
1

I really, really know how hard this is and I had to decline some opportunities similar to this. A lot of these jailbait girls be looking just right, and you kinda have a feeling if you don't do anything with her, some other asshole likely will. So many different thoughts flood your mind, but I have a feeling you'll do the right thing. Some shit just ain't worth the risk.
/r/seduction06/09/17 08:26 AM
3

Don't do it, bruh. I know how tempting some of these girls look, but you can't go that route. It's really hard, and some part of your mind is probably saying "just this once and no more". She's way too young and you're better off not doing it.
/r/seduction06/09/17 08:11 AM
2

I'm mad that you didn't fuck this girl. I think you really could've. Fuck it. Next time.
/r/seduction05/09/17 07:03 PM
1

Start doing things you never imagined. Go to social settings. Approach women. Put yourself in situations where it'll be hard not to encounter attractive women. You know the solution to your problem. It's just about you applying yourself now.
/r/seduction30/08/17 06:10 PM
1

I've been following your posts and it's nice to see you improving.
/r/seduction27/08/17 05:41 PM
9

This story both made me feel bad and motivated me to get my life going while I can. Thanks for posting.
/r/seduction22/08/17 11:42 PM
1

You don't need a self proclaimed "PUA" to tell you what's true and what isn't. The problem with this community is most guys can't think for themselves.
/r/seduction18/08/17 11:19 PM
2

Suck them.
/r/seduction14/08/17 01:00 PM
1

Yeah, you're right. I'm just making excuses. I've had a lot of girls that were varying heights that were attracted. Guess I'm making a mountain outta a molehill.
/r/seduction08/08/17 12:31 AM
0

A lot of short girls won't date shorter guys, though. It's not so much about being taller than them and more about just not being tall enough. I mean, I've seen girls as tall as 5'2" say the cutoff is 6'0. I understand why it sounds logical, but it isn't necessarily a game-changer.
/r/seduction08/08/17 12:22 AM
2

I've had this compulsive excuse for ages, man. It's hard to get rid of. Granted, no woman has ever rejected me for not being tall, but at the back of my mind, I always wonder.
/r/seduction07/08/17 09:12 PM
3

I kinda feel like the OP at times, though I wasn't always like this. Based on everything I've read (and seen at times), I just always assumed taller people were better at everything. I feel like it's a level that can't be overcome, but that doesn't mean your life is over, either. Taller guys will just be more attractive than shorter guys in general. "Tall, dark, and handsome" and "the taller the better" are said for a reason, right? I'm just a few inches taller than you, OP, but I know the feels…
/r/seduction07/08/17 04:52 PM
3

I think many people have experienced that change. Just try not to keep overdoing it. Game itself is fine. When it becomes the only thing on your mind, that's when it becomes an issue.
/r/seduction06/08/17 10:08 PM
1

This topic just makes me realize how much I need to get my shit together. Thank you.
/r/seduction02/08/17 04:00 AM
0

Damn, this was legit.
/r/seduction29/07/17 11:02 PM
1

You're the MVP.
/r/seduction28/07/17 05:50 AM
1

Pull your dick out.
/r/seduction22/07/17 03:16 PM
10

Thanks for sharing.
/r/seduction22/07/17 08:19 AM
9

You're definitely speaking the truth with that. Most guys (myself included) just tend to get caught up and not want to put our hands under the scolding water again. You got to tho.
/r/seduction22/07/17 02:50 AM
11

Oh, stop. The majority of white women prefer white men over every other ethnicity by far. It isn't even debatable. And white men generally do better than every other ethnicity in online dating with various types of women. People can be attracted to whatever they choose. Stop whining.
/r/seduction19/07/17 02:36 PM
6

Thanks. I have a clearer understanding now. I've had the same issue. Those past thoughts would always remind me of how inferior I felt, and I'd start to faze right back into that mindset. I hate it. You just gotta keep on going out and stay on your path. The past is your past. What happened there is done. All you can do is focus on creating a better future. You won't be able to do that if the past is able to maintain its grip on you. I have a feeling that you're aware of what needs to be done, a…
/r/seduction18/07/17 12:03 AM
1

What exactly is it that brings about these attacks?
/r/seduction17/07/17 09:03 PM
0

I agree with everything you said. I just don't know how to project this and it's stopped me from fucking lots of girls.
/r/seduction17/07/17 08:46 PM
1

Really thought the post was a good read. Then I read the comments....
/r/seduction17/07/17 05:08 PM
5

Oh, ok. That makes more sense.
/r/seduction13/07/17 12:46 AM
2

80 approaches all in the same day? Either way, good stuff.
/r/seduction12/07/17 11:56 PM
2

You seem like a natural. That was a good read.
/r/seduction10/07/17 07:20 PM
1

Keep us updated, bruh.
/r/seduction09/07/17 10:02 PM
2

Good report, dude.
/r/seduction08/07/17 08:45 PM
2

First off, stop assuming so much. That's a very tiresome thing about your posts. You constantly assume things without even having the least bit of a clue. People like you have a very black and white way of thinking and it's honestly a detriment posting in topics where people want advice. Not everyone comes here looking for pity. If a guy is constantly sitting in a corner, who's fault is that? No one is forcing him to. He's doing it by his own accord. What, do you think gaining social skills is s…
/r/seduction06/07/17 08:32 AM
2

Don't overthink it, man. Just speak and see what happens.
/r/seduction05/07/17 11:20 PM
4

When you're high, don't forget to pull your dick out.
/r/seduction03/07/17 12:06 AM
6

Fuck that suicidal shit. Build from your pain. That shit sucks. It really sucks. Don't let that defeat you, though. You'll push through it.
/r/seduction02/07/17 01:46 AM
1

Please keep us updated on how things go.
/r/seduction26/06/17 11:58 PM
2

It's just hard to keep in mind even though it's a clear fact.
/r/seduction26/06/17 12:32 AM
1

This post is definitely necessary. This sub be all over the place now.
/r/seduction22/06/17 12:39 AM
1

That sucks, bro. I think this is something that can be overcome if you continue going to venues like that, though. It'll likely become easier.
/r/seduction20/06/17 05:06 AM
10

Great FR. I feel kinda down when I realize the only thing that's stopped me from having the experiences I wanted was escalating. That's definitely been the main thing stopping me because I just never go for it, even when it's obvious. So thanks for taking the time to post this.
/r/seduction19/06/17 08:50 PM
1

You're different. It actually makes sense when you think about it.
/r/seduction18/06/17 06:05 PM
15

Good to see you taking steps to become more comfortable with being uncomfortable. Great stuff.
/r/seduction17/06/17 09:48 AM
2

I've had these signs. I can usually tell when a girl is into me, but apart of me is always wondering if I'm completely wrong. Also, some guys that don't get signs can't sit around waiting forever for them. They'd never get anywhere.
/r/seduction12/06/17 11:52 PM
1

Lol, same here. I just don't want to get ahead of myself in assuming she likes me...even though the majority of the signs are there. That small % of doubt is enough to keep you from pushing forward and we gotta push past it. We feel good walking away because we had a positive outcome, but by not playing to win, we eventually feel the frustration later. We gotta go for it. Easier said than done, but we can do it.
/r/seduction10/06/17 04:31 PM
1

Thanks, my man.
/r/seduction08/06/17 05:33 PM
14

It's really stupid. I'll get close enough to the girl to the point where she'll trust me, then I just...stop myself from going for it because I feel bad trying to fuck them. Most of the time, this is what makes them lose interest in me because they eventually assume that I'm not attracted to them...even though it isn't true. Yes, my self-esteem is kinda ass, but it's not as bad as it was some time ago. I've actually gotten better. I just don't have a killer instinct. I really need to remind myse…
/r/seduction08/06/17 02:04 AM
11

I've suppressed myself for most of my life simply because I never wanted to feel like I was taking advantage. Like, the idea of fucking girls goes through my mind all the time, yet when the opportunity to do it arises, I always find a reason to not do it. I hate it. Your topic helps me in a lot of ways, though. I just don't know why I feel that way when my intentions aren't even bad.
/r/seduction07/06/17 11:21 PM
1

I wouldn't describe "highly sought after" girls as a 5. Women that get tons of attention and have better looking guys saying "what is someone as hot as her doing with a dude like that?" or attempting to cockblock. Anyway, the scale is stupid. It's also missing the entire point.
/r/seduction07/06/17 07:25 AM
1

Nope. They fuck women way outta their league looks-wise.
/r/seduction07/06/17 05:34 AM
1

Can you give us more detail? There's not a lot to assess.
/r/seduction06/06/17 06:30 PM
5

Thing is, I seriously doubt you're so broken to the point where you can't do anything. I know so many people who are literally shit, with shit lives, and even they fuck women. Not because they're good looking, not because they're social butterfly's, but because they know seducing women isn't the be all end all in life. It's just so sad reading how you're willing to end your life because you haven't gotten with a woman, or because you haven't been able to make things happen just yet. Like I alway…
/r/seduction06/06/17 02:21 PM
11

Some of this stuff is reasonable. But when it comes to the height enhancing shoes, no. You have to be way too mindful to not get caught, or have to resort to specific lies to explain it. Women wearing heels is a different dynamic that isn't the least bit comparable. I have no doubt being tall nets you higher points, but I also know being outed for wearing those will likely make you feel worse. Overall, a guy should just focus on looking his best, but not overdoing it to the point where it reache…
/r/seduction06/06/17 01:54 PM
1

Thanks for posting.
/r/seduction05/06/17 12:23 AM
1

Nope. Your age isn't an issue.
/r/seduction05/06/17 12:23 AM
5

Great FR.
/r/seduction03/06/17 06:25 PM
4

Sounds awesome.
/r/seduction03/06/17 04:54 AM
5

You have to take these opportunities that are handed to you and make use of them. If you keep running away, you're never going to make progress.
/r/seduction30/05/17 03:11 AM
8

You don't need to stop dating. This is one girl. You two simply didn't click. After accepting it for what it is, get back out there and continue. You're overthinking and that's a recipe for disaster.
/r/seduction28/05/17 11:38 PM
8

Uh, did the OP actually imply anyone owed him anything? He asked for advice.
/r/seduction28/05/17 06:12 PM
1

This is cool.
/r/seduction27/05/17 06:15 PM
1

It could just be random. I do find it usually seems more likely you'll get noticed when you just don't care. This could be for various reasons.
/r/seduction27/05/17 12:38 AM
3

Stop reading. Stop watching videos. Just go out. When you see an attractive woman, just approach. There's nothing else you need to know. This sounds hard, but you'll feel so much better once you actually do it. If you continue to avoid doing it, someday you're gonna look back on your life and feel nothing but disappointment and regret. Get to it.
/r/seduction24/05/17 08:10 PM
2

Fuck!! Was hoping for a LR. Hope it works better tonight. You got this.
/r/seduction23/05/17 05:03 PM
1

How short are we talking? Either way, while being short is a disadvantage, it isn't enough of a reason to not try.
/r/seduction23/05/17 03:23 AM
2

Yo, keep us updated.
/r/seduction23/05/17 02:53 AM
7

Not everyone needs game to get into relationships. Some people just connect.
/r/seduction22/05/17 08:21 PM
54

The fact that your lack of success with women makes you consider killing yourself is a really terrible sign. Maybe if you walk outside hook up with a 10, your problems will go away, but life ain't that black and white. You just sound like you're in a very dark place and it's sad. You have to find a real meaning in life. You need to be your own validation. Stand for something important. Don't ever think about harming yourself because you're not sliding your dick inside of some girls. It's basical…
/r/seduction20/05/17 08:00 AM
181

You don't need a girl. You need a therapist. I'm serious.
/r/seduction20/05/17 07:01 AM
3

Great post. This stuff just seems way too hard at times, though.
/r/seduction16/05/17 12:53 AM
3

I'm going to try my hardest to implement this. Negativity and fear have ruled my life for far too long.
/r/seduction15/05/17 04:10 PM
1

You're putting too much pressure on yourself. When you do that, it's easy for you to jump to conclusions about yourself--no matter how inaccurate. Just go out and talk to women, man. You determine your success and failures.
/r/seduction15/05/17 02:53 PM
22

Yes. Don't EVER ask. Just go for it. Asking is a terrible idea that almost always never goes well.
/r/seduction14/05/17 07:25 PM
5

Of course it's possible. Thing is, me saying that to you is meaningless here because it comes down to what you believe. I could say I believe you can push past this and look back on this post someday and laugh, but if you don't believe it, nothing will change. But seriously, everyone strikes out. Tall, short, whatever. No one's perfect. Some guys have it easier with girls than others, some don't. All you can do is be your own hero and really make things happen.
/r/seduction12/05/17 12:28 AM
11

0 for 3 ain't shit. It's really not. I could see if you were 0 for 10 or something. Keep pushing and stop being ready to quit when things aren't going you're way. It's a lame mentality.
/r/seduction11/05/17 11:39 PM
19

This is a very good post. Thanks for sharing.
/r/seduction10/05/17 04:04 PM
3

Yeah, height definitely matters. Taller guys have a huge advantage over guys that aren't tall. I think you already know the answer to your question considering you mentioned how it makes them feel protected.
/r/seduction09/05/17 03:13 AM
8

I experience the same. It's really a mental thing. The days when you feel good, you look good. The days when you feel like shit, you, in your mind, you look like shit. You have to understand that you're actually far better looking than you think, and realize that those shitty days are nothing more than an illusion. It isn't logical for you to look good today and bad tomorrow unless there's an actual drastic change to your looks. This type of thinking takes time.
/r/seduction08/05/17 02:07 PM
3

There's a greater chance you'd come off as a seductress in this context.
/r/seduction08/05/17 05:02 AM
5

Accept that your frustration is temporary and perfectly normal. You can't avoid it. This is a natural feeling, so it's not unusual by any means. You are currently feeling down because of the obstacle that's gotten in your way, but once that's overcome, you'll be feeling a lot better. This will go away in time.
/r/seduction07/05/17 05:14 PM
1

Yeah, no. Your point of view is ridiculously extreme and silly because it automatically assumes that you're doing something wrong and doesn't take anything else into consideration. You may think life is black and white 100% of the time, but it isn't. Being denied by three girls is nothing. I've had nights where I could talk to 5 girls and have it go nowhere, but that 6 or 7th girl? Bam. Connection right from the jump. And they'd be even hotter than the earlier girls. If I sulked and assumed that…
/r/seduction07/05/17 03:34 PM
1

I gave my impression of what he posted. It has nothing to do with believing it's never the guys fault or anything regarding my mentality. I presented it as a possibility. Nice overreaction, buddy.
/r/seduction07/05/17 09:49 AM
1

There's not enough to be drawn from these brief examples you've posted. For all you know, it has nothing to do with you. You probably just didn't click with them.
/r/seduction07/05/17 07:58 AM
2

This is pretty eye opening. Now I just need to start working towards not being unattractive. I hate it. It's painful to my entire existence and it's hard to stop being a bitch at times. Great article.
/r/seduction07/05/17 04:48 AM
5

I've lost count of the amount of times I've did this. And you know what makes this feeling truly awful? Many of these girls actually liked me and I'm quite sure making a move would've been the right thing to do. That other part of me just told me it was a disaster waiting to happen, and unfortunately that was enough for my doubt to push me back. Sometimes I visualize how different my life would've been if I didn't overthink and doubt myself so much. It hurts.
/r/seduction04/05/17 08:27 PM
1

Good stuff, bruh.
/r/seduction04/05/17 05:46 AM
10

I like the idea of visualizing sex with attractive women I come across. I've avoided it more than I'd like to admit, but that's suppressed me a lot.
/r/seduction03/05/17 11:51 PM
1

I'm trying to get to a point where having conversations with women and people in general feels more natural. I'd eventually be able to communicate my intentions a lot easier once I can do that.
/r/seduction03/05/17 11:23 PM
2

What's so hard about saying hi? You're putting more pressure on yourself by trying to put together a strategy. Especially in a situation where it isn't necessary. Just walk up to her, say hi, gauge her reply, and introduce yourself. Be authentic.
/r/seduction03/05/17 08:25 AM
62

There's nothing desperate about it. A lot of guys love it. Just take a chance. A lot of people miss out on great opportunities because they sit back and allow fear of the unknown to take over. Don't do that.
/r/seduction03/05/17 07:42 AM
2

Walk up to her and say hi. After that, ask her name and go from there. Do not overcomplicate this. You don't need any special strategy to talk to her.
/r/seduction03/05/17 07:41 AM
4

No one said it was easy. I've had nasty agoraphobia before on top of my anxiety issues. I know things take time and effort.
/r/seduction03/05/17 02:39 AM
183

You can always change that by taking action. Don't think of yourself as never having a girlfriend. Think of yourself as someone who's going to make sure you'll spend the next 27 yrs experiencing love and sex. You got this. You can't rewrite the past, but you can write the future.
/r/seduction02/05/17 08:19 PM
3

It's impossible to tell. Either way, there's no use in dwelling on something from last summer. Focus on creating newer experiences.
/r/seduction01/05/17 10:19 PM
21

This topic is ridiculous. Being attractive is easy mode compared to being unattractive. This just sounds like a bunch of excuses on having weak game.
/r/seduction29/04/17 05:54 PM
1

Sounds like your issue is overthinking. Just learn to chill.
/r/seduction27/04/17 08:47 AM
6

There will be a lot of girls that aren't attracted to you. That isn't surprising because you're obviously not attracted to every girl. At least I don't think you are. You're thinking about it way too much. Cold approach is only one way to meet women. A lot of people don't meet women that way. You won't get out of the negative mindset until you stop making women a priority in your life.
/r/seduction23/04/17 12:08 AM
1

Eye contact ups your chances at having a more successful approach, that's for sure. A lot of guys still have success without it, so it comes down to doing what works for you.
/r/seduction21/04/17 02:23 AM
9

That was a great read. Most guys dream of having 10% of a night like this. Me included.
/r/seduction19/04/17 04:56 AM
5

Not everyone's an ass about height. These girls probably don't give a shit and were just focused on talking to you like a human being. Sometimes things like height are just so minor that it isn't even on the radar. Short guys pull taller girls all the time.
/r/seduction18/04/17 03:05 AM
0

Sounds pretty cool. Did you cum inside her? Either way, good shit.
/r/seduction17/04/17 03:45 PM
5

Yeah, it sounds like there was just natural attraction between you two, which is awesome in itself.
/r/seduction17/04/17 08:12 AM
1

Those stories are crazy.
/r/seduction17/04/17 03:06 AM
1

Nah, I'm good. Don't need to be apart of that movement.
/r/seduction12/04/17 06:36 PM
13

This is why overloading on info is terrible.
/r/seduction11/04/17 06:42 PM
5

I hear you, bro. The main reason why I blame myself is because I've always chosen to be pessimistic about everything. I wasn't always like this. When I was a lot younger, I never thought about the worst possible outcome on everything. Thats something that became apart of me the older I got. I've had girls that were really into me simply because they were just naturally drawn to me. Despite that, my mindset was so bad that it convinced me that their feelings weren't real. I just assumed that they…
/r/seduction11/04/17 07:06 AM
3

Sometimes I feel that way. I almost 30 and I'm not getting any younger. It's an awful feeling, but I know it's no ones fault but my own.
/r/seduction11/04/17 06:50 AM
0

What are the other reasons why they're banned? I'm honestly curious.
/r/seduction11/04/17 12:09 AM
1

Why did you delete the post?
/r/seduction10/04/17 11:19 PM
3

Does it really happen like that on a constant basis? I'm sure you're just being extra hard on yourself.
/r/seduction09/04/17 03:38 PM
3

There doesn't have to be a reason why she sat there. She probably just sat at that table because she felt like it. Not everything has a hidden message to it. That being said, you should've said hi and went from there. Try it next time.
/r/seduction04/04/17 07:03 PM
2

The reason why you feel this way is because you're basically absorbing a lot of information and not actually using it. It's inevitable that you'd start feeling overloaded. Reading various topics while doing nothing in your own life is always bad. Taking a break from here is probably something you should do. I know how easy it is to feel moody when you read a "I'm a good looking guy that can't approach", or "Girls are attracted to me, what should I do?", or a "Fucked a hottie report" type of post…
/r/seduction03/04/17 10:30 PM
5

Happy for you, bro. Keep the positivity going.
/r/seduction02/04/17 10:07 AM
6

This is what happens when you're a try hard PUA.
/r/seduction31/03/17 09:51 PM
1

Good stuff. I agree.
/r/seduction31/03/17 06:34 PM
2

Same here. I know I'm probably more down on my looks than anyone else is, but it's one of those things that's hard to shake. What exactly is it about your face that you don't like? The main thing about these issues is that we have them and have no idea why we feel this way. Some people develop insecurities based on being teased throughout life, whereas there are other guys who just feel that way because they're so used to comparing to others. So in general, try to understand why you feel this wa…
/r/seduction31/03/17 09:47 AM
1

Thank you.
/r/seduction30/03/17 11:26 PM
14

I use condoms, you moron. I was simply asking a question.
/r/seduction30/03/17 05:44 PM
-15

Damn it! Oh, well. Great report again, fam.
/r/seduction30/03/17 01:08 PM
19

Nice report. Seems like she liked you right off the bat, so you didn't have to really do anything except be chill. Pretty good. Did you smash raw? Just wondering, lol.
/r/seduction30/03/17 12:40 PM
8

Some women do, some women don't. That's why you gotta approach to find out. Nothing wrong with doing it in more socially friendly places, though.
/r/seduction30/03/17 12:32 PM
2

