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Great, you’re retarded too. If I do X, then she’ll do Y is covert contract. You just wrote that. Read this.
/r/askMRP28/05/26 09:43 PM
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If I do MRP, my wife will respect and fuck me If I land a new job, my wife will respect and fuck me. If I add distance to “create dread”, my wife will respect and fuck me.
/r/askMRP28/05/26 06:27 PM
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Watch what she does, not what she says. Also - do you get IOIs from other women?
/r/askMRP21/05/26 08:06 PM
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Wow that was really long and I didn’t read 95%. You’re not special. No one is special. Lift, sidebar, OYS, and for fuck’s sake STFU. That’s the formula. It works. It’s simple in concept and hard in practice.
/r/askMRP08/05/26 06:47 PM
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Just wait until she prints them out and tries to use in court.
/r/askMRP13/04/26 03:30 PM
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Is this Tim Walz? Because it’s beyond retarded.
/r/askMRP17/02/26 08:10 PM
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I enjoyed the “she doesn’t cheat… because she’s a hardcore Christian… who had an abortion”. Doesn’t compute.
/r/askMRP11/02/26 12:40 PM
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Hah… serious injuries, that’s cute. You have no idea. You’re reading a lot into my response that simply isn’t there. 1) don’t be dumb 2) lift heavy things, they make you happy
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/26 03:55 AM
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u/cam_winston21 would disagree with you on lifting in your 50s. So would my 52 year old friend. Excuses are easy for you, aren’t they?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/26 01:30 PM
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Don’t sell yourself short with saying “I got lucky”. Bad mindset. Your actions leading to banging the chick made that happen. When opportunity meets preparation - success happens. It’s not luck
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/26 06:03 AM
2

You may benefit from reading Mediations. That book was critical for me and my anxiety. Which is pretty much non-existent outside of concern for my kids - still working on that one.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/26 05:57 AM
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I hope you stick around because with that anger you’re going to go Rambo and it’ll be entertaining. I doubt you can avoid that phase. If you can start understanding that there is no point in negative emotions for things outside your control - you may be able to. Anger should only be used as a tool and controlled. Not out of anxiety or ego.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/26 05:54 AM
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A great piece of advice I once got was to lick her butthole. It’s not a joke.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/26 05:49 AM
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Time to burn down your current self and build a new one. First things first, stfu. It’s OYS 1, I get it. 1) You have an impulse to apologize? Remove the word sorry from your vocabulary. I cannot think of a time I uttered that word in 5 years now. It’s too easy to blurt out That’s not to say you don’t apologize when you deem your actions wrong. Use “I apologize for X, it was a mistake” is all you need. And never say it more than once. 2) Also, The less you say overall, the more people listen to y…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/26 05:47 AM
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What the fuck is this book? Consider why you posted it. Horns easily summarized this “don’t ever joke about making sex transactional”. He did in one sentence what you took a short novel to do. This is an ego response from you. Figure out why.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/26 05:39 AM
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“I’m not in the mood” is a soft no. “Stop, I’m not having sex with you” is a hard no. A soft no can turn into a hard no. But have fun with the soft ones. Many times it’s just a shit test. I vaguely remember hard no’s though, so I know they do happen.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/26 05:32 AM
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If YOU want to watch TV, watch TV. If you think it’s dumb, don’t. I’m really unclear what you want here. That being said, there are tons of things to do outside of screens to keep busy. Hobbies, read your sidebar books, fuck, new side income stream like opening a daycare center in Minnesota. Whatever.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/26 05:27 AM
3

It’s crazy when the addiction to carbs, especially refined carbs and sugar, is gone. Lunch was catered today. Pulled pork with sides. I had probably close to a pound of pork and about 2 spoonfuls of baked beans. Meat is king. Now I want a steak.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/26 05:22 AM
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Shut up with the rationalize bull shit and excuses. Go do a protein sparing modified fast and get this shit done. Look it up - PSMF. I guarantee your TDEE is too high and you’re over estimating your output and underestimating your intake. At 220 and 30% BF, aim for 1800 calories if you’re not doing PSMF I’m 6’ 2” and typically run 220-225 with much lower BF and higher lifts than you (even after sidelined for 8 weeks with health shit in the fall). I ticked up to about 240 last year and did PSMF f…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/26 05:18 AM
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You’re on OYS 2… things should not be stable.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/26 05:07 AM
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Before I found this place I always thought my ex would be gone when I got home from work and had a mini-panic attack and anxiety driving home. That she’d leave me. After working the MRP path for several months, I just stopped caring and took off the rose color glasses I had on. It’s not about her.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/26 05:06 AM
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You lose your cool with your wife. She does with the kids. Bad leadership. Why are you surprised?
/r/askMRP05/01/26 03:08 AM
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9 months since my last post. Need to be more consistent with posting. Started GLP-1’s and lost 20 pounds over the past couple of months. You're big on cheat codes and little on discipline. Not going to last here.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/26 05:02 PM
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With his AI frame plan, ChatGPT will be fucking his wife before he does.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/26 02:34 AM
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Well... you're somewhere between Rambo II and Rambo III. Still full on retarded.
/r/askMRP30/12/25 09:46 PM
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Why is one of you with the baby 24/7? The kid is 6 months now. This is the time to transition to sleeping alone in a room and night training. You're going to have to lead here and break this. It's not good long-term for you, your wife, or your kid.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/25 09:29 PM
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Start assessing why others' reactions change your perception of whether or not it's a 'good week' or a 'bad week'.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/25 09:26 PM
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Well if your wife wants you to do it... how far up her ass are you (and not in a good way)?
/r/askMRP19/12/25 03:22 PM
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You're missing the lesson due to the tone. That also tells us something about you. Here's a perspective: I got a few good friends I talk to. When I'm being a faggot or retarded - they tell me that. And that is what you need. Sugar coating or lying or trying to make you feel better, etc is a nice guy behavior. We don't do that here. Again - who the fuck cares what we think? You make your own life, not us.
/r/askMRP19/12/25 03:21 PM
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This is a retarded post. You’re a month in. Who the fuck cares. You got a year or more but probably will find the hard truths of reality too much and go back to living with your head up your own ass. That’s fine - we need guys like you out there. MRP is very simple - understand the rules of the game and then do whatever the hell you want.
/r/askMRP19/12/25 02:54 AM
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It’s not about the house or the kids. She’s bored.
/r/askMRP10/12/25 10:55 PM
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No vasectomy does not affect testosterone. 380 is low, but not 100% the whole story. need to understand the full panel -> Test, free test, SHBG, estradiol. Vitamin D can also play a factor, so they should test for that. Fix any lifestyle shit first - exercise, diet, sleep. Then retest and if it's still sub-600 I'd recommend pinning. It was a game-changer for me (mine was 280, which was just a hair too high for insurance coverage which is retarded since that's a 70 yo level).
/r/askMRP19/11/25 05:02 PM
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all the inspector gadget BS hahahaha. 100%.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/25 09:41 PM
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The problem is this, the overwhelming majority of them are highly promiscuous. Ok... this should not be news to anyone who has done any legwork here at all. Remember, she wants to sell the best version of herself to you. Not the cum bucket. Obviously. Take 98% of what she tells you as complete bullshit. Holy shit... women lie about their past sexual encounters with Chad and Tyrone? Wow... very insightful. Here is the more challenging question - why do you care? The problem is this, the overwhelm…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/25 09:27 PM
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How’s that scoreboard doing? 1) you talk too much 2) you think too much
/r/askMRP28/08/25 09:43 PM
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You’re just still mad 2 chicks 1 red didn’t make the sidebar.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/25 01:57 AM
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Great… you’re a hyper unfocused retard. Trifecta. No wonder women my fun of you.
/r/askMRP05/07/25 12:54 PM
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Why do you retards label every woman who is being a woman as toxic or a narcissist? No wonder yall aren’t getting laid.
/r/askMRP29/06/25 09:11 PM
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Jesus fuck… it’s not about your wife or what’s in your wife’s head. It’s your reaction and ego that’s the problem. She she she… who gives a shit about her. And maybe you just suck at sex… sidebar is your friend.
/r/askMRP29/06/25 07:42 PM
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You mean he should stop arguing with his wife? What a concept! It’s premature for this conversation until he can get his shit together and stop flipping out when his wife tests him to “warm her up”. This was such a simple thing to deal with.
/r/askMRP29/06/25 06:57 PM
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Sidebar, stfu, oys, and lift. And open a shrimping business.
/r/askMRP26/06/25 12:50 AM
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How much is it wrapped up in your fear to be vulnerable? Saying those words could be you may not hear them back or you get hurt by her - whose frame is that in? You do you for the emotional cheating which may or may not have been physical - you’ll never know. Regardless of the outcome there - you need to understand what prevents you from saying those three words if you actually loved the girl.
/r/askMRP07/06/25 08:38 PM
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It’s bitchy because she’s pointing out his bad leadership and lack of budgeting or guidance in this area. Instead of being introspective it’s a lot easier to blame someone else.
/r/askMRP04/06/25 03:45 PM
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Someone’s in the anger phase. But it’s directed at the wrong person.
/r/askMRP19/05/25 11:36 PM
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Those challenges are called shit tests. Be better to be better. Not for your wife.
/r/askMRP13/05/25 01:01 AM
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So much she and her in your write up. Between your wife and your daughter you have completely lost who you are. And you’re grieving a made up fantasy of life being “good” and “easy”. Guess what? Life isn’t rosy and sometimes we have to deal with hard shit. Your marriage may or may not survive but it sounds promising your little girl will. Focus on who you are, what you want, and what you have. Nine years after losing my son to cancer, going through a divorce, and multiple health problems I can t…
/r/askMRP20/04/25 09:43 PM
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I’m
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/25 06:00 AM
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Women are banned on site.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/25 03:49 AM
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3 someday easy. Come back when you have a 4 some.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/25 03:49 AM
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No.. you’re a dumb shit who is doing things to get a reaction from your wife. It’s the fact you wanted a reaction that makes you 100% in her frame. Not yours
/r/askMRP27/03/25 12:15 AM
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She feins the whole caring thing again with a added joke ‘celebrating’ me not being around” I thought you may have crashed and died...... YASS” She handled your shit test with AA. Also, You’re an idiot
/r/askMRP27/03/25 12:13 AM
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What you’ve just said is one of the most insanely idiotic things I have ever heard. At no point in your rambling, incoherent response were you even close to anything that could be considered a rational thought. Everyone in this room is now dumber for having listened to it. I award you no points, and may God have mercy on your soul. Rule 9 and others.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/25 08:01 PM
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Was she wearing latex gloves when she gave you the HJ? Also are we fucking middle school? Hand jobs. lol.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/25 01:54 AM
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Lift, STFU, sidebar, OYS. And seriously STFU to her. Don’t say jack shit. Communicate via lawyer. And get a recorder to prevent DV charges. Also - shut the fuck up.
/r/askMRP09/02/25 07:40 PM
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Stop sending texts you idiot.
/r/askMRP29/01/25 12:16 AM
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Iron Law #7 Develop new relationships: don’t fix broken ones
/r/askMRP25/01/25 02:28 PM
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Why do you think we care about your shitty job?
/r/askMRP24/01/25 09:04 PM
10

Exactly this. 1) get a good lawyer and 2) listen to said lawyer.
/r/askMRP22/01/25 11:15 PM
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You don’t want to tell her the truth since you fear losing her. Don’t have to be an asshole about it. “I’m having fun with you as things are”. Fog. Etc. etc.
/r/askMRP22/01/25 02:18 PM
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Jesus. Sacrifice the abs and get your lifts up.
/r/askMRP21/01/25 04:04 PM
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Dude is a trainwreck. Letting his feelz decide what to do. And his wife isn’t a lesbian so acting like a woman is not attractive.
/r/askMRP15/01/25 05:50 PM
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Just give up. 95% of men aren’t made out for MRP or to really own their own shit.
/r/askMRP15/01/25 05:49 PM
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You can’t break out of being the nice guy. Congrats on the sex. You don’t belong here.
/r/askMRP02/01/25 02:34 AM
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You “dusted off” the old materials yet are still asking how to control her. After she has gotten the feelz and likely some summer sausage from the other dude. Retard.
/r/askMRP26/12/24 01:06 AM
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What’s really important is making a spreadsheet and then after a few months present it to her. Spreadsheets make a woman wet.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/24 03:31 PM
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Next time a strongly worded letter is advised.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/24 11:55 AM
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Approved. For the entertainment of the comments. Don’t let me down.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/24 06:21 PM
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“Rejection Sensitivity Disorder” - a fancy way of saying she doesn’t find you attractive.
/r/askMRP29/11/24 11:24 PM
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You’re already a “beta bitch” with that mindset. Do what you want. Don’t do what you don’t want to do. It’s not hard.
/r/askMRP28/11/24 12:05 AM
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Go to the BBQ. Fuck your fiance and the other chick. I think /u/red-sfpplus had a post where he did this.
/r/askMRP15/11/24 03:17 AM
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As a former fat fuck - fully agree. Your mindset changes to realize fuel is food. Food is not an emotional crutch for your shit life.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/24 02:32 PM
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"Woah, finally a nice gesture from you" It was a really good BJ babe.
/r/askMRP06/11/24 09:38 PM
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Moralizing
/r/askMRP29/10/24 06:44 PM
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If it’s not a “priority” for you, what’s the point of this post? You’re hamstering why you’re fine with this situation when you’re not. And this has nothing to do with her being pregnant - it’s been an issue for awhile right? You’re unattractive to her. What are you lifts and BF?
/r/askMRP28/10/24 12:32 PM
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Split your finances and give her a fixed amount. If you both work - just do that with your money and ensure the bills are paid. You’re enabling this and you don’t need to ask her permission to do this.
/r/askMRP26/10/24 09:50 PM
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You can’t be the oak here because your wife despises and doesn’t respect you. So do whatever you want with the dog but you’re not going to influence shit. Go lift and read the side bar. I guarantee if you don’t STFU on this you won’t keep frame more than a few seconds and somehow end up with two new dogs.
/r/askMRP26/10/24 09:48 PM
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So you’re 1) retarded when driving and get bent out of shape by randos 2) double down on retarded behavior? 3) THEN triple down and do more retarded shit with your MIL? You’re must be a fucking joy to be married to. Next time you do something retarded, maybe own up to it? Why didn’t you just say “you’re right, I shouldn’t have lost my temper” to your wife? Instead you wanted to continue to argue and be bent out of shape about it? Oh I know, because you have a frame and ego problem.
/r/askMRP19/10/24 03:22 AM
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“Got her”. Tells me everything I need to know about your frame.
/r/askMRP17/10/24 01:50 AM
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/r/TooLivelyBedrooms don’t suffer alone.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/24 01:52 PM
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5 years? Damn, go get a hooker.
/r/askMRP08/09/24 12:03 PM
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You sound horribly boring. No wonder your LTR thinks her life sucks.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/24 12:32 AM
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Why are you seeking validation from your SO?
/r/askMRP06/09/24 12:28 AM
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How many lead paint chips have you eaten? You’re clearly retarded.
/r/askMRP04/09/24 11:57 PM
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If you have to ask, you already know the answer.
/r/askMRP27/08/24 08:21 PM
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Duty sex sucks. Sometimes you just want to go to sleep, you know?
/r/askMRP27/08/24 08:20 PM
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“I will not be with a woman who talks about our relationship to others” And then… don’t be. It’s not that hard. You’re just overly invested in her and what she does. You’re clearly not a husband worth respecting. So sidebar, lift, stfu and OYS. But you won’t. You’ll double down with more egotistical bull shit.
/r/askMRP25/08/24 01:49 AM
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AskMRP
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/24 05:21 PM
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Why do you believe this deserves a separate post? And not in OYS? We're leaving this up as a lesson... not because you did something amazing. "Anyways, that's it, guys. I survived this, the wife has behaved decently, but I still can't sleep properly and am very affected." Your brain saw the matrix. You chose the blue pill here. Next time try the other one.
/r/askMRP22/08/24 11:55 PM
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She - 13, her 14. Hmm someone isn't their own mental point of origin. I wonder how things went so wrong with him?
/r/askMRP22/08/24 11:54 PM
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Yay you went through tough shit. No one cares. Go back to observing.
/r/askMRP21/08/24 07:36 AM
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Why are you with this woman?
/r/askMRP10/08/24 07:16 PM
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There are no relational prerequisites. Nuke the marriage - become a happy man is a success story.
/r/askMRP10/08/24 07:09 PM
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5’ 6” 135 lbs. Aww you’re so tiny.
/r/askMRP08/08/24 12:20 AM
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But it is… if you want it to be.
/r/askMRP05/08/24 12:45 AM
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Being where this guy is - it’s tolerated since he believes she is better than him and he has no self respect. He has to kill that guy and then likely will nuke the marriage. Happiness is worth it.
/r/askMRP04/08/24 11:24 PM
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You’re not attractive. And not respected. There’s no quick fix. Stop digging the hole though. Aka. No to the car.
/r/askMRP04/08/24 11:21 PM
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“No” is a complete sentence. You’re fucked. This marriage is fucked. What have you read, lifts?
/r/askMRP04/08/24 08:36 PM
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You “milked it as much as you could”? Feel better? Retard.
/r/askMRP03/08/24 03:37 PM
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Askmrp
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/24 09:46 PM
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How have you led your wife at all during all this? Doing grunt work is not leading. And you can’t call her out if there were not expectations. What are your lifts and BF%
/r/askMRP29/07/24 08:12 PM
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So many covert contracts and failures of leadership. I like the “she turned over, cold again…. It that I care”. Yet you care enough to write about it. You’re so full of your own bullshit. Everyone smells it but you.
/r/askMRP29/07/24 08:09 PM
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Sex is the easy part.
/r/askMRP20/07/24 09:44 PM
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Solved in JUST 5 days. Chicks hate this one trick.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/24 12:41 AM
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“Alexa: define hysterical bonding”
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/24 10:25 PM
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Iron Rule #7
/r/askMRP18/07/24 10:21 PM
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There’s legends and stories about guys who made it. Alas, there’s just retards now. Retards as far as the eye can see. Like yourself
/r/askMRP14/07/24 12:08 AM
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When you’re attractive she always wants to be your slut. Be attractive. Don’t be unattractive.
/r/askMRP27/06/24 02:17 PM
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Did that surprise you as much as the shirime does the Japanese?
/r/askMRP25/06/24 10:21 PM
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$50 says she’s not actually BPD.
/r/askMRP20/06/24 11:56 PM
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Have you posted in OYS every week? What? You haven’t? Then gtfo. You should just quit and continue being part of the 95% of guys who suck.
/r/askMRP18/06/24 02:27 AM
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Approved. This is an interesting askMRP compared to the usual retarded questions.
/r/askMRP16/06/24 12:15 AM
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If you’re getting pissed off at others you’ve got some built up covert contracts. Yes there are times where external factors will affect your frame. Anger may be the result. But “putting someone in their place” is losing frame. You’re reacting to another’s actions and getting emotional. Set a boundary, enforce the boundary through actions. E.g. leave a situation / relationship that is no longer worth your time and energy. Controlled, measured anger does have its uses but that would still be with…
/r/askMRP12/06/24 07:47 PM
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The Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck is helpful for learning how to not give a fuck.
/r/askMRP12/06/24 07:41 PM
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“No” is a complete sentence. More importantly what are you busy doing to improve yourself or spending your time? Also, what exciting things do you have planned to take your wife on? Take the lead. Unless you don’t like your wife.
/r/askMRP11/06/24 02:01 PM
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Lift, sidebar, stfu, and religiously post in OYS. It’s that simple.
/r/askMRP10/06/24 02:14 PM
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It’s stupid because you’re doing everything to try and get a reaction from her you dumb fuck.
/r/askMRP10/06/24 12:00 AM
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You’re so far in your wife’s frame you’re sleeping in hotel rooms to try and make her see daylight. For fuck’s sake.
/r/askMRP09/06/24 05:50 PM
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Those sound hard… Should we tell them about our secret cheat codes?
/r/askMRP07/06/24 02:39 PM
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Here’s your help: there’s no conversation points because you need to stfu and have no conversation.
/r/askMRP07/06/24 12:10 AM
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We were all lost. And angry. 2 years is a long time to stay lost and angry after finding RP. You're wanting to change reality / fight against it. Reality doesn't care - that's the RP - you need to accept reality for what it is. Society has changed, the nature of women and attraction has not. The information you listed in the post seems conflicting - but it's not. Do what you want to do, set your boundaries. I don't give a flying fuck if people label something as alpha or beta. It doesn't matter.…
/r/askMRP05/06/24 04:16 PM
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You seem mad. Why are you mad at internet people? "My parents are married for 40 years, I've never ever seeing my dad encouraging anything of that sort, or don't giving a fuck if she's looking outside for validation. Maybe times change idk" Is he happy?
/r/askMRP05/06/24 03:48 PM
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Lol. Doing everything for a reaction from your wife. That’s not how an attractive man operates. Rule 1: be attractive Rule 2: don’t be unattractive You’re failing at both.
/r/askMRP01/06/24 09:21 PM
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You are doing all these things for her. Not for you. As in - to get into her pants. That won’t work. What do YOU want? It may not be with your current wife and you need to accept that.
/r/askMRP31/05/24 12:15 AM
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Sex is a problem… with you.
/r/askMRP30/05/24 08:06 PM
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You’re still with her ya dumbass. And lighting yourself on fire for her. Read the book.
/r/askMRP29/05/24 01:57 AM
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You know what I would do if one of my teenage : preteen girls threatened to kill themselves over (it doesn’t fucking matter what?)? They’d be in therapy the next day talking to a counselor. Because it’s not childish. It’s fucking serious behavior you dumb fuck.
/r/askMRP28/05/24 11:26 PM
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You told her you’re calling 911 next time “with a smile”? What the fuck. That’s not how you set a boundary you retard.
/r/askMRP28/05/24 06:21 PM
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I remember lying to myself like you are. Run hamster run.
/r/askMRP28/05/24 06:19 PM
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You’re asking if you should keep doing what you want and have sex with your wife? What the fuck do you think the answer is?
/r/askMRP24/05/24 07:18 PM
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Not special. Sidebar. Stfu. Stay plan is the go plan, etc. yawn.
/r/askMRP24/05/24 07:16 PM
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You're really good at finding excuses aren't you? No one cares you were a Bible thumper. No one cares you think your wife a prudish (she's not, you're the problem). No one cares you had a sexy ex who dumped you. No one cares you have a weak chest or a gym in the basement. Or your feelings on plates. Or your feel of spousal support or child support. No one gives a fuck about you. So STFU, lift more, and read the sidebar. Where are you at with the sidebar? Read NMMNG, WISNIFG. You know the basics.…
/r/askMRP20/05/24 02:35 PM
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Why didn’t you fuck in the shower? Do you only fuck in bed at night? Don’t be boring. How often are you dominant vs giving caring / feel good emotions during sex? Use DEVI.
/r/askMRP02/05/24 06:35 PM
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Talk to people… get over your fear of people not liking you and just talk to them. What’s the worst that happens? “Introvert” does not mean you can’t strike up a conversation. Go to a sporting event - alone - talk to the guy next to you. Join a club that you enjoy - talk to those people; talk to people at the gym. Go chat up some cute girl at a coffee shop. This really isn’t hard.
/r/askMRP26/04/24 11:43 PM
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Askmrp
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/24 03:12 PM
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He's a bigger twat than Chyna's steroid micro-penis was.
/r/askMRP03/04/24 03:56 PM
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Wow that sounds like a nightmare. The most telling is this sentence: “I don’t want to leave them with a bad memory of a house in disrepair”. If you divorce - why the fuck would you care?
/r/askMRP02/04/24 07:18 PM
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All good but the key is to stop giving a fuck. and go really internalize that. No one cares about you. And if you fuck up - you will recover. If you’re not dead - you can come back
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/24 03:49 PM
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Your anxiety stems from the fact that you deep down thank you suck. How are you going to change that core mindset?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/24 11:59 AM
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Interesting… you think so shitty of yourself that any perceived lack of interest or sex your head immediately goes to her getting rid of you / lining up someone else / cheating. So you’ll preemptively dump her. You can’t fire me, I quit mentality.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/24 11:57 AM
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What are the variations in life that captivate you? Because this sounds like some weird bullshit that you don’t know what you want.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/24 11:54 AM
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At some point external validation is a pleasant side effect at best of having frame. Sure it’s nice chatting up a cute girl and getting her number. However, the goal is not to need or seek it. It’s to simply know you’re fucking awesome and people have an issue with you - that’s their loss. Not yours.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/24 11:51 AM
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Again - if you’re serious, find a lawyer who can strategize. Give up more assets to reduce recurring payments in alimony. A smart lawyer knows how to play the game and get to mediation. Yes “worse case”. Your idea to stay together is dumb and fully out of fear.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/24 11:35 AM
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You need to talk to another lawyer. Only 8 years with one kid? 5k for life? Something doesn’t smell right.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/24 08:49 AM
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I didn’t read this but did notice a lot of “she” and “her” when scrolling past. What do you think that says about where your head is at?
/r/askMRP01/04/24 01:53 PM
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Damn you’re boring. What’s an argument? You’re missing out on having a lot of fun and playing around with women with. Even painting how a girl acts as a shit test shows somethings inherently wrong in your frame.
/r/askMRP01/04/24 12:41 AM
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There's a lot of "she" here. What is your assessment of the situation? Are you ramboing? And remember: If you can't be vulnerable your frame is shit.
/r/askMRP28/03/24 06:48 PM
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Why do you care if she eats or not? Feed the kids. You care way too much what she does/does not/thinks.
/r/askMRP24/03/24 10:06 PM
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Is something wrong with me? Yes but not in the way you’re thinking
/r/askMRP16/03/24 01:39 AM
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Searched your messages after 4 months without any reasons at all? That’s a no-go. Glad you’re breaking up. This is a loss. Move on.
/r/askMRP12/03/24 12:04 AM
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Once upon a time I got really great advice. I will share it with you now: Lick her asshole.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/24 04:24 PM
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This isn’t TRP
/r/askMRP25/02/24 08:26 AM
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You’re angry at “some young dude” and her. Your anger is misplaced. Use that anger and focus it where it belongs - towards yourself for improvement.
/r/askMRP19/02/24 04:07 PM
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C) neither. The simple answer is “cool”. Or “ok”. I’m sure you have some shit planned for yourself this weekend right?
/r/askMRP17/02/24 12:52 AM
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Blah blah blah. None of what you wrote matters. What do you want? Moving on….
/r/askMRP08/02/24 05:00 AM
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I am keeping a tally of the shit tests that I am passing Well at least you're not scoreboarding. I'm fairly certain my wife may have Borderline Personality Disorder and have suspected so for year So... why are you still with her? Also, doesn't matter if she does or doesn't.
/r/askMRP16/01/24 10:02 PM
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This is genius. If you lock her in the house (metaphorically speaking), there's definitely no way she can catch feelz for anyone else.
/r/askMRP16/01/24 07:41 PM
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Oh no she’s mad and annoyed. I get the sense there’s something being left out here though. Are you fucking up elsewhere and not owning shit? Becoming complacent so she’s now looking at your income for beta bux? Prepping for divorce? Or maybe she just woke up one day and wondered “hmm how much does my husband make?”.
/r/askMRP11/01/24 11:52 PM
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You are still a drunk captain in her eyes. FTFY
/r/askMRP09/01/24 06:52 PM
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“This doesn’t bother me at all so I’m going to make a post about it”.
/r/askMRP02/01/24 04:34 PM
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But he’s “considering” self-improvement! I really don’t get it - if you’re attractive 1) your wife isn’t going to want anyone else 2) if she does, who cares?
/r/askMRP21/12/23 12:08 AM
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/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/23 03:56 PM
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Why blame women for being women?
/r/askMRP19/12/23 02:30 AM
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/u/HornsofApathy wrote THE post on this ILYBINILWY
/r/askMRP18/12/23 07:58 PM
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You suck. Your life is shit. And you got “ILYBINILWY”. So your marriage is shit too. Answer seems straightforward: lift heavy, sidebar, stfu, and own your shit. And lawyer up.
/r/askMRP17/12/23 06:34 PM
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Why do you care? Don’t you have fun and or busy shit to be doing when traveling? You are withholding saying things to get a reaction from her. Not because you’re busy enjoying life or working and don’t have much time for texting/ calling your wife. For fuck sake. When are you retards going to learn to just do things for you and what you want. Not to to “increase the dread, durrr”.
/r/askMRP17/12/23 06:22 PM
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And there’s the covert contract.
/r/askMRP15/12/23 03:05 PM
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Do you want to share your location with your wife? What does the sex frequency have to do with the location sharing? There’s a weird covert contract here.
/r/askMRP15/12/23 01:20 PM
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“And in most cases what Epicurus said should help: that pain is neither unbearable nor unending, as long as you keep in mind its limits and don’t magnify them in your imagination. And keep in mind too that pain often comes in disguise—as drowsiness, fever, loss of appetite. . . . When you’re bothered by things like that, remind yourself: “I’m giving in to pain.” -Marcus Aurelius
/r/askMRP04/12/23 09:55 PM
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“Seeking advice from others with chronic pain”. I’m giving you advice. You’re just not willing to hear it. Get as much as you can under control and fight through it. Putting the pain out there as your reason you can’t do things takes your time and mental energy away from doing what you CAN do. It’s just another version of a scarcity mindset.
/r/askMRP04/12/23 07:13 PM
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Stop blaming your health issues as the reason for a crappy life. Lifts - 185 bench press, no squats as I've got a hernia, no dead lifts because hernia, I stick to machines that don't put pressure on my pelvic floor. Now you're using a hernia as an excuse for not lifting legs. When are you getting that fixed?
/r/askMRP04/12/23 04:32 PM
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Are there any other excuses you want to throw out? Have you been to a pain management specialist? Have you seen a pain management therapist? Or have you just decided to self-medicate? Lifts?
/r/askMRP04/12/23 03:52 PM
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Your marriage is done. Go see a lawyer. Get more help for the kids (more daycare, a nanny, whatever). Your mindset now should be that of a single parent as you prepare for separation. You’re doing that now pretty much anyhow. And yes your business may be fucked as well. You MUST be willing to blow it all up to get the life you want. I’m sure there are creative solutions to buy her off to keep the business as well. And I’d put down money she’s banging the guy at work.
/r/askMRP02/12/23 07:53 PM
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You’re viewing this wrong. It’s not losing. It’s winning your freedom back.
/r/askMRP02/12/23 07:49 PM
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My friend's wife (his name is Dale) goes to see Dr. Redcorn. Said it has completely changed her from an uptight harpy to very laid back and relaxed. While he doesn't really know what the 'secret' to the therapy is, the 3x a week sessions always leave her very mellow. The sex with her is improving. The other day, he was even able to lay next to her naked and they touched each other. He didn't climax or anything - but sex isn't just about climaxing and PIV.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/23 08:41 PM
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Where are you at in terms of being prepared to go and pick up women? What are your prospects? Hell - what are your lifts? A year/ year and a half isn’t that long working on yourself. And your wife is the best fucking sparring partner you’re going to find. Do you know when you’re ready for divorce? When you’re not feeling an emotion towards her of anger, frustration, etc. Feel disappointment maybe. Or sadness it didn’t work out. But not anger. Hint: you’re not ready for divorce. Next exercise: wh…
/r/askMRP30/11/23 05:30 AM
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You’re not congruent in your write up. “Sex denial is cruel” “I haven’t had sex in 21 days and it’s ok” Which is it?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/23 05:56 AM
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Be honest with yourself - how confident are you that you could be fucking another chick in let’s say 10 days of making a concerted effort? Without that abundance mindset and knowing you can do this… you’re sex life will never be where you want it.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/23 05:54 AM
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Given certain science experiments, you’re arguing with the wrong guy.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/23 05:39 AM
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Stop bullshitting us. And more importantly stop bullshitting yourself. Your kid is nearly (or is) 3 months old. Sex aka PIV should be back on the table. What about BJs , anal? What excuse is your wife using on you that has you convinced in your own head that no actual fucking is A-ok and rubbing each other like teenagers and not cumming is “good sex”? This semen retention shit is a cop out for your wife not actually pleasing you. HOA, ICM, myself have been around here long enough that we have an…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/23 05:36 AM
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Let's focus on the issue of 155 lb sq. Wtf? I double checked... After 8 months of not lifting and major abdomen surgery I started back at an e1RM of 160 lbs and was back to 2 plates in a month. Fix this.
/r/askMRP29/11/23 01:42 AM
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You're looking at this the wrong way. Why do you want to get married? What benefits does marriage bring to you? The rest is just noise and your hamster. E.g. However, knowing what I know about female nature, hypergamy, etc., it’s impossible for me to get attached to the level where I don’t ALWAYS have an exit plan (what my single life would look like, what’d I do, etc.). Who the fuck cares? This is meaningless to the questions above.
/r/askMRP29/11/23 01:39 AM
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Verbal Intercourse is Optional
/r/askMRP24/11/23 03:08 AM
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Can he pay someone to get out of the hole for him?
/r/askMRP21/11/23 04:51 PM
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There is a lot to unpack here. But fundamentally you’re not leading your life. You’re letting externalities determine how YOU live - your job, your “adhd”, your wife with sex. When are you going to start driving and owning your shit? When are you going to dictate what is important and worth your time?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/23 01:19 AM
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Drop the body fat and your issues likely will resolve themselves.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/23 01:16 AM
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Your marriage is over. Whether you accept it or not. So you can either lead and decide on the exit strategy or let her drive it.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/23 01:14 AM
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Your first three bullets under mission all require external validation. Why are you so desperate for others’ approval of you you’re making it your mission in life?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/23 01:08 AM
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Your first three bullets under mission all require external validation. Why are you so desperate for others’ approval of you you’re making it your mission in life?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/23 01:07 AM
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Lmao. You dodged a bullet. Why the fuck are you depressed?
/r/askMRP14/11/23 10:10 PM
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Take it out on the weights. And stfu to your wife.
/r/askMRP14/11/23 01:16 PM
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The issue is you're DEERing to randos on the internet about your inability to get laid. This is NOT a hard concept. Your frame sucks and you have an "I'm so awesome my wife should beg to gulp down my cock" ego. Reality is that you suck and your wife feels that you suck. Next you'll be making a spreadsheet and showing graphs to her on fuck frequency. Because you're already ticking those boxes in your head and keeping score.
/r/askMRP08/11/23 11:01 PM
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My point is yeh I could work on game etc but I FEEL I’m already good enough to get that ass every day. you get me? my point is because I’m that HV guy I DESERVE this. If you can't even get your wife to fuck you... where's that put your HV feeeeellliinngs? Women whine about their feelings, men go out and do shit.
/r/askMRP08/11/23 10:57 PM
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Cash can temporarily bolster the rank but as soon as cash runs out, you return to the original rank and many times fall below the original.
/r/askMRP07/11/23 12:59 AM
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All this drama for snacks in a bag. It's not about the snacks...
/r/askMRP30/10/23 02:38 PM
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They should be thanking him. He's a god damned hero.
/r/askMRP23/10/23 07:38 PM
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You’re incongruent as fuck
/r/askMRP16/09/23 01:34 AM
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You care too much on what’s going through her head. No main event is on the horizon.
/r/askMRP09/09/23 01:03 PM
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Agree he should fuck the baby sitter. Just don’t get her pregnant.
/r/askMRP03/09/23 08:55 PM
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It helps to build a spreadsheet and put a ranking on each activity to determine if it’s structural or a plowhorse. Also should track sex on the sheet and make fancy graphs.
/r/askMRP25/08/23 08:44 PM
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“I see fear driving me to terrible states of anxiety where all I want, all I desire, from the bottom of my heart is comfort. To feel safe.” Everyone has fear. You use it as an excuse vs a tool to push yourself and grow. Feeling safe and wanting comfort is a fixed mindset that will never lead to anything but a weak man who can’t deal with unexpected events in life. If you’re not continually growing / improving / challenging yourself then you’re falling behind. Fix that mindset.
/r/askMRP25/08/23 12:35 PM
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By phrasing a statement idiotically as “turning up alpha behavior” - there’s a covert contract there. “If I turn up alpha behavior then X will happen”. What is X?
/r/askMRP25/08/23 12:00 PM
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Is this progression or regression? It's just being retarded. Here's what's happening: you're an idiot, and your wife knows you're an idiot. You're a dancing monkey who expects life to magically change in 14 days. Stop hitting random buttons and expecting a reaction from you wife. ​ also turned up my alpha behaviour to not doing as many chores as usual I have no idea what the fuck this even means. Sounds to me you're either not owning your shit or have some sort of weird covert contract.
/r/askMRP24/08/23 10:00 PM
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What is not trying to fuck going to get you?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/23 11:41 AM
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What is not trying to fuck going to get you?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/23 11:36 AM
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Why do YOU feel embarrassed when SHE doesn’t clean her shit up? You care too much about what others’ entering your house think. Clean yours - and the kid’s if needed. Leave hers.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/23 08:57 AM
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Found the autistic retard.
/r/askMRP27/07/23 01:42 PM
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“Good communication” is womanese for “I don’t have the tingles with you anymore”
/r/askMRP26/07/23 12:26 AM
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Stop over thinking shit. For fuck’s sake. Do you want to give her the gift? Give her the damn gift. Who cares what it seems like to her. You play games with a woman and you lose - just by playing. So simple answer - don’t play.
/r/askMRP26/07/23 12:26 AM
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She she she. Who the fuck cares. You did something stupid (it seems) out of insecurity. Say it once and then never again: “That was a really dumb thing of me to do, won’t happen again” And that’s it. Erase it and move on. She will or she won’t. It’s not a consequence to you and your life, at least it shouldn’t be.
/r/askMRP26/07/23 12:24 AM
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We’ve moved on from scoreboard to rain delays and make up games. God help OP.
/r/askMRP19/07/23 11:20 PM
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It’s pretty simple… “are you happy?” If not, what does that look like?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/23 02:45 AM
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That’s not a main event you dumbass.
/r/askMRP14/07/23 02:36 AM
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The way you stated it is a covert contract. “If I withdrawal my attention, she’ll fuck me”. That’s retard thinking. That’s not what is being advocated for. You go do something better with your time than dealing with a frigid wife. She may or may not fuck you - it’s of no consequence.
/r/askMRP11/07/23 09:53 AM
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Stop blaming your wife and trying to arm chair diagnose her. All women are solipsistic.
/r/askMRP10/07/23 12:25 PM
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What’s in your control here? where you work (work from a coffee shop or a temp office place) how you react, don’t get butt hurt. You have a choice. She doesn’t like the way you feed the kid? Oh well, ignore it and keep feeding it. don’t respond to texts or calls if she’s disrespectful She starts berating you - tell her that isn’t going to work for you, go to a bar and pick up a 20 something.
/r/askMRP09/07/23 09:22 PM
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Get a recorder as she’ll likely accuse you of DV. And then file. Lift, stfu, read and post in OYS This isn’t salvageable.
/r/askMRP06/07/23 11:57 AM
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Today is the 4th of July (no, we don’t celebrate it in my country) There’s your first problem.
/r/askMRP04/07/23 11:32 PM
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So you’re a mess of a man who gets butt hurt he doesn’t get gifts? You got a lot of work to do. She does not matter. She’ll stay… or go. It’s inconsequential.
/r/askMRP03/07/23 03:32 PM
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She’s a pretty cheap whore at $100. Take this as a lesson to not lend money to her and keep fucking her. Whatever. It’s $100.
/r/askMRP30/06/23 12:48 AM
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That was pretty stupid to lend her money and expecting it back. I’m going to continue withdrawing attention until she’s ready to talk about the money she owes me. Yeah, that’ll show her!
/r/askMRP29/06/23 07:42 PM
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It's a shitty comfort test. Have you asked her why she wants to know? Then tell her that you chose her and that you won't be discussing it going forward. You're treating it like a shit test when it's not. - She's afraid based on your past she will just be another number for you. Maybe, maybe not, but it's a comfort test.
/r/askMRP27/06/23 02:25 PM
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Congrats, I guess?
/r/askMRP26/06/23 10:18 PM
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Congrats! Sweet sweet silence.
/r/askMRP26/06/23 06:53 PM
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“She says…” you’re retarded.
/r/askMRP25/06/23 06:22 PM
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how long it took for you to get to a state where you were no longer a beta with a nice guy behaviour You’re asking the wrong question. and your marriage dynamic had changed drastically? You’re also looking at the wrong measurement. I’ll fix it for you: “How long does it take to stop living for others, develop a strong frame, figure out what I want in life, and get what I want in life?” And the answer is “it depends”. For me - 24 months. My marriage dynamic definitely changed drastically since I …
/r/askMRP25/06/23 01:25 PM
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“I attracted my wife through tricks and read material but never internalized it. My wife makes valid ‘complaints’ and I agree and amplify vs owning my shit. I have covert contracts that if I was more interesting or lead more or do X better, my wife would fuck me like a whore. I even tell her I don’t play by her scorecard - so that means I have frame even though I’m angry and get butthurt by her”
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/23 03:00 PM
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had a good religious reason for not getting her number Whatever you need to tell yourself
/r/askMRP23/06/23 11:34 AM
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Dude is angry. That he has to hide stuff. Doesn’t have the frame to own it and NGAF. Guarantee he can’t stfu and fog even this statement. I remember my ex finding books and how scared and angry I was about it. Current wife? Don’t care, she can see it all - whatever. Never been an issue.
/r/askMRP23/06/23 01:36 AM
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Looks good. Her birthday is coming up.
/r/askMRP23/06/23 01:33 AM
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Love this idea. OP must report back when he does this for.. research purposes
/r/askMRP23/06/23 12:41 AM
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has already asked numerous questions about TRM and Ethos of Men. “Those books are not for you and I won’t discuss them”.
/r/askMRP23/06/23 12:30 AM
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Magic
/r/askMRP21/06/23 10:37 PM
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OP doesn’t have to suffer in silence. The struggle is real.
/r/askMRP18/06/23 05:27 PM
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It’s a common MRP tactic to go through their women’s phone, Where the fuck did you read that?
/r/askMRP13/06/23 01:04 AM
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Half of nothing is nothing. There's no assets - an apartment that my guess is being leased and "We are broke as fuck so I don't know how to afford a lawyer or divorce fees" I don't care wtf he does - my point is that there are multiple paths and he's just choosing to keep spinning his wheels.
/r/askMRP08/06/23 05:18 PM
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Get lawyer, use a credit card, declare bankruptcy, restart. Do lawyer consult, learn enough law to file yourself, probably get screwed, restart Hire lawyer, go into debt, don’t declare bankruptcy, restart Don’t do anything, get arrested for DV, hire lawyer, spend some time in jail, get divorced anyways, restart You’re a retard for sure, but you don’t have to stay retarded.
/r/askMRP08/06/23 02:04 AM
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I didn’t really read it but I think it’s about Nazi role play. Any help?
/r/askMRP07/06/23 11:39 PM
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/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/23 08:11 PM
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My theory and data from 5 years here is yes. You have to break. It can be cheating, divorce, a major life event, but something breaks you to see the cracks and realize “what the fuck do I have to lose putting myself out there and doing something different?” In my case it was several compounding issues but it damn near destroyed me. It didn’t. And I’m much better and stronger for it. To the extent I sometimes feel I don’t give enough fucks about anything.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/23 03:45 AM
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You’ve got a long way to go. Stick with the basics now. Lift, stfu, continue sidebar and OYS. Stop living a passive life due to anxiety and fear. I’d rephrase this for now to: putting myself out there despite anxiety and fear. Do you think guys who’ve “made it” don’t have anxiety or fear? We do, at least I do. But I have conditioned myself the more anxiety or fear gives me more drive to do that thing. And that had led to great success in all areas of my life. At the moment I’m at a stable projec…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/23 03:42 AM
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No shit. Women don’t need to know. It’s naturally ingrained into the genetics.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/23 03:33 AM
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This situation sound like an absolute win to me. Not creepy at all.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/23 03:31 AM
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I’ll expand on horns. You have to lift heavy because it’s a struggle to overcome. Pushing large weights up and sometimes failing strengthens the mind even more so than the body. You have no idea the impact lifting heavy has on your mental state. And once you do - if you ever cannot lift for whatever reason your mentality suffers.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/23 03:30 AM
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I came back after a 6 month break and major surgery and was lifting more than you. Stop hamstering and realize you have a ways to go.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/23 03:28 AM
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I will have 4 weeks off work. I am contemplating signing up to the local gym (which sucks ass but is the only one close) and just lift 1/2x pr week for maintenance until I can get back into the groove in August. You have 4 weeks off and you’re planning to lift less? Lift more, go hard.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/23 02:27 PM
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Don’t know where I am at Angry. You’re very angry. Which is fine but you’ll need to move past it. Ensure you’re doing things for you and not “to get back at” your wife. Or at least admit when you are trying to get back at her. All good progress though.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/23 02:00 PM
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You may, in fact, be retarded. Have you had an IQ test?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/23 12:00 AM
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Does she wear a latex glove to give you a hand job?
/r/askMRP31/05/23 09:54 PM
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This sub exists to “teach” men how to improve their marriagethemselves FTFY
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/23 01:15 AM
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Do yall think I have a chance keeping her or is it over? Why does this matter?
/r/askMRP28/05/23 07:48 PM
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Do HVM care where their partner goes to college? No
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/23 10:48 PM
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Those words are all the evidence you need.
/r/askMRP26/05/23 10:42 PM
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What would you guys do? Similiar situation. I stay the fuck out of it because idgaf.
/r/askMRP26/05/23 12:23 AM
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I’m trying to give retardant dynamite. Why are you ruining my fun.
/r/askMRP26/05/23 12:22 AM
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My wife seems to be constantly compliance testing Water is wet. How the fuck can a man live like this lol with this constant bullshit. And you fail a lot of them. Learn to enjoy and have fun with this. asks if I’ll take down our washing basket at 10pm at night “Wow, how wet did I make your panties today? It’s not going to start smelling is it?”
/r/askMRP25/05/23 07:03 PM
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stating women require emotional connection to get in the mood And water is wet
/r/askMRP24/05/23 03:24 AM
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Ah cool, so you’re an alcoholic? And an idiot.
/r/askMRP24/05/23 03:23 AM
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Like, what if I dreamed up my own reality that DOES now work but was still an unpredictable narcissistic fueled hamster having asshole? Go ahead and live in your fantasy world... not how reality actually works.
/r/askMRP22/05/23 08:10 PM
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Approving. Make this one fun.
/r/askMRP22/05/23 05:49 PM
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Don’t encourage retards.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/23 05:47 PM
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Stupid questions go in askmrp
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/23 05:47 PM
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It is my conviction that this is the best course of action, and I am going to do this whether she follows my lead or not. Until she chooses to act like my first mate again, I am not going to run things by her when the stakes are high and I am on a mission to get out of this. This is a good response showing frame. however: many would point out that I was asking permission, creating covert contracts (e.g. if I show her that I will make more money then she might sleep with me more), or DEERing like…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/23 11:25 PM
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You seem as lost a cause as DTC… but maybe not. Why do you feel the need to respond vs just ignoring and doing what you believe is best? That’s how it is when you’ve embarked on a project or a journey that another person just simply doesn’t understand. And that’s okay. comment is 100% DEERing.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/23 08:17 PM
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Then you either have low T or are fooling yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/23 01:15 PM
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It’s ok to have a hard on for Horns’. Very odd your obsession with thinking his journey has nothing for you to learn from.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/23 04:51 AM
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Why is so much of this about your wife?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/23 04:46 AM
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OYS Year #2, Entry #1 Lifting: stopped lifting/gym entirely in the fall of 2022. These two items are incongruent. Where did you get the idea lifting was optional and stop?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/23 04:44 AM
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Main goal is to look in the mirror and not hate what I see. Just wait until the body dysmorphia kicks in.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/23 04:43 AM
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Do you not see it as… odd that you didn’t inform her of a major shift like getting a second job? That’s a really shitty captain mentality and screams of ego.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/23 04:42 AM
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I get the sense he’s pissed off for her getting the promotion.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/23 04:38 AM
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Being sick really did a number on me. It was so discouraging to be in constant pain and not be able to do the things that I enjoyed, and just be counting the days until I got better. I could feel myself getting depressed but managed to tell myself that it was a temporary feeling and it would pass. I had no desire to initiate sex this week, as I still felt disfigured by this ailment. But I definitely fell off the wagon on my no-porn streak. You were sick for only two weeks. Suck it up and handle …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/23 04:35 AM
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Get an escort. They’ll pretend to like you and fuck you for a a few hundred.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/23 04:31 AM
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If I fail my goal XYZ by date ABC, I will donate 100€ to this institution EFG I really hate Punishing yourself or setting weird motivations does not solve your broader discipline problem. Why are you failing? Are the goals unattainable (probably not) or are you just sucking to work on them?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/23 04:29 AM
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There are a lot of covert contracts in this. Do you see them?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/23 04:25 AM
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And you’re going to keep this cycle and then it will end. It’s too far gone. I tried to save a marriage out of ego and fear. I didn’t want it as a “failure”, but fuck that thinking. And you are 100% fearful. I guarantee it. You’ll be fine. Kill it or live in this endless cycle of blow ups and reconciliation.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/23 04:18 AM
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“I want to re-create some of this sex-craziness in my LTR on a Daily/Weekly basis. “ Fixed this. Covert contract otherwise.
/r/askMRP16/05/23 04:36 AM
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Same story… different day. One of the best lessons outside of being selfish and taking care of myself first is that women are emotional creatures who need to feel the spectrum. I’ve been told several times from my wife I know what she needs more than she does. And it’s true. Manufacturing excitement, anxiety, drama, happiness is part of the game. It’s fun. Everyone benefits. Ultimately - everyone is happier. Why not create the track for the highs and lows of emotions so you she can feel it in a …
/r/askMRP16/05/23 04:33 AM
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Good boy, gold star for you.
/r/askMRP11/05/23 05:03 PM
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/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/23 09:26 PM
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Some ego on you coupled by a lot of insecurities. Relationship is doomed. Not because of her but because you’re wrapped up in a fantasy and putting her on a pedestal.
/r/askMRP05/05/23 02:01 AM
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/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/23 12:22 PM
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Average Calories : 2207 (22% over goal) Average Proteing: 116g (28% below goal) Those are not insignificant misses. You should be eating 180g protein minimum a day. It's very simple to do.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/23 03:14 PM
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1.) I do want to have sex more often. 2.) I don't want to talk about it. I think this should be self-evident. This is pretty much the definition of a covert contract. I still don't want to talk about it. I have a few other options within reach, but I don't want to waste my resources (time and effort) to satisfy this desire outside. You're really hamstering here. I want X but I don't want to do Y. HOWEVER, I could get X if I wanted to, but I'm not because of Z. Sure you could...
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/23 03:04 PM
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His mother has said that time with him will be his choice since I have no legal rights. Yes, this is how it works. You can't control it. Sucks, process it and move on. Get out of "her" mindset. ​ Why do I want to be in a step son’s life so much? I am not sure but I know I love the kid and have always wanted what’s best for him so not sure what my options are. That's fine to want, but you're not going to get it. So what are you going to do?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/23 03:02 PM
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Sex : None this week. No desire for it with my wife. I didn't initiate. No Porn for 27 days. SGM is on my to do list. Will continue to avoid porn and initiate when I feel desire. How much is no desire vs fear to initiate? It is not normal to not want to fuck for a week+. Get your T in check if so.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/23 03:00 PM
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I also found the legal pathway I want to pursue when the time comes and on my terms. This thing is done. I know deep down there is no intent to file from the opposing party. The only questions that come to mind are: How long do I sit on this stuff? Can I push through the bullshit if a return is in order and work on my assertiveness and breaking nice guy behaviors? The stay plan is the go plan and moving with or without a spouse is happening. She doesn't exist. This is dumb - go file. It's over. …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/23 02:58 PM
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he past week I have continued following Starting Strength while eating at maintenance, with the goal of getting my lifts to body weight multiples of 2 (DL), 1.5 (SQ) and 1 (BP). I intend on starting to cut as soon as I am stalling out on Starting Strength. At 20% BF, I'd be cutting now. And it's summer soon.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/23 02:55 PM
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Butt plugs aren’t free.
/r/askMRP01/05/23 11:11 PM
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You’re just full of covert contracts aren’t you? Fix yourself. The marriage is irrelevant.
/r/askMRP27/04/23 12:41 AM
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scent of delicious carbs or whisky sends me into 2/3 4000 cal days. In truth I just didn't want it enough. Don't have relaxed days... you clearly can't handle them. It's an addiction you have. to food.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/23 02:56 PM
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Discipline is doing shit even if you’re emotions don’t want you too. You know what I did not feel like doing today? Lift. You know what I did today because I’m doing a 5 day week program and today is shoulders and biceps? Lift. Because it didn’t matter what I felt like, today was a lifting day. I had zero motivation. But I had discipline.
/r/askMRP22/04/23 12:30 AM
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You’re still blaming “circumstances” and your girlfriend for your own issues. “No lifting or exercise since I’m away” - there are several options here. Day pass, hotel gym, hell even bodyweight exercises are better than nothing. “Shit food” - don’t eat the shit food “Couldn’t be alone” - go for a walk, to a bar, go see a movie by yourself. You don’t have to be around her 24/7 if you don’t want to. And her female friends are a great way to lightly game and flirt.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/23 12:03 PM
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When I’m traveling my wife is lucky to get 5-10 mins every other day. I’m busy as fuck.
/r/askMRP22/03/23 12:32 PM
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Verbal Intercourse is Optional You know you can hang up a phone right?
/r/askMRP22/03/23 12:06 PM
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“I never loved you and I’m not in love with you” Sounds a lot worse than ILYBINILWY
/r/askMRP16/03/23 10:11 PM
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once i start getting paid will get me a gym membership and gym clothes. ​ Well shit dude, no wonder she's getting a sugar daddy.
/r/askMRP06/03/23 06:14 PM
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Any advice on how to handle? Be attractive Don’t be unattractive Lift more. Eat less. Have other women attracted to you. I’m this specific situation you had multiple hours to handle the situation yourself if it was important to you (find a friend, hire a sitter, drop in childcare, nearby relative). Instead you chose nothing. If you’re not a priority that’s your fault. Not hers. Here’s the answer when she texted you: “I’ll handle it”.
/r/askMRP02/03/23 04:45 AM
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/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/23 06:23 PM
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/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/23 04:57 AM
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JFC. Bars are easy as fuck. Go whine somewhere else
/r/askMRP23/02/23 12:49 AM
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Women aren’t allowed to post here.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/23 04:25 AM
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“I still blame my upbringing for my circumstances” “I blame my ex for me deciding to get married” “I blame my ex for not taking steps to protect myself financially” “I never got the sex life I wanted with FWB” Fixed your comments.
/r/askMRP07/02/23 06:50 PM
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how do I get back to living a red pill lifestyle? You never were.
/r/askMRP07/02/23 06:19 PM
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Why would I want more dread? Natural dread is already up to 11 some days.
/r/askMRP06/02/23 12:58 AM
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That’s the main end goal of TRP: change the way others react to you. No Of course this starts with inner game, but it ends with other people. You sure care a lot about others’ opinion of you. That’s the issue.
/r/askMRP01/02/23 12:46 PM
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Fight back the urge to turn yellow despite your liver killing you. Be a man. Chop up a fell tree and carry it all to the woods. Rip out your biliary tube and floss with it. Be a man. Don’t take any narcotics. Tell pain you will hurt them. Be a man. Lmao. Sounds pretty stupid when your write it out like that.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/23 03:15 AM
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There's that.. and if you got a few trusted friends telling you you're being stupid, perhaps reconsider the decision again. You don't have to ultimately agree with them, however reconsidering their advice/input just makes sense.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/23 05:20 PM
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This is the main quote I kept coming back to: “Here is a rule to remember in future, when anything tempts you to feel bitter: not "This is misfortune," but "To bear this worthily is good fortune.” ― Marcus Aurelius, Meditations
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/23 02:42 PM
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/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/23 08:41 PM
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/r/askMRP27/01/23 08:36 PM
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If there’s any tricks to bypass all the talking Yes, it's called STFU and go after what you want. If you're rejected - you're rejected, go do something else. You want to go to bed at 10:30 yet you're going to stay up for her to get sex from her. This is the wrong mindset.
/r/askMRP27/01/23 08:36 PM
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Moralizing. Enjoy your sex dolls. For the rest a reminder: MRP is amoral. What a man does with the tools, his morals and limits is up to him. Each man must forge his own path and decide what he wants for himself.
/r/askMRP27/01/23 02:46 AM
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You haven’t had any real challenges in your life have you?
/r/askMRP27/01/23 02:36 AM
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Lmao. I didn’t even read this before posting my other comment. Fucking idiot.
/r/askMRP27/01/23 12:06 AM
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It’s only “fair”. Who said anything about having her fuck other guys?
/r/askMRP27/01/23 12:05 AM
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Good sex is your job. Make the variety. It isn’t hard. Or divorce. Or have affairs. Or open the marriage.
/r/askMRP27/01/23 12:04 AM
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Do whatever the fuck your want. We don’t care.
/r/askMRP27/01/23 12:02 AM
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Eventually after like an hour she follows my lead and I guide her to finish her task. The moment she finishes I tell her “listen, I care a lot, I love you, but I need you to talk to me respectfully while I’m trying to help, and not shut me up or criticize me, because next time I will have to leave a situation like this.” This is just words. No action. Boundary crossed - that’s it, you walk away.
/r/askMRP26/01/23 01:07 PM
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On Thursday night she asked me if I wanted a handjob to which I replied with a laugh “what am I in 8th grade?” So… What did you want? And what made you afraid to do after that?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/23 08:43 AM
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My Shit: This was a rough week. I had a flair up of a chronic medical condition that caused days of fatigue and intense pain. Don’t be a dumbass and do something stupid to make recovery last longer. I’ve been there multiple times and then almost always ended up in a much worse spot for not backing off a bit when I needed to.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/23 08:32 AM
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Track your calories. Eat less than your burn. That’s it. That’s the secret. You start eating fruit for dinner and 4 apples and a pound of grapes later and you just ate 700+ calories of carbs. Chicken breast, lean beef, and fish with some brown rice and broccoli will be much better for you. Go smoke or cook a few pounds of chicken on the weekend and put in containers with a cup of rice and broccoli / green beans / whatever vegetable and stack up 7 meals on Sunday. Easy shit. Treat yourself with s…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/23 08:15 AM
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Moralizing
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/23 07:31 PM
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/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/23 07:31 PM
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Wow, this is more retarded than most. Removed.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/23 03:31 PM
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I had a huge surgery and got an ab cut in half. My lifts are still better than yours. Are you even trying?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/23 02:39 AM
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Let’s focus on the low hanging fat first.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/23 01:32 AM
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On paternity leave I do not understand why anyone wouldn’t want to get back to work as soon as possible. Why do you want to be home with a crying baby?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/23 01:29 AM
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I have trouble having normal conversations with men, but little trouble talking to women. Think about why you can’t talk to men. It’s going to be something wrapped up in your ego. As for women - when’s the last time you got a woman to giggle and move closer to you? Not laugh but giggle like a little girl?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/23 10:53 PM
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Her name is Tiffany isn't it? Hot / Crazy Matrix
/r/askMRP17/01/23 07:10 PM
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It’s a fantastic ginger beard though.
/r/askMRP16/01/23 05:43 PM
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/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/23 08:42 AM
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Taking too long? Wtf. SL is less than an hour.
/r/askMRP13/01/23 03:10 AM
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“I am angry at myself for allowing people to use me. I am angry at myself for being a weak fuck. I am still angry at myself for being a weak fuck”
/r/askMRP12/01/23 09:17 PM
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There is zero way your lifts are what you say if you haven’t been in the gym for 2 fucking years.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/23 03:57 AM
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Real pros use Power BI to make dashboards of the results.
/r/askMRP06/01/23 03:16 AM
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Thinking is hard for most people.
/r/askMRP04/01/23 06:54 PM
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Just none since my first post. Which was 4 months ago Unfortunately I’m a fucking loser and struggle with alcoholism which was exasperated by my mother passing away. Join AA. They may know a thing or two about this.
/r/askMRP31/12/22 08:38 PM
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Step 1. Stop being fat. You’re not serious about self improvement if in the last few months you’re still a fat ass. What exactly have you done?
/r/askMRP30/12/22 09:32 PM
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Then that’s just a Hail Mary pass of hope and change.
/r/askMRP30/12/22 05:30 AM
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It’s either a deal breaker for you or it’s not. “Hope” is not going to solve this
/r/askMRP26/12/22 03:31 AM
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I also hope to get more bjs eventually because of my progress Look up “covert contract” when you get your copy of NMMNG. You do these things - and all things - for you. Because you want to do them. You don’t do them to get a BJ. FFS.
/r/askMRP24/12/22 03:24 PM
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So when are you going to get out of her head and stop doing everything for her reaction? You’ve entered the dancing monkey stage.
/r/askMRP23/12/22 04:24 AM
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Knowing you currently are a loser should be a wake up call to not accept it any longer. Getting beaten with a shoe and then apologizing to her. Think about how low you’ve sunk. Then use that to fuel improvement.
/r/askMRP22/12/22 02:00 AM
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Ah. Cucking by proxy. If he gets off to his wife watching cucking porn is that double cucking for him?
/r/askMRP22/12/22 01:54 AM
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Seems a lot of covert contracts in this. And no need to get in her head on the Why.
/r/askMRP22/12/22 01:52 AM
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We have had fights in the past over this and I’ve told her that I’m not interested in a relationship anymore if the excessive drinking didn’t stop. She has had nights where she goes too far and blacks out and I have confronted her about this. And yet you continue the relationship. And spin up reasons why to excuse it. It’s either important or not. You’re trying to give one message with words but the opposite with what you’re doing. Next time leave and tell her: “I’m taking the kid and staying wi…
/r/askMRP22/12/22 01:51 AM
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/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/22 01:59 AM
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Don’t go. Problems all solved.
/r/askMRP14/12/22 07:39 PM
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You try and get in womens heads too much. What do you want to do? You have an answer but want self assurances from Internet people. Why is that?
/r/askMRP14/12/22 03:56 PM
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So you post a sob story but not any action plan. What are you going to do about it?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/22 03:10 AM
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Just make something up. Does she see John Redcorn too much? Yell at her. Does she touch you with cold feet in bed? Yell at her, throw the covers off and go sleep on the couch. etc.
/r/askMRP06/12/22 03:04 PM
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I had my share of opsec failures and at the time they seemed bad. In the long run, it was helpful to learn to really NGAF. I’ll leave this up but banning you from askMRP and locking it for other retards to learn from. What are you scared of?
/r/askMRP06/12/22 02:00 PM
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Second guy can just pay a littler extra for immediate good food that comes to him. And then leaves.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/22 04:01 AM
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Moralizing
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/22 08:13 PM
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Mine needed vitamin D from him for awhile.
/r/askMRP02/12/22 10:15 PM
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Get strong first. Then worry about hypertrophy.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/22 02:08 AM
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/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/22 02:52 PM
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If you’re posting an OYS 3 years in of “hey I fucked up here or I’m struggling here” cool. If it’s to hold yourself accountable to goals and actions, not the place. That’s year 1 shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/22 01:35 AM
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He’s been all over the discord server. Aloha has been extra tolerant with him. He’s a lost cause.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/22 01:19 AM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/z1ei0h/noone_here_owes_you_shit/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf Here’s the real question: why do you need “us” to hold you accountable?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/22 12:53 AM
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Good job finally posting an OYS. Rule 9
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/22 12:18 AM
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“What would Horns say about this post?”, and then I wrote that. God your username is spot on. /u/HornsOfApathy is going to think this is retarded and autostic as fuck. Be your own point of origin for fuck sake. Not trying to score some sort of weird MRP Internet points.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/22 12:16 AM
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I’ve been with this group for about 3 years. I’m approaching the men in this forum for accountability These two statements are contradictory. We’re not some wierd spendaholics anonymous group. Men sharing notes. /u/threekindsoflucky just did a post on this.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/22 12:11 AM
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remind myself never to let myself down again. Yeah sounds good on paper but you will. You’ll fail yourself. What then?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/22 12:07 AM
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Get the negativity out of your own head. This reeks of self loathing. You can’t be the prize while hating yourself. You’re at the point where you’re finding the 200 level MRP. STFU, lifting and the sidebar got you this far; now you need to figure out who the fuck you are and what you value in life? No wrong answers if it’s truly what you want. You’re living with covert contracts and expect your actions to be returned with a positive result.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/22 12:03 AM
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Dr. John Redcorn He’s the best. My ex went to him and came back so happy and relaxed. Said it was the BEST therapy there was AND she got more fit as his therapy involved a lot of physical movement We are not together for unrelated reasons, but 110% recommends Dr. Redcorn. Your wife will be so happy to go to him.
/r/askMRP29/11/22 11:55 PM
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Definitely… 100%. Maybe 99.9%. But almost certainly not. Ok, maybe 95%. High probability they did not. You got me, it’s 90%. She’s not that type though, she’s special
/r/askMRP29/11/22 11:50 PM
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constantly whispering into their children’s ears about what a terrible monster daddy is, and how he destroyed everyone’s lives because he’s a perverted sex fiend. Have you been talking to my ex? Please have her. My life gets easier when she has a new guy in her life.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/22 11:34 PM
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You’re making me feel sad for dropping 35 lbs. half was fat but I miss bigger me. Going to go eat a tub of ice cream now.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/22 08:35 PM
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I know this for a fact Oh so you have 24/7 surveillance on her? If no, then it's not a fact. It's a strong hope that it is true.
/r/askMRP29/11/22 05:48 PM
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Neither See answer to 1. Really? Have you observed women? Have you had women offer to bake you cookies at work? Have you not had a group dinner or meeting with slight sexual overtones? If not, then it's obvious you don't get the fundamental nature (see AWALT post in main sub). You don't have to 'hit on them' to leverage this fact. It's also boring - don't be boring. DEER and DARE is focused on interaction with women. At work, you rarely should need to employ DEER if you're proactive. Of course w…
/r/askMRP29/11/22 05:47 PM
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The kid and the lease does not matter at all here. You think it does, but it does not. Her is irrelevant. How likely do you see yourself actually improving in all areas you suck (which seem all of them)? History shows it's pretty low... < 10% truly 'make it' to a self-actualized man who accepts reality and learns to manipulate it for his benefit. If you get there, you will have your answer to what to do in this situation. Until then, you're just going to have the same thing happen over and over …
/r/askMRP29/11/22 04:02 PM
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/u/_rpeed is the #1 person for lifting and diet advice. His advice has gotten me to 1000 lb, 4/3/2/1 DL, SQ, BP, and OHP. No injuries Also has gotten me through several medical setbacks (not injuries). And I plan to use the same guidance once I’m back to lifting in 13 days.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/22 12:42 PM
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The weight he is lifting there isn’t a huge injury risk. If we talking 4 plates deadlifts or squats then that’s a different story. High weight, low reps to increase strength. Once there then you can add shit like hypertrophy work. Increased strength is the focus until at least at intermediate level lifts. Symmetric Strength
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/22 12:09 PM
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You know what is even more helpful than random Internet idiots in this situation? A lawyer. Go consult one. Immediately.
/r/askMRP28/11/22 07:53 PM
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Why are you seeking the why so much? One day, when you’ve learned STFU, how women are, and who you are, then worry about the why if you want. If we explained the why, you wouldn’t grasp it.
/r/askMRP27/11/22 04:42 AM
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The sooner people accept reality for what it is and stop trying to change it, dislike it, be triggered by it, be angry at it… the sooner they’ll be happy and can use true reality to their benefit.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/22 08:19 PM
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I’d challenge you to go one step further and ask yourself how you could enjoy or be entertained by it.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/11/22 05:17 AM
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Learning to not hate women is the first step. Learning how to enjoy AWALT is the next. The final, graduate course is how to use AWALT to better your own life.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/11/22 05:13 AM
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She’s looking to fuck on the side and wants guilt relief to be on a “break”. Whatever the fuck that means. When did you get the “I love you but I’m not in love with you” speech?
/r/askMRP17/11/22 12:02 AM
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That said, if as a housewife, I’ve got compliance in cooking, cleaning & fucking where, where and when I want, does it really matter? Only you can answer that. I could never find a morbidly obese woman attractive enough to fuck and would be a dealbreaker. As you pointed out, I’d never let it get to that point before a change / or exiting the relationship.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/22 12:00 AM
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I’m rating my wife’s behavior as far more positive than before: more cooking, sex, and general taking over of some homestead responsibilities. B+. I rate the negatives a lot less negatively too because I’ve spent a year keeping a consistent practice of STFU, DNGAF, never DEERing and disengaging immediately from drama. I still have one foot out the door, but this change in behavior is getting my attention… like the 1000 foot rope has snapped taught. So your wife’s behavior is your barometer of su…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/22 05:47 AM
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Only priority for you is to put the fork down right now. Jesus you’re fatter than I was and I was fucking fat. No amount of exercise is going to fix a bad diet. Focus on this - why are you eating like shit? How can you cut down to 1500 calories a day for awhile?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/22 05:44 AM
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OYS #1 was 25/01/22, last OYS #5 was 22/02/22. How long until you get lazy again? A month?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/22 05:39 AM
5