The rejections suck, but they are necessary. Some guys have to go through lots of rejection before they see progress. All of these examples are just bumps in the road for the time being. You gotta focus on the journey as a whole.
/r/seduction30/03/17 01:24 AM
3

This is the best advice. Actually putting it into play is part that's hard. Sometimes starting the process itself is the most difficult thing to do. But this natural outlook is really good.
/r/seduction28/03/17 10:19 PM
3

Understand where the jealousy manifests from and realize how much of a waste of time it is to have those feelings. Logically you know there's no reason for you to feel this way. It literally adds nothing to your life. Find the source of it and work on it from there.
/r/seduction28/03/17 08:18 AM
1

Sucks that she'd just throw it out there like that, but sometimes it's good to experience these to realize you can take them. It's also very possible that you could've turned the situation around by playing along with it, though that seems to come easier for certain guys. I know some girls like to shit test a guy on things like this to see how they'd react. You're good, man. Don't allow something like this to stop you. Seek those rejections and embrace them to minimize the pain you feel from it.
/r/seduction26/03/17 11:31 PM
6

People always say that and ignore the drawbacks of masturbation. A lot of masturbation kills motivation and makes it easy enough to not pursue women. Not jerking, on the otherhand, can (and has many times) pushed more guys to actually approach women because their desires were operating at much higher levels. So saying it isn't good advice is literally your own opinion. Especially when the various experiences of others have proved quite the contrary.
/r/seduction26/03/17 05:53 PM
6

Would you say you're an avid porn user? If so, then maybe not watching that would help. I've felt exactly the way you feel. Sometimes there are days when those overly horny feelings come back. The easy answer is for you to put your passion into other things that'll occupy more of your time, but that's easier said than done. Being a really horny dude in itself isn't bad. It's only bad if it spills over into your general life. In your case, having normal interactions with girls. Just try to find a…
/r/seduction26/03/17 09:27 AM
25

Stop masturbating.
/r/seduction26/03/17 07:38 AM
1

Talk to them.
/r/seduction25/03/17 08:27 AM
3

Nice guide.
/r/seduction24/03/17 09:27 AM
4

Scary, but very real. I'm almost 30 and I wish started doing things much earlier. I know it's a waste of time to dwell on the past.
/r/seduction24/03/17 06:14 AM
1

Good post.
/r/seduction22/03/17 09:43 AM
1

Fuck a mgtow. Keep that shit there.
/r/seduction21/03/17 02:58 AM
1

It isn't weird.
/r/seduction21/03/17 02:58 AM
1

Accurate. In my case, it was a combination of both.
/r/seduction19/03/17 05:58 PM
2

I agree with you, bro. When I think of the times where being bold would've CLEARLY been to my advantage and likely led to something beautiful, I feel sickened because I was too afraid to believe in myself to make it happen.
/r/seduction19/03/17 05:18 AM
5

This is a good post. But when it comes to "If only I were more attractive", that's simply a coping mechanism for feeling like you're unable to advance. Most guys that do that don't wait around for the woman...they simply give up. I don't understand the "must still be sexual part" if she's not attracted to you. Care to explain?
/r/seduction19/03/17 12:22 AM
2

You're doing fine. Like you said, you haven't been putting yourself out there that much, so it's okay for these things to feel foreign to you. The good thing is you're aware of your issues and are ready to tackle them. Touching her shoulder was a good start. We all have to start somewhere. Making physical contact can be a big deal for many of us while it's natural to others. What matters here is that you gave it a try and saw that nothing bad happened. What you need to do is continue to enter th…
/r/seduction18/03/17 10:46 PM
2

While I'm not exactly scared of women, I'm scared of being vulnerable. That means putting myself out there is extremely hard. I know your pain. It sucks. You have to gradually push through this shit, though. A life spent avoiding your fears is an empty life. You don't want to look back and realize how much you've wasted.
/r/seduction18/03/17 10:01 PM
1

It isn't. I can already tell one of your issues is that you're overthinking way too much.
/r/seduction13/03/17 04:53 AM
8

It's healthy, but it comes down to not becoming obsessive about it. Wanting to sleep with a girl you find attractive is perfectly normal.
/r/seduction13/03/17 02:00 AM
3

This topic is a clear example of over-analyzing.
/r/seduction11/03/17 12:38 AM
6

Good stuff. It's a lot harder to adapt this mindset when you've been unsure most of your life, though.
/r/seduction10/03/17 06:25 PM
1

I'm the same height as you, so this is really helpful.
/r/seduction08/03/17 09:38 PM
2

She values your opinion, so that's a great sign. I believe she's attracted, but you still gotta make a move. Be sure to touch her when you're together and give her strong eye contact as well.
/r/seduction07/03/17 02:27 AM
2

Thanks for the reply. I do realize that most of us overthink the hell of this when it can be so simple. I guess it's just a case of me feeling so far behind in things. This is an area I really want to tighten up.
/r/seduction06/03/17 06:42 PM
2

Lost so many golden opportunities with girls I really liked because of overthinking. The thought alone sickens me. Great post. I really needed to read this.
/r/seduction06/03/17 06:23 PM
2

Is it really that simple?
/r/seduction05/03/17 04:49 PM
2

Your issue seems to be an inability to make a move. There's no "cutting edge" missing here. If you get lots of interest from girls in general, then clearly the situation isn't that bad. What it comes down to is you. You gotta learn to get out of your own way and not overthink some of this stuff.
/r/seduction05/03/17 04:47 PM
2

Good topic. Unfortunately, this seems to be outside the reality for most of us.
/r/seduction01/03/17 11:22 PM
2

The fact that you can actually laugh shows that it's an insecurity you can overcome. I'm taller than you, but I'm still insecure about my height when around a bunch of others at times. However, there are also times when I don't care, and I feel at my best when it's the last thing on my mind. So just don't overthink it. Something like this could easily help you miss out on many nights of fun if you allow it to. Fuck it. Just go the next time they invite you and don't worry about it.
/r/seduction27/02/17 01:05 AM
1

A lot of stuff we've read regarding seduction has helped us forget how simple and natural a lot of this stuff is supposed to be. You don't have to overdo things or do anything special in particular for some girls to just be into you. They could like your look, style, body language, etc. Sometimes we over-complicate things for no reason. Just relax and learn to enjoy the ride.
/r/seduction25/02/17 01:03 AM
5

This topic can be so depressing at times. I've never had trouble attracting women, but I always wonder if the attraction isn't as strong as it could be because I'm not tall. There are times when I honestly don't care, yet there are times when it almost feels like you're fighting from behind before it even begins. Ugh...I'm not super short (5'8), but it's still below average. I wish I didn't care so much. Like, I get that taller guys naturally have the advantage. That's understandable given that …
/r/seduction24/02/17 01:45 AM
1

You're on the way up. Keep that mindset.
/r/seduction09/02/17 08:40 AM
1

That's the right way to go about things.
/r/seduction05/02/17 06:59 AM
5

Once you're able to ignore any shit thrown at you because of height, you're good to go. I'm the same height as you and I tend to not care anymore.
/r/seduction05/02/17 01:19 AM
1

That's a great attitude to have. You'll be good.
/r/seduction04/02/17 06:38 PM
5

Happens all the time. Could be for a plethora of reasons. Maybe she's attracted and doesn't want to get caught looking. Maybe she just randomly looked at you for no reason whatsoever. So many possibilities.
/r/seduction03/02/17 11:23 PM
5

What exactly did you do?
/r/seduction03/02/17 11:21 PM
1

Ah, good to hear.
/r/seduction03/02/17 07:41 PM
3

You handled it well. You'll get better the more you do this.
/r/seduction03/02/17 08:50 AM
2

You stop caring when you stop overthinking. That part takes work. Don't worry. It's something you can do as long as you realize that everyone isn't going to like you.
/r/seduction03/02/17 08:32 AM
1

Good shit. Did you fuck her raw tho?
/r/seduction02/02/17 08:28 PM
2

That guy clearly wasn't thinking....
/r/seduction01/02/17 05:46 PM
8

Don't go out looking for girls to smile at you. That's your main issue. When you don't get the reaction you're fishing for, you take note of it. Stop that.
/r/seduction31/01/17 06:45 AM
1

Things vary, dude. Seduction is nowhere near as black and white as many of you want to pretend it is. And yeah, it's very possible that we'll never know and guess what? It doesn't really matter. You might've been rejected because she didn't feel like talking to you. Move on to the next instead of obsessing over it.
/r/seduction30/01/17 04:29 PM
1

Some people take this statement way too literally at times.
/r/seduction30/01/17 04:15 PM
4

Looks aren't everything. If you connect with someone regardless of her looks, go for it. You'll probably have a more fulfilling connection with her than some random girl who just happens to look better.
/r/seduction26/01/17 01:00 AM
5

It always seems like the quality posts are often ignored. Regardless, I hope you continue to post, because people like me really enjoy posts like this.
/r/seduction22/01/17 01:04 AM
19

Good to see you posting again. Solid advice.
/r/seduction22/01/17 12:59 AM
1

This is typical advice.
/r/seduction18/01/17 03:53 PM
6

That's great. When you get signals like that next time, be sure to approach her.
/r/seduction17/01/17 02:45 AM
1

Great post.
/r/seduction15/01/17 03:55 PM
3

Alright, I'm in. Nothing will change unless I will.
/r/seduction14/01/17 07:35 PM
1

You can only go up from here. We all have that feeling when we come across a girl we really like. You'll be good.
/r/seduction09/01/17 08:49 PM
1

I definitely need to remove my ego and become a better all-around person. I want to give value.
/r/seduction09/01/17 07:43 PM
1

Solid topic.
/r/seduction09/01/17 04:59 PM
1

Right. That's why you gotta try different things to see what works.
/r/seduction08/01/17 06:26 PM
6

Nope. And based on your reply, I have a feeling you just wanted someone to confirm that you couldn't attract an attractive woman (which is subjective btw. Not everyone cares about tall blondes) so you can feel at ease about it.
/r/seduction08/01/17 05:54 PM
0

It's because the idea seems so far out of your reality. Accept that women are attracted to you.
/r/seduction07/01/17 03:40 AM
1

Get this shit post outta here.
/r/seduction04/01/17 09:34 PM
8

You didn't do anything wrong. Those dudes sound like bitches that got no play in the club. You good.
/r/seduction01/01/17 09:02 AM
3

It isn't a bad thing. It comes down to how you go about doing this. There's a time where too much honestly upfront can be bad, but mapping out every single you do can also be weird and unnatural. There were times when I'd just spill my guts to women, overwhelming them and ultimately ending any opportunity at going any further with them. Everything doesn't need to be a game, though. You just have to read situations and get a feel for what to do or say. Mistakes will happen.
/r/seduction01/01/17 01:18 AM
3

Not much. It sucks, but that's how it goes. It's much better than going on dates with the girl before she inevitably ignores you, at least.
/r/seduction25/12/16 12:55 AM
2

Real Social Dynamics. It's a Pick Up company.
/r/seduction21/12/16 02:03 AM
1

Thanks for the value.
/r/seduction21/12/16 02:02 AM
6

You went from being chill to being overly aggressive. That was where you lost. Everything was good when you were being natural with her. If you never tried so hard to isolate her, she probably would've been down. Oh, well. Hopefully it'll go better next time.
/r/seduction19/12/16 07:33 PM
0

I know the feeling, bro.
/r/seduction18/12/16 06:33 AM
1

Absolutely do not say that. You'll destroy whatever chances you had.
/r/seduction14/12/16 07:20 PM
0

Great stuff, man.
/r/seduction08/12/16 08:45 PM
1

These responses, lol. Anyway, nothing wrong with sex on the first date.
/r/seduction06/12/16 05:27 AM
3

Pretty good report.
/r/seduction04/12/16 09:56 PM
1

No. If there's one piece of advice I'd give you, it's to NEVER ask that question. You will kill the mood doing that. You're supposed to be creating a comforting atmosphere that will draw her closer to you. By asking if she has a boyfriend, you'll quickly put doubt into her mind and ruin it. Don't do it. Be smooth. Touch her. Make a move. Just don't ask that question.
/r/seduction04/12/16 07:58 AM
1

This girl really wants you to make a move on her. Go for it. If she reciprocates, cool. If not, cool. Just try.
/r/seduction03/12/16 11:22 PM
2

One of the better posts here in awhile.
/r/seduction03/12/16 05:18 AM
1

Sounds like you took the "looks don't matter" stuff too literally. It doesn't mean it's okay to look like shit. The point was to show it wasn't everything. Most dudes decide to follow certain things without thinking and then get mad later on. You should post this on ForeverAlone to help the guys there, too.
/r/seduction03/12/16 01:08 AM
2

Not really. It comes down to the girl, but most hot girls are accustomed to seeing good looking dudes. You have more room to "fuck up" than someone not good looking, and often get more signals to approach than most other guys. If you're a social moron, however, it won't make much of a difference. So take your advantages and build on them. I've seen more good looking guys use it as an excuse to explain their difficulty than the opposite. It's weird.
/r/seduction02/12/16 10:36 PM
4

So you messaged the girls you knew talking shit simply because one chick didn't want to continue with you? That's pretty childish. Don't be mad at the girls. Be mad at yourself for allowing yourself to get attached to a girl you barely knew.
/r/seduction02/12/16 09:36 AM
2

I've had this issue throughout my life. A lot of this comes from overthinking. You have a strong sign that most guys wish they had when it comes to approaching women. All you're doing is self-sabotage, which is never a good thing. You literally have nothing to lose by talking to these women. The only way to push through awkwardness is to face it directly.
/r/seduction30/11/16 09:53 PM
17

You said you've been doing self-improvement, right? If so, why do you believe something like this will be a rare thing? The fact that you pulled it off once should give you a basis to believe it can be replicated. Don't sell yourself so short, man.
/r/seduction30/11/16 12:45 AM
5

Everything seemed to just naturally work out for ya. Sounds good.
/r/seduction29/11/16 02:51 PM
2

Thanks for answering.
/r/seduction29/11/16 02:46 PM
1

Did you go in raw or condom? Nice detail otherwise.
/r/seduction29/11/16 01:50 PM
3

You're right. The pain of doing nothing is excruciating compared to actually doing something and failing. I don't want to feel the pain of regret anymore.
/r/seduction27/11/16 11:35 PM
3

I feel like being indecisive has really done a lot of damage to my life. I really want to change from being that way.
/r/seduction27/11/16 11:06 PM
2

You'll start fixing your limitations the minute you try to overcome them. There's no book, no overall message, or trick that'll make you do something. The only thing that'll get you to doing this is the pain of regret. I have many yrs of it and I hope you don't end with as much regret as I have. Btw, I'm a guy that's done things like you've mentioned, if not worse. I know how you feel. I just don't want you to create a bigger hole for yourself by allowing it to continue. You gotta let go.
/r/seduction27/11/16 10:03 AM
2

Ah, I remember your vids. Had no idea that was you on here the entire time. Always enjoy your content.
/r/seduction25/11/16 12:16 AM
2

You know, your post has made me realize that I'm way too tense when I'm around attractive women. I've had the attraction of the woman in many of these instances, but the amount of mental strain (thinking about every word I wanted to speak before saying it in hopes of not fucking the mood up, wondering how they really thought of me, way too much overthinking) I put on myself was probably my biggest issue. Thinking about it sucks a lot because making a move would've worked 98% of the time based on…
/r/seduction23/11/16 07:08 PM
2

I don't disagree with you. I guess it just almost seems hard becoming that guy. I can talk to women normally, at least. Making my intentions known? I suck at that. Overall, I think most men want to be more complete in every area. Pussy just seems like the only thing we care about because it's on our minds most of the time.
/r/seduction23/11/16 06:14 PM
2

I guess it comes down to the guy. I definitely don't just want to fuck anything, but I'm not exactly in a position to be too picky. That's not because I'm ugly or anything, but mainly because I've just never been all that great with women. That's mainly a mindset issue, but I'm learning. Certain guys who've had a respectable amount of success with women can't comprehend how it feels on the other side at times. It's just looked at as "pussy", but really, it's almost like you're trying to play cat…
/r/seduction23/11/16 06:03 PM
-1

Sean is legit. Some people might not prefer the methods, but homie gets pussy. Thanks for posting.
/r/seduction23/11/16 04:57 PM
1

You should really stop shit-posting so often. You can't seem to post without being a negative nancy.
/r/seduction18/11/16 06:58 PM
1

Hmmm....that makes sense. I guess when I read a topic like this, I just automatically assume game comes super easy for guys like you. Probably because of the fact that you met an attractive girl and had sex with her not too long after. I don't usually take into consideration what the guy had to do to get to that point. And yeah, I've come across so many different pieces of information over the yrs. I definitely do know that I'd rather be the guy that has sex with a woman than the guy who masters…
/r/seduction17/11/16 02:22 AM
1

Don't avoid making a move next time. If you really want her, you gotta make it happen.
/r/seduction16/11/16 08:50 PM
1

This shit seems so hard at times.
/r/seduction16/11/16 03:21 PM
1

The fact that she was comfortable asking for a back rub...in YOUR bed...after you told her how you feel was enough to show she was ready for you to make a move. That was a golden opportunity to get intimate, but you didn't go for it. Damn, bruh.
/r/seduction16/11/16 09:57 AM
3

When the feeling of being alone begins to feel more painful than putting yourself in uncomfortable situations, you'll learn to grow. You have to put yourself out there and start talking to girls if you really want to get the ball rolling. It's something that no amount of online advice or books will be able to give you. You have to want to do this for yourself. If not, then you'll find yourself in the same predicament years from now.
/r/seduction16/11/16 06:16 AM
1

Why even bother? Sounds like it isn't even worth the effort.
/r/seduction15/11/16 03:53 PM
1

It's different for everyone. Having said that, invest in yourself and be okay with the journey itself. Once you do that, there'll be no need to put a timetable on your success. You'll be so focused on growing in general that it'll just happen sooner than you believe. Really try to keep that in mind.
/r/seduction15/11/16 12:17 PM
2

No. She basically let you down in the easiest way possible. Don't waste your time chasing her anymore. I know you're into her physically, but it's no point in continuing with this. Don't get too obsessed over one girl, bruh.
/r/seduction15/11/16 05:00 AM
1

That's fine. You can't expect to hit homeruns when you haven't been batting for long.
/r/seduction14/11/16 08:50 PM
1

Me too. Work hard on not being one. Nvm. I see you approached her. Good job.
/r/seduction14/11/16 06:34 PM
1

No. Don't think of excuses.
/r/seduction13/11/16 12:16 AM
1

I feel the same way. You gotta fight to urge to look at stuff, though that's easier said than done. I know when you having released in awhile, the simplest things can make you horny.
/r/seduction12/11/16 09:15 PM
1

You could grow to like her. It's worth a try.
/r/seduction12/11/16 06:27 AM
6

How bad do you want to reprogram yourself? In the end, that's the only thing that will make a difference. I don't believe for a second you're beyond help.
/r/seduction12/11/16 06:19 AM
4

It happens. Keep pushing.
/r/seduction11/11/16 08:07 PM
2

Good luck.
/r/seduction04/11/16 08:28 PM
1

Congrats, bruh. Would you say you've had to deal with a lot of rejection throughout your journey before you got to where you wanted to get? How do you truly embrace and accept that rejection is often an inevitable part of the process? I'm stuck in the reading and trying to assimilate information stage, but I'm trying to get out of that.
/r/seduction02/11/16 10:53 PM
9

I'll never understand the guys that need to see a non good looking guy doing something to be convinced that this stuff is possible. That type of thinking is so ass backwards and unnecessary. This goes to show that most of you guys will just create excuses to remain as you are. This isn't to say that looks don't matter or any nonsense like that. I believe everything matters. Looks just aren't an excuse to do what you're doing right now. If you're expecting to see an alternate mirror version of yo…
/r/seduction02/11/16 10:38 AM
2

Most of us have been in this situation. It's hard. I think it'd be best if you not hang with her as much. That doesn't mean you need to stop talking to her altogether.
/r/seduction01/11/16 08:26 PM
1

Thanks, bruh.
/r/seduction01/11/16 12:21 AM
1

Your mind is in the right place. I'm sure you'll be fine. You got this.
/r/seduction01/11/16 12:21 AM
5

Are you going to spend the rest of your life making excuses? Are you going to spend the rest of your life hoping for that magical answer that's going to wake you the fuck up from this woe is me crap? Guess what? You'll never get that. Seriously, stop with this shit and put yourself out there. If you're content living an empty life doing the same stuff, then that's on you.
/r/seduction31/10/16 08:29 AM
4

I've had the same issues as you and it sucks. Your mind sorta goes blank, then you kick the shit out of yourself later when you realize there was a golden opportunity in front of you. Also, when you have low self-esteem, you don't perceive yourself to be attractive. My answer is to let go and live in the moment. Easier said than done, sure. However, that's the key to getting over this current mindset that you have. Girls are cool, man. They're attracted to you and want you to bring them into you…
/r/seduction31/10/16 12:43 AM
7

Focus on learning. You don't need to be jealous. Create your own story.
/r/seduction31/10/16 12:24 AM
4

HB=Hot Babe HG=Hot Guy PUA=Pick-Up Artist
/r/seduction30/10/16 10:54 PM
3

I NEED to seriously adapt this mindset. I'm not getting any younger and the excuses continue to pile up. Tired of holding myself back for nothing. Your post simply reinforces how much time I've wasted talking myself out of approaching. Thanks for the post.
/r/seduction25/10/16 06:45 AM
1