carry my wife (250lb now) to the bedroom to fuck her the way I want How would you even want to fuck a 250 lb woman?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/22 05:38 AM
1

About time you started posting in OYS. Rule 9.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/22 12:30 PM
3

She’d likely just invite her ex over.
/r/askMRP08/11/22 05:57 PM
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Jesus, don’t have a kid if you’re not married. Dump the chick who clearly doesn’t respect you or your boundaries (your fault for sucking).
/r/askMRP07/11/22 05:45 PM
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/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/22 03:09 PM
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Why do you care so much? Go live your life. Fuck other women.
/r/askMRP04/11/22 04:25 AM
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OP believes this is a waste of time. I agree.
/r/askMRP02/11/22 09:10 PM
4

You may have missed the part about DEERing when reading the sidebar. I’d challenge you as to why you feel the need to defend and explain yourself to an anonymous person on the internet.
/r/askMRP02/11/22 06:40 PM
3

You’re saying you’re borderline suicidal. Make all options a serious consideration. Go get professional help. Today.
/r/askMRP02/11/22 05:23 PM
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You got a therapist? Or are you trying to get free psych help from a bunch or retards on the Internet? Couple of things: Are you lifting? do you get regular sleep schedule? what does the hospital have to do with depression? Oh also you resent your family and have a scarcity mindset. Lots of shit to unpack - so go find a good therapist. Shop around.
/r/askMRP02/11/22 10:27 AM
1

Well I kind of wanted to check out how sex parties go and if swapping is something for me but I did not dare saying this and just said something about it being more intimate than public parties and that I wanted to try it. Why didn’t you dare say that? Live authentically.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/22 09:02 AM
4

Aside from the “equipment independence”, there is a lot of OPs life pointing to this place not for him.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/22 08:58 AM
2

For now, I’ll keep playing taxi to keep my daughter away from the types of people who work in daycare. Wtf does this mean? What types of people? So you choose nothing. Just throw up your hands and don’t solve the problem. Make your wife deal with this. What’s the worst that would happen?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/22 08:56 AM
5

This post will help you: Beta Shit Goblin
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/22 08:52 AM
1

You sure like to make excuses don’t you?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/22 08:45 AM
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Long distance, unattractive, needy, insecure retard, and girls night out. Fascinating.
/r/askMRP02/11/22 08:30 AM
2

Flowers and foot rubs. That fixed everything.
/r/askMRP28/10/22 05:55 PM
10

My dad did this on a 1.5 hour call when we about 10 mins away. Were going to six flags. He didn't make empty threats. There's a lesson here for OP.
/r/askMRP26/10/22 07:00 PM
1

You screwed something up, your wife fixed your screw up and then you got mad at her. Did I miss something in the write up? What’s your question?
/r/askMRP26/10/22 05:12 PM
10

Your wife is a reflection of you. And where on the sidebar did you read about a made up strike system that you know your aren’t going to follow through on?
/r/askMRP26/10/22 05:10 PM
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Time to start at ground zero. You’re lifting. Good. Stfu and read the sidebar. Post in OYS. You have a lot of tit for tat expectations (aka covert contracts). Why is your ego so fragile if you don’t get validation from her you get angry? It’s also clear your leadership sucks with your wife. You expect things but do not lead her whatsoever. And if you’re seeking to actively dread her or are doing activities for the sole purpose of HER response, you don’t get it it. She does not matter in this equ…
/r/askMRP26/10/22 11:11 AM
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Read the sidebar. NMMNG, WISNIFG, and Bang. No one matters but you and your view of things. Who cares if someone makes fun of you? You don't have frame if you're get butthurt being called a name.
/r/askMRP24/10/22 03:22 PM
13

“I’m going to use these cool tricks I learned when I’m really pissed”. What could go wrong? How about a direct, pointed look and “hey, stop being a bitch”?
/r/askMRP23/10/22 07:51 PM
3

Without any lifts, that’s very fat.
/r/askMRP23/10/22 07:46 PM
3

How fat are you and what are your lifts? Edit: oh you’re really fat. And you’re surprised she has the hits for work colleague? Stop sucking.
/r/askMRP23/10/22 12:48 AM
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I never would have gotten into this mess in the first place. Yeah but you're here now. She lives in a completely different reality as me. AWALT. Have you considered you just suck?
/r/askMRP19/10/22 07:47 PM
2

My big lesson from the week is that a lot of my life runs “just in time”; if there is a delay, disruption, or problem, no matter how minor, there is the potential for things to cascade very quickly into something more difficult to resolve The big lesson is you don’t have your shit together. If you did you’d be able to easily react to unplanned circumstances outside of your control.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/22 12:10 PM
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So what should I have done in that instance Gone and lifted. There’s your extra day. Problem solved.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/22 11:04 PM
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Regardless of whether your relationship ends in divorce, you can still approach this challenge as a team and as productively as possible. Great… now you broke the new retards’ brains.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/22 09:02 PM
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Don’t have to imagine.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/22 10:04 PM
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/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/22 10:03 PM
2

You can absolutely lift 5-6 days a week.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/22 04:24 AM
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Exactly. If the wife won’t do it… fuck the nanny. That was the lesson here right?
/r/askMRP13/10/22 12:29 AM
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you're not getting sex from this woman She has a sensitive nose. Lmao.
/r/askMRP12/10/22 08:20 PM
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Reason this and my last post have not talked about sex is because wife has broken her arm Maybe I'll read the rest later, but how exactly is a broken arm cause a non-functional pussy and mouth? Or are you hamstering her arm as the reason for lack of sex since it's an external criteria so "it's not me, it's her arm"?
/r/askMRP12/10/22 04:55 PM
2

Once you are able to not only embrace them but enjoy them and have fun with them you’ve overcome a major hurdle. Your wife no longer has any power over you via emotional outbursts. Plus they are entertaining once you see the code.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/22 02:52 AM
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Sometimes I want to fuck even though I’m not horny just to receive validation of my worth. What are you doing to fix this? That she is falling in love and is scared that I might find whatever little reason to leave her. You like this girl right? When dread is dialed up to 11, this isn’t fun for her or you. Do you really want her to run around being this anxious all the time? I get it - whenever I go out or on a trip this happens. The advanced level shit is now managing that so that while she kno…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/22 02:47 AM
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You can’t even give her a container until you fix yourself. You’re leaking shitty emotions all over the place. How was that entire back and forth fun for anyone?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/22 02:36 AM
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The SSRI is the easy out external force that is not him making his wife not desire him. Is it affecting her? No idea, but the focus on it is due to it being “easy to fix”
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/22 09:27 PM
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Have been trying to amp up the dread by removing my attention, STFU, consistently lifting and sidebaring a lot. Results were mediocre so far. Removing attention only works if she wants to be around you in the first place.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/22 09:24 PM
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Would my wife be this asexual if I were Brad Pitt? The conventional MRP wisdom is no, she is just asexual for you, but to be honest, the answer might be yes. She has her own messed up sexual models from a lifetime of growing up in the evangelical church and she might never change and may never be able to be the person I want her to be. It does not matter. Fix yourself, be attractive, don’t be unattractive and have options. Then you go with an option - may or may not be your wife.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/22 09:21 PM
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I just don’t know how to deal with this. I want to slap him and tell him to stop the cry baby shit, the females still need you to be strong. Nope, not about him at all…
/r/askMRP07/10/22 09:02 PM
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It’s often asked after we’ve had some disagreement, let’s say I’ve criticized her for overspending from our savings again. Stop talking about it and take action. Lock it up in I-Bonds (thanks /u/inchargeman) Alternatively take your paycheck and put somewhere that she can’t touch. “Why do you love me so much?” have fun with it. sounds like a shit test if after your “discussion”. If she’s coming to you crying with snot bubbles it’s a different story. “certainly not your financial acumen” - with a …
/r/askMRP04/10/22 07:30 PM
3

As a VP you should know how to use paragraphs. Hard to read.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/22 07:09 PM
3

Weight lifting is much more mental than physical. Pushing hundreds of pounds of weight is cathartic. More so than kettlebell swings. Nothing wrong with a KB, but it does not come close to the mental challenge and thrill of heavy weights. Not lifting heavy WILL fuck with your head.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/22 07:08 PM
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Don’t really care about your moral posturing Ego response when someone called a spade a spade. However you want to spin your hamster around it… you’re just hiring a prostitute with extra steps.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/22 07:01 PM
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Currently, my wife has two modes: 1. Trying to retain her control in the relationship 2. Wants to know I value her and that I’ll take care of her (emotionally) Let me check my notes… ah yes shit and comfort tests. Aka all are frame tests. You have none so… you fail sir, good day.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/22 05:51 PM
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/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/22 03:58 PM
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At the same time, I still have some support if I need it. Wait.. What? You’ve read the sidebar supposedly.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/22 09:13 PM
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You can’t have a generic covert contract with the world. It doesn’t work that way. “I am going to become stronger and more attractive to get the sex life I want” -> cool. This works. Just like lifting will result in being stronger. It’s cause and effect. “I am going to become more attractive so my wife will fuck me more “ is a covert contract. You don’t control your wife. You don’t control any single person, however in general being more attractive -> sex life you want.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/22 08:56 PM
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If this is still your mindset of lighting yourself on fire for others or being unhappy for comfort and complacency then you are still starting at 0. This is basic NMMNG. You have a covert contract already around your kids of “if I stay together then my kids won’t be fucked up”.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/22 08:52 PM
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You retards need to stop it with these fantasy points systems you’ve concocted. They’re meaningless
/r/askMRP21/09/22 11:59 PM
3

At that level he gets a latex glove covered hand job on his birthday (if she’s not too tired of course)
/r/askMRP21/09/22 11:35 AM
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If he doesn’t speak or argue, how’s he supposed to win the fight and put more points on the scoreboard? /s
/r/askMRP21/09/22 08:34 AM
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There’s a lot in here - start lifting this week - the big key ones: pull-up, OHP, bench, squat, deadlift, and rows. Read until your eyes bleed the books. nMMng and WISNIFG are you go to first. It will take a few read throws to really begin to absorb the information. Then you move from autistic stfu more surgical strike stfu where you saw a few words or pass a look and it ends the disagreement. Analogies suck. Your analogies really suck. Just write what happened, ideally from your frame.we don’t …
/r/askMRP21/09/22 08:21 AM
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thermostat I really like the eco bee ones. Easy to use and can handle schedules with no problem. Also allows cooling and heating without changing the settings. Perfect this time of year when it’s hot doing the day and colder at night.
/r/askMRP20/09/22 12:44 PM
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With your stats, unless you’re starving yourself completely, calorie intake won’t matter. It’s more neurological than muscular. You need to lift heavy. Do some 5-3-1. Increase the weight, do less reps. Do OHP 2x a week instead of 1 if that’s your sticking point.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/22 11:51 AM
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I hope you don't go on and on like you have in your multiple comments here. Men are simple. Be a net positive to his life, be sexually available and open, and that's pretty much it. No man(or anyone) will want this much clingy behavior. It's not a honeymoon phase being over- it's just your behavior. I've been with my wife 3 years... things have consistently improved and we operate a D/s relationship in and out of the bedroom. At a minimum a good RP Captain / FO model is critical to success.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/22 07:00 AM
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Question belongs in askMRP.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/22 03:45 PM
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Further, men cannot define what is “high value” to women. We certainly can. A woman we are sexually attracted to who is a net benefit to our life. It is up to each man to figure out the net benefit part and what that looks like to him Generally, 99+% of men can agree to some common points on the second part (eg. not a harpy). However there will be differences between men on others (wants to earn income vs stay at home parent).
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/22 04:07 AM
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So your wife adds no value and is a cheating white but hey - you see your kids? Ok let’s stay with the wife… nothing prevents you from finding another woman on the side. Your wife can babysit and you still have your fun.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/22 05:24 AM
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Yeah that sucks. Now realize you can’t change it. No sense in worrying about dying in your 50s either. So what? You’re not going to die tomorrow. Manage it best you can. Don’t let it control your life. You’re going to have bad days. Your going to be at doctors more. What are your limitations or issues right now? You focus on today - this minute. I have a chronic disease (not life threatening - crohns) and have had significant health issues this year - especially one since August (as in could hav…
/r/askMRP15/09/22 04:30 AM
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/u/fight-self is taking “stoicism” to the extreme and using it as an excuse to be in bad situations. Yes you ultimately cannot control more than your perception of the world. That doesn’t mean give up and stop trying or that you can’t shape you life by putting in place people and things that add to it and make you happy. If I’m poor I’m going to attempt to earn more money - not just think “well can’t control it, but I’m happy” If I hate my job, I’ll quit If my wife stops adding tremendous value,…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/22 02:16 AM
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By my rough calculations you’re paying nearly 50% of your after tax income to debt. That’s horrible. If you’re wife isn’t working, Put her wife to work to get out of the debt. Kid will be kindergarten soon enough, so she can at worst find a part time job remotely and can still watch the kid. M Or throw the kid in daycare/ after school. You may pay half of what she takes home towards it but it’s better than her bringing in $0. You guys don’t have the luxury for her not to work. Or you make more m…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/22 02:05 AM
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Found a BDSM party I want to go to Started looking for a babysitter Listen… when you tie up the sitter, use protection and don’t get her pregnant.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/22 01:52 AM
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how close is this to the way James Bond would act in this situation. I joined right after /u/red-sfpplus post about fucking two women at a party. I used to think what would red do? Then I kept find things in my ass so your way is probably better. It works for awhile. Eventually you won’t need that crutch once you find out what you really want and value.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/22 01:49 AM
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You missed the sidebar. That’s 90+% of what you need. Lift and stfu alone will get most people to a much better life. Lifting alone will get many people to a much better life.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/22 01:37 AM
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Do you want to do it? If no then it’s counterproductive
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/22 06:56 PM
3

Why are you putting so much effort into trying to "fix" things with CC. Just say no, go do something to improve yourself instead.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/22 11:55 PM
2

This OYS says nothing about where you are failing (a lot of places) and should be titled "how I'm scared of going after what I truly want".
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/22 11:52 PM
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My wife and I “talked out” our problems. I then proceed to initiate sex into her being repulsed by me. She is even fertile right now and doesn’t want me I am so beta. So weird she rejected you...
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/22 11:46 PM
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If you're getting HJ and rejections.. this isn't an issue you need to be concerned with.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/22 11:44 PM
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Overhead press is still maxing out at 130 Try dumbbells for a bit. Or add them in with the barbell
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/22 11:43 PM
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Oh cheat codes! Why didn’t you say so? Up up down down A B select start will do it.
/r/askMRP09/09/22 03:25 AM
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/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/22 04:59 PM
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I’m not sure who you’re trying to impress with this writing, but it sucks. This OYS sucks. Take two weeks and reevaluate why you’re here.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/22 04:03 AM
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I had this issue while on Oxy. Colace + Miralax works well.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/22 03:58 AM
5

Was she naked in them?
/r/askMRP06/09/22 08:55 PM
6

“Allow”…. Dude can’t even go on a trip alone. No concerns by his wife. Also - mate guarding is your advice? Super attractive behavior.
/r/askMRP06/09/22 08:18 PM
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Congratulations… you made 6 women drier than the Sahara with your neediness. Regarding your “side note”: it’s because you and all your friends are pussies.
/r/askMRP06/09/22 08:14 PM
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/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/22 06:27 PM
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I’m going to approve this as a field report and leave it to the community to point out all the issues with this write up
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/22 11:28 AM
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I felt deeply into it and a few things came up around being abused in my previous marriage. You weren't abused, don't be a victim.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/22 01:23 PM
1

This is excellent. Just need to find a way to try and increase calories it looks like.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/22 12:52 PM
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I've never said that it's a bad thing. I came in obsessed with D/s and exploration. That distracted me from progressing - in the beginning. I think it was u/Tyred_Biggums (name changes lose me here sometimes) who took me to task on that two years ago. I saw how it was impeding my progress and from there I got to work on my real shortcomings - for a solid year. It freed me up to explore this area more than before. It just no longer validates me. /u/Whyking You don't know what you want. You really…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/22 02:19 PM
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“Running some dread”. Where’s the covert contract in this one? You’re operating at level 1. Not level 100. Running dread is incongruous. Being a high value man that a woman is naturally concerned she will lose out on if she’s not the best for him is what we mean by dread.
/r/askMRP01/09/22 03:58 AM
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“Hey look at me, I’m having an affair”
/r/askMRP31/08/22 11:49 PM
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Appreciate this. You’re 100% right. I’ve minimized this and joked about it - when it is what I want and that’s that.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/22 03:37 PM
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I see you sneaking that marriage in your OYS. In the grand scheme of the last month it seems a minor event.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/22 11:03 PM
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We are talking about YOUR WIFE right now, the same one who doesn't like giving you blowjobs and only fucks you on your birthday. Such a sad sad life.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/22 02:10 PM
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Do you even like your girlfriend?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/22 02:08 PM
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OYS Physical Health I'm sidelined for at least 5 more months due to serious surgery complications (aka surgeon fucked up) has put in me in the hospital for 11 days since beginning of August - first time with significantly bad liver function and jaundice. I had a external biliary drain inserted then between my ribs keeping me 'healthy' while internally tissue can heal. The second hospital stay was a week later with infection, a moved catheter internally, and severe pain. I was brushing off doctor…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/22 01:34 PM
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“Defense Mechanisms of Nature: Playing Dead”
/r/askMRP26/08/22 07:11 PM
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“Clever Girl”
/r/askMRP26/08/22 05:21 PM
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“The Pickleball Covert Contract: Why am I not Getting Laid?”
/r/askMRP24/08/22 07:41 PM
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“Calling it Dinner: a Cheaters guide to having sex with the ex”
/r/askMRP24/08/22 07:34 PM
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“Lighting myself on fire for my family: a cautionary tale”
/r/askMRP24/08/22 12:39 PM
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“I Used to Be Alpha and the Curious Case of Oneitis”
/r/askMRP23/08/22 09:01 PM
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“Captain Rambo and the Divorce Threat” Have fun with this one.
/r/askMRP23/08/22 07:57 PM
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I don’t lift Stopped here. OP is a waste of time
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/22 08:12 PM
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Get a gold chain with a big dollar sign.
/r/askMRP19/08/22 03:48 PM
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You seem to be projecting your life on OP. Guarantee that if you’re living with a shitty wife they’re have way more than 50% influence on the kids. But go on and keep inventing reasons which all stem from fear.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/22 09:21 PM
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Sucks for your kids if you believe that’s what I meant by quality time.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/22 03:41 PM
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I used to think the same. Quality vs quantity of time. Relationship with my kids has never been better. Kids know and see the dysfunction. Do you really want them being taught that’s a “normal” relationship? After being separated for 6 months I remember my daughter saying something along the lines of “Dad, I’ve never seen you so happy. It makes me happy that you’re happy”.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/22 11:01 AM
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No it’s not. Kids are used an excuse to continue having a shitty life.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/22 06:38 AM
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Addendum: what about lifting? It’s been a year and you still ignore this fundamental. What have you done gaming, picking up women, sex? Are you actually going to where you want to go or just write a bunch of bullshit about hypnotherapy and “your frame”.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/22 05:20 PM
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Unflared users with little contribution is heavily moderated. There is no issue with a guy seeking a hooker if he wants however there are a lot of statements that are not true or will lead retards to blowing themselves up with dynamite, which while entertaining, we try to avoid somewhat.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/22 09:44 PM
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hear me out gents… Nah. Post in askMRP
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/22 11:07 PM
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After surgery and pain pills causing constipation I took a Gigantic Shit. Not comfortable.
/r/askMRP11/08/22 06:11 PM
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Do you have a CNC or free-use agreement? Stupid questions go in /r/askMRP
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/22 04:27 PM
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We’re in an unofficial open marriage. Hahaha. Lipstick on a pig. Keep your hamster spinning how it’s not really cheating.
/r/askMRP06/08/22 01:08 AM
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Retard questions go in /r/askMRP
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/22 06:57 PM
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Aka, have no expectations of your wife anyone in response to your changes. FTFY You’re a person who lets life happen to you versus owning his shit and molding life into what he wants. Stop complaining about your wife. It’s not about her.
/r/askMRP05/08/22 02:27 AM
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My God this is a stupid question. Boaty McBoatface
/r/askMRP31/07/22 12:07 PM
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But they’re so cute and entertaining when they’re like that. Learn to enjoy the nature of women. Water is wet. If you don’t like it - time to turn gay and get monkey pox.
/r/askMRP30/07/22 05:38 AM
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Moralizing
/r/askMRP20/07/22 01:29 PM
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Rule 9
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/22 07:17 PM
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She went grocery shopping and came back with a treat for me because she ‘meant what she said about there being no animosity’. Was it a Klondike Bar?
/r/askMRP19/07/22 07:10 PM
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Good news is he doesn't even to worry about the sex moratorium.
/r/askMRP19/07/22 03:25 PM
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Don’t get me wrong this girl checks off a lot of boxes cooks, cleans, fulfills all the basic necessities for me Oh cool. Like your mom did. To top it all off she booked a trip to Miami with “girl friends” out of the blue two weeks ago and is set to go before the end of July. Hmm. I’m sure we have some MRPers that can check in on her and make sure she’s ok. Any guidance that can be provided? Lift heavy things.
/r/askMRP15/07/22 10:15 PM
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I've tasted in dominance and I loved it. Not asking for permission and doing your stuff - whether it's sexual or not - gives a great feeling of freedom and power. Being able to remove the "what if she...[does not like it/says no/etc]" thoughts and just focus on doing works great. This is not dominance. This is just doing what you want. Dominance is "go put on an outfit, your pick, and then come and massage my cock". "Send me a slutty picture" etc.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/22 03:08 PM
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They do it not because they desire me but because they want to feel desired They do it because they want to feel desired by a HVM. And they're happy to make you happy. It's not rocket science once you see the code in the matrix. Just fucking tell them what to do. 1) He may not know what he wants them to do 2) He is scared they'll say 'no'. Then what? He'd get butt hurt.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/22 02:59 PM
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Dominance can be a part for sex you play or THE part you play in the relationship. You have to figure out what you want. /u/pancakeOptimusPrime is scared with sex to push boundaries while still using sex for validation.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/22 02:56 PM
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If it’s this sub-clinical-narcissistic-rage that we all seem to be afflicted by, periodically then maybe just consider that maybe you’re not that special. Good way of putting it.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/22 02:46 PM
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Ahahahhaha. Fucking idiot. You’re trying to dread a woman who doesn’t want you at all by divorcing her?
/r/askMRP12/07/22 11:06 PM
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28% BF Diet/Health I’ve been pushing a lot of leavers and adjusting medication – adding lots of variables – recently in an attempt to dial in how I’m feeling. Have you tried not eating as much?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/22 10:29 PM
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It's mixed messages all around You're looking for a paint by numbers approach. Outside of lifting, reading (and internalizing the messages), and STFU (at the beginning), the rest are tools. Use them or not as you see fit. You don't WANT to be anyone else. You want what you want. The goal of MRP is to figure that out and go after it. If retards stick with OYS and trying new things, they'll find the sexual part is the easy part. The rest - the shit that gets in your head, the mindspace, the slayin…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/22 04:03 PM
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It’s anyone’s guess really. And it does not matter what the reason is.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/22 03:50 PM
3