The best thing to do is move on, man. I feel like continuing to try to make things right would be beating a dead horse. I understand you don't want to just stop talking to her altogether, but sometimes things like that are necessary. It's hard to see you two having a stable friendship going forward.
/r/seduction23/10/16 12:08 AM
3

Honestly, as much as I would like to do well, I really wouldn't mind failing. To me, the sequence would go Success>Failure by Rejection>>>>>>>>>Failure by doing absolutely nothing. I don't understand why I'm perfectly fine understanding this logic on Reddit, but not when the beautiful girl is standing a few yards away. This almost always happens. I'm even talking about girls that give me nice eye contact and make it clear that an approach wouldn't be awkward. Sometimes it feels like a barrier is…
/r/seduction22/10/16 04:48 PM
9

The "I'll approach tomorrow" is the worst excuse of all-time.
/r/seduction22/10/16 01:12 AM
3

This post is money!
/r/seduction19/10/16 09:34 PM
1

No good can ever come from jealousy. It's a natural feeling that everyone falls victim to, but it's ultimately venom. Be the best you. Work out, find hobbies, stop talking down on yourself, and don't even think suicide. You're 23, not 83. Stop talking like your life is over.
/r/seduction19/10/16 04:22 PM
1

Odd statement. Mind clarifying?
/r/seduction15/10/16 11:21 PM
1

Nothing but value here. Great post.
/r/seduction11/10/16 12:59 AM
125

Becoming the best "you" has nothing to do with others.
/r/seduction07/10/16 06:43 PM
1

Lol, just ignore dude. It ain't an issue unless you make it one.
/r/seduction07/10/16 03:26 AM
1

Ugly? He looks like a normal guy.
/r/seduction29/09/16 06:24 AM
2

You're still da man regardless. And your English is fine.
/r/seduction28/09/16 07:38 AM
184

Good job. Rejection or not, most people wouldn't have dared putting themselves in that position.
/r/seduction27/09/16 08:52 PM
1

I wish this was something I truly understood early on. I've always knew it was inevitable, but I tried so hard to avoid it in hopes of a magic pill where I wouldn't have to deal with it. Very stupid on my end, but I'm glad I realized this now rather than much later. So like this topic suggests, I'm going towards the difficult situations.
/r/seduction27/09/16 08:50 PM
1

I'm a bit late, but this is amazing.
/r/seduction27/09/16 01:09 AM
1

Interracial dating is more common in certain areas than others. That's really all it comes down to.
/r/seduction25/09/16 09:42 PM
1

Good shit, fam.
/r/seduction15/09/16 05:15 AM
3

The world is nowhere near as black and white as you want to make it out to be. I see hot girls with various types of men. All of them are nowhere near tall and good looking.
/r/seduction13/09/16 06:50 AM
7

This stuff seems so natural to think about, yet so hard to really do.
/r/seduction12/09/16 08:36 PM
6

Holding myself back out of fear.
/r/seduction06/09/16 09:36 PM
1

This is great.
/r/seduction06/09/16 03:35 PM
1

You ain't a mod, bruh. If the topic is irrelevant, then avoid it. Playing mini-mod is a waste of time.
/r/seduction04/09/16 03:31 AM
2

You over-analyze way too much. Just learn to embrace the unknown and enjoy life, man. When you start allowing your mind to get caught up in thinking of everything that can go wrong, it's no longer fun.
/r/seduction03/09/16 07:58 PM
2

My eye contact is complete ass. I need to start putting emphasis on holding it and not looking away. Great post.
/r/seduction31/08/16 05:52 PM
3

Are you ok with her being with other men?
/r/seduction28/08/16 08:29 PM
3

How the fuck did you even reach that number so quickly? Also, do you think you've gotten any of them pregnant? Just curious.
/r/seduction28/08/16 09:50 AM
3

I don't give two shits about lying to you. You're just a faceless Reddit troll that has no clue what the fuck he's talking about. How about you go up and ask women why they're wearing makeup? Nah. We know you can't do it.
/r/seduction18/08/16 10:53 PM
3

Your comprehension is failing you. Try to keep up. Makeup is a general tool many women use in their every day lives. You'll barely find any women without makeup in the professional world, which goes to show that this is the norm among them. So your "opinion" on why they do (manipulative reasons) it is just that: your own opinion.
/r/seduction18/08/16 10:49 PM
3

Not a girl, lol. It's a simple deduction. You don't stop living life simply because you're in a relationship. Honest question: If you were in a relationship, and you were regarded as a good looking guy that put a lot into your looks, would you stop trying to look your best simply because you were in one? But it's clear you already have your mind made up, so whatever.
/r/seduction18/08/16 10:27 PM
5

Because women still want to be beautiful regardless if they're with someone or not. Not sure how their relationship is relevant to any of this. If anything, it's illogical to assume they'd want to look less attractive just because they're in a fulfilling relationship.
/r/seduction18/08/16 10:11 PM
1

Allow yourself to be vulnerable. Things you were always too scared to do, do it. Get rejected by the hottest girl again and again and again. Seriously challenge yourself to do all types of stuff you couldn't imagine ever doing.
/r/seduction14/08/16 09:20 AM
3

Keep it to yourself. Most girls wouldn't take that as a compliment.
/r/seduction14/08/16 09:04 AM
4

It might suck, but at least you didn't allow it to continue any longer. Don't feel too bad.
/r/seduction13/08/16 01:40 AM
1

This topic is ass.
/r/seduction12/08/16 04:37 PM
2

It's okay. Just laugh at it.
/r/seduction10/08/16 05:49 AM
1

Did you not read the post? I said shorter guys are at a disadvantage, but that doesn't mean some short guy needs to go around thinking about it 24/7. A lot of things are a big deal to women, so that goes without saying. You either work on your shortcomings or you don't. Nothing more to it.
/r/seduction10/08/16 12:00 AM
1

Lol, shitty article.
/r/seduction09/08/16 07:09 PM
3

Stop visiting Sluthate and lookism. Those sites are filled with a bunch of losers who want you to be as hopeless as them. They're a terrible group to interact with.
/r/seduction08/08/16 06:40 AM
2

I don't even think it's rejection that gives me fear anymore. Feeling like a weirdo for approaching some random girl feels me with more fear than anything else. It's stupid, but it almost feels ingrained in me.
/r/seduction07/08/16 11:46 PM
1

It's awkward for any guy to approach a woman when they're out. Dunno why you're making it seem like Indian men are a special case here.
/r/seduction07/08/16 05:33 AM
1

You gotta approach them. There's no magic pill to just getting them. When you see beautiful women in your presence, just approach and see where it goes.
/r/seduction06/08/16 08:47 PM
0

You're right. He should wallow in self-pity like you.
/r/seduction05/08/16 08:13 AM
0

You've encountered a bitch and a group of white-knights. As much as it sucked, you gotta find a way to laugh at shit like this. At least you're out there working to improve in this area. Understand that shitty nights are par for the course while continuing to push. Don't take everything so seriously.
/r/seduction05/08/16 06:31 AM
2

Don't watch too many videos. You eventually start trying to live through the guys in the videos instead of doing it yourself. That's why you feel the way you feel. If you're busy creating your own adventures, you won't have time to be feeling the way you feel.
/r/seduction04/08/16 11:55 PM
3

Pretty much. You can't take it personally because they don't actually know you. It's just some girl that happens to not be attracted to you. You shouldn't look at it as anything more than that. This isn't an overnight process, so you have to allow yourself to get rejected to the point where you can just laugh at it. It takes time.
/r/seduction04/08/16 08:25 AM
2

This is one of the things I strongly dislike about myself.
/r/seduction04/08/16 07:54 AM
4

Honestly, the bus girl wasn't that much different than the other girls that rejected you. You might've put a bit more time into her, but in the end, she was still a stranger. It's much worse when you actually take time to get to know the girl and end up getting nowhere. Rejections happen to everyone. Some sting more than others, but you gotta keep pushing. If you allow your frustration to consume you, there's a great chance you'll become less motivated to push yourself. Forget about the shitty n…
/r/seduction04/08/16 07:48 AM
2

Stop wearing lifts, dude. I'm only a few inches taller than you and considered it, but I realized it's ultimately pointless. You'll feel better temporarily before it you understand that it won't change your situation. Forget them.
/r/seduction04/08/16 05:52 AM
1

You gotta jump off the cliff, man. If you continue standing on the edge, you'll look back many yrs later and have regret over not doing it. Embrace the awkwardness now and get better at it. You can do this.
/r/seduction04/08/16 01:19 AM
2

My opinion is you need to stop focusing on whether they matter and maximize your own attractiveness. Some people just focus on this looks stuff to be the point of obsession. Just let it go. Some women will be attracted, some will not be attracted. You just can't think about it so much.
/r/seduction04/08/16 01:05 AM
2

I think when a woman is just naturally attracted to you, there's usually no need for a lot of technique. It just happens.
/r/seduction31/07/16 07:34 PM
64

My suggestion? Don't build an identity around your height. It's merely an attribute of yourself, but it isn't entirely you. You can't worry about guys that are taller than you, as this'll do nothing but make you feel worse about yourself. You have no competition other than your inner thoughts that are attempting to keep you down. Don't waste your life wondering. Keep on working on yourself and just approach. You have no other choice but to live your life to the fullest.
/r/seduction31/07/16 06:47 AM
3

Damn, I felt the realness in his comment. Thanks, dude. I'm tired of feeling down about myself and I just don't want to focus on negative emotions anymore. I'm going to push forward as much as possible and leave the regret in the past.
/r/seduction30/07/16 06:35 AM
6

I wish I could just let go and focus on building a new me. It's so hard, but I really want it.
/r/seduction29/07/16 09:22 PM
2

Cool FR, bro.
/r/seduction25/07/16 03:37 PM
9

At the end of the day, it's easier for some guys and harder for others. We all have our own path, so we just have to make the most of it.
/r/seduction24/07/16 06:06 PM
2

It goes away by approaching attractive women. There's no secret technique that'll just make you start doing it.
/r/seduction24/07/16 06:27 AM
1

It happens a lot more than you think. Why not go out and make it happen yourself? Even if you read FR from Indian guys having success with blondes, that probably wouldn't be enough motivation for you. Be your own motivation.
/r/seduction23/07/16 07:36 PM
1

If you don't mind, could you go into detail about how you met her and ended up sleeping with her? It'd be nice to know how it went down.
/r/seduction20/07/16 10:59 PM
2

It's hard to believe you've never been good with women. I thought you were a natural just from reading that. This is a good post, since it's simple and gets to the point. Hopefully you'll post more successful stories in the future.
/r/seduction20/07/16 09:26 PM
1

Thanks for answering.
/r/seduction20/07/16 08:09 AM
1

Could you go into more detail? What type of outfits have you started wearing in general?
/r/seduction20/07/16 03:41 AM
1

This topic isn't really useful for the majority of guys here, though.
/r/seduction19/07/16 11:24 PM
53

It doesn't. The minute I stopped caring was the best thing ever. If you're overly obsessed with height, it'll definitely fuck with you. This isn't to say that short guys aren't at a disadvantage compared to their taller counterparts, but it doesn't matter. Sometimes I'll wonder if approaching a taller girl is a good idea, but most of them won't care.
/r/seduction13/07/16 07:10 AM
1

This is great advice.
/r/seduction11/07/16 02:10 AM
1

In what way?
/r/seduction10/07/16 11:40 PM
1

I can see why your name is stayaway.
/r/seduction10/07/16 11:27 PM
1

Yeah, that's what I was saying. With the acne gone, you'll look several times better. There's really nothing wrong with your looks.
/r/seduction10/07/16 03:30 AM
1

I feel if you get the acne cleared up, you'll be good to go. You're far from being an ugly dude.
/r/seduction10/07/16 02:24 AM
7

I'm proud of you for trying.
/r/seduction09/07/16 10:22 PM
2

Retarded try hard comment.
/r/seduction08/07/16 07:58 PM
2

That's not really the issue, though. A lot of shorter women are more attracted to taller men than shorter, too. It's not an excuse, but still.
/r/seduction07/07/16 04:32 AM
8

This belongs in r/TheRedPill/ I get what you're trying to say, but you're putting women down way too much to get the point across. Women aren't our natural enemy.
/r/seduction05/07/16 04:05 PM
1

I'm the same way. It's something you have to actively work at.
/r/seduction04/07/16 09:32 PM
1

I need to really take this seriously. I feel like this would be a huge difference maker in my life if I learn how to do this.
/r/seduction28/06/16 08:27 PM
1

Unfortunately, relationships lead to people getting hurt. I know you feel bad right now, but that's normal. You didn't want to hurt her, though it was inevitable. Imagine if you continued on with the relationship and decided to end after she had become even more invested. The break up would've been much worse for her. The fact that you feel like crap shows you're a caring dude. Just understand that while it sucks, you did the right thing here. In time, she'll heal and understand that this was th…
/r/seduction28/06/16 08:18 AM
1

There are guys who don't have any of that stuff and still have women. Why? Because they believe in themselves. I said all I could say on the matter. You'll either make excuses on why you can't succeed or you'll work towards building a strong life for yourself. I hope you make the right choice.
/r/seduction27/06/16 05:17 AM
2

Look, at some point, your life is going to come to a close. Do you really want to continue going through life the way you are and never doing anything worthwhile? Just because you haven't had any great accomplishments at this point doesn't mean you can never have it. You're allowing your past to dictate your future. You're supposed to be using the future to overcome your past, not allow it to forever define you. You really have to want to live to the fullest. No amount of advice will instill tha…
/r/seduction26/06/16 09:26 AM
5

If you've already reached your own conclusion on life, why do you need this to be reiterated by others? You seem to think people have something against you when they're simply trying to pull your head out of your ass. The fact that you dismiss everything people say shows you're not willing to better your life. Don't put that on others.
/r/seduction25/06/16 07:05 AM
25

This is incest, fam.
/r/seduction23/06/16 08:23 PM
5

It all comes down to your own moral compass. Most dudes don't give a shit if the girl has a bf or not. I have those same feelings at times. At the end of the day, it comes down to what you want. If she's willing to cheat on her bf, that has nothing to do with you. There's also nothing wrong with walking away from something like that.
/r/seduction22/06/16 09:40 PM
2

It sounds like you're comfortable remaining as you are. Not sure what you're looking for here. You don't have to be social if you don't want to, but understand that it won't help if you're looking to find a girl. It's not that you can't; you just don't want it bad enough.
/r/seduction21/06/16 09:00 AM
1

I was not surprised to see the anger in the comments, lol. Good stuff, OP. Ignore the hate.
/r/seduction19/06/16 04:45 PM
5

Seems kinda strange you'd be disheartened over something that doesn't matter.
/r/seduction17/06/16 02:36 AM
1

Thank you.
/r/seduction15/06/16 03:50 PM
2

Hi. Do you think it's possible to be good at this if you're below average height? Any advice in just letting this go? I'm 5'8 and still get insecure about it at times. I want to get over this crap, but it's hard when you're always thinking about it. I really want to get good at this.
/r/seduction15/06/16 02:48 AM
5

Yo, this is the real deal.
/r/seduction12/06/16 01:30 PM
1

Thanks for replying. Yes, I agree with that completely. All of those are definitely attraction killers. I'm still pretty new to this. I've had girls that were interested in me, but they'd eventually lose interest and shift it towards other guys. Most of the time I assume it's because they're more attracted to the other guys, but I'm beginning to wonder if it's that, or if I'm just doing something to decrease their attraction. Do you think being too hesitant to make a move is something that kills…
/r/seduction09/06/16 07:50 PM
2

While I agree with the topic, couldn't this just be a case of the girl being more attracted to you than her bf? I often see guys say "well, your girl will fuck another guy when you're lame and needy", but in your story, it seems like the girl just liked you on sight. I'm not sure if there's anymore to it than not. Entertaining regardless, though.
/r/seduction07/06/16 09:03 PM
1

Yeah, this is a really nice book. I've only read a few chapters, though.
/r/seduction07/06/16 07:16 PM
2

Why would you consider guys who are trying to change their lives and become better with the opposite sex as enemies? That's rather short-sighted. I can see how you'd be jaded based on your experiences, but there's no reason to put that on a bunch of strangers who don't know you at all. If anything, a post like yours would be harmful for a newbie who's trying to get started. Please understand that.
/r/seduction07/06/16 12:15 AM
1

Never feel obligated to fuck someone you're not into. That's actually worse than not doing it at all.
/r/seduction01/06/16 11:53 PM
3

So much detail and information here. Great FR.
/r/seduction01/06/16 11:52 PM
4

Good report.
/r/seduction31/05/16 01:36 AM
2

Honestly, that's pretty fucked up she would say that. I don't know your situation, but I can see how stuff like that could have a lasting effect. Regardless of how people come off, most of them are fucked up individuals. Believe in your own self-worth. Fuck everyone else.
/r/seduction30/05/16 09:46 PM
2

People are condescending towards you? That's not cool. But on the real, I don't see an issue with your looks. You're going to get an array of reactions from people in your daily life. Some people will look at you like something is wrong with you, some won't, girls will be attracted to you, girls won't be attracted, some will feel neutral. You just have to accept that and not be bogged down by it.
/r/seduction30/05/16 08:54 PM
2

You look like a regular dude. Don't sit around identifying yourself as an ugly dude. That's a waste of time.
/r/seduction30/05/16 08:13 PM
2

You have to just trust yourself. There are no magic pills to things like this. It requires trial and error to overcome. Once you begin to trust in the process and yourself, you stop overthinking and create your momentum.
/r/seduction30/05/16 05:21 PM
2

I still have it to an extent, but it's gotten much better than it was from a few yrs ago. It's one of those things you have to actively work towards because that shit is a mental prison.
/r/seduction30/05/16 05:20 PM
12

Sounds like a fear of success to me. You know what you could be doing, but you'd rather not take a chance instead. That's no way to live life, man.
/r/seduction30/05/16 01:07 AM
3

Nope. Just focus on girls you like. That's better than resigning yourself to a certain type just because you think it'll up your chances. Some short girls wouldn't even date a short guy, yet you have average height or taller girls who don't give a damn. Therefore, it doesn't matter. Go for girls you like and go from there.
/r/seduction29/05/16 05:20 PM
4

Once you realize that no one owes you shit, you feel a lot better about things. Hopefully you'll develop a mindset based around that.
/r/seduction26/05/16 08:19 AM
1

I need to start doing this.
/r/seduction25/05/16 07:47 PM
1

Thanks for the in-depth post. It's always good to read the perspective of other guys.
/r/seduction25/05/16 05:52 AM
1

Appreciate that, man.
/r/seduction24/05/16 10:50 PM
1

Well, it sucks that they're starting shit to prove a point. I think it's stupid. However, couldn't that be because they're just shitty people in general? Since it's mainly been short guys, it makes sense that they're doing this out of jealously....I can see the pattern. Do they usually get mad for any particular (getting attention from women, etc) reason? Or is just...out of nowhere for nothing? I know you can't relate, but I feel like an answer from you could be valuable here: how does a guy th…
/r/seduction24/05/16 09:18 PM
4

How is being in great shape "overcompensating"? He's just maximizing what he has. I usually enjoy your posts, but that just seems like unnecessary gloating.
/r/seduction24/05/16 07:07 PM
2

Don't tie your identity to your height. Your height is simply one of your attributes, but don't allow it to define you. This really takes a shift in your mindset because it's easy to grow obsessed over this. I've been there. Also, try not to feel like you have to "make up for this" by overexerting yourself in another area. Do what makes you feel comfortable and just live.
/r/seduction24/05/16 07:07 PM
1

I'm glad you bounced back, bro. Keep at it.
/r/seduction14/05/16 02:18 AM
3

Unless you plan on fucking the same girls, I see no reason why it matters if they're hot or not. Focus on girls you're attracted to instead. Seriously.
/r/seduction30/04/16 05:46 PM
1

You always have those annoying doubters who just can't enjoy a story for what it is. Anyway, sounds awesome.
/r/seduction30/04/16 05:02 AM
1

Great post.
/r/seduction26/04/16 04:06 AM
6

I'd have to say it's the thoughts "she wouldn't be into me", "she looks like she has a boyfriend, "she doesn't want to be bothered" that stop me from approaching. This is one of my biggest issues that I can't see to shake no matter what.
/r/seduction21/04/16 10:02 AM
1

So proud of you. You took things into your hands and made it happen. Respect.
/r/seduction19/04/16 07:57 PM
2

Eh, I don't like how I came off, but that guy just really made me mad. I hate the victim mentality.
/r/seduction19/04/16 05:02 PM
3

Your whole persona is weak. You come here to ask for advice, don't like the advice, then throw a little pissy fit on why you hate dating. Come on. I don't need to go on dates to attract women or have sex. You, however, can't go on dates at all. You're the last person in a position to speak on anything. Like, seriously! Stop being a judgmental ass. I get that you're just a bitter dude that's angry because of his failures with women, but don't ask for help when you're going to reject the majority …
/r/seduction19/04/16 05:28 AM
2

I think it's utterly pathetic that you're a 30 yr virgin bitching because you've failed with women. Keep your judgement attitude to yourself. No one gives a shit that you suck with women. It isn't anyone's fault but your own. Stop being a victim, you weak fuck.
/r/seduction19/04/16 05:13 AM
2

The girl isn't worthless or shallow. You just hate yourself so much that you're lashing out at them as if it's their fault. I think your issues go deeper than not getting women. Hopefully you look into some help outside of Seduction. Btw, guys go on dates every single day and form strong relationships from it. You not seeing any value in it is really just your opinion. You obviously can't attract women through normal means, so just go to Backpage and get an escort if getting laid matters that mu…
/r/seduction19/04/16 04:56 AM
3