Follow this advice but for your nose. ​ https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/duyj0f/building_your_slut_part_1_anal/
/r/askMRP12/07/22 03:03 PM
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Outside of it being morally wrong Moralizing. Banned
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/22 03:52 PM
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I’m happy to discuss and listen to details and merits of different approaches to total health. Got it - you have zero discipline and want to make excuses. Do you track every bit of food and drink that goes into your face? If the answer is no, then you’re not serious. Eat less. It’s really not hard.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/22 03:15 AM
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To first reclaim my lost frame and to make up for lost time due to BP actions and behaviors that effectively wasted much of my life. You cannot make up “lost time”. It’s a shitty way to frame your past. How about “I certainly learned I don’t want to live like that anymore”. Being stuck on the past is just as useless as worrying about the future. Focus on what you can and want to do NOW.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/22 03:08 AM
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Rule 9
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/22 03:03 AM
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Rule 9
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/22 02:58 AM
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Rule 9. she went out for a first drink since having the baby, so satd I had all 3 kids until she was up and about again around 12pm, and since then the baby has been not sleeping well between feeds so we are all tired. As the baby isn’t sleeping and I’m in work she (my girl) suggested I sleep in the spare bed so I wasn’t tired for work, which I did but I get a text this morning to say she wants me to do all the night feeds tonight.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/22 02:56 AM
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Tonight I was in a very alpha/masculine state of mind, What does this mean? Alpha, beta, whatever are container words. Did you go after what you wanted? That’s what you should do - always.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/22 02:53 AM
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You’re saying all the right words. Are they for us or you? You may be out of your wife’s frame now but you haven’t clicked into your own. I am awesome. Good mindset but do you really believe it or just tell yourself that when you have doubts? I’ll tell you a little secret - everyone at times has doubts. Owning your shit is how to deal with those and come back to the sense of your own frame. There’s fear and then there’s looking at that fear and saying fuck it, I’m doing this anyways. What’s your…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/22 02:46 AM
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What’s your plan? You’re not leading her and showing how she fits within your overall mission in life. She’s floundering and you’re tossing her what a guy would do - fix her resume, apply for this or that. That’s not what she wants or needs. If you don’t want to give it to her - that’s fine. Where are you going? Where does she fit in? Do you even know? Your whole post is she does this she does that. You have no path for her to follow you on. No wonder she’s lost.
/r/askMRP30/06/22 01:05 AM
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That sounds pretty shitty.
/r/askMRP27/06/22 10:04 PM
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Your frame is shit.
/r/askMRP27/06/22 02:09 PM
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Yes. Deal with it. Stop using it as your excuse for failures. Here is a rule to remember in future, when anything tempts you to feel bitter: not "This is misfortune," but "To bear this worthily is good fortune. - Meditations
/r/askMRP26/06/22 08:57 PM
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Stupid questions go in askMRP
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/22 02:17 PM
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If he can find any old little league trophies that might be helpful, no? Participation trophies are the best.
/r/askMRP23/06/22 10:44 PM
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Oh yeah absolutely. It will go really well. Nothing gets them wet like talking psychology and how you're going to be better because that's what SHE really wants. Definitely don't change things for you. Do them for her.
/r/askMRP23/06/22 04:36 PM
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Most of what you call drastic is called Monday for most of us. You're still doing this for your wife's reaction. Wrong mindset. I'll leave this up for now but is effectively an OYS. If you ever post again - "what do you want the community to get out of this?" No one should fool themselves that this is the easy route, with every new book or article i read, its like peeling layers off an onion, you thought you’d understood it all, then you read further and realise there are still more layers under…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/22 12:20 AM
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You're missing the entire point. "She" doesn't matter. Are you happy with your sex life or not? If no - are you capable of finding a hotter and younger woman? If yes - then go do so to fulfill you sex life if no - then you suck and no wonder your wife doesn't want to fuck you What you are providing here is an out for retards to come up with another reason to not fix their situation. "You see, it's not me, my wife can't have sex because she's depressed and her hormones are off" What you are conti…
/r/askMRP19/06/22 05:47 PM
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Was a comprehensive set of answers. You want something close to paint by numbers - that series is it. That and the cheat codes posts are as close as you get to /u/hornsofapathy actually coming over and fucking your wife John Redcorn style to fix her for you. 1st step: stop blaming your wife.
/r/askMRP19/06/22 05:37 PM
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I know I know I should have lifted more Now you're understanding!
/r/askMRP19/06/22 05:34 PM
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That was one of the most valuable statements. Take it or not. If you're unhappy with your sex life - you change that. If your wife cannot give what you want or need then the options are sleeping with other women while married or divorcing your wife. What is your issue with that?
/r/askMRP19/06/22 04:21 PM
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You should all her what she wants and do that. You're in her frame on this whole sex write up, you might as well make it overt.
/r/askMRP19/06/22 04:55 AM
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Usually I'd refer retarded questions to askMRP but this is at such a level of sheer idiocy that I'm just going to ban you from here and if you post in ask remove that too.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/22 12:03 AM
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From your OYS: Ultimately I think it all comes down to scarcity, if I was confident she could be easily replaced, I wouldn't give a fuck about any of the shit I've typed above, and it probably wouldn't even exist as an issue in our relationship as my higher value would be communicated on a deeper level. On this topic, I get a good amount of IOI's from attractive women, but 9/10 of the time I pussy out of holding eye contact and/or interaction. I think a lot of my problems would be solved if I co…
/r/askMRP17/06/22 02:51 PM
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"I'm not marrying your daughter. If you continue to bring it up you're not welcome in my house ". JFC. You retards overthink things. Verbal intercourse is optional. STFU.
/r/askMRP16/06/22 02:12 AM
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but I very recently learned she has a number of secret credit cards in active use. Also lying about me to others on the phone when she doesn’t know I came home. Lies like these were detected early on. So I keep her at arms length. I didn’t have enough self respect to break things off at the time OR NOW FTFY
/r/askMRP16/06/22 02:09 AM
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"Hell no, only your momma calls me Daddy"
/r/askMRP15/06/22 03:49 PM
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GF: Mid 30s | DL 45x1, SQ 45x1, BP 45x1, OHP 45x1 No one cares her lifts. As for the whatever the rest of whatever this is.... "No" is a complete sentence.
/r/askMRP15/06/22 03:06 PM
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you shouldn’t need big wins to get proper sex. What about alcohol? Is that needed?
/r/askMRP14/06/22 11:06 PM
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I’m a porn addict. I’ll say it again. This is going to be my biggest hurdle. I know I have the capacity to break addictions. But yeah, I’m failing miserably here. Next time you get the "urge" go do 100 pushups. If you still feel like it, do 50 more. Continue until you are arms are too tired to move.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/22 10:59 PM
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She deleted all of her social media and stopped going to the gym that I originally met her at. I’m fairly certain her husband found out. Looking back on it we were both being stupid. She was buying dildos, lingerie, vibrators all under the assumption that her husband was clueless and I was encouraging it. So... ? What's done is done.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/22 10:57 PM
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This mindset leads to the "if I push button X I'll get Y result". Then when you don't get Y result you get angry or sad or butthurt. What's that called? A covert fucking contract. These are all tools. But you need to know when to use the hammer. If you go around and try to hammer everything sometimes you'll hit a nail and sometimes you'll hit a baby.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/22 10:43 PM
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I keep trying. Are you? Or are you going to the gym and checking the box with fuckarounditis? The only way you get stronger is by pushing. RPeed once told me to try trying with Deadlifts. I did and added 40 pounds in a couple weeks. Why? Because I wasn't putting in the maximum effort I could.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/22 10:40 PM
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It feels good to be liked, but am I enjoying it? There is a big difference having fun because you enjoy it and putting on a show so others will like you. Which were you doing at the event? Were you having fun for you or having fun for others?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/22 10:37 PM
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Yet you felt the need to list your income.
/r/askMRP14/06/22 01:20 PM
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Outside of lifting, STFU, diet, and reading - you need to decide on a few goals. 2-3. What are your stats? Age, Lifts, Weight? If it's social stuff - focus there. You're not posting in OYS - that's key. I understand why, i'm a textbook loser. Sounds like you're a complete loser. How's that mindset helping you though? What are your Top 2 goals in the next 3 months? Is it social improvement? "How to Win Friends and Influence People" should be added to your reading list if so. You're issues are com…
/r/askMRP13/06/22 03:20 PM
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Stupid questions go in /r/askMRP
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/22 04:44 PM
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If she's over 65 you can have a Silver Alert issued for her.
/r/askMRP07/06/22 06:25 PM
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This sounds way better than my Magic 8 ball method of making decisions.
/r/askMRP06/06/22 05:38 PM
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Everyone dies. It's life. And yeah it's going to suck for those that are still alive. I'm not going to give you empty platitudes here. I'm sure you loved your mom and I'm sure it's painful. That's healthy and expected. No shame in crying. Deal with your grief. Do not shy away from it. Trust me on this. It will bite you in the ass if you don't deal with it properly.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/22 04:57 AM
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I have to beat this thing Interesting choice of words. Stop the porn. Stop beating your meat. What do you want out of sex? Raw, unfiltered, animalistic sex. Do that instead.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/22 04:53 AM
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• I feel like the above is drifting into over analysis of her frame and covert contract territory. You're borderline Rule 9. What are the cover contacts here? How are you in her frame?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/22 04:47 AM
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Those are a lot of words. After 3.5 years of lifting with a few injuries, my money is on RPeed's advice.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/22 04:39 AM
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I have a big gap in “game” because I got good at gaming my wife early in the marriage and developed her into something that I am very content with. I never bothered to work on gaming women outside the marriage. Why spend time on it, I have my wife. It's fun and keeps you sharp. I never developed the ability to build professional relationships from scratch because I had success breaking into leadership roles at a young age. I have credibility and a good reputation in my little portion of the worl…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/22 04:35 AM
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Crazy idea... how about people initiate how often they want versus some prescribed notion in their head?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/22 04:27 AM
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I’m a little envious of some of their recent successes. Why? Jesus... can't you just be happy where you're at while striving to be better? These comparisons to friends or whomever will always end in a scarcity mindset. You want to live with an abundance mindset. Stop the fucking comparisons.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/22 04:26 AM
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No... navy method is not going to vary wildly day to day if you're measuring accurately. It's simple. Naval and neck measurements.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/22 04:20 AM
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I’ve struggled all month long due to a number of celebrations and social events. However, a lot of the slack in the budget has been eroded away by inflation (mainly gas due to camping season). Well you're not lacking on giving excuses...
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/22 04:14 AM
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I know this is the “wrong” answer to the question... Ok... now why are you lighting yourself on fire for everyone else? Stop that shit. What's wrong with being selfish?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/22 04:11 AM
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. I did not fix these three things. I used porn once. I missed two lifting sessions . I don’t trust myself to make or execute the right decisions for myself or others. Hey, it's ok. This place isn't for everyone. There's a huge dropout rate. Come back next week with zero porn and 3 lifting sessions. Or just don't come back.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/22 04:06 AM
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I have struggled with being consistent with things my whole life. It's time to start building some discipline into your life. How will that look?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/22 04:03 AM
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It’s never going to outweigh the roof over a wife’s head. And this even won't comfort them enough without other praise. Regardless, if you do things genuinely without covert contacts from a place of genuine giving, there's no issue. The issue is always those damned covert contacts that people carry. It's really not rocket science... just do what you want. If you want to give a gift or praise, do so.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/22 03:58 AM
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I read this twice... why are you angry? Seriously... what's there to be angry about? Money? It's just money. Time with the kids? You still have some. Horns will tell you, Red will tell you, I will tell you, there are far worse things that can happen here. They happen. Let them come and deal with them as they do. Anger doesn't help anything.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/22 03:45 AM
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6’2”, 131.8 lb Are you ok?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/22 03:38 AM
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Review:Lift: 2/3 days.Active: 4/7 days. Analysis: I missed a lifting day. I made excuses and didn’t go to pre-emptively keep the peace This is very perplexing to me. Either lifting is a priority or it isn't. I cannot think of a week I did not get a minimum of three sessions in and that's with a host of serious health issues. Make the time. It's that important - not just your physical health but your mental health. I cannot emphasize this enough. Do the door pulls. Whatever it takes.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/22 03:36 AM
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because if I want something extra my wife turns it down. I don’t have the frame to say no to bad sex. Are you asking or leading? Very different mindsets
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/22 03:27 AM
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You've been fucking around for a long time now. What do you actually want? What is your goal?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/22 03:24 AM
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So you're really fat and making up new acronyms? This isn't going to work out will for you...
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/22 03:18 AM
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You're still pretty fat.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/22 12:32 AM
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Low effort non value add post. No shit - lift.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/22 07:40 PM
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What’re your thoughts? You are fat.
/r/askMRP26/05/22 09:53 PM
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I have a high school education Lol. I'd trade my mba for your net worth. Lmao. I’d rather have the right directions emerge than sieze on the wrong ones for the sake of action. This is a great point for the autists. And there's only so many things to focus on at once. 1-2 priorities to focus your energy. You can't neglect the other areas of life but you can't necessarily improve them either. A crude analogy is you can't drop fat and bulk muscle at the same time. It bothers me that it bothers me. …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/22 11:46 PM
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We really dislike the f- word around here.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/22 06:43 PM
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You have zero discipline. So you clearly don't lift. Fix the lifting. You fix the other.
/r/askMRP20/05/22 12:10 AM
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Retard posts go in /r/askMRP Also yes.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/22 08:02 PM
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In these situations I like to go and pop open a nice frosty REGULAR Mountain Dew. Refreshing.
/r/askMRP19/05/22 12:29 AM
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After 9 (not all carried to term), plus bouts of depression, stress, and just being busy with work and kids, she’s fat… she’s done with kids (we have a whole bunch of them already I'm gettin the sense you have lost count on how many children you have. P.S. there is zero to none red pill content for us out there. There is a reason for that.
/r/askMRP18/05/22 08:36 PM
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Are you not allowed to touch weights as well?
/r/askMRP18/05/22 08:30 PM
1

Hmm. Can she still jerk you off if she wears a latex glove?
/r/askMRP18/05/22 08:30 PM
1