I'm interested in reading more from you. Stuff like this is really helpful, so please post more.
/r/seduction18/04/16 05:01 PM
6

Instead of coming up with 100 excuses, how about coming up with 100 reasons why you will create a good life for yourself? I think you're just stuck in the "woe is me" roller-coaster and you're doing everything in your power to stay there. You need get out of that shit mindset before you waste the rest of your life.
/r/seduction18/04/16 08:00 AM
1

Thanks for the detailed reply. Sounds like one hell of a night! Keep at it and I'm sure you'll have a lot more stories.
/r/seduction17/04/16 10:43 PM
1

Could you describe the transition to sex? Great post, btw.
/r/seduction17/04/16 09:40 PM
5

Stop making pickup a priority. Wanting to get laid if fine, but if it's in the way of you simply having a good time out, it's a problem. I've seen a lot of guys get into game and become really fucked up people over it. Just learn to find a balance.
/r/seduction10/04/16 07:39 AM
3

I never thought height was ever a big deal until I started browsing online. My height (5'8") was never something that made me think twice about approaching girl. I honestly regret reading so many topics on the matter. Height matters like everything else. You don't need to be perfect if you're not a tall guy because plenty of shorter guys who 0 issues with women. People just like to exaggerate the difficulties. Unless the guy is abnormally short, it's easy to overcome.
/r/seduction10/04/16 03:43 AM
9

Race matters depending on what area in the world you live in. Saying it doesn't would just be a lie. However, should you let the fact that you're Asian make you reconsider approaching girls you're into? Nope. Go for what you want. If they're not up for it, just keep pushing. There's nothing wrong with your race. Just eliminate that thought altogether.
/r/seduction09/04/16 06:50 PM
1

Everyone doesn't have access to a social circle.
/r/seduction08/04/16 08:29 AM
1

Awesome! Now go out there and make things happen. You got this.
/r/seduction28/03/16 11:55 PM
1

The most important thing is that you're aware. I feel like that's the key because most guys in this predicament assume everyone else has a problem and they're perfectly fine. That fact alone makes me think you'll be fine in the long-run. You just have to break out of that mental prison you've put yourself in. Ego is definitely a big part. I always felt I'd be better off protecting my fragile ego rather than expose my vulnerability. Thing is, being vulnerable is one of the best things you can do …
/r/seduction28/03/16 11:36 PM
1

Trust me, I know. It ain't an overnight process. You have to truly rewire your brain to believe this stuff and that takes work. I'm still working on many things as well, since I'm not a stranger to this way of thinking. When you read this type of stuff from others when your mind isn't in the right place, it just looks like a bunch of nonsense. I'm the same age as you and don't have as much experience as I'd like because of my own mind. It shatters dreams literally. Life already goes past us in t…
/r/seduction28/03/16 11:09 PM
1

You're about average height, and I'm an inch shorter. You just have to realize that there's really nothing to overcome. A lot of women are attracted to 6ft and over only, while many others like so many different guys of varying heights. Will there be women who won't be into you because of how you look? Yes. Will there be women who will like you? Of course. This is all true and I know that perfectly well. You're just caught up in your own reality and you need to start expanding on it more. Anyway…
/r/seduction28/03/16 10:46 PM
-1

What an overreaction over nothing.
/r/seduction25/03/16 11:27 PM
80

Are you serious? Does this girl literally have to spell out that she wants you to fuck her before you realize it's what she wants? You don't need to ask her--just show her.
/r/seduction25/03/16 02:22 AM
3

Just ask yourself this: how will I ever get better if I fear the idea of getting good? Your fears are understandable, but they're not conducive to you growing as a person. I've shared the same thoughts (what if she gets to know me and ends up disliking me?) and you just won't have fun in life thinking that way. \ Be okay with opening yourself and being vulnerable. I'm 28 now and wish I allowed myself to do that many yrs ago. You can't be afraid of the unknown.
/r/seduction23/03/16 02:22 PM
2

Awesome.
/r/seduction23/03/16 02:19 PM
0

I agree completely. Self proclaimed "nice guys" are lame as fuck.
/r/seduction23/03/16 01:22 AM
1

I love this post.
/r/seduction22/03/16 08:15 PM
2

I've been following you since the beginning and it's nice to see how far you've come since then. Keep it going.
/r/seduction22/03/16 01:40 AM
3

I'm one of those weird cases where I had girls into my all throughout my life and I was just too much of a bitch to make stuff happen. There were girls who practically spelled out that they wanted me to make a move and fuck them, but I just assumed I was imagining stuff. I feel stupid just thinking about it. I never had any issue making friends and most people seemed to think of me as a likable guy despite my ridiculous amount of anxiety. Overall, this is a good post. I can't live with anymore r…
/r/seduction18/03/16 04:54 AM
1

I've been reading a book (I seriously need to finish this one) titled "Feel the fear and do it anyway". It's pretty good and highlights many of the issues I have. As you can guess, the gist of the book is to accept the fear for what it is a push through. So hopefully that'll help me.
/r/seduction16/03/16 08:17 PM
1

My fears are stupid, but it's hard to get rid of them.
/r/seduction16/03/16 03:08 PM
2

Do you learn from your failures, though?
/r/seduction07/03/16 07:18 AM
2

This is the truth.
/r/seduction07/03/16 01:07 AM
6

Most of this can vary depending on where you live. However, for the most part, you're making it a bigger issue than it really is. You're simply overthinking. If they've given you no reason so far to assume your race is an issue, then there's no reason for you to believe it is.
/r/seduction02/03/16 02:56 AM
14

That's certainly not how it is for me. I usually just bitch up because I really didn't expect her to see me that way. It makes you feel good, but when you don't feel worthy of her, you'll do everything in your power to sabotage it. It's stupid.
/r/seduction01/03/16 04:17 PM
4

This has happened to me a lot. It's possible that the girl is attracted to you, but it's also possible that she's just a cool girl who likes to brighten up someone's day by smiling at them. Some things aren't meant to be looked at too deeply.
/r/seduction27/02/16 05:19 PM
1

Chill. You look like a normal guy. Your attitude needs a lot of work, though.
/r/seduction27/02/16 05:18 PM
1

Sucks. It's normal to feel down when this happens. However, you can't get so caught up in these girls so early. You hardly know them. Give it some time. I know it can seem like you're building attraction on the surface, but most of the time it's nothing more than good conversation. Keep at it.
/r/seduction26/02/16 08:24 PM
8

Congrats, bro. Glad you got over that hurdle.
/r/seduction22/02/16 06:45 AM
3

Remove "can't" from your vocabulary. It isn't that you can't, it's just you're too accustomed to making excuses.
/r/seduction20/02/16 10:58 AM
2

We need more posts like this.
/r/seduction19/02/16 10:48 PM
3

Great FR. I understand the importance of eye contact, but I suck at it so badly.
/r/seduction17/02/16 11:37 AM
1

No one's worried about you as much as you think. It's just paranoia.
/r/seduction16/02/16 03:35 AM
23

This was so awesome to read. It just shows what's possible when you don't overthink and go for it.
/r/seduction16/02/16 12:28 AM
6

It isn't terrible. You took action and got somewhere. It might not paint the perfect picture, but a FR like this will help many more people than you think.
/r/seduction15/02/16 07:08 PM
1

I agree completely.
/r/seduction13/02/16 09:45 PM
3

Your looks aren't the issue. This isn't no feel good shit I'm just saying. You really look fine, but you look so gloomy in your pics. The only thing lacking is your energy. There's no reason why you can't get girls.
/r/seduction06/02/16 07:00 AM
1

No matter how old you are, you faced your fears like a man and nothing bad happened. You're good. Girls are human. You might feel super nervous, but they're just as nervous as you--if not more. Keep it up.
/r/seduction05/02/16 05:34 PM
1

This is too real.
/r/seduction04/02/16 10:46 PM
1

Good analysis.
/r/seduction03/02/16 10:31 PM
3

Stop overthinking. You have an opportunity to get some pussy. Go for it instead of thinking about what could go wrong. Do you want to keep sabotaging things to the point where you'll be a 40 yr old virgin? I think not. Let go and do something different for once.
/r/seduction03/02/16 08:32 AM
1

It isn't common at all. My guess is those guys are acting like the typical PUA weirdo that doesn't know when to take a hike or tone down the approaches in a certain area. There's always a chance of a cool guy with social intuition somehow alerting security as well, but that's very unlikely. So unless you plan on using this as a reason to not approach, don't think too much about those stories, as they're often isolated. I see certain guys follow girls around while talking to them in stores when t…
/r/seduction02/02/16 08:24 AM
3

If actual STD's can go undetected from tests conducted in a professional setting, I dunno why you think some Therano test at Walgreens is somehow infallible. But hey, if that's a suitable solution for you, then cool.
/r/seduction02/02/16 02:49 AM
3

You're overthinking it. Sure, it's a factor that can impact ones outlook when it comes to engaging in sex, but everything requires you to take a chance. If you're that scared, remain abstinent forever to guarantee you'll never catch an STD. Don't want to do that? Then just do your best to take precaution and live your life. Stuff like this will just hold you back from enjoying an awesome sex life--and you'll undoubtedly be pretty bitter looking back on your 20's. I suggest you step out of that l…
/r/seduction02/02/16 01:01 AM
11

That's okay. You learned from the situation and that's all that matters.
/r/seduction01/02/16 11:15 PM
1

Great report. Sounds like she was into you right from the jump, which always makes things go smoothly. Cool.
/r/seduction01/02/16 07:19 PM
17

I don't care. Half-black guy here. But seriously, with the amount of women in the world, it doesn't even matter.
/r/seduction01/02/16 07:13 PM
1

Sounds like you need to learn how to get out of your own way.
/r/seduction29/01/16 09:25 PM
6

Doesn't matter. He's supposed to be your friend. Imagine if you were the oblivious guy and your girl started dating your friend. I'm pretty sure you'd hate your friend and become pretty bitter because of it. You wouldn't appreciate a so called "friend" doing that to you, so why would you? But hey, do what makes you happy.
/r/seduction29/01/16 12:11 AM
1

This is really the only thing we need to read.
/r/seduction28/01/16 09:29 AM
2

Great stuff.
/r/seduction25/01/16 10:26 PM
0

Just put your real height. It's you. Why omit it? Better to know you and the girl aren't wasting each others time because you're not compatible with each other.
/r/seduction25/01/16 07:09 PM
10

I always thought that was lame. I've seen dudes call girls sluts because they were fucking some dude they knew, but the real reason was because they weren't fucking them.
/r/seduction25/01/16 08:46 AM
1

Not gamey, just natural. This is what we're made to do. Great post.
/r/seduction24/01/16 08:30 PM
1

Fear of success. You're not at a point in your life where you feel as though women being into you is natural. When your normal reality (women not being that into you) is challenged, you get uncomfortable and go right back into your usual mindset. I've had the same issue, but the difference is I didn't lose attraction for those women; I just thought the idea of them liking me was BS. You have to learn to stay out of your own way and just understand that women like men as much as men like women. G…
/r/seduction23/01/16 03:09 AM
2

Damn, that's cool.
/r/seduction22/01/16 05:17 AM
2

Sometimes they do, sometimes they don't. There'll be times where she'll look at you because she likes the way you look, while there are times where she'll look just because she feels like it. Talk to her and find out.
/r/seduction21/01/16 10:30 PM
8

You overthink. Relax and live.
/r/seduction15/01/16 11:45 PM
2

It sounds to me like you're on the right track. You just to hang around different groups of people to grow more comfortable being around men and women. Becoming a better conversationalist and clicking with people is a skill that anyone can attain as long as they work at it. Nothing wrong with going to meetups. If anything, it'll help you improve because you'll always be around strangers. You're all you need. Don't ever forget that.
/r/seduction14/01/16 01:16 AM
1

Whenever I hear about naturals, it just makes me feel like I won't ever have what it takes to be an attractive man........
/r/seduction14/01/16 12:58 AM
34

Man, I've allowed this thought to control most of my life. I'm such a bitch to the point where it hurts. Argh. Thanks for posting, Tony.
/r/seduction13/01/16 12:30 AM
1

I agree completely. Some of those guys don't believe they're making mistakes. Most of them are just convinced that no woman will ever like them.
/r/seduction12/01/16 05:38 PM
2

Happy B-day.
/r/seduction11/01/16 10:56 PM
9

Good shit. I've seen some suggest that constant rejection does more harm than good, but that beats doing nothing.
/r/seduction11/01/16 09:47 PM
1

I really am. This fact becomes more and more obvious everyday. I hate feeling like this....
/r/seduction11/01/16 09:04 PM
3

"I understand. Well, it was nice talking to you anyway. Have a good day." Nothing wrong with that. Some people try too hard to be cool when it isn't necessary.
/r/seduction11/01/16 07:21 PM
3

That group sounds like a great idea.
/r/seduction10/01/16 09:26 PM
2

Not much to say. You already know what needs to be done with women in the future. Your problem, like mine, is that you overthink things that are supposed to be natural to you.
/r/seduction09/01/16 10:04 PM
2

I hear you. I can say I always spent most of my time reading theory, watching videos, and reading FR's thinking I could assimilate all of that information and be ready for every situation. Not happening. You have to put yourself in those situations to learn from them, or you'll gain nothing in the process. Most of us fear failure. I've feared it most of my life, but I know it's just a dumb mentality to have. By not approaching that girl, I'm saving myself from a potential rejection, but that's w…
/r/seduction09/01/16 08:19 PM
10

Great post. You're totally right. We have to accept that failure is apart of growth, even though it sucks.
/r/seduction09/01/16 07:44 PM
2

Thing is, you can't live your life like that. I'm scared of herpes and accidental pregnancies. It's okay to feel this way, but don't let it get you to a point where you just hold-back and never get the enjoyment you want from women. Some people are nasty and fuck around despite knowing they have something, but that's just how some people are. Go after the women you find attractive and take proper precaution. That's all you can do. Limiting your pool to virgin girls is unrealistic and not really …
/r/seduction08/01/16 09:19 PM
2

Understood. Could you explain a bit more on becoming that guy?
/r/seduction08/01/16 07:54 AM
1

I have the same issue. You have to continuously train yourself by being in these situations with women. If you spend so much time overthinking, you'll never enjoy your life.
/r/seduction07/01/16 08:25 PM
2

I was everything but healthy in my teen yrs. I was also a lot shorter before growing a little bit. I'm 5'8" now and really don't care about it anymore. If you don't accept your height, you'll just spend all your time wishing you were taller. Let it go and focus on the now. Life is too short (no pun, seriously) for this nonsense.
/r/seduction07/01/16 09:28 AM
8

Love your style of writing. This FR is well detailed and a good read. Great outcome.
/r/seduction06/01/16 07:42 AM
2

Did you actually read his first reply? The first thing mentioned is plastic surgery. This is obviously a disguised "looks matter" topic. We've heard it already. Uh, most of that stuff has been covered (things we can change) on Seddit millions of times already. The only people who assume everything on Seddit is based around tricks and techniques are those who clearly don't read enough of the topics here.
/r/seduction06/01/16 01:07 AM
3

There's always a guy who lurks Seddit and makes a post saying "Approaching is not effective if you're lacking good looks, height, muscles, wealth, status, etc" all the time. This is nothing new. It's just a different title. You can believe it's false information, but that's just your opinion. Countless experiences say otherwise.
/r/seduction06/01/16 12:03 AM
2

So again, why are you posting this on Seddit? Why does it matter to you if PUA is an effective tactic or not? PUA works for a lot of people, so it's not like you can speak for everyone, anyway.
/r/seduction05/01/16 11:13 PM
5

What is the point of posting this here? Guys are here to get better with women, not hear why they'll never have any chance with women. Stuff like this is utterly useless on Seddit because it isn't helpful to the majority of its readers.
/r/seduction05/01/16 11:05 PM
1

That's cool. At least you were chill about it. Some guys actually get super pissed and send a petty ass texts to make themselves feel better. You did the right thing. In the meantime, on to the next!
/r/seduction05/01/16 03:45 AM
1

Are you actually willing to continue talking to her if the opportunity was there? Or are you looking to just forget about her altogether? Because she might be down to meet another time.
/r/seduction05/01/16 03:11 AM
1

I know how you feel. Did she say anything after the cancel text?
/r/seduction05/01/16 02:59 AM
2

I guess it depends. Most guys probably wouldn't be too open to the idea knowing your husband still lives there. Even considering that, you can still suggest hanging out. If things go well, I'm sure the transition to his home would be quite easy. Heck, he might invite you over to his place right off the bat. That would be the perfect outcome. Seeing as how you can sense the attraction between you two, you literally have nothing to lose. Give it a try and see where it goes.
/r/seduction05/01/16 02:56 AM
2

That's so annoying! I know she doesn't know you, but I can still understand your frustration. Most girls that bring a friend just seem to do it because they're not entirely comfortable showing up alone. At least you're not letting it get you down. This happens pretty often.
/r/seduction05/01/16 01:44 AM
2

Bring up the idea of hanging out. Or better, invite him over to your house for some drinks. Sex would pretty much be inevitable at that point.
/r/seduction05/01/16 01:28 AM
18

What in the actual fuck?
/r/seduction04/01/16 10:33 PM
2

No. It's called making strong eye contact. Nothing wrong with that.
/r/seduction04/01/16 06:01 PM
1

You don't need to be upset about it. Be glad those women didn't waste anymore of your time. Those particular women aren't a representation of women as a while, so there's no reason to lose respect for them. The women that deserve your respect should get it, and those who don't shouldn't get it. That's what it comes down to.
/r/seduction03/01/16 09:53 PM
8

Well, you tried. That's better than nothing. On to the next!
/r/seduction03/01/16 07:34 PM
1

Scary, but very necessary in growing.
/r/seduction03/01/16 07:25 PM
1

Hi. I'm not injured. I've recently have gotten back to lifting and I'm looking to stay with it this time. For some reason, I often stop when I'm getting into a good flow. I really need to stop doing that, because all it shows is that my dedication isn't where it should be. Usually when things get a bit tough, I do what I can do avoid it. I now realize that doing this will keep me right where I'm at. I'm good when it comes to dressing, but I can do better in that area as well. I'll be honest and …
/r/seduction02/01/16 09:09 AM
1

Yeah, I agree 100%. I'm going to make it a point to get rejected and pursue the unknown. Running (something I've done for the last several years) is no longer an option for me. Thanks for the reply.
/r/seduction02/01/16 06:02 AM
27

Realize that height is an advantage. It's far better to be meeting up with a girl at 6'8" than it is to meet up with a girl at 5'2". Remember that.
/r/seduction01/01/16 08:28 PM
3

Amazing story. Most guys dream of being in situations like this.
/r/seduction31/12/15 05:28 PM
12

Dude, you're just encouraging me to to really go out and grab life by the horns even more. Most of the time, I feel a quick surge of motivation...only to end up letting myself down. Sometimes you just need to talk to certain people to help remove that seal you've placed upon yourself for so long. One thing I've always thought about was being on my deathbed and thinking about the many regrets I have. I remember when this life coach said "Yeah, you might be able to say you've never been rejected, …
/r/seduction31/12/15 08:23 AM
10

Thank you for the helpful reply, friend. All of this is true and I need to seriously understand it. I'm going to make that step. Whenever I feel that resistance to retreat back to my comfort zone, I have to remind myself that I'm stopping myself from growing, stopping myself from being what I was meant to be. I hate that feeling and don't want to experience it anymore. Someday, another time, maybe tomorrow are the words I've lived by for yrs. It's awful, but like you said, I need to learn from n…
/r/seduction31/12/15 07:50 AM
48

Wow, this is a great question. Honestly, if I had no fear at all, I wouldn't stop myself every time I was about to do something significant. Most great jobs that I had an opportunity at getting I avoided because I was so worried about fucking up. I've allowed my negative thoughts to sabotage just about everything I had hopes for in my life. Now? I'm a 28 yr old guy that hasn't done the things I wish I would've done. I do the same shit every single day. No excitement, nothing new. I have high hop…
/r/seduction31/12/15 06:55 AM
32

I need to just make this a reality. So often I think about how awesome it'd feel to take action and live my life with no regrets--then I fall back into my procrastination and don't do anything. I don't want to waste another yr doing nothing. I have to stop that.
/r/seduction31/12/15 06:34 AM
1

Damn. Great answer.
/r/seduction31/12/15 06:19 AM
3

Stuff like that happens all the time. I even see older women hit on younger guys. It's not a big deal.
/r/seduction31/12/15 01:03 AM
5

You'll feel a lot better going out than you would staying in your house doing nothing. As long as you're out there, you have the opportunity to create an unforgettable night. That's impossible if you stay in the house. Let that encourage you.
/r/seduction30/12/15 10:07 PM
2

You have nothing to be self-conscious about when it comes to your height. Believe me when I tell you most guys would move mountains (or at least try to) to be anywhere close to your height. Many women prefer 5'10" and up, and I'm only 5'8". However, I've accepted my height for what it is and try to improve as an individual. That's all you can do. I wish I had a better answer, but most of have certain encounters on our path where nothing makes sense. I'd say that's where you are; trying to figure…
/r/seduction29/12/15 09:22 PM
1

To be fair, a lot of guys have been where you're at...in terms of thinking women hate them. I've had times where it seemed like my presence wasn't enough to get any attention at all. I felt invisible at times, and really unattractive at other times based. But of course, there'd be other times where I'd get really strong signs of attraction from women despite looking exactly the same and not changing anything about my look. That's when I began to realize my body language is playing a part in the …
/r/seduction29/12/15 09:05 PM
1