John Redcorn? Is that you?
/r/askMRP18/05/22 08:27 PM
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In the beginning everything should be authentic because you WANT to fuck more. That's the only thing that is authentic. That's why all (almost all) of us found MRP. Because we weren't fucking enough or how we wanted.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/22 10:29 PM
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We already have enough fat fuck pictures being posted. Stop encouraging them.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/22 10:24 PM
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Guilt is almost always (always?) the by-product of a big ass covert contract. Catholic guilt about sex? Covert contract if you don't like sex or it's dirty you get to go to heaven or something. Eventually you'll get to the point where you look at your actions and question if you're fucked up for NOT feeling guilty about some action you took (the answer has consistently been "No" to date).
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/22 05:18 PM
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Kid is 15. It's probably too late at this point.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/22 05:12 PM
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I skimmed it. It's a parent training book. Effectively WISNIFG for dealing with kids + punishments. It's a fair book, no issues with it. Basically starts with a "your kid isn't special" narrative. ADHD, ASD, XYZ, lmnop. Whatever you want to label your kid - not special, same rules apply. The 1-2-3 punishment piece that comes towards the latter half I'm not super fond of as it seems almost too paint by numbers. The theory is to give the kid a chance to stop the bad behavior before punishment. I p…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/22 03:37 PM
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But I can't see myself clearly which is one reason to post. What you think you wanted pre-divorce may change to something different. Writing shit down and really going through some "what the fuck do I want" in life helped. No wrong answers.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/22 03:15 PM
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But I want to save the marriage Why?
/r/askMRP05/05/22 07:39 PM
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SwordHolder69? Username fits. Guys so far up their wife's vagina they're tracking the climate. Starting shark week in an airplane. Is that the premise of Sharknado? A lot of future Rule 13 bans - too many details about your wife's bodily functions / sex play by play will be coming.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/22 03:38 PM
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Is there any issue at all where she does not meet it? Being LDR would have been a dealbreaker for me, I'm curious why that worked for you. I would expect a woman to want to be physically near me that majority of the time. I'd expect an amazing frequent sex life which not sure how you manage that over the phone.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/22 01:24 AM
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The issue I see with Proto is he never fixed his internal mental models so he's just back to where he started with new lady. -sex on the downward trend -shitty behavior -lack of value add If just these metrics are falling then HE is fucking up OR should have cut bait a long long time ago.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/22 01:16 AM
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Thought this was fairly well known. Post divorce went through a few chicks (2) who touched the pee pee but i didn't fuck. The one I got with who did I had zero interest going in with the thought of sticking around. Shit happened. She kept adding value and making life easier for me. she spent 2 hours getting IV supplies in the pouring rain to get me fluids from dehydration like two weeks in. through a birthday party for my deceased son a week in. shit like that. Am I happy with life and this deci…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/22 01:03 AM
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You're in the decision tree approach based on HER actions: If she does x then I will respond by doing y. If she does A I will do B and so on. How's that working out living your life based on her being the prime actor driving what will happen to your life? Bottom line is you're trying to fix a symptom of the issue that you're not attractive with cheap tricks like dread / freeze outs and the like. How about work on becoming attractive and not being unattractive? she starfishes the entire time and …
/r/askMRP27/04/22 10:00 PM
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So many reasons for removal and banning but I'll just go with He doesn’t cheat on her, because he’s the hero of the story. Moralizing
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/22 07:32 PM
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Here's a step by step guide to life: 1) do whatever you want with whoever the fuck you want 2) when you fuck it all up deal with it and then see #1 3) DNGAF
/r/askMRP27/04/22 05:08 PM
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This belong in /r/askMRP
/r/askMRP19/04/22 02:51 PM
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Your life is a disaster all around. Get a financial plan together. Make more money / spend less money. Not being able to go to the grocery store until pay day is fucked up. She began texting me freaking out... Rule 9
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/22 02:47 PM
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Rule 9 and non-flaired posts are heavily moderated. Including a TLDR is a clear indication of a low quality post.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/22 05:32 PM
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You've been served. Doesn't matter. Let's say she is bluffing. Would you want to stay with a woman who bluffs on serving you? Don't be a dumb ass.
/r/askMRP14/04/22 10:53 PM
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He's excellent. Cured her vaginitis right up. Well at least when he treats her is what she tells me. I listen to Ben Shapiro and his wife's a doctor. It's supposed to be dry most of the time.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/22 01:54 AM
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Wake up an hour earlier and go lift. Do BJJ. Problem solved. Please PM for details on where I can send my invoice for this consultation.
/r/askMRP07/04/22 08:48 PM
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Why would she give me a blow job and then divorce me like that? This is a rhetorical question right?
/r/askMRP07/04/22 02:32 PM
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It may not seem like it when you're a newly minted retard - but sex is the easy part. It may be with or without your current wife but it's really easy. Figuring out who the fuck you are, what you stand for and what YOU want out of life is the hard part. What are your interests? What is your mission? Do you want a monogamous relationship? Spin plates? Primarily monogamy with a piece on the side? LTR? Marriage? Kids? No kids? Etc etc. We can't answer that.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/22 02:29 PM
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Someone read BPPs book...
/r/askMRP07/04/22 02:00 PM
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TWOTSM (yuck?) Put down the advanced shit and focus on basics. You don't even mention your mental state which I guarantee is so beyond fucked up you have no idea who you truly are.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 12:28 PM
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Stupid ass questions go in askMRP
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/22 01:23 AM
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Panic attacks suck. I had them a fucking lot since I was around 16. Yours are related to tight spaces due to a past medical issue on a plane. I used to get them a lot too on planes. Why? You have zero control. You can't run out the door, you aren't flying the plane, you're stuck there. What can you control? Your own mind. As horns said - learn meditation. Learn breathing. Learn to not give a fuck. The plane goes down, you have a heart attack, they wheel you out on a stretcher... whatever happens…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/22 11:50 PM
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How attractive was the wedding planner?
/r/askMRP27/03/22 02:05 PM
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Approving this for entertainment purposes. Best answer wins... well absolutely nothing.
/r/askMRP26/03/22 02:30 AM
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Pretty simple decision tree: 1) Is the therapist helping me TO SEE AND OVERCOME MY ISSUES ON MY OWN? 2) If the answer is no - find a new therapist. The best people / teachers / whoever challenge our thinking and mental models without bias. And work to have YOU come up with the solutions/strategies that work for you. I've seen a therapist since my son died... and she's probably "blue pill". I don't fucking know because the sessions go something like: Me: Yeah I'm having a difficult time with the …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/22 03:23 PM
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When we first met IRL I thought you were crazy with some of the shit... now it's just "yeah that makes sense" or "great idea!".
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/22 05:15 PM
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However, it makes me wonder if this is me being in her frame as in some ways it brings me down being around her. Why does her behavior/mood bring you down? There's a big difference between a woman is sad/anxious/depressed about something insignificant and a hostile/bitchy woman. In the latter case a "this isn't working for me" or "I do not enjoy being around you right now" and leaving / doing something else can work. Or may make her more hostile, but you're gone by that point. It's not about her…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/22 04:11 PM
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I started cardio bevor finding TRP. Since TRP I’m going to the gym 3 times a week, lost 50 lb, still being a fat fuck with over 20% bf, but in the best shape of my life. Fix the fat fuck and if you're not lifting - there's no hope. She she she she she. What should I read next and what should be my focus? Has someone been in the same situation and turn the table around, even with another girl? I think I’m way behind and can’t catch up (I’m late 30), thinking about going MGTOW. Lots of lots of guy…
/r/askMRP23/03/22 03:43 PM
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Everyone thinks they're in the 5%. The rate so far based on our very scientific study is around 1%. The relationship is over. You just haven't realized it.
/r/askMRP23/03/22 03:37 PM
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Using contrast and strategically handpicking social situations that increase your relative attractiveness in the eyes of your wife is another tool in the toolbelt. When you cease to care about imaginary SMV attractiveness points in your wife's head - then you'll start to understand.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/22 01:26 AM
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She was. Retard posts go in askMRP
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/22 06:14 PM
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You’re setting yourself a goal that you know is not attainable because you suck with discipline? Why not make the goal of 3x per week and actually fucking hit that consistently? You get to Thursday and haven’t gone to the gym at all? Guess what you’re doing 3 days straight there.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/22 04:01 PM
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Anyway is a old thing, passed now and I have put it behind. Until it comes back due to your unattractive mindset.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/22 01:19 PM
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Next step is to read more about lifting programs and pick one since for now I am working on training machines without a proper plan. Based on feedback, I have reduced my calorie intake plan to 2000kcal and lost 2 kg in the last two weeks. Last week I have been studying more about diets and changing my usual meals with better alternatives. This isn't rocket science. Stronglifts 5x5: Do for at least 3 months. Find a barbell this week Diet: Target calories of 2000. Eat 170g protein = 680 calories; …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/22 01:14 PM
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she feels insecure and uncertain. Such a negative outlook. And who caused this? Your wife is a reflection of you.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/22 01:02 PM
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I get angry, a lot When I started I was 129 pounds of pure bone and I was laughed at pretty often (I went at night when all the big boys were lifting) Your ego can't take an insult and you get angry in response. This isn't from lifting - this is some broken mental models you've developed.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/22 12:59 PM
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Shit test: I forgot to warm the dinner for my kid, as she was coming late at evening, and got shit tested for that. There's a difference between shit test and being reminded for not OYS. You screwed up. "Hey [omured], did you heat up kid's food?" would not be a shit test. You got mad at HER for YOUR failure. She did not make any move to fix it or get a new one So? Did you want it fixed? Fix it. Interesting to me is that nobody asked yet if I was going to repair it or not, or if I am into it or n…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/22 12:52 PM
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Rule 0. Writing up how you use the advice and tools you’ve learned here and the challenges you’ve overcome would be a value add posts. This adds nothing to MRP but empty platitudes.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/22 09:29 AM
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Plot twist: 12 step program is for sex “addiction” with Chads.
/r/askMRP10/03/22 07:41 AM
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I don’t know what those numbers mean but whatever measurement system - they’re too low.
/r/askMRP09/03/22 11:34 PM
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Who wouldn’t stay up for Clooney?
/r/askMRP09/03/22 11:33 PM
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I feel your pain. I try to go to bed early since I’m tired and she still ends up grabbing my dick and we fuck. I’m in her frame for sure. Also get woken up in the middle of the night. Sometimes I just want to sleep… but hey she needs it. Have you tried fucking her while she’s sleeping?
/r/askMRP09/03/22 11:31 PM
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Yeah but OP read on the interweb about how it’s not alpha to apologize.
/r/askMRP09/03/22 10:35 PM
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And what happened instead…?
/r/askMRP07/03/22 07:22 PM
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as the idea of a wife, kids, house with a picket fence and all that gay shit became visible in the distance You have no idea what you want. Instead of owning “I want kids, a house, and a picket fence” you immediately call them gay. Which is it? What do you want?
/r/askMRP02/03/22 08:03 PM
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Any dread levels applied at all? "How to build a better Beta Billy."
/r/askMRP02/03/22 03:49 PM
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non-monogamous --> monogamous --> living together = no sex Is that the expectation? Shit i'm doing it wrong then.
/r/askMRP02/03/22 03:46 PM
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I think you have a problem getting sex from your girlfriend. ... and therefore I am. This got metaphysical real quick.
/r/askMRP02/03/22 03:41 PM
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LTR of 3.5 years moved in together (I know) You know what? my hidden intent of marrying her within a year (that's gone now) What changed? couple things that I think explicitly lead to this Here's how I've become unattractive I'm jealous and mate guard by looking through her phone I have no career goals and am floundering around I believe and accept sex 'dries up' I believe in 'dreading' her and using hysterical bonding to get sex by moving out For some reason I am looking for reasons she's actin…
/r/askMRP02/03/22 03:40 PM
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I think you have a problem getting sex from your girlfriend.
/r/askMRP02/03/22 03:20 PM
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You’re missing the point…. It does not matter. NPD, BPD, ABCD, whatever. All you control is yourself.
/r/askMRP02/03/22 03:00 AM
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You grabbed a mushroom and got bigger Which kind of mushroom? Asking for a friend…
/r/askMRP02/03/22 02:58 AM
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Does it bring butt hurt to a whole new level being a bottom?
/r/askMRP02/03/22 01:32 AM
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He seems angry. Maybe he should try STFU?
/r/askMRP02/03/22 01:30 AM
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NMMMG Really ensure you are absorbing this book. Do the exercises. Re-read sections as needed. Recognize all the covert contracts you just wrote about. Recognize them going forward. Start working on figuring out what YOU want in life. Lifting, porn, and putting down the fork you'll find is the easy part. It's the mental work that is the real journey.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/22 03:50 PM
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Rule 9, Rule 10, and then more Rule 9. Think about how you would phrase this from your frame and why you went back and forth so many times in this stupid argument.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/22 03:39 PM
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This week will continue to be busy, then some work commitments will ease so that I can add regular reading, posting and action to my days. Excuses cool. Just say "This isn't important to me so I won't set aside time to do it". Your priorities are not aligned with what you say you want. Here're my top 5 priorities. The time is carved out as needed in this order: Kids medical needs Personal Health / Sleep Lifting Urgent and Important job commitments Reading/continued education As an example: I blo…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/22 03:34 PM
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Marriage, Dread-Level 3: Dread levels 1-5 are relatively good for 'what you should be doing anyhow'. Measuring based "what dread level are you on" is a covert contract. "I'm on dread level 5, why is my wife not responding?". Dangerous thinking.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/22 03:27 PM
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Did my best Alpha impression Also Rule 9
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/22 03:23 PM
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You get “pulled out of your frame” by kids younger than 10? I agree - the issue has to be all that estrogen in your body making you emotional.
/r/askMRP28/02/22 11:49 PM
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Tldr: mad at wife for you making mistakes to marry her. Don’t get all emotional about it. Make a plan and do what needs to be done. Wtf is divorce monk mode?
/r/askMRP28/02/22 09:41 PM
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You sound angry. Have you tried fucking the MIL? Here’s the real question: why do you care? If it’s a problem for you and your wife doesn’t want to fix it then leave. This isn’t an issue with your MIL. This is an issue your wife. You can’t control other people and only control your own actions.
/r/askMRP23/02/22 12:57 AM
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I also did isolation for my arms instead of focusing on my knee. It’s because I don’t know how to adress the problem. What’s the knee issue? How long has it gone in for? Have you done physical therapy? I had a knee issue. Followed the advice of the PT and 4 weeks later it’s nearly healed. Squat is back to 90% before the injury. when she was undressing for the shower. Hard no “I feel disgusting”. What stopped you from hopping in the shower with her? It’s clear from the rest of what you wrote that…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 06:41 PM
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“Should” is a judgement based on shame. Do or don’t. Almost every time you say “I should have…” a “but I [excuse]”. Don’t DEER to yourself. I should have lifted but I was tired I should have talked to that hot girl but I got scared I should have asked for a raise but they will probably say no I should not have had sex with the babysitter but I had a moment of weakness Etc. Instead frame it as improvement. You judged your action as unacceptable based on YOUR standards and goals. Cool… how will yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 06:27 PM
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He’s missing a dick since his wife cut it off.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 06:17 PM
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No. Go to askMRP if you need to puke.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 06:14 PM
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One HJ. Zero PIV At least you're not keeping score...
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 02:49 PM
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pull ups (body weight only)x14 Get a chain and start with weighted pull-ups. Big difference. What's going on with your other lifts? - Squat/DL/OHP? “I have earned the right to do whatever the fuck I want.” Only problem here is that I don’t know if I fully believe this yet. I am not where I want to be in life yet. So have I really earned that right? I read that first sentence and immediately saw the dangerous thinking. What if you never earn it? What does it mean to earn it? Guess what? You don't…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 02:45 PM
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We can’t answer this for you . What do you want to do? Separate? Then do so. Don’t tell her. Go get the papers drawn up and have her served. You want to stay control of the legal proceedings as much as possible. Trust me on this last point.
/r/askMRP19/02/22 03:11 PM
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If you’re still throwing actions into “alpha” vs “beta” categories - you haven’t fully gotten it yet. If you have to call yourself Alpha…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/22 11:13 PM
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Rule 9 Try again in two weeks.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/22 08:07 PM
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but feel like I suck at DARE. When I agree and amplify, my wife get pissed about me being sarcastic and leads to more confrontation. Is this a big tell that I am doing it wrong or is it just her getting pissy at me not being a pussy? You’re faking it and it’s not congruent to who you are. Do you naturally use sarcasm in your life? Are you being retarded about it? (Yes). There is zero need to explain yourself. “No”/“Yes” are complete sentences. Skip the DARE for now and go take another read throu…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/22 03:56 AM
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I have waited a long for the perfect post for this song. The time has come.
/r/askMRP15/02/22 10:59 PM
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"If you can't be vulnerable your frame is shit." from the book of /u/HornsOfApathy's greatest quotes.
/r/askMRP15/02/22 07:14 PM
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I do think it is a bit inconsiderate Then why do you do it? Here’s why: you’re trying to stir up some dread in her. And it’s not congruent with who you are. You’re doing thing A to hope she feels thing B. Hmm what’s the name for that again?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 11:55 AM
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“You can’t force other people to do what you want, you can only control what you do” - advice I gave to one of my kids this weekend. She understood. Wasn’t happy about it but understood. You don’t seem to.
/r/askMRP15/02/22 01:15 AM
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Here
/r/askMRP13/02/22 03:43 AM
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“My wife acted like a woman so I threw out the gifts for my covert contracts”. That will show her.
/r/askMRP13/02/22 03:39 AM
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If your wife EVER, EVER offers to clean you desk while you are working and you dont say yes, and fuck her while she is doing it then you have zero business posting here or anywhere. The entertaining part is they think you’re joking about this.
/r/askMRP13/02/22 03:29 AM
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I heard they can sync up if they're in the same house now.
/r/askMRP11/02/22 08:45 PM
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Rule 9.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/22 01:09 AM
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Your Konami code(s) can be a dynamite in the wrong hands. Covert contracts and all that. It's fun to see.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/22 01:07 AM
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Navy BF + Strongur.io gives me a fair range. Nothing is going to be accurate except DEXA. And I don't give a fuck enough to do that. The big question for me is: would I fuck me? Yes I would Do I look good based on my standards? Most of the time the answer is no but that's due to body dysmorphia more than anything else.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/22 01:04 AM
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So I'm up writing this OYS to do something productive, but it pisses me off that I won't have the recovery I want post lift. Being pissed off at not being able to sleep is just going to make you not sleep. Start accepting things that are out of your control as exactly that - out of your control. They will pass. What was in your control here? I'm assuming you didn't try to initiate with your wife at 2AM. Why not? But you DID control that you got up and wrote an OYS. So what or better yet - who ar…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/22 01:02 AM
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I am still a beta extraordinaire. At my house, I: Unload the dishwasher in the morning Get both kids ready for school Do half the laundry of the house Cook almost every dinner Plan and help prepare almost everyone’s lunches Take my son to his weekly allergy shot appointment Work two extra jobs to bring in extra income for the family budget (extracurricular coaching and playing music gigs) Do the majority of the grocery shopping Take care of the house projects like painting, cutting the grass, hi…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/22 12:58 AM
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I still have moments of being/acting like a victim of my past behaviors. I carry a lot of guilt for not living up to my own standards Can you change anything in your past? What have you learned from it? There is zero value in spending mental energy beating yourself up over stupid shit you did. There is value in realizing where you fucked up to avoid the same mistakes going forward. At work I made a decision about a year ago. It wasn’t the right one. I can acknowledge it and I’ve learned from it.…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/22 12:38 AM
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Health-wise, did not feel very well in the last few days. Recovering. Skipped one training day yesterday. I’m planning to continue on Wednesday, assuming that I will get better. Week 12 of the 5x5 stronglift workout plan You know how you feel and if you’re bullshitting yourself. Do NOT do something stupid and kill yourself when ill. This is how injury occurs. Don’t necessary skip a day but don’t go all out. This is from personal experience.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/22 12:30 AM
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No amount of money is worth your happiness. It’s just money.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/22 12:15 AM
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The job is the biggest drain on you. You’re completely lost and just floating through life. Take a fucking job at McDonalds if you have to while you look for something better. How else have you built you life in the last year sitting on your ass applying to jobs ?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 01:59 PM
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I’ve read my MRP sidebar, but I don’t understand what the appropriate responses are You're missing this book: Sexuality and Mental Handicap.
/r/askMRP03/02/22 01:47 PM
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So why do they torture themselves? They need to be miserable and blame others (their wife) for their misery. The alternative is accepting they are 100% accountable for their own life. That's a scary thought to a lot of men. Because if you're 100% accountable you have to own the failures as being your fault. Some cannot put the ego aside and accept this. So it is easier in their life to continue to be miserable and blame their frigid/harpy/nagging/BPD/bipolar/narcissistic wife.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/22 07:14 PM
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Again, just so we're very clear, MRP is not a program that will get your wife to fuck you. And this is especially true when you continue to have a shitty mindset. Sex is easy. Low hanging fruit. Hell, you can go buy it if necessary. Your wife is not preventing you from having sex. You are preventing you from having sex. So why are you being butt hurt by something in your control? What's in your control? Lifting Reading and internalizing the sidebar material Shutting your damned teapot mouth Goin…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/22 07:09 PM
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I get the notes hidden to find. I enjoy it. Need it? Nah. Enjoy it? Absolutely.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 10:12 PM
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Get off Reddit and do some work. Or fuck off.
/r/askMRP01/02/22 09:33 PM
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caveman as I’m pick her up and carry her to have sex Yes
/r/askMRP01/02/22 04:54 PM
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It's the little things like getting coffee in the morning brought to you. It's so sweet of her and she makes it just how I like it.
/r/askMRP01/02/22 04:53 PM
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She asks you for something and promises sex. You say no because you don’t want to. She takes it horribly and that you dont want to have sex. drama ensues, you think im fat… blah blah. Fog that. Oh yes, by all means let's do things based on her reactions.
/r/askMRP01/02/22 04:52 PM
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Fuck her while she's sleeping in the morning to wake her up. Then have her make you coffee as a thank you for it.
/r/askMRP01/02/22 04:51 PM
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"Sex for a cup of coffee? You're a very cheap whore aren't you?".
/r/askMRP01/02/22 04:50 PM
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You just don't understand... there was traffic.
/r/askMRP01/02/22 04:48 PM
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Aww - does your little ego get hurt when your meanie girlfriend is rude to you? Im reluctant because hey my privacy and I demand to be trusted, but after some time she makes me. Really? She stick a gun to your head here? Maybe she'll break up with you. Oh noes!
/r/askMRP01/02/22 04:47 PM
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OYS 38 6’2” 220 lbs BP 225x8; OHP 145x8; DL: 405x5; SQ: 330x6 Health and Fitness I had COVID two weeks ago and it kicked my ass. I’ve had several lingering symptoms that have caused significant mental frustration – knee inflammation (no leg work allowed), no appetite, chest pain, difficulty breathing, no stamina, continued weakness, fatigue. Mentally – I’m frustrated as I made significant lifting progress and am worried I’ll lose it. I try and focus on the positive – I am still lifting though at…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 02:20 PM
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Relationship: I have been with current partner for 1.5 years, we moved in together 4 weeks ago and it went downhill.Prior to this sex was mostly when and what I wanted. So where'd you fuck up? Moving in should improve your life. Not make it worse.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 01:30 PM
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Good stuff. On emotional / mental pain something is off in your life that you aren't happy with. Your plan to sit on it and meditate is a good one. Also - just starting to write may uncover the source of it.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 01:26 PM
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This would eventually turn into her asking me what my problem is followed by massive amounts of gaslighting on her part and DEERing on my part until I eventually get worn out and give up. Why the fuck do you care? You're trying to push button "A" to get a result "B" from her. Time and attention is natural because you WANT to be around her. If you don't... then you don't. I am very pissed off. This is your big problem. You're getting your emotions manipulated by her. So who is the one driving the…
/r/askMRP01/02/22 01:17 AM
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Your situation is literally killing you. And her mom brings nothing to help out. Kick her out. Live your life on your terms. If you don’t want to take care of the kids… don’t. What’s the worst that happens? You get divorced and have them 50% of the time? Sounds a lot better than your shitty life now.
/r/askMRP29/01/22 07:50 PM
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I think I did something wrong… she now has full power ups and 30 lives.
/r/askMRP28/01/22 05:15 PM
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It’s a pretty big dilemma. Really only solvable by asking anonymous retards on Reddit.
/r/askMRP28/01/22 12:45 AM
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Stupid questions go in askMRP
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/22 09:25 PM
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Stats? Shitty mental models take years to unravel. Consistent discipline is what it takes to get there. You care that others’ like you. Instead of NGAF.
/r/askMRP23/01/22 05:23 PM
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I still don’t get the nuances of how RP’ers do relationships without BP faggotry, especially relationshps with wife/LTR. i’ve managed to either be a total BP faggot white knight orbiter or an overly cocky asshole (autistic mode). Once you stop playing the "is this RP or BP game" and you do things 1) without expectation / covert contracts and 2) as sharing your gifts then you'll see improvement in this area. You're scoreboarding: "let me put that in the BP column, am I a teapot now?".
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/22 05:41 PM
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jerry... jerry... Jerry - you got 19 she's in here. Rule 9.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/22 05:37 PM
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About 2 months ago I got the ILYBNILWY speech which brought me to TRP. Ever since getting married I've gotten complacent in the marriage. I became lazy, stopped lifting and put on 30lbs. I also use to bitch and complain alot now that I look back on it. My wife has resented me for quite sometime now. We haven't had sex in 10 months. She doesn't show me any sort of affection anymore like she use too. She is consciously makes it impossible for me to initiate sex. No kids... why are you looking at a…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/22 05:34 PM
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It's based on the premise that kids blow up when demands are placed on them that outstrip their skills. So you talk it out to collaboratively solve problems, meet them where they are, and stretch them a bit rather than too much. It's 1 of 2 books I have now that are explicitly focused on skill building (also "smart but scattered"). I tried it out this week on a task that normally makes him blow up and ends with my wife and/or me freaking out and him sitting in timeout. Beyond staying in that war…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/22 05:26 PM
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No... zero effort.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/22 05:18 PM
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Your post boils down to “Do I do what I want or what she wants?” What do you think the answer is?
/r/askMRP18/01/22 01:22 AM
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I was once told the following. It applies to you. Become attractive, don’t be unattractive and make your decision. What are you stats and lifts? “You will never get what you want with her”. /u/red-sfpplus
/r/askMRP17/01/22 03:17 AM
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This should be entertaining…
/r/askMRP17/01/22 01:10 AM
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RE_ P _ _ _ EXER_ _ _E Solve the puzzle.
/r/askMRP15/01/22 04:10 AM
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You have a goal: “fuck a non obese woman who is not in the running against the blue whale for largest mammal”. That woman may not be your wife. I don’t know what so hard about this. If you were attractive there would be no reason to dance around it. It’s pretty simple “[wife]: I am not attracted to you due to your weight.”. One thing RP has taught me is honesty, maybe brutal at times but I don’t dance around shit to placate feelings. That’s for teapots. She’s stress eating because her husband su…
/r/askMRP15/01/22 03:50 AM
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No. This is terrible advice.
/r/askMRP15/01/22 03:35 AM
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He’s scared she might mistake him for food and eat his arm off or get crushed to death if she ever finds the energy to roll over in bed.
/r/askMRP15/01/22 03:34 AM
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Next time she buys a donut, smash it to pieces and walk away.
/r/askMRP14/01/22 09:05 PM
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He seems to have had some covert idea in his head that him getting better would lead to her getting better...
/r/askMRP14/01/22 09:05 PM
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Why do you get so wrapped up in her emotions? Be fun. Tease that moody woman. Tickle her. Pick her up. It’s not that hard to be fun and enervating.
/r/askMRP13/01/22 09:51 PM
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I decided to delete the keylogger on Friday. It's been a month, she has had zero contact with dick pic guy. She blocked and deleted him with no explanation. I'm satisfied there was no sexual relationship happening, at least not while we were together. I found myself checking it daily, which kept me in her frame. I saw she was checking his Instagram often, sometimes daily. It ended up enraging me. Dealing with thoughts of the past cheating, dealing with new thoughts about checking the guys Instag…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/22 04:26 AM
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Here are two more to consider during your Rule 9 ban. When we do end up having sex, there is almost always resistance that I need to push through. I think it is a combination of my game sucking and my SMV not being too elevated yet. I just am continually surprised how resistant this woman is to my initiations I just hate always having to deal with resistance "If my SMV was higher and my game is better, my wife will not resist sex" Reading MRP makes that seem like a good thing but my wife isn’t l…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/22 03:58 PM
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This is an amazing post. There is a guttural reaction when your model is challenged. From fear: fear of being wrong, fear of being challenged. Which causes the fight ("you're wrong") or flight ("eh, maybe that's for you but not me"). Being able to place that initial gut reaction aside is what allows growth. Conversations with fellow RP men are rewarding specifically for the fact that we can challenge each other and learn from each other. When you drop your ego, then you are ok with reevaluating …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/22 03:19 PM
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Lots of cover contracts here. Eliminate them
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/22 01:15 AM
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I might have reached my limit. I'll start with a slower increase. This is limited thinking. I was told back in November regarding my deadlift to try trying. Went from 365 x 3 to 390 x5... by just trying and I'm not done yet. Maybe you are done with linear gains, maybe it is getting harder, but you're not at your limit. Get out of your own head, make a plan and move forward. Brazilian buffet. Good on you for trying something despite fear. No number close, oh well. You learned something about your…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/22 05:09 PM
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We have a wonderful relationship now and I will do everything I can to keep me as her hero Will you light yourself on fire? There is no guarantee that she will see you as her hero forever anyhow. Do what's best for YOU. Kids are resilient and adaptable and see through mom's bullshit pretty well.. it just may take awhile.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/22 04:17 PM
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It’s really important that you communicate how you feel. And keep in mind that love runs more than skin deep. You should be lucky to have her. If you’re only attracted to her body that’s very superficial of you. Haven’t you seen the movie Shallow Hal? Learn the lesson - big is beautiful.
/r/askMRP11/01/22 02:38 AM
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OP shouldn’t hide the ring in a cake though. She’ll inhale it.
/r/askMRP11/01/22 02:36 AM
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attract those two girls I can’t physically be with “Attract”. So naive. What’re your stats?
/r/askMRP11/01/22 12:00 AM
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Retarded questions go in askMRP
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/22 07:58 PM
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This is the last help you'll get for awhile. Lift, stop being a fat fuck, STFU, read and do ALL of this, and post in the weekly OYS thread.
/r/askMRP07/01/22 07:01 PM
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Read this as gambling... time to get the readers on. Be cooler if it was gambling and not World of Incelcraft or whatever.
/r/askMRP07/01/22 06:00 PM
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You're missing the point. Your situation would never happen. It's so far from the realm of possibility. I'll bet /u/InChargeMan's wife would apologize if he picked up something of hers.
/r/askMRP07/01/22 05:59 PM
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But that would take work... what's the super secret cheat code?
/r/askMRP07/01/22 05:24 PM
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It is really the only way to show dominance.
/r/askMRP05/01/22 08:50 PM
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You’re afraid of what you find. Deep down what you really want. So you can either 1) continue to be incongruent and fearful or 2) embrace who you really are. That’s it. That’s the decision.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/22 05:39 PM
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What about non-sexual stuff?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/22 02:25 PM
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The advice you got is spot on. What do they do in PT? They don’t have you just do nothing - they force you to do uncomfortable movements to get stronger and increase range of motion. But don’t be an idiot. Have a very similar (but not as bad) issue. Look at alternative lifts that can take pressure off the shoulder. It depends what hurts and where but you could try incline or decline press with less weights. Dumbbell press and focus on form. Lots of options. If it continues to be that painful - s…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/22 11:24 PM
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There are a lot of maybe I’ll do this. Or that. Lifting vs cut: pick one. Through your lifts are still low enough you may be able to make some progress even while cutting. Lifting program: pick something. Run it for 3 months. Reassess. Don’t kill yourself here. The key is alway to just lift. What should you do in the morning? I don’t know. What do you want to do? Do you like your wife or not? Should I go to 1 or 2 churches? This what your frame means… what do YOU want. But you have to pick a pat…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/22 11:15 PM
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You’re 20 OYS in and your entire Relationship section is from your wife’s frame. Also the format sucks.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/22 11:01 PM
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You’re not leading her to what you want. You’re expecting her to just figure it out. Analogy Boss: be a better employee You try and do better things but he keeps coming back to you with the same statement. You have no idea wtf to do. He keeps saying it. You: “I guess I’m just not awesome at my job” Boss: “just be better” There is zero leadership there. You need to guide here. Instead of guiding you’re thinking (despite your shitty lifts): “well she’s far behind, she’ll catch up”. But she does no…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/22 04:20 PM
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Fuck me, I am sick of repeated failure here, I keep over eating, i need to focus completely on this goal, it is lift, eat right and STFU. see more in relationship section What is the difficulty here? Track your calories and when you hit them for the day you stop.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/22 03:52 PM
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Are you trying to convince yourself or us because you’ve preemptively DEERed every section.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/22 03:44 PM
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/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/22 02:18 PM
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Lots of covert contracts here. I don’t get the “you have to massage me” as a punishment. Sounds like a reward she gets to touch you. Does she not like to touch you usually? For something simple, ruining someone’s morning is inappropriate for the issue at hand. I withdraw attention and she spam calls me crying about how I don’t love her anymore. She starts screaming and crying. Not sure how your LTR is changing your mood/ruining your morning. This sounds pretty entertaining. I get an angry sperg …
/r/askMRP01/01/22 03:14 AM
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The important question is “what do you think a good husband is?” And then as a corollary “what do you think good wife is?” These questions aren’t for us to answer.
/r/askMRP31/12/21 04:08 AM
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/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/21 07:40 PM
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I’m not married. No one cares. Post in OYS if you want.
/r/askMRP29/12/21 07:41 PM
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220 lbs at 5’11” with no lifts is still fat. You have 18-24 months of work to even get to a decent level of fitness. And gaining 100 lbs of fat in 7 months is an amazing accomplishment in self destructive behavior. By some quick math that’s around 1700 EXTRA calories a day on top of TDEE. Put the fork down - it’s not going to make your mental issues any better. I would say 4 only because I blocked her, but I haven’t really done the other 3 steps. You’re at dread level negative 1 - being a fat fu…
/r/askMRP26/12/21 03:52 PM
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lift, sidebar, stfu, post in OYS wasn’t just an emotional affair hysterical bonding let’s see if you have the balls to actually go through with a divorce
/r/askMRP26/12/21 01:48 AM
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Did I hold frame or lose the test? You can’t lose what you never had. And yes you failed. Miserably.
/r/askMRP24/12/21 02:04 PM
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Being angry at things that are not in your control is a waste of time and energy. Accept things as they are, change what you can and ignore the rest. FMOFY at best results in hysterical bonding. A HVM with his shit together, his ego in check, and options would never get to this point. Why is saving the marriage so important? The goal should never be to save the marriage. It’s to become a congruent man. As for not showing a “weak” side to a woman, if we teach guys this - all it does is have them …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/21 07:28 PM
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God you're lazy. You have the answers. Locked.
/r/askMRP18/12/21 03:36 PM
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So, somehow later my wife gets suspicious, logs into my email and finds the email, my ebooks on Red Pill and game – and of course goes total ape shit. She tried get me to burn the paperbacks, but I got them back safely to my office. OPSEC is important. She has threatened divorce many times. I don’t know what to do. You're scared of a divorce. You're scared of your wife. Why? What is the absolute worse that happens here? You break-up. Oh no! You lose half your shit? Eh. You don't see your kids 10…
/r/askMRP18/12/21 03:35 PM
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I played football and did lots of bodyweight exercises Why do you think we care? Lift heavy. Or don’t. But it’s fundamental for a reason.
/r/askMRP17/12/21 06:57 PM
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I went nuclear onfired a cap gun at my wife , not sure what to do now.
/r/askMRP17/12/21 05:43 PM
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The wife is increasing the stakes in arguments until I cave in. It's gotten to the point where she once brought up divorce and just quitting our infertility treatments. She gets 1 free pass on threatening shit like this. Next time she gets papers. She needs to know this. Or you can just go sleep on the couch like a pussy. Next time: "Ok, I'll get the papers drawn up". DO NOT GET THIS WOMAN PREGNANT UNTIL YOU FIX YOUR SHIT.
/r/askMRP17/12/21 01:36 PM
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And dudes, this is where liking your wife gets really important. Because I've seen men here that don't like their wives spin their wheels in this stage for a long time, constantly going Rambo just to get some retard revenge fantasy fulfilled - and that makes them like the TRP retards we all know. Fucking over women instead of just fucking them. This point is spot on. I didn't like my wife and kept having these "I'll make her do X to show that I've made it". Completely in her frame still. Did stu…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/21 04:27 PM
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Rule 9.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/21 06:23 PM
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It's not for her
/r/askMRP15/12/21 02:24 PM
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What’s stopping his happiness is him. Sounds like he has a lot of broken mental models. Not your job to fix him. He needs to fix himself. Does he lift? Journal? Meditate?
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/21 05:25 AM
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His ego is hurt and he believes that somehow he’s going to find something “bad” enough to leave over. “I have told you everything, I am not discussing again. This is your issue to figure out” This is for his sake. If he can’t get over it, why would you want to be with a guy who can be harmed so much by an unchangeable past?
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/21 05:23 AM
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So this makes me feel responsible for his happiness and our happiness as a family because he spends more time with me and our kid, his friends, and his hobbies whenever his spirits are lifted. He even seems to perform better at work. He is responsible for his own happiness. If he’s not getting it with you he should end the relationship or discuss opening it up to get why he wants. Any good Dom will be patient and work up to things with hard limits spelled out. We don’t breach those limits and if…
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/21 05:15 AM
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RP women exist in the context that they are aware of relationship needs with male and female polarity. The Disney fantasy doesn’t exist and for BOTH parties to be happy - there must be minimal ego protections. They know the score…it’s only men that are fooled.” A true RP man doesn’t keep a scoreboard I went on to reassure that her needing lube for the 4th round is normal, especially with rough sex. It had nothing to do with her not being turned on at him. No one agreed and they all told him that…
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/21 05:11 AM
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Pretty simple. A woman in a man’s life must make his life better than by not being in his life. It’s going to vary from man to man. At the end of the day: are you helping his life by adding value? I get a huge huge amount of value out of my relationship. And not taking about sex (through ladies this is important), you have to bring more than sex had food poisoning and dehydration and she scoured the city IV fluids in a massive rainstorm. Then gave me an In just got together but she made a big de…
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/21 04:58 AM
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Unattractive man is unattractive. Neither of you want this relationship (even if he thinks he does).
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/21 04:51 AM
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This can lead to some nice sexual RP as well. Trust me.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/21 04:49 AM
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I love cooking. LTR cooking isn’t bad, but like your bf I have high standards - I like my cuts done well, seasoning perfect, and meat cooked to the right temperature. I love with LTR gets ingredients out I need, cleans up after, performs tasks I delegate, and pours me a drink if I want one. Those simple actions should go a long way to adding value to the process. “Keeping a belly full” is thrown around a lot. Ignore that shit. Add value to the things he likes to do. I have an example of how my L…
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/21 04:48 AM
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Rule. 10 but you’re already banned
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/21 04:42 AM
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What is wrong with me? Do you like yourself?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/21 01:21 AM
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have had somewhat significant GI issues the past month so eating anything without issue has been main priority. Will get some sort of macro tracker when I GI issues are resolved. Any more excuses you got? Here’s a thought: track your food anyways. You probably eat like shit which is why you have GI issues. I’ve had my share of issues, always tracked, always lifted. Heavy weights. Not shitty dumbbells. The rest of your OYS is just pointing to external factors or people for why you don’t do shit. …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/21 01:15 AM
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I recognize and am always fighting being in the cycle of: have sex, feel better about things, get rejected for a month, get annoyed, think about divorce and review custody drafts, have sex, then start all over. I think I'm just desensitized to it at this point. I see the cycle over and over. Part of what makes it easier is I don't think it's me, it's her. Obviously she doesn't find me attractive, but that's not because I'm unattractive. Maybe it's ego talking, but I don't suck. For starters.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/21 05:26 PM
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It's strange - it was nothing I consciously thought of. It just happened. Pure joy The emotional range expands with kids. You feel higher highs like you did here but lower lows when something happens to them. There's a natural instinct to want to make it all better for them, but we can't.. we can teach and have them learn to make it better for themselves (not a few weeks old - that'd be neglect).
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/21 03:55 PM
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What I want to do is outline something firm that will give me confidence to say, "that's it, divorce is the right answer" You suck. You found MRP in 2017 and then "stopped" for 3.5 years. Your lifts are garbage, your mindset is shitty. No wonder your wife won't fuck you. Fix yourself and then the divorce questions will naturally come to you without having to ask the internet.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/21 03:50 PM
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And I do not know why I said that. Ego. What did he hit on about how you feel about yourself that made you angry?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/21 03:46 PM
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I even got anal. You got to work her asshole up to anal.. if you didn't train her, who did?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/21 03:33 PM
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I'm still researching that. SL 5x5 - may not be the "best" but it's easy and it's consistent. The best lifting program is you going to the gym and not fucking around. I was told by a national leader to never divorce my wife because she's afflicted by the whispers of the devil and isn't in a good mental or spiritual state. It was always, "Whatever, that's the devil influencing her. Endure the suffering in this fleeting world for an eternal reward in the hereafter." But that's not right, and ironi…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/21 02:04 PM
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You’ve had enough advice and know what to do. Do you know why we ban from OYS? It’s for you to go get your shit together and have some introspection. Banning from askMRP so you can go do that.
/r/askMRP14/12/21 02:58 AM
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Yes… ironic isn’t it?
/r/askMRP14/12/21 01:12 AM
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This only works if you’re attractive. Praise from an unattractive man won’t do anything. Is /u/ackley1900 attractive? Does he have other options? Not based on the behavior and shitty mental models.
/r/askMRP13/12/21 11:49 PM
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When will you stop letting your wife's actions dictate your decisions and level of happiness?
/r/askMRP13/12/21 05:50 PM
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Low quality, cannot even write complete sentences or be bothered to complete words.
/r/askMRP09/12/21 04:53 PM
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Such low quality
/r/askMRP09/12/21 04:52 PM
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Very strange. Women are mysterious creatures. We may never understand what's going on.
/r/askMRP08/12/21 06:44 PM
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Oh no! This is terrible. You need to rub her feet and buy her flowers. Have you tried apologizing for being a pussy?
/r/askMRP08/12/21 06:36 PM
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I think it’s due to low water volume in my system, which drives the skeletal muscle mass measurement down and BF% up. That’s some powerful hamstering. With your constant failing and mediocrity over the last 5 years, doesn’t seem this place is for you. Get your head out of your ass and do something.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/21 04:44 PM
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Women make decisions on emotion. Men make decisions on boundaries, reality, and logic.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 11:56 PM
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Ok DTC Part II. I don't care what you come up with - leave your wife, don't leave your wife, fuck chicks on the side and be with your wife, be gay and date men - don't give a single fuck about it. You need to get rid of all this mental bullshit you're putting yourself through and get to the core on WHAT DO YOU ACTUALLY WANT. You're OYS is all over the place - you want a divorce, you don't want a divorce, you want to fuck randos, but maybe she will leave you. My advice to you is settle the fuck d…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 11:28 PM
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OYS 38, 6’2”, 215 lbs, SQ 335 x 5, DL 365 x 5, BP 240 x 5, OHP 165 x 3 Mental Last night, after work selected one of the charities I contribute to in honor of my son as part of their yearly grants, all sorts of negative feelings came up. For the first time in years, I broke down. Watched some old videos of him and just cried. I was caught off guard by the intense feelings. Coming into the holiday season, I find depression creeping in again. This has been worse than years past. It’s not a serious…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 04:17 PM
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Would a small box he can step on speak from help at least let people know he’s there? It’s hard to see people so tiny. And then you just pet their heads and say “it’s ok boy, it’s so adorable when you get angry”.
/r/askMRP06/12/21 02:37 PM
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/r/askMRP04/12/21 01:02 AM
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This is a different Deal or No Deal than I’m used to. He agrees to be cucked and watch her get railed and then she’ll lay there starfish and let him do his thing.
/r/askMRP03/12/21 09:32 PM
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Questions go to askMRP
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/21 08:18 PM
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50,000 could buy lots of hookers and blow.
/r/askMRP03/12/21 06:47 PM
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You can get a gift up to 12,000 with tax implications. Anything outside of this definitely needs to be cash to avoid government stealing.
/r/askMRP03/12/21 05:58 PM
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Why do you hate women?
/r/askMRP03/12/21 05:54 PM
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bang for the 4th time this year Bang YOU for the 4th time this year. Chad is banging her left and right. I am in the best shape of my life Stats? Lifts? I make a good income ~200k. Own a 1.3m house. Do a good job of providing Doesn’t matter. Doesn’t make her tingly and get urges. Stop being boring. Good see is on you.
/r/askMRP03/12/21 05:53 PM
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He makes 85% of the income so she should get 85% of assets upon divorce. How else could she maintain her lifestyle?
/r/askMRP03/12/21 05:18 PM
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Make her pay rent. And engage in landlord/tenet role play.
/r/askMRP03/12/21 05:15 PM
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Retard questions go to askMRP
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/21 01:51 PM
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MISSION These are good GOALS but it's not your mission. Mission is hard to find and define. It's something in your core that is your passion and meaning. It will come about... eventually.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/21 02:33 PM
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She was crying in bed tonight and told me she wasn't sure if she loved me Moving the goal posts in your own head now to "well if i find any hard evidence NOW, it's a dealbreaker" Checking her phone She doesn't "know if she loves you" aka "i am/really want to fuck other guys who are not you" "I love you but I'm not in love with you".. but worse. /u/hornsofapathy Sounds like one for the list ​ Am I being a faggot for being upset about something I already deep down knew (Vegas) and using this as an…
/r/askMRP01/12/21 01:41 PM
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I thought this originally about your internal mental conversations. Nope - Fixed this post for you. I don't give a shit what she eats and drinks. Rule 9. OYS and DOD week whatever My wife tries to stall my progress: “Are you sure that you want to go to the gym when we have this and that to do today” (on saturday) “I’m sure” The shit tests continue to bounce off my chest pump all day as we run errands. The shops start closing and we still have shit to do…so what, the next day I hit the gym again.…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/21 09:23 PM
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I'm going to share this to show where I am at. I continue to struggle. I am going through episodes of despair. I've had two this morning, I get into these depressive episodes where I can barely hold it together. I doubt I can do this work, I doubt I'll succeed in becoming a high value attractive man. This is normal. You need to STFU... to yourself. When this happens 1) go lift even if it's for 20 minutes and just lift heavy shit. or 2) focus on now. What can you control RIGHT NOW? All the what i…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/21 09:19 PM
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"If you at least try, you'll succeed." Participation trophies for everyone!
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/21 08:05 PM
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One take away was the wife is now over 40 so I can jack my SMV up if I put in the hard work and tip the scales. So you want to improve yourself for HER? or to get back at HER? or to be better than HER? Weak ass frame. What all the hard work I had put in ! (dancing monkey, convert contract), was very hard but I realised my SMV is still low There's a second covert contract in this statement. Do you see it?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/21 04:29 PM
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60% of your OYS is about sex. When you get sex - you feel good. When you don't or it's 'not good enough' - you feel less good. When you "can't" get it you feel great. Why? Because you spend too much energy and base your whole life around this one area. Sex is great - but it's sex. Not hard to get / find with your wife or not. Figure out the other areas of your life.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/21 04:15 PM
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You're caring too much whether this works out or not. You're losing OI and an abundance mentality. lying to myself and don’t want to admit the truth that I just LTR’ed a basic party girl and she is not the girl I can lead to being an awesome FO Do you want to continue this relationship? Yes/no? Does she add value to your life? Does it really matter she's a party girl or what happened in the past? have just been able to cover up my core lack of abundance/frame/confidence/deep belief that I will “…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/21 03:08 PM
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Stoicism --> My wife is a woman so I will have to deal with woman issues. Keep track of my loss of stoicism. What do you mean by women's issues? Having to have a woman and all her wonderful emotions in your life or being an emotional tampon for her? Marriage improvement work --> I want to find resources to improve my marriage, not just me, and reduce the suffering I created. At this moment I found videos from “BPP Red Pill Coach on Advanced Topics on Marriage”. Let’s see what I get from that. Fo…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/21 01:18 PM
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Drink beer every day, at least 5 cans This and not being fat is going to solve a good 90% of your issues. Cut out alcohol completely for a month. If you can’t do it - then you’re an addict and need help.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/21 03:33 AM
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OP is banned for multiple retarded questions in less than half a day.
/r/askMRP21/11/21 03:29 PM
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I'd rather have it this way instead. I'd rather have a few million dollars in the bank. That's not reality. Deal in reality. However, right now, it's more productive for me to continue working on myself rather than playing out those scenarios in my mind. Those scenarios are very very likely. Like 95% chance if not higher. So deal with it. If she ever lets you kiss her imagine that you can taste him on her. She has checked the fuck out. The only thing that may keeping her head (definitely not her…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/21 04:29 PM
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My God... you are retarded.
/r/askMRP18/11/21 04:17 PM
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Someone is fucking a Mormon and it's not OP.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/21 03:35 PM
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Jesus you're dense.
/r/askMRP18/11/21 02:58 PM
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No idea... last he posted he got his wife pregnant now too.. then disappeared. Been awhile.
/r/askMRP17/11/21 08:28 PM
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Different type of submission
/r/askMRP17/11/21 04:31 PM
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I don't think it's likely to go legal That's cute.
/r/askMRP17/11/21 04:13 PM
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Do not fuck the babysitter and get her pregnant.
/r/askMRP17/11/21 04:12 PM
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Could I have handled things better? If so, how? What do you think here? You argued for 2 hours. 1) never argue with a woman. 2) TWO HOURS Verbal Intercourse is Optional and didn’t want to “lose” by me leaving the bedroom JFC. Get out of this win/lose mindset. Did you want to leave? Then leave. "This isn't working for me" and leave. Or STFU and leave. so I tried to pick her up to carry her out of the room Lift more She says she was hurt and has taken it as me having physically attacked her. Sound…
/r/askMRP17/11/21 02:36 PM
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Rule 9… so much Rule 9.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/21 08:56 PM
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Thanks to those who took the effort to comment on my last (shitty) OYS. You were gold to me. This isn’t an awards show and you didn’t win an Oscar.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/21 05:27 PM
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Congrats on the sex! Oh and the pending child.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/21 05:19 PM
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she didn’t come She got very upset She tried to pull them put of my ears. She resisted She has taken it as me having physically attacked her Rule 9 When it was still going after 2 hours Jesus. Find something better to do with your life than argue with your wife.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/21 05:14 PM
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You’re a retard. You can have all the emotions you want. You don’t base decisions of emotion.
/r/askMRP15/11/21 11:11 PM
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Bahahahaha. The contradictory statements in your diatribe are hilarious.
/r/askMRP15/11/21 11:08 PM
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I don’t trust my own judgement at the moment hence the question. Yes… when in doubt on your own judgement post to a random anonymous forum online. Here’s the real question: what are YOUR boundaries? Did you set them? If so are you going to follow through? Or did you not set a boundary for YOUR relationship but now you’re butthurt?
/r/askMRP15/11/21 10:30 PM
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It’s a newborn. It’s a life changing event and you’re 1) not leading and 2) butthurt after no sex for 2 months. FFS.
/r/askMRP14/11/21 11:51 PM
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Her: “Be more dominant” You: “Yes dear, whatever you say”
/r/askMRP13/11/21 12:28 AM
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Instructions unclear. Fucked a tree.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/21 12:26 AM
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Oh you’re back…. Again Stop spinning wheels this time. Develop some discipline in your life. Blah blah depression, being tired, and something about caffeine Congrats on learning the difference between a hot water heater and a furnace though. Despite actively trying not to, you actually learned something this week.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/21 01:13 AM
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I have a work party coming up this weekend, and I'm going to use it to practice my STFUs. I will not speak unless spoken to. Be fun and engaging. This is a limiting / scarcity mindset: My field of expertise is music arrangement and playing an instrument. That's it. You have ZERO other thoughts or opinions or life experience? Is your plan to sit in a corner and just wait for something to happen without MAKING it happen? Go talk to people FFS.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/21 08:05 PM
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If you prioritize your ephemeral happiness over the well-being of your kids, you are a loser and it does not matter what else you win at. Moralizing.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/21 03:39 PM
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Rule 9
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/21 03:35 PM
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Out of guilt, I stopped preparing. There's a sidebar book about guilt. When are you going to just kick her out? This is a prolonged thing, hell fuck gas station girl while she's there - may help her get her shit together to move.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/21 03:33 PM
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Must have sucked when your wife left you for Chad. Where have I said to dump problems on your kids? Sounds like projection. Are you proposing men stay in a situation where they're unhappy just because? I mean they could always cheat I suppose and then keep their 'nuclear family' intact.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/21 03:27 PM
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Write down what the ideal you looks like. Physically, mentally, relationship, financial, career, behaviorally, whatever. Then when you get into whatever situation it is, take a pause and think what Ideal you would do in that situation.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/21 03:24 PM
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If you're wife isn't adding any value to your life - drop her. Assuming you've done the work and aren't a pussy anymore. You have to be willing to blow up your family to get what you want. https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/ge79vq/why_you_must_be_willing_to_nuke_your_nuclear/ You are responsible for learning how to be happy. You are responsible for your own happiness. If your relationship sucks, it did not get there overnight and you are not going to fix it overnight. The relations…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/21 03:15 PM
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Also, speaking as a divorced man, it was absolute Hell getting there, the kids definitely were impacted, and it cost me an insane amount of money. It was hell to get a settlement sure. My kids are much happier and thriving after divorce. It’s amazing. Money is just money - whatever. My happiness is worth every penny. You owe it to your kids to figure out how to make it work, especially when there is not something forcing it. love your life and be happier even if that means divorce FTFY.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/21 02:59 PM
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Don’t forget to hit subscribe and like this video!
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/21 02:55 PM
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If you want to check a box for an OYS, that's not going to fly. Look at others' formats. Focus on what you DID this week and how you're going to reach your goals.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/21 01:21 PM
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Jfc. You married not to have sex? FFS you’re trying to DEER and back track to an anonymous inter stranger.
/r/askMRP08/11/21 12:02 AM
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This falsehood got me really infuriated. Why? It’s the truth. You marry her to NOT have sex.?! Own what you actually think with people. “Yes - sex is a vital part of marriage”. she only wants to talk for a few minutes, And you’re doing what at this time? This behavior is really affecting me psychologically and I try not to let it show outwardly. Letting her dictate your mental state. You’re in her frame so much you can’t see sunlight. I am beginning to suspect she might be cheating on me Hamster…
/r/askMRP07/11/21 06:23 PM
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I was both in that moment yet outside of all of the bullshit in my head. Amazing what happens when you live in the moment without fear of the future or regret for the past.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/21 02:24 AM
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Hysterical bonding, fantasizing about work-Chad, or OP did something "right" accidentally. Edit: hysterical bonding because she did something she’s feeling guilty about
/r/askMRP04/11/21 09:24 PM
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You're giving him too much credit. One of his lift is: dumbells 15kg What is he doing with them? You know... the dumbbell lift.
/r/askMRP04/11/21 09:21 PM
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I love to code and think about it everyday. As someone who studied computer science... this is one of the gayest things I've read on this sub.
/r/askMRP04/11/21 09:14 PM
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So you have a lot of failures and not progressing forward. You have no plan to change that and - worse - don't seem to have done much of anything to move the needle in the last week. but not really hitting new epiphanies but not seeing much improvements but not having the depth of expertise but still haven't gained real competency yet but still stuck on some red flags. not seeing much progress. Areas where I have failed. You're right on this Need to cut that shit out
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/21 02:24 PM
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If he can get past the looking in the past and calm the hamster down, he will come out of this better than before. But there’s a chance it causes self destruction. Pretty big tipping point on developing NGAF and realizing shit from 12 years ago before getting with the anal lover does not matter to his relationship and his life today.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/21 09:48 PM
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If you’ve read Sex God Method - this is immersion. Becoming lost in sex and focusing on the here and now. Applying this mindset to life - you can focus on these here and now, not the past; not the future. This will clear your head and allow you much more joy in life.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/21 09:20 PM
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I do not want to invest 30 or 60 minutes pushing her doors. I prefer to leave and do something else. You're looking for the result. Covert contract. "If I invest 30-60 minutes, I'll get sex". You should play, flirt, game, use innuendo, tease your wife because it's FUN and you enjoy it. Not to get sex.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/21 04:14 PM
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282 (this week: -1, total: -58) lbs, 36% (Navy Method); So you're very very fat. What are you doing to fix this (besides lifting)? Other issues, that might be impacting my success is some underlying anger. Are you angry? Use it to fuel improvement.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/21 04:08 PM
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You're on OYS 38 and what did you do this week? Hamstering "did my lifts suffer" and "when will i look good - here's a picture". Be the prize where you are at and make a plan to get better. Looked through your wife's past emails which are what? over 12 fucking years old and then getting all butt hurt by something that happened over a decade ago? Pushed some sexual boundaries but still got held back from "she's not like that" despite knowing 100% she is... for the right man. Began considering a d…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/21 03:56 PM
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Screaming, throwing, slamming, the whole bit, which I participated. Badly. Drinking daily, secret meet ups or sexting, eating like shit, watching porn again, etc. Total loss of control. This lasted a couple more weeks. but just couldn’t sit there and deal with her shit then. All this is not in line with better mentally, more focused and having my life in order. You're a trainwreck. You remind me of a guy from a few years ago - DaddyThunderCock. Just full ego and ramboing left and right. That's y…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/21 02:59 PM
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Deadlift 260x5, Squat 230x9, Bench 210x7. Stop skipping leg day.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/21 02:21 PM
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The only reason you tell the GF is because shes the boss and you feel the need to keep the boss informed. And looking for that sweet validation / confirmation that the path is the correct one.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/21 01:53 PM
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I’m seeing practical examples of mrp principles in my interactions with wife. "I am measuring success based on the interactions with my wife". Dance monkey dance.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/21 01:48 PM
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So you got fatter and are lying to yourself? And are barely lifting because injuries. 15 pounds is a huge change in 2 months. Let's not blame peptides. Own your shit. Does it matter? It does to you for some reason. Your ego is painting a picture that isn't real. Why lie to yourself?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/21 01:45 PM
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Hahaha. This made my day.
/r/askMRP01/11/21 10:14 PM
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But he’s getting shamed. Society shames him for being a man and wanting things. He might get called names. It’s a catastrophe.
/r/askMRP01/11/21 09:48 PM
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Shame is the judgement from someone else’s frame.
/r/askMRP01/11/21 09:44 PM
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You’re not being authentic if anyone can “shame you”. If it’s that important to you and your life what’s stopping you from going to your wife and saying: “I love you. I want other women sexually and will pursue that.” Fear. Fear is what holds you back. Or it’s not that important. Only you can decide that.
/r/askMRP01/11/21 09:42 PM
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Your issue is you’re trying to find the super button combo to press to unlock your wife’s sex drive. There are no cheat codes. You’re trying to play her like a fiddle with one mindset: get the sex. Once you get out of this mindset of I’ll do X so she does Y, you’ll begin making progress. Do you even like your wife?
/r/askMRP27/10/21 09:03 PM
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There’s multiple approaches to getting past plateaus. For bench and OHP I found fractional plates (.5 lb) to be great at the weights your at. Then go up slowly until you’re past it. Other things you can do is do the lift you’re stuck on multiple times a week. 3x5 2x a week is an extra set. Obviously 5x5 on a second day is 5 more sets. That can add up. Focus on form and ensure that’s on point. Make sure you’re eating enough and getting rest. 5x5 should still be doing well for you at your weights.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/21 09:39 PM
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Interestingly, a few days ago she started making little comments about sex. Yesterday she asked me if I’d bought any of the “toys” we discussed on holiday. I haven’t yet as we only had starfish sex once since then and one refused blow job, so I thought we were back to square one. She was disappointed that I hadn't bought any yet and then apologised for refusing the blowjob and said she regretted it !! Rule 9.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/21 03:55 PM
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Rule 9
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/21 02:22 PM
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I went full on irrationally self confident. every decision I made was the right one, even if it wasn't. I used Fogging, Broken Record, AA and STFU to the extreme in a lot of these situations. I even straight up ran a red light while driving. I blamed is on the light, shrugged it off and STFU. I don't know if this level of irrational self confidence is sustainable, maybe it is, either way, my goal is extreme nice guy reversal. Good job trying something different. Keep working and trying to reset …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/21 01:55 PM
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Do you want to do these things or not? Also - dishes need to get washed. No one wants a messy kitchen. Own your shit.
/r/askMRP25/10/21 02:44 PM
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/r/askMRP
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/21 01:43 PM
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JFC - do YOU think it's a problem. Yes or no?
/r/askMRP21/10/21 01:07 PM
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Lying about your past and not being forthcoming about major actions of your past? What could possibly go wrong? For two years he accepted the drug use but she never told the whole story. No shit he’s going to bail. What else is she hiding?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen20/10/21 09:53 PM
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It's like she's unwilling to acknowledge my improvements and almost seeming jealous or angry. Do you need Mommy’s validation to make you feel good? Why do you care on her response to improving?
/r/askMRP20/10/21 08:44 PM
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By using the words “dread game” you have proven you’re a larping retard.
/r/askMRP20/10/21 06:43 PM
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You've been fucking around with triggering the divorce for 3 weeks now. Why is this? Are you really wanting the divorce or just believe the grass is greener on the other side? When I decided on my divorce I had seen lawyers the same week. You think you're special for X,Y,Z - you're probably not and any reputable firm would be able to handle your case. I need a new vision because I’m currently just grasping at straws with no end in mind. You're going to nuke your marriage and have no idea what yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/21 02:11 PM
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Can you take a 2nd wife? Wouldn't the cycles sync if in the same room? Needs to keep them at least 5 miles apart to avoid this.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/21 12:54 PM
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I state my disappointment in this and my wife tells me to “fuck off” and takes her wedding rings off. How often does this happen? If it's unacceptable - now what do you do next time? It's a shit test btw. Personally, this is equivalent to stating she wants a divorce. I went through similiar cycles with my ex-wife until for 14 years until... I didn't. I also have some gnawing guilt thoughts about leaving my partner, after using my wife because she made me feel safe and I no longer need her to fee…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/21 12:39 PM
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Not even sure what happened it spilled from feeling unappreciated, unwanted, and underfunded. Your ego got so bruised, you attacked. You believe you deserve to be kissed/fucked/sucked by your wife and when it does not happen you lash out. The reality is you are unattractive and she is repulsed by you. She feels sick to her stomach touching you. You don't fix her you fix you. And when other women are fawning over you, you will get to decide what to do with your current situation. Right now - you …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/21 12:30 PM
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would have been showing off as even more but hurt. So you wanted to do something different and didn't because of how you would be perceived by her? If the reason why you wanted to do something different was butt hurt - that's for you to have introspection on why. It does not change that you wanted to do something else and did not - because of fear of being perceived as butt hurt.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/21 12:20 PM
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Add Meditations to your reading list. And Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck. You give way too many fucks - that's the problem. Being more in charge will not fix how you react to other people. It's ego on your part to believe you can. All of this - the anger, the rage, the control issues is a choice on your part. Choose differently. “Choose not to be harmed – and you won’t feel harmed. Don’t feel harmed – and you haven’t been.” - Meditations
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/21 12:14 PM
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The obvious answer is that my frame and my actions are not worthy enough yet to earn this higher level of trust. As always it is all my fault. So what is your plan of action to resolve this?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/21 12:05 PM
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Most stds are curable and then you’d have your answer. I’m suggesting right now it doesn’t matter if she did or didn’t. You have no proof. You were separated. My best guess is she fucked him while you were separated. He’s still an option for her but likely has not since then. Has she contacted him since July? Probably. The more you go down this interrogation path, the more unattractive you are. If you don’t like your wife - cool end it now but not because she may or may not have done whatever. B…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 07:35 PM
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You are in zero position to provide any vision. Not for yourself and not for your marriage. Take a breath, go lift. Also - you use the word cheating and yet you were separated. You STFU about this. Don't talk about it, don't bring it up. Write it down in a journal if you need to. Talk to a friend, I don't fucking care. Don't talk to your wife about it. Don't talk to your wife about any of this shit. Work on you, be fun, flirt with your wife. In 12-18 months you may have enough of your own shit t…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 07:18 PM
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I've been running 5-3-1 in earnest since at least April without a break. Are you running a version of 5-3-1 or just sticking with 5-3-1? Take a deload/off week and reassess. Also try something with some additional sets like BBB if you aren't already.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 06:19 PM
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But then I understood that he just wanted me to get better and my ego was sabotaging me. I’m discovering I have an impossible standard for myself, I have to be good at everything and if I fail, even if it’s completely understandable, I hurt so much. This is great introspection. Now you need to figure out the why. Why does it hurt so much if you screw up?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 06:14 PM
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by lifestyle D/s play like your husband is trying to set up This seems more of the LARPing Alpha 1.0 type. Getting mad at having an opinion FFS because it's 'masculine'. Sounds like some Hand Maid's tale stuff. D/s requires huge amounts of trust and open communication without judgement on needs and wants. Being closed off or unable to communicate will end in disaster in a true D/s relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/21 04:01 PM
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belongs in /r/redpillwomen
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 01:46 PM
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Giving feelz and comfort outside the bedroom when I feel like it (currently hard to know when this is too much). If you're doing it from a place of giving with OI and not neediness - this will calibrate itself on frequency. During the time we do spend together, planning things to push her out of her comfort zone, to increase general excitement in life. Plan something you want to do, invite her along, if she doesn't want to come that's fine. On both these points you're thinking how can I do somet…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 01:02 PM
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Last week I had the retarded “Since you use it against me I’m taking sex off the table” speech with my wife. "I'm going to stop doing something you don't like to do, so there!" You really showed her. I had stopped masturbating in last March and have not done it again to focus my efforts on sleeping with my wife. If I eliminate that outcome as well, I have to find the right mix with flirting with girls and jerking off when I’m too sexually frustrated. Doing so would put me in a position where my …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 12:52 PM
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Got a bunch of Louis C.K.'s here.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 12:33 PM
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You're very very angry at what exactly? No sex? Your fault. I guarantee she feels that butthurt from you on the rejections which is unattractive. OI isn't OI if you get angry when you don't get what you want. Are you resetting everyday? I doubt it based on the rage oozing through your writing.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 12:29 PM
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Lift, sidebar, stfu. Stfu takes precedence over anything you read in the sidebar.
/r/askMRP16/10/21 03:35 AM
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If you are unnaturally hurting then reduce weight or take a week off. I’ve learned this the hard way. Many times.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/21 04:20 PM
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Are you sure it wasn’t “eat, shit, and die”? Much different meaning.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/21 12:00 AM
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No one cares.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/21 08:40 PM
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Trying no fap after been addicted forever to fap and porn since i was a kid. Every urge i get, i start reading more material. Only 2xs in a week to porn. You failed - twice. This isn't an 'only'. This is a failure.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/21 08:40 PM
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That was a lot of words for saying that you don't prioritize lifting. You do you, but no need to DEER like a fa.... teapot.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/21 08:33 PM
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I don't see anything about lifting here at all. What's your plan on that one?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/21 08:29 PM
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I have to adjust and use them coming from my authentic self, or else they are the bad kind of dynamite. You're beginning to find the real cheat code.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/21 08:27 PM
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Our oldest boy, almost 16, is antagonistic to the religious lifestyle that we live. I am in the process of creating a list of responsibilities that we expect him to live up to, whilst he is living with us, and consequences if he doesn’t. Struggling to find the right balance. At 16 - he's beginning to make his own choices. Sure set boundaries and such, but play it out - what if he simply is not religious? Does not want that lifestyle? On the sex stuff - just have fun with sex. It's fun. Do what y…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/21 08:24 PM
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Regarding the "being the shit" part, I am beginning to think I have a self-respect problem. I've read somewhere recently: looking to others for happiness means you probably don’t respect yourself If you're looking to others for happiness, you're looking for their approval, which puts you in their frame. Self-validating and looking inward for happiness is a mental shift that takes a long time. Try Meditations and The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/21 02:15 PM
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I spent the whole day reading about finasteride and freaking out that I was going to fuck myself up for life. Sense a theme with you. Get all anxious about trivial and unlikely shit. Figure out how to live in the moment 80% of the time and you'll be much better off. You wasted a WHOLE DAY here? What did that gain you? How did that improve your life? It didn't. It changed absolutely zero.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/21 01:49 PM
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Well cool - if you like your wife, dial it back, be congruent and keep improving. In your story, had you found mrp when this all went down? Did you go Rambo? Why did she ramp up so far, she couldn't handle you improving? MRP for a year, yes, no idea - everything in life is good now - I'm happy.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/21 01:42 PM
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I still have trouble meeting the scheduled six days. I only got in two workouts again. How is your life this chaotic you cannot carve out an hour a day for a work out? Kids in or out of school should not factor in whatsoever.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/21 12:59 PM
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That said, I have zero game. Not so much scared of approaching; just not good at conversation in general. Add Bang and Day Bang to your reading list.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/21 12:55 PM
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Lift heavy weights. On a barbell. What's preventing you from doing this fundamental step?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/21 12:48 PM
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Missions: get my health sorted, be attractive and start fucking. With my wife wife would be great if she’s up for it but that’s up to her. These are goals, not missions. You have a long long road here. You're fat and your mental state is fucked up. Put fucking your wife on the back burner right now - plus everyone including her knows you don't have options here.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/21 12:40 PM
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I will continue to own my shit, lift, read, and shut my fucking mouth. What the fuck do I do in this bleak situation, how do I extricate myself without going to jail or getting absolutely fucking raped, while keeping access to my kids? I really fucked myself with that belt snap in the ass. She took pics. Should I super beta while planning my removal with a lawyer? Do I want to suck it up (again) and continue my mrp journey knowing my wife's a whore? Do I want to divorce asap and head on over to …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/21 12:33 PM
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Fuck her dad and tape it to establish dominance. She’ll forget all about your parents.
/r/askMRP10/10/21 10:56 PM
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“my parents are dead, a gangster shot them in front of me when I was ten.” “I’m Batman”
/r/askMRP10/10/21 10:54 PM
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Damn man, just do something. Lift is step 1 for a reason.
/r/askMRP08/10/21 06:10 PM
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I know sidebar+lift but can someone please diagnose my problem with regards to how can i mentally move on? You're a teapot. Sidebar, Lift. This is the way.
/r/askMRP06/10/21 12:00 PM
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start swinging a hammer about and see what happens. And guess what? That means taking a risk. Might hit a nail or might hit a baby but at least it’s something new. And you’ll learn not to hit so many babies in the future.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/21 12:52 AM
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I don't know about weights Stopped reading here. Lift
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/21 03:48 PM
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I'm still logistically dependent on her How are you fixing this?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/21 03:01 PM
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We are good only when SHE is good. I need to be better mentally and I can't do it alone. Good on you getting a therapist. "We" don't need to be good. You need to be. Keep it up and aim for the sentence: "I am good regardless of her being good or not".
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/21 02:50 PM
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I developed a literal pain in the ass Don't increase the butt plug size too quick. Could lead to tears and fissures.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/21 02:45 PM
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I have some bullshit around vulnerability due to prior relationships and calibrating too far from my initial tard version of MRP. You'll need to solve this before you can pursue a D/s relationship. D/s is as honest and vulnerable a dynamic can be. Expressing what you want and need clearly requires vulnerability. Ensuring she has what she needs [not necessarily wants] require an honest look at everything managing your emotions appropriately.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/21 02:37 PM
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What’s the best way to navigate this? “I will no longer be going to couples therapy” You’re welcome.
/r/askMRP30/09/21 09:19 PM
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100%. That’s what life is for right? Entertainment and enjoying the demise and implosion of teapots?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/21 07:32 PM
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Sex with socks on. Can’t get much crazier than that.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/21 07:30 PM
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now they are sleeping at a motel 6... This is what you save your hotel points for. True story.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/21 07:28 PM
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But as you know, we aren't all created equally in terms of genetics What the hell are you talking about? Lift -> gain muscle Put down fork -> lose fat This is not genetic. This is how the body works.
/r/askMRP30/09/21 06:32 PM
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I couldn’t get past the overuse of exclamation points. It’s like Jeb! all over again.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/21 06:22 PM
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Lift. Stfu - including to yourself Read. Also - why worry about something you can’t control? Let’s assume she does cheat on you and you never ever find out - how does this impact your life whatsoever? Now if she does and you find out? You kick her to the curb and find someone better. Dune is coming out soon. You’ll learn a lot about fear from that.
/r/askMRP30/09/21 06:17 PM
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This is the companion book to WISNIFG. When I Bang Chad I Don’t Feel Guilty.
/r/askMRP29/09/21 09:41 PM
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You're thinking the lack of married sex is a different issue? This issue is you. You're unattractive. Maybe you're physically attractive (what are your lifts and stats)? But you're mentality isn't. This is why you have zero passion. It's a you issue not a her issue. Always is. AWALT. You think I need to work on my relationship? No, you need to work on you. Curious why you think the open marriage won't turn out well. You don't have the frame to pull that off. What happens when your wife wants to …
/r/askMRP29/09/21 06:02 PM
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More of the passion for sex. We are working through it, as it might be a mix of medical issues and some hangups from her past coming out. It is not. Either way, we agreed to an open marriage while we work through these things. I have been a bit stir crazy, so I'm admittedly a little eager to use this green light if the right opportunity presents itself... Yeah this won’t turn out well. Yesterday, I reinitiated contact with her for a work reason Don’t shit where you eat.
/r/askMRP29/09/21 05:24 PM
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Those numbers are all in some sort of weird funny measurement system. The answer is always the same - lift more, read the sidebar, STFU. I'll add: never play these games, they're absolutely retarded. And at your age? terrible.
/r/askMRP29/09/21 01:55 PM
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When a relationship advise thread’s comments are more red pill than you, you have a very long way to go just to get to sea level Some of those comments are actually pretty good. I am surprised.
/r/askMRP29/09/21 01:54 PM
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I know safe words are important. I’m at a loss of what a safe person is.
/r/askMRP28/09/21 05:26 PM
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dumbass weak captain behaviors AKA being unattractive.
/r/askMRP25/09/21 08:39 PM
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You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it stop being a teapot. One of the oldest and wisest sayings.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/21 06:30 PM
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I just find my BP friends relationships entertaining. Like observing science experiments in the works. Enjoy it. You can’t fix them
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/21 11:16 PM
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What if I told you it’s all connected… lifts and frame? If you don’t lift - you can’t have the mental fortitude for frame.
/r/askMRP21/09/21 11:09 PM
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Hell I already got my ticket to meet up. Just can’t resist it when you put it that way.
/r/askMRP21/09/21 07:59 PM
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It’s much much important to find where your problem and insecurity around this comes from. Not about the specific event.
/r/askMRP21/09/21 05:43 PM
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If it’s a boundary for you - enforce it. If a woman wants to cheat she doesn’t require a week away to do so. Why do you care if she does or doesn’t cheat? If she does - oh well her loss. Assuming you find out. If what you say about yourself is true - you’d be able to find another woman to fuck within a week. But you’re not - you have an insecure mentality. Fix that.
/r/askMRP21/09/21 04:54 PM
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I get shit tests but never comfort tests. She avoids intimacy, cuddling, always refuses to give massages, she has a tv in the bedroom that she hogs and a lot of the time i sleep in the spare bedroom when i dont want to hear any more reality tv and soap operas. You're mistaking disgust and disdain for you as a shit test. Not shit tests - you just repulse her so much she's feels like vomiting when you touch her. I havent made major changes in my career in years because i feel that 150k is enough a…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/21 04:00 PM
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"She seemed to want sex, which puts me in her frame. I showed her by leaving the house and sitting in a parking lot for an hour. I told her I was 'out'".
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/21 03:56 PM
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This post is all about “her” again because I am grinding in the background, nothing to talk about there yet. This post is all about her because you're a teapot in her frame. Stop getting butt hurt about these really stupid things.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/21 03:55 PM
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You must weight and log everything. You have no idea how to eat or the content of food. You'll learn eventually but takes a long time. Of course nuts and cheese have a shitload of calories since they're mostly fat. Also - don't buy shit you can't control yourself on. Like Fairlife Chocolate Milk. What macros are you aiming for?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/21 03:53 PM
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Mental: Pretty depressed at the moment but I know I have it and got professional help on the way(clinic) Good on getting help. Do shit. Read as well, but getting out and doing something productive no matter how small will break you out of the cycle (probably).
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/21 03:51 PM
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I detailed my sleep trouble in earlier OYS. I'm using tonight's insomnia to write this (shark week) Why do you call out shark week here? How is your insomnia affected by this?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/21 02:24 PM
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With that said, I am going to dive head first into this and see where it takes me. I intend to spend 2 hours twice a week reading the sidebar, whilst I formulate a plan of action. Whoa, slow down there killer - you may finish the sidebar in a year or two at this rate.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/21 02:16 PM
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I was teasing my wife the other day while she suddenly smiled and replied: “Don’t be mean to me, or else I will withhold sex for a week”(FYI, it’s been more than a week). I started tickle her as a reply. I didn’t think of it at all at first. A joke, a shit-test, whatever… We were teasing each other and having fun. And then what happened? Are you that dense that you missed the clear signals here? FFS
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/21 02:12 PM
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Yeah it’s a great idea to go buy a house with someone you may not want to be with long term. At least you aren’t legally married. The problem isn’t your wife or your toddlers or the size of your apartment. The problem is you.
/r/askMRP18/09/21 03:28 PM
14