Dude, you look fine. Don't you think you're being a bit obsessive about women hating you because of your looks. You have a good smile, good height, and you look normal. You should be way ahead of the game. I wish I was 6'4".
/r/seduction29/12/15 08:39 PM
1

Thank you so much, bro!! I wanted to hear this so bad. I need to really take risks, because your story made me think about the countless nights where if I had only took a risk, a different outcome might've taken place. You just went for it without a second thought, whereas people like me try to think out every fucking step of what to do. Again, thank you for elaborating on your story. This is awesome stuff.
/r/seduction29/12/15 07:40 PM
2

Yeah, because complaining is so much better.
/r/seduction28/12/15 10:06 PM
1

Not equal. I'm saying I know for a fact I've been disregarded because I wasn't at least 5'10". I'm not making a big deal about it, though. Am I taller than you? Yeah. Am I below average height? Yeah. So I'm still short, even though I got you by a few inches. Seems like you're obsessed with height, which is ashame. Answer my question.
/r/seduction28/12/15 08:58 PM
1

What's the issue? Better question: how many women have directly rejected you because of your height?
/r/seduction28/12/15 08:44 PM
1

I'm still below average, which is 5'10" in the US. Most women say 5'10" and up or 6' and up. I'm neither. Besides, it's 2 inches above you. It's not like I'm way taller. The same perception you'll get from women who dislike short guys is the same perception I'll most likely get.
/r/seduction28/12/15 08:35 PM
1

Go to Egypt and get leg-lengthening surgery, then. Or elevator shoes. If you're not down to work on your problem, then why bother complaining about? This is exactly why short guys get slammed because of this sorta attitude.
/r/seduction28/12/15 08:12 PM
1

I'm 5'8". Who cares? No sense fretting over something that's otherwise permanent outside of extreme surgery. Honestly, your post just sounds like you're looking for excuses.
/r/seduction28/12/15 08:10 PM
15

Words of wisdom. This thought was actually on my mind last night. I've spent most of my life running and just hoping certain problems and fears would go away, but it's clear that I need to start confronting them if I'm ever going to get anywhere in life. Hope to read your story another time. Thanks.
/r/seduction27/12/15 06:37 PM
2

Comparison logic is a waste of time. We all have a different road in life. It's easy to compare yourself to what's on paper, but it's so much deeper than that. I feel like you'll just necessarily make yourself feel more and more depressed focusing on things like that.
/r/seduction27/12/15 09:48 AM
8

I doubt it. Casual sex has been around forever. FWB and ONS are just the terms used nowadays. Very unlikely that the PUA culture is to blame for any of this. Village leaders would fuck countless women back in the day and often impregnate them to mark their territory. More emphasis is on the pleasurable aspect of sex nowadays, since porn, sex toys, and other things are so prominent nowadays. Just a sign of the times.
/r/seduction27/12/15 06:27 AM
1

Could you describe the "mixed success" part?
/r/seduction24/12/15 07:14 AM
1

Good stuff. I just joined my city's Inner Circle. I need to get this handled now.
/r/seduction24/12/15 06:31 AM
1

Hmmm...in that case, it comes down to what you want. Yes, it'll feel good to fuck this hotty, but are you willing to deal with the tons of drama that you might deal with because of it? If you're okay with taking the risk, you should just do it and see what happens. In all likelihood, she might not even say anything. I guess it depends how she feels. She might throw it in his face if he annoys her, but it's also possible she might feel bad about it down the line. Just see how far you can take it …
/r/seduction24/12/15 01:00 AM
2

If you want to fuck her, then do it. You don't owe this guy anything. He ain't your friend. And no, I'm not an asshole. Fact is, most people in relationships go outside of it and fuck on a daily. Most guys here have probably unknowingly fucked a woman that was in a relationship, or have come close to doing it. So if she's showing you all of those signs, physically escalate and go from there. I don't think you need to worry about the dude. This is the type of thing that should only be between you…
/r/seduction23/12/15 11:28 PM
1

Indicator of Interest.
/r/seduction23/12/15 02:36 AM
5

What's funny is that this is easy to understand, but very hard to put in play.
/r/seduction22/12/15 10:52 PM
3

Why don't you go out and try it yourself? That's better than overthinking, anyway.
/r/seduction22/12/15 07:20 PM
1

Appreciate the shout out, homie. Money topic. This is exactly what I'm working on now. I remember when I'd get caught up in a girl I liked, then just get nowhere with it because I sucked at reading signs. It was awful and I feel cringy just thinking about it. I've lost count of the amount of opportunities I ruined because I was just too blind to see when the girl wanted me to physically escalate. I've also lost count of the amount of time I wasted on girls that weren't feeling me at all. I'm far…
/r/seduction22/12/15 07:15 PM
13

Good FR. This sounds like one of those instances where the girl is just into you from the jump, so all you have to do is act natural and let stuff happen without fucking up. That's awesome.
/r/seduction21/12/15 09:04 PM
1

Dude, could you please give me more details? This shit sounds wild. I'm genuinely curious about it. How did it end? Did she ever say anything? I always find stories like this interesting and can learn from them as well.
/r/seduction21/12/15 02:08 AM
1

Those guys are best ignored.
/r/seduction19/12/15 11:17 PM
2

For most guys (even good looking ones), getting girls is a numbers game. A girl that's probably average in your eyes could reject you horribly, yet that stunning girl could be receptive to your advances based on how you make her feel while talking to her. Maybe you've already seduced the girl based on how you look, but I'll assure you that it's a process for many other guys. I don't agree that 95% of the outcome or luck is already decided before you try. That's just an arbitrary percentage. Fact…
/r/seduction19/12/15 10:56 PM
1

I apologize for my comment. I was out of line. Hopefully the issues you have with women will decrease and you'll develop a more healthy mindset towards him. Hate is never a good thing. Later.
/r/seduction18/12/15 10:42 PM
5

That's certainly not what I'm going for. You're just complaining a whole lot. You're a grown man bitching about how women act. Seriously. You think this is going to change anything? It's not. People deal with crap from the opposite gender every single day. You're not a special snowflake.
/r/seduction18/12/15 08:31 PM
3

You sound like a lil bitch. Some people are assholes--it's the way of the world. Both genders treat each other like shit, so stop trying to make women out to be the enemy. If a woman treats you like shit, just forget about her and move on to the next. You're not the only one who has to deal with nonsense. This way of thinking you're displaying is disgusting and doesn't even belong here.
/r/seduction18/12/15 07:48 PM
1

If you want to eat the pussy, do it. If you don't want to eat the pussy, don't do it. That's pretty much all that matters.
/r/seduction18/12/15 01:54 AM
4

Wow. No build-up to the fuck? Just straight raw like that? Did she say anything? Please give us a bit more detail.
/r/seduction16/12/15 07:04 PM
1

I was just thinking about this today. All I do is admire the life many others guys have, as if I don't have hopes of building a great life for myself. I'm tired of just seeing over people so amazing things while I don't do shit. It seems sooooo hard to change, but it's something I truly want to do.
/r/seduction16/12/15 06:04 PM
0

Approach them. You might not see guys that resemble yourself having success, but that doesn't mean you can't be the example.
/r/seduction15/12/15 11:49 PM
2

I never said anything about you being racist, but it's obvious there's a racial undertone to your "advice". Way too obvious. Also, there's nothing genuine about going for "fat chicks with daddy issues" at all. I dunno if you were trying to be funny or cool, but it's clear it was hella try-hard.
/r/seduction15/12/15 06:03 PM
3

Get the fuck outta here with that stupid shit.
/r/seduction15/12/15 05:41 PM
2

I suppose it depends on the woman. If she's super into you at that point, it probably wouldn't matter. There's a good chance she'd be turned off by the fact that you even had to wear them. Probably best to not wear lifts. Yeah, the boosted height would feel good, but it's an illusion at the end of the day.
/r/seduction15/12/15 04:06 PM
9

Some guys are just naturally good with women while others need an extra push to get somewhere. It doesn't mean (there's plenty of shitty PUA stuff tho) that the stuff on Seddit isn't good. This stuff works quite well for many guys looking to improve in this area. This is almost the equivalent of asking a "natural" what is it that he does that draws women to him--and you get the generic "Just be yourself" which is terrible advice when yourself has sucked with women for most of your life. This isn…
/r/seduction15/12/15 12:21 AM
1

Keep pushing. Pain is temporary.
/r/seduction14/12/15 12:00 AM
2

You start this journey by understanding that you'll continue living your life in regret by not doing anything. No amount of books or videos will help you. Motivation comes from within. If you want a fruitful journey, start one. And stop overthinking.
/r/seduction13/12/15 11:36 PM
1

Looks matter, personality matters, style matters, everything matters. Arbitrarily saying looks count for 60% doesn't make the point any more accurate. That's just your opinion. This stuff is not as black and white as people want to believe.
/r/seduction13/12/15 05:54 PM
1

I meant potentially fucking you. Has there ever been any signs in that regard?
/r/seduction12/12/15 08:48 PM
1

Well, that sucks. I hope your friend reconsiders his "relationship" with this girl because he's being played like a sucker. Can't even use the "love is blind" excuse because this isn't love to begin with. Has she ever shown you any signs that she'd be open to potentially fucking? Because that really might be the wake up call he needs.
/r/seduction12/12/15 08:38 PM
2

I agree that it's his fault, but it can be easy for some people to fall into this trap. That isn't an excuse, of course. Unfortunately stuff like this can be pretty common. Is she fucking other dudes? If so, does he know?
/r/seduction12/12/15 06:55 PM
2

I feel sorry for that guy, as I've somewhat been in a situation like that. Nowhere near as bad, but I was just blind about things. Hopefully he gets his mind right and understands that this is a waste of time.
/r/seduction12/12/15 06:37 PM
1

Perhaps you should work on your style. I'm not sure, as there's not enough information to go on. Do you ever try to make eye contact with women when you're out?
/r/seduction11/12/15 06:11 AM
1

Good quote.
/r/seduction10/12/15 08:25 PM
9

I walk towards a girl, make eye contact, tell myself this is it...then do absolutely nothing and complain about it on Seddit. Gay, gay, gay.
/r/seduction10/12/15 07:55 PM
2

I always thought the rating system was stupid. Never thought it sounded cool. It's even funnier when someone says HB3, as if that makes sense.
/r/seduction09/12/15 10:27 PM
5

Awesome. Posts like this are great, but it makes you realize how lame your existence is. I can't imagine doing 1% of the things mentioned here.
/r/seduction09/12/15 09:06 AM
6

Not if your self-esteem really sucks.
/r/seduction09/12/15 04:30 AM
4

That's a load of shit. Good looking guys have a much easier time attracting women. All they have to do is not be a moron and fuck it up. A less attractive guy has to do his best to not fuck up the interaction since he's walking on eggshells from the jump.
/r/seduction08/12/15 09:54 AM
1

It's just too convenient to blame things on your height. I'm 5'8 and wish I was taller as well. However, it's something you have to just get over. You're depriving yourself of a fun life by focusing on something that's out of your control. What exactly are women doing to show how much they dislike your height?
/r/seduction08/12/15 09:38 AM
1

You look at things strictly from a black & white perspective. You're a virgin simply because you haven't put yourself in the right situation to fuck a girl yet. Not because your friends are too handsome and hog all the attention. Do you even try to insert yourself into the conversation? Kinda hard imaging them just ignoring you entirely. It's silly to just focus on the fact that looks matter. Everything matters.
/r/seduction06/12/15 08:51 PM
2

This is the standard I want to live by. What a great topic.
/r/seduction05/12/15 10:28 AM
11

Well, shit. I have no comeback.
/r/seduction04/12/15 07:32 PM
7

I just gave an honest answer. Not sure what the issue is.
/r/seduction04/12/15 04:55 PM
12

Not at all. Why? Because I'm a bitch. Because I'm still a bitch. And...you guessed it. I'm a bitch.
/r/seduction04/12/15 04:17 PM
1

Have you ever had to deal with a lot of rejection throughout your journey? Just wondering.
/r/seduction04/12/15 12:19 AM
1

It's so awesome reading transformations like this. Sometimes I feel like it's not possible for me to make any significant changes like that, but I know that's just excuses.
/r/seduction03/12/15 11:18 PM
1

Not the worst luck. You just make too many excuses. Your post reeks of someone who overthinks and gets in his own way. Trust me, I know that feeling all too well. If you never make a move, you'll never be rejected. Sounds good, right? Well, not really. Just means you've never taken any risks.
/r/seduction03/12/15 10:03 PM
12

So she fucked some guys in the past. Her life didn't begin when she met you. Get over it or find someone else. I don't see the point in continuing if you're going to always think about the other guys she was with. Seems like you're just never going to get over it, which means it's your problem at the end of the day. It's stupid. No one can just make you change your mindset; that's something you'll have to do. But yeah, stop torturing your mind with shit that happened before you were in the pictu…
/r/seduction03/12/15 07:26 PM
1

You're 100% right. Glad you came back and gave a more detailed post about it.
/r/seduction03/12/15 08:15 AM
12

Have fun. That's the most important part.
/r/seduction02/12/15 09:02 PM
1

That's pretty easy to say, but when your self-esteem is literally at the bottom, it's pretty hard to utilize this information. You don't need to feel sorry for him, but it's good to at least understand where certain people are coming from when they try to implement this. Practicing this stuff is what everyone should do, but that in itself can be hard for certain people to do. What's certain is that a lot of this is far outside of the reality of lots of men.
/r/seduction02/12/15 02:18 AM
3

Should've fucked the girl, man.
/r/seduction01/12/15 10:31 PM
2

If you don't tell him, I guarantee it's going to eat you up inside. You said he's your "best friend", so I'm assuming you actually care about the guy. Just saying that you're a douche is too easy. Forget yourself and walk in his shoes for a second. Would you want your "best friend" to continue harboring a secret like that while smiling in your face as if everything is all good. Sure, there's a lot of risk involved, but you helped create the situation into what it is. It just sucks seeing how som…
/r/seduction30/11/15 02:37 AM
2

Yep. Sometimes that's what it takes.
/r/seduction29/11/15 07:02 PM
0

Damn, that sucks.
/r/seduction29/11/15 04:28 AM
67

Far more effective than overthinking with shit lines any day of the week.
/r/seduction29/11/15 12:02 AM
2

If you're doing this to get back at women, you're in it for all the wrong reasons. That part of your life is over. Let it go.
/r/seduction27/11/15 05:45 PM
2

Make a move on her if it's something you actually want to do. If you don't want to sleep with her, then don't. Some girls are just better off as friends.
/r/seduction26/11/15 05:31 PM
4

Well, you said that you think seeking higher value women is a waste of time, so I didn't think it would've been worth suggesting. You can either keep banging bimbos and keep feeling like you do or seek better women. That's about it.
/r/seduction25/11/15 06:46 PM
15

Would you feel better if you were constantly being rejected by them? Didn't think so. Women have issues just as much as us men. If you're disgusted with them, you should be equally disgusted with yourself. I can see where you're coming from, but there's no point of being frustrated when you're spending time pursuing those women.
/r/seduction25/11/15 05:54 PM
1

Elevator shoes is so dumb. At some point the shoes will have to come off. You'll just end up looking like a total dumbass. If I wear anything with 4 inches or more, I'll be at 6'0" or over. I'll just look stupid once they come off. Hitting the gym makes more sense because you can actually better yourself through that method.
/r/seduction25/11/15 01:52 AM
-3

It isn't too long at all. Great post.
/r/seduction24/11/15 05:41 AM
2

I think some girls really aren't accustomed to being complimented like that. What's funny is I've come across girls who are literally stunning. Like, ridiculously beautiful--and they'll say they're never approached or complimented whenever they're out. The majority of their compliments are likes and the generic "cute" or "sexy" comments on their pics. Most of these girls are lonely, too. I couldn't believe it, but when more than a handful of them seem to have a similar story, it begins to make y…
/r/seduction23/11/15 06:21 PM
1

I honestly was expecting better reactions from the women based on your comment alone. After watching the video, those reactions were hardly impressive at all. An "ugly" guy could easily get the same as that because it's not much to begin with.
/r/seduction23/11/15 05:15 PM
2

"low height" Not sure how this would be within our control, but okay.
/r/seduction23/11/15 08:27 AM
1

I think people misunderstand Game at times. On the outside looking in, it appears as if it's a manipulative tactic to get women in bed, but it's the exact opposite of that. It's simply giving you the tools to interact with women in a way to have fun, develop a connection, and get your intentions across in a cool way. This is especially important if you've never been good in that area. People are too quick to shun what it is without trying to understand what it means. You'll probably do good by r…
/r/seduction22/11/15 10:10 PM
1

Yeah, allowing myself to be vulnerable would be a big stepping-stone for someone like me. I know I have it in me to feel the fear and do it anyway, but sometimes it's hard to create that strong momentum, you know? I can tell you what my biggest issue is. Outside of my genuine fear, it's just....not doing anything. What's funny is that I'm finding the idea of never taking action to be more fearful than taking action and failing. I've grown so accustomed to doing nothing. Whenever I read a good FR…
/r/seduction19/11/15 10:55 PM
1

Thank you. Those are wise words to live by.
/r/seduction19/11/15 10:38 PM
1

Appreciate the post, bro. I was just feeling pretty down about how bad my way of thinking has become with this stuff. It's stupid, but sometimes I just feel like crap for being bad at this stuff that seemingly comes natural for others. Just a bitch moment on my end. What you said is pretty on-point.
/r/seduction19/11/15 10:24 PM
2

Thanks a lot, man. I was in one of my self-loathing moods where I feel like I'm the worst, most unattractive guy ever. I find it's easy to fall into that trap once you start feeling sorry for yourself. Everything you said makes perfect sense. I've tried my damnedest to avoid failure and it's gotten me nowhere in life.
/r/seduction19/11/15 10:22 PM
1

That makes sense. Someone like me would see those guys get rejected and I'd never even consider going near those girls. You didn't give a shit and found a way around that. How do you develop that mindset? The first thing on my mind is to run when I'm unsure about things. I hate that. And most of my fear of rejection is based on fantasy. I probably read too many horror stories.
/r/seduction19/11/15 09:24 PM
1

What if she just naturally likes to smile at people? I've had countless girls smile at me and hold eye contact, but they probably weren't attracted to me. No way of telling now, though. I'm trying to find a rejection proof way of approaching a girl without it potentially being awkward. So far, I am not finding it. It's getting frustrating.
/r/seduction19/11/15 08:43 PM
1

What is the best hint of attraction? I honestly want to know.
/r/seduction19/11/15 05:54 PM
1

Gotta work on your mindset. Life is not that black and white. If you go after women you're not into, you'll still feel alone at the end of the day. That wouldn't be good for you or her.
/r/seduction19/11/15 05:43 PM
4

The more you get rejected and realize that it's inevitable, the more you slowly but surely grow immune to it. It'll still sting, but not as bad as before.
/r/seduction19/11/15 05:41 PM
3

Thank you for this.
/r/seduction19/11/15 12:38 AM
1

You don't need to divide your time in-between one and the other. In the end, improving yourself with the opposite sex falls under self-improvement, anyway. You have to make time--even if it's just 1 day out of a week. There's no way you'll change your situation if you're not out there meeting them.
/r/seduction18/11/15 03:35 AM
2

I respect the hustle. Keep us updated.
/r/seduction17/11/15 09:50 PM
3

Then fuck daygame. You already have a goldmine of more quality pussy.
/r/seduction17/11/15 09:37 PM
2

You did 8 approaches. Think about that for a second. How frequently are you pulling 8's and 9's at parties?
/r/seduction17/11/15 08:09 PM
1

Thanks for this.
/r/seduction17/11/15 06:51 PM
3

Tell her she looked more approachable than the others.
/r/seduction17/11/15 06:48 PM
3

Perhaps you look a lot better than you think? Just because you don't think you're a handsome guy doesn't mean women will share the same opinion. Start believing in yourself and giving yourself a fair chance by approaching. None of this stuff will matter if you don't at least try.
/r/seduction17/11/15 12:37 AM
3

Everything doesn't require a response.
/r/seduction16/11/15 08:25 PM
11

Yo, that was a great FR. I've been in that situation before. Felt like shit knowing I didn't make it happen, but felt good knowing that I could've if I wanted.
/r/seduction16/11/15 07:18 PM
11

Being bitter sucks. I'm over that phase, but I know what it's like to feel like that. A complete waste of energy.
/r/seduction16/11/15 06:56 PM
5

Everything counts. I don't think anyone really believes that it doesn't matter at all. Just that you don't have to be a pretty boy to be successful.
/r/seduction16/11/15 05:46 PM
4

Actually, the way you feel is more common than you think. Most well-rounded people would prefer to have an equal amount of looks and personality in a woman. Now for those who are just looking to boost their lay count couldn't care less about intelligence--but those who are seeking a real connection do. So no, you're not fucked up. There's nothing wrong with it.
/r/seduction16/11/15 03:36 AM
2

Accept that punch in the gut and allow it to push your forward. Giving up is way too easy of an option that'll have an even worse effect. Stuff like this sucks, but understand that it happens.
/r/seduction15/11/15 08:44 AM
0

Just be happy that you've moving forward in the right direction. Some people never have success with women in any form. And yes, you can still get with younger women in your 30's. Stop thinking otherwise.
/r/seduction15/11/15 03:43 AM
1

Awesome. Keep us updated.
/r/seduction13/11/15 10:43 PM
8

This is pretty spot-on. The main issue with AA, for me at least, is that it's just not logical. I know that there's no other option but to do it, but my mind goes into a excuse mode, where it'll come up with the most ridiculous excuses. By the time it's finished, the girl is already gone. It's stupid. My fears are based on a fantasy that has yet to happen, but that doesn't make it any easier to get rid of. I guess I'm not trying hard enough, though. I'm far too comfortable.
/r/seduction13/11/15 05:50 PM
1

You're right. I guess I just always ask additional questions in hopes that there'll be a different answer, which is silly on my part. Thanks.
/r/seduction12/11/15 08:44 AM
1

Alright, another question: what do you think is your biggest strong-point? If a guy would like to at least put himself in a position to succeed like this, what would be the best thing to do?
/r/seduction12/11/15 06:05 AM
1

Good stuff. It's definitely far better than doing nothing.
/r/seduction12/11/15 12:37 AM
1

Man, this was a great report. Pretty cool how you can go from wanting to leave to pulling a cute girl just like that. I've never done it, though I don't really approach at all. How often would you say this happens for you?
/r/seduction11/11/15 09:04 PM
1

You did good. It's a process you'll gradually improve at the more you do it.
/r/seduction11/11/15 07:26 PM
3

Realize how dumb and a waste of time this emotion is. That's really all there is to it. Learn to laugh at it.
/r/seduction09/11/15 11:16 PM
2

To me, it sounds like she's attracted to you and is doing her absolute best to fight this fact. You denying your feelings wasn't the best move, but it isn't the end of the world, either. You just have to convey your attraction to her. It's clear that she likes you, but she just doesn't know how to push it forward. That's where you come in.
/r/seduction08/11/15 11:58 PM
1

Nice and smooth. Good FR.
/r/seduction08/11/15 11:26 PM
4

Honestly, you're just acting out. I don't think you should try to hurt others for the hell of it, though. They haven't robbed you of anything. I mean, you can continue doing what you're doing, but I think even you'll start to feel empty from it after awhile. My advice is to let the past go. You didn't get pussy back then, but you are now. What's so hard about simply enjoying the rest of your life instead of dwelling on something that's over? This isn't a race.
/r/seduction08/11/15 09:07 PM
1

That doesn't mean you should give up. I've had moments of thinking about giving up whenever I'd read about guys haven't crazy success while I was doing and getting nothing. That's my fault. Do you try? A lot of people have their own personal struggles in the journey. You just gotta keep riding the horse.
/r/seduction08/11/15 07:55 PM
1

I dunno where you got that from. I said nothing about all white guys being in demand because it's simply not true. My point was you being 6'3 gives you far more opportunities than the typical Indian guy. He doesn't even have to be ugly for my point to stand, either. That's a pretty black and white way of thinking. It's far deeper than just being short and ugly. Like, at least try to understand where they're coming from.
/r/seduction08/11/15 08:38 AM
3

I'm sure you being 6'3 already puts you in a different place than many other Indian guys. Most don't want to admit that, but it's true.
/r/seduction08/11/15 06:38 AM
2

Do you want to continue living your life taking no risks at all? Forget her reaction and just try. What if she actually likes you, too? This is something you'll never know if you don't put yourself out there.
/r/seduction06/11/15 06:20 PM
2

That takes us back to the overthinking part. Those reactions would be things that are entirely out of your control, so why bother focusing on them? All you can do is make an impression and see where it goes. You have to take a risk and understand that you might not always get the best reaction. Honestly, just accept that you won't win every girl over.
/r/seduction06/11/15 03:27 AM
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You just can't overthink it. Understand that you liking her is absolutely cool to begin with. Most guys allow that to keep them from being their genuine self. Instead of feeling like you have something to prove, realize that you have absolutely nothing to prove. The only thing you need to do is talk to her and connect with her. Even though you might've felt as if you were a loser back in school, it doesn't mean that you have to continue reliving those days. Anytime you feel that creeping back in…
/r/seduction06/11/15 12:36 AM
2

I often have the same issue and it really sucks. Easily one of the most irritating feelings in the world. Unfortunately, there's no special advice that will make you become the guy that you want to be. That has to come from within. One thing that always helps me is thinking about being on my deathbed. How would you feel if your life was about to be over and you thought back to all of the countless opportunities you passed up? It would be terrible. Knowing your end is near is bad enough, but you …
/r/seduction04/11/15 10:53 PM
2

It depends on the person. For me, it depletes my motivation because I already feel satisfied. When I go awhile without doing it, the desire to get pussy skyrockets!
/r/seduction03/11/15 05:29 PM
1

That's just one instance. I think it's just a matter of "those" girls probably not being too interested, that's all. You just gotta keep going out engaging with more people. So far it doesn't sound there's any issues there. Keep at it.
/r/seduction02/11/15 04:58 AM
2

Is it natural to feel this way? Yep. Most guys who've had friends that were always good with women often feel like they're being left in the dust and have to work much harder for something that seems to come easy for them. This is a common feeling lots of young men deal with. However, should you continue allowing yourself to be plagued by it? Hell naw. You're new to the uni life, so now it's a matter of taking your life into your own hands and walking your path. You have all types of new people …
/r/seduction02/11/15 04:52 AM
1

Yo, these reports make me want to approach so bad! Keep posting. These are fun to read.
/r/seduction02/11/15 01:53 AM
6

I've had this issue all my life. However, I'd say it's different from yours. Every time I girl that I liked was into me, I'd be surprised. Mainly because I've just never been too confident in myself. Whenever I'd find out that a girl was into me, I felt good. Just knowing that a girl could be into me despite my lack of confidence was enough to make me feel better about myself. However, I would eventually fall back into my self-destructive patterns, telling myself that it "isn't real" and then I'…
/r/seduction01/11/15 11:07 PM
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You're a good friend. I'm sure the results will get better. You're still getting accustomed to a new city and new surroundings. Stuff like this takes time. Keep at it.
/r/seduction01/11/15 06:10 PM
3

The guy is only 5'5" at the very most and he's secure about himself. His height never was an issue and people love him. He's definitely not an ugly guy, but he's no extremely handsome guy. This isn't no myth or feel good story, either. He just has that energy that makes people gravitate to him. I think one of the main issues is that people look at attraction and women as a black and white thing. It's not. Yes, there will definitely be some women who absolutely wouldn't give a shorter guy a chanc…
/r/seduction01/11/15 04:30 PM
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Thanks, man. Most of the best examples I can think of was when it was definitely mutual. The woman would be looking at me right in my eyes, and after about a few seconds, I would just stop because I thought I might be creeping her out. An absolutely baseless thought, but I guess that's just my own insecurity getting the best of me. This is something I really want to improve on, so I'm going to put your suggestions into play!
/r/seduction31/10/15 09:22 PM
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My eye contact has gotten better, but overall, it still sucks. I read topics like this, understand the importance of making good eye contact, yet still bitch out when it's time to do it. I need to just really practice it till I get comfortable with it.
/r/seduction31/10/15 08:51 PM
1

You're a beautiful girl. I don't think you being black is an issue, since I see black girls in relationships with other races all the time. My guess is you just appear to be very unapproachable. A lot of pretty girls do have that vibe, even though they might not realize it. I think black girls just intimidate a lot of guys. I'd say just work on your body language and giving off a more approachable. I don't think you need to keep comparing yourself to your roommate and how much hotter than her yo…
/r/seduction31/10/15 05:03 PM
3

Stuff like this is normal. You're going to feel shitty many days and sometimes feel as though this stuff is a waste of time. What matters is how you take it and how you push through despite understanding that there'll be frustration throughout the journey. Shitty days simply allow us to enjoy the awesome days that we'll inevitably experience that much more. Keep fighting the good fight.
/r/seduction31/10/15 12:58 AM
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There are indeed a lot of "instructors" who teach guys to manipulate and be scumbags overall. Never got that feel from Seddit. Mostly everything here is geared towards making you become a better man than you were previously.
/r/seduction30/10/15 04:34 PM
3

Post every day. You inspire me.
/r/seduction30/10/15 05:35 AM
3

I can see why you compare yourself to him. Most of us always see our best friend as a "rival" to an extent. You want to be able to compete and at least be on the same level so you don't feel like you're being left in the dust. You won't stop comparing overnight, as it's a gradual process. It's definitely important, though. The main reason why I think it's important not to compare is because it gives you ample time to focus on what you need to do instead of trying to measure up to someone else. W…
/r/seduction29/10/15 04:54 PM
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You can start by not constantly comparing yourself to your best friend. He has his own path and you need to focus on your own. Yeah, it might seem irritating that people are more receptive to him, but focus on becoming the best you.
/r/seduction29/10/15 04:41 PM
1

You're overthinking. Let go and just say what's on your mind. More times than not, the things that you hold-on are things that need to be said. Don't take the safe way out and say nothing.
/r/seduction29/10/15 03:54 PM
2

Right. There's an element of randomness that comes with this, which is why you have to approach instead of staying on the sidelines. If you never approach, you'll never know what could've took place. The fact that you've admitted you have shitty nights should reassure some insecure guys that it isn't always a smooth ride. That's a great explanation. Most beginners (I'm still one myself) just have a hard time getting started because they are frightened by rejection. It's so stupid and silly, but …
/r/seduction29/10/15 03:52 PM
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I think a lot of the stat stuff comes down to how one feels about their own success or lack thereof. Most guys will read this report and think "this guy seems awesome", "this guy must be really good looking", "I guess he doesn't get rejected too often", and things of that sort. While it's logical to understand that rejection comes with the territory, some guys still need to be reassured that even a guy who could do something as awesome as this still experiences rejection. It's easy for someone t…
/r/seduction29/10/15 03:18 PM
6

I didn't get the sense that the OP posted a brag report here. Seemed to just detail things from beginning to end. Don't see an issue. Good stuff.
/r/seduction29/10/15 01:16 PM
8

Damn, man. It's becoming more and more natural to you. I love seeing drastic improvements like this.
/r/seduction28/10/15 09:52 PM
1

It doesn't really make a difference. Some women won't, but I think a lot of women love when a man takes a risk and approaches them. You might not have gotten much, but you need to continue regardless.
/r/seduction28/10/15 08:57 PM
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You have to constantly engage in things outside of your reality for this to actually happen. Challenging yourself is one of the best ways to eliminate that mindset. If you're not doing things to prove to yourself that "you can" succeed, it'll never happen. You can make a compilation of motivational quotes, read motivational stories, read countless books, watch videos, or anything. None of that replaces the feeling of doing. Some of those things go a long way in pushing people into the right dire…
/r/seduction28/10/15 07:32 PM
1

Just try again next time. I'm sure it'll be less awkward.
/r/seduction28/10/15 06:23 PM
32

Everyone wants to be a critic, but I don't see them posting anything helpful. Nice post, Gentleman.
/r/seduction28/10/15 05:03 PM
18

You have great momentum after completing the first approach. You're going to be a beast. Keep it up!
/r/seduction27/10/15 09:09 PM
1

Great read!!
/r/seduction27/10/15 09:07 PM
1

Good job. The fact that you tried is all that matters.
/r/seduction27/10/15 02:42 PM
1

Well, you are the local stud.....
/r/seduction27/10/15 07:32 AM
3

It's not cringy at all. You're the muthafuckin man!!
/r/seduction26/10/15 09:54 PM
3

I like how this guide not only goes into great detail, but also shows examples to make it easier to understand. Great stuff and thanks!
/r/seduction26/10/15 06:51 PM
1

Really good post. Btw, your English is fine.
/r/seduction26/10/15 05:04 AM
5

Thanks a lot for this comprehensive guide. I really needed it.
/r/seduction25/10/15 08:25 PM
1

Then go for it. You're definitely right, though. It isn't up to you to maintain faithfulness in a relationship that you're not in. Keep us updated.
/r/seduction25/10/15 05:29 PM
1

Of course it's possible. Fucking a girl with a BF isn't something that's particularly hard if she's really into you. Now her being touchy this doesn't necessarily mean she wants to have sex, but that's something you'll learn by being around her. Many guys have no problem doing it, some guys just don't bother sleeping with a girl in a relationship. It all comes down to your own "moral code", so to speak. I've had opportunities. One of them was with a girl that I thought was "outta my league" and …
/r/seduction25/10/15 05:11 PM
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It would've been easy for you to find a reason to continue being negative and doing absolutely nothing about it. Instead, you took action and ended up getting rid of that dry spell in a very awesome way. Great stuff, man. I love reading FR's like this. There's lots to learn here.
/r/seduction25/10/15 05:06 PM
2

Great FR.
/r/seduction25/10/15 01:59 PM
4

I've spent most of my life wondering "what if" already and it hurts imagining myself repeating that for the foreseeable future. I always thought I'd "feel better about myself" if I'd avoid rejection, avoid having to push through my comfort zone. I was way off about that. I'm going to change. Thank you for replying.
/r/seduction25/10/15 02:23 AM
11

Wow. This post really hit home. Thanks for elaborating in such great detail. Sometimes I'd think some guys "just have it" and other guys didn't. I guess that's just the weak side of me making excuses for why I haven't done great things with my life.
/r/seduction25/10/15 01:15 AM
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Nice post. Being confident is really one of the hardest things in the world to do, though. Most guys that are confident at least have something to base it on--whether it's from being attractive, good in other areas, etc. I agree that being confident is very important. No doubt about that. It's just really hard for certain guys to be confident.
/r/seduction25/10/15 12:28 AM
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Any particular reason why? Just curious.
/r/seduction24/10/15 07:58 PM
3

Because height is not only attractive, but gives the man a dominant physical presence. I think a lot of the attraction towards taller guys is innate. Kinda like how us guys are into big breasts and juicy asses in women. Most women just feel really safe and protected by a guy who's tall...and it's understandable. This, however, is not an excuse for guys to dwell on it. I'm not a tall guy myself, but I'm aware of the advantage it gives guys over their shorter counterparts more times than not.
/r/seduction24/10/15 04:24 AM
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Dude, you're about average height. That's not short. Yeah, there are some girls who'll still give you crap for not being tall, but unless you plan on wearing lifts and getting leg lengthening surgery, it's best that you stop dwelling on it. If everything else is on point like you say, then it all comes down to you getting your mindset in order.
/r/seduction24/10/15 03:10 AM
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You don't know that. Just because you haven't caught any looking right at you doesn't mean they don't. A lot of women are pretty subtle about it, though there are many who aren't. Anyway, don't let women looking at you determine your reality. Start saying hi to them.
/r/seduction23/10/15 06:38 AM
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I feel like this a lot. I guess the best thing to realize is that everything isn't what it seems. Those photos might only tell one part of the story. Don't spend too much time feeling inferior.
/r/seduction22/10/15 09:24 PM
11

Good stuff.
/r/seduction22/10/15 04:51 PM
1

Walk your own path, man. It's silly to keep comparing yourself to your friend. What answers are you expecting? No one can say for certain if you'll ever be on his level, and honestly, it really doesn't matter. His reality is his own. Focus on building a good future for yourself and forget about everything else.
/r/seduction22/10/15 06:02 AM
1

Giving up is never a good idea. Don't even think about it.
/r/seduction21/10/15 03:53 PM
1

We'll always be our own worst critics at the end of the day. You can't find anything positive because you're plagued with low self-esteem that clouds your mind. You might not see it, but there's no reason to assume a woman will share the same opinion as you on that. At the end of the day, what those others guys do is irrelevant to your situation. It won't help focusing on guys who are naturals because it'll just make you feel more and more helpless. With the way you describe things, it's pretty …
/r/seduction21/10/15 08:11 AM
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Honest question: do you really think most men who do well with women have "natural beauty?" Because if you do, that tells me that you have confirmation bias. Realistically speaking, there are guys who look way worse than you that do well with women. I think it's just easy for you to chalk it up to being less good looking than other guys simply because the road has been quite difficult. You don't need to be hot to get girls. That's not the same as saying it's cool to look like shit, either.
/r/seduction21/10/15 07:53 AM
3

What exactly have you done to change this?
/r/seduction21/10/15 04:59 AM
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I honestly think overanalyzing is the reason why most people feel bad about things that don't really matter.
/r/seduction20/10/15 07:36 PM
3

You've covered pretty much every angle with this post. Thanks for taking the time to write it.
/r/seduction20/10/15 06:40 AM
8

Or maybe stop being a victim. That helps, too.
/r/seduction19/10/15 11:54 PM
1

Thanks. I needed this. Sometimes I'll think about getting blown out, and the idea really messes with my mind enough to convince me to not try. I hate that stupid feeling.
/r/seduction19/10/15 08:59 PM
28

Nicely written. I'm working towards becoming that guy who can make a woman comfortable to be sexual.
/r/seduction18/10/15 09:37 AM
2

Man, that's awesome!
/r/seduction17/10/15 08:25 PM
4

Awesome FR!
/r/seduction17/10/15 03:00 AM
3

They most likely are looking at you because there's attraction. Start talking to them to break out of the shyness.
/r/seduction16/10/15 11:46 PM
0

Damn, that was a good read.
/r/seduction16/10/15 07:25 PM
1

I agree with all of that. Thing is, I always find myself second guessing everything I do. How I talk to the woman, how I look at her, touch her, etc. Probably because I don't truly believe that I'm an attractive guy--but my confidence is pretty crap in general. So it's hard to simply behave as an attractive guy, but I understand the overall message.
/r/seduction13/10/15 07:26 PM
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I read it all. Good on you for deciding to work on yourself rather than sit back and play the sideline. This stuff seems so hard and complicated, but I guess that's the way it looks when you're not actively trying it.
/r/seduction13/10/15 09:33 AM
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It's not that you "can't" do it, you're just not willing to be uncomfortable. That's exactly why reading and watching a bunch of content can often have the opposite affect on someone. They call it the "Paralysis of Analysis", which is quite accurate. Stop watching so many programs thinking you're going to somehow stumble across that "special" video that's going to convince you to do it--or reading dozens of books thinking a certain message is going to motivate you. I guarantee you that you'll be…
/r/seduction13/10/15 04:05 AM
1

Nicely detailed report. Keep it going.
/r/seduction11/10/15 10:29 PM
2

That really sucks, man. Glad you were able to take the rejection for what it was and get over it. Unfortunately people don't think about how their actions could affect others. But yeah, you're much better off.
/r/seduction11/10/15 07:07 PM
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There's no magic pill to make you approach, unfortunately. It's something you just have to do. Knowing that you could be out there meeting beautiful women and having fun with them should be enough for you to want to leave your comfort zone. You even admitted that you doubt the reaction will be bad, so what's really stopping you? Change? Change isn't easy, but if you really want it..and I mean want it to the point that it hurts, you'll start approaching women. Just think about this: there are man…
/r/seduction09/10/15 07:01 AM
1

Instead of giving up, allow those experiences to make you grow stronger. Start working on incorporating a healthy diet and not focusing on the bad experiences you've had. We've all had crappy experiences, but that doesn't mean it has to define you. Start doing things that make you feel good (outside of just playing games) and don't feel like you need to prove yourself to these men.
/r/seduction09/10/15 06:32 AM
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You're in no position to be angry because you're not committed to her. She didn't exchange contact information with him, so it's not a big deal. It's not like you can control how others approach her, so why even bother focusing on it? But yeah, you can't expect that from the woman when you're not willing to do the same. That's ridiculous.
/r/seduction09/10/15 05:47 AM
1

There's nothing wrong with wanting to get laid, but once it becomes a primary goal in your life, it can become several times harder to pull off. When you're that focused on getting laid and are constantly met with unsuccessful attempts, you're only going to grow more and more frustrated. In your case, you're doing absolutely nothing to change your situation. Reading a bunch of PUA stuff might seem fun, but if you're not out there sharpening your skills by talking to woman, do those books and art…
/r/seduction09/10/15 05:27 AM
1

It's simple. You're entering an unknown zone, so you're not sure how you'll feel being in the middle of a sexual encounter with a woman. The best thing to do is just let these thoughts go and understand that being sexual is apart of nature. You're depriving yourself of something that's natural. Enjoy the woman and the moment that you're alone with her. You have to get out of your own way.
/r/seduction09/10/15 05:13 AM
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I agree. Being brave enough to stand up to the fear your mind is seeing will open up so many doors for you. Hell, like you said, even rejections can make for great stories to share with friends. I guess I always worry about my ego during the aftermath of a "rejection" and how I'll be able to handle it, but it's overthinking . I gotta get this approaching stuff down.
/r/seduction09/10/15 03:57 AM
9

Bruh, stop playing games and set up an actual date. Don't give her the opportunity to lose interest. Strike while the iron is hot.
/r/seduction08/10/15 11:24 PM
1

I remember when I would whine about being 5'8", even though I'm the only who's ever made an issue about it. I'm such a bitch, lol.
/r/seduction04/10/15 11:51 PM
3

It's simple. Do you think of yourself as perfection? If not, then laugh whenever you think of a ridiculous reason to not pursue a woman.
/r/seduction04/10/15 01:28 AM
1

Damn, bruh. You get around.
/r/seduction01/10/15 10:15 PM
1

I'm definitely going to make it a point to start going to events alone. I often decide against it because I don't want to stand-out as the "weirdo guy" who's alone while everyone else is there with friends. Of course that's a shit mindset to have. Awesome FR.
/r/seduction01/10/15 07:44 PM
6

This requires nothing but you physically escalating while out with her. I'd say it's quite clear that this girl likes you. Not sure why you're complicating something as simple as this.
/r/seduction01/10/15 04:03 PM
1