How is a broken pencil like this post? They’re both pointless. The post is bad my 7 year old daughter’s jokes work on it.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/21 05:31 PM
31

Sounds like a lack of leadership. Why are there screaming kids and an exhausted FO? You’re so butt hurt by herbehavior you’re missing the bigger picture. The ship is on fire. There’s no captain. She said “I just need to sit down. I been going all day and I just want to sit down. It’s been a long day.” Pretty solid rule: “I” statements are not shit tests. Responding with AM is retarded. She came upstairs seeking you out and then gave you a statement seeking 1) comfort and 2) leadership. This was …
/r/askMRP15/09/21 01:37 AM
1

To be fair “Out” sounds better than “pouting in my car while watching porn and jerking off”.
/r/askMRP14/09/21 10:43 PM
12

So... "no I do not lift" is the answer.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/21 12:20 PM
1

Get a lawyer. Talk to lawyer. Do NOT talk to stbx.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/21 12:54 PM
2

Anyone else get this crash their first time? No.
/r/askMRP12/09/21 05:16 PM
6

Do NOT fuck the babysitter and impregnate her. Or do and post about it.
/r/askMRP11/09/21 03:11 AM
8

You’ve read WISNIFG right? First stop her before ten minutes. If she continues just walk away. Verbal intercourse is optional. If you can’t do this because you’re going to DEER, etc. then revert to literal STFU. "You? what about [10 mins of talk]? Fill in “this” with whatever the boundary is. Let’s say it’s her yelling. There’s countless options here. Cut her off: “the yelling isn’t working for me”. “I understand you have issues with X. The yelling is not working for me” “The yelling isn’t worki…
/r/askMRP10/09/21 04:58 PM
6

It’s not about what she does. It’s about what you will or will not accept in your life and relationship. You’re not there yet - since you aren’t willing to blow it up. Some of the stuff you wrote she’s been doing would never fly for me. Your wife 1) doesn’t know that and 2) even if she did won’t believe you because what are you going to do if she crosses your boundaries? Cuddle her and pat her on the head.
/r/askMRP10/09/21 04:05 PM
13

I am trying to navigate through this refusing to be dragged again into her frame. half an hour of attempted verbal intercourse Too late, you're already there. My read is you've shutdown / emotionless robot / closed her off from your life. You're not leading here... She had a problem for a week - not your problem, no. But if you were the captain and your XO/first officer didn't talk to you or the rest of the crew for a week don't you think a chat on "hey, this situation isn't working for me..." w…
/r/askMRP10/09/21 03:31 PM
12

Step 2: Don't be unattractive
/r/askMRP10/09/21 12:18 PM
5

Have you read TRM? It's the game... it's fun to play and you always win - whether with that woman or another.
/r/askMRP10/09/21 12:18 PM
5

“I’m feeling shitty” with a half smirk is a good one. It’s a) true and b) humorous because you’re shitting a lot. I crack myself up with those type of statements which is helpful when you’re feeling crappy. Figuring your own frame comes with time, the sidebar, lifting, and owning your shit.
/r/askMRP09/09/21 03:21 AM
3

This would be a pretty retarded statement if you feel crappy or are ill. Talk about failing a congruence test.
/r/askMRP09/09/21 02:57 AM
8

My gi said despite the “studies” there’s definitely a link due to immune response and they’re seeing a lot more flares in crohns and UC patients. Good luck. Get well. That’s the priority.
/r/askMRP09/09/21 12:19 AM
2

There’s a big difference between “yeah my stomach hurts” and “mommy please hold me my stomach hurts” Prednisone sucks. I’m on entocort for 8 weeks same. After 5 years remission.
/r/askMRP09/09/21 12:06 AM
3

Oh shut the fuck up with you and your Crohn’s disease woe is me, life sucks story. 1) it’s a you problem not a her problem. 2) stfu about it. If she asks “yeah I hurt”. 3) If she offers to help (and she can) tell her what to do. 4) focus on you and your health - need to recover? Need to be in bed or sleep more? Do so 5) tell your GI, get on a corticosteroid if needed. That also sucks… but may help with your DNGAF level Edit: 6) keep lifting (reduce volume) and exercise Fun data point: did this s…
/r/askMRP08/09/21 11:37 PM
1

I don't have a lawyer or divorce date set. I don't expect it be contended. We both make a similar amount of money, and our finances are already separated. I'll have to buy out her equity in the house, which I want to keep. I'll be talking with her about it this weekend. Maybe you’ll be the exception. Women are unpredictable; women are more unpredictable during a divorce.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/21 05:32 PM
1

Any martial art is going to take a fucking long time to “get it”. Give it 8 weeks. 2x a week. If after that you want a different challenge - go do that. Giving up after a couple weeks is ego driven. “I look dumb”. “I’m lost”. “I expected this to be easier”. Embrace the suck.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/21 05:23 PM
2

If rule 9 was in effect he’d have been banned, shown his ego to the mods and been perma banned by now. 3 weeks seems fair.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/21 12:18 AM
1

Yeah… you’re really going to show her but not having sex with her.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/21 05:45 PM
3

You have a ton of work to do with your mental models - especially around sex. Choreplay, believing her excuses, thinking she needs to initiate. Bad models. Here's the truth: You're unattractive to her.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/21 05:19 PM
3

Lol. Hilarious. Good sex is your responsibility.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/21 04:42 PM
5

I'm a little teapot short and stout Here is my handle; here is my spout When I get all steamed up Hear me shout "Tip me over and pour me out!"
/r/askMRP07/09/21 04:26 PM
7

What is the missing piece that I feel? We can't answer that for you. you need to figure it out. How does she add value and make your life simpler/better/makes it easier for you to achieve your goals and mission? The answer, especially at 23, may be that she doesn't.
/r/askMRP31/08/21 11:12 PM
1

I have been pleased with this "dry needles" treatment so far. Fixed my Achilles/ankle issues after 3 sessions. Makes me reconsider if acupuncture may help for other pains.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/21 02:37 PM
3

But on the bright side - you get to buy new shit that's 100% what you want.
/r/askMRP31/08/21 02:20 PM
3

Partner got angry when I touched her butt when watching TV and told me she has told me not to do that and that I wouldnt want her to touch my dick when watching TV.Left the room and went to bed. Anxiety and anger for several hours. Didnt act on those feelings more than aforementioned withdrawal. You DID act on those feelings by being butthurt and leaving the room. Better than opening your mouth and being needy I suppose.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/21 01:53 PM
1

With the lack of porn to get off to, I'm finding myself in need to fuck pretty often. This is how it should be. Be a man who fucks. And when I see that the time and logistics are fine, I initiate. I do feel extreme fear sometimes when initiating, especially if it's more bold - so no outcome independence there yet. Time and logistics are usually easy to figure out. You don't need a grand plan and a half hour. What is the fear of? Rejection? That she'll be angry? That you'll be called a pervert?
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/21 01:28 PM
5

Your priorities in this order are: 1) Get healthy. I got health problems. Way too many for a 38 year old, but whatever. Fuck it - it is what it is and I deal the best I can. Focus on you and getting back to 100%. Your mental state is going to be harder to keep going when you feel like shit. Accept it and work on what you can control. 2) Work. Unless your wife can supplement you awhile longer - you may need to just take something - anything and use it as a bridge until you find what you really wa…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/21 01:13 PM
1

I’ll channel some retard: If cuddles are required but they’re not free then how do I give cuddles when I’m not having sex?
/r/askMRP31/08/21 12:51 PM
3

This is what happens when you give retards dynamite… they read excellent posts and then blow themselves up. Fun to watch though.
/r/askMRP30/08/21 11:50 PM
3

You don’t even know why you’re touching her. You’re at the remedial level. Stfu. Stop overthinking and looking for cheat codes.
/r/askMRP30/08/21 09:52 PM
1

Take all your shit. Shove it into a backpack and take it down to the shit store.
/r/askMRP30/08/21 02:43 PM
1

Post history shows he’s learning seduction and wants to be a Dom. OP: have your woman DM HOA for advice.
/r/askMRP27/08/21 05:07 PM
10

Exposing teapot egos is like taking candy from a baby.
/r/askMRP27/08/21 01:46 AM
15

What are your lifts Mr. Triathalon? Please tell us more about your oneitis and how you are so alpha now that you went Rambo.
/r/askMRP27/08/21 12:31 AM
3

Beta game This is a limiting mindset. Alpha vs beta “game”. “I’m going to sprinkle some alpha here” “I went too Rambo, need to beta it back” They’re two sides of the same coin - your frame. What do YOU want to do?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/21 05:07 PM
3

I don't see the big picture of how it all works yet. You don't which is why you think there are inconsistencies. You're nowhere near the level where you'd understand what Horns is telling you. I read this shit as a man who speaks clearly and literally. No. It's a man who neither seeks external validation and KNOWS anyone who he gives time or attention to is lucky as fuck. You're reading everything as an if->then->else statement. That's not the way this shit works. It's "here's what I want to do …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/21 05:01 PM
2

“I give my wife no affection without expecting sex. But she doesn’t live in reality when she says I give her no affection without expecting sex”
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/21 03:48 PM
8

You’ve been stepping on your own dick for years. Can’t make it any worse.
/r/askMRP26/08/21 02:22 PM
8

No. I have no need. Take all your jerking off energy and porn use and put it into fucking a woman.
/r/askMRP24/08/21 04:21 PM
3

Bandage straps. Bondage? Or are these like giant band-aids? Problem is I'm dealing with this contract about how I've done the work, so why isn't my wife a thirsty girl? You haven't done the work. You're still doing the work. Simply having this mindset of needing her validation and covert contracts makes her smell the unattractiveness on you. Just keep focusing on you. You're nowhere near done with the journey (also the journey really never ends, you just find something new to improve on).
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/21 02:52 PM
1

for religious reasons it’s 2 weeks on, 2 weeks off Cute theory. but normally I have to initiate from a cold-start, which can feel clumsy. You're not constantly gaming your wife throughout the day. Similarly do I keep pushing for frequent sex (which often feels like trying to rev a car from cold) or, again, just keep working on myself. These aren't mutually exclusive. I have just re-read Horns post “When was the last time you fucked your woman” but I assume that he is talking about a wife who is …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/21 02:48 PM
4

To make the world a better place, leading by example and impact. In particular: to build the (digital) infrastructure for future generations to thrive on, just like I thrive on what was built for me. Make the world a better place is such a cliché.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/21 02:42 PM
12

If you’re asking where the best / cleanest place to cum is…. You may have a problem. Also, the answer is: in a woman.
/r/askMRP24/08/21 02:33 PM
5

Women may take some pride in not being that kind of girl, but they won't be turned on by being told they are basically frigid. More of your hamster talking. Women take pride in being THAT kind of girl for a HVM.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/21 02:29 PM
5

Did she at least buy some roses or was this a shitty carnation bouquet?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/21 02:24 PM
5

Wow. Got ourselves a Larry Flint here.
/r/askMRP24/08/21 01:44 PM
9

questions: Lift, STFU, STFU, STFU, tape your teapot mouth shut, sidebar, post in OYS weekly, STFU
/r/askMRP24/08/21 12:38 PM
4

how much we see eachother to 1-2 times a week I assume you got some plates for the other 5-6. Because otherwise that seems sad. But you do you! You go gurl!
/r/askMRP23/08/21 09:34 PM
10

Jesus... that exchange is horrible. "X isn't working for me" is all you need to say. Or "I want you to do X". Then praise when she does X or improves. ​ Anyways over the weekend I asked her why she was still distant and she said it was that comment. So I explained that it was just a defense mechanism and of course it would not be easy for me to move on, I just didn't want her to lie, etc etc. Anyways that helped slightly, but she still is acting distant since Were you still drunk here because th…
/r/askMRP23/08/21 03:39 PM
13

Your LTR is now comfortable around you and showing her true self. And finding all your weaknesses as a man. She's now filling his container - which is a wet paper bag. And is a reflection of him.
/r/askMRP23/08/21 03:37 PM
15

Well you're fucking something up. With my LTR (1 year+) she's more 'into me' now than ever before. Lifts, sidebar? I read up on dread game and used it a bit. This hints at your problem - you're trying to push buttons and find cheat codes vs being a HVM who is congruent in your actions.
/r/askMRP23/08/21 03:31 PM
4

As others have pointed out, she is a walking bag of contradictions (move in together vs move away) because she is headed to epiphany phase exactly on schedule (see Preventative Medicine). a woman who goes by her feelz at any given moment FTFY.
/r/askMRP22/08/21 02:35 AM
9

Stop trying to get in her head. 1) why does your deadlift suck so much? 2) what do you want here? “You do what’s best. I love/like you and preferred you stayed but am not not interested in moving in. It’s a possibility in the future”. Broken record. What she does SHOULD be of no consequence to your long-term happiness.
/r/askMRP22/08/21 02:32 AM
9

You’re being overly harsh. I mean the guy had a headache! And his wife didn’t even wear a mask. Terrible. He should get the Nobel Prize for Husband of the Year.
/r/askMRP21/08/21 08:27 PM
8

You don’t get a medal for taking care of your kid. Why do her comments bother you? Because you’re butt hurt. You want your medal. And when you don’t get it… or hear her comments your ego gets bruised. Instead of a) finding it entertaining or b) without butt hurt being able to say “this isn’t working for me” - you MUST stfu. You are no way close to either A or B. Shut your mouth. Use staples or a needle and thread if needed. Your kid was crying because he realized how big of a pussy his dad is an…
/r/askMRP21/08/21 08:14 PM
6

“Next month I’m hoping if I keep this up she’ll not wear a latex glove and make me wear a condom. Thanks MRP”.
/r/askMRP20/08/21 03:40 PM
16

No, you’re not allowed to. 1) asking Internet retards if you can exercise 2) DEERing in the question Lift heavy weights frequently. Not sure why you can’t go to the gym but probably something something excuses. Stay out of dead bedrooms. It’s a crab bucket.
/r/askMRP20/08/21 12:00 PM
2

After your spiritual awakening i thought you’d have said Jesus.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/21 07:53 PM
5

Teach her to make your coffee the way you like it. Win win.
/r/askMRP18/08/21 06:36 PM
2

But now I realized I have a couple of core beliefs that are fucking up my progress. Would be good to expand on this one. Also she's my wife, and I should treat her the way she deserves. You treat her the way you want to. This thinking is from her frame, not yours.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/21 02:22 PM
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