Honestly, what's really stopping you? Just talk to them and stop complaining.
/r/seduction01/10/15 01:25 AM
3

You're right. I'm about to turn 28 soon and I really don't want to sit on my ass and continue avoiding life. I've always had a grim visual of me being sick on my deathbed....agonizing over the fact that I wasted my life all because I was too scared to face discomfort. That alone should scare me far more than going outside of my comfort zone. We can do this. Let's allow ourselves to live with no more regrets.
/r/seduction30/09/15 07:50 PM
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Unfortunately, a lot of us simply allow life to pass us by rather than dive in and fully embrace it. I get sad when I think of how much I've allowed the "idea of rejection" to push me further and further into my comfort zone. Lots of time was wasted in the process and I can't get that time back. Sucks. I've focused more on what I was scared of instead of the things that I wanted....and wasted most of my 20's in the process. It feels bad.
/r/seduction30/09/15 04:54 PM
1

Sounds to me like you're overthinking. I don't think being 6'1" and having a really big dick alone is going to keep women around if you're a wuss. Not saying you in particular...just speaking in general. That's where the personality comes in. If you have a shit mindset, then she's definitely not going to stay around. It depends on the woman, too. Maybe she just wants sex? Their choice to not stay around doesn't necessarily have to be about you. The fact that you got them in bed already shows tha…
/r/seduction28/09/15 09:41 AM
2

Interesting. What places at night would you suggest are great for finding women who aren't on the hunt for dick?
/r/seduction28/09/15 05:47 AM
2

Just another looks is all that matters topic. Cool. Guess what? You're right. Male models will definitely outdo those who aren't as good looking as them; especially on an app like Tinder. Congrats. You've won in that regard. What I don't understand is why some of you try so hard to discourage others and make it seem as if your experience is the only thing that matters. Shit is stupid..and annoying. Nothing wrong with subscribing to the fact that looks are everything, but understand that guys who…
/r/seduction28/09/15 04:14 AM
4

Just be honest. If you don't want anything serious, you have to tell her that. You won't come off as a douche as long as you get the message across in a sincere way.
/r/seduction27/09/15 06:53 AM
10

This is important. When I think of all the times I walked away from an opportunity, I can't help but wonder what would've happened had I decided to go along with it. There was potential for so many cool stories if I just trusted myself, but I gave into my fear because it was the easier, more comfortable thing to do. I want to be able to look back and have awesome stories to tell others. That won't happen if I take the easy way out. Thanks.
/r/seduction27/09/15 06:43 AM
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I'm only 5'8" and it's really not that big of a deal. Some girls prefer guys to be a certain height, but end up not even caring if they really like the guy. You're also above average, so you have no real issue here.
/r/seduction27/09/15 05:56 AM
5

What lifestyle choices should one consider to meet more women?
/r/seduction27/09/15 05:25 AM
1

Being real.
/r/seduction27/09/15 01:17 AM
3

That was a tough read.
/r/seduction26/09/15 07:31 PM
2

Dem excuses. Try both and see which feels better.
/r/seduction25/09/15 08:41 AM
1

I don't see why you feel that way. Most of the posts are geared towards improving yourself with women and life in general. There might be a few posts where someone brags, but those are certainly not the majority. Even with some of the "brag" posts, there's something to be gained from reading them. Simply put, these guys are considered to be douchebags in your eyes because they're getting pussy and you're not. I'm not insulting you, but most guys who talk about guys who are good with women like t…
/r/seduction25/09/15 08:40 AM
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I guess the only issue would be her job. As cool as this would be, you wouldn't want her to get into trouble. However, if you can be discrete about it, I see no reason why you shouldn't try. It'd surely be an interesting experience.
/r/seduction25/09/15 06:45 AM
2

When I think of all of my failures, it just feels so annoying. I'm glad you were able to overcome your obstacles and learn.
/r/seduction25/09/15 06:13 AM
46

That was a solid FR. Thanks for sharing. At least you know to bring condoms next time.
/r/seduction25/09/15 03:40 AM
2

Get out of your own way, dude. You have women showing that they're attracted to you. Do you need them to come up to you and touch your dick? Just talk to them. You don't need a perfect approach to talk to women. There are so many guys out here who aren't getting anywhere close to the amount of signs you're getting, yet there's nothing stopping them from approaching. Nothing is stopping you. Stop protecting your precious ego and approach.
/r/seduction25/09/15 03:27 AM
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It's easy to feel down when you're not making any meaningful eye contact. Approaching when you're getting eye contact makes it easier, but you shouldn't allow this to deter you from approaching. Many women are just caught up in their own world and not thinking about the level of eye contact they're giving off. When you approach, she'll likely be surprised, but you still have as good of a chance as anyone to make a solid approach.
/r/seduction24/09/15 09:15 PM
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It's not really "too much" when you consider how harmful anxiety is. The topic isn't simply "meet women because you're going to die", but is more about putting things into perspective. I don't know you so I'm not going to make an assumption, but anxiety (especially social anxiety) can really ruin your life. Meeting women is fun, yes, but the process of overcoming social anxiety as a whole is one of the toughest things for people to do. It's even tougher when you've been like that for awhile. Som…
/r/seduction24/09/15 06:05 PM
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I'm already full of regret and reading this just makes me feel bad. But it's the good kinda bad. I know I need to get it together because I'm going to waste my life trying to avoid life.
/r/seduction23/09/15 04:49 PM
2

This is the best advice. Most people think too much, myself included. If you just take action, you'll be far better than you were when you just read a bunch of theory all day.
/r/seduction22/09/15 10:25 PM
2

Don't go into things with women thinking about your virginity. It'll just keep you right where you're at. It sucks being a total beginner, but you just gotta push through it.
/r/seduction22/09/15 08:55 PM
2

Lol, could be a plethora of things. Women give their # out to guys all the time, along with adding guys on Facebook. It doesn't necessarily mean anything. She probably just liked your friend more. It happens. Putting in more time doesn't mean you're guaranteed to get her over the guy who puts in less. Seems like your ego is a bit bruised and is getting the best of you here. You ended up taking someone else home while your friend most likely didn't, so it sounds like you had the better ending of …
/r/seduction22/09/15 07:26 AM
2

I think people get too caught up in the alpha/beta stuff, honestly. The best thing to do is chill, have fun, and take action. Obviously you shouldn't show any fear when it comes to engaging in some social activity, but none of that requires you to behave like an alpha. It's not hard to spot a tryhard, either.
/r/seduction22/09/15 07:17 AM
1

You can get over this by realizing that touching girls is a normal thing. Obviously you can't just start rubbing ass and tits right outta the gate, but there are other places you can touch. Just do it when it's clear they're comfortable around you. If you just start touching a stranger girl rather quickly, she'll most likely feel creeped out. Touching is normal, man. Just get used to doing it and it'll come naturally.
/r/seduction21/09/15 09:06 AM
1

I actually had a girl friend that did the same thing you did. She was into the guy, but thought her friend would be a better fit. Once she saw the chemistry they had together, she immediately regretted her decision. What you're feeling is normal. I don't think it's be strange if you hooked up with him in the future, since your friend pretty much said it was a one and done thing.
/r/seduction21/09/15 05:22 AM
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Exactly. We've all felt the way you feel, so this is normal. What matters is how you'll overcome it. You sound like a cool dude, so I'm sure you won't let this keep you down for too long.
/r/seduction20/09/15 09:40 PM
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Hmmm...I'd say he's probably just not sure how to play it. Some of us guys tend to overthink way too much when we really like a woman. Sometimes we want to make the perfect suggestion and not risk saying something that could possibly turn the woman off--but then we end up biting our tongue and saying nothing...which gets us nowhere. I'm not saying that's what he's doing, but it's possible. A lot of this probably comes from so much crap advice we hear (ie don't suggest a date so fast, it's needy,…
/r/seduction20/09/15 09:39 PM
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Wouldn't going for a kiss imply that he's attracted to you? Unless he kisses all of his friends.... Perhaps it wouldn't hurt to throw some signals his way. Are you interested in him? I have no idea if this is just how he is, or if he's afraid to (this would be odd if he had no issue going for a kiss) fully put himself out there. I dunno. Some people aren't really flirtatious by nature, but perhaps you can help bring that part of him out.
/r/seduction20/09/15 07:53 PM
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Nah, man. It's cool to be frustrated, but you're going to miss many opportunities putting it into the girls hands. Regardless if it's annoying or not, it's something you have to learn to have fun with. All it takes is one girl to be receptive to your approach. If you stop approaching, you'll always wonder "what if", which is far worse than being ignored.
/r/seduction20/09/15 04:57 PM
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If it makes you feel better, I always see guys around the 5'5" or 5'6" range of height with women all the time. I'm not going to sit up here and say taller guys don't have an advantage. They often do. Should you get into this thinking about that? No. It won't help to think like this. I'm 5'8" and often made a big deal about my height--always hoping I could find posts of guys around my height or less getting women instead of guys who are tall. It's a temporary boost at best. Just don't put any fo…
/r/seduction20/09/15 05:43 AM
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My eye contact is terrible.
/r/seduction18/09/15 06:23 PM
1

Awesome. I look forward to seeing your video.
/r/seduction14/09/15 05:55 PM
2

Glad I was able to help. Also, the lowest of the low hangout on PUAHate, sluthate, and other sites like that. They see the world in a very black and white way, so you're better off avoiding those sites altogether. Other than that, it was nice to read your opinion on what's considered attractive to you. I always enjoy hearing an honest opinion from a woman on things like this. Thanks for posting!
/r/seduction13/09/15 10:38 PM
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Thanks, and I agree. I'm attracted to many women that most guys would give a "meh" reaction to. You know what? I don't even care, either. What I find attractive is what I find attractive. Following what's desirable in the eyes of society is something I'd never do because it's totally mindless. Another thing I dislike is rating women. I did it when I was younger, but eventually realized how dumb it is. I can't look at a woman and call her an HB6.5 or HB7. My way is more simple: she's someone I'm …
/r/seduction13/09/15 06:29 PM
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I guess it depends on the individual and what they value. Don't get me wrong, there are many women who value looks just as much as men--but I think men usually care about looks more than women. You have the types that only want tall, dark and handsome, and you have the guys who want a blonde, blue eyed girl with big breasts. Honestly, don't overthink it. I bet you're not ugly, but I can see why you'd feel this way if people have said that. Well, I'm below average (I'm 5'8) height, so that automa…
/r/seduction13/09/15 04:16 PM
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Yep. Some girls are just going to be into you right outta the gate. Great stuff.
/r/seduction12/09/15 07:25 AM
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If you're fine continuing to miss opportunities, keep doing what you're doing. If you're tired of finding reasons to not approach, then actually go and make it happen. There is no perfect time. Seriously, just approach her.
/r/seduction11/09/15 05:32 PM
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You've assumed wrong. Congrats on making a huge assumption based on absolutely nothing. I've experienced what OP has for most of my life and things never got better until I started walking outside of my comfort zone. Meditation and therapy is nice, but he still has to to grow accustomed to reducing his shyness. That requires action.
/r/seduction11/09/15 05:19 PM
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I'm assuming you've made this topic because you don't like feeling this way. If I'm correct, then start going out and put yourself in situations where interacting with women is inevitable. The whole "too shy" stuff is just an excuse for your inability to take action. Get out of that crappy mindset.
/r/seduction11/09/15 07:28 AM
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Because you don't want to be judged. Obviously you shouldn't care about the opinions of others, but most people have this issue. I think it gets better the more you do things outside of your comfort zone. It allows you to realize that people have their own issues at the end of the day.
/r/seduction10/09/15 06:20 PM
3

First off, stop worrying about if your friends have game or not. Plenty of dudes are lacking game and still get pussy. Another thing you need to realize is that this isn't supposed to be a competition. It sucks knowing your friends are getting laid while you're not, but your situation won't get any better by focusing on that. Don't be that jealous guy who complains. You got rejected? Good. It means you're actually making an effort. Honestly, unless you're doing some really cringe worthy stuff (w…
/r/seduction09/09/15 07:17 AM
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Stop overthinking, man. I can already tell that's your biggest issue because I've done the same shit. No matter how you're feeling, when that pretty woman makes eye contact, smile and say hi. I guarantee that you'll be feeling like a million bucks once you actually step outside of your comfort zone and do something you're not accustomed to doing. So start by doing that. It beats obsessing over your looks, which will keep you right where you're at.
/r/seduction09/09/15 07:12 AM
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It's quite simple. You're hiding behind this invisible ego you've built up. Exchanging eye contact with girls makes you feel good, but the idea of them potentially (this is a result of your overthinking) tearing you apart terrifies you. I've been there. I know how awesome it feels knowing a girl is physically attracted to you, but if you're not going to capitalize on your advantages, they're going to be rendered useless. Ask yourself this: if there are guys who aren't considered "good looking" o…
/r/seduction09/09/15 04:07 AM
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You're normal. Embrace it, just don't let it stop you from getting things done.
/r/seduction07/09/15 04:39 PM
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I totally understand where you're coming from. There have been numerous times where I could've easily upped my touching to be more sexual than what I was doing and eventually transition to sex with a woman. However, I just felt ashamed of what I was doing because I thought they'd probably think I was like every other guy who only had sex on the mind. It was clear that they were open to me being sexual, but I felt like I was wrong for being sexual with them. The funny thing was I was often friend…
/r/seduction07/09/15 02:42 AM
1

You're doing a great thing. Subbed.
/r/seduction06/09/15 08:02 PM
8

You go about your normal daily routine and say hi if you encounter them. You were rejected, not branded as the creep on campus. It's cool.
/r/seduction06/09/15 08:00 PM
2

I'm pretty much the introverted type, but I know I can be funny when I just allow myself to be open. If I were to try and be the energetic extrovert, it would just seem...unnatural. My guess is that the energetic extrovert will likely gain the attention of a woman a lot quicker than his opposite, but keeping that attention is a different story. Most of the guys I know are the chill type who have no trouble getting pussy, so I always knew the idea of you needing to be the energetic guy who talked…
/r/seduction06/09/15 06:35 PM
1

Let's be serious for a second. PUA lingo in general is nerdy as fuck. Seduction or not, it just is. When you see a grown man out in public saying: "Hey, did you apply kino?" "I just talked to this HB 7.5 and negged her. She loves me!" "I have my eyes on about 10 targets in this lounge." "Go and open some sets. Don't interfere with mine." "Approach her. Just do it indirect so you can increase your own value." "I taught all my wingmen my techniques, but only I can pull from using them." Yeah......…
/r/seduction06/09/15 06:26 PM
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Yeah, I agree. I'm playing the sidelines on some Chaozu shit right now, so no transformation...yet. Gotta get more consistent when I'm out.
/r/seduction06/09/15 06:45 AM
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Listened to them both. Really interesting. It's pretty clear that both were very attracted to you and seemed to be captivated by your confidence overall. I always think it's cool how guys can go from having no confidence when it comes to interacting with women only to do it easily when they actually give it a try.. That's pretty miraculous in itself. I need to get on that level. Thanks for posting.
/r/seduction06/09/15 06:28 AM
1

I dunno. You might as well approach her.
/r/seduction05/09/15 03:09 AM
2

What you should be looking out for is your mind going into overdrive. You've basically said what your problem (needing to know 100% she's interested) is. So anything outside of her ripping your clothes off or putting her boobs in your face might not be enough of a sign for you. Basically, if she's cuddling with you, she's already showing that she's comfortable with you. All that's left is making a move. I guarantee if you continue to wait for super obvious signs, you're going to continue to disa…
/r/seduction01/09/15 10:50 PM
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Perhaps you were always capable of doing this, but your negative outlook kept you from doing it? That's the way I see it. You just gotta give yourself a chance sometimes and see what happens. You allowed yourself to take a risk and you ended up doing great. So just allow yourself to take action. That's the only thing you really need to remember.
/r/seduction31/08/15 11:11 PM
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Nothing but wisdom here. I've did my fair share of living in the past and it does nothing but make you feel like crap. You just have to focus on the now and not the then. Thanks for the post.
/r/seduction29/08/15 11:33 PM
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Bro, you need to stop being so sensitive to everything. I doubt she's actually saying those things to hurt your feelings. You're just reading too deeply into these things instead of laughing about them. When girls are attracted to you, they'll often say stuff like this. Just chill.
/r/seduction29/08/15 05:54 PM
1

You did great, bro.
/r/seduction29/08/15 12:44 AM
1

Lol, whatever you say.
/r/seduction26/08/15 09:56 PM
1

Dumb post. Your narrow mindedness just shows along with that silly name. A lot of guys get rejected. If you think every woman is going to find you attractive, you're living in the dream world. Rejection is inevitable.
/r/seduction26/08/15 08:58 PM
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If you're really feeling no sense of excitement or anything when going on these dates, then perhaps you need to take a step away from dating for the time being. You're probably still trying to get over your ex, or maybe the women you're meeting just aren't doing it for you. Either way, it sounds like you need to just focus on enjoying life and creating that excitement through other means. Once you do that, you'll be unstoppable. You'll be more excited to bring the girl into your world and show h…
/r/seduction25/08/15 12:38 AM
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The moment you stop giving a shit about people (whom are probably unaware of your existence, that you don't even know, nor should be thinking about), the sooner you'll make changes. If you keep focusing on what other people think of you, just know that you'll continue making life a lot tougher than it needs to be. People are too caught up in their own every day problems to worry about Mr-LauD getting rejected. You need to just stop reading and actually stop overthinking. You can either be the gu…
/r/seduction24/08/15 04:01 PM
3

I feel like most people overuse the word creepy nowadays. It's mainly used for things they simply don't like. Not gonna lie, there are PUA's out there who are over the top and do stuff that can be considered creepy, but that shouldn't apply to all of us. Wanting to work on your social skills and improve your sexual viability with women is perfectly normal. Seems like people would rather others stay to themselves and never dare venture outside of their comfort zone. Fuck that nonsense.
/r/seduction24/08/15 05:40 AM
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Nigga, go play Yugioh.
/r/seduction24/08/15 05:37 AM
1

I love posts like this. It just goes to show that things will work out for the best as long as you have trust in the process.
/r/seduction23/08/15 03:45 PM
1

That seems....really odd. There are guys that have started from the bottom in terms of looks...in terms of everything. Without gaming as much as you, pussy was still inevitable because you're going to find a girl that simply likes you.
/r/seduction22/08/15 06:12 PM
2

Gotta fail to get the ball rolling. Being scared gets you nowhere. Great post.
/r/seduction22/08/15 03:04 AM
1

Yes, that's a good idea. Some guys do better when they have someone right there encouraging them. If you can find someone to do that, it'll help. Some guys even like to do the $50 approach--where you'll give your friend $50 and he can either give it back to you when you make an approach or keep up if you chicken out. Works wonders for some guys. Either way, you have to be motivated to want more for yourself and your dating life. Additional encouragement is awesome, but everything you already nee…
/r/seduction21/08/15 10:41 PM
1

I'm glad you're not allowing it to get you down. No one wants to fail, but inaction is far worse than failing. At least you tried, even though it was too much pressure for you to handle. Practice makes perfect. Good start.
/r/seduction21/08/15 10:21 PM
1

Yes, it definitely matters. Should you care? Nope. Why? Because unless you're planning on getting leg lengthening surgery, then you're going to be the height you are forever. Your height is just one part of what makes you. There'll be plenty of women who won't be into you because of it, but many don't care. Don't think about it too much.
/r/seduction20/08/15 05:07 AM
1

Learn to create interesting conversations. That'll leave a strong enough impression if it's done correctly, regardless if you think you're good looking or not.
/r/seduction20/08/15 05:03 AM
2

It's simple. You don't want it bad enough. Your comfort zone is far too good for you right now. Approaching requires you to allow yourself to become vulnerable....and that's just something you're not willing to do at this point. It's normal to feel this way, but you have to realize that time is limited. The more times you waste avoiding the approach, the worse you'll feel.
/r/seduction20/08/15 05:00 AM
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Good job!
/r/seduction20/08/15 01:03 AM
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Probably not. There's a fine line between a lack of persistence and beating a dead horse. She could possibly be open to the idea, but she's also just as likely to reject you again. If you don't really care about the outcome, then it's not really an issue if you try again. At least you'll know for sure how she felt about you. Just ask her out on a date next time you see her and see how she responds. She'll either decline the opportunity or accept it. Don't waste much more time on this.
/r/seduction19/08/15 06:33 AM
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Nope. That's bullshit. It's easy for someone to rationalize that it's too late for them because that means there's no point in trying. Your situation isn't special; just someone who's a late bloomer. There was this 34 yr old virgin who had terrible social anxiety and was addicted to playing computer games all day long. The outside world didn't exist to him; only his world of gaming and jerking off to internet porn. Well, once he realized the rest of his life was going to consist of him doing not…
/r/seduction19/08/15 01:38 AM
1

The longer you think about doing it, the harder it'll be. Trust me, I know this feeling all too well.
/r/seduction18/08/15 08:15 PM
3

Being bald is not repulsive at all. You're only wondering if that's the issue because you haven't had much success. I think the issue is that you're way too outcome dependent, which is normal, but can leave you feeling like crap when things aren't going your way. You shouldn't settle down for the first woman that bites, though. For all you know, this woman could end up doing far more harm than good--but admittedly, the opposite could take place as well. It's a long journey, man. I know the last …
/r/seduction18/08/15 07:37 AM
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Who are you afraid might judge you? Random people? I'm pretty sure no one gives a shit who you're fucking. Anyway, keep talking to white girls. It might just be the area you're in because many Indian guys are fucking white girls nowadays.
/r/seduction18/08/15 07:27 AM
1

Don't overthink. Just talk to her normally and really listen to what she has to say.
/r/seduction18/08/15 02:41 AM
2

Honestly, someone who's just not afraid to live. When I'm around people I don't know, I often think about what I want to say before I say it. If it's a woman I'm attracted to, it's way worse. I want to learn how to fully put myself out there and allow myself to be vulnerable. I've been so guarded over these yrs and I just want to let go and be the positive person I know I can be. I really hate that I've hid my true self all of these yrs all for nothing.
/r/seduction16/08/15 07:30 PM
3

Awesome advice. I usually have trouble being playful with strangers because I always worry about what people think of me. I know it's something I have to get over, though. Thanks.
/r/seduction16/08/15 07:28 PM
4

What's the best way of becoming that type of person? This is everything I'd like to be and more, but I don't know how to.
/r/seduction16/08/15 06:20 AM
3

You'll find an excuse regardless. Sometimes I wonder why you guys are even here if you're not going to bother trying anything. Like, seriously? Would it hurt you to ditch the attitude and actually try something new? That's not a good way to live life.
/r/seduction15/08/15 03:39 PM
1

Yeah, bro. It's just not worth it. I can see how one could develop a thrill out of it. I felt the same way in the past, but I eventually realized that it's just a waste of time. That time is better focused on pursuing a single woman.
/r/seduction14/08/15 09:23 PM
1

Maybe the fact that she has a boyfriend makes it a challenge for you or something. I've known plenty of guys who'd rather fuck an average girl who's taken over a hot girl who's single. Perhaps they feel awesome for it. It really seems unnecessary when there's a better looking girl who's not seeing anyone right there. Just doesn't seem worth the trouble to me. What's actually happening when you're going for these girls with boyfriends, though?
/r/seduction14/08/15 05:33 AM
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Looks mattering doesn't change the fact that this is a shitty topic. You'd be better off saying don't even bother trying if you're not good looking. Pointless and isn't helpful to anyone. All it does is give guys more of a reason to not bother approaching women. Good stuff.
/r/seduction12/08/15 10:50 PM
1

It's always good to see a guy who win despite having tons of issues. It'd be nice if you posted more, since you could help many guys that are in the same predicament. If not, at least you took the time to post this. Thanks.
/r/seduction09/08/15 04:14 PM
5

All that's left is to make approaching women apart of my reality. Thanks, man.
/r/seduction09/08/15 05:29 AM
4

This is something I have to really understand. The idea of making a woman's day is awesome. I wouldn't even care if it didn't go any further, since I'd be happy I had enough guts to compliment her. However, my biggest issue is ASSUMING I will creep women out by approaching them that way. It makes me sick feeling that way because I know it comes from having a shitty mindset, but I can't seem to get over that. I feel like approaching women would be so much easier if I could get rid of that ridicul…
/r/seduction09/08/15 04:25 AM
1

Guess I need to just stop worrying about the % of failure and success and just do it. Honestly, that's one of the things I focus on way too much. Thanks for replying.
/r/seduction08/08/15 05:05 PM
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Awesome. It just seems to be a natural thing for you. When you say Fail Forward, does that mean you've had to experience failure before you've reached your level? I ask because I often read stuff like this and wonder how much failure was experienced before seeing many positive changes. Still a good read.
/r/seduction08/08/15 03:37 AM
2

Simple, yet Golden.
/r/seduction07/08/15 12:18 AM
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Well, the fact that you're looking for helps shows that you're not okay with being forever alone. That's good. Some guys would rather hear nothing. You have to look at it like this: what's the alternative? It sucks to continuously be knocked down, but it's the key to living the life you want to live. Some will disagree and say it'll do nothing but create more bitterness, but you know what giving up will create? Infinite regret. A bruised ego from being turned down countless times sucks, but it's…
/r/seduction05/08/15 05:07 PM
1

I want to do this sooooooo bad. The journey is so rough, but stuff like this makes me want to actually do it. Great post, man!
/r/seduction03/08/15 02:31 PM
4

Are you only considering these girls "clearly outta your league" based on how they look? You're a good looking guy yourself, so I don't see why you're looking at this as if you're coming from a disadvantage. If anything, you're in a better position than most guys looking to get better at this. For all you know, you might be better looking than all of their previous bfs, or anyone they're currently talking to. My main point is that the only special skill you need is consistency. So whenever you s…
/r/seduction01/08/15 12:42 AM
2

Well, in that case, fuck him. But if she's going to act like this, then you needn't waste any time trying to fuck her, either. Try to work on attraction more mature women.
/r/seduction31/07/15 04:44 PM
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Did this guy ever do anything to you? Pretty silly to dislike him because he doesn't have "game", lol. She's the one being annoying and yet you want to sleep with her to piss him off? Come on. Sounds like you have some things to work on if you're allowing this to bother you that much.
/r/seduction31/07/15 03:09 PM
1

Can't say I'm surprised white guys have it the easiest when it comes to Online dating. I don't even bother with it because I just don't think I can be successful at it.
/r/seduction29/07/15 05:24 PM
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You feel that way because you're a good person. Even though you don't know the guy, you don't want to hurt him and make him feel like his efforts were futile. If the guy thinks you're just telling him that so he could go away, that has nothing to do with you. You were honest and upfront about having a man. There's no need for you to feel awful because you're doing the right thing. It'd be mean if you were giving these guys false hope, but none of that is happening here. I know too many women who…
/r/seduction28/07/15 06:38 AM
1

Yeah, confidence is definitely important. I'm only 5'8" myself, and have had girls that were into me when there taller and better looking guys around. Just gotta work with what you have to the best of your abilities!
/r/seduction26/07/15 09:17 PM
1

Most likely because you're a handsome guy. Talk to them. It feels good to be checked out, but if you never have any intention of approaching them, it won't mean shit. Just a few seconds of validation.
/r/seduction26/07/15 07:49 PM
1

It depends on the woman. I'm of the opinion that your looks are important, but you should just focus on making the most of yourself. Work out, eat healthy, dress nicely, work on your body language and let it go. Everyone gets rejected.
/r/seduction26/07/15 07:48 PM
2

If I invite a woman out for a drink, I'm not going to go out of my way to not pay for it. If I invite a woman to the movies, I'm not going to avoid paying for her ticket and let her buy her own popcorn. That just seems silly to me.
/r/seduction26/07/15 12:50 AM
1

The one-on-one actually makes sense because rapport can be built, but online dating for a shorter guy doesn't give that same opportunity. The whole point to online dating is to choose the guy or girl that stands out the most and go along with that. So he might have cool pics, but if he's 5'5", they will just exit. Women are very approachable in nightclubs. Some might act funny because they're with friends, but who cares? I'm not 5'10", so I'm not average height. I'm below average height. When mo…
/r/seduction24/07/15 06:11 PM
2

Online is a terrible suggestion, though. Most women will look at a guys height (if it's an issue to begin with) and automatically close the profile if it's not to their liking. Seen it firsthand with various women to confirm this. I've known many females who wouldn't give a guy under 5'11" a chance online, only for them to end up fucking a guy that's around 5'6" or 5'7" in person because he was "charming, funny, and cute". These same girls would never stop about how they only date 6'+ and above …
/r/seduction24/07/15 05:55 PM
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I'm not sure how you can say a short guy can't pick up in the club while suggesting online is a better solution. Does not compute. Women's height preferences vary, anyway. Taller guys have it easier, but let's not go overboard now. Short guys get plenty of women.
/r/seduction24/07/15 05:31 PM
2

Makes sense. I see the term mentioned way too much. Almost makes me believe certain dudes just like to label guy friends of the girl they're talking to or fucking as that just to make themselves feel superior or something. I don't doubt that there are many actual orbiters out there, but it seems like an exaggeration in many instances.
/r/seduction24/07/15 04:01 AM
2

The former. Shit tests do exist, but everything isn't disguised as one. Basically that.
/r/seduction24/07/15 03:49 AM
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I agree. Most of the time when I had this irrational thought, I was in a situation where I felt 98% sure she wanted me to kiss her. The problem was that I allowed that measly 2% to stop me from making a move--and before I knew it, she was turned off by me altogether. To be honest, there have been countless situations that went from sexual to terrible in a matter of mins because I just couldn't take a damn risk. Like you said, you just have to push through it and do it anyway. I've been dreamy my…
/r/seduction23/07/15 10:36 PM
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As much as I want to do it, I'm always worried about getting a swift slap to the face. Even when it seems unlikely, I still wonder if it'll happen. I hate that feel...
/r/seduction23/07/15 08:07 PM
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Everything isn't a shit test.
/r/seduction23/07/15 03:07 PM
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Pretty much. Continue putting yourself out there. Eventually all of this will be second nature to you and you won't even worry about the possibility of losing interest in women.
/r/seduction21/07/15 10:04 PM
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I think it has more to do with you having so many girls to date that's making you scared. The example with the model just sounds like self-sabotage to me. You've always wished you had these things in the past, but now that you have them, your previous reality is shattered. You're scared that you won't know how to act with this new ability. It's a gift. Something most men would love to have. Embrace it and stop acting as if it's a bad thing. You should also stop looking at women as if they're hin…
/r/seduction21/07/15 07:07 PM
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Yeah. It often changes up for me, though. There are days when I get checked out, then there are days when I hardly do. But yeah, it does seem to happen more inside certain places than outside.
/r/seduction20/07/15 05:38 AM
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I've been getting more and more comfortable with being around women in general. I've been less reluctant to say certain things, but I still have yet to (even in obvious fucking situations) make a move like I should because it still makes me uncomfortable being vulnerable. So there's been no success in that form. However, being able to somewhat suppress the nervousness has been somewhat successful, as that's always been one of my biggest sticking points. I still overthink way too much (ie "why wo…
/r/seduction19/07/15 10:30 PM
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I'm the same. Likely worse. The best thing you can do is continue putting yourself in those situations and realize there's no other way for you to grow outside of that alone. In all likelihood, the fear is something you've built up that's far worse in your mind than it'd likely be in the real world. I get so annoyed when I continuously let opportunities go to waste. I don't believe there's a tactic or overnight solution that'll immediately change your situation. It'll take time. You'll make it a…
/r/seduction19/07/15 09:28 PM
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Why would you give up? Just start changing things up a bit. Perhaps you need to approach women in other venues. The bar isn't the only place to go. You say you don't want to wake up at 30 in the same position, but that's exactly what'll happen if you give up. Make a journal if you haven't already and analyze the action you're taking. Anything is better than giving up.
/r/seduction19/07/15 07:31 AM
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That was a great read. It's amazing how the simplest things seem the hardest. I always look away when a girl makes eye contact with me. I just need to learn to just do and not think.
/r/seduction18/07/15 09:39 PM
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I disagree. It isn't everything, but it does matter. Could you explain why it doesn't?
/r/seduction14/07/15 10:34 PM
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Golden. I'm not good at giving compliments, even though it's something I often want to do. I just need to think less and try.
/r/seduction14/07/15 05:50 PM
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Yet it's fair that you're considering cheating on your GF with this other girl? Sounds odd. No matter which way you look at it...the situation will be unfair to someone.
/r/seduction09/07/15 09:42 PM
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Do you actually want to be with this other girl? If you don't, then I don't see the point in mentioning your GF. Just fuck the other girl and keep it fun.
/r/seduction09/07/15 09:08 PM
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A lot of this success is derived from their earlier experiences with women. They might've had positive reinforcement growing up, while many guys on here haven't. Getting girls was something that just came natural to them. I've been shit with women the majority of my life because of my own insecurities...which makes it way harder than it needs to be. I'd like to think I'd be far more attractive and capable had I not dealt with low self-esteem for most of my life. Oh, well. Just gotta focus on imp…
/r/seduction07/07/15 06:14 PM
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That was an excellent explanation on what this actually means. Whenever I'd see someone say that, I just assumed they were telling the guy to be a good looking guy and not an ugly one. Thought it was odd advice, but thankfully this topic clarifies things.
/r/seduction07/07/15 06:10 AM
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Limiting belief. White dudes are great rappers.
/r/seduction01/07/15 06:03 PM
1

This is probably the best post I've ever read. Awesome.
/r/seduction29/06/15 06:14 PM
1

You don't need techniques or specific help. If anything, that'll make your problem worse because of how unnatural you'd likely come off. Just go for it and stop thinking too much. I honestly think 99% of men's issues in this area is simply thinking too much about nothing. I'm no better.
/r/seduction23/06/15 09:44 PM
1

When you were easily attracting women, were you doing anything with the girls? Or was it just attraction?
/r/seduction22/06/15 05:15 AM
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The key to this is to stop overthinking and just have fun. You're doing more harm by not giving yourself a chance.
/r/seduction19/06/15 04:50 PM
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It depends. Maybe the women he'll attract will have friends that'll be into you. I don't think you should go into it with high expectations, though. You don't want to stand there feeling like a dumbass while all of the attention is on him. If anything, that'll do far more harm than good. Just hang with him to have a good time and see what it's like. If it helps you attract beautiful women, great--if it doesn't help you attract beautiful women, that's also cool.
/r/seduction14/06/15 12:31 AM
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This post has everything you need. Thank you.
/r/seduction11/06/15 01:46 PM
2

Great advice. It might seem tough to understand, but it's very true.
/r/seduction10/06/15 02:24 PM
1

You're awesome. Makes me realize how stupid "fear of rejection" really is. Can't wait to read more of your adventures!
/r/seduction05/06/15 07:15 PM
1

I need to do something like this. Thanks for the well detailed post.
/r/seduction04/06/15 07:18 AM
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She seems pretty indecisive, so you should probably make a move. I have a feeling she'd be open to it. Sometimes you just gotta take a risk. Keep us updated.
/r/seduction02/06/15 01:40 PM
2

I'd love to read more of these. Keep posting.
/r/seduction01/06/15 10:19 AM
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I know the feel. Don't let it happen again!
/r/seduction31/05/15 12:51 AM
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It's simple. You're stuck in what they call "paralysis of analysis". You read so much, think about how you're going to implement it. Instead of doing it, you decide you'll be ready once you read this article or that article. It's the "tomorrow" mentality where put everything off rather than focus on the present. Forget reading. Just go out and let yourself learn. Don't fear the unknown--embrace it.
/r/seduction09/05/15 06:49 PM
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That's kinda how I am, though in a different way. When I'm alone or see a woman I'm attracted to, all I think about is fucking them. Thing is, whenever there's an opportunity to make a move on a woman, as much as I want to do it, I feel bad about trying to have sex with them. It's not like I have bad intentions, so I don't know why I feel that way. Best thing to do is continuously put yourself in intimate situations to the point where it feels normal. That's what I'm trying to do.
/r/seduction07/05/15 04:54 PM
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Different?! Bro, you're not the only one. I've easily had way more cringe worthy moments than this. Trust me on that. You don't want to create discomfort for anyone and that's perfectly normal. This is a process you'll just have to continuously work on so you'll feel less nervous when it's time to physically escalate. Just keep at it. There'll be plenty more opportunities for you to correct this.
/r/seduction03/05/15 10:14 PM
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It's all good. We all hesitate. No one said this would be easy, so there's no reason to make you feel like crap. Next time, just remember that feeling you have--and how much it sucks. Regret is awful. No one wants to be rejected, but no one wants to constantly (story of my life) wonder what would've took place if they just took a chance. Give them the opportunity to meet a cool guy such as yourself. You got this.
/r/seduction02/05/15 07:19 PM
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It sounds to me like you just aren't willing to be uncomfortable. The girl was dancing with you, and instead of just having fun with it, you took the easier (walk away), non vulnerable option instead. I'm pretty sure the outcome would've been different if you just kept dancing with her, but you didn't. That's why your friend ended up with her. Did he have sex with her at the party? I've been there. It sucks. When you're unfamiliar in a certain area, it's easy to do everything possible to ruin a …
/r/seduction02/05/15 11:25 AM
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Your body's probably adjusting to the fact that you were able to approach. You just happen to experience the rush once it's done, while some people experience it during the approach.
/r/seduction24/04/15 08:34 PM
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Well, based on that, it doesn't seem like you had trouble picking up on anything. Some people are just fickle by nature, and unfortunately that's how she sounds when reading this. That other person most likely wanted to ruin things just do be an ass, but if she can be that easily influenced, you're better off. Props for taking the rejection and not letting it get you down. That's the level I'm trying to reach.
/r/seduction24/04/15 04:47 PM
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Thanks for posting that. I always go with the less painful (avoid rejection) option, which ends up being more painful in the end. I just wanted to see how this rejection looked. So do you think she just picked up on the fact that you liked her? But yeah, she sounds kinda mean. I think this was for the best.
/r/seduction24/04/15 05:24 AM
1

Yes please.
/r/seduction24/04/15 03:38 AM
1

Could you go into detail about it?
/r/seduction24/04/15 03:30 AM
2

I was honestly just...not confident. Every sign basically showed she liked me, yet apart of me just felt like I wasn't good enough to get a girl on that level. I wasn't allowing myself to be vulnerable and I played it safe instead. In the end, I didn't get her, and it was all because I was afraid to make a move and embarrass myself. If I was actually willing to embrace a possible rejection, there's no telling where I could've gotten with her. That hurts.
/r/seduction20/04/15 05:18 PM
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I've always been one of those guys who's opinion seems to vary how I look. I have a ton of flaws that I'm working on, though. I feel like this is the best advice to give, because it's too easy to become fixated on things like your looks. I remember when I was younger and just felt more relaxed overall when I'd be around beautiful women. I wasn't always wondering if I looked good enough to get a woman's attention. Nowadays, I find myself more focused on looking stupid or weird whenever I'm out. I…
/r/seduction19/04/15 05:13 PM
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I don't even think a trick is required. I feel like it's best to just enjoy it for what it is. Much easier said than done, but that explains why you need to constantly be around hot women. Sometimes I even feel like I allow her beauty to dictate how I act towards her, and that's obviously not a good thing. I'll stutter, look down too much, and just completely change my demeanor. Women are beautiful, but they're normal people at the end of the day like the rest of us. I love the beauty of women, …
/r/seduction19/04/15 05:02 PM
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I feel like the key to life in general is learning to laugh at yourself. All too often, it's easy to critique every single thing (am I looking at this person funny, is my voice girly, is my walking posture good?, etc) you're doing, but hard to just laugh and not take every little thing so seriously. Good stuff. I'm working to implement this into my everyday life.
/r/seduction19/04/15 04:58 PM
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I'm a prime example of a guy who analyzes this stuff and does nothing to improve myself. I've reached a point where being comfortable is very detrimental to me. I always wonder about the potential progress I could make by embracing the idea of being uncomfortable--yet I still find myself doing everything possible to stay in my little bubble. I'm weak. I know nothing will ever change unless I learn to enjoy discomfort. I have a desire to become a better man, but daydreaming about it won't change …
/r/seduction08/04/15 08:31 AM
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Some women just like you. I don't think every single woman requires a man to go through a seduction process to get them in bed. I believe sometimes all you need to do is be in the right place at the right time. Sounds to me like she was just naturally into you from the jump.
/r/seduction07/04/15 04:38 PM
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I've spent so much time avoiding failure, even though the outcome is an even worse version of failure. This puts things into perspective. Thanks.
/r/seduction30/03/15 02:36 AM
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I feel like this blog was talking to me. I don't get girls. I want to change that...but I'm not sure I'm willing to do everything it takes. I want to be willing to go outside of my comfort zone and make it happen, but it seems like an impossible goal for someone like me. I hate feeling like this.
/r/seduction19/03/15 11:06 PM
1

This is a great post. I really need to stop hiding from failure. I've also known about this stuff for a good while, but I still have yet to make an approach. I always feel like there'll be a specific video or topic that'll get me over the hump, but that's not gonna happen. I feel like I've wasted so much time reading so many feel good stories in hopes that I'll be able to apply it to my life. As much as I want to change, I'm not sure how to really go about it.
/r/seduction16/03/15 06:53 AM
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Plenty of guys have trouble getting swipes on Tinder. Simply being a white guy with a beard in no way means you'd definitely get more swipes. It's Tinder. Don't let it get you down. I know plenty of good looking guys that do average or worse on Tinder compared to what they do while out. You're good.
/r/seduction14/03/15 05:41 PM
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Stop worrying about girls being into pretty boys. There will always be plenty of girls who are into you, along with there being many who just aren't. When you're constantly wondering how or why certain girls are attracted to certain guys, you'll just frustrate yourself more for no apparent reason. I've been there. Just focus on the girls you're attracted to. If you see a girl that you're into, go talk to her and don't even think about what type of guy she likes. I lost count of the amount of tim…
/r/seduction13/03/15 11:27 PM
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I try to tell myself this all the time, but it's still hard to approach....
/r/seduction11/03/15 09:18 PM
1

Thank you!
/r/seduction11/03/15 02:22 AM
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I'd like to hear more about your story. I'm a 27 yr old guy without much experience, so hearing stuff like this is exciting. I really want to start my journey, but I just don't know how to do that. I'd rather get those painful failures than gradually fail like I'm doing now. Great stuff.
/r/seduction11/03/15 12:14 AM
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Was this a girl you approached? Or did she just randomly start saying this nonsense?
/r/seduction10/03/15 10:04 PM
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It's so hard to leave that dreaded zone, though. I know I'd be a much better person than I currently am if I say F it and start doing things--but I feel like something is continuously holding me back. I've spent the last few yrs of my life doing nothing and I'm tired of it. I don't want to be looking back yrs from now wishing I started today. Great post.
/r/seduction09/03/15 04:52 AM
